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THE AUDACITY OF SCROTES30137509/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 12:39 AM
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30137509/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 12:58 AM
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QUEEN SUPREME30137509/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 09:48 PM
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PICKMEISHA HALL OF FAME30137509/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 12:02 AM
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DISCUSSION30137509/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 08:17 PM
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FIELD REPORT 30137509/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 08:09 PM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNY30137509/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 05:26 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITY30137509/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 10:00 PM
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NICE FOR WHAT?30137509/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 08:13 PM
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ROAST-A-SCROTE30137509/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 09:29 PM
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ROAST-A-SCROTE30137509/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 12:28 PM
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30137509/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 06:50 PM
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SEEKING ADVICE30137509/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 05:09 PM
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30137509/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 08:36 PM
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30137509/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 09:49 PM
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30137509/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 06:35 PM
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Yes I thought it would be good as a test run, to have a short story to get the book club going without a massive reading commitment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 09:37 AM
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Okay, they're just examples.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 04:05 PM
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Is she living in the us now?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 10:52 AM
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Never met one but still looking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 06:54 PM
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You should close your social media, at the very least unfollow him, if he still has this much of an effect on you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 06:52 PM
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What's the premise of this show??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 05:12 PM
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Yeah, that was his thing for a while. I couldn't talk unless he asked me to. After a while he got bored of this thank god. But yeah very abusive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 08:14 AM
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I read it on audiobook but I just googled "deal breakers book epub" and a bunch of results came up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 07:55 AM
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Block. Block.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 06:12 PM
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Ugh that blue thing near his face is his ear gauge.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 03:26 PM
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Spot on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 04:16 PM
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Oh the emoji are in italics, that's sweet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 12:52 PM
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Oh the excuses to contact you...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 07:48 AM
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Thank you, gonna try that, maybe at lunch. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 01:50 PM
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Cool! Let's wait for a bit more interest and then I'll start a thread. I'll give it a week or so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 07:42 AM
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The blowie-begging face is spot on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 03:32 PM
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This is spot on. At best, all self-professed "feminist" men that I have met had a very paternalistic view of women. At worst, it was outright hypocritical and they were full-on abusers. I don't think women should aspire to be "protected" by men, in the sense that men shouldn't have to provide the opportunities for women - because that is still patriarchy; and men will still position themselves "above" and reserve for women what they themselves don't want to do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 09:18 AM
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Yeah but the news said those are the kids they're quarantining with. The bottomless depravity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 09:08 AM
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I know this predates Covid and that it's a whole problem, much beyond the current situation. However, yesterday I heard on the news that since we've been quarantined, child porn online trafficking has skyrocketed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 08:03 AM
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Well done! So happy for you!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 03:09 PM
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Haha we can laugh together, sending good vibes sis :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 07:51 PM
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Burn baby burn 🔥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 02:33 PM
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I have been here a fair while and I haven't seen anyone literally writing that they hate men. Saying that they have lost hope to find a male soulmate - yes I've read that. But hate? No.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 11:48 AM
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Good point. It varies from ex to ex. If I let mine text me, he would be escalating into sexy talk / asking me to come over .. within 2-3 texts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 06:56 PM
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Yes, just like you, I was happily reading the book until that chapter about cheating completely unbeknownst to your spouse. Some of it isn't utter garbage, but coming out of a relationship with a serial cheater, that chapter confused me so much. Thankfully found FDS eventually.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 06:55 PM
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You were so brave in leaving that note for all to see. Nobody should ever be treated like this guy treated you. Kudos to you for getting out and finding love again <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 05:48 PM
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Yeah. At that point I didn't understand why EP is such a celeb therapist. It's terrible advice. She's also into letting your man have other mistresses and that kind of stuff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 03:21 PM
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It's a way of managing your expectations and your boundaries. He has to work on himself in therapy; that's not your problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 03:19 PM
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Great strategy, thanks for explaining!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 09:42 AM
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This OP. Leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 09:28 PM
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This big time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 07:28 PM
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Sex aside, Christian Grey is an abuser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 02:30 PM
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Please let this guy be like 15.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 07:43 PM
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Oof.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 07:42 PM
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No, it's 10 mins of swiping (left) on OLD in my city.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 10:54 PM
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Every other profile is cringey. The other half are empty 😂 (no description)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 09:49 PM
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I wanna know too sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 09:34 PM
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Plot twist: She made the account after the proposal and now nuggets is their "inside joke" because he put the ring in whatever box he could find. Now she is Mrs. Nugget.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 09:33 PM
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Only text to arrange when to FaceTime - give each other quality time. Also, you don't want to spend all precious hours of your day texting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 08:19 PM
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"Lol none of your business"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 01:10 PM
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Hello; thanks for replying. Yes, absolutely, I didn't mean to say your comment was wrong; I was just expanding on your point based on my perspective.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 01:00 PM
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This /u/BleuRaspbery This is a good time for re-applying, because universities are really scrambling to get enough student numbers for Sep 2020 entry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 09:48 PM
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That might have something to do with it. I used to have low self esteem, now I'm a bit on a fuck it kind of phase. But yeah porn culture has probably damaged relationships much more than we are aware of culturally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 08:36 PM
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Hi, thanks for replying. I have, over the years, gone on many dates - all initiated by me. With mediocre guys I really wasn't that much into. Since finding FDS and my stopping initiating dates, I haven't gone on any dates whatsoever. Most guys find my music taste terrible though (they are probably right, as I'm really cheesy like that, but I stopped apologising for this years ago).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 08:06 PM
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I completely agree with this. If you don't mind though, I have a question. I keep myself fit, I dress well (I think), and I take care of my skin, of my finances, and of my physical and mental health. I am average level of beautiful (so not like a supermodel, or even like a toothpaste model). BUT. I have not been pursued by anyone since like 2011. I don't know what I am doing wrong
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 07:38 PM
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Ouch, this was me at one point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 12:01 PM
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Besides if he isn't looking for anything at all, he isn't the intended audience of that post. The audience were the guys who are looking for free cooch in exchange for NOTHING - no commitment, no paying for dates, nothing. Literally looking for free prostitutes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 01:51 PM
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I get them all the time. Quick "Decline". They are usually based off of something I said, and the comment is about how he is DiFfErEnT LoOk At WhAt I dO tHaT dEfIeS yOur PrEjUdIcEs AbOuT mEn!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 01:49 PM
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Best story I've read on here. That must have felt so EMPOWERING.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 01:46 PM
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No other celeb seems to have donated any $ yet, not that I've heard of anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 11:29 PM
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Culture is just baggage from dead people Love this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 11:06 PM
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Yup, same with my ex but with alcohol. I ended up leaving. I'm not cleaning any more vomit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 09:58 PM
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Plot twist: He would've accepted but they weren't offering enough $...🤭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 03:19 PM
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Like me and my mum, legit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 12:47 PM
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This woman (Carrie) is pretty. Not supermodel pretty but pretty. I am like her kind of pretty (not supermodel pretty), and I think women shouldn't put each other down based on their looks. Carrie does look after herself, is fit and dresses well. That doesn't stop her from being LV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 11:07 AM
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Yeah the fact it's got those kid stickers makes it so much worse. I want a man, an equal (ie someone who would be repulsed by this) not another baby.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 06:28 PM
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This is disgusting, men like this should live in their own vomit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 06:27 PM
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This week specifically I was sickened that PornHub was offering free premium access to people in quarantine, and the incels on this site were celebrating. Sickening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 01:27 PM
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Completely agree with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 09:01 PM
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Dunno, I guess the "right" man will see me in my own clothes. They're not horrible clothes but also don't stand out. Good advice though :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 08:35 PM
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I wear tight fitness gear but it's not awesome looking (think more like jersey fabric than lycra kind of fabric, and muted colors like greens and greys). I wear tight bottoms and usually a loose T-shirt (nice and new, but not revealing). Although I think your advice probably does work, I feel like the look I wear suits me and expresses my personality. I do have a great body, not gonna lie, but I would feel really uncomfortable in gear like this pic, because it really doesn't suit my personality …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 08:29 PM
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I like this list and I go to these places as I'm very health & fitness conscious. Nobody has ever asked me out, or even started a conversation. :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 08:07 PM
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It did at the time, I spent 2-3 sessions with my therapist talking about how disgusting this whole thing was. ETA: It's not that I don't find it disgusting now, but it really affected me during these events, that's what I mean.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 10:26 PM
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Yeah, he told me this for a really long time. Eventually, as difficult as it was, I enrolled. Surprise surprise, he wanted to keep sleeping with me NSA while he was looking for another GF. The AUDACITY.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 04:46 PM
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This, ma'am, is the correct answer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 04:45 PM
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Really? the more you know! I had no idea, will research further.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 04:45 PM
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Yes, agreed, some wives are conditioned by patriarchal thinking and agree to this depravity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 04:45 PM
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What do you guys think when you find one of these, that they are lying, to their wives and to women on the app; or that the wife actually consents to this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 08:50 PM
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Ahahaha love this story. My ex asked me if my kids (implying ours) would be short sighted because I am (very). My mom told me I should reply that my neither of my parents are not short sighted - but I didn't think of that comeback at the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 08:43 PM
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My ex really shred me in this way. He criticised everything; it's taken a lot of work in therapy to undo all this trauma. He criticised every little part of me as if it didn't belong to a whole - to a whole person. But, one thing that really really hurt was that he criticized my ethnicity - your question made me think of this because I literally have no control over it. He started off fetishizing it, and eventually in the devaluation stage he tore it to pieces. Whenever I would be in the presenc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 08:14 PM
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Can confirm, I haven't had sex in about 18 months, I'm doing great! I only want loving, passionate sex of this kind; and only with someone who is loyal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 06:15 PM
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tbh my very abusive ex was the perfect smooth talker. No awkward silences, he always had amazing stories to tell. So I'm now kind of attracted to people that allow room for some boring and awkward pauses. Not people who are boring, but people who don't come with a script of what they are going to say.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 11:20 PM
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Tbh I've been seeing that most men don't even try to hide it. I've had more unwanted advances from married men than single men. Not dates, just inappropriate comments like "send pictures" "oh no, not like this, with you in them", etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 11:16 PM
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Or sun tan around the ring.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 11:13 PM
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Exactly. If he has been abused he should have gone to therapy, and taken therapy seriously. If someone goes to therapy they would never come to the conclusion that the opposite of an abusive woman is a submissive woman. Besides, you don't know what the actual story is, you only know his version OP. Source: been abused, have gone to therapy, haven't been looking for a submissive man to compensate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 11:11 PM
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eeewwww
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 11:10 PM
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DiD i ImPrEsS hEr, BoIs?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 10:51 PM
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Exactly. Scrotes expecting a badge for doing basic stuff like flushing the toilet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 08:10 PM
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Also my ex had the ADHD excuse. I started going to a group therapy for couples where one of them had ADHD... he didn't come once. We would get huge fines because he wasn't filing his taxes - I've never had a late payment ever since I left. When I left, he went to the ADHD clinic. I was living at the shelter at the time. At that point his ADHD doctor calls me, and says that my ex has given my name as a person to be interviewed, to make sure he is not lying and can be medicated. I told the doctor …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 08:05 PM
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I had a guy say he was 4'8... on the day of the date. So that made me laugh extra hard... Hahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 07:49 PM
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What is brazilian blowout?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 06:51 PM
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Regarding staying in shape - I don't do it for that reason; but rather because it's a kind of health insurance policy. For example my mum has been active her whole life, she is still really gorgeous and although she can't outrun me (as I train, too), she probably can outrun most people her age. I do want to be agile and mobile until I am old. I don't agree with the general argument of this message though. I do most things for myself, like hair removal, (mostly I have invested in things that aren…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 06:45 PM
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Hi, can I ask though, for example in the case of DIY products you'd still have to buy the ingredients, isn't it? Are you saying that adds to less than $200 yr? In that case, maybe you'd have to add the time you spend preparing the ingredients as time spent on beauty/skincare. I agree with you however, that it has no bearing on whether a man should pay for a date, but I do think I learnt something from other people sharing their beauty & skincare routine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 06:41 PM
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This advice is GOLD. It's really that simple - if he doesn't respect a "no", he doesn't respect you. Period.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 02:25 PM
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The things I get done are: Threading eyebrows (1 time per month). Manicures & Pedicures (about 1 every 3 months, the rest of the time I maintain it myself). Facials (about 1 every 3 months, when I have a more lucrative job I hope to do 1 per month). Recently I've been working on my body hair. I've permanently removed hair I had on my upper lip and neck (I had so much hair everywhere!); and started with other body hair that I don't like for hygiene reasons. This has been a big investment (still n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 01:55 PM
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Same here! I did the same, deleted all the apps and have been trying to enjoy and improve myself. This has meant I haven't met anyone, and nobody has asked me out on a date since I deleted all my apps. I find it takes a lot of inner strength, though. Especially if you do want to get married. It's difficult not to wish to meet someone, and I find it particularly difficult when many months go by and there is nobody asking me out. I used to ask guys out on dates (how was that working for me, you as…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 12:43 PM
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Gawd I never thought about this but I am SO guilty of this!!! With my ex I would always word things so as not to blame him too much and also "admit my part", even when it was about something like he is cheating, I would preface by "I know it doesn't excuse my actions" gawd...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 06:04 PM
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Hi :) Thank you for taking the time to offer such good insights. That's amazing. I wouldn't have thought of it that way, that I don't owe him an explanation. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 06:03 PM
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Thank you! I will post it on the sub! :) But thanks for your kind and detailed reply.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 05:08 PM
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Spent it on my own, going to the gym... I guess it did feel a bit lonely, but trying to focus on the bigger picture.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 04:51 PM
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Same! I read somewhere in FDS about just making your own life the best it can be, in and of itself. I am doing just that, and it is an incredibly liberating feeling. I've just booked myself a solo holiday!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 04:42 PM
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Maybe try some evening / weekend classes, lectures, hobbies? I don't have time for these atm (working & studying) but if you do, it might be a great way to meet more guys who aren't specifically looking to "get laid" (which is want you want to avoid).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 04:29 PM
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For me, that porn is a total no-go. I used to think it was part of what men "needed"; despite never watching it myself. Now I am completely confident to ghost / drop a man if he is a porn user.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 08:09 PM
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Kindof upsetting that a woman is also the artist, although it might have a personal aspect in this case...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 07:11 PM
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Thank you for asking this - not replying directly to your question as the one I know already been mentioned (Natalie Lue). But can someone clarify if people like Evan Marc Katz and/or Matthew Hussey are worth our time? Whenever I've listened to them I get really put off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 07:10 PM
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Starting my "never play this song" playlist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 06:59 PM
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👏🏽 👏🏽 👏🏽 👏🏽 👏🏽 👏🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 06:36 PM
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Love it. Hope all of gonewild realizes and comes here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 06:29 PM
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Thank you so much for your lovely words. FDS really has changed my life - I was falling for another LVM after my ex when I found FDS, and realised I had to GTFO fast. Now it's pretty much the only subreddit I look at ! 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 06:27 PM
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I know. I lasted 7 years; I don't know what I would've uncovered if I'd stayed longer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 05:42 PM
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That anyone would do this is revolting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 05:41 PM
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Hahaha yes, I literally laughed out loud with your description.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 04:54 PM
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In some places, yes, they leave you alone for real; and are lovely and respectful. In other places, I got my hair pulled (it has a shade of blonde), got spat at, people making uncomfortable comments about my eyes, got things stolen, picture taken of me without consent, pulled out of queues so I had to go back to the end, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 04:44 PM
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Besides, different ladies?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 04:37 PM
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Thank you for this point; I hadn't thought about it that way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 03:58 PM
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I wouldn't really have this kind of banter even after many years of being with someone, but in that case maybe I could understand it (a raunchy conversation). But like this? First interaction? Nope
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 12:45 AM
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Completely agree with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 12:32 AM
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When texting - only seems like you got his full attention if the conversation is getting steamy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 12:03 AM
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Yes it seems like not very welcome here. See above.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 09:45 PM
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Thank you for sharing this. Did you find that other women around you were also more sexual than yourself? Do you think men also have social pressure / expectation to appear more sexual than they are? I think maybe they would also enjoy this form of intimate lovemaking you refer to, if they allowed themselves to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 09:28 PM
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Society alters what it defines as "normal" all the time. Remember at one point it was considered "abnormal" to be LGBT, or slavery was considered "normal". Rigid definitions of "normal" perpetuate things like homophobia, anti-abortion views, etc. I very much prefer to be open to revisiting what "normal" is on a regular basis, both personally and collectively.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 09:20 PM
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I haven't delved too much into any of those communities, but I haven't ever come across anyone discussing their experiences of being demisexual who claims that their struggle has been in any way comparable to the gay rights movement (although many asexuals and demisexuals are also romantically gay, lesbian and bi-).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 09:16 PM
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I don't know, because I'm not a part of any of it. For me it's a term that helped me understand my attitude towards sex, which was extremely low libido - almost asexual (although I can feel some arousal sometimes). It really isn't any more than that for me; I read about it, I thought "ah ok, so it's alright to be me", and I've never joined any movement. I don't know what is "normal"; the human experience is so incredibly varied, it varies culturally, geographically and across different times. It…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 09:03 PM
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I don't label myself; I've never introduced myself as being "demi" or have "come out" as "demi" (that would be silly imo). When I found people (on the internet) who were discussing their experiences of being "demisexual" (not my term) - it helped me to understand that there were more people that had such low libido (there weren't many around me). And so I stopped feeling "less than" for things like not masturbating, not flirting, not feeling sexual arousal, not seeking sexual experiences, not wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 08:58 PM
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I've never aligned myself to any gay rights movement or pretended I've struggled with the same social rejection. I've just explained to you that it helped me to understand myself, I haven't said it is "special".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 08:48 PM
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It's from the FDS wiki - Negative Value Man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 08:45 PM
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For me it's about being "in love" -- at that point I can be aroused by a picture (say of a guy I "love"). I don't know why it matters, for me it helps to understand it in this way ("demi"). I don't tell people on a daily basis (in fact I've only ever discussed it online and in person only with my sister), but it helps to understand my very low libido (for example I've never masturbated, and no it's nothing religious, I just don't).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 08:44 PM
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What did you watch :)? So nice you got to spend the day with your son!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 08:31 PM
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That's fine, you don't have to use it :) I don't have this word in my business card (as in, doesn't define me), but it helped me understand how uninterested I was in sex unless I was "committed".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 08:28 PM
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For me it's not aesthetically pleasing, I'd say it even makes me uncomfortable. I don't find it gross, just negative in a way that makes me not want to do it. I don't think my friends were "wet" -- they just exchanged these pics and I feared the day it would be my turn. At the time I felt really alienated; being a teen and all that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 08:23 PM
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I'm going to go to the cinema by myself #solochallenge
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 08:20 PM
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That's what they want of course.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 08:19 PM
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THIS! My NVM ex said that every man when he looks at a woman is deciding whether or not she is "fuckable". Proceeded to tell me I am still "fuckable".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 08:18 PM
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Wow this is so manipulative. So much psychobabble crap designed to make you second guess yourself. Block!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 06:13 PM
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Wow this is so manipulative. So much psychobabble crap designed to make you feel bad. Block!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 06:08 PM
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Printing this and nailing it to my bed post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 05:57 PM
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When me and my girlfriends were growing up, they used to exchange images (in floppy disks ha!) of celebs in sexy poses (Brad Pitt, Johnny Depp, David Beckham and other 90s celebs). I never found any attraction towards these topless guys. I don't think my girlfriends were watching porn at the time; I think for them it was quite natural to be attracted to these guys from magazines. I was called lesbian (by the girls as much as the guys), there were guys who would touch my "parts" in school and lif…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 05:53 PM
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Anyone here studying and working and wondering how you're going to work 40 h a week, study 20 h a week, clean your clothes, house, cook meals, work out and invest so much in your body / appearance? Can't see the end.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 04:15 PM
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Yeah I'm demisexual, so I can never like someone (or dislike them) based on the way they look. I do however, vet guys based on hygiene (rather than looks); which is something I can spot within an hour interacting with them (are fingernails clean? teeth? hair? are clothes full of lint, wrinkles, buttons missing? if eating - is he making a mess? is he careful to wipe fingers, mouth, etc, before touching or trying to touch me / something else).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 04:13 PM
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Also "I'm very spontaneous so I can't... ...meal prep / organize my clothes / remember to brush teeth / remember to shower / make plans with you... the list goes on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 11:35 PM
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Hi, thank you for your reply. What precedents do you mean? Would be interested to read more examples of this...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 03:06 AM
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We're in it together sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 10:44 PM
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Ah, sorry my bad, I misunderstood. In that case, I didn't have 30 something year-old friends at the time when I met him. Thank you for your advice in any case, hope someone younger than me reads it and avoids the whole ordeal altogether :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 04:38 PM
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That is really weird that he would share that kind of info. At best (that is, if she in fact had mental health problems), it shows he has no respect for the trust she put in him, and for the intimacy they shared. At worst her condition was a result of his abuse. My $0.02 Thanks for sharing and for your kind words :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 04:20 PM
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I'd been a Reddit user and had disabled my account because I was so fed up with all the "OP's mum" jokes and general nastyness when someone asks a genuine question or (politely) raises a point in disagreement. So I just made an account again to be able to join this sub (following some LVM disappointing me - the straw that broke the camel's back really!) So glad to have joined this sub!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 11:56 PM
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Ah yes, forgot to say he is said to be one of the best defense soccer players in the world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 01:11 AM
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I wouldn't tolerate even 1 of these things, even if the guy ticked every other box.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 12:50 AM
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Can't speak for all men, but my exes' did. Their whole outlook on life hadn't developed a day past 15.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 11:50 PM
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So glad i'm off OLD for good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 11:40 PM
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Same, I also don't have any social media he can look up. I only heard from him in a hoover attack a few months ago, I just ignored it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 03:29 PM
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Beware of LVM who will say they believe in things like this but don't act the part. Some LVM know the script (to attract HVW I guess) but either don't know how to or don't want to walk the walk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 03:26 PM
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They're all overweight men and still manage to get suits bigger than them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 06:56 PM
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who cares what they want, fml if i'm going out and deciding my makeup because of a guy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 01:09 AM
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aight gonna dive in there wish me luck update: i somehow had bought into the "men age better" thing, as it gets thrown around so much, and it was one of the reasons that kept me in my bad relationship (thinking I'd hit 'the wall tm soon and I was better of staying with my ex because nobody would like me)... anyway, this sub has opened my eyes 👁👁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 11:30 PM
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Yes that girl is legit gorgeous. And the guy... Uhmmm... <sup>yuck</sup>
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 10:41 PM
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