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If a guy wants a relationship he will tell you. He told you he wants sex so that’s what he wants. You’re long distance and he’s bringing up sex. This is convenient for him as he can just sleep with you and fly away.
/r/RedPillWives31/12/21 10:58 PM
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He wasn’t a virgin- because of all the sex he was having with the women he can’t even keep track of. He was using excellent birth control basically. He’ll either get over it or he won’t. Aside from the issues with telling a guy he can do something on the assumption that he can’t, it’s not a good idea to tell a guy that he can’t do something an ex could. He told you he wants to fuck other women. Let it be known that this is not compatible with being with you.
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/21 04:38 PM
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He keeps trying to sleep with you and knows you’re about to leave. Why are you there?
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/21 02:12 PM
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It’s ok as long as you fulfill A role. (Or stay single.) Society is fucking that up right now in general so I don’t even really think it will hurt you that much.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 02:51 PM
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And if you’re a self made billionaire then maybe you can afford to slut it up. Still not really worth it, but it won’t hurt you as much.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 02:42 PM
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This is just a long winded way of saying be a slut and hope it all works out. Which it probably won’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 02:41 PM
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Single moms, low intelligence/nothing to offer but sex, hateful, lacks basic skills like cooking driving etc, overweight outside the US, or just unlucky with odd features. Career women can be low value. I think that one depends.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 05:13 PM
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I don’t know what your point is.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 02:14 AM
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Febreeze is black magic. But can the shoes be washed more often?
/r/RedPillWives22/03/21 10:04 PM
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We’d both be failures if he chose to forgo opportunities. I’d be a failure if he didn’t have opportunities.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/21 08:33 PM
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So, to clarify upfront: I will be available for dating advice for my son. I will not be available for getting laid advice for my son because that’s fucked up. Some women can afford a 6 6 6 man. They should go after it. (I really don’t feel like Googleing average dick size so I don’t know if this is entirely realistic or entirely unrealistic. But I get the overall concept.) I know I couldn’t. So I’m not disappointed to “fail” in that regard. (My daughter will also have better opportunities than I…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/21 05:52 PM
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If she SAYS she doesn’t want anything more outright then she isn’t friendzoning you.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/21 01:41 AM
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Neither. If you are looking for serious then start dating seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/21 01:37 AM
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You did have help, and father quality is luck of the draw. However: 1) I’ve had waaaaay too many clients come across my desk who had 90k jobs handed to them by dad right out of college, free rent and food, unearned access to the top of the middle- and still somehow managed to fuck it up. It’s always partially you. 2) Who you choose to surround yourself with is choice. If an adult has NO help then that’s on them for not surrounding them self with people who will kick their ass as needed.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/21 02:26 PM
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But you see how this: But I did spend a time after dropping out of college living at home and playing games because I was bummed out and has no damned idea what I was gonna do in life. is wildly different than being in trade school actively working towards something. Unless you live in an insanely expensive city 36k is not below a living wage. And that's your apprentice wage, you will make more as you get more qualified. I don't know you so I don't know if you have other issues, but as you descr…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/21 05:30 PM
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To clarify, I meant only promiscuous women out of the subset of women. Obviously sexually successful men can give good hookup advice. If you don’t know her well enough to know that you shouldn’t be asking. But since you’re trying to get hookup advice you shouldn’t be asking for dating advice anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/21 06:52 PM
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It really depends on how many complications you have. For my first I had no warning of complications and ended up with an emergency C Section, NICU, and PPD. You will get back into things slowly, picking more things back up as you go. I can’t give you a time frame because I don’t know how long you personally will take to heal. You could have a completely uncomplicated birth and a baby who takes long naps. Prioritize what needs to be done. You need clean clothes and baby needs to be fed. You don’…
/r/RedPillWives13/03/21 06:04 PM
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Are y’all asking sluts that you actually know, or walking up to a random slut and asking? You either need total anonymity or a friendship to get honest answers about taboo topics.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/21 04:50 PM
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Only promiscuous women can give men good hookup advice. Only happily married women can give men good dating advice. 99% of the problem is that you go to women asking for dating advice, get dating advice, then get mad. It’s like going to a car lot, asking to see vans, secretly wanting to see trucks, then getting mad when they show you vans.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/21 04:07 PM
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Even if you make the exact same amount, you’re going to take a hit if you breakup because every bill isn’t doubled for two people. Financial disparities and even SAHP are fine, as long as you provide SOMETHING. OP’s post originally described someone providing nothing before he edited it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/21 03:53 PM
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But that is what I meant, household chores and taking care of the kids if she needs to focus on her career. This completely changes the scenario and yes there are women that would have a SAHD. Your unedited post described a bum, not a SAHD.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/21 04:17 AM
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What if he isn't earning a livable wage because he is still in school and can only work part time? Then good thing I said this: Unless we were very young and he was actively working towards something. And your objection conflicts with the fact that you said this: For example would you date, or give a man a chance, if he only finished high school and maybe some college but who latter dropped out, and who works a job that doesn't pay a true livable wage but who otherwise takes care of himself, You…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/21 04:06 AM
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Another “but why I gotta have a job though? I’m already not a serial killer” thread. The options aren’t CEO or minimum wage forever. If his job “doesn’t pay a true livable wage” then how exactly is he “tak[ing] care of himself”? My husband makes less than I was before I got married. That is highly unlikely to change. At a certain point you’re pricing yourself out of the market. I wouldn’t have married an adult who was working a teenage job. Unless we were very young and he was actively working t…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/21 02:28 AM
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There are women who will have children for someone without a relationship and and without 18 years of payments. They’re called surrogates and they get paid upfront.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/21 04:05 AM
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Yeah
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/21 05:18 AM
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This is relevant because female bc has no dangerous side effects.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/21 03:51 AM
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This has existed for awhile. The FDA just refuses to approve it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/21 03:42 AM
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Little bit of both. Lying to herself and there are guys who see through that bs. No one is on Tinder to find friends. FWBs maybe.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/21 01:11 AM
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It would suggest that people lie.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/21 03:19 PM
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This just sounds like a marriage to me. I’d call this a marriage and find it weird to call it anything else. IMO you should decide whether or not to invite the State based on whether you’d get legal benefits or legal detriments as a couple. If you don’t want to get married then don’t. And maybe don’t date people who do. If you’re in the West no one is making you get married. The ACTUAL problem you’re having is that you want to misrepresent what you want then somehow magically keep the other pers…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/21 08:51 PM
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First of all, get tested. Second, there is a happy medium between staying with someone who refuses to stop cheating and refuses to stop putting your health at risk, and going out and being a hoe. Leaving him does not mean go out and sleep with as many guys as possible. In fact, I think you should take a big long break before dating. You are not ready to commit to another man so you shouldn't be interviewing them.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/21 07:24 PM
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Depends on how you define clean. Is it a mess? No. Is it as clean as it would be if only an adult lived here? Also no. Do you have a room that the toddler could be put in by themselves while you cook/mop/etc? When they're small playpens can be used. Once they're too big for that it helps if there is someplace safe you can put them while cooking etc. Obviously this would be for very short periods. In general most things will be done. There will also be shitty days where nothing gets done. I like …
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/21 07:06 PM
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Casual sex usually involves dishonesty. Not always, but usually.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/21 01:27 AM
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That applies if you’re looking to be dishonest. Don’t ask women how to lead on women- duh. If you are honestly articulataing your goal you can ask someone who was looking for it what they were looking for and how.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/21 12:51 AM
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Son: Highschool: Use this time to learn valuable general information and decide what career you want to pursue. Start a side business in that career if possible, or begin to learn with someone in that career if not possible. Have a healthy social life that includes hobbies and ACTUAL friends. If interested in dating at this age then pick girls for qualities and values. Don't date anyone that you wouldn't consider marrying. Do NOT have sex with anyone that you wouldn't be ok having a kid with, if…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/21 11:17 PM
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First you need to identify your goal. Then ask women who have achieved that goal and men who “are?” that goal.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/21 08:53 PM
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So... someone who isn't your bf is talking to another girl. I don't see a reason to be bothered. If no exes is a boundary for you and he is willing to drop the ex then there is no incompatibility on this issue.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/21 07:30 PM
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Since you’re not talking to your dad about it, this sounds like a single mom. Why in the fuck would you take dating advice from a single mom?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/21 01:33 PM
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Seems like you hang out with shittier than average women. This is middle school level bs.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/21 02:53 PM
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No it’s not just that simple. You have to get a guy with compatible values and goals. Which is why I specified LOOKING for a guy start when you’re young.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/21 12:04 AM
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But if you live in the same town you just look ridiculous standing in front of someone else's car to take a picture. And even if someone is actually honest, its generally accepted that we don't put negative stuff "out there" unnecessarily so you are only getting one side of life.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/21 08:17 PM
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And not only that but it is a FALSE view of more men, which you would be immediately disabused of if you actually were in the vicinity of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/21 07:56 PM
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34 4, including my husband
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/21 07:26 PM
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You can't choose not to be over 30, but you can to choose to start looking before 30. You can choose to not be overweight in 99.9999% of circumstances. So this is judging us on behaviors, not on things we can't control like them being tall or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/21 07:25 PM
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Can confirm. I actually believed that I didn't care about looks, within reason. Then I noticed that I perceived a few guys as taller after I got to know them and liked them. Since people that age didn't grow taller, there's only one possible conclusion.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/21 07:23 PM
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Maybe. I can’t take estrogen so I have exactly one option. Just seems like a lot of trouble just to make sure consequence free sex is available.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/21 01:16 PM
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We really need to quit taking that shit. I was on the mini pill for a few years because the dr told me it would solve various issues. Turns out it mostly masks them. It was HELL coming off.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/21 01:02 PM
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I’d question someone who kept having sex with a crying person. If you’re all around the same age then hopefully the guy’s drive would also decline and it’s more personality of your friends than universal.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/21 05:29 AM
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No I haven’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/21 05:25 AM
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But.. that's a good way to relieve stress though.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/21 04:49 AM
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I don't understand feeling this way at a guy you are in a relationship with. Is this meant to be something that's only pill induced? I have never been on the combo pill. I've never felt repulsed or threatened by sex with my now husband (only relationship). If I want to have sex with someone then I always want that. I might want something more in the moment or be busy or tired, but I never DON'T want to sleep with them. Its not like I walk around all the time suppressing urges, but everything you…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/21 04:48 AM
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That's true. At the same time, his quality of life at home is dependent on me. Because I don't screw up he has meals done, clothes washed, doesn't have to coordinate child care, house clean, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/21 11:21 PM
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I wouldn't even say we earn a lot. He's not sitting here telling me I can't buy name brand soap or whatever. Even if you both make money, hopefully there are compromises. Even if you're single, there are limitations. You do not make infinity money and you need to pay the bills first. Its more of a budget, but for both of us. We don't call each other about $2 over, but if you want a particular pricey item we'd have to see if we have the money for it. I don't consider that to be a limitation impos…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/21 10:41 PM
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If that's the case you married someone who not only doesn't care about you, they don't care about their kids. If they die under insured then that fucks the kids too. You also are entering a partnership and should pick someone who realized they are entering a partnership. Its not he does whatever the fuck he wants and you deal with it. Its he fulfills one role and you fulfill the other. If a guy doesn't WANT a SAHM then don't marry him if your goal is to be a SAHM. I think you're superimposing th…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/21 09:33 PM
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Do they realize that being married won’t stop you from aging? And if men married you primarily based on superficial things, how long will your marriage last? They tend to recommend marrying someone who is also tradcon, no? You're still vetting the guy for values, and in the intact society your parents would be helping vet. The idea of a guy fucking every third girl in a bar then waltzing into a church at 40 when he tires of it to marry an 18 year old virgin is a delusional myth. There nothing wr…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/21 09:16 PM
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A Beautiful Mind addressed this and I agree. It’s not worth fighting for.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/21 03:04 PM
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It’s an interview process for the actual commitment.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/21 03:02 PM
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Its kind of like it doesn't matter how much your house is worth if you're planning on living in it. If you're not trying to get married again then it doesn't matter what your SMV is. If you are trying to get married again then something has gone horribly wrong. Its only use is to get you married so not getting married for the sake of maintaining your marriage value makes no sense.
/r/RedPillWives02/03/21 10:44 PM
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nd any man who agrees to take you on many dates and go as far as entering an Relationship with you without ever having sex is a beta male you will lose attraction for sooner than later anyway Isn't an alpha male a guy who fucks as many women as possible and doesn't want to settle down? So why would we give a fuck what he thinks? Having sex outside of a relationship is a good way to... get laid. Waiting for a relationship is a good way to get a relationship. If a guy isn't expressing interest- by…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/21 10:05 PM
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Unless you’re widowed you aren’t REALLY single as a single dad. There’s some other woman who gets to make choices in your life by virtue of the fact that you fucked her. Too close to poly for me. Except you aren’t even an equal poly partner. That’s aside from the fact that you now have some other woman’s kid.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/21 12:49 AM
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Let’s split the difference and both be reasonable.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/21 08:02 AM
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Oh my fucking god. Yes, as a middle aged person you need a job and at least acquaintances. Holy fuck. That bar is so low if it ever gets dug up they’ll think it’s a fossil.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/21 11:07 PM
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The comment I responded to was about friends and siblings raising your kids with you. If relatives adopt a child because the parents die or something that's basically parents. If a single mom lives with grandma that sounds more like a single mom. You being a single mom and living with your friend is definitely being a single mom.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/21 03:27 AM
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Adoption is a totally different thing (though it’s not for me). It’s still their kid. My nieces and nephews are no more my kids than the kids next door. If there are two CONSISTENT parents then that might be good enough. I’m not aware of any data on that issue. All available data shows that single parents lead to worse outcomes.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/21 01:54 AM
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👌
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/21 12:32 AM
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More like a person shouldn’t date a partner who’s had excessive sex partners. The same thing that would make you want to sleep with 100 people is the same thing that would make you want to cheat.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/21 12:22 AM
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Because I’ll never care about my friend’s kid as much as my own. And because when there’s a parent missing, there’s abandonment issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/21 12:19 AM
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Is it fatalistic? No. Is it a bad bet? Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/21 12:17 AM
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Pick one: jail, mental illness, drug abuse... Pick a metric- they’re fucked. No demographic is universal. There’s some 42 year old out there with a n could of 100 who will be loyal and bare 3 kids. Doesn’t mean that’s what you should aim for.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/21 11:48 PM
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Every stat available. Children of single mothers do worse than children in intact families by every possible metric.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/21 11:21 PM
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lol no. If he can only contribute $200 a month and that’s it then he has no business impregnating anyone and no one has any business getting pregnant by him. That’s the solution, not take what you can get. I wouldn’t rent a room for $200/month. It’s literally not worth dealing with another human for that amount. Especially an adult who can only manage to make $1.25/hour.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/21 10:40 PM
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You don’t get to fuck over kids because you want to AND avoid judgment. If you can’t find anyone decent, then you’re doing something wrong. And so yes you need to stay childless until you either improve or forever.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/21 10:36 PM
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It’s not insanely expensive. About $120/month each but expires in 20 years. By then the kids will be grown so we won’t need anywhere near that much. I’m saying this to point out that you don’t have to be insanely wealthy to get this. Stable, yes. Wealthy, no.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/21 08:58 PM
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A little over a million.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/21 08:48 PM
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How long have you been doing it? Roughly two years. Do you feel respected by your partner? Yes definitely. And I wouldn't have married someone who didn't WANT their wife to be a SAHM. Are you given enough money to get what you need? He doesn't like give me an allowance. We have a joint checking account. There are a few things that are only in my name or only in his name but that is for legal reasons only and I have access to everything. I actually manage the money. Its not a free for all spend w…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/21 08:44 PM
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An actual job takes up a lot of time too.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/21 02:29 AM
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Yep, meeting people at the right locations is huge - COVID has made that tougher and I'm in Silicon Valley so there's like 10,000x more single guys than girls. Ugh. We ignore the lockdown so sometimes I forget about it. Are you able to travel at all? Are there any real life events that now have virtual versions of themselves. I suspect this will be more useful than what most people use as a hookup app. For the duration of the lockdown you may have to ignore my advise about dating apps. Maybe put…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/21 02:12 AM
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I’m a SAHM. I do all the housework. (I also do the books for the business.) Only exception is if I physically can’t do it. When I’m preggers I’m too heavy for our ladder. I’m likely going to need surgery again and won’t be able to stand long for 4-6 weeks. Stuff like that. I don’t see how you can expect someone to do all of one job and half of another job while you do half of the other job and nothing else.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/21 11:10 PM
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And I say this as someone who met my husband on a dating site: get off the dating sites. The difference is I was a 28 year old with student debt. You’re a top 20% 20s, presumably this means you have a career or prospects if you’re still in training. (If not you’re not too 20% for marriage.) You’re young enough to meet people irl. And your problems sound to me that they stem from where you’re looking. Where would the type of woman you want be? Find a reason to be there. Church, social events, hob…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/21 11:02 PM
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Librarians and social workers. So low paying jobs. Idk how much bank investigators make. Therapists run the gambit as I understand it. So we’re talking at least half low paying jobs. You can do much better if you don’t have kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/21 09:32 PM
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Someone’s career is going to take priority. Someone is going to be the one calling in for sick kids and not staying late or hopping on planes to care for the kids. Being pregnant and taking weeks off at a time is, guess what? Bad for your career.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/21 09:12 PM
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What is your goal and age?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/21 09:10 PM
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If you surround yourself with people of integrity, or are lucky enough to be born into a society with integrity, then having your contract public will have consequences for the person who breaks it. Otherwise the guy could claim he never married you, so he doesn't know why you're claiming that you sacrificed your career for his or are saying that this kid is yours.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/21 08:18 PM
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Its about accountability. It avoids a he-said-she-said situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/21 08:10 PM
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It can be religious/spiritual/whatever you’re into. Marriage is saying publicly that you’ll stick around. If they won’t do that you shouldn’t let them impregnate you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/21 07:00 PM
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If someone is literally telling you that they won’t stick around and want the option to leave at any time, then it is fucking stupid to have kids with them. If you don’t want kids then this is all a non issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/21 06:50 PM
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People do fucking stupid shit all the time. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/21 06:13 PM
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That’s the point, yes. If you don’t want commitment don’t get married. If you want commitment get married. This isn’t news. If you don’t have anything going on that requires relying on the relationship (kids) then I don’t see the point. But for by people who DO want to do something that would require drastically changing their position (kids) then it doesn’t make sense to do that without relying on the relationship to continue to be there. At least in the West, no one is forced to get married or…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/21 06:05 PM
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There is no good reason for a woman to get with a man who earns less. Either she wants to have an egalitarian relationship, in which case why the fuck would you not have to carry your weight, or she wants a traditional relationship in which case the thought proxy is if she can do it so can you and she will be reluctant to take a pay cut just because you chose not to apply yourself. A woman making more does not cause you to make less. A woman being taller does prevent you from being as much talle…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/21 03:35 PM
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Its still a choice, particularly on the part of women. Its not something that you just can't control. It isn't true that it is impossible to raise kids well on a single income.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/21 09:48 PM
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If she’s staying home anyway she can homeschool. Or do an online program that costs waaaaay less than a subdivision house. You can still get extracurriculars and socialization other places.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/21 08:55 PM
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Most people don’t understand BASIC economics, no. The women having children now are not the women who changed the rules. Those hoes are dead. The women now turn 18 and getting a job is how you not die so that’s what they do. Most people can afford to have one spouse stay home. They can’t afford to have one spouse stay home AND middle class luxuries.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/21 03:53 PM
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Nothing about this is going to get you commitment. This is more advice how not to get kicked out a store or how not to land in the HR office.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/21 11:02 PM
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3) Fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/21 05:29 AM
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Do you plan on being a SAHM? If so medicine and law are worse than worthless. I'll be paying that back after I'm dead. Its better to waste 4 years than 6, 8 or 10 years.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/21 04:23 AM
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1) makes sense at least. You had to fuck up a lot to get to that point though. 2) Um, people age. We need to quit being surprised by this. 3) Seems expensive for a flirt. 4) If you need variety then don’t enter a monogamous relationship. Since the original question included guys who are just dating this makes NO sense on their parts as they can easily just leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/21 04:13 AM
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Unless they have an open relationship I don’t see how this isn’t cheating. I understand there’s no touching but it seems too “interactive” to say it’s just porn or not personal. I really only feel a need to feel any kind of way about it if it’s a guy I’m interested in, which is no longer an issue for me as I’m married. It strikes me as weird as you have a perfectly good naked woman at home so why are you paying for a second that you can’t even do anything with?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/21 03:16 AM
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Me “If you don’t want a dog I really don’t see the point of buying a dog bed.” You “You can have a dog without a dog bed. Happens all the time.”
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/21 03:29 AM
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If you don’t want kids then I don’t really see the point to marrying.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/21 01:04 AM
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I meant the "victim" has to have a lack of intelligence.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 09:34 PM
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1) Have I ever been sent stupid messages? Yes? Did I meet up, send them money, etc? No. If I had met someone who was not as represented I would leave as they can’t be trusted. Closest I’ve come is guys claiming to want a relationship and you meet and they obviously just want sex. So I peace out. I’ve never bothered to meet guys who made ridiculous claims like making 3 mil a year in the military and if you ask for money you’re blocked. 2) No. Desperation and lack of intelligence cause a successfu…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 03:06 PM
1

So if they aren’t accepted anyway then they aren’t losing anything. If female acceptance was just as important to them they wouldn’t be acting this way. It’s mot like they don’t know that they’re insulting other women.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/21 03:07 AM
3

Being able to just Google health information is a relatively new option. And I've never heard it talked about in casual conversation. If you don't know that declining fertility is a thing- I think most people vaguely know you can't have kids at 50- then you have nothing to go Google. I happened to be talking to someone who happened to be a "midwife" about dating and said I had time. They told me in fact I did not because of declining fertility. THEN I looked into it as I had no idea. I saw an OB…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/21 06:05 PM
0

But many many women THINK they have a career. So their attitude is the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/21 12:19 PM
6

so I’ve suggested going places together multiple times but he’s never taken me up on the offer. Is this "we should hang out sometime" or "we should hang out at x on x day"? Tell the mutual friend that you like him too.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/21 04:37 AM
1

Make the relationship and your life more than just your constant desire to settle. No. This is the only reason the relationship exists. There's nothing more to make it about. Now, if that particular man doesn't want to commit to you then move along. When you realize that a man you're considering doesn't want to commit to you, move along. If after a reasonable amount of time a man doesn't bring up commitment, move along. There's nothing more to the relationship though. For the same reason you sho…
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/21 07:36 PM
9

I'm a woman so it doesn't matter what I think about pick mes. I'm not the customer they're going after. From your description this is obnoxious, but self solving as I don't think men will commit to these women and if they do then they'll be miserable together. From how I've seen pick me used is any woman who does anything to make herself attractive to potential partners. Basically any women who communicates that she can pull her own weight/brings something to the table. In this usage women defin…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/21 07:28 PM
1

There's nothing you can do to "un-attract" low quality people. That's trying to control the thoughts of other people. You can ignore them, reject them, or in extreme cases create incentives for people to stay the fuck in their lane. I'm NOT advocating being a bitch to reasonable approaches or a guy who's only a little below you. But since there is absolutely no harm in "trying" unless we create it, I think its appropriate in extreme situations. For example, if you are a low n count 22 year old w…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/21 07:17 PM
3

It is absolutely something that should be obsessed over in context. Where we're coming from is a place where people had NO IDEA what to even look for in a spouse. The ones that went and asked for advise were told stupid shit like "it'll feel right and you'll know." So we are in the unfortunate place of having to teach adults how to look for a spouse. Vetting does not 100% guarantee you success and it sure as hell does not guarantee that you will never experience a breakup. It really is the bare …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/21 02:00 AM
2

Trusting someone does not involve trusting them to do something that they HAVEN'T said that they'll do. The fact that it is POSSIBLE to leave anyway is where the trust comes in.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/21 01:56 AM
2

If "sexual compatibility" exists, it can only be found out by sleeping with them. I'm not sure it exists. Everything else is easy if you know what you're doing. Sometimes you can talk to them before dating, but not always. Most people date for at least a little while before entering a relationship- use that time to discuss compatibility. And you're supposed to fully vet before MARRYING them, so you might end up with some failed relationships. The relationship is/should be part of vetting. There'…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/21 01:52 AM
6

But, if we're being honest, compatibility, value-alignment, and other high-level vetting criteria are not the primary drivers of who people end up dating, at least when they're young. Yes, that's the complaint. The proposition is to do vetting instead of this.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/21 01:35 AM
7

K. Go talk to them about it. There they are-
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/21 12:09 AM
0

K. Ask them why they want marriage then.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/21 11:53 PM
9

Did I say that? I said if the guy won't even SAY that he's sticking around then you're retarded for getting pregnant by him. Other levels of commitment and their corresponding mental health are open for discussion.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/21 11:51 PM
4

To stick around? In a "traditional" marriage you're also agreeing to have kids and upkeep the household.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/21 11:28 PM
15

Marriage is my husband agreeing that he's going to stick around. If he can't even SAY that he'll stay, then it would be immensely stupid to have kids with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/21 10:58 PM
2

They’re picky because they can be.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/21 10:11 PM
2

If women wanted casual sex as much as men then the average man would be able to get regular casual sex. There is no reason for women who do want it to lower their standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/21 09:54 PM
3

Up to twice? I don’t think that satisfies the demand. This the disparity.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/21 09:17 PM
8

I have zero problem with being friends with ex’s. That said friends don’t fuck, want to fuck, or express gratitude for a past fuck. The question is: Is this platonic?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/21 07:34 PM
3

Very few men are going to this party on a regular basis.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/21 07:27 PM
3

The OP was about dating. My comment was about dating. You made responses that seemed implausible if about dating. So I did the same thing and asked you to clarify. Your career is mostly irrelevant to hooking up. Why would it matter? They won’t be around for it. More men want to hook up than women. So the majority of women get to share the top of looks in men. Because that’s what the hookup market dictates. If you don’t like it you can enter the prostitution market.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/21 07:26 PM
1

Dating or hooking up?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/21 05:50 PM
15

Effort dictates more for looks for appearance. Value in men is more than appearance. Behavior and career are almost entirely effort based and will mean more for men’s value than women’s. I do not believe that a 5’6 guy with everything else going for him can not get a quality woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/21 05:35 PM
5

Yes, that’s how value works.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/21 05:31 PM
46

Yes, wanting a slim person in an obese country is high standards. Because the world is what it is, not what you wish it to be. If you yourself are high value you should be able to fulfill your high standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/21 04:34 PM
0

Those are called friendships. If you want to build a life with someone you both have to bring something to the table.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/21 08:53 PM
4

It's not saying they are smarter. If there was a sub on asking advise for wiring your house there would presumably be no answers allowed from people who aren't electricians. This is a sub for women looking to get married. If you're not a woman looking to get married, a woman who succeeded in getting married, or a guy who married them, then you have no relevant experience.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/21 06:06 PM
7

Don’t ever date un seriously. I see no downside to looking now. If there’s no serious guys then do something else with your time. If there are, then date one.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/21 03:48 PM
-3

It also gives you tens of thousands in debt that doesn’t exactly raise your SMV.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/21 03:23 PM
2

There are points to be made for allowing half of a committed AKA married couple to have a say in decisions. If you didn't buy on you should get zero say, and zero money.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/21 07:19 PM
3

If there’s a failure rate it becomes more likely the higher the number.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/21 07:38 PM
1

How is this relevant/possible to avoid? If the guy has a high number the odds go up that he impregnated some women who decided to wait years to tell him. That’s unavoidable. I don’t get how this possibly makes him trashy, assuming the original n count doesn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/21 07:08 PM
17

Common behavior can be concerning.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/21 07:02 PM
5

Depends on age to some extent but less than 10. Ideally less than 5. If you’re #3 to a 27 year old that seems reasonable. If you’re #3 to an 18 year old that’s concerning.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/21 06:35 PM
9

The higher his number is the greater the chance a baby mama shows up at your door years from now.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/21 06:27 PM
1

I'm open to one year being wrong. It should be the amount of time that it takes to decide whether to marry someone and no longer. Not sure how switching genders would be adopting traditional roles? What did you even mean buy traditional roles then, if not based on gender?? One person is primarily responsible for maintaining a career, and the other persons is primarily responsible for managing the household/childcare.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/21 04:34 AM
2

No? Nor would I go on interviews that I didn’t want the job for, apply for loans I didn’t want/need, stand in lines with nothing to buy, etc. Because why would I? People you just want to have fun with and don’t want to join you life with- those are called friends or acquaintances. Some people fuck their friends. I wouldn’t recommend it. This doesn’t prove the Vlogger’s point either as I’ve only slept with one guy I didn’t want a future with and it took a massive amount of drugs.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/21 11:18 PM
3

At an absolute minimum, divorce means the kids live in two different places now. This sounds like an absolute pain in the ass even as an adult. Which home am I going to today after school? Have to make sure all your shit is at the house you're going to be going to. Enough clothes in both places, school books/projects in the appropriate place, etc. And as an adult- I can leave stuff in my car or just... drive back to pick something up if I forget it. And that's WITHOUT surprises of "oops, no not …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/21 04:10 PM
1

Its too short because people don't start actually getting to know each other or vetting until several years in. If you just DO it, then it doesn't take that long. I'm willing to be flexible on the timeline, but the point is you date them to find something out. People date for 8, 9, 10 years and that's just fucking around. Adopt traditional roles. But why? Just because someone has a dick doesn’t mean they are the best person to make money, and just because someone has a vagina doesn’t mean they a…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/21 03:56 PM
1

My problem with egalitarian relationships is that they are inefficient. If you both stay home with a sick kid 50/50, then neither person is giving their all to a career, which has financial implications. You pretty much have to have two people half assing a career and half assing taking care of the household to have an egalitarian relationship. If you agree to not have kids (and agreeing one way or the other should happen VERY early on and prior to marriage) then the refusal to have kids wouldn'…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/21 03:44 PM
2

Being engaged for 6 years is fucking around. Either get married or leave. If you know they are/were abusive, not inclined to believe court records, then you shouldn’t be with them in the first place. I’m not sure what the point of this question is supposed to be. “But what if their end goal isn’t marriage?” It is here because in the magical OP I get to make up people’s behavior. If you’re actually committed then you shouldn’t have a problem announcing it. If you don’t want to involve the State t…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/21 03:56 AM
0

Because at some point you need to shit or get off the pot. It doesn’t take years and years to get someone. At that point you’re just fucking around. I’m less worried about “omg he cooked dinner tonight” and more worried about overarching roles. Someone’s main role is produce income. If the other wants to sell brackets on Etsy, whatever. As long as they don’t neglect THEIR role and aren’t expected to provide financial support. The other person’s role should be childcare and home management. If th…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/21 01:41 AM
1

I wouldn’t. It’s rare to develop an addiction as an adult. And if you’re not functional you’ll probably fall into another category. I’m reluctant to treat mental illness differently than physical illness, for similar reasons. Maybe undisclosed of either and there can be some sort of standard marriage questions prior to the ceremony.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/21 12:25 AM
2

Yes, I addressed that.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/21 12:05 AM
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Premarital sex only gives risk and opportunity to be less than honest- stop it. You can get most of the same effect by yourself with NONE of the risk. The risk of sex being casual on the part of one party is too great, so fuck it we'll just have to go back to the original system. Only date seriously. Start serious from the beginning. Ask RELEVANT questions. Only date once you know what you are looking for. Talk enough about the serious stuff to see if you are compatible. If you aren't, then move…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/21 11:52 PM
2

So you’re with him at least half the time. You’re good. He still needs to hang with friends/sleep/clean.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/21 12:06 AM
2

How much time are you spending together? Is it all/most of his free time?
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/21 08:20 PM
5

During the workday, he should be working. I wouldn’t expect a response quickly and tbh if I know he’s at work I wouldn’t be texting him unless it was somehow urgent. If he’s off and he’s taking an hour to reply each time then he’s not interested.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/21 07:54 PM
10

Depends on their situation. Do they work 40 hours and that’s it? They have time to text every day. Are they a pediatric surgeon who works 60 hours a week? Maybe a call a week. With my now husband we texted every day and called on the days that our schedules overlapped which was 2-3 days a week. We met once a week- he lived an hour away. The main thing is: are you being treated as a priority? If he wants you, or wants to explore whether he wants you, you will know. If you are treated as entertain…
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/21 06:46 PM
36

Aka: should you allow a guy to come back after trying out other options? No.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/21 01:17 AM
2

The divorced stat is inexplicable to me. Married makes sense. Married men have someone at home, or someone neglecting their own job to run home, to take care of things so they can spend more time focusing on their career. Also some men wait until they are at a certain point to get married and me making shit are less likely to marry.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/21 05:29 AM
0

If OP can do better then necessarily other women will do worse. Unless there’s a sudden major gender disparity in the population I’m unaware of.
/r/RedPillWives30/01/21 12:34 AM
1

It’s an accurate way to think. People need to realistically assess their options. OP was wildly underestimating hers.
/r/RedPillWives30/01/21 12:23 AM
9

Yes it’s sexist. But no one cares. It benefits men looking for easy women. The women are allegedly at least 21 and should know what’s up.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/21 02:12 AM
2

It’s not naive. Never assume nativity where malice is fucking obvious. While there ARE men who never try to state their intentions and just act like a friend, and there ARE men who get outright rejected then bitch about being friend zoned when in fact they were rejected, it is ALSO the case that the friend zone exists. Incessantly dropping (dishonest) hints while refusing to reject someone, sometimes even going so far as to interfere with an honest statement of intentions “let’s talk about it in…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/21 06:03 PM
1

Out of 10, 5 is average. You are letting this get to you way too much.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/21 04:30 AM
2

Guys have decline in fertility and increase in abnormalities just like women but at an older age. I don’t know what the internal pressures are or if your bodies let you know that like ours do. But IF you want kids you would be well advised to not wait until you’re nearing the end of healthy sperm to find their mom. Unless you are 10/10 rich you won’t be able to pull off a much younger woman. And even then is that what you want as the mom? As always, remember you should have much different standa…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/21 04:16 PM
2

They usually have other issues going on.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/21 02:13 AM
4

Even if they weren’t they would be for fucking shit guys. It’s a weird question. It’s like asking “who’s responsible for a robbery, the guy with the gun or the getaway driver?” Uh, both.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/21 02:08 AM
7

It’s men’s fault for being shit. It’s women’s fault for fucking shit guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/21 12:59 AM
6

Go where the people you want are. Join professional networking groups. When college opens up talk to women there. Join general business groups. There's usually a young people entraneaur group in any given city.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/21 10:49 PM
5

I wouldn't have dated you because I wanted kids, but plenty of women prioritize their career and I don't see why you're having trouble finding one. Where are you looking? Are you still in college? Are you in any professional organizations?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/21 10:09 PM
8

So you just want an equal relationship with no kids? That should be easy to find. Are you in a very conservative area?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/21 10:04 PM
14

Two issues: 1) Leftist women tend to be complete assholes about this type of thing. They spend all their time trying to overthrow existing societal structures, but THEY want a masculine man, intact family, etc. Its fucking annoying and I don't even want a woman. 2) So you don't want the provider role- cool. You don't want to be a SAHD- cool. You date women who are much more successful than you...- cool. What IS your role then? You don't want the traditional role, you don't want the opposite role…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/21 09:51 PM
3

The government is not going to provide you with a school that causes healthy development. Get a husband, raise your kids yourself, socialize them around other people of both genders.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/21 04:38 PM
4

Should people put less emphasis on getting the job and more emphasis on the interview? If your goal is to marry then relationships that end have negative value.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/21 10:50 PM
4

Its pointless if your goal is to get married. Its not pointless if your goal is to fuck around. Telling someone they shouldn't have a goal that they have is futile.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/21 08:57 PM
6

These are not deformities. The point was, that unless you have absolutely shit SMV you can do better than an active drug addict.
/r/RedPillWives19/01/21 07:07 PM
14

Nope. You marry a partner, not a project. You raise your kids, not your spouse. He won't say that he'll never do coke again. That's a nope right there. Smoking weed almost everyday gets in the way of life. He's too old for this to be a phase. I don't really feel qualified to know how much his health issues will interfere with his life. "Chubby" can mean many things. 5 pounds over ideal BMI, eh whatever, 400 pounds, no. You're 21. Unless you're a single mom, sterile, or deformed you can do better…
/r/RedPillWives19/01/21 05:30 AM
2

I really think this depends on geography. Different areas have different average ages of marriages. (First marriage, which is the only one that matters.) I don't consider someone who didn't date/fuck around to be a red flag. Where I'm from, if you didn't get engaged by like 17 you were screwed. As I wasn't free to be around people until I was 18 I was screwed. Where I moved to, people married later and did NOT have multiple baby mamas by the time they were 25. Its really better to do it as early…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/21 04:37 AM
3

All (within sanity) relationships can be of love. People have proven themselves perfectly willing to fuck over their kids because they aren’t feeling it anymore or other such bullshit. So I have to assume that some stay because they want to. If your problem is additional motives then that applies in entirely equal relationships as well. You can support a higher standard of living for two people on 100k than you can for one person on 50k. Only a relationship without children can be 100% equal. Ei…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/21 07:35 PM
2

If they still live together the move along regardless.
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/21 06:31 AM
20

Clearly you don’t feel bad because you’re doing it. In that case, feel concerned that you’re entertaining women who are willing to cheat.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/21 06:29 AM
6

Should? If people gaf about should none of these subs would even exist. The fact is that most people aren't middle class, especially young women, or young anybody, which is who men are trying to fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/21 09:57 PM
1

I have a 1 year old and a fetus. If I NEVER left him in his room I'd never cook, sweep, or use the restroom. We're not talking about throwing them in the house and going on a cruise. We're talking about going into the next room.
/r/RedPillWives14/01/21 09:52 PM
-2

Well, it depends. If you have the ability to make 100k then going and getting knocked up to collect Section 8 and food stamps is a bad deal. Plenty of women are in a position where they are too lazy or too incapable of making decent money, or they believe so and really that's just as good. https://www.forbes.com/sites/timworstall/2015/05/04/the-average-us-welfare-payment-puts-you-in-the-top-20-of-all-income-earners/?sh=1efec89a316f $168 per day. That's $21 hour with no taxes, if you work only 40…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/21 09:51 PM
6

Most women (people) aren't middle class.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/21 09:39 PM
1

Does the government paying women to fuck increase the amount of non commital fucking? Uh, yes. The top men don’t have to pick A woman because the State will continue to pay women to fuck them without commitment. So they are always available, at least to women who would be wanted, thus screwing over all other men. It takes almost all risk away from women fucking randoms. Society and nature have tried their damnest to deter men from random fucking- AIDS, child support, jail at one point. It can’t …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/21 09:31 PM
2

Doesn’t matter. Fucking randoms becomes a much riskier proposition when there’s no one there to pick up the tab when shit goes wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/21 09:12 PM
5

And, it’s not just that she agreed to it. She’s getting the fair trade off- she takes care of the kids and house, he brings the resources. He IS filling the male role.
/r/RedPillWives14/01/21 02:12 PM
5

Well we don’t have any other option to talk alone You don't? Your house is completely open concept and has no rooms/walls? Suggest a time when you can leave the kids in their room/go in your room. Take some chairs to the shed. There are plenty of options. Talking to the person who you are in a relationship with is part of being in a relationship, not an "extra" that you can opt out of.
/r/RedPillWives14/01/21 06:10 AM
18

This isn’t a just him problem. He shouldn’t be telling your toddler about his issues and that’s the only place I’m willing to say he’s 100% in the wrong. If he has childhood trauma he needs to see a therapist. That doesn’t mean you never have to talk to him. Talking to your wife isn’t un masculine. If you need to discuss alternatives to bedtime that’s fine but in public with the kids isn’t a fair alternative, which is what you offered. I can’t see him as the bad guy in the shed example. You went…
/r/RedPillWives14/01/21 01:55 AM
2

Yes this.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/21 03:25 AM
2

Better set that alarm then.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/21 07:08 PM
4

Go join a club, group, hobby, get on meetup.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/21 07:08 PM
3

Social gatherings where the type of woman you want is likely to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/21 06:03 PM
3

If men are not fucking due to a lack of supply either it’s a lack of women who are dtf or they’re gay.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/21 01:02 PM
4

I guess but in different ways- because men and women have different “purposes.” Though guys would still have a difficult time being sluts due to lack of supply.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/21 05:58 AM
8

If you are responsible for your daughter until you can get a guy to take over then you will want to maintain her SMV. And you sure as hell won't want to be responsible for whatever random babies she comes home with. As a guy who fucks around, if you knocked someone up, you'd be facing another angry man, not a wobbly pregnant woman. So the incentive structures are different.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/21 04:47 AM
16

Nopity nope nope. First of all, you more than likely have a baby mama hanging around. People who share kids with ex’s aren’t REALLY single. Then that’s one less kid I can have. I have to put in the work for no recognition. And I’m not ever go to love some ex’s kid like my own. There will be a clear disparity when I have my own which isn’t good for anyone. If a guy has a kid with someone he didn’t stay with, why THE FUCK would I trust him.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/21 01:12 AM
2

The OP was about vetting so I didn’t discuss single living....
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/21 12:29 AM
2

Going on about how something can’t be done right if you aren’t born into it is justifying not doing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/21 12:20 AM
2

You can determine someone’s character without them living on the same land as their great <sup>23</sup> grandfather. Even if that would be preferred. This is just justifying laziness.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/21 11:49 PM
21

Are they? Or do men ignore obvious shit to get fucked? Are there swarms of men being tricked where their friends who weren’t sticky their dick in it didn’t warn them? Or do they just not care so much? (Same with women.)
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/21 11:47 PM
5

No one knows a single person for generations anyway. You need them to have ties to people who can show stability and vouch for them, not ties to land. If someone has no family, no friends, job history of jumping around, no long term acquaintances, no social organizations, no nothing- that’s suspicious. If someone has to get a job aka live in a city I don’t see a reason to hold that against them. What’s the alternative? Show up to a random rural area and demand a spouse? I presume the rural peopl…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/21 11:44 PM
3

Uh, no. Decent adults still have friends, usually family, colleges they've known for more than 3 months, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/21 11:27 PM
2

So don’t marry someone with no ties to anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/21 09:17 PM
8

You can date for years without vetting. If all you’re doing is “well didn’t break up yet and they seem nice” then you’re not vetting.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/21 08:39 PM
6

If vetting worked women wouldn’t lie/be stupid/not vet? No. Vetting is when you observe their character and ask relevant questions BEFORE marriage or becoming dependent. If you get to know someone and select for relevant characteristics then absent major brain trauma you won’t have these problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/21 08:38 PM
6

This response makes no sense. You bet them before that point. You don’t get married then try to vet.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/21 08:14 PM
46

Vetting will not prevent you from having a bad first date. It will prevent you from having a bad marriage or being in a position where you’re dependent on your abuser (as an adult). Because at that point they’re no longer strangers.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/21 08:06 PM
4

Common marriage division at separation is different in different jurisdictions.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/21 06:52 PM
11

Is he religious? Are you religious? Do you actually believe his position, ie that he would marry you and consider himself married. I don’t see a problem with this. See username. If the State repealed all marriage laws tomorrow would you consider yourself unable to marry? Do you care if you’re married or do you care if the State knows about it? I live in a community where people get married then decide based on situation whether it is advantageous to get the paperwork or not.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/21 06:40 PM
0

Does it work?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/21 05:08 AM
1

Seems fair tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/21 08:54 PM
1

The magical turning gay is the least unrealistic thing in your hypo.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/21 08:24 PM
1

This tells me absolutely nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/21 07:38 PM
1

What have you tried?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/21 07:28 PM
1

I’m saying this is a shit post and if you actually wanted a family you’d look for a wife instead of shitposting about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/21 07:27 PM
1

Why do you shitpost to the exclusion of seeking a wife?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/21 07:22 PM
3

Violent crime stats (and what you can legally do to prepare to defend yourself) varies wildly by Western city.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/21 03:58 PM
3

Yes. 1 Went on one date. At the end of the date he says he doesn’t want a relationship but would like a fwb situation. I say no. Sexual assault. 2 Went in a friend group. New guy asks me out in broken English. Uh, no. (I only speak English.) Attempted sexual assault. 3 Not uncommon for strangers to try to block you in if you aren’t responsive. Fuck if I know. Depends on the situation. If it’s a stranger, then all you know about them is they are at the point of asking out strangers. You don’t owe…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/21 03:52 PM
0

It’s not a joke. It’s kinda true, but ignores that if men could get pregnant they wouldn’t be the stronger ones. Is it cool to kill humans so that you can have slightly better orgasms? No.... Is the State going to fuck up enforcing that like they do everything else? Yep. Abortion due to rape and health issues are entirely different issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/21 03:30 PM
1

To the extent reasonable. You aren’t going to stay a fit 20 year old. Age and pregnancy causes changes. That doesn’t mean go gain 50 pounds in a random year.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/21 03:29 PM
2

?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/21 04:51 AM
4

B
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/21 11:37 PM
27

Incompatible Life Goals- while you SHOULDN'T let a relationship go on and on for years without discussing goals, the fact that you have doesn't mean you should stay in it. If you disagree on whether to have kids, he "doesn't believe in" marriage, he wants you to have a career while you want to be a SAHM- then you are incompatible. The fact that you already wasted 5 years on it doesn't mean you should waste the rest of your life waiting on something that won't happen.
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/21 10:36 PM
6

Ok but that still doesn’t equal four. He’s obviously not doing hard manual labor from home where he needs extra calories. So, you can’t really research something that is trial and error. If there’s not a list somewhere of things he can’t have then you can’t look up that list. He needs to decide if he would rather go on with the same foods or try something that may make him flair up. If the later try one new dish a week to see if he can eat it then keep track of what he can and can’t have.
/r/RedPillWives08/01/21 06:33 PM
10

Why are you cooking four meals a day? How many meals is he home for? Do you know for sure what he can and can’t have or is it a trial and error deal for new things?
/r/RedPillWives08/01/21 05:46 PM
16

Evolution said that women bare the children and men acquire the resources. Your reptile brain doesn't give a single fuck if that's not your primate brain's goals. So attraction doesn't change.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/21 02:09 AM
4

Depends, can you afford your ideal person? Does your ideal person even exist? Is your ideal person mathematically possible?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/21 01:14 PM
7

I’ve heard this but ONLY from really really shitty family members.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/21 02:31 AM
2

Mamas boys are undesirable because they don’t act appropriately for their age. They consult their mom instead of their spouse, often un/under employed, tell their mom your business, and shirk responsibility. This is unacceptable in adult men. You have a toddler. He seems to be acting appropriately for his age. If he’s still acting like this at 15 come back and talk. Don’t worry about if feminists think you’re instilling “toxic masculinity.” You should instill masculinity in your son.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/21 09:44 PM
1

It’s sounds like you’re looking to rent, but same concept.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/21 06:10 AM
0

Ok but then you should expect that to cost more, no?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/21 06:07 AM
1

I’m preggers. But where I was originally from I was average. Where I moved to I am below average. But if you’re looking for my personal experiences I’ve been on dates with I think 4 people.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/21 05:25 AM
1

Same Coffee is pretty standard. 🤷‍♀️ Though I’ve had dates that started smaller and the day progressed and we ended up getting dinner. Imo if a woman is demanding dinner for a first date 1) she’s entitled or 2) she’s out to hookup and not get to know you.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/21 05:21 AM
2

Where are you that women are expecting dinner and not coffee for a first date?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/21 05:17 AM
2

You know that going to x y or z place impresses women. You want to not pay for any of those places but still feel that the women should be impressed.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/21 05:15 AM
2

So you want credit for laying down money without laying down the money?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/21 05:13 AM
2

Wouldn’t going somewhere cheap filter out women just looking for a free meal?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/21 05:10 AM
2

Then go somewhere cheaper.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/21 05:07 AM
1

No. If you only date people you’re interested in this isn’t that big of an expense. If you’re out to fuck then you should expect to pay a lot .
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/21 05:05 AM
3

From the other gender, it was nothing but insanity when I lived in the South. Moved to MH and it was just fine, met my husband in 6 months. It really is location.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/21 07:05 PM
1

V necks make guys look gay. When women say to wear nice clothes we mean a shirt without stains or advertising and pants that fit. Maybe go wild and get a polo. Not dress like a magazine.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/21 06:49 PM
1

It doesn’t say anywhere they have to be women.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/21 06:36 AM
1

I think you’d be allowed to hang with a guy as long as you fucked him first. OP didn’t see this loophole.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/21 06:30 AM
2

Sounds like technically you can get around the no friends rule by fucking your friends? The whole thing sounds like a horror movie, but it might be worth fucking my friends to see them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/21 06:28 AM
1

They never said; they just threw the troll off the mountain.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/21 04:56 AM
3

What’s the airspeed velocity of an unladen swallow?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/21 04:42 AM
14

It’s been 7 years. How much more time alone does he need? I got pregnant a few months after marriage. Sometimes I think I would have wanted more time alone. But the reality of the situation is that I’d be working so we wouldn’t have much time anyway. He’s 25. Is he getting a PhD? How much college does he have left? If you both have good jobs that means he has a good job. There isn’t going to be a magic day when someone pays the house off and hands him a million dollars so he can have a kid now. …
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/21 04:31 AM
1

Trick question. You shouldn’t adopt a single mom in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/21 02:20 AM
1

Unless you’re married.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/21 12:25 AM
1

This means there will only be female guards.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 10:26 PM
1

That's why there's so many single moms and divorces...
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 09:42 PM
1

This isn't in dispute?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 09:37 PM
1

Those women and corps should be tortured.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 05:18 PM
1

Why the fuck would he? We agreed on kids... well prior to dating technically... but he definitely married me on the agreement that we’d have kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 05:16 PM
-1

That doesn’t follow.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 04:53 PM
1

Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 04:52 PM
1

Ok so you’re still a risk then as the OP states.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 04:48 PM
-1

The alternative is don’t fuck indiscriminately and acknowledge that there are consequences.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 04:47 PM
1

No
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 04:46 PM
4

If you’re young this is entirely reasonable. If you’re mid 20s or older this is delusional.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 04:41 PM
1

Is be making 6 figures right now if I never had kids assuming NO career advancement. I could have put that away for retirement.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 04:36 PM
1

No shit
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 04:34 PM
0

No, the hormones that come with bc and chemical abortions. I’ve seen women be denied IUDs because they didn’t have kids yet. Just because something exists doesn’t mean it’s obtainable. This SHOULD be available to women who want to sleep around, but it’s uh, region locked. Lol probably not.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 04:26 PM
1

Do you bring the check up papers to dates or do you expect women to take the risk that you’re lying.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 04:23 PM
1

Ooo imma rob a bank.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 04:18 PM
3

Some men tell me that if you get a woman while she’s attractive then you’re because romantically attracted to her even if she’s old and it’s a different kind of attraction than wanting to fuck the 20 year old that walks by. Some men tell me that any women over 30 is automatically unattractive and ALL guys that have ED are really just not attracted to their wives anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 04:14 PM
2

Resources are a part of nature.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 04:10 PM
1

How pleasant do you think recreational hormones are? (Early abortions are just high doses of hormones.) This is also if we pretend that every hoe is smart enough to properly use birth control.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 04:02 PM
-1

There are consequences because nature decreed it so. If you want to get on CRSPER and change that be my guest.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 03:38 PM
2

If we want to argue over what the price should be, that's fine. A bunch of grown ass men saying the price should be free is what's obnoxious.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 03:29 PM
1

Those have grown back so you're still a risk, just a MUCH smaller risk.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 03:27 PM
1

It's cheaper. I'm not convinced that its free. I haven't studied it much so open to being corrected. How many men can just BE naturally hot, call a random up, "hey wanna fuck? come over," and that's it?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 03:24 PM
3

From 16 until I got married I was a woman paying taxes for dumb ass women to get knocked up and for the bitch men who fuck them and go. Now they take my husband's wages.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 03:23 PM
2

Didn't say that at all. Women can be hoes. If you're like "$50 for a bj" you're a hoe. If you're deciding whether to fuck a guy on the first date based on what restaurant he takes you to, you're a hoe. Etc. You can pay a hoe or buy a wife but sex isn't free and that's biology's decision.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 03:21 PM
2

Because women want random sex less? Because its more dangerous for us?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 03:19 PM
3

Coming soon from science?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 07:13 AM
2

Not the same as what? He’s dying alone isn’t he?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 06:56 AM
3

Won’t he though? He’s going to slut it up for 20-30 years then get old. No one will want him when he’s 60. He’ll die alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 06:49 AM
0

Stay at home mom
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 06:47 AM
2

Can’t tell if that’s an autocorrect or a creep. Now no. I’m a SAHM. Before we got married we did.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 06:32 AM
3

Is there any woman that you don’t want to fuck? Yes? Then congrats you can be friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 06:31 AM
6

Dating them still would have been retarded.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 06:14 AM
2

On the bootleg tests I always test just under the autism threshold.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 05:17 AM
1

If we're talking about the same thread I said you should clarify what they're looking for upfront, which is entirely different than demanding commitment upfront. "I'm looking to buy a car" is not a sale.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 05:03 AM
2

Yes, thank you, that would be a FAILED relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 05:02 AM
8

If you want an egalitarian relationship where the woman has a career then you should split costs and housework 50/50. If you want a traditional relationship where the woman takes care of household management and childcare then the man pays.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 04:01 AM
1

If you just want sex you’re going to get a lower quality woman than if you want more. You seem to want to fuck and throw her out the window. That’s going to limit your pool.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 03:58 AM
1

They are. They’re very good for treating precocious puberty.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 02:48 AM
10

I want to shitpost and share experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 02:43 AM
7

Except I married an actual decent person, so market says you’re wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 01:56 AM
7

Why would I fuck them? They’re shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 01:52 AM
4

4 counting my husband
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 01:49 AM
10

Yeah, guys with 3 baby mamas by 25 definitely aren’t shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 01:44 AM
3

Why tf do you trust a damn thing he tells you?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 01:37 AM
3

Then lower the absolute fuck out of your standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 01:33 AM
8

I was single until 29. Moved to a better place. Met my husband within 6 months. I was just surrounded by shit people.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 01:32 AM
2

If you’re having to take out student loans, you’re financially dependent on the DOE. They’re not the ones who are going to pay it back and debt doesn’t make it easier to find a husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 12:51 AM
2

Yes. It’s also her fault for being a hoe.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 12:30 AM
1

If you’re not planning on having a career, don’t pay ANYTHING towards having a career. Don’t be me.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 12:29 AM
2

👍
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 12:28 AM
0

Are they paying for that shit? Because I really wish I hadn’t gone.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 11:51 PM
1

Why are you waiting until 25?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 11:51 PM
1

Thanks. Happy 2021 to you
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 09:53 PM
2

You shouldn’t have to lock your doors either, but guess what, you do have to.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 09:49 PM
5

Ok but if you're giving a number then you're still lying.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 09:25 PM
3

Voluntarily not showering is a personality trait.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 09:18 PM
2

Yes. If you can't distinguish between hoes and non hoes, then just don't get married.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 09:16 PM
2

How would that DESTROY society?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 09:15 PM
1

This just has never been true.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 08:59 PM
2

Don't marry a hoe. "All women are hoes." Still possible to not marry a hoe.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 08:57 PM
2

Look better.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 08:57 PM
6

I'd be ok with this if trials required, like, evidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 08:37 PM
1

Why'd he pick a shit person? (Same thing I ask single moms.) He has bad judgment so why would I form a life with him?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 08:31 PM
1

Its not your only choice but if people are lying they can't bitch when they're lied to.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 08:30 PM
5

I'm disputing the status of wildly lying about your n count as a white lie. You benefit from those lies by avoiding conflict with your mom and having what you think is an easier relationship with your mom and friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 08:29 PM
1

Its not an unfair deal: we do the housework, childcare, and household management; they pay the bills. I'm happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 08:27 PM
1

That's not wrong. Just seems different to me than making us prove it. It works well enough though.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 08:26 PM
4

No. Why would you do that. He said forever before and didn't mean it. So why would you trust him to say forever this time?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 08:24 PM
1

My view on this might be so niche as to be useless to most people. So, you do want kids, you just want to do it differently. Discuss that. You're mostly looking for thoughtful detailed answers. Discuss it at length. What do you think the average response would be? What's your gender and what are you asking? If you're asking what they're looking for as I advised women to do then the AVERAGE response is going to be some bullshit about we'll see, no one can know the future, etc. Think the kind of s…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 08:15 PM
8

I was taught to lie way before 7. Lying is always for your benefit. That’s why people do it. It’s either ok or it’s not. I didn’t even come to a conclusion, just literally said to be consistent.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 07:59 PM
1

Being shitty =\= rape. I wouldn’t do it. Don’t give in to stupid shit. If they’re bluffing walk away. If they have a history of mental illness call mental services or their mom. If you think they are bluffing call their mom anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 07:56 PM
2

This just isn’t true. Better to do all the household work and have him do the resource procurement because he isn’t doing the household work either way.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 07:53 PM
0

You can get back in shape from a pregnancy without complications in reasonable time. There WILL be recovery time. It’s honestly the breastfeeding that puts on the weight. If you’re an Olympic athlete or something I don’t think you’ll get that back. I lost weight my first pregnancy from conception to date of birth. Now I’m close to my conception weight but with minor complications. Some women do have complications that contribute to weight gain but the whole gaining 50 pounds during a healthy pre…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 07:50 PM
3

1) One if feeeeew places that have legitimate debate of ideas in addition to the shitposting. 2) I got lucky. I’m going to have to teach my kids what to do, and that includes knowing what not to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 07:36 PM
1

No, rape is when you hold someone down against their will or forcibly/stealthy drug them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 07:34 PM
3

I buy men’s razors and men’s shoes. Waiting for trans culture to catch on so I can buy men’s pads.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 07:31 PM
21

Uh, bull shit. It’s either ok to lie to get what you want or it isn’t. Saying your number is 5 when it’s 25 misrepresents the type of person you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 07:29 PM
4

Just for the sake of curiosity, how would one go about proving that?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 07:27 PM
3

No one thinks this. That post was long ass satire. People think it’s going to have consequences, which it will even if not as many as this sub likes to believe.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 07:26 PM
1

Right, they’re an interview. Marriage is the job.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 07:24 PM
1

It’s an interview. If you don’t get the job you failed.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 06:38 PM
1

Virtually all relationships fail. Successful ones end in death. Life is dark that way. There is no value in being fucked with for a time. Even some that end in death aren't successful. You could be getting led on then get hit by a bus.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 06:10 PM
2

Lol what? Being led on for months isn’t a successful relationship. Anything that ends in a breakup isn’t a successful relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 01:16 PM
1

So you want to tell all the women, who have no risk tolerance, that they have about a coin flip chance at getting a man if everything goes perfectly. Then you're going to want to bitch about how they quit trying and get a career instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 06:43 AM
8

I mean, probably. I'm preggers and have a toddler though so no partying for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 05:53 AM
1

No, they present as if they're a 12 year old fan girl who's overflowing with feels. If they're "looking" for that but not with you and spending time fucking around with you, then they are not in fact looking for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 05:52 AM
3

Get details. It is really really unlikely that 1) they have a coherent story ready AND 2) it is what you want from a husband. Don't fuck with a guy who just says "yeah, looking for serious" and that's it. He should be able to discuss his plans in depth if he actually has plans.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 05:47 AM
2

Ok well if you're doing that its really fucking obvious what your problem is and I shouldn't' have to walk you through it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 05:45 AM
1

How do you have time for this shit? And the parade of dr appointments that it (should) entail.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 04:43 AM
4

I read this in the voice of the narrater in Conscience.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 03:58 AM
3

No, sluts hate that. It filters out guys who are looking for sluts.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 02:44 AM
1

This is also true in the personal world. I don’t respond to “hey” messages.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 02:42 AM
3

No, it proves that they get knocked up by men they don’t want kids with.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 02:02 AM
1

<3
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 01:47 AM
2

4 counting my husband 23 ish after the first guy
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 01:47 AM
4

That’s not how the term gets used.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 01:02 AM
8

It’s A solution because someone has to make the money. We can’t both be baristas.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 12:55 AM
1

Is fucking a tree really better?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 12:53 AM
2

So how tf are you supposed to give advice/point out potential dangers without “victim blaming.” Telling people how to avoid a robbery is useful. Telling people how to reduce their chances of being raped is useful. Telling people how to avoid being scammed, after all of society including their grandparents taught them HOW to be scammed, is useful. I guess gun instructors just victim blame the fuck out of students all day long? I’d rather have info than someone be afraid to give it because they do…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 12:52 AM
1

But since hookup chicks are alive that would make them animals and you guilty of beastality.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 12:45 AM
4

I didn’t say it was your fault. I said how to avoid it. Do you want to figure out who’s fault it is or figure out what works? The way you phrased it is the equivalent of “are you 18? Click yes or no.” They know what answer gets them the results they want. And ask details. A guy looking to fuck and go most likely will not be able to tell you how many kids he wants, when, how long he wants to date before marriage, parenting philosophies, roles he wants in the marriage etc. at least not on the fly …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 12:36 AM
2

It stems from a lot of things but if they aren’t looking for what you’re looking for move along.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 12:21 AM
8

No. You ask them what they’re looking for. You don’t give them a cheat sheet.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 12:15 AM
1

I did have to figure it out. Didn’t realize it the first time around. Didn’t meet my husband until 29.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 12:14 AM
1

Looking for 6 figures is usually going to be pricing yourself out of the market. 40k though? How old are they and is that an entry level job.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 12:12 AM
24

When we quit getting called gold diggers for looking for a man with a career.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/20 11:24 PM
2

Is there still a lockdown over there? Trying to figure out what to expect for tomorrow.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/20 11:16 PM
1

So then some of the ones you want to fuck are animals? How is this not beastiality?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/20 11:16 PM
1

Not all, just the ones you fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/20 11:08 PM
1

Why? Also are you really into preggo boobs?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/20 11:07 PM
4

Well then I’ll just start my own planet WITHOUT blackjack and hookers.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/20 11:06 PM
-2

This isn’t always the case.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/20 11:05 PM
1

I’m glad it’s a full moon today. So that all of the people who have the misfortune of driving home from work can see the drunk people in the streets better
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/20 11:04 PM
5

I have cognitive dissonance about being different from other women because that would make me one of the “I’m not like other girls.”
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/20 10:49 PM
1

What about them?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/20 10:48 PM
4

Really because according to this sub FDS involves a great deal of lying your ass off.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/20 10:48 PM
0

No because I’ve never fucked people I was appalled by at the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/20 10:47 PM
0

This, but without the magic parts.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/20 10:14 PM
2

Personal welfare is really just a prostitution program.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/20 10:13 PM
3

People never try to permanently acquire things they act want. Makes sense...
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/20 10:12 PM
3

Yes, these are also choices.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/20 10:02 PM
5

Almost all of these are choices.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/20 09:10 PM
2

I was really talking about public wear. But fleece pants and shirt with fuzzy socks.
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/20 03:29 AM
8

Some people really are poly I believe. This means they want multiple partners AND are comfortable with their partners having multiple partners. If you aren’t actually poly, it’s a shit show. I’ve seen exactly two triads. As far as I can tell, they work for actual poly people. I’ve seen many poly fuckery. People who want the benefits of both a relationship and being single, people with ulterior motives, people who just can’t cut it in monogamy. This entails a shit show of people secretly consider…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/20 10:03 PM
10

So, it doesn’t sound like you had a male friend. It sounds like you had a male acquaintance. The reason this is relevant is because with a friend there is at least some point where you are meeting up with them in person. During this time you can bring your husband, invite their wife, show interest in and deference to their wife, prove yourself to not be a threat.
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/20 02:18 PM
1

Yes...
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/20 03:45 PM
2

You can bring back societal pressures for (actual) monogamy. Make the guys who are ducking all the women pick one and leave the rest for everyone else. Or you can get ALL the other guys to refuse to date sluts. AND be open about this because disincentives only work if you know about them. Bring back having fathers. Women with fathers and without a history of sexual assault are much less likely to be sluts. Women inclined to sluttiness aren’t going to stop because you want them to. You have to ch…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/20 03:26 AM
2

Go wild with it. Have fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/20 08:39 PM
2

So then it would make sense for women to ask wouldn’t it?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/20 08:12 PM
27

For the most part (aside from really obvious stuff like overalls and onsies) the clothing that is not appropriate for women who aren’t quite young anymore was never appropriate in the first place. Excessive cleavage, too short dresses, ass tight pants- these are the things that people will look at you sideways for wearing at 30, but 22 year olds ought not be wearing them anyway. It’s difficult to say what you should wear without your body type, but most of it is common sense; there isn’t some se…
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/20 06:19 PM
14

Alternate Title: Women try to fix problems while men rely on magic until it’s too late. Most things in your life are in your control. Not all, most. If you want to discuss whether women get actual benefits for being women we can have that conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/20 06:05 PM
2

Or... she might just value sex and you have to have an actual relationship before you get sex from her. All virgins and low n aren't traumatized with illnesses.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/20 08:32 PM
2

And in the movies the spy enjoys jumping from exploding helicopters. Doesn’t mean it’s pleasant in real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/20 10:43 PM
3

I find it funny how people are against gross displays of violence, yet movies that sell well are full of gross violence. This logic is retarded.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/20 10:37 PM
1

It doesn’t lower your market value if everyone is doing it. There are no secular 27 year old virgins walking around. And if there were guys would just claim they hate sex. Your market value is “lower” than a fantasy product z
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/20 03:48 PM
2

The hospital staff kept asking if they could cut off part of my male child’s genitals. If I had a female child this would have been super illegal and I could have requested new nurses.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/20 05:15 PM
2

Historically that’s the case because there was no birth control- men can’t get pregnant, and women did have other options- couldn’t just throw out your husband and get a career if he cheats. They are ethically identical as they are the same behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/20 05:11 PM
2

There’s a certain segment of the population that tries to buy a Lamborghini with a 450 credit score and no down payment. Doesn’t mean they’re going to get it. The trad con men are marrying young. “Waiting” is basically a non issue for their wives.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/20 04:47 PM
14

If men actually thought it was in their best interest to marry young they would do that. Most people just aren’t going to stay virgins until 28 when men start becoming ready to marry. The longer you go on the more times she’s been misled into thinking a guy actually wants her- as many of you advocate doing. Most women are ready to marry young then become jaded by inconsistent messages, being left, and the world in general. Yes, some women are just sluts. But waiting until you’re too old to get h…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/20 04:43 PM
15

“How come I can’t be a whiney bitch if I have to have an actual personality?” Like, idk how else to explain this.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/20 02:21 AM
2

Well yeah. I already have a woman. If need another.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/20 09:56 PM
5

Knowing the number and giving a play by play are two VERY different things. No one wants details. Inb4 there’s a kink sub for that. I never had to ask. It was always randomly forthcoming. In my husband’s case I think he told me because he wanted to know mine. It matters if it’s a high number. Or if you’re fuck and going, well at all. If you show a disregard for sex why should I trust you? I’m not stupid enough to believe I’m special. It might be ok if he had a high number from a long time ago an…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/20 06:22 PM
10

It isn’t just spite. The concern men have is that these women don’t ACTUALLY want them and are just taking what they can get before it’s too late. Having a spouse who doesn’t want you isn’t pleasant.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/20 01:14 PM
-4

That’s not a RP claim. I don’t know if you’re doing something wrong because I don’t know what you’re doing. How are you looking?
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/20 07:48 PM
6

I stole "right of first refusal" from legal land because its a concept that already exists so no need to make up my own word. This probably isn't the place for that though. Like, yeah, I'm not going to sue my husband if he watches porn. Declaring "You have to fuck me when you're horny and aren't allowed to take care of it another way" seems kinda beyond the level of control that most relationship "rules" involve. Disagree. Some people consider it cheating outright, and I think that there's an ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/20 03:34 AM
4

Basically this. I don’t really turn down so it’d more be if I’m gone all day.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/20 11:22 PM
3

How do you ENFORCE it? Idk. Mostly you don’t. Same as all relationship rules. What is the rule? If I’m available then you fuck me instead of jerking off to porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/20 11:21 PM
6

I get right of first refusal. No “personal” porn. Other than that, whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/20 07:46 PM
1

R/lostredditors
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/20 04:17 AM
6

That's not how this works. Having many is failing. OP needs to work on either where she's looking, or her approach.
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/20 12:31 AM
2

There are plenty of reasons besides "God said so" to be opposed to killing humans for convenience. I'm talking exclusively about the overwhelming majority of abortions- those done for birth control reasons, NOT health reasons or because the baby is fucked up. So let's be up front - a fetus is NOT a baby. Even if it is- doesn't the existing woman's life take precedence? Science says that human fetuses have human chromosomes and human DNA. Its a human. Does the woman's LIFE take precedence? Are we…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/20 12:22 AM
4

Any woman can get laid. It isn't difficult. OP is asking about getting a relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/20 12:07 AM
5

Do you come across good men and they don't want to date you, or are you not finding any good men? which means I will need to date down financial wise amd avcept being a breadwinner? This is an entirely different issue. Actually its two entirely different issues. What percentile do you rank in income? If its higher than average and you demand only men who make more then you're cutting out a significant portion of options, at some point you will be pricing yourself out of the market. If its averag…
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/20 12:06 AM
2

We were raised by assholes. We don’t know what a good guy looks like. I did this 16-23. There was no good guy option. (Same guy.) Now, if you’re 30 still doing this, you should’ve learned.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/20 03:43 PM
5

How does this require dishonesty? Maybe don’t make statements about what you’re going to do until you know the person well enough to know they aren’t high maintenance?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/20 08:44 PM
4

How is this different from FWB? Hang out, fuck, no intentions.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/20 06:39 PM
5

The fact that you don’t climb out the window right after doesn’t make it not just fucking. Dating is interviewing someone for a permanent partner. What you’re doing is FWB at best, but I don’t think you’re friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/20 03:47 PM
3

Yes, that’s fucking.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/20 03:43 PM
1

It’s what was in your mind VERSUS what you implied. Your just talking about what was in your mind. That’s only half of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/20 03:32 PM
6

It involves misleading someone otherwise it is meaningless. If you start dating a woman talking about “I can see a future together” fuck a few times then peace out, that’s a pump and dump. The fact you fucked get more than once doesn’t change that. Just like fucking a guy a second time doesn’t REALLY make it not a ONS. If you meet a woman at a bar with boobs hanging out, walk up grabbing you dick, and say “wanna fuck?” and she does and you never speak again, that is NOT a pump and dump because i…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/20 03:30 PM
6

Because they come in here bitching about how unfair the world is, how they shouldn’t have to make more money than their 20 year younger wish, how God is stupid, they’ve fucked so many people at bars, and will not settle for less than a 10 trad con, under 23 virgin. They can’t do so is the thing. They just bitch about how they want to. If they could they’d just go do it. Only exceptional men can pull this off.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/20 07:48 PM
30

I think you need to remember the fact that he’s working and you’re not. You don’t HAVE to go to the gym at 5 am. That’s a preference. You can go to the gym anytime. If he’s getting his work done/paying the bills then he’s not lazy.
/r/RedPillWives16/12/20 06:32 PM
2

The obvious implication was that they are not getting out at all and work up to being socially active.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/20 06:23 PM
7

The 35+ guys who intentionally waited to get a woman so they could attempt to become the cock carousel, who now think that simply being old will score them a 10 trad con 18 year old virgin.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/20 06:22 PM
2

The duck is a casual relationship? Just say sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/20 05:45 PM
3

Oh my fucking god. Your complaint about preferring to meet someone you know something about instead of someone who you litter 10 seconds ago is.... that he would have to HAVE social circles and friends??? You can’t just get more and more social circles to increase your chances. You wouldn’t have time to spend on them all. To some group you show up to every three months you’re a stranger. You don’t have to be popular. You just have to be socially active. Get out every once in awhile. Find a hobby…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/20 05:44 PM
64

Because they’re delusional and have revenge fantasies. These guys refuse to settle for their morals-match.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/20 05:39 PM
7

Ok but then he would have to HAVE money and status. These are average guys at best.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/20 05:38 PM
3

Asking people what they ARE will always be subject to deceit on the part of the askee’s partner. This isn’t what can be solved with phrasing. This is just a gender difference you should expect to see. Asking people what they are LOOKING FOR can get better results with phrasing. “Are you looking for a permanent, committed, romantic relationship?” I’m sure it can be phrased better but I’m not going to spend 4 months wording it just right like these assholes get paid to do. Even this gets you in th…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/20 10:42 PM
3

Yes, that claim is also bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/20 09:41 PM
4

Ok so if they explicitly mis-define relationships then women are looking for relationships, men are looking for “casual dates” aka fucking, amd it is inaccurate to say that men can’t find relationships. The rest of the issues still stand.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/20 09:40 PM
1

They really need to define terms at a minimum.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/20 06:58 PM
14

Sorry typo: *isn’t If a threesome is a NEED for him then he is trying to fuck other women. Also don’t have sex before commitment.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/20 06:41 PM
21

This isn’t a need. Plus once you get into the actual life stage it just sounds like a pita having to find extra people. If he’s still trying to fuck other women then he isn’t committed to you.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/20 06:32 PM
1

That’s not what basic means.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/20 04:06 PM
3

If you want a virgin at 25 you better be religious.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/20 04:05 PM
1

Giving up on relationships because you couldn’t find someone into kink as a teen is fatalistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/20 04:04 PM
2

Basic still isn’t the same thing as a short list. A virgin as a teen is basic. Kink is not BASIC even though it’s what you need.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/20 04:02 PM
3

How older? A virgin may or may not be reasonable at this point. Maybe accept that women have matured since high school and you can find a kinky woman now?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/20 04:00 PM
2

No. Is rich, 6’5 is a short list, but nit at all basic.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/20 03:50 PM
2

I’m not saying you shouldn’t hold out for what you want, but I wouldn’t call it basic. Basic is an adult having a job. Though once you took out the being good at it part it’s much more reasonable. Reasonable and basic aren’t the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/20 03:47 PM
2

Just wanting a virgin as a teen is 100% reasonable. Still not convinced that most virgin teens have given kink enough thought to want it, AND aren’t too self conscious to advertise that.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/20 03:42 PM
1

They probably need to adjust their expectations.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/20 03:40 PM
1

Women or teens?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/20 03:36 PM
2

Then what does “not boring in bed” mean? If they’re new at it they’re nit going to be exciting from the start. Most teens aren’t, especially to the point that they’ll advise it to potential dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/20 03:36 PM
5

These standards are high af. You want a skilled virgin interested in kink? HOW? Also interested in kink just by itself is a tall order in teen relationships. Teens are just figuring themselves out.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/20 03:31 PM
49

They fucked up that whole study by saying “relationship or dating” and let people who were looking to fuck call that dating. And since it’s self reported, women are quicker to call a non relationship a relationship to save face or convince themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/20 01:45 PM
1

Uh, no. We’re actively told to not even try to settle down until we’ve lived life.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/20 03:23 AM
66

Yes, you should get to know and be close with the person that you’re building a life with.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/20 01:57 AM
1

Ok... how old are you. I said this specifically about boomers. The parent who stayed is the parent who chose shit. The shit dads are complained about plenty.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/20 06:20 PM
1

Then he can afford a younger wife if he wants. This advice doesn’t apply to the average man.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/20 06:15 PM
2

It’s really 35 and not really any you can do about it. Does that count as disagreeing? At 35 fertility starts to significantly decline. (Defects don’t start to significantly increase until 40.) Guys who want kids will want more fertile women. Guys who don’t want kids will unconsciously want fertile LOOKING women as they are the evolutionary product of guys who were attracted to fertile women. For a regular person you’re older and you look it. Even the ultra rich spend thousands trying to look yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/20 06:12 PM
2

Women who remained single and child free weren’t exactly getting divorced and abandoning their kids... That was a stupid ass thing to believe, but let’s say they fell for “having it all.” You can simply... quit and go back to your family.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/20 05:37 PM
2

You’re recommending rich solutions for average guys. The average guy can’t afford a harem. A guy who can afford a harem will be attractive to women younger than him.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/20 05:35 PM
3

Their problem is the same problem with the women- they waited too long. If they could find a younger woman to knock up they wouldn’t be in this situation in the first place. Men also have expiration dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/20 05:16 PM
17

They were the last generation to be raised “traditionally.” They blew it all yet still expect to be taken care of. They turned around- having been born with the roadmap to success- and made sure to fuck over everyone behind them because it would make a good joke. They had intact families, then divorced and started the two income household. They respected their elders in exchange for inheritance, then turn around and demand deference in exchange for... nothing. They got houses for 40k, then turne…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/20 05:02 PM
8

They abandoned their families to institutions and their own devices so that they could pursue their “career” as a secretary.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/20 04:53 PM
1

So let’s say it’s no contact work and you’re already mentally ducked. That takes out a lot of the risks. There are no career prospects to this. You can do it for a decade max then it’s gone. Something like selling pics on the side or cam girl requires a certain lector look and probably comes with a much quicker expiration date. It’s just not something the average woman can do on the side without significant effort, which would defeat the purpose. And you’re blowing potential prospects for a care…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/20 05:28 AM
1

This has fuck all to do with teachers. Kids have fucking parents. It has little to do with blame either. Ok, so you bought your own bullshit. Cool, whatever. It happened to be bullshit just the same and girls should be taught that. By their parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/20 05:13 AM
1

Allowing birth control is better than the alternative. With girls though, a major protective measure is to go over all the types of bullshit men will sell to get laid. They need to know the guy most likely doesn’t love them, most 16 year olds aren’t looking to settle down, and just because all guys aren’t shot doesn’t mean some guys aren’t shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/20 02:10 AM
5

Lol. No matter how great she is as a partner the guys doing the fuck and go aren’t going to stick around. She needs to work on picking men and holding off sex for longer.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/20 09:41 PM
4

Who said this is the average guy? I said it’s the guys bitching about this.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/20 09:42 PM
3

Again, irl
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/20 09:40 PM
4

Does this include SAHM and women who work part time to do the brunt of the childcare and house management, or just couples where they both pursue a career?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/20 08:40 PM
7

.... irl Anyone can come to Reddit “I make a zillion dollars.”
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/20 08:10 PM
8

Yes, you have to have an income to attract a woman. Idk why this is controversial. You need an income for most things.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/20 07:24 PM
4

Depends on age and COL in your area. 30k in some cheaper areas- I was making that at 16.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/20 07:17 PM
11

But this is who I see complaining. I don’t see guys making 50k complaining about this.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/20 07:12 PM
27

It’s not terribly complicated, but people are gonna take it to the extreme, and it’s false at the extreme. I think the average woman knows she’s not getting a millionaire. She wants a guy with a reasonable income. Guys will want to take them this to “well I have 5 roommates and no savings, eat shit, definitely no insurance, and if I catch a flat I’m FUCKED. But I can support myself! What’s the problem!”
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/20 06:56 PM
22

Deadbeat dads get torn a new one on a regular. What are you talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/20 01:28 AM
1

Gay men by definition do not want women. If you can’t trust your partner to not fuck other people then you need a new partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/20 07:32 PM
8

It is entirely reasonable to resent having to do all of the female role and more than half the male role. In almost all cases the woman will end up doing at least most of the female role so 50/50 bills is almost never fair. When they truly do both then 50/50 is fair. Proportional is also fair, but honestly I think those couples should just live within the lower earners means just for savings purposes. Before we were married (not recommended) we kind of we kind of accidentally fell into a situati…
/r/RedPillWives07/12/20 06:28 PM
13

Why do you think you’re low value? Let’s try to fix that before getting nihilistic.
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/20 05:50 PM
6

The alternative is everyone locking themselves in a closet for lunch and running out of closets. This is no where near a friendship.
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/20 10:46 PM
4

If you don't interact outside of work related things then you aren't friends. It seems difficult to have a friend of either gender if their spouse dislikes you. If she doesn't like the fact that he shares on call with women or works with women then that's not your problem.
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/20 10:31 PM
2

Have I ever created an unstable environment for my child not having a primary caretaker? No. People making 200k commonly outsource all of the house management. Very few people are making that though.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/20 09:58 PM
6

Ok maybe in your country it’s a bad idea. In the US it’s a good idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/20 05:39 PM
4

Except you’ll get part of his income, so it isn’t a bad idea. You just WISH it was a bad idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/20 05:03 PM
16

And most men won’t consider managing the household and children so that the woman can prioritize her career. If you aren’t going to be the support role, and you’re bitchy about being the male role, what exactly do you want to be?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/20 04:20 PM
3

It isn’t a bad idea. Some men just wish it was a bad idea despite demanding these services.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/20 04:15 PM
5

A state marriage is the legal agreement.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/20 04:11 PM
9

When good men catch wind of it they won’t marry you...
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/20 04:04 PM
4

If you can't grasp the concept of buying consumables you shouldn't be having sex.
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/20 05:32 AM
4

I use charting because I have all kinds of problems with hormonal birth control. I really only recommend charting for people with some risk tolerance. MAYBE unless you only use post ovulation days. Different women will have different side effects from hormonal birth control. Unmarried guys should always use condoms regardless. If you’re going to use charting you need to learn a method with an instructor. You can use an app to record, but know your method. Valid methods record SOMETHING- cervical…
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/20 05:02 AM
2

Female It’s all the people who would date to marry you. Thus they are your options.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/20 10:19 PM
3

Ok that’s really irrelevant to intact families affording a SAHP.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/20 06:40 AM
3

This is the peril of living outside your means.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/20 06:12 AM
3

You only do the housework and childcare if he provides all the resources. And he uses the extra time to devote to career development. If he isn't do the opposite role then don't do the female role.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/20 05:49 AM
1

It has to be common for your point to stand. If its fringe cases then your point doesn't stand.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/20 04:58 AM
1

This is a shit example as she helped build the company.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/20 04:36 AM
2

Most hospitals aren't asking for marriage certificates. Immigration and adoption are relevant to very few people. Tax breaks are only really a thing at the lower brackets where there's an income disparity.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/20 04:22 AM
1

Such as?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/20 04:02 AM
1

Are you arguing that this is common?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/20 04:01 AM
2

Do you often use his computer? This sounds like a set up. In any case it doesn't matter WHY he doesn't want to marry you. He doesn't.
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/20 04:00 AM
1

Who was he telling that to?
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/20 02:13 AM
1

You already live together. There’s no more test drives he could possibly do. He either wants you or not. Trust God? God didn’t tell you this guy would marry you.
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/20 01:48 AM
1

So your mother was a widow, not a single mom. They are no real threat to me. Because I don't date women. I'm married with a toddler and a fetus. For some reason some men are willing to date SINGLE moms. This fucks it up for the other men because it removes a disincentive for an irresponsible and harmful behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/20 11:21 PM
3

If someone "sucks" at housework they need to resign from adulthood. The value is getting some else to do the housework, childcare, and act as support in general so that you can do other things. Those single women with room mates? They have jobs... Of course they're fighting with each other over cleaning because none of the roommates is paying the other bills so why should they do their housework? Rando roommates don't get wife benefits. Obviously.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/20 10:29 PM
3

"You need to learn the difference between inclusive and exclusive You need to stop alternating between calling marriage a property agreement when it suits you and something more when it doesn't." PART OF IT is a property agreement. You also get other things. You get some of these other things from friends. Do not enter property agreements with your friends. This isn't complicated. "I can go to a sperm clinic and get paid to impregnate chicks." If you just want to be a bio dad and bounce, yes you…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/20 09:45 PM
1

So don't get knocked up by people who don't want responsibility for another human...
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/20 09:40 PM
9

If he wants his future children to get married then he doesn't "not believe in" marriage. He either doesn't want to marry you or wants the benefits of committing without committing.
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/20 09:35 PM
2

If a guy likes you he won't go 5 days without talking to you. Next time don't go to his home, do anything sexual, or talk about sex until you have an established relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/20 09:22 PM
5

But without a healthy sex life and with cheating and deadbedrooms, what is it that you offer besides a family? This stuff isn't a tradcon relationship exclusivity. If the dude doesn't fit the criteria I mentioned, that's what the "egalitarian" relationship offers too. Ok, because it apparently needs to be spelled out again, don't enter an unhealthy marriage. You should be getting ALL of those things. "Even untrained men can offer protection. For one, even their presence deters an attacker and ag…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/20 09:17 PM
1

So he had a whole different personality after he had kids? Its just a dice roll? No. Get to know people before you ride their dick without protection, or ideally before you ride their dick.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/20 09:05 PM
1

Why do we act like people are plants? You don't wake up one day with a fetus bud growing off your arm leaf through no fault of your own. You had sex with someone who was unsuitable. Most often without protection. There's a reason why the forms of bc without user error possibility have effectively zero failure rate, and the methods with user error possibility have 2-5% failure rates in their "perfect use" studies.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/20 07:54 PM
6

It's exaggerated. A 20s woman with a boyfriend who won't commit leaves to get a better man she already knows- branch swinging. Therefore a 37 year old single mom can pull down a 200k 10, no.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/20 07:52 PM
2

"I run in circles where its acceptable to be a hoe to the detriment of your family, because I want to hoe around, but now I'm bitter that hoes are socially acceptable."
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/20 07:49 PM
12

"Yes but for men in order for marriage to be a good deal it needs to offer a healthy sex life and no cheating." Well, yeah. I'm not recommending a tradcon relationship with cheating and refusals. You don't ONLY get a family, it just doesn't make sense if you DON'T want a family. "He brings half the resources," And half the bills. "protection," Not usually. MOST men don't have any kind of advanced training. My $500 Glock is more protection than the average man randomly flailing at an attacker. "c…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/20 07:46 PM
68

Marriage is only worth the risk when you want an actual marriage. If you do not want kids, don’t get married. If you want an egalitarian relationship, don’t get married. If you both have a career and no kids, you’re basically roommates with benefits. If you both have a career with kids, then she’s putting up half the resources and realistically all the housework. In that situation you don’t bring anything to the table, so I guess you should be worried about your position. To the horror of many m…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/20 05:56 PM
1

Re Answer 2- even if has his own kids he will have less of them. He has finite resources. Some of his resources are going towards some other guy’s kids so he can afford that number less of his own kids. Problem 4- The more guys there are willing to date single moms the less there is a deterrent to being a single mom. If being a single mom meant that was it, you were out, some of them would be deterred. Dating single moms encourages their existence. It’s the same logic behind women slit shaming. …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/20 02:35 PM
1

Ok that does have to be clarified. Few people make 200k+. When I say have a career I mean the base requirement of having a career. Making enough to actually live and having some training of some sort so that you're not doing a job a teenager can do. If we're talking upper middle class, I'm less knowledgable.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/20 03:39 AM
3

This also makes sense. In any case they are too separate categories. Have a career =/= be Angelina JoLe.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/20 03:13 AM
2

Ok so there's career success and there's superstar status. I assume that superstar women have more, and probably better, dating opportunities than the average woman. You get access to top tier men that way. Career success does not in fact help women find a good husband. We tend to think it does because we've been told our whole lives how having a career is important and we need to do both.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/20 02:48 AM
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Well that simplifies things. Approach this as a junk food problem, not a cooking skills problem. He’s passing up your food to eat the equivalent of Doritos. This is rude but you shouldn’t be insulted by it as healthy food is a different category from junk food.
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/20 12:09 AM
6

Is that normal in her culture? I would never think to cook food and drop it off with friends I don’t live with unless they were recovering or something.
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/20 11:09 PM
2

He isn't interested. This is literally out of the playbook for how to keep women in a state of anxiety so that you never have to commit.
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/20 07:53 PM
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Have something to do. If you’re working from home- work. If they’re working from home- pretend they aren’t there except to make them lunch. Pick up a solo hobby or go on the Internet and learn something. There are plenty of free classes in traditional and non traditional format.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/20 08:27 PM
1

And men have a say in who they marry Yes. Both men and women are responsible for picking their partners, including single mothers and men who are "divorce raped". Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/20 03:20 AM
1

1) Maybe she just isn't a dumb hoe. 2) Advertising that you want casual sex is advertising that we shouldn't trust you. If you're looking for casual sex why should I think I'm special? You're just gonna fuck and go. Or... you're gonna go anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/20 02:25 AM
1

I had a broken down piece of shit that died right after my first date with the woman I'm now married to. Ok but how old were you and how long until you got another car? If I say "unemployed people over a certain age are shit" and you respond you got fired once, that doesn't really contradict the statements. ​ A man just has to drop his obsession with looks and focus on character and compatibility Agreed. ​ unlike the TweRPers here who say career women are evil. It depends largely on if you want …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/20 02:21 AM
1

Correct.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/20 02:16 AM
2

Women aren't usually divorce raped, and you can be left while pregnant prior to marriage. Point being you have a say in who you get pregnant by and you picked someone who wasn't committed.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/20 01:29 AM
2

Single moms also don't gaf that this hurts THEIR KID to have a parade of father figures coming through their life. I've known a few guys who this has happened to. They decided to not date single moms again. They should have never dated single moms.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/20 10:27 PM
3

I frankly think its a stupid argument, when someone talks shit about people who make horrible decisions and someone is like "well what about widows?" Well, what about them, that's not a decision. But I've taken to listing it anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/20 10:25 PM
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If you don’t know if they’re shit or not... don’t fuck them. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/20 10:14 PM
10

Don’t fuck shit men.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/20 10:12 PM
10

Then look very well.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/20 10:05 PM
7

Don’t fuck POS who stealth. Just like guys are told don’t fuck mentals who lie about bc and always use a condom. You don’t choose who rapes you, by definition. You choose if you duck the caliber of guy who stealths.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/20 10:04 PM
0

There are good reasons to be resentful of single moms. This includes getting knocked up while single, getting divorced, being left, or anything where you had a say in the matter. This does not include widows. Hell, I’M resentful of single moms, and I only have to deal with some of the issues that guys have to deal with. In all but the most fringe cases, I end up having to pay for her shit choices. She’s getting welfare out the ass for 18+ years that I have to pay for and she put herself in that …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/20 09:51 PM
3

No, they don’t. That’s a lie men looking to fuck and go tell naive women.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/20 04:36 PM
0

Yes but not looking for a relationship excludes you from relationships...
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/20 04:33 PM
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And a large portion of those men are either shit or looking for hookups not dating. OP specified becoming not single. So if you fall outside of that as a guy the percentages are a lot more sane, if not in your favor.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/20 04:48 AM
0

I hit enter too soon and went back and completed it. The platform will show you more options. It will not make the actual interactions effortless.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/20 04:16 AM
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I met my husband on a dating site. Online dating works for men who have the most basic skills and doesn’t work for men who don’t. An example of a most basic skill is reading. Spamming dicks to people who say they’re looking for something serious isn’t going to make you not single. Messaging women 200 miles away isn’t going to make you not single. Messaging me and asking things that are clearly stated on my profile makes it look like you don’t gaf. Marking that you are looking for both casual sex…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/20 04:06 AM
0

Unless it’s a lesbian dating site it works for both genders or none at all...
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/20 04:01 AM
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Then there is nothing wrong with them prioritizing their chances at a future over their non relationship with you. Why would they? Would you turn down a chance at a date for an acquaintance? Also, stop being so emotionally invested in acquaintances. Try expanding your circle and/or spending more time with your friends.
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/20 06:29 PM
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Are these FRIENDS or acquaintances?
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/20 06:04 PM
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If you want a relationship then the best thing to do is to marry young ish. The second best thing to do is to marry the age you are, but filter out hoes who are deciding to settle. Find someone who sucked at finding a relationship because they are awkward. If you don't want a relationship then it doesn't matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/20 05:26 PM
2

Have you heard of mental illness/trauma?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/20 04:15 PM
37

You're going to end up causing problems between him and his friends by encouraging them to flirt with/at you. It also doesn't evoke trust.
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/20 03:05 AM
59

You dress sexy for your husband’s friends who then drunk flirt with you. There are so many ways for this to go badly.
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/20 01:51 AM
8

he's actually from my country but moved there because of his job! :) But, you'll still be moving to a whole different country and culture. That's where you will be living because he wants to stay there for his job. Why can't they pick someone where you actually live? You can't asses him from across the world. I don't know how they were able to assess him from across the world. Him being willing to leave his culture to me says that he is not compatible with the culture you currently live in. Trad…
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/20 09:28 PM
8

My main concern here is that you'll be moving to a whole other country/culture. If parents could be trusted then arranged marriages wouldn't be horrible. Might even be better than what we can come up on our own. I think the jury is still out on that. If your parents want what is best for you then why are they sending you to a different country? If that country is better then why didn't they raise you in it?
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/20 07:41 PM
5

And is losing your chances at marriage worth side money? Is psychological damage worth side money?
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/20 06:22 PM
8

If there’s a push to normalize men dating sex workers that means that men aren’t dating sex workers. So you’re a prostitute then what? That isn’t a lifelong career. No one is hiring 50 year old prostitutes. No good guy will marry you. You’ll have no marketable skills because you haven’t built any up. What’s the plan?
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/20 05:37 PM
5

Babies, aids, herpes...
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/20 04:29 AM
14

I wanted to be with all the people I’ve slept with except one. For that one I was on aloooooooot of drugs. I don’t see the appeal of sleeping with someone who you don’t want a relationship with.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/20 04:26 AM
2

Most people aren't well versed in Islamic attire. Anything you wear head to toe will look like a burka to most people.
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/20 06:15 AM
7

This seems extreme overkill. If you are 100% covered you'll never attract anyone. And people will think you're Muslim. There's space in between boobs hanging out and Middle Eastern regime.
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/20 05:35 AM
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He did tell you sooner. "Just after seeing each other" he asked if you were interested in marriage and you said no. There was nothing further to discuss if he agreed. You changed your mind so you need to have a direct conversion. Not hints. A conversation. Based on what he says you can decide what to do. I don't know how this is supposed to work though with him not wanting kids and you having four of them.
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/20 01:30 AM
2

Can confirm. Couldn’t find anyone up till 29. Moved and met my husband in 6 months.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/20 01:45 AM
1

Lots of unhealthy things happened in early human history. “Ancient times” is relatively really recent from a biological perspective. The genes had already been “picked.” Plus certain time frames are portrayed as more brutal to women than men when that was not the case because it suits the needs of feminism. Yes. These are inclinations. It does not mean 100% of people act this way. We also have free will/frontal lobes/whatever you want to call it. I think you’re confusing people’s conscience moti…
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/20 07:35 PM
1

Doesn’t matter. You descended from people who had kids. So you still carry the genes that survived. In the way men are, I don’t think so. This was a rude awakening about myself. If someone has conflicting evidence then I’ll be wrong. Rational thinking men would do the same today if it was a clear kid or wife situation. Or at least some would. You can look at threads where men resent the baby for surviving birth when the mom didn’t. But this has little to do with the innate genetic inclinations o…
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/20 06:53 PM
3

Ok, well there’s evolutionary reasons why it is that way. If you’re a woman who loves her partner above herself you will have less surviving offspring. If you made sure he ate before you while pregnant, died for him, etc you were less likely to successfully reproduce. If you were a man who put his partner first, as long as she already had your kid you were more likely to have surviving offspring. You were dead maybe, but your babies survived if you took care of the mother that was carrying them/…
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/20 06:40 PM
0

I think men probably love more. The getting bored but I think is more cultural than innate- we tell women to be fulfilled by everything except what we are supposed to be doing. This is the predictable result. Do you believe in evolution?
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/20 05:37 PM
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Men don’t love their wives unconditionally either. If she cheats, murders the children, stops having sex with him but opens an Only Fans, cashes out the 401k to go on vacation, etc. And I don’t think this is a bad thing.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/20 04:33 PM
10

30s and 40s are very different. 30s is last call. 40s is trying to find a half empty beer can in the parking lot after they locked the door. Only the incredibly wealthy tend to marry much outside of their age bracket. At 40s you’re going to have to make concessions if you want to settle down. Late 30s too. Early 30s you’ll need to make less concessions. If you’re religious, sure, look for a religious girl. If you’re not- why would an early 20s religious virgin want to marry you? What do you have…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/20 04:10 PM
2

That’s a shit guy. If he’s getting free money to live on then he has the opportunity to make something of himself, and chooses not to. There are plenty of people working McDonalds who would kill for that opportunity.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/20 06:08 PM
1

That just happens to be how you usually get money. With a guy who was straight up given money my concern would be that he would blow it all and that wouldn’t be useful. If we have a house, proper medical care, clothes and toys for the kids, etc- that takes money. Idgaf what other people think of us.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/20 06:06 PM
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Some churches require 6 months. If you don’t have that issue then 3 months is probably enough time for all the guests to request off and buy plane tickets if necessary. People spend years engaged most often because they are planning a wedding they can not afford at a place that books out a year in advance.
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/20 06:42 PM
1

I specifically said that different parents have different abilities in this regard.
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/20 03:01 PM
1

Yes they do. They perceive themselves as more valuable than sluts. The religious types prefer low n counts. The rest prefer low n counts in the recent past OR some demonstration that they aren’t just a lay- reformed high n count if you will. No. That’s a failing on my part. I try to focus on what people can change. Really I should also defend the position.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/20 07:16 PM
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There are a few groups of people that care: Boomers Some people who’ve been cheated on with the “friend” Really trashy people who have nothing to offer but vag. Since the friend also has vag they rightfully think that their partner has no reason to be faithful. A thing that also happens is that someone has a friend that they OBVIOUSLY want, their partner takes issue, so they turn it into a gender thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/20 07:11 PM
3

That’s not dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/20 05:34 PM
13

They do it openly now so just don’t date single moms.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/20 05:26 PM
1

I am a woman with a n count of 4 (married). It makes since to me for a guy to care. Girls in know with low numbers don’t care if guys care because they can afford these guys (all else being equal). Girls I know with high numbers try to justify why it shouldn’t matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/20 05:17 PM
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To get the credibility of a low n count person while pursuing the interests of a high n count person. That they’re lying is the only thing that makes sense. Women are the ones who do the slut shaming. Unless they’re sluts themselves..
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/20 02:54 PM
1

It seems like there are a fair amount of women who are afraid to get caught lying.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/20 02:38 PM
3

Having one boyfriend a year shows that you don’t take relationships seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/20 01:27 PM
1

This is true of women with high n counts. If you’re a woman with a low n count, why would you care?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/20 01:26 PM
12

Ok, from your post I understood that he told her that she wasn't a virgin due to the rape therefore he was leaving her because she was un pure. If that's not the case then ignore my comment on harassing and insulting her. So in that case he was a 19 year old who couldn't handle supporting a trauma victim and so left a brief relationship. He has since grown up. If that's all he did then I don't see a major problem. He ended a brief relationship. That's his part here. People don't commit suicide b…
/r/RedPillWives21/11/20 12:04 AM
3

More people always means less capacity no matter what. For me the thing is: am I treating them like individuals or like part of my people collection? That line is possibly at a different number for different parents.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/20 11:54 PM
10

5 It probably won't happen as I am pregnant with #2 and 34. It seems like the max I could have while still having actual relationships with all of them. Like, if I can have 5 friends I can have 5 kids. I couldn't keep up with 10 friends so I wouldn't want to have 10 kids.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/20 11:44 PM
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How old was he when he did this? So, your bf isn't just rejecting/breaking up with non-virgins. He is also rejecting/breaking up with virgin rape victims. You have 100% control over whether you are a virgin. You don't control whether or not you are a rape victim. You need to have a serious conversation with him about whether being a rape victim is still a dealbreaker for him. Because if it is then you're banking your future and time on something that you have no control over. How long he plans t…
/r/RedPillWives20/11/20 11:16 PM
5

Being infertile will effect your ability to get a quality relationship. Because many people want kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/20 05:37 PM
1

Unless you are infertile, physical deformed, or seriously disabled then you are 100% responsible. Everything else is within your control.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/20 05:20 PM
2

If you’re happy with only women then no need to add men. As far as the advice, imo it depends on how you use social media. Are you posting multiple selfies a day and writing about your life in detail? Then I can see the argument. Are you using it to join groups of particular topics and discuss those topics? Makes less sense.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/20 08:14 PM
4

So historically, polygamous cultures can’t keep the underclass from rioting in the streets, but you think they’ll not only sit there and take it, but take a bullet for it?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/20 11:10 PM
4

What’s your plan for the resulting event civil unrest? 80% of you g men now know for sure they lose. They have testosterone, physical strength, and nothing to gain from playing by the rules.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/20 10:52 PM
0

No, it also indicates how we value sex and if it means anything to us.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/20 04:31 PM
0

Women don’t think this. Sluts think this. Because people convince themselves of stupid shit if it’s in their best interest. At the same time, many men overestimate their value and think they can do better than sluts.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/20 04:29 PM
12

Some of these are half true, some are insane. Don’t change to try to be outdoorsy to attract someone if you are in fact geeky. Things that are just preferences shouldn’t be changed. If there is something about you that can be improved- and you’re a person- then improve it. Being able to cook is objectively better than not being able to cook, so if you can’t cook learn. Dating is an interview process. No company solicits resumes for no position in particular and just hopes the right one comes alo…
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/20 11:11 PM
11

They are both telling the truth because people refuse to distinguish between fucking and dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/20 04:06 PM
1

If literally no one is hiring then this doesn’t apply. 13 year olds aren’t worthless shit because they can’t get hired until 16. Because no one is hiring until 16.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/20 04:56 AM
5

I don’t see what that has to do with baggage. Unless you’re saying non virgin = baggage. Yes. 18 for guys because when 90%+ of the gender you want, wants a relationship, there’s something wrong with you if you can’t get one. If 1-10% of the gender you want wants a relationship I can’t count you as defective for not being able to get a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/20 04:50 AM
4

So don’t date hoes. 25 is around the time men start wanting relationships so who do y’all plan on dating?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/20 04:22 AM
4

No, she can just leave her house and walk into fucking. This sub has a problem distinguishing between fucking and relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/20 04:20 AM
2

18 for guys, 25 for girls
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/20 03:58 AM
1

I can think someone is being disingenuous without trying to ban them...
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/20 08:20 PM
2

This doesn’t read like a debate post. This reads like a validate my life post.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/20 07:49 PM
1

Then you’re not un marryable. If it makes you feel better look into makeup techniques.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/20 07:48 PM
5

You are 22. Unless your face is literally deformed you will do just fine. The guys your age have not grown up yet. Dirty old men will always be dirty old men; it’s nothing about you.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/20 04:22 PM
6

1) It never works out that way. He can’t do half the pregnancy, half the recovery from an emergency C Section, or half the downtime from pregnancy and childbirth. Most men won’t do the later stuff in any meaningful way either. You will still end up doing all the managing and most of the work while he will need to be assigned specific tasks. 2) If both of you are splitting being the main caretaker then neither of you are prioritizing your career. Two people half assing a career will not be as pro…
/r/RedPillWives14/11/20 03:43 PM
2

Why do you care what men think you should do unless that one specifically is trying to marry you? And why are you dating a guy with a shit job? If you want an egalitarian relationship then he won’t be pulling his weight. If you want a traditional relationship then he won’t be able to support you taking care of his kids. This should be vetted on the front end. It seems you’v found someone with an incompatibility and dated them long term anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/20 03:33 PM
5

This is no more risky than trusting someone to not quit their job for “their passion.” As long as the plan is reasonable. If the plan to become an engineer and are currently studying how to build bridges then there’s no more trust in that than there is in trusting an engineer not to quit to pursue art.
/r/RedPillWives14/11/20 12:46 AM
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Instead of getting actual life advise growing up, most of us were fed lines about how only love matters, we should pick a guy on feelings alone and we'll "just know" when he's the one, and it was presented as basically just a friend that you sleep with. So I'm not surprised that people have trouble sussing this out.
/r/RedPillWives13/11/20 10:56 PM
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Most men can't afford a SAHM AND middle class luxuries. If you live cheaply and apply yourself at all you can afford to have your wife stay home with your toddler.
/r/RedPillWives13/11/20 09:24 PM
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No. People who I care about who don't want to/aren't in a position to be my husband are called friends. The purpose of marriage imo is division of labor for childrearing. I gestate the babies and do the childcare (and manage the household). He provides the resources. If he's not providing the resources for me to raise his children then there's nothing for me to do in the marriage.
/r/RedPillWives13/11/20 09:23 PM
1

If you’re looking for an egalitarian relationship that’s exactly what you should expect.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/20 02:30 AM
1

If you haven’t noticed most people don’t put effort in. It takes time because you won’t see immediate results once you start trying. So time and effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/20 02:14 AM
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I thought it was really clear that you would need enough money to compensate, not literally $1. If you are legally living in the 1st world you can control your level of success. It just takes time. It requires much more effort than loosing weight. It is still controllable. And they’re not really comparable because being overweight is something that everyone can control and so the solution is just: quit doing that. VERY few people are literally deformed and since they can’t control it, it will ta…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/20 02:01 AM
1

Ok? They didn’t ask what was harder. They asked what could possibly be done in this situation. Do you disagree with my assessment?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/20 01:38 AM
4

This seems sabotage to looking for a relationship. But it’s misleading about your personality, so fair enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/20 08:50 PM
3

I admit my rule doesn’t work well with bi people. My rule is is you wouldn’t do it with your non attracted sex friends then it’s not platonic.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/20 08:28 PM
2

Because you’re bi or because you have no male friends? I can think of situations where your point would apply but this is a dubious one. Valentines Day is a romantic holiday.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/20 08:22 PM
4

How is pretending to not have feelings unethical. It’s a bad plan. I’m interested in the thought process here.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/20 08:18 PM
3

To prove this is platonic you must buy your male friends Valentines Day gifts.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/20 08:17 PM
5

Lying about anything. If it’s worth lying about then you’re doing it for the purpose of getting someone you wouldn’t otherwise get. Leaving out obviously pertinent information. That you have an STD is obviously pertinent to sex. That this house belongs to your parents who are out of town is obviously pertinent to a relationship. Giving non answers to questions in the hopes of continuing sex. Ex “take it slow” “we’ll see what happens” when in fact you are looking to fuck and go. Hiding a kid to g…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/20 08:11 PM
1

Because men fuck all women and that just happens to include ugly women.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/20 08:00 PM
2

Not really. You’re not really being emotionally supportive or submissive if you’re sleeping with other people. If you don’t have or want kids then I don’t think household management for resources is a fair trade. There’s... nothing to manage. A house that only adults live in needs no where near 40 hours/week of cleaning and cooking. (And 40 hours is a light week if you have a halfway decent career.) At that point you’re just unemployed. Many here will say you can be RPW and have a career. Person…
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/20 12:23 AM
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In the early stages. I see no use in wasting time. Many men want their own children so you need to find one that is ok with that never happening. In my world this would mean within the first month because I don’t see a use to wasting time in general.
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/20 11:37 PM
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What alternatives would you be ok with, if any?
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/20 11:32 PM
2

Only some of those things can’t be fixed. So for the ones that can’t: have money. Men will bitch like that’s out of their control but in reality it’s more like being fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/20 09:25 PM
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I don’t think MOST men think this way either. Just the ones who say stuff like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/20 08:09 PM
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Yes. What I hear is “I treat women like shit and see how many I can fuck. Having a daughter would force me to see a woman as a person instead of a sex toy. That would make me inconsistent.”
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/20 05:53 PM
1

I was told this when I was already a SAHM.
/r/RedPillWives08/11/20 11:44 PM
2

Is this a difference I’m what counts as “dating?” As I understand it in Europe strangers bang and everyone is kinda cool with it. In the US strangers bang, and lie and say they’re dating to make themselves feel better about it. If we’re talking about actual dating then there are things that will overrule looks. If we’re talking about banging then women will get better looking guys because there is an oversupply of men looking to bang.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/20 11:13 PM
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So, loosing a child seems like a perfectly reasonable thing to tell your mom. Assuming there isn’t a particular reason not to, which may be the case here. It sounds like you air info indiscriminately in general though. Have you ever had a conversation with him about what he considers private? Does he feel that it’s obvious? Do you feel that you’re a good judge of this?
/r/RedPillWives07/11/20 12:17 AM
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This isn’t about an age gap. This is about disagreeing on whether to have kids. You need to decide then be with someone who agrees.
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/20 05:33 PM
4

If you want to fuck randos, then don't enter a monogamous relationship. This isn't complicated.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/20 05:02 AM
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I didn’t have issues with my mom but my grandparents took issue with it. Telling them your goals is all you can do. You’re delivering information about yourself, not apologetics on tradcon. Whenever she brings it up I answer minimally and move on or end the conversation. It’s my job to raise my children properly, not convince my grandma that it isn’t “a shame” that I’m not using my degree.
/r/RedPillWives05/11/20 12:33 AM
1

I tried it for a minute to try something new and try to be feminine. It was a pita so I quit doing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/20 10:52 PM
3

Good luck with that. Market value.
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/20 02:35 AM
3

Once THEIR relationship starts. What is their incentive to gatekeeper YOUR marriage?
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/20 02:29 AM
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Why is it other women’s job to protect your marriage? What’s their incentive? You can never change the people you are around. You can only be around other people.
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/20 02:21 AM
3

This year does suck. You have someone working 70-75 hours and someone working 0 hours. You need to fill your time some other way. You used to go to the gym. Can you go for walks? Buy some cheap weights? And try to come to a reasonable compromise. Maybe a day or half day once a month with him instead of every week.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/20 11:39 PM
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Doing "work stuff" may be appropriate or inappropriate for off days depending on his position and career path. What are your goals? If he wasn't career focused he wouldn't be able to pay the bills for both of you. He still needs some down time. From his 70 hour/6 day a week job. He should spend some time with you, but demanding the whole day for quality time when that's his only down time is unreasonable. You DO want him to entertain you. You want him to take ALL his free time and interact with …
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/20 11:27 PM
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Just.... text him and ask him what time you should be ready. You need to find something to do with your time. He can not and should not entertain you constantly. Find a job, volunteer, take a class on Kahn Academy, something. He is working. 70 hours is a long week. Having to entertain someone who isn't working in addition to that is extra draining. Him working is where the resources come from. It may very well be the case that the appropriate thing for him to do is to stay with his parents for a…
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/20 11:10 PM
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Yeah? Who is or isn't raping slaves is not an argument for what women do and do not want. How is this not obvious?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/20 09:31 PM
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The SLAVES are not freely choosing what man has them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/20 09:17 PM
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I find it very odd that women insist they're not "Happy to share an alpha" or whatever when the entirety of human history says otherwise. ​ and it was of little consequence to the wealthiest men who continued to enjoy sex with their concubines, and even slaves. Pick one.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/20 08:55 PM
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You fail to explain how fucking alphas contributes to the strategy. Seems you could just... not fuck alphas with at worst the same result. At best you haven’t lost credibility. RPW seems to have a different definition of alpha that TRP does. If all you have to offer is looks, you need some to have a plan for when your looks fade. Better yet, have something to offer besides looks. The problem here isn’t with going after high value men. It’s with vag being your only selling point. Be a whole ducki…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/20 03:01 PM
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I’m arguing that women are choosing to become single moms because they know they can.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/20 06:10 PM
1

I’m not clear on your point. Please clarify.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/20 05:12 PM
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Then it’s still the case that women were fucking men who they knew would stay. You just don’t like how. This century women knew damn good and well the guy didn’t have to stay. Also shamed isn’t really mutually exclusive with freedom. You had the freedom to be a jackass. Other people had the freedom to call you out on being a jackass.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/20 05:11 PM
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Thankfully humans have frontal lobes and can control their instincts. All those people paying for the welfare? How’d they get in a position to do so?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/20 05:09 PM
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It ate my links. https://www2.census .gov/library/publications/decennial/1930/families/families-type-size.pdf https://www. census.gov/library/visualizations/2016/comm/cb16-192_living_arrangements.html
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/20 04:25 AM
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https://www2.census.gov/library/publications/decennial/1930/families/families-type-size.pdf See page 5. The percentage of single parent households, not counting widows, in 1930 was 1.15% I’m 1935 national welfare was created. https://www.census.gov/library/visualizations/2016/comm/cb16-192_living_arrangements.html In 2016 27.4% of children lived in single parent households. Apparently it became unseemly to publish whether it was the woman’s fault sometime between 1930 and 2016. So either 26% of …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/20 04:24 AM
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So, if you’re pissed about welfare to single mothers then I don’t think going and finding yourself a single mom to marry is going to solve your problem. You’re trying to AVOID paying for another man’s rejects. It is absurd to think that knowing they won’t starve and die doesn’t effect many people’s risk tolerance. In the past if you picked men poorly either one of you died or you had to give the kid up. Now you get to keep the kid and get paid for it while there are waiting lists to adopt infant…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/20 04:01 AM
1

Then hopefully we can be friends. I don’t get the dilemma.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/20 05:36 PM
2

It’s generally true. Every single issue isn’t attributable to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/20 01:29 AM
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I said "want to bang" but in a lot of social circles, men actually dont have the maturity to distinguish lust from love, and they will "fall in love" with the first hot woman that interact with them. Then she should find more mature circles. If someone JUST wants to bang, then its not an emotional thing that needs to be dealt with. They can just go jerk off to something else if that person doesn't want casual sex with them. So you think one should only have friendship with people that can not be…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/20 10:45 PM
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1) want to bang =\= wants more. That’s wanting less really. Do they ALL want to be with her? 2) Gay men and straight women exist. We can fight over whether truly monogamous men exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/20 05:09 AM
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Yes. Go be friends with people who can actually be your friend because they don't want more from you.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/20 04:59 AM
3

Weeks is very early on. The only way it’s the first few days is if they’re basing it solely off looks, which we claim to hate.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/20 01:48 AM
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After they’re rejected they do need to get out.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/20 01:33 AM
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It’s ok to be sad. Just like it’s ok for them to be sad. It’s not ok to act like they’re an asshole for not wanting a lopsided relationship. Weeks is still in the getting to know you phase so it’s entirely possible that they were honest the whole time and decided what they wanted. They won’t necessarily know they want more 1 day in. Loosing an established friendship of 5 years would be different.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/20 01:25 AM
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Weeks? I don’t think weeks is loosing a friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/20 01:19 AM
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Explicitly trying to friend zone people is bullshit. They can’t be your friend if they want more. These women are trying to get partner labor for friends prices.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/20 01:08 AM
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The hot guy is fucking ugly women because he is fucking many women and eventually you run out of hot women. He doesn’t feel bad about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/20 11:46 PM
1

Do you understand that a person can be a shit person while also lacking one particular really specific shit quality?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/20 09:47 PM
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You can pick a shit guy who isn't also a shit guy who will drag you on. They didn't ask how you should go about picking a spouse. They asked how you find yourself with one.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/20 09:20 PM
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What? The question was what makes women more likely to be married. What I listed makes women less likely to be dragged on by a guy who has no intention of marrying her.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/20 09:12 PM
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The ability to read through bs. Several factors contribute to this ability: intelligence, experience, got lucky with parents who gave you guidance, quality of friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/20 08:18 PM
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Cordially let them keep living in the same house.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/20 05:53 PM
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Being uNfUlLfIlEd isn’t a good reason to get divorced anyway. It’s more often than not people who expected the infatuation stage to last forever. The only way I’d leave is if it became dangerous for the kids. Till death do us part mfer. Someone dying?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/20 05:52 PM
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Why the fuck would I want to be seen by/see the most popular people?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/20 05:48 PM
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We are about submitting to men that lead, not submitting to any man that demands it with nothing in return. You don’t just submit to a man and waste your life until he’s good and ready to sign on to something he’s already using up. You’re pushing a decade. That’s unreasonable unless you were 10 when you started dating. If he isn’t ready to be a husband than stop being a wife. Whether that means going to your mom or getting into a job.
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/20 05:42 PM
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Yes...
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/20 05:11 PM
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Ok, so I really need to explain the concept of lying?
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/20 04:46 PM
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“he just doesn’t want a future with her.” Also known as: he doesn’t want her.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/20 04:41 PM
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Sure. He can love his sister, his mom, even his friends. Since we’re talking romantic love, then no. He can be lying or he can be confused. But he can not love a woman but also not want her.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/20 03:38 PM
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You don’t need RPW for this. RPW is for a good man that you chose. You need r/insaneparents r/raisedbynarcists or some other place for abused children. Your dad is expecting you to be a full time wife, which isn’t appropriate anyway, and a full time student, and babysit a grown ass man who doesn’t have any inclination to do anything with his life. For his part he works half time. If there is some help you can get now irl then get it. If the age of majority is 18 where you live then move out with…
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/20 03:24 PM
1

It isn’t like, optional. They just capture people and rape them.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/20 09:33 PM
1

No. That wasn’t what was brought up though.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/20 09:14 PM
1

Yes, wearing bikinis is definitely a behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/20 08:31 PM
1

Wearing bikinis is a behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/20 07:35 PM
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Men’s behavior is 100% on them and also not the topic of the OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/20 05:48 PM
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Depends on a few things. If he had something built up prior vs if he wants me to help him build something up instead of my own career then give up rights to it. If fault matters vs if he can just walk away or provoke a divorce. Most divorces now are no fault. That doesn’t mean no one was at fault. It means it’s a quick and dirty way to get divorced. And though most women initiate divorce, that doesn’t mean all of them are doing it because they aren’t “fulfilled” or some other such bs.
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/20 05:46 PM
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Instincts- the innate way their brains work that make them want and think certain things. There’s a difference been finding someone attractive and what the OP is describing. I’m sure there’s someone out there who finds a turtleneck the height of sexuality. Near everyone will find a near naked person of their preferred gender to be sexual. Same reason restaurant commercials feature pics of food that 99.99999999999999999% of people will find appetizing, and not wrappers because SOMEONE has pica.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/20 03:45 AM
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She can wear a bikini. She can not control men’s instincts/thoughts. Dress however you want. Don’t ignore the effects of that. They have control over themselves. Which is why every beech isn’t an all day every every day rape fest. The OP addressed men’s thought responses, not their actions.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/20 02:57 AM
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Men can’t choose how their brains are wired. Women can choose to not go in public in bikinis. I think that settles the fault.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/20 02:51 AM
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So women friend zone men and men acquaintance zone women. Sounds like everyone needs to learn how to walk away from uneven relationships. Or maybe the men are just valuing their friendships more. There's really no way to show how much effort someone puts into their friendships.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/20 10:20 PM
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What brand are we talking? BMI is a more useful measure because its objective. In any case, female physical attractiveness =/= male attractiveness. Female physical attractiveness = male income.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/20 09:39 PM
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In accordance with findings of the American sample, New Zealand women emphasized talking, emotional sharing, and discussing personal problems with their same-sex friends, and men showed an emphasis on sharing activities and doing things with their men friends. This could mean that female-female friendships are closer than male-male friendships..... or it could mean that men and women show intimacy in different ways in their platonic relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/20 09:19 PM
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But if they return the favor then who gives a fuck?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/20 09:17 PM
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Then it sounds like you are incompatible, and that's ok. It just needs to be remembered.
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/20 09:04 PM
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With an ultimatum there’s two options. And without the ultimatum there’s the same two options. This is another straw man. If it was only for the sex then there wouldn’t be a relationship. It’s part of a sexual relationship. Most people don’t explicitly lay out all the terms (and I think we should start doing that but that’s a whole other debate) but this one is obvious. Without the sex you’re friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/20 09:54 PM
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Alternative theory: girl clothes and pads cost more than boy clothes and no pads.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/20 09:25 PM
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I'm not the OP. That's just a less honest ultimatum. If your problem is on the niceness then fine, but the ultimate content is the same. Sometimes there is no compromise. If you enter a SEXUAL relationship and then withhold the sex, your spouse doesn't need to compromise with you to negotiate for what they already negotiated for. The fact of the matter is if they don't sleep with you you're leaving. I don't see why being honest is the problem. Opening a negotiation at this point would be dishone…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/20 09:24 PM
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Yes, they’re different. I didn’t say they’re not different. I said it makes no sense to “be able to” break up with someone over something but giving them a heads up/option about it is horrible.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/20 08:44 PM
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Why can't you say out loud that sex is a dealbreaker for you? That's the "manipulative ultimatums" that people are complaining about. Even when something was CLEARLY agreed upon upfront, stating that its part of the deal is what people are taking issue with.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/20 08:14 PM
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But someone might prefer staying in the relationship to whatever it is the partner wants. It’s weird that you can leave them over a dealbreaker but can’t say out loud that it’s a dealbreaker.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/20 07:51 PM
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Much. Husband same age, 2nd kid on the way.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/20 01:35 AM
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Since he’s libertarian is he opposed to government marriage or all marriage? And would you be ok with a stateless marriage? And if so do you live in a libertarian community that would actually hold him to that? If you’ve been friends for a decade, did his beliefs never come up? At the end of the day you can’t change his beliefs. You can only decide if they’re a dealbreaker for you.
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/20 04:20 PM
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I’m open to This means no. I'm sure its technically true in their mind. Being open to something is different than seeking something out. In that case establish intentions before meeting. If they can't give a straight answer move along.
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/20 08:25 PM
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Establish what you’re looking for early on. It shouldn’t be months in before you know what you’re interviewing for. You still may have to sift through some on a first or second date. How are you meeting guys?
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/20 07:54 PM
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Nope. Because it has fuck all to do with the well-being of younger women.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/20 06:59 PM
1

Um, where does this sub say that everyone’s mother loves them???
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/20 11:26 PM
1

Men who say this don't want a partner. They want to fuck and go. Women who are down to fuck and go, or stupid enough to not see it coming if older/untaught enough to not see it coming if they are younger, 99%+ of the time have psychological issues such as abandonment and that makes them seek out abusers. Because as ick as it is we seek out partners who are somewhat similar to our parents. (Until therapy.)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/20 08:40 PM
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Idk. I don’t keep up with the escapades of politicians. I was like 10 for Clinton so I had nothing better to do. But neither do I assume they’re pure if they haven’t been caught.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/20 02:07 AM
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How do you know whether a president stayed faithful??? Just because he’s not retarded enough to get blown by an intern with the window open doesn’t mean he doesn’t have side chicks.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/20 12:27 AM
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Seems dysfunctional. If something is a problem bring it up. Don’t wait for your next scheduled meeting. And if this is happening often then maybe reevaluate your life. Relationships are transactional though. Relationships where you don’t expect the other person to provide things are called friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/20 12:24 AM
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Personal welfare is basically a government prostitution program for shit men.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 09:26 PM
1

Nah, some of them have daddy issues. Before therapy I was seeking out older guys and none of them had money. I made more than both of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 08:35 PM
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We don't have the option to marry right away. Most guys aren't looking to to marry at 18. Fine, the alternative then is that we get careers. And once we do that and we start making the same or more than you, a lot of you are going to have to justify the pay cut. That's the trade off.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 02:15 PM
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expressed interest pushing me away eventually inexplicably.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 02:11 PM
1

“College educated women” so, well past 18? Meaning we needed jobs, and you’re just bitter we went and got good ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 04:37 AM
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Yeah, because most men want casual sex and most women don't. We already know this.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 03:43 AM
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Imagine if jobs did this. Imagine applying for a head engineer job, they turn you down, then offer you a secretary position.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 03:40 AM
5

You know how some guys want to fuck without strings? Well some women want strings without the fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 03:37 AM
2

A brain tumor is just a clump of cells. Removal of one is pretty damn invasive.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 03:33 AM
1

They deserve each other. Fuck her, but what am I supposed to feel sorry for the guy who's ready to pay a hitman so that he can fuck and go?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 03:32 AM
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Didn't say anything about chivalry, but: 1) Yes, there are different standards of treatment for people you are pursuing and people who you work with. You might pay for a date. Why the fuck would you pay for a coworker's meal/drinks? You'd happily share a hotel room on vacation with your girlfriend. If it was your coworker, the company is cheap if they don't get everyone their own room. Just, obviously different relationships come with different behaviors. 2) Until y'all are down to either marry …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 03:14 AM
1

It has a well established definition in sociology. And that definition isn't "when a woman wants me to do ANYTHING AT ALL before fucking me."
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 03:06 AM
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If having ANY standards and not being a complete slut is what everyone means when they (mis)use the word hypergamy then its a useless word.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 03:05 AM
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Its typically men wanting younger women, so I'm not sure what your point is? Everyone is advised to lower their standards all the time. Outside of SJW hyper feminist make up your own pronoun blogs, people are told to not have standards. Because the powers that be benefit when family loyalty doesn't exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 03:03 AM
1

You're not wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 03:00 AM
1

No, it would just have to happen with lots of couples.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/20 04:53 PM
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He can say that. And she's likely to agree. Because single moms are either dishonest or stupid af. At the end of the day he's going to be expected to do dad level work. Aside from that, fuck living with someone else's kid if you don't have a kid. I wouldn't even take roommates with kids before I had a kid.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/20 04:48 PM
2

This has nothing to do with relationship turnover. Guy: Hello woman I'm fucking. Oh, you want to know where this is going? Well, you know fate and seeing where it goes and we have a good thing going and such bullshit non answers. Woman: Ok. Surveyor: Are you in a relationship with each other: Guy: No Woman: Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 02:52 PM
1

There are shitty women too, duh.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 02:50 PM
1

Yes, such ethics.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 02:48 PM
2

Good thing its been updated as fucking is clearly not a physiological need.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 02:45 PM
5

It literally does not belong to the same row as breathing. That's the pyramid part. Maybe don't get divorced then you'll have sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 03:43 AM
2

basically
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 03:25 AM
7

I'm more interested in the content of Witchcraft, and how you discuss fragrances online.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 03:24 AM
2

Don't enter the relationship in the first place. The way you asked it makes the answer "yes." CAN sluts be loyal? Yes, it is physically possible for a slut to be loyal. Doesn't mean you should date one because they most likely will not be loyal.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 03:21 AM
8

Low impulse control and high time preference is correlated with low impulse control and high time preference? NO!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 03:18 AM
6

Then just say you're a prostitute and go.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 02:16 AM
2

Yes. Don't like bet on it though.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 02:12 AM
2

If people didn't do that then this whole sub wouldn't exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 02:11 AM
0

I’m down just as soon as fathers start supporting their daughters again. As is, we kinda gotta work until marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 01:51 AM
6

This is now disingenuous. You started out about a vacation. Now all of the sudden YOU’L DIE! Jobs aren’t optional. He has to go to work. He has a better chance of dying in a car accident on the way there than you have of complications from Coronavirus.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/20 01:48 AM
1

It’s not easy? Well shit, why didn’t you say so? You don’t have to do it then. 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 01:42 AM
2

Really? You gonna tell your husband's whole family that you fucked his cousin on a ONS?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 01:16 AM
3

You can try to control the behavior of people who already have what they want, or you can quit seeking out people who want to use you and leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 01:14 AM
4

Except that we tend to interpret decency from people we just fucked as interest. They're fucking you knowing that women don't deal with that well. They don't gaf about you.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 01:10 AM
2

Yeah, its a fact. He's recognizing that fact by making himself as unattractive as possible after getting what he wants. You're ignoring that fact by continuing to bang guys and demand they be nice because fairness.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 01:09 AM
1

Last I checked rape was still illegal so he's probably in jail.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 01:07 AM
2

Are they worth what? You shouldn't marry one.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 01:06 AM
8

unmatching me from tinder in the taxi on the way home from fucking me (felt great, thanks) This is why. If you "felt" anything about their disinterest, even disinterest in another hookup which is reaching, then that's what they are trying to avoid. Women tend to get more emotionally attached with sex than men. We also tend to read things into shit. The tiniest shit, like someone not telling us gtfo after 5 minutes. If you don't like feeling used and abused then quit having casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 01:04 AM
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Who's the primary victim, or the victim at all, is an entirely different issue from who's the most incentivized. Neither adult involved is a victim unless they were raped. Which is an extreme minority of unwanted fetuses. The child is the victim as they are the one who will either be killed or raised in a shitty situation and they did NOTHING. So fuck both adults. As it stands, women get paid out the ass for having a kid when they don't have their shit together. They also don't seem to be deterr…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 12:55 AM
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“Why doesn’t it?” Because here we are. In the current situation women have much less incentive than men to avoid unwanted fetuses. In most areas PP exists. Do you think most women are telling the guy “hey, I can’t afford bc so wrap it up” or do you think they’re intentionally not using bc?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 12:44 AM
3

Then you’re who this post is for.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 12:41 AM
1

Ok, keep it up.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 12:40 AM
8

The ER story has no where near enough info to make a judgment. As for the rest, he isn't putting his job above you. He's putting his job above a vacation. It would be very childish of him to say its safe to go on vacation but not safe to go to work. Even if he is allowed to work from home, that doesn't mean that that's the best thing for his career. Telling someone to not go to work for a full month in hopes he won't get sick before a vacation is unreasonable.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/20 12:37 AM
2

If you plan on peace-ing out when he hits 50 then be honest and rent, don't buy. That and plenty of 50 year olds can still fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/20 11:56 PM
2

But it doesn't. MALE hormonal/insert birth control would, but that's all illegal. I wonder why...
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/20 11:55 PM
1

Have you tried to improve or were you fatalistic from the git go?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/20 11:53 PM
3

Either she runs away but gets jack shit because legally its still yall's stuff and she is fully entitled to come back home (many states already have laws about maliciously wasting marital assets, and you can have the account in your name and just have to pay the bills) so you're fulfilling your duty by continuing to pay the mortgage and put food in the fridge. AND she still has duties as homemaker. Or she stays and has to deal with whatever bullshit you feel like revenging with. I think if women…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/20 11:50 PM
2

The other dude would be the trespasser...
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/20 11:40 PM
2

Sounds like you have a trespasser in your house. Proceed accordingly.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/20 11:37 PM
5

made in their official capacity Women are voting in their official capacity as what???
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/20 11:32 PM
5

I'm in favor of this on the grounds that women would then have to make better decisions. I really don't give a single fuck about either of the adults who put themselves and an innocent third party in that situation. Unmarried to the mother men have no responsibility and no rights. Maybe if you're married at to her at the time of conception then you have responsibilities and rights. Or just make divorce not a thing anymore, either way. Or fuck it because they should have picked a better husband. …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/20 11:14 PM
7

This isn't a conflict of interest. Where's the conflicting interest???
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/20 11:06 PM
1

So vet for values instead of for hotness. And don't fuck them right away, then you'll know they don't JUST want to fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/20 11:03 PM
1

How is this a conflict of interest? Really shitty behavior =/= conflict of interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/20 10:49 PM
0

The last 50 years or so is when women have had complete control over how much resources they have.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/20 10:47 PM
11

No. They pretend to the women they're fucking that they're in relationships and tell the truth to the surveys (and family and friends and coworkers...)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/20 10:30 PM
11

Alternate theory: Men are "considering" themselves to be "single" further into the relationship than women are. Considering a large part of TRP, the sub anyway, is How To Pretend You're In A Relationship When You're Not, I think this is the more likely theory.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/20 10:21 PM
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We get to pick our husbands. People always confuse arbitrary "authority" with chosen authority. And it isn't entirely unfettered authority. Its more a division of labor. Our husbands make decisions about careers and interacting with the outside world (which effects careers) because that's what they're responsible for. We have plenty to do running the household and raising children.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/20 06:06 PM
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As much as possible relevant information. It sounds like you're paying so I don't know what the benefit is to going on a date before getting/disclosing any information. Like, ok coffee is only $5, but its $5 EVERY time for you to find out that your goals are incompatible when you could have just discussed basic stuff prior to that.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/20 09:20 PM
3

If what you want from them is incompatible from what they want from you then cut all contact.
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/20 12:05 AM
7

Is it disrespectful for men to make wife material women wait for years to pay their bills while handing prostitutes thousands in cash in the first hour?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/20 06:47 AM
1

Date =\= commitment.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/20 07:10 AM
3

Father- provide resources. I can see someone being bitter if all he's doing is 9-5 at a job a teenager can do. If he is actually working at a career, trying to improve, work up or get additional skills, this will be much more than 40 hours plus commute. This is when the "support staff" would be necessary and useful. Mother- gestate and care for children, manage the household (finances, knowing dr appointments what the house needs general management knowledge necessary, all the cleaning, cooking,…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/20 05:40 PM
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For the same reason that there isn't a sub for women looking to get laid. Women can get all the uncommitted sex they want. Men can get commitment if they want it. Trying to get what the opposite DOESN'T want out of them is what would require a strategy.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/20 03:38 AM
2

I'm not going to attempt to explain the emotional issues of half the planet. I'm going to attempt to explain my emotional issues. When I was younger other women were competition. And they were more interested in props than in FRIENDS. The relationships were shallow and required large amounts of money. I couldn't win, so I didn't play. Most of this was kinda true of the men too though. Now I have one female friend who is significantly younger and one who is waaaaaay over there. I don't have more …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/20 08:43 PM
2

This is like saying "people who require job offers are putting themselves at a disadvantage in the interview market." If it doesn't matter to him either way then he'd go through with it. His refusal to go through with it means it DOES matter to him. If a guy isn't even willing to say that he'll stay forever then it is immensely stupid to change your position in anticipation of him staying forever.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/20 12:41 AM
2

Yes, that would be equivalent to men being with a woman then it going south later. They both suck.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/20 02:28 AM
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The other woman may be a horrible mother, a horrible sex partner, a horrible person, etc. She did nothing to you. She owed you nothing when she was casually sleeping with guys from her work. You aren't vetting her as a future spouse. Did you know this part of his past? Not specifically that he slept with THIS woman but that he was routinely having casual unprotected sex? If not you need to seriously consider this. Even if this test comes back negative a guy that lived that life has to worry abou…
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/20 09:52 PM
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It gives OP accurate information/mentality on which she can base a decision.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/20 09:43 PM
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Sadly the only thing that you can do is to be supportive of him They've been together all of six months, that's not the only thing she can do.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/20 09:41 PM
3

To me the problem would be needing to come back when she's tired and not at a predetermined time. That's worthless because you can't do anything if you'll have to come back at any moment. This sounds like unnecessary drama on both sides. She offered, kind of, which was nice. You declined, which can sanely be taken as an insult. You could have said something like "I'll keep that in mind." She asked why not, which was really unnecessary. So you went on about how she can't be trusted. There's reall…
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/20 05:05 AM
1

That’s not how resources work. And they’re almost always not orphans; they’re abandoned or taken away. You don’t just get my stuff if I don’t have a kid. For myself and many others it’s not my kid or a scumbag’s kid. It’s my kid or more time for a career/partying/movies/travel/etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/20 01:06 PM
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I wouldn’t call childcare a menial task. You need all those other things in a relationship also. If it’s just companionship though, that’s what friends are. To me a spouse is a friend who’s values (and age and gender) mesh enough to start a family with. If I’m not trying to start a family with you but you hit all the other points then we’re friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/20 03:43 PM
1

I have relationships with people on that basis. I call them friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/20 03:05 PM
1

Your market match might be 1 or 2 steps uglier than you. If all you’re offering is dick, you’re not getting a equally looking woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/20 03:05 PM
1

Didn’t say you’d get your looksmatch. Said you’d get SOMEONE.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/20 02:56 PM
1

Its called drugs. Which, if you're fucking randoms is probably useful anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/20 12:52 AM
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There's some of them? They can't fuck each other?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/20 12:40 AM
-3

No one can't have sex. They just can't have sex with who they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/20 12:31 AM
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This won't acomplish. See: Every guy on here demanding a woman two leagues up and not being attracted to any women that is not: career orientated AND domestic AND thin AND a virgin or N<2 AND fucks them within 24 hours AND under 22. They don't seem to be attracted to any actual women, yet here we are. Edit: I mean every guy here that does this, not that every guy here does this.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 11:47 PM
0

Yes. If you have to follow a boss/clients then you can not fully follow your husband.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 09:28 PM
0

Providing resources is also a large task.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 09:09 PM
1

For purposes of divisibility of tasks, childcare is one task. That doesn't mean he never talks to his kids, just that its our task. If you try to split it, you add the additional work of managing which parts belong to who, who's turn it is to walk out of work, etc. Its more efficient to just do it. If for example you're in charge of feedings and he's in charge of dr visits, he has to come back and have a discussion about what the dr said about weight progression and diet, and consult with you be…
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 07:59 PM
2

It was supposed to be an example of how economists use language. They just pretty exclusively talk about inanimate objects. It might be useful to think of yourself as the car though. Are you a Lambo? A Camery? A beater? It doesn't matter that a Camery really really "deserves" to be driven. It isn't going to get the same buyers as a Lambo. I could have been clearer. My "at least to the extent they ever did" comment was meant to imply that people aren't near as moral/good/whatever as we like to th…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 07:48 PM
0

With young children at least, women are more naturally suited to childcare. If we’re supposed to be the supporters, equally dividing each task isn’t the thing to do. That’s more of a roommate situation. In reality, most men fall short when this role is placed on them. So the choices are: so the role yourself, or be perpetually bitter that you’re doing more than your half. On a personal preference note I find it more efficient when person A does x and Person B does y, rather than both trying to d…
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 05:09 PM
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don’t stay just isolated to the subreddit or just to the scope they were created for, these people go out into the world and act on these beliefs whether they have compassion for other people or not. Deciding to have compassion for someone or not based on whether you want to have kids with/fuck them is really weird. This would indicate sociopathy generally and I'm not sure changing language would fix that. I do think the economic based terms are useful because they put people in the mindset of a…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 03:32 PM
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But the context of the conversations is that they take place on subs about relationships and getting laid. So if someone says someone is low value that is the context. If it was a forum about attorneys and someone said "that divorce attorney is shit" I wouldn't assume they were shit because they cheat on their wife, counterfeit currency, and mug people. I would assume they are a shit attorney (or at least that that's the accusation).
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 03:11 PM
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This is conflating issues. We aren't judging their immortal soul and maybe they have a reason to be an underemployed layabout with no useful hobbies. We're judging their value as a partner. That value can be high, low, or medium. Encouraging you to improve and helping you stop acting like shit is for friends. Judging you AS IS is for people deciding whether to date you.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 03:07 PM
1

The link you posted showed that they have an extra $700 a month...
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 05:10 AM
21

Depends on what you're looking for. If you're looking to get laid, no. If you're looking for an egalitarian relationship, then yes she should be financially equal to you. If you're looking for a "traditional" relationship, then yes she should have no debt but need not have significant earning potential.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 04:50 AM
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Bring it up like "I think they double charged us." If they told him that they reversed the charge on your card then he has no reason to believe otherwise.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 04:02 AM
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I wouldn’t even say it’s a line of reasoning. Some successful people are religious but the ones that aren’t initially aren’t out looking for something to justify themselves. If you’re out looking for something to justify your lack of success, religion is one option.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 03:02 AM
1

Have you actually priced life insurance or are you assuming it’s obscenely expensive? We pay around $250 for a combined $2mil in coverage. They can afford that based on the list. And maybe don’t have three cats, cut some of the bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 02:37 AM
4

Not quite red. Darker than pink.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 02:30 AM
1

It’s not so expensive that I wouldn’t expect parents to afford it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 01:48 AM
3

Well, yeah. I... I though we knew this. Of course you have to have a... actual relationship with the person who you are... in a relationship with. Do people not know this? As far as sex decreasing this should only be the case if there's medical issues involved. Otherwise it should ebb an flow due to AVAILABILITY not to do DESIRE. Ex: you're not going to have as much sex when you just had a baby as you are after you just got married, but after that's settled and you don't have a kid in your face …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 12:59 AM
2

When I was in my early 20s I was in the Catholic Church. I found that the guys my age were more.... silly. They were also disinterested in actual relationships and slept around more than the rest of the surrounding population.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 12:39 AM
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If you don't make it in this world, there's always the next. If you are making it in this world you are less inclined to focus on the next. For better or for worse.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 12:37 AM
1

Ok well I said buy life insurance, not "buy wildly insufficient life insurance."
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 12:04 AM
1

Life insurance proceeds are not taxable in the US. There are some estate tax issues but that doesn't kick in until 22mil or 44 mil... depending on what year you die. Maybe don't throw a 20k reception if your spouse just died young and you still have underage kids? Like I said you need to sit down and calculate your needs for coverage amounts. 100k is wildly insufficient for anyone with kids. (And kids is really the main reason you'd need life insurance in the first place.) I don't know how its n…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/20 11:37 PM
1

Can confirm. Turned 18 in the South and tried to find someone. Finally moved to the North at 29 and found my husband within 6 months.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/20 08:48 PM
1

It doesn’t have to be a lifetime. It has to be until the kids are old enough to be left alone. So if we’re talking about health kids no older than 18. And since one of you is dead you won’t be having any more kids. The amounts aren’t randomized..... You sit down and figure out what coverage you need. It’s not like you buy a 2 mil policy then oops! not enough fir the funeral.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/20 06:20 PM
1

Most people spend money on stupid shit. Have you ever priced life insurance (it is more from reputable companies). If you aren't sick or old when you take the policy out it can be done. And if you have an actual SAHM then your expenses should be down as well as income. Only one car possibly, lunch cooked for you so you don't have to eat lunch out, no childcare, no school lunch payments, no miscellaneous fees from public school, no second set of professional clothing, etc. The problem comes in wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/20 05:12 PM
5

This thread (not you) is really odd in pretending that life insurance doesn't exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/20 04:34 PM
1

Seems like it’s the people creating the unwanted children who are the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/20 11:12 AM
1

Then you haven't given your word that you'd stay. So its not even a question of breaking vows. Its a question of is this the relationship for you and since it barely counts as a relationship the answer is no.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/20 04:09 AM
1

This seems like an incompatibility. He gets to sleep around. What’s in it for you?
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/20 02:48 AM
2

Are you married? If not your only word was that you’ll stay until you tell him you’re leaving.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/20 02:46 AM
2

Your first sentence is unclear.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/20 02:44 AM
1

I don't get why anyone would expect us to behave the same way under a different system. :/ Its like saying people don't pay as much for oranges as they do cars. Well, duh.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/20 01:01 AM
12

This is the only thing I've found remotely close.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/20 12:54 AM
1

Maybe you don't directly. I don't see how it is impossible to avoid. You are casting a net that is wide enough to catch different types of women with different goals. The implication there is that you have all these different goals.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/20 12:54 AM
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Because if you sit there and say that you are looking for casual sex AND a wife, the women looking to be a wife won't bother with you because they know you might just use them for casual sex, and the women looking for casual sex aren't looking for that drama so they go get it incredibly easy somewhere else. You are advertising mutually exclusive intentions.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/20 11:46 PM
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When I was dating I saw guys who checked every box of the "what are you looking for": LTR, STR, casual sex, (I think there was a 4th?). And I always moved on because I didn't trust them because those are mutually exclusive. This is just a particularly obvious way to cast a wide net, but if you get "caught" doing it then we don't know what you want and so we don't trust you.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/20 09:32 PM
2

You want a chaste, virgin? For God's sake, get off Tinder, and go to church. Lmfao at this because it's true. But yes to all of this. Among other things, you have to go to where what you want is. Going to the car lot? Going to find cars for sale. Going to Enterprise? Going to find cars for rent that have been driven by tons of people. Going to the circus? Going to find elephants. Going to the club? Going to find sluts. Going to the library? Going to find people who read. Its that simple. Getting…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/20 09:30 PM
1

People always have warped views of what they can and can’t afford. The earning potential is very real. That’s part of why I advocate picking one parent to take the hit and go ahead and accept it. Otherwise you’re chasing something that won’t ever be what it could have been. Just save that energy. Unless you put your kids in daycare upon birth, which has horrible consequences. Ok, that makes some sense. People vet like shit and I don’t know what I would have found if I was looking for an egalitar…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/20 05:13 PM
1

Yes, same for both genders: if you don’t want kids then getting a woman/man isn’t worth it. Also don’t marry women who don’t cook or clean. (Though I suspect many of not all of these women are bringing in income.)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/20 04:53 PM
1

I’ll have to look into those studies sometime. We haven’t really reversed because as you say the typical SAHD doesn’t actually do that job. I’m sure some do an excellent job, but that’s not the norm. If women have to earn the money then come home and try to fit in all the caretaking/home management/cleaning them there is no incentive to get a man. It’s just an extra person making messes.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/20 04:51 PM
1

I would say the standard is “better than public schools (or the private schools that replicate the same model)” not everyone must be excellent. There are homeschool groups and programs as well, where they will spend time with other kids. I do think it’s more reasonable to have two parents with outside employment if you only have older kids than it is when they are younger and need constant care. In that case you’re just outsourcing the same job to someone else. In my experience having two parent…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/20 04:47 PM
1

Go see the feminists about that bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/20 04:38 PM
1

I don’t have a planet. I have a home. It has a deficiency of children.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/20 04:35 PM
1

Sorry tips on what? Knowing if the girl is committed? Getting over the emotional hurdles?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/20 04:34 PM
2

I mean, you probably usually can. What was I going to do? Stand there “I don’t usually fuck guys the day we meet!” That would be a lie 99.999999999999999% of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/20 04:32 PM
1

You think men don't have to deal with making sure women are comfortable while alone with them on a dark street? Who is forcing you to do this? You think men don't have to deal with women physically pushing them and slapping them cuz "they're men, they can take it"? I've only heard of this in the context of domestic abuse. Yes, you will have to be in the presence of women. The female cashier isn't going to start throwing things because she can't have a toy. A female diner isn't going to start scr…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/20 05:30 AM
1

You aren't forced to be married for the duration of a flight. I have never heard of a single story of someone dropping off a wife at a man's house and now he's married until CPS comes to pick her up. You don't have to pay alimony if there happens to be a wife in a shop while you're there. If someone brings their wife to the bar, you don't now have to put up half your income until they leave. You aren't married if a woman is at the theatre when you go, and you have to choose between being a husba…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/20 05:19 AM
8

Ok, "wine mom."
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/20 04:34 AM
10

Vice versa is also true. What? There’s no right way to raise a kid. Even if there was no evidence whatsoever on what worked, doing what you KNOW doesn't work is still a shit way to do it. There's no clear cure for cancer. That doesn't mean shoot them in the leg as a form of treatment, because we KNOW that's a shit way of doing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/20 04:26 AM
15

https://www.theatlantic.com/sexes/archive/2012/12/the-real-complex-connection-between-single-parent-families-and-crime/265860/ https://thefatherlessgeneration.wordpress.com/statistics/ Second one is obviously biased, but it lists stats. Just because being a single parent isn't the ONLY way to be a shit parent, doesn't mean we should throw in the towel and be single parents. If you want kids then do it right.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/20 04:20 AM
75

Because raising kids on your own is a shit way to raise kids. If you want kids you need two parents. If you don't want kids, then they really aren't providing anything of value and are just a messy roommate. Really, if you aren't going to be a SAHM- though I think you should if you have kids- then you are at work all the time anyway so I don't see how this is much better than being a single mom. The benefit to being married would be so that you can stay home and raise your kids rather than havin…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/20 04:02 AM
1

My husband seems to have much less trouble with this. I don't know if its a gender thing or individual.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/20 03:57 AM
5

18-27 covers from the beginning to well after most of us have given up. If you like it this way then you have nothing to complain about. If you want women to be ready to settle down earlier then talk to men because women start ready to settle down. Obviously there are exceptions and if you look for sluts, sluts you will find.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/20 03:52 AM
1

Cool. Did I miss the point you were trying to make here or...? Don't claim its not about hating women when its clearly about hating women.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/20 03:49 AM
1

Is this when they were 18, 19, and 20 or after they had given up? I'm also not denying that some women are just inclined to sleep around, but its not a supermajority. Also, it strikes me as more likely that a woman get friends with the same values, rather than decides to change all her values to match her friends?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/20 12:33 AM
1

So.... are you exaggerating to stay away or are you being opportunistic? These are mutually exclusive. If you're trying to mentally damage boats for fun, then you, in fact, hate boats. I think boats, horses, and piano are to worth the expense and effort. I spend zero time talking about these things or trying to convince myself that they are inherently evil.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/20 12:24 AM
14

That's not how is goes down. Most women are hoping to settle down very early. We look around and none of the men are looking for that. So we make the plans. By the time we're in our mid to late 20s we've been told no long ago. THEN men get all upset that women aren't ready when they are, when they're the ones who wanted to wait in the first place. Some of us deal with having to wait by getting careers; some of us deal with having to wait by sleeping around. The clock doesn't start at 25; it star…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/20 12:18 AM
1

No, but if you spend most of your time talking about how boats are worthless hoes and trying to trick boats into giving you free boat rides, then that means you hate boats.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/20 12:00 AM
2

I felt that way for a long time, but my 1st was over a decade ago. I do not think that you can replicate the 1st. It would have been better for everyone involved if my husband had been my 1st. I'm loyal to my husband but loosing your virginity gives you... idk, super loyalty powers. It would have been something I had done ONLY with him, and that creates a connection that I don't think you get back. I think its quantitative though. So just because you can't get THE BEST, as that ship has sailed f…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/20 11:35 PM
3

That's really where the problems come in imo. I also know people in healthy marriages who both slutted it up when they were younger. Both lifestyles show a demonstrated preference for certain values. My real concern is when people with numbers 20+ go around thinking that only a virgin will do. Or at least someone <5.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/20 11:21 PM
3

My number is 4. I married at 31, so it wasn't 4 in one year then a young marriage or anything like that. I've never looked back and thought "sure am glad I fucked that guy before I met my husband." And the more people I've done it with, the less special it is. It progressively became less of a big deal each time. So I imagine if it was like 20 it would be a completely routine meaningless thing. My husband's number is also low. He's completely loyal (in more than just not fucking other women). He…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/20 11:08 PM
2

Ok yeah, if its a group/sub about hating women then it makes sense to talk about women. But if that's what its about you can't then use the "defense": "we just want to be left along to go our own way."
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/20 10:42 PM
1

"Minimize investment in" means you're still trying to get it and not wanting to pay. Which will leave you disappointed. Going your own way means your not trying to get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/20 09:43 PM
1

"Minimize investment in" =/= going your own way.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/20 09:27 PM
1

1) People have other's people children forced upon them. People bring their kids to all kinds of inappropriate places and go around demanding free baby sitting then acting a bitch when told no. No man in the first world has relationships forced upon him. 2) I haven't read it so maybe they are just bitter assholes as well?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/20 09:19 PM
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There are a few things going on: People are much more open/less capable of hiding the casual sex that they have. There is a small amount of women with triple digit numbers. Men are going to places where you are likely to find women in the triple digits, fucking around, then acting surprised that the women they are having casual sex with are having casual sex. Men are waiting to attempt to settle down until their late 20s/early 30s then bitching about how all the women left are old/used up/trauma…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/20 09:14 PM
4

"from what he knew" which was not that I had slept with only 2 guys, but was that I met him for the first time and had sex with him 8 hours later. It was a situation where I knew him better than he knew me and assuming that the person that meets you and immediately has sex is a slut is a fair assumption.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/20 06:59 PM
9

Perhaps the current marriages are always on the rocks due to the cheating.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/20 06:53 PM
18

Stop it. Did you really just list a Negatives column of pursuing a married man? And you put that... the guy cheating on his wife... is... not trustworthy? Why would you trust a currently married guy to stay with you? ​ Even now that we are not together anymore, he tries to help me and offers me advice on various issues. He also says that he loves me and that he wants us to be together forever. Yes, he's lying in hopes of resuming the affair. and responsible person. He is cheating on his wife and…
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/20 06:52 PM
2

The high kind. (A non integer would also be worth obsessing over.)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/20 06:37 PM
9

Guy #1: He confirmed that I was a virgin. Yes. 30 year old him was playing 18 year old me. Obviously. Guy #2: Didn't ask. I was drunk/high as all hell. It wasn't a relationship. It got weird af when he tried to lead me on because I was basically still around so that "it wouldn't be a one night stand." He was lying, but REALLY transparent about it. Guy #3: Didn't ask. He assumed I was a slut though, and tbh was a fair assumption from what he knew. He never led me on. He in particular was INCREDIB…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/20 06:33 PM
2

That's... true. A sub called MGTOW shouldn't' mention women. It should be all about engineering, beer, steak, football, camping, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/20 06:15 PM
2

This is probably a Motte and Baily, the same kind that feminists use for the word "feminist." MGTOW as defined by a guy who decides fuck this shit, takes his ball and goes home? Nothing wrong with that. He is free to do something else with his life. MGTOW as defined by a guy who goes around lying to women and harassing women who are younger/hot/sluts/etc? Yeah, this is s problem. And they're missing the "going your own way" part of going your own way.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/20 05:57 PM
3

He’s playing you. You haven’t met anyone in his life and he won’t give you a straight answer about whether you are his gf. It’s weird af to me, and yet to our advantage, that men will lie about absolutely everything, say they love you, lead you on, but will not explicitly say you’re their girlfriend. But most of them won’t lie about THAT so there’s your answer.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/20 04:54 AM
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As picky as their market value allows.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/20 04:49 AM
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This isn’t relevant. What’s relevant is that they want a woman who has a career. So if you are a woman looking to be a SAHM, move along.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/20 04:47 AM
1

I think he is hanging out with her one on one because he sees his friend group either way, sometimes with her and sometimes without This doesn't follow. If she is part of the group, he can't demand that they drop her. So he either tolerates seeing her or he leaves all his friends. If you have reason to believe that he's going over to her apartment, then that's another matter. I’m not really into being just casual. But that's what you're currently doing. You need to stop. If he doesn't want to en…
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/20 03:38 AM
-2

None of this changes the fact that that is WHAT they want. It could be objectively the right thing to want, and it would still be true that they want it.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/20 03:34 AM
1

So first, it’s time to decide to pursue a relationship or not. You are not a TV; you don’t go on lawaway. Is he hanging out with her because it’s the only way to see his friend group, or are they hanging out one on one.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/20 12:46 AM
2

Caging people for paid sex is worse than paid sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/20 12:38 AM
21

I passed on plenty of men who wanted a woman with a career. I don't know what they secretly wanted, as I wasn't trying to sell them on the idea, just find one that already agreed.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/20 11:14 PM
1

It doesn't spell doom. It isn't a good idea either. Presumably you're not moving in with your fuck buddy, and by moving in you're creating this weird stasis position where you're not really independent but you don't really have commitment either.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/20 08:47 PM
1

"the average time people waited to have sex with a new partner was eight dates, with women waiting nine and men waiting five." https://bestlifeonline.com/how-many-dates-before-sex/ 8 dates might be a month, but its not 8 dates between every time you have sex. Its 8 dates then steady sex. These people aren't committing (and the women are lying) so the guys aren't paying for it with commitment. Many people aren't even exclusive at that point. Then you drag out some bullshit pretend dating for mont…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/20 02:12 AM
1

The only way for this to be true: It used to be that to stand a chance you had to be top tier or get married. This is still predominantly the case for males... Is if this is also true: So most men or either virgins or only had sex with their wives?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/20 02:01 AM
1

For the vast majority of men there is sex that they can get for near free (not paying by the hour and no commitment). IF all they want is sex AND they aren't putting unrealistic standards on the type of woman that they can fuck for cheap, then there wouldn't be an issue here.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/20 01:46 AM
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This is still predominantly the case for males... So most men or either virgins or only had sex with their wives? The average man can sleep around if he lowers his standards enough (he will not get an average woman, he will get an average of the women who sleep around). This was still the case in the past. Depending on how far you want to go back, "women who sleep around" were formally referred to as "whores." Ok, I guess prostitution did exist, but it also exists now. Men in the present have mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/20 01:32 AM
1

It seemed like you were denying that men have high standards for fucking with the comment about men not having an expectation for virgins.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/20 01:27 AM
1

If all the "incel" types just wanted to fuck a woman, any woman, then they would accomplish that. Average people (of both genders) have exceptional demands.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/20 01:12 AM
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The price of sex with women HAS gone significantly down over time. It used to be that to stand a chance you had to be top tier or get married. This is no longer the case. The average man can sleep around if he lowers his standards enough (he will not get an average woman, he will get an average of the women who sleep around). Having uncommitted sex is no longer anything to brag about because it is no longer prohibitively expensive.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/20 01:10 AM
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If the problem is people being sluts, then the fact that you were the one invited isn't a "defense." If you want to say that there's nothing wrong with slutting it up, then that's a separate argument. I dont see casual sex as harmful at least from the women's perspective STDs, unwanted children, psychological damage. If people REALLY didn't think it was harmful then they would say "There is nothing wrong with this so I'm doing it" instead of coming up with 7000 different reasons why it is "fair"…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/20 01:07 AM
1

You're making the odd assumption that they've sat down and thought it through and come to this conclusion cognitively. If they have, well then good luck, if not, my points are something to consider.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/20 09:42 PM
2

It will do nothing for people who seek irrationality. It will be a possibly new point to people who seek rationality.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/20 09:28 PM
4

Just, the laws of physics that dictate that screaming into the abyss that you deserve a virgin/6 figure man will not materialize one for you. I don't have to lock you in a cage or even hate you for it. If I did hate them too much I think I'd sit back and watch and laugh instead of trying to spell it out.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/20 09:20 PM
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If you're a 18-20 year old virgin OR you are a highly successful business man, feel free to demand nothing but an 18 year old virgin. Otherwise that kind of thinking is nothing but entitlement. There are no shortage of men who have slept with 30+ women, average (not to be confused with healthy) weight, making the median salary who are dead convinced that they deserve an 18 year old virgin. They are no better than the women who they criticize, rightfully, for being entitled for demanding nothing …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/20 09:08 PM
6

I keep a one year old from finding interesting ways to kill himself all day. During his daily three hour nap I clean house, do the books for my husband's business, and play on the internet. Unless I have reason to think they are being genuine I try to answer that question in the most obnoxious way possible. I don't tend to get this question from surgeons and engineers. "Oh, you're a receptionist? You can't get THAT MANY calls. What do you do with the rest of your day?"
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/20 09:01 PM
5

No. This is 8 year old logic. "It was HIS idea! I shouldn't be in trouble!" As an adult, if you accept invitations to do harmful things, you are responsible.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/20 08:47 PM
1

These numbers don't math unless the men are having gay sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/20 08:45 PM
7

Men make the mistake of knowing that they can get away with doing something more than a woman can, and think therefore they can get away with doing that thing infinity times. Double digits isn't really specific enough- it could mean 10 and it could mean 99. But if a guy has made a habit of sleeping with tons of women then this indicates something about his character and I wouldn't trust him in the realm of relationships. I know other women that wouldn't trust him either. Which makes sense. What …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/20 08:37 PM
0

Yeah, that was the idea. Women as a whole vote like shit. I'm not so emotionally attached to MuH rIgHt tO vOtE that I'd sacrifice the outcome of elections to preserve it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/20 07:09 PM
1

Then, single you will be. I'm married with a toddler. Just like there are good women out there, there are good men out there. Strong and independent.... don't need no man. No, don't need a man who doesn't do the job of man. Just like many here don't need a woman who doesn't need the job of woman. Having no man is superior to having a shit man. Having a good man is superior to having no man. Sure. But are women happier? Men? No.... I said... that women are dumbasses... for taking that deal. Are c…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/20 06:04 AM
1

Women are dumbasses for taking that deal. If we have to have careers too then we may as well be single.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/20 05:53 AM
1

If you talk to young people, which I am very fortunate in being able to do in places like this, you'll hear them say that they can't afford to start off at a young age. They want to have their careers in place first, so they can ensure they can afford the basics like a home and maybe money for college educations for their kids. Ok, none of that necessitates prostitutes. And it sure as hell doesn't necessitate bringing home your prostitute to meet your mom. So yes, what if HE can't measure up and…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/20 05:43 AM
1

There seems to be a bit of resentment for women in some spaces on here and a lot of times it’s not explained, they just say things about women all being identical/bitchy/superficial. You realize the selection bias, right? There's weirdos like me who just enjoy debating literally anything, but the vast majority of people here have a bone to pick. And they're not going to tell you their "this is who hurt me and how" story nor do they owe it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/20 05:22 AM
2

Why did men vote to let women vote to encourage single motherhood?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/20 05:20 AM
1

Yes, but the question was what if he can't afford an actual relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/20 05:18 AM
0

Uh, yeah we pay for it. That’s what premiums are.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/20 09:34 PM
4

Yeah, but sewing isn’t a career skill. If I wasn’t assigned a husband at 18 that means I had at least one job at some point....
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/20 09:24 PM
0

Who’s alleging that?
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/20 09:15 PM
1

Interestingly, I was not assigned a husband at 18. I don’t get how ANYONE wouldn’t know.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/20 09:15 PM
3

because you can't unlearn something This just isn't true. Almost all, if not all, useful career skills need to be kept up with or you will become obsolete.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/20 08:59 PM
-4

First, even before the Industrial Revolution, People didn't typically go off and get jobs the way they do today. Most everyone worked from home. If you're working as domestic labor you aren't very well raising your own family, are you? So not sure how that is relevant to being a SAHM or mom at all. So, just to clarify, is providing the role of the man in all relationships or just those where both spouses are white and come from upper middle class backgrounds? If you want to talk about where I co…
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/20 08:55 PM
-2

He has to go to work if he's sick. I have to work if I'm sick. The whole "calling in sick" think really only exists in an exact point of skilled enough to not have a shit job, but not skilled enough to be indispensable.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/20 08:47 PM
-1

Insurance exists.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/20 08:46 PM
-2

I am suggesting that women accept that sometimes one bread winner in the family is not enough This is feminism. Third wave feminism is about hating men. First wave feminism is about trying to be men. Are you saying that bringing money into the home is strictly a male role? Yes. This is a very narrow minded attitude. Also, I never mentioned a career. I am talking about increasing your knowledge and skill set to add the quality of life for your family. You mentioned both. We should do things that …
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/20 08:10 PM
-10

If you're telling women not to depend on men then you are essentially telling women to stay independent/feminist. Yes, obviously you need a job before you get married. The whole point of getting married is to create a division of labor for raising children. If you intend to fulfill the male role as well then there is absolutely no reason to find a man. We both have our own roles to fill, and we shouldn't expect to have a career anymore than they should expect to be pregnant.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/20 07:41 PM
1

Its true and I don't get it. It took me exactly one guy to figure out what the tricks were. I was 16 (he was 28). I don't feel particularly bad about being a dumbass at 16. I would feel bad about being a dumbass at 25 or 32. And I don't get how it takes more than one. They aren't that creative. And hell, if the internet had been as ubiquitous at the time I might not have even had the one fuck up. Like, your 27 and he going on about "maybe this, someday that." Didn't you learn that "maybe" means …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/20 07:16 PM
9

Womens lies about n count and sexual history aren't opinions. Not true. Per Bill Clinton's lawyers (actually per the opposing counsel's lawyers, interesting story if you're bored af) lots of sex doesn't count as sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/20 07:07 PM
1

Stupid af and impossible to prove. But if I get to invoke fantasy land then I'd say pick one. If it's illegal to lie about birth control aka illegal to lie to get a commitment, then it should be illegal to lie about your intentions aka illegal to lie to avoid a commitment. Both would require mind readers though.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/20 07:04 PM
7

If you JUST want sex it seems like the better deal. Though if you JUST want sex complaining that the everything plan is more expensive is odd.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/20 06:37 AM
9

He should buy a home manager and child raiser. Yes, he will also have sex with her.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/20 06:12 AM
9

Some women are crack; some women are cars. Yeah, shit ain't free. Being a wife isn't free. Managing a guy's household isn't free. Leaving your own career isn't free. Sex is risky. #TANSTAAFL
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/20 06:00 AM
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"Crack and a car can both be purchased, and you said you didn't want your son to purchase crack but are ok with purchasing cars."-Your logic Would you be friends with a homeless person? Does that mean you only want friends for their money?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/20 05:53 AM
4

You can't change laws but you can find yourself a stable community.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/20 05:51 AM
5

You can go find an egalitarian wife, then you'll have to keep up.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/20 05:43 AM
9

Then he should follow my advise on how to judge character and motives.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/20 05:41 AM
10

If he can afford a prostitute then he can afford to advance his career and get a wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/20 05:31 AM
23

Yes..... And brought them home? The fuck? That's an expensive ass conversation. If he's paying prostitutes I did a shit job raising him.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/20 05:18 AM
2

Doesn’t that defeat the purpose of getting a woman in the first place? A lot of y’all would be better off paying by the hour.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/20 12:41 AM
1

Outside at some rock. No one else, just them. In my community it is common to have a small ceremony with actual friends and family either at your church or yard if you aren’t religious and just never tell the government about it.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/20 12:20 AM
5

A literal sea sponge. Without muscles.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/20 11:19 PM
3

I'm not into sea sponges. Also being in shape is obviously preferable.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/20 11:15 PM
3

Also I have a friend that got married (not legally) with just him and his wife. They exchanged vows and that was that. Just an idea.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/20 11:13 PM
5

By costs/benefits, what do you mean? What other options are there? Tax rates, property division at death, community property as it pertains to creditors, hospital decisions, etc. Idk what options exist in Canada. We would look at our union as a marriage, but may or may not be using those words. Then that's what matters imo.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/20 11:11 PM
10

Since dating is a pass/fail kinda thing and any experience would necessarily indicate past failures, I don't see this as a problem. Not having friends is a problem unto itself that you should solve asap.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/20 09:54 PM
3

I assume I'm going to be in the minority here. To me married is when you tell your spouse and your: priest/preacher, community, family, friends that you have decided to stay together and commit to staying together. It is not when you tell your government that you have decided to stay together and commit to staying together. Since divorce exists, a government marriage doesn't really prevent them from leaving, and if you don't trust their word then imo you shouldn't be marrying them in the first p…
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/20 09:47 PM
20

There are guys in their 30s with jobs and places to live. And since most people end up with someone around their own age you'll be fine.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/20 09:19 PM
25

My issue at this point is that without being married, I have anxiety fueling a hypergamous drive. As it should be. You don't have him. Until you make a purchase you are shopping. That doesn't mean cheat on your bf of 8 months. It does mean that your boyfriend of NINE YEARS needs to make a damn decision. that he'll "support" my dreams. Does he plan to be a SAHD? (and change how pregnancy works) Because that's the support role. The leadership role is getting a career leading. After a decade and at…
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/20 08:37 PM
2

Women who’ve been with their man a long time: why do you stay? Is it because you’ve never met a “better man?” Or is it something else? Clearly this post ignores all sense of ethics, emotion, and morality so I'll give a pragmatic answer: Many women who leave their husbands are seemingly under the impression that they get a time machine with the divorce. They don't expect to be 37 year old divorced women. They expect to be single 25 year old childless women. Fuck if I know why. If you have an IQ a…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/20 12:53 AM
23

I will say to not cut your hours until you are married. You are single until you aren't single. It is normal to be repulsed by submitting if you've never seen anything worth submitting to. Until I straight moved across the country (which, I'm not saying that there weren't good places in between where I left and where I went, but where I left wasn't one of them) I was always disturbed by the idea of having to rely on someone else (man or woman to be fair). I had never seen it go well. So my attit…
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/20 05:26 PM
27

If you need to save money on rent then get roommates or move to a cheaper place. As someone who lived together before marriage don't do it. BEST case scenario it pushes back the marriage timeline because it removes the incentives for proposing. That's with an honest guy. Go on vacation or stay with him for a week if you must. Free samples are supposed to be SAMPLES, not a year supply. It also sets up false expectations imo because they really don't pay attention to all that goes into managing a …
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/20 08:50 PM
2

But then you don't get a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/20 01:43 AM
2

Team You But at the same time women need to quit doing stupid shit like offering to pay when you want them to reject the offer.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/20 10:17 PM
2

And my husband isn’t, so this isn’t a net win.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/20 07:47 PM
1

I told them that polygamy causes wars, so they went to only super alphas get polygamy. The fact that most couples are the same age don’t mean there isn’t an age gap in being READY to marry. I was plenty ready before 31. I think MOST women start ready, get tired of waiting, then get unready. If you want (and they do) a “traditional” society, you don’t get it by having women live as men for the first decade of their adulthood. And in the US most men who aren’t shit tier aren’t ready to marry befor…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/20 06:47 PM
2

My husband and one of our friends like to discuss weird shit. It came up when we were trying to figure out how to “solve” the fact that men and women seem to be ready for marriage at different ages. They suggested multi wives to deal with the excess women caused by age gaps. I was like make me, and they said I was unique.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/20 03:51 PM
1

It’s not open though. He has wives. You’re still expected to be faithful.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/20 03:48 PM
1

To be fair that resource sharing contract would be considered prostitution at least in the US and therefore illegal. So really the only thing we can PROVE is that they won’t do it for free. But anyway, it looks like I’m not unique as I was told, which is what I wanted to know.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/20 03:21 PM
1

The only alternative isn’t being cheated on by a billionaire. The alternative is being monogamous with a regular guy or being single.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/20 03:15 PM
1

The only alternative isn’t being cheated on by a billionaire. The alternative is being monogamous with a regular guy or being single.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/20 03:13 PM
1

The only alternative isn’t being cheated on by a billionaire. The alternative is being monogamous with a regular guy or being single.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/20 03:13 PM
1

Taking that at face value, that’s not quite as bad. Him fucking bitches then coming home isn’t as bad as him bringing them home, telling you about it and expecting you to be cool with it being his anniversary with his other wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/20 03:10 PM
1

Taking that at face value, that’s not quite as bad. Him fucking bitches then coming home isn’t as bad as him bringing them home, telling you about it and expecting you to be cool with it being his anniversary with his other wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/20 03:09 PM
3

The way you’re describing it isn’t retiring. It’s a fuck ton of work. Not only are you a single mom but you have to raise other women’s kids too. I’m not convinced that’s how it work if it suddenly came back today though.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/20 03:04 PM
3

No. I probably wouldn't have pursued him in the first place. If he is already committed to me then there is no fight left to be had. Plenty of annoyance from other women though I'm sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/20 06:42 AM
3

I don't get it. Even if my emotions were completely different, my time constraints wouldn't be. Who has time for that? Its unnecessarily complicated with no corresponding benefits.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/20 06:40 AM
5

I see a difference between a highly desirable aka stable and healthy relationship and a highly desirable man. By definition people will want the healthy relationship. If there is a high demand for a particular man even when he is single, that's a negative to me. I'm not interested in that fight.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/20 06:35 AM
6

That didn't even occur to me. How is he going to keep up with what each wife likes sexually? He won't. If he annoys one he can just go down the hall to another.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/20 06:33 AM
2

I mean, I don't see why you couldn't. Maybe he's into that. It is all women though.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/20 06:31 AM
1

That was kinda my question about the whole thing when this came up. (We discuss weird shit.)
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/20 06:30 AM
5

I never really wanted to taunt other women with the man I get. Him being highly desirable is almost a negative in a way. People would always be trying to "rob" you.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/20 05:50 AM
6

Because we are all assigned one job and if that one goes out of business you have to whore yourself out. No one can change jobs. That's how the market works.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/20 05:48 AM
3

If the kid is yours then you're coming in second to YOUR kid. That's a fair tradeoff. Or at least its a tradeoff that most parents are willing to make- you are no longer first but your kid gets to be first. In the case of dating a single parent there is no tradeoff- you are no longer first and you get...?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/20 08:03 PM
2

Before I got married I would absolutely not date single dads. I would have considered a widowed dad. When they asked why I was rejecting them I would tell them. Why should I gaf? I'm not going to be with them, so why do I care if they're offended. Being a single dad shows a lack of judgment, I have to deal with some random's kid, and I got some resentful ex in my life forever. And in my case since they were the guy aka gatekeeper of commitment it shows that they are perfectly willing to knock up…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/20 07:53 PM
1

I’m literally not sure how that’s what you meant because I’m saying not to move in and you’re saying to move in.
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/20 01:57 AM
3

I lived with my husband for two years before we were married and if I had to go back I wouldn't do it again. It's a test, yes. But what does it test? You can't change your position to depend on him until he commits (this means marries you) so you can't fully fulfill the wife role. We are living as roommates, each mainly focused on the male role, while pretending it is a test to see how well we live together fulfilling the female role while they fulfill the male role. It also slows down the proce…
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/20 12:26 AM
13

Your face is still developing. Wait to see what it looks like before deciding you don't like it. For now, look up eyebrow tutorials on YouTube.
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/20 05:49 PM
20

How old are you? Because my advise will depend on if you're still growing.
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/20 05:31 PM
7

Don't buy a house with anyone you aren't married to. If you have the ability to buy a house now, or at graduation, then do it. Do not put off buying a house because you're single. Its not a flower arrangement or some other sentimental purchase that you should get his input in; its a place to live and prevents you from wasting rent money. You really didn't miss the window of opportunity. You have time. Just because you have time doesn't mean you should waste it, but the guys aren't all married up…
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/20 05:27 PM
1

If you don't want to be seen as husband material then you shouldn't be offended when women want to trade dates for sex. You're after sex and you're getting it for fairly cheap. If you do want to be seen as husband material then avoiding women who's number can legally consume alcohol is a good idea, and if you do that then she won't be treating you differently by not sleeping with you because she didn't sleep with everyone else. And if you evaluate her behavior overall before going out to restaur…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/20 10:12 PM
1

I got married at 31 after a year of dating and a year engagement. There were defects that I had that meant I would not get a 10/10 guy. But I was working on them (the ones that can be helped anyway). Which means that I found someone that also had issues that he is working on. Do NOT marry someone with the idea that they will improve just because you continue to improve, but if they are and have been actively improving then you will not be stuck in the situation you are both now in. Example: Don'…
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/20 10:02 PM
1

But you’re here complaining about the unfairness of it all. Would such a woman pass your consistency test?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/20 09:47 PM
1

That would support my contention that with minimal effort you can determine if the woman is serious.....
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/20 09:45 PM
0

So if a woman is young, works full time, doesn’t slut it up, and wants to be a SAHM, then you’re ok with her expecting the man to pay for dates?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/20 09:38 PM
1

But you based the majority of not being traditional on having a job pre-marriage. (Unless we're talking about a WHOLE other kind of dating.)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/20 09:31 PM
3

Relevance?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/20 09:28 PM
1

The majority of your post was about women having jobs. I still don't know what you expect them to do prior to marriage. You also phrased it as an option- "if you are not a traditional woman." If you expect women's expectations to change because society/laws have changed then say that.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/20 09:23 PM
4

The female role is to take care of children and manage the household. The male role is to provide resources. Due to physics and due to fathers disclaiming responsibility, women have to act as men at least until they get married.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/20 09:21 PM
1

I agree with what you're saying here but to add it's also been proven that 1/3 dates are where a woman wants a free meal, People see stats like these and then assume that they have a 1/3 chance of that thing regardless of behavior. You are not randomly assigned a date. You do not have a 1/2 chance of being a woman. You do not have an 18% chance of dying of obesity regardless of behavior. If you seek out women on Tinder looking to get laid, don't be surprised when she wants to exchange value for …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/20 09:15 PM
3

Frankly I don’t understand why a man who has these things would not prefer s woman who also does. Because he already is a man, he doesn't need another. The most efficient thing to do would be to look for someone to fulfill complementary roles, not to duplicate the roles that you plan to fulfill.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/20 09:03 PM
1

I came here to agree but then you spend most of the post talking about the fact that women have jobs while dating. She could be the most traditional women on the planet, still has to have a job before getting married. Exactly how are we supposed to stay not dead until we get married if not a job??? You have set up a scenario in which the only POSSIBLE conclusion is egalitarianism. And if that's what you want, fine, then say that. Don't pretend its a choice though if those are your terms.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/20 09:00 PM
3

I can't rant to other people about things that upset me if I'm not upset. Prior to the lockdown I was in therapy every other week (during the lockdown my therapist seems to take excess vacations), journaling, worksheets, meditation, etc. If I'm doing well then that's all I can convey. It DOES take time and I don't know how long ago your events were.
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/20 08:42 PM
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Until you are married you can't relinquish complete control because at any time he could walk away with no consequences. So until you are married you SHOULD BE your number one concern. You ARE trusting him. Right now he has said that you are in a non-permeant relationship and you are trusting him at his word. When he marries you he is saying he will not leave and when he actually says it you can trust it to be true. You can't "trust" someone to do something they didn't say they will do. He is wa…
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/20 11:50 PM
1

Data is everywhere. There are some things you really can't Google. Most people don't learn from their mistakes. But I don't need the majority of people to learn from their mistakes. I need one person to learn from their mistakes/be wise. This same person who is constantly learning will be wiser at 30 than at 24. You could be wiser than 80% of 30 year olds. If I have found one 30 year old or older who did what you do then they would be the better choice. That's not fair, but its the way it is. I …
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/20 08:15 PM
1

I hesitate to try to explain this because I am well aware that young people are disrespected gratuitously. I would always feel like I needed to second guess his judgment. He can be completely established and he can absolutely mature. What he can not be is experienced as me, which is what a lot of people a lot of the time wrongfully mistake for maturity, when wildly immature 50 year olds declare that they are more mature than complete adult 20 year olds- what they actually are is more experienced…
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/20 07:49 PM
1

I would have a problem in this type of relationship. I honestly don't think I could let someone 7 years younger than me run my life. I don't think age gaps work the other way around.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/20 06:50 PM
1

This applies to any topic. Don't take generalized advise about anything from anyone. Don't take career advise that is generalized. Don't take medical advise that is generalized. Etc. With any topic, don't take advise from someone who doesn't have what you want AND is able to communicate in something that doesn't sound like it belongs on a motivational poster.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/20 06:46 PM
36

He would be thrilled if I dropped the doctorate, or at the very least, focused on a dissertation topic that I could do from work That's not how it works. I would be thrilled if my house cleaned itself. My husband would be thrilled if his clients kept paying him without demanding work. Your husband would be thrilled if you continued to be the primary earner and had less work to do. You either are in charge of procuring income or you aren't. He doesn't get to have you as the primary earner then bi…
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/20 06:27 PM
89

He is demanding traditional masculine benefits, and then some, while not fulfilling traditional masculine roles. There probably ARE guys that could pull off having multiple wives, such as the literal kings in that Bible. An unemployed layabout who has his wife as the primary earner is not one of them. He wants you to be the primary earner, but gets jealous of your schooling. He wants you to work full time, but wants a traditional wife. He has traditional political beliefs, but has gone and unequ…
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/20 05:42 PM
1

No no no. Not just taking the test. The most important part about paternity tests is to lie about why you want one. That’s what we need to preserve here. You can’t just go to the lab and get it without drama, and you can’t have some integrity and have a discussion- you must insist the whole time that no one is cheating.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/20 03:38 PM
1

It’s not about being sure of the paternity. If it was you could just do a paternity test secretly or be sane in your demand. You have to demand paternity tests for the purpose of ruling out cheating AND insist that you don’t think they’re cheating.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/20 06:46 AM
2

But you can’t just ask for a paternity test or have it done without telling her. The lab won’t do the work unless you insist that you don’t think she cheated.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/20 04:19 AM
1

No, I want to marry people I don’t trust, pretend that I trust them, and face no consequences.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/20 04:13 AM
1

Sorry, I don’t take life advice from Stalin.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/20 04:08 AM
1

I’m basically ok with this. The only problem is that it doesn’t allow me to demand tests for cheating while simultaneously claiming I don’t think he cheated.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/20 04:00 AM
1

That’s up to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/20 03:59 AM
1

No, I knew a woman once who’s husband was sued for back child support. She couldn’t get the divorced finalized for a year, so it came out of shared assets. We need to know right away.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/20 03:44 AM
1

It is apparently ok to cheat as long as it isn’t expensive.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/20 03:43 AM
0

It will expose his infidelity if it’s not your kid being tested. Which is why you need it, but also you trust him.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/20 03:42 AM
-1

Yeah, no shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/20 03:36 AM
-1

I’m not even against paternity tests. I’m against being a bitch about it and pretending it could uncover something other than cheating. But be a woman who works in a community property state and see how fast child support for his kids doesn’t matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/20 03:34 AM
1

Paternity tests aren’t child care. They are to rule out cheating. But they aren’t at all about cheating.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/20 03:29 AM
2

He can of course paternity test all of the wife’s children. The wife should get him to get a paternity test with every child there is , to know he isn’t cheating. But declare the whole time that she doesn’t think he’s cheating.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/20 03:28 AM
1

Yes. Otherwise how do I know he isn’t cheating?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/20 03:24 AM
2

By then the other woman has already filed for child support. You want to find out immediately, not on the other woman’s terms. In some state’s child support can come out of community assets.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/20 03:23 AM
0

Then paternity test every child of women you know he’s had contact with and make him get all commercial DNA tests that match you with relatives. The important thing is to insist you don’t think he’s cheating.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/20 03:20 AM
1

Ideally every child on earth. If he can not afford that then every woman he’s interacted with and he gets all commercial DNA tests that match you with relatives. The important thing is to insist you don’t think he’s cheating the whole time.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/20 03:18 AM
1

On all children on earth.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/20 03:16 AM
1

It lets you know he’s cheating. You can immediately file for divorce and/or child support. It’s sensible really. If you don’t want to divorce him, you file for child support so that your family gets the larger share- it’s taken out of his check then deposited into the joint account.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/20 03:15 AM
0

Not every child of yours. EVERY CHILD.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/20 03:10 AM
3

Are we taking she tried something and quit doing it or she did it regularly with another guy? Also, how the fuck would you know? If she's like bragging that she did something and you can't have it then that's fucked more than anything. If you're trying to actually physically harm someone then she shouldn't sleep with you period. And she should also leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/20 01:38 AM
11

Woman No, no. I do not know why people become incapable of math in scenarios like this. Sexual assault, robberies, cheating, etc. It makes sense to know many victims and few or no perpetrators. First of all, most people aren’t going to tell on themselves. Second, maybe you filter for friends that aren’t rapists, but not for friends that aren’t rape victims. But even if you had a random sample and truth serum: Its not every guy cheating once and every woman being cheated on once. It’s a handful o…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/20 11:44 PM
4

It definitely does happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/20 10:45 PM
3

How would you feel if your boyfriend who's 27 never had a job I'd be amazed at his ablility to fake having a job and lying about having had jobs his entire adult life. Because that's what it would take for me to get past the first conversation with this creature. How is he going to afford a SAHM without a job???? Demanding that adult men have a job is the most basic of standards. Its like demanding they be alive. It is not being materialistic.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/20 10:11 PM
8

And there are actual trust fund babies. That doesn't mean that most of us don't have to work for the things that we want. Declaring that you shouldn't have to work because some people are trust fund babies makes about as much sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/20 10:07 PM
6

This is the problem with saying you want x when you want y. They want casual sex. They pretend to date then get mad when its... a date and not casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/20 10:04 PM
2

Men want casual sex more than women want casual sex. Moreso in nature, but even currently, casual sex costs men very little and women very much. So this makes sense. This is different than wanting women. There is a subset of men who have decided that sex should be free- no commitment, no money, no effort, no nothing, AND that they should get it with women well above their bracket. I really believe that if incels lowered their standards they could get laid. They are average looking so they assume…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/20 09:02 PM
2

No. In fact I refused to date unless the guy was talking about the future, vaguely, upfront. I'm not about wasting time. There are SO MANY other things I could be doing. I could be doing literally anything else.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/20 05:12 AM
2

Yes. In the early stages, friends approve the man with some exceptions. Maybe I have a friend who I don't trust with a particular quality judgment and so I ignore that part of their judgment. But if they don't get along that's a bad sign. Plus, in the early stages I'm high af on that oxytocin, so I need a sober opinion. That sounds silly, but I'm dead serious. After the relationship is established it kind of reverses.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/20 05:09 AM
3

This falls under the: you can't change other people, you can only change yourself fact. You can change where you live. You can not change the other millions of people in your city to be more traditional or the entire housing market of that city to be affordable on a single income.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/20 08:48 PM
5

If you haven't tried dating in your city AT ALL then I might try it for awhile before uprooting your life. Though, if a man of your SMV wouldn't be able to afford a SAHM and traditional family in that city, then don't try it and just leave. People hesitate about moving and for good reason- it is costly in social capital. You are probably leaving all your family and you are leaving all your friends and connections. It isn't something that should be done lightly or often. That doesn't mean there i…
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/20 08:33 PM
16

I'm not a big fan of "maybe one day"s. I don't think that asking a guy out is a very RPW thing to do- they are the pursuers. Until he actually asks you out I'd ignore that he said anything. Whether its intentional on his part or not, there is no benefit in allowing your feelings to go for a rollercoaster ride.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/20 12:22 AM
1

Those arguments sound like this: Person: Salary matters in a job. Them: Good luck finding a job making infinity dollars a day!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/20 08:16 PM
3

Its only a wedge in between you if you let it be. Deciding not to pick him is a ship that has kind of sailed. What are you going to do? Be a single mom and attempt to start over at 30 with two kids because your dad would find it amusing? I don't really see the point of blessings once the woman is on her own. It strikes me as fathers trying to have it both ways. If someone is your dependent and you would be responsible for her if the marriage was to go south, then it makes sense for you to have t…
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/20 06:23 PM
3

He is logged onto Tinder....
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/20 06:12 PM
3

Wouldn't that only work with a condom though? ​ As a woman, can confirm.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/20 05:11 PM
5

Explain to me why men never fake it. Why do people believe this and never even examine that belief? You're the one with the dick so I'll take your word for it. I believed it because you can't fake cum coming out, so that would seem like it would throw off the whole operation.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/20 05:10 PM
6

So we're looking for just the right amount of disregard???
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/20 03:25 PM
4

Next! He is telling his date about hooking up with other girls. Which means 1) he is hooking up with other girls and 2) feel that it is ok to tell you this. He doesn't respect you and is clearly not looking for anything serious thus the hooking up.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/20 03:23 PM
1

There's no gains to being aware of what I said was A consideration, not the only consideration? Ok, well then why don't we all just date 70 year olds because they've had more time to accumulate resources? Or maybe we should all date 40 year olds once we become legal because they've had more time to accumulate resources and still have healthy sperm? Since because we can't have certainty of a full life we shouldn't consider the expected lifespan.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/20 03:09 PM
1

And to be fair it’s deciding WHEN you want to be alone. The first 10 years or the last 10 years.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/20 12:49 PM
1

If you're having sex then it is insulting to not sleep over. (Unless you're having sex at like 10 am.) If you aren't having sex then sleeping over is awkward.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/20 04:44 AM
4

In general Kohls. The stores obviously vary in inventory, but their website typically has more. However, with the lockdown I'm experiencing things like buying the last pack of socks and not even finding t shirts. So I can't vouch for what they have at the moment.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/20 04:41 AM
0

They still grow up and have their own lives. You won’t have a partner. It’s a consideration.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/20 01:25 AM
1

That's a danger of dating while you're a single mom, not a danger of age gaps.
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/20 11:55 PM
1

She won't need college if she marries and starts a family young.
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/20 11:53 PM
1

Yes, I (33F) do. The less jaded you are and the less time you've spent having to live as a man yourself the more you will be able to be a place of compassion and comfort for your provider. Thoughts like "Well I'VE had to work 16 hour days before, quit bitching" won't ever enter your head because you haven't actually done that. (I've never said anything like that to be clear.) Its easier to idealize and appreciate someone who is doing something for you if you've never had to do it before.
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/20 11:52 PM
3

I don't see the age gap as a problem. As long as you properly vet and have the same goals and values there's nothing wrong with him. I am also of the opinion that women who want families should get married and start families as soon as practicable. Since men don't seem to want to do that early in life then I see no issue with going to someone who actually wants you without insisting that you waste the first 5-10 years of your adulthood first. The only concern I would have would be to know that y…
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/20 11:48 PM
2

Only interview at places that are hiring. He isn't.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/20 09:37 PM
1

It doesn't matter who gives better advise. This is like asking should I pay rent or the phone bill. Pay both. Both have something to offer so get all the knowledge you can.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/20 02:29 AM
2

The important thing is to learn how to vet better for next time.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/20 02:26 AM
2

If you are getting stubble from shaving then try out different razors or change the blade more often.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/20 02:08 AM
6

You can't really let it go because it is an ongoing thing. The child isn't going away, so his life is going to forever be effected by his affair. Even if its just child support, at SOME point over 18 years you're going to have a bad month, and yet still have to write a check to some woman BECAUSE she banged your husband. He also appears to be unrepentant. He either wants whatever he can't have, or he wants to keep as many women going at once and says whatever he has to say to make that happen. I…
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/20 01:57 AM
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