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I get it, but right now I do not have the funds for a mediator or a litigator. There’s nothing to be gained. We will both end up with zero when this is over.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/26 04:22 AM
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I started seeing one for a couple months. Initially, it was nice to get another person‘s perspective but it soon felt like I was just paying somebody to listen to me bitch. In the end, no one can solve your problems, but you.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/26 03:40 AM
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I think that’s we’re I’m headed. Do you still have contact with your daughter? How does that work with your custody?
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/25 01:53 AM
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I’ve had the same thought. I don’t think they will be able to see the position their mother has put them in until much later in life. Maybe never. It’s painful
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/25 12:33 AM
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lol. This is awesome. Somebody did a meme similar to this. It’s floating around Instagram. I’m game!
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/25 01:27 AM
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I’d check out Eric Trosch.. he’s a fucking pitbull. I couldn’t afford him, but a payed for a consultation and it was worth every penny.
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/25 09:31 PM
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Are you near Charlotte?
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/25 05:45 PM
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lol. My thoughts exactly.
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/25 03:16 PM
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Silver bullet- my ex told the police I was SA my 3yo son last Friday. I lost custody of my 3 children yesterday. Zero contact till it’s sorted out. Hearing in 2 weeks but might drag out much longer. I’m fucking devastated. You need to get ahead of this. There’s a ton of great info within this group.
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/25 03:24 AM
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I can’t download anything on my daughter‘s phone without permission. My daughter’s Apple ID is a sub ID of my wife’s. She has control of the parental controls through her Apple ID. It’s ridiculous. Control control control- she must be in control of everything
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/25 02:04 PM
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I have not approached the subject yet because I know it will be a shit show. With her, everything is about control. She must be in control of everything. And she’s trying her best to alienate my daughter from me.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/25 11:52 AM
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Was there an altercation? How was she able to get an order of protection against you?
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/25 01:05 AM
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Mine is doing the same. My state has mandatory mediation for each part of the divorce. She’s just going drag everything out so we will have to go in front of the judge and she can tell everyone what a horrible terrible person I am.
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/25 11:45 AM
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I’ve spoken with the police several times over the last 24 hours. Because my local police station is closed for the weekend. I can only call 911. There is no way for me to even get through to the police until Monday morning. And from speaking with the cop that is dealing with whatever she has filed- they will not accept anything from me. He said going forward you need to get a lawyer and go through the courts. The cops are pretty sympathetic to my situation but I also don’t wanna to piss them of…
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/25 11:42 AM
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In my state if you don’t have a formal custody agreement in place, it’s not considered kidnapping. Either parent has the right to do such a thing if they feel it’s in the best interest of the children.
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/25 10:10 AM
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Thanks man I really appreciate it..
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/25 03:55 AM
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I have not lived with my ex for 10 months. So whatever she’s claiming has to do with my children. Which is fucking horrible. I know she’s filling my 12-year-old daughter‘s head with lies. I can access my daughter‘s texts. It’s some awful shit
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/25 02:46 AM
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I really hope it doesn’t take that long- I hope I can get this sorted out the beginning of next week. I have done absolutely nothing- so whatever she is fabricated as BS. Curious why did yours take three years?
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/25 02:02 AM
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I have a lawyer- I really hope I can help get this resolved the first part of next week. I grilled the cop that took the report for a good 30 minutes- he mentioned several times if they decide to move forward with it. Which makes me think maybe it’s BS. He would give me no info on what was going on
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/25 01:59 AM
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So did you get your 50-50 back?
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/25 12:43 AM
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WTF?! I know nothing about Georgia custody laws but that seems nuts. I could see you having to pay a shit ton of alimony and CS, but why wouldn’t you get 50/50 right from the start?
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/25 07:31 PM
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I had the same experience. It was nice to get some else’s input on my situation , but after a couple sessions I felt like I was paying someone to listen to me bitch about my problems. At $150 per session it was just another mouth to feed. In the end no one can solve your problems but you.
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/25 01:30 AM
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lol.. my stbx and I have not had sex in over 7 years.. and have a 5 and 2yo. …. IVF
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/25 02:52 PM
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No- we both worked at a business that technically she owned. The business has closed because of this mess. She will have to get a job soon, which is a significant cause of some of the craziness.
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/25 11:54 AM
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I do not speak to her at all when dropping off the children. One time after the kids were in her car secured with the radio on she gets out and starts aggressively banging on the window of my car to ask me why her son has a bruise. I’ll probably end up getting a body cam at some point. It’s totally ridiculous.
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/25 06:02 PM
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lol.. yep, that’s it. It’s all about control. Any correspondence about the children, they are referred to as her kids. Every time I pick them up.- how are my kids doing? I don’t ever see it changing -
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/25 04:28 PM
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The one year requirement is brutal. I can’t do anything, but wait it out. I’m trying to make a little money as possible at this point. Which with everything that’s going on is not hard to do.
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/25 04:23 PM
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4 months into 1 year mandatory separation. I feel like I’m slowly being fed thru a paper shredder. I hold everything together for my kids, but some nights I go to sleep and hope I never wake up.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/25 12:24 PM
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We do 3 day on 3 days off. Recently separated. 3 younger children- 3yo is the youngest. It kinda works- I love my time with the kids and enjoy my time away. It’s a disaster to try and keep a consistent work schedule. If they are sick I have to be home. They go to three different schools- so when they are with me I’m lucky if I can squeeze in 4 hours work that day.
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/25 11:57 AM
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Yes. 2&3 we’re out of the same fertilization batch. She was 50.. and it was just ridiculous. I think she hit menopause, when she was in the last pregnancy. That coupled with crazy amounts of hormones she was taking to make it work made the pregnancy and the postpartum situation and emotional nightmare. I’m now in my mid 50’s with toddlers going through an absolutely horrible divorce that will financially wipe me out. Really think about whats best for you, if she’s not happy during your engagemen…
/r/Divorce_Men08/03/25 09:47 PM
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That would be awesome- I’ve looked in my area and there’s nothing.
/r/Divorce_Men08/03/25 12:12 PM
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My wife and I met when she was in her early 40’s and both wanted a child. Had one, and had a pretty wonderful life with just the 3 of us. 7 years later our world will end if we don’t have another. She has no eggs left. Do the egg buy and IVF. Second child is born and she almost dies. Two years later she pulls the same act and third child is born. I did not want to do any of this but I really thought I was being a supportive partner by agreeing. Supporting her dreams, sacrificing for her needs. H…
/r/Divorce_Men08/03/25 11:30 AM
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I’m going thru something similar and some days it’s absolutely fucking soul crushing. Just know you’re not alone. Hang in there..
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/25 07:54 PM
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Have it mounted upside down with the point facing up…. The ultimate don’t fuck w me ring.
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/25 07:36 PM
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If I can add a few points on here— Keep your cool! You do not need her making a DV claim on top of all this. -Consult a lawyer asap. Depending on what state you are in her actions could save you from having to pay alimony. -Be super careful about how you access her info. I’m in a similar situation and I was able to find a ton of info on her Apple cloud via the kids devices. My lawyer advices me to 100% stop that I was venturing far into the legal privacy grey zone. If you read a text before she …
/r/Divorce_Men07/11/24 10:33 AM
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Wunderfind app. Just downloaded it today because I thought there was a tracker on my truck. It will pick up anything that is on WiFi or Bluetooth.
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/24 06:58 AM
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Same here. 56M…. I feel like I have ptsd from years of never ending toxicity. Looking forward to just getting it over.
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/24 05:44 PM
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Well said
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/24 08:39 PM
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I’m looking at a similar situation- I could possibly loose everything. I’m in my 50’s and have very well established talent in my field. I could/will rebuild, but I will have 50/50 custody of my 3 young children and can’t do a small living space. No way in hell will I let my ex have the primary residence that my kids look forward to as their home/safe space. I will create that for them no matter what it cost me.
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/24 04:44 PM
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We both agreed to move, previously in the New England area. New state is in the Carolina’s and has alienation of affection law which will be great leverage going forward. No way I would ever move back up north. Kids and a business involved as well so that is near impossible. I know the next 1 1/2 years are going to absolutely suck— planning on it. The long game is the only option for success.
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/24 08:26 AM
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I will- we moved several months ago to another state. He lives about an hour and a half from where we moved to -I had no idea of this until we moved. He is licensed in both states. I will file a complaint in each. From what my therapist has told me most states have a large backlog of complaints in this area and not to expect much. Right now I’m keeping my cool and playing the long game.
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/24 11:20 AM
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It’s been a lost cause for years. I’m done- but have to navigate kids, a business and an incredible amount of debt she has racked up.
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/24 07:23 AM
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I will as soon as I can gather some more solid evidence. I don’t want it to be a vague accusation. My state allows for an alienation of affection lawsuit, which means I could sue him for interfering with our relationship. I wouldn’t waste the $ on legal fees to do that- but it’s looking like I am going to hire a lawyer so why not pay them to send him a letter and also have them file a complaint with the state licensing board. He’s divorced- single and looks like he has spent a fair amount of mon…
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/24 07:19 AM
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lol.. similar experience. Counselor was an older guy who loves to hear what he has to say. Every time I brought up her reckless spending habits she would roll out a big sob story and he would completely fall for it. I couldn’t win so I basically stopped engaging. We are now past that and talking about divorce. The only good part about the counseling was prolonging the inevitable so I could get my ducks in somewhat of a row- and she knew I was able to access her texts a some point. I confessed an…
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/24 03:34 PM
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I was about to write something very similar. So many red flags with my STBX and her family with their attitude towards men.
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/24 02:42 PM
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That makes sense-
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/24 02:54 PM
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That schedule seems like it would be tough to manage- and possibly tough on the kids. Any reason you can’t do one solid week on and the next off?
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/24 12:58 PM
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That sounds like great schedule— thanks!
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/24 12:33 PM
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