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I’d recommend therapy. Also, it’s a bit strange to me that your boyfriend is actively telling you that he finds attractive a quality that he knows you really struggle with… if you were very messy and he said he found people who were tidy and organized attractive that would be something different, but you are saying that anxiety and low confidence are realistically mental health issues that you deal with and instead of sensitively supporting you he is just telling you that he finds the opposite a…
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/21 05:34 PM
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Good for you for sticking to your standards. You don’t owe this man a chance, like I said, being feminine doesn’t mean being a pushover.
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/21 05:31 PM
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To guy: “Thank you for your interest however I’m not interested in a relationship with you. You are making me feel very uncomfortable by continuing to push me about this, my mind is not going to be changed.” To friend: “Please stop bothering me about this. I am sure that he is a nice guy who is willing to change but my experience so far has made up my mind. You are making me very uncomfortable by trying to pressure me into something I’ve been clear about.” Being feminine doesn’t mean being a pus…
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/21 05:07 PM
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What’s the point of this post and what’s the relevance of ‘her other boyfriend who has had sexual experiences with guys’ either? Just comes off as biphobic and a rant about a woman in your life.
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/21 12:02 PM
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So has he asked you to marry him or not? From what I know of Indian culture, families have a lot of influence. My concern here would be that you’ve met her twice so you’ve not done anything. That label might be because of something she’s been told about you by your boyfriend and my question would be what has he been saying about you.
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/21 10:40 AM
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Thank you for sharing your perspective. The answers on this thread have really helped me make a decision!
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/21 10:35 AM
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I’m confused because upon rereading you’ve called her your future SIL but then you’ve called him your fiancé. Are you engaged or just dating? How long have you been together? Because if you’ve met her twice in two years because of the pandemic, that’s a different situation to twice in six years because he didn’t want his family to mix with you, which is different to if you’ve been together for six weeks and met her twice.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/21 09:22 PM
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Is there a reason that you’ve only met her twice? How long have you guys been engaged? What’s your relationship like with the rest of the family?
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/21 08:58 PM
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Not a solution to your wider problem. But this weekend my boyfriend and I have pretty much scheduled the whole of Saturday to nap together and on Sunday we are having a cozy day in and doing online Church from bed with breakfast in bed. Can you try scheduling some low energy quality time dates?
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/21 08:06 AM
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Your patronising tone is not welcome. The point I am making is that from a RPW perspective it is not wise for OP to commit to a man and waste her 20s and 30s on him if his commitment to her is conditional on things always going well in life. She is better off finding a man who will stick with her through hardship. Her perspective that she should unconditionally commit to a man who will abandon her if she ever fails to meet his desires is unrealistic and a high risk strategy for her.
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/21 01:20 PM
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OP asked for women to share their experiences. I shared my experience. Instead of undermining what I’ve shared, perhaps you could share where you find like minded women to be friends with.
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/21 03:35 AM
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Church, college, volunteering.
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/21 01:18 AM
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It sounds like she approached a good point in a bad way? Or did a poor job of nuance? I’m looking forward to reading it and will get back to you when I do! Thank you for sharing your thoughts.
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/21 12:43 AM
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Just skimmed over the pdf and will read in depth later, but how sad! Both are Christian authors I grew up reading.
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/21 12:04 AM
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Thanks for linking, I haven’t read her books in years. What was your opinion on her latest book? This question and my remembering her prompted me to order it, it would be good to hear your views if you’d like to share.
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/21 12:01 AM
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Treated her friends? I don’t follow her on social media, I was given a couple of her books as a teenager.
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/21 11:39 PM
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I’m a fan of Sheila Wray Gregoire‘s books.
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/21 11:13 PM
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Your preferences aren’t particularly relevant to the discussion around whether it’s healthy from a RPW perspective to commit to a man who you know will leave you high and dry if you have a health problem or at any point can not fulfilled any of his desires. RPW doesn’t advocate for ignoring all of your own needs and desires for love and commitment.
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/21 08:56 PM
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Supporting your partner and caring for them is not pandering, it is the reciprocal principle foundation of a relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/21 07:42 PM
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Look at OP’s post history. They aren’t interested in reciprocity or seemingly the fundamentals of RP, just in male superiority and female inferiority and therefore submission to men and seeing it as virtuous for a woman to mute her own desires. If her husband’s desires in 20 years time are for a woman 20 years younger then she’s seemingly okay with that. I’d call that a failure of vetting but that’s what she’s happy with. Based on some other posts of hers I’m willing to bet that it’s embedded in…
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/21 07:38 PM
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It’s always a gamble. If you really believe that he’d ‘kick you to the curb’ if you struggled to conceive then what makes you think he’d stick by you if you got sick at any point? Anyway, I’ve answered your question about what you need to get tested, your AMH levels give an indication of ovarian reserve (to be honest this is all googleable) but nothing is a guarantee. There are plenty of reasons that people struggle to conceive outside of ovarian reserve so if you are worried that he will leave …
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/21 01:56 AM
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Looking through your post history, I will echo the advice that it seems many in your life have given you. Seek some therapy. People stay married through hardship because of love, because they care about one another. It’s not a matter of obligation.
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/21 01:44 AM
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An internal ultrasound will show you your egg count for that cycle. AMH levels give an indication of fertility, but you could have a perfect AMH level and high follicle count and still not conceive. OP, you aren’t a baby making machine. Don’t marry someone who would kick you to the curb if you were infertile. In sickness and in health…
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/21 06:35 PM
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I think you need to dig deep regarding where your ideas of love and validation come from. My first impression which may be totally off the mark is that you like this guy a lot on paper, he’s a high value partner in your eyes and you really want someone like him to affirm you and give you love and attention, and you’re ignoring the fact that he isn’t offering those things in the quantity you want them because he fits the bill so well of the type of guy you want it from. I think you also feel inse…
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/21 04:23 PM
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Congratulations on your new job! It’s odd that you are comparing yourself to him and that his positive qualities make you feel insecure rather than proud. Where’s that coming from?
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/21 03:04 PM
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If this is the way that you feel about him then what makes you feel that he’ll be a good leader in your marriage? I think it’s worth reflecting on, because you’ve heavily criticised your sister’s husband but by the sounds of it your husband and mother are also abusive when drinking (that is having a problem with alcohol, it being Christmas doesn’t make it any less of an issue). It sounds like you are wishing to marry into a very unhealthy family dynamic and for the issues to disappear just becau…
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/21 05:28 AM
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You do definitely want kids, so walk away and have them with someone else. If you stay with this guy then it doesn’t matter if you’re infertile because you’re not having kids either way. Your fiancé has a clearly troublesome family dynamic going on with his mother and has reneged on the plan of having a family because he priorities video games. You’re going to very possibly spend your life married to a man who as you put it regresses and behaves badly once you’re married because that’s the way h…
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/21 05:19 AM
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If he’s the sort of man who changes his mind about kids because it might eat into his video game time, is he really going to be the type of leader husband who puts you first? You didn’t elaborate on the incident with him and his mother but why did you cut off his mother but not him? If kids are a dealbreaker for you then go and find someone who wants or already has kids so you can be a mother. I know how hard that is to consider but your lost time isn’t coming back by staying with him and you do…
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/21 07:59 PM
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One of your recent comments is about taking antidepressants to deal with being single so… not that far.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/21 06:41 AM
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From what I can see of your comment history, you’re a single 19 year old boy, so I’m not sure why you’re picking fights in this sub or why the majority of your comment history seems to be here. It seems like you got offended by something /u/sunshinesundress said and took it personally and are now commenting on my reply and I’m not sure what your angle is but it isn’t adding to the conversation.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/21 04:54 AM
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What are you talking about? And what has it got to do with my comment?
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/21 04:42 AM
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I’m puzzled by the number of people I see and read about who are in difficult situations where their boyfriend is flirting casually and dancing with girls at clubs every weekend, and she’s surprised and upset by this despite the fact that she met him when he flirted casually and danced with her at a club. Or equally guys who are upset that their girlfriend is chatting with guys on Instagram who are liking the booty pictures she posts when he met her after DMing her because he liked her instagram…
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/21 01:20 AM
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I want to add to this that virginity is not a personality trait and doesn’t override having little else to offer. The type of men you are realistically seeking want a woman who is biblically well read, biblically educated, family minded and has a lot to offer.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/21 11:13 PM
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Realistically speaking, if you’d have met this guy and been a totally awful human being who was self absorbed and stuck up but had also been prepared to jump in bed with him, I think that would have been a win for him. Your body is what he was attracted to, that’s what he showed up for, the lovely time you had together was an added bonus. I’m not sure what your long term goals are but you’re clearly a beautiful and industrious woman. Set your sights a big higher than guys who look for sex on Ins…
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/21 11:02 PM
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No, you just have to look in the right places (Church for example) and be the type of girl those men are looking for.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/21 10:38 PM
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The example Instagram account you gave tells a viewer nothing about her personality and only really showcases her looks (I’d class it as racy, the second photo set down include two close ups of just her butt) so I’d say that whilst an Instagram account isn’t a dating profile, the types of men who reach out for you for dates are going to be doing so because they like what is on offer which is your body.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/21 10:36 PM
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Are you open to considering a third option of men who don’t have girls throwing themselves at him because he’s the type of guy who doesn’t respond to that, and also isn’t a player? It sounds like part of your criteria for choosing a man is the social proof of other women throwing themselves at him. Men who enjoy that type of attention and engage with it are probably the type of men who enjoy casual sex and taking up the offers of all of their options whilst single and possibly even once in a rel…
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/21 03:11 PM
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If your point is that RPW is different from TRP then, yes, I know. My comments are within the context of this thread.
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/21 10:27 AM
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I see where you are coming from. My position of disagreement is that it is behaviour without consequences, or at all acceptable just because it works. I don't think women asking how to be more demure and agreeable to attract a man is a comparable flip side.
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/21 10:22 PM
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The consequences of lying/bullying/manipulating for a one night stand are virtually non-existant. It's awfully unkind and disrespectful behavior. Head over to any of the relationship subs to see how harmful it is to both men and women who are treated in an abusive way by men who string them along for sex, cheat on them in relationships. men chasing Ms Right Now don't need to care. Their lack of caring about the consequences on the women they 'lie to, bully and manipulate' doesn't mean that it's …
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/21 09:47 PM
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Do you have any advice? Yes. You don't have to like them, or have anything to do with them. RP women are not trying to specifically date ‘RP aware’ men. Many naturally masculine men will display certain red pill characteristics, but have no familiarity with the actual term ‘red pill.’ Some men that read and participate on RP subs may make good leaders and are in fact already leading relationships of their own. Some men that read and participate on RP subs are textbook examples of what RP women s…
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/21 09:44 PM
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I empathise with you not feeling comfortable with those aspects of western culture but you can choose not to participate in them. Politely decline to discuss your sex life, do it with grace and tact and if your friends are constantly pushy about it, get better friends. You keep saying you are expected to say/feel/do/wear all these things, but by whom? Who do you answer to? For me, it's God, myself and my partner. My college friends used to tease me for being prude, not watching trash TV, not dri…
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/21 09:06 PM
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I have a pair of cute pink wellies for when it’s rainy. Usually matched with some thick tights, an additional pair of socks for warmth, and a colourful dress and coat. I’ve got another green pair fir things that don’t match the pink.
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/21 04:40 PM
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My mother was widowed when I was a baby and chose to work part time. She never remarried because she never wanted to and luckily she never had to because she had an education and skills.
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/21 10:45 PM
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Honestly I think your schoolmates have a twisted view of feminism and that's probably a combination of immaturity and prejudice. You aren't beholden to your friend and you don't have to study math and science if you don't want to but you also don't have to give up math and science because you want to be a homemaker. Pretty much every woman of the older generation I know at Church has a degree, even the women who are homemakers. It's not unattractive to be educated or to be skilled.
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/21 10:43 PM
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My husband has gone back and apologized to the kids on the occasion he has gotten to harsh with them. It is incredibly important for children to see their parents apologizing to them and to each other. It shows them that adults don't always get things right and that it isn't a weakness to see that you hurt someone or were in the wrong and to make things right. Children learn by watching their parents and we want them to learn that admitting fault and making things right isn't a weakness, but a s…
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/21 10:07 PM
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I'll tread carefully because of rule five, but this is relevant to your question so should be okay: feminism is meant to be about choice. You can choose to do what you want with your life. If you want to be a homemaker then you are allowed to make decisions in line with that. If your friends are mocking you for your choice, then they are not feminists, they're just jerks. My choice is that I want to have marriage to a Christian man wherein we follow Biblical principles when it comes to headship …
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/21 09:58 PM
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Parents should present a united front otherwise they undermine each other and don’t provide their children with clear boundaries. It doesn’t sound like you and your husband have the same views and therefore it is difficult to have a united front. It’s something to discuss in private, but you also don’t have to totally acquiesce. It’s a discussion, they’re your kids too. Leadership involves listening to your partner, not just deciding and ignoring their perspective. My boyfriend was raised in a f…
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/21 08:42 PM
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It talks about out bodies becoming one through marital intercourse, why would it be talking about souls? Which tradition’s doctrine are you following?
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/21 06:49 PM
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Soul ties are an idea in Christian communities. Could you explain the biblical basis for their existence from your perspective? Also I don’t think it makes sense to go from ‘soul ties aren’t real’ to ‘therefore souls aren’t real and this means that we are all just bags of chemicals’ to ‘we should therefore not be moral or kind to one another.’
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/21 05:57 PM
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I think it’s common and just because he enjoys casual sex that is just about the physical doesn’t mean that he doesn’t also enjoy intimate sex. But if you’re that devout, do you really want to be yolked with someone who isn’t? I’m also waiting for marriage, in a relationship with a wonderful Christian man who has been with previous LTR girlfriends but is happy to wait with me. We’ve been together 2 years and he’s never pushed me. For him, sex is always something intimate, and I’m really glad abo…
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/21 05:40 PM
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I disagree with that. Just because he’s the right man doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t make good and wise decisions in our relationship. I’ve come to the conclusion that it would be most beneficial for our relationship to wait until we are engaged/almost married to begin the process of moving in together, as this will give us a better experience and avoid some of the problems that people face when they move in before that. Just because I think we are strong enough to last through troubles doesn’t …
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/21 05:32 PM
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I’d encourage you to follow that calling and seek that support system. He needs help for his mental health and you can be gentle and encouraging of that. An ex boyfriend of mine was a smoker and I hated it. He knew I hated it. He knew that my father who passed away at a young age was a smoker. I never nagged him to quit but I was very supportive every time he mentioned quitting and every time he tried. He ended up quitting all together and at the point our relationship ended he was a non-smoker.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/21 10:05 PM
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I think your husband needs to take some accountability for himself here and seek support. I’m not sure if you’re religious or not but if you are, your pastor may be a good source of support to you both.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/21 09:55 AM
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I disagree, personally. Making wise decisions about the future of our relationship doesn’t become irrelevant because we are committed to sticking it out if things go wrong. Other questions we have asked ourselves include how we feel about premarital sex, how we feel about having kids early in a marriage as opposed to waiting, how we feel about adopting dogs together before marriage etc. The answer to none of those questions has been influenced by ‘well we want to be together no matter what so le…
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/21 09:04 AM
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Thank you for sharing your experience and I’m glad that things worked out for you. I totally see what you mean in that regard. I really enjoy the time we spend together when my boyfriend stays over at my place or when I stay at his, including all of the lovely things we do for each other, but I also want to have all of that all of the time to look forward to in marriage. On your last sentence, did you feel like moving in together made you feel that you wanted to get married sooner rather than la…
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/21 03:06 AM
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I got some really lovely furniture from local second hand groups. All in great condition, some of which needed a good lick of paint, all of which was cleaned thoroughly. My dining table, chairs, sofa, bookshelves and headboard all cost me the price of gas to go and pick it up. Great for the environment and for your budget.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/21 02:35 AM
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No, I didn’t say that at all, so don’t make a straw man argument out of my comment. Staying up until 3am gaming and then not being able to wake up on time to uphold the commitment that you made to your wife on a regular basis is not the behaviour of a grown man who has responsibilities toward his family, in my book. You may disagree and you are free to, but do not try and twist my words. In my framework of a marriage, the wife loves and submits to her husband and the husband loves and devotes hi…
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/21 01:26 AM
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Where does life experience come from? From doing things yourself and trying and succeeding or failing, and from seeking advice from those around you. I haven't lived with a boyfriend before, and he hasn't lived with a girlfriend before. We can't really get wisdom from our families because in previous generations, living together before marriage wasn't a thing. The books I grew up reading also come from a perspective of it just not being a thing. So I'm asking here for people's experiences and I'…
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/21 09:48 PM
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I think you've misunderstood the question I am asking. I'm not unsure whether he's a man I want to live with. I do want to live with him. The thing I am unsure about is whether it is something we should wait until marriage to do and what the pros and cons of waiting and not waiting are. You seem to be coming from the viewpoint of living together being a commitment on the way toward the larger commitment of marriage and asking how I can be thinking that I want to marry him if I don't even know if…
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/21 08:35 PM
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If he doesn't feel ready for a relationship, your options are to either wait indefinitely until he is, as he has clarified that his timeline is ambiguous and it's not particularly on the cards, or to leave and find someone who will give you what you want.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/21 06:47 PM
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We have talked about it but we haven’t set a timeline. It’s been two years but a lot of that has been in national lockdowns and so it’s not been a normal two years and I certainly don’t feel ready to get married at this point. Edit: I read through your post from about a year a year ago whilst I was searching through the sub, about living with your boyfriend in rented accommodation and him suddenly changing his mind about future marriage. Do you have any advice based on that situation and how it …
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/21 06:18 PM
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This is an excellent idea! Thank you for the suggestion. Both of those sound like horror stories. We spend weekends together so I know that he’s not a terrible man child thank goodness and none of his habits that I’ve seen so far are things that I couldn’t live with and vice versa. I don’t expect him to change but I do expect us both to encourage each other to grow throughout our lives and we do that. In terms of what we want to achieve, well, we enjoy each others company, and more of a good thi…
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/21 06:16 PM
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I disagree. We come from a conservative culture where not moving in until together until marriage has always been the done thing in our parent’s generations and with a lot of our peers. Our secular friends don’t abide by the same traditions and divorce a lot more often, but there are more factors than just moving in together before marriage at play there. We also have both had relationships before but not moved in together with those previous partners, so we lack the experience of the benefits a…
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/21 06:05 PM
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It sounds like he’s content to just carry on living this way. Are you?
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/21 09:35 AM
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I don’t think that your plans are the problem either, from the information given. When I started reading I was going to say that he is sleeping in because he is tired from working hard during the week, as stated in your first paragraph. I was going to say that if he’s working long hours and not getting very much rest and wants to enjoy resting at the weekend, then that is perfectly reasonable. It’s also perfectly reasonable for you to want to go on a date and for it to feel special, so a solutio…
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/21 09:31 AM
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Is he depressed though? If so, why are meds out of the question.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/21 09:24 AM
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All of this comment is brilliant. Thank you! I totally agree with everything you’ve said and I have done some reading about sliding and deciding previously and feel that it would be deciding but I think we already know a lot from having done as you’ve said and spent multiple nights a week at each other’s homes
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/21 08:54 AM
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This is an excellent point. There will be inevitable teething issues with cohabitation and they will be a lot easier to iron out when they are in the context of the excitement following marriage than the stress following a house move.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/21 08:49 AM
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I’d define it as a happy marriage. I don’t want nasty surprises down the line but I also don’t want to fail to consider the drawbacks.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/21 08:15 AM
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Thank you for your thoughts. It’s tricky and it feels like there’s no template to follow because in previous generations families with traditional values just didn’t cohabitate at all because it wasn’t socially acceptable so wasn’t an option.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/21 08:13 AM
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I’d agree that statistics don’t tell you everything which is why I’m more interested in hearing the real life wisdom behind people’s experiences. But on those two particular statistics you’ve offered, it makes sense. If the girl is already on birth control then it suggests that she may not not particularly be of the view that sex is only for marriage (I know that there are many non-sexual reasons to take it) and people with traditional views like that are probably more likely to stay in a marria…
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/21 07:32 AM
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Yes. The same way as you make friends with a girl. I've got close friends who I think of as brothers. Met at Church, known them since I was a teenager, nothing sinister. There's a lot you can have in common with someone without sexual attraction being involved and it is possible for men and women to have a relationship based on mutual interests and enjoying each other's company. If a woman/man has nothing to offer other than sexuality, then no, but if they have an actual personality, then there'…
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/18 05:06 AM
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If you can spend time with a platonic friend without cheating on your partner then yeah, it's fine? I think that is most people.
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/18 05:00 AM
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Yeah I have google'd about and found nothing, all sites claiming to have a pdf are obvious spam. I've done that in the past when heavily annotating things, where one sentence would have a paragraph attached to it, but in this case, I think a PDF would be really helpful. I use an app called GoodNotes to annotate my PDFs and I can search my handwritten notes. I recommend it if you have an iPad.
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/18 03:49 AM
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What is the medical condition? Also, the comment the doctor made was extremely inappropriate.
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/18 03:38 AM
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I prefer to use a pdf just because then I can also search my notes. I use postits in my textbooks too though :)
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/18 03:35 AM
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It explains a lot that you're looking at the world from a very old fashioned, upper middle class point of view. This is not a reality for most people, and 2015 is a very different time than the 1970s were. Even in your family, though, you report that your mother was devoted to your father in his sickness as much as in his health. Would it be fair to say that she was loving, not merely charming? Women with high value (charisma, an actual personality, interests, personable character, skills and a …
/r/TheRedPill02/04/15 07:32 PM
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Men love women, women love children, children love puppies. You'd have to define 'love' first, and it isn't as simple as flowing one way only through a family. At least not the type in the example above. The Alpha leader simply makes that hierarchy (spelled correctly now) run smoothly. Run smoothly as opposed to what? It seems rather dysfunctional that a husband and father would not be loved and adored by his wife and children. There is no "sacrifice" of anything. It's easy leadership. Relaxed. …
/r/TheRedPill02/04/15 06:51 PM
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YouTube is great for learning how to cook absolutely anything! :)
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/15 03:52 PM
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As kids, this was explained to us as 'sacrificial leadership'. A man is in charge and a woman happily submits to his leadership as the head of his household because she trusts that he won't make selfish decisions and will honour, protect, and value his family. A woman, in turn, is adoring, nurturing and respectful of a strong and just leader because he is a respectable man of virtue, and she recognises his decisions to be in the best interest of the family unit, so will trust and submit to them.…
/r/TheRedPill02/04/15 12:23 PM
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I love that video! It changed the way that I thought about a lot of things when I first saw it a few years ago. Were there a book of the rules of relationships, this would be an entire chapter.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/15 04:34 AM
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I used to have a problem with being too out spoken. I fear I've become a little too timid. I fear I teeter on being a doormat I apologize too much and I come off as timid. without coming off as a shrew. I've always been a little shy I don't want to become some loud mouth soap boxer. You seem to be seeing this whole issue within the frame of two extremes, and...describing yourself as both? Am I right in understanding that you used to be loud mouthed and now you are suddenly too shy, and when you …
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/15 04:27 AM
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Could you please explain point one? I've read that elsewhere and it doesn't really make sense to me.
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/15 07:40 AM
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Speaking as someone who has no sexual experience but has experienced chemistry... I'd say that if you have chemistry, then sex can be improved on (or at least I hope so, because I won't have sex outside of marriage) but if you lack chemistry to start with then it probably won't magically appear. That said, I think that it can grow. I've had strong romantic chemistry with people who I previously didn't see as more than a friend but we had very strong 'friendship chemistry' and upon seeing a new s…
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/15 11:56 PM
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Just a thought, because I don't know this guy, obviously, but if he has said that he wants to date you, then maybe he is looking for a relationship and isn't deterred by your past. Has he explicitly said that he wouldn't commit to you because of it or raised it as an issue? Tinder is for hook ups and if he has an active profile but isn't hooking up then maybe it is an ego thing and he also wants to exclusively date you and build a relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/15 11:47 PM
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in your first post you said you preferred when break ups meant 'let's see other people as well as each other' and now you're saying that you don't like how a straight up break off is harder to find. Am I understanding you wrong? What are you trying to say? In regards to your situation, though, I'd just have 'the talk' and decide to be exclusive rather than doing the whole 'no expectations thing' because that isn't what you want, right? It doesn't sound like he wants to dance around the subject, …
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/15 10:42 PM
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At least back then "let's see other people" didn't mean "let's see other people and stop seeing each other" and people in general were more straight forward about communicating... How is that better? Let's see other people is better off meaning let's break up and each pursue different relationships, than, let me take away the exclusivity and date another person at the same time until I decide who I like better and leave you/her for a real relationship, but in the mean time, don't stop giving all…
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/15 09:32 PM
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From a Christian point of view, I certainly agree that the love of money is the cause of all sorts of unhappiness. I also agree from this point of view that women and men are equal but different and that trying to be just the same might work for some relationships but femininity and masculinity complement each other nicely if that is what you are into. People find meaning in different sorts of ways, but the modern lie that you can have it all makes women think that they can have a successful hig…
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/15 12:41 AM
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I've commented a couple of times in TRP and haven't been attacked for it... But I only commented where I thought that I could contribute. I don't know why your post was deleted, maybe ask?
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/15 12:34 AM
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Verified?
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/15 11:58 PM
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1) Meet men who are already like minded to filter out men who want a ONS or FWB. Not at clubs, perhaps through mutual friends, maybe either younger guys who haven't had sex yet and want to wait or older guys who are ready to settle down soon. 2) Make clear in the first few weeks of getting to know each other that you are looking for exclusive long term relationships to weed out anyone who may have slipped through the net. 3) When you have both decided that you want to date exclusively let him kn…
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/15 11:57 PM
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I agree that it is nice to be able to treat people a be treated and do so graciously. It's nice to be able to give, so one should let their partner do so and accept thankfully without a fuss. I second your appreciation of crafts! There's great satisfaction in looking at something that you made from scratch with love and care and knowing that that love and care comes from how you feel about a special person, be that a friend, family member or spouse. As a token of affection or love, it is somethi…
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/15 11:33 PM
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Oh, thank you for explaining. In my view, compromise is good in a relationship but on some things, isn't worth it. I'm in my early 20s, the man who I talked about was in college, but I have an active social life and meet new people often, what in particular gave the impression that I was older? The friends who I have who don't share my views generally respect me for sticking to my beliefs and I suppose denying myself instant gratification and temporary pleasure for the sake of wanting to reserve…
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/15 08:10 AM
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I have passed up on relationships with what RP philosophy would class as a 'high value' man because he wouldn't have been the right fit for me, as when two people want different things from a relationship, neither is happy. More painfully, I've passed up on a guy who I could see myself having an amazing relationship with, and a passionate physical relationship with, because we have great chemistry, know each other deeply, and are very attracted to each other physically... But not even a kiss. I …
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/15 06:50 AM
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I agree with your last part especially. If there is no intention for a second date then it would only be fair to pay half.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/15 06:12 AM
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You're right in that falling for someone can happen with anyone, but entering into a relationship which fosters those feelings into attachment and love is a decision. It is hard to pass that over when the only thing in the way of an amazing relationship (it can seem) is not having sex, especially when you have great chemistry with the other person and want nothing more than to be completely intertwined with them, but difficult decisions are made by strong women all the time and I do not put myse…
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/15 05:58 AM
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Thank you for your answer. How would you feel about a man who wanted to pay every time, from the start?
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/15 05:20 AM
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It is a good strategy by coincidence, my personal beliefs about what sex should be and how it should be shared come from my faith. I don't have to compete with promiscuous women because I would not like to be in a relationship with a man who doesn't value sex in the same way that I do; those women are fish in a different pond and attract a different type of fisherman. We are not in direct competition. If McDreamy doesn't respect my boundaries and values when we are dating, then he isn't a man wh…
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/15 05:02 AM
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Out of curiosity, would you be happy to be in a sexless relationship with the understanding that she would sleep with you once you had married her but not before?
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/15 04:42 AM
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My mother's advice to me was not to share something as precious and intimate as sex with any man who I wasn't going to marry, but in my view, if I we are so in love that we know that we'll spend our lives together then we should already be married. So zero before you're married, ideally.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/15 04:23 AM
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I'd have to respectfully disagree with you here. Counting to ten wold mean not paying attention to what is being said by the other person which would be impolite and disrespectful as well as interrupting the normal flow of conversations. I think that if the other person thinks that you've zoned out of a conversation then it is a bad thing because it conveys to them that you don't care about what they have to say. I'd say that interrupting is more about wanting to respond too quickly to what the …
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/15 09:15 AM
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I've heard you should demand exclusivity before having sex with a man. How would you go about doing that, and how do you know he's not just going to say, "yeah, sure babe, whatever" while playing you? I'm not sure that this is how you meant it, but demanding anything rubs most people the wrong way. Sure, let someone know from the get go that you are not interested in casual sex, and if they get scarred off by that then they weren't a man who you wanted to date (because a guy looking for a fwb is…
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/15 07:04 PM
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Thank you for your reply. Would it not make just as much sense though, for a man's neurochemistry to desensitise him from forming attachment in sex? So the Coolidge effect, bonding less successfully to a woman after having many partners because they bond to each woman who they have sex with to the point where the bond is ignorable? Is that not one of the reasons that men who watch a lot of porn find it hard to form a strong bond with real women during sex? Thinking of real life examples, would t…
/r/TheRedPill19/03/15 02:47 AM
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This is a great list, and I'd add that wearing a pleasant scent is always noticed, so finding a flattering perfume is a good investment.
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/15 08:43 PM
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Would it be possible to get to know your neighbours? They may not be like minded but they may just be! You won't know until you get to know them. Depending on where you live, there might be a fitness group you could join?
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/15 04:32 AM
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Thank you. I wasn't sure how welcome my perspective would be on this sub, I have so far stuck to RPW, but felt that I could contribute my perspective to your comment. I propose, which I could be wrong, that the logical side of good girls don't envy these type of attention, but emotional side does anyway. Emotionally, I get enough attention and I don't feel unfulfilled, which is perhaps why I don't seek emotional validation from the lustful attentions of men. I know that I'm valued and loved by m…
/r/TheRedPill18/03/15 01:51 AM
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Doesn't this go both ways though? Men have oxytocin and vasopressin doing the same job.
/r/TheRedPill18/03/15 12:23 AM
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Despite generalizations, I'd put forth the idea that 'good girls' with value outside of what is in between their legs don't envy the attention received by promiscuous women. I know that when a person wants to spend time with me, it is because I am pleasant to be around, easy to talk to, and am a supportive and encouraging friend; not because I'm easy sex. (When a man pursues me, I know that he doesn't just want one thing, because that one thing isn't on offer.) It isn't value that promiscuous gi…
/r/TheRedPill18/03/15 12:20 AM
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Thank you for your reply. This has given me a lot to think about. Have you considered why you do it? As in, are you listening to what the other person is saying or only thinking about what you're going to say next? I think that I mostly do it because growing up, I was the only girl for the most part and I was he smallest, so to get a word in edge ways I had to pipe in when opportunity arose. My job involved working with young children and they will tell you every detail of their life if you let …
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/15 11:54 PM
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Thank you for your reply. I agree that knowing that I can interrupt is the first step as many people do it without realizing. I do always apologize and catch myself out, but I've told one of my close friends to please stop me and point it out if I don't. Hopefully I will improve with conscious effort and time.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/15 11:39 PM
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Thank you for your reply. It is a good idea, as you mentioned, to ask more questions. It isn't a matter of not getting my point across, and upon reflection, having a couple of phone calls with friends this week, I think I tend to feel like I'm talking a lot when the other person is particularly quiet. I'm quite good with eye contact but again, you're correct, it does stop your mind from drifting if you're speaking to someone who's gotten a little carried away on a tangent that doesn't hold your …
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/15 11:36 PM
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I don't really know what to advise, but do take into consideration that just because someone is not at the same stage of life as you, it does not mean that they will not want the same things as you. I'm also in my early twenties, and guys my age share my experiences in life so far, whereas guys 10 years my senior have already experienced all of the things I'm exploring, so we can't share those, however they are also more likely to want the same things as I do, an actual relationship (not fwb or …
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/15 03:06 AM
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'Virginity' as a concept is accepted as not having previous sexual partners, so a man can be a virgin if he has no previous sexual partners whether that is by choice or because he didn't have the opportunity. People make different choices win different motivations, I think at least red pill women know what they want. I understand why I would rather wait for my husband to have sex, lots of reasons, including the ones you mention. I think that marriage can be more than that for men, though obvious…
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/15 10:16 PM
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I have never really been comfortable uploading or sending out any kind of sexy pictures of myself That says it all. If you're not comfortable doing something then you absolutely do not have to. So you give your answer and if they don't respect that then I totally agree with you that they are not worth your time. I would never send or even take a photo that I was not comfortable being seen on the internet or by someone who picks up an unlocked phone. I don't want anything of mine to be seen by ey…
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/15 05:02 AM
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if they don't respect me respecting myself, they're not worth my time If I hear a woman say this, I'm out. It reeks of entitlement and inability to be flexible. Her ideology is more important than pleasing me So if a woman left a relationship with you, you would rationalize that she wasn't a woman of worth because she placed her self respect above pleasing you? Respectfully, why do you think it is wrong for a woman to place her self respect above pleasing someone, when the alternative is undermi…
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/15 05:00 AM
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Yes, so applying the evolutionary perspective to modern day (nuclear families being the norm) where just as much as another man's child is a drain of resources a woman can provide to a man's child with her, the same goes for me because of, as you said, child support and alimony.
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/15 10:00 AM
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Thank you for your answer, what about male low partner count or virginity being assurance that the man doesn't have 12 other kids out there who he had to support? From an evolutionary point of view...
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/15 06:23 AM
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Is it not just as dangerous for a woman, for argument's sake? Many women fall in love only to be cheated on, to find that their partner had a wild past and has a child out there somewhere, to find that their partner is cheating on them, or at least sees this happening all around her, at the very least, has one or two bad experiences in college of a kid who tells her he loves her but really just wants sex and leaves her hurt. If she gets married she has everything to lose if she gives her best ye…
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/15 06:17 AM
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I disagree with some of the things he says, including that men are only friends with women in the hopes that they could one day date them, but his book 'Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man' is excellent. If you have a sister, I recommend that you suggest it to her.
/r/TheRedPill03/01/15 08:28 PM
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I get the point of red pill theory. Society plays a big role in regulating or encouraging people's base sexual desires as well. Culture plays a big part, you must admit. Also, people aren't total slaves to their biology. Cheating is a decision that people make. It is possible to keep it in your pants if you value fidelity, if you value fidelity.. That is why some types of people are more likely to be unfaithful than others, and why some demographics are more likely to divorce than others, as wel…
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/15 01:14 PM
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It is inherent (biology and evolutionary psychology) for a woman and a man to be sexually attracted to a partner who seems to provide high quality genetic material which is why grooming is important in being sexually attractive on an animal level. This explains men wanting to spread their seed among young (fertile) attractive (genetically healthy) women, and women wanting children from the genetic material of 'alpha' (successful enough to not be at the bottom of the food chain) and attractive (g…
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/15 11:01 AM
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Thank you for your reply. First things first, that video made my stomach turn, whether it was a woman or a man proposing those terms... awful. I dunno I see a lot of women in r relationships and twoX saying that they value a man with a lower count For me it indicates that he isn't purely sexually motivated and doesn't see sex as something that you can do without commitment, therefore I would wonder if a commitment to me would be enough to stop him from seeking sexual gratification elsewhere. bas…
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/15 10:57 AM
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So, two types of men, alphas and betas? Are there two types of women too, in your opinion? The first being the type who have a wild youth and then find a rich man, and the second, those who don't have a wild youth but still possess the qualities of homemaking skills, submissiveness (though personally I'd just call that good relationship skills, if the type of relationship you want is one that is unselfish, but this is coming from a non-mainstream religious view of relationships). I read somethin…
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/15 10:39 AM
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So what's the woman's equivalent? Is there something that a woman with a colorful sexual past can bring to the table to negate it? I wonder if there is, even within this philosophy which seemingly values men by their assets and women by their sexuality and homemaking skills. In the first scenario, a man has given up his ONS ways and has money. There is reform and a property which negates the effects of his past. In the second scenario, a woman has given up her ONS ways and has... homemaking skil…
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/15 09:50 AM
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That assumes that men want to marry a virgin (maybe a question for the men's subteddit), which takes the idea that a girl who hasn't had many partners to the extreme, perhaps the gold standard for both men and women is experience within a committed relationship which assures good relationship skills as well as sexual confidence and skill. The problem with that theory is that it makes anyone who has indulged in ONSs and had serial or multiple partners unattractive, which seems to be at odds with …
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/15 09:12 AM
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I just watched the video until the end. It seems like he is saying that ONSs have ruined sex in a LTR for him. Which is pretty unattractive from a woman's point of view. I would imagine it would be very hard to enjoy a lasting relationship where your partner doesn't really enjoy sex with you because he has done it with so many other people it has become valueless.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/15 07:12 AM
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Me too. At least we know what we want, which is a starting point!
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/15 06:20 AM
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Closer to the truth indeed! Though I wonder how most woman would feel about a man who's hired prostitutes in a past..
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/15 06:18 AM
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Thank you, that's a good way to put it and more sensible than the other way around as well. The last bit made me think 'yuck' though. I would be very upset if I was a man and my wife was happy because she had married my bank account and lifestyle rather than because she had me in her life for the rest of her life.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/15 06:10 AM
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Thank you for your answer. I'm anxious to post on the red pill subteddit... Being a woman and quite new to these subreddits, I'm not sure how welcome my questions would be. Interesting that you say that holding platonic friendships within a social circle make a man seem like good 'relationship material' as I have seen the idea on the red pill subteddit and some of the linked websites that for a woman, close male friends are a 'red flag'. Do you think that is the case?
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/15 06:05 AM
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How would you propose one could achieve that balance?
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/15 12:50 PM
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Men in college have zero ability to provide, so they don't. Many people are either working throughout college or already financially set, as well as set in terms of job prospects, so have a stable view of their future. In terms of providing emotionally and in terms of time, students have a large amount of free time, would this not be an ideal time to find a LTR partner, if that is what you're looking for? Everybody knows that their lives will be reset at the end of this period Do you think that …
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/15 12:49 PM
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Of course, most animals do not bond for life, however we have been socialized between cultures to view love and sex in particular ways, the effect of this would be interesting to see. You can see the disparity between the genders. I'm not sure about gorillas, but rodents become less sexually interested in a control monogamous partner after being provided with a series of exciting new rats. If the effect can be seen in humans, it would be that a series of ONSs and exposure to the variety of porno…
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/15 08:04 AM
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I really appreciate you taking the time. I agree that it is not the be all and end all, but in my specific situation, given the spiritual value that I consider sex to have, and the social situation in which I am in, and the views held regarding sex, it is a big deal even if it shouldn't be. I would love myself just as much if I made a decision now that I would regret later. My self love comes from a solid identity and appreciation of myself, but I would respect myself less because I would have c…
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/15 07:51 AM
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I wonder if men in all societies and throughout all eras have been able to separate sex and love in the way that men in hook up culture do now. I suppose most men today can, regardless of their society's standards, because porn helps to separate the feeling of sexual satisfaction from being with an actual woman.
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/15 07:34 AM
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Does the red pill philosophy that that can happen: a man falls head over heels in love with a woman because she is special in his eyes? Or with this philosophy, does it not last? Or does it just not happen in this climate where courtship is a swipe on tinder and people in relationships use each other to suit their needs, making their partners replaceable, rather than being a human nature problem? Thank you for the example of the male equivalent, it illustrates the paradigm very clearly.
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/15 07:29 AM
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Thank you for your response, that's all really valuable stuff and has given me a lot to think about. (I spent an hour chiseling this down from novel length.) You have to deal with what life presents you While speaking specifically about me, I'm 22 and in no rush to find Mr. Right tomorrow. For the next six months (graduation), I am not actively looking for anything. I have an active social life and meet many interesting gentlemen... life presents me with a generous amount of opportunity, but I'm…
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/15 04:06 AM
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A RPW is going to know that she doesn’t have the power to reform you if you're not already there, and no woman does. I completely agree with you there. It has the mentality of being stuck in a fairytale to believe that a woman can change a man by being so desirable that all of his habits, preferences and sexual appetites disappear. I would rather know about a promiscuous past before a relationship started, to being on a foundation of trust and honesty. In your experience or opinion, do you think…
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/15 03:57 AM
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Interesting points, thank you. Do you think that it decreases the value of a woman's sexuality if she only has sex in LTRs but these are with men who have previously had many 'notches on the bedpost' to throw both of your hypotheticals into one situation?
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/15 01:04 AM
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Hello, thank you for your reply. Personally, a long term relationship resulting in marriage and children, but I'm not in a rush. I have read about 'the wall' and I agree. I realise that people around my age are pairing off and getting into relationships, but I also see that they are ending quickly and what is left is a single girl with a string of four or five LTRs that really only lasted eight months, and they have run out of options because no one will date someone who all their friends have d…
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/15 12:08 AM
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It would be nice if there was a playbook, wouldn't it? (I've read 'The Game' and to be honest wasn't that impressed by it, but found it amusing to be able to identify the source of some of the material that men would approach me with.) If you find anything interesting, then please do share! Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/15 11:32 PM
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This is one thing that I really struggle to understand. Having a high number of sexual partners, especially when they are casual partners, surely increases your chances of getting a disease which could affect your fertility. Even if it doesn't, I don't understand why people risk their health!
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/15 11:20 PM
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Thank you for sharing your view. I agree with you that self-control is admirable.
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/15 11:15 PM
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Very good points. Do you think there is a place for the reformed 'player' in the opinion of a 'good girl' looking for a LTR?
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/15 10:32 PM
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Thank you for your answers, I appreciate you sharing your insight with me!
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/15 10:30 PM
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Premise in my OP or in this post? In this post I was contrasting 200+ with... well I suppose a lower number, not necessarily male virginity. In my OP I was asking what the male counterpart to a low number was in terms of being indicative of high status, which the answer seems to be, judging by the contributions in this threat, a sensible history when it comes to commitment.
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/15 10:17 PM
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Thank you for your reply. Out of curiosity, at what age do you think being a virgin would bother you?
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/15 09:57 PM
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Wow, I think an STI would be a definite deal breaker for me. Thank you for your reply.
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/15 09:44 PM
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high-effort achievements is what makes both sexes attractive, and the inability to achieve is considered unattractive. That is very succinctly put, thank you. I think that the aspect of exclusivity comes into it too.
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/15 09:43 PM
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Outside of this extreme, do you think that a lot of women would be attracted to men who made a lot of money over men who made enough money purely on that value?
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/15 09:40 PM
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Do you think there is another factor causing them to want you to commit to them that overrides their anxieties about you being a 'player' or do you think that it is purely the fantasy of being the girl who sets you straight? As a man who has had 200+ sexual partners, have you ever found this to be a reason that someone's not been interested and is that a particular type of girl? And as a man who's had 200+ sexual partners, if a LTR with someone who doesn't have a number as high as yours (whateve…
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/15 09:37 PM
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The politics of this makes my head spin but it makes perfect sense. Why do more women not take this understanding to heart instead of wondering why they are used for just sex by men who show no intention of doing anything other than just that?(!)
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/15 09:27 PM
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Thank you for your answers!
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/15 09:24 PM
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Thank you for the link, I think I've read a similar story before elsewhere. What level of friendship or communication do you think is acceptable for an ex? (In the community of friends that I have everything is quite tight knit and friends date friends often and when things don't work out they go back to being friends.)
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/15 09:16 PM
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I didn't quite grasp the phrasing, thank you for explaining.
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/15 07:26 PM
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I want my man to be better than me at the things I value. More self controlled. More level. More frugal, etc. Interesting point, do you think that men think the same thing about women?
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/15 06:30 PM
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Poor phrasing on my part, apologies. Number of sex partners works against women but not against men. What works against men but not women? The only thing I can think of is (from an evolutionary point of view) earning potential but I'd have a difficult time writing off a man who was at least ambitious with all the other qualities of a nice and strong man (leadership, rational, compassionate etc) just because he didn't make much money. But that is only my perspective.
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/15 06:15 PM
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So that is the double standard for women in terms of sex partners, what is the equivalent for men?
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/15 06:06 PM
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Other men that I have talked to think that a virgin is a woman who isn't very interested in sex, and might lead to a dead bedroom. I can see where the logic is there from the point of view of, if a woman is not motivated to seek out sexual relationships, she might just not be very sexual. After a certain age, a woman's virginity becomes a huge red flag; why has no man wanted her? Is she too picky? too bitchy? What would you say that age is, out of curiosity? And is it different for women than it…
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/15 06:04 PM
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Hypothetical question: What if all of the above is true, but 'in the past,' is there such a thing? I'm thinking of this in the context of the sexual strategy that it seems to me that the red pill subreddit advocates: have sex with lots of accessible young women in your youth, and then marry a virgin. I read an interesting article linked on here, an open letter to 'nice guys' by a woman who had been very promiscuous in her youth and was now ready to settle down. The response was that 'nice guys' …
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/15 05:56 PM
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>If we're always the ones who put more in, then what happens when you need help from them? Do they step up or fail? I think that this might be the most important thing anyone has ever told me about balance in relationships so far. Thank you. Wow.
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/15 05:44 PM
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Thank you for your response. I don't think the girlfriends in that scenario were thinking too far into the future, though, and probably ended up being one of those dozens with more to follow instead of their future wives. Perhaps they were looking for different things. Ability to provide us with resources and status What do you think is indicative of that? I would say leadership qualities, ambition, but that doesn't cover traits like compassion, empathy, sensitivity etc. Or does it? What would y…
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/15 05:04 PM
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Thank you for your reply, I agree that individual people should be considered in their individual circumstances and that no rule fits all, but as heuristics are useful. Out of curiosity, which 'red flags' would you call it on?
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/15 05:02 PM
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Thank you for your answer. I'm interested to know what your opinion about what 'purity' in a man is, in that case? 'Gentlemanly' behaviour? Only having had sexual partners within committed relationships? I'm also interested in what you mean by 'conquered' so would you mind expanding on that? My view of sex has always been that it is something mutually enjoyed between two people, rather than something that a man wins and acquires from a woman, to her detriment. Do you think that this is how socie…
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/15 04:46 PM
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you are most likely naive and inexperienced Absolutely, like you, it seems, I came from a very sheltered and traditional upbringing and the 'real world' was a massive shock. As you said, I had to rely on reading people's actions rather than listening to their words. What you say about appeasing other people at your own expense... what about sacrificial love? For example, with family, you go out of your way, to your detriment, to look after your dear ones. Do you think that this transfers in the …
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/15 03:55 PM
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'Don't need no man'? It's colloquial, and doesn't make grammatical or practical sense. Were I a man, I would be pretty upset if the woman I was with said that she didn't need me!
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/15 01:49 AM
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Thank you for your insight. Is that to say, that the emotional component of romantic love is based largely, in your theory, upon the instinct to protect, which is why men, who are socialised to be protectors and providers, do not fall in (lasting) love with women who can do it all themselves and 'don't need no man'? I would ask, then, what about the men in the world who don't have this instinct? One thing that shocked me when I went to college were the number of men who dated (nice) girls I knew…
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/15 01:34 AM
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Thank you for your reply, and it is interesting that you should say that the latter group that you describe are more physically attractive. What is it about the first group that you find less attractive, or which part of the second archetype would you blend with a feminine persona to create a balanced ideal?
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/15 01:26 AM
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Thank you for the recommendation, who is 'The Rules' written by? Yes, I've heard of that in a sociology class that I took! People feel valued by you and are more likely to like you. I think a lot of what I've read around the web today, is, as /u/TheLemming said, to do with good manners and being a pleasant person, and it is quite sad that that needs to be pointed out in a culture of selfishness where people think that disrespecting others makes them seem like a bigger person.
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/15 01:23 AM
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I had never considered RPW philosophy before I accidentally discovered t back then and revisited this week. Everything makes a lot of sense, virtues like kindness and valuing the contributions that others are proud of (overtly appreciating a man's masculinity) are seen as attractive, it makes sense. That's one thing that I noticed about a previous relationship that fits in with RPW ideas (I think). He was a great guy who had his faults but he would dwell on them sometimes and I considered it my …
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/14 02:40 PM
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Do you think this makes a difference in general, or only if you wear a dress on certain occasion. I wear dresses and skirts every day because my job allows freedom of wardrobe choice and I feel more feminine in them, but on the rare occasion that I wear jeans, or yoga pants to the gym, I don't notice being treated any differently.
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/14 02:22 PM
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Hi, thank you for your reply. That makes a lot of sense. How do I stop that from happening? So far I've grown up in a very bubble wrapped lifestyle where most people are kind and polite. College was a big shock for me. (I think in the past guys have taken advantage of my 'sweet temperament' but I've since stopped being such a doormat and now I require people who get close to me to treat me with respect as I show it to them or I terminate the relationship, but that is easier said than done.)
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/14 02:15 PM
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Is there a 'girl game' textbook or something?(!) I found it quite stunning that there existed a forum in which someone had suggested this as a tip, and wondered if there were more like it. Other than the obvious stuff which I've noticed myself growing up... for example, as a teenager, I thought that I would be met with a grimace of inconvenience when I asked a friend to help me move a heavy box down up from my basement, but his chest visibly puffed out and he was so pleased with himself to have …
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/14 07:24 AM
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Serious question: Are many Americans like this, or are these women playing it up for television? In all of the American news clips which I've seen, the women in particular are loud and talk over each other and everyone else, and are quite catty and aggressive. These women saw nothing wrong with dragging a guest's personal life into the discussion and only felt it appropriate to intervene when the man did the same. Is this just drama just for the television, or socially acceptable behaviour in th…
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