40 first dates, 1 second date, 0 long term prospects... Can anyone relate?

chronicideas · 2026-01-04T11:07:16+00:00

If ur getting girls on ur bed naked and not closing the deal then it sounds like a problem with how you handle last minute resistance and you’ve maybe not increased their attraction in you enough at the core.

Lacunaethra · 2026-01-04T11:26:34+00:00

You would have had an LTR with each one of the 40 women?

trashaccnts · 2026-01-04T13:02:26+00:00

Whats sucks is even if you get them in bed, theres a high possibility their head game is weak, dead fish, uninterested, asking if your done yet, different boundaries/restrictions with diff girls. Welcome to 2026

sarcasticvarient · 2026-01-04T14:27:02+00:00

Every dating app feels like this these days. If you’re genuinely looking for a long-term relationship, dating apps in general are a poor bet right now maybe 1 out of 100 people is actually looking for something serious.

ScientificArtichoke · 2026-01-04T11:06:44+00:00

You’re not telling the full story.

AxlJones · 2026-01-04T11:11:04+00:00

Whats your social status like?

Hydroplanet · 2026-01-04T12:50:08+00:00

You need to build more tension first before going to physical. Foreplay for women is mental.

culturedindividual · 2026-01-04T18:25:20+00:00

I’ve only been on 1 first date and got the spark comment. I can’t imagine doing 40. Damn, I feel for you.

I’d try to analyse the issue. D’you not match or photos, or does your game just suck? Once you’ve found the culprit, try and fix the issue.

Remarkable_Outside67 · 2026-01-05T13:03:57+00:00

I went on around 35 first dates last year, and honestly, I’m surprised you’re not getting second or third dates.
In my case, most of the women I went out with were the ones suggesting a second date.
Some of them even told me they wanted something serious with me, which is why your situation really surprises me.

autodidacticasaurus · 2026-01-04T14:28:43+00:00

No, I've never had that much failure once I've been on dates. That's extremely bad man. You're doing something wrong. It sounds like you're just not building attraction properly to me. Work on that. Check out Coach Kyle's YouTube, check out Dan Bacon's... maybe watch/listen to RSD's BluePrint. Something going wrong and more experience isn't fixing it for it's time for you to start consuming a lot of theory while you continue your practice. Just start binging those things I mentioned.

ChicoBrillo · 2026-01-04T19:04:37+00:00

40 first dates? Are you exaggerating or being serious? That's nearly 1 a week, I find it hard to believe you're good looking / smooth enough to be dating that much but haven't managed to have sex or find someone interested in you.

I can only think to ask you, what do you think is the problem?

Title	40 first dates, 1 second date, 0 long term prospects... Can anyone relate?
Author	Any_Bank_3767
Upvotes	46
Comments	61
Date	January 4, 2026 11:03 AM UTC (7 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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