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My brothers are between 35 and 45 and all are marrired for at least 7 years. Two are blissfully happy, one is struggling. The brother who's having trouble is 35 and marries 7 years. He married one of my closest friends. Everything was fine and dandy until a medical catastrophe coincided with the birth of their first child. His wife became ill out of nowhere with a chronic condition shortly after giving birth, and the financial and emotional toll was huge. My brother is a great man, but he has po…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/18 06:59 PM
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Holy hyperbolic paranoia
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/18 06:13 PM
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I don't play hard to get, per se. I would not pursue a casual sexual relationship with anyone I wanted a committed relationship with, or someone who wanted one with me. That's a recipe for resentment and hurt. I make my intentions clear as soon as is reasonable and proceed from there.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/18 07:40 PM
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I think the amount of men who engage in dress up and fantasy play in general is probably equal to the amount of women who actually believe in horoscopes, yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/18 07:36 PM
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They are both equally private and public, what are you talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/18 07:34 PM
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Why wouldn't that apply to astrology?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/18 05:01 PM
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How so?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/18 04:44 PM
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I'm not so sure about that. I think talking to a doll like it's your girlfriend is at least as deranged as reading a horoscope.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/18 04:39 PM
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Halloween is the only acceptable time for an adult to wear a costume, in my opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/18 04:35 PM
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I'm saying that believing in magic and playing dress up are equally silly and childish, and that there is no shortage of silly and childish men or women. There's nothing really to analyze here. Adults do weird shit. Sure, some women get dressed up for larping or conventions, but it's mostly a man's hobby. Just like there are some men who believe in magic and pseudoscience.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/18 04:35 PM
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The historical ignorance in this thread is astounding. Put yourself in a young man's shoes in this era for a moment. Your country is in the throes of a semi civil war, trying to decide if black people are human or not. There are massive, often violent demonstrations in the streets. The future is dark and uncertain. There's these new things called drugs that are suddenly everywhere and easy to get. You wake each morning with the fear that today could be the day that you receive papers forcing you…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/18 04:31 PM
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Ever been to a fandom convention? Ever heard of D&D? Ever seen a lineup for a Star Wars or Super Hero movie on opening day? Do you know what a Brony is? Waifus?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/18 04:23 PM
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Why are men more likely to play dress up and make believe well into adulthood? People get their kicks in all kinds of bizarre ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/18 04:16 PM
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Not to mention THE FUCKING DRAFT.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/18 04:11 PM
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No. The 60s and 70s were a very turbulent time politically and socially, and young people were reacting to a drastically changing society and an extremely controversial war. Not to mention that the young men lived in constant fear of being drafted for fuck sake. Political unrest + fear+ sudden massive availability of crazy drugs = tumult. Oh and everyone was fucking in in 60s and 70s. They were fucking like there was no tomorrow because it surely felt like there was no tomorrow.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/18 04:08 PM
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Because no matter how much TRP wants to portray validation from others as a women's pursuit, it is in fact the motivating factor in pretty much EVERYTHING we humans do. Simple projection.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/18 04:04 PM
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There is a reason for that. Men are utterly unimportant to me. There is nothing to be expected from them.Writing about what anti-feminist women and men should do is pointless. Anti-feminist women make choices I can only view with disgust and contempt; a sentiment that without a doubt is mutual. And men? Men can’t change. While I don't personally agree with this sentiment, I have no problem with it on a fundamental level. If someone hates a certain demographic so much that they want to completely…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/18 04:02 PM
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You're showing your ass again, Lewis. Most people have friends
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/18 04:47 PM
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No one is saying he is.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/18 04:33 PM
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Excuse my skepticism of your diplomatic abilities, Lewis.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/18 04:20 PM
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Women don't want to fuck desperate beggars.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/18 04:13 PM
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Disagree. After you reject him, the man who was "nice" who then says "well, if I'm not getting what I want, I'm not sticking around, and no, I don't want to be your friend" is considered a dickhead asshole by the woman who rejected him and all her friends. I can think of dozens of men in my own life who have managed to communicate this to me and others in a measured, kind, even tempered manner. This is a simple maturity issue
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/18 04:12 PM
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It's possible and even highly probable that a man will not fit the criteria for a sexual relationship but does fit the criteria for a friendly relationship. In this context you've laid out, using "big girl words" is icing out any and all men who've expressed romantic interest and throwing them out like trash if we don't reciprocate feelings. That's a lose/lose
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/18 04:09 PM
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I didn't spend that much time at the gym when I was competing at high level gymnastics. Sounds like shes either lying about where she is, or using the gym to escape somewhere she doesn't want to be/someone she doesn't want to be with.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/18 04:04 PM
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I've had first meetings in group settings before, but I wouldn't have called them dates. Maybe something like a pre date. The first time I hung out with my boyfriend was when he accompanied me to a friend's holiday gathering. It was nice to see him interact with "my people" and get a sense of how he might fit it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/18 04:02 PM
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We're talking about often minor patterns of behavior here. My boyfriend being overly friendly with a pretty cashier might be annoying and hurtful, but it's not abuse unless it's a piece of a consistent pattern of undermining and shitty behaviors to make me feel jealous and unimportant, then we're moving into abuse territory. You'd be hard pressed to find any individual who's never done something shitty or stupid that upset their partner. Again, if someone ia fearful of laying down simple boundar…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/18 03:59 PM
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I would be careful to not label any and all undesirable behavior as "abuse". But yes, if someone is unable to detect abusive behaviors in their partners they should seek help and avoid relationships until they are well.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/18 03:53 AM
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Isolaters isolate dude
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/18 03:33 AM
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That was basically my college experience, and I'm a woman. I had two jobs and a full credit load. The only interactions I had with others was professional or academic, with very few exceptions. Why would basic facts of life such as having a very busy schedule not apply to women? Why would that make anyone special?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/18 09:35 PM
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you missed the most obvious reason. They're bored.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/18 04:05 PM
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I've never cheated, but the few times I really though about it where when I wasn't getting enough sex from my partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/18 03:58 PM
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Right. And anyone mature enough for an adult relationship would recognize that and take action. Sometimes, jealousy is the result of misunderstanding or your partner's behaviors simply not making sense to you. That's why it's important to talk about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/18 03:39 PM
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Men dump their girlfriends all the time, dude. I'd go so far to say that if he's too scared to set simple boundaries, he shouldn't have a girlfriend at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/18 08:50 AM
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A lot. I run all potential partners past my siblings before I become serious with them. If my siblings don't like him, he's gone.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/18 07:57 AM
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All mammals have estrus cycles, but presentation like length, fertility triggers, and chemical signals vary widely. Cats for example, cycle like all other mammals, but only ovulate in the presence of fertile males. This is why they signal much more obviously than their close relatives like weasels, who ovulate on a cycle whether or not there are fertile males present. There's no ironclad explanation for it. That's simply how they evolved in their environments.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/18 05:16 PM
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It's both
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/18 05:03 PM
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There is no meaningful comparison to be had. Fertility cycles ans presentation vary wildly with every mammalian species. Human women cycle more similarly to horses than some primates, and some primates cycle more similarly to dogs than other primates. There's no formula.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/18 05:02 PM
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I was on a high horse about this for a long time. I had never experienced intense jealousy and thought myself too emotionally stable and reasonable to be that insecure. Then it happened to me. The best thing to do is try to emotionally detach for a moment and really analyze it as objectively as possible. Why do you feel jealous? Is it rooted in past trauma that has nothing to do with your current partner? Is it a byproduct of a pattern of low self esteem that existed before the relationship? If …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/18 04:58 PM
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Humans can and do detect ovulation, it's just a subtle biological response that you're not conscious of. Studies show that strippers and female tipped workers like bartenders and waitresses earn more money when they're ovulating. Any woman who pays attention will see that she gets more male attention when she's ovulating. Women also tend to have an increased desire to "look pretty" during their fertile window, often making different clothing and makeup choices during that time. Most aren't aware…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/18 04:43 PM
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It is becoming more common. My brother is a stay at home parent for his two young sons. He never plannes it that way. His wife earns more money than him ans they decided it was better to have a parent stay home with the kids rather than pay an arm and a leg for childcare. Most families cannot afford a STAHP, though. They are a luxury reserved for upper middle class and wealthy folks.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/18 04:05 PM
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It's difficult to ignore when they inject themselves into debates to air their grievances and try to out-victim everyone. The consistent desperation for validation from others gets old. Why do you care if others approve of your beliefs and lifestyle?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/18 04:56 PM
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Or people simply don't give a fuck and are annoyed by the constant whining
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/18 04:53 PM
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Low effort
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/18 03:52 PM
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Imagine being so low quality that you feel moved to defend men begging for attention from strangers on street corners.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/18 06:37 PM
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Deserving? No. I think each person's individual essence brings something to the table that can be difficult to articulate. Sometimes good, sometimes bad. Almost always subjective.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/18 06:30 PM
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To some people, sure. These types of questions are pointless. If i switched it around on my partner, I could say that I'm with him because he's intelligent, kind, creative, talented, and handsome. But there are millions of men I could be hanging out with who are just as great if not better. At the end of the day, he's George and other dudes simply aren't George. No matter how wonderful they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/18 05:33 PM
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I'm me and other women aren't.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/18 05:19 PM
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Pretty much everyone has premarital sex and only a tiny fraction are using hookup apps or slutting it up. Most people have a few boyfriends/girlfriends, maybe two or three casual sex partners, and then settle down. Most people agree that sex before marriage is not "bad".
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/18 03:52 PM
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I would advise against trying to have a reasonable debate grounded in reality with this particular user. He is deeply delusional and you won't get anywhere
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/18 03:34 PM
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Like most groups and individuals, the best qualities are also great weaknesses. I admire men's willingness to charge forth into danger, and I admire women's natural desire to connect with others on a deep level. Of course, both of these tendencies can lead to a great deal of trouble as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/18 03:29 PM
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Ya. Sad situation all around.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/18 03:20 PM
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ooh edgy
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/18 02:14 AM
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Thanks for exemplifying my point so accurately
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/18 11:24 PM
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Reddit is littered with thousands and thousands of threads from men absolutely baffled, confused, and frustrated at the work they have to put in to relationships. Men often think that having to work on a relationship is bad
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/18 09:52 PM
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Pretty much every woman who responds to threads like this says the exact same thing. They don't like being randomly approached. I have zero sympathy for men that ignore what a majority of women say to employ this strategy. They are setting themselves up for failure.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/18 08:37 PM
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That's a huge stretch
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/18 08:35 PM
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By selecting my dates carefully rather than giving my time to just any dude who wants it?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/18 05:46 PM
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A lot of men think that love is something you feel and not something you do
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/18 04:07 PM
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Interesting that you don't want to answer that. How do you make friends? Do you just randomly walk up to people you see out in public?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/18 04:06 PM
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ok. Do you think it's wise for a woman to go out with every man who asks without knowing anything about him?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/18 08:33 AM
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How would it benefit me to consider every single man I encounter as a potential date? That sounds awful and exhausting.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/18 08:04 AM
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Right. Giving me a chance to get to know them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/18 06:06 AM
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And how could I consider someone a good dating option without knowing them?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/18 06:02 AM
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Right. Because unless I give every guy a chance and turn dating into my full time job, I'm a total bitch. And if I accept every guy who begs for my attention, I'm a slut. Fun game you can play with yourself there.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/18 06:02 AM
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I've been approached like this hundreds of times. I find it off putting.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/18 04:20 AM
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Do you consider someone a friend before you get to know them?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/18 04:15 AM
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He can, but he won't get anywhere with me. There's a reason why so few couples meet this way even though most women are approached pretty constantly
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/18 11:37 PM
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Oh wow you really believe that? Random approach is usually a laughing stock my dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/18 11:35 PM
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Random approach is the most common yet least successful method of dating. Still, some people don't mind it. Similarly, I'm not interested in hooking up with a drunk person at a club, but that suits some people's standards just fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/18 11:31 PM
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I have endless opportunities to meet great partners. More than I could ever pursue. They're simply vetted by friends and acquaintes before they become viable options. Still, no shortage whatsoever of quality men to choose from who dont bother women just trying to go about their business.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/18 11:29 PM
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Then you are an absolute statistical anonmaly. Amazing.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/18 11:21 PM
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I prefer to date men with good common sense and social skills. Randomly asking strangers for attention is the opposite of that. It comes across desperate. My strategy has worked very well for me! How has approaching random strangers worked for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/18 11:07 PM
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I'm sure some do. I've personally never met a couple that met when the dude just walks up to her on the street. Most normal people meet through friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/18 10:34 PM
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Catcalled and yelled at on the street pretty much daily. Approached for conversation/phone number/date a few times a week. Personally, I have never and would never respond positively to a random approach, no matter how attractive the guy is. I don't accept date requests from strangers, ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/18 09:07 PM
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Who said anything about nerds?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/18 09:05 PM
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I've found myself attracted to super feminine men and hyper masculine men. It really just depends on the guy. I appreciate authenticity.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/18 08:22 PM
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He has benn told. Many many times. He justifies it because his work means that he must be in contact with teenagers. He actually thinks he's doing them a favor by saving them from "real" predators (he's the only person with a predatory rep). It's not just teens. He exhibits this behavior with women in their twenties as well. How are his relationships with other men? He has a lot of men around him that try to guide him, mostly out of pity I think. He's close with a really great older dude who's t…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/18 04:53 PM
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Can confirm. Average and ugly guys often lack the balls to come on too strong with women. Attractive men are (generally) much more entitled and take greater offense to hearing "no"
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/18 04:47 PM
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So if my friend has a bad drinking problem, I should be sure to not call them an alcoholic? If they are gaining an alarming amount of weight, I shouldnt use the words "obese" or "fat"?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/18 04:45 PM
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I'm beginning to doubt there is any helping some of these dudes. My colleague comes to mind. He is in his early forties and has gained a terrible reputation for creeping on teenagers. We both work in entertainment and frequently work with young people like models, actors, and musicians. He pursues these girls relentlessly, often to the point where the girls are scared and even coming to female staff in tears. No less than 5 young girls have asked me to help them get away from him. He simply WILL…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/18 04:32 PM
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If you spend any time on incel forums (which I'd recommend you dont), you'll see that a lack of empathy from others is one of their main complaints. Like I said, they have a profound misunderstanding of what empathy is.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/18 03:50 PM
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I've managed to live 34 years without cheating on anyone. Don't plan on starting any time soon. It's good to be aware of the common risks of dating, but most people never cheat. Those who do tend to cheat habitually.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/18 07:59 AM
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wait, do you seriously not understand what a dual purpose treatment us? I thought you were feigning cluelessness
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/18 10:15 PM
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"Botox doesn't get rid of existing wrinkles" post explaining exactly how botox eliminates existing wrinkles
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/18 06:48 PM
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Why would I bother to surveil myself and others all day long to prove something every reasonable person already knows? What do I gain? Validation from shut-ins and incels? I'm good.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/18 06:00 PM
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Existing wrinkles won't go away Yes, they do. With cosmetic procedures and surgeries. Like botox.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/18 05:59 PM
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Well you also have no idea what you're talking about. Botox is effective for preventing wrinkles and treating existing wrinkles, among other uses.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/18 05:53 PM
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In some ways, sure. They seem less interested in empathy and more interested in seperatism.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/18 04:38 PM
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There is a huge gap in the perception of what empathy is and how it should be expressed. Most normal people consider empathy to be an action of listening with the intent to better understand. Some unhinged people (incels) believe that empathy should be an action of changing your behaviors and ignoring your own wants/needs/desires/boundaries to give the aggrieved person everything they want. You cant really reason with that kind of childish, self centered mindset. They'll never accept empathy or …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/18 03:26 PM
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Only if you give a fuck about normal signs of aging. Which I don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/18 12:14 AM
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I'm in my mid thirties and undoubtedly look better and fitter than ever in my life. I'm also not at all worried about aging and dont intend to fight it. I like the greys growing in my hair. I dont have any wrinkles yet, but I won't be getting botox or facelifts when I do. Im satisfied with aging healthfully and gracefully with little interference. I have a loving partner, a stable career, a strong community, and my health. Overall my life is much better now than in my early 20s. I wouldn't go ba…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/18 04:06 PM
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With fondness and happy memories? Mostly Or with regret? Regret is a strong word. A little cringe, a few "what was I thinking?", but nothing truly awful. Or maybe you don't think about it at all? I rarely do How did those years shape you as a person? Hard to say. I am a sum of my experiences, and I'm happy with myself and my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/18 04:00 PM
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I certainly think so. I credit a disastrous breakup with my ability to have a healthy and strong relationship now. We can't always accurately assess our own strengths and weaknesses until we're put to the test. A failed relationship is a minefield of difficult but vital life lessons. I'm on good terms with all of my exes, qnd friends with a few. For better or worse, I'm at least grateful we met
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/18 03:55 PM
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But couldn't this also be easily flipped? There's no benefit for a woman to assume that her husband won't burden her with a few kids and then carry on with the 21 year old nanny. Might as well get that money and mitigate the loss for herself and her kids
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/18 03:52 PM
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It's annoying to have to wriggle your way out of an unpleasant conversation you never asked for when you're trying to shop for groceries or do some banking or commute to work. These dudes follow you. Even directly telling them to fuck off usually doesn't work and often makes it worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/18 08:49 PM
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5 is a lot. I tend to get approached about once a day, cat called at least once or twice a day, depending on where I am and what I'm doing.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/18 05:13 PM
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What makes you think you would notice what's going on? For all you know, it's just two people talking.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/18 05:00 PM
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I would not end a happy relationship over this, although I would be bothered a bit by the lie. I don't think hiring a prostitute as a deployed soldier overseas is a big deal at all. If he were regularly cruising the redlight district for street walkers, that would be a different story. Judging your partner on their past is necessary and normal, but if anyone is looking for someone who has never done something shady, stupid, or weird in their life, they'll be single for a good long while.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/18 04:59 PM
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Backing off because you can't defend your point is not debating in good faith, dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/18 04:45 PM
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No. I don't have any social media outside of work. I'm talking about strangers on the street.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/18 04:38 PM
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Your entire argument is that you don't think cat calling, street harassment, and unwanted attention are as common as women claim and that we're all making it up.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/18 04:29 PM
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I guess bragging? Driving a fancy car is fine, posting a million pictures of your fancy car on instagram or driving it around blasting music so people will notice is trashy.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/18 04:27 PM
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So you acknowledge that male desperation is real, but deny that it affects women day to day?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/18 04:23 PM
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None of this is my opinion, dude. It's a fact of life. How can you deny that men in general are much more desperate for sex than women?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/18 04:10 PM
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but wait, I thought you said that unwanted attention and street harassment weren't real? Now it's just a problem for average women?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/18 07:23 AM
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I think you logic needs a tune up. I'll dumb it down as best I can. Almost all women experience semi frequent unwanted male attention. That does not mean that all men are pathetic beggars who follow strangers around. Just enough to bother a lot of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/18 07:19 AM
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Every woman I know has dated.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/18 07:13 AM
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That's because you're analyzing this emotionally rather than rationally.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/18 07:12 AM
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Yes, they do. I get approached much more often than my unattractive friends, and my friends who are more attractive than me even moreso. I think you seriously underestimate how common this is. I get approached by men I don't know wanting my attention/phone number/a date no less than 4 or 5 times a week. It's endless. My turbo hot friends are inundated every single day.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/18 07:10 AM
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What area would that be? The moon?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/18 07:05 AM
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go ahead and give it a try.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/18 07:05 AM
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Pretty much, ya
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/18 07:04 AM
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Attractive women get catcalled more often
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/18 11:59 PM
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I've never known a single woman who gets hot on that infrequently. Do you know a lot of shy and unattractive women?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/18 11:54 PM
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I'm not going to try to convince you that an extremely common, normal part of everyday life is a reality. I know better than to argue with people that deep in denial and isolated from society. I can assure you that there's no massive conspiracy afoot here.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/18 11:47 PM
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You must not get out much
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/18 10:49 PM
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Are club sluts worse than pathetic men begging for attention?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/18 10:03 PM
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No one likes being bothered going about their day to day business. Use you common sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/18 10:03 PM
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And you're privileged for having dozens of dumpsters to eat from.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/18 09:49 PM
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Approaching random women in public is pathetic, in my opinion. I have never and would never respond positively to being hit on in public. Most women wouldn't. If you don't want to be seen as pathetic, don't do pathetic things.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/18 09:48 PM
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80% of men dont follow women around like pathetic beggars, dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/18 09:11 PM
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In this scenario, yes. If we had discussed and agreed to it beforehand (something I've done before many times for this very thing), then no.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/18 08:42 PM
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I dunno. Sounds super far fetched to me, but I dont know her or her situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/18 08:41 PM
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A tiny minority of the least attractive women
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/18 08:40 PM
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It's possible to accept it as inevitable and still think its fucking annoying. I understand that I cant leave the house in shorts without getting yelled at or followed. Thats just a fact. That doesn't mean I like it. It also doesn't mean I'm going to wear a snowsuit in July to avoid it. Gotta roll with the punches sometimes. Acceptance =/= approval.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/18 06:36 PM
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Perhaps she doesn't get out much. Or she's lying. Or she is simply totally oblivious. I find it extremely difficult to believe any woman would have never been catcalled, but I'm sure it's possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/18 06:31 PM
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So back to your original point. Why do you think women are bragging about a fact of life that happens to everyone?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/18 06:29 PM
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If unwanted attention was about beauty, only beautiful women would experience it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/18 06:19 PM
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Do you think people begging you dor change are trying to tell you that you look wealthy and successful?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/18 06:07 PM
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You could go have coffee with a panhandler, too. Im sure theyd be vert grateful.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/18 05:46 PM
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I can see a very plain woman who doesn't leave the house much not getting attention. My friend is unattractive, but shes also out there socializing and playing in a band.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/18 05:45 PM
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Not trashy, but I did grow up poor and stayed poor until my early thirties
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/18 05:43 PM
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If you think men are following women around calling them "pretty", then you are extremely naive.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/18 05:18 PM
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Attractive women get hit on more, but unattractive women still get tons of attention. I've spoken a lot about my closest friend here. Shes obese and plain in the face. She still gets followed home from the bus, catcalled, and has to sift through the sexually explicit harassing messages on her band's social media to book a gig. Male desperation knows no boundaries.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/18 05:17 PM
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Sure, maybe some women might get an ego boost from it. Most of us understand that we could have a foot growing out of our foreheads, 500K in debt, and weigh 400 lbs and still get bombarded. There is nothing cute or flattering about male desperation. Are you flattered by being hounded by panhandlers?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/18 05:12 PM
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Bragging about being bombarded with male attention is like bragging about getting a lot of spam emails. Women understand that unwanted male attention is not personal, thats why its not an ego boost. These guys will hit on literally any woman. It's just fucking annoying.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/18 04:49 PM
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Q4All: Do you think the stigma against sex work is an injustice and will / should it ever expire? "Injustice" isn't the right word. People have varying opinions on sex work, and society's general attitudes about it are always evolving and changing. From holding prostitutes in high regard as women of status within the community, to being considered worthless scum. I personally consider being a sex worker/hiring sex workers as a totally morally and ethically neutral thing. I think it's a legitimat…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/18 04:19 PM
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I don't understand why some people find flashy wealth attractive. I think it's incredibly trashy.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/18 03:50 PM
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Yes, but as time goes on you have to create the feeling.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/18 03:30 PM
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Not my thing. I'm sure plenty of women wouldn't mind, especially those who've had work done themselves. I live and work in Hollywood, so men having plastic surgery or cosmetic procedures are not uncommon.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/18 07:12 AM
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I have a friend right now with 5 clients. She says one of them is too nervous to fuck but pays her for her time anyway. She's been doing this professionally for years and says it's not uncommon. Some men want the girlfriend experience but don't want to have sex for personal or religious reasons. Others want to have sex but prefer to build up to it over time.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/18 11:50 PM
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Why? It seems to be pretty beneficial to sugar babies. I know a few women who've earned serious money doing it. Some if them got paid without even sleeping with the Johns.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/18 11:16 PM
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Men desire security and companionship, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/18 11:14 PM
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sugar babies are just hookers with a more longterm arrangement than traditional prostitutes.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/18 08:03 PM
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Absolutely. Learning when to shut up is vital. As is getting used to not getting your way all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/18 06:48 PM
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I'm no longer single but I tried this. We could not make it work romantically and only lasted about two months. We stayed friends and have been buds for about 11 years now. We double date all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/18 05:15 PM
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Comfort also builds attraction. The fire and butterflies of a new relationship is slowly replaced with devotion and shared life experiences. Having coffee with your partner of ten years in your pajamas might not be exciting as having a first date, but it is special on it's own. I'm sure you have a mix of old friends and new friends, right? As fun as it is to meet new people and have new experiences, there is something special about sharing the mundane day to day life with someone who has known y…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/18 04:50 PM
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Relationships constantly change. Seven years in, there are days I can't keep my hands off my boyfriend, waxing poetic how wonderful he is. There are also days when I literally want to punch him in his face and move out. People often make the mistake of believing longterm love is something you feel, when it is in reality something you do. It requires daily choices, actions, and willingness to power through the rough spots together. Truly, the really good stuff is just on the other side of the shi…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/18 04:38 PM
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Can fuck your life up just as badly
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/18 08:07 AM
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Any of us could have gone in that direction. Easily. Everythime I see a cracked out crazy old punk lady begging change, I think "that's me". Luckily I got sober and made a good life for myself. Still a punk tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/18 04:52 AM
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I'd like to add as someone else who's been in the scene for a few decades that once it's in you, it's in you. There's no leaving. It doesn't matter how old I get or where I move, I always end up hanging with some dude named Scum and getting someone else's blood on me at a Tuesday night house show. You can't ever really unpunk yourself once you're in. I've met tons of intriguing and creative people this way, but also dangerous and batshit ones. Its lead me to all kinds of crazy situations. From d…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/18 03:30 PM
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Heads up, "straight edge" is a specific type of punk that is totally sober and often vegan. They are often super hardcore. It's a scene in itself. If you're hanging with actual punks, describing yourself that way might be confusing. Unless you want to embrace that lifestyle and culture, use a different word like "square".
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/18 03:21 PM
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He has told me many times that he loves to watch me at work. Probably because I'm the boss and he is impressed with my competence with my particular job. He commonly mentions that he thinks I'm smart and funny. He's said several times that I "bring the vibe up" wherever I go. He likes that I get along with his family and friends. And also he thinks I'm hot and tells me that everyday.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/18 03:05 PM
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If you have no friends and are truly lonely, go be of service to someone who has it worse than you. Maybe go talk to an elder who really is dying alone and listen to their story. Loads of elders in retirement homes have no visitors ever, and they all have interesting stories. Maybe volunteer with a meals on wheels program, soup kitchen, or cleanup crew. Being charitable with your time cures loneliness.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/18 03:01 PM
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Not on it's own, no
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/18 08:35 PM
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Most of life's most extreme disappointments are the result of faulty expectations. If you want to be happy or at least not miserable, adjust your expectations or let go of them altogether.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/18 04:48 PM
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Both, usually. Doesn't really matter. At the end of the day, the results are the same
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/18 04:18 PM
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I literally said it's a positive change for everyone
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/18 04:17 PM
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The pursuit of romance and love is bound to disappoint in one way or the other. Either by failure to succeed, or succeeding and realizing the harsh realities of the fantasies you held. Best to enjoy the process of pursuit and stay out of the results. Or enjoy the process of not pursuing and still stay out of the results. date or don't date, marry or stay single, have children or don't. Whatever choice you make, you'll be bound to question yourself and risk regret.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/18 04:15 PM
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My point is that this is a positive change for everyone involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/18 03:13 PM
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Right, that's my point. Modern women give respect based on their own standards of what constitutes it. Men now have to work for something they used to get for free.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/18 03:09 PM
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You're essentially referencing the old idea that women should respect and obey their husbands, simply for being their husbands. Modern women don't believe that simply being A Man is enough to earn respect. Respect is now based on merit and behavior, not tradition and birthright.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/18 03:02 PM
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I don't respect men because they desire or demand my respect. I respect men who are competent enough to inspire my respect. No one worth my respect will have to fight for it. If you're struggling for power, you've already lost.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/18 02:58 PM
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Work is generally not a good place to actively look for dates. That said, it's very common that coworkers develop feelings for each other in a work environment, and tons of couples meet that way. Just know that every risk that comes along with normal dating is amplified in a work setting,and the stakes are high. Use extreme caution.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/18 02:08 PM
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I wouldn't call it formal. I prefer to talk to my partners about general stuff like expectations for the relationship and feelings before fucking commences. I don't wish to create a situation in which someone ends up hurt if I can avoid it. I wouldn't have casual sex with someone I wanted a committed relationship with, or someone who wanted to have a committed relationship with me. Recipe for trouble.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/18 02:04 PM
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No. I would not interested in any guy in my age range that is still a virgin.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/18 07:07 AM
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For me, it means sex with a person with whom I have a mutual agreement that we are not pursuing a monogamous relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/18 07:01 AM
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Right. You are free to stare and I am free to judge you as rude or creepy. I am free to seek an abortion and you are free to judge me as immoral.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/18 06:59 AM
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where's the double standard?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/18 06:12 AM
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That's good advice. I can't fuck in a messy or smelly house. Instant loss of respect.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/18 05:09 PM
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Most of that list could apply to stuff going on before sex starts happening, like suddenly being a dick or saying you don't want to use a condom. I've gone home with dudes with the intention to fuck and made an excuse to leave for much less, like him being a terrible kisser or having a dirty house. Ya the crying thing is pretty bad. Happened to me once. I felt bad for the dude but holy shit did it completely ruin the mood.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/18 04:58 PM
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Try for yourself. Don't take my word for it. Find some pictures of a super hot dude and see what happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/18 04:55 PM
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I mean, ya. Not in a moral or ethical sense in the least. Just the concept of a bunch of drunk and desperate dudes fucking dolls is a little weird and sounds gross to me. Seems better just to hire a traditional prostitute than to spend good money on a shared masturbation aid. But to each their own! That said, I don't think the type of guys who want to spend money on fucking inanimate objects are terribly interested in my opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/18 04:46 PM
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Tons of my friends use tinder, including mu friend who is currently staying in my house. It is a sex delivery service. Try making an account with a handsome guy. You'll see.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/18 04:42 PM
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Here's some stuff I've experienced and that my friends have experienced. guy takes condom off guy becomes too rough guy not responding to verbal cues like "ouch" or "slower", etc one friend had to stop because the guy's dick smelled so bad another friend stopped because the guy started crying my old roommate stopped because the guy confessed he was a virgin immediately before they were about to bone
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/18 04:40 PM
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Lol. Tinder is not for expensive dates dude. Its usually just an arrangement to go straight to the person's house to fuck. Unbelievable delusion dude. How can you be so in the dark?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/18 04:34 PM
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So if you're already inside her and she tells you to stop, you just keep going?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/18 04:33 PM
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I've had to withdraw consent at that stage once, and I'm pretty sure just about everyone would agree that I did the right thing. It was a guy I had been seeing for awhile and we had just had sex for the first time the night before with no issues at all. We were waking up in the morning and started kissing/touching, and then I stopped and told him we should stop because we were out of condoms. He seemed to agree and we both started drifting back to sleep. About 20 minutes later he straight up tri…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/18 04:31 PM
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It can be, yes. It's usually rude at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/18 04:23 PM
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A brain scan would prove I had an orgasm. So even you aren't sure you've had one? hmmm No single woman on Earth would just walk up to a handsome stranger and ask him for sex. None. LOL. Dude this literally happens every single day. Ever heard of tinder? Fuck buddies?So delusional Sex is a currency for women, they might give it away very rarely, like for charity, but almost all the time they use it to barter. And just like you can enjoy doing chores or working at a job, a woman can enjoy sex. But…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/18 04:23 PM
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Ejaculation never happens without orgasm except in rare abnormalities. Not all that rare. Sexual dysfunction is pretty common for both genders. How do you know you've had an orgasm? I don't think you have "Female sexuality" is a modern myth created out of male sexual fantasy rather than scientific analysis. Sex is just the price women are willing to pay for a relationship with men, which is what they really want. Desire for sex is literally the driving force for humanity. We evolved because we l…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/18 04:05 PM
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I think they're likely uneducated and I disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/18 03:59 PM
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Stoners are fucking annoying, but drunks are dangerous. Stoner it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/18 08:25 AM
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I could say the same for you. Ejaculation without orgasm does happen. Maybe you're horribly defective and have never had an actual orgasm.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/18 08:18 AM
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Right. Because it does not exist
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/18 04:15 AM
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Shit troll effort
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/18 09:52 PM
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lol you think masturbation is a "hobby"? What the fuck do you think the point is?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/18 09:05 PM
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This is one of those things where you have to just go with your gut. Are you comfortable pretending like it never happened and moving on for the sake of peace? Do that. Are you upset and violated by her actions? Say something. I would probably ignore this if it happened once, but if she does it again you should probably shut it down.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/18 08:58 PM
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Ask yourself this Why would women masturbate and buy personal sex toys if they can't orgasm and only have sex to please a man?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/18 08:46 PM
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Women's sex toys are a multi billion dollar industry my dude
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/18 08:40 PM
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I'd say 85% of my partners have been able to make me orgasm consistently. I'm able to make myself orgasm 100% of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/18 08:36 PM
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Can you show me the protests or proposed legislation aimed at ending criticism?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/18 04:37 PM
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She seems like an obsessive type. I've encountered guys like this, who become infatuated with me for long periods of time even though I haven't given them the time of day. I chalk it up to a perception issue and low self esteem. These people tend to put the objects of their desire on a pedestal, ignoring their negative traits and projecting an unrealistic perfection onto them. It's harmful to them and unfair to the objectified individual. Even if their crush did come around and decide to be with…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/18 04:26 PM
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I hope you know that slogan comes from the protest effort for legal rights, not personal judgment. No one is trying to make it illegal to have opinions. Just like no one is trying to make it illegal for you to do rude things like stare at people in a creepy way.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/18 04:03 PM
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Right. Nowhere does it say they want to control their bodies without judgment. Everyone has the same amount of body autonomy, and everyone else is allowed to criticize or disagree with how they choose to control their bodies. You are free to get a tattoo on your face. Employers are free to reject you for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/18 04:13 AM
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And you have that freedom. Now ask yourself why you should be exempt from judgment. What makes you special?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/18 02:34 PM
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Tell that to older, childless, unmarried men.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/18 02:19 PM
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On a societal and group level, men and women are equally vital. On an individual/personal level, women are more valuable to men than men are to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/18 02:18 PM
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As opposed to the constant bitching from the men here about not getting NSA casual sex from attractive partners? lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/18 02:16 PM
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Why are you assuming monks were happy? A lot of monks were forced into that lifestyle
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/18 02:14 PM
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My personal belief is that everything would be fine if humans were perfect and never acted out or made mistakes, ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/18 02:13 PM
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Yes, it does. You want to be able to engage in rude and antisocial behavior without being judged and criticized. You want to be treated special. No one gets that luxury.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/18 02:11 PM
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I would be judged as rude if I walked up to you and told you your outfit made you look ugly.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/18 07:16 AM
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What's wrong with that opinion?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/18 04:03 AM
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What good do you think it will do to continuously try to get us to sign off on your mentally ill, obsessive rants?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 10:16 PM
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Maybe try to calm down a bit before you respond so you make sense?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 07:02 PM
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Getting angry because you don't understand basic operations of higher courts is such a strange reaction. Google is free and this is high school level stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 06:36 PM
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If you're honestly interested in how this could happen, here's an article that explains it in pretty basic terms. https://www.theguardian.com/world/2017/feb/25/could-roe-v-wade-be-overturned-and-abortion-outlawed-in-the-us restrictions on th eperformance of abortion and abortion clinics do NOT "overturn" RvW See my original comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 06:19 PM
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i cant be ignorant of YOUR VISION of a SPECIFIC LAW OR CASE that could POSSIBLY MAKE IT to the supreme court to overturn precedent as solid as RvW There are MANY potential cases that could do this. There's one in process right now in Mississippi where they are pushing for illegal restrictions to challenge RvW. A state court could introduce legislation to ban abortion at any time. All it takes is one case to make it to the top. You are too dumb to answer my q because you are too fucking dumb to u…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 06:15 PM
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Is that a good tradeoff to you? A sexless life to avoid the possibility of getting an infection that could most likely be cleared up as easily as strep throat or pink eye?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 05:56 PM
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I'm pretty surprised at your level of ignorance on this subject, honestly. Historically, precedent is overturned by a few different strategies. The most common and most likely for RvW is lower level courts introducing blatantly unconstitutional legislation with the intention of bringing about a court battle. For example, illegal restrictions or outright banning of abortion services. The goal is, of course, to bring the case to higher courts and eventually to the supreme court to challenge and pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 05:53 PM
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By an individual or group bringing a case challenging precedent to the supreme court. Is this a serious question?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 05:27 PM
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Ever heard of Roe V Wade?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 05:20 PM
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So you're comfortable only having sex like 2 or 3 times in your life, even if you're married?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 04:32 PM
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I believe that a conservative/liberal majority can and does have the ability to reduce, chip away at, or eliminate precedents and rights. Because that's a fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 04:25 PM
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Young women want boyfriends, not daddies. They want someone they can have a good time with, go to concerts, get drunk at a party on a Saturday night, go dancing, hang out with their friends, share hobbies and interests, and fuck like bunnies. Boyfriends are supposed to be fun. No 21 year old girl is dreaming of a sleepy, boring, predictable life in the suburbs.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 04:22 PM
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A little under 2 years
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 04:18 PM
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What? People judge the fuck out of women who seek abortions
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 04:17 PM
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Too long a story to tell in detail. Basically we both loved each other very much, but outside forces seemed hellbent on tearing us apart to the extent that it would have been comical if it weren't so fucking sad. Illness, death, family issues, career changes, you name it. We faced every conceivable relationship hurdle within the first year and we simply couldn't hold it. If I believed in fate, I would say we weren't meant to be. It's extremely difficult to break it off clean when there's so much…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 08:33 AM
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No one gets to do whatever they want without facing judgment. You aren't special. People have the right to have opinions about you
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 08:25 AM
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ya you seem to be having a very difficult time indeed
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 06:20 AM
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You can do whatever you want, and the rest of us are free to judge/shane/reject you
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 06:19 AM
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I actually really enjoy cleaning, but I half-ass folding clothes neatly
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 04:40 AM
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you're obsessive revenge fantasies only prove my point
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 04:40 AM
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If you really believed you were winning, you wouldn't be so desperate for approval.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 02:20 AM
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lol if I wanted an emotionally stunted boyfriend with a victim complex I could find one in about 5 minutes
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 12:56 AM
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Because you're probably gross
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 11:08 PM
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And me choosing to date a low quality, ugly loser would help, according to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 11:03 PM
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Why would men like that be of any interest to me? I have everything I want and more. I don't see how a few angry dudes or some people with different opinions and preferences would effect me and my general happiness.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 10:59 PM
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so mass murders and rapes happen because I date high quality men?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 10:56 PM
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You don't know what a freudian slip is. Where have I shamed you?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 10:55 PM
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Nothing bad has happened. No reason to believe it will.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 10:44 PM
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Lose weight and take better care of your skin and you're average.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 10:38 PM
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I think I'll just keep doing what I'm doing
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 10:36 PM
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Why do you care about me and my man? Why should I give a fuck about your hobbies?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 10:32 PM
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Where have I shamed and why would you care if I did?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 10:32 PM
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If failure means a beautiful home, a loving partner, a good job, and a very good dog, good friends and good health, then I'll take it :)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 09:56 PM
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Why are you whining about being "shamed"?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 09:55 PM
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So you're simply an oversensitive crybaby victim who thinks it's not faaaaiiiiirrrr. Cool. No one gives a fuck. Stop threatening to go away and just do it. No one us going to chase you.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 09:47 PM
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Society is because going to shit because men are withdrawing you cunt. And yet you remain desperate for societal approval.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 09:45 PM
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But there's plenty of ways to get potassium without eating bananas. Why should I choose bananas in particular?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 09:42 PM
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Why do you give a shit what "society" thinks? Go your own way, dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 09:39 PM
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Lol, the deranged narcissism. Hey I don't like bananas and I think they're super gross. Convince me to eat bananas.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 09:38 PM
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Why on earth do you think anyone would give a shit enough to convince you? Go your own way already.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 09:15 PM
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Most women have a few boyfriends between the high school and college and settle in their mid twenties. Most women don't engage in rampant hookups and casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 08:46 PM
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That complex is a problem for men, not women. It's a perception issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 08:15 PM
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Ah, but that "attention" doesnt need to be physical (as in, focused on someone's physical attraction). No, but it often is no matter how a woman dresses. Any woman will tell you that she gets approached and hit on by strangers wearing a baggy sweatshirt and jeans just as often than if she's wearing a sundress. This has NOT been my experience. At all. What's your idea of "modest clothes"? Garments that cover the skin and have a loose fit, usually.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 08:14 PM
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But you CAN control how you dress and present yourself. Sure, but any presentation you could possibly choose is going to attract attention from a certain type of man. There's no getting around it. plenty of people have begun and concluded their judgment of me based purely on how I look That's what I'm saying. If someone dresses promiscuously, they're going to be seen as promiscuous, and catch the attention of promiscuous people. Similarly, if someone dresses modestly, they're going to be seen as…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 07:38 PM
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That has little to do with how much importance she puts on her own looks, though. We can't really control how certain men react to us. I might not think of how attractive I am very often, but men sure do. Because I am attractive, plenty of people have begun and concluded their judgment of me based purely on how I look, either positively or negatively. Men who are only interested in me because of my appearance are generally easy to spot and are annoying. It does get old. That said, there's plenty…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 07:07 PM
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Because people like the way it looks
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 07:00 PM
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Eh, I don't think about my looks that much. I put moderate effort into being presentable and attractive before I go out in the world and occasionally take a second to admire myself. It takes up a pretty small amount of my energy when compared to everything else that I think about throughout the day. I probably think about my dog twice as much as my hair or makeup.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 06:55 PM
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Oh jeez I do not have the time and energy to give you a basic education on what SC neutrality is and why it's important. There's a reason this has been a unanimously agreed upon standard for all of the supreme court's history. I'll try to find some high school level lessonsn about it for you, although something tells me that you lack the basic intellectual curiosity to actually learn about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 05:44 PM
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Neutrality is not an issue of liberal va conservative ruling history. Every justice has an affiliation. Neutrality is a matter of public declarations and spoken allegiance to a certain party or body of thought. Have you seriously never learned about this? Are you American?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 05:31 PM
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There's never been an issue with neutrality with a woman SCJ. Neutrality issues are extremely rare, only a few justices have ever been in hot water about it. You don't seem to be especially educated on supreme court history.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 05:13 PM
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Not the Supreme Court. Justices have been run out for being personal friends with the president. The standards for neutrality for SCJs have always been exceptionally rigid.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 05:05 PM
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But as there is an online hatred against guys who dont "Man up" or "Do the right thing", Im trying to understand the incentive. I've never seen any shaming attempts directed at men who don't want to be stepdads, but I suppose there could be an argument for this in certain situations. I remember a thread here a long time ago where a guy was upset because the gal he loved had a kid and she wouldn't date or commit to him unless he wanted to take on something like a parenting role, and he didn't thi…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 05:03 PM
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I'm more concerned about his partisan outbursts. This is the only era in American history in which that would be considered even remotely acceptable. It's a crazy world right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 04:52 PM
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Still, the women here have the least insight on this topic. We only know what men have told us and what we've observed. Basic observation tells us that millions of men don't seem to have a problem with blended families. Many of us come from blended families ourselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 04:46 PM
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Stay at home parents in general are exceptionally rare and aren't a viable option for the vast majority of families. Not sure why this would or should be an issue for any group to focus on.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 04:16 PM
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This is probably a question that would be better for step dads, don't you think? My ex married a woman with a toddler a few years after we broke up. We talked about it a bit. First and foremost, he was in love with her and they were/are a great match. He very much wanted to be a dad, and he thought of her as automatically vetted because he was impressed with her parenting skills and her son. I don't know her well, but she does seem like a real catch and her son is very well behaved and adorable.…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 04:12 PM
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Why are you stupid? https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Roe_v._Wade
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 03:23 AM
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It is a constitutional right
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/18 10:54 PM
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An average assimilated dude or an average culturally Indian dude?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/18 10:53 PM
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So you're arguing that most men never get girlfriends? C'mon dude
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/18 10:30 PM
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Most fat guys get girlfriends
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/18 09:54 PM
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Your interpretation requires blatantly ignoring the fact that most men are unwilling to go to the lengths necessary to gain primary custody. There's no additional obstacles for men simply for being men. Women are simply more likely to put in the work to make it happen. No one said it's a cake walk. Custody court sucks balls.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/18 09:53 PM
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Is the Indian guy fully assimilated?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/18 09:48 PM
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Narcissism at it's finest. They forget about you ten seconds after you walk away.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/18 09:42 PM
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Maybe like a week if I were sick or injured. I'm a woman
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/18 09:30 PM
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Again, I've never been divorced, and certainly hope not to. Though I do believe my father at one point had to pay for both lawyers in one of his divorces. That's neither the law, nor common practice. If your father paid for both lawyers, its because he made a personal agreement to do so, for whatever reason. Either that or he committed a crime against his ex. Are women ever expected to do the same thing? And if so, would that not be an example of a circumstance in which the favor is lopsided in …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/18 05:31 PM
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The "wiring on the wall" is that his chances are as good as the mothers if he's willing to do everything the mother is willing to do. Most men don't end up with primary custody because they don't want it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/18 05:18 PM
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Fat men don't deserve to date and fuck fit women.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/18 05:01 PM
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"Fat guys want to bang fit chicks" Ya, duh. No one cares.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/18 04:57 PM
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Child support is usually determined by custody, but other factors effect it such as income of the individual parent. Child support agreements are also usually made by the parents and their lawyers, and are only determined by a judge in a minority of cases. They are also regularly modified depending on circumstances. For example, my dad was in a custody battle for a few years in the early eighties with an oopsie baby he had with his college girlfriend. During the years long litigation, she had pr…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/18 04:41 PM
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Family courts are heavily lopsided in favor of the parent who spends the most time with the child, and almost always rule in favor of whichever parent is willing to see the whole court process through to the end. About 80% of fathers agree to shared custody or no custody before the court can rule. Fathers who stick it out have just as good a chance as the mother for shared or full custody. Most custody agreements are made between the parents and their lawyers, not a judge.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/18 04:29 PM
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Women don't want to date fat people either. When it comes to obesity in the dating market, it's a draw for men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/18 04:24 PM
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Usually, but I bring my dog and my mace with me just in case. I was badly assaulted walking home from a bust stop some years ago, and it was certainly not a "rough neighborhood" by any stretch. It can happen anywhere. That's why I have a large dog who barks at strangers.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/18 04:19 PM
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Most men are fat, too
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/18 04:17 PM
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Pumping and dumping is not nearly as common as incel types wanna believe
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/18 04:03 PM
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A very sexy, charming dude with a good job who treats me sweet
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 09:10 PM
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Completely false. You have some serious misconceptions about alcohol. http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/story/2010/11/01/ST2010110101970.html https://www.webmd.com/mental-health/addiction/news/20101101/alcohol-more-harmful-than-crack-or-heroin
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 05:12 PM
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Alcohol is one of the most addictive substances on the planet and is responsible for more deaths than all other drugs combined. Powdered cocaine, contrary to common misconceptions, is not as addictive and many other drugs and is pretty fucking hard to overdose on. Overdoses from powdered cocaine alone are rare. Once you move on to smoking and shooting crack cocaine, the story changes.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 05:01 PM
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Yup, I see it all the time. I wouldn't hesitate to date an Indian dude if he were fully westernized. I have no interest in involving myself with Indian culture, but I know plenty of Indian dudes (and Korean dudes and Turkish dudes and Somalian dudes and Pakistani dudes) who are just as American as anyone else and date just like any average white guy. Cultural preference is not racist or superficial. It's an extremely factor in compatibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 04:51 PM
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Women that are second gen peer hate you and want anglo guys in a desperate ploy to be accepted and assimilated Then assimilate. It's not racist to be hesitant to date someone from a totally different culture than your own. That shit matters. It says a lot about your values and expectations of your potential partners, especially if your culture of origin is ultra religious or repressed. If you want to date/fuck/marry people of a certain culture, the best thing to do is to become part of that cult…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 04:40 PM
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Safer than alcohol and less addictive
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 04:21 PM
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Depends on the occasion.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 04:20 PM
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Your life will improve if you seek out a thorough, official diagnosis. There is no cure for autism, but there are tons of resources and tools out there to help you navigate and improve your social skills. It's all available to you. Or let's say you're right and everyone else is wrong and you aren't autistic. Why not have a professional rule it out once and for all? You seem to have a very similar level and presentation of autism as my brother. Because he accepts his diagnosis and takes advantage…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 04:18 PM
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women 14 to 16
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 09:16 PM
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The end result of a lifetime of a lack of accountability and a gas fueled victim complex
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 09:13 PM
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Stop seeking advice you have no intention of following through with. You are wasting everyone's time including your own.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 07:44 PM
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You have no respect for people's time. No one is interested in your long winded delusions.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 06:46 PM
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No one says looks don't matter. They just don't matter as much as incels believe they do.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 06:13 PM
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I've never noticed a trend of the women here claiming to hate men. Which users are you talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 04:57 PM
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eh, regret is a strong word. There have been a few throughout the years that left me wondering what it would have been like. Nothing more than a fleeting thought. Obviously if it were actually that important, I would have done it
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 07:26 AM
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no, pumping and dumping
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 04:37 AM
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Agreed
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 04:36 AM
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That doesn't happen nearly as often as TRP wishes it did, in my experience
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/18 11:35 PM
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Most of them, ya.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/18 10:49 PM
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Is autism "in your head"?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/18 10:43 PM
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That's the easy part!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/18 10:33 PM
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Getting along with someone isn't enough to maintain a strong relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/18 04:19 PM
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Certainly there are plenty of good men. The trick is finding one that you're personally compatible with and share similar visions for the future
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/18 04:00 PM
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Getting a boyfriend is easy. Getting a good boyfriend and maintaining a longterm, stable relationship that is fulfilling and happy is not. It takes some luck and a lot of hard work.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/18 03:48 PM
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Yup. And men with "another woman" lose their right to claim that they don't like drama.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/18 03:29 PM
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3 people have proposed to me
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/18 08:14 AM
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Depends on the girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/18 08:14 AM
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if you want to identify that way, of course.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/18 07:03 PM
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H's?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/18 07:02 PM
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My boyfriend. He blocked my car in and left for a 2 hour run. I was hoping to go to trader Joe's.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/18 07:01 PM
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So if she makes a different choice, like to love someone else, he will still love her the same?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/18 06:23 PM
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So you think a guy would love his girlfriend just as much if she gained 80lbs, started drinking heavily, quit her job and started fucking other people? And if a man could love an intimate being just the same as a complex human, why aren't sex dolls enough?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/18 06:00 PM
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But an old person vs. a young person, rules of harassment can't apply differently to them. You might personally feel less imposed upon by a kindly old man, and if you wanted to let it slide that'd be your prerogative, but as far as objective standards for everybody about what is and isn't harassment, they have to apply equally. Regardless of age or sex or ethnicity. This is how autistic folks and people with poor social skills get themselves into trouble. Certain behaviors are more acceptable fr…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/18 04:12 PM
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How is a man loving a woman for "who she is" anything other than a response to her performance?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/18 03:59 PM
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"Well this person's my boss and this person's my bartender, so it is/isn't harassment even though it would be if someone else said it." That's exactly right. That's why you can discipline your own child, but not someone else's. That's why it's appropriate for your doctor to ask about your sexual history, but not your teacher. That's why it's ok to give your friend a hug, but not a stranger. Do you find yourself confused by basic social rules pretty often?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/18 07:16 PM
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No. Where did you pick up the idea that we should treat all people identically? Do you treat your waitress like your girlfriend? Your boss like your bartender? A child you don't know like your own kid? A toddler like a grown man?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/18 06:52 PM
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Be realistic. When an old man calls a woman baby, it's most likely a paternal nicety. If a 20something calls a woman baby, he's likely trying to hit on her in a particularly sleazy way. Of course there are exceptions, but it's true by and large. Context and delivery matter a lot. Again, I think "harassment" is too strong a word for a single event like this, but it's definitely cringey and weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/18 05:50 PM
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Labeling that "harassment" seems pretty harsh without knowing more about context, but I do think it's a little weird. If it makes you uncomfortable, you are completely justified in asking her to stop. If she continues, then she's approaching harassment territory. If she's just some maternal older lady who means no harm and you're not bothered by it, let it go. I tend to give older people a bit of slack. I don't mind if a sweet old grandpa calls me "sweetheart", but it's super cringey when a youn…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/18 03:40 PM
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People who aren't assholes usually monitor their behaviors based on the individual they are interacting with. I'm a woman, and my preferred method for communication is pretty direct and blunt. I have learned that my preferred method does not always go over well with more sensitive types. Because my intentions are not to hurt people or pick fights, this means I have to censor myself quite a bit. My boyfriend and my closest friends tend to be the kind of people who can give it out and also take it…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/18 03:35 PM
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And yet you still can't explain exactly what you mean other than rhat
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/18 03:26 PM
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So, pity fuck?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/18 07:44 AM
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It depends on the case, but police departments have been found accountable for false convictions and even some false charges
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/18 07:43 AM
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What would you like "people like me" to do?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/18 04:57 AM
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Well then you should be able to answer the question of what, exactly, the individual is to do?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/18 11:55 PM
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There's no such thing as a sure thing. For anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/18 09:33 PM
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Ok I see. You're looking for a surefire guaranteed way to get a positive result when approaching women. There isn't one. There are simply certain ways you can increase your chances. For example, not being the guy bothering a woman trying to read on the train.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/18 08:46 PM
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Women who are known to you are not "random". Just don't approach women you don't know outside of social settings. It's weird and people don't like it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/18 08:09 PM
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I was thinking in your scenario that it had progressed to Joe actually defending himself in court. Like a situation where Joe and Jim were at the same party where someone was raped and a date rape drug was used. The victim didn't have enough recollection to know if it was Joe or Jim. The case against Joe might be credible enough where he has to go to court and spend money to defend himself. Again, bringing an innocent person to the point of charges and court is the result of bad policing. Citize…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/18 05:13 PM
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That creates an environment where cops can't go to victims to help them solve crimes. Which is, you know, how cops usually solve crimes. Joe being interviewed and investigated will be a pain in the ass and embarrassing, but unless the cops fuck up, he won't suffer any consequences beyond losing a some hours to aiding an investigation. If anyone is responsible for false convictions, it's the law. I lost 2 days off work and was majorly inconvenienced because I happened to be an eyewitness to a cri…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/18 04:46 PM
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If someone is falsely accused of being a rapist the person being falsely accused should not suffer any consequences (legal or otherwise), but the person making the false accusation should be punished. This is where it gets murky. Victims of violent or traumatic crimes often make mistakes and have fuzzy memory when recounting the events. It is not uncommon for a crime victim to to absolutely sure of the identity of their attacker, and turn out to be wrong. Creating a situation where a crime victi…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/18 04:26 PM
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Who's "we"?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/18 04:12 PM
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One with a mentally, emotionally, and physically well man in which we support one another, have fun, fuck frequently, and have compatible future goals. I'm a woman
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/18 04:09 PM
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It's generally a bad idea to approach random women out in public. I have personally never met a woman who appreciates that. If you're out and see a woman you'd like to talk to, ask yourself "why is she here?". If she's grocery shopping, waiting for a train, or going about her business, assume she wants to be left alone. If she's at a party or a bar or another social setting, introducing yourself might be appropriate.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/18 04:08 PM
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"Alpha" means anything from a cocky, confrontational useless meathead to any decent looking dude who has casual sex. "Beta" means anything from a meek, shy, nerd with a high paying IT career to a normal, non aggresive dude with any job at all. Pretty much all men are a mixture of both. It's no different than the "nice guy" v "bad boy" or "madonna" v "whore" fallacies.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/18 04:01 PM
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That varies depending on the user.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/18 03:44 PM
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Depends on what you mean by alpha and beta. Are alphas all stupid jerkoffs with no jobs? Are betas all wealthy engineers? Most men are decent and most men are financially self supporting. Most women have a few boyfriends before settling with someone they consider "husband material".
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/18 03:37 PM
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Absolutely, but girls learn quickly that Prince Charming is a fantasy, not a realistic expectation.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/18 04:57 PM
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For this guy, anything. But psychedelics in particular.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/18 04:48 PM
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I think boys and girls are probably equally vulnerable to being influenced by cultural influences, but girls are usually awakened to ugly realities earlier than boys. The idea that men have your best interests at heart and are or should be your protectors is smashed the minute she grows tits. It's hard to hold on to a Prince Charming narrative when you're getting cat called and hit on by grown men while walking home from elementary school. Of course some people are more sensitive, more naive, mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/18 04:46 PM
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you haven't actually applied the most basic of all dating advice I have tried to network socially. What seems to work for most normal people to network doesn't seem to work for me. Getting formally diagnosed with autism, working to accept it as who you are, and learning to navigate your limitations as such will do you a world of good. Your stubborn denial isn't serving you. It's not going away.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/18 03:16 PM
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Men who struggle to succeed in dating should swallow their pride and take advice from people who are successful. You are completely unwilling to do that. You should experiment with drugs.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/18 03:13 PM
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I think this matters most when it speaks to subcultures. Punk dudes are going to appreciate a punk aesthetic, preppy dudes are going to appreciate a conservative aesthetic, etc. In my experience, most men aren't going to care so much whether or not a woman's style is en vogue or carefully detailed, but they do notice and care what the individual is trying to communicate using fashion. Often one look is enough to give someone at least a vague idea of the person's general values, from "I love meta…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/18 03:11 PM
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Where's the evidence that it's all connected?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/18 10:13 PM
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You're the only one triggered by facts here, dude
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/18 10:13 PM
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Using data is misandrist?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/18 09:35 PM
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dude. you linked the definition of "restraint". Don't play stupid now.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/18 06:59 PM
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lol. You literally looked up a word I didn't use to try to prove a point. Don't be so lazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/18 06:50 PM
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The word "waiting" implies willingness. Back to 9th grade English Lit with your whack ass. No. It doesn't. At all. wait·ing ˈwādiNG/ noun the action of staying where one is or delaying action until a particular time or until something else happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/18 06:44 PM
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Where's the evidence that it's all connected?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/18 06:41 PM
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Ok, so you're projecting your own meaning onto it to change my statement into suggesting that waiting=willingly waiting. You waited to have sex the same way someone waits in a waiting room for a doctor's appointment or waits for their bus to come. Come on with that weak and silly debate strategy.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/18 06:40 PM
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How does this negate anything I've said? Pretty much everyone ends up fucking. Whether or not they have loads of casual sex partners is not the subject of discussion here, unless your argument is that anyone who doesn't have casual sex with numerous partners is "incel"
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/18 06:30 PM
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you were absolutely abstaining and waiting.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/18 06:30 PM
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Would you prefer "abstaining longer before having sex"? Semantics.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/18 05:58 PM
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How does this negate anything I've said?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/18 05:31 PM
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https://www.livescience.com/13072-sex-stats-virgins-rise.html https://www.businessinsider.com/millennials-lose-virginity-later-than-previous-generations-2018-5 https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2014/03/on-late-in-life-virginity-loss/284412/ All of these studies show that young people are waiting longer than their parents to have sex, and young women in particular. Still, by the mid twenties pretty much everyone is fucking.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/18 04:52 PM
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Yup. You're fucked. /s
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/18 04:37 PM
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No it doesn't. The data shows that young men and women are both waiting until they're a little older to lose their virginity and get married.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/18 04:36 PM
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Correct. Novels were considered a dangerous indulgence in fantasy and a waste of time for decades.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/18 04:33 PM
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There is no "rise of inceldom".
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/18 04:31 PM
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"Incels" have always existed and will always exist. There is no "generation of incels". The internet has simply made them more visible. Pretty much everyone has sex and relationships. "Incels" are a teeny tiny minority. In the past, they just found different ways to pass the time. Either by menial labor and toiling, fighting in war, dying of tuberculosis, or by shutting themselves away to create art or study science (Think Marcel Proust or Nikola Tesla). Video games are not causing anything. The…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/18 04:12 PM
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Making a man wait for sex or playing hard to get
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/18 03:43 PM
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Totally wrong I'm amazed how many incel and terper types have never heard of the free love era.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/18 03:42 PM
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Truly strong men don't struggle to get people to bend to their will. They are simply competent and measured enough that people naturally follow their lead.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/18 04:41 AM
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Absolutely. I get approached by countless men and women when I'm out with my dog because he's so unique looking. They're usually just interested in petting my dog and asking what breed he is, but it is a great way to meet neighbors! The dog park is a great place to find a date.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/18 04:33 PM
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Being a dad is not necessarily a dealbreaker, but I would have to REALLY like a dude (and his kids and his kid's mother) to date him. I would have not even considered it in my twenties. I can imagine this tactic might work with a woman who really wants kids or already has kids. Highly doubtful young women would seek a single dad out, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/18 04:24 PM
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This only makes sense if you hold the belief that people only fuck or want to fuck partners they wish to procreate with. Obviously, this is demonstrably false.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/18 08:42 PM
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If you honestly believe that most people on Tinder are looking for a life partner to start a family with, then you have seriously misunderstood the point. If you want more comprehensive profiles, try match.com. also social IQ correlates to IQ, lmao Not even close to true. Many of mankind's most brilliant minds were completely socially crippled.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/18 08:27 PM
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You're simply displaying your own lack of social intelligence. Try going to a fun house party and talking about organic chemistry or critical theory. See how many people want to stick around. People with well rounded intelligence are able to determine the appropriate venues for specific subjects and interactions. You lack this ability, which is going to make online dating a frustrating and confusing challenge for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/18 08:05 PM
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Intelligent people understand what Tinder is for. It's not for discussing your favorite Borges passage or the French President's current approval polls. It's for finding attractive people to do fun things with, like getting a beer, going to a concert, or casual sex. I don't have a Tinder profile, but if I did I would certainly understand it not to be the place to talk about my experience reading Proust or completing graduate school.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/18 07:34 PM
1

When I was a teenager in the 90s, I got rude comments and the occasional dude who would beg for my attention or not take no for an answer. My 16 year old niece recently posted a picture of herself in 2 different pairs of glasses, hoping that her friends and family might help her pick one. There were over a dozen sexual comments from grown men on her post, from calling her "hot" to telling her they wanted to cover her glasses with jiz. That's the subject here. Are men more desperate, or does it j…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/18 05:41 PM
2

I think OPs point is more about inappropriate displays of desperation/begging.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/18 05:24 PM
1

Well I don't go there to get tits shoved in my face, I go to enjoy the acrobatic dancing. Not that I'm complaining. Everyone loves boobs. I don't think I've ever felt embarrassed. Maybe a bit caught off guard at times.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/18 05:22 PM
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Positive calm and relaxed keenly aware if the needs and feelings of others amazing artistic talent honest/reliable/accountable wit/intelligence Flaws can be defensive and sensitive to people's judgment slides into self pity when depressed doesn't sleep through the night has 600 empty water bottles in the backseat of his car picks petty arguments with his brother
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/18 05:19 PM
2

I've noticed this as well. I enjoy the occasional trip a rad high end strip joint in Hollywood where the girls are seriously professional dancers. Great show, highly recommend. I go with my dude friend a lot and I've noticed that when he leaves a nice tip, he might get a wink or a butt wiggle in his general direction. When I tip I get tits on my face. I assume it's because the dancers feel safer being that playful with women, and also the Male patrons probably enjoy watching that as well. I've n…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/18 05:12 PM
3

Have you ever been to a strip club? I've been given private lap dances, free dances, plenty of groping and I have been given...extras. If the stripper likes you, she'll do plenty of stuff with you. I don't know, I'm not bad looking, maybe its different for other men. I have flirted my way to MANY happy endings. Well I hope you tipped her well. That's why strippers give patrons "extras" to make them feel special. I hope you know that. ​
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/18 05:08 PM
1

I think OP means more visible and obvious
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/18 05:05 PM
1

1: How much do you think about past partners during sex? I don't think I've ever thought about someone other than the person I'm fucking during sex. I do sometimes think about past experiences when I'm masturbating, though. 2: How much do you compare current sex-partners to past sex-partners? There is no real comparing to be done. If I wasn't enjoying sex with my partner, they wouldn't be my partner. Evey guy is different and the experience feels new every time. It's a "whole package" deal. 3: T…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/18 04:50 PM
2

Millenials have fewer sex partners than their parents' generation
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/18 04:40 PM
1

The trick with this one is that is to figure out how to behave as though you're not desperate, even if you are. You wouldn't go into a job interview begging on your knees, no matter how badly you needed the job.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/18 04:38 PM
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No measurable effect whatsoever. I have always outearned him, likely always will. It's a complete non issue. As long as the dude can pull his own weight and isn't a completely unambitious loser, income doesn't matter to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/18 04:32 PM
1

You still haven't explained why you think it's the victims job to solve the crime. "Witness" and "victim" is not a job or responsibility. Witnesses and victims have no legal or moral obligation to catch bad guys, law enforcement does. You can't sue people for not fulfilling obligations that were never theirs to begin with. Let's say I witness a crime. An investigator asks me to describe the clothes the suspect looks like. I say he or she was wearing a purple shirt, and had long dark hair. The co…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/18 03:18 PM
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So you believe turning the victim into a criminal is appropriate? You want to create a system in which victims cannot seek justice unless they are 100% certain of the exact identity of the offender? Holding victims of crimes responsibility for shitty policing? The fuck? Imagine you were badly assaulted but couldn't seek justice because you couldn't remember the color of your attackers eyes or something. Unbelievable.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/18 08:38 AM
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Not necessarily meritless. Accusing the wrong person of a crime doesn't mean no crime happened. Mistaken identity is extremely common, especially in violent crimes. Do you think a victim of a robbery or assault who chooses the wrong person in a police lineup should be punished, or do you think it's the job of the police to determine they have the right person?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/18 08:06 AM
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why? It's law enforcements job to find the right criminal.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/18 06:28 AM
2

Totally false. Happiness for men and women is down and men's suicide is at an all time high
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/18 01:33 AM
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There is no such thing as accidentally raping someone. There are countless cases of victims accidentally accusing the wrong person of a crime.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/18 10:04 PM
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Also cases of honest mistaken identity. Victims of violent crimes often finger the wrong person without any intention whatsoever of ruining an innocent person's life. I had a taste of that when I had to pick a perp in a photo lineup. I was totally convinced I had the right guy, but I was wrong. Luckily, the dude I picked was not charged and the actual criminal went to prison.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/18 10:03 PM
1

you tried!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/18 06:08 PM
1

You had to really stretch to get there. Do you understand that there are legal perimeters for what constitutes abuse?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/18 05:20 PM
1

Your point?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/18 04:55 PM
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I'll try to remember. There's another thread here right now where people are using the argument that focusing on career rather than family are setting themselves up for failure and misery. However studies show that women who are financially independent, unmarried, and child free are equally or more happy than women who marry and have kids, so that's a hollow argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/18 04:32 PM
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Except studies show that women who stay single are equally or more happy than women who marry, whereas men who stay single are less happy than men who marry.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/18 04:29 PM
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The criticism I've recieved here is almost 100% terpers warning me about the doom and misery that awaits me if I don't quit my job, marry my boyfriend, and pop out some babies. Simple revenge fantasy.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/18 04:27 PM
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I can only speak from personal experience of course, but everyone who's "mocked" my career seems to have outdated values and/ or a complete misunderstanding of what it is I do I guess I would fall under the category of "career woman" simply because I've been fortunate enough to be very successful in my chosen field and I'm a pretty well respected authority within the industry. A few men have criticized me by attempting to condescend to me, perhaps in a poor attempt to flirt, that I "shouldn't ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/18 04:19 PM
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done
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/18 04:02 PM
2

Oh ya? Where?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/18 04:01 PM
2

That's a common argument, but it's not supported by statistics. Women who skip motherhood are equally or more happy and healthy than women who have kids across the board
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/18 03:59 PM
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Nope.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/18 03:54 PM
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That's not what I said at all. You do realize there are legal criteria for abuse, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/18 05:52 AM
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Measuring abuse is tricky for a lot of reasons. Severe abuse like beatings and sexual assault is pretty cut and dry, but more insidious things like neglect and emotional/ verbal/ spiritual abuse is harder to identify and measure. Also, what exactly constitutes abuse will differ person to person, district to district. Smacking a severely misbehaving child in rare circumstances is technically abuse in some areas, but I personally wouldn't necessarily label a parent who does it "abusive". Its very …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/18 03:41 AM
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Read the studies I linked yourself
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/18 03:35 AM
2

Dude we're in the same stub. No one's following you
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/18 02:17 AM
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Lewis telling someone to grow up.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/18 09:49 PM
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You're misunderstanding the statistics. There are WAY more mothers raising children than fathers. Therefore, a greater number, but smaller overall percentage of child abusers are mothers. You have 100 apples and 50 bananas. 30 of your bananas are rotten, and 40 of your apples are rotten. Which fruit has the highest likelihood of being rotten?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/18 09:25 PM
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Fathers are twice as likely to abuse children they live with than mothers. Fortunately for the kids, fathers are also much less likely to live with children. Single fathers are also more likely to abuse children than single mothers, but single parents in general are more likely to be abusive. Abuse from fathers is also more severe. Fathers who kill their children tend to wipe out their entire family. Chris Watts and Josh Powell come to mind, just to name two. here's a collection of studies if yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/18 08:38 PM
1

Brazil is not in the US dude
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/18 04:45 PM
1

Ok so you just don't understand what baiting means.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/18 04:44 PM
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Lol. Is that the best you can do to debate my point?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/18 04:37 PM
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I'm pointing out the flaw in your argument. Plenty of women participate in childish dress up, but A LOT more men do.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/18 04:34 PM
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So again, this particular kind of pageantry is dominated by men.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/18 04:26 PM
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Custody should go to the parent who spends the most time raising the child/ children. This is usually mothers. That said, my dad won primary custody of my eldest brother in the late 70s because he was the more stable parent, and most importantly, he saw the legal process all the way though to the end. Most fathers don't do that. About 80% of fathers in custody court request or agree to secondary custody. There are other factors that the court must consider, like the fact that fathers are about t…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/18 04:24 PM
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I'm answering the question I was asked Are you sure you're the right person to give advice? Would you seek career counselling from someone who can't keep a job?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/18 04:17 PM
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Yes. The ones that are good enough to fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/18 04:12 PM
4

Poor men have more partners and children than middle class men here in the US
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/18 04:11 PM
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Yep. Could happen to anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/18 04:10 PM
4

Most men are decent. Almost all men get laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/18 04:08 PM
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I think my standards of a "good man" are fairly universal and common. Still, it's only my opinion. For example, I've always preferred quiet and calm men and other women might prefer more outgoing and boisterous ones. You don't need to fulfill every woman's standards to get laid. You just need to find at least one.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/18 04:07 PM
1

Some hats from one protest compares to a decades old multi billion dollar industry? What?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/18 03:56 PM
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A cautionary tale to all I got pregnant from my ex. We used condoms every single time. The only way it possibly could have happened is there must have been a tear in it so small that neither of us noticed. I think we both had right to complain about that. Shit happens
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/18 03:54 PM
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Can you show data that back up these facts?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/18 07:47 AM
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unlikely, considering that he claims that most people are assholes.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/18 06:26 AM
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In this context, it's simply used to excuse away failure. Short men, poor men, men with small dicks are getting laid as we speak.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/18 06:25 AM
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Good men are everywhere. There's no shortage. Never has been. There's also no shortage of weak men. If you're wondering where the "good women" are, you are most likely not as good a man as you believe yourself to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/18 06:23 AM
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They are people who can't or won't accept their current reality. Some of them are entitled, some are cowards, some are stupid, some are naive, some are chronic victims, and some are simply mishandling a bummer situation. Making demands from unwilling people is an entitled behavior that is very common with the type of guy who bitches about being "friendzoned", but it's not necessary
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/18 06:17 AM
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I think the biggest deal I ever made out of Valentines day was making my then boyfriend a batch of brownies. An ex made me a pretty amazing handmade card once. Pretty sure that's it. I don't like any holidays or obligatory celebrations, even my birthday. I prefer to keep it minimal to nothing. Valentine's day is especially stupid, in my opinion. My boyfriends have all known better than to make a thing about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/18 06:12 AM
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Good men aren't rare
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/18 03:17 AM
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Right. everyone is an asshole except for you
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/18 02:45 AM
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I'm not reading your delusional novel. Just make your point like a normal person
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/18 11:51 PM
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Good men don't get rejected by hundreds of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/18 11:42 PM
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What conditions? Most men figure out how to make friends and put themselves in situations in which they can meet women. A man who hides from social interaction is not attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/18 11:40 PM
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How do you explain the fact that pretty much everyone in these metro areas figures out how to make friends and find dates, but not you?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/18 11:38 PM
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I'm not reading your delusional novel. Just make your point like a normal person
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/18 10:55 PM
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Are you hogtied and stranded in the middle of the Mojave desert?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/18 10:50 PM
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Food can only be thought of as delicious if enough people agree it's delicious. If no one finds the food delicious, it is by definition not delicious. It doesn't matter how convinced the chef is that people should like it. It's up to the people eating it to decide if it's good or not. A man who is not desired by women is, by definition, NOT desirable.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/18 10:43 PM
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If you can't surmount basic social barriers, you are not a high quality man. This delusional obsession of yours is getting old dude. You're completely closed off to the truth and will remain so until you accept the fact that you are not as "good" as you think you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/18 10:36 PM
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telling people you know better than them about what's in their head is sanctimonious as fuck. But ya whatever, go your own way.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/18 10:21 PM
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Good luck trying to help this dude. He is 100% convinced he is a high quality, desirable man and women simply don't understand that.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/18 10:19 PM
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That's your prerogative. Just don't bitch when the inevitable happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/18 10:17 PM
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it's up to you to go meet people, dude
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/18 10:16 PM
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It's obvious to everyone other than OP. He is psychotic in his pursuit to prove that he is A GOOD MAN.... even though he's never met a woman who agrees
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/18 10:01 PM
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Status: being desirable to the most women
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/18 10:00 PM
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Right. And if women aren't attracted to you it's because you're not attractive. A guy can believe he's attractive, but if no woman agrees with him.... he's just wrong
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/18 09:40 PM
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No one is interested in your overly analytical autistic rants. It's very simple. Women decide who the good men are.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/18 09:35 PM
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A YouTube video of one person's opinion isn't evidence. I could find 5 videos that claim the opposite. Any actual data?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/18 09:03 PM
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Women decide which men are fit for dating/sex/ marriage, period. Become what women want or fall behind.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/18 08:59 PM
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What evidence do you have that it's being purposefully exaggerated?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/18 08:18 PM
2

Can you reframe this in a more coherent way? No clue what you're talking about
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/18 07:22 PM
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Apparently not enough to stop it from being mainstream.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/18 05:29 PM
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Seems unlikely to me, but people are weird
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/18 05:19 PM
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No less than bios on dating apps. What's your indication that bullying is socially acceptable?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/18 05:19 PM
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Women who make rude remarks about height on dating apps are raked through the coals on multiple subreddits. Not sure how that indicates it being "socially acceptable". If you're talking about their ability to still get a date, that's simply a matter of bottom feeding men who will fuck any woman. Nothing to do with social graces. Plenty of men will fuck a child molesting, meth addicted homeless woman. People can have whatever preferences they want. Its super easy to not act like an asshole about …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/18 05:16 PM
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Considering that people with high counts tend to date and marry each other, I don't think it really matters. The prudes will find other prudes and the sluts will find other sluts.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/18 05:13 PM
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And yet most women here say they've never been asked
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/18 04:28 PM
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I wouldn't be offended or upset if a guy asked, but I would think it was super weird. Its not a normal thing to probe for.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/18 04:14 PM
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It is acceptable. Just have the basic social skills to not be a turd about it. I'm not interested in dating an obese man, but I don't go out of my way to tell people that or bully overweight men for not meeting my standards. A simple "no thank you" will do.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/18 04:11 PM
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If sticking my hand on a hot stove had a good chance of improving just about every aspect of my life and making me happier in the long-term, you bet I would.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/18 04:03 PM
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It has come up twice that I can recall in casual conversation well into relationships, but I'm certain I was the one who brought it up and it was nothing more than story swapping at the most. One of those guys proposed to me and the other is my partner of 7 years, so even though my number is relatively high it hasn't effected me negatively at all. If a guy ever directly asked during the dating phase, I wouldn't be offended but I would definitely find it deeply weird and a likely sign of serious …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/18 03:48 PM
1

Totally off topic
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/18 03:44 PM
1

"It takes no bravery to do something I fear" you
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/18 03:44 PM
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I've never lied simply because I've literally never been asked. Even once.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/18 08:18 AM
1

I don't know about crying being especially beneficial. I've never found it especially therapeutic. I recently cried for the first time in about 2 years and I certainly didn't feel better when I was done. But if your mom dies or something, ya crying is normal. Men should ask for help from professionals if they are having a mental health crisis. Dumping your problems on a friend or partner might help you feel less isolated, but it's unlikely to do much to solve your problem. Totally unloading on p…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/18 08:10 AM
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If you're honestly trying to claim that being rejected for a casual sexual encounter or request for a date is on par with being rejected after you've invested time, effort, and bared your soul to another person in trust within the context of a committed relationship.... than I have nothing for you. That's delusional.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/18 05:35 AM
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Are you suggesting those events are not completely dominated by men?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/18 09:34 PM
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I don't see masses of women dressed up like super heros, standing in line for children's toys, are creating massive conventions for a tv show for babies, do you?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/18 07:28 PM
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Yep. Everyone is. We've designed a brilliant society in which we live better than royalty of the past without having to commit insane acts of bravery to survive. Good for us. We live pampered lives and die in our sleep when we're 90 years old. This is mostly a good thing, but can cause problems like lack of personal fulfillment, frustration, loneliness from having no outlet for group survival. For men, it also creates a lack of a healthy outlet for violence.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/18 03:30 PM
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The marriage rates are declining, but not as much as divorce. People are simply waiting until they're older to get married compared to previous generations, which both lowers the likelihood of divorce and leaves more young people unmarried. Still, pretty much everyone ends up married or in long-term partnerships.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/18 03:22 PM
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OP referenced the TRP theory on this, which I am addressing. That's the topic. The TRP theory is that women are children and men are adults. OP chose am embarrassingly poor example to try to prove this, considering that the market this woman wrote about and apparently participates in is completely dominated by men.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/18 03:18 PM
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Rare fetishists don't represent the whole male gender. I'm not talking about fetishes only. Grown men obsessing over children's toys, dress up, games, and tv shows us so common it's mainstream. Women, on the other hand, dominate such fields as "adults who cry to get what they want", "adults whose hobbies are 'my cat and food'" etc, and those are not fetishes but more or less appropriate behaviors. And men dominate standing in line overnight for a children's toy and getting inappropriately excite…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/18 03:15 PM
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Who said it was normal? My point is that there are WAY more weird dudes into kid and baby stuff than women. Weirdos come in all varieties, but men dominate the "adults weirdly fixated on things meant for children and babies" market. Following TRP and Atlas' logic, this means men are children.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/18 07:04 AM
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Divorce rates are down and feminism is up, my dude
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/18 02:40 AM
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This issue is that in 99% of cases, it is a bad idea. Worse, it is impossible to tell if you are in the 1% ahead of time. Why would you bet your business/dream/livelihood that it isn't going to blow up somehow later? It is an immature decision at the very least from a business standpoint. Attractiveness, "emotional maturity," and whatever else has nothing to do with it. That's literally true for all business ventures. They're risky by nature. Outside of that, my rule of thumb is that if I feel u…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/18 02:27 AM
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This isn't just projection. Why do you think Eric is hesitant if not for Steve's feelings? If Steve truly didn't give a shit, neither would Eric. Eric is more concerned about fucking up the good group dynamic they have going if it doesn't work out, which is always something to consider when starting a romantic relationship with someone you have an existing friendship with. That's simple pragmatism. Steve has been pushing Eric AND Sara to pull the trigger. He thinks they'd make a great couple and…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/18 02:07 AM
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This is so backwards and packed with projection that I couldn't even begin to set you straight. Believe it or not, some people are capable of high level honesty and emotional maturity. They happen to be those kind of people. Just to be clear, their business is highly successful but couldn't really function if either of them just up and left. They are both totally vital.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/18 01:52 AM
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I am. Using your logic, women are children and men are big giant diaper babies.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/18 12:28 AM
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Just go to any convention. Lousy with manbabies.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/18 12:04 AM
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All the crazy shit in the world is dominated by men because men are evolution's dice roll. Yes. Including acting like children and babies. I guess you could compare the two if you think complaining about paying rent is as crazy as shitting in a diaper or waiting in line for 30 hours to buy a children's toy. I disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/18 12:02 AM
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Honestly I think it's just optics.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/18 11:54 PM
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You have to see that if you're comparing fairly, men are much more likely to be fixated on childish things than women. So if some women are children, A TON of men are even more childish.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/18 11:28 PM
1

What about my little pony?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/18 11:26 PM
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Sure, but comparing apples to apples men take the cake far and away with childish interests and hobbies
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/18 11:26 PM
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Too late to backtrack Atlas. You showed your ass.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/18 11:24 PM
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How many grown men are obsessed with star wars? anime? super heros? comic books? Mario and Luigi?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/18 09:12 PM
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Sure, but nothing compared to grown men obsessed with star wars or anime. Lots of weirdos out there. don't get me wrong, I love star wars, but not enough to play dress up and make believe.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/18 09:11 PM
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If you can't figure out how to work out like a normal person without turning into am obnoxious d bag, that's your fault. No one cares about your leg day.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/18 08:58 PM
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Well they certainly have a lot more evidence to back them up than you do. I've yet to see women line up en masse overnight to buy a children's toy or see a movement of women obsessed with a cartoon made for babies. Have you?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/18 08:48 PM
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Settled then. Men are children.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/18 08:45 PM
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Women don't attend conventions and create massive fandoms for children's toys, games, dress up, and tv shows, but men sure do! AMALT
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/18 08:43 PM
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so if steve and sara broke up 3 years ago, who have they been dating in the meantime? please don't tell me they have been single BFFs hanging out and starting businesses together but not dating anyone else this whole time lol. They've both dated since the breakup. Sara is extremely selective and nervous about dating, and she's only dated one guy seriously and another quite briefly since she broke up with Steve. Steve dates around a bit but only recently became exclusive with someone. They've bot…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/18 08:40 PM
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yes they do https://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/us_58d127f7e4b0be71dcf7e9ba
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/18 08:26 PM
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Everyone here knows that you'd have to be trolling or stupid to think this proves a point. Obsession with childlike things like toys, shows, games, dress up, and diapers is undeniably dominated by men. Both kinky and not. You found an article written by a woman with a weird interest in childlike things, but where are the massive conventions, fandoms, and online communities for women like this? For men, it's mainstream.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/18 08:21 PM
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And yet, baby/ child role playing, obsession with children's toys and tv shows is completely dominated by men
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/18 08:18 PM
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We know. That's why this is so cringey.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/18 08:12 PM
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https://metro.co.uk/2014/05/03/now-we-have-seen-everything-bronies-the-grown-men-obsessed-with-my-little-pony-4716666/ https://www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/inside-adult-baby-fetish-nursery-5100351 https://youtu.be/5C_99XJqIs4 honorable mentions to weeaboo, waifu, grown men at toy conventions, furries, etc. Should I go on?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/18 08:11 PM
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A gymbro isn't just any dude that works out, it's a stereotype of a certain type of guy that obsesses over it, jams up social media with gym selfies and protein shakes, and has little interest in anything other than working out. They're corny, annoying, and boring. No one gives a fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/18 07:57 PM
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How secure is Eric? Is he gonna get weird and jealous during the actual relationship in a way that damages his friendship? Very secure and calm dude. I have a very hard time imagining him getting wound up and jealous in any situation. What are Sara’s lingering feelings for Steve on a scale where 1 is “totally past it” and 5 is “a few drinks on the right night and here we are again?” Not just a "no" but a "fuck no" from both Steve and Sara when people bring up them rekindling their relationship. …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/18 07:51 PM
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I disagree. I think having close friends to bounce stuff off of is healthy
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/18 07:47 PM
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Neither one of them would fuck without being in an exclusive relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/18 07:46 PM
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I've never heard of this movie but goddamn is it appropriate. Just sent that clip to Sara.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/18 05:05 PM
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The second article covers that
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/18 05:03 PM
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If she starts dating his best friend, it will no longer be appropriate to discuss her relationship issues with Steve. That could affect their closeness. Still I say fuck it. They'll figure it out.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/18 04:54 PM
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Edit: If I were Sara, I would be concerned about other guys I met not being as accepting of my friendship with Steve. Eric already knows there's nothing to worry about there. That's a point in his favor for sure. That's a good point
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/18 04:51 PM
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I'm guessing the bigger issue is how close she is with Steve. They hang out pretty much every day.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/18 04:49 PM
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Edit: The only potential problem here is if she had sex with Steve and I'm assuming she did. Not a big fan of a guy getting another guy's leftovers. If Eric can handle a community property type woman shared at one point in time with his friend then all should be fine. That's the thing, Sara is basically the opposite of that kind of woman which is why she's struggling with this. She is in very high demand. Every guy I know wants to date her and she's extremely selective, almost to a fault. Eric i…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/18 04:48 PM
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I think Sara's hesitation comes from the reality of Steve's heavy involvement in any romantic relationship with Eric, considering how close they all are. I pointed out to her that Steve has been her go-to friend for romantic advice, so she'll have to find someone else to talk to if she dates Eric. I can understand the hesitation of taking action that could affect her friendship with Steve, but I also think it's worth the risk.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/18 04:41 PM
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Steve isn't just fine with it, he's pushing for it pretty hard. I can see why, Eric and Sara would be a fantastic couple. I totally agree with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/18 04:39 PM
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These studies get posted and reposted so often they should be in the sidebar on women faring better single than men https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/living-single/201701/is-it-true-single-women-and-married-men-do-best on marriage benefits for men https://www.nationalreview.com/2017/02/marriage-benefits-men-financial-health-sex-divorce-caveat/
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/18 04:37 PM
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They have a deep seated fear of rejection. Pair bonding requires a great deal of vulnerability, which is always a risk. That's why healthy dating and bonding requires a bit of bravery, which many of them lack.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/18 04:02 PM
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Redpill often pushes the narrative that marriage and fatherhood are traps for men and not worth the risk and effort. While this is certainly true for some people, statistics show that marrying a carefully selected woman and having children is just about the best thing a man can do for his own personal well-being and happiness. The same cannot be said for women. Marriage and children have either a neutral or negative impact on women's overall happiness and health. Obviously not everyone dates wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/18 03:59 PM
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I've never heard of a link between opiod addiction and mass shootings, have you?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/18 04:57 PM
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American men don't have access to medical doctors? Any evidence to back that up?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/18 04:17 PM
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So you think that because men don't seek support, women shouldn't either? statistically, the most misguided action a woman can take for her happiness is marry a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/18 04:11 PM
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Would it be better if they do what many men do, which is not treat depression and end up killing themselves?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/18 04:05 PM
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I am offering you the only thing anyone can offer you, which is the truth. You are not as attractive as you think you are. Obviously I don't know you so I can't tell you exactly what you're doing wrong, but a really good bet is taking a hard look at your mental health. Your rants are incredibly long, nonsensical, and unrealistic. Your worldview is warped and abnormal. If I were you, I would seek diagnosis and treatment. Might not solve everything right away, but it seems pretty obvious that fail…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/18 07:39 AM
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Yep
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/18 07:21 AM
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That must be why I have everything you're trying to find
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/18 05:55 AM
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How can you read this and not see how mentally ill you are? You are completely divorced from reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/18 04:23 AM
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*common sense
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/18 02:46 AM
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You keep demonstrating the exact behavior everyone here is telling you to be aware of.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/18 12:18 AM
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You're simply hopeless, my dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/18 10:32 PM
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You think you are attractive. No one else does. If you're satisfied with your own company, then there's no reason to change. If you would prefer some company, you need to change. Pick one.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/18 09:23 PM
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Just trying to help you, as we all are. You'll either get it or you won't. Accepting the truth is the only way you'll have a chance to change your circumstances.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/18 09:17 PM
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No. I'm out there living it while you watch from the sidelines.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/18 08:59 PM
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I hope you find your way to the truth, dude. Truly.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/18 08:16 PM
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Empathy doesn't require great effort. It's a simple act of imagining how you would feel if a similar thing had happened to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/18 07:46 PM
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You have no romantic experience, so your observations are not reliable. Women find you unattractive. You are unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/18 07:18 PM
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Of course I do. And I've had plenty of tempting opportunities to engage with men who have girlfriends or wives, but I would never do it because I would feel awful for the other woman. Most people easily avoid doing shitty things to strangers pretty much everyday dude
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/18 05:40 PM
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Pretty much yeah. I don't think it's realistic to expect humans to feel empathy for people they've never met. most people do, though
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/18 04:19 PM
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Everyone here is just trying to help you understand. I recommend you listen. Women and gay men decide what makes a man sexually attractive. Period. If the gender you prefer do not find you attractive, you are not attractive. It really is that simple. Your own opinion on your quality of yourself as a partner is almost totally irrelevant. Either listen to those who's opinion matters and make necessary changes, or continue to fall behind.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/18 04:14 PM
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Everyone is free to be a cunt
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/18 04:04 PM
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Hear me out because I'm really not trying to be a dick here. You're having a hard time dating because you're autistic and you over analyze and over complicate social interaction to the point that you completely warp and misunderstand them. It's actually very simple. If the opposite sex does not find you attractive, you are not attractive. I'm sure you have many wonderful and desirable qualities, but autism and other social skill hurdles are a huge barrier.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/18 04:00 PM
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No dude you made the claim, you back it up. Name a circumstance that would lead to romantic failure that I didn't cover in my comment. I've read your commentary in this thread, and you really just don't seem to get it. If most or all people find a food unappetizing, it's unappetizing. It doesn't matter how high quality the ingredients are or how delicious you think it should be. If eaters don't want it, it's because there's something wrong with the food, not the people eating it. If you can't fi…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/18 07:49 AM
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Which ones dispute my comment?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/18 07:40 AM
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Sure, just don't complain about the drama that will likely unfold or gaining a bad reputation
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/18 07:12 AM
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Unless they're stranded in the Mojave desert or being held captive against their will, all possible other causes are addressed in my comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/18 07:11 AM
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There is no crisis. People who struggle with romance have been asking where the good men/ women have gone forever. The sad truth is that there is no shortage of either, and if you can't find one it's because you're not as good as you think you are, for some reason. While romantic arrangements and practices continuously evolve and change with culture shifts, pretty much everyone ends up partnered. The ones who don't either don't want to be, are doing something wrong, or are fundamentally unattrac…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/18 04:12 PM
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I was in one for over a year. We met in person, had an intense and rad summer together, and then he left for 8 months on tour. We hadn't planned on continuing the relationship after he left, but we had fallen pretty hard for each other at that point so it just kinda happened. It was fun! We texted/sexted constantly, would fly out to surprise each other whenever we could, talked on the phone all the time. He would send recordings of his shows for me and dedicate songs to me in front of huge crowd…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/18 04:06 PM
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I feel like I constantly have to remind people that most single people never even try tinder, and most people who download it don't end up going on a single date.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/18 04:12 PM
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Dating in general is more prevalent. The problems people have today are the same problems men and women have had forever. We just use modern language to describe it and see the issues through a modern lens.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/18 04:11 PM
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You think ghosting is a new thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/18 07:55 AM
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Definitely not an RPW , but like most people I like to please my partner in all kinds of ways. What I do will differ from partner to partner. Common ones are surprise handwritten notes, wearing an outfit he likes, cooking him meals, getting up before him to make coffee, sending him random sweet texts during his long days, being in the front row at all his shows, etc. I would include sex and sexual acts one the list, but that's for mutual enjoyment. And of course he does sweet stuff for me all th…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/18 05:04 AM
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Nothing about this suggests a culture shift. Just common frustrations of dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/18 12:20 AM
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It's not like this is some tragic catastrophe. Just a frustrating but common pitfall of dating
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/18 10:00 PM
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woops, that was an error. thank you for pointing that out
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/18 03:42 AM
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Do everything in your power as to appear as though finding a partner is not your number one focus, even if it is. Do everything in your power to not appear desperate for approval, even if you are. You are the sum of the 5 people you spend the most time with. Pick interesting people who are doing cool shit with their time other than chasing women.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/18 03:08 AM
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Care to site a source on that?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/18 06:37 PM
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Changing the question once you've been challenged is not debating in good faith. I've been clear, but I'll dumb it down a little more for you. It's not women's fault, just as it's not men's fault. It's a widespread societal issue with many potential causes and mitigating forces. Even if we could blame a certain entity or group, it wouldn't matter. It's up to the individual to deal wth their own mental health, no matter what the cause is.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/18 03:51 PM
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Ok so we went from women in general, to certain feminists, to feminists in general. You asked for my opinion, I've explained it in the simplest terms I can muster. I'm sorry you're so confused.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/18 03:40 PM
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Q4All: To what extent are women themselves responsible for feeling more anxious, less confident, and less physically attractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/18 03:29 PM
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you didn't ask what certain feminists think, you asked what I think. Do I need to quote your own post to you for you to debate in good faith?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/18 06:07 AM
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Calories in/ calories out for the VAST majority of people. I said simple, not easy. Quitting smoking is simple. In fact, it's a one step process. You just stop doing it. Couldn't be simpler, and yet most smokers have many failed attempts before successfully quitting. That one step process was one of the most difficult things I've ever done.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/18 06:06 AM
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Your original question was whether or not women are to blame for poor body image. Good faith, dude
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/18 11:58 PM
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Can we please stay on topic and stick you your original question, which I answered, without you putting words in my mouth? It's not MEN'S fault. It's not WOMEN'S fault. by obsessing over who's to blame, you're doing exactly what the feminists you disagree with are doing
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/18 09:05 PM
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"Feminism" is a massive and diverse body of thought. You can literally find a feminist opinion of anything. I can link you to feminist blogs that claim women shouldn't have the right to vote or own land. A single opinion means less than nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/18 07:35 PM
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It can't be blamed on "men" any more than it could be blamed on "women". Individuals are not personally responsible for societal norms. Even in the most oppressive and extreme examples of patriarchal societies, individual men are powerless over the collective system. They can only control how they personally react to it
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/18 07:20 PM
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Again, you're trying to apply a collective concept and apply it to individuals. That never works.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/18 07:07 PM
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I have, but that's not blaming "MEN" , it's blaming a social structure. I think we can all agree that people who suffer from body image issues should avoid fashion magazines. Does that mean they're fundamentally bad or directly to blame?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/18 05:11 PM
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I've never seen swaths of feminists blaming men for negative body image either, so I'm not sure what your point is
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/18 04:55 PM
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I don't know if it's pointless. Warning people about the possible negative effects of certain things and behaviors can be helpful. Such as "Reading fashion magazines and following certain types of Instagram accounts has been shown to have negative affects on people's body image. Maybe avoid those things to stay mentally healthy "
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/18 04:47 PM
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You're trying to compare the general consciousness of a group to the actions of individuals. That doesn't work. To what degree an individual woman can assign causation or blame for a poor body image onto a specific person, place, thing, or idea will vary wildly. If she feels badly because she obsesses over fashion magazines and compares herself to others, than her own choices are to blame and she should modify her behavior. If there is a person or people in her life (like a parent) who abuse her…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/18 04:33 PM
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It's pointless to try to find a cause or to assign blame to any problem like this. Some things are no one's fault, they just are. It is, however, the individual's responsibility to deal with it. No one can make you better. If I grew up in an abusive household and ended up with mental problems, what good does it do to sit around blaming others for my bad situation? It's my job to take the action to heal. If your house is on fire, do you stand there watching it burn and trying to figure out who's …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/18 04:13 PM
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In the real world I see this changing amongst my peers (early 20's) it's becoming more acceptable to admit you have problems and seek help, compared to my almost 60 year old dad who refuses to ever see a doctor for example things have changed a lot over time. I've noticed this as well, and it's very encouraging. I have a lot of hope for the younger generations in this regard. The internet has allowed young people to become more connected and more educated on the realities of mental illness. The …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/18 04:06 PM
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absolutely an American thing, yes
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/18 04:01 PM
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Well in this particular scenario, they are. I've seen countless posts here warning about women on psych meds, the high percentages of them causing alarm in men who consider that a "red flag" and "women are crazy", totally ignoring the fact that so many men desperately need similar medical intervention and never seek it because they're ashamed. Psychiatric care and medication is extremely frowned upon and discouraged on many men's subreddits. Clearly, we have an issue with shaming here. When "cra…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/18 05:08 AM
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I dated a guy who described himself as "5 foot nothing", but was probably closer to 5'2. I was not even close to being his first girlfriend, and he's dated several women since we broke up. Either married or engaged now. I'm shorter than him, but his girlfriend before me was at least 6 inches taller than him.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/18 04:04 AM
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Almost all men get girlfriends. Many, many men are 5'6 and under. If you don't see shorter guys in relationships, it's because you don't want to see it. The tallest man in my family is 5'8. None of them had any issues dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/18 04:02 AM
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Applied to this example, it would be a guy prioritizing seeming manly or macho to his own detriment. If it's"unmanly" to ask for help, we end up with higher rates of suicide and depression among men, with women being much more likely to seek medical treatment for similar issues. Which is exactly what we have.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/18 04:00 AM
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Same thing with smoking for me. While I'm not overly sensitive to criticism, the constant reminders that is was gross and bad for my health were annoying and did exactly nothing to help me quit. I know it's bad. Everyone knows it's bad. I even delayed quitting just to spite people who harassed me about it. That said, it does work for some. Just not any effective strategy overall.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/18 02:16 AM
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Thank you :)
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/18 11:40 PM
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Well I didn't have much of a choice. I wanted to break out of poverty, and I didn't have the luxury of having someone else meet my basic needs like housing and food while I pursued my degree.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/18 10:35 PM
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What? When I smoked, people were always reminding me that it was an unhealthy and dirty habit. Pretty much every day.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/18 10:02 PM
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Some people have to work their way through school
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/18 07:27 PM
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Have realistic expectations for yourself. Personally, I had basically no social life in college. I was far too busy working and studying to go get wasted at a crazy party more than once every few months. Even finding time for a single date was a challenge. It's not like the movies. Don't expect it to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/18 06:01 PM
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Let's not ignore that most men are fat as well
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/18 05:11 PM
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I'm honestly and truly confused as to my opinion on the FA movement. On one hand, some of my dearest friends and family members are obese. I hate to think of them being abused or suffering from self loathing because of their weight. I also hold the belief that shaming doesn't work for most people, although certain personality types do respond well to "tough love". While I acknowledge the fact that weight loss is simple, i also must acknowledge that it is much more difficult for some than others.…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/18 04:34 PM
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This was true for me with my last boyfriend. I saw him all the time out and about for well over a year but never had any meaningful interaction beyond neighborly greetings. He wasn't ugly, but not what I would consider attractive. Just a guy, really. One day we finally had a real conversation, and I was suddenly interested. After two dates I was obsessed.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/18 12:49 AM
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It came up with an ex that I was with for years, but it was just a benign conversation for the sake of it. Same with my boyfriend now. Not sure when it came up. Maybe 6 months in? We actually had the exact same number.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/18 12:30 AM
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Not men. Married men with children are the happiest, healthiest, wealthiest, and longest lived. There's a dip in reported happiness for all parents when their children are teenagers (lol), but all studies show that marriage and family add to men's health and happiness, while married mothers are either equally or less happy and healthy than single childless women.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/18 03:59 PM
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Define better off then. This is why I say women need security. How they wish to define and get is up to them. Statistics show that women are happier, wealthier, and healthier staying single and focusing on their own financial security and fostering active social lives with friends. That's security. Of course that's not to say that all women should pursue this lifestyle. Everyone is different.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/18 03:27 PM
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It should be, but it's not. Every relevant study shows that while women have eagerly and en masse jumped into the workforce to help support their families, men have been much slower in sharing home duties like cleaning, shopping, and child care.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/18 03:24 PM
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I don't think maturity level matters. Just keep it legal.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/18 12:17 AM
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As a woman, I haven't experienced that. I live in L.A. which is a lonely city, so in my experience most women in my age range are eager to make friends and tend to be very friendly with me. I do, however, "freeze" men frequently. If I engage with a guy I don't know beyond a brief "thank you" or "hello" with no eye contact, 50% of the time he'll take it as an invitation to have a conversion/ flirt/ outright hit on me. I generally have no interest in that when I'm going about my day.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/18 02:23 AM
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You're never going to get it
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/18 01:49 AM
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willfully ignorant =/= misinformed
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/18 12:59 AM
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I don't want to eat pizza with someone who hates pizza
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/18 12:58 AM
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But then you'll just fake enjoying your pizza. I don't care how much you eat and how many yummy noises you make. I know you hate it. That's my opinion
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/18 10:52 PM
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So you can't prove to me that you don't hate pizza. Therefore, my "opinion" that you hate pizza is valid.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/18 10:39 PM
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Where? I mean, I'm not one of those idiots going around pretending he has 4 digit n-count or something ridiculous like that, but I'm not some kissless virgin either. Sure Clearly you do, otherwise why would you get so defensive? I'm not being defensive. I'm mocking you. Because you're ridiculous. How about biology? how are you going to prove to me that you don't hate pizza using biology?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/18 10:32 PM
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I mean, you've admitted it yourself. No one cares if you want to go on believing that women don't like sex. They will continue to fuck and pursue men who they enjoy having sex with. With or without you. you and OP have a misunderstanding of the word "opinion". You think any assertion, false or not, is an opinion. If I tell you "I don't like your outfit today", that's my opinion. If I tell you "you hate pizza and you only drive Honda civics", that's a false assertion. Prove to me that you don't h…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/18 09:34 PM
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I've read your commentary enough to know that you are woefully inexperienced, much like OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/18 09:23 PM
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oh man are you in for a rude awakening once you become sexually active. lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/18 09:17 PM
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Yes, you can. Quite easily in fact. Orgasms can be measured as easily as any muscle contraction. Female orgasms last longer, have shorter recovery periods (meaning multiple orgasms in a short time), and effect a larger percentage of the brain than male orgasms.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/18 08:57 PM
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How?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/18 08:46 PM
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Are they wrong?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/18 07:18 PM
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you must hate food because you don't shove donuts into your face 24/7
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/18 07:17 PM
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Noted. Admittedly not constructive.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/18 06:47 PM
2

So would men like to eat pussy if the woman hates it? What if she's super unattractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/18 06:46 PM
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What does "for the sake of it" mean? What exactly do they enjoy about eating pussy?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/18 06:33 PM
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They can measure physical response using imaging technology. Women have a stronger neurological and physical response than men. Orgasms are muscle spasms, very easily measured.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/18 06:32 PM
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I don't need to convince you of anything to continue enjoying fucking my boyfriend every chance I get.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/18 06:21 PM
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Did you know that women's orgasms are significantly stronger than men's?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/18 06:20 PM
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Once you have sex, you'll see how insane this is. Everyone loves sex. They love it for lots of reasons. It feels amazing physically, it's a great way to connect with someone, and it makes you feel good about yourself. You are free to believe whatever crazy conspiracies you want. Women will continue to fuck and enjoy themselves while you waste your time.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/18 06:16 PM
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It is definitely one of the best things in the world. Humans wouldn't be obsessed with it if it weren't
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/18 06:13 PM
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I'm not a man. Just a normal woman who loves to fuck. Like most of us do.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/18 06:12 PM
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Why do you think ALL pornstars are faking enjoyment? Of course a woman can fake enjoying sex. People can fake anything. What you're claiming is that most or all women, across generations, cultures, and races, have all decided en masse to construct the same lie for....... reasons? Don't you see how crazy that is?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/18 06:10 PM
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How the fuck else are they supposed to describe it?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/18 06:03 PM
1

What's more vital than sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/18 06:02 PM
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Can confirm. I'm so good at faking it that I fake it every day, sometimes several times a day, for years and years on end. So good at faking loving to fuck that I just can't stop. Sometimes I jump in to the shower with my boyfriend just to fake him out before work. Sometimes the urge to fake it is so strong that I rush home just to fake it again. You have to know how silly you sound, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/18 06:01 PM
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Porn stars are actors. Of course they're fucking acting. Porn isn't created to be pleasurable for the actors, it's created to be enjoyable for the consumer.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/18 05:53 PM
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They do. Constantly.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/18 05:20 PM
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We can't debate delusion, my dude. Listen, I fucking love apple pie. To me, apple pie is one of the most enjoyable things about being a human. As much as I enjoy it, I'm not going to eat a piece of pie from the trash can. Sometimes my stomach hurts or I'm too full to eat pie. I've had disappointing apple pie before and haven't finished my slice. Sometimes the pie comes frozen and I have to wait for it to thaw and bake before I enjoy it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/18 05:09 PM
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lol
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/18 05:08 PM
0

Because it's a major method of human interaction and communication
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/18 04:28 PM
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Q1: How do you define flirting? Being extra friendly and familiar with the goal of making the person feel seen and good Q2: How often do you flirt? A lot! I'm very outgoing. I like making the people around me feel noticed and appreciated Q4: Do you think people who flirt should have an obligation not to lead someone on? No. It's not my fault if someone misinterprets friendly banter for romantic interest. I personally would never purposefully lead someone on, but no one is obligated to not be an …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/18 04:19 PM
3

What implication? Where?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/18 11:16 PM
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The proof is in the pudding. When you stop forcing women to depend on men for their very survival, you end up with a lot of lonely men. Almost any negative outcome is better than living with a trash husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/18 07:11 PM
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Tell that to the legions of men crying on Reddit because they get consistently rejected
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/18 06:45 PM
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Time.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/18 03:57 PM
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The fact that women gave up their homemaker roles en masse the first chance they got, despite the fact that their income wouldn't be needed to support a family for another few decades, shows that the benefits weren't worth the costs even back then. This is ignored too often. One of my grandmas left her shit husband the moment she clawed her way into financial independence, the other was very vocal me going to college so I wouldn't have to marry a jerk for his money like she did (she stayed marri…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/18 08:42 AM
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take that fucking cigarette outta your damn mouth that girl who hassles you daily will end up thrice divorced and miserable so don't take her opinions to heart enjoy your friends because people die That's it. I wouldn't take back many mistakes.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/18 08:34 AM
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How does sexual harassment affect one's appearance? What does basic, sensible skin care have to do with masculinity? What? But the answer to your basic question is no. Young men are fat, spoiled, and socially unskilled. Those features do not age well
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/18 10:32 PM
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So the assertion is that the woman would not or should not date thus guy, I'm guessing? I would say that it depends. Is everything other than the financial issue good? Does she have any better options?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/18 10:29 PM
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I work within the entertainment industry, but I'm not myself an entertainer or aspiring entertainer. I'd like to keep it vague because my job is very niche.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/18 08:09 PM
3

You are correct about that
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/18 05:11 PM
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You're using your own, totally unscientific personal anecdotes to attempt to prove a point. No one can disprove what you've claimed to experience, we can only argue using our own.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/18 04:57 PM
3

34 and 80K
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/18 04:55 PM
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I earn much more than my partner. Thirsty as fuck for him. Wouldn't be with him if I wasn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/18 04:55 PM
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I outearn my boyfriend by about 20%, sometimes more or less because his income is less consistent than mine. I earned more than double my last boyfriend's income.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/18 04:48 PM
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Reaction is 100% choice. Sure, different people have different insecurities and weaknesses, but they still have the power to make the choice. Accountability is not shaming.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/18 09:00 AM
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Lots of groups fit this description. TRP and SJWs are very, very similar in this regard.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/18 08:28 AM
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I've done my fair share of both, but I simply can't date multiple people at once. I don't have a moral issue with it at all, I just find it stressful. Dating is stressful enough as it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/18 04:46 PM
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Of course many terps use their chosen body of thought to justify shitty and immoral behavior, but my objection of it in general is not a moral judgment. I just don't have respect for any group that worships junk science, ignores or fights facts and evidence that goes against their beliefs, and fosters a victim complex. I don't consider any of that immoral, just unworthy of my respect. Something to be ignored or mocked, not outraged by.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/18 04:26 PM
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If I were to describe my idea of ideal manhood, it would be my eldest brother. He's kind and selfless, a literal hero (saved a dude's life), incredibly brave, humble, and a natural leader. I've never seen him try to boss other people around or be needlessly aggressive, he's just so competent and measured that people automatically respect him and follow his lead. If he tells me to jump, I say "how high?". Not because I fear him, but because he's never lead me astray. He's an adoring husband and f…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/18 03:41 PM
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Not simple. It's up to the individual to interpret the "lesson", and many choose the wrong one. If I get hit by a car, I can be more cautious in the future. I could also never leave my house again.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/18 07:48 AM
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Oh, the irony. If you're not going to debate in good faith without putting words in my mouth, you're useless to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/18 07:06 AM
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You clearly stated you think any man who has had trouble attracting women is a miserable and complete failure. That is what you typed. No, that's what you typed. Because you're a drama queen. You can mince about it all you want, but it is what you said and meant. This despite your claiming that no person should derive the totality of their self-worth from their interactions with the opposite sex (or, who they wish to attract). You wanted your cake and to eat it too. You wanted to sound reasonabl…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/18 10:21 PM
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You can change the definition of words to suit your dramatic flair all you want. My point stands.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/18 09:49 PM
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Then it will depend on how accurate your analysis is
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/18 06:04 PM
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Everyone gets hurt. What defines us is not that we were mistreated, but how we react to mistreatment. Do you stay humble, look inward, get honest, and try to do things differently? Or do you lash out, assign blame, and retreat? Also, no one can "shame" you unless you already feel ashamed
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/18 05:31 PM
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What's so problematic about it? It's a unique perspective on asking another woman to help her keep her man, rather than compete with her. I always got a sisterhood vibe from it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/18 04:50 PM
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He had a girlfriend
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/18 04:26 PM
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My friend just had this happen. The guy actively pursued her, used a lot of sweet talk, said all the right things, etc. We all got a vibe off him that he was full of shit, but she ended up going out with him anyway because he was so persistent and she doesn't get much attention from men in that way. He took her out 3 or 4 times, told her he really liked her and wanted her to meet his friends, banged her a few times, and then ghosted her. It was pretty sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/18 03:52 PM
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Where did I mention your online community at all? You are too sensitive my dude
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/18 04:28 AM
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Who said irredeemable or irreparable? People don't go looking for solutions where there's no problem. If a guy is looking for guidance from TRP, it's because he's failed romantically.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/18 04:28 AM
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What the fuck are you on about? No one gets a safe space online. Why are you special?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/18 02:08 AM
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I think they're selling a fantasy to failed men using lies
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/18 08:01 PM
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I think it's totally unrealistic to expect anyone to be unaffected by the treatment and response they recieve from their preferred gender. I think the point is that it's healthiest to be aware of how it affects you and to strive to look towards other sources and methods of validation and esteem building. People's opinions of you should affect you, but with the understanding that it's not the be all end all verdict of your value as a person. Anyone who claims that matters of sex and romance have …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/18 05:18 PM
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He'd probably be pretty weird and not compatible with me
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/18 04:39 PM
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In theory, yes. I have before. I dated a 24 year old virgin when I was about 22. He had grown up in the Alaskan wilderness and was inexperienced due to lack of opportunity, not because there was anything wrong with him. He was great. Now that I'm in my mid thirties, I probably wouldn't. A man in my dating range who lacks experience likely has some significant issues that I'm not willing to deal with. I'm sure there are some rare exceptions, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/18 03:28 PM
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Again, so? Imagine a post reading "hey I never finished college and now I can't pay my rent. What are you going to do about it?"
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/18 03:25 PM
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Yup. Easy to do without being a dick about it
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/18 06:33 AM
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Entitlement in and of itself avails nothing. I could feel entitled to a 6 figure paycheck to my core, but unless other people agree with me that I deserve it, I'll never get it. Wanting something doesn't do much to help you actually get it. If a woman is able to attract and keep a super hot boyfriend, then she deserves one. How does entitlement factor in at all?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/18 11:09 PM
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Sherlock Holmes was in no way reckless or aggressive. You're missing the point completely
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/18 11:05 PM
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What's your point here? Everyone has good and bad features, and everyone around them decides for themselves how much bullshit they're willing to tolerate to be around them. Women don't choose purely kind men, because purely kind men don't exist. Every person on earth has toxic qualities to some degree.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/18 10:07 PM
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No dude Think of fictional and non fictional heros. Were they reckless and aggressive? Or calm and kind?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/18 10:02 PM
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It's pretty telling that so many terpers are having a hard time with this one. I'll try to illustrate it with an example. Let's say you're compromised in some way. You're sick or injured or something. You're in a group setting and a chaotic crisis breaks out. Zombie uprising or some shit. There are two men in your group that are stronger and more capable than you. One stays calm, has a plan, and is focused on the safety and well-being of others in the group. The other is ripping his shirt off sc…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/18 03:39 PM
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body dysmorphia is a diagnosed mental disorder that men can and do suffer from. I know one guy who has it, and he thinks he's fat no matter how ripped he gets. He has disordered eating and a compulsive excersise obsession. Men also can have anorexia and bulimia. You're misunderstanding the definition
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/18 06:22 AM
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No, it's not. Sometimes women just like to see where they're going.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/18 03:39 AM
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that's exactly my point, dingus. Plenty of men figure out how to be masculine without being aggressive assholes
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/18 03:38 AM
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The fact that you think men like that are rare is very telling
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/18 12:58 AM
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The most masculine men don't have to force others to bend to their will.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/18 12:29 AM
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Some people are total failures at life. So?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/18 10:52 PM
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You clearly don't understand the difference between conducting oneself in a way that commands respect vs struggling for power
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/18 10:51 PM
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Well your first mistake is relying on tinder as an indicator for anything meaningful at all
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/18 08:58 PM
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It's a hard to swallow pill, but it's the truth. Anyone who is asking themselves where the good men/ women have gone needs to accept the reality that there is no shortage of either, and if you can't find one it's because you're no good yourself. Tough luck. Try to suck less.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/18 08:25 PM
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Ask people in their lives who have the type of relationships they want and ask them how they did it. Do their best to follow example and advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/18 08:22 PM
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I don't look down, but I do actively avoid eye contact with men. All too often, it's taken as an invitation to engage with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/18 06:08 PM
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There's a difference between being strong and dominant vs steamrolling and exerting control over the people and things around you. A man can be strong and also kind and charitable. He can be assertive and also open to other people's opinions and needs. He can be protective without being violent. The catch is that obvious displays of overly dominate behavior actually signal weakness and insecurity. In my opinion, strong masculinity is calm and measured, not overt and aggressive.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/18 05:51 PM
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Works for me!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/18 04:38 PM
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I guess it's just a more personalized dislike for behavior I see in both genders. A lot of men I've dated had bad experiences with manipulative women, which then becomes my problem to overcome within a relationship. Shitty women make dating harder for non shitty women. The same can be said about men, but it doesn't effect me as much because I can simply ignore or dump a shitty man.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/18 04:02 PM
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Not a man, but two out of three of my brothers called me after the first date with their wives and said "she's the one". The third brother had more of a slow burn relationship (co-workers, casual friends, close friends, dating). I don't think there's a right or wrong way to go about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/18 03:57 PM
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Dude, use your brain. If a woman is interested in a romantic relationship with a guy, getting wasted and sucking his dick in the bathroom of a club is not the way to woo him.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/18 02:20 PM
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That guy and I have history. He stalks my profile and leaves long, whiney rants on all my comments
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/18 02:18 PM
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Because that's the most charitable explanation for his utter confusion as to why women make this choice
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/18 07:15 AM
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unhinged, my dude
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/18 10:21 PM
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Only a whiney victim would see things that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/18 09:38 PM
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Any time I've done it, it's because I wanted sex but had no desire to foster a relationship with that person. I would not pursue a "hook up" with a man I was romantically interested in.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/18 05:52 PM
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No you just married an immature bitch who doesn't like you. Better luck next time.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/18 05:47 PM
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I just get really, really sleepy. My boyfriend is rad about it and doesn't get offended if I need to cancel plans or have some alone time to rest. Just don't take it personally and you're fine
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/18 04:59 PM
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If you're doing something or saying something out in the world that you wouldn't do or say in front of your partner, you're being shady. Barring the occasional venting to trusted friends or your therapist. To me, cheating is intimacy. Going to a strip club or watching porn isn't cheating to me, but kissing, fucking, seeking a relationship or carrying on an emotional affair is, and that's a deal breaker. I made one exception in my life when my then boyfriend got uncharacteristically drunk at a pa…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/18 04:29 PM
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A guy gets two chances with me. If he sucks in bed, I move on. Because of this, I've had no problem being fully satisfied with every guy I've committed to. Gotta vet those dudes out.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/18 06:33 AM
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Are people outraged? It just seems like yet another dumb publicity stunt done in poor taste. Nothing most people find worthy of getting worked up about.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/18 06:31 AM
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For most of them, yes. There are others who disagree
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/18 05:58 PM
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Now you're getting it
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/18 05:29 PM
2

Why not? The catalyst for modern feminism was abortion rights. There are TONS of anti abortion feminist groups.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/18 05:00 PM
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Dude just Google it. Feminism is a MASSIVE group. Any single fringe belief you can conceive of is included in it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/18 04:55 PM
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No it's not. It's an almost unanimously held belief in feminism, but it's not a core requirement.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/18 04:54 PM
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There are feminists who adhere to strict biblical rules that women should be submissive and choose not to vote. I believe they are free to live that way, even if I think it's misled and foolish.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/18 04:48 PM
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Where in the core beliefs of feminism does it state that women cannot morally judge other women? The rules are pretty cut and dry in communism
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/18 04:46 PM
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Why couldn't she?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/18 04:42 PM
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The question is for you based on your definition of feminism. Can a woman who chooses to judge sluts as morally deficientcall herself feminist? I'm not the decider on who is and is not a feminist. That's a very arrogant mindset.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/18 04:41 PM
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Every choice and decision is not a feminist one. That's a ridiculous definition. YOU are the one defining it as such. What everyone else is trying to explain to you is that feminism is not an ironclad set of rules and beliefs. Someone can identify as a feminist can disagree with some common feminist beliefs, just like someone can consider themselves a Democrat but disagree with certain democratic policies and bodies of thought.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/18 04:35 PM
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Whoa, no. Traditionally feminine women certainly judge sluts and women who don't conform. But it's their choice to judge the woman. So can it ever be called feminist? What does this even mean? Where did you pick up the idea that feminism needs to be the core operating influence in all choices a woman who identifies as a feminist makes? Of course feminists can be assholes.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/18 04:32 PM
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Correct me if I'm wrong, it seems she is not allowed to judge a man as "cowardly" for not coming to her defense and still be a feminist. Or make any other moral judgement on people who don't fulfill traditional roles. Of course she's allowed.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/18 04:29 PM
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Why not? The only common foundation that all brands of feminism share is that women should be free to believe in, express, and pursue anything they want (within reasonable lawful boundaries). There are anti abortion , Islamic , evangelical, and alt right feminist groups that support traditional gender roles. It's not uncommon.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/18 04:22 PM
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I think the biggest advantage for me growing up in the middle of a major city in this regard is, for lack of better expression, "street smarts". Because I grew up basically downtown, by the time I turned 13 I had already been cat called, hit on, followed around, etc.I had to learn how to make quick judgments and was forced to mature a bit faster than I probably would have if I had grown up in a small town. Being exposed to a lot of different kinds of people at a young age forces the naivety out …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/18 04:17 PM
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Yes of course. Why couldn't she?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/18 04:08 PM
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you would say that /u/i_have_a_semicolon
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/18 07:53 AM
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I've been straight up rejected a few times, and felt rejected a handful more when a relationship I pined for didn't work out the way I wanted it to. I've dumped 4 boyfriends, been dumped by 2, and of course have to reject the vast majority of men who ask me out. I guess it depends on what counts as rejection. I've been interested in men who turn out to not be single or pursuing someone else many times. I've crushed on people who didn't crush back.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/18 04:59 AM
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Its a fun word
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/18 06:08 PM
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Sorry to be this guy but in this context, it's actually spelled "piqued" :)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/18 05:44 PM
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When men don't have legitimate outlets for aggression like protecting from a charging boar or warring with a neighboring tribe over resources, it comes out in other ways. Gang violence, domestic violence, bar fights, etc. When men don't need to be strong to survive and ensure the survival of others, many become weak and complacent. Humans today are pampered babies compared to all of human history. Your life now is immeasurably better and easier than even royalty 300 years ago. A weak man of the …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/18 05:28 PM
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Anyone is nextable (other than children). That's why relationships are special. I love my boyfriend more than anything and I'm totally committed to doing whatever I can to keep the relationship strong and happy. That said, he is a human and humans can and do behave badly. He could cheat on me tomorrow. He could steal my money. He could slap me in the face. There are tons of things he could do to immediately disqualify himself from being my man at any moment. As committed as I am, I have my bound…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/18 04:48 PM
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Well just like any martial issue, there is a right way and a wrong way to go about it and it can be very tricky to approach. Dead bedrooms rarely happen without other underlying issues. He should approach it with an attitude and presentation of mutual benefit and consideration of both people's needs. This will likely include being receptive to his partners grievances that could have contributed to the situation without being defensive. The best move for most would likely be suggesting therapy. W…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/18 04:39 PM
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I generally agree that this is good summary of a masculine ideal, especially from an evolutionary perspective. Men are wired to protect women and women are wired to protect babies and children. Thats why society can continue to grow and thrive with just a few surviving men, but not with a shortage of fertile women. That said, men in the modern world have little opportunity to exercise this instinct and modern women's survival is no longer totally dependant on a man's willingness to put his life …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/18 04:30 PM
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I swear it's as though most of you never leave the house and watch way too much TV.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/18 03:45 PM
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My boyfriend plays shows at bars all the time and often goes to see bands/ hang with friends without me. I also like to go to shows/ go out without him. Never even occurred to me to question that. A guy who would have a problem with me going out alone or with friends seems like a psycho to me
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/18 07:07 AM
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There's been a huge push for state funded childcare in the past few years. It's just linked with the progressive political movement now and lumped in with universal health care and living wage.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/18 05:39 PM
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They have been. A lot. Aside from state funded childcare, There is no real solution to this other than total economic collapse and rebuild.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/18 05:20 PM
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A big reason for this is the insane cost of childcare. For many normal families, having a parent stay home with the kid(s) is actually cheaper than paying for childcare. Some women change their minds about their goals after giving birth, but being a SAHP is often a practical choice, rather than a personal or emotional one. With stagnant wages and rising living costs, more women than plan to end up making this decision. That's how my brother found himself a SAHD for the fist 4 years of his 2 kid'…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/18 05:02 PM
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This. So much of attraction stems from subculture and "types" of men. Punks date punks, hippies date hippies, stoners date stoners, yuppies date yuppies, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/18 04:55 PM
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Desperate for approval =/= Good That said, anyone who says "where have all the good men/ women gone" needs to face the fact that they are probably no good themselves. There is no shortage of good men and women out there, they're just dating other. Men with beta traits are in demand. What you're describing is a pitiful guy, not a beta guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/18 04:16 PM
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I can't think of anything less interesting to discuss or debate
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/18 04:59 AM
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I'm going to leave you with this example. Like most people, I have to work for a living. This means I have to work around a schedule so I can't do whatever I want all the time. I have obligations. I need to be certain places at certain times and perform certain duties. Sometimes I have to do it even when I'm having a horrible day, would much rather be doing something else, or not feeling well. That said, earning my money gives me personal satisfaction. It gives me a sense of pride and purpose. S…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/18 05:06 PM
1

If that's normal, why are so few women prostitutes? Why do poor men get laid and married?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/18 04:55 PM
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And because you believe women are hypergamous, wouldn't women be paying by agreeing to only sleep with one man? Why do women prefer men in their same income bracket?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/18 04:48 PM
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I've warned you about your autistic, tone deaf rants before. I'm not going to again. I will block you next time. Relationships and sex involve deep and complex emotions. You can't boil it down to simple transaction. Men, like women, crave commitment. Commitment benefits men in tangible and intangible ways. No one's being bought or sold. You're throwing a fit because you don't get EVERYTHING you want from EVERYONE you want at ALL times. Because you're a baby with a victim complex. No one can help…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/18 04:41 PM
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Yet another example of the foolishness of the obsession of online dating data. What this means is that a lot of women of varying age groups can look at a picture of an older man and think to themselves "he's handsome!". That's it. As anyone who's ever been on a date could tell you, a pretty picture does not a romantic connection make. Especially for women. A 50 year old man has nothing to offer an 18 year old woman other than being a target for gold digging. Most 18 year old women want boyfriend…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/18 04:35 PM
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Do you seriously not see how crazy you sound?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/18 04:22 PM
1

Most people don't have a million dollars either. Do you feel sorry for them?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/18 08:39 AM
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You're so dramatic. Most men want relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/18 07:48 AM
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I have zero interest in training a man. He either lives up to my standards out he's not my man
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/18 03:18 AM
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The woman in OPs post does concern her employment, though
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/18 10:03 PM
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Anyone he wants to tell. Sounds like her social media might be a source of income as well. Can't be a bitch at work if you want more fans
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/18 09:00 PM
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She doesn't have any good options. That's the catch when a guy becomes infatuated.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/18 08:54 PM
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I've had guys have extreme freakouts from a simple "no thank you"
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/18 08:54 PM
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I would agree
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/18 08:53 PM
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That usually doesn't work. Any amount of etiquette and kindness can and will be misinterpreted by men who want to talk to you. Best is to completely ignore or risk being known as a bitch
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/18 08:37 PM
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Don't you have other abject realities to deny somewhere else?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/18 08:35 PM
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Some women aren't as good at being direct when it can be interpreted as impolite. They avoid making people upset or angry. What you're describing is a passive woman who wants to be left alone but doesn't want to/ feels like she can't be direct with you without you freaking out on her. She's hoping you'll take the obviously dismissive responses as a signal that she's not interested in engaging with you, and it's apparently not working. She should be more upfront and tell you to leave her alone, b…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/18 08:32 PM
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A guy would have directly told you to fuck off by now
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/18 08:27 PM
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Ok so everything I said is accurate, you just don't like the way it makes you feel. Glad you finally showed your ass. Move along now
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/18 08:23 PM
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Dude she doesn't want to talk to you. She's trying to be polite. Take a hint.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/18 08:20 PM
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Which point of mine is this supposed to refute?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/18 08:06 PM
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I can't help you interpret statistics. Why don't you try to find a shred of evidence or sourcing that disproves anything I've said?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/18 07:50 PM
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LOL. You're delusional. Actually, you like to pretend to be an unicorn to rationalize your life choices. The good old "where are all the good men". Like I said, I'm normal. Good men are everywhere. Settling down is marrying you say? Huh, so much for this LTR unicorn that would never trade up. I'm in an LTR of 7 years. Do you consider that "settled" Why change a good thing? Don't then. But ask who you're truly lying when you say that you're special and that you like men like your father. I'm not …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/18 07:49 PM
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Second link
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/18 07:23 PM
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You sound like any other female that hit the wall. You think you're special but you're nothing anymore. Just because some beta would be eager to become your beta bux doesn't mean you're quality. No actually I'm not special. TRP likes to pretend that I'm a unicorn, but I'm actually pretty normal. I like men like my father. Then why haven't you settled down yet, 'post wall, promiscuous, UMC woman'? I'm not in a rush to marry. I like my life and relationships as they are right now. Why change a goo…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/18 07:23 PM
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The second link, my dude. I'm not going to hold your hand.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/18 06:59 PM
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Read the sources I provided, or don't. It's all in there. I'm not going to read them to you like a bedtime story. Here's an easy to read chart, if that helps http://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2016/07/01/racial-gender-wage-gaps-persist-in-u-s-despite-some-progress/
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/18 06:36 PM
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Lol. Clinging to TRP is easy when you turn it all on it's head and rely solely on your imagination to fill in the gaps, isn't it? Of course I don't commit to just any guy that comes along. That's what stupid people do.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/18 06:10 PM
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Common sense statements like "most households are dual income" and "most women work" are not wild claims because fucking look around you. But here's the data to show this common knowledge http://www.pewresearch.org/ft_dual-income-households-1960-2012-2/ https://www.americanprogress.org/issues/women/reports/2016/12/19/295203/breadwinning-mothers-are-increasingly-the-u-s-norm/
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/18 06:07 PM
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You got kids? That shit is a gauntlet. Luxury my ass. it's a luxury in the sense that it's something most families cannot afford Also, 'it is expected that women contribute' means what? Men expect women to work or women expect women to work or some ubiquitous societal level expectation? All of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/18 05:38 PM
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Cool. You're a woman and you've had a lot of sex, both in and out of relationships. That's a very RP picture of what a woman's sexual existence is like. No it's not. TRP claims that cheating is normal and expected, especially with more sexually active women. The reality is that most women, like me, never cheat at all. Here's some reasons I've dumped or been dumped other than thinking I could do "better"... Sure. All those reasons are, of course, perfectly reasonable. In each case, you had prefer…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/18 05:18 PM
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I'm still trying to figure out exactly what privileges the common man has that is being taken away from him to make him hate feminism? The only one I can think of is that women are entering white collar fields, yet the gender role for the man to be a provider has not shifted one god damned bit. A man that isn't a provider is a loser to most women. What? Most households are dual income and women are outearning their husbands more and more each year. Only the very wealthiest men are able to be sol…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/18 05:12 PM
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So, what do you mean by "promiscuous"? You have periods where you are not relationships but still have plenty of sex? Something else? "Promiscuous" means I've slept with a lot of people, which I have. Just not when I'm in a relationship You were always the person who did the breaking up? You always had some sizable period of time (months) after a LTR where you did not have a partner? How do these statements square with one another? Wow you really have been guzzling the koolaid. You can't even th…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/18 05:02 PM
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Me. I'm a post wall, promiscuous, UMC woman. I've never not had a sizable pool of quality men eager to commit to me. I've never cheated. I've never "traded up" one boyfriend for another. I've never been "pumped and dumped". I've had several long-term relationships and have never had a dead bedroom. I was way too busy in college to suck a million dicks. None of the tropes that TRP trots out for women have been even close to true for me or any of my peers. Also my dad. He's a very quiet, passive m…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/18 08:34 AM
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how exactly does one emulate a square jaw or youth?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/18 10:44 PM
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Probably about the same. Weak men of the past just died earlier.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/18 05:15 PM
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Not a mother myself, but most of my friends and family are. Here are the common issues I've heard of immediately post- partum, women need time to heal physically. This will obviously take more time for some and less for others post partum depression is very real and can be very traumatic. I've seen women in my life nearly tank their marriages due to resistance to medical treatment for it, and others who overcame it under intense medical treatment. some men don't seem to have a full grasp of the …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/18 05:13 PM
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growing older for men is a terrible affliction because they no longer have access to women in their early 20s, and they are left with women who are either divorced, with kids, looking for marriage, or already have children. And most of the men are in the same boat. Yes, wisdom. Money. Fuck that shit. All that matters in life is youth. I'd be interested in your opinion once you hit 30+. Shit gets so much easier.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/18 08:24 PM
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Most men stick to women around their same age
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/18 08:17 PM
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Older men are WAY better than men in their twenties
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/18 08:12 PM
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yes I know. victimhood is easy when you deny everything that doesn't fit into your "woe is me" worldview
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/18 07:39 PM
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I've dated men shorter than you, if that's what you're asking
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/18 07:18 PM
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This guy? https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/James_Dean yup Was he a manlet? Also as an incel, if your answer is no, then it gives a hint that I should find some way to cough up 200k by age 32 which is a decade from now for me to get 16cm of leg lengthening surgery which would make me from 5'4.5" to 5'11" after I facemaxx. He was about 5'8. Average height.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/18 07:02 PM
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Compared to the hot secretly gay guy? Well he looked like James Dean. Stupid hot. The boyfriend I had after him was shockingly average. A little overweight, not the best posture, little fashion sense, but not ugly. I guess I would compare him to a less fat Jonah Hill? Not the best comparison, but there aren't exactly a ton of average looking celebrities. We had a FANTASTIC sex life. A+. My boyfriend now is in between. Handsome guy, but not a smoke show. Objectively not the hottest dude I've ever…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/18 06:52 PM
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Attractive men can have sexual trauma, sexual identity issues, circulation problems, depression, and any number of physical and mental health issues that affect sex drive
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/18 06:48 PM
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I'm a woman, but I've been on both ends of this as well. The hottest dude I ever dated was pretty sexually disinterested. He claimed low sex drive, but it turned out he was actually gay and not ready to come out at that time. It was awful. I'd rather be single with no sex than have a partner who was only "in the mood" twice a month. Would much prefer a less attractive partner who wants to jump my bones.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/18 06:46 PM
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It's hard to nail down a true average for anyone. When I'm single, arranging sex with an FWB and going on dates is time/ energy consuming. I'm a busy lady so I rarely have time for sex more than twice a month or so outside a relationship. When I have a boyfriend, I have sex pretty much every day. Barring circumstances like illness and unusual schedule conflicts, sex 4 times a week is the bare minimum to keep me around. My average has been everywhere from 1 to 40 times a month, depending on stage…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/18 06:42 PM
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lol no. There's nothing great about getting older. Wrinkles, hair loss, cock doesn't work as good and as often as it once did in the guy's late teens, and chicks begin to look at the guy for what he can do for them €, not how he makes them tingle. More money, more wisdom, more self knowledge, deeper friendships, more experience, more personal security, more respect.... I could go on. Being in my thirties and dating men in their thirties and forties is WAY better than dating in your twenties. At …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/18 05:58 PM
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As a woman in my thirties, this has also been my experience. Relationships with men became less of a focus and more of a nice addition to an otherwise great life. A luxury rather than a necessity. I think that's a much healthier outlook. When desperate to fill that void, it's way too easy to end up with a dud or spend years trying to fit a person into whatever image you've created in your mind without consideration of what that particular partner has to offer and what their needs are.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/18 05:54 PM
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Men who can have lots of casual sex with attractive past their twenties are also such a small percentage of the population that they are not significant
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/18 06:27 PM
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If marriage is not something that would increase the sex frequency for a given man, I believe that the man would not be as keen to get married. Who would? I would divorce a guy so hard if we stopped having sex. Of course that adds to the happiness of marriage. Who ever claimed it doesn't?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/18 06:01 PM
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Na. Most men have a few relationships and end up married or partnered. Also true that most men don't have unlimited options for causal sex with sexy ladies. Tough shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/18 05:32 PM
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"Incels" and men who completely fail at normal sex lives are such a tiny fraction of the population that they are not relevant to the statistics.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/18 05:08 PM
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I suspect the same. Women have close, intimate friendships with each other and most men do not have that outlet with other men. Fortunately, the modern trend of frowning upon intimate friendships between men is reversing, however slowly.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/18 05:05 PM
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Statistically, monogamy is the best thing for men's happiness. Side pieces are not monogamous. That said, there is room for nuance. Not ALL men are happier married or partnered. Some marriages survive infidelity and are happy. All the available data shows that for best health and happiness, men should settle down and get married. Women should skip marriage and cultivate a good and steady circle of friends and stay socially active. Stats should not be used as a formula for how everyone should liv…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/18 04:51 PM
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Your own source says that only 41% of custodial parents recieve the full amount of child support
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/18 04:26 PM
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She shouldn't have done that, and I have no sympathy for her and the life ruining consequences and publicity that are coming her way.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/18 04:20 PM
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Claiming that men are happier in monogamous relationships are happier is not an opinion, it's a fact backed by science. Married men are much happier than single men Married women are NOT happier than single women More divorced men report wanting to marry again than divorced women If the goal is personal happiness and satisfaction, than marriage benefits men more than women. Across the board, men in monogamous relationships like marriage or long-term cohabitation are happier, healthier, wealthier…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/18 04:09 PM
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How did you reach that conclusion? Unless the guy is super rich, it is much more expensive to stay and raise a child than it is to leave and pay child support. Parents of average or below average income who live with their kids spend about 50% of their income on their kids, absent parents almost always pay less than 30%. A majority of absent parents pay less that ordered or no child support at all, even if there is a court order.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/18 04:05 PM
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What you don't seem to understand is that staying in the home with the child and coparenting is much more expensive than child support
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/18 03:42 PM
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plenty of guys look awesome with bald heads
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/18 12:37 AM
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Holy shit you've been drinking some serious koolaid. Child support is usually less than 30% of the payers income and most pay nowhere close to the original court order.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/18 11:13 PM
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https://newatlas.com/aging-frailty-stem-cell-treatment-human-trials/51867/ Here's one article about the studies. Many more online How the fuck can it be easier to fix your entire skin (biggest organ in the body) than it is to fix the scalp-follicles? Wtf? because skin naturally and constantly regenerates throughout your whole life and follicles do not
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/18 10:04 PM
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They're already doing it with stem cells
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/18 09:48 PM
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We've made a lot more progress in "curing" and preventing skin wrinkles than we have baldness. Safe to assume that by the time baldness is cured, aging skin will be as well. Older people have been gradually and continuously more able to delay signs of aging and staying attractive longer. No reason to think that will stop. A decrease in balding probably won't tilt the scales as much as you think.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/18 09:34 PM
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no worries I missed the flair
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/18 09:30 PM
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child support is only a tiny fraction of income compared to having a live -in coparent
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/18 09:17 PM
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This is a good point
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/18 08:59 PM
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Neither are the MGTOWs and incels that populate these parts
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/18 08:49 PM
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Right, which goes back to my original point that a woman who doesn't have sex either chooses that or is horrifically deformed or profoundly disabled. I would consider deformity or disability more tough luck than failure. You can't fail at something you have no control over to begin with.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/18 08:13 PM
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I've actually noticed more on gender lines and all across Reddit, not just here. Women tend to come from the perspective of "I don't speak for all women, but here's my opinion/ experience/ beliefs" Men tend to think that their opinions/ experiences/ beliefs are average and normal, no matter how fringe. It's pretty consistent, and a head scratcher for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/18 08:10 PM
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If a man cheats on his wife and has a child with his mistress, that costs a fuckton of money for the wife as well
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/18 05:54 PM
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That's..... not how statistics work
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/18 05:53 PM
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This post is about women.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/18 05:46 PM
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Ideals =/= standards Sure most women would find a tall, handsome, square jawed, athletic rich guy ideal. Just as most men would find a youthful, slim, bright eyed, passive woman ideal. But most people aren't ideal and end up partnered anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/18 05:15 PM
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No that's actually AMALT
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/18 04:21 PM
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you don't have to leave your house to be deluded and insane
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/18 08:02 AM
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I'm just trying to figure out why they would be "failures at life". Failure to have sex is not failure at life unless the person is already pathetic enough to go consider sex/ lack of sex the most important thing about a person's identity. Everyone fails at something. Usually a lot of things.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/18 08:01 AM
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I think what you're failing to understand is that women who don't ever get laid most often choose that. Your straw woman is so far fetched that it can't really be debated. The female equivalent of an incel is the woman I described above.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/18 06:50 AM
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Women struggle differently than men in dating. I'll use my closest friend as an example. She's obese and very plain in the face. She drinks too much and smokes too much and has a slew of bad habits and foibles that make her less attractive to men. She'd also incredibly intelligent, hilarious, shreds guitar in a rad metal band, and is super fun to hang with. Everyone likes her. She meets a guy willing to fuck her a few times a year. She'll have a few drinks after a show and take one of her fans h…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/18 06:39 AM
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ugh these studies have been posted here SO many times, but I'll drag them up again when I have a moment. it's not even close. Men are MUCH more likely to leave a dying, ill, or incarcerated partner than women.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/18 03:51 AM
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I would agree that probably 4% or more of people are evil and awful. I would also say that cars sometimes crash.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/18 03:49 AM
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how does that negate anything in my comment?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/18 03:19 AM
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Most women never cheat even though all of them easily could. women are much less likely to abandon a sick or incarcerated husband than the other way around
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/18 09:55 PM
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Moved to auto mod because this is a question for red for some fucking reason I think "hate" is a strong word. I don't hate you guys (well, most of you), I just don't have respect for some of your beliefs. Mostly due to the blind worship of junk "science" that TRP encourages and the deep undercurrent of victimhood. Also dismissing everyone who's experiences don't line up with their imaginations as liars or delusional.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/18 03:36 PM
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Oh that's confusing! Seemed geared towards blue. I'll move it
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/18 03:35 PM
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I think "hate" is a strong word. I don't hate you guys (well, most of you), I just don't have respect for some of your beliefs. Mostly due to the blind worship of junk "science" that TRP encourages and the deep current of victimhood.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/18 03:16 PM
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I dated a guy with body dysmorphic disorder. The dude was gorgeous but thought he was hideous. Really cool dude, pity he had to deal with such a difficult mental illness.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/18 01:59 AM
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In my personal opinion, women who take great care of themselves generally look better into 40+ than men the same age who take great care of themselves. Most people don't take care of themselves at all, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/18 11:02 PM
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this isn't an incel forum. You are expected to back up your claims with evidence here.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/18 10:59 PM
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That's not "sexual biology". Those are your feelings about some biology you haven't sourced and either made up or misinterpreted.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/18 10:46 PM
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I can't change your view when you're basing your argument on nothing other than your feelings. You're wrong. That's all.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/18 10:41 PM
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Were you a weird girl?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/18 08:50 PM
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The boys are much worse bullies than the girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/18 07:31 PM
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The only times I've ever been called a whore or slut has been by men I've sexually rejected. Not really "prude shaming", but an attempt at shaming for not having sex. The truly prudish women I know aren't really shamed for the prudishness itself, but other common character traits that come along with it. Standoffishness, shyness, being a square/tightwad/killjoy, being super religious, etc
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/18 06:28 PM
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Small schools tend to develop their own weird cultures
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/18 06:04 PM
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Could be a generational thing too. Bullying was not taken seriously in the 80s and 90s.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/18 06:03 PM
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I see! Ya bullying used to be thought of as normal and just a reality of school. I don't remember teachers intervening on bullying at all with the exception of a kid breaking another kids finger on purpose in 5th grade.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/18 06:02 PM
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Oregon. I might also be older than a lot of people here. I entered high school in 1998. Bullying wasn't taken as seriously back then.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/18 05:56 PM
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When someone edits their comment, an asterisk appears (like this *) above it. Are you new to Reddit?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/18 05:41 PM
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Really? I saw it all the time. I stopped being the target once high school began, but plenty of other kids were getting shoved around and tossed into the pond on campus. Even the girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/18 05:40 PM
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there was no edit
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/18 05:37 PM
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So strange to me. All of my bullies were boys even through high school. The worst thing the girls did was ignore me, with the exception of one girl who was just awful to everyone. I guess it depends on the culture of the school and what the victim is being bullied for.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/18 05:11 PM
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Did you go to a small school? I did. Might have had something to do with it
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/18 05:07 PM
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So a good remedy for former weird kids is to go find the other former weird kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/18 04:59 PM
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It didn't help me make friends, it did help me overcome a lot of DENIAL that I had that kept me from being particularly giving in bed to my bf at the time and realizing what mental blocks were still holding me back (i.e. the feeling of being unnattractive, the feeling of being uncomfortable with myself , the feelings of not knowing what to do in bed with men). I love hallucinogens! I can imagine they would be very effective for people struggling with bipolar disorder or something similar. I thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/18 04:47 PM
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Are you a woman? I'm interested in your assertion that girls are usually the worst bullies to other girls. My experience was always the opposite. The boys were always much much worse
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/18 04:41 PM
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I did mdma and lsd freshman year which certainly helped me get comfortable with who I was and therefore was comfortable with dating men at around 17/18 I also did a lot of that. Not sure it helped me make friends, but overall very positive experiences!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/18 04:37 PM
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I struggled a lot to make friends when I was a kid. I am one of the most extreme cases of "ugly duckling syndrome" you could imagine. I was butt ugly until I was about 16 years old. I also had weird hobbies and interests, and didn't do myself any favors with my generally strange behavior .I hid behind the same dumpster during every recess for about 6 years. I read a lot of fantasy books, talked about Star Wars all the time (NOT a cool thing in the early 90s), wore really odd clothing, had big fr…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/18 04:15 PM
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This one in particular is very overdone here
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/18 08:22 AM
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Most already do
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/18 07:27 AM
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Showing your ass again. A guy can be practical, realistic, and not be a whiney wimp all at the same time. In fact, most find it rather easy to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/18 07:06 AM
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Not really, no.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/18 07:03 AM
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My friend Dustin I've known since middle school. Smoking hot, star athlete, sweetheart, autistic as fuck. He had maybe 3 friends in high school. NEVER socialized, was terrified of girls, rarely spoke, would disappear/ hide, had weird eye ticks. He was a virgin until he was 23, when he found a not so pretty, but very sweet, nerdy girlfriend. They were still dating last I spoke to him about 3 years ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/18 03:23 AM
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What is the point, exactly, of these "what if men were less desperate?" threads?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/18 03:15 AM
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which part, specifically, was confusing to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/18 03:13 AM
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I forget that some users here are teenagers
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/18 01:03 AM
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I'm sorry if it went over your head. I'm the future, just know that you're not having private conversations here and everyone is welcome to comment on your posts.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/18 12:43 AM
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Eh, I should probably be less judgmental. I get the appeal for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/18 12:40 AM
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Lol. Are you familiar with the general workings of a debate sub?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/18 12:39 AM
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Whoa there. My statement was general. Don't be so sensitive. Things that are good about TRP: telling young men to stop whining and do something constructive with themselves. bad things about TRP: worship of junk science and severe identity politics Good blue things: just chill the fuck out, do your best and stop obsessing over perceived injustices. no real bad stuff because blue isn't really a thing beyond being critical of TRP nonsense.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/18 12:36 AM
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No. Young love is often centred around infatuation. As one ages, they usually gain a more practical and realistic idea of love that is less about obsession and more about sustainability and stability. I might not view my very adult boyfriend in the same way I idolized and was fascinated by my first real teenage crush, but what we have is way better than that. I admire him, I respect him, I'm inspired to work together with him, and yes I still want to jump his bones at every available opportunity…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/18 12:28 AM
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Because it's possible to agree with certain aspects of differing philosophies. That's what people who practice critical thinking usually do. I find most of TRP ridiculous or just plain wrong, but I can agree that young men should hit the gym if they're suffering from low self esteem.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/18 12:19 AM
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I'm no pill, but I'm against any and all groups/ affiliations/ bodies of thought that encourage people to take on the philosophies as part of their identity. It's a weak and intellectually lazy way to think. This includes feminism, TRP , any and all political parties, MGTOW, etc. All are designed for and targeted to people who don't want to think for themselves. I align with specific ideals/ thoughts/ policies/ philosophies, but I don't identify with them. I share many beliefs with modern femini…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/18 09:31 PM
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ya what a strange assumption
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/18 07:53 PM
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People also forget that even super hot people can have hangups, social anxiety, trauma, extreme shyness, mental illness, or any number of relationship obstacles.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/18 07:19 PM
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in my experience, that kind of communication style grows with time. It can be off putting in the early stages. My boyfriend won't hesitate to point out that I'm acting ridiculous or doing something poorly, and I happily return the favor. Everyone needs to be told they're being a little bitch from time to time. But it goes over better with a foundation of trust.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/18 07:13 PM
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Sadly women seem to loose the ability to fall madly for a guy as they age. Very few women over 30 seem to be able to do it (this is the true wall IMHO). I'm thirsty as fuck for my man. I'm 34 and he's 41.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/18 07:09 PM
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His caregivers fucked this up. He needs special care.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/18 07:03 PM
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Politics aside, that's simply how medical science works. Every diagnosis is evolving all the time. That's like saying schizophrenia can't be a valid diagnosis because we used to believe those symptoms were caused by demonic possession.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/18 11:24 PM
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Because schizophrenia is a scientifically accepted medical diagnosis.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/18 11:13 PM
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Well I can't argue with science deniers
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/18 11:11 PM
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I've posted sources that prove all of that wrong. I'm not going to waste my time trying to convince you that scientific researchers know more about this this than you. i dotn care that its been rejected Right. Because you're not interested in actual data and proper terminology.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/18 11:10 PM
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Is Schizophrenia a scientific diagnosis? It also evolved through time in diagnostic requirements and terminology.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/18 11:08 PM
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it's a discipline that researches and treats medically diagnosable conditions. How on earth do you argue that medical diagnosis backed up by physical diagnostics is not science?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/18 11:00 PM
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Psychology is a medical science. That's not my opinion, that is fact. These are medical diagnoses. Ironically, you seem to be unaware that the term "Transsexual" has been fully rejected by all medical sciences and is no longer in use at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/18 10:54 PM
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Well you're just plain wrong about that. Transgender is a medical term for a person diagnosed with gender dysphoria and who is taking steps to medically transition. Multiple studies using magnetic resonance imaging have shown that people with diagnosed gender dysphoria have tangible, observable structural differences in the brain compared with the general population. Their brains are more similar to the gender they identify as than their biological sex. There's really no dispute in the medical c…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/18 10:45 PM
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Seems like you're simply confused by the modern terminology. In scientific studies, transgender = transsexual. It's simply an updated term. But you're free to make up words and form opinions based on whatever emotions you're working from. Just don't call it fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/18 10:32 PM
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Do you doubt the science behind transgenderism?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/18 09:42 PM
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Well most people are fat
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/18 06:56 PM
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Probably both, but I lean heavier on nature. The more we understand neuroscience, the more clear it becomes that we have much less control over our personalities than many of us want to believe. Most of our features, quirks, strengths, and weaknesses are born with us. Even our taste in food and music is evidenced to be innate to some degree. My very unscientific experience of growing up in the same household with a cousin who was truly born a flaming queen has confirmed this to some degree for m…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/18 06:10 PM
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I thought it was so embarrassing when I was a kid. They act like teenagers together. Now I think it's great.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/18 05:47 PM
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My mom is undeniably attractive. Two of my brothers are pretty average in looks, one of them is above average (but is also the shyest and most awkward.) One of them married WAY UP in looks (my sister in law is a smoke show), the other two are pretty well matched. Their wives are cute but not mega babes.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/18 05:39 PM
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Well it certainly ain't new, just out in daylight now
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/18 05:15 PM
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I'm a woman, but I was definitely raised in a "bloop" household. My parents are super egalitarian, neither of them would ever undermine or dominate the other. Whatever mom said, dad backed up and whatever dad said mom backed up. My dad is very clearly obsessed with my mother and has always gone out of his way with romantic gestures. Sometimes we'll all be hanging out and he will randomly say to me "isn't she the most beautiful woman you've ever seen?". He leaves love notes around for her, brings…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/18 05:06 PM
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It's just nice to have a level headed, regular guy here.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/18 04:33 PM
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I don't think my partners entire sexual history is any of my business either. I stick to what affects me.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/18 04:24 PM
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Every time you comment, I think to myself that you seem like a really cool guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/18 04:23 PM
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Chubby chasers have always been a thing
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/18 04:10 PM
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Some men like bitches, that's undeniable. I don't think its the norm, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/18 04:09 PM
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Well ya. But if you're looking for a sure thing in any aspect of life, you'll be let down. People lie and betray, mistakes happen, catastrophe happens. Life is hard and sad a lot of the time. No need to make that your primary focus.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/18 04:07 PM
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I have never for one second wanted to be a woman, and common female behaviour is completely foreign to me. For example, I wouldn't even want to wear make-up to be in a film or on TV, I just think it would be horrible and I'd feel completely self-conscious and ridiculous. Now imagine you wake up one day in a fully female body. That's how trans people's brains are wired. Don't get me wrong, I love men, but if I woke up with a square jaw and a dick I would be very upset.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/18 03:43 PM
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I grew up with 3 older brothers, so when I was little I very much wanted to be a boy. Only because I thought my brothers were so big and cool and could do lots of things I wanted to do like play with the big Super Soakers and ride skateboards. Then I got bigger. I can't say if or how my life would be different if I were a dude, pointless to think about. I'm happy. Edit: After thinking about it, I would not trade places for anything. For me, the best part about being a woman is my relationships w…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/18 03:40 PM
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This too
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/18 03:28 PM
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I don't go on dates with people I don't think are handsome
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/18 03:27 PM
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Dude lets be real here. This isn't something that happens to normal dudes. This is something that happens to guys who fuck half the trailer park. Everything worth doing in life has risks. Don't let weirdos on the internet turn you into someone who's too frightened to leave the house
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/18 03:27 PM
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I don't think my family's wealth has ever been brought up in initial stages of dating, now that I think of it. It wouldn't really be easy to pin down in my case, considering I was raised poor/ lower middle class and my parents moved up to middle class when i was in my late teens. Most people would probably assume they've always been that way I guess. But still, it's never ever come up. Also my dad is a truck driver and most males from the ages of 5 to 50 think that's pretty cool.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/18 08:25 AM
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like any movement, it can and will be abused and/ or misunderstood to some extent. I think it's extreme, but it's also important to acknowledge that it didn't get created in a vacuum. You'd have to be deaf blind and dumb to deny that sexual harassment and assault has not been taken seriously, historically. Decades and decades of being swept under the rug was the major contributor for this kind of vigilante justice. So while I don't think vigilantism is the best move forward, I don't really see a…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/18 07:25 AM
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I'm sure that happens a lot, but most of the times it's happened to me I've been very attracted to them physically. It's just difficult and awkward to get a conversation flowing to the point where I have an actual chance to get to know him, you know? I think people forget that hot people can have anxiety or social issues too.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/18 07:17 AM
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Do you seriously think trying out a hooker once or twice is uncommon?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/18 04:58 AM
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That's rad!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/18 02:15 AM
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I’m just realizing “honesty” didn’t explicitly make my list at all. Note that "fidelity" wasn't on my list because I group that in with honesty. I think most of these things can be boiled down to respect and honesty
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/18 12:28 AM
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These aren't necessarily in order support one another, be on the same team, work together be as honest as reasonably possible be clear about feelings, boundaries, expectations work things out with a spirit of cooperating, rather than running away or steamrolling consistent affection/ acts of love (sex, service, loving words, etc)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/18 12:16 AM
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EDIT: Don’t get nasty with me. Mind your tone. No thanks Results appear to be mixed. Some feminists acknowledge the term and write about it, while others maintain this viewpoint. Seems to me like there’s still quite a bit of bias about equity in rhetoric among feminists on this topic. That will happen when you choose rad fem websites. I don’t know how to be clearer about what I said: it’s not the topic, it’s the term. The conversation can be had more effectively by refraining from using rhetoric…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/18 11:33 PM
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sorry, your feelings don't change statistics.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/18 11:32 PM
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Please link me to some authored by feminists then. There's tons. Fucking google it. It’s not the topic that’s making people “butthurt,” it’s the term. Your dismissiveness with respect to their outrage suggests you don’t actually understand it, much less consider it valid. Would you feel the same way about blacks objecting to the term “toxic blackness?” How many times do you want me to repeat myself? There is nothing inherently sexist/ racist/whateverist about acknowledging negative traits/trends…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/18 10:48 PM
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I approve
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/18 10:40 PM
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Not when the term “toxic femininity” isn’t used by those who use the term “toxic masculinity.” Even if you maintain that the term takes isn’t inherently sexist, the fact that there’s a different term for the same phenomenon in women is. I've seen tons of articles and references to toxic femininity, so I'm not sure what your point is there. If you don't think it's discussed enough, you're free to open a discussion yourself. I don’t see any value in either “toxic” term. The “internalized” terms ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/18 10:39 PM
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I've known a few men like this. Handsome, stable, kind, intelligent, but unable to find love. The consistent feature is poor social skills. All of them are very shy and/or spectrumy. I myself have left very promising dates disappointed after struggling for conversation with an otherwise great dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/18 10:35 PM
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Because I think it has value.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/18 10:33 PM
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Why would I care what other women think about this? They're entitled to their opinions.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/18 10:30 PM
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Have you read any of my commentary? That is how I feel about it. Its not sexist in itself, but it can be used in a sexist way.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/18 10:29 PM
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I don't think mentally ill people should seek out TRP
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/18 09:59 PM
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Applauding borderline pedophilia. Stay classy.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/18 09:38 PM
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The other girl didn't tell him to leave her alone for a few months. She wanted to go out with him (for a little while). This chick has made it abundantly clear that she is not interested
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/18 09:32 PM
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They asked her if she wanted him fired, and she said she'd prefer to give him final warning. I agree that it's harassment. He truly thinks of it as an innocent crush. He can't be reasoned with.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/18 09:30 PM
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Depends on your goals and priorities. My ex dated and married a single mom after we broke up. He thought it was ideal, because he very much wanted to start a family and from his perspective, she had done a great job with her young son so her parenting skills were vetted. Didn't hurt that she's stupid hot. They had two more kids together. They seem happy. I could imagine a single dad wanting a partner that understands his situation and finding that in a single mother.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/18 08:08 PM
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They don't. Men and women cheat at about the same rates, with men cheating a little more. But still, most people never do
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/18 07:08 PM
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Right, but the question was whether or not I would date someone who has casual sex and/or engages in prostitution in some capacity. The answer is maybe.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/18 05:55 PM
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So you think this data shows that a man who hires a hooker once is likely to share traits with those who do this habitually? How do you back that up? For example, I wouldn't necessarily dismiss a guy who tried hard drugs a few times, but I wouldn't date a drug addict.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/18 05:36 PM
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For some people, ya. I'm dealing with a guy right now who's gaining a really bad reputation for creeping on young girls (he's 42, the girls are 18ish). His last relationship with a teenager set off alarm bells and a lot of people decided to avoid him. We work in entertainment and there's a lot of attractive young women and girls around. After he broke up with the last teenager, he aggressively pursued a 19 year old model we work with. She's sharp and confrontational, gave him a clear no. He does…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/18 05:34 PM
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Again, this is dependant on so many things not included in this data. You shouldn't put the guy on vacation in Amsterdam who decides to let loose and hire a hooker and the dude trolling the red light district at 2am looking for a cheap handy in the same category. Neither should you group together someone who has a slutty streak after a bad breakup with someone who's slept with 100 people. I try to stay away from black and white thinking and sweeping statements.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/18 05:11 PM
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Well my answer is maybe. Some of those traits are desirable to me, some are neutral, some are undesirable. So I guess I will just keep doing what I do and judge each person individually.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/18 04:52 PM
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That's an irrelevant metric that borders on some really cheap virtue signalling. No actually that just makes me normal. Most well adjusted adults outside of these forums don't obsess over other peoples sex lives. The real question is: would you get romantically involved with people like that or with people who exhibit traits commonly associated with people like that? That's the metric that those people and you are judged by. What do you consider "common traits" of these people?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/18 04:46 PM
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Hey I have a trash dog too
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/18 04:33 PM
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Still nothing to back up your claim
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/18 09:36 AM
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Well I don't speak for all women, but I don't give a flying fuck if adults want to pay for sex or be paid for sex. File that under "none of my business". I also don't care if someone wants to invite a stranger from the street into their home to fuck. Also none of my business. That doesn't mean I'm willing to participate in these activities, though. I don't want to be a kindergarten teacher either, but I don't think there's anything wrong with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/18 09:34 AM
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This says literally nothing about spending habits.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/18 09:20 AM
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source?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/18 09:02 AM
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Dude you're the only one here who hasn't provided evidence for your claim. Now you're trying to pick apart actual data with baseless claims. You're not acting in good faith
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/18 08:54 AM
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That's completely irrelevant. This data is over 20 years old. Do you have a source to back up your claim or not?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/18 08:50 AM
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Dude this is data from 1981-1998 In Sweden. Is this a joke?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/18 08:44 AM
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So are you going to back any of this up or are we supposed to debate your emotions and assumptions?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/18 08:34 AM
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You're simply proving my point that it's only pejorative if the person's intention in using it is a sexist intention. There's nothing inherently sexist about it
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/18 07:28 AM
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Well, that is that you're saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/18 07:27 AM
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So anything other than "men and masculinity are totally good all of the time" is sexist? Why don't you think we should acknowledge negative stuff?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/18 07:18 AM
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I'm around super attractive men all day every day (I work in the entertainment industry). Many of them have hit on me. Managed to make it to 34 years old without ever cheating. You'd have to believe that upwards of 60% of women have never been around a super hot guy to support your claim. Because most women never cheat, I'm not a special unicorn. I'm normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/18 07:13 AM
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Not necessarily. Do you believe every aspect of masculinity is good?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/18 07:09 AM
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Dude what?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/18 01:41 AM
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Shyness rarely has anything to do with other people
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/18 01:27 AM
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The discrepancy was 4%. More than double the margin of error.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/18 01:10 AM
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Just stating facts. The amount of men who are UMC and UC and attractive isn't exactly a big pool. I live in L.A.. They're everywhere Don't know why you think you have a large dating pool when most of those men are taken. that only leaves a few million for me!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/18 01:08 AM
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What about shy men? Men with low self esteem?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/18 01:05 AM
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Right. Basically, one could make a non racist argument for "Toxic blackness", but it would be tricky. I wouldn't attempt it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/18 01:05 AM
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It's economics. Nothing more, nothing less. Almost every developed country normalizes women and mothers working full-time. The happiest ones are the ones with the smallest levels of income inequality. American women are happier without men and without children because both are expensive
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/18 01:04 AM
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Whatever makes you feel ok and good enough, I suppose
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/18 01:02 AM
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What discrepancy?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/18 01:01 AM
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I don't downvote on this sub, but if it bothers you I recommend you stay away from PPD
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/18 12:42 AM
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I'm not sure how I can be more clear. just because a man falsely believes he is the father doesn't mean he was intentionally coerced into believing that. I'm simply asking you to back up your argument of fraud.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/18 12:33 AM
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personally no, but of course any supportive argument could very very easily veer into racism. But again, that's just my opinion. Other people disagree. Edit: my personal beliefs are that no gender or race is fundamentally superior, and that certain cultures are superior. So I guess I'm a culturalist. I see this as benign because a person can change their cultural beliefs.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/18 12:29 AM
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You can keep trying to cram this into a sex and gender related issue as long as you choose. You will not be able to substantiate it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/18 12:22 AM
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That doesn't say anything about why he thinks he's the dad, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/18 12:21 AM
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And if someone was framing masculinity as inferior, that would be sexist. It's possible to compare without making assertions of value
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/18 12:20 AM
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I did answer your question. "Toxic masculinity" is not in and of itself sexism, but it can be used in a sexist way.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/18 12:05 AM
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Right, but that doesn't say anything about who knows what and when
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/18 12:03 AM
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The studies you provided don't say anything about the knowledge of the fathers, though. That's the point. Some of these cases will certainly be men who were wrongly and knowingly coerced into raising someone else's kid, but you've provided nothing to substantiate your assumption that any significant number is in that boat. Can you find a better source?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/18 12:02 AM
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I don't think its irrelevant, I'm just pointing out that you're improperly using data to shoehorn in a related but distinct issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/18 11:53 PM
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Is saying "black people have darker skin than white people" racism? You're conflating pointing out distinct, demonstrable differences between men and women and prejudice. It is a fact that certain traits like aggression and violence are masculine traits. It's observable and provable. Whether or not you consider those "toxic" traits is up to the individual and is really nothing more than an opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/18 11:52 PM
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I'm just trying to figure out if you're trying to have an honest debate or just circle jerk. What exactly have I said that you disagree with?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/18 11:47 PM
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What is an essay from one guy supposed to prove, exactly?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/18 11:32 PM
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I have many options at all times of attractive and successful men. And no. I'm an UMC earner. College educated.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/18 11:27 PM
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Perhaps she got pregnant while single.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/18 11:26 PM
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This would include mothers who make up a fictional dad because she wants nothing to do with the actual father or has no clue who the father could be, or mothers that actually believe Ted is the father, but it's actually Jim and no one's the wiser. Malicious and intentional pinning your kid one someone is just one possibility of mysterious paternity. Shitty, but very rare. Should not be a concern for men with basic safe sex practices.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/18 11:21 PM
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But there is nothing quite like a woman getting pregnant by another man and tricking her partner into thinking the kid is his. Right, but there's nothing in this research that indicates that's what's happening with these kids who don't know who their fathers are. It's an awful thing to do, but research shows it's actually very, very rare. Shitty? Yes. But not something average dudes need to worry about.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/18 11:13 PM
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The only consistent factor is economic status. Everyone is more depressed when income inequality is high. It's interesting that men often try to manipulate the situation to blame it on women's relationships with men, but all data points to economic insecurity being the deciding factor. For men and women. That's one reason why single, child free women tend to be happier. They have more money.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/18 11:03 PM
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If the dude fucking loved his job at Home Depot, that could be ok with me. I just don't think that's reality for most of those guys. (No offense to home depot employees. perfectly respectable job)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/18 10:54 PM
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I would guess that a large percentage of these kids would have totally mysterious paternity, not necessarily being pinned on an unknowing father figure. I grew up with a few kids who had no idea who their dads were (poor neighborhood). Most of them had step dads who knew they weren't the kids biological fathers. Generally I think of these things as none of my business, though. My mother raised 2 kids that weren't hers biologically (one step, one adopted) and it was ideal.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/18 10:48 PM
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Because the whole point of dating getting to pick and choose the best and most compatible partner you can find. More goes into that than basic physical attraction. If I got paired with a super attractive guy who is dumb/boring/ mean/ religious/square/poorly socialized just because we're both pretty, I would be pissed.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/18 10:42 PM
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Because he's passionate about his job and is using his strengths to build a rad life for himself. It's awesome to be with someone who loves what they do and is always looking for new and novel ways to build his dream life. That's aligned with my lifestyle and values. Nothing against people who punch a clock and work for the weekend. It's just not preferable for my own goals and lifestyle. If my relationship isn't fun, what's the point?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/18 10:39 PM
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You're entire argument is that women are or should be happier in more traditional roles of allowing her man to be the breadwinner
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/18 10:36 PM
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You're not getting it. You're trying to claim that marriage and children make women, on average, happier. All the statistics show the opposite.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/18 10:04 PM
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I didn't say anything about kids. I'm saying that marriage does not have a positive effect on women's happiness across the board.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/18 09:39 PM
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Stop stigmatizing choices that are shown to make women happier. Married women are not happier than single women statistcally. Married men are much happier than single men, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/18 09:31 PM
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Meanwhile everyone in the 10/10 group is miserable because they dropped their ice cream cones. :(
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/18 09:26 PM
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We'd both rather wait. We're pragmatic.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/18 08:58 PM
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Everyone would be miserable with the exception of the bottom 5% of men
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/18 08:54 PM
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His post is about high income women
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/18 08:51 PM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/18 08:50 PM
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With a boring sadsack? No
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/18 08:05 PM
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Took me awhile but I finally have a job I like that pays 100K. congrats! The biggest problem I've had is getting careers synced. It sucks when your job is one city and your SO's in in another. Ironically on Monday I had an interview with the agency my ex-wife works for -- a couple of years too late. Ya I've dealt with that. What's nice about my situation now is that, while our jobs are very different, they are in the same general industry. We've even done a few professional jobs together and oft…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/18 07:24 PM
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Right, but not because of income. Because of lifestyle choices.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/18 07:06 PM
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Lets be honest though, most of the men you're dating are within the ilk of graduate school types if you're going to get serious. That's the spirit of this debate. My boyfriend is a radio DJ and musician. Hardly a "graduate school type" You're not going to have kids with Bob normal working at Home Depot pulling in a median income, with median interests being a median guy. You're right about that. Boring. Your dating pool is much smaller than the woman making $25K a year, who if she puts on a good…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/18 06:54 PM
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Any evidence? Low income women are much more likely to marry than high income women
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/18 06:49 PM
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I have no idea. I know I have plenty of great options as a high earner
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/18 06:43 PM
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That depends on several factors. I'd rather date a man earning 31K who is working towards his passion and is fulfilled by his work than a dude earning 100K who hates his job and life. My last 3 boyfriends have earned less than me, but were all doing cool shit with their lives and had a passion for what they were doing. I would not date any man who could not fully support himself and/or is irresponsible with his finances.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/18 06:36 PM
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Pretty much everyone dates and marries within their general income bracket. Your argument only makes sense if you're deciding "status" in an intangible way determined by your personal emotions
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/18 06:33 PM
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Right. But as a woman earning more than 80K on my own, all of your assertions are incorrect. You had to make a lot of baseless assumptions to reach your point.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/18 06:27 PM
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Who says you need a graduate degree to earn a high income? I have one, but it's actually not necessary for my current career and most of my colleagues do not Also I find the parody stereotype of the "career woman" pretty hilarious. Most women with successful careers aren't completely obsessed with "success" to the detriment of their own fulfillment and happiness. I just don't want to stress about bills, take a few vacations a year, drive a reliable car, have decent healthcare, give my dog a good…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/18 06:18 PM
2

Love me like a reptile by Motorhead. https://youtu.be/Kd6dtkuKvao Also, Love me by the Cramps https://youtu.be/UIm2y7UrJ8w
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/18 05:08 PM
3

Yes, but that's not relevant to the comment I was replying to.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/18 05:02 PM
3

That's true, though. Most women never cheat.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/18 04:56 PM
1

Yep. My vagina slammed shut then and there.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/18 04:11 PM
1

No I'm actually totally normal
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/18 04:10 PM
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Maybe both, not enough info. But I don't think its immature to be wary of overly emotional men. They are a liability.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/18 09:17 AM
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No. I've seen my current partner and past partners in all stages of emotions. Grief, extreme stress, anger, exhaustion, frustration, joy, gratitude, serenity, etc. The only times emotion has been a turnoff for me is when it's expressed inappropriately. My ec boyfriend fucking lost it when he learned his close friend was killed in an accident. Screaming, crying until he puked, panic, etc. Horrible to witness, but appropriate for the circumstances. Another ex cried when he couldn't find his favori…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/18 09:14 AM
8

Thank you for repeating what I've said 6 times while also adding baseless speculation?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/18 09:08 AM
5

except he didn't read his own source. It confirms that men still cheat at higher rates.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/18 03:38 AM
5

Almost one-quarter of men (23.2%) and 19.2% of women indicated that they had "cheated" during their current relationship women are cheating at nearly the same rate as men Thank you for the source to backup my argument! But I was actually asking you to back up yours
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/18 03:37 AM
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It's close, but men cheat a bit more
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/18 11:33 PM
8

Can you show me where I've been triggered?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/18 11:27 PM
10

Can you show me evidence that is not your feelings?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/18 11:22 PM
9

can you site a study that shows men and women cheat equal amounts?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/18 11:19 PM
8

What rage?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/18 11:17 PM
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That lesbians aren't natural. They exist in the animal kingdom and have existed in humans for all of human history. Scientists are in almost complete agreement that it is a natural state.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/18 10:56 PM
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No. Men approach women every single day letting them know they want to fuck them.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/18 10:54 PM
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Dude. Every single shred of available data shows that men are more likely to cheat. No one said they cheated way more than women. Are you always this sensitive to correct information?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/18 10:54 PM
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my statement is still accurate.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/18 10:44 PM
1

It's not personal, dude. You're asking me to help you with something that no one can help you with.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/18 10:37 PM
1

That absurd level of confirmation bias is further proof of your mental illness.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/18 10:31 PM
8

That's realistic
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/18 10:28 PM
1

Source?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/18 10:27 PM
1

You're totally unwilling, dude. Read through your own commentary. You're simply desperate to confirm your own twisted perspective. I can't snap you into rationality. You have to do that on your own.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/18 10:26 PM
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A person's thoughts, beliefs, and feelings are their own business and responsibility, period.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/18 10:24 PM
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Most women never cheat. Men cheat more than women.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/18 10:23 PM
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These are your beliefs, dude
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/18 10:19 PM
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It's completely useless for me to talk to you unless and until you drop your victim complex and admit to yourself that you might be wrong about a lot of things. That's not going to happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/18 10:15 PM
1

I've done this myself at least a dozen times. Not to people I dislike, but people I think would be a good match
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/18 10:12 PM
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Ok ladies here's how it goes If you reject men, you are the reason for every personal failure and negative thought in his life. Unless you drop to your knees for any dude that asks, you might as well murder him Also, if you accept advances from a certain amount of men (how many is too many can be anywhere from 1 to 1000. We haven't decided that yet.), then you are henceforth unworthy of love and commitment from any useful or good man forever. Understand?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/18 10:12 PM
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No you're not. You are stuck on your delusions and refuse to accept anything that goes against your victim complex.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/18 10:04 PM
1

There's no use trying to educate you. You are too fargone and delusional.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/18 09:59 PM
1

whoosh
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/18 09:50 PM
2

I know that the truths of basic reality are hard for you to understand and accept, but romantic relationships include a myriad of deep seated and complex human emotions that have nothing to do with the physical.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/18 09:50 PM
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Plenty of people are romantically successful without needing to totally overhaul themselves to make up for a history of personal failure. RP is a remedy for failure. Naturally successful men have no need for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/18 08:27 PM
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I don't blame you. It feels good to blame your failures on others. Today's why so many people do it
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/18 08:25 PM
2

Most grown men are not bitter and do not externalize their failures on to others.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/18 08:24 PM
5

A the classic RP chicken/egg conundrum. Are good men successful, or are successful men good?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/18 08:22 PM
8

The 35+ red men here are not "normal".
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/18 07:01 PM
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It means you have high SMV and is hipergamous. So... where is the unicorn part? Rampant hypergamy or healthy, happy long-term relationships. Pick one. You seen to misunderstand. TRP just says it is better to men to avoid hoes because of their behavior, std problems, hypergamy and lack of self awareness like you are expressing right now. TRP often warns women that sleeping around will make it so no high quality man wants to date her, that she'll end up an STD ridden single mother who gets pumped …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/18 06:47 PM
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I don't ask anyone to tiptoe around me. you just get very upset and triggered at the slightest hint of criticism
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/18 05:56 PM
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