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wait, isn't that two different women?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 04:47 PM
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The audacity of not realizing what the women in the "used" and "clearance" sections went through, and with whom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 11:23 PM
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She calls him baby and calls it "date night" not "our first date"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 10:56 PM
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huh?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 08:01 PM
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"You women have to deal with getting raped or murdered, but at least you don't have to deal with feeling like people are uncomfortable around because they're scared of getting raped or murdered. See? Men totally have it worse!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 07:51 PM
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Commitment, stability (especially for children), life-long companionship and connection, support (emotional and other), inspiration, financial benefits, protections under the law, wanting to spend the rest of my life with someone I love and trust. ​ I'm not interested in casual relationships, being a forever girlfriend, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 07:36 PM
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Usually people don't say "Date night! Baby rented a truck with blankets and pizza at a drive-in!" when it's a first date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 06:02 PM
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Obviously I mean HEALTHY two parent household. Obviously I don't mean that an abusive father is better than no father. A big part of a HEALTHY two parent household is that children have a HEALTHY template on what 1) a romantic committed relationship with another person looks like, and 2) role models (and having a role model of your own gender is very important). Lack of this can extrapolate to many intangible areas of your life later on, especially in dating, male-female interactions, relationsh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 05:36 PM
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carry on then
/r/seduction21/10/20 05:33 PM
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So if a woman comes from a poor background and wasn't able to afford and education, fuck her then? Only LVM for her?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 05:20 PM
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This isn't a first date though. They've clearly been in a relationship with each other for a while. ​ And "dressing up to the nines"? Girl, where? She's wearing pajamas.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 05:11 PM
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Maybe she wore that to get laid as well, seeing as they're a long-term couple.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 05:10 PM
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This clearly isn't a first date, but rather a date for a couple who have been in a relationship with each other for a while. ​ Judging by some of the comments here, I'm to understand that drive-ins are a big no-no? And liking drive-in theaters is a sign of being a LVM or a LVW? Lmao get a grip people. This is a couple who went to a drive-in movie, and instead of taking their own car and buying concessions, the rented a truck and brought their own food and blankets in order to be more comfortable…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 05:01 PM
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what would you suggest as a good first date?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 04:56 PM
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If a guy told me he was going to pick me up at a certain hour on a certain day for a date without even asking me or talking to me about it beforehand, I'd laugh in his face and then block. ​ You know, there is a middle point before coming off as a desperate PUA fanboy or controlling douchebag, and a limp dick. ​ You can simply ask her" "I'd like to take you to dinner. Would Friday or Saturday at around 7 pm work for you?" That shows confidence and initiative, while showing you respect her and re…
/r/seduction21/10/20 01:14 AM
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No "nice girl" wants a used up slut though.
/r/seduction21/10/20 12:58 AM
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Yes. I want to get married for the connection and companionship, not for money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 06:48 PM
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Do what's best for you. Sometimes play dumb fox, sometimes smack them down with assertiveness, based on the situation. ​ DO NOT let your ego control you. Ask yourself: "In this situation, is it more beneficial to boost my ego and smack this fool down, or is it more beneficial to play dumb fox and get info/help/connections/etc from?" I mean this in life in general, not just academia or work. Keep in mind sometimes it may be more beneficial to play dumb fox, but sometimes it may be more beneficial…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 06:47 PM
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that sounds like another PUA tactic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 06:37 PM
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what a weirdo. He does something you don't like, you tell you don't like it, he jumps into a weird spiel about "I totally understand. You don't have to be afraid to tell me if you're not comfortable with something" and then.... he does it again!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 06:36 PM
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Yep, and I think an even more significant point is WHO is doing the attacking of both men and women? It's overwhelmingly men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 06:19 PM
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I think if a woman is established enough it may not be difficult for her, but I think when children are involved, you have to think what's best for the child, not what's best for you. Children aren't toys. I firmly believe what's best for a child is a stable (emotionally, mentally, financially), loving, TWO parent household, preferably with a mother and a father. That's the ideal. Obviously there are parenting situations where this ideal isn't met that still raise healthy children: it's a single…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 03:02 PM
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They see physical beauty as a woman's power (perhaps her only power) and are trying convince you that you DON'T have any power over them, and can't get them to do things for you just because you're beautiful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 08:30 PM
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A woman is being stalked, but they have to make it ALL ABOUT THEMSELVES.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 08:25 PM
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Yep. I used to think cohabiting before marriage was ok, but now I see it's not (thanks partially to FDS). I would consider cohabiting if I was engaged and concrete plans for a wedding were being made. But yeah, until I'm engaged, I want my own space. Even before I had this realization, I still always knew that I would only cohabit with someone I trusted fully and was in a very committed, very exclusive relationship with. I have anxiety, and that idea of a relationship ending and me being left ei…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 08:19 PM
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She keeps on saying that she doesn't want to "blow up" the relationship, hence her hesitation are even giving him an ultimatum. This poor woman is not planning on leaving him, unless she makes some breakthrough. The scrote will find someone he likes better in 5-10 years and leave her with a mortgage and a kid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 03:40 PM
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This. I regularly have my mind blown at a the number of women who buy houses, significantly commingle finances, and have children before marriage (and usually these women want marriage).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 03:39 PM
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That's really cool. I love that. I think it's awesome that your generation is going back to it more. I hope our generation and younger will start going back to the more "conservative/traditional" ways that value and protect women more than this disgusting hookup sex positivity culture we're in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 03:36 PM
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I think he's dead on about the fact that when you know who you are, and when the other person knows who they are, it doesn't take very long at all to figure out that you're right for each other. Yep. Even women do this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 02:43 PM
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I've read and heard from many men that usually men "know" if the woman they are dating is someone they are interested in potentially marrying or not ("marriage material"). They usually know this by the end of the first date. Then, they usually know pretty early on (a few months into dating) if they want to marry her or not. ​ This actually isn't some crazy far-fetched idea. Speaking for myself, as a woman, I can tell within the first meeting if a guy is someone I'd want to date long term, not to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 02:42 PM
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this sounds amazing. May I ask what country/part of the US you're in? It sounds like something from the Southern US or Europe or other country that still has strong traditional culture.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 01:26 PM
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This is heartbreaking. ​ And she has a child with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 01:15 PM
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Because sex positivity was meant to ensure that males still have access to their preferred means of sexual satisfaction without the obligations that come with. Literally this is it. This 10000% what this all is. What sexual EmPoWeRmEnt, sex positivity, Lib fem, etc etc etc is. ​ All it is is just 1) allowing men free and easy access to sex WITHOUT the obligations and responsibilities that used to come with it, and 2) normalize men's perverted sexual fantasies into the wide open society.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 04:31 AM
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I understand that. My point is that since there are more men than women, competition amongst men for women should high, thus promoting HVM qualities in men so that they can get one of the few women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 01:34 AM
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What tf did I just read.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 08:56 PM
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This has to be one of the most poignant examples of play stupid games, win stupid prizes. ​ But I don't understand how a policy that prioritized male babies over female babies (and thus led to more men than women in society), makes it harder for women to find a man. Shouldn't there be more men than there are women, which would make it easier for women to find a man because A) there are a lot of them, and B) competition amongst men for women is tough even if women weren't picky because there are …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 08:32 PM
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I assumed Value Village is a type of discount store in Canada? But maybe not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 08:22 PM
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Men are more likely to be victims fo violent assault because most criminals (virtually all violent criminals) are men. Gangs are made up of virtually all men. So if men don't want to be victims of violent assault, maybe men should stop violently assaulting each other, and women. ​ And men are more likely to be victims of domestic violence?!? lmao what.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 07:14 PM
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block and delete. these types of conversations are a waste of energy and time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 03:55 PM
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Disgusting. And that's the one of the "milder" things they say!! ​ Also, as a side note, it is PAINFUL to keep reading 's used as plural (along with all his other grammatical errors).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 03:17 PM
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Notice how he says they "worship white women" but even their definition of worship is harassment and catcalling, this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 03:16 PM
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you missed "getting gems at value village"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 03:08 PM
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She sounds like she's deep #NotLikeOtherGirls pick-me. So sorry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 02:49 PM
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he's definitely making fun of the guys
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 03:38 AM
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I think your therapist/psychologist and doctors definitely need to be women. And better if your lawyer, accountant, etc are women too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 01:15 PM
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I was like: huh? You want to be someone's girlfriend? I love this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 01:07 PM
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It's 3 minutes. It's the average time that a visitor spends on that site during the day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 08:25 PM
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Alexa.com ​ Google is the #1 site ​ https://www.alexa.com/siteinfo/google.com
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 08:21 PM
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Yeah, I can see the whole "challenge' thing going awry. Some smug pseudo-intellectual is going to start "just playing devil's advocate" and mansplain that rape culture doesn't exist and women get paid less because they choose less lucrative careers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 08:10 PM
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Now I've noticed a pattern in the type of tragic men I draw into my life is from my personal flaws (like feeling comfort and familiarity in dysfunction, trauma bonding) and I'm wondering if this is also a side effect of this behavior THIS is what is attracting LVM men to you. Not your style. ​ Do you honestly think most HVM are going after a girl who looks like a Kardashian? Those girls are selling sex (figuratively speaking), and if they have money, the men who go after them are usually going f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 05:10 PM
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I get that, and I 1000% understand and sympathize. I completely understood your desire for love and I don't think it's weird or weak or whatever for you to want that. It's just a sad truth that there are very few worthwhile men. But if you focus on yourself, on your sense of self-worth and confidence and knowing that you deserve a good guy and refusing to settle for all the shit LVM pull, and if you stay true yourself, open, honest, vulnerable but strong, eventually you will find one. Just remem…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 05:04 PM
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You started this comment thread by saying that it doesn't feel like women do the picking. But you just said that you "could easily be dating someone I don’t really like.... but I’m not going to do that" ​ So, you've admitted and proven to yourself that women ARE the ones who do the picking. You HAVE been picking your mates by the very fact that you have been refusing them. All those men WOULD be with you, even if just to have sex. So, men aren't the ones picking, you are the one who is doing the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 04:36 PM
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Wait.... she called us a slut for.... NOT having promiscuous sex?????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 02:32 PM
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Bumble is marginally better than Tinder. ​ I recommend Coffee Meets Bagel. You are given only a certain amount of matches you can swipe through each day. Anyone can start the conversation. After a few days of not speaking, both members are sent a reminder about the conversation. If the conversation is dead after a certain number of days it gets archived and you have to spend "coffee beans" (that you earn through being on the app a certain number of days, swiping etc) to resurrect the conversatio…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 02:26 PM
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unfortunately men will turn everything into something sexual. apparently the cartoon originally itself was somewhat sexual, but how are we supposed to know the intent of every cartoon known to man that every pic or gif is taken from? We don't know the context of your conversation, but I can totally you see scrolling for gifs of a hungry duck if that's what you were talking about. ​ However, before you send a guy a picture, try to think if there's anything about it that can be sexualized. And if …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 02:18 PM
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Yeah I would. And so what if she gets mad at you? She's a stranger to you, what do you care? I always feel it's a good deed to do right by another woman, regardless of how she takes it. ​ This happened to a friend of mine. Her bf was cruising tinder and a girl he was sexting with found out he had a girlfriend (my friend) and sent her screenshots. My friend did not get mad at her at all - she was very thankful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 02:06 AM
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If aging like fine wine was a thing, they would be adding years to their age. Good point! I never realized it but it's so true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 02:04 AM
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Same. Or I'd take the money and buy a bunch Gatorades, granola bars, bananas, and lunchables and hand them out to the homeless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 04:01 AM
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why are you being downvoted lol? ​ people focus on the carrot (the candidates) the media dangles in front of them, and not what's actually going on behind the scenes. You're spot on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 03:42 AM
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how does that make sense though? Men get killed or survive in wars due to their looks?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 03:37 AM
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Left wing men are fucking trash and I stand by it. Everyone should date who they prefer, but they can keep the liberal men away from me from now until forever. A-fucking-men. It's been a hard pill to swallow, but literally very left wing boyfriend I've had was a LVM to NVM. Some seemed HVM but really they hid behind their "OMG I'm soooooo open minded and progressive and SUCH a feminist" in order to push their deviant sexual agenda and refuse to be providers or help out. One even thought at one p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 03:18 AM
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not even his seed. his 1% more pleasure for 3 minutes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 03:05 AM
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To be clear, he doesn't want a child with this woman. He just wants to control her so completely that she would be HAPPY to go through the physically and emotionally traumatic and life-changing experienced of getting pregnant by him, carrying his child, and getting an abortion (on her dime of course)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 03:04 AM
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At least he didn't try to convince her to accept his bad breath.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 08:34 PM
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very sane comment
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 04:51 AM
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Thank you so much for sharing this. ​ The biggest takeaway for me personally is that sometimes there is no "non-confrontational" way to say no to someone, and they WILL lose their shit regardless. And that's ok.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 01:50 PM
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I am talking about courtship rituals ONLY, not the entirety of how things were in the past, and comparing them to FDS strategy. No where in post did I say "things were so much better then." I merely pointed out that courtship was better, mused how it's similar to current FDS guidelines. Since this sub is about Female DATING Strategy, that is my area of interest. The US is not the entire world, and US history does not apply to other countries. There were European countries where women certainly h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 09:57 PM
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I am talking about courtship rituals ONLY, not the entirety of how things were in the past, and comparing them to FDS strategy. The US is not the entire world, and US history does not apply to other countries. There were European countries where women certainly had many rights, including rights to divorce and own property.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 09:56 PM
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Unfortunately though, it might not be because he really wants a future with her. He may just be trying to prove something to himself to soothe his ego, go figure 🤷‍♀️ Yep, it's an ego thing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 08:43 PM
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100%
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 08:42 PM
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which one is supposed to be the guy?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 11:59 PM
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My (27F) boyfriend (28M) of nearly 9 years have been having issues for over a year. I’m unhappy in our relationship, and have told him so, begging him to go to couples therapy, to no avail. He has essentially told me that HE’s happy with me, and with our relationship, so I’m the one who needs therapy to fix my unhappiness with our relationship. ​ ​ Let's see: you're together 9 years, which is exactly 1/3 of your life YOU'RE unhappy in the relationship He's Happy with the way things are and think…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 07:15 PM
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Pimps in the social media age. 🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 07:10 PM
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like.... wtf??? what purpose did that tweet serve??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 04:05 AM
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thanks for sharing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 03:31 PM
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don't know what that is sorry
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 03:30 PM
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funny how he thinks "a good man" = man who only values a woman for her looks and jokes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 03:30 PM
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this is great
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 02:20 PM
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You're entertaining his long-ass conversations, then writing long posts on here about how much he likes you but how he won't leave his pick-me girlfriend, and now FINALLY because of this you see he's not a HVM. You didn't think he was a LVM before, when you knew he had a gf but was still hitting on you? What exactly made you think he was a HVM then? You may not be actively pursuing him, but it seems to me from your post that you were flattered by his attentions and felt he was a HVM, and comfort…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 02:17 PM
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Obviously not. But that's what original post seems to imply. He seemed like a HVM until he refused to leave his girlfriend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 02:11 PM
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How you meet has zero affect on who he is as a person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 01:12 PM
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This is horrible. ​ This why I feel it's so important to truly be in your energy and find a partner who is also truly int here energy and whose energies complement each other. ​ I know some here will disagree with me, but feminine and masculine energies are real. She was forced into a more masculine role because guy was lolly-gagging and fulfilling the more feminine role. He was happy to leech off of her. However, as soon as he got a bit of success, all of a sudden he was back to needing to feel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 12:56 PM
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"EVEN THOUGH HE WANTS TO" Nope. If he wanted to, he would. Would that make him a HVM though? Leaving his Forever Girlfriend of 7 years for her?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 01:26 AM
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I'm not approaching you with anything. I'm merely responding to what I read. What I read sounded like someone saying a man wasn't HVM because he wouldn't leave his girlfriend for her, even though he clearly had feelings for her and his GF was a pick-me. To be clear, this man sounds like a LVM narcissist. I've read your entire post and comments. What have I said that's untrue? I haven't labeled you. At most I said you sound like a pick me for wishing a man would leave his girlfriend for you and b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 01:20 AM
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It's hard to say without really knowing the vibe you put out, how you are with men, etc. Looks and a "fun personality" will attract a man but getting him to stay is a whole other ball game. ​ First of all, if a man is a LVM, he won't stay, or if he does it will be an unhealthy relationship. You have to know what you're working with. So it sounds like you need to start doing some hard vetting and being more picky about the men you allow in your life. From your post, you sound like a sweet, nice, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 09:12 PM
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totally with you. ​ Ladies, if a man has a partner, YOU are being the pick-me if you're trying to/hoping to get with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 08:53 PM
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yep. OP is JUST NOW saying he's LVM (whereas before she though he was a HVM - even though she knew he had a GF??), because now he's made it clear he won't leave his GF for her. ​ If that isn't pick-me behavior I don't know what is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 07:45 PM
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honestly the fact that she's already denigrating the girlfriend (whom she's never met) and claiming he "really wishes he could leave her" and that "he actually has feelings for me" makes her sound like a pick-me. OP knows he has a girlfriend, but decided only AFTER he made it clear he wouldn't leave his GF for her that he's LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 07:43 PM
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If you knew he had a girlfriend, you shouldn't have fallen for anything and you should have seen it coming miles away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 04:27 PM
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THIS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 04:26 PM
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He's just gross. ​ But at the same time, you need to stop enabling this. ​ You seem like you had been infatuated with him to some extent - I understand you're getting sick of him now - but you were doing your part in encouraging his behavior. ​ When did you find out about his girlfriend? It doesn't matter if the guy "isn't in love" with his girlfriend or wife; coupled men are off limits. Don't go after them on moral ground with respect tot he girlfriend/wife, and don't go after them on emotional…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 04:25 PM
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It's not your fault. No matter how timidly or softly you told him "no." No matter if you decided to go out with him but initially didn't really want to, or knew beforehand he was a jerk. No matter if you were on a dating app. IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 10:56 PM
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And they asked what was my tone when I said no. and if I said it firmly ? I am usually very timid. I said no but I didn’t shout and say no. So they said all that could mean I was playing hard to get. It would just go to court and would just leave me miserable. ​ this makes me rage SO HARD. oh my fucking god. ​ I am soooooooooo sorry you are going through this. Are there any female support groups where you are? even unrelated to your program/job/school/ethnic community?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 10:04 PM
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All this literally for just happening to have been born a woman. Horrifically assaulted, violated, and tortured merely for her biology.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 10:00 PM
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She needs to make it clear that: 1. she wants him to stop contacting her 2. she has already asked him to stop contacting her 3. she is scared 4. she will use legal means to make him stop This isn't about ego or explaining or not explaining. This is beyond a scrote being annoying. Her well-being is now potentially in danger. She is going to need evidence to show that he was harassing and stalking her, and part of the way to do that is to have evidence that she clearly told him to stop, and eviden…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 04:16 AM
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keep all communication. In this case do not delete. write down the number, then block it. But do not delete the actual conversation, TAKE SCREEN SHOTS!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 04:14 AM
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I think you should respond. Say what you wrote, except cut it down. Make it shorter. But I think you should respond so you have written documentation of his harassment and that you have ASKED HIM TO STOP. ​ Make sure to tell the friend that: you have asked your ex to leave you alone and made this clear you are SCARED that he is still contacting you you will not hesitate to involve the authorities if you are contacted again/feel unsafe ​ AND DO NOT DELETE THIS TEXT CONVO. You will need it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 02:21 AM
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Tom definitely has issues, from divorcing all 3 of his wives (which is troubling alone) at the weirdly specific age of 34 Tom is gay and his wives are beards under contract from the church of Scientology.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 12:38 AM
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The actual plot is about a young man literally going through all of Europe in search of his dream girl. Isn't that the kind of message this subreddit is trying to send? uh... no?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 12:37 AM
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I LOVE Breaking Bad but definitely didn't see Walter as the good guy. Breaking Bad is a fantastic show though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 12:33 AM
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Thank you for understanding my point :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 11:39 PM
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It's not you, it's them. ​ It could also be compatibility. There are good, decent men out there who I'm sure would make wonderful partner, but I'm not interested because they are simply not compatible, through no fault of their own. ​ The important thing is to not base your value on what someone else thinks of you. The right person will like you for you. ​ Please read the handbook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 09:34 PM
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Ah, you're right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 09:09 PM
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I agree with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 09:09 PM
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The best thing that has helped is to remind myself that we're all doing life for the first time, and that our life experiences are lessons for us. ​ Your experience with the LVM was a lesson for you. You have learned, and now you know better, and you will do better in the future. We learn the most from our mistakes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 08:25 PM
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I thought FDS preached no more than 1-2 years of dating before getting engaged?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 08:23 PM
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judge Judy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 07:21 PM
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That's a good tactic, thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 07:12 PM
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thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 05:01 PM
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Of course. However, IF a woman is on a dating app, surely she's not on a dating app merely to tell off LVM, correct? Surely the goal is to find an HVM, no matter how small the chance of finding one is. OP conversation is not about whether or not we should go on OLD at all, but rather what decisions to make once we are on OLD. We can discuss the merits of being on OLD at all, but that's not what the original post is asking. If it is a given that no matter what you do, LVM will still contact you o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 03:36 PM
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Most men won't, but the HVM WILL read your profile. Which is why - if we're doing OLD - we should focus on writing a profile that attracts HVM, rather than repels LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 03:24 PM
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How long is your bio? I think writing a good bio takes some effort, but it is an important aspect. You only know so much about a person from their education, job, and hobbies. That someone is a lawyer or likes taekwondo doesn't really tell me anything about who they are as a person, and whether or not they're LV or HV. A bio can show some of your personality and what you're looking for. ​ Showing your personality and what you're looking for is important in A) attracting the men you are intereste…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 03:23 PM
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I think that there's no fool-proof way to ward off hookups. LVM will lie to you and manipulate you if they think they will succeed to getting down your defenses and sleeping with you. ​ To be honest, I would focus more on WHO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT, rather than who you want to ward off. ​ It's up to us to read men's profiles and snuff out any LV traits. You can also learn a lot from photos. Be RUTHLESS in your vetting of profiles. I swipe left on the vast majority of profiles because I am very clea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 03:04 PM
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Honestly that is very likely. Single mothers already have a harder time dating, and if she is a pick-me she will melt at a guy telling her he's totally fine with her kids and loves them and wants to hang out with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 02:35 PM
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Literally what good reason would a guy have to ask for that??? ​ I'd add him to the FBI hotline of possible pedophiles.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 01:05 PM
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What did I just read.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 12:59 PM
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I'm convinced r/feminism is run by men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 12:54 PM
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You get a limited amount of profiles you can go through every day, which reduces somewhat the tendency of quantity over quality on apps like tinder and bumble. ​ You get reminders if you haven't started conversation with someone. After 3 days and then after about a week of conversation you get notification saying that it's been x days, do you want to continue talking, otherwise the conversation will be archived. Conversations that have died are archived after a while, even though you can still a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 04:10 AM
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I had to explain to my last guy that for me love builds over time and knowing each other a month was not enough for this much emotional commitment. this. it seems either they are feelingless sociopaths or super clingy and make you feel wrong and guilty for not immediately wanting to be around them 24/7 after 2 dates. A guy I went on 2 dates with was complaining about spending more time with him, texting and calling with him constantly throughout the day, etc. Like he couldn't understand that lov…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 03:29 AM
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Coffee Meets Bagel is much better than those two.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 03:18 AM
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I’m not even directing it at them but I make my standards very clear from the start by bringing it up casually in some way. Would you mind sharing how to bring this up/make this known casually beforehand?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 10:52 PM
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I agree with you, and your other point that as much shit as there is on OLD, it's just the same shit IRL. The men on OLD are also IRL, but it's usually easier to see the red flags. ​ I'm not saying dating on OLD is easy. It's NOT. (But as you said dating IRL isn't easy either). However, the benefit of OLD is that 1) some red flags are easier to snuff out quickly, 2) ease and safety of blocking scrotes, and 3) better way of picking through and vetting men (if you know what you're doing; if you do…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 10:14 PM
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I mean I definitely don't think you'e with the right person if you're happier when that person leaves your presence... ​ That's the point: be so selective that you prioritize YOUR happiness, and only decide on someone who genuinely ADDS VALUE (happiness) to your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 09:23 PM
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Or an escorting arrangement, which is like sex trafficking except she would have been aware of it. Who flies to meet someone after talking for a few days? Someone who has an agenda other than legitimately getting to know someone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 08:59 PM
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they'll turn anything into something perverted :( ​ And then they blame US for being "seductresses" who "know what they're doing."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 04:04 PM
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IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT!!!!!! ​ You did not have to be more bold, loud, etc. You CLEARLY TOLD YOU NO HIM MANY MANY TIMES and he still ignored your request. ​ He knew VERY WELL that you were uncomfortable but he still went ahead. Your feelings meant ZERO to him. HE DID NOT CARE ONE IOTA ABOUT YOU AND WHAT YOU FELT AND WANTED. ​ IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT. ​ HE SEXUALLY ASSAULTED YOU. ​ HE did that. NOT you. ​ IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT. ​ This man is dangerous and is a potential rapist (if he hasn't already cro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 01:50 PM
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I disagree with your original response regarding what is a "level of communication, advocacy, an attitude." Of course you're entitled to your option; I simply disagree with it, and I am explaining my argument. This is not an attack on you personally, and I certainly do not have the intention of being patronizing. I am merely expressing my opinion and extrapolating and explaining my argument further on a forum meant for discussion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 08:34 PM
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​ Being straight, gay, or bisexual has nothing to do with it. Sex is by definition an activity for two (or more) people. ​ So when you have sex with a woman, you're like "hey, feel free to rub one out using my body and don't worry about me boo, I'll take care of my own!" ​ That (using the other person's body for mutual masturbation, whether the other person is the opposite gender or the same gender) is fine if you're just having casual sex. ​ However, if someone's goal is to have intimate sex wi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 08:27 PM
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It’s almost as if some women can’t stand to see other women experiencing joy. Yep.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 08:23 PM
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I feel like it’s a step back for women to view everything in the context of men. totally agree with you here. ​ However, sex, by definition, is an activity with ANOTHER PERSON, and for straight women that other person is A MAN. ​ It's a step back to view EVERYTHING in the context of men; however it's also a step back to view an activity that BY DEFINITION (for straight women) INVOLVES MEN as something where men are not necessary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 06:47 PM
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Wow, what a catch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 03:52 AM
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"intimacy" with a partner who is using their body to masturbate and doesn't give a shit about their pleasure and feelings? ​ Intimacy isn't just rubbing you naked body against someone else's naked body. THAT'S using each other's bodies to masturbate. Intimacy is being present and open and vulnerable to each other, which is not happening if a man has so little awareness and care for you that he never gives you an orgasm, while making sure he orgasms every time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 03:50 AM
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they all think they're turning into George Clooneys as soon as they hit 40
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 02:52 AM
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but we do want men to start stepping up sexually.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 02:34 AM
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I hear you but I think the point FDS is trying to make that by (PUBlICLY, no less) telling women "an orgasm is your responsibility that you do by touching yourself, not through your partner) absolves the male partner of helping the woman achieve orgasm. Then men an just lay back and say "well, the sex experts say she needs to take control of her own orgasm, not me, so why do I need put in any effort??" Also, if a woman is supposed be in charge of her orgasm by touching herself, then, again, as p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 02:31 AM
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lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 05:17 PM
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So.... he's the captain but he hangs back and lets her set the pace and determine titles an intensity, do 80-90% of the work? ​ They're just coming up with word definitions. First they changed "gold digger" from someone who wants to marry a 1%+ to a woman who just wants the guy to pay for the date, now they're changing "captain" to limp dick who doesn't make decisions, doesn't take charges, does maybe 10% of the work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 05:17 PM
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Yeah... in my view you need to earn your way to a position where it’s appropriate to have a child. It’s not a default thing anyone can do well. this 10000%!!!!!! ​ Having a kid is NOT a right; it's a privilege. That's a human being you are bringing into this world; someone who will be totally dependent on you for ALL their needs: emotional, physical, psychological, mental, etc. You will need to provide not only a safe, happy home for them but food, financial stability, toys, clothes, healthy sel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 03:04 PM
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the thing is those same scrotes will turn around in the same breath and lambast struggling single mothers with "well, she should have made better decisions and not had kids with a guy like that!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 02:56 PM
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Oh she's acting weird for recognizing what this is: two friends going out to eat?? with friends like that who needs enemies
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 05:05 AM
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If you want children, vet your future husband for THEM, if you won't do it for you. ​ Then if scrotes accuse you of being a gold digger you can truthfully say "but won't you think of the children!!???"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 04:55 AM
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I mean it really depends on context. ​ If it's someone you just met and you said something that really isn't all that adorable, then yeah it's most likely a neg. Especially if it's a new guy and you say something work/academia/intelligence/career related and they say you're "so adorable" -- in that situation they're actually most likely legit intimidated by your goals/accomplishments and are trying to bring you down a couple notches.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 04:53 AM
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Just don't engage. When he says "oh, I think you followed my advice when I said you need to be more confident - you've improved and it's because you're more confident now!" just nod and barely acknowledge it. Don't argue that you don't think it's your confidence, actually. Don't argue that actually you think it's something. Just give him the bare minimum acknowledgment and move on to whatever the pressing topic is. He's trying ot get a rise out of you, and if you ignore his attempts he will even…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 10:00 PM
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but god forbid a woman expects a man to pay for the date! ​ So, pay at least your way (if not his as well), but rely on your husband, and no voting, but if you must vote, only married woman who need to vote the way their husbands do. ​ So.... women are literal cash cows and slave labor do-it-all machines!m Bring home the bacon, support the man, do what your husband tells you to do with your money, give sex, cook, clean, take care of the house and children, don't vote or only vote like he does. ​…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 07:28 PM
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Is that man attempting to speak English?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 03:37 PM
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this has to be a parody
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 01:56 AM
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so he's looking for a charity prostitute
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 05:58 PM
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If he's truly "scarred" from his past, he needs to be in therapy, not dating. this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 05:51 PM
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So I'm confused. He's told you he wants to marry you, calls you his wife, but is scared of the title "exclusive girlfriend"? He's scared of exclusively dating you, but it's scared of marrying you and you being his wife? ​ Is he looking for an open marriage? It actually sounds like this me: he wants a wife, but also wants to be allowed to see other people on the side. ​ You need to really talk to him about this, or just cut your losses and move on (because honestly this is starting to sound like …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 05:48 PM
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Let it go. If he was 20 and "scared" of the title but still acting like a good boyfriend, then I would be more understanding. But the dude is 42 years old. If he still hasn't worked through this at his age, don't hold your breath he will any time soon. You're going to be a forever a girlfriend to a middle aged man who is "finding himself" and never will find himself. ​ He may be a good guy with good intentions, but the road to hell is paved with good intentions. ​ At this point it's not about wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 02:45 PM
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Our dignity is worth more than a couple of bucks thrown at us by some rapist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 04:28 AM
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Without compassion and kindness for yourself, blame and shame thrive. This erodes self-esteem and can foster a victim mentality. I needed this, thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 06:28 PM
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doesn't have this 'woe is me' 4rth wave feminism rhetoric but is just pure, dry pragmatism. "This is the reality, and this is what YOU can do about it to keep winning". this 100000000000%
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 06:23 PM
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I once had a friend who was dating a guy 15 years older and went on a double date to an expensive dinner with him and his college friend+date. When the check came she was bragging about how she was paying HER part of the meal and her boyfriend wasn't paying for her, while bf's friend paid for himself and his date. Oh and she kept making disparaging remarks about the friend's date, saying how this girl was obviously not an empowered woman and needed to depend on a man. ​ Like..... yeah. You sure …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 03:39 AM
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He's 44? Looks 57 at least
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 06:51 AM
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Many married women are essentially bangmaids though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 06:41 AM
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This 1000%
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 06:36 AM
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I took it to mean that HE'S the gold digger, because at first he was railing against women who want a stronger, more educated, more accomplished, wealthier man than her. He doesn't want to be more accomplished, but he doesn't mind if she is. Basically he's looking for a sugar momma, but I agree with you that he will resent the fuck out of her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 02:44 AM
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Wtf is this incoherent nonsense? This guy can't even English good. ​ Some gems: i prefer to be single but not with the wrong person. ​ I don’t mind successful, career, more intelligent or taller women. Not a problem. I’m not scared of what. ​ Couch potato. I don’t know how to stress this enough, but its important part of me. ​ zero ambition and money, not greedy and not possessive. ​ ​ First he says this: Your happiness Is not my responsibility, you and I should be happy as an individual, then w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 01:34 AM
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so......have you set a date yet??? (for the divorce)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 12:44 AM
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Once, I went on 2 dates with a guy who would text CONSTANTLY and complain that he needs more out of me, and then he wanted our 3rd date to be a several-day-long trip to another city. When I told him I wasn't comfortable with that he started complaining that, well, HE'S looking for a girlfriend, clearly I'm not looking for anything serious... I told him he's right and blocked him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 09:06 PM
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I am shy and reserved and I was very, very shy when I was younger and I COMPLETELY understand you and what you're going through. ​ I think the only thing that will help is getting more self-confidence and relaxing. You're focusing too much on how you're coming off to him, does he like you, trying to impress him, trying to live up to "his standards" etc etc etc and all of that is making you very self conscious and insecure. ​ Stop focusing on yourself and how you're coming off, and start focusing…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 08:39 PM
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I know people with aspergers and they aren't assholes. In fact, one guy showered ME with gifts, and we were just friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 08:26 PM
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The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. ​ This guy is already taking advantage of you. Stop while you're ahead. ​ ​ use that money and spend it on YOURSELF and YOUR CHILDREN
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 08:24 PM
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STEP AWAY FROM THE CREDIT CARD AND STOP GIVING HIM GIFTS, MONEY, TIME, GAS, EFFORT. HOLY FUCK GIRL I AM SO ENRAGED. PLEASE LEAVE HIM WHEN HE GETS BACK. ​ The MAN is supposed to be giving these sweet and thoughtful gifts to the woman. NOT the woman to the man!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 08:24 PM
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I agree 100% with everything here, from the first paragraph to the last. ​ If it was just the texting, I'd tell OP to step back and let him have his family vacation time. ​ But the dog, after only two weeks, his comments, him ASKING YOU FOR MONEY WTF, etc. it's all a mess. It's a goddamn 3 way trainwreck! ​ OP you're getting way too attached to this guy. See your commitment re the dog thru (if only for the dog's benefit) and then block and delete after he comes back. You need to find something t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 08:22 PM
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OH MY GOD!!!! ​ this guy is a LOSER and is 100000000% using you!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 08:19 PM
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WHAT????? WHY??????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 08:18 PM
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Ok so, so far so good. Do you like him? I mean, a guy can be nice, decent, respectful, etc but for whatever reason you're just not feeling the spark (which is totally fine and legitimate). ​ I think that if you DO like him, and he hasn't shown any red flags, it's especially important to keep things positive while still clearly stating your boundaries. So for that reason, I wouldn't list things I don't like or that I'm still looking for red flags in him, but rather that I'm enjoying him but want …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 03:02 AM
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Right? I can't imagine what kind of dates he must have been on where the woman started ranting about her ex. To be honest, it sounds like he was dating emotionally unstable/fragile/insecure women, or women who weren't over their exes. Not saying this as a way to put down the women, just that if you're not in a stable and healthy emotional/psychological state DO NOT DATE!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 10:40 PM
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Also: never bet on potential. 100%. ​ If you meet a HVM, and you learn that in his past he was a LVM but has genuinely changed for the better, then you can give him a chance. But don't date a LVM hoping he will change. ​ We attract people on the level we are on. If we are pickmes we attract LVM. It's a lesson for us and the LVM. It's up to us to learn from the experience and improve; and it's up to the LVM to learn from the experience and also improve. But we can't control what he does. We can o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 10:34 PM
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Yeah, part of the reason he changed was probably due to you. That, along with the fact that you guys have past history together would be difficult to start afresh. ​ I am of the attitude that life is a physical journey that our souls are on, and everything we do, everything that happens to us the decisions we make, our relationships are lessons for us to hopefully use to grow, evolve, and improve. ​ So that means your relationship with your ex was a lesson. That lesson is over. It's time to move…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 10:29 PM
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I do think people can change. If they couldn't, there would be no point to FDS, because we'd still always be pickmes. ​ If you can change, so can a man. ​ However, never go back to an ex, no matter how much he has changed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 09:30 PM
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This exactly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 09:26 PM
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To be honest, I wouldn't lay it all out like that. The talk about talking to others, knowing your worth, the red flags, etc. It makes you look still a bit insecure and like you're clasping at armor trying to protect yourself. Usually if someone has to say they are XYZ, it usually means they aren't. It's better than jumping to say YES! when he asks you, but the goal is to become more relaxed and self assured that you don't have to explain all this. ​ It would be better to say something like "I'm …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 09:23 PM
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Phew, at least he doesn't want kids. That's a silver lining.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 07:21 PM
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OH MY GOD GIRL QUEEN I do not even know where to start. ​ First all, you are AMAZING! So inspiring. ​ Second pics 5 & 6 are exactly what's wrong with men today, they yap about being "leaders" but they don't know how to lead! The title of "leader" isn't just bestowed on someone from birth by the grace of God or something, it's something that's earned through action! A dick doesn't make someone magically a leader ffs! And then I love how he starts contradicting all his talk about being a leader bu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 06:50 PM
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I mean from what I gather, he's more like a child that was foisted on OP and that OP finally managed to pawn off to his rightful parent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 06:38 PM
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Yeah he wasn't even big enough to let a CHILD have her fun. A sane adult would let OP's daughter think it's their new car, even if it was rental. ​ It makes it sooooooo much better that it's actually OP's new car!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 06:36 PM
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Total red flag. He jumps RIGHT into the sex and then goes on and on about it. To me it sounds like he's super horny and desperate and can't control himself and is just looking to get laid, but still is trying (and failing miserably) at appearing to be a "nice guy."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 01:45 AM
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Whenever I decide to mosey over to my spam box, I do see some emails about penis enlargements. I'm also a woman, so... I think male body modification emails are common enough that they just email them indiscriminately to people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 01:44 AM
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washing hands is literally the easiest thing to wash though... if that's too m much trouble for him how can he say he's very clean otherwise?? ​ I feel like these guys have a completely different definition of "clean" I had male acquaintance who'd always talk about how clean he was --- he was filthy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 07:04 PM
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Him being gay doesn't make him low value. ​ What makes him low value is: Him lying to you about HIS SEXUAL ORIENTATION Suppressing such an integral part of himself Living a lie involving other people in his lie unbeknownst to them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 07:03 AM
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No offense, but do you really have to ask? ​ He was either out of touch with himself or bold faced lying to you about his sexuality, a HUGE part of a someone's life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 07:59 AM
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I actually think he meant that HE wasn't a bitch, as a response to you saying "now you're scared." ​ Regardless, this convo super cringe and low value. Block and NEXT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 07:56 AM
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"ex demon" 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 05:42 AM
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How do you know him? Did you meet him on a dating app? Or do you know him from real life? ​ I completely understand your discomfort. If being outright and honest about it is too uncomfortable for you, you can also say that you're really taking this pandemic seriously and don't feel comfortable meeting people outside your home at all for the foreseeable future. ​ If you met him on an app or don't really know him that well (even if you met him in real life) you can always ignore or better yet bloc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 05:39 AM
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Let him pay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 05:37 AM
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Yep, this, 100%. ​ You have NO idea how much info is out there about you. Your phone can even be used to find your name and everything else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 05:34 AM
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It's so sad how far society has fallen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 04:36 AM
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So fucking gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 04:29 AM
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I love this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 04:23 AM
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If only I had the confidence of a mediocre man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 07:32 PM
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That is so fucking disgusting and disturbing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 07:59 AM
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Have you seen 30 year olds??? They look like balding 40-50 men. It's tragic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 07:53 AM
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find a place in a safe neighborhood make sure your building is safe and secured from the outside. make sure it is controlled access get an apartment on the 2nd floor or higher make sure your apartment has a bolt, chain, or bolted lock that's accessible from the inside but not the outside. Or a combination of 2 or all 3 of the above. Personally I like chains because you can crack open the door and see outside but still be protected (for the most part) make sure you can lock your windows make frie…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 07:48 AM
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I don't know if a head covering would help you to be honest, but I guess that depends on where you live. I am not Muslim. Once, I was outside on the street in a major US city and it started to rain. I had a shawl, and to protect my head from the rain, I covered my head with it... sort of like a Eastern European babushka, or, yes, perhaps something like a Muslim woman. After a few minutes I noticed a few guys following me, who then asked if I was Muslim. I said no, and they left me alone. I have …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 07:42 AM
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Actually he IS the perfect image of a LVM. You're on here asking us. A HVM would care about your feelings, would considerate of you, wouldn't expect you to be his servant, would pay for your dates and would ACTUALLY TALK TO YOU WHEN HE'S EATING WITH YOU, ESPECIALLY FOOD YOU COOKED HIM AND BROUGHT TO HIM. A HVM would be open to discussion, would want to know if something he's doing is bothering you so he can change. This guy is spoiled little prince who sometimes throws crumbs your way. All the f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 09:05 PM
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Usually these are veeery rare things so is this a sign the relationship could be saved? NO. IT CANNOT BE SAVED. THIS IS WHO HE IS. IT IS NOT YOUR JOB TO "SAVE" RELATIONSHIPS OR MEN. You are not his therapist. You are not his mother. You are not his teacher. You are not his spiritual advisor. You are NOT his rehab center!!!!!!!!!!!!! Right now, you are his free house keeper and free prostitute. I know you love him. You're 20 years old and this was your first relationship and I assume you lost you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 05:27 PM
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OF COURSE HE'S SERIOUS ABOUT YOU! ​ You cook for him every day, take care of his living space, serve like a lowly obedient servant serving her Lord Master (all for FREE, unpaid labor), and never expect him to pay for you (even a coffee)!!!! And I bet you let him have sex with him too, and don't complain if you don't orgasm, while he does all sorts of weird crap to you. ​ He's hit the jackpot: sex and housekeeper services for free!!! ​ ​ Is this a troll post? ​ he's an impressive guy because he t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 04:38 PM
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both are LVM, the yellow is Bumble the grey is texting I guess
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 04:11 PM
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FUCKBOI
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 06:34 AM
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following
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 05:30 AM
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Yep this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 08:35 PM
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Psychopath alert!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 08:33 PM
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the woman on the right is Helen Mirren and is 75 years old.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 06:47 PM
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this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 10:24 PM
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You should have told him "perfect! I have a mom bod!" see how he would have reacted 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 10:14 PM
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Wait, why? How does he think that??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 10:07 PM
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Thank you, Hunter, for proving Tomi's - and ours - point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 11:54 PM
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/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 11:18 PM
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You're not alone. ​ Pre-covid I didn't go out as much to parties and networking events as I used to because of anxiety about this. Then I'd myself that I'm probably just overthinking and over stressing. And yet... then when I'd go to something, I'd invariably find myself with an uncomfortable at best situation with a man. Even at professional events.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 03:52 PM
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Clearly he was lying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 03:50 PM
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Imagine bragging about letting your kids sit on your lap while you play video games. My dad built tree houses for me, taught me about history, and told me Greek myths. My future children deserve no less!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 08:59 AM
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You need to focus on yourself, school, and your future. PLEASE put yourself first, not guys. Please, please, please I'm begging you. ​ You have your ENTIRE life ahead of you to play around with boys. By all means read this sub and learn about knowing your worth, setting healthy boundaries, and how to vet men, but I really think you should be focusing on yourself now, not finding a boyfriend. Trust me, you have plenty of time to do that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 02:55 AM
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How old are you now? Do you have parents/family you can stay with? ​ From what you've written, you were in a dangerous and abusive situation. You were a minor and the victim of sexual assault. I hope you're in a better environment now. You need to get to a safe, stable, healthy environment before you think about dating men, please.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 02:09 AM
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Wait, what about this profile could any women ever think was HV? the business part?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 10:30 PM
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They want to be spoon-fed sex. They want the fun of sex without even taking the risk of being rejected, and then they turn around and gaslight you about YOU being the weird one. ​ Once, I talked on the phone with a guy I met off an APP. Later, he texted me saying he didn't think it would work out because we had no chemistry. I was like ok.... I was kind of hurt because first of all phones are weird and how can you gauge chemistry over the phone? So I replied "ok, I understand." ​ His response? "…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 07:48 PM
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Then you just focus on the ones who didn't exhibit this "stiffness/coldness" and literally erase the others from your memory. ​ I think we have to remember that the odds are against us. The sheer volume of pure TRASH that is out there is staggering. You have the have the mindset that most men will be trash and looking for only one thing. Don't take it personally. Don't think "what did I do wrong, what could I have done better, why are they like this??" Don't get emotionally attached before you'v…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 07:27 PM
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Every time a pickme screams about me being a GoLdIgGeR for expecting a dinner date and how EfFoRt DoEsN'T mEaN mOnEy I'm going to send them this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 06:35 PM
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A lot of people who openly shout about their "feminism" or "wokeness" tend to have narcissistic tendencies - they are looking for social validation, praise, applause, internet points, etc. This by default implies that their emotions are shallow - they talk the talk but don't walk it. In fact, in most things in life, the more someone talks about something, the less likely they are to be/do it. ​ I've dated and known A LOT of liberal, progressive, "woke," and even democrat activist/operative men w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 06:30 PM
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Do any of those guys call you back and ask for another date? If so, they might just realize that you're more reserved/traditional and want to stay in the same energy as you. ​ If not, then it seems the were looking for more of a casual thing that would lead to casual sex. ​ You definitely shouldn't lower your standards or change your behavior. We're basically dumpster diving at this point, looking for that one diamond that's hidden under a slimy banana peel behind a half-used carton of old milk.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 06:16 PM
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I was in a LDR. At the time it was I what I thought I deserved. But even then, there was no hot and cold from his side.... because it was a long distance relationship! The long distance part is already the "cold" side! If he's being cold on top of that, he's not into it and you need to move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 05:48 PM
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To remind us why vetting men is so important.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 06:49 AM
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And then she goes on to say that the reason he started violently attacking her was because she wanted to get X food instead of Y food.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 06:48 AM
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No prostitute would even suck dick for $1.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 06:42 AM
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Your suspicions are right on target. He's a low value loser. AVOID! Even as a just a platonic friend, you don't need that bs in your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 04:09 AM
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Just *existing* means you're using your "feminine charms" to reel a man in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 04:05 AM
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He doesn't know and he's not in love with you, and it's always on his terms, and it's LDR. ​ I know it hurts SOOOOOOOO BAD. But you have to let go. Be thankful that it's ending now, instead of dragging on endlessly, to be honest. ​ You deserve SO MUCH BETTER THAN THAT RELATIONSHIP!!!! ​ You deserve a relationship in your location, where you can see him regularly, where he is SURE about his feelings for you, where he WANTS to see you and talk to you. Sure, sometimes you need a day or two space fr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 04:04 AM
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This is not in your head at all. ​ It sucks that this is still a viable tactic, but you could try to squeeze your boyfriend (real or imaginary) into one of your answers/conversations. If he asks "what are you doing?????" You can reply "oh, sorry I was running errands with my boyfriend" or something similar. ​ since you've worked with him, and now with covid, I realize that suddenly busting out a boyfriend might not be very convincing... you could say "new boyfriend" or something. Or just say boy…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 10:18 PM
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I could see this being a PUA stunt. It's crazy because they come up with these insane tactics and tell other men that these psychological triggers that will "unlock" women. I can totally see them telling guys "by telling her you have a girlfriend you're saying you're desired and taken which automatically increases your social capital, but you're also saying you want to break up her which again: puts YOU at the higher value than your girlfriend, and also tells the girl you're hitting on that you …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 10:13 PM
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Sometimes you just have to accept that crazy people are crazy, and it's not going to make sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 10:08 PM
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They wouldn’t know tik tok unless I was explaining a sound from a badly working Bavarian clock. 😂 I can just see you trying to explain to a boardroom of old dudes that you met your latest client on tik tok.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 07:51 PM
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This guy may or may not be a red flag or a cheater, but him not being on social media itself is not a red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 07:43 PM
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but don’t forget that covert narcissists will love the opportunity to brag about their specialness by “not” having social media of course. But it is a good indication in general. An adult man constantly updating his social media is an immediate pass for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 07:42 PM
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A long term partner is less likely to leave you once once pregnant and less likely to hurt you emotionally. Assuming he's not an asshole, of course. If he is an asshole, then you're in for even more hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 07:41 PM
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I've known plenty of women who got pregnant and the father was no where to be seen. Women who put their lives on hold because they got pregnant. Women who got abortions, writhed around on bed in pain from the procedure and cried for months about it - and felt some sort of guilt/sadness for laters afterward.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 07:40 PM
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Exactly. And part of the reason many of those people are in debt is because they have this unquenchable need to show off on social media. It's a mental illness, if not narcissism then very low self-esteem and lack of self-control. ​ There are even people who photoshop themselves into exotic places, luxury hotels, etc. It's truly so sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 07:37 PM
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I think because I’m so open and accepting of sex it almost makes it boring? Like I don’t see regular sex as taboo or “naughty” so I seek out stuff that is. ​ It seems that you equate sex/sexiness with something sinful/forbidden/naughty. ​ I'd look into that why you feel that way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 01:39 AM
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My point is that it wouldn't because even without the patriarchy, we still have biology.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 01:34 AM
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The point is that Facebook encourages narcissism and highlights it in people who are already narcissistic, and it can cause someone to develop more narcissistic traits in their personality, due to the focus on looks, appearance, "keeping up with the joneses" etc. How many photos of IG are photoshopped into oblivion? IG models photoshop themselves, then get plastic surgery to look more like their photoshopped selves and still photoshop themselves. This has created an army of IG clones. Girls look…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 01:32 AM
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if we imagine a world where patriarchy didn’t exist, then casual hookups would be fine because men wouldn’t benefit more than women, and women wouldn’t be shamed etc. This is wrong, however. Women have FAR more risks than man when it comes to sex. Women can get pregnant, but the guy can leave completely unscathed. Once a woman is pregnant there is ENORMOUS cost and energy to be spent at making sure she has a healthy pregnancy, and then a healthy birth, and then can take care of the child for the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 01:24 AM
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What's become "more progressive" is men's sick perversions have progressed from the hidden, shameful dungeons of their souls where they belong to out in the light to be celebrated by society.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 01:20 AM
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So ask him if he has a reddit account.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 01:16 AM
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Actually there have been studies done that do show a correlation between social media use and increasing rates of narcissism. ​ Impact of facebook addiction on narcissistic behavior and self-esteem among students ABSTRACT Objective: To investigate the relationship between Facebook addiction, narcissism and self-esteem and to see if gender played any role in this equation. Methods: The correlational study was conducted from February to March 2013 at the Department of Psychology, University of Sar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 01:14 AM
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Some people are not on social media because they are not narcissists/exhibitionists who need to vomit every tiny mundane detail about their lives to the whole world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 01:01 AM
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What... what do you mean? You think the only way people reach their colleagues/business contacts is through SM??? You think he's making real estate deals through IG or Facebook????? Very few of my business contacts are on my social media. My business contacts are private information, not public offerings for others to pilfer through. I call and email and meet in person with my business contacts. I'm not a club promoter or an IG model or tiktok star, and any man who would NEED social media for th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 01:00 AM
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I’d need a social media account with lots of activity. Girl, no high value, stable, grounded, responsible adult man is going to be prancing around constantly updating his social media. ​ ESPECIALLY if he is flying around the country buying properties.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 12:55 AM
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An adult man having active social media is a blaring red neon flag. ​ Men who regularly use social media are LV, UNLESS they are public figures and so much use social media to maintain their image, or use social media as a business.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 12:52 AM
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Same. Being too active on social media is also a huge glaring red flag for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 12:48 AM
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It’s like if a pharmacist started dropping names like Xanax or acetaminophen on his dating profile as proof that he was indeed a pharmacist and knew what he was doing. Imagine being that insecure! 100000000000000000 X this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 11:13 PM
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Off topic, but can I just say that both of those women are GORGEOUS. Must be great dating as a lesbian, at least in purely superficially physical terms. Meanwhile, straight women wade through oceans of 30 year old beer bellies, deep wrinkles, and receding hairlines.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 11:10 PM
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So they agree. They agree we're too good for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 08:02 PM
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Ladies, he was the 7th biggest meth dealer in Austin at one point!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 08:09 AM
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Well at the end of the day, we can only control our behavior, not others'. ​ You know you aren't interested in him, so they can put on a three ring circus for all you care and all the good it's going to do them. ​ I suggest you simply forget about this and move on with your life. There is zero benefit to you to try to dwell on this or try to psycho-analyze them. Leave the crazy with the crazy people! Not your circus, not your monkeys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 07:49 AM
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/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 02:21 AM
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Are the first two the same guy or two different guys?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 02:12 AM
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I think it will really help you! It's helped me soooo much through dealing with bad break ups and other life traumas. <3 Hugs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 02:11 AM
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WTF KILL IT WITH FIRE ​ I couldn't even get to the end of the first tweet, the gag reflex was too strong
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 10:24 PM
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What exactly are your suspicions? That he saw you, became infatuated, he and his girlfriend broke up, his sister went over to try to feel you out for her brother, and now he and his girlfriend may be back together? ​ To be perfectly frank, it sounds to me like you've created a situation where he might be interested in you entirely in your head. If there is some more evidence, I'm not seeing it. ​ Have you and him even ever really talked, just you two?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 10:09 PM
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Read "A Return to Love" by Marrianne Williamson. It's about self improvement, self love, self care, and letting go of past traumas.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 10:04 PM
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Huh? We explicitly say that we should expect a dinner date on the first date at least, if not for the several first dates. ​ Also, don't go dutch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 10:02 PM
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There is also a special brand of pick-me who will argue with you that sex on the first date is fine and if you don't do it you're a prude at best or a MaNiPuLaTiVe PrOsTiTuTe at worst... and then in the same breath admonish you for DARING to want to hold hands, and that you must ReSpEcT his boundaries and not push him too far!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 07:23 PM
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I genuinely think men like that really and truly think of women as objects or pets. If my computer freezes up or won't work the way I want it to, I'm annoyed. If it crashes, I'm upset that it crashed with ALL my work, photos, documents, etc etc etc on it. That's that same attitude. He sounds like a raging narcissist! I'm so sorry you went through that, but I'm glad you're out and you're to the point where you can read his rant and not take it personally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 07:21 PM
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You're a soulless bitch because you didn't stay with him despite no longer loving him/wanting to be in the relationship. HOW DARE YOU NOT SACRIFICE YOUR LIFE AND HAPPINESS FOR HIS!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 06:50 PM
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Thank you for this, these kinds of posts are very helpful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 06:34 PM
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This is amazing and I'm so happy for and proud of you!!!! ​ I think it's you good you got the opportunity to tell him off, powerfully and succinctly!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 06:27 PM
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OMG 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 06:23 PM
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100% agree. ​ How many times have you heard some deep sea floor dwelling middle aged+ creep say "she knows what she is doing?" about a teenage girl? The girl is the evil seductress who is trying to use him for money/career etc and the poor middle aged dude simply have no agency in the matter!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 01:27 AM
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Yeah I get it. ​ still, I think we should work on our mindset to the get to the point where we don't even care if a scrote is interested or not. It's an ego thing, but I aim to be so above it that knowing a scrote is interested in me even if I'm not interested no longer does anything for my ego, even the least bit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 01:19 AM
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I'm glad you finally blocked him. ​ he sounds like a loser who was only posing to be a semi-decent guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 01:18 AM
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This is way more than a red flag. That's an immediate block. ​ This is rapey and sexist. He sees relationships as video game and transactional. ​ The fact the used that terminally tells me he's a video-gamesick loser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 01:13 AM
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Is that supposed to be a good thing?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 01:11 AM
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I'll never understand the thought process behind those questions/openers. And it's SUCH a pet peeve of mine when someone presents a question in the form of statement and then says "...go!" ​ Love your answer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 01:09 AM
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I don't think anything from a LVM's mouth could cut me deep because it's coming from a pile of lies instead of conviction and genuineness. I didn't mean that something a LVM would say would cut you to the deep, but rather that the witty retort that you came up with itself would cut to the deep. My comment was referring to how witty and insightful the retort is, and thus it's ability to hurt to someone. ​ We all know a LVM wouldn't be able to come up with something some razor-sharp and insightful…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 01:04 AM
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Doesn't that suck? When you come up with a very witty and sophisticated retort that would cut you to the deep if it was said to you, but unfortunately they're too dull to appreciate it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 03:33 AM
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I've always disliked romcoms.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 03:30 AM
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I think that if he starts going around telling people how you liked him SO much more than he liked you, and all the effort you put into the relationship, then he will look like the asshole, not you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 03:24 AM
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this exactly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 08:59 PM
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They don't realize that we are inundated with literally hundreds and thousands of matches, and we need to cull the herd.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 08:58 PM
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Small talk is low effort. ​ I hate small talk. ​ If a man on OLD messages me, be better have something interesting to say not "what are you up to today?" or "how are you hanging in this pandemic?" and when we actually go out, we better talk about some other than the weather or how, wow, yeah, this pandemic is totes crazy, who would have thought...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 03:54 AM
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You could play dumb and be like "What if you guys have the talk and he says he's not interested in a relationship? Where will you then? Will you still want to be in X town?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 08:25 PM
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So, win-win.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 08:10 PM
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I am sooooooooo sorry that happened to you. ​ Just know that their thoughts and words are a reflection of THEM, not you. ​ Men are stupid and disgusting. Instead of taking responsibility of their lust, they make it the woman's fault. It's not that their lust is THEIR EMOTION; no, it's the woman actively doing something to seduce them. They are just poor innocent victims of evil seductresses running around having bodies and being nice to people. It's been happening since the beginning of time mos…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 08:09 PM
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At this point, you'd have a more coherent conversation with a dog.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 07:55 PM
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Men want to take women's real estate, but a woman expecting a man to pay for her meal on a first date is a gOlDgIgGer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 12:07 PM
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There might be more men on the west coast, but they're mostly hippies and "entrepreneurs" who just want to "find themselves" or worse, all-out socialists who think living in a camper and sharing a can of beans and 6 pack is a valid date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 11:48 AM
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Ridiculous bullshit. ​ If a man wants to wear a dress, he can wear a dress. If a woman is legitimately and genuinely attracted to the dress-wearing man (particularly while he's wearing said dress), fabulous. But I'm not going to force myself to like or be attracted to something I'm not attracted to, and neither should anyone else. If Emily wants to gaslight herself in the name of wokeness, she's free to do so, but please keep the rest of us out it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 11:42 AM
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I feel like this kind of none-sense is trying to brainwash women into not being able to feel how they do. 100%
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 11:39 AM
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DO NOT HAVE SEX THIS EARLY ON! I'll repeat: DO NOT HAVE SEX THIS EARLY ON! ​ After you had sex, you started feeling vulnerable, especially since he didn't message you for a day. So now, YOU were in the defensive position and he was holding all the cards. You texted him because you were feeling insecure and unsure of the relationship. ​ That would not have happened if you hadn't had sex with him. ​ You never explicitly talked about what you wanted. Just because it said in your profile doesn't rea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 02:35 AM
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I mean, who am I to try to convince someone to do things differently? I agree with you and I am a little confused at the fact that she doesn't have time to read profiles, but has time to talk to countless unvetted matches, but.... hey.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 02:08 AM
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I agree. It is like dumpster diving. But if you let go emotionally, don't think "oh, I'm here to find a man, let's hope I find some good matches!" it's easier. ​ It's like FDS says not to get too emotionally involved with a man until you've vetted him and determined he is a HVM and you have commitment. It's like that. Don't get emotionally involved in the dating/OLD process. Just go in with the mind set that there WILL be a ton of trash, but you might find some diamonds amongst it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 02:06 AM
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But then he later confessed that stabbing one of them to death had been a practically erotic experience for him. He said it'd made him hard. The feeling of each stab stealing a piece of that man's life made him feel indescribably powerful. OH. MY. GOD. ​ That is terrifying. ​ How did you meet him???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 12:31 AM
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Exactly. It's all about her feelings, and how she's upset he finally blocked her and that it was "immature" of him to block her. lol wtf?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 08:24 PM
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I saw that and was horrified.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 07:30 PM
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I mean it's really hard to say from your post. We don't know you or your personality. You did mention the masculine thing - maybe over that time that does come out and it's simply not something they are ultimately attracted to. However, you did say that years later all these guys still aren't in relationships. ​ You seem to focusing only on the superficial aspects - career, finances, etc. These are important, but you ALSO need to focus on aspects like perosnality, character, maturity, etc. ​ Fem…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 07:14 PM
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There are good men out there. You just have to have strong boundaries and standards and NEVER lower them. The good men will respect your boundaries and live up to your standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 06:53 PM
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Also, when you asked him about his girlfriend, he said he hadn't had sex with her for several months. THAT'S the reason he gave for dating around. ​ He basically all but admitted to you that he was looking explicitly for someone to have sex with. He already has a girlfriend at home, whom he cares about enough to plaster photos of her all over his social media.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 06:48 PM
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And she just keeps having those first dates! Wow, she must be, like, really popular!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 06:15 PM
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Blocking is more of a psychological thing. It makes it final. And lot of the time, for mental and emotional hygiene, you need to have the finality that this person is out of your life for good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 06:10 PM
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He's not the first and he's not the last remotely attractive, educated, successful man who will be willing to wine and dine you. Don't grab onto the first one who happens to roll your way. There will be plenty more dudes who are as educated, successful, and generous as he is - AND be single!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 06:09 PM
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Why is it immature? It's the first correct thing he did in this whole escapade. At FDS we tell women to block men we're not happy with/interested in/feel our time is wasted by, are we immature?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 06:04 PM
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You may have missed the part where I said this but I sent him a message after the second evening saying we couldn’t continue by saying goodbye but that I was a pleasure meeting him. Nope didn't miss it. You sound upset he blocked you. If you weren't planning on keeping in touch, why do you care? You're on here with a post entitled "I think I did the right thing.. ? Help" What do you want "help" on? I'm genuinely asking. Look, I get it. An older attractive man whom you have chemistry with, he see…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 05:56 PM
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What exactly are you asking? That you did the right thing for... doing what? Sounds like you got blocked by a guy you knew had a girlfriend. Why are you upset he blocked you? You should have blocked him as soon as you saw he had a girlfriend, but definitely after the first date when he confirmed it! ​ You knew the guy had a girlfriend, but you continued going on dates with him because he was hot and was spoiling you. I kind of get the impression that if he hadn't blocked you, you still would hav…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 05:47 PM
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Good decision. Always be honest. If he's sane and rational, he will understand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 09:37 AM
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Sounds like FWB: The Girlfriend Experience He wants the good parts of a relationship without the responsibility and commitment. ​ Like others said read the handbook. ​ THIS IS WHY WE DO NOT DO FWB!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 09:36 AM
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You're not married. It's easy for you to leave. The pandemic will be around for a while, so unfortunately you would have to stick it out with him for several months anyway. 9 months is less than a year. it will be over soonish. ​ You're not happy. You're not attracted to him. You guys don't connect anymore. You can't have a conversation. And he can't communicate like an emotionally healthy adult. I think this relationship has run its course. ​ You say you're in your early 30's and have been with…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 09:32 AM
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Wait, so they don't want to actually pay but they still want to look like they're the one's paying?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 09:26 AM
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He's just a misunderstood troubled rich boy, while she's a gold-digging social climber. ​ /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 09:24 AM
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OK, but what does your post have to do with FWB? ​ Your post talks about loving yourself and others in healthy way. So... are you suggesting that loving yourself and others in a healthy way means FWB? Because otherwise I am not sure how you made the leap from FWB to "loving yourself and others in a healthy way, and respect yourself and leave if you're not happy in a relationship." ​ Being in a crappy relationship and being FWB are two different things and not necessarily do they overlap. ​ I'm g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 09:20 AM
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Well, clearly this works for you, you seem to have a lot of success with FWB so kudos to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 09:13 AM
3

He's going to be in the US for 5 years. Really? And he expects you to wait 5 years? And he will wait 5 years? ​ You guy can still talk. You can be pen pals. Who knows, maybe you will meet again one day and it was meant to be. But RIGHT NOW, there is no relationship and it's not fair for him to send you this. ​ If it would hurt him too much if you found another guy, then I understand it would be best to just cut all ties. But maybe you guys can come to an understanding that you will be just virtu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 05:29 AM
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Try to have a conversation with a man and see how many times he cuts you off mid-sentence and assumes he already knows what you're going say. ​ Men aren't mind readers?? Guess someone better tell the men!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 05:16 AM
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WoMeN hIt ThE wALL aT tWeNtY-eIgHt, MeN aRe In TheIr PrImE aT fOrTy-TwO! ​ But for real, so many men who are just barely 30 look at least 15 years older, receding hair lines, beer gut, bad skin, wrinkles, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 05:12 AM
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Why take time to rush into commitment? Exactly. So why jump into sex with a near perfect stranger? "NOT rushing into commitment" is what dating and vetting is for. ​ Also, first you say this: This is my situation, I would not be in a relationship if it wasn't for him specifically. We both needed to take it really slow before committing, I know I definitely definitely did because I had way too much trauma from my last relationships. I did the FWB thing because I could decide when or if someone wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 05:03 AM
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The point is that many of these women didn't realize they deserved better. They thought this is how was supposed to be, and that's the best they could ever get. The point of this sub is to teach women that they DO deserve better and how to express their standards and their boundaries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 04:59 AM
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I'm really happy to hear you've been going to therapy! ​ And I'm really sorry you grew up in an environment that said women are only for marriage. That is so NOT true, but I know how difficult it is to get ideas and perspectives that have been drilled into you since you could talk. ​ Everyone has gifts and a purpose in this world. And it's not just marriage. I don't know if you believe in God or a higher power, but if you do, know that you are a vessel for his will in the world. The world become…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 08:04 AM
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What did I just read.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 07:47 AM
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But he'll just insult you next time, ask for pics next time, call you for a booty call next time. ​ If a dude is this gross, why are you even trying to to keep him around?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 07:45 AM
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I mean, he seems to be following all the FDS requirements, so.... I'm not sure what the problem is. It's only ben a month, not that long at all. He might just want to prove himself to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 05:37 AM
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So you don't even read the profile before matching with him? I match with very very few people because I read the profiles before hand and reject the majority of profiles. I don't have time to speak with hundreds or thousands of men, much less go on crappy dates or deal with creeps texting me. ​ Wow, that just blows my mind. But I guess this tactic works for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 04:34 AM
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What did his profile say? Like, were there any red flags on his profile? In retrospect is there anything on his profile that would weird behavior?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 04:09 AM
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Exactly. And we're only looking for one man, not a whole harem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 04:05 AM
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OP. ​ I say this with the utmost love and care and respect. Please do not take this the wrong way. ​ I think you really really really need to not think about men or dating AT ALL and get some therapy. Your post honestly sounds like a troll post, like "how far can I go without them thinking this is a made up story?" ​ This man is .... not a man. He's the basement dweller that the entire internet laughs about. And for you to not see that, for you to bend over backwards for him, follow him, pay for…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 04:03 AM
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Different women have different priorities when it comes to partners. ​ For me, looks are not terribly important. That's not to say they don't play a part, and I certainly look at each profile and try to gauge what kind of person they might be based on their appearance (you can actually tell a lot about a person based on their appearance, not just their clothes and style but also looking at their face, their eyes etc). Just good looks don't attract me. For me, the most viscerally attractive thing…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 03:50 AM
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High value isn't about money. It's NEVER about money. Reaching one's potential is also not about money. Money is merely a by-product. It sounds like you need to read some books about money and change your mindset. ​ Having a high value appearance isn't about having designer clothes and the latest in make/hair/nail trends. ​ If you look at the world's wealthiest people who actually give value to the world, or at people from royal/aristocratic families, they actually aren't showy. In those circles…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 03:25 AM
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I am talking to a few men from OLD, and couple have exhibited HV behavior without any red flags so far. Of course you can only gauge so much without meeting someone in person. But it is possible. ​ What I think is good about this pandemic is that it's forcing people to get to know each other more before meeting up. And the guys who DO pressure you to meet up (much less for sex!) are glaringly obviously NVM. That's not to say I think meeting in person is 100% off limits, depending on where you ar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 03:11 AM
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The risk of dating the wrong/vengeful man and ruining my whole career is too high to justify the "reward" of a relationship. 1000000%
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 03:04 AM
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I can’t help but feel the lady is getting the short end of the stick and that she is being used and undervalued. This 100%. Especially if the woman wants to eventually get married and have children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 03:01 AM
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I've gotten on OLD during this pandemic and I reject around 99% profiles that "like" me. I go days and days without a single match, simply because all profiles presented to me are below par. ​ I have connected with a few interesting matches, however, who have thus far not crossed any boundaries or presented red flags. They are like needles in a haystack. But we're looking for gold, not for everyday pebbles. Of course it will take a while and most profiles will be trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 02:57 AM
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So it could have turned into a relationship after sex after 2 weeks of knowing?? lmao that does not sound like a relationship. A relationship isn't free sex on demand. ​ Sounds like you WERE keeping him intrigued, and as soon as you'd have sex with him the intrigue would be gone. ​ The guy's an idiot who contradicts himself and is basically just throwing out manipulative misogynistic PUA talking points and hoping something sticks that will convince you to sleep with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 02:51 AM
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You're the one asking the internet if you were too harsh on the guy for blocking him after you stewed for a week over a sexual comment he made the week before. Like I'm genuinely curious why you didn't just block him after he said that, but instead ignored him, left him on read, and then waited for him to say something else to you before you responded to him to tell him you're canceling the date and then blocked him lol? Surely you must realize that it looks a little confused. I feel like I have…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 02:52 PM
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....so... block them and be done with it instead of doing this weird dance of answering, then not answering, then being annoyed, then asking something and then blocking after you've worked yourself up and spent energy on it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 01:59 PM
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Gay friends are awesome
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 09:35 AM
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I'm just confused. Why did you block him? If you weren't interested in him after the cuddle comment why didn't you block him then? ​ It honestly seems like you don't really know what you want, or are second guessing yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 02:26 AM
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I hope you burst into a fit of giggles in her face.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 04:14 AM
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honestly that sounds like fan fiction, especially with the ending
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 04:11 AM
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It sounds like she got some direct messages, which we wouldn't see.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 04:09 AM
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Agreed. At that point it seems you married a LVM and are trying to manipulate him into being slightly more high value. ​ honestly, who has time for that? I don't want to constantly fight with my partner. I want someone who is already on my same wavelength and checks all the boxes. No one is perfect, but if I'm always having to play dumb to get him to put his underwear away or clean the dishes, then WTF did I get married to him anyway??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 04:09 AM
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thanks for this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 04:07 AM
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Why can't we women see how horrible we're being! We're so lucky that we're valued for how we look which is out of our control, instead of for things that we put work, effort, time, sweat, and tears into!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 04:05 AM
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Part of the reason I am careful complimenting men is fearing they will interpret it as me being interested/flirting with them. 10000% this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 04:04 AM
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And it's somehow an valid justification for why men can't compliment each other. "No, you see, the reason we can't get compliments from other men is because we would be called gay! So you see now how it's impossible for us to compliment each other!" ​ But no reason for why random women aren't complimenting men on their looks is good or valid enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 04:04 AM
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More like a trailer home, which would be the equivalent to this "home cooked" breakfast.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 03:56 AM
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It's like the default is: Women eager for a sexual relationship, and when that doesn't happen we actively putting him in the "friend zone." ​ So let's think about that for a second. If we "friend zoned" someone that implies they were NOT in the "friend zone" before, which implies that BEFORE they were in the "sexual partner zone." HOWEVER, this "before" was before we even knew them! ​ So, this really shows how these guys think! The default is them being entitled to sexual relationships with wome…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 06:47 PM
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I don't eve know what to say
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 06:40 PM
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It should be "sex zoned" YES! We should take it back and turn it around against them! ​ Isn't it funny. We're only good if we sleep with THEM. But then we get called gold diggers, friendzoners, frigid bitches, and THOTS by the rest of the LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 06:36 PM
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The friend zone doesn't exist. It's misogynistic concept created by men like your "friend' who feel entitled to romance, dating, sex, etc after putting in enough "friendship coins."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 09:29 AM
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I've already used the strawberry balsamic on a Caprese salad. ​ I'll have to try that, it sound delicious
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 08:25 AM
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That sounds delicious! ​ I LOVE kale and I do this pseudo-Caesar salad that's probably healthier than the original and cab vegan: chopped kale mixed with arugula, finely minced fresh garlic, nutritional yeast powder, homemade vinaigrette (equal parts olive oil and apple cider or sherry vinegar, salt, pepper, dollop of dijon mustard so that it all comes together), and parmesan cheese (optional).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 08:22 AM
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I don't feel anything about them because I don't think about them at all. ​ Why are so many women obsessing over literal bums?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 03:24 PM
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That sounds amazing! I wish I had a little salad garden. Do you make your own vinegars as well?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 03:18 PM
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Literally this x 100000000000000
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 03:17 PM
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I hope you have a great time! :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 03:15 PM
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My view is that you have to accept people as they are. ​ A 30 year old dude with an allegedly stable job who is making his 20 year old college student date pay for her meal is a LOSER and will not stop being a loser no matter how many times you try to explain to him that the man should pay on that date. Even if he begrudgingly pays on that date, he will not want to pay on other dates. That's just who he is. ​ The best thing to do is to go out with guys who aren't complete losers. Trust me there …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 12:32 PM
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Some people legitimately like salads?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 12:16 PM
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OmG FDS iS sO ToXiC! It's aLL a BuNcH oF goLDdIgGeRs! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 12:15 PM
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Be yourself and enjoy yourself. Don't expect anything out of the date. Don't put up with anything that doesn't feel right. ​ You're not there to impress him. This is not the start of something wonderful and magical. You don't have to prove yourself to him or anyone. This is just one date. ​ It's like going to the movie theatre. You go to the movies to be entertained. You buy some treats, find your seat, and sit back and relax and wait for the movie to start. You're feeling happy and excited; you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 12:13 PM
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Don't give out your address to strangers (especially men) Do not give out your phone number to strangers. Get a google phone number (they're free!) and use the instead until you have vetted the man and are 100% sure you can trust him. This guy is a LOSER Generally, I don't think an age gap of 10 years is a big deal. I do think that at 21 and 31 though is a iffy. If you were even a few years older like 24 and 34, it would be less weird. But at 21 you're barely out of your teen years, while he's a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 12:05 PM
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This is the problem I have with much of the "body positive" "fat acceptance" movement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 12:30 AM
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I guess to reaffirm it to myself. I understand that. We all go through that. It's so unbelievable that someone would behave the way these scrotes behave, that we almost start to wonder if we're the ones with a skewed sense of reality. ​ So yeah, reaffirm it to yourself all you need! But just keep in mind that the fact that this "reaffirmation" seems so absurd to the rest of us is proof that you and your feelings and perspective are 100% correct!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 12:28 AM
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Does anyone else see it as a red flag when a man wants to meet you too soon on dating apps? Huge red flag for me ​ I feel like it's the biggest indicator they're too eager to get something out of you, not to get to know you. Yep. ​ Aaaaaaaaaaaand the rest of your post proves that initial assumption. Thank you for your TEd talk. ​ Your second paragraph is completely useless, girl. Why are you explaining yourself and justifying yourself for not wanting to be a free prostitute for some stranger??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 11:50 AM
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I think you have to be kind to yourself allow yourself the time and space you need to process everything and start to feel more comfortable and open. ​ You're lucky that you are seeing a guy who seems to be HVM, kind, compassionate, and caring. ​ With this guy, and any other guy you may be with, remind yourself, morning, noon, and night (and in between if you need to) that this is about YOU. Your life is about YOU. It's not about him. YOU are more important that whatever man you're with. You sho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 11:44 AM
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Why are they all numbered 1?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 11:37 AM
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Yeah I was so glad to read she doesn't believe him. either cheating or owes someone a lot of money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 11:35 AM
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sexual abuse and exploitation of children is SuCh An InTeReStInG iDeA
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 11:26 AM
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Well, anyway, I'll just live my life and leave the windmill fighting to others I guess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 11:02 AM
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TIL women are inanimate objects.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 09:55 AM
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I mean, she's right. But her sense of nastiness and derision toward another woman is a little off-putting for me. we should be best nasty/sarcastic/whatever toward the scrotes, not the insecure women. Seeing a video like this would make the Karen be like "what a prissy bitch, I'll SHOW HER" an dig in even more into her toxic relationship. ​ Why are we constantly fighting with other women? Why are we being nasty to other women and nasty regarding their (misguided or not) choices as a way to feel …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 02:02 AM
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Yeah I'd say like 50% of vetting is the profile. You have to be SUPER picky about who you even want to match with. Then out that pool you have to ruthless vet them as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 01:58 AM
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True, his place is most likely a complete dump, not good enough for the unemployed prince
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 01:56 AM
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"Denying this is denying biological reality" ​ ​ LMAOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 01:54 AM
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I think you meant so SHE can come over to him (using her car, otherwise she's a gold digger) so he doesn't have to wait too long
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 01:50 AM
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Notice how men are the ones that can go from 0 - psychopath in less than 5 seconds, yet women are supposed to be the emotional, irrational gender? this 100000000000%
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 01:49 AM
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Your friend should have replied with: "OMG you're so right. I am going to take your advice and not fuck with a broke loser the next time around. Thank you for telling me (albeit harshly) that I just raise my standards drastically! Gold bless!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 01:47 AM
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How do you match with these losers in the first place? (To be super honest, that's my question for like 99% of the posts in this sub). Sincere question. I think you need better profile vetting so you're far less likely to be put in a position where you have to deal with this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 01:43 AM
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People don't understand that you MUST accept people for who and what they are. That is an absolute MUST. ​ Once you accept someone for who she/he is, then you decide if it's something that is acceptable to you, or not. ​ If it's not acceptable to you, then you move on. ​ But begging and pleading and hoping someone changes is useless and ultimately unfair to you both.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 09:26 AM
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I think we can learn so much from Downton Abbey. ​ The way gentlemen are expected to court ladies. The grace with which ladies refuse suitors who aren't up to par and move on to the next. The way that Lord and Lady Grantham have their own dressing rooms despite sharing a bedroom. ​ I've started asking myself WWMD: What Would Mary Do when I'm faced with a question or an uncertainty regarding men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 09:23 AM
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The thing is that either the LVM will end up leaving you in a horrible breakup that will ruin whatever is left of your self-esteem, OR you will suffer immense misery under emotional/mental/physical abuse or just sheer neglect. So if you stay with an LVM you are guaranteed to either effectively or very literally be alone anyway. ​ Might as well be alone now, on your terms, with your dignity, self esteem and life intact, and free to pursue your interests and be open to the possibility of an HVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 10:48 AM
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LMAO. Typical arrogant American response. (Not saying all Americans say this, only the arrogant ones). "I'm American so therefore I am right and if you disagree you and your culture are inferior." May I please remind you that it was American feminists that brought about hook up culture and one night stands and porn and sex work as "empowering" to women? Oh, and going dutch with a guy on a date and being offended at having a man open a door for a woman? My culture is utterly shocked and appalled …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 06:25 AM
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Yeah, there were studies done YEARS AGO that showed that people (of both genders) who posted a lot on social media were more likely to be narcissists. ​ Looking at his social media activity is major tell honestly. If he does post a lot, to me it's an enormous sign he's a narcissist (unless of course it's for career purposes).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 06:01 AM
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So on my reddit thread this post came up, and right under it was.... r/relationaship_advice (paraphrased) "My (20F) boyfriend (22M) knows I'm a virgin but threw me on the bed and held me down in order to have rough abusive sex with me because he thought I'd be into it because I'm black. What should I do?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 05:30 AM
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That's what I'm wondering. I mean the fact that this was his go-to. he obviously was hoping to get laid... aka isn't in the mindset to find a long term partner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 05:14 AM
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Thank you for this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 05:11 AM
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I mean... that's the idea. To be single from abusive, narcissistic, low-effort, slacker, broke, irresponsible, selfish man-children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 11:35 PM
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Save this photo and send it to all the guys who try to shame you about being a gold digger or having too high standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 11:30 PM
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It means "not a Chad" whatever that is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 11:29 PM
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the dude is AUSTRALIAN. People don't magically become different people when they set foot somewhere else. I could give a shit about what some dude says, but the idea that everyone else in the world should know what Americans like and don't like and be on the up and up on the latest American colloquialisms is absurd and insanely offensive. I mean seriously American egocentrism and arrogance at it's finest! Holy crap. I bet you get offended when you go to another country and nothing's written in E…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 10:34 AM
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100%. He is a creepy controlling sociopath. If he couldn't have her, nobody would.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 08:22 AM
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Has anyone here watched "Unsolved Mysteries" on Netflix? SO many depraved males there but the one I'm thinking of specifically is I think episode 3, the one that takes place in France where a mother and 4 children are murdered by the LVM father because he couldn't handle the fact that he wasn't as successful as he pretended to be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 06:50 AM
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Do you have any friends who have gone to therapy, or know any other women or practitioners (your doctor, dentist, etc) who can refer you? If not, just googling and reading tons of reviews. You can also reach out to women's groups for referrals. I mean even here, if you are comfortable sharing your city or general location, there are probably women here who might be able to give you some references.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 06:45 AM
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It's that communist mentality. Even the generations born after the fall of communism or towards the end of it are afflicted by this. I mean I can't really blame them I guess, given the history and the media images, etc. And I've seen this infatuation with the US from Western Europeans as well. But for people like your friends who work in the oil industry, it seems the Europe offers a lot more opportunities. I have a friend who is a private tutor, who wants to come here and live here. She wouldn'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 01:26 AM
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Right. But if you were single, all your assets would go to you and be protected. You said you wanted to protect your assets (I assumed from him in case of a split, since that was the context in which we were speaking) so wouldn't simply saying "we're not entering into any legally binding relationship and instead are just going to the bf/gf" save the headache of that? Or do I owe my ex boyfriend half my assets now?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/20 01:04 AM
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I'm from EE as well, and when I go back people still have stars in their eyes about the West and specifically the US. I'm like trust me stay home, unless you're getting an outright amazing offer from a company with a salary, expenses paid, etc. Things are improving over there (obviously at various speeds depending on where you go), and honestly things seem to be deteriorating here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 01:00 AM
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Who said anything about a will?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/20 12:49 AM
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Sounds like you don't know EE or EE women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 12:47 AM
3

When's the Disney movie coming out?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 12:44 AM
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Yep, plus the scammers or green card chasers or whatever aren't really what I would use to describe an entire culture of women. They have their own agenda. ​ Things are much better now, but even 20 years ago, the West was very attractive for an EE woman trying to have a better life for herself and escape poverty (depending on where in EE she was from). During communism, these women were extremely underprivileged and any relationships between EE women and western men had a HUGE power imbalance, n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 12:41 AM
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It's American ignorance and arrogance at it again. ​ Eastern European women traditionally (and also largely due to their history) were often strong and ran the households. Several Eastern European cultures actually had equal inheritance laws for daughters and sons, as well as equal divorce laws for both genders, which can't be said for much of Western Europe or the US. During the many wars and conflicts that ravaged the region, women were often the ones left at home running the household, runnin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 12:37 AM
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But in that case, if you're so worried about taking precautions regarding your assets, then wouldn't it have been better not to get married at all, either via government or via your private marriage? And just be bf/gf? I mean, what's a piece of paper when it comes to what's really in the heart, and as you said you still want to protect your assets.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/20 12:25 AM
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...Or get herbal tea next time?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 12:04 AM
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​ Personally if a guy is constantly posting on social media and is above the age of like 22, that's a huge red flag. the only exception is if it is legitimately for his business. I.E. Either he is a (legit) blue checkmark and a public figure in his field and has to, or is doing it through a business account. ​ For the guy who post regularly one business accounts, it is still a red flag if he posts a lot on his personal account. I'm sorry but a grown man regularly posting on social media is like …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 12:01 AM
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So it seems you both got into the marriage not expecting it to last? I'm asking sincerely. I know there are people who legitimately don't believe in marriage forever, but more of a serial monogamy thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/20 11:45 PM
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Women would rather share an unfaithful hot alpha male than be saddled with a faithful average looking beta male. false.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/20 11:30 PM
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It won't get better. If you stay, you will either live a life of misery by his side, or it will culminate with an ugly and possible violent ending/divorce. ​ It's better to leave now than in 1 month, 6 months, or 5 years. ​ Besides, you said you've never felt so lonely with another person. So why are you "afraid of being alone"? You ALREADY ARE alone, except with a mean and abusive douchebag. Isn't it better to be alone in peace than to be alone and subjected to the abuse?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 11:10 PM
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what makes you think every other country in the world knows about American slang? Honestly, get off that. America is not the center of the universe. It seems "mad c_nt" is a casual slang term in Australia that, while not offensive as in the US, isn't something you'd call a stranger, but this entitlement that all the other countries of the world ought to know what Americans like and don't like is seriously off-putting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 11:02 PM
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yes it is normal to feel attachment, because you have bonded and you have talked. That's a normal human reaction. And yes, it possibly is pity. Maybe you also have a tendency to want to help or mother people, I don't know. But it is normal, especially for women to get attached especially after emotionally bonding. But just because it's normal doesn't mean it's right in this situation or that it serves you. Rapists, murderers, serial killers, scam artists, abusers, etc take advantage of this fact…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 10:35 PM
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Most men are idiots who think they know better than you just because you're a woman and they're a man. They want to feel smart and important which is why they will give unsolicited advice. It's best to avoid telling these men things about what you're doing, etc. If they ask, just smile and be vague. And/or say something like "I've been following this plan my trainer/coach/fitness friend created" and then leave or change the subject. And if you do find yourself in a situation where a dude is lect…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 10:06 PM
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I would strongly encourage AGAINST going to male therapists if you're a woman. Of course female therapists have to be screened as well. But I honestly don't get why women would go to a male therapist, even if he is a HVM. ​ As a woman, I know that no man will understand me better than a fellow woman will. This is assuming that a male therapist is kind, sensitive, truly helpful, with the best intentions, etc. Even with all that, at the end of the day he's a man and some things he just won't get.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 09:59 PM
30

I fully support scrotes exposing themselves and also taking themselves out of the dating pool. Please and thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 09:55 PM
24

Delusional and personality disorders. I once matched with a guy who had a fairly decent/attractive picture on his OLD profile. In person he was 20-30 years older and about 50 pounds heavier. There were more red flags with this guy but suffice it to say he is not emotionally or psychologically stable so at that point you have to chalk it up to borderline mental illness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 09:53 PM
5

If you don't want to chat forever, then don't reply. No one is forcing you to. No need to give men such power over our emotions. You can delete, block, or simply ignore. The minute you're no longer interested, you can simply choose to not respond. Some people do not feel comfortable dating in person at all during the pandemic, and some here even consider men who would consider dating at all during this time LVM. So there's not one size fits all. Also I personally RECOIL at the thought of a video…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 09:46 PM
2

I agree. And I agree that physical attraction is important for both people. However, I have a problem with this because it's still all about how sexy she is and his dick. He's not saying "my wife gained weight but she is still beautiful to me." He's not saying "I think my wife is attractive." He's specifically saying that he is ok with her weight gain BECAUSE he finds it sexy. What if she gained 100 lbs? There are men who are turned on by obesity. He could have just as easily been one of those t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 09:41 PM
2

Honesty is the best policy. Write him an email and tell him pretty much what you told us. It will be tough and hard, but kind. ​ His attachment style is not healthy. It's actually in his best interest to hear this. He's only 18, he's super young. There is hope for him yet. Tell him that its only been a week and he doesn't even know you. That's he's in love with an fantasy he created of you. And that's it's not healthy, and you're not comfortable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 09:33 PM
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Chill out. At this point you're just talking to him. Over a dating app. ​ He could be a 400 pound 60 year old living in someone's basement for all you know. ​ You're not here to find some dude and latch on to him and live happily ever after. If you're on OLD or actively dating, you are communicating with/ dating MULTIPLE MEN (NOT sleeping with them) in order to VET THEM. You are DETACHED. ​ They impress you, not you them. They come to you, not you to them. They make a move and you judge them on …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 09:27 PM
2

I would say if he doesn't ask you on a date by this weekend, forget it. during this pandemic?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 09:27 PM
2

Yeah. And to be clear, I'm not saying "omg anorexic or obese people are crappy people!" It's just that either they are crappy/lazy people or lead poor lifestyles, or there are underlying issues that they need to take care of first before instead of looking for a partner. If someone has a shitty job or a shitty relationship that sucks the joy out of their life, they need to deal with that first before presenting themselves as a high value romantic partner. At least find a healthier outlet to deal…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 09:10 PM
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this is because they see their daughter as their possession.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 09:07 PM
10

Really couldn't have summed it up better myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 09:06 PM
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Oh, well as long as HE'S cool with it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 08:56 PM
2

Thing is it's not even the bare minimum. He's ok with the weight gain because DAT ASS turns him on. ​ There are men who are feeders and get turned on by feeding their SO into morbid obesity and early death. Should we applaud them too and say they're doing "the bare minimum"? ​ This isn't about accepting her weight gain, but about his dick being happy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 08:54 PM
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I don't know if I agree. They aren't calling out men for being shallow about weight gain. They're taking about how "DAT ASS" turns them on. We've got a whole generation of instagram models getting butt implants, using waist trainers and corsets, removing ribs, and then photoshopping on top of that to get "DAT ASS" that teenage girls then look at and hate their bodies for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 08:52 PM
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115 to 135 is very noticeable. The thinner you are, the bigger the impact. Even more so if she's on the short side. Is it still within a healthy BMI? Depdening on the height, sure. But it's definitely a visually noticeable weight gain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 08:49 PM
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A lot of times it's the negative character traits that fuel the unhealthy weight. I'm not saying this to crap on extremely underweight and extremely overweight people, but someone who is anorexic, bulimic, or has compulsive eating disorder, or even if just lazy/careless and eats crap, doesn't exercise and leads an unhealthy lifestyle is clearly going through some issues and is not in a position to be fully present as a grounded, stable, high value partner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 08:46 PM
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To be honest it's probably not even a matter of the whether or not the guy is shallow/a jerk or not, but our society. Our society places so much value on women's looks and sexiness that even things that are supposed to make us feel better and less insecure about things like gaining weight or aging are still wrapped in something that ultimately makes it about our looks. ​ This is one of the things I have a problem with the fat acceptance movement, for example. They're all about screaming "OMG YAS…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 08:41 PM
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But he's not saying "she's sexy no matter what to me" he's going on and on about how sexy her weight gain makes her. Just substitute weight loss for weight gain and read it again and see how it reads.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 06:55 PM
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That's true. And of course finding someone physically attractive is important. We also talk about men's looks and how we want to be with someone whom we find attractive, or at least someone who doesn't repulse us. But I don't know, something rubbed me the wrong way about it... like it was positioned to make it sound like he's angry about the weight gain (angry about her looks, the implication being he's shallow and primarily focuses about her looks) but nah, he's actually super happy because as …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 06:51 PM
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You need to find social circles that are on your level. ​ These are not on your level. They are insecure and behave like gutter trash. Is that what you want? Of course gutter trash will celebrate its own debauchery and lowlife behavior. Would Kate Middleton hang out with these people? Would she feel inferior to them because she's not yanking off her clothes and screaming about drugs while having threesomes?? Of course not. ​ Find people on your level. These people and these environment bring NOT…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 12:47 PM
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I mean, as long as she's still sexy amirite?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 12:21 PM
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Ultimately nothing would please me more than to comfortably years into a healthy relationship and to have impregnated or already had a healthy child. ​ However one I cannot even find a woman to casually sleep with me ​ huh???? You seem to contradict yourself
/r/ExRedPill23/07/20 08:17 AM
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A high-quality woman is a woman who shares your ideals, interests, world-view, values, relationship goals, ethics/morals, and life goals.
/r/ExRedPill23/07/20 08:16 AM
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I don't think they are losing interest because of the intellectuality/intelligence, but rather due to something else (clingy, needy, arrogant, annoying, bad breath, etc etc any plethora of reasons)
/r/ExRedPill23/07/20 08:13 AM
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seconded. ESPECIALLY during Covid. I've had strange men approach me on the street (before Covid) and it was creepy at best and downright frightening at worst.
/r/ExRedPill23/07/20 08:11 AM
1

what are some examples of alpha males to you?
/r/ExRedPill23/07/20 08:08 AM
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Worry about yourself. Work on yourself. Surround yourself with people and groups that share your interests. You will find girls who are interested in what you are interested in. ​ NEVER try to impress girls. Just be yourself. The right girl will like you for who you are. If you get a girlfriend by impressing her with a fake facade, the relationship won't last because how long can you keep it up? ​ You want someone to like you for you. You only need one.
/r/ExRedPill23/07/20 07:27 AM
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I'm having some problems with this as well. Restaurants are closed in my area so FDS approved dates are out. So it's difficult to gauge if a park date is LVM or just the COVID19 era.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 05:56 AM
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If a man wants a perfect woman to stay at home and take care of the household, he's going to need to bust his balls to make over $100,000 per year, and frankly, most men aren't willing or capable of doing that. Including him! He moved into his mother's house in the hopes of making a living from YouTube videos!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 05:36 AM
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This dude is WILD ​ from his website: After college, I moved to Portland, Oregon to attend a small naturopathic school there. Unfortunately, I was unable to achieve my dream of becoming a naturopathic doctor there, as I was suspended by lesbian feminists who hate men. This came to my attention after a feminist friend of mine told me “this happened to you because you’re a man.” At the time, I had no interest in politics or cultural issues like feminism, so I wasn’t ready to accept that lesbians a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 05:32 AM
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right but it's extra entitled for middle aged dudes demanding young model-looking girls badly out of college.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 05:05 AM
9

textbook psychopath. ​ Also: When people tell you who they are, believe them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 01:15 AM
5

How exactly are men supposed to have lots of praiseworthy sexual escapades while the women have none/little?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 12:54 AM
29

"don't play nice in teams" Yeah I don't know how he got that from her saying that she's not into team sports lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 12:53 AM
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Yeah, because women try to actually be relevant and get to know the person, instead of jumping into sex right away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 12:52 AM
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Learn to cook something cool? Like macarons or croissants? ​ Maybe start a free course in something: coding, math, economics, trading, history, literature, etc. There are lots of open source places for that. Or you could even pay for a course at a local community college. Most are doing online classes. Or get a masterclass. You can also find really interesting courses on Groupon/Living Social in all kinds of categories (herbology, soap making, interior design, etc) Start an herb/vegetable garden…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 12:25 AM
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It's like they can't take it seriously. Like they're uncomfortable with truly being romantic and seductive, so they make juvenile sex jokes as a way to try to "get you in the mood." Which is so bizarre because these are grown men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 12:15 AM
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They also expect women to be ready and willing and turned on for sex at the snap of their fingers, instead of, you know, taking the time to set the mood, seduce her, actually being romantic and sexy. And then they have the GALL to just whip out their dick and be like "wait, why aren't you wet? Why aren't you turned on?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 08:00 AM
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I fully support his advice. I'm ALL FOR LVMs tipping tier cards so obviously and so early. Makes things so much easier for us!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 12:20 AM
7

Why are you offering to split the bill on dates??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 12:07 AM
30

Divorce him then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 12:05 AM
19

I mean, all you have to do is look around you. Are you surrounded by 40+ year old hot, wealthy studs?? ​ On OLD, are you feeling overwhelmed by the options in the 40+ category? ​ Or nah? Because I'm not seeing these wealthy and uber attractive 40 year olds. In fact, I am horrified at the overwhelming majority of 30+ year olds. So many (most even?) guys in their 30's look like a walking stereotype of the balding middle-aged dude with a dad bod and questionable attire.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 07:01 PM
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this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 07:01 AM
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Yeah, 4-5 years of dating before marriage is a long time. It would be different if 1) you guys were younger, 2) that was something that occurred naturally and, 3) both parties were happy with that timeline, but it's just SUPER weird to me to say upfront at the beginning that you need 4-5 years before moving onto "that step" (which honestly sounds more like "4-5 years before I can even consider marriage"). To me it just sounds like he's throwing out a number out there that is far away, hoping tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 07:01 AM
1

Absolutely leave him!!!!!!!!! Then BLOCK AND DELETE. ​ NOTHING about what happened that night is ok.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 05:58 AM
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Be honest about yourself. Don't try to put forth your best face (obviously I don't mean put down your dirty laundry or your insecurities, etc. but don't try to pretty up your image). Just be you. You want to match with men who are legitimately interested in whatever it is you show. Think of what kind of guy you want to attract, and then think of what would make that guy think he might want to get to know you. For example, I am introverted, so I mentioned a couple things I genuinely like doing th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 05:11 AM
5

this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 04:51 AM
1

I mean I think with Will and Jada, the problem was that theirs was an open marriage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 04:30 AM
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I totally agree with her. I wholeheartedly reject the idea that men and women are exactly alike. The West has made great strides in gender equality, which is great, but to be very honest I have always felt this attitude in our society that if a woman is to be respected she must basically adopt masculine characteristics. Which is actually SO anti-woman and sexist in my opinion. For example in the workplace, many women feel the need to speak with a deeper voice in order to be taken more seriously.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 04:28 AM
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Just let it go. First of all, right now you are just dating. You should be talking to/dating multiple men (that you feel legitimately are worth your time and energy, of course). Don't romanticize any one guy. Don't start creating fantasies about the next date, or next month, or your wedding. Just take it one day at a time. Be kind and courteous, but have the attitude of "Impress me. What else ya got?" You went on a date with a man. That's it. He treated you to a pleasant date, you enjoyed yourse…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 04:06 AM
1

he thinks you're still that person he can manipulate. ​ I'm glad you're not talking to him anymore!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 10:59 PM
5

Oh ok, yeah I must have missed if he didn't ask.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 07:17 AM
13

...They're literally proving our arguments correct.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 06:06 AM
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Crazy Woman: How come my ex beat me while I was pregnant, and then after I gave birth he stalked me for 45 minutes so he could beat me even more with a metal baton and leave me for dead, and yet you NEVER SEE ME SAY A BAD WORD ABOUT HIM PUBLICLY??? ​ Sane People Everywhere: Uh........ 'cause you crazy with negative self esteem maybe?? ​ ​ She says she respects him because he gave her her kid. It's very easy for a guy to get some girl pregnant. Rapists do it. Drunken one night standers do it. Che…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 05:53 AM
21

Most don't even know about International Men's Day. Yet the bitch and cry about how they don't have a day. ​ It's not our fault they're too lazy to educate themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 09:07 PM
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If he didn't have STDs, would you accept him? ​ Even without the STDs he sounds LV/NV. It sounds like you're still somewhat hung up on him, otherwise I honestly can't see why you'd even entertain the thought of getting back with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 09:05 PM
2

ok good to know. I follow her on IG, guess I have to sub now on YT :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 07:53 PM
2

I thought that was her! Did she actually put in the text, or did someone from here add those in later?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 06:46 AM
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Not only that, but it sounds like she left a BETTER PAYING job to accommodate his schedule. ​ Plus she doing all these chores for free. And she gets zero emotional support, emotional bonding, and companionship out of this. she literally getting negative benefits from this relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 06:02 AM
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Not volunteering. Paying to be his babysitter. And maid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 06:02 AM
11

this has to be a troll. "is this relationship worth sticking out?" no one can be that dense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 05:58 AM
21

What gets me is that you'll get creeps saying "OMG the age of consent in XYZ is 16, she knew what she was doing, she seduced him, blah blah blah" it's SOOOOOO gross. Honestly sometimes I feel like I'm going crazy arguing with someone like that, especially if another creep jumps in and backs up the first one. I never knew pedophilia and pedophilia-in-all-but-legality is was so rampant and widespread! ​ And you're right, who knows all the ages of consent in various countries?? Like what are you do…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 03:43 AM
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I'm so so sorry that you had to go through that. Thank you for sharing your experiences and what you learned. I'll definitely try to apply it to my dating! I'm still new at this. And yeah, it's easy to think that a guy who takes you out on thoughtful dates and is supportive of your career is a HVM. But you still need to look at indications of deeper/better-hidden traits.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 03:39 AM
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I started watching an interview (on like CNN or MSNBC or something) with one of her friends, and this woman was trying to defend her and say she's a victim too of Epstein's because without him she wouldn't have all the millions she has! :'( ​ Yeah, what a victim, going on reddit and correcting people on what the age of consent is in various countries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 02:58 AM
1

Yeah, this pandemic is just making making everything weird. :( I also joined not having too many expectations. Good luck! Hope things work out well with him. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 06:54 AM
8

I totally get you and honestly I'm a bit like you in that regard. If it's someone I already know, that's different, but I don't know how much I'd be looking forward to a date outdoors in a park when it's really hot with someone I don't know. I do think it is more of a "you" issue and not a him issue. Not that it's an "issue" as in there's something wrong with you; it's just preference that is totally legitimate. ​ If meeting someone at all is a hard pass for you because of the pandemic, then....…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 04:41 AM
13

Oh my god!!!! I'm so sorry about both of those relationships, especially your NVM ex. Did you ever press charges? What a POS, both of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 04:22 AM
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don't insult bitches, please
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 01:43 AM
10

What made him LVM/NVM?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 01:42 AM
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I don't think a man asking for a date in a pandemic is necessarily LV. ESPECIALLY if he suggested a picnic date, with fine wine and cheese. ​ Honestly, people run the gamut regarding the virus. Some take it super seriously and lock themselves in, others don't think it's as big of a deal as the media is making it out to be. To be honest, when you look at the numbers, if you're not in an at-risk group, it does seem very unlikely that you would have complications from it, much less die. ​ But it is…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 01:40 AM
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​ the fact that he thought it was funny the couple mistakenly thought he had gotten you flowers says it all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 01:32 AM
1

what do you mean by "scripted"?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 01:29 AM
3

thanks for this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 01:18 AM
87

mediocre?? Giving out compliments left and right, I see?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 11:02 AM
2

how do you join the website? I've messaged moderators here but never got a response.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 11:00 AM
36

Yeah, you're not a calendar. If you have a face shot and body shot on your profile, that's all they need to know to know what you look like and if they're interested in you as far as I'm concerned. Anything more than that is at your discretion, and if they ask for more they're just looking for masturbation material.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 10:19 AM
2

Yeah, that's my point. It's their job.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 10:16 AM
11

yeah I am genuinely curious
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 07:01 AM
20

Emily and Kendall do it because they are models and it is literally their job. ​ Unless you're a model, or in an art/entertainment field like acting/singing/etc. don't do it. Why? There is no point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 06:59 AM
7

yeah I saw that and was going to post it here. But I think it might be a troll post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 06:53 AM
24

Everything is about getting their dick hard for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 02:53 AM
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It's funny because where I come from, going on a date does NOT equal "getting that meal for the day so I don't literally starve." ​ People who act like a date is equivalent to basic life necessities are the ones who are treating it as a transaction or, a symbol of someone's ability to provide for their basic ability to live.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 09:54 PM
21

This sub has changed how I'm dating. I feel happier, calmer, more empowered in my choices, and more in control. I no longer second guess myself when I put my foot down or refuse to lower my standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 09:50 PM
4

Where can I find the link to the discord?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 03:22 AM
21

Man. Imagine a life where this is your biggest problem - not being able to fuck models.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 04:07 AM
23

I saw a girl on tiktok who has REALLY bad wrinkles. They look like belong to someone who is mid-50's+. She obviously looks younger than mid-50's, so I thought she was in her early 40's with really bad wrinkles. ​ Turns out she's 33. ​ She got married at 20 and divorced at 29, and it sounds like it was a difficult marriage. ​ Getting married to the wrong man will add years to your face and take years from your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 12:48 AM
10

I used to think that women aged worse than men and that "The Wall" for women is true. But honestly I'm seeing so many guys in their late 20's/early-mid 30's who look like balding 45+ dudes. While most women look pretty good or even younger than their age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 06:27 AM
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LMAOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 05:37 PM
3

It's not your fault if some grown man is too stupid to figure out how to feed himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 11:00 AM
10

3rd wave feminism and the sexual revolution of the 60s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 08:16 AM
75

It cracks me up when western men go to places like east Asia, Latin America, and Eastern Europe looking for a sweet, feminine, submissive, traditional woman BUT NO GOLD DIGGERS! Like why do you think women in these places are sweet, feminine, submissive and traditional? Because of traditional gender roles, which means the man supports the family. ​ You want a traditional woman, but you won't be a traditional man. She can't be a traditional woman if you refuse the male traditional gender role! ​ …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 08:14 AM
2

Even if this was my BFF, she be driving me crazy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 08:19 AM
2

Ok, thank you. ​ If they suggest meeting in the middle, is there a good way to nudge them to come to me? Or is it better to block and move on?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 07:40 PM
3

Thank you for this. ​ I'm running into a problem where I'm talking to guys from OLD who check other criteria and seem to be HVM but most do want meet halfway, especially if we live on opposite sides of the city. I do live in Los Angeles, which is huge and very spread out, so.... I don't should I give it a pass and see if any other red flags come up? I'm also thinking that for safety reasons, I'm not sure if I want to give strangers I met on an app my address.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 06:06 AM
3

Totally agree!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 03:27 PM
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I didn't say that NO men appreciate intelligence in a woman. I fully agree that plenty of men genuinely appreciate intelligence in a woman. Just that it's not the most important thing. Even an intelligent, kind, and decent man will have criteria that are higher up than intelligence. Intelligence may be important to him, but he checks for other criteria FIRST, and then sees if she's intelligent. A kind, intelligent, and a decent man isn't likely to go for a woman who is ugly and with a bad person…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 03:25 PM
1

OK, from reading your replies, it sounds like maybe he's trying to convince himself and you that you are "worthy" as a woman, because men are flirting with you. ​ Although it is weird that he seems to ignore/avoid it when men ACTUALLY are flirting with you. ​ Maybe the overt flirting is one thing. But the "subtle" flirting is another -- like it's obvious that a guy thinks you're attractive if he's overtly flirting with you. And there will always be men who will flirt with you. ​ But maybe your d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 11:35 AM
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Same. I'm on OLD right now, and like maybe 5% of the guys I click through ones make me go "wow! he's actually kind of cute!" ​ I'm starting to understand why women are called the fairer sex. Men are for most part sort of ugly. ​ Good thing looks aren't the most important thing for me, but geez.... I still would like to be attracted to my guy. Women are expected to look like Victoria's Secret models and guys walk around looking like schlubs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 11:19 AM
11

You should have just been like "sorry you feel that way"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 11:06 AM
6

HVM with that grammar? 👀 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 11:03 AM
6

Black Lives Matter, so here are videos of black women being demeaned, degraded, humiliated, objectified, and fetishized!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 07:53 AM
7

Why do you say he's getting rinsed? ​ I mean this in the best possible way, and I say this with love... I know you're trying to be helpful, and I'm not trying to nitpicky and be rude towards, you but in this reply and your other one, I sense "blaming the woman" mentality. ​ The first reply "Oh, he was spending money on a vulnerable loser girl who didn't have her shit together, and he was too intimidated by a strong, independent woman lmao!" ​ Second reply: "Oh, the woman he was spending cash on …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 06:17 AM
5

WHAT????? Wow. I feel sorry for his patients.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 05:41 AM
1

So sorry, it sounds to me like he's cheating. :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 05:40 AM
10

100%. We talk about the need for men to be good fathers. Surely that extends to women being good mothers? Why are we denigrating motherhood??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 02:07 AM
9

This is offensive. Feminism is allowing women to choose. Some women want to stay home and be with the children. They are not all in bad relationships. Some women want to have a career. Some women try both. ​ I suggest you focus on yourself and what makes you happy, not judge other women's decisions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 02:06 AM
1

dude why are you acting all smart and pretentcious?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 02:02 AM
2

Uhhh staying with your wife/gf and cheating with women on the side isn't "walking away." ​ You want to walk, walk!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 01:41 AM
19

I think this is ultimately about you not feeling comfortable with yourself. Renee Wade has some good advice on this (I know she is a controversial figure here). ​ Listen to music you like. Dance by yourself at home. take a long bubble bath and luxuriate in it. Look in the mirror, look at your curves and how beautiful and womanly you are. ​ Unlike some people here, I don't think femininity is a bad or weak thing for women. We ARE women, femininity is intrinsic in us. A woman who is truly in touch…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 01:00 AM
21

Sad thing is that a lot of pickmeishas are like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 12:54 AM
5

this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 12:51 AM
6

Omg how ADORBS!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 12:51 AM
9

You have no way of knowing that he's only dating that other girl "just because she's there." Maybe he is, but likely he is not. Don't get OP's hopes up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 10:00 AM
26

OP, he is dating another woman. She's not a side chick. She's not someone he's dating "just because she's there." He went out of his way to tell you that he is DATING ANOTHER WOMAN. ​ He explicitly told you that long distance does not work for him. ​ Yes, it sounds like he may have led you on somewhat, BUT you let him. He never promised you a relationship. He never promised you that you two would be exclusive if/when he came back. ​ All of that were your fantasies and hopes. I'm sorry. I know it…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 09:58 AM
7

I completely agree with you. ​ Also, does he have a new girlfriend/wife? If he wasn't doing this for his sons' benefit, how would she be feeling? Would we still be praising him if we got a story from a woman dating a man who gives his ex wife flowers and cards on her birthday "for the children"? ​ He can show his sons how to treat women well by being a decent man and treating their mom well ALL THE TIME, as well as treating his new gf/wife well ALL THE TIME and making his NEW partner breakfast a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 09:48 AM
2

You're totally right. I hadn't even thought of that. But it honestly opens up an entire can of worms. Client confidentiality. Are they covered by HIPPA (they aren't, but should they be?) Plus the legal issues that arise with using the face and likeness of their clients. Do their clients need to sign media release forms, like on-screen talent and models do? If they resell their sessions, then they are voiding all of the above. Which means they cannot be considered mental healthcare providers. So …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 09:44 PM
7

$2k+ for like 8 sessions ​ Outrageous. The gall of them. ​ A licensed therapist is less than that. AND they have years of study, training, and experience to boot. ​ I told one I didn’t buy that, and I myself had no sense of urgency in signing up as I’m doing nothing but sitting at home all day. ​ Sounds like you were starting to set your boundaries! :) ​ Also, isn't it funny how their prices are always fluctuating and going up? No other service provider does this. You don't get your doctor, dent…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 06:48 AM
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Peruse IG and Facebook. Most of those people (women and men) were people who were broke and were trying to find a way to make living. There are even life coaches for how to be a life coach!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 01:55 AM
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Just reinforces my belief that 99.9999% if not 100% of "life coaches" are basically scam artists.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 01:35 AM
6

"I dOn'T nEeD tHaT kInD oF bEhaViOr" lmaooooooooooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 01:24 AM
7

I had a friend who almost did something very similar - she was applying to med schools, and her boyfriend (who couldn't' keep down a job) wanted her to move his to state to be near him. He was also trying to get her pregnant (without her knowledge). Turns out he was cheating on her hard, on Tinder every day and sending explicit conversations to other girls and meeting up with them - all while begging her to move near him and trying to get her pregnant. ​ Thankfully she found out about the cheati…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 10:50 PM
7

I dated an Australian man once.... he was like this 100%. Sadly, I assumed he was the exception not the rule.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 02:34 AM
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why do women want to be with men like that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 04:36 PM
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He's almost 40 and following IG models? ​ Glad you dumped him. Use it as a lesson.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 08:02 AM
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Well I guess she has no intention of following her grandma's advice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 10:27 PM
3

Just by watching CP they’re creating a demand and market for it which is why it keeps happening exactly and so many people on reddit don't seem to get it, it's truly frightening
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 07:21 AM
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Honestly I've seen SO many posters on reddit in general be seem to be ok with the idea of pedophilia or have sympathy for pedophiles ("they can't help how they feel!") it's truly disturbing. I hope it's just the population of reddit, and not indicative of the general population as a whole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 07:20 AM
4

I don't know. I actually think right now is a great time to get on dating apps, because the quarantine is forcing you to get to know people a little bit more before actually meeting up. I recently got on OLD, specifically during this quarantine because I knew this quarantine would force people to hold off meeting in person and would force people to chat more and get to know each other. ​ Anyone who wants to meet during the quarantine is obviously an immediate nope, so it's also a good test. ​ I'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 05:21 AM
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awww how cute, alcoholics rushing for the next fix
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 04:47 AM
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right. like she literally told him "You took my lasagna so now I have to starve" He still had half a lasagna left, knowing that without it she was starving. ​ and he still didn't give it back, but went ahead the next day to polish it off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 04:31 AM
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Even after she told him that was ALL her food for the next week, he still knew there was about 1/2 a lasagna pan left and he STILL didn't give it back. ​ SMDH
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 04:29 AM
1

Yeah he probably saw that coming miles away and made sure to have his fun with her but nothing more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 04:16 AM
1

His family was wealthy, but not as wealthy as he is now. he and Justine met in college, so I'm not sure she'd be "starstruck" by his (nonexistent) wealth back then. ​ it's gross how he really did her dirty during the divorce and gave her nothing, considering that she was there when he built his billions. If he had been a billionaire before they met and married, it would have been one thing. But she was there behind him every step of the way when he built his wealth. And got nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 04:15 AM
3

amassing useless crap is "accomplishments" the fact this was "accomplished" by shaking their asses on a pole is just.... smh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 07:58 PM
4

thanks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 07:32 PM
5

thanks! ​ also: "Tesla has never had a profitable year;[27] however, it has had several individually profitable quarters, most recently the quarters ending September 2018, December 2018, September 2019, December 2019, and March 2020.[28]" ​ So where are all his billions from????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 07:31 PM
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Yeah, I actually don't think he's talking about red pill in terms of MRA. More politically/socially, most likely due to the recent Tesla-COVID19 debacle. ​ But I do agree he is a completely shitty person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 07:16 PM
5

His family was/is wealthy. Money didn't change him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 07:14 PM
10

where? how did you find out?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 06:32 PM
7

You give Elon too much credit. Hughes had talent. And I think he was more sensitive and troubled than just a straight up asshole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 06:32 PM
7

holy crap. Do you have a link to that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 06:24 PM
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They ended up not using his solution, because it took too long for him to make AND because it was completely not feasible, and at the end of it when the kids were saved, he went on twitter talking about how proud he was of his team Thailand for trying to help the kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 06:22 PM
2

thanks for the tip!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 07:54 AM
3

download a VPN that will allow you to connect via a network in the US
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 10:09 AM
12

And yet here he is, begging for her to entertain him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 12:46 AM
12

The point of things like “slut pride” or “sex positivity” isn’t to garner for male attention, but to simply hack away at the pretty much global concept of treating a women and her body as an object to be had, not as a person. But.... if you're a prostitute, you literally are an object to be had, not a person, in exchange for money.... ​ By joining something like a slut pride where you show your tits off, you’re basically saying, “what exactly are you objectifying? It’s just just tits. It’s just …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 05:08 PM
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Yep! Then if a young naive girl doesn't want to have sex because she's nervous, a virgin, just isn't feeling it, or isn't attracted to the guy, the guy can feed her some BS about how "repressed she is" and how she "shouldn't let society shame her."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 04:54 PM
1

"sex work is one of the few ways women has access to upward mobility"???? LMAO WHAT ​ Is this article from 1880??? Are they effin serious with this???? ​ This makes me so mad!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 06:08 AM
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And she's proud of it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 05:57 AM
1

Thank you for this post, it's made me think about it in a different way. What you say does makes sense. ​ However, I wouldn't be SO quick to discount humor. Just as different people have different senses of humor, everyone also says things in a slightly different context. ​ When he says "sense of humor" does he mean he wants the girl to laugh at all his jokes? Or does he long for someone he can let loose a little and be goofy with? Does he want someone who will be ok with his racist/sexist jokes…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 08:14 AM
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