Quick back story

29m from the UK Slim 6'2 into a wide variety of subjects such as Guitar,Keeping fit,Sport,Self improvement etc etc.I feel when it comes to people in general I have quite a deep understanding of what they are thinking and feeling emotionally and what they are also trying to get out of me information wise.

I recently got in contact with a woman who is 38 on plenty of fish. After receiving this as a first reply to my opener she got me curious

"Yes, you caught my eye. You are very easy on the eye. Is it creepy when women say that stuff? Or just when men do? We can compare answers.

I like that you are musical - I am NOT. Except alone in my car when I seem to channel the talents of countless singing sensations but sadly this power disappears when anyone else is around. It's like a blessing AND a curse.

So how are you doing? Tell me some things. I promise it's not just that you are aesthetically pleasing, you sound interesting. Not that I have ever heard you. You COULD sound like a loon, I have no clue and make no judgement"

We exhanged facebook details after a few messages and she started messaging me through there and it quickly became evident that I would be there all night typing responses to her lengthy messages so request she call me instead as my eyes were bleeding!

She called and we chatted through the night for 3 hours and to sum it up she was into me in quite a big way from the responses I was receiving.

Over the next 2 or 3 days she seems to be throwing shit test after shit test at me which I feel everytime I have dealt with these it has impressed her just that little bit more. But being new to this and being usually quite a open person with my feelings and emotions I am a little concerned that I have been a little too cold with her on occasions...

I have been a bit of a jerk to her but I am not sure that maybe just maybe I am heading in the wrong direction and being too much of a asshole with her.

Here are some small pieces SHE has said to me over the past 48 hours.

Not in any particular order

"You're fucking up my life - no time to wash my hair, no time to prep for phone interview, look HORRENDOUS due to successive lack of sleep. You better be worth it! X"

"Why are you tormenting me with your cryptic ness ?? Tell me!"

"Can I have sex with you if you have The Allure? When we meet?"

"Good night JS. I have literally no idea about much of the stuff I talk to you about, but I like doing it. I like you. You are - AWESOME xxx"

"Yes but Im scared Im boring you"

"There is something particularly unique and intruiging about you... maybe I have known people before , male people, who were equally intuitive about the arms length thing, but if I have, they never said it. Maybe they could sense it, but none of them bothered their ass enough to actually raise it Can we talk about me one more time? I a D&M way? even though I am scared it will bore you. And me!?"

Right now these are just a few messages I have dug up from various conversations we have had over the last few days in facebook,She called me for 4 hours the other night and she seems to react best to the "Dont give a fuck" Kind of attitude.

Everything I have said and done up until this point has been with a hint of "Couldn't care less" and projecting a huge sense of self worth and inner power at the same time.

She has said on a few occasions that she REALLY loves that about me but I have a issue!!

She has booked a hotel room for the 19th and is travelling here for a night out together...All travel and hotel being paid for by her,She hasnt even asked for a single penny

I really am not sure on how I can carry over my inner self and my inner confidence and project this on our first date? I am naturally more reserved in public,Not the best at maintaining eye contact due to a slight defect with my right pupil (Its kind of like a cats pupil lol) I am also not the most muscle bound hulk you will see in your life although I have just started working out and trying to bulk up.

I would like some tips on the initial meet...The greeting...The attitude...The eye contact...I know I am this person who is inside of me...A deep thinker with a edge but I feel I am going to fall into the trap of becoming TOO NICE and with the age gap I really do not want to blow this...I want to keep the upper hand in this when we meet,I have projected this attitude of being superior but can I carry it through in the outside world...Face to face on a date!?

TLDR

MEETS A OLDER LADY ON POF 29M MEETS 38F

I HAVE A DEEPISH VIEW AND UNDERSTANDING ON ALOT OF THINGS COMBINED WITH A DONT CARE ATTITUDE TOWARDS HER WHICH IS KEEPING HER INTEREST

CONCERNED I CANNOT TRANSFER THIS PERSONA ON A NIGHT OUT TOGETHER ON OUR FIRST MEET