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It’s not necessarily that non attractive ethnic women are matching with me. It’s that there are barely any attractive ethnic women that show up in my feed in the first place. I’m happy to show you my profile if you want.
/r/seduction31/01/26 01:38 PM
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Acknowledging reality does not mean throwing a pity party. Also, I don't know if I want to hear the nagging from someone a 35yo woman who admits to only being attracted to 0.2% of men. Just saying.
/r/seduction31/01/26 01:12 AM
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I haven't been counting, but a couple dozen at least. There definitely have been a sizeable population of white women thrown in there, but all of them were international students except for one.
/r/seduction31/01/26 01:10 AM
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To be honest, I'd say you have it better than most Asian guys do, especially if you are more white-passing. The comment you wrote sounds a lot like a white guy saying "some Asian girls into white guys but I don't complain." But if you were to ask most guys to choose between being an average looking full Asian guy and an average looking half-Asian, half-white guy, I think you would find that the vast majority would choose the former.
/r/seduction31/01/26 01:08 AM
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It's not that I'm not being shown non-Asian women. In fact, my feed is bombarded by white women, which I imagine is due to the high concentration. I've tried to set my ethnicity filter to other women, but the attractive women aren't there unfortunately. And as far as real life goes, I've tried. It seems just as bad.
/r/seduction31/01/26 01:04 AM
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Frankly, I have not seen this phenomenon. And I have engaged with a couple Asian dating coaches before, and both of them turned out to be scammers who didn't know what they were doing.
/r/seduction31/01/26 01:00 AM
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See my reply to his comment.
/r/seduction31/01/26 12:59 AM
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I'll clarify. The dates I have been getting are either with ethnic women or less than desirable white women. I would be fine with that, except there aren't that many attractive ethnic women around. At the very least, not in the volume I need to practice my first dates.
/r/seduction31/01/26 12:59 AM
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I'm in Philadelphia, I've been told that it's very bad here for us AM.
/r/seduction31/01/26 12:57 AM
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I think I would kill myself before I make it to the point of being able to move. I've had no girlfriend and my first dates never go well, so I need volume to improve.
/r/seduction31/01/26 12:49 AM
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Unfortunately, I can't. At the very least, I'm stuck here for the next 3.5 years for medical school. The city in question is Philadelphia, btw.
/r/seduction31/01/26 12:45 AM
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And so, the question is... Why do we demonize plastic surgery to the degree that we do? There is so much evidence out there that shows that face is the #1 predictor of attractiveness, yet whenever I agree, if you're a fat slob, getting plastic surgery does nothing to help. But why do we insist that the gym is superior to the knife? Are they not both investments in one's appearance? And one has a more proven ROI than the other.
/r/seduction31/01/26 12:36 AM
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Many women deny the phone call for various reasons. What are the ways that you circumvent this resistance?
/r/seduction31/01/26 12:30 AM
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I’ve had some girls express discomfort over giving away the phone number. “Can I give IG instead?” is a line I sometimes hear. The program I was a part of has been endorsing IG as the main method of getting the girl off the app. We’re talking about dating apps strictly.
/r/seduction28/01/26 10:12 PM
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Agree with the low success rate thing. But again, any edge is preferred over none. Now here’s a question that I’ll post later. Is phone number or IG preferable? IG is best for building comfort, but I have found that it’s harder to get responses out of them. On the other hand, phone numbers can be hard to ask for directly off Hinge. What has been your experience?
/r/seduction28/01/26 07:39 PM
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Could you elaborate on this? Do you mean by calling her? What if the exchange is through IG?
/r/seduction28/01/26 10:20 AM
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I am drawing from experience as well as from various seduction resources. Essentially, it gets in the way of everything that makes a good first date. It's aimless, it makes you think about more than just the girl and what she says (trying not to trip, bumping into shit) It's also hard to physically escalate, as opposed to just sitting across from her. What's worse, it's noncommittal. Not to say that women need to be captive audiences, but it directly implies during the planning that we're lookin…
/r/seduction26/01/26 09:52 PM
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That's my whole point, that people lie. Women do more of it in the context of dating. I never said anything negative about women's autonomy. That is how I know your agenda is not to have a productive discussion, because you immediately assumed that I'm misogynistic.
/r/seduction26/01/26 09:47 PM
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I understand, it's not like these are rules to ride or die by. But they do offer advantages. It would be hard to argue that an afternoon ice cream date in a loud chain restaurant is contextually more romantic than an evening drinks date in a dimly lit, quieter bar.
/r/seduction26/01/26 09:45 PM
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There really is no way to know unless you listen to recordings of my dates. I would challenge you to do so, but I suspect you won't take me up on the offer.
/r/seduction26/01/26 09:23 PM
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I'm happy that you chanced upon these interactions. I did as well, and due to technical mistakes, I ruined what could have been a great relationship. Consider yourself fortunate that you were in an environment that allowed you to learn these rules inherently. I was not.
/r/seduction26/01/26 09:17 PM
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"No spark"/"No interest" is generally a sign that there was not enough escalation. I believe in this particular date, I went on the opposite side of the spectrum. And no, conversation generally goes very smoothly. I hate the assumption that I'm some antisocial freak who can barely string a sentence together. Led the interactions consistently. Good quantity of teasing, push-pulling, etc. The coach I'm working with figures that the "point of no return" is what really drove her away.
/r/seduction26/01/26 09:15 PM
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There are many studies and anecdotes out there about how there is a lack of congruence between what is said and what is actually thought. I am open to showing you some examples, but I take it your agenda isn’t actually to engage in meaningful conversation
/r/seduction26/01/26 08:19 PM
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Not to improve performance, but to achieve outcome independence. I’m learning a lot more, but of course, the long string of failures behind me is really holding me back from treating this like a complete project. I’ve been told to throw away my ego when I get sad whenever I hear about my friends doing well in dating.
/r/seduction26/01/26 08:16 PM
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Edited main post, the full writeup is there.
/r/seduction26/01/26 08:09 PM
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To be completely fair, many of them I was actively sabotaging myself. Venue, time of day, conversation frame, escalation (verbal, physical, logistical), how close to my place, were all things I didn't consider. I've had my fair share of daytime ice cream dates or "walking dates" that I'm learning now is the #1 worst thing I could have planned.
/r/seduction26/01/26 07:40 PM
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I knew this is what you were going to say. But to be honest, my distrust didn't originally exist. It was only after dozens of women used the same old "I need to focus on school" excuse to flake on the first date, only to find them actively using Hinge again with a new account, that I realized not to take what they say that seriously.
/r/seduction26/01/26 07:34 PM
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It's one thing if a few women say they're not compatible. It's another thing if everyone says that. I've been working with a few coaches now, and it has become clear that it is mostly a technical issue. I mentioned the "point of no return" concept that led to around 5 of my failures.
/r/seduction26/01/26 07:32 PM
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Indeed, the advice always comes from those who seems to be way beyond this point (and part of me believes that none of them have ever struggled to this extent, in a row)
/r/seduction26/01/26 07:16 PM
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There was plenty of everything you described. Much of my sadness comes after the fact. I've been on so many first dates that I learned how to turn off the anxiety during the performance.
/r/seduction26/01/26 07:07 PM
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Most don't respond, of course. But generally the feedback tells me that even the women do not know why. Generally it's a "I went home and thought about it, and I realized we're not going to work"
/r/seduction26/01/26 07:06 PM
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If I knew I wouldn't be on here. The problem is that I can only speculate, and women are notorious for avoiding conflict and being dishonest. There is no reliable feedback system from the target audience. It's incredibly daunting to have to learn this crazy system with insane intricacies, you can see in one of my other comments just how much I've had to learn. Meanwhile, I see guys around me enter a relationship with the first hinge date they go on. Makes you feel awful.
/r/seduction26/01/26 07:00 PM
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I ask women for feedback when they reject me every single time. Some point to one-off things that I never did again (put shoulder on her too quickly, said something specific that ticked her off) but I have learned not to trust what women say, but look at what they do.
/r/seduction26/01/26 06:58 PM
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Indeed, I was shooting myself in the foot for a lot of dates. Things I hadn't considered for a while included: - Date must occur in the evening, drinks at a quiet bar is most ideal - Sitting next to each other to facilitate physical escalation - No "walking dates" - Logistically close from my place - Man-woman framed conversations beyond superficial topics - Having a good IG profile, both for match to date conversions and even to share after the date I also recently learned about the "point of n…
/r/seduction26/01/26 06:56 PM
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My main objective has never been to sleep with them on the first date. The whole idea of just “listen to them” is often thrown out the window when the women I meet typically have nothing much to say. Whenever I see this kind of advice, it makes me squirm because I see manipulative men lure women into situationships all the time. Clearly, it’s not about emotion, since these men have none of it for the women they target.
/r/seduction11/01/26 04:57 PM
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Most of the time, it's just bad. I try to engage, of course. A majority of the time things start off well, and then the more I talk the more I see the light die in their eyes. These dates don't result in anything, I get ghosted. Sometimes the dates go well and there's a kiss, but absolutely nothing comes of it. No second date. And I think in these instances, it's a multitude of reasons (examples include an empty IG profile, buyer's remorse after near-miss sex, logistical challenges of the LTR be…
/r/seduction05/01/26 06:03 PM
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Well, it's not that simple. I have kissed 5/40 of the girls I've gone on first dates with, and none of them resulted in a second date.
/r/seduction05/01/26 05:19 PM
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Judging from your post history, it seems that you have been immersed in this space for a while. I've realized that it doesn't make sense to compare your results to mine, given that I'm very new to this field. One mistake I made was not engaging with the right material, I've been spending a lot of my time unlearning bad habits taught by several of my former coaches. Based on what I've recently learned and based on what I've been told after reaching out to girls who ghosted me, it mainly comes dow…
/r/seduction05/01/26 02:34 PM
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I've only done it once, and the issues were clear from the get-go (daytime, walking date with no purpose, terrible logistical situation, loud and busy environment) The answer is I don't know how to, and the few attempts I do make at flirting come across as unnatural and is generally not well received. "Just go with the vibes" has been what I've been told by previous coaches, which has been extremely frustrating.
/r/seduction05/01/26 08:49 AM
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Since this post, I've been going back and texting every girl I was rejected by after the first date for advice. Overwhelmingly, the feedback has been something along the lines of "no romantic spark" or "no physical connection" so it's likely due to a lack of escalation more than anything. No mention of photos.
/r/seduction05/01/26 07:58 AM
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Yeah, think HingeX and obsessing over the app for hours. There would be several weeks where I had 2-3 dates lined up. It's not like I never got sex, I think there was PIV 2 times (one led to a second date, the other did not) there were two times where I got the girl home with me and naked but no sex (also led to no second dates) and a bunch of ONS where I straight up asked the girl on Hinge if she's dtf. Idk, I think I look really good in my photos, more so than I could ever imagine myself, but …
/r/seduction04/01/26 07:12 PM
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I've seen enough of your advice to know where this goes. I've seen it in person, a 30 year old man who's been told to stop caring and just build his life, and the women will come to him. Now all he's dealing with are women who are desperate for marriage. I'm not keen on going the rest of my 20s without a relationship. It's just not going to happen. I'd rather kill myself.
/r/seduction04/01/26 06:57 PM
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It's not like I delved into this stuff right away, it's BECAUSE going on dates as myself wasn't working. I think it was around the first 10 or so that I realized I needed professional help. I think I landed on the right one this time, since I'll be recording the dates to see. As far as the photos go, I've never had success on Hinge until the faceswapped photos came into play. No amount of natural photos or photoshoots got me any results. If you're really curious, I can send some photos of my pro…
/r/seduction04/01/26 06:53 PM
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Frankly, a lot of these guides came from coaches that only wanted the money. If I'm being completely honest with myself, I've just started to engage with some legitimate advice. The problem was that when I bit the bullet and bought the recorded dates service, my dating app stats took a nosedive. So I've been fixing that too. For example, a good chunk of my dates happened in the afternoon. Or it would be an "innocent" date like fast food (higher end pizza) or ice cream. It would also happen reall…
/r/seduction04/01/26 04:32 PM
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For me, what it comes down to is patience. I'm 22 years old, having never made it past the second date. Maybe if I grind on this social life thing it will pay dividends 8 years out. But the idea of waiting that long is daunting. It's why I paid for coaching in the first place, because I don't want to wait that long.
/r/seduction04/01/26 04:28 PM
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I struggle with this, and no instructional has been specific enough to actually be of use to me. If it really came down to getting exposure, I wouldn't be struggling as much as I am now. Let the 40 number sink in.
/r/seduction04/01/26 03:59 PM
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Ultimately, this advice boils down to "live a less autistic life" and it's something that I tried and failed to do throughout all of undergrad. In no universe could I have gone on 40 dates with the intent of LTR in a single year if not for Hinge. After I fumbled the first two girls I met through IRL connections, it became clear to me that the only way to fix the problem is loads of experience. I just didn't expect that I would fail to this degree.
/r/seduction04/01/26 03:56 PM
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Yeah, it got to the point where I'm paying to have a coach listen to clips of a date recording and analyze what went wrong. Until recently, there were some easy fixes that I hadn't made because of the circumstances: - Terrible logistics situation - Terrible date ideas (many "walking dates" and afternoon dates) - Terrible attempts at physical/verbal escalation, if the attempts were even made - Empty IG presence Another possibility is that I don't look like my photos. I have a service that gives m…
/r/seduction04/01/26 03:54 PM
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Unfortunately, the financial investment I've made to this dating project means that it's a high stakes endeavor. It's been a rough ride, to be honest.
/r/seduction04/01/26 11:31 AM
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Here on Reddit, happy to share more through dm if you're curious
/r/seduction04/01/26 11:29 AM
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Not really, but I'm still distraught that my skill doesn't allow me to pull low quality women.
/r/seduction04/01/26 11:29 AM
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I felt this way at first, but seeing the absurdly huge number of first dates that lead nowhere has had me questioning life. I think it also comes down to the fact that anything I do naturally is woman-repellant (recently diagnosed autistic)
/r/seduction04/01/26 11:28 AM
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My previous one did mention the idea of physical escalation, but did not give any specifics beyond "go with the vibe." I agree, I spent $3000 only for him to give me ChatGPT generated guides. Happy to send them to you to see if it's an issue with me or the coach's instruction.
/r/seduction04/01/26 11:25 AM
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Thank you. Do you have anything for conversation topics? Something I struggle immensely with is boring the girl and not being able to engage in more intimate topics.
/r/seduction04/01/26 11:22 AM
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Do you have a video I could refer to? Do you also have any resources for conversation topics? I'm currently going through Todd V's Online Dating Academy and it's been very underwhelming in terms of in-date tactics.
/r/seduction04/01/26 11:18 AM
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Not really sure what this means. None of the coaches I've had has elaborated on this thing called "kino escalation"
/r/seduction04/01/26 11:13 AM
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If you're asking about how rich my social life is outside of Hinge, the answer is that I have very few friends and I'm struggling immensely in my current school environment.
/r/seduction04/01/26 11:12 AM
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Happy to elaborate, what do you want to know?
/r/seduction04/01/26 11:11 AM
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Getting the girls in my bed naked happens very infrequently (thinking 2-3 times out of the 40) Usually women reject the pull attempt full stop or ask to leave after an hour with some bs excuse. When the girl is naked on my bed, the universal objection I receive is "I don't think we should do this on the first date" and I don't pursue it any further, though I've found that anything except PIV goes.
/r/seduction04/01/26 11:11 AM
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I'm late to the party, but this is my experience. The reality is that most "dating coaches" are scammers. It's good to go with your gut instinct, but here are some things to look out for: - The coach is physically attractive (these coaches tend to be the most uncalibrated and whose lessons I am still trying to unlearn to this day, you want someone who's average looking who didn't have things handed to them) - The coach has no track record of being involved with beautiful women (one of the coache…
/r/seduction02/01/26 08:37 AM
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