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| 11 | Can a guy truly move past a girl’s past if he really loves her?I dealt with this with an ex, and after a few arguments about it I bluntly told him that I cannot change my past. I told him the relationship was in his hands: he can either go to therapy to work through it and drop the topic, or he can end the relationship. I wasn’t going to perpetually be “the bad guy” for the rest of the relationship over something I cannot change (especially since I did a bunch of therapy about it). 2 months is still in the vetting stage… Since it’s still early, how long did… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/10/25 08:01 PM |
| 2 | Anxious about the content he watches1) He does act like he trusts me in all matters 2) I don’t believe so from a girlfriend. He does however have big issues with his mother and views her with disdain and doesn’t like her as a person (overbearing, gossips, negative attitude, few hobbies). His parents were never married but they split when he was young and she married a well off man after. My fiancée seems to view this quite negatively; he has disdain that she never really had to work a job (she raised 2 kids), like he’s upset that … | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/09/25 10:09 PM |
| 1 | Anxious about the content he watchesInteresting, thank you for that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/09/25 06:38 PM |
| 1 | Anxious about the content he watchesTrue, however it’s also the content on cheating wives, manipulating/ seducing insecure women, and bad things about marriage that has me most concerned. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/09/25 05:43 PM |
| 4 | Anxious about the content he watchesWe both come from broken homes. He seems to have “mommy issues”; he watches a lot of videos on the Devouring Mother, and has obvious disdain that his mother married a fairly rich man after his parents split up. I’m his longest relationship. He doesn’t like his mother very much. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/09/25 01:53 PM |
| 2 | Anxious about the content he watchesI did/ do notice changes when he watches the content; a slightly colder demeanour, very delayed replies to messages, negative attitude. I should also note that we don’t fight or argue, I don’t “nag” over stuff, and I’m always sexually available (usually it’s me initiating, he kinda lays back passively till his engine heats up). Yesterday I sent him a blog post from a male coach I follow on “How the red pill is killing your marriage” (on how RPM tactics for hookups can backfire in a marriage/LTR … | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/09/25 01:49 PM |
| 2 | Anxious about the content he watchesNo prior marriages, engaged since mid July. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/09/25 01:28 PM |
| 9 | Why would they friend request me 5 years later?He wants sex with minimal investment/ effort. That’s it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/08/25 05:07 PM |
| 4 | I wish my boyfriend was more materialistic and willing to provide. Am I just being unreasonable, or are we incompatible for marriage?Personally, I don’t like the idea of you “working off” the cost of the car parts. Did you suggest that, or him? I find I have a habit of sabotaging myself similarly (I will offer in order to not put him out too much, and then regret it because I have compromised my desire to have him lead and handle the situation fully. This is anxious attachment manifesting imo, and actually controlling his behaviour). I think you have to accept him as he is, while using positive reinforcement when he does thin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/25 06:24 PM |
| 11 | I wish my boyfriend was more materialistic and willing to provide. Am I just being unreasonable, or are we incompatible for marriage?I sympathize with some of your feelings. Gifts are definitely my love language, however my fiancé is not a man who enjoys shopping or giving “stuff”. Not for birthdays, not for holidays. (He’s so grumpy on Valentines Day when he plunks down the obligatory flowers lmao) So you’ve been with him 1.5 yrs; can you clarify if your engagement (you said 2 year timeline) will likely be in 6 months? Or does that mean hopefully engaged in another 2 years and then a wedding several months (or years?) later?… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/25 08:49 PM |
| 5 | Am I settling or being greedy?Since you are vague on how long you’ve been exclusively dating for, I’d say if this relationship is less than 2 years he is already being very financially generous (considering you also work). Dont fall victim to “the grass is greener” syndrome; remember that material items will not hold you close at a funeral, be your cheerleader during a difficult time, kiss you after 18 hours of labour with your first child, or bring you soup when you have a cold. You won’t fill your family album with photos … | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/08/25 09:18 PM |
| 1 | What is considered long hair to you?I consider “long” to be nipple/ back of bra length or longer. I’m almost 4 months post extensions, and it’s very frustrating. My hair is devastatingly thin, and thank goodness I have natural curls (which I always straightened before) to create volume because otherwise it would look so sad 🤣. I have heard good things about the Keristase Genesis line to extend the hair growth phase, as well as Minoxidil. Other supps that block DHT such as pumpkin seed oil and saw palmetto may help as well. I’d say… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/25 06:25 PM |
| 2 | How do unmarried women manage their expectations regarding wanting marriageI feel you. Not sure where you live, but here in Canada “common law marriage” does not entitle you to any assets or property rights upon the death of your partner (goes direct to next of kin). So for me, besides being a covenant with God and the symbolism, that is a big reason why I want to be married (I just got engaged a couple weeks ago). Unless the man can solidly state he sees you in his long term future, it’s likely best to keep your options open. Now, I am ex static to finally be engaged,… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/07/25 06:21 PM |
| 8 | How do unmarried women manage their expectations regarding wanting marriageWas this man married previously? He knows as well as anyone that a prenup is a common request (sounds like it would actually protect you more than him if you’re acquiring land, etc), so the whole “women benefit more” is rubbish. He could stipulate marriage with a prenup and that’s fair. Overall it’s not a good sign if you’ve known him this long and he won’t introduce you to his family. Personally, I would not tolerate that. So that combined with his marriage hang ups is a clear sign he does not … | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/25 11:23 PM |
| 1 | How to get over him not being as involved at home as I’d like and just be gratefulI’d say either ask a sister/ friend/ someone you know socially from church or another outlet to help you, and let him be home when they arrive. Alternatively, one morning have a nanny/ caregiver come by to help you so he can see you’re so overwhelmed you needed to HIRE some help (which naturally comes out of the household budget). Then simply and happily explain that in order for you to stay happy and at peace, you needed more help. He will either step up and help you more (so he doesn’t have to… | /r/RedPillWives | 29/07/25 11:00 PM |
| 1 | Still can’t inspire him to fix home items/ wtd when he doesn’t take the lead on repairsI was actually quite scared when he suggested he take care of the tree; it’s huge with various phone/ cable lines running through the branches so hiring an arborist is much safer. Thanks for your suggestions!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/25 04:03 PM |
| 1 | Still can’t inspire him to fix home items/ wtd when he doesn’t take the lead on repairsHe’s just not into handy work; the constant maintenance the house needs is not how he wants to spend his time… which I totally understand but I still don’t want the tree to collapse onto the house! Lol. I’ll check out TaskRabbit, ty! | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/07/25 10:26 PM |
| 1 | Still can’t inspire him to fix home items/ wtd when he doesn’t take the lead on repairsHe owns the home but he’s not a “home owner” kinda guy; he’d much rather do fun outdoor activities or martial arts vs mowing the lawn or cleaning leaves from ducts. He’s never been a “fix it” kinda guy, so I think it’s up to me to hire an outside source 🤍 | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/07/25 10:24 PM |
| 2 | Still can’t inspire him to fix home items/ wtd when he doesn’t take the lead on repairs🤣 good strategy | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/07/25 10:21 PM |
| 2 | Still can’t inspire him to fix home items/ wtd when he doesn’t take the lead on repairsGlad I didn’t see whatever this said 🤣 | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/07/25 09:10 PM |
| 1 | Still can’t inspire him to fix home items/ wtd when he doesn’t take the lead on repairsNo just his until we marry (hoping to sell next spring) | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/07/25 09:09 PM |
| 14 | I feel like a terrible person/slut and I don't know what to do about itI am terrified of never finding a good person who actually likes me I think the more pertinent question is “Do I like me??” It sounds like you recognize that you don’t like “you” (aka your behaviours; try to separate the internal you of your soul away from your current actions) and want to do better. Sometimes therapy can make us go in circles, talking about issues over and over and over again which ends up creating shame and then we just throw up our arms and go “Oh well, dumb me did it again”.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/07/25 05:55 PM |
| 8 | What do you think about men using Undress AI tools to digitally "undress" people in photos, even when it's not someone they know personally? Is this crossing a line or just fantasy?Oh man, this stuff is genuinely scary. There’s a John Deloney podcast episode where a woman has phoned in because her STEPFATHER had made nude images of her with these tools and she saw it on his phone. It’s truly disturbing. These images are so real I think it really crosses a line, and perverts will definitely share these online. Just like how having nude images online does affect job prospects, reputation, the impact on your future children (“was mommy actually in p*rn??”) or a potential spou… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/25 02:10 PM |
| 24 | how to differentiate between a player/a man who doesn't want to commit to any woman yet vs a man who just doesn't see you as the "one"?Some men will tell the “heartbreak story” as a way of getting sympathy in order to acquire sex (“Aww he’s so high value yet wounded from a past gf; I bet I can heal him/ I’m different” falls into bed with him, then he leaves If his wounded story is true, it sounds like he would be a highly avoidant partner that makes a woman jump through hoops to earn his love which makes her a puppet, not a partner. It’s so hard in the initial dating stages because a man might say “I’m not looking for anything … | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/07/25 02:03 AM |
| 3 | Discussion: Lessons LearnedOh yikes!!!😳 | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/07/25 01:28 AM |
| 1 | Discussion: Lessons LearnedJust curious: what was the reason he waited a year after getting the ring? | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/25 10:48 PM |
| 2 | Discussion: Lessons LearnedNot to make this about me, but I’ve personally been ready for 3+ years to get married (basically since we moved in together). Still waiting, still have had convos about it where he enthusiastically says he wants it too, and hoping I didn’t have to walk away. Now, I know the ring has arrived (about 3+ weeks ago) and no proposal yet. He’s not the type of guy to make a big to-do over it or plan something huge, so I’m just waiting. All this to say, (and I have a guy friend who did this) that a man c… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/25 08:12 PM |
| 4 | Discussion: Lessons LearnedAdding to this to say don’t move in together until there’s an engagement or full marriage (the better option). I had hopes of marriage for all my LTR’s (I’m now 47) and none ended in marriage. The resentment and frustration builds and builds, which really isn’t fair to the man either. A lot of men take this as “all she cares about is marriage and not the man”, but it’s really about “I want a man who WANTS to marry me” and then he shows it through his actions by proposing because he knows HE is r… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/25 07:00 PM |
| 8 | After our engagement, I trusted him to provide while I prepared for our wedding/pregnancy plans for this year. He ended it and began dating right after.May I ask how long you two were dating before he proposed? And was it a proposal he initiated? Or was there pressure from yourself, subtle or not-so-subtle hints that you were eager to get married? Was he always on Reddit or is that a new thing he developed recently, prior to the break up? I am so deeply sorry you’re going through this. This is one of those things I will just never understand, that men frequently do. (I know if I could do it over again, I’d keep my own place until getting fully … | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/25 10:31 PM |
| 10 | I messed up and need advice.Sometimes, people don’t know how they truly feel or how they will react about a situation until they are literally in the thick of it. This has happened to me as well; bf thought he was ok with something and then wasn’t when it actually happened. He could have felt a sudden shift with his comfort by something you or the friend casually said, a touch or glance, or perhaps his imagination is running wild with a worst case scenario. If it were me I’d acknowledge his feelings, ask what boundaries he… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/07/25 12:20 AM |
| 1 | How to walk more femininely and develop more feminine mannerisms?This video was circulating on X today, and loads of men commented that she is pretty ideal in terms of sweetness/ a kind demeanour, pretty, home- maker vibe without appearing frumpy. Most commented on how sweet she sounded, so perhaps try some variety in how you phrase/ say things with your pitch and tone of voice. She also exudes that “child like wonder” about the green beans, which men love and reminds me of tips in “Fascinating Womanhood” (recommended reading here). Another note: when Joe Rog… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/06/25 05:46 AM |
| 3 | Can you get back to trust someone? Is it worth itHow long has he been your boyfriend? You state above that you don’t know anything about his life, his past, or what kind of man he is. Sounds like you have skipped the vetting process in general so IF you still want to be with him, perhaps keep it more casual and also date other men. Get to know this guy more so that you can witness his character, have some in depth conversations about what relationships mean to you, and if you share similar values, life goals, religious or political beliefs, et… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/06/25 12:17 AM |
| 6 | No intimacy /romance/ or fun“He said he's noticed I've pushed him away but hes just starting to act right and honestly its so annoying bc I felt like I've been asking him for a while and now he does it when I finally give up” You’re are shooting yourself in the foot here (and frankly acting childish) if you shut him out now by giving up when he is trying to appease you. It’s the same as when a woman asks for help around the house, then proceeds to tell her guy he’s doing it all wrong. Right now he needs to hear praise on h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/06/25 10:31 PM |
| 2 | Not wanting to take his last name, but not for reasons you would think.I was going to suggest this as well: taking the maiden name as an added middle name. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/06/25 04:33 PM |
| 9 | What would be your thoughts on someone co parenting a dog?I used to date a man who had this type of thing with his ex and their dog. They had an extremely unhealthy and co-dependent “friendship” and it was a constant source of turmoil. I’d be cautious. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/25 08:40 PM |
| 5 | What is/was your personal timeline for marriage?I highly advise not moving in with a bf until (at minimum) being engaged, or after the wedding. I’m one of those “stuck” ones; been together 5.5 years (I’ve been ready to get married for the past 3), we have lived together for about 3.5 years, and I just feel trapped. I’m anxious about staying and waiting in perpetuity, and scared to say “Listen I love you but we obviously want different things or I’m not truly wife material for you, so it’s time for me to move on”. The man really does lose all … | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/05/25 12:30 PM |
| 2 | Final “test” before proposal? And how long to wait.Thank you for your reply <3 (although I am curious what your other feedback was). Yes I will have to suss all this out because I frequently get mixed messages from him and it leaves me feeling in limbo on multiple fronts. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/03/24 11:04 PM |
| 8 | Final “test” before proposal? And how long to wait.There have been times when he doesn’t follow through with what he says he’s going to do. So this causes me to doubt if he truly wants to follow through with marriage. He will express thoughts about the future such as “One day we will have a plot of land that’s ours and have rabbits, grow our own food etc” And yesterday I asked “Is taking care of a farm when we are 55+ years old what you really want?” to which he then laughed and said “No not really.” So I guess I do have doubts about what he say… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/24 07:32 PM |
| 2 | Final “test” before proposal? And how long to wait.He also seems to have the means to buy a ring, if he wanted to. Am I putting too much pressure by stating I would like a proposal this year? | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/24 05:29 PM |
| 5 | I've been told by a couple of men that I don't have a feminine touch e.g. "don't know how to touch a man"?!So I’m a sex worker who has worked in erotic massage for many years and, not to brag, but my clients always tell me they are amazed by my touch. I think your circumstance is not uncommon and that many women are used to being a “starfish” in bed, or having the man take the lead in terms of positions, touch and pressure. Many women also “jackhammer” a man’s c*ck and while that looks appealing in porn, a lot of men don’t care for it (unless it’s for the finish). Try finding books or videos on tantr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/10/23 08:55 PM |
| 2 | Is it unreasonable to want a provider, but to not want kids?I think a lot of men would be fine with this arrangement, provided the woman does not become a slob who binges on snacks and watches mindless soap operas all day. While men may not care about fancy careers for women, I think most would likely become turned off/ lose respect if their woman “did nothing” all day. So keeping a vibrant life with hobbies, education, sports/ working out, church or volunteering would be key, in addition to maintaining a nice household and being his soft place to land w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/10/23 12:28 PM |
| 13 | told friends I never say no to sexHi! I haven’t logged into this group for a long time, but I too am in the “I never say no” camp. I’ve been with my man for almost 4 years now, and I think there has only been one time I asked him to wait till morning when he was in the mood for “before bed” sex lmao. I think a lot of women forget/ don’t know that men in LTR bond from the oxytocin release with sex (typically it’s dopamine in the earlier stages of dating/ sex and that doesn’t cause the paid bond effect like it does for women). So … | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/23 05:49 PM |
| 1 | Becoming averse to sex with husband (25F) newly marriedThis is a horrible comment and not productive. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/23 05:28 PM |
| 3 | A warm welcome to our two new mods!Welcome welcome!!!! 💓💓💓 | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/02/23 08:35 PM |
| 4 | BF Meeting Friend He's Slept with BeforeIt isn't, actually. TradCon is RPW, but RPW isn't isn't specifically TradCon. Please read the wiki :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/01/23 04:29 AM |
| 2 | Moving onDo you have a link for her video series? Or are you referring to her being on the TRP University channel? | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/01/23 05:17 AM |
| 3 | Moving onYou will be missed u/pearlsandstilletos ❤️❤️❤️ I am sad to hear this, as I took a break from this group and recently came back for a refresher on all things RPW. Thank you so much for generously sharing your knowledge, advice, resources and time with this group 💗 I too am a bit discouraged by the shift into more TradCon/ Feminist/ Bickering Mode , and would really encourage all newer members to dive into the Wiki for posts, recommend reading, and other information found there. Thank you for all … | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/01/23 05:14 AM |
| 2 | Moving onI agree that one of my favorite things was also looking at Whisper's comments in various subs he participated in, and learning from those! 💗 | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/01/23 05:09 AM |
| 1 | Am I a chameleon if I get my tattoos removed?Same here! Have done 12 treatments and it's still very very visible. In all likelihood: another 10 sessions at least :( | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/23 04:41 AM |
| 1 | Should we be concerned about a lack of big conflict before getting married?I HIGHLY recommend watching the Marriage series by Jordan Peterson (requires a subscription to The Daily Wire). His pragmatic approach to relationships to create a unified, cohesive household is really great. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/01/23 06:00 PM |
| 1 | thoughts on 'redpill' yt vidsI think too, one of the reasons concepts like these (sharing a man) stresses most women is because we innately KNOW the female prerogative is to attain a real relationship out of the HMV she is hooking up with, even if he thinks it's just a casual one and done. And no matter how secure a woman feels about being "the one" for her man, we certainly don't want to deal with some random hookup texting him, him taking her to dinner, buying her flowers... all those things women desire ongoing (the dati… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/01/23 05:53 PM |
| 1 | I am getting married thanks to RPWCongratulations 🥂🍾 | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/01/23 05:19 PM |
| 5 | Book RecsBruce Bryans has several concise and practical audio books/ guides, and a favorite among them is" 7 Irresistible Qualities Men Want in a Woman" . I also enjoyed For Women Only by Shaunti Feldhahn, and Fascinating Womanhood. For fiction: The Alchemist. To be it illustrates a lovely tale of a boy becoming a man trying to fulfill his legacy, whilst knowing he ultimately needs and yearns for the love of a woman to complete him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/01/23 05:13 PM |
| 2 | How the actual heck do you walk in high heelsStart with a low heel (I really like Nine West pumps), apply a grip pad to the sole, and walk on a flat surface for brief periods of time doing things around your home. Heck, even walk against a wall and use it for support if you need to. Really it just takes practice, and your body will acclimate to all the small muscles being used to stabilize you. Soon you'll be dancing and doing cartwheels! | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/01/23 04:54 PM |
| 2 | Is hypergamy real?? (some real life counter-examples)I know! I was disappointed to hear of their apparent divorce as well :( | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/08/22 10:00 PM |
| 3 | Is hypergamy real?? (some real life counter-examples)Have you watched Ali Wong? "Young men want a woman that’s chill,” she quips. “I have never ever wanted to date a man that was chill, because chill don’t pay the bills.” "Wong kicks off her set admitting that she’s “very jealous and bitter” that men with any success in comedy get to date models and actresses, while women—at the top of their game—might find themselves dating a 2-star Yelp magician. “Because when you are a woman with money, power, respect—your romantic options do not expand. They d… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/08/22 08:45 PM |
| 1 | Domestic Bliss?Can you list the specific, logical reasons that you don't want to get married "quite yet?" What do you consider to be the pros and cons in your specific situation to getting married? Are your fears emotional based, or logic based? Try asking yourself "why", despite all this man has provided for you, you feel a "single" status keeps you feeling secure? Have you explored your personal attachment style, and how this manifests in your relationship? Do you experience feelings of hypergamy and think t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/08/22 01:46 PM |
| 3 | I think I’ve completely given up on loyalty.I have had to navigate this in my personal relationship. A lot of people (usually women) conflate loyalty with sexual exclusivity, but many men they are perfectly capable of being emotionally invested and devoted to a loving SO while still having "urges" to have casual sex with others. My man and I worked out a "hall pass" system where it is his responsibility to bring it up if he has urges. He gets to have solo sex with another woman on his own 3 times a year, and we will also have threesomes (… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/22 03:42 PM |
| 2 | Top 5 books for rpw?7 Irresistible Qualities Men Look For In A Woman, by Bruce Bryans Simple audio book that nicely sums up basic elements of being a high quality female. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/22 03:16 PM |
| 1 | having a hard time making friends in TorontoYou just need to figure out your biggest interests and look for groups or activities to join :) Every city (like a relationship) has pros and cons... You just have to figure out what resonates with you! Personally I love making and keeping a bucket list of activities to do. Things you can do around Toronto are: horseback riding, animal shelter volunteer, circus/ trapeze lessons (Toronto circus school at Downsview Park is great), yoga, F45 gyms, go to a board game night (there's a cafe near Yonge… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/22 08:21 PM |
| 14 | High SMV therefore Low Perceived RMV? Thoughts and advice plsJust want to say I love when you hyperlink to previous posts and information, because I enjoy saving them immediately so I have quick references to go back to. Thank you! | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/22 08:06 PM |
| 1 | Do we talk to our partners about the Red Pill?I'm the same way as yourself. My bf knows "I know" about RP, but we don't talk about it directly. And he is familiar with RP but as a "Sigma male" he takes what is useful but still beats to his own drum. I mix RPW practices into our daily life, and I feel this way we are able to each bring what works for us within RP to our lives, and we leave behind what doesn't. He regularly comments "It's like you were custom built just for me!" and I just smile sweetly because I'd be so embarrassed if he kne… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/06/22 05:45 AM |
| 1 | PornographyWhat are your thoughts in utilizing it within an LTR? Married men may still have options if they wanted to cheat but if they don't, and the couple can't negotiate consensual non-monogamy, is porn use still frowned upon? | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/06/22 06:57 PM |
| 6 | PornographyI'm a woman, I like to watch porn with and without my bf, and I think it's a healthy and fun thing to do that can enhance a couple's sex life. Men are visual, and in my opinion watching porn is an outlet that can channel the male urge for sexual variety in a way that doesn't jeopardize sexual exclusivity within a relationship. I mean, I'd much prefer THAT to a man wanting an open relationship or hall pass or hiring an escort or hanging out at the local strip club or cheating with a girl off Tind… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/06/22 09:29 PM |
| 8 | Men walk after they learn about my commitment before sex requirementThe book Men Chase Women Choose will help you scientifically understand the science behind what makes a man commit without sex (emotional bonding), and how to use that to a woman's advantage when she vets a man whom she wants commitment from. I too think the element of play is also very important to men (after all they love games and the chase) and when a woman states concretely "No sex before commitment, Sir!" it makes the sex sound like a chore or a business negotiation, instead of something f… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/06/22 01:11 PM |
| 3 | 32F and I feel like despite my personality and looks I think I am not the kind of woman that a quality man would want to commit to. Never been in a LT exclusive relationship and guys I'm involved with keep getting involved with women they have some history with. Feel like a placeholder.I never stated poly relationships lack commitment. What exactly do YOU want ? Again, you seem to focus back on "he said/ she said", as if you are a victim of their behaviour. People are allowed to change their minds, and nobody owes you anything. If the only way you could have been in a poly relationship with this man is to be the primary partner, then you needed to solidify that position in your communication. And if you're only agreeing to that because it's the 2nd best option to monogamy (whi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/06/22 04:17 PM |
| 8 | How do you help your partner to get a hobby for himself?Is there a woman's only spa you can treat yourself to for a day? There is at least one in my city that doesn't allow men, and they have therapeutic water circuits, massage, facials, etc. That's a nice way to treat yourself, in addition to "forcing" him to be alone. Tell him that you enjoy the feeling of missing him; that it helps you to appreciate him more because absence makes the heart grow fonder. Tell him it excites you to know he's been out doing manly things and conquering the world or ach… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/06/22 03:33 AM |
| 6 | How popular is anal really? 😅Anal with your LTR partner is incredibly bonding in my experience. We don't do it that often, so it's a special thing and since we typically use the "pull-out" method for PV sex it's really great for him (and me) to feel and keep the orgasm inside. That being said, here are some tips: 1) highly recommend doing a proper cleaning with an anema. Get a basic rectal syringe so you can repeat this a couple times before the main event. 2) place a dark towel under you on the bed 3) lots and lots and lot… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/06/22 03:57 PM |
| 1 | How popular is anal really? 😅Hahaha love this lmao | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/06/22 03:33 PM |
| 3 | 32F and I feel like despite my personality and looks I think I am not the kind of woman that a quality man would want to commit to. Never been in a LT exclusive relationship and guys I'm involved with keep getting involved with women they have some history with. Feel like a placeholder.You sound like you are still blaming the other woman for your situation. A situation you chose by opening things up. Yes it really really sucks that he turned into a Chad with lingering one-itis, and it sucks she became Heidi Hypergamy and decided now he's all shiny and new and she wants it. It is what it is. Focus more on yourself once the sad feelings have subsided. And, perhaps more due diligence when it comes to partners who seem to want or be invested in having open relationships. I know it… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/06/22 03:32 PM |
| 1 | Which is better- husband with low or high body count?Personally, I want a man with experience. Sex is very important to me, and important in my relationships. I find men with too little experience to be clumsy, cum quickly, often don't know how to touch a woman or listen well to feedback, tend to glamourize and obsess over porn, and often feel the need to "sow their oats" if they haven't had enough flight time with women and try for a LTR. If you personally don't value a relationship with lots of sex, then these things may not matter much so look … | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/06/22 11:24 PM |
| 7 | I loathe who I am without make-up and elegant clothes.I'm shy for my bf to see me with zero make-up, so I make sure my "basics" are put together: I get lash extensions, make sure my eyebrows are always filled in, and use Vaseline rose gloss or other when I'm home with him. You shouldn't feel bad about yourself in no makeup, but you can still enhance your natural assets when he is with you. Perhaps take away one "thing" at a time, gradually, so he can adjust to seeing you with less on your face: skip foundation or mix w moisturizer so it's lighter c… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/06/22 11:09 PM |
| 5 | Is being curious a feminine trait ?I hadn't done martial arts in many many years, and only ever had rudimentary skills in karate and tai chi. But when I got to know my bf more, and saw how much he loves martial arts, it piqued my interest again and now it's something we do together, in addition to watching MMA and a lot of martial arts movies. I also love just watching him immerse himself in class, and viewing him as a separate entity from myself, or the relationship, gives me a different appreciation for who he is as a man ❤️ | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/06/22 12:46 AM |
| 5 | I don’t feel sexual chemistry with my boyfriendYou're attracted to him, but you feel there is no chemistry... Can you elaborate on these? What, specifically, attracts you to him? Is it his smell, his physical appearance, his demeanor, his success, his fashion sense, his productivity, his face, etc? Do you feel the desire to sleep with him? Like you see him and just want to rip his clothes off so you can feel his body all over you? Or is it a more wholesome type of compatibility aka "I know he is a good man so I should feel XYZ." I'm curious,… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/05/22 03:37 PM |
| 1 | Reddit Censorship, TRP & RPWRPW is not currently there, correct? I registered my user name just to be safe <3 | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/05/22 02:10 AM |
| 6 | Reddit Censorship, TRP & RPWOh wow, I'm quite stunned to say the least. Whisper and a couple others have such knowledge and insight, that I love going through past posts and comments for their wisdom. Truly a shame it has come to this. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/05/22 02:57 PM |
| 3 | help with married sex lifeThere's a book called "The Alter Ego Effect", which is about creating an alternate persona in situations where a person doesn't feel like they can "show up" as themselves, and it may benefit you to take a page from it. Don't think of yourself as "you"... Create your own version of a Batman, Catwoman, sex goddess, nasty girl stripper, or other alternative personality to get you going. Heck, even Beyonce has "Sasha Fierce" as her stage persona. Many athletes and performers create a new personality… | /r/RedPillWives | 27/05/22 03:55 PM |
| 9 | Buy matching luggage, carry it togetherI love this reply. One of the things my "Sigma" man tells me repeatedly is that he loves my resilience. Without coming across as a victim, I have been vulnerable about my past family traumas, my current work, and what I done to accept and improve myself through therapy, reading, self reflection, owning the mistakes I've made, and actively trying to break unhealthy patterns. It's always a work in progress ❤️ | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/05/22 03:50 PM |
| 26 | Not attracted to non-masculine boyfriend, what to do?What did you find most attractive about him in the beginning? Does he still have those traits? Did these same things (not handy, bad cooking) bother you in your first year of dating? How old are you and how old is he? Do you live together, or spend so much time together that it's essentially the same as living together? And, are you on any hormonal birth control or have you recently come off of it? It's proven that testosterone in men in monogamous relationships declines over time, and women's a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/05/22 12:16 PM |
| 5 | I'm not sure if my boyfriend is "name-calling" and I don't know how to communicate effectively about it.With all due respect I think this post goes beyond the scope of the function of this group, and each party involved likely needs therapy or counselling. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/05/22 02:28 PM |
| 9 | Fiancée cheated weeks before the wedding. Please help.I second this post. Even people in happy relationships can cheat. Some people are simply not capable of being exclusive to one partner despite loving them very much, and it has nothing to do with lack of love or devotion; they are just people who need open doors to sexually explore. Unfortunately many do not understand this about themselves or haven't put in the personal reflection to understand what type of sexual lifestyle might be the best for them, as they try to fit a square peg into a roun… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/05/22 01:04 AM |
| 1 | How to improve when your nervous system gets flooded?Do some research on Attachment Theory. Sounds like you both are Anxious/ Avoidant and need to learn skills to objectively handle conflict. Usually those styles are best suited to finding a Secure style partner, although this becomes more challenging as you get older because typically, secure/ stable people pair off with each other. (This is another reason dating as you get older proves more challenging... Frankly the "lower baggage" people have already partnered off). I personally use CBD as a w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/22 03:29 PM |
| 2 | Sex Premarital, Casual and OtherwiseWell written, as always... I thoroughly enjoy your input and commentary on this platform. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/05/22 02:14 AM |
| 8 | I’ve just realised that the reason I struggle to get into relationships is because I’m dating out of my leagueYour first statement is a strawman argument which I fail to see as relevant. The point I'm trying to make is that, just like a man who improves his game, a woman can improve behaviour, skills, and feminine attributes to overcome a "low status " upbringing or job, and that ultimately these qualities matter more to men looking for a relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/05/22 04:59 PM |
| 10 | I’ve just realised that the reason I struggle to get into relationships is because I’m dating out of my leagueSocial status can be achieved through behavior, which is why we put in work to make ourselves suitable to be chosen. A woman in a high paying career who acts like trash, is disrespectful, or lacks loyalty will have far fewer prospects than a kind, feminine, nurturing and playful woman who works in a shoe store. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/05/22 04:28 PM |
| 2 | Sex Premarital, Casual and OtherwiseLove this reply! | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/05/22 04:22 PM |
| 20 | I’ve just realised that the reason I struggle to get into relationships is because I’m dating out of my leagueWomen do this, not men. Many men who are successful don't give a flying Tuesday what a woman does for work, as long as she isn't a potential drain on his finances. Matt Damon married the waitress he met at a restaurant. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/05/22 04:11 PM |
| 1 | I’ve just realised that the reason I struggle to get into relationships is because I’m dating out of my leagueThank you! | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/05/22 04:08 PM |
| 35 | I’ve just realised that the reason I struggle to get into relationships is because I’m dating out of my leagueWhat is your age, and what age are the men you are dating? How long a duration was each situation-ship? If all the men broke up with you, what was their reason? Is there a common denominator? Do you feel there was anything you could have done better to secure a LTR with any of them? Why didn't you, when you had the opportunity? Have you journalled your experiences to look at them from an objective point of view in order to hold yourself accountable for what you could have done better? Oftentimes… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/05/22 01:13 PM |
| 4 | Appreciation and respectTo paraphrase a random internet quote from I'm-not-sure-who: Women most fear violence from men, and men most fear women who laugh at and humiliate them. I think appreciation is a by-product of respect, and valued just as much by men. If you keep the mindset that nobody/ no man owes you anything, then you can appreciate even the smallest gestures. When you're mindful that they typically operate in a "winner take all" mindset vs "sharing cause it's nice", then it's easier to keep the appreciation … | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/05/22 03:23 PM |
| 2 | Husband watches his phone for hoursA simple "I miss you" will probably work, said happily and sweetly without guilt or expectation. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/22 04:50 PM |
| 4 | Ladies, what is the most comfortable condom/type of of condom you have ever tried?Skyn, Kimono, and Trojan Bareskin are some of my favs. You can also try female condoms, although I warn you they are not aesthetically cute 😂. It does indeed look like a Ziploc bag on your last bits... However, for very big men or those with ED issues or older men, they are kinda neat. Also good for threesomes if each girl wears one. I really like Wet brand Platinum lube too. I don't bother with those "massage lubes" from Trojan or similar. I literally have sex for work, and none of these have e… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/22 04:48 PM |
| 1 | Why do men cheat?There is valuable info in the wiki to help explain why men cheat and why women cheat. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/22 07:48 PM |
| 3 | Why do men cheat?Why did you state you were not sexual in your post, if you actually were? Is there a reason you chose to leave out this information? It makes it hard to give a response to your dilemma if you are bending the truth, frankly. A bit of "damsel in distress" is happening. Are you specifically asking "Why did this man who gave me no agreement to exclusivity, cheat with ME on the woman he is involved with?" Simple opportunity, most likely. My favorite phrase to ask a man I'm interested in becoming excl… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/22 07:39 PM |
| 24 | My husband wants to pay everything for me even though I earn 50% more than himIf he was a hunter, would you say "No, I refuse to accept this bison that you hunted for us so we could have food and warmth and provisions! I'll go hunt one instead because my arrow is 50% bigger than yours!" Probably not. Graciously accept how he is choosing to provide for you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/22 02:37 PM |
| 1 | contraceptionWithdrawal with the exception if "Scarlett is in town". My man loves that. Occasionally a sponge if we are feeling risky. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/22 01:27 AM |
| 8 | Submission comes easy and it makes me so happy 💗I'm going to try this next time we go out! Have never thought of it <3 | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/22 01:25 AM |
| 1 | I am not a car, dammit! (Or am I? 🤔)From what I've read mother nature does that so the man will basically stick around long enough for the infant to mature a bit, and not leave the mother high and dry in the pursuit of a different woman. Marriage as the institution has nothing to do with it, it's nature. Likewise, women's testosterone increases slightly in addition to estrogen dropping, thus creating more aggression and dominance. Basically, the roles reverse, ironically. Then we all get pissed off, break up, and find new people a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/05/22 05:26 AM |
| 3 | I am not a car, dammit! (Or am I? 🤔)TradCon is RP, but RP itself is not TradCon (traditional conservative). Whatever ideology one subcribes to, it still comes down to human nature and key differences between the sexes. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/05/22 11:54 AM |
| 7 | I am not a car, dammit! (Or am I? 🤔)This is kind of a deviation on the topic but I think it's still relevant, if anyone is curious about the chemical reactions and neuroscience of "falling in love" from Men Chase, Women Choose: "RECAP: For a woman to fall in love, she needs a combination of dopamine and oxytocin. For a man to fall in love, he needs a combination of dopamine, vasopressin, and testosterone. Dopamine: We get a sudden, short-lived burst of dopamine when we like something, but we build a sustainable level when we work … | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/22 03:46 PM |
| 5 | My husband doesn’t find any older women attractive and it scares me.Yes of course. "Attracted to" doesn't mean "acts upon" though... We all find different people attractive and don't necessarily act upon it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/04/22 11:45 AM |
| 2 | My husband doesn’t find any older women attractive and it scares me.As a sex worker, I can verify that plenty of men in their 70's and beyond see companions and others for sexual outlet. Many can't get hard and many don't have physical ejaculation (yet still feel orgasm), but many older men (especially widowers) still need physical intimacy and are horny. :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/04/22 01:53 AM |
| 5 | My husband doesn’t find any older women attractive and it scares me.It doesn't mean they aren't attracted to and don't love their wives, just because they are also looking at you <3 | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/04/22 01:49 AM |
| 6 | Is this a sign that men aren’t attracted to me?It does seem like just a post for validation, TBH. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/04/22 04:18 PM |
| 86 | What to do when your husband prefer things you don’t have?Please please please do not get chubby or cut your hair. Perhaps, jokingly say you're grateful and appreciative that he still loves you even if you don't look like his "ideal" woman. (Followed by kiss on the cheek and a hair-flip) Then, change the subject. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/22 06:21 PM |
| 3 | Anyone else worried about the state of “love” today?The mental state of limerence in the beginning of a relationship is a thing I wish more people acknowledged! Once your brain has re-calibrated back to its normal state after several months of infatuation, love and commitment is a choice and action... Not some mystery or thing that happens between two compatible Zodiac signs (lolol). | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/22 12:02 PM |
| 14 | Readers of why men love bitches, what are ur thoughts on my situation?When a man tells you he isn't ready for commitment or exclusivity due to XYZ, then I think it's best to take that at face value. Stay happy, casual, and friendly if you retain contact, but don't let your heart or loins take over and hope that makes him want to be your bf. If he says he doesn't want exclusivity, believe him. A man who is going through a lot of crap but is invested will tell you "Hey, I've got a lot on my plate but I think you're hot-stuff and I wanna date you after I sort this ju… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/04/22 12:03 PM |
| 5 | To have or not to have male friendsThe select men I'm friends with are guys I've known for 10+ years, they typically live far away, and we don't "hang out". I'm very transparent with my bf about who is in my life and where they are within my personal hierarchy, so to speak: "X" I dated 20 years ago and his gf is blah blah, etc etc.. The men who were expressing interest in me when I was solidifying my relationship, I gave them the disclaimer that I didn't think it was respectful to my bf to continue even casually chatting with the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/22 02:54 PM |
| 1 | Red pill spaces being quarantined and targetedDo you have a link or title for the Bartley essay? TIA. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/22 12:38 AM |
| 0 | About Emma WatsonQuote: (Incidentally, it's why women favor socialism more than men, across cultures). I have often wondered why women are more drawn to socialism, and this comment just made it click. Thank you! | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/22 03:35 PM |
| 1 | How to find out if I’m a plate?Honestly this is one of the most weirdest thing I ever heard for relationship. This comment is kinda rude, tbh (to him and OP) Like, I once had a man I went on one date with (boring, odd, I told him no thank you to a second date), show up at 9am on a long weekend at my apartment to drop off a miniature watermelon. For zero reason. Now THAT is weird. Buying your would-be gf a pretty journal: not that weird. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/22 02:58 PM |
| 2 | How to find out if I’m a plate?He likely wants you to journal your summer adventures together, or something else he has planned. I think it sounds fun! I've been gifted journals for travel, or friends who want me to write down jokes (they think I'd make a good stand up comic) | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/22 02:54 PM |
| 3 | How to find out if I’m a plate?How do you feel, or what do you think, when you see him with Rollo? Is RP new to you, or were you already familiar with it? If he is a man you have vetted and would like a relationship with, then tell him so and see what he says. I'm sure he will outline how he likes his relationships to function, and if he can see that working with you. He may need more time, but don't be timid to put it out there and let him know you desire him, if you truly feel he is ideal for you. Good luck! | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/04/22 09:48 PM |
| 6 | How to find out if I’m a plate?I'm just curious how you know he is close friends with Rollo? Does he just tell you he is, or have you hung out with them both in person? Perhaps it's just best to approach it sweetly but directly, and ask if he holds the same relationship approaches / practices as Rollo (whom I believe is married, although that doesn't mean he stays monogamous). It definitely sounds like he is waiting for you to say you desire sexual/ emotional exclusivity with him. So what's stopping you? And do you prefer to … | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/04/22 05:37 PM |
| 6 | So...a thing that happenedCongratulations! | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/04/22 05:28 PM |
| 7 | How to address things w BF without being snarky or passive-aggressiveDon't trip over dollars to pick up pennies. This man (assuming you have great sexual chemistry too), is a keeper. Simply switch sides and, with girlish-flare in a cute voice, proclaim "This is my side! I feel so safe here." Then snuggle his arm and give him a compliment and smile. He will likely place you at that side in perpetuity as it becomes "natural" and rewarding to him. (Positive reinforcement) Before nit- picking, ask yourself if this is worth fussing over for the long-game (happy LTR), … | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/04/22 04:20 PM |
| 4 | I so desperately want to be lovedI waited so many times for people to be loving toward me but there is amazing freedom when I saw that I can reach out to someone and care for them and try to be that loving, kind person. Everyone flocks toward that kind of genuine person. Love this!!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/04/22 04:05 PM |
| 2 | How to give good advice on RPWHahaha that was too funny, and highly accurate. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/04/22 03:40 PM |
| 6 | Struggling to feel feminine when I look masculineI'm 5'10 with broad shoulders and a waist that is narrow from the side, but quite boxy when viewing head on. I had a bf tease me that I had a body like a football linebacker despite me being slender. Lolol I found my groove with clothes that are a simple design and ideally emphasize my shoulders (halter tops, racer back tops) so my waist looks slim from the front, and usually monochrome (no bright flowery or fluffy outfits for me) colours with simple nude heels (Nine West 7ACT9 specifically). Or… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/22 11:39 PM |
| 1 | What makes men gravitate towards Redpill? What got you interested (if you are interested) in redpill?It's been several years so I can't recall exact passages. But the short quotes sent me down the rabbit hole. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/22 11:10 PM |
| 7 | What makes men gravitate towards Redpill? What got you interested (if you are interested) in redpill?Female here. And definitely not what one would consider a traditional or conservative person. I discovered parts of The Rationale Male, TRP and others on my exes tablet several years ago. I was upset, confused and hurt when I discovered it, but was also curious as to why these men felt the way they did, and why they chose to embrace this methodology. I have always had an interest in psychology and sexual behaviour and have worked extensively in the sex industry, so it piqued my interest to be ab… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/22 06:18 PM |
| 20 | Ten years a RPW, hit the wall with no loving marriage in sight. Trying to figure out why?Some of your advice is wise, but why would a man commit 110% to a woman and give her the "ultimate prize" of marriage when she is actively carrot dangling for him to prove himself before she makes any effort at all? This isn't a good approach unless you're trying to secure a desperate man with no backbone. Male culture tends to value reciprocity, so zero effort is likely to land zero boyfriend and zero husband. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/22 08:30 PM |
| 1 | Attachment issues"Attached" as mentioned above and "Wired for Love" by Stan Tatkin are both great books. I also enjoyed "Love is not Enough" by Mark Manson, and you could also try "Radical Acceptance" by Tara Brach (I have not read it but hear good things). You may also find reading books on poly/ open relationships may help, as they often give guidance on dealing with jealousy and insecurity when our partners are absent or busy. Good luck! | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/22 08:11 PM |
| 1 | Proud of the progress I've madeWonderful and congratulations 🎊 | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/22 03:51 PM |
| 1 | Female Green Flags, from the male povI must have missed that condom advice in the video as I don't recall it. What's the rationale behind that? | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/03/22 10:30 PM |
| 7 | Female Green Flags, from the male povWhelp, this wasn't received very well. I didn't intend for it to turn into a slam-fest of Richard Cooper... I just thought, instead of the written word, a video of a man saying what qualities he thinks are high value in females would be nice for a change. shrugs shoulders | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/03/22 10:25 PM |
| 3 | Female Green Flags, from the male povFor me, or for you? Highly individual preference. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/03/22 03:18 PM |
| 10 | Female Green Flags, from the male povI have the same sentiment, hence why it was refreshing for me to run across this video and decide to share it. I don't imagine this one got as many likes on his channel as others do lol. The negative comment, echo chamber effect is overwhelming 99% of the time but at least something positive about women is shared once in a while. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/03/22 03:17 PM |
| 13 | Patience with different love languages aka 'the STFU rule in practice'I find this to be so true! I'm always giving my bf back rubs/ scratches, touch his butt when we shop for groceries, we play footsies in bed, and we have our hands on each other's legs even when driving. Tons and tons of physical touch! | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/03/22 09:45 PM |
| 6 | My boyfriend expects me to contribute towards his mortgage.Have you asked him why he does not intend to put your name on the deed or mortgage? 4+ years in a LTR seems like an ideal spot to purchase a home together as a mutual investment. ~ Will this be HIS first home purchase, or does he currently own? ~Does he have a personal goal to then leverage this asset into another one? Or will this be a "forever" home for the two of you? ~ Do you have poor credit, student debt, or a history of poor financial decisions which is preventing him from including you o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/03/22 03:29 PM |
| 1 | Would women be happier if they stopped thinking about themselves/perfecting themselves for the “male gaze” or if they improved their lives to be deemed attractive by men?Great read, as always. Thank you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/03/22 03:32 PM |
| 3 | Would women be happier if they stopped thinking about themselves/perfecting themselves for the “male gaze” or if they improved their lives to be deemed attractive by men?I'd love for you to elaborate on this (happiness vs pleasure) in a full post one day. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/03/22 02:48 PM |
| 8 | "Waity Katie", or How to Know Your Man Intends to Marry YouThank you for this post! I see an overall upbeat attitude from my man when we discuss marriage, thanks to using our feminine tools, and it honestly blows me away. I was worried about us moving in together before getting married, but using the tips in this group and from other sources has really helped me lean in to trusting he will keep his word, the key element of that being that HE WANTS TO marry me and tells me such. Last night we chatted so happily and casually about it (him: "Babe I'm so ex… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/03/22 05:32 PM |
| 3 | Gratitude: What are you thankful for?I'm grateful for the strength and deeper connection my relationship now has as a result of my vulnerability and openness to explore consensual non-monogamy with my partner. I'm grateful my bf is moving in with me, and that he always talks about his plans for our future. I'm grateful I have chosen to stay true to myself regarding vaccine pressures. I'm grateful my job is secure and income lucrative. Grateful that my bf made us the coolest aquarium to enrich our home! Always grateful for my health… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/03/22 11:25 PM |
| 2 | When I wake up, I find my husband is sleeping on the sofaYou both can try eating carbs or having warm milk before bed, use a sleep mask, white noise or a fan, or cool the bedroom temperature to see if it makes the environment better for sleep. Maybe tell him you'd love it if he would cuddle till you fall asleep, or return to bed an hour before you each have to wake up so you can feel his wonderful man warmth beside you. Make a point to enjoy coffee in bed together in the morning, followed by morning sex ;) | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/03/22 04:30 PM |
| 7 | I am not 'redpill', I randomly came across this subreddit looking for fitness advice. I want to know your opinion on something that really grinds my gears with the redpill philosophy. (Specifically on women as homemakers).Love your reply, as always! | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/03/22 11:12 PM |
| 11 | I am not 'redpill', I randomly came across this subreddit looking for fitness advice. I want to know your opinion on something that really grinds my gears with the redpill philosophy. (Specifically on women as homemakers).Neither RPW nor TRP want or frankly care if people understand. This is a praxeology, not a philosophy nor a movement meant to change society. Highly recommend reading the wiki, and choosing one of the Laura Doyle books to read as a baseline. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/03/22 11:11 PM |
| 4 | How can I get better at letting him lead?Try reading The Empowered Wife by Laura Doyle. One of her favourite sayings to defer responsibility to your captain is "Whatever you think! I trust you." "He always listens to me and is very considerate but every now and then he lacks common sense so I have slight hesitation." This is a disrespectful comment, frankly. Do you tell him this, that he lacks common sense? If so, this attitude may be creeping in consciously and subconsciously, and be the root of why he doesn't step up more to lead. Hi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/03/22 02:33 AM |
| 3 | Heartbreak. But so confused.I have found this to be true as well. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/03/22 06:41 PM |
| 2 | Heartbreak. But so confused.Similar to saying "I love you" first, most men are reluctant to express sentiments which indicate to others that they are vulnerable, or which may give the receiver the upper hand. I think this is one of the reasons RP often encourages men to date someone new rather than "sifting through the garbage" so to speak. Imo ceasing all contact for 6+ months and then extending a warm "Hello I miss you" opens the door in a gentle and receptive way. But, to each their own. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/03/22 05:16 PM |
| 4 | Heartbreak. But so confused.Ultimatums don't work. You may get what you think you want, but you're forcing emotional consent and as you can see it, it back fired. I don't think you should fault this man (or any) for wanting variety or to experience something new when they gave a relationship commitment so early in life. Some people never want to travel outside of their hometown, and some want to see the world before they decide where they permenantly want to live. Are either options "bad" or make someone a bad person? Nope… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/03/22 03:19 PM |
| 3 | being fat makes me hate taking care of myself or being social, what can i do to improve?Tracking your calories and using proper macros will be the most important aspect of losing weight. Try MyFitnessPal. Work on your self esteem via therapy Make a list of the qualities of your ideal partner. Then make a list of all the things you offer. Now look again at the partner list ... Are you doing everything within your power to make yourself into a woman THAT partner would desire? Maintain a basic and functional fitness routine that suits your lifestyle. Find tricks to help you avoid unne… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/03/22 06:41 PM |
| -1 | How do I gently tell my bf that he should start doing more leg days?TBH I wouldn't be bother saying anything. Perhaps he is finding that training is more about the discipline, routine, and other benefits vs his aesthetics. Is this something you'd be willing to walk away from the relationship over? Probably not. All other factors in order, does it dramatically reduce your attraction to him? Not much I assume/ hope. I imagine one day his buddies will chime in if they think he looks disproportionate. I'd suggest you just keep encouraging him and admire all the part… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/03/22 04:05 PM |
| 5 | How do I gently tell my bf that he should start doing more leg days?Finish him!!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/03/22 04:00 PM |
| 8 | How do I overcome feeling hurt about my husband following thots online? We have had a new baby so I’m naturally feeling insecure but I am attractive (more attractive than him) and body still looking good. He is overweight and I put in effort to look good. I am resenting hun!Men will always look at attractive women. Some just choose to hide it more, while others do it blatantly. It's the action of going beyond that that really matters, in my opinion. Just because he looks at other women doesn't mean he doesn't find you attractive. It just means he also appreciates their beauty. Just keep maintaining yourself (without telling him you're "hotter" than him, cause frankly that's rude), and reiterate that you are definitely attracted to him (even more so now that he's a … | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/03/22 02:00 AM |
| 7 | The choice of being a homemakerI'm tackling this mentally as well, however my version is being a SAHW and world nomad with my man. He is making some financial moves and has decided to move in to my place, so we can enjoy the flexibility of us living off dividend stocks and online income as we travel. I don't have a standard "career". However I do very well financially in my work, and despite not wanting to do my job forever I am having fear, anxiety, and feel vulnerable at trusting him to be the full breadwinner and financial… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/03/22 07:41 PM |
| 31 | Most men are so touch starved, and depraved of basic human contact, that they no longer feel full humans.This is very true for my boyfriend. He enjoys lots of physical contact, sexual and non-sexual. I'm happy to provide that, and I believe it has definitely contributed to him choosing to be in a LTR with me. Massage, holding hands, feet touching while we lounge, back scratches, scalp teasing, etc etc. | /r/MensRights | 03/03/22 07:09 PM |
| 4 | What are your thoughts on swingersI don’t judge it any more than I judge people who have sister wives for religious reasons. It had never really "clicked" until I read a comment that stated 2 of the most conservative religions, Mormonism and Islam, are historically pro polygamy. I now find it laughable when people exclaim it's only deviants or freaks who engage in various lifestyles of sexual activity with multiple partners... Nope! I think each person has to decide for themselves in accordance with their values, social contract… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/03/22 06:52 PM |
| 2 | How do you deal with "the wall"?Gratitude pays off in dividends ❤️ | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/03/22 03:10 AM |
| 9 | How do you deal with "the wall"?If you maintain yourself, your looks can move laterally as you age. Frankly I have a better body, face and mindset now at 43 then I did at 23, and that's because after 23ish I started watching my exercise and nutrition, regularly use sunscreen, and indulged in certain upgrades like a boob job. So physically: lift weights or have a good workout routine, mind your diet/ nutrition, don't smoke/ drink/ party, and use makeup etc to play up your best attributes. I also find wearing clothing that is se… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/03/22 05:00 PM |
| 1 | A rich man might fuck broke hot young women but he'd never wife them upFor casual fun or Alpha Seed maybe. But she won't marry or seek a LTR out of a hot young male stud. Too much like being a mommy, and he's for sure going to fuck women his own age on the side. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/22 02:39 PM |
| 7 | Repost: If you are a man and you are hereThank you for this post! I'm always amazing when I have an "bingo!" moment here, and it happened again regarding men's preferences colouring the advice given, and regarding scarcity/ abundance approach in the genders. Thank you again. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/02/22 07:57 PM |
| 3 | What do you all think of open relationships?Lots of moralizing going on here, it seems. And realistically, all the same comments about unsuccessful open relationships can apply to monogamous relationships too, especially when people have different needs and desires in relationships. Monogamous relationships can also result in divorce, unhappiness, cheating, splitting up families, trauma, adultery, etc... Especially if the wife is sexually difficult or uninterested. OP: are you asking for the purpose of taking a poll in this particular gro… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/02/22 01:06 AM |
| 1 | MonogamyHi there! F 44, I have recently introduced transparent non - monogamy into my relationship (2 yrs), for my boyfriend (M 44). I want to offer some suggestions, but I'd like to caution that I believe these options should likely only be explored with a partner who DEFINITELY sees you holding a permanent place in their life, as the potential for anxiety and heartache on your side is probably huge if you don't have the emotional security you crave in your relationship to explore these. (For the recor… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/02/22 05:07 AM |
| 1 | Wtf. Feminism continues to encourage this.I'm a professional whore, and I approve this message. U/Whisper is correct: wealthy men use professional escorts in lieu of a relationship because they simply do not want to bother with covert gold-digging, emotional manipulation, temper tantrums, and the entitlement that accompany most women in the dating pool. Once they click with a pro who is reliable and fits well into their frame/ lifestyle, usually a long term arrangement happens where he takes care of her financially in exchange for exclu… | /r/AntiFeminists | 25/02/22 02:42 AM |
| 4 | What does your RPM do for you daily?He: makes morning coffee, always gives me compliments, listens patiently when I need to vent, assembles things around the house, encourages/ loves me to cum first before penetrative sex, buys dinners/ food, lots of hand holding and physical touch in public and private, stays looking his best, talks about our future, and is orchestrating his/ our financial freedom via investments so we can travel together in the future with passive income. Oh, and always supportive of my work. I adore him <3 | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/02/22 10:19 PM |
| 4 | OYS for women?Red Pill Wives does Tea Time, so perhaps that might interest you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/02/22 12:40 AM |
| 3 | OYS for women?A what? | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/02/22 08:27 PM |
| 2 | Tomorrow is my 10 year anniversary with my fiance; here are some things I've learned to cultivate a happy relationshipI love this post! Happy for you, and I couldn't agree more with how important these things are for a lasting and loving connection. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/02/22 04:57 PM |
| 7 | RPW- what are some daily things you do to support your partner’s needs?Morning sex every day (if possible), we share coffee duties after, listening intently when he talks about his business or politics or something on his mind, lots of physical touching when we are out or relaxing on the couch (his Love Language), and being supportive of all his hobbies. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/02/22 07:49 PM |
| 2 | He broke up with me to work on himself, his mental health, and his careerTBH when a man says "I'm not looking for anything serious/ a relationship/ exclusivity", you'd be wise to fully believe that and choose how much contact you are comfortable with. Men give this disclaimer, and most women think they're going to still change him/ convince him to be in a relationship aka "he will see how awesome I am and everything will fall into place... Cue the wedding!" . Nope. Believe him. He doesn't want a relationship, either in general or with you. Don't take it personally. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/02/22 02:35 PM |
| 3 | UPDATE: Advice on timeline for relationship progressionYay yay yay!!!! So happy for you. It can be so scary to trust fully, especially depending on whatever baggage or past experiences we are bringing into the relationship. Well done! | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/02/22 02:27 PM |
| 3 | What are some good first steps for someone who just discovered TRP and wants to apply the principles to their daily life and dating?Read the sidebar aka wiki. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/02/22 02:24 PM |
| 1 | Until feminine attributes are no longer connected with inferiority and being under a man, more women are going to reject traditional femininityThis is the toxic expression of vulnerability; women conflate the two. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/22 02:10 PM |
| 3 | Advice on timeline for relationship progressionThank you for your reply! | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/22 10:18 PM |
| 1 | Advice on timeline for relationship progressionJust chiming in to say I understand how you feel. It's very very hard to trust on this topic, because for many of us women we see marriage as the ultimate finish line and it's SO HARD to just keep the faith... To feel you're just this close and that one day the ribbon is going to fly away as we run through it hand in hand with our man. I'm in a similar boat, bf says he still wants to wait 1-2 years after living together and travelling together. I wouldn't end my relationship if he never proposes… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/22 05:46 PM |
| 2 | Advice on timeline for relationship progressionOooohhhh this last line is rocking my brain! I'd love an elaboration when you have time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/22 05:34 PM |
| 3 | Where is the line? helping boyfriendDon't sacrifice your mental health for someone else. No love is unconditional, and it sounds like you are reaching a breaking point. The simplest way to tell him is simply "I can't". It's wonderful to be supportive, but it shouldn't turn you into a martyr or cause you anguish and declining health. It has nothing to do with "bf vs husband" privileges and that you should give less to somehow make HIM give more; it's about personal boundaries because at the end of the day you will not be a good par… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/22 05:29 PM |
| 12 | How do you know your value as a woman, RPW? What is the ideal woman?She is inquiring about overall value, not just SMV. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/02/22 01:15 PM |
| 20 | This sub has made my relationship better!There are quite a few of "us" in this community, and the great thing about RPW is that (unbeknownst to many), it's not just for Christians or traditionalists or right-leaning conservatives... Literally none of that matters at the core because it's all about women (and some men) learning "what makes us tick", where we usually f*CK up, and how to take personal responsibility in forming respectful, functional relationships with men in our lives. I'm by no means religious or traditional, and I'm gen… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/02/22 01:13 PM |
| 1 | FDS celebrating the decline of men’s health. Seriously, are the people in that sub okay?Thank you for such a detailed reply. | /r/AntiFeminists | 14/02/22 06:35 PM |
| 3 | Honestly, would you leave a 7 in looks who you loved and had other shared interests/ values with, for a 10?Love this reply! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/22 06:25 PM |
| 2 | What are you getting your SO for Valentine’s Day?Sadly, he will not be attending. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/02/22 06:10 PM |
| 6 | What are you getting your SO for Valentine’s Day?Another girl, so FFM :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/02/22 01:24 AM |
| 6 | What are you getting your SO for Valentine’s Day?Charcuterie board, dessert, a card, and a threesome at a fancy hotel, lol... plus one custom present (martial arts related). Just being honest! | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/02/22 11:06 PM |
| 1 | What's your take on prenup?I will happily sign a prenup, and have offered such to my bf. To me, especially since I am financially secure and 43, I can't imagine trying to take away things that he has worked hard for before he met me. If I don't have enough savings or financial savvy at this point to be stable if we were to get a divorce, then it's my own damn fault. My gf's all think I'm crazy, but I earnestly believe that. I don't think it's ethical to be opportunistic during a tragedy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/02/22 05:22 PM |
| 2 | Boyfriend (M36) is unemployed, not looking for a job, and I worry about our future stability…This is deja vu for me... I had a similar scenario a few years ago with an ex: I had moved across the country to be with him and go to school/ work in a 'square' job, he said he had a career in IT but when I arrived I saw it was a temporary position and he soon had no work. After some time I realized he essentially lived off $ his mother gave him, and had little motivation to get a job, go to school, or start a business. . He would spend all day on Reddit or other forums and at the gym, and imo … | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/02/22 01:14 PM |
| 2 | Slightly complex dating/relationship situation. Need advice from the experienced.Upvote x 10! | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/02/22 11:50 PM |
| 2 | Any dating online sites that are safe?Highly recommend meeting men first through your hobbies, passions, volunteer work, or an offshoot of your own career so that you are not only enriching yourself, but also can meet someone like-minded. Or you meet their friends! You'll likely have things in common and find activities you can do can do together. If you do plan on meeting men online, meet in a well lit public place, and in the afternoon. If you can get an id or other info to google, a little internet search can make you feel more s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/22 06:39 PM |
| 5 | Men are hypergamous too, but with looksHypergamy is the specific action of marrying or having sexual relations with those only at or above ones current social class, for example Indian women in a caste system. But men will have sex with women from a variety of different economic, social, and a variety of physical attributes... He doesn't necessarily only have sex with 10's, or sex with only women at his economic "level". And, usually without the specific end goal of finding a long term partner. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/22 05:46 AM |
| 10 | Men are hypergamous too, but with looksIt's not the same because men and women are not the same, and each tends to have its own end goal which conflicts with the opposing sex. Men also consider women below them in looks for relationships, and it usually works out better than if he was with a vapid supermodel type for an LTR. Very attractive women are usually "nuts" (see the crazy/ hot matrix) and thus make poor long term partners, or are looking to upgrade if they want more financial security. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/22 12:07 AM |
| 3 | I don't want more children with my unhealthy husband?I think it's prudent (and sad but that's life) to remember that he (or you or I) could die just from walking out the front door each day, so that fear shouldn't stop you from cultivating a happy life in the present if you want a second child. I think there is a denial stage that many people go through when they recieve bad news about their health (my father was in hospice with cancer and still proclaimed "I think I can beat this" on his death bed). So it may be very hard for him to accept that h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/22 11:41 PM |
| 1 | I don't want more children with my unhealthy husband?So she is supposed to lie and covertly sabotage having a baby/ the relationship? This does not sound like a healthy action for a solution. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/22 11:23 PM |
| 2 | Hot take: Fat Acceptance = Less CompetitionGoes back to the saying women are human beings (always amazing, just for existing), but men are humans doing (show me your accomplishments or GTFO). | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/22 08:38 PM |
| 3 | Ladies, how can I be more patient with my partner's self improvement efforts?Haha my guy wears Crocs too, and at first it bugged me but then I was like "He's so damn gorgeous and manly that I don't care if he wears those and nothing else ever. Get over here!" Lol | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/22 10:51 PM |
| 3 | Ladies, how can I be more patient with my partner's self improvement efforts?Don't trip over dollars to pick up pennies. He is is own man, and has made it 28 years doing these things. Turn your "attitude" into GRATITUDE. Seriously. When you start to feel anxious and wanting to change him to suit your wishes for him to act a certain way, make a mental list of all the great things he does regularly for you and with you. Better yet: tell him in that moment, and I bet you'll feel better, plus it will boost him to keep doing those awesome things. Maybe he will even change som… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/22 10:42 PM |
| 1 | Boudoir adviceAppreciate your opinion, but some couples like to watch it together and it can enhance the sex experience. You don't want to try, you don't have to. Doesn't mean it destroys relationships. Its a tool. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/02/22 05:06 PM |
| 9 | Valentine’s day gift ideas for men! Anything helps <3Give him an erotic massage. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/02/22 10:50 PM |
| 2 | Boudoir adviceIs your main concern that he is masterbating? Or rather, when you are intimate together he only focuses on him climaxing and not on your orgasm? People masterbate even when they're sexually satisfied by a partner. I know I do, and my man does too. Sometimes you just want to pleasure yourself, or just need a quick "one off" and then get on with your day/ get to sleep. If it's when you're together, then try focusing on yourself (or him on you) before you have penetrative sex with him. It's ok to p… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/02/22 10:49 PM |
| 6 | If "your male friends want to smash", how would things change if she said wanted you to pay for it?This. The "pay them to leave" saying by clients is usually a defense mechanism to sound clever, when they actually feel shame about paying. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/01/22 11:56 PM |
| 1 | Sometimes good men give bad gifts.Can I have this recipe too? | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/01/22 06:44 PM |
| 8 | Sometimes good men give bad gifts.This woman is, clearly, a ton of fun at parties. The man had the AUDACITY to send cookies to her hotel on her birthday!?!? Shut the front door and banish him forever. Conscious gratitude helps shift so much. If I find myself getting pouty or frustrated or wanting my guy to do something "my way", I try to reflect on things he has recently done or said that have been kind, thoughtful, generous or helpful, and it puts into perspective all the things he does to make my life better. The man in the FD… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/22 09:38 PM |
| 3 | Traditional boyfriend wanting me to start paying on dates....With all due respect, you sound argumentative and entitled, and are purposely trying to sabotage him (aka shit test) to then prove he isn't a "good guy". Question: what do you DO that makes you a worthy woman for this man to spend his resources on? If all you "do" is be cute and eat the food he brings you... Frankly you are not a pet he is obligated to care for and keep alive. A 20-something young man is not going to be a huge earner. I understand the "wooing" stage is a fun one, and us women lo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/22 12:27 AM |
| 6 | Traditional boyfriend wanting me to start paying on dates....Highly advise you check out the sidebar/ wiki for resources on how to provide value to a man other than sex. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/22 12:03 AM |
| 1 | Back to Basics September: Male Attraction v Female AttractionJust wanted to say thank you for sharing your family dynamic! Very interesting and beneficial.. thank you u/Whisper | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/22 11:35 PM |
| 1 | RP Success Story from an initial skeptic! Thanks galsCongratulations! This is amazing, very happy for you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/01/22 04:44 PM |
| 2 | How should I handle my boyfriend admitting to me that he is not 100% straight and finds some men sexually attractive?Men like alllll kinds of variety and yes even heterosexual males get turned on by seeing a phallus. Read the book "A Billion Wicked Thoughts" and they explain the visual cues that stimulate men and women (veiny forearms kinda look like another appendage, don't you think?). Also research the Kinsey studies on human sexuality. Although I haven't much experience with this niche, as a sex worker I have met many hetero men that hide all kinds of things from their female partners, and I really think t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/01/22 04:10 AM |
| 4 | Red Flags while dating?Oh, well then I think you're correct. Oftentimes a guy will talk about himself because it's like he's interviewing for a job because he wants to impress. But if his only comments were sexual, then he is most likely not interested in much more. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/01/22 01:31 AM |
| 1 | is lip filler aging?I loved the results, but ya it doesn't seem to last... 2 months for me although I tend to metabolize fillers quickly (I exercise a lot). | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/01/22 01:29 AM |
| 3 | Red Flags while dating?He is basically doing what he thinks "women want" aka letting you talk about yourself. Most guys know that's a woman's favorite topic, lol... and that many women get annoyed with a man who only talks about himself (although this is normal). He may have been nervous or trying to be polite. He may not have a lot going on to talk about either. I wouldn't see it as a red flag. Perhaps this is his "game": let the girl talk so she reaffirms to herself she's great, agree with everything, which she then… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/01/22 05:43 PM |
| 1 | is lip filler aging?Some injectors have now been using Botox to create a "lip flip" with filler so that the philtrum doesn't lengthen. Perks up the top lip and allows one to show a bit of teeth in photos. Also, when too much filler is applied to the upper portion of the top lip as opposed to the bottom portion of the top lip, there is an overhang which looks undesirable, especially when talking. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/01/22 05:33 PM |
| 1 | Living together/ marriage timelines not in syncThank you so much for your reply! | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/01/22 11:57 PM |
| 4 | where do you all buy Very Warm clothesI own a Mackage coat (style Trish) that is sexy, classy, and insanely warm. Zara and Aritzia have great turtlenecks, and these go with leggings or pencil skirts or jeans! Also, leg warmers look sexy to wear around the house, with shorts and a camisole and keep you warm. Look for natural fibres like silk, wool or cashmere too (I'm currently waiting on a cashmere cardigan). Hope this helps! | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/01/22 07:04 PM |
| 0 | Living together/ marriage timelines not in syncI certainly don't want to give ultimatums. To me we have the same goals, just a different timeline for getting married. Certainly marriage never protects against uprooting; I see it as a boundary so I don't repeat the same mistake of living with a man who isn't life partner material (perhaps this view is irrational?). Pertaining to your comment that I linked in my original post, is withholding living together (the common goal) until we marry, not wise? We have become so close and have such a won… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/01/22 04:18 PM |
| 1 | Living together/ marriage timelines not in syncHe often buys all the groceries and buys dinners, and yes would also be paying half the rent at my place ( so technically he is not benefitting much financially by moving in) | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/01/22 03:39 PM |
| 1 | Establishing boundaries in a "Hall Pass" relationshipI understand what you are saying, even tho I specifically asked this aspect to be neutral. My man has said that he would have these urges/ desires/ feelings regardless of my job: it doesn't matter whether I'm a sex worker or a librarian or a nurse, be would still want to be with other women. My current job merely allows for more flexibility and reciprocity on a hall pass system due to the nature of my work. If you have relevant advice for creating mutually beneficial and healthy boundaries for n… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/01/22 08:44 PM |
| 3 | Establishing boundaries in a "Hall Pass" relationshipThank you so much for your reply ❣️ I have been trying this, to see it from his side and understand how this can be a positive addition to our sex life. He "makes the space" (compassionate, understanding, and accepting) to compartmentalize those physical acts I do for work, so I am trying to make the space to accept this as a form of entertainment and escape for himself. And I realize that most men who are even willing to get into a relationship with a sex worker are probably not men who highly … | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/01/22 12:48 AM |
| 2 | Establishing boundaries in a "Hall Pass" relationshipThanks everyone. I have spoken extensively with a therapist as well as close male friends who understand my line of work, and I do understand how my work plays into this hugely for my bf. Thank you for your input. I'm hoping maybe he will be happy just getting it out of his system, and then we come up with a plan for these activities that is mutually agreeable. It will surely be a break test for the relationship, and I just hope either way we stay together, but whatever will be, will be. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/01/22 04:28 PM |
| 9 | Back to Basics September: Dread for WomenI had a toxic friend who was gorgeous (Playboy model) who always tried to show the men she was dating that she could "better deal" them because she had dated ( aka for the most part just slept with) men who were elite athletes, actors, etc... And it never ever ever worked to secure the relationship, and in fact only pushed the current beaux away. The woman who proclaimes "I'm nOt lIkE eVeRy OtHEr WOmaN!!!"... usually is. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/09/21 11:19 PM |
| 2 | Who should say I love you first?I said it first to my man, and I was terrified! When I finally did, after almost 8 months of dating and debating to say it, and he reciprocated right away, and told me the exact moment (months earlier) that he knew he loved me. Lol. I've read RP articles that warn men of being the first to say it (16 Commandments of Poon)... That it will make them appear too vulnerable or change the "frame".. Go for it! | /r/RedPillWives | 28/08/21 05:52 PM |
| 30 | Bothered watching red pill YouTubeAlso remember that most of the RP men on YouTube are coaches/ authors who have monetized the "lifestyle", and stand to gain a lot of money and fame from the outrage men experience when "taking the pill." It becomes a feedback loop of profit to upset men and then sell them the solution. And of course the mob mentality with online anonymity encourages it too. Try to glean what you can from it without taking it personally, remembering the context with possible ulterior motives. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/21 05:02 PM |
| 3 | The False Myth of the Practice Wife, and How Not to Be HerAnother fantastic read! Thank you for your contribution! | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/08/21 05:30 AM |
| 2 | Besides sex - HOW do men need women?Love love love your reply!!!!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/21 10:13 PM |
| 42 | Playful Bashfulness: My Secret Weapon to Melting His HeartMy man absolutely loves all this stuff. And what I notice is that it also allows him to tap into his carefree youthful boyish side (thus allowing him to forget his everyday stresses), and he becomes full of smiles and happiness. A cute game we now play is, whenever he gives me a kiss on the cheek, forehead etc... I exclaim "Oh!!", followed by a bashful and happy "Thank you!!!". His next move? He smiles and then showers me with more kisses just to hear me laugh and say "Thank you!!!!" even more! … | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/06/21 06:15 PM |
| 2 | Guy gave me an incurable Std and has blocked me, I’m angry.First off, I'm very sorry you're experiencing this. It's perfectly ok to take time to mentally adjust and accept that something regarding your health is now "compromised". Truly, there is a ton of shame and stigma due to pop culture regarding herpes, as well as the "sex is dirty/ bad" crowd who moralize it. If someone gets shingles or chicken pox, do we say "How dirty and disgusting! They must be a bad and filthy person!". No, however it too is herpes. People are chastising the guy, and I'm not … | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/06/21 03:03 PM |
| 5 | How to make him want you without looking thirsty for him?Babe, you already gave him what he wanted. And you drove 3 hours to do it. ( And another 3 back home.) Why? He may come back for seconds, or he might be done. Sex is almost always the first goal for a man, bf/ gf relationship is not (especially in younger men). I'm sorry to say, be prepared to have him ghost, or just stick with it for a little while as long as you keep putting out. He has nothing invested, as far as I can tell, to keep him wanting more and be curious to know who you actually are… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/21 07:57 PM |
| 2 | What questions do we need to ask men when deciding if they’re good men?Check the RPW sidebar/ Wiki for more information and resources on vetting a proper Captain for you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/21 07:34 PM |
| 3 | What questions do we need to ask men when deciding if they’re good men?Martial Arts is very valid, actually, as it requires discipline, focus, dedication, internal growth, mental fortitude, and elements of spirituality in addition to the protection aspect. Not to mention the health benefits of cardio, calisthenics, and hand/eye/ body coordination. If I had to pick one physical, functional activity that had the greatest benefit to a man, it would be martial arts/ combat skills. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/21 07:33 PM |
| 6 | A little paranoid/jealous about my boyfriend's ex-girlfriend of nine yearsWell, my 2 cents is that I don't really see the "red flags" others do. In what ways is he chivalrous? How about jealous? Does the jealous behaviour negatively impact the overall relationship, or is it a minor thing which may fade over time as he develops security with you (likely he is this way because he was cheated on). It's not a bad thing he was so invested in his 9 yr LTR, but does he maintain communication with this woman still? If so, is it truly amicable, or is it full of negativity or u… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/06/21 05:32 AM |
| 1 | Women after divorce could get nothing if the man holds cryptoMen don't need a wife to have children. I don't make the rules. Lol | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/21 09:11 PM |
| 3 | How to give better blowjobs?Amazing, happy to help :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/21 06:45 PM |
| 8 | It isn't hard for a girl to be of decent quality - rehashing an old post.The post originated on TRP for men, hence the language. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/21 03:17 AM |
| 3 | How to give better blowjobs?Practice makes perfect ;) | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/21 02:01 AM |
| 1 | Women after divorce could get nothing if the man holds cryptoThank you <3 | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/06/21 09:46 PM |
| 10 | How to give better blowjobs?True, but not all ladies can ahem stomach it. If they can't I think it's best to use a sweet smile, signal "Just 1 moment!" with your index finger, and casually pop into the washroom. But, each person will have to see what works best for them. (And yes, NEVER act disgusted or turned off). | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/06/21 09:02 PM |
| 3 | How to give better blowjobs?Thank you! | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/06/21 07:39 PM |
| 12 | How to give better blowjobs?My bf doesn't care if I do either way. Usually I have him finish in my mouth, and he lies there happy while I smile and then just duck into the washroom, spit in the sink, give a little rinse with mouthwash and then return to him to cuddle. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/06/21 05:27 PM |
| 63 | How to give better blowjobs?I don't know how graphic I can get here, but things which can make the experience better for the man can include: 1) LOTS of eye contact during the BJ (they love this, watch any porn) 2) variety of gentle actions like kisses up and down the shaft, slow licks, kissing the base/ balls while teasing the head with your fingers (no nails unless he likes that). Avoid using teeth at all cost (again, unless he says he likes that) 3) use a mouth and hands combo after starting with a handjob 4) many men l… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/06/21 04:08 PM |
| 12 | Women after divorce could get nothing if the man holds cryptoThe prospect of losing money in a divorce will not prevent a man from cheating. A man who wants to cheat will find a way. A better mindset imo is: once you have properly vetted and found "the one", what are the continual actions you can take to mitigate any wandering outside of the marriage. I think financial issues are the main driver of divorce, not the occasional wandering eye. You seem to be laser focused on what you can financially take in the event a hypothetical marriage breaks down. Why … | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/06/21 03:53 PM |
| 2 | Moving in with my fiance next weekIf you're moving into HIS home, then don't try to change things unless he takes the initiative and encourages it, for example he says "Honey, I'd love for you to transform this old office into the baby nursery." He has his home exactly how he wants it. And now he wants to include you in that. Don't lose sleep over it being perfectly tidy. As another poster also said (and I believe originates from Kevin Samuels): keep his stomach full, his balls empty, and his household at peace, and you'll have … | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/06/21 03:35 PM |
| 2 | Moving in with my fiance next weekThis! | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/06/21 03:31 PM |
| 2 | The Case For Not SettlingLove love love this! Thanks you for such a well thought out post. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/06/21 07:28 PM |
| 5 | Leaving my incompetent betaI'm respectfully opting out of any further comments. Be well. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/06/21 05:44 PM |
| 6 | Leaving my incompetent betaI'm twice your age. You're trying to have your cake and eat it too, (you don't want him to find someone else but you want to go out with a random CEO who DM'd you). You have a lot of growing up and learning to do (I don't mean that in a negative way). And that's ok. But, do not harm others in the process. Like I said, you can only control and change yourself. If the only thing you think you need to change is your voluptuousness, then go do some squats and leave him so he too can find someone mor… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/06/21 05:09 PM |
| 13 | Leaving my incompetent betaSo your actual issue is deciding how to break up with this guy you are attached to. Just end things. Simply say it's just not working out for you. Then go cold turkey and stop any contact to avoid mind games. Maybe he will grow into his masculinity, and maybe he won't. Always assume a man will stay exactly as he is when you first met him. It's obviously not working for you, and you can only change yourself. I don't think it's uncommon for a beautiful young woman to wonder about other prospects i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/06/21 04:32 PM |
| 2 | Leaving my incompetent betaI have re read the post, which I assume is the update. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/06/21 04:07 PM |
| 4 | Leaving my incompetent betaWith all due respect you sound entitled, have an inflated ego, and are filled with contempt over a guy that YOU CHOSE to be in a relationship with. "I'm 21" is not an excuse to be so venomous towards this guy. This may be one of those "live and learn" situations where you'll only realise down the road, after being a plate, that "the good ones are always taken" ... Or you could be right and score someone better who is more appropriate for an up and coming model to date. I'm not sure. How long hav… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/06/21 03:34 PM |
| 2 | What is the best way to ease a date into me eating a special/restrictive diet?It will only matter if the guy is A) a huge "foodie" and he becomes frustrated with you if you're always making menu changes or can't eat his favorite dish or B) try to guilt or lecture him into eating the way you do. Having done fitness competitions, I can attest that people can become "weird" about food and restrictive diets (usually it's obese people who want you to feel guilty for having discipline), and that it may be best to keep it to yourself for the first bit. Eating food is an importan… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/21 12:57 AM |
| -1 | What is the best way to ease a date into me eating a special/restrictive diet?Men do care about nice skin, and it is very important. A guy knows eventually he will be waking up beside you in the morning, and he will probably prefer to see clean, fresh, bare skin vs a girl who wears makeup all the time (poorly covering the bad skin) or waking up to a red and irritated face that is painful or causes stress to the girl (not so fun for morning sex). | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/21 12:46 AM |
| 10 | Ways to help your man make friends?Has he asked you to "help him" with this? Why do think it is your responsibility to help him make friends? Why do you think you need to guide him on this process? I would venture to say that, unless he has specifically asked for your "help", there is no need to take this on. And, will probably seem meddlesome and put you into "mommy" category. If he is a mature man, he will allocate friendships and hobbies and male bonding as he sees best for himself. Don't try to influence this or change who he… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/06/21 07:12 PM |
| 3 | How far can healthy habits improve the sex drive of women?I'm not sure you can really quantify "the extent", however anything that ups your own testosterone or balances hormones should have a positive effect, so look into maca root, lifting weights, tribulis terrestris, and higher fat/ protein nutrition. (Birth control may lower your drive too) Obvi is a supplement line that a Female Libido supplement. Also, masterbating typically increases drive (use it or lose it), in addition to power yoga which encourages very deep breathing deep while doing deep s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/06/21 10:56 PM |
| 4 | Backing off and letting my husband pursue me?Female sex worker chiming in here. Unless he has a hormonal issue (like low T) that needs resolving that is causing a low sex drive, I'd say you have driven him away emotionally and therefore he doesn't desire you physically. And the irony is that most men NEED the physical in order to also emotionally connect, which makes it challenging. Reframe every daily interaction and "check in" with yourself constantly to see if you are doing/ saying subtle things that drive him away. For example, how do … | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/06/21 03:52 PM |
| 1 | No sex in 8 monthsWith all due respect, the "just leave him girl" advice is not really advocated here. Leave 10 years in the dust because he is starting a business and things may be stressful? I understand sex is vital, but all aspects of a relationship can ebb and flow, and you never get it all. Approaching the situation with grace vs an ultimatum is probably going to work better. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/05/21 02:59 PM |
| 6 | No sex in 8 monthsHow did you react to his 20 min of "grabbing at your body"? Is that his way of initiating? Do you act excited and start reciprocating? I'm a bit confused how there can be physical contact for 20 min yet nothing happens... Do you tell him specifically what you like and want without criticizing or blaming, or trying to tell him your solution? Maybe when he starts touching you it is the perfect time to touch and pleasure yourself, in front of him, so he knows you are eager and ready. My man LOVES w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/05/21 08:22 PM |
| 1 | Bf wanted to see aunt floThe discussion wasn't about whether or not you view my work as ethical or empowering or moral. I'm just relaying my work experiences with men, which is atypical from others' here and, I believe, adds value to RPW discussions for a different perspective. Thank you! | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/05/21 06:47 PM |
| 5 | My boyfriend is so high caliber, I think he’s too good for me. How do I get past my insecurities/feeling like an imposter and add more value to his life?It can be a terrifying thought to be "Alpha widowed" by your perfect man, and I too feel this way at times. I look at my man in utter awe sometimes because he is so tall, handsome, intelligent and humble, but I remind myself that he CHOOSES to be with me when he could have any girl he wants. It helps to remind myself that, as long as I keep being the woman he fell in love with and implement little RPW tactics, things will keep being amazing. Don't doubt yourself or your value to his life. Men lo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/05/21 04:51 PM |
| 1 | Bf wanted to see aunt floI understand your input, however humans do not just do things that are "evolutionary"; we are a complex and nuanced beings shaped by a variety of factors which all influence our behavior, both concious and unconscious. As a sex worker I have experienced quite the spectrum of men in various aspects of my life, and this has shown me that men do find intrigue and sexual novelty in a vast variety of things, not all of which are cut and dry in the "evolutionary" sense but still hold true to stimulati… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/05/21 06:36 PM |
| 3 | For the men on here: If a woman doesn't have biological kids with a man, is she mostly only good for her looks and likely to be discarded after the wall?Entirely do-able. It's easier to find a man who does NOT desire children than it is to find a woman who does not... Therefore you present yourself as having a rarer and potentially more prized quality vs the typical woman in the dating pool who is obsessed with her biological clock. In addition, as long as you maintain all the feminine qualities that attracted your man as the relationship evolves and grows, his overall loyalty will remain true. Any potential lifetime bachelors who are merely loo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/05/21 05:39 PM |
| 1 | Husband Stopped Wearing Wedding BandPerhaps you can inquire if there is a new hobby, project, or life goal he wants to achieve and be enthusiastic about supporting him. It sounds like he wants to reclaim his autonomy, after wearing the husband label for so long, and needs to spread his wings a bit. Maybe there are dreams or goals he put on the back burner in order to become a good husband and father. It's a big shift for a man to alter his imagined life path of astronaut or firefighter or NASCAR driver, to become "husband" and tak… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/05/21 03:26 AM |
| 1 | Bf wanted to see aunt floA lot of men are turned on or intrigued by it. It's quite a primal, animalistic thing. And very different from anything a man can experience, so I'm sure he is just curious. Also makes sex more fun with the extra lubrication. If there's anything the show Fear Factor taught us, it's that men love it when hot and attractive women do "gross" things. (Lol I mean that in a kind way) Approach it with compassion, happiness, and zero shaming if you really like him and feel comfortable sharing it with hi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/05/21 03:12 AM |
| 1 | Creating space without rejectionInteresting feedback, thank you everyone! I'm certainly not trying to play any mind games or manipulate. I just want to maintain spark and desire, which I think most people acknowledge will fade over time due to constant exposure to the other person. I guess all passionate relationships eventually become comfortable, companionate love? I don't mean it like a man can't think for himself, but even the most amazing meal becomes boring if you eat it everyday so I just want to avoid the mundane from … | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/05/21 03:03 AM |
| 3 | How do I know my worth?Try telling him succinctly how you feel (tired, frustrated, burned out, sad) followed by "I simply can't do xyz". Be pleasant, as if you're HAPPY he is going to naturally figure it out since he is the man if the household. Try not to expound too much on the reasons why or what you THINK the solution is, and let him resolve it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/05/21 02:58 PM |
| 4 | Tennis skirt/ skirt for workout gear =Mix of power lifting and body building movements: lifts like the squat/ deadlift/ overhead press and bench press for overall body, and then accessory lifts for definition in my glutes/ delts/ triceps etc. For cardio I usually ride an Assault Bike, or do stairs. I try to add in power yoga when possible, and I also do some martial arts (with my bf). | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/05/21 12:17 AM |
| 10 | Tennis skirt/ skirt for workout gear =Haha, well I don't mind them as long as they have the shorts inside! But I plan on roller skating, biking, walks, and gym life in these. Martial arts too! | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/05/21 10:57 PM |
| 3 | Relationship advice for a LTR with a Sigma manI will echo the sentiment that the more gracious, happy, and accepting/ encouraging you are when he needs space, the more your man will "lean in" and actively choose to spend time with you. http://theredpillroom.blogspot.com/2013/04/girl-game-stalking-wild-sigma.html?_sm_au_=iVVfQjtJMWT7VSPN&m=1 I found this beneficial to read. I too think my bf is a Sigma; he values independence, is highly intellectual, does not crave the spotlight, and is a bit of a contrarian. Hope the article helps! | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/05/21 01:11 AM |
| 5 | Why Won’t Men Commit? Oh…Yeah, Because Women Are Ballbusting Shrews That Steal Their Dreams. A repost. A repost and how it broadened my perspectiveThis reminds me of the work of Esther Perel, and to paraphrase: fire needs air in order to breathe. The pair bonding may have occurred and all the documents may be signed, but that does not mean the internal drive of a man for freedom and autonomy has been extinguished. Men need to be able to channel their "desire for danger" in healthy ways in order to then return to the stable and secure so they can be their best. Frankly, often his only option is seeking the validation and excitement in unhea… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/05/21 07:32 PM |
| 6 | What Sex Means To A ManAs an adult entertainer/ sex worker, I agree with this wholeheartedly. Many male clients I typically see still love their wives, and unfortunately resort to procuring services because they simply so not get sex or intimacy at home. My biggest advice to women is to ALWAYS be happy to engage in sex with your man, and understand they truly DO need it to remain feeling bonded in a relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/05/21 05:34 PM |
| 16 | WIVES OF HVM - how’d you do it?I would respectfully disagree with this. Quality men are loyal to a woman who has proven HERSELF loyal through tough times, as long as she still retains the qualities she had when they first fell in love. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/21 03:48 PM |
| 2 | Boyfriend bought a home and I need adviceWhat exactly is your main concern here? Is it that he isn't taking your personal "taste" into consideration? Is it that you want to be married before you move in together? Is it that you too desire to be a property owner and see this as a barrier to that in the future? Is it that you'll be giving "wife benefits" while still in girlfriend status? From personal experience I would not live with a bf again unless we were on the same page about getting married in a prompt time frame (no more than 6 m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/04/21 05:29 PM |
| 1 | I really like Laura Doyle's Empowered Wife book. Here are my favourite tips. What are yours?I'm listening to The Empowered Wife again! I absolutely love it. Lots of detail in how to put the skills into practice. It's a much longer listen/ read than the Surrendered Wife. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/21 05:33 AM |
| 2 | I'm a (20)F and I'm always worried about my bf(25)M cheatingThis is a great response, and echos Laura Doyle's "stay on your own paper" method. At the end of the day we can't control other people, we can only control our own actions and responses and style of communication. All the OP can do is be the best version of herself that will make her bf WANT to stay committed, and do her best to understand him in a way other women can't... Then she becomes a rare and valuable addition to his life. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/21 10:34 PM |
| 4 | I'm a (20)F and I'm always worried about my bf(25)M cheating. There is a reason why people shame women for sleeping around (sluts) & shame men for giving resources freely (simps) because they are both trading their commodity for free and without getting commitment from the other party. It is not a double standard, we are different, thus have different standards. I love this response. I was dumbfounded why there is so much "simp hate" online, and this makes sense that many men would not respect a man who is giving away his resources to a woman who is not/… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/21 10:30 PM |
| 4 | High heels 👠Hi there... I understand where you're coming from, and I'm sorry it causes you pain. I also understand these things from the male perspective: you can give a woman all the safety, security, money, children, beautiful home and vacations together, but then she won't try to satisfy simple basic male sexual needs. And, women will often "trade up" aka hypergamy when the going gets tough, despite any efforts the male has made in the past. It can be very sad and discouraging. It may seem like I "win", … | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/21 03:49 PM |
| 2 | Just found out my boyfriend is using steroids. How do I put my foot down without losing him?Double this!!!!!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/04/21 05:29 PM |
| 2 | High heels 👠I highly recommend Nine West shoes, specifically the style called 7ACT3. They come in a gorgeous patent nude that goes WITH EVERYTHING. Plus they're very very comfortable. I wear them with black yoga pants, dresses, lingerie, etc. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/04/21 06:40 AM |
| 4 | High heels 👠As a prostitute who also does amateur porn, (I prefer to call myself an adult entertainer) in this group, I GREATLY appreciate your openness. Frankly, as a sex worker I get to see "the other side" of men who do not have intimate or positive relationships with their wives or gfs, who lack sexual fulfillment, and they come to me to feel the intimacy they don't get at home. I wish more husband's/ attached men didnt have the need to visit women in my line of work, but I do think sex workers can offe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/04/21 06:38 AM |
| 15 | Boyfriend appreciation post 🥺🥺Love to hear it!!! I'm listening to The Empowered Wife, which dives further into the concepts. The more I try to implement these actions, the better our relationship is getting. I increased my "childlike" qualities, I'm always happy and positive around him, I do not give advice or opinions unless he specifically asks, and I have felt so much connection lately both emotionally and physically. As two people who each said we are more than happy to always love alone, we are spending several days tog… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/04/21 06:29 AM |
| 1 | Discussing relationship deal breakers and the adult entertainment industryThank you for your reply. I am trying to work on my insecurity and jealousy with this, and coming to a compromise which I hope he will be ok with. I am going to broach the topic once I know for certain the spas are opening again (have been closed due to covid), and I hope I can articulate everything properly without becoming a crying and negative emotional mess ( I refrain from these undesirable female traits as best I can). TY. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/04/21 04:44 PM |
| 1 | Discussing relationship deal breakers and the adult entertainment industryHi, sorry for the late reply... I took a few days away from this because I was discouraged at some of the comments. Thank you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/04/21 04:26 PM |
| 1 | Discussing relationship deal breakers and the adult entertainment industryThank you so much for saying that <3 I have searched through your profile for comments, advice, etc and have always found your posts/ replies to be relevant and useful regardless of the topic. I respect your wisdom and appreciate your time here. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/21 04:38 AM |
| 1 | Discussing relationship deal breakers and the adult entertainment industryThank you so much for this answer. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/21 04:28 AM |
| 1 | Discussing relationship deal breakers and the adult entertainment industryYep, I agree. I had told myself I wouldn't date another client, and I'm sure he was just a guy fed up with dating who needed some company. Neither of us anticipated this or set out to have a relationship, but here we are. I actually have guilt and shame that I need to have this boundary for my relationship, because I know most men see it as hypocrisy, but I know I will psychologically fall apart if I know or discover he starts "using services" again. It's actually a lot about my mental health an… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/21 04:13 AM |
| 1 | Discussing relationship deal breakers and the adult entertainment industryBut we don't have an "arrangement"... We are a full couple, have met each other's parents, and are now talking more about long term plans like buying property or moving abroad together. I don't think either of us anticipated an actual relationship forming when we met, given the circumstances (which are certainly rare). | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/21 04:03 AM |
| 2 | Discussing relationship deal breakers and the adult entertainment industryWhenever his more submissive nature shows, I play along happily until he shows a "shift" in his sexual mannerisms, and then I switch to being the submissive one. I've never called him out or tried to have a talk about it, and I think it's best that way. I think he feels ok being vulnerable like that with me with words unsaid, and I don't judge or get awkward. Thank you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/21 03:08 AM |
| 2 | Discussing relationship deal breakers and the adult entertainment industryInteresting point to think about, thank you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/21 01:30 AM |
| 0 | Discussing relationship deal breakers and the adult entertainment industryOk, and now that YOU have established you think he ISN'T high value, what is your advice? (To me, I thoroughly understand why a man on the verge of MGTOW would hire a professional, instead of perpetual dead end dating if they're sick of it and never think they'll meet a woman who compliments their life.) | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/21 01:07 AM |
| 1 | Discussing relationship deal breakers and the adult entertainment industryThank you so much for replying. "But you are going to need to present how you feel, not what he is doing, as the basic problem that needs to be solved." This is what I want to make sure I express properly and concisely: my feelings and fears and to be genuine and vulnerable. I will think about what sacrifice I can make in return in order to balance things. I truly empathize with the male struggle with having so many sexual desires, and I'm not expecting him to stop those desires either. I actual… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/21 01:00 AM |
| 1 | Discussing relationship deal breakers and the adult entertainment industryI really appreciate your input, and I know this is a very nuanced conversation given the unconventional circumstances. To clarify, yes I still work in the industry. I see myself as emotionally and physically monogamous to him because I do not desire to be physically intimate in a "non professional" manner with any other man. I don't seek out any men for my own personal satisfaction or orgasms. When I have asked how he feels about my work, he says he has no issue and states succinctly "It doesn't… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/21 11:48 PM |
| 5 | Discussing relationship deal breakers and the adult entertainment industryThank you for your compassionate reply. Yes, I am still actively working, and he supports me fully. He is not jealous of my clients, has never used my work against me, and he has said he would be in the biz if he were a woman too (lol). We have talked about buying property together, living overseas, etc so I think he understands that my work gives me a ton of freedom and flexibility, and will allow him to achieve new goals as well. I do think he worries I will leave him though, as I meet many ri… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/21 11:20 PM |
| -11 | Discussing relationship deal breakers and the adult entertainment industryAnd I do find that most men tend to think this as well; they assume being in a relationship with an "industry girl" automatically means it's an open relationship or that they can do whatever they want outside the relationship. But to me this is my work and does not dictate my personal relationship boundaries and needs. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/21 10:18 PM |
| 3 | Discussing relationship deal breakers and the adult entertainment industryYes I want to talk to him, and I'm asking what is the most RPW way to discuss the topic without presenting an ultimatum or nagging, etc. Just say "Hey, I want to talk about a topic that really really scares me: I'm terrified you will cheat on me, and I'm terrified of losing you, and I'm terrified that you won't choose ME over choosing the freedom to go to adult spa's whenever you want... And I'm terrified of trusting and then being lied to anyway (because that has happened in my past). To illust… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/21 10:16 PM |
| -11 | Discussing relationship deal breakers and the adult entertainment industryThat question is not the topic of discussion, TY. However, to put it this way: if I'm in a relationship with a plumber, that doesn't mean I get to go out and start working on a construction site, just because my partner does that particular job. . | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/21 10:10 PM |
| 2 | Where do you draw the line between girlfriend and wife duties?u/Whisper I've been racking my brain trying to come up with one advantage to marriage for a Western man, and I'm sad that I can't even think of one. Maybe a woman can offer a pre nup that guarantees he won't be fleeced if a divorce occurs, but this isn't an "advantage", just an insurance policy that he will break even, so to speak :( | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/21 12:28 AM |
| 0 | Looks like my boyfriend is RP and I don’t know what to doThank you! I genuinely appreciate your feedback and insight in this group and it gives me a better understanding of men. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/21 12:08 AM |
| 0 | Looks like my boyfriend is RP and I don’t know what to doJust to clarify, it's best to present the problem/ issue and see how the man wants to resolve it? Rather than the woman's immediate solution? TY u/Whisper | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/21 11:49 PM |
| 5 | Looks like my boyfriend is RP and I don’t know what to doFirst, approach I'd approach the whole situation in terms of "How can this conversation ADD VALUE to us as a couple/ how can I personally ADD VALUE to the relationship and it's future?" If you start off combative or angry, it's not adding any value and he will be tuning you out before you ever present your concerns. Do the comments from the alleged account seem disrespectful, rude, cruel, or otherwise potential deal breakers? (If it's truly him, it can give you insight as to his true perceptions… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/21 07:13 PM |
| 0 | Looks like my boyfriend is RP and I don’t know what to doI personally think it doesn't serve much purpose to ask about marriage too soon into dating someone. Yes it's nice to have your "goal" in common with the man, but realistically it's a useless barometer because neither party knows each other well enough to determine if they want marriage to THAT person. I think 95% of humans respond with "to the right person". In this scenario if he is truly RP and not into ever having an LTR then he may not admit this just so that he can keep having consistent s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/21 06:33 PM |
| 3 | Having a hard time getting over a situationshipIn the book "Men Chase, Women Choose" the author talks about this. Essentially men can fall out of lust/ infatuation easily after they have sex one to several times with a women. ( And a lot of them don't even understand why... they just lose interest and move on). Men's hormones react differently than women's before and after sex... When men get excited but don't orgasm it's a good reaction for their vasopressin and other things like dopamine and keeps them pursuing. And their interest will usu… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/03/21 02:14 AM |
| 5 | Am I crazy or how am i so in love with his BO?God, I adore the way my man smells. It's his scent, and I dislike cologne or aftershave that covers it. His chest, his scalp, his face, everything smells amazing.. Sometimes I just walk into his bedroom and it's overwhelming for me because it just thoroughly smells like him. It's the best. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/03/21 02:36 AM |
| 6 | Not feeling validated by my manYou need to find internal peace with your own self, looks, and accomplishments. Men don't want to feel like they're the "nurturing one" who has to hand you a cookie each time you look pretty ( a basic relationship duty, if you will) or do something cool; it's the woman's job imo to be verbal and communicate adoration and affection and praise to her man as he accomplishes tasks on his / their plan. Another POV: how would you feel or view your man if he NEEDED constant praise to do a basic manly d… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/03/21 06:32 PM |
| 11 | How do you know if someone actually likes you and might be falling for you or if he is just a fuckbuddy?I would say be direct if you know what you want from your interactions with him, and for your own dating life in general. Playing coy via sarcasm in a passive aggressive manner to gauge his feelings or intentions etc will not usually work out, and I agree it causes men to subconsciously pull away. As will telling him you're ok with him seeing others. Unfortunately in my experience when men say "Don't fall for me" or try to warn you that they're "not looking for anything/ don't want anything seri… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/03/21 06:09 PM |
| 3 | How do you know if someone actually likes you and might be falling for you or if he is just a fuckbuddy?Great response!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/03/21 06:00 PM |
| 2 | Issues with Alpha/dominant males?I view my man as the best man for me, so I have no desire to sleep with others. Nevertheless, it would break my heart if he went outside the relationship. I'm not sure I could "share" him; I would find it very hard to stay if he continually wanted to be with other women even if I had the "freedom" to be with other guys. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/03/21 07:10 AM |
| 1 | Issues with Alpha/dominant males?Curious if you would want the same for yourself (to be with other men) if he is also getting extra? This topic has been on my mind a lot lately. Especially for myself, I have a very high sex drive but I still worry it's not enough, or that he will still become bored and seek out new novelty because they love the thrill of the chase and conquering something new. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/03/21 06:39 AM |
| 2 | AttractionAlso, paraphrase from Fascinating Womanhood: make a list of all the qualities you're looking for in a man, then make a list of all the qualities you think THAT TYPE OF MAN will look for in a partner. Then, reflect on yourself to see if you actually have those, or where you may need to adjust/ improve. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/02/21 06:29 PM |
| 3 | AttractionWell it's known that you have to "use it or lose it" so to speak. Usually women who don't masterbate also have a low sex drive, so they don't masterbate, so they don't experience pleasure, which makes them less likely to try again... it's a vicious cycle. Maybe you need to tap into your own sensuality. Buy lingerie and a fun adult toy, do a sensual dance for YOURSELF in front of a mirror, etc. If you "fake it till you make it" you may have success not only tapping into your own sensuality and dr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/02/21 06:26 PM |
| 7 | AttractionAre you on birth control? It's common for hormones to change whom women are attracted to... Perhaps get your levels checked by your Dr. You may be asexual, and that's ok of you can find a man that understands. Also know you may have to be ok with giving him a "hall pass" to be sexual with others if you can't/ won't provide that for him. I have a gf who claims to be asexual, yet I believe the real issue is that she needs the man to be a huge provider in order for her to be intimate with him, and … | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/02/21 02:50 PM |
| 6 | My boyfriend's new health issue is making me not love him anymore.I would venture to say that most men stick by their wife despite illness (perhaps not FAITHFUL sexually if she has zero desire), and not divorce her. Women are more prone to leave men in a full crisis imo, be it losing a job or a failing business or something that prevents a man from being able to have children. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/21 05:51 AM |
| 3 | My boyfriend's new health issue is making me not love him anymore.How long have you been together/ exclusive? | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/21 05:45 AM |
| 1 | Sensuality-How can I I become more sensual ?Learn the art of erotic massage, flirting, twirling your hair, subtle compliments to his masculinity, light candles in your bedroom, incense, wear lingerie, dance seductively when you're alone in front of a mirror... It's about a state of mind! | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/21 05:43 AM |
| 4 | Is it just me or is there a lot of feminist viewpoints in this sub?I love this sentiment as well. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/21 07:22 PM |
| 4 | Is it just me or is there a lot of feminist viewpoints in this sub?Love this!!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/21 07:15 PM |
| 1 | Is my pair bonding affected by promiscuity if I never enjoyed the sex?Thank you for all this information! | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/21 06:35 PM |
| 2 | Best LTR strategy using RM as a guideI agree with you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/21 09:23 PM |
| 1 | Best LTR strategy using RM as a guideI guess Rollo thinks woman below a man's smv will always be "working harder" to maintain her status and the relationship because she will always feel dread game, therefore the man will benefit greatly in the long term due to her uneasiness and fear. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/21 02:20 AM |
| 1 | Best LTR strategy using RM as a guideFor me it's so hard to not get "tricked" into wasteful relationships/ sex based relationships, and reading RP man stuff frankly makes me feel like I'm a "shitty woman" or AWALT for wanting a secure long term pair bond (her desire isn't real bro unless she is always having sex and expects nothing in return!) , as if I'm shallow for needing security. So honestly I always feel very conflicted now. I absolutely love and adore my bf, but always worry I'm just wasting my time and that this won't be "f… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/21 02:18 AM |
| 1 | Best LTR strategy using RM as a guideThanks for the correction to RV! My oops. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/21 10:07 PM |
| 2 | Best LTR strategy using RM as a guideYes, I'm thinking in terms of at least the 35+ age brackets for men and LTR. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/21 10:07 PM |
| 9 | Best LTR strategy using RM as a guideTo be fair, you had your own number system in place (3 dates, 3 months, etc) which was an effective strategy for you. Rather than keeping it vague or "playing cool" to let him guide the experience for years (since most men won't break up with a woman even if they know she's not "the one"), you achieved your success by having the specific boundaries. Again, it's not about the point system, but about using a similar concept to optimize LTR. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/21 09:26 PM |
| 2 | Best LTR strategy using RM as a guideBut the article quote specifically relates optimizing a man's LTR strategy so I'm looking for input in context to high SMV females. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/21 09:20 PM |
| 3 | Best LTR strategy using RM as a guideI'm not sure how that statement relateds to a high SMV female ensuring Long Term Relationship success : a quality pair bond, cherishing to be a part of your man's frame, and enjoying a life you both desire. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/21 08:26 PM |
| 1 | Quote that I love...Huh?? Lol | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/21 07:58 PM |
| 1 | How do you reconcile your RP beliefs with your individuality?Love this response. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/01/21 06:52 AM |
| 6 | Quote that I love...It can be visual variety like clothes, hair colour/ style, it can be cherishing the rols of nurturing mother while also being a seductress, embracing childlike girly behavior, or encouraging hobbies your man enjoys while appreciating how hard he works, etc. So a variety of personality "hats" to wear. I see men providing emotional stability when women are feeling chaotic (like at period time), direct financial stability or giving sound financial advice to his lady, or encouraging prudent/ logical… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/21 11:56 PM |
| 3 | Quote that I love...I saw it on twitter, and I believe it actually comes from some reality tv woman (which I don't follow so don't really know). I Googled the quote and saw a couple different references, which is why I did not attribute it to a specific person. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/21 11:47 PM |
| 4 | Quote that I love...Love this interpretation! | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/21 11:45 PM |
| 1 | Sad at being a "forever gf" but ashamed to give up.Well, I think it's more about making a smart investing move for him, rather than us "playing house"... We would purchase as a rental investment/ income property, not a house for us to live in together, and would likely both still stay where we each currently live. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/21 05:57 PM |
| 4 | Quote that I love...The quote doesn't say anything about needing a man :) and your input is a bit contrary to RPW because the man in is the Captain aka leader to whom we embrace to follow (being in his frame). I do think we woman have to "play both sides" so to speak; it's best to actively work on yourself (success, fitness, hobbies etc) in order to meet and keep your ideal mate. Then bring that best self into a relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/21 05:18 PM |
| 2 | Overwhelmed by taking care of my appearanceOnce you have your look down it will be easier. I always keep neutral shellac on nails, red / pink shellac on toes, lash extensions and groomed brows so no eye makeup is needed, simple hair (long, straight, sometimes a bun or pony), and neutral colored clothing (black, grey, white), and neutral heels for a dressy look (Nine West 7ACT9 style are so comfy and in patent nude go with everything) or even black cowboy boots or leather Chuck Taylors for casual etc, and a simple black leather jacket. My… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/21 03:55 PM |
| 4 | PSA: men care a lot more about your body than your faceMy female perspective is I think for hook ups a hot body is male priority, but for LTR a man wants to be able to see a pretty face day in, day out, and a pretty face is key to a lasting sexual chemistry. Many men love eye contact during sexual acts, love to watch a woman's face when she orgasms, love to watch her face doing all the sexy acts they fantasize about. And they love things like glasses and wigs and different makeup etc to create novelty. A man will not typically LTR a "butter face". | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/01/21 06:39 PM |
| 4 | Sad at being a "forever gf" but ashamed to give up.Just curious: why do you interpret my concerns as an "insecurity", and not merely a natural expression of the female desire for stability and a long term pair bond? Sometimes it seems that RP is very supportive of "innate male nature" (sexual variety, Alpha male nature etc) yet interprets female concerns with a negative connotation (ie I'm insecure). Thx. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/01/21 05:21 PM |
| 2 | Non-frumpy (but comfy) pajamas?Unfortunately I can't guide you there, just using my memory. But try Amazon or Faahionnova, or Hot Miami Styles? | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/01/21 09:36 PM |
| 3 | Non-frumpy (but comfy) pajamas?https://www.amazon.ca/dp/B078B7P1QD/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_REX.FbWTCPM2F I just bought a white and black pair of these. I'm in Canada so your options may be different. I prefer the leg warmer style as one can wear over heels and boots, or other thin socks under. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/01/21 03:57 PM |
| 5 | Non-frumpy (but comfy) pajamas?This is a reminder for me to buy more actually lol. My guy loves them. A cardigan or sweater with nice undies and the tall socks is super cute! | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/01/21 03:18 PM |
| 3 | Sad at being a "forever gf" but ashamed to give up.I agree, and as stated neither of us wants children. Aside from marriage though, is there any viable way for a woman to know her man is really commited to "build a future together?" (In general it's recommended to RPM to build their own empire and not "combine forces" with a woman and to avoid marriage). *Sometimes I get frustrated because the values of RPM vs RPW seem quite opposed... Is there a compromise? | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/01/21 02:22 PM |
| 14 | Non-frumpy (but comfy) pajamas?I sleep naked. However, there are some cute rompers that button up the front with "shorts" for the legs (vs full pants) and it's a sexy look to pair it (or a long sleeve tee) with warm thigh high socks. I find my bf loves thigh high socks or leg warmers. Looks cute, sexy, cheeky, and you can be playful in them. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/01/21 02:10 PM |
| 2 | Sad at being a "forever gf" but ashamed to give up.Sorry, I'm unsure if your comment is pro marriage or anti marriage? Trying to determine the context, thx. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/01/21 04:16 AM |
| 8 | Sad at being a "forever gf" but ashamed to give up.I have actually always liked this idea: the rings' symbolic connection and public demonstration of a commitment, more than the legal or religious implications. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/01/21 12:32 AM |
| 6 | Sad at being a "forever gf" but ashamed to give up.I think he views buying a property (a rental investment, not a house to live in together) as a good financial decision for himself. And he can achieve that with me sooner than on his own (he already owns a home). | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/01/21 12:31 AM |
| 3 | How do you react to other females' hypergamy?This is very valid, and TBH I have expressed this worry to my GF because I'm not sure my bf truly wants me "for the long haul". It does scare me that a lot of men see nothing wrong with occupying a woman's time even if they know deep down "she's not the one". We have been together one year, but neither of us wants kids and he doesn't want marriage. So there are nuances for sure. He and I are both 42, so I just hope he is past playing games and wants to really build a future around our values and… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/01/21 03:33 AM |
| 4 | I don’t know what to do anymore. I need help.This reminds me of the saying "When you point a finger at someone else, remember there are 3 others pointing back at you. You can't control him. You can only control yourself, and how you are in the relationship and what you choose to put up with. How can you be better or happier? That answer may be walking away from this toxic situation. But blaming him and ranting about how sh*tty he is doesn't accomplish much without YOUR own accountability. In the Fascinating Womanhood audiobook, she mention… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/01/21 09:07 PM |
| 1 | Setting boundariesTo be fair I did offer because he broke his right arm badly , and at the same time his own washer/ dryer were disconnected due to basement renovations. We have resolved the issue, and thanks for your input. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/01/21 07:41 PM |
| 1 | Need guidance (unsure if I’m being hypergamous)?Sexual Market Value | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/12/20 04:51 PM |
| 16 | Need guidance (unsure if I’m being hypergamous)?I would be very wary... This man sounds like a "project", and imo these are red flags. At 23 you are still very young so your smv is desirable. Imo a man in his 40's at this level is either A) looking to secure you so he can keep living a bachelor's life while you are young and have a good career Or B) will be motivated to work so hard to "get his life on track" that he simply won't have the mental or emotional space to have a fulfilling relationship with you while he works on himself (unlikely)… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/12/20 06:51 PM |
| 2 | Setting boundaries"Does he hold up his end of the bargain?" He pays for dinners and most "date activities" that we do together (I'm very low key so these are rarely expensive which is fine by me). However there are certain things I have asked for help with that he has never followed through with, such as helping me put together my bed frame (mattress has been on floor for almost a year) or installing my bidet (he brought tools over but just left them here). He remembered our anniversary in Nov but didn't do anyth… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/12/20 03:13 AM |
| 6 | Setting boundariesGive the clothes back dirty you mean, correct? | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/12/20 06:46 PM |
| 3 | Setting boundariesI'm willing to hear this, and have been thinking about things such as him consistently paying for dinner. I will make a list and ask him to do the same. Sometimes we all get so caught up in the mundane day to days, that we forget to "check in" to see if both people's needs are being met in the relationship or how we can improve. TY. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/12/20 05:42 PM |
| 30 | Setting boundaries"If I was you, I would clean the clothing, wait till you are feeling not as hurt. When delivering it, you take up the conversation. It's hard getting upset and mad, at a person there who just did your laundry." I really like this approach, and to just calmly/ succinctly tell him that he is not matching this "wife duty" expectation with any "husband duty" actions. He himself told me once he loathes doing things out of obligation vs when he truly wants to, so I will use this as an example when we … | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/12/20 05:38 PM |
| 17 | Setting boundariesThis makes sense. I love giving, but now I feel he is taking me for granted and I'm building 90% of this bridge. I had offered to do his laundry previously to help him, but I was very hurt and offended he thought it was fine to give me this on xmas considering he did nothing for me (a gift is on its way but no card or small something was done to make up for it). I guess I have to pull away and do less :/ | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/12/20 05:07 PM |
| 1 | How to elegantly express disappointment to your manI now feel like I'm giving way too much. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/12/20 07:49 AM |
| 1 | How to elegantly express disappointment to your manWe have talked about this numerous times, and he knows I love physical touch and gifts. TY. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/12/20 07:47 AM |
| 1 | How to elegantly express disappointment to your manThank you for the replies everyone. I gave him his presents, and was happy to do so. He said he felt bad about not having mine, although I still find it frustrating that there was no other effort made. He says he doesn't care for any holidays, but isn't love also about doing things simply because it will make your partner happy? Or is the best approach to view it the same as if I gave gifts to a child: with no hope or expectation of receiving anything back? Going forward is it best to not do any… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/12/20 07:44 AM |
| 1 | How to elegantly express disappointment to your manI don't think hoping to receive a card or small present on Christmas is completely transactional. Thanks. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/12/20 07:15 AM |
| 5 | How to elegantly express disappointment to your manI know his LL is physical touch, but when we already cuddle and touch and are very physically intimate often, what does one do for that for holidays? Lol | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/12/20 01:15 AM |
| 2 | How to elegantly express disappointment to your manI know he's bought me something... It just hasn't arrived yet. And he bought 2 so he could have one too. But he has been warning me for 2 weeks that it may not arrive on time... But didn't do anything else to celebrate such as a card or other little token. :( | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/12/20 01:13 AM |
| 2 | How to elegantly express disappointment to your manWe've been together for almost a year tho? Neither of us wants to have children so there's no one else I can give to. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/12/20 01:10 AM |
| 18 | How to elegantly express disappointment to your man"His actions are a reflection of your actions." I don't quite understand this statement in the context. How is his lack of action to do something for me at Xmas a reflection of MY actions towards him? My actions were to "go the extra mile" so to speak for thoughtful gifts during his stressful work/ house reno. We also watched his favourite movies at his place, cuddled and touched, made love twice, and ate the food he wanted. We did everything he wanted and he said for him it was the perfect xmas… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/12/20 10:44 PM |
| 2 | How to elegantly express disappointment to your manAlso, my friends usually say I "sexualize" him too much/ objectify him despite how long we've been together. And that our "love" phase should be different. But I'mm very sexual as is he so if I change he will definitely see me as being too "motherly" IMO. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/12/20 10:37 PM |
| 7 | How to elegantly express disappointment to your manI know his LL is physical touch, and we are very physical. He also knows that I love gifts. We have talked about this.💖 | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/12/20 10:24 PM |
| 16 | How to elegantly express disappointment to your manHe injured himself with the accident, and thus can't use one arm nor drive. His machines are not connected due to basement renovations, and so I had taken his laundry several times since it's hard for him to get to a laundromat. I actually ordered that book today, but I wonder if it's prudent to discuss this today vs waiting a month or so. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/12/20 10:22 PM |
| 2 | Having a life outside my relationship?Audiobooks, sewing/ knitting, home workouts, Masterclass or similar, play chess or other games online, painting, learn a new language, etc | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/12/20 05:44 PM |
| 5 | If gift giving a deal breaker?Will be looking for this book! | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/12/20 05:37 PM |
| 1 | From Alpha male to teddy bear?Thanks! Will be reading that when I'm in the correct frame of mind. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/12/20 06:43 PM |
| 21 | Boyfriend can't fall asleep in bed next to me and wants separate bedroomsI think the best approach is to be flattered he wants to give you your own space, and tell him that! I can see how this is a rational approach for him. He obviously WANTS you there; he isn't making excuses for you to not be with him, nor is he asking for less time together or listing reasons why it's better for you to leave rather than sleep over. Imo you should be concerned if he asks you to leave before sleep time, or doesn't want you to come over as much, or starts spending less time with you… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/12/20 01:30 AM |
| 2 | From Alpha male to teddy bear?From what I've read, testosterone naturally falls as a man gets settled into a LTR or monogamous relationship, so therefore isn't the "simp" a natural chemical by product? | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/12/20 01:39 PM |
| 2 | From Alpha male to teddy bear?Interesting take. Thanks for you feedback. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/12/20 03:31 AM |
| 2 | From Alpha male to teddy bear?Very true. We are dealing with some "abnormal" factors, such as a bad motorcycle injury which happened a couple days before he started his month off from work. So I've definitely been assisting him more than usual. Plus we are in lockdown and it's cold here, so there's not much to do outside the house. Maybe this will all shift now that he's starting work again, and has some more exercise equipment to use so he's not stuck on the couch. I will encourage his business, hobbies, etc more. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/12/20 11:02 PM |
| 5 | From Alpha male to teddy bear?So how can a woman not let her man "simp"? Introduce more novelty in the bedroom? Try board or video games that encourage competition and adrenaline? Suggestions appreciated. I'd love to tag some contributors here like Fleetinwish , Whisperer or Lateral thinker but I'm still learning Reddit and don't know how ;) | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/12/20 10:27 PM |
| 7 | From Alpha male to teddy bear?The "begging" was cute and lighthearted, but I will definitely stay aware, TY! | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/12/20 10:16 PM |
| 8 | Should you tell your partner about your past?It depends. I think a person should be honest, but not necessarily an open book. First, what is the purpose of telling the information? Is it something that will benefit the relationship or your partner in some way? Or is it merely to absolve yourself of a guilt you still carry? Have you grown from the experience or are you still struggling with it? I'd you are still struggling, why haven't you dealt with it yet? It also depends on how you present the information: succinct and to the point vs cr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/20 03:34 AM |
| 32 | How do i exude femininity and playfulnessMen LOOOOOOVE childlike qualities! Just think of how curious, silly, and full of laughter little kids are. Big smiles, exclaim "OH!!!!" like you're full of wonder at everything simple. They are not bogged down by responsibility, bills, or jobs they hate. Try using a colouring book, painting, making a silly food project, crafts, or dancing and jumping around to your favourite music. It honestly works!!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/12/20 04:28 AM |
| 2 | I'm insecure about my boyfriend's porn consumption, am I in the wrong?"If you keep these ideas in mind, you may realize something that many women miss in interacting with men: most of the things you take personally have nothing to do with you." This is true, and also very hard to come to terms with. When my man and I talk about sexuality and psychology etc, he says "Men can have sex with a woman and it literally means nothing. It's just sex and nothing more." I take this personally because it would hurt ME for him to have sex with another women and yet still love … | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/20 07:08 AM |
| 4 | Listening materialOoooooohh I see she interviews Dr Glover from No More Mr Nice Guy... I know my bf has read that book. Will be listening, thanks! | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/12/20 02:43 AM |
| 2 | In this holiday season, a reminder to RECEIVE RECEIVE RECEIVE (+ mini field report)Love this story!!! Thanks for sharing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/12/20 04:09 PM |
| 7 | Want to be married but my case feels hopeless"Men's emotional wants and needs are no less complex than yours, which is why I am not going to try to tell you what they are in a reddit comment. But what you need to do is realize that they exist, and set out to learn them. " This is the content I'm here for!! 😭 Sometimes it's difficult to separate out the true male emotional wants and needs amongst the comments men make in other forums. Thanks for this link! | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/12/20 01:47 AM |
| 0 | He's successful and very independent. I don't feel needed.Love this reply. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/12/20 01:26 AM |
| 6 | He's successful and very independent. I don't feel needed.Examine your need to feel needed. Did this ever backfire in previous relationships? Did you become too maternal? He sounds like an ultimate provider, and if children are in the future then he has definitely set the stage for you to be able to focus all your energy on them and him which is amazing. If children are a ways off still, how can you add value that is not maternal? I would take the initiative to walk the dog on your own, ask his opinion on relevant things in your life (job, hobbies) and… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/11/20 03:14 PM |
| 5 | Is it okay to leave a man because you feel no passion for him?You can't negotiate desire. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/11/20 02:52 PM |
| 2 | how should i act?Ok, so list the unique qualities he has vs the other men you went on dates with. Also, unfortunately it doesn't really matter because HE doesn't see you that way. Women are the gatekeepers of sex, men are the gatekeepers of commitment. If commitment is what you're looking for then he has already told you it won't be with him. Don't sort through the garbage hoping to turn it into treasure; far better to start off on a new foot with a new prospect. The "heart" will always trick you because what yo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/11/20 02:45 PM |
| 2 | how should i act?With all due respect, it sounds like you are avoiding taking responsibility and are sending him mixed signals. He has clearly placed you in the "temporary fun" category, because of your actions, and him saying "one day you'll find a right man" means he has zero intention of being that guy for you. You just like the attention he is showing you. Be accountable and clear with yourself first, and cease communication with this guy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/11/20 02:37 PM |
| 2 | how should i act?You don't like this person, you just like the attention he has given you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/11/20 02:30 PM |
| 1 | Can older men be a second chance for low SMV women?Huge fan of the keto diet too! I think because women have hormones that fluctuate far more than men's, the trick is knowing what type of keto to follow during normal times as well as when we get food cravings during our cycle. Myself I do very well eating low carb/ low fat/ very lean protein and organ meats most of the month, and then enjoy "keto treats" when I'm craving things like chocolate or carbs. Making protein ice cream, PB fat bombs, or premade keto bars during PMS def helps stay on trac… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/20 10:27 PM |
| 5 | Anyone else here with plbody parts you feel are not feminine enough and how did you accept it?Same! As a fitness buff my veins pop in my forearms and hands especially when I'm lean. Personally I dislike it in my hands but men seem to love it. I have been complimented numerous times on my hand veins. Lol | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/20 10:06 PM |
| 7 | Do you openly discuss RP with your SO?😂😂 | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/11/20 11:25 PM |
| 1 | Does BRIFFAULT'S law apply to men?Thinking about this again today; do you think then if a man is getting enough sex that he has no or little desire for "variety" of female partners? I thought that was a part of plate theory and why men may not commit exclusively to one woman. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/11/20 07:27 PM |
| 7 | Dating Retrospective - please helpHow long were you exclusively dating for? And how satisfying was your sex life? It sounds like he wants a "mommy" figure to motivate him in life, which is not appealing. I do believe in the concept that "men are like blow torches (immediate fire that can shut off with no warning) and women are like ovens (slow to warm up but steady heat once turned on) in love. It's an ironic twist of nature, but it happens none the less. Which is another reason to delay full sexual intimacy until a man is reall… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/11/20 03:54 PM |
| 1 | How do you girls respond to your man drooling over another woman in front of you?I think men are visual creatures and will be drawn to look. Acting on those moments or subsequent cheating are a different matter though. Could he be doing it to instill "dread game"? It's possible if he's RP. Have you tried mirroring his behaviour to see how he reacts? I would be inclined to mirror what he does (in a very sweet way), and then he may bring up that HE is uncomfortable... at which point you can say "Well I thought I was fine to express myself the same way you do." Sometimes people… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/11/20 07:01 PM |
| 2 | Turning someone down/breaking it off the feminine way?State simply that it's been fun getting to know him better, bit that ultimately you don't see yourself with him in the long haul and you need to move on. Don't over complicate it or use a bunch of empty platitudes. Keep it short and sweet. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/11/20 06:14 AM |
| 1 | Does BRIFFAULT'S law apply to men?I'd like to note though, that a lot of women seem to conflate a man's relationship commitment with his sexual fidelity, however it seems many men will continue the relationship yet be unfaithful (isn't this its own version of trading up, if only for brief encounters?) and I don't really see how that is "more admirable" than hypergamy (this is moralizing, yes), especially if there is a mutual agreement upon monogamy in said relationship. Thanks for your reply! | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/11/20 04:37 PM |
| 2 | What's your ideal number of children to have?Zero. I have the desire to pair bond and have a LTR, but zero desire for children and actually don't want to live with a man. I think the spark stays alive when 2 people miss each other and don't see each other 24/7, which usually results in a sibling type of relationship over time. Too much complacent comfort if people are going to the bathroom with the door open imo! Lol | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/11/20 10:36 PM |
| 2 | Does BRIFFAULT'S law apply to men?Thank you for your reply! | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/11/20 04:13 PM |
| 3 | Does BRIFFAULT'S law apply to men?Be so good that there is always value in your presence. Vet properly, and provide value to your partner every day, and they will love you and adore you :) No one should be relying on an "I do" or mutual assets or shared responsibility to keep a relationship together.< Gosh I LOVE this so much. I really really try to mindful of my words and actions, and try to actively add value to my man's life. I want to be an asset to his life, not a liability. And I notice him becoming more emotionally open a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/11/20 04:12 PM |
| 4 | Mid life Red Pill awakening and its impact.@ OP Another thing I'm curious about: do you think Husband #1 would have stayed with you for so many years if you had completely stopped having sex with him when your drive tanked? (Let's say within the first 3-5 years) | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/11/20 08:40 PM |
| 2 | Best Coaching/ YT sites?I'll look for that! | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/11/20 08:03 PM |
| 19 | Mid life Red Pill awakening and its impact.I'm just curious if you ever felt that true, genuine, burning desire for your first husband? Perhaps in the beginning? I am deducing that you were online with other men and either sending photos or messages, etc (can't recall if you physically cheated). If you did, this may be something to remain aware of as you go into the next relationship. It sounds like your 2nd man is great, but let's remember the limerance/ infatuation stage is powerful for about 12-24 months and then things change (litera… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/11/20 08:01 PM |
| 2 | Starting dating a man who identifys as being Black Pilled, not sure what to think.Great description! | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/11/20 12:15 AM |
| 1 | Best Coaching/ YT sites?Thank you! | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/20 07:10 AM |
| 1 | Best Coaching/ YT sites?Interesting! I'll search for him. I have watched/ listened to some of the Richard Cooper (Entrepreneurs in Cars) stuff and he is quite blunt as well. TY. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/20 07:10 AM |
| 4 | Chase love or go for stability?The reality is that marrying for love is a new concept; it's been highly romanticised (and advertised) in our N American/ European culture. But traditionally marriage is about amalgamating assets, wealth, bloodlines, property and ensuring family successors. Not about fleeting romantic trysts or infatuation feelings. "Love" was a luxury experienced through affairs or secret romances etc. My favourite author on this subject is Esther Perel, and she emphasizes that we now look to ONE PERSON to fulf… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/11/20 04:46 PM |
| 1 | John Gray (author from Men are from Mars Women are from Venus) is doing livestreams of relationship advice for women.Thanks for sharing!!! I find his work to be logical and practical. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/11/20 08:59 PM |
| 1 | Broadening Vocabulary & SpeechI like playing Scrabble, either the classic boardgame or online, to learn new and challenging words. It can be a bit humbling though when all you can think of are single syllable ones like "fox" or "thing" lolol | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/11/20 04:01 AM |
| 2 | New to RPT and want to learn and improveIf you go to the "About" section you'll see links to a book Fascinating Womanhood, which is probably the easiest place to start. There's a good saying in the RP circles that states "Chase excellence, not women", and I think it applies here too! If this man has already "established himself", he will be looking for a woman who has done the same or is trying her best. Work on yourself: hobbies, health, skills, etc. But realize these things are FOR YOU, and not for "him". Most men do not care if you… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/11/20 05:09 PM |
| 1 | It happened!!Congratulations!!!!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/11/20 04:37 AM |
| 2 | Is it normal to struggle with one gender and not the other? How do you correct this?How tall are you? Most average men don't mind curves and plumpness; only bodybuilders or really vain men will consider weight to be a deal breaker in the beginning. Not to sound crass, but men will always prefer to be with a "6" who is happy and sexual, vs a "10" who is frigid and unpleasant. In RP they acknowledge that men will "date down" (preferred), vs women who continually "date up". | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/11/20 08:48 PM |
| 3 | Is it normal to struggle with one gender and not the other? How do you correct this?Well with all due respect there must be some concrete reason you're unable to connect with these men. This will require self analysis on your part. I'd try and reflect logically on your last 2-3 interactions with men where you didn't get the results you were hoping for. Kind of like a "post game" recap to see where you can improve. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/11/20 08:36 PM |
| 1 | Motivating your manYou can't motivate a man. A man like this could still be "finding himself" well into his 40's. A good RP man will build up his life and then invite his ideal woman to be a part of it because she completes the puzzle. A man such as yours will lock himself down early in a relationship, and then years later he will feel "unfinished" and need to be free to find his true self, or he will hop from woman to woman to fulfill this need. Don't wait around for potential. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/11/20 07:56 PM |
| 14 | Is it normal to struggle with one gender and not the other? How do you correct this?Are you trying to become friends with men first? Appearing too maternal or too "buddy buddy" will turn men off. When you interact with these men, what is your goal? Are you adding value (being kind, feminine) or taking value from them (criticizing, nagging, passive aggressive)? And are these men single or already taken? As said once in SATC, "women are for friendships, men are for f*cking." So you've got part 1 down already :) Men are drawn to aesthetics first and foremost, then to feminine ener… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/11/20 07:48 PM |
| 3 | Best way to say "I love you"He was waiting for me to say it first after all :) He actually described the moment he "knew", and it was so long ago. And here I was terrified and waiting for him to say it first. TY | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/11/20 05:08 AM |
| 1 | Best way to say "I love you"7 months exclusive, known each other almost a year | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/11/20 05:19 AM |
| 5 | I'm confused about how trp works and I have some questions...I read this and I honestly think it's true : "Man loves woman- woman loves children- children love dog- dog loves man." Often times women have children because they need/ give unconditional love IN THE WAY THEY WANT, vs the way a man can actually give it. Man, I watched the last episode of The Boys last night and it even illustrated this concept: main man desperately loves his woman and will do anything for her, but because she has a child all her love is on the kid and she can't love the man mo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/11/20 05:22 PM |
| 9 | So what if you've had a lot of partners?It's so fascinating to me that men CAN and will have more casual sex without any "emotion" attached, but once he pair bonds then sex does indeed become DEEPLY emotional for a man and he cannot function well in the relationship without it. To put it bluntly, if his woman won't f*CK him then he feels he is no longer the "best". Whereas women say they need the "pair bond" / commitment to have sex in the beginning, yet often STOP or drastically lower the quantity of sex once commited. It seems so cr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/11/20 03:45 PM |
| 1 | Why I (19F) take advice from this sub even though I’m usually as progressive as it gets (+ a field report!!)This!! Being childlike adds so much... I think it brings out a man's protector instinct, as well as re-creating "innocence lost" if he is a man who is suspicious of a woman's "motives" for being with him (children and dogs don't care about material possession); being cute will reflect his desire for unconditional love. This is why men love dogs: loyal, unconditional, accepts who he is in the present moment and not for what is to gain down the road. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/11/20 03:21 PM |
| 1 | Are women capable of loving men?And a man's version/ ideal of love is usually based on his experiences with his mother or first LTR. These will shape how he views love in further relationships. Its beneficial to ask about these and see if he will share. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/11/20 02:55 PM |
| 6 | My boyfriend doesn’t want to cum, what should I do?Respect his choice and encourage him! Men's testosterone naturally drops once they're in a monogamous relationship (may not apply if not living together), so this may be a sub conscious way for him to boost his hormones and get back into his "manhood". There's interesting information on male and female hormones and neurotransmitters, and they all affect our relationships and dating/ mating strategies. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/11/20 02:36 PM |
| 1 | Help, high SMV BF of 7 months now wants to open the relationshipI truly hope he is being honest that he doesn't want to replace me or "date" anyone else (of course there's no guarantee)... I worry he just says this so he can keep enjoying sex with me until something "better" comes along. TBH my "fully monogamous" relationships have never lasted, so I may open myself to this idea as long as there are boundaries in place. I have been reading The Red Queen and other books about human evolutionary science, and it seems that men are predisposed to want a primary … | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/11/20 02:28 PM |
| 0 | Help, high SMV BF of 7 months now wants to open the relationshipThank you so much for your feedback. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/11/20 12:30 AM |
| 0 | Help, high SMV BF of 7 months now wants to open the relationshipIs it realistic to tell him how I feel and to ask that we broach this topic again further down the line when he actually feels the "need" to go? (Seeing as how he says this is something he wants in the future). I want him to freely choose me, not give him an ultimatum (which I won't do). I keep wondering if he actually needs the variety, or if this is just a way for him to reclaim his autonomy and freedom. I know it's a huge thing for a man to commit to exclusivity with a female, and perhaps he … | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/11/20 11:46 PM |
| 1 | Help, high SMV BF of 7 months now wants to open the relationshipAnd I guess I'm terrified this is my Alpha widow moment... That I'll never find a man I desire as much as this one. :( | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/11/20 03:05 PM |
| 2 | Help, high SMV BF of 7 months now wants to open the relationshipI guess I feel hurt that he has, effectively, changed his mind on being exclusive yet he also doesn't want to end the relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/11/20 02:59 PM |
| 0 | Help, high SMV BF of 7 months now wants to open the relationshipI guess I feel hurt that he has, effectively, changed his mind on being exclusive yet he also doesn't want to end the relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/11/20 02:58 PM |
| 0 | Help, high SMV BF of 7 months now wants to open the relationshipHis perspective is that it will help him stay "exclusively dating" me longer (for company and activities and sex) I guess, if he can get the "side action" fun of going to a spa for a "friendly handshake". He says it's not "personal", just a physical outlet. But I think it's the same as non exclusive dating like when you first meet someone. I guess ultimately men really are the gatekeepers of commitment. Even tho I don't want kids etc, i still have the drive to pair bond with a partner and I'm sc… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/11/20 11:46 AM |
| -2 | Help, high SMV BF of 7 months now wants to open the relationshipI'm actually not opposed to exploring this, especially since he said he doesn't want to date anyone else or replace me. It just seems too soon... Most people start saying I love you at this stage, not that they want to open up the bedroom. Lol... to me that's something that happens way down the line in a relationship I'm not sure if I can go back to essentially "stage 1" of dating... However, I'm in love with him, and I want to accept his male nature and also my female nature, and come to a comp… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/11/20 05:18 AM |
| 1 | Tips/tricks to highlight your femininity?I love all these!!! A cute thing I thought of tonight was to sweetly ask my man "Babe, I have a question: can I be your girlfriend?" And then smile big! I think this plays up a cute, childlike attitude, as well as shows the man you hope you are his choice, sweetly asking permission to be his. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/11/20 04:41 AM |
| -2 | Help, high SMV BF of 7 months now wants to open the relationshipDidn't mean to throw around terms, just reiterating my familiarity with some of the RP concepts. TY. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/11/20 11:07 PM |
| 0 | Are my standards too high?Just keep focusing on your hobbies and interests and appearance. Men don't really care if you're "highly educated", just that you can be self sufficient and responsible with your finances. You may want to modify your criteria for certain things that are out of a man's control, such as his height. He can't change this to fit your standards. Good luck! | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/11/20 09:35 PM |
| 5 | My boyfriend [25m] and I [25F] just broke up after 4 years.Focus on what is directly in front of you, each day. Make sure you exercise, get quality sleep, and eat nutritious food. Take a look at yourself when you're ready to see where you could have done better, but also be gentle and don't self punish. We don't know better, until we know better 💞 | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/11/20 09:15 PM |
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