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77

We love to see it; what an incredible woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 06:32 AM
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Because men CONSTANTLY lie about their own ages and assume we do the same. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve matched with someone who I thought was my age and it turns out they lied and used pictures of them from nearly a decade ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 12:03 AM
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I grew up in a very conservative Christian environment and I thought it was normal until I attended public university. It genuinely grosses me out to see former classmates settle down before they can even rent a car.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 11:58 PM
1

Yeah I definitely am in the same boat. Not only that, but people-regardless of gender-are just so much nicer to me when I have it on. I can understand objections to the principles associated with wearing makeup, but I’m not going to stop wearing it anytime soon, as I really just don’t see why I can’t continue to peacefully enjoy it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 09:23 PM
141

Great. Glad it exists so I can avoid it with every fiber of my being. I quit all online dating months ago, and it seems like every day I am validated for that being a great decision.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 04:54 PM
339

I love this. If you’re a young woman reading here, PLEASE heed this advice. Highschool and college-age boys are absolutely not worth your trouble during the time you’re starting to lay the foundations for building your future. Be selfish. Explore your interests and do your best to make yourself happy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 05:34 PM
10

I’ve definitely been there. It just takes practice, you know?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 11:38 PM
38

Oof I felt this. I used to just reply with one word answers hoping they’d catch on, but now I just leave them unseen or on ‘read’.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 11:09 PM
45

I was literally going to write this exact thing. Fleabag is my absolute favorite show.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 06:12 AM
14

Wow I feel that so hard. I’m definitely on the Kdrama train as far as men I find appealing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 01:33 AM
63

It is a struggle. I’m so glad I’m graduating next semester.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 01:31 AM
18

I mean he’s definitely not an Adonis now, but I think it’s more what he’s associated with. I’m not that old lol I’m 26, but I get what you’re saying because sometimes actors are lauded for being super attractive and I’m just like....ew. Brad Pitt is a good example, since he was once attractive and now just looks kindof gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 01:17 AM
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I kindof agree, I think it’s because he looks like he could be my cousin lol. I also think there’s a pervasive notion on this sub that encourages women to look for younger men but like...I would really rather not. If I absolutely HAD to chose between the two extremes in a HVM I think I would go with older.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 01:14 AM
174

I’m at university for political science. I feel this so hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 01:07 AM
103

I mean this is just me, but Colin Firth was my original celebrity crush because of his roles as Mr. Darcy. The guy on right just looks like a little kid to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 01:05 AM
6

I feel like it probably works on women with low self-esteem. Couldn’t be me; I can’t understand why anyone in their right mind would willingly date someone who was unkind to them. Ridiculous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 12:48 AM
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Lied that he got the same ACT score as me; I later found out it was a lie because his friend told me he’d done pretty abysmally. Why do they feel the need to compete with us like this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 02:05 AM
6

Ah okay. Makes more sense but yeah, two months at a time seems kindof excessive; I’ve only heard of people going for maybe like a week or so at a time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 11:30 PM
38

I know next to nothing about hunting. I’m asking because I genuinely don’t know; you’re telling me men leave for TWO MONTHS to shoot ducks? Like it takes them that long?? I am familiar with firearms, and I cannot imagine it taking two months to shoot a lousy bird. How many are they supposed to get? I’m so confused.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 11:06 PM
16

I found myself in a similar situation a few years ago. Honestly what worked for me was to just be polite around other people, but to otherwise ignore him. You already know he’s bad news so lean into that. You deserve someone who isn’t vague and values you enough to not leave you hanging; remember that if he should try to rekindle something. It’s generally a bad idea to date someone you work with anyways. I’m rooting for you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 03:32 AM
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Completely agree. My existence as a WOC is inherently tied to politics, so I’m not going to be with someone who may hold beliefs that would actively harm me or others. But yeah, even left-leaning guys are often pretty terrible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 03:15 AM
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I usually just look disgusted and walk away. I used to get angry in the past but I’m actually afraid of being followed and murdered (I’ve been followed before) so I until I can get my concealed-carry permit, I just ignore them and get to a safe location as soon as possible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 03:11 AM
42

I just wanted to come back and thank the lovely heap of cow poop who felt so triggered by my comment that they felt the need to message me and call me a “dumb ass”. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 03:09 AM
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You forgot racist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 07:48 PM
2

Maybe slightly off topic, but I was a music major for a time. I had two relationships with fellow vocalists, and they were absolute disasters. I was constantly doing their emotional labor, constantly reassuring and validating their work, talent, and hell, their whole existences, and constantly felt like I was “the man” in the relationship. I’m not saying every creative man is like this. But I will say all my girlfriends in the same program had similar complaints about their boyfriends and husban…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 04:12 AM
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I actually enjoy seeing the stupid messages men send; it makes it easier to learn how to spot a LVM tactic. Maybe we can put them under a separate flair so if you don’t want to see them, you can filter them out?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 07:51 PM
12

What is this, a poster warning against birth defects caused by incest?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 08:24 PM
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Actually the caption says it’s her birthday. But it’s still an adorable gesture.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 07:21 PM
12

Sounds like a gross dude. But I have to say, if any man over the age of 18 uses the phrase “hit me up” in conversation, it’s an automatic no from me. Maybe it’s just a personal pet peeve of mine, but I just cannot abide it at the age of 26 anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 06:39 PM
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Um I’m pretty sure he can’t get laid because he looks like a thumb. There, I solved it in one sentence and without making a big dumb video about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 05:28 PM
18

Financial independence will protect you from being financially abused and exploited. You don’t have to be exclusively one or the other. Being a receiver is about graciously accepting the generosity of others; it does not mean you’re not capable of providing for and showering yourself with things you like if you so choose.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 05:25 PM
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Nice to see our friend ol’ sharpie neck is still trying to get picked. Seriously though, can she stop spewing this crap as if it’s ever helped her? Girl love yourself and grow some self-esteem, and while you’re at it, get those those awful tattoos removed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 10:57 PM
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Definitely a lot of that going on here in the US too. It’s like if you don’t play by the rules, you don’t get to be treated like a person. It’s tough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 01:18 AM
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I’d also like to point out that women who put effort into their appearance often get hired more often and make better money than those who don’t. (I’m not sure where to find the study but it’s out there.) Of course some of us do these things for ourselves, but there’s also something to be gained for some of us when it comes to performing femininity in this way. Imagine thinking that women only exist to be get attention from men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 11:44 PM
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Um in my world, face tattoos of this caliber generally mean all-around degenerate. It’s pretty much common sense that someone who chooses to permanently alter their body in this way is choosing to never be gainfully employed in their life. Issa no from me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 11:39 PM
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Thank you, that actually means a lot. Before that incident, I was definitely more on the “anti” side of anti-gun. I definitely understand the arguments against it, but I also recognize that-like you said-if deranged men have access to deadly weapons, it kindof highlights the need for vulnerable people to arm themselves in return. I don’t ever want to have to use it, but I believe in being prepared for the worst.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 10:07 PM
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It’s definitely got some risks built in, but if it’s something you really want to do, and you have the means, I think you should try. I’m getting ready to take the LSAT here soon. I don’t want my fear of what could happen to me get in the way of my chosen career path.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 09:58 PM
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It means that in my particular circle, enough had issues with unhinged ex-spouses of clients and criminals who didn’t like their sentences that it was enough to warrant a fire arm. To be fair, all the male lawyers in my office and two of the three judges I met also carried. I think it depends on your concentration, but family law and criminal law were-in my experience-full of potentially dangerous people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 09:46 PM
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When I worked as a paralegal, I had a deranged man come into my office and pull a knife on me. I was all alone and only 22 at the time, so it was a really traumatic experience. I tried to use the pepper spray I kept in my desk, but the stupid thing got jammed and didn’t deploy. He didn’t hurt me, but afterwards, all the female lawyers told me that they had loaded firearms in their offices, and that as soon as I was of age, that I should consider applying for a concealed carry permit. I later lea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 07:35 PM
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Hulu!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 08:57 PM
2

I loved this show! I hope there’s a season 2 coming soon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 08:57 PM
42

Yeah, it’s a no from me. It’s really hard for me as a WOC to watch a known racist and not immediately cringe. I can’t just “ignore the politics” of someone who perpetuates hate against people who look like me. She is not now, nor has she ever been on our side, and we don’t need her to tell us what we already know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 09:28 PM
9

I feel for her. I hope she leaves his crusty ass. Yet another reason why you should always have at least a few supportive female friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 12:35 AM
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It also looks crooked. HUGE oof.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 06:55 PM
2

It’s been happening to me lately because I recently had my IUD removed. Hopefully it’ll taper off in a few months because I constantly need to stop myself from downloading stupid dating apps.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 12:05 AM
12

I definitely feel you there. I’ve been dealing with a thyroid issue that has absolutely made me balloon up to an uncomfortable weight. I’m so shocked when men show me little kindness like this now. We deserve to be treated with respect, regardless of what we look like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 09:25 PM
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Of course he’s completely unaware that there are in fact white Mexicans. What he actually means is “well I guess if I’m left with just non-white, I’ll take the less-brown one”. Like the ignorance is off the charts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 02:09 PM
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Oh I see. I think I misunderstood you. That attitude is still very much alive. I speak Japanese and have a lot of friends who come to study abroad. We always have to warn the girls that they’re likely going to to get bombarded with unsavory attention from gross creeps.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 02:06 PM
13

Maybe white Latinx guys do. I was mostly referring to white Americans.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 02:01 PM
69

The amount of white guys who will insult my heritage to my face and then proceed to proposition me is honestly shocking. I’m so tired.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 01:46 PM
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We don’t want your racist, ugly, trash dick anyways. Love, an actual Mexican.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 01:43 PM
95

I just genuinely want to know, do these guys think that we don’t KNOW we’re beautiful? Like do they think we don’t own mirrors? Do they think as soon as they send us a very lazy and obvious “compliment” that we’re just going to drop everything and entertain them? I’ve just started to say “thank you I know” whenever a man tells me I’m pretty/cute/beautiful because it’s just so low effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 01:51 PM
1

OH lol wow that flew right over my head. Thanks ha ha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 06:53 PM
22

Asked me if I had an Only Fans. This was the first conversation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 05:34 PM
11

I love how he threw in a reference to masturbation so casually. Like he couldn’t even complain about his feelings being hurt without referring to his own genitals. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 05:12 PM
20

Going no contact with exes is honestly the best way to recover from breakups. Don’t feel bad at all. You are putting yourself and your emotional well-being first (as you should), and people who tell you otherwise absolutely do not have your best interest at heart. I have made some pick-me mistakes in my life, but I’ll be damned if I let an ex continue to have access to me after he’s no longer in my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 05:01 PM
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Sorry if you took offense with my wording. You’re not a target but you did need to be informed. Now you know something you didn’t before. I don’t like people walking around with bad information when it pertains to my identity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 06:03 AM
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Then you’re lucky I educated you for free so you don’t sound so ignorant next time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 05:38 AM
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I have no words. It’d be really funny if it wasn’t so tragic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 04:59 AM
2

Depends on where the person is from. If they are from a Spanish-speaking country, they are Hispanic. Spaniards are Hispanic. If they are from a Latin-American country, they are Latino. Brazilians are Latino (Latin American) but not Hispanic (they speak Portuguese). Also, anyone of any ethnicity can be Latino or Hispanic; it’s not a race, or necessarily an ethnic group. There are Afro-Latinos, Asian Latinos, white Latinos, etc. I am both Latino and Hispanic; my parents are from Mexico and I’m hon…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 04:55 AM
2

Ah yes, old sharpie neck. Gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 06:27 PM
6

Just so you know, Mexican is not an ethnicity. It’s a nationality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 06:16 PM
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I am Hispanic and I will NEVER date another Hispanic man. I know the culture very well because it’s mine as well, and it’s just a bad time for women in general. Patriarchal values are so deeply embedded and it’s terrible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 06:15 PM
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My aunt is currently dying of ovarian cancer. It has been a slow, painful, brutal, drawn-out process, and all this asshat can think about is not having children??? I feel so awful for her and hope treatment is successful; I hope he dies childless and alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 05:55 PM
8

Literally all Gemini (4) or Virgo (2). Yikes all around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 06:42 PM
3

Ah man, I loved Being Mary Jane. I never finished it though. 😥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 04:50 PM
1

This was years ago so no. Also, I guess they had tried to get back together but it hadn’t worked out, which is why he was back on tinder. Technically not cheating but still crappy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 04:37 PM
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Actually the word is “pechos” (breasts) not “brazos” (arms), but yes, an excellent point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 09:48 PM
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This happened to me once. A guy I went out with messaged me afterwards and was like “hey sorry I’m getting back with my ex” and I blocked him. I was using tinder at the time, and got back on. Apparently he made a whole new profile because I saw it pop up again, and swiped right out of morbid curiosity, just to see if we’d match. We did. He immediately proceeded to complain about what a miserable person his ex was (unprompted) to which I replied “sounds like you deserve each other”. Clownery all …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 08:59 PM
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I wish I could unsee this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 05:22 PM
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I’m a WOC in the US, and I don’t want date white men anymore if I can help it tbh. If they’re not overly racist and entitled towards other ethnicities whilst fetishizing me, then they’ve got at least one racist friend/family member whose behavior they’re willing to excuse at my expense. I don’t have the energy or emotional stamina in 2020 to have to explain issues marginalized people face over and over and over again. Even self-proclaimed “woke” white men often give me white savior complex vibes…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 07:48 AM
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He’ll probably be bald soon; dump him. Your hair is probably super beautiful and makes him feel insecure. You deserve better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 10:50 PM
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I don’t even know what to say except that she should really consider going to therapy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 11:02 PM
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I tried to make myself attracted to my first high school boyfriend; it did not work. Sometimes I would look at him and think “he’s sort of cute from this angle and in this specific lighting”. I should have known better and just ended it, but I was ugly in high school and didn’t want to let what I felt was my only chance to date someone slip by. Now nearly 10 years later I wish I could shake some sense into my old self, because the truth is you will never be satisfied with someone if you aren’t a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 03:15 AM
10

She’s Ben Shapiro’s sister so it’s a hard no from me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 04:21 AM
8

That’s very true; I hate that other platforms allow any random person to message you. At the very least, you’re somewhat protected from the extra-gross creeps.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 12:24 AM
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Before FDS, I used Bumble because I was told the men were more serious than on Tinder. Not only did I instinctively despise messaging first, but it was literally full of the same men from tinder; I encountered several who had profiles on multiple dating apps, and truthfully it was an all around gross experience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 09:14 PM
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So I used to work for a law firm, and my boss did a lot of divorces. He had several cases where the woman was married to a cop and it ALWAYS ended terribly. The worst incident was when the man decided to intimidate his ex-wife into staying with him by having patrol cars follow her around 24/7. She actually had to leave the state to get away from him and all his shitty cop buddies. I would STRONGLY advise against not dating cops.; in many states you cannot even file a lawsuit against them. Also, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 04:36 AM
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It’s a person who is extremely gifted or proficient at multiple things. If you have to call yourself one, you definitely aren’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 07:53 AM
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Yes! I’ve been flirting with the idea of trying to join darktriad for like a year now. I’m at the point where I want to take all I can and from men and I don’t care about the moral gray area anymore. PLEASE make the post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 07:24 PM
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Oh wow you can literally smell the entitlement from him. I know we usually tell people to just ignore LVMs the second they reveal themselves, but I liked watching you drag him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 07:00 PM
7

Yes. I do it because I like makeup and creating pretty looks. It’s fun for me and keeps me feeling put together. Do I occasionally skip it because I don’t feel like spending the time? Absolutely, but I have noticed men are not as kind or attentive to me, which is a bummer sometimes, but if I want to have a peaceful day where I am left alone, I’ll go without it. Some other replies are saying that skin always looks “fresher” without makeup, but I get compliments on my complexion with or without it…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 05:31 PM
3

I don’t really date anyone anymore, but the men who catch my eye aren’t necessarily effeminate or “soft”; more like just well groomed and dressed nicely. If I had to name someone who fits my physical type, I’d say maybe Park Seo Joon, the korean drama actor. I’m attracted to men who look like they put a little extra effort into personal grooming and have the means to keep themselves looking nice, because that’s what I personally also do. Personality wise, I like men who are like me: serious and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 10:43 PM
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Same. I don’t know why some guys get so angry when I tell them this. They’re like “that’s so shallow if you can’t be with someone who disagrees with you”; like sorry if I don’t want to waste my time and energy on someone who doesn’t believe marginalized people deserve to exist, Kyle. Like if we disagree politically it also probably means we have different values??? I don’t want to be with someone who fundamentally is not on the same page as me, and I won’t overlook things like that just because …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 10:24 PM
6

I want you to read over this comment again. When a different victim outed my abuser, my own mother said “he doesn’t feel like a child molester”. It was that comment that kept me from coming forward and getting justice for us. I get that you don’t want to fully obliterate this guy, but please remember that “feeling” like someone is not dangerous isn’t good enough to keep you safe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 10:23 PM
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It’s totally bizarre how many men do this. I once encountered a guy who thought women did the same thing; I basically blew his mind when I told him I didn’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 04:45 PM
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Ben Wyatt punched a man for Leslie. It’s also shown that he respects and admires Leslie’s determination and devotion to her career. He’s also stable and financial savvy. I’d rather have a Ben Wyatt any day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 10:48 PM
18

I firmly believe Sakura deserved to end up with Lee, who I think is actually a good dude. Sasuke is a dead-beat dad and a pretty vile character overall tbh. I’m still a fan of the series, but I’ve got so many issues with how the arcs of all the female characters ended.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 07:31 PM
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Oh that makes sense. He’s probably just mad that no one wants to pay to attention to him then. Gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 07:53 PM
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I had a stroke trying to read this. What does the media comment even mean??? It’s a no from me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 07:43 PM
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I genuinely do not understand what’s going through the heads of guys like this. Does he really think that a poorly-written post with bafflingly awful syntax is all it takes for women to throw themselves at him? Do they really see themselves as prizes? Like I genuinely do not understand the line of reasoning here. I hope his poor wife leaves him before he bumbles into an affair with a desperate pick-me. I just can’t with this today.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 07:42 PM
3

Wallowing in my resentment and residual anger from past relationships. Thinking about how I’ve allowed myself to be treated and letting it upset me is a trap I fall into way too often. I wish I could just take the lessons I learned and make peace with the past in a healthy way, but that’s much easier said than done because I just naturally hold onto grudges and resentments for years and years and allow them to eat away at me. I’m working on it, but some days are harder than others.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 07:25 PM
69

They also have little smiles on them, which I think makes this story even cuter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 05:16 PM
22

I have a few really good friendships with gay men, and those are really the only good male friendships I’ve ever had. I had some experiences in high school that taught me it was probably best to only seriously befriend other girls and non-straight guys. In my first few years, I made friends with two boys who I had a lot of interests in common with. I really thought I had finally found a niche in my new school, and it was a huge disappointment when they both told me they liked me and fell out bec…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 05:07 PM
24

Do you ever read something so stupid that for a moment you actually feel a little bit bad for that person’s brain? Because that’s how reading this guy’s message made me feel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 09:23 PM
3

I got an IUD a year ago to manage some uncomfortable periods, and not only did it make my depression worse, it also made it impossible to lose any weight; I had made really significant progress that has now been completely erased. It also made my PMS worse, which is part of the reason I even got it in the first place. I’m not even sexually active anymore, so there’s no point in suffering for no reason. I’m never using hormonal birth control again; I’m getting that sucker out next week.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 06:39 PM
1

Thanks for explaining; to each their own I guess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 05:02 PM
22

Walking is free. Notice how he says “and then go back to my place”. Just more low-effort nonsense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 02:22 AM
9

Um what kind of adults find pleasure in play fighting at all? It seems really childish and weird to me. What exactly is the point?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 09:48 PM
6

I think it’s great that you’re so open to educating yourself on the intersectionality of feminism specifically in regard to race. However, I don’t really think it’s my burden as a marginalized person to explain the nuance of racial issues, because I can only speak to my own experiences. But I’d encourage you to do you own research by just looking up terms like “intersectionality” “intersectional feminism” and “white feminism”; luckily we live in a time where there’s tons of information easily av…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 01:19 AM
6

Oh boy, don’t even get me started on Lena Dunham. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 12:26 AM
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I think you’re right that she doesn’t deserve all that hate, but she has consistently demonstrated an unwillingness to learn anything deeper than white feminism, and that’s troubling to me as a WOC. I can’t say that I’ve ever liked her music, because it’s not really for me, but I definitely agree that a lot of the time, men would trash her just because she made music that didn’t cater to them, which is super shitty. But her very narrow and sometimes ignorant displays of “feminism” really aren’t …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 06:57 PM
29

Disgusting. I had a creepy pedohpile uncle who never flushed the toilet either. She should throw the whole man away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 05:06 PM
19

I’ve dated at my heaviest, my thinnest, and everywhere in between. I’ve found it doesn’t matter what I look like; most men are still pretty awful and repulsive; they’re just less open about it when you’re thinner, and since you’re conveniently more attractive, you’ll reel in a lot more duds. If you wanna date then do it; just remember you’ll attract more LVMs and NVMs than usual, and have to sort through more trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 01:24 PM
65

NO. He’s probably an asian fetishist. STAY VERY FAR AWAY.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 04:09 AM
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I was sexually preyed upon by my aunt’s disgusting, pedophile husband as a child; it has definitely impacted my development and relationships with men in a negative way. If some guy tried to sit there and tell me with a straight face that’s he’s into incest porn, it would take a feat of Herculean proportions to stop me from kicking him in the crotch so hard he’d never walk straight again, and you may quote me on that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 06:42 PM
17

Totally agree. I’ve never taken a nude and I never will.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 07:47 AM
10

Everyone is different, but what helped me personally through my last breakup was really analyzing my feelings and getting to the root of my sadness. I realized that that while I was sad that this person had meant something to me and no longer had a place in my life, the real sadness was rooted in my embarrassment at everyone around me suddenly knowing about what should have been my private business and having to explain that my relationship failed to new people over and over again (this happened…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 01:04 AM
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Back in the Tumblr days, I got a bunch of flack for suggesting that the only way to not have your nudes leaked was to just not send any period. I still stand by that. There’s absolutely no benefit for you to send nudes because at worst they’ll be leaked and at best you’ll get no reaction. Pointless in every way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 12:56 AM
17

I didn’t know this at the time, but apparently he didn’t really brush his teeth. I didn’t notice because he was always chewing mint gum to mask any bad breath, but yeah....I still shudder at the thought of his mouth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 05:51 PM
65

Reason number 37294 to completely give up all those stupid and pointless apps.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 07:47 AM
1

INTJ; I think you’re right ha ha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 05:47 PM
16

I don’t know who else needs to hear this, but DO NOT EVER THINK it’s okay to mess with guys who work with you. ESPECIALLY if he’s your boss. The power dynamic is fucked from the start, and the ending for you will likely be a big mess for your professional life. Value your own career above your hormones. Period. Cut this shit off right away sis. Tell yourself every day that he is not looking out for your best interest, just his own personal wants, and he’s clearly willing to exploit his position …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 07:39 PM
7

Gross typical man behavior but also I love your “this is a Wendy’s sir” response lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 11:22 PM
8

Whisper is basically a 24/7 LVM convention; a friend of mine liked to go on there and troll back in the day and from his account, it’s just a lot of ugly, lonely guys who can’t get any matches on actual dating apps.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 11:13 PM
2

Not me, but a girl I went to high school with chose to go to the same college as this absolute loser. THEY WERENT EVEN DATING. Because he was dumb as rocks, he dropped out. So naturally she dropped out too. He married someone else, and she moved back home to have a baby with a different guy (who also did not want to marry her).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 04:03 PM
28

A toenail with dead eyes. HARD PASS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 03:32 AM
39

Oh it’s totally laziness. Also, let’s say for argument’s sake that he is “just shy”. Why the ever-loving-fuck would I want a weak man who can’t even summon the courage to ask me out? I want a partner, not a scared little kid. This girl is deluded.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 03:28 AM
7

Came here to say this 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 10:07 PM
18

Karen isn’t really relatable to me, a non-white former service employee, because I associate her with shitty, entitled, racist behavior. Honestly? Scew Karen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 08:37 PM
17

Don’t be too hard on yourself; this stuff happens to the best of us. That’s why we’re all here together lol. But yeah. Don’t bother texting him again; I think you kindof know the answer already.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 05:54 PM
10

I actually would advise OP to not bother entertaining him if he comes back; he clearly doesn’t respect her time. FDS doesn’t really advocate giving second chances to guys you aren’t serious with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 05:49 PM
49

If he’s not really communicating, I thinks it’s safe to assume he’s lost interest. I think sometimes we get hung up on getting a definitive answer, or “closure”, but no response is also a response. This dude isn’t making you a priority; any idiot can take two seconds to send you a text, no matter how “busy” they claim to be. You deserve better. Block, delete, and move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 05:44 PM
17

Ew. Just ew.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 12:24 AM
23

I grew up pretty religious; can confirm this is super common among the girls I went to high school/ first years of college with. Tragic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 06:48 PM
1

I mean, I DEFINITELY wasn’t saying you don’t belong in this sub, but like....why does it bother you so much that most of us find the crumbs of a FWB relationship repulsive? I just genuinely do not understand why you-seemingly being aware of FDS philosophy-seem to be vehemently defending an arrangement that to most of us here is non-beneficial and actually detrimental to our goals. I’m definitely not trying to attack you, but sis, if you’ve been in this sub for any about of time, it shouldn’t sur…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 06:31 PM
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If I’m not mistaken, it seems like the whole point of FDS is to teach you how to either find a committed relationship with a quality partner or to just be content with your own self without the presence of a man. I can see that you feel pretty strongly about this, and honestly I think that if you want to have a FWB, then you absolutely should. HOWEVER, that makes me wonder what you have to be gain by being on this sub at all, because one of your arguments seems to be that romantic relationships …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 02:52 PM
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Him: “you still single?” Me: “you still ugly?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 12:37 AM
3

I’m also interested; please update us on the admission process.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 05:06 AM
2

Maybe but didn’t he leave his wife for her? I don’t really know; I’m not super into either of them, but I think I remember hearing about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 01:32 AM
2

He left his wife for her so I kinda doubt it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 01:32 AM
3

Do you remember a few years ago when he was voted people magazine’s “sexiest man alive?” I was baffled. My immediate reaction was “did every other man die?!!” I really don’t understand how anyone who looks like her would be attracted to someone who looks like him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 04:37 PM
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I think I’ve mentioned on this sub before that I was raised religious, so I definitely relate to what you’re saying. There are lots of great things about religion, but unfortunately, there are also a lot of men who feel entitled to women/marriage under the guise of it being “God’s plan”. All but one of my mom’s sisters settled for the first man who gurgled up to them, and no one batted an eye because they were all outwardly good Christian men. Two turned out to be physical and emotional abusers …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 12:18 AM
10

I’ve definitely been there. One thing that helped me learn to forget about the “valentines day blues” is to have a “GALentines day” celebration instead. I actually saw it on the TV show Parks and Rec., but basically you just have a nice time with your girlfriends and celebrate all the non-romantic love in your life. I usually do it the week before it the day after, but it’s really fun. Also, remember that it’s just a dumb corporate holiday, and it really truly is not worth getting too terribly u…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 07:29 PM
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This made me smile. Your dad sounds a lot like my dad, who is also an immigrant, who also says that his favorite time was when my brother and I were small, and who also celebrated my natural intelligence and talents. The part where you talked about him validating you responding “I know” when people commented on how smart you where might as well have been me lol. I really love him a lot, and I have no doubts that’s he is a HVM. He always made sure my brother and I knew how loved and treasured we …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 05:37 PM
5

Yes to everything everyone else has said about musicians. I’d like to add that classical musicians are just as bad. Two of my three real relationships were with classical vocalists, and I honestly don’t know how I put up with them for so long.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 12:36 AM
65

If natural selection is coming for him, then who is she to stand in the way? 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 04:34 PM
30

Me lol. I definitely prefer clean-shaven guys. I think it’s because I don’t like feeling the hair on my face whilst kissing, and also I can’t get past the fact that so many men use beards as a way to hide bad bone structure or as a way to try and compensate for their receding hairlines. There are definitely men who look good with beards, but I almost always think they look even better clean shaven.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 06:48 AM
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I finally got rid of mine last month, and I feel much lighter lol. I’m much happier in my own little bubble of self-improvement and pursuing things that bring me joy. I could give a damn if I never use OLD again 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 10:16 PM
24

I purposely went out to lose it because I was tired of being a virgin at 21, and definitely regret it. I wish I had waited for someone who gave a shit about me. If you’re torn at all, I’d say just wait. You can always just buy yourself a vibrator (which probably won’t disappoint you btw).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 06:32 AM
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I’m actually a bit more suspicious of attractive men for this reason. You’re so right; attractive men get away with everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 10:53 PM
3

My response to this is always “I am not now nor have I ever been a sweet girl.” Smh. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 03:37 AM
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Also why is it always the absolute most repulsive men who put “probably won’t message first” in their profiles? Someone said it here a while ago but it bears repeating that the ONLY thing men have is the audacity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 07:30 PM
10

Selena isn’t a queen in my eyes like...AT ALL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 10:28 PM
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I love this post. I can’t tell you how many guy’s profiles I come across that explicitly state that they don’t take themselves seriously at all, which has ALWAYS bothered me. I take myself very seriously and although I’m constantly accused of being too stand-offish and serious, I’d rather be that than a goofy permissive idiot with weak boundaries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 02:35 AM
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It’s scary stuff. My old boss at the firm is an old family friend, and he took me aside and told me all these things in an effort to protect me from what happened to my coworker. He bought me a fake wedding ring and never let me be in a room with the male employees without another woman also present. I’m so grateful to him, but he was definitely the exception and not the rule. I actually plan on attending law school and becoming an attorney as well, but I’m going to be extremely cautious whilst …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 07:14 PM
13

Lawyers-depending on their expertise-have access to databases in which they can find your personal information pretty easily. They’re also well connected. If he wanted to find you, even after you disappear, he probably could and very easily. Not only that, but if you plan on working in the same field (not that you do, but let’s say for arguments sake that it came up) depending on how much of a psycho he is, he could also make your professional life hard as well. That happened to the other girl i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 06:54 PM
10

I wish I could give you a hug. This is totally something I’ve dealt with and it’s absolutely fine if you decide to remove yourself from that situation and delete instagram for a while. But you also have to address that pain somehow, because unfortunately, you can’t stop yourself from seeing couples forever. It took a long time for me to let go of the misplaced bitterness I was feeling toward couples, LV and HV alike, and I hope you can find a way to do the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 06:31 PM
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I think you know that there is no way you come out a winner in this situation. If you give a man even an inch, he’s eventually going to try and take a mile. I get that you enjoy yourself around him, but babe, c’mon; you don’t really think you can be platonic friends with this guy do you? Maybe if you were his professional equal who has some power in this, but certainly not in your current position. The reality is, he can tell you to your face that he’s not going to try anything funny, but if you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 06:16 PM
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I worked in a law firm from ages 20-24. Believe me when I tell you that there is absolutely only ONE reason that those grown men would want anything to do with you. You’re deluding yourself if you think otherwise. You’re gonna do what you’re gonna do, but I’ve been in a similar situation, and seen other girls in the same one, and trust me, it’s bad news for everyone involved.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 05:45 PM
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I really can’t get past you describing your daughter as a princess with “gold hair and blue eyes” and then mocking that boy’s appearance whilst including his ethnicity. Your thinly veiled racism is gross. Yikes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 05:38 PM
1

I’ve got a Taurus moon lol that’s probably what it is
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 04:00 AM
24

This exact thing happened to me. He told me twice years after the “relationship” ended that he was still interested in me (one of those times was asking me to make one of those “if were not married by x age, let’s marry each other” deals) and both times, my reaction was to reflexively laugh in his face. I don’t have any ill will towards him, but it’s true that guys only insist on having some kind of relationship with you after a break up so they can keep you around in case they want to shoot the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 04:54 PM
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I think you might have had the same issue I used to have. I had this tendency to (at least subconsciously) put guys who I saw as better looking/more successful/more accomplished/etc. than me on a pedestal. When I dated guys, I always felt like I needed to project a facade of being better-in whatever way-than I really am for fear of losing what I considered a “catch”of a man; it was almost like I felt like I didn’t deserve their attention and I couldn’t let them see how flawed I actually was. Thi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 06:27 AM
2

TLC shows are FULL of them tbh. In their new series called Unpolished, Bria-who is beautiful and could absolutely do better-has an awful long-term boyfriend who is not only collectively despised by her whole family, but was also a drug addict, had two children with another woman who Bria gets to play mommy to, is unemployed, and in the most recent episode I saw tried to convince the poor girl to elope with him in order to spite her family under the guise of trying to be “taken more seriously by …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 04:01 PM
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Right? Like they only like dogs because dogs are known for being trainable and obedient and loving them unconditionally, which probably means that‘s also what they subconsciously expect from their other relationships. Cats require a lot of patience and only love you on their own terms. I also have a cat who is basically like my child, and he’s super affectionate and cute, and I don’t mind that he only shows me love on his own terms because I respect that he’s a being with his own agency. That’s …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 12:16 AM
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YES. I take it as a HUGE red flag if a man hates cats. It shows a lack of patience and respect for a being that can chose whether or not to give them attention. I’m not a dog; I will not love you unconditionally or forgive bad behavior. I’d much rather date a cat person who understand that I have agency. It might seem silly, but I’m convinced men who hate cats hate women just as much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 08:18 PM
23

I dated this guy my first year of college. He said on several occasions that he “wanted to just find the one and get married right away”. I didn’t realize why this was a red flag at the time, because I was raised in a religious environment and it was just expected that you’d likely marry whoever you dated in college. I didn’t know exactly why, but it did rub me the wrong way. Thankfully, I left that hell of a school and his dumb ass a few months later, and now I know that all the authority figur…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 08:09 PM
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I also experienced this first hand. I was not attractive until I left high school, and all of a sudden, guys who made fun of me were crawling out of the shadows to try and shoot their shot. It made me a lot more suspicious and jaded about the intentions of men, which has saved me from being a total pickmeisha, but I also sometimes wish I could have just been left alone to be unattractive and unremarkable looking in peace. You are absolutely right to say men are only ruled by their loins.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 06:01 PM
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I don’t need any more “cool people” in my life lol that’s what my girlfriends are for? She must have tragically clung to all those losers to compensate for her lack of fulfilling female friendships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 02:58 AM
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Like you, I was raised religious, and like you, I also am not attracted to most men, and am also not super bubbly or outgoing when it comes to dating. I also felt weird about being a virgin at 21, so I did what you’re thinking of doing, and went online just to find someone to have sex with so I could get the whole thing over with. It was a mistake. The person I chose wasn’t bad or creepy or anything; I mean, the physical experience was just fine, and from what my friends told me, much better tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 07:13 PM
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so I have a stupid question: what does it say about you as a woman if you don’t get any of these kinds of messages? I don’t get any, and I feel a little weird about it? I know they’re not anything to be happy about, but I’m really curious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 07:34 PM
1

Hey if that’s your preference, then no worries. I actually find most fishing absolutely fine; it’s game hunting I dislike.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 04:03 PM
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The hunting thing is so relevant. If someone’s hobby is killing things, then that’s definitely not a person I want to give my time to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 09:13 PM
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This reminds me of this post I read that was circulating a few years ago, in which a guy wanted to open up his relationship with his girlfriend against her initial wishes because he thought he could do better than her. She agreed to it eventually, and it ended with him getting zero dates and feeling miserable, while she got to date swarms of hot guys. Absolutely hilarious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 12:54 AM
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Ugh, you’re right. The ridiculousness never ends with them. I’m honestly so tired of males.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 07:45 PM
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Considering some of the losers in my area, I’m inclined to believe that sometimes it’s serious. But if it is just meant in a jokey way, it’s profoundly unfunny and stupid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 07:26 PM
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Same. What’s even worse is when I come across a guy’s profile that has “looking for a stepmom for my kid” in his bio. How is that appealing to anyone? Like why would you lead with that?? I don’t understand the logic, honestly. I really don’t want to parent ANY child, especially not someone else’s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 05:59 PM
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Some broke-ass guy once tried to tell me that same thing; that he didn’t need to demonstrate his ability to provide because he “had loads of personality to offer”, to which my response was “I can’t eat personality”, and that seemed to shut him up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 09:15 PM
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This is so important; I’m sending this to all my friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 06:26 PM
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I only date cat people now. Dogs are great, but it really says something about a man when his best friend is an animal that he knows will love him unconditionally and can learn to obey him. If a guy is a cat person, I take it to mean that they’re a lot more comfortable with having to earn affection, and being fine with not having to be constantly paid attention to or obeyed. If a guy hates cats, I interpret it as him having control issues. I realize it’s probably not that deep, and might even se…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 11:26 PM
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My new favorite response to that is to just send them the clown emoji before blocking them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 03:54 PM
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A guy did this to me once and it was horrifying. I kicked him out of my house immediately and even considered pressing charges. This is yet another reason why having casual sex with strangers is a terrible idea; it’s just genuinely dangerous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 10:30 PM
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I live in the Denver area; can confirm there’s lots of good looking, fit guys. The problem I tend to have is that most of them are really into outdoorsy stuff and despite being a Colorado native, I really am not lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 10:16 PM
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This high-key works; I’m currently using this strategy to get over a long-term pointless crush. It’s a little less strong everyday, and I’m getting some nice meals out of it, so it’s a win-win lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/19 06:49 PM
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You’re right; he’s doing to it to spite you. He’s betting on you keeping her around and making you BOTH miserable. Do you really think letting him get exactly what he wants is winning? Like seriously? You know what he’s NOT betting on? You standing up for yourself and cutting them both off. THAT’S how you win; because from where we’re sitting as observers; he’s already winning. I can relate to losing the support of a good friend; and it’s always really painful but babe, you have to be your OWN s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/19 06:07 PM
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This is an awful position to be in, and I’m sorry. But it seems like you’re going to have to cut them both off. He’s an ass who isn’t worth your sadness, and she’s a desperate pick-me who was willing to take the scraps of affection he’s throwing to her over her friendship with you. I mean, with friends like that, who needs them? Don’t let the fear of cutting off both of these people who just drag you down emotionally outweigh your personal peace of mind. Everyone is replaceable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/19 12:35 AM
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He looks a wet loaf of bread and she’s gorgeous?? Imagine not believing that you can DEFINITELY do better. This just makes me sad honestly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/19 11:44 PM
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I have used tinder on and off at various weights (130 to 175), and I can tell you that my experiences were equally underwhelming if not all-out terrible, whether I was thin or bigger. It doesn’t matter how big you are; guys on that app are thirsty as hell and will swipe right on anything. So you might get a few okayish dates but I really don’t think you need to practice as long as you’ve got this sub to guide you when the time comes for a real relationship. I totally get the frustration of not k…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/19 10:45 PM
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I agree; I don’t even like beards on most very handsome men. The worst is when a guy thinks he’s somehow made himself look like an 8 or a 9 just by growing the 6 and a half hairs on his face into what I guess technically constitutes facial hair, and then expect us to swoon over them. No. You’re still gross, just with hair on your face. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/19 06:12 PM
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I was literally thinking this exact same thing yesterday. I tend to attract nerdy/hipstery type of guys, despite not looking at all outwardly nerdy, and I’m realizing that I don’t actually like them that much. I don’t really know what to do other than to keep the nerdier things I’m into to myself, but even that seems disingenuous. I don’t know what to do to be totally honest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/19 06:08 PM
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Honestly yes. I’ve mentioned on this sub before that I use OLD apps, and while I’m not really taking any of them that seriously at the moment (I mostly wanted to dip my toe back into the dating pool after finding this sub so that I could practice the lessons I learned here) but you are spot on with your analysis. By and large most profiles I see are lazy or cringey or just honestly boring. Guys will copy and paste a stupid Office quote or a dumb pickup line and call it good, and that’s not even …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/19 06:31 PM
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I find very few men physically attractive. But like you mentioned, I know there is a very real possibility of me never finding a partner and I’m honestly fine with that. Being alone is INFINITELY better than settling for someone who you have to convince yourself that you’re attracted to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/19 12:03 AM
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Wtf. Just..what?! There are really monsters like this walking around? Is there no end to the parade of horrors that is the male species?! Goddammit, sometimes I really, truly wish I was a lesbian.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/19 10:52 PM
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He basically just tried to convince you to settle for an ugly, short, broke low-effort guy because surprise, surprise; he himself probably is one. A sentence that really bothered me was the one about “choosing someone you love instead of someone other people think is attractive” like what kind of bizarre reasoning is that? Does he really think that’s how we pick men?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 10:25 PM
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I’ve actually never given a blowjob, partly because I don’t really know how and partly because I personally find it kinda gross. I’m curious to know if there is an official FDS stance on them. I know some women enjoy giving them, which is totally fine, but am I being ridiculous for not wanting a dick anywhere near my face?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 06:29 PM
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I get what you’re saying but I really don’t think this is that deep. I like messing with gross boys sometimes. Sue me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 02:07 AM
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Yeah, that’s really the only difference between Bumble and Tinder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 11:54 PM
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It’s kindof for everything. I’ve seen people looking for all sorts of things, whether that be hookups, traditional dates, etc. No, I don’t use other apps. Bumble is stupid because there’s no way I’m messaging a guy first, and PoF and OKcupid allow anyone to message you. I’ve heard good things about hinge, but I feel like in my area, most people use tinder. It’s extra sucky because I live in a po-dunk hick town with no decent prospects, so for now my only good option is to use OLD apps. He wasn’t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 10:05 PM
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I’m not sure; I haven’t checked, but I’ll update you if he does.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 07:30 PM
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Right? It’s sad honestly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 07:18 PM
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Matched with this guy on tinder because I swiped right on accident, but his opening message was interesting. He tries to get me to drive 35+ minutes away for coffee date; I don’t have to explain to you all why we don’t do that here, and I tell him that I don’t consider coffee/drinks a date, and only do real dates. He tries to push back. I tell him to move along and he sends this. It’s honestly hilarious to me that this all went down. Like he really thinks I don’t have 80+ other matches vying for…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 07:12 PM
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Lmao I like how he tried to save it with “I respect you as a woman” what an utter piece of trash When guys give me backhanded compliments like this, ESPECIALLY the “you’re pretty for a <insert ethnicity here> girl”, my response is always “and you’re still an ugly white guy”. Take that energy and serve it back directly so he knows he fucked up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 01:49 AM
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Side note: why are men so terrible at taking pictures of themselves?? Does all that testosterone cloud their brains and make them bad a recognizing when they look decent versus when they look like a sad Shrek impersonator??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 04:06 PM
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I’m not sure actually; his profile didn’t list his age, but my account settings will only show me 23-27 year olds, so likely somewhere in that range. I know tinder now has a setting that lets users hide their age, which is probably what this guy did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 09:56 AM
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I’d actually like an answer to this as well, because while I know any HVM will probably not be on OLD apps, I’m geographically in a place with extremely low value prospects and the guys I find on the apps are much better (better educated, better looking, have better careers, etc.) than any I would be able to meet in person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 01:43 AM
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“Hungover potato” is now my favorite insult 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 07:09 PM
18

It appears Elmer Fudd has fallen on hard times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 07:08 PM
10

Ah. Ok. Thank you for clarifying. I’ve truly never seen the term “childfree” used in a derogatory way, but I guess we have different experiences in that arena.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 07:10 AM
20

I can understand how that might make you feel a little upset , but this post obviously wasn’t aimed at or for you. No one replying to this thread has said anything incendiary or demeaning towards single mothers. I think maybe you need to think about why other women forgoing parenthood and expressing that in a female-only space makes you feel disrespected in some way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 06:44 AM
7

Honestly I’m about ready to do the same. I’ve got more charm, humor, and intelligence in my big toe than all of those guys put together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 01:02 AM
5

Shallon Lester has made several videos about all of them. Truly horrifying/fascinating stuff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 12:19 AM
10

You can totally do that if that’s what you’re into. But sleeping around isn’t going to help you when you’re trying to get into an actual relationship. Also, if it’s about pleasure with you, you’re better off with just getting a vibrator, because most men are trash in bed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/19 10:08 PM
13

The point is you shouldn’t even HAVE to ask him. He should do it automatically. This dude sounds like a dud. And yes, you should always come prepared to pay for your own stuff just in case. I can definitely understand the anxiety, but you need to realize that any man worth his salt won’t ask you to. If he does, smile politely, pay for your stuff, and immediately block him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/19 01:34 PM
11

I think you just answered your own question; he sounds stingy. If he isn’t automatically assuming he’s paying, you’re better off just finding someone else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/19 01:26 PM
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So I’m 25, and I’m starting to really invest in a good skincare routine. I do a modified version of the ten-step Korean skin care routine, which includes advice I gleaned from r/skincareaddiction and r/asianbeauty. I do a face mask at least twice a week, and I also whiten my teeth regularly and moisturize my whole body after every shower. I also do hot oil treatments to keep my hair healthy, and wear extensions to add length and thickness (I get compliments on how long and beautiful my hair is a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/19 01:56 AM
10

I remember a few years ago, I encountered a guy who was absolutely shocked to hear that we women don’t just swipe right on every guy that pops up on tinder. I’m pretty sure this was the first time in his life that he’d even considered the fact that we have standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/19 12:53 PM
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Drop him. If he’s not going to give you what you want, then he’s not worth your effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/19 03:19 AM
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