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Your heartbreak is not valid because you're a man. Ridiculous, right?
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/23 07:43 AM
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How to interpret a woman who says her father is an amazing dad, and she loves him for that, but a shitty, abuser husband (to her mother)?
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/23 06:44 AM
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Nah, bro, that was a joke, I'm not actually looking to date dudes and we're a whole continent apart - I live in Brazil. But I sincerely wish you the best of luck, be it with girls, dudes or all by yourself 🙏
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/23 09:39 PM
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I think I'm going to date dudes going forward. What's your location? Wanna go for a coffee? 🤣
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/23 08:16 PM
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Am I allowed to laught at this story? Craziest shit I've read in a long, long time... and this comes from someone who works at the criminal DA's office 🤯
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/23 01:39 AM
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and if they’re not close friends they’ll likely become energy vampires that prolong your grieving process. Would you kindly care to elaborate this? I've been noticing this as I'm being atipically openly talking about everything, and I've never been like this before.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/23 11:09 PM
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Sorry hijacking your comment, but, OP, I second this. All I've made trying to date while not ready was blundering and being all over the place.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/23 11:05 PM
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No. If what she says is true, his conduct turns him into it, regardless of the observer. I would despise any woman that acted like him, why should I side with him? No double standards with me 👍
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/23 09:57 PM
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He acts exactly like the bitches we criticize so much on this sub: wants to fuck other people but keep the benefits of marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/23 06:06 PM
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He's not ever her ex... yet. At least read the whole story before saying something. Guy's a piece of shit and I won't side by him just because he's a man. How I wish my ex wife was as supportive as OP claims to be.
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/23 06:04 PM
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This guy's sick and sounds like he can never be satisfied. You be the judge. Also, you don't have to be supportive of adultery. And, finally, yes, there are guys who genuinely desire to stay with one women, to love her and be reciprocated. VERY, VERY hard to find, but they do exist.
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/23 05:44 PM
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Is she monkey branching? If so, her branch probably tore down and she's trying to hang into a safe one - you - until she finds another she regards as secure.
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/23 04:52 PM
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It sure is. I've watched a lot a woman named Luma Aziz once saying "don't confuse your bad days with a bad life". So true! We'll most certainly crawl out of this hole, one step at a time.
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/23 12:19 PM
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It's almost misterious. It's been final for 9+ months and still coming back to bite my ass.
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/23 09:36 AM
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Thank you for the kind words! I'm angry at myself because it shouldn't affect me at all but it felt like a straight jab to my jaw - for a few seconds, I lost my senses and became completely unaware of my surroundings while that "hello, hello?" kept echoing in my head. I talked to my parents about it and besides the obvious - revoke her access to the intercom - they've acted as they always do: dismissive about my pain and feelings in general.
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/23 09:33 AM
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Isn't that just plain pitiful? No other human should that power over us, yet here we are, grown ass men on their knees because a woman's voice or some other equivalent thing. It's been 9+ months for me and everyday I'm discovering new layers of this rotten onion called divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/23 09:26 AM
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Hearing her voice felt like PTSD to me. I mean, as weird as it may sound, I'm over her, but not over what she did. Besides, I didn't have the slightest idea it would ring on her cellphone - it should have been redirected to my parents or my brother.
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/23 03:48 AM
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Now that I bluntly told her I'm not ready for a relationship she's acting all like "oh, you're rushing things, I was never interested, we're just friends bla bla bla" 🤣
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/23 01:38 AM
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I don't really know 'cause I couldn't fucking care less about her adultery life 👍 She may as well stick a cactus up her arse, it's none of my concern any longer
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/23 01:22 AM
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Some other redditor said I'm in the "get my dick wet phase"... so true 😬 ​ But this chick won't just get laid with me, so, that's a no no
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/23 05:53 PM
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Actually, I do want a serious relationship and want kids, but unfortunately she doesn't have the time I need, it means, not now for me, so it seems fair to not waste both her time and mine. You don't know how hard it was to tell her that, but I did it. Mission accomplished.
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/23 12:16 AM
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What I don't get is why you tried to reconcile with a woman that endangered you physically 🤷‍♂️
/r/Divorce_Men08/03/23 01:25 AM
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You probably know it, but, please, stop driving drunk. Your life is valuable, don't endanger all of your future because of a temporary problem. You may not believe this is temporary, but it is.
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/23 09:39 PM
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I buckled because I was a weak coward. Never again. #metoo
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/23 09:21 PM
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Likewise for women it's VERY hard to find a trustworthy husband. No doubt about it. I mentioned Proverbs 31:10 because I'm a Christian man, but the Bible has a whole lot of advice for men as males, fathers and husbands, and that will be an essential piece of my recovery and evolution. I'm reassured by God's blessings I'll be a better man after this shitstorm settles down 🙏 If it takes two to tango, I'm righting my wrongs and rehearsing my steps!
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 07:52 PM
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So, if you were a woman, would you date the version of you that you were while you were still living with your parents? Especially with no sure sign that you would become the version of you that you are today? The version I was while dating the x? Hell fucking no. That relationship turned the once confident man I was before her into a lousy depressed lazy fat ball. I'm just started on my track to become myself again: a smart, confident man. Now just wealthier, emotionally evolved and fit 💪 Maybe…
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 07:37 PM
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I just started reading "No more Mr. Nice Guy", alongside with "Codependence no more". I'll look into the titles you mentioned. Do any of those books teach how to avoid that smile of hers? 😐
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 07:26 PM
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That's a certainty. Non-negotiable.
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 07:23 PM
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Long enough to confirm that I didn't want to move back in their home. I still feel at home whem I'm there and it sure feels good to be taken care of and be loved by them, but we no longer fit at the same home 24/7, I need my own space. I'll be forever grateful though to my father, who paid my downpayment so I could go on with a mortgage for the apartment I own today.
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 05:11 PM
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Really dangerous and toxic route this of mgtow/redpill/blackpill/shitpill/whatever. Not all of us men are equal, why think that of women? I do agree that it's VERY hard to find a trustworthy wife, even the Bible says that at Proverbs 31:10, but we have way more than a thousand miles going from that to despising females as if they were a whole, undivisible unit.
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 05:07 PM
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We share both the time frame and the positive outlook, that is, when the timing is right. Thanks, God bless you 🙏
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 05:02 PM
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I have to uproot the way I view the world to surrogate a child :/ I was raised to believe that outside of my parents home, family equals to marriage with or without kids, according to the couple's wishes.
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 05:00 PM
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Not good looking I would say, but I'm tall, lean, dress ok, nice job, good sense of humor, etc. Wanna date me? 🤣
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 04:57 PM
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Those are her own interests, not any of mine
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 02:18 PM
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Yeah, it feels like a lost opportunity both for me and for her
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 02:17 PM
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She knows I'm not ready and has also openly stated that to me. Maybe we just met at the wrong time 🤷‍♂️
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 02:15 PM
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I don't see it in a bad light. Right after divorce I also moved back into my parents' place, she did the same.
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 02:12 PM
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Yeah, I'm keeping her at bay... for now. Divorce really wrecks us on so many emotional levels, doesn't it? For those that are Christians, it's no wonder God Himself made into the Bible: "For I hate divorce,”s says Jehovah the God of Israel, “and the one who covers his garment with violence,” says Jehovah of armies.
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 02:10 PM
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It sure is progress, my man, and I'm glad to read it. First step into acceptance, way to go!
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 02:01 PM
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I've read the stats, and they're a bitch, really
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 01:59 PM
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We men are fools, aren't we? Rationally I'm unable to counter you, because you're logically accurate, but all that rationale falls apart with her smile. Shit 🤡
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 01:56 PM
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She was driven by nothing else in life (which means no carreer aspirations or even meaningful hobbies). Funny how each one of us has a different metric. I would never ever even date someone like this. Don't get me wrong, please, I think I see the reasoning behind your choice of marrying her, that's just not the way I think 🙃 The cult-like self-help seminar part makes me ask if all women are really that supple. The x divorced me 6 months after changing jobs, having seen THREE LTR couples disbandl…
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 11:07 AM
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But never ever get in a relationship with a blamer. I wholeheartedly agree that's one red flag. From her POV, he didn't grieve at all or was very disrespectful and dismissive of her pain, which might have been the wrongest possible way to deal with his own grievance. Once again, if what she told me is the truth, that's no way to treat anyone, much less a mother that had just lost a baby 2 months old.
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 10:55 AM
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The one that has a kid is a drugstore clerk no older than 25. Hot as fuck if you ask me. ​ What you need is a respectful and subservient woman. That will support you and not old enough to have kids with you. ... At least marry someone 6 or more years younger than you. ​ Preach, brother. My true desire is that things go as close as possible to this.
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 10:50 AM
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Test the waters for a few years and then start talking marriage. That's my true wish and I'll do my best to stick to it.
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 10:41 AM
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I'm royally damned then, because I don't think I have what it takes to be a fuck boi or, worse, paying for hookers. Sometime I wish I had, but I don't and I had no difficulty just accepting that. I know myself and if I go that route it'll surely lead me to a nightmare level depression, unless I do a 180 on the moral foundation I was raised on.
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 10:40 AM
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She moved back in with mom and sis after the divorce
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 10:35 AM
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Look! Sons* are an inheritance from Jehovah; The fruit of the womb is a reward. That's what's written on Psalms 127:3. I've been raised with that and truly believe it, and I just go along well with kids in general. I think that what you say is that I'm not obliged to be a dad or that having kids should be the goal of my life, but I really wouldn't see a baby as a curse - in a loving family environment, of course.
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 10:34 AM
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You're most likely right, but, man... if things really happened as she told me, the guy is the utmost jerk. The loss of a son is the most grievous event that can occur to a parent, especially to a mother, and the way she said to me he treated her is just not right. Plus, meanwhile, he was betraying her with a cousin of him. She could be lying? Sure.
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 10:24 AM
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You will probably lose her in the future. It might have already happened. Was honest with her, to which she replied that I seem to be broken and need time to cure. That I seem like a loving and caring man, but I need to cure in order to find someone, yada yada, etc.
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 03:50 AM
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I'm a lawyer too. Fight fire with fire, I guess? lol Are you so desperate for attention I am ☹️ And for someone else’s cement written plan that already fell through once before. Not entirely her fault... Your whole comment reads like tough love to me, I'm actually needing this. Nice to have a gay man perspective here, thank you!
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 03:48 AM
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I'm a lawyer too
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 03:41 AM
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Best way to go, undoubtedly, but easier said than done when she really caught my attention. First one in 9 months... just feels good being alive and looking at other women without guilt! Too bad I met her now
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 03:41 AM
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We just had a talk and she said that I seem to still be broken and need more time to cure, so, I'm no longer sure she's so interested 😑
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 03:39 AM
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One of the wisest comments in this thread, thank you. That's my perception too, not a good alignment of my needs and hers. I just wish we met some years earlier or a few months later 😑
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 03:37 AM
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9 months isn’t enough time for you to have your head clear, I agree with all of your comment, but I stressed this part because... she just said me that. We just had a talk and she said that I seem to still be broken and need more time to cure, so, I'm no longer sure she's so interested. That's both relieving and stressful if you ask me 🤯
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 03:35 AM
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Also, she is a Lawyer. So am I. Let's put out fire with gasoline 😂
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 03:32 AM
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Uhh, first part of the story you told me is my story, actually - I got out of my divorce financially unscratched. But I still want kids and can't envision that outside of a family arrangement. Blame my education for that 🤷‍♂️
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 03:22 AM
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Well, her parents divorced a long time ago. She lived with her mom and her sister, until july/2022, when their mother died from a cancer.
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 03:20 AM
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You seem like a relationship guy so I know that this is happening. Definitely I am. As for the real-estate trick, I don't know... we just had a talk, she said to have already noticed I'm still broken and need time to cure, so, I'm just not so sure she's that interested at all.
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 03:15 AM
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but the fact is that she ditched her last husband when he couldn't give her what she wanted. I see things this way too, but she also mentioned how he dealt with her grievance and the loss of their son. If things happened as she told me, he's a complete jerk. As for being a lawyer, well, I'm one too, so let's fight fire with fire LOL
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 03:13 AM
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How else am I supposed to have kids? With random women on the streets?
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 03:09 AM
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If you aren't ready for a relationship, then don't start one. Sound advice
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 03:08 AM
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They lost their mom july/2022, and their dad lives with another woman, that's why.
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 03:07 AM
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They lost their mom july/2022, and their dad lives with another woman, that's why.
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 03:06 AM
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You're on your second marriage? Let me try that too, come on 🤣
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 03:05 AM
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I just have the belief that I'm a different man and if I marry a different woman, things might work out and there's only one way to know 🤷‍♂️ I still acknowledge you're probably right.
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 03:05 AM
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I know where you're at, trust me. But you won't get under her skin by showing you care. Emotions like love, hate, anger, etc. show you care, and at this point, it's normal for you. You know what will truly hurt her? Your indifference. Take baby steps into indifference, but never go backwards. I'm just trying to warn you with first hand experience advice, so you may not repeat my mistakes. Take care of yourself and count on us over here.
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/23 09:11 PM
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Dude, a few days before leaving home, me and my x were on the bed, snuggled up, I got hard as a stone, she noticed and dropped a "There's no mood for it" and then proceeded to hold my hand and hug me as tight as she could, like saying without words "I'll miss you but I'm fucking another guy, sorry". They all pull from the same playbook.
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/23 02:39 PM
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Get some help, you're in serious need of it
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/23 02:10 PM
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I'm still grappling if I should confront about what I know about her infidelity. Its been a major source of my anger and I'm not great on letting shit go. Don't. She will come up with ALL kinds of excuses to shift the blame towards you. Not worth it, because a cheater is always a liar. All it'll do is confuse you and give her validation like "oh he still cares". You're trying to make a cheater feel guilty, and cheaters feel no guilt or remorse over their actions, they're always justified.
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/23 01:58 PM
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You sure have your share of fault, so do I, as all of us here, both men and women. But your ex is a cheater and cheaters deserve no pity, fuck him, he's now at best a stranger and at worst your enemy. And as a man I'm actually glad to see you holding yourself accountable - that's a rare sight in women.
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/23 01:46 PM
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Accurate even to the point of skin colors 🤡
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/23 01:40 PM
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It's a cope that only takes you down - it's an addiction actually.
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/23 01:31 PM
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Care to elaborate?
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/23 01:29 PM
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Mr. Gattsama, adopt me, please 🤣
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/23 01:15 PM
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I've been reading "Codependence no more" as a way of starting to understand how I mimicked my parents behavior in their marriage on mine, and how that contributed to divorce. Not to blame them, of course, after all, it's my responsibility to work on my own faults. But it's undeniable the environment we grow in has a HUGE influence on how we behave as adults.
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/23 12:46 PM
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Over the years, I have upgraded every aspect of her life: health, wealth, intellect, political awareness, social status…etc. That’s what a man is supposed to do for his chosen queen. But on the flip side, she has become increasingly ungrateful, less affectionate and just plain mean. Have we married the same woman or are we the same guy? 🤨
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/23 12:31 PM
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I love mine and I'm well sure she loves me back LOL
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/23 12:12 PM
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Porn destroys men, and it has nasty consequences for women too.
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/23 11:37 AM
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Women are now starting to show interest in me, at 9 month mark after divorce, and, honestly, I'm terrified Although I like the care and attention they're giving me, I'm by no means ready to turn it into something good Divorce after being cheated really broke me on the inside 🤯
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/23 11:25 AM
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We want you ❤️ Feel free to DM anytime
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/23 05:57 AM
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The meds you've been prescribed have a low chance of, for the short term (a few days) actually increase ocurrence of suicidal thought. Please, please, don't stay alone if that happens. Your life is valuable and we're here, rooting for you. Good thing you just started taking care of yourself. We care, trust me
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/23 01:54 AM
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It was all there, all the time, I just can't complain I didn't read it before 🤦‍♂️
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/23 10:04 AM
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Your moment to strike is right NOW; she's probably on an affair fog and won't like being cornered by you and/or your lawyer. Just let the bitch go ride the carousel.
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/23 09:37 AM
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Not any different in Brazil. Guess it's just the world we live in 🤷‍♂️
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/23 02:55 AM
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You're in denial. She's unashamedly comparing you, her husband and father of her kids, to other men. She's mapping her branch right under your beard at this very moment, if she hasn't already found one.
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/23 02:11 AM
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I know prior to anything I want way more than just sex. Am I damned, right? lol
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/23 03:26 AM
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37 YEARS??? Is that right? That's more the entirety of the lives of so many of us here, me included
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/23 04:05 AM
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You'll have a ground base to climb up from, that's what
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/23 03:34 AM
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NO ONE - no exceptions - is worth that. NO ONE. You are the most valuable person of your life.
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/23 03:24 AM
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Shit, I am the living flesh and bones PHIL stereotype 🤯
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/23 03:17 AM
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You have a point, sir! I tried tinder for about 3 weeks with relative success, and, wow, some valuable lessons extracted. It demonstrated irrefutably that I wasn't ready - and I think I still am not - for anything with a woman, much less a LTR
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/23 03:14 AM
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No woman asks for divorce like this if she's isn't very sure to have a soft landing, doesn't matter that it turns out in reality to be a delusion of her mind. Even if the baby she's pregnant of is yours, she already has a new man or has one - or more - lined up.
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/23 09:59 PM
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Come on, my man, try to put your feelings for your stbx aside for a little, reserve all your loving for your baby. Your stbx is now at best a stranger, who also happens to be the mother of your child, and at worst, your enemy. LAWYER UP NOW.
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/23 09:25 PM
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Aside from the kids, it was a very similar situation: a hormonal lady saying uncalculated things and then backing off. When it happened, it was always around day 20 of the month every time. Coincidence?
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/23 01:44 AM
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Look, my x also had this habit of breaking up and dropping the D bomb. Utmostly, it made me not care, because we always managed to even our differences and keep things going, until she found greener pastures and it was no longer a threat. If you let her keep doing this, she'll lose respect for you, if that hasn't already happened. Either you pretend you don't care or you get along with her wishes. "Oh, so you want a divorce? Here it is".
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/23 01:41 AM
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Shit, now that you've given details, it reminds of when me and x had 3 months of marriage. She sent me a lenghty email asking for divorce. The reason? She dropped her cellphone during a light argument we had the weekend prior, and, of course, it was all my blame, all I cared about was money, bla bla bla Should've let her go, lost so many opportunities to bang hot ladies at college... 🤦‍♂️
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/23 01:35 AM
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Do you suspect of anything. *ahem*, wrong?
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/23 01:26 AM
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Hell, this thought stood with me today all day long, like "how can even the excuses she gave for wanting the divorce be precisely the same that so many guys on r/divorce_men let us know?", bullshit like "I lost my identity, I will find myself" Come on, it's almost like they take classes or something 🙄
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/23 01:13 AM
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I bought my first apartment and am living alone for the first time in my life. Also, first time too without a car, I drive since I was 18. Lots of changes, most of them big, some little, but a whole lot of them. I'm now dealing better with them, but at the beginning of it all I was simply overwhelmed.
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/23 02:46 AM
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Both situations make us grieve, although divorce is hideous, while death is just inevitable. I think that's why you're like this - pretty normal human grieving. Allow yourself to it but don't linger on it for too long, not healty.
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/23 02:39 AM
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Just hear this man. I know it's hard when we're in denial or some kind of hope things will work out, etc. Take the steps as soon as you're ready, but take'em. You have kids, so radio silence is impossible, but pursue the goal to be as close to it as you can get while being the best dad you can be.
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/23 02:37 AM
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I wanted, before the divorce, which she rushed like I had never seen her rushing anything prior. I think all of you guys know the reason or have some very educated guess 🤡 Actually, even a few months after finding what happened, I was still shocked and in denial. Lucky me she didn't try any moves, I was so vulnerable and needy I could have fallen for it, who knows. Guess what? I'm way better now. And better off without that bitch.
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/23 10:43 PM
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Go see your dog NOW. They don't count time like we do and they don't hold grudges. Give him a long and tight hug, say you love him (they understand) and tell your ex to just go fuck herself if that's what serves her right.
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/23 08:48 AM
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You're an awesome dad, rest assured your son knows that too and sees through his mom's bullshit. Keep going, brother! Where there's life, there's hope.
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/23 08:44 AM
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Promise me you'll get checked, these things usually don't go away by themselves. Divorce is a trauma - in fact, one of the most blunt traumas a human adult can take - and as such should be dealt with. If it ever helps just venting here, please, be my guest. We're all here for eachother.
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/23 08:32 AM
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How's your cognition and concentration, OP?
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/23 01:29 AM
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You will. I suppose from what you said that your divorce is still ongoing or is very recent. But, yes, you will survive. Be patient with yourself while this pain won't relief, keep doing what you have the energy and will to do, and keep improving those steps as you possibly can. It's a long road, comrade, but don't give your ex the taste of victory over you.
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/23 01:28 AM
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This, OP, this. There's hope, but you have to draw forces from somewhere to at least starting help yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/23 01:25 AM
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Nah, just shake your head, wave your hands and smile. If you absolutely must say something, just say "oh, you could be right, i'll think about that, thank you"
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/23 08:09 PM
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Thank God you had the time, resources and opportunity to save your marriage and family 🙏 I'll always be glad to hear something like that; may He always bless you and your family
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/23 08:02 PM
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Don't give it to her like this. You might be depressed, go see a doctor, NOW.
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/23 01:59 AM
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Welcome aboard, brother! I lurked for too long around this sub, should've joined waaaay earlier 😃
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/23 10:30 PM
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FUCK NO. I heard (read) the same exact f*cking words while she was already with her new guy. If she's like my ex, she's trying to polish her image - to herself and the rest of the world. She might be the extremely vain type, again, like my ex, who could maybe, just maybe, be telling horrible lies about you and painting herself like a holy angel so she appears as the good girl on her own story. If you keep attacking her, you'll just give her justification and make her story seem true to her famil…
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/23 01:26 AM
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OP, LOOK INTO MY EYES AND HEAR ME CAREFULLY: FOCUS ON GETTING YOUR SHIT TOGETHER. She's now at best a stranger and at worst your enemy.
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/23 01:19 AM
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Please, I beg you to take the best care of this dog you can for the entirety of its life. Their love is pure and unconditional, and they are fiercely loyal, no matter how down and out you might be or be feeling.
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/23 01:16 AM
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If you feel like it, you probably are. Think about changing your lawyer. He should at least be inspiring you some trust, which he isn't.
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/23 01:12 AM
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You all talk so much about this book that I just had a daydream that I'd translate it to portuguese so more men from this part of the world could reach it :D
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/23 01:08 AM
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Please, please, take the best care of this dog as you can. Their love is real and unconditional, trust me
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/23 01:05 AM
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If you ever want to do something crazy and visit Brazil, I'll be here for you :D Most people here are from US, some from other parts of the world, but there are borderless common points that unite us and weird as it may sound, gives me a little reassurance that I'm not a failure for having been abandoned by some bitch that made so many handcrafted gifts and cards but as soon as having found another guy, decided that his grass was greener than mine. I mean, there are guys from all over the world …
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/23 01:01 AM
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Wise words. With your permission, I'd summarize it as "either you live by your creed or change it; living against it will throw you further and further into a bottomless pit of depression".
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/23 12:53 AM
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From your wife or you ex-wife? Come on, man, there's just one correct answer for each situation, and I'm dead sure you know both.
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/23 09:46 PM
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I encourage her to go to therapy herself. We didn’t have kids ( even though I wanted them ) because she didn’t want them . ...from you. Don't be surprised if she appears pregnant in a short to medium term.
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/23 01:04 PM
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I bet that while you were on top of your game, like I was, you were THE man to her. My ex didn't need another phone, dating sites or whatever 'cause she found Mr. Wonderful at her new job and had daily contact with him at their office, after 2yrs working from home due to the pandemics. Go take care of yourself, brother. I'm here for you
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/23 03:43 AM
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Oh, I have never felt in anyone else's shoes like I'm feeling in yours now: "Calm down, time will tell you the direction"; "Our story didn't die, but it had an end - it is and will always be important to me"; "I still have the same care and respect for you, but we just don't work as a couple anymore" 🤡 ​ P.S: She's cheating. Been there, seen that.
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/23 02:55 AM
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I've been reading it a lot, and, yes, all the answers really are there. Let's not forget to ask God clarity and understanding of His word
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/23 02:50 AM
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When my anxiety/depression issue hit me the hardest it has ever hit, what has my wife of 14yrs done, despite the support I gave her all this time, including healthcare? You know the answer 🤡
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/23 02:42 AM
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At the gym, I'm completely out of my comfort zone - I'm a Law School graduate, I work at my local criminal prosecutor's office and in my free time I'm a computer/videogames nerd and a bookstan - what could possibly go wrong? LOL
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/23 02:33 AM
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P.S. seeking validation from women is one of the weakest things for a man to do. Please let's not do this, king. You're absolutely right, although I have a hard time living by this creed. I know not every woman is an egomaniac bitch, but, come on, why is it so hard to find the ones that are not? Not to say we lacked advice, Proverbs 31:10 tried to warn us 🙄
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/23 02:28 AM
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Your reply forced me to research for the meaning of "woodshed phase" - thank you for forcing me to learn something new LOL. On a serious note, I just found a 1985 Yale monograph about it*, while listening to The Bird by Charlie Parker 🤓 As for being fragile, I'm only now starting to accept it's normal and slowly to believe someday it'll be over.
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/23 02:19 AM
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did you make an illegal volleyball move because you don’t know the rules or because you weren’t focused? Uhh... both? And tired, too - I just went straight from a calisthenics class to volleyball game.
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/23 02:07 AM
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We all know - or should know - our limits. I know I'm a sucker at volleyball, yet, I went there and tried it. But, yes, we have to regulate our expectations, specially when it involves other people's approval or validation.
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/23 02:00 AM
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I'm so determined on acquiring new skills, getting fit, attaining a better job, etc. that my psychiatrist told me on my first appointment with her that I might just have to slow my pace a little bit. No way I'm taking the self-destruction route, but I admit it's easy and seductive, and may even give some comfort for a short period - that's why so many men lean on drugs, alcohol, etc. Being social means pushing an almost insurmountable boundary for me, given I'm the introspective type; large grou…
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/23 01:57 AM
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Well, without false modesty, yes I do excel in some areas, but none of them involves the skill required for sports, notably if a ball is in the game. Curiously, I'm a very high skilled driver/biker - different ability, maybe? About this specific volley class, I went there right after a calisthenics class which I didn't manage to finish - it was just way above my fitness level. I'm trying and fixing my shortcomes so maybe one day I'll find the good woman you talk about. Even though we don't know …
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/23 01:45 AM
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May God bless all of us on doing so 🙏
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/23 01:36 AM
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Humiliation is a catalyst for pain... ...which in turn is a catalyst for change. I had to try it at least.
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/23 02:54 PM
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There is no woman to get you out of the 'mud'. I know, my man, I know, that was just rhetoric to illustrate a point. Point being the woman who said to love me vanished when I hit what might be the lowest point of my life. - let alone talking about stranger ones, right? Up until yesterday night I was completely ignorant to the existence of Mrs. Best-Volleyball-Player-World-Has-Ever-Known. Yet, somehow, she managed to get under my skin, even if that was just a scratch. Positive side is that it cle…
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/23 02:52 PM
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Just go telling your daughter the truth, by the pace you perceive she'll be ready to understand, and both of you will be fine and have a great father-daughter connection. Also, be the best father you can be - actions speak louder than words!
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/23 12:38 PM
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I'll tell you what my psychiatrist told me this thursday, she said: "You're spending time and destroying your mental health because of a woman who is fucking another guy? Grow a sack" Harsh, I know, but truthful.
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/23 12:33 PM
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As anecdotal as it is, I know a colleage of my father that spent like 20 yrs with a woman - they met when she already young kids. When the kids were all raised and the ex-couple had built a nice estate, she left, out of the blue. You're not the chosen one to be immune to this. Neither I am, none of us are in fact. Beware, bro
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/23 12:26 PM
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Forget the lotto, you just spent all your luck dodging this cannon ball 😂
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/23 12:17 PM
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Hear this man. Monkey branching is one of the things this sub - me included - most criticize women for doing, because it's statistically normal behavior of them. Don't do that - and that is advice for myself too.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/23 06:07 PM
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My ex still uses a cell phone number that's registered to my name. I have total power to cancel it and make her lose 2FA authentications, have to tell everyone and their mother about a new number etc., still, I haven't done that - I could just transfer it to her. If the carrier didn't require both of us to be phisically present on a store of theirs to fulfill the ownership transfer, I think I would already have done that. Counterwise, to cancel it, a 10-minute call might solve the issue. Help me…
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/23 06:03 PM
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Thank you for taking your time to answer such an intimate question, I really appreciate it! As for me, the first few times, I woke up absolutely crushed, both phisically and emotionally. Then, as my sleep gradually recovered, I still got up an emotional mess - it still persists, to some extent. I have just been asking to God to intervene on my sleep and not allow my brain to wave whatever it's craving for that involves my ex or anyone/anything remotely related to her. I think He's been hearing m…
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/23 05:34 PM
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Strangely enough, just about 10 days before dropping the D bomb, she was texting me things like "I don't want another man neither to live a different story, you're an intelligent man, I love you", all meanwhile we were searching listings to find a place of our own property 🤡 Thank you for such heart warming words, brother We're all here for eachother.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/23 04:06 PM
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You're probably right. I mean, he knew she was married, nonetheless, decided to, uh, "attack"? And she gave in? Or she began it and he took the opportunity... doesn't matter the direction, that looks to me like a rotten moral foundation for a new relationship.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/23 01:29 PM
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Mind telling us on which mood do you wake up after those dreams?
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/23 03:34 AM
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Yesterday, a fellow redditot that goes by the name of /u/Xan-Diesel told me that sometime we're too hard on ourselves, like I was being regarding my divorce, which hasn't even been my decision to begin with. I still have to make a huge effort to not see as a complete failure a marriage that wasn't perfectly succesful in my view. Anyway, his word gave food for thought, so, thank anyway Xan-Diesel! ​ As for you, try to think about it a little. Might give you a starting point to think something goo…
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/23 03:26 AM
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I think I'm slowly creeping out of this ridiculous waiting for a message from a woman who in just 6 months after changing jobs to earn almost as I do, met another guy and decided that after 14+ yrs together, somehow decided that he was "better" than me, despite all support I gave her all this time and all of the future plans, some of those already in course or realistically about to get on track. Of course I have my failures and I'm tackling on them, one by one, but I firmly stand my ground when…
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/23 03:21 AM
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Oh, the dismissive comments... I try to be patient, but especially religious people (which both of my parents are) excel on saying those. "Forget her, she's in the thrash bin of you life now"; "God will heal you, just have faith"; I believe in God, I acknowledge that following His written advice could've been useful on my now failed marriage, but how exactly being dismissive helps me? That's what they (religious people) don't get.
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/23 01:51 AM
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I just wrote to a fellow redditor that hindsight is always 20/20. I married with defensive measures due to the history of breakups during our dating. Hell, I proposed one week after our latest breakup. ​ Should've just let her follow that devil's pastor that told her "god don't want you and him (me) together"
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/23 01:39 AM
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Thank you for your kind words! You know, hindsight is always 20/20, and that brings an unfathomable amount of guilt. It keeps hammering in my head "how come you haven't seen that? why didn't you do or didn't do this or that differently?" Fun fact: just spoke to my mom over the phone, I complained to her of being tired of loneliness, to which she replied "you have barely experienced a single man's life, chill out".
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/23 01:35 AM
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