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You can't possibly appreciate others if you don't appreciate yourself. You need to work on yourself. Knowing what to say or how to act is only half the battle because eventually someone will see right through you if your actions and words are not congruent with your body language and personality. I was pretty socially isolated as a kid and probably put up walls/developed a deceptively big ego and I find it very hard to relate to people on a deeper level. Clearly, you have issues. You are insecur…
/r/seduction16/11/15 08:12 AM
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+1, I was just about to suggest this book.
/r/seduction16/11/15 08:04 AM
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Many of us have been through the same and he does need a wake up call. Unfortunately, judging by his post I highly doubt he will get it through this subreddit. It's cool that you're giving him advice but you're only giving him hope that there is "still a chance". While yes, it's certainly POSSIBLE to get her back if he actually rids himself of his neediness, however it's not going to help him get rid of it because he will be stuck in the mindset of getting her back anyway. The best way is to jus…
/r/seduction08/04/15 11:09 AM
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I'm glad you asked for advice. Here it is in all 100% honesty. Move the fuck on. Listen to yourself. Literally, go back and read what you wrote out loud. Seriously. Stop reading and go do it. === pause while you read out loud === Did you actually read it out loud? If not, go back and actually do it. === pause #2 === You sound like a little puppy with its tail tucked in between its legs. You have already devalued yourself to a level that is nearly impossible to come back from. You gave her a reas…
/r/seduction08/04/15 10:03 AM
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Of course. Just like our minds can be subliminally coerced into believing we NEED a new product or to take some sort of action, the same applies in this case. However, I hope this is not something you are considering. There are strong, strong consequences and you can seriously affect someone's life.
/r/seduction03/02/15 05:04 PM
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Yes, it happens to as many women as it does to men.
/r/seduction03/02/15 08:06 AM
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Awesome read! You did so well and learned from your mistakes so quickly that I don't have much to contribute to your report :) I only want to address "The only thing that sucks about this game shit is that so many numbers are flakes." Don't worry about this for now. If you let go 100% of caring about the outcome it will show in your approaches. The reason they are flaking is not because there is a tabboo about meeting and dating strangers or anything like that. They're simply flaking because you…
/r/seduction30/01/15 11:34 AM
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This would work but it's too complicated. Just have some confidence in yourself. If the woman was instead a random guy you met at the park and you both had similar interests, how would you go about asking for his number if you just wanted to grab a drink on the weekend? Ask her in this same exact way and body language. That's it. Don't over complicate things.
/r/seduction29/01/15 12:54 PM
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Update please!
/r/seduction25/01/15 08:21 AM
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/r/GothamSeddit/
/r/seduction16/01/15 02:49 PM
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Yes, it's in the sidebar. Rapport- This refers to the feeling of familiarity or "closeness" with another person. Examples: You can build rapport by mirroring a girl's body language, maintaining eye contact, talking about commonalities, and empathizing with her. Rapport: a close and harmonious relationship in which the people or groups concerned understand each other's feelings or ideas and communicate well. The more rapport you have with a woman, the closer the connection you have with eachother…
/r/seduction14/01/15 02:17 PM
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Congrats with everything but MAN... I absolutely could not read until the end. Separate each idea into PARAGRAPHS! This whole thing reads like a huge run-on sentence.
/r/seduction14/01/15 12:09 PM
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I think you should go to /r/highseddit and ask there.
/r/seduction14/01/15 12:02 PM
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Ask her if she wants to hang out for lunch. It's very low commitment since she's already at work. Also, if she is in a situation where she going out with you is difficult (e.g., boyfriend) then saying yes will be easy for her. Overall, a lunch date is easy for her to say yes to. Just don't call it a date. EDIT: Just read your post on /r/advice. Yes, she is flirting with you. Stop pushing going out for drinks. If you have asked her out for drinks more than 2 times already, then you can ask her if…
/r/seduction14/01/15 11:56 AM
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This is horrible advice. I doubt that a student studying abroad would want to risk getting kicked out of their homestay. I highly recommend you do not disrepect the home of a Spanish family. The outcome, if they were to find out, will not be pretty. Try a hostel, you can always get a private room pretty cheap for WELL under $100.
/r/seduction14/01/15 09:50 AM
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FYI: She wanted to fuck you that night you were texting her. Move on. You didn't establish enough rapport with her on the first night. When she woke up the next day all those feelings that she had of you the previous night were gone. This is very common which is why it's important that you give her a reason to want to see you again. When you text her the next day, bring up something about the previous night so she remembers who you are. Sometimes I'll bring up something funny she did or said and…
/r/seduction14/01/15 09:09 AM
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I wish I could upvote this 5x.
/r/seduction14/01/15 08:58 AM
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Congratulations on being single again ;) Try to slowly work your way back into approaching and talking to women. Your first night out can just consist of asking the female bartender about a drink or something simple. You don't need to pressure yourself into opening sets. Even mPUAs slowly work their way back into approaching women after long periods of not approaching/talking to women. Strauss' book is good but a lot of it is old technology. Check out "Models" by Mark Manson for more up to date …
/r/seduction14/01/15 08:51 AM
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I'm happy for you :) It gives me personal satisfaction when I see more men taking control of their beta-ness and actually doing something about it. Side note regarding rejections: one of the best things I learned is that rejection is useful because at least now you know your chances with that girl. It feels so fucking good when I polarize a girl because the idea of not knowing drives me insane. The outcome of the polarization only comes second and is really not that important. It's knowing wheth…
/r/seduction14/01/15 08:37 AM
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/r/highseddit
/r/seduction13/01/15 03:32 PM
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The reason you get nervous and anxious is because you don't believe in yourself, you're not confident in your abilities and your personality, and you possibly have other insecurities that you haven't dealt with. Work on your inner game first. Once you have done that and you truly feel and BEHAVE differently, you will notice a big change in your game.
/r/seduction13/01/15 02:54 PM
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/r/highseddit
/r/seduction13/01/15 02:38 PM
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You live in one of the biggest stages for nightlife in the WORLD. You don't need us to tell you where to go. Search on Google. There are tons of places you can go to in NEW YORK CITY with Monday night specials. Best of luck and get out there! :)
/r/seduction13/01/15 10:10 AM
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Dancer here... Great post. Thanks for sharing :) I hope it motivates those who want to learn to get out there and LEARN!
/r/seduction13/01/15 10:06 AM
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This is what I'm talking about... but I'm glad you're no longer freaked out. You should definitely continue to look forward to clubbing. These places are designed for interaction and to help you have fun. You just have to take it all in (lights, music, energy, the people who are there to SOCIALIZE... EVERYTHING!) and go with it! That's why it's all there.
/r/seduction12/01/15 04:22 PM
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It's so easy to say something is too difficult and give up. The worst part is that people are actually upvoting the OP's post. It's troublesome because they're probably coming from people who agree club game is difficult and all the OP is doing is confirming their beliefs.
/r/seduction12/01/15 10:17 AM
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I don't know why this post was downvoted. He's right.
/r/seduction12/01/15 09:31 AM
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SMH. This is the same crap we're talking about at This sub isn't what it used to be. I have shit to do but I'm actually going to take my time to respond to your nonsense because I am not going to let you ruin club game for other people just because you can't fucking do it. Clubs cater to two groups: rich guys and pretty girls. If you are not a member of one of those two groups, or in the entourage of one of those two groups, clubs will always be hard. Obviously, they cater to these two groups. I…
/r/seduction12/01/15 09:27 AM
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Do whatever you think feels right. Do whatever you feel like doing and stop putting her on a pedestal. Personally, I like to text because I hate talking on the phone and because that's what I feel like doing. I don't stop and think "hmmm what would SHE want?". If she responds/answers your call/text, then great. If not, move on.
/r/seduction12/01/15 08:41 AM
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I truly wish I was experienced enough with this reddit app to be able to format my responses in the way you have Get the Reddit Enhancement Suite. You're welcome in advance :)
/r/seduction09/01/15 03:26 PM
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Not if you're in Spain :) Tapas are very cheap there. Lucky bastards...
/r/seduction09/01/15 02:28 PM
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I remember they would do it all the time on that TV show called, "Blind Date". Man, that show was so fucking stupid.
/r/seduction09/01/15 02:27 PM
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Dinner on a first date is too high committment for me. You have to dress all nice, invest too much money on her (paying for dinner) when you don't really know her yet, and devote too much time off your day for it. It's only a first date. I like to keep it really simple. Plus, as said before me, dinner is boring and too formal. Usually, I strictly do a coffee or bar meetup. I also, never call it a date because that also sounds too high committment.
/r/seduction09/01/15 02:22 PM
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I've read a shitload of feel-good advice on here by people who, apparently, don't know anything about seduction but think they do because they've been a subscribed to this sub for a period of time. Take this one for example, a thread about how to ask a girl for her name -_- Most of the posts on there are just fucking ridiculous advice made by people who clearly don't know shit about seduction. I don't think we need a criteria that says "if you've slept with X amount of women you can post here". …
/r/seduction09/01/15 08:51 AM
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Julien Blanc would be proud.
/r/seduction08/01/15 11:02 AM
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Good job. As a tip, look for keywords in her responses that allow you to continue the conversation and build rapport. Keywords in bold -Me: So, what are up to -HB8: Just got off work and on my way home (Home is also a keyword but you'll probably come off as creepy if you start asking her about her home) You can then continue with, "cool, what do you do?"
/r/seduction08/01/15 10:47 AM
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The idea of being a wingman is not to make your friend look good. Your friend should be able to do this on his own. Your purpose is to back him up, be his sidekick and valued friend, and assist him when he needs you. As his friend, you should be able to pick up on his intentions when he's trying to seduce a woman. Once you know what his intentions are, help him if he needs it. Don't fucking walk in when he has already isolated his target and everything is going smoothly ("hey guys! great night, …
/r/seduction05/01/15 09:22 AM
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What you should do is go to /r/AskSeddit
/r/seduction03/01/15 12:17 AM
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The details were important. Timo must have a dick up his ass today.
/r/seduction01/01/15 11:12 AM
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In the past I used to use both in the same way you laid it out. Approach, isolate, NLP to build rapport quicker. You're going to get mixed responses everywhere you go. Personally, I loved some of RJ's techniques but I do feel some of it was way too manipulative. NLP is simply subconscious communication... If you don't feel comfortable using it, then you shouldn't use it.
/r/seduction01/01/15 11:06 AM
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Maybe his dog wrote it for him.
/r/seduction29/12/14 02:13 PM
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To keep it short and sweet, she was complimenting you. More importantly, you should stop caring. Seriously. If you were confident in your ability to please a woman you wouldn't care what she meant. Also, this insecurity can only potentially lead to bad sex because you're concerned if you're doing a good job. Just enjoy it man. There's nothing wrong with being a nice guy as long as she has earned it and you maintain your self value. In my experience, most, if not all, women like a man that is agg…
/r/seduction29/12/14 12:58 PM
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what language is this in?
/r/seduction29/12/14 12:49 PM
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It wasn't a BAD response but she's already being defensive. She'll just respond with more of it and thus get you nowhere... or she may not respond at all (oh well). I've found that when she's riding her high horse so early, it's best to bring her back down into YOUR world. E.g., "wow, you must meet all the psychics on Tinder. I don't even know you :) Let me guess... Scorpio? Triumphant, resilient, asks guys lots of questions, is great at photoshop, yadda yadda?"
/r/seduction29/12/14 09:34 AM
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Shit test. She is qualifying the heck out of you considering you haven't even met. Respond but don't qualify yourself.
/r/seduction29/12/14 09:06 AM
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Bingo.
/r/seduction28/12/14 04:46 PM
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I never said to bring up the game on a first encounter. The questions game is a great tool for beginners who are not comfortable with maintaining a conversation for a long period of time. If one is socially adept and comfortable enough to lead to sexual questions, then by all means go for it if you have already established enough rapport with her. However, don't play it down, criticize it, and over analyze the whole thing as if my explanation should be taken as if it were carved into stone. Ever…
/r/seduction23/12/14 01:33 PM
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You're referring to Mystery's questions game. Allow me to elaborate :) I still use this game from time to time. It's easy to start talking about sex when playing if you lead the game into it. Tell her there are 4 rules to this game and the purpose is to get to know each other better. Rule #1: questions cannot be repeated and you cannot ask the other person a question they already asked you. Rule #2: ALL of the questions must let skeletons out of the closet. Rule #3: you must answer all questions…
/r/seduction22/12/14 10:47 AM
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I shared this for humor but the funny thing is that these would actually work when said correctly (as Will did). He didn't care what the woman thought about him.. he was just being true to himself. It's the way he said the "lines" that made them work... the words you say don't matter at all. It's all in your frame ;) Happy Friday sedditors :)
/r/seduction19/12/14 12:33 PM
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I used the method described by RSD Tyler in this video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7fMDrYBsYbo Basically, start out slow and work your way up at your own pace.
/r/seduction18/12/14 03:45 PM
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/r/askseddit
/r/seduction18/12/14 01:46 PM
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What's with all the lame suggestions to make her seem like you actual know her name or try to trick her into giving it to you. JUST BE HONEST AND STOP PUTTING HER ON A PEDESTAL. You: "Hey, I'm terrible with names and I completely forgot yours. All I remember is that is was a name I've never heard so that made it even more difficult to memorize :) What is your name?" Her: "Haha, it's Nilaya" You: "Ahh, yes!! Nilaya! Ok, it's engraved now :) Nice to see you again. Are you doing cycle workouts agai…
/r/seduction18/12/14 11:38 AM
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what the?! Not only is this lame and stupid but she will see right through the bullshit. Just be fucking honest.
/r/seduction18/12/14 11:27 AM
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You should talk to me because you are the luckiest girl in this room right now.
/r/seduction18/12/14 11:08 AM
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Great FR! I think you did pretty well. I also think your hitting yourself over the head a bit too much. Telling her "stop looking at that. It's not happening" as you walk past a mistletoe was a great move. Yes, you could've capitalized on the opportunity but this only made her want you more. How many guys have ever said some shit like that to her? You might have been the first one! You knocked her out of her reality and that put you in control. Good job. Nice job with the kino escalation by gett…
/r/seduction18/12/14 10:11 AM
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What makes you think you will find her on /r/seduction? :D I'm curious hahaha. Seriously, shit happens man. Sometimes there are variables you can't control. You just have to let it go and move on the next one. You were lucky on this night man. Yes, you approached her. Good. However, you were still lucky :) Many call this "fool's mate" - when you barely have to put any work to f-close a girl (except you k-closed, but the term can still apply). Even if you found her, it is certainly possible that …
/r/seduction17/12/14 02:52 PM
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Unless she clearly hints or suggests her place, your place is almost always the best place to seduce her. At your place you can control many different variables that at her place can be difficult to control. For example: cockblocking roommates, moving her into the bedroom, lighting/setting, etc. The closer your place or her place is to wherever you're meeting her (or met her), then the better chances you have at going back to your/her place with her.
/r/seduction16/12/14 03:01 PM
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There is already an official thread for this. See sidebar. /r/seduction/comments/2kvae5/sedditor_locator_2014_find_awesome_buddies_for/
/r/seduction16/12/14 10:55 AM
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If you want it to be a date, meet her somewhere or pick her up. If you want to have fun and meet other women, have her meet you at the venue.
/r/seduction11/12/14 10:04 PM
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I wouldn't make sense for a girl like her, who is obviously attractive, to want to date a guy who is not confident enough to be a man around her.
/r/seduction11/12/14 10:01 PM
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Awesome experiment. Saved.
/r/seduction11/12/14 04:05 PM
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You come here and disrespect the value of this subreddit and the quality of its members by posting such a stupid fucking question. This is seriously elementary school, beta male shit. People that come here ARE NOT fucking looking for ways to get pictures of naked girls... THEY COME HERE TO IMPROVE THEIR FUCKING LIVES. Yet, here you come along and completely waste everyone's time, including mine, because you want to jerk yourself off every night before bed. I don't need to know you. I don't want …
/r/seduction11/12/14 12:29 PM
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You're welcome. I was holding myself back... seriously. What I really wanted to say was not as friendly.
/r/seduction11/12/14 11:33 AM
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Wtf is up with this subreddit today? This is probably the dumbest question I have ever seen here. Why do you want naked pics of her? So you can wank off to it? What does having her naked picture do for you? Why is it so important that you need to go on the internet and ask random strangers how to achieve this? Seriously, grow some balls. You have her contact info, ASK HER OUT, go fuck her and stop posting bullshit questions.
/r/seduction11/12/14 10:48 AM
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Thanks for the FR. I just want to say that's fucking hilarious that you said that in front of her friend. Depending on your body language it could have meant (A) but I don't give a shit (B) I'm affected by it. Next time, don't watch porn before going out and don't masterbate. You'll lose some sexuality in you... it's best to save that energy for the party. You did the right thing by not giving up and trying to slowly build up your self-esteem and energy. However, I think you're more pissed off a…
/r/seduction11/12/14 08:54 AM
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lol at least now you know which is much better than not knowing :) Now you can more easily focus your attention on other girls.
/r/seduction11/12/14 08:43 AM
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I'm going to make a few assumptions. His culture does not oppress any type of sex in any way, his religion is not ultra conservative, and his upbringing was just as normal as any average American kid and he was never the victim of a sexual act. If all of the above is true AND he does not come from a super religious or conservative background, his behavior is probably due to a lack of confidence... it may be lack of sexual confidence or lack of confidence in general, I don't know. A confident per…
/r/seduction10/12/14 01:48 PM
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/r/AskSeddit
/r/seduction10/12/14 01:05 PM
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I'll shed more light on why being genuine and situational is better as opposed to using canned openers. The problem with canned openers is that they're played out, ingenuine, don't work in all situations, and you're not being truly alpha. An alpha male does not think "oh, let me say this cute thing to her" because 1) that is putting her on a pedestal 2) he doesn't care what he says because he is more invested in HIMSELF than he is in HER. The alpha male simply shows his true intentions because h…
/r/seduction09/12/14 01:39 PM
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/r/AskSeddit
/r/seduction09/12/14 11:44 AM
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Another dumb, low quality post that puts women on a pedestal. You already failed and you don't even know where to go yet. You're going to go into whatever meaningless venue random strangers on the internet suggest, your mind is going to be so fucking focused on who is a "8", "9", or "10" AND WHY THEY ARE A 8/9/10 that it's going to be completely blantantly OBVIOUS you are there for pussy, and then, if you muster the balls to do it, you're going to approach a girl there and she's going to blow yo…
/r/seduction09/12/14 09:41 AM
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Awesome long read. Well worth it. Thanks for sharing. Many people are already aware of this but it is nice to have someone really put it into perspective. It's a shame, however, that there are people that are blind to this happening. I refer to them as the sheep of society.
/r/seduction09/12/14 09:24 AM
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Rendezvous with HB9, completed mission k-close, gained +10 strength exp.
/r/seduction09/12/14 07:15 AM
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They talked a bit, hung out, and he k-closed. Nothing happened after that (that I'm aware of lol)... they were both teens so bringing a girl/boy back to your place where your roommates are MOM and DAD, is a minor logistics issue ;)
/r/seduction08/12/14 03:28 PM
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Back when I was newbie and afc, my brother would always try to convince me to get into David DeAngelo so I can learn how to pick up women. Of course, with my false AFC ego and pride I ridiculed him for having to learn how to pickup women. Until one day he really impressed me after telling me about how he just got a random girl's number on the train. MINI FR She was sitting with some guy and they were talking about what stop they should get off at. At one point she gets up to look at the subway m…
/r/seduction08/12/14 02:42 PM
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I love stories like this :)
/r/seduction08/12/14 02:26 PM
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Question #1: Yes Question #2: They're attracted to you. Go say hello.
/r/seduction05/12/14 11:27 AM
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Aldous Huxley - "Brave New World" and Mary Holmes - "Gender and Everyday Life" (http://www.amazon.co.uk/Gender-Everyday-Life-The-Sociology/dp/041542349X) Both are really good reads. The second one especially for seduction. You'll be able to produce very interesting conversation with women and understand society from a sociological perspective.
/r/seduction05/12/14 10:49 AM
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To add to what everyone else has said: Whatever you do, please put your drink down. Don't hold it in front of your chest like every other chode in the room. Put it on the bar/table or hold it to your side.
/r/seduction05/12/14 07:34 AM
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/u/AskSeddit
/r/seduction05/12/14 07:21 AM
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"Models" by Mark Manson. Read it 20 times if you have to.
/r/seduction04/12/14 12:17 PM
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Check out "L'Ovella Negra". It's an awesome bar below ground in El Raval on C/ de les Sitges, 5. You'll find plenty of locals there and plenty of women on the weekend. Avoid bars and restaurants on Las Ramblas. They are very pricey. The only people that ever go to them are tourists because locals know these places are specifically designed for tourist's money. On Carrer de Ferran there is Temple Irish Pub which is awesome on soccer nights. There are also plenty of more bars on this street so I w…
/r/seduction04/12/14 11:32 AM
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@OP: Do not say this unless you want to be slapped across the face.
/r/seduction04/12/14 10:42 AM
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That's a pretty lame excuse.
/r/seduction03/12/14 03:21 PM
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Anyone can do it. It doesn't matter what your background is. No one is genetically formed to just know how to dance. When I was a baby my mother would rock me side to side to the beat of whatever song was playing while I sat on her lap. Eventually, I learned how to walk and my parents would encourage me to dance and move my body along to music. This helped me learn and understand rhythm. As I grew older I progressively danced more and more at family parties and social events. This helped me deve…
/r/seduction03/12/14 02:56 PM
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Just say, "thanks", and dance really gay.
/r/seduction03/12/14 02:43 PM
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It depends on how often you are meeting for class every week and for how long. If you are meeting for one one hour class a week then I would say the committment would be around 3 months (12 classes).
/r/seduction03/12/14 08:11 AM
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There is no "elite" group. It wouldn't be limited to only those with "advanced" knowledge but it should be limited by some sort of membership criteria (seddit posts, purpose of joining, etc). Otherwise, the group would lose anonymity if anyone could join. That's just my idea.
/r/seduction02/12/14 03:39 PM
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Good job misconstruing my post. Clearly the post was not clear to you thus why your first 4 words are, "what do you mean". However, instead of asking me to clarify you jump to false conclusions. I already share plenty of my knowledge and plan on continiuing doing so. The issue which you misinterpreted is NOT that I wish to hold information to myself, it's that I (and surely, others) want to maintain anonymity. Some FRs simply can't be posted because they may contain information that easily and p…
/r/seduction02/12/14 03:35 PM
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I didn't say make /r/seduction private. I was referring to creating a NEW private subreddit. Post edited to make this more clear.
/r/seduction02/12/14 03:09 PM
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Bingo. Same here =/
/r/seduction02/12/14 02:56 PM
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Well it seems you did a good job handling her negativity.
/r/seduction02/12/14 12:05 PM
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Great read :) What's with all the negative thinking from the waiter? "you're too happy today" and "maybe someone will rain on your parade" Was she being humorous or legitimately pesimistic? It's hard to tell from not knowing what her body language was like.
/r/seduction02/12/14 08:48 AM
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I would love to give you advice but this belongs in /r/AskSeddit
/r/seduction02/12/14 08:39 AM
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/r/AskSeddit - this is beginner's stuff. Please read the Rules & Guidelines in the sidebar.
/r/seduction02/12/14 08:37 AM
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Please go to /r/AskSeddit P.S "Because I know how to lift" nobody cares about why they asked you and it was pointless to mention. Are you seeking validation from strangers on seddit?
/r/seduction02/12/14 08:32 AM
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Tell an interesting/funny story that happened during Thanksgiving. No need to make something up.
/r/seduction01/12/14 04:01 PM
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/r/AskSeddit
/r/seduction01/12/14 11:09 AM
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/r/AskSeddit
/r/seduction01/12/14 11:08 AM
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This one also didn't make me cringe haha :) Overall, I think you did well but there's a few things you can still improve on. First, your voice. It's nasaly. I would recommend working on speaking more from your chest and diaphragm than your nose. There is a lot of material out there that helps you work on your voice. I recommend Nancy Daniels, "Voicing It" (all materials, including DVD). Try to be a little more confident. Don't worry too much if she's in a rush. No need to remind her of any reaso…
/r/seduction01/12/14 10:54 AM
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/r/AskSeddit please :)
/r/seduction01/12/14 08:39 AM
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This. I would really like to see more action from the mods.
/r/seduction30/11/14 07:14 AM
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He's totally right about the erection part. What's there to be ashamed about? It's normal and you're a man. If u have an erection in front of her, don't try to hide it. She will be super turned on by it. Trust me. Sometimes I even HIGHLIGHT the fact that I have a boner... "See what you did..." Just try it and you will thank me later.
/r/seduction29/11/14 11:39 AM
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It sounds like, for the reasons you gave, you don't feel comfortable telling them that. Which is fine. More importantly though, it also means you don't want to tell them that. So, if you don't want to tell them that, why do you feel pressured into telling them they're beautiful? Just because they like to hear it? Sounds silly doesn't it? Also, why are you worried about whether or not you come off as flirting? If you want to say it, just say it. What is there to worry about? Are you afraid of tel…
/r/seduction28/11/14 04:08 PM
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Two words: You don't. The solutions you listed will not fix your problem. You're not seeing the bigger picture. The one and only problem is your neediness. Take it as you wish but I'm giving it to you straight. Afterall, you came here looking for straight answers, right? It's not your friends. It's you. Stop making excuses and blaming others. Ask yourself the following questions. Why do you feel people have to respond to you? Why do you feel people need to thank you? Why are you so impatient? Wh…
/r/seduction28/11/14 01:27 PM
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You're looking for a shortcut. Read ALL of the information on the sidebar, do a search for the books we've read, and go out and PRACTICE. There is no step-by-step guide for any woman. Even if we gave you a step-by-step guide for ONE specific woman you will probably fail on executing it anyway. It takes years to fully comprehend seduction and you can't just come here and ask for the best "tricks" to use. There is so much that goes into seduction that you can't just sum it up into bullet points.
/r/seduction28/11/14 09:31 AM
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I love that you didn't think twice about approaching her when you saw her again. It looks like you are understanding what Mark Manson teaches which is great :) His words really tend to have an immediate effect. My advice is the same as /u/ThatSpecialPlace's advice
/r/seduction27/11/14 02:48 PM
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At Starbucks they usually ask you for your name.
/r/seduction27/11/14 02:25 PM
2

If I remember this again I'll try it :) This is definitely something I would say.
/r/seduction27/11/14 02:25 PM
1

I agree with the post being in /r/relationships as well as everything else said. The best thing would be for you to talk to him about it. If you do, just bring it up in a nice way where he won't get defensive about it.
/r/seduction27/11/14 02:22 PM
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Don't think about it too much. It's just going to fuck with your mind unnecessarily. You're going to come across women like this all the time. You just have to learn to move on. What I mean is, unfortunately, sometimes there are external circumstances that help prevent a successful open/close. These external factors are out of your control. E.g., that time of the month, family member is sick, dog died, she lost her phone, someone stole her purse, her car was repo'd, etc. You just have to accept …
/r/seduction27/11/14 10:32 AM
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I personally stay away from medicine for issues relating to depression or other emotional issues. Maybe someone with chronic depression or who is mentally unbalanced/unstable could make great use of it - I don't know I'm not a doctor. However, the average person can deal with these type of issues without the use of any medicine. The thought of using medicine to alter my emotions is simply too "government control"-ish if that makes any sense :)
/r/seduction27/11/14 09:09 AM
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Ahhhh :) much better result this time.
/r/seduction27/11/14 06:14 AM
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For the approach and initial stages of attraction and seduction, yes it is a big factor. More than most people care to admit. Most people will feel more comfortable with those of the same "kind". Each minority race/background has its own stereotype. NOTE: I do not necessarily believe the following traits to be true. This is simply information gathered through my reading and personal knowledge. For example: black men are aggresive, latinos are unfaithful, asian and middle eastern men are misogyni…
/r/seduction26/11/14 03:05 PM
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i don't think i'm the one who has stuff to learn </end of advice> Good luck.
/r/seduction26/11/14 02:27 PM
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she flirted more with me then i did with her Maybe she never wanted a relationship from the start and really just wanted sex but didn't find you suitable enough for the task. i'm not the person you see me for i think i'm confident and i have not a hard time meeting girls but this one really felt like 'right' No, you're not as confident as you think you are. Otherwise, you wouldn't be making this post. Be true to yourself. I would bet you do have a hard time meeting most girls. Otherwise, you wou…
/r/seduction26/11/14 02:25 PM
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You're totally right with all your points. It would've been my response exactly. The only issue is that you can't tell someone to behave a certain way when they don't know how and/or have lived their entire lives living the opposite behavior. He has so much work to do on himself that he will never fully comprehend your advice anytime soon... or ever at all. Which is why I gave him a short response. No offense OP. He also sounds very young, but I'm not entirely sure. If so, there's even more work…
/r/seduction26/11/14 02:19 PM
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Sidebar >>>> Glossary of Terms H-Z http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/pbkxs/glossary_of_terms_hz/
/r/seduction26/11/14 02:10 PM
2

Move on. You're on a path to oneitis.
/r/seduction26/11/14 01:50 PM
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Yes. /u/itsmevichet commented on one my posts and he said he experimented with this. See link below. http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/2l9kzs/what_deadorant_do_you_use/
/r/seduction26/11/14 10:59 AM
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I don't see any point in calling her. You already put her on a pedestal and failed her shit tests... so now you're going to call her as if she is really THAT important to you? Plus, you're also going to say "there's no point on moving forward..." This comes off as you're a bit too highly committed. You only went out on one date - not 5 or 6 - what moving forward? You barely crossed the first road. If you REALLY want to, a simple text will suffice. Anything more and you will come off as too highl…
/r/seduction26/11/14 10:52 AM
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This mindset some women have of "a guy must always pay" is complete crap. For one, yes, I am a gentleman but not paying for you does not NOT make me one. Second, as a MAN I do not live by what others believe is true. I live by what I define as true and so should you. You shouldn't feel PRESSURED into paying simply because she or society says you're "supposed" or "expected" to. If you do it then it should be because YOU WANT TO. Third, I've found that the highest quality women do not go by this c…
/r/seduction26/11/14 09:22 AM
1

My usual response. Except I only say "who is interested? I can give you an application."
/r/seduction25/11/14 10:07 PM
1

I would personally recommend anything that will help you learn general dance movement, coordination, and hip movement. Too many men are stiff in the hips when dancing and hip movement is a must in many dance forms. Try salsa or reggaeton... These will really push you out of your comfort zone but your overall dancing skills will get better. Maybe even try some zumba... However, I've never done zumba. Most men are uber conscious of how they look when they dance. Some may feel feminine if they move…
/r/seduction25/11/14 01:22 PM
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Read "Models" by Mark Manson and then go out and put it to the test. So far, it's the best inner game material that I've come across.
/r/seduction25/11/14 12:53 PM
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Treating women differently based on their looks, preference, culture, whatever is a form of putting them on a pedestal. Whether some may agree or not.. You are treating them differently than other women because you value their opinion of you. Nevertheless, I understand your point of view and just wanted to make that clear so you are aware. If you're not the conservative type then why would you alter your behavior just to meet women who ARE conservative? Why would you want to be with them anyway?…
/r/seduction25/11/14 10:02 AM
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Absolutely. It's helped me in various ways at work, in living a better lifestyle, in getting what I want from others, giving advice to friends/family, believing more in my abilities, and more. I could go on and on. I'm now a better leader, more compassionate, analytical, open minded, inquisitive, brave, honest, confident, and sexual among other traits.
/r/seduction25/11/14 09:10 AM
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One of the best FRs here... http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/1l4cfu/fr_field_report_sometimes_everything_just_falls/ Great for motivation.
/r/seduction25/11/14 09:04 AM
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Nice FR. I LOVE that you made the opener lead to a plan that leads to seduction "So the plan is: drinks, ice skating and limitless?" I think you did pretty well. Below are some things that I would've probably done differently. I would've challenged her a bit more after opening her and held my beliefs a bit stronger. "Argentina is beautiful and romantic. We could have a house in the mountains with an exterior hot tub and you could serve me champagne and the finest Argentinian cuisine. I've always…
/r/seduction25/11/14 09:00 AM
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You're too invested in her and not invested enough in yourself. She, and other women, will see this and it will come across as neediness. Chances are she already detected it whether it happened consciously or subconsciously. Why do you care whether or not it was a date? She hung out with you, right? Why do you feel you need to label it as a "date"? You have deeper inner issues with yourself to worry about... forget about what the "correct move" is or what you should do next. None of that matters…
/r/seduction25/11/14 08:19 AM
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Sorry, I can't say. What are you curious about specifically? Maybe I can answer your questions. Feel free to PM me if you prefer.
/r/seduction25/11/14 08:05 AM
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You hit the nail on the head. I also laugh at this stuff but let me clarify that this is not what I am doing. She probably has better options but, so do I. At the moment, I simply don't want to invest my time in her. Some people may get it, many men probably won't.
/r/seduction25/11/14 07:32 AM
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Thanks. I'm glad you enjoyed it. Yes, I highly recommend reading Models. I put it off for so many years because, as you said, it's inner game stuff. However, he does teach how to apply his advice to picking up women throughout the entire book. It's just not a formulated, step by step, method like Mystery's because you won't need it. This is the bigger picture. Being a man. Mystery explains how to dhv, behave as a man of high value, etc but I realized it was all on the surface level of communicat…
/r/seduction25/11/14 07:09 AM
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Haha thanks. When I write about something I feel strongly or passionate about it usually comes out good :) i'm glad you enjoyed it. Hopefully it serves as motivation to others.
/r/seduction24/11/14 10:17 PM
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There's so much advice I could offer on this. Traveling will change you, for the better. You will become a better person, more independent, and stronger. You will face your biggest fears and find fears you thought didn't exist in you. As a result of this, you will become more alpha... But it probably won't make you alpha on its own. This is something new. Of course, it's scary but that's normal. Accept it as a natural response to what happens when you push yourself out of your comfort zone. Ther…
/r/seduction24/11/14 10:13 PM
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Different styles of Latin music, hip hop, R&B, modern pop, and reggae. All of which I dance and were played that night.
/r/seduction24/11/14 09:26 PM
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What do you like? Go for a genre you are interested in... Not the one with the most girls. For the most part, once you get really good at one genre, you will naturally be better at moving to other types of music. Simply search in Google for dance studios in your city.
/r/seduction24/11/14 06:37 PM
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You should learn if you're really interested :) It's not necessary for pickup but it definitely helps. Many women love a good dancer plus you'll have a lot more fun on the dance floor. Anyone can learn how to dance but there is no straight forward way of being GOOD at it. Learning the right steps and spins is the easy part. The toughest part that many people have trouble with is learning how to have rhythm and being able to coordinate hip, feet, arm, and hand movement simultaneously. You just ha…
/r/seduction24/11/14 05:16 PM
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Good job. The important thing is that you (a) had fun (b) stepped out of your comfort zone and approached. Since you asked for advice, below are my two cents. This way, hopefully next time you'll do even better. I see one of their friend looking really bummed out and was just texting in the corner so I used that as an excuse to talk to them. Why didn't you just open the girl texting in the corner and brought her to the dancefloor? You would've won her entire group over for (a) having the balls t…
/r/seduction24/11/14 04:18 PM
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Thanks for the compliment. Usually, I would text her. However, this time it's different. I have other options and I know I can just go out and get a better result. Also, I want the challenge of a ONS right on the spot. It's more adventurous, bold, and exciting which is what I am looking for right now. They say girls here aren't really the type to go home with you on the same night so we'll see :)
/r/seduction24/11/14 02:56 PM
1

Damn. He should just lay low for a while. There's too much negative press building up for him and RSD.
/r/seduction21/11/14 03:44 PM
1

Thanks for the update :) Glad to hear it went well.
/r/seduction21/11/14 03:34 PM
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Approaching women that you are more attracted to will only make you more comfortable around them in the short term. Eventually, at some point the real side that makes you nervous and needy around them will show. What you need to focus on is YOURSELF and why you feel this way around them and fix that. I suggest you read Mark Manson's, "Models".
/r/seduction21/11/14 12:07 PM
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It sounds like you did well. Why does your thinking get clouded with HB8+? You're probably putting too much value on them based on your attraction level towards them, otherwise your thinking would not be clouded. I'm not sure what you mean by HB9 "accidentally" played footsie with you. Did she just kick you by mistake? Or was it obvious that she intentionally rubbed her leg/foot on yours to get your attention and flirt? Why was it obvious? Did she continue doing it? If so, it's clear she is inte…
/r/seduction21/11/14 11:18 AM
2

So any updates? How did it go? :) FR please!
/r/seduction21/11/14 08:42 AM
2

Great FR. We should sarge sometime when I'm in Frankfurt.
/r/seduction21/11/14 07:11 AM
2

But he fucked her, didn't he?
/r/seduction21/11/14 07:07 AM
2

Ask her to help you with the dinner. By having her help you she's investing more into the date and to you. Keep it simple though, don't ask her to make a freaking lasagna or something. "Hey, do you mind helping me set up the table? The plates and forks are right over there" (in reality, she's setting up the table all by herself) "Can you open this bottle of wine? The wine glasses are right there." You should have the correct wine glass for whatever you're drinking (red versus white wine glass). …
/r/seduction20/11/14 08:59 AM
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I fucked plenty of girls back in college when I had an air mattress with a freaking leak/puncture in it. You'd wake up and feel like you're drowning in it. However, I framed it like that shit was THE MOST COMFORTABLE mattress EVER. Women were literally finding excuses to come lay on my bed because they heard their friends say my bed was "awesome and super comfy". It's all about your frame. If you can't fix it, feature it.
/r/seduction19/11/14 04:25 PM
1

Read "Models" by Mark Manson. Your answer is exactly in chapter 1, section 'Attempts by the Pick Up Artists'.
/r/seduction19/11/14 03:42 PM
1

Just look up in-field hidden camera footage on Youtube. You will learn more and it will be more entertaining than any "seduction" movie (there are none) you could possibly find.
/r/seduction19/11/14 03:08 PM
1

Thanks. I usually try to avoid the "big name" forums. Simply to help maintain my anonymity.
/r/seduction19/11/14 01:37 PM
1

So basically, a pointless field report meant not to help others learn, but to boost your own ego. Good job.
/r/seduction18/11/14 03:37 PM
1

Why would she feel uncomfortable or abnormal if she had heels on? What makes you think she is trying to impress you? Just because she likes to look good it does not mean she's doing it for YOU. It sounds like you have deeper issues going on that go beyond the scope of this conversation. Most likely, insecurities with yourself and you want to use this as an attempt to see the "real" side of her. You're going out with this girl for FIRST TIME and you're asking her to not wear heels for no valid re…
/r/seduction18/11/14 10:55 AM
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The problem with this is that it's exactly what you called it, A PICKUP LINE. You're not catching her off-guard at all... How many times do you think the average woman has heard "hey you look familiar", "don't I know you from somewhere", or "where is your boyfriend" AKA "do you have a bf"? It's the same pickup line every other AFC used to hit on her and she's going put you in that same category as them immediately. Plus, you're not being slick by asking "where is your bf" - more than likely, she…
/r/seduction18/11/14 08:33 AM
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Good for you man. Keep doing what you do. However, you don't need to qualify yourself to morons on reddit, or anyone for that matter. Even if you wanted to devote your life to collecting rocks, nobody, especially internet trolls, has the right to tell you what to do. Period.
/r/seduction18/11/14 08:15 AM
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Thank you for this post! Hopefully some people can take a few things from it. The overall deterrent I see on this board so far is a lack of self confidence. It's the inability for men to be men. I also joined not too long ago and started helping others out. It seems to me that there are a lot of high schoolers here. Or is it just me? Seriously, I would love to know if I am the only who thinks there are too many teens here. There is so much for a teenager to learn in life that, in my opinion, the…
/r/seduction18/11/14 08:06 AM
1

Good FR. It's too bad her family was home. Why didn't you suggest going back to your place/a hotel?? As /u/jeanisss said: "I have no idea how I will ever find a girl like this again. " Stop.Right.There. You're making a lot of excuses for her behavior just because of her looks and fame. She didn't see you as someone with enough value to devote her FULL attention to you. It's that simple. It has nothing to do with how famous she is or how big her tits are or whatever.
/r/seduction17/11/14 09:01 AM
1

"Hey nice talking to you! We should hang out sometime. What's your number?" Simple. Don't give it too much thought. There is no need to. It's all in your mind.
/r/seduction14/11/14 11:30 AM
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Simple. You don't meet those girls. Move on to girls that are not interested in that. Remove yourself from people (men AND women) that want to act in this way or in ways that don't align with your standards.
/r/seduction14/11/14 08:47 AM
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That also works. However, it's so easy to just rely on this network of co-workers and if that's all you do, your social life outside of work is simply, well, work. I've seen this way too often. It's fine to build your network off your co-workers but expand it as far as you can where, eventually, you're going out without your co-workers. Do things outside of work... join a club/sports team or a dance class, try some volunteer work, whatever.
/r/seduction14/11/14 08:33 AM
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I know this feeling too well as I also went through this "culture shock" after finishing college. I lived off-campus in a house with 4 of my guy friends. We were known as the party house. I could write a book about all the great times we had. However, I saw that life disappear right before my eyes as everyone started graduating and moving on. I also thought, "what... the.... fuck?!" It's completely normal to feel the way you feel. All your life you surrounded yourself with great people, establis…
/r/seduction14/11/14 08:24 AM
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I was referring to before either of you take your pants off. I didn't say you made out with her for 4 hours. I said if you were making out with her 4 hours because I wasn't sure if that's you meant.
/r/seduction13/11/14 04:24 PM
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I got the impression from your post that you already escalated to near sex with your target, and you wanted to know how to get her to shower. If you haven't then definitely don't go licking her ear. You need to escalate to sex first... If you're making out with her for 4 hours then she's definitely ready for sex. However, you shouldn't be making out with her for that long anyway. That's way too long. Take her to your place and finish there.
/r/seduction13/11/14 03:54 PM
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If things are hot and heavy and you're about to have sex, it can certainly be awkward to suggest she take a shower and you'll probably kill the mood too. BEFORE things get sexual, I would suggest simply suggesting to her, in a sexual and flirty way, that she take a shower, and if she does, you'll make it worth it her time and then sexually lick her neck/ear lobe/lips. She'll get the hint. Think about it like this... if a girl told you she was going to blow you if you take a shower, wouldn't you …
/r/seduction13/11/14 03:21 PM
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Women lie a lot And men don't? Maybe I do have some trust issues Remove the word maybe. Be honest with yourself.
/r/seduction13/11/14 03:08 PM
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Could be anything... buyer's remorse, she's busy, out of town. Move on.
/r/seduction13/11/14 02:23 PM
3

Before learning how to fix it you need to learn to believe that you CAN do it. You already made up your mind by saying you CAN'T do it so advice, at this point, is not going to help you much. Even if we told you step-by-step what to do, what's going to happen when you go back to that gym? First, you'll probably forget everything we said because you're still focused on failing. Second, none of it will mean anything to you. Change your frame. Only you can limit yourself.
/r/seduction13/11/14 02:20 PM
1

Just invite her out for a drink. No need to call it a date. There's no such thing as asking a girl out too soon.
/r/seduction13/11/14 10:25 AM
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This is, and should be, the top answer. Well said.
/r/seduction12/11/14 01:56 PM
1

You already failed before even getting to the party. The sorority is Alpha Phi and they have really hot girls there lol. So? There are hot girls EVERYWHERE. Beauty is COMMON and you should be seeking more. My goal is to get a ONS, or at the very least some make outs. -_- You're going to get to the party and all of the girls will know this. They will spot the needyness before even talking to you. Just go and focus on having fun. That's it. They will be attracted to your energy and the girls will …
/r/seduction12/11/14 01:47 PM
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If you come to terms with realizing that you don't need a woman to be successful or happy in life, you will quickly lose this need for female validation. A partner is an accessory. You can be just as happy and successful as anyone that is in a relationship. You don't NEED a girlfriend or a wife, it's certainly not essential to your survival... so why put so much VALUE on her and let it affect your life in such a way?
/r/seduction12/11/14 01:12 PM
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You do not need to ask anyone if they have a boyfriend/girlfriend. You discover if they're interested in you through interacting with them, their body language, etc. The bf/gf stage is still a test of whether you can really see yourself being with that person. If you see a ring on their finger, asking "are you married?" would be more sensible.
/r/seduction12/11/14 12:55 PM
1

Thanks, I replied to you in a PM.
/r/seduction12/11/14 10:58 AM
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Thanks, I'm aware. However, there are no details about your encounter. A field report contains details about your interaction/experience from start to finish. If all FRs were written in such a vague manner then nobody would learn from your experience (e.g.: "Went out, met a girl, got her email"). FRs would, therefore, be pointless. Share your experience if you'd like. That's up to you. However, this is not a FR.
/r/seduction12/11/14 10:26 AM
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How do you respond to those who say, "How does getting married hold you back? How does raising a family hold you back? You can still accomplish the things you desire even if you're married and/or have kids"? I'm currently in the same situation so I look forward to your response.
/r/seduction12/11/14 09:33 AM
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Thanks for the post but how is this a field report?
/r/seduction12/11/14 09:29 AM
3

Let it happen. She will feel your sexual energy, if you allow it to be communicated to her, regardless if she sees your boner or not. It's natural. Be proud of your manhood.
/r/seduction11/11/14 03:26 PM
1

If I'm going out I just take a power nap (20-30 mins MAX).
/r/seduction11/11/14 07:58 AM
1

ALWAYS maintain eye contact. Keep a positive and confident frame. If she smiles at you, smile back, and open. Do this everywhere (use common sense). It's great practice to help build your confidence. Good topics of conversation: whatever you are both interested in. You can start with, "so what do you do for fun?" and if you have similar interests, "no way, I love to..." and go from there. Avoid getting into discussions about her troubled past, her ex-boyfriend(s), her current boyfriend, and divo…
/r/seduction10/11/14 04:08 PM
1

If she is interested in you and the conversation she will contribute to the conversation when you let it drop, which you should do in order to allow/make her invest in the interaction. If you're always doing the talking, you're both going to get bored really quickly. She should be asking questions, giving you emotional responses ("wow!", "no way", "awesome", "awww", etc), and talking about herself or her experiences in relation to the topic you are conversing about. Can you give a real life exam…
/r/seduction10/11/14 03:51 PM
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/u/Mr-Metaphor is right. Besides, this would take too long for my taste. There are much better ways of accomplishing this quicker.
/r/seduction10/11/14 08:48 AM
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That's because you're focused on the end result of your interaction with the opening of your set. Take it little by little. First make it your goal to just open 10 sets on week 1. Your goal is just that, OPEN. Say hi, ask for the time, ask for directions, whatever and move on. Week 2. Open 20 sets. Get their names and some sort of recommendation from her. Best place to party? Best store for men's clothing? Best cocktail you should try? Whatever. Go from there and eventually progress towards gett…
/r/seduction09/11/14 05:36 PM
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You're still making excuses. It's too hard. I'm too young. I don't trust the decisions I make... I gave you my advice but figuring out what you want to do is on you. When you set your mind on something nothing is too difficult. Good luck.
/r/seduction09/11/14 01:05 PM
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No matter what age you are, the decision of moving to another country is one that is out of many people's comfort zone. I use to be one of those people so I know exactly it feels like. It took me three years to break out of it. Yes, you are young but I've also seen 50 year olds make some really terrible decisions. You're still in school... Now would be the best time to move because of the study abroad opportunities available to you. Especially in Europe. Many students your age do it and you can …
/r/seduction09/11/14 09:25 AM
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You can do it and I'll tell you what... There's a part inside of you that knows it or at least wants to believe it. Otherwise, you would not make this post. Therefore, there is still hope. To say that you can't do it is the equivalent of saying you are completely unique from the other thousands or millions of people who tried the exact same thing, had the same thought at some point, and STILL succeeded. You are no different from them. If they did it, so can you. Period. It's not about how many t…
/r/seduction08/11/14 08:34 PM
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The more you sit there and think about what to say to her and how to tell her, the more you're going to psych yourself out of talking to her. You literally have to mentally shut the fuck up and do it, as Tyler RSD would say. Next time you start having mental conversations with yourself, in your mind yell STFU and go do it.
/r/seduction08/11/14 02:19 PM
1

Field reports would be appreciated :)
/r/seduction08/11/14 02:16 PM
1

Derek Vitalio - "Deep Inner Game" That's all. Do your research on him and the product and then thank me later.
/r/seduction08/11/14 12:05 AM
1

Not to be an asshole but this has been asked many times. A simple search on seddit or, even better, Google will yield plenty of results and even more information than what you'll get from this thread. Let's keep seddit informative instead of the same questions over and over.
/r/seduction07/11/14 06:08 PM
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Maybe one of the girls said something along the lines of, "why did you invite them?" so the group as a whole expressed disinterest when you arrived? Regardless, I would not have sat down. If I go to an arcade it's to play games and have fun. If I wanted to talk I'd go to a coffee shop. That's possibly another reason they weren't interested in talking.
/r/seduction07/11/14 06:02 PM
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That's totally fine and you should move on because obviously she's not giving you what you want. However, you don't need to show or even BE emotionally affected by it.
/r/seduction07/11/14 03:39 PM
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Wow pull back the fucking needyness. Holy shit I almost closed this because I couldn't take it anymore. So I told her after this that I don’t think we should see each other again because she’s not open to anything, I want more and I don’t want to be just friends. You sound like a child whining for a fucking toy. "I don't want to see you because you're not open to anything" - seriously?! All you had to do is end the interaction with her and move on. Clearly you were emotionally affected and wante…
/r/seduction07/11/14 03:10 PM
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But at the same time, it seems a bit needy cuz NO ONE here is doing that. Nor where I live but I do it ANYWAY. When I kino I do it completely unapologetically, no remorse, no fucks given so it is accepted because I already have high value before I kino. If I hesitate even the slightest bit then it becomes awkward and fake. It's part of me already and the people I choose to be with accept that. Period. You're letting the culture make you worry about shit that's pointless. I don't know where you a…
/r/seduction07/11/14 02:56 PM
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BOOM! Disected like a pro.
/r/seduction07/11/14 01:59 PM
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This. It's ridiculous how many salsa classes need men. The vast majority is usually women. There are also other forms of latin dances... merengue, bachata, reggaeton... also check out kizomba (<--- highly suggest) on youtube ;) Kizomba is Angolan though.
/r/seduction07/11/14 01:57 PM
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First, congratulations on improving yourself. Maybe I missed it but I didn't see any remote mention of you even attempting to pickup any women. Have you tried? If so, what were your results? It sounds like the cultural differences you speak of are permitting this mental obstacle you're having. I'm not sure where you live but it sounds pretty conservative... maybe TOO conservative for your tastes and lifestyle. Have you seriously considered moving? I moved from one country to another because the …
/r/seduction07/11/14 12:29 PM
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FIVE failed conversation topics? I would've tried ONE. I'm guessing you all probably came off as needy considering you tried talking to them FIVE TIMES, which explains them being on their phone. I don't even want to imagine how awkward that was. Next time just be there to have fun. Introduce yourself, leave your stuff at their table (so you can come back later with your target girl), and suggest something fun at the arcade. "Loser buys lunch/a drink!". After all, I assume you all went there to h…
/r/seduction07/11/14 10:35 AM
2

Many women will shit test you. From my experience, the hottest women will shit test you the hardest. They've been hit on a gazillion times and met plenty of douchebags, can you blame them? There's nothing wrong with dealing with their shit tests as long as you handle them correctly. Besides, we shit test them back all the time anyway when we say things like, "so what makes you so special from the other beautiful women here?" or when we TELL, not ask, them certain things. We just hold a stronger …
/r/seduction07/11/14 10:16 AM
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Please do not fucking wait 24 hours to text her. It's one of the dumbest "rules" society has invented with no legitimate basis whatsoever. Text her when you feel like it and stop believing crappy advice.
/r/seduction07/11/14 10:06 AM
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Tinder's purpose is not intended for casual sex -_- it's a legitimate dating app that some people use for different reasons.
/r/seduction07/11/14 09:40 AM
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Many guys, at least those with common sense, will understand that certain hints mean sex: "Do you want to watch a movie tonight at your/my place?" A late night text suggesting for him to come over. "Let's cuddle" If he mentions something in his place that you find interesting... "oh you have a dog/cat/aquarium/horse/dinosaur/cool photo album/musical instrument/art/some cool collection/etc? i love .... ! Can I see it?" Once at his place just give him hints... "oh this is your bed? it looks so com…
/r/seduction07/11/14 09:34 AM
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Have you tried exploring more, from a pschological perspective, about why men intimidate you? Could it be something that happened in your childhood? Have you tried seeing a psychologist? Even if you do find a guy within a week he may feel you are not comfortable with him and then the sex will be totally awkward, boring, or non-existent. Is this what you want your first sexual experience to be like? Probably not I assume :) Once you figure out why you feel this way around men you'll be able contr…
/r/seduction07/11/14 08:52 AM
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A better way to express that she was being rude and wasting your time would be to bust her balls: Pull out your phone right in front of her and send her an sms saying something like, "awesome movie! did you see the part where the girl on her phone wouldn't stop texting so the guy next to her threw her out out the window?" Smile when she looks at you. That's just an example but you get the idea... Bust her balls in a way that is humorous and she will get the message. If she still doesn't get it t…
/r/seduction07/11/14 08:39 AM
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I'm going to keep it simple. YOU DID NOT FUCK HER THAT is why she is pissy and looked at you frustrated. The "I'm not having sex" crap was a SHIT TEST and you failed it. Of course she's going to say that before arriving, she wouldn't want to feel like a slut for going to your dorm on a second date. DUDE. HELLO? SHE INITIATED KISSING YOU throughout the movie. That's female for FUCK ME NOW. Who gives a shit if she wouldn't open her mouth? Why are you stuck on this?! Move on to her pants, her shirt…
/r/seduction07/11/14 06:21 AM
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You're right but I think he was just trying to get over approach anxiety. In which, he was successful because he actually did it :)
/r/seduction06/11/14 09:54 PM
2

The group may back off or lose interest as long as your target is interested in you BUT they may also interject and go elsewhere with your target, which you have to be ready for. This is why it's always best to address the whole group, demonstrate high value, and you'll be able to handle whatever they throw at you. Plus it becomes easier to tell the group you and your target are going elsewhere. Examples are direct openers are found anywhere. Just Google "pua direct openers". Someone on reddit p…
/r/seduction06/11/14 07:45 PM
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I think you know perfectly well what to do and just needed a way of getting everything off your chest and putting it all in front of you. Which is perfectly fine. So because you already know what to do, I'm not going to tell you. There's just no point. We all know what the correct thing is. Nevertheless, I can help you get over this behaviour. Do more of the things you love in order to keep your mind busier. Work out, sign up for a dance class, join a university club, ride a bike/jog/run every m…
/r/seduction06/11/14 03:44 PM
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I hate to sound like a dick because most, if not all, of us have been beta males in the past and/or done beta shit. However, I'm going to tell you this in a way so you understand it clearly. You got friendzoned. Period. Move on. Here's why you got friendzoned: You didn't make your intentions clear with her, you did not escalate with her when she was at your place, everything you did with her at your place is shit she would do with her girlfriends during a sleepover, and, possibly, you obliged wi…
/r/seduction06/11/14 02:43 PM
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There is so much that is wrong with your post that I don't even know where to begin. When I look at your post I see: Someone who is worrying WAYYYYYYYYYY too much about things that do not matter. Someone who is comparing himself way too much to others. For what? Why? What value does this give you? Someone who lacks a great deal of self confidence. Someone who is over analyzing things. Life can only be as complicated as you make it. How important is being Facebook "cool" right now? It's not and i…
/r/seduction06/11/14 02:32 PM
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Bingo. As he said, your opener is not a direct approach. Plus, "Hi, what's your name" almost instantly categorizes you with other guys that have tried the same and failed. This is why it 50% of the time someone gets pissy... all they're thinking is "great, here comes another loser". Be unique. Be confident. Tell her exactly what you think. Tell her something she's never heard before.
/r/seduction06/11/14 01:48 PM
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You said you can't afford to have a record. Why take the chance? Take her to a hotel. Case closed.
/r/seduction06/11/14 10:51 AM
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This is probably the dumbest fucking question within the next 50 pages on Seddit. What do you think? Is this even a serious question? Go ask your local police station if you want a real answer.
/r/seduction06/11/14 10:29 AM
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Awesome! Congratulations. Don't you feel like you have fucking SUPERPOWERS now? :) Use this feeling as motivation to do another approach and keep it going. Next time you feel approach anxiety again just remember this moment... but recall every single detail of it. A few pointers for next time: Don't be apologetic. You don't need to say excuse me or sorry to bother you. It's all in your head :) Just go right in with confidence, loud and clear and body angled slightly away from her, "hey (SMILE) I…
/r/seduction06/11/14 09:41 AM
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I'm afraid of telling you that you can still sit next to her, talk to her, and keep her around because the point I am, and everyone else is, trying to get across is that you need to stop caring about the outcome with this girl. Seriously. You're emitting this needyness to her like a burning spotlight... even if you disagree. I'll try to word my advice carefully... First, STOP giving a shit about the outcome with this girl. If she goes for you, LUCKY HER, if not, you have billions of other women …
/r/seduction06/11/14 09:29 AM
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I'd love to call her For WHAT? Texting is not working and now you want to call her?!
/r/seduction06/11/14 09:12 AM
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Before I give any advice, let me make one thing clear. Unless her boyfriend is your friend then she is anyone's game. To me, a boyfriend is just that. When you're in the boyfriend/girlfriend stage you're still testing waters to see if this person is truly worthy enough to be your partner in life. Now, if you've been boyfriend/girlfriend with this person for 20+ years and simply decided not to marry then that's a different story. I choose not to mess with someone's marriage because it's something…
/r/seduction06/11/14 09:01 AM
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Do this enough and the person in your way may even leave ;)
/r/seduction06/11/14 06:04 AM
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You're getting down to the nitty gritty shit that doesn't matter. Go with what feels natural to you at the moment. These are basic social queues you need to learn on your own. They can't be taught in a textbook. Once you have gained enough confidence this question will be nonexistent for you because it won't matter. If you want to kiss her, it's done. If you want to hug her, done. Just go with the flow.
/r/seduction05/11/14 09:21 PM
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First, it doesn't matter. Second, and more important, you need to learn how to be comfortable about your body. Clearly this is something you're insecure about. If you feel secure about it she will sense it and think nothing of it. However, if you feel insecure about your body she WILL sense it and in her mind either try to figure out why and/or lower her perceived value of you.
/r/seduction05/11/14 09:14 PM
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Exactly. I was the one who wrote the comment about being the prize in the other post... As Fredouken said, it's not about expecting things to magically happen. It's about behaving in a way where you know women are not to be put on a pedestal. If you know this and truly BELIEVE it, you will almost automatically convey to her that you are someone of high value and eventually she WILL do or say things to gain your attention or qualify herself. You don't need to act like you're Zeus or some shit. Yo…
/r/seduction05/11/14 08:41 PM
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Swingcat, venusian arts, mystery... Same concepts :)
/r/seduction05/11/14 08:29 PM
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Lol gotcha. I understand now. Thanks!
/r/seduction05/11/14 08:10 PM
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No I'm wearing regular boxers. It's funny to see everyone wonder why they do this as much as I do. I know it's natural but it had just never happened to me with such frequency. Maybe I'm just giving off more sexual energy than before?
/r/seduction05/11/14 08:07 PM
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bahahaha yes it sounds weird. What am I suppose to accomplish by pushing my hips forward? Maybe this way I'll better understand what you're saying.
/r/seduction05/11/14 04:08 PM
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I totally agree. Always keep yourself interesting but don't be the international man of mystery. Make her work to find out things about you. Her: "How old are you?" Me: "Oh, I just had my sweet 16 last week. You?" (I'm much older) ... Her: "What's your name?" Me: "I'll tell you if I like yours." Her: "I'm Maria" Me: "Oh." (Look away) Her: "So what's your name?" Me: "I said I'd tell you if I liked your name" (SMILE and move on to your next routine) ... Her: "What do you do?" (sometimes I will ans…
/r/seduction05/11/14 03:52 PM
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It's always zipped up. I check everytime.
/r/seduction05/11/14 03:37 PM
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Haha, I thought of saying that already :) However, saying that at work is super inappropriate and grounds for getting fired. I'll try it outside of work. I expect hilarious results, especially since English is not the main spoken language here.
/r/seduction05/11/14 03:30 PM
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This is not my style as I prefer indirect game so I'm curious to know more about your approach with this. I can definitely see this working but with a girl that is already at a high enough positive energy level. Plus your body language during your delivery must be alpha... any sign of weakness and she'll walk all over you. Feel free to correct me if you disagree. I'd like to hear your opinion as this style of pickup is not one I practice. I usually say something like this after establishing valu…
/r/seduction05/11/14 03:28 PM
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Why the hell do you care wtf they think? You have no reason to explain yourself to anyone. If a girl brings it up or calls you a manwhore, reframe her words as if she is giving you a compliment. In this way, you are avoiding her question, refusing to EXPLAIN YOURSELF (the idea of it is just fucking ridiculous), and controlling the interaction with her. "Awwww!! Thanks, you're so sweet. Touch me put her hand on your cheek look I'm blushing." If they push on about the subject... "Yea, you're total…
/r/seduction05/11/14 03:16 PM
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I don't see how dancing and talking is awkward. In latin dancing it's very common. You approach a girl at a party/bar/club, dance with her, bond, and have SMALL conversation while you dance. When you dance you form chemistry with the other person (if you both dance well). It's a fluid movement that you coordinate silently between eachother. Almost like a form of communication but with no words. There's nothing awkward about adding, "how long have you been dancing?", "where are you from?", etc.
/r/seduction05/11/14 10:54 AM
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You fear rejection. If you didn't, you would ask her out anyway because you wouldn't care what the outcome is. Everyone makes time for what's important to them. If she wants you, she'll make time. You're on a fast track to another friend zone if you don't ask her out soon or make your intentions clear.
/r/seduction05/11/14 10:47 AM
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First, let me start by saying that I am an experienced dancer as well. Mostly in latin music. I can give you some specific dance tips that may help you. However, more importantly, you need to ask yourself why you are putting hot women on a pedestal. This mostly comes from a lack of self confidence, which is ironic considering women always want to dance with you and you have 100s of friends. See YOURSELF as the prize, not her. Who cares who she is or wtf she looks like. That's all irrelevant... B…
/r/seduction05/11/14 08:51 AM
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Is there anything that triggered this negativity and depression? A girl? Your childhood? I would like to help but there's so much I would need to know to give you exact advice. Have you tried talking to friends or family about your situation? Believe it or not, you have the ability to completely turn your life around. You made the decision to at least come here and seek help. However, you need to do so much more now and you CAN do it just like many others have. This is beyond having a woman in y…
/r/seduction04/11/14 10:07 PM
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It all depends on your style or what you're more comfortable with. Some like direct approaches, some like indirect ones. If a direct approach helps you feel less nervous then go for it. During the beginning, I would recommend approaches with no signs of intent. This will help you get over any nervousness because you have zero intent. You could care less what the outcome is. When you feel confident having a conversation with a woman and approaching one, move on to getting her number.
/r/seduction04/11/14 09:44 PM
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Ah ok. Now I understand better :) You were just having a good time with no outcome in mind. Nothing wrong with that. Having C at your place for hookah is perfect. It also gives you an excuse to dim the lights ;) Help her feel relaxed. Do you have carpet or a rug? Ask her to take off her shoes and don't forget to kino.
/r/seduction04/11/14 09:12 PM
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Ah, gotcha... Lucky man!
/r/seduction04/11/14 04:45 PM
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Is C's bf your friend? If not, feel free to pursue her. Regarding kissing B... it could be bad timing or you were too drunk. Would YOU want to make out with a girl that's too drunk? How did you approach kissing her? Why did you wait 3.5 hrs to kiss B? Better yet, why did you dance with her for 3.5 hours? You could have moved her to a private place in the bar/club, to a different club/bar, or better yet - your bedroom. I would use B & C to my advantage to develop jealousy. Who knows... you may ev…
/r/seduction04/11/14 04:13 PM
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You're way too set on getting some sort of outcome from this upcoming date/meeting with her. Relax, kino, and have a good time.
/r/seduction04/11/14 04:05 PM
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Awesome, thanks :) I'll look for it this week and try it out.
/r/seduction04/11/14 04:02 PM
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lol you didn't even mention what you use
/r/seduction04/11/14 03:56 PM
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Why would you want to carry on any further conversation via text? Especially about deep topics? You want to leave all the conversation for the date so you actually have things to talk about.
/r/seduction04/11/14 03:54 PM
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Why do you say "the thing is that I really want to be with her" right after mentioning you didn't have sex with her? Did you NOT have sex with her on purpose because you want to be in a relationship with her? Having sex is NORMAL and would not ruin your chances of being with her. The only thing that may ruin your chances of being with her is NOT fucking her. WTF are you waiting for? She's been to your place twice! Clearly, she is not happy with her relationship otherwise she would not have kisse…
/r/seduction04/11/14 03:48 PM
1

Thanks for the suggestion. Besides smell, how does it perform?
/r/seduction04/11/14 03:38 PM
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I thought the same as well. However, be careful and don't let her get too into it so you don't fall into the friend zone. Otherwise, I can almost guarantee she will go to you everyyyytime he annoys her or does something stupid. Just use it as an opener and move on to the next topic as soon as possible.
/r/seduction04/11/14 02:45 PM
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There's not enough information here to go on... How long are you waiting to text her for the first time and/or how long are you waiting to ask her out? For both cases there should be no waiting period if you did everything right before getting her number. Did you establish enough value and interest (from her) before getting her number? Nevertheless, sometimes you do it all right and she still flakes. Here's what you can do to help avoid it. Make yourself a busy person and communicate this to her…
/r/seduction04/11/14 02:42 PM
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Don't start small talk in the first place. I hate small talk. I don't even allow her to start. Great weather, huh? How are you? Having fun? SERIOUSLY? Who has time for this shit? Don't we all get asked this crap all the time at work? Regardless, this is information NOBODY cares about. Talk about stuff that matters. Ask intriguing or challenging questions. Ask her about HER.
/r/seduction04/11/14 02:20 PM
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Read up on topics you are passionate about or topics you are interested in but never learned about. Don't read shit you don't care about just because you want to have meaningful conversations with women about shit you don't care about. As for myself, I love psychology, sociology, and psychotherapy. I can easily strike up an interesting conversation with women about these topics. They love it... but more importantly, I love it and they sense that.
/r/seduction04/11/14 02:15 PM
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You sir, give great advice. I've read some of your other comments and our thoughts align pretty well. Allow me to add: @mrpink1011 i had a crush on her, not sure if shes interested nice post though. Dude are you fucking serious? YES, she is interested. Why do you have to go to the internet to ask someone such a simple question? If this is not obvious to you then there are other questions that you should be asking yourself. Such as: How do I boost my self confidence? Why am I so oblivious to hint…
/r/seduction04/11/14 02:08 PM
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Bingo. You will be categorized as all the other men that have done the same before and failed miserably.
/r/seduction04/11/14 01:56 PM
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If it took him 9 months as you said then he's already wayyyyyyyyy too late. He took too long to approach her. He already has low value. Plus all the needy behavior he displays... I wouldn't worry about it. Make your move soon. I wouldn't count on her staying there too long because I bet she feels super uncomfortable around your dbag co-worker. As for me, I always flirt at work. It's natural for me. However, I keep my personal life outside of work and make it clear to her that I expect the same.
/r/seduction04/11/14 01:54 PM
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This is much better advice. You should state your intentions early but after she has displayed clear signs of interest to you.
/r/seduction04/11/14 01:45 PM
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This is terrible advice. No it's not too quick. The problem is you took way too long.
/r/seduction04/11/14 01:41 PM
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You're making things too complicated. Tell her how you feel. Period. If she already told you no then the best advice I can give you is to move on. There are billions of women out there and you're already waste 6 months because you're still stuck on one. I know that's probably not what you want to hear but it's sincere advice.
/r/seduction04/11/14 01:37 PM
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Did you come here for advice on how to get out of your depressive state or to air out your feelings? If you make your intentions clear people would be more likely to help you if that's what you seek. We can only help those who seek help, otherwise it would be a huge waste of time.
/r/seduction04/11/14 01:34 PM
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I think the better question is to ask yourself, "why am I getting nervous?" Do you feel nervous when you approach a random woman at a cash register of a retail store because you want to checkout? What about when you want to ask a woman for directions? Hopefully, your answer is no. If so, think about why... Your objective in these and similar situations is something other than "I want her number", so why get nervous, right? So what is your objective when you are approaching these women? Keep it s…
/r/seduction04/11/14 10:46 AM
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BUAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA - what a great example! Thanks for sharing.
/r/seduction04/11/14 10:26 AM
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Tomorrow I AM (If I can't I must right?) going to get her number but I want some advice to avoid dropping the ball on this one like I have with many other girls (usually I come to this subreddit after the situation is beyond salvation). You're starting off with the wrong mindset already. You're already thinking of how you're going to fuck up. The past is the past. Your mindset now should be "I'm getting her number. Period." How should I use kino? (I know that is a dumb question but please humor …
/r/seduction04/11/14 10:15 AM
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Any friend who does this is not a friend. Why do you allow this person in your social circle? People of value do not this to their friends.
/r/seduction04/11/14 09:54 AM
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While it wasn't exactly flirty Yes it was. Even if you disagree you can assume she was flirting and convey this. For example: Her: "That's sexy" You: "Oh you go right for the compliments :) Thanks, I love it! Well keep going, don't stop... sexy, handsome, smart, uh huh, uh huh..." Her: laughter (or even better she adds on to the list - big IOI) You: "Hi, I'm John. What's your name?" You can take anything she says and reframe it to something different or sexual. By doing so, you're being funny an…
/r/seduction04/11/14 09:47 AM
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If she says "yes"... "that'll be $100. Cash or credit?" (Smile) By saying so you're flirting back and showing humor, but at the same time basically telling her in a fun way that you're not a dancing monkey. You're not going to stand there, perform for her, and lower your value. You're not a circus act. I use this all the time.
/r/seduction04/11/14 09:29 AM
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Think about some of the world's greatest leaders. For example, observe Obama's body language or watch a video of a speech from Martin Luther King Jr. Even some of today's celebrities... male or female.
/r/seduction04/11/14 09:27 AM
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As long as it seems like you are having casual, fun conversation with her it should be fine. If you say some lame pickup line then, yes #1 it's ackward, #2 probably frowned upon at your job. Keep it simple.. (if she pays with credit card and has to sign a receipt) hand her the receipt while saying "sign here and your number here (smile)". If she pays with cash... hand her the receipt "this is for you" and hand her another piece of paper that reads "phone number:" and a pen and say "and this is f…
/r/seduction04/11/14 08:55 AM
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To add to this, if she wants you and you don't make the move or take too long then she will look at you with less value. She's showing you the signs so make the move.
/r/seduction04/11/14 07:15 AM
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Anytime :)
/r/seduction03/11/14 09:45 PM
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I second every word of this advice. Take it slow and test the waters. Some situational tests you can try DEPENDING on your relationship with her (use your best judgement): -Are you both staying the same room together? Are you sleeping on the same bed? Observe and let her make decisions... Does she share the comforter with you or does she sleep in her own? Is she going to bed in underwear, pajamas, or naked (bingo!) ? Do you normally have morning wood? If not, give yourself morning wood and let h…
/r/seduction03/11/14 06:57 PM
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It was purposefully written this way so you get the message, not to offend you. You will find out this is common in this community as it was for me starting out. I didn't get it back then but now I do and so will you.
/r/seduction03/11/14 03:05 PM
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Stop asking your guy friends for advice. IMMEDIATELY. Why the fuck do you care what their opinion is? I hope they're at least alpha males, which I assume they're not. Also, stop making assumptions about how she feels or what she wants to do. You just met her. Chill out. She's probably just busy. Next time make a plan for a few days in advance... Something simple and lower commitment than a movie. Do a group night out, invite her and her friends... Do u play sports or music? Invite her to one of …
/r/seduction03/11/14 06:46 AM
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Be a MAN... In every sense.
/r/seduction03/11/14 06:40 AM
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Exactly. Move on.
/r/seduction02/11/14 07:39 AM
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Hi Good fucking job. Btw, your writing is impressive for being only 16. Use this moment as motivation or to reframe yourself next time you feel approach anxiety. Literally stop, close your eyes, and remember every detail of this moment when you approached and closed your first set. Remember your surroundings, the weather, sounds around you, the way you felt during when you talked to them, etc... This is an effective technique to change your emotion and be applied whenever you want to feel happy,…
/r/seduction02/11/14 07:08 AM
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A lot of men have issues holding eye contact with other men. Eye contact subconsciously determines who is more dominant so alpha males have no issue with it. It's natural. This is who you are. A confident alpha male. Don't change. You're not creepy. Look people straight in the eye. Especially women :) I am the same way. Women love it and some men are too insecure to look at me for 5 seconds straight. Not my problem :)
/r/seduction01/11/14 09:47 AM
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Not enough details. Give us more information and we can analyze what you did wrong/right. The most important thing is coming back and analyzing what went wrong so you learn from it.
/r/seduction31/10/14 03:41 PM
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You're not alone and no it's not rare. Good for you for deciding what you want out of life. Most people never stop to ask themselves what they want and just go with whatever it is society expects them to do. It's your lifestyle and it seems you are perfectly content with it :) Congratulations.
/r/seduction31/10/14 03:08 PM
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Have you ever been to New York City? Was it how they portray in the movies? If you haven't the answer is no. Nothing is how it is perceived in the movies.
/r/seduction31/10/14 02:51 PM
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You're thinking about this too much. There is no different technique. It's the same thing but applied with higher or lower levels of moderation. Go to a bar and observe how men approach women and observe the women's response. In Spain for example, women are very cold because the men are quiet aggresive (in my opinion... I've seen guys just try to initiate k-closes with random girls they walk by w/o any sort of conversation or interaction). This will give you the upper hand because it will help y…
/r/seduction31/10/14 02:46 PM
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Spend more time in the field practicing than reading. Read some inner game material. Without proper inner game none of the techniques or routines will work. Girls will see right through you and you'll come here asking "wtf it didn't work". Start out with Neil Strauss, "The Game". Don't download it. Go fucking buy it. There's a huge difference when you buy it and really apply yourself versus download it and let it sit. It's a small book that fits comfortably anywhere which is perfect because you …
/r/seduction31/10/14 02:32 PM
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Problem: "I am going to TRY hooking up with you" <-- wtfff. Why do you need to try? She should want it already and feel super lucky for the chance of hooking up with you in the first place. @SexySemxxy Agreed. There is no cut and dry answer and you should have enough confidence to not care. However, everyone's game is different. How I would do it depends on the dynamic of your relationship with her which we don't know about. How hard can you bust her chops until she becomes offended? How serious…
/r/seduction31/10/14 02:19 PM
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+1 Agreed. ^
/r/seduction31/10/14 02:06 PM
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Good job on having the right mindset and moving on. However, why did you ask her if she was single in the first place? Never, ever ask a girl this. If you don't know why then you still have a lot left to learn. Also, she never rejected you. She was always available but you took this as a rejection. In my opinion, you missed an opportunity with her. However, her asking you later on if you are still interested makes it seem like you were her 2nd choice. So I would've moved on as well. I suggest yo…
/r/seduction31/10/14 02:04 PM
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If you really need a picture to remember her then make it fun. Get her number and take a selfie with her. Snapping a picture of her may come off as weird depending on the situation/girl.
/r/seduction31/10/14 11:30 AM
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TLDR. Short answer: because you're talking to yourself. Stop having mental conversations with yourself. Just do it.
/r/seduction31/10/14 11:26 AM
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Boom. Best answer so far. I rarely tell her she is attractive. Let her wonder on her own whether or not she likes you. You have no need to boost her ego. She knows it already already. Hundreds or other men have already told her the same shit.
/r/seduction31/10/14 11:24 AM
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I'll give you this, you accomplished the hardest part... opening. So good job. When you're in a situation where she can extract herself or be extracted by one of her friends you have to try to escalate quickly OR move her somewhere with you. In this particular situation where she could potentially get off at any stop, you need to move quickly. Sometimes you don't have ANY time to find out who she is, what her major is, etc. Get her number, whatsapp, snapchat, whatever asap.
/r/seduction31/10/14 11:15 AM
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Move on. Sounds like all she wanted was sex. If it was good she may come back for more. If not, she may still come back for more. Just stop caring... completely. Keep the kino going, that should be natural to you so it's just something you do with all girls.
/r/seduction31/10/14 11:05 AM
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Exactly. Give them a reason so that she going to your place for "X" reason where X does not equal sex. Otherwise, she may think it's for sex and feel slutty if she agreed to go to your place, especially on the first date. Remember this. Always. My advice: early in the date plant a seed. This seed will later be the excuse for her coming over. Example: You: "Ahhh that reminds me of the time my cat/dog decided to-" Her: "omg i love dogs/cats! I have two at home, Ted and blahblahblah" You: "Yes he's…
/r/seduction31/10/14 10:52 AM
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THANK YOU! SOMEONE SAID IT LOUD AND CLEAR. Wtf are you waiting for?? Its been a WEEK?!?! You should've text her that exact night. Did she leave the party after she gave you the number? If she did, you should've texted/called as soon as she left. Even if she didn't leave, you should've still text/called right away. Contrary to the AFC (average frustrated chump) belief, texting/calling right away is not needy and waiting 2-3 days is fucking stupid. There's no point. Besides, by waiting she has alr…
/r/seduction31/10/14 10:09 AM
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By the end of the night I had given up and folded inwards. I don't want that to happen again. Your first problem is your mindset. #1) You're already imagining yourself fucking up. #2) You're worried about not picking up women #3) Your mindset is in picking up women. Reframe yourself. #1) I'm great at picking up women. Especially in clubs where I'm at my full comfort zone. How could I possibly "fuck up"? If somehow I do, there are plenty of more women in here. #2) If I want her, I'll have her. Ye…
/r/seduction31/10/14 09:59 AM
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+1 College is one of the best places to sarge. Take advantage of being in college now because once you leave you'll see how much easier college "game" is. Rules? I don't know what kind of rules you are imagining but, generally speaking, talk to her within 3 seconds of eye contact. You already have something in common if you're in the same class, so making anything up to initiate conversation. Final rule, spend less time online asking people what to do and just go out and do it. The best way to l…
/r/seduction31/10/14 09:40 AM
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