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Soooo funny you said this She actually said to me on the phone a while back "A guy in work said when he looks at me he senses massive insecurity" I didn't think much of it at the time as her pictures project a fun girl who loves travelling, works in London, has a good job, friends You may well be onto something there Also this is making me feel fucking pressured if I am honest...I had a crush on this chick and now she is willing to do all this? I am convinced once she is here I wont live up to h…
/r/seduction06/07/17 12:05 PM
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Fair point, fair point I think I do see her as high value subconsciously because part of me is stuck in those school days as pathetic as that sounds lol The funny part is I have dated and had long relationships with other girls who most guys would find more attractive than this one and that is what I try and tell myself. It's frustrating because I have her on some kind of pedestal which is total crap and my rational mind knows this
/r/seduction06/07/17 12:56 AM
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My natural reaction is to say I was just considering her but in reality I think it may be a confidence issue my end and her splashing out £300+ for 2 nights with me would put a little more pressure on myself.
/r/seduction05/07/17 12:13 PM
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Many thanks for the input AM As I mentioned to another poster I have really struggled getting the right balance with her and I can understand that from her POV it does appear as if I am disinterested. She may have even removed me from whats app tonight so that may be the end of the matter but if she messages me tomorrow I will take the initiative at least in getting this weekend booked and be more positive about it in general Thanks again for the input
/r/seduction05/07/17 02:00 AM
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I will dude
/r/seduction05/07/17 01:10 AM
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That is what I am thinking, It's Wednesday today and her train will still be booked for Friday if she decides to come. If I don't hear from her by Thursday morning its probably going to be a no go but I will wait and see. I am tempted to open her tomorrow but it is usually her that opens me...The issue is time with Friday approaching
/r/seduction05/07/17 12:55 AM
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Thanks for the reply Whack Just to add I haven't been nasty or horrible to her, I simply haven't chased her or reacted to her shit tests...I throw in the odd emotional spike and just try to keep things cool at my end. And your second point is totally correct ! If this was a different girl I would have binned her off eventually but curiosity regarding the past makes me want to see this through. At least for a weekend meet.
/r/seduction05/07/17 12:20 AM
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I get your's and Endoss views I end up thinking its me and I'm being way too cold or disinterested but I have a sneaky feeling as soon as I show a decent level of interest she will pull back. It's annoying because these chicks as destructive as they can be are often times the most hardest habits to kick I would like to meet up with her because I never even had the guts to even speak to her at school! Obviously times have changed, I just wish she would chill a bit and stay level emotionally
/r/seduction05/07/17 12:05 AM
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Hi Tango really appreciate the input! thanks for taking time to reply Half of me agrees and the other half doesn't We found a cool place and I told her I loved it...Book it ! And as she went to book it our dates got booked! Which totally messed up the plans leading to something which was going to cost her £100 now costing £300+ I told her in the message "Don't think I don't want you to come, If you are happy to spend that much I am happy to carry on with the plans, I just think next week might m…
/r/seduction04/07/17 11:41 PM
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That my friend I understand 100% Perfectly written and great advice !
/r/seduction29/06/17 10:34 PM
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Yeah it is kind of weird to be honest. That same day I told her I was seeing a female friend, suddenly she is also asked out for dinner by some guy lol When I asked her why she didn't go out to dinner with him she said he messaged her saying "Really excited to see you today" Apparently that put her off lol ?? Women...Strange creatures
/r/seduction29/06/17 01:56 PM
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I totally agree with what you say but how do people end up in relationships or marriages even? If a guy needs to withhold and stay detached from a girl in order to raise her investment and attachment levels how does the guy invest and still remain in a place where she is emotionally investing and chasing ?
/r/seduction29/06/17 10:47 AM
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Many thanks for taking the time to reply So are you saying that what she is displaying or feeling is kind of like a artificial attraction ? What confuses me is if this is how a guy generally needs to be in order to be "desired" and "invested in" by a woman, how the hell do people get into relationships or keep relationships going if a guy has to hide how he feels or hide his emotional attachment by being detached!? I have been in multiple relationships lasting 1-4 years so I do understand women …
/r/seduction29/06/17 10:42 AM
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Thanks for the reply I think that might work in a club environment but in a quieter place It probably wouldn't
/r/seduction13/03/17 10:19 PM
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I believe she is suffering from Bi polar and it isn't quite that easy...I haven't actually taken the time to think of what "Her" issues may really involve but after speaking with a close friend today they have said that everything points to the fact her issues which she has mentioned are all related to being Bi Polar... Do excuse me as I don't have much knowledge when it comes to dating people with mental illness and maybe I should just speak with her and find out the truth
/r/seduction15/09/14 05:48 PM
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Yeah she gets free minutes and usually calls every night,So it isn't the end of the world I hope everything goes to plan,I just need to remain positive about the whole situation
/r/seduction12/09/14 08:50 AM
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Well I have just got off the phone from her and the conversation turned onto a sexual theme so I played my part and added a little suspense and let her know that she can expect some special nights together...One thing I am good at is building a picture and adding a little suspense to proceedings....She seems even more interested in these holidays now after our little chat
/r/seduction11/09/14 11:46 PM
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Many thanks for the reply,Really appreciate it. I am going to the gym with a friend from work a few nights a week and I have been doing some personal development of my own,I totally agree that now is a great time for me to work on myself and stay in a positive relaxed frame of mind : ) She has everything else but never uses Skype as I guess she hasn't got much use for it...I don't have a webcam so that would be off the agenda in any case
/r/seduction11/09/14 11:42 PM
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Thank you very much,Some good points in there : )
/r/seduction11/09/14 09:43 PM
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Yeah she doesn't "Do" skype apparently
/r/seduction11/09/14 09:29 PM
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LATEST MESSAGE FROM HER 2/9/14 Latest Message From Her lol I can't work now Oh my fucking fuck I don't JUST want you for awesome sex though - you know this, right?? xxx But - awesome sex is doing things to me.... X I cannot even speak to people right now
/r/seduction02/09/14 12:01 PM
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Latest Message From Her lol I can't work now Oh my fucking fuck I don't JUST want you for awesome sex though - you know this, right?? xxx But - awesome sex is doing things to me.... X I cannot even speak to people right now
/r/seduction02/09/14 12:01 PM
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It was 6 or 7 times in the 2 nights we had the first time around...I would LOVE to be able to say "I'm too old for this" But I am only 29!! lol : D
/r/seduction01/09/14 09:04 AM
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You are 100% Right it was a total rush fest at first and that was mainly down to me,Although I haven't come across and said that too her directly I think they do pick up on that kind of vibe. I have just spoke with her on the phone and she has suggested we rent a secluded holiday property in the middle of nowhere for 3 or 4 days in October....WoW Do durex do bulk buy discounts? : /
/r/seduction31/08/14 11:31 PM
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I'm Trying ; )
/r/seduction31/08/14 08:45 PM
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Excellent answer for a very weird question lol I Appreciate it thank you
/r/seduction31/08/14 08:45 PM
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4 Hour conversation over! lol Things are looking good In summary, She felt I wanted her to either be deeply in love RIGHT AWAY or nothing at all due to a conversation we had whilst together on our date and she now realises she took it all in the wrong context and actually heard half of the conversation wrong!!! We both laughed at how wrong she had taken the conversation and what was actually said She feels at total ease that I am happy with us developing things slowly but with intent. She wanted…
/r/seduction28/08/14 11:47 PM
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Yeah it literally is such a mind f<sup>ck</sup> she messaged me this on plenty of fish whilst being on there all day lol I dunno,I kind of want to know if the issue is with her feelings towards me or issues and insecurities with her? Obviously if it is regarding how she feels about me,I cannot change that and will happily skip off into the sunset (Well almost lol) But...If it is as you suspected earlier on and is relating to insecurities she has then maybe It can be worked on? I feel it is the f…
/r/seduction27/08/14 03:19 PM
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Urgh...The plot thickens From her "Wait! Just give me some time. Not time to speculate on other people - it was never that I promise you. Can I call you this evening?" She is going to call this evening...I don't even know if this is the right thing to do? Nothing is going to get sorted over the phone...ffs why am I doing this to myself? I could just say no and leave it but I also wanna try and get to the bottom of that long message she sent :/
/r/seduction27/08/14 12:35 PM
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Many thanks...I have to remain true to me and what I expect :P I really appreciate the input you have given the past 24 hours,So many thanks for that : ) Should clarity strike her round the head and she comes back with something a little more straight forward then maybe something can be worked out...But until then I will stick to my opinion : )
/r/seduction26/08/14 02:01 PM
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THIS WAS MY REPLY TO HER MESSAGE Well what can I really say? The letter lacks any kind of direction or clarity and I just think you should have been more open and honest with your feelings. After all you have lied about your age,You then lied about coming off of a dating site...It doesn't bother "Me" or piss me off,But it reflects very poorly on you as a person. I took you for who you are,for you...For you as a whole not because of a certain attitude or something you said or the way you act or s…
/r/seduction26/08/14 01:26 PM
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I am just confused so very very confused...It is of my opinion that when the spark is there it's just there...I don't know how to deal with all of these uncertainties...When I AM faced with them I just want to say "Goodbye" Simply because it is my belief that the spark is either there or it isnt,And when someone sends me a message like that and joins back onto a dating site it just in my mind tells me that she doesn't have that natural attraction/connection with me as she has to question herself…
/r/seduction25/08/14 11:58 PM
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Yeah I agree,I felt we had a connection but the message she sent just shines NO clarity on her feelings at all? All I see is contradictions in every passage...How did you perceive the message?
/r/seduction25/08/14 08:55 PM
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I have literally no clue 70% Of me wants to be like "No its cool carry on and enjoy what you like doing" Kind of a don't give a f*ck attitude and walk away 30% Wants me to panda to this shit,Make things right and see what progresses as like I have been told "IT WAS ONLY A FEW NIGHTS TOGETHER!!!" God sake....Well this has made a boring evening in work all seem rather interesting now lol
/r/seduction25/08/14 08:09 PM
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Oh wow literally received this after replying to you Hi, I am sorry. And I will understand if you ignore this and never speak to me again, but I am going to attempt to explain the inexcusable because you don't deserve to labour under the illusion that I feel nothing for you. I got scared. I got scared that I was rushing into a relationship instead of letting it grow gradually. I got scared that I was unsure of how much I felt for you - was it more, or less, than I thought...? I got scared that i…
/r/seduction25/08/14 08:04 PM
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Yeah that's fair enough but I don't really feel like I am prepared to put up with that kind of stuff...I think that could open up a whole lot of other issues. It is totally cool if she wants to chat with other guys but I won't be someone who tags along just to make up the numbers,I feel like I would be lowering my standards and boundaries in a way : / I never did receive a response from her,I Just deleted her on FB after sending the message and carried on with my day : ) Anyway In other news I h…
/r/seduction25/08/14 08:03 PM
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In all honesty the latest development is that today I found out she had lied when she said she had stopped using Plenty of fish...She is still using it so I have wished her all the best and sent her on her way. It's pretty shit but I am one of one not one of many so onwards and upwards
/r/seduction25/08/14 12:52 PM
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Thank's for the awesome reply. I haven't expressed these kind of thought's to her since the date ended as I am conscious of not appearing like a needy clingy idiot,But they are swirling around my head! I am just trying to find the right balance of interest/progress without being pushy...Should I just go with the flow and give it say a couple of weeks and see how it progresses?
/r/seduction23/08/14 10:21 AM
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You really see this as a potential major issue with her mind? She is older than me and I am 29 We are connected via facebook,Have been speaking around a week and have had multiple long phone convo's over the past week,Mainly light hearted stuff
/r/askTRP13/08/14 01:51 PM
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Indeed I do : )
/r/seduction10/08/14 08:50 PM
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First of all many thanks for the reply! We have one room booked for when she is here overnight so I am trying to keep things cool on the emotional/sexual texting level as regardless we will have that time alone at the end of the night. After speaking with her last night I think there is a genuine concern from her perspective that she wont "Know" if I like her in the flesh or not? And wont pick up the signals etc Maybe this stems from the lack of validation I have been providing her in our chats?…
/r/seduction10/08/14 09:20 AM
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Yeah for sure I am interested but all I keep hearing is "What if we don't get on" What if we don't have that spark blah blah blah...She initiated the meet and now its all negative shit
/r/seduction09/08/14 05:32 PM
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She invited me over on Friday night and I made a conscious effort before I got there to "Not try and escalate things physically" Things went ok and I went to leave and got a very sheepish goodbye?! I called her out on it the other night and she said "Well I dont think you like me as much as you say you do as I have seen you twice since this we spoke and you havent even given me as much as a hug,Just find it weird thats all" I mean I tried to do the right thing and show her its not all about usin…
/r/seduction29/07/14 07:38 PM
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This is very true and how I feel also,It would just be easier if she said "Its not going to work" Its just the whole up in the air thing which is frustrating...It feels like I am hanging on her every word and she knows this.
/r/seduction29/07/14 05:46 PM
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