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My first was/is a terrible sleeper. He would wake up every single hour at night. It is so so hard. You are seen, felt, and heard. Cosleeping and night weaning eventually got us to longer stretches at night. You also need to support your body through sleep deprivation. Drink a glass of cold water as soon as you wake for the day, have a protein rich breakfast, try to get some morning sunlight if possible, take your vitamins (especially magnesium, zinc, and iron), and don't rely on simple carbs to …
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/26 01:22 PM
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Yea no, that's how abusers escape accountability for their actions. It wasn't celebrities, it was real people that they know. Either way, it's still a federal crime. Also, you don't know the ages of the people he made porn of, nor the full extent of his porn addiction. This is deeply disturbing and disordered.
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/26 07:38 PM
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I'm not sure where you got the notion that foregoing education makes a woman more attractive. My post certainly didnt say that. The current discourse in traditional circles discourages women from higher education or having careers. You see where I wrote: Education and career may not be important for attraction, but it is for commitment. This is a very important distinction to make. My comment is concerned more with RMV with the end goal of marriage. Class, culture, and location are huge variable…
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/26 03:50 PM
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You don't need high professional qualifications to attract a HVM. Although this is often repeated in red pill and traditional circles, I find it to be oversimplified and more often a reflection of the commenter's own preferences. UMC and certain UC (esp old money) men value prestige and pedigree. Education and career may not be important for attraction, but it is for commitment. This is a very important distinction to make. So OP, do not forgo your education on the misguided notion that it will …
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/26 01:40 PM
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Reddit has banned every single other popular conservative subreddit so I don't blame the mods for wanting to protect their space. Leftists aren't banned from the conservative subreddit. Whenever open commenting resumes, leftists are free to comment. Comparatively, I've been banned from multiple other subreddits, some I've never interacted with, for posting here or on the pro-life sub. So tell me again who is intolerant of other people's opinions?
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/25 02:18 PM
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That's not quite true. They've been "flaired users only" for a while since leftists cannot handle differing opinions existing on reddit. Every actually conservative opinion is heavily downvoted on that subreddit.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/25 01:49 PM
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While its certainly customary (in American culture) for women to change their name after marriage, it isn't the only option. You can: take his name socially but keep yours legally, hypenate your last name, keep your name and the children get his name, add his name to your name (first middle maiden new surname), or use your name as a middle (first maiden new surname). A lot of women that built their careers around their maiden names (doctors, lawyers, podcasters) typically choose the first option…
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/25 02:30 AM
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old nun mode plan didn’t work The old nun mode plan was to go to therapy... A goal weight of 100lbs is extreme and unnecessary for you (also curious how/why you arrived at that number). Last time you gave up after 8 days because the task was too daunting and you weren't seeing results quick enough. When setting goals, use the SMART method: specific, measureable, achievable, relevant, and time bound. Start out with a smaller, more manageable goal that you can reasonably stick with. Suggestions: l…
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/25 01:08 PM
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OP has deleted most of her posts, but she has received a lot of good, honest advice. Most said that this subreddit is insufficient for her needs and that she should seek professional therapy. The mods even gave her a timeout. All the advice and compassion in the world won't change a thing unless OP herself wants to change.
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/25 07:16 PM
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That's an average of ~3lbs a weeks. Not insane for a starting weight of 250lbs. But the point being made is that OP could have made good use of the last four months and the nun mode she was instructed to do. Instead, she chose to ignore the advice and accomplish nothing.
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/25 02:53 PM
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You are both the man and the woman in this relationship. Does he work? What does he provide to you that makes it worth it? other women who are breadwinners but traditional are doing it all plus kids and stay slim Strictly speaking, traditional women are not breadwinners. Traditional men protect and provide. Of course, you don't have to be in a traditional relationship. The problem here is division of labor and responsibilities. Neither woman, traditional nor egalitarian, should be doing it all. …
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/25 11:51 PM
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Soooo controversial, but I do agree. Hard times create strong men, strong men create good times, good times create weak men, and weak men create hard times. Men are driven to do hard things and pursue greatness. Men find purpose and meaning in their work, what they do, what they can provide, the things they can make with their own hands. Have you seen what happens to a man without any purpose? He becomes dejected and depressed. My husband and I listened to a talk from a Catholic priest about rai…
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/25 03:19 PM
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In accordance to traditional gender roles, I totally agree. Women are, and have always been, the fairer sex. Women birth babies and care for the home. Men go to war, chop down trees, build buildings, etc. Think about the linemen working in the freezing cold to restore power after the snowstorms. There's an old post touching on this, the thesis of which being men shoulder the burdens of the world so women don't have to in order to protect our innocence. That's why I find it aggravating when femin…
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/25 02:39 PM
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Honestly I get it. My best friend is terrible with relationships. One time she brought home a guy that didn't have any teeth (drugs). No one wants to see their friends in a relationship with a loser. I say my piece once, only once, unless she asks for further input. Then drop it. She's in charge of her own destiny. Don't meddle in things you need not be.
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/25 03:58 PM
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Obviously there are some outliers, like one of the comments on this thread I would say that's not an outlier given that his wife grew up upper middle class. Income is a small part of the equation, even more so with a man that intends on having a housewife/SAHM. Instead, they care more about pedigree, how well she integrates with his lifestyle, and how she looks amongst his peers. He says it right there in his comment: "she fits in perfectly at charity benefit dinners and yacht parties." Wealthy …
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/24 01:29 PM
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I do think she genuinely enjoys vlogging. She's definitely leaning more into the glamorous trophy wife persona nowadays, but I think the nest egg has always been there. After all, they bought their first house on one income in their early twenties before she became Mrs Midwest. She has talked about financial planning briefly and I know she had intentions of making an in-depth video discussing finances as a homemaker, but for whatever reason she did not make that video. The lesson here is that yo…
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/24 03:11 AM
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They say that about me and I'm black.
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/24 03:05 AM
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Some people hate her because they think she's an actual Nazi.
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/24 02:49 AM
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She's always had a strategy with her channel. Her degree is in communications and starting a channel was her way of making an income from home. I think it was actually more obvious before she had the boys. From what I've seen Caitlin shops at Aldi, still thrifts, and most of her toddler entertainment is free (library, lake, sledding, etc). I believe they have a investment property too. Their overhead is probably so incredibly cheap (they live in rural Michigan) that they comfortably have the dis…
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/24 12:12 AM
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Maintaining separate savings accounts in a addition to a joint account is a wise idea. In some jurisdictions when one owner of a joint account dies, the account is locked preventing the other owner from accessing it. Separate savings accounts allow for access of funds in the event of an emergency. You could also consider proportional contributions to the joint account (ex. 60/40) instead of an even 50/50. What you need to discuss is how money gets spent and from which accounts. Are the savings a…
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/24 11:17 PM
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Friendly reminder to block safebot, saferbot and safestbot. They can't ban you if they can't read your comments.
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/24 02:36 AM
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This is 14 year old girl btw. Teenagers don't have strong rational thought, impulse control, and not to mention as a woman she isn't able to overpower the guy doing stuff to her. Asking why she didn't just leave is victim blaming and insinuating that she wanted her assault is frankly horrible.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/24 11:31 AM
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Also, the women that support and follow the 4B movement likely were never interested in creating a traditional nuclear family to begin with. They are the childless cat ladies.
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/24 05:42 PM
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There are men on the internet saying "your body my choice." They are trolling you. They are terminally online professional rage baiters with no influence or control over legislation. Your outrage is their entertainment. Don't let them live rent free in your head.
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/24 05:23 PM
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Sorry but it's still so funny to me. "We're abstaining from sex and will not date, get married, or have children." Oh, so you're becoming a nun? Well God bless you on your journey.
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/24 01:26 PM
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because some subs ban people for posting on RP subs Block safebot, saferbot and safestbot. They can't ban you if they can't read your comments.
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/24 11:56 AM
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Let's see, they're going to own the conservative Christians by checks notes abstaining from premarital sex. Ok?? It's a passing trend and I doubt many except a few hardline feminists remain in this movement past two weeks. I see feminists advising women to guard their wombs, don't sleep with random men, and only be with men that respect and value them... all of which women should already be doing. Their "rebellion" betrays that hookup culture never benefited nor empowered women. This whole thing…
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/24 11:49 AM
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It's called trolling dear and you fell for the bait.
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/24 08:34 PM
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Level up your fashion. Wear skirts/dresses (midi length) and regular length tops. Put a little effort into your hair and makeup too.
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/24 06:08 PM
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See, now that would be passive aggressive. He asked for the pantry to be re-organized, not for the medication to go under the washer. If OP, after sparking an argument, put the medications under the washer to "teach him a lesson", that would be spiteful behavior. The medication thing would not have come up as a point of contention if OP had simply agreed when asked originally. That is the point the other users and I are making.
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/24 07:09 PM
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Well, it was a pleasant request until OP got nitpicky with it and he had to shut down that behavior. This is why exactly we practice STFU: to contain snarky comments/criticism/nagging within our heads to avoid creating unnecessary tension with your husband. All he wanted was for the pantry to get re-organized. There's no need to have a whole argument about it and OP acknowledges that she should have acted differently.
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/24 07:00 PM
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It takes a lot of courage to recognize your behavior and work to change it. There's an abridged audio book of Surrendered Wife on Spotify. It's just a primer, but makes her points succinctly. Journaling helps too. At the end of the day, for example, you can write down the areas you did poorly, where you succeeded, and what you can change. It's a good accountability tool and a measure of your progress.
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/24 04:58 PM
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I am simply stating my opinion or raising a concern over why thats not the best idea, or just want to talk things over. I consider myself to be particularly strong willed and it took a lot of introspection for me to realize that what I consider "stating my opinion" often is poorly disguised criticism or a control tactic. It's less "stating my opinion" and more "trying to get him to do what I want." You will benefit a lot from the concept of STFU. Here's another post with examples. He asked me to…
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/24 04:00 PM
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The sidebar has a plethora of resources that are likely applicable to you. The typically recommended RPW book is Surrendered Wife by Laura Doyle. I would start with some introspection: identify the behaviors that you want to change, why they are toxic, and the concrete steps you will take to change them. While you work on deconstructing your behavior, don't forget to express appreciation and gratitude to your husband for his patience with you. This could take many forms, like cooking and baking …
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/24 09:57 PM
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doesn't last. Can be disruptive if you can't work with your partner as a teamate Only because people expect marriage to be like Disney romance where you ride off into the sunset to live happily ever after and nothing bad ever happens. Expect, love isn't just a feeling but also an action. It's a choice you have to make and keep choosing to make. If love and passion died out in what used to be a happy marriage, it's because you didn't maintain it.
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/24 09:41 PM
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Less terrifying, more extremely annoying and inconvenient since water is pretty much all I drink.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/24 09:54 PM
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You can also have an aversion to water. I did.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/24 03:34 PM
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It's my understanding that cross gender friendships are haram, correct? You can ask him to go to the imam or let the imam know that he is behaving inappropriately. You would not be asking advice for yourself, but for your husband to receive guidance. Bring the issue to your father or FIL only if you believe they are wise and prudent men that will handle the situation well. Edit: read a bit of your post history. I do not recommend involving your FIL. Perhaps your father may be able to help.
/r/RedPillWives01/11/24 02:40 PM
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Apologies if I'm being presumptive, but are you Muslim? Could you bring this issue to another trusted individual like your father, his father, or your imam? He needs strong fraternal correction and that unfortunately cannot come from you.
/r/RedPillWives01/11/24 01:04 PM
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It's the first time you've spoken in years and he brings up his crossdressing fetish out of nowhere... Girl he's already weird wdym he'll get weird at some point!That's probably the tip of the iceberg with him. Meet some new friends.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/24 10:44 PM
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I'm guessing there's a huge element of sunk cost fallacy involved in that decision. And some of these men aren't masculine enough to tell their girlfriends/wives no and it's more comfortable for them to stay.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/24 04:45 PM
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Sometimes women who are very agreeable attract the attention of the wrong type of men. You will have to work on assertiveness. Being a submissive woman does not mean that you can't have boundaries or allow men to walk all over you. When people show you who they are, believe them.
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/24 10:56 PM
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Some more advice. Own your wrongs and acknowledge that you hurt and betrayed your husband. Don't wax poetic about how sleeping with other men improved you as a person and certainly do not compare him to those men. A person that is swayed by society telling them they're missing out in life is experiencing unfulfillment and are unhappy with their current state of life. So, analyze where your marriage is lacking and the steps you can take to improve. Does he think he can do "better" than you? What …
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/24 09:49 PM
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because i told him my ex has kicked and spit on my face and he asked what i did to provoke him This is not another story, but a different chapter of the same story. Are you familiar with the concept of vetting? You do not want to be with a man that ignores your boundaries/consent and excuses physical abuse. Major red flag.
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/24 01:47 PM
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Starting with the obvious, you should not continue to pursue and sleep with other men. Let's say hypothetically speaking, your husband sleeps with four other women. Then what? What's the plan? Keeping the marriage open for undetermined amount of time is fancy talk for delaying divorce. An open marriage is like couples that are "on a break." They're not on a break, they are separated. If the goal is to rebuild and repair the marriage, that should begin now, not at some undefined point in the futu…
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/24 01:30 PM
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Reading your comments here, I think you can reassure him by actually acknowledging his fears and concerns. You seem dismissive and idealistic of very real scenarios, like his health failing before yours does. He's worried that when things get difficult you will be unable to handle them because so far you've been flippant about any problems that may arise. It's an immature perspective for you to hold that discussion around the long term implications of a significant age gap is "destructive and no…
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/24 01:12 PM
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Glad to hear you have a supportive community! So sorry you're experiencing this. May the Lord grant you strength ❤️.
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/24 06:45 PM
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Definitely take the time to think it through and make a plan before you commit to anything. You said you had a career before you married. This may be the right time to brush up your resume and re-enter the workforce. Do you have a supportive church community? Maybe you can find some helping hands there. If you really must stay, go to therapy to develop some strong coping mechanisms and emotional detachment from his behaviors.
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/24 06:23 PM
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Yea I was going to say, this is straight up cuckquean behavior and only encourages more cheating.
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/24 06:01 PM
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You cannot turn a chronic cheater in a non-cheater. Your husband has shown he's incapable of monogamy. By choosing to stay with him, you are choosing one-sided non-monogamy. If divorce isn't what you desire your only other option is to ask him for complete discretion: don’t ask, don’t tell. Note: this means he won't stop cheating. You would be choosing to no longer know about it and care about it. Don't go looking through his phone. Don't ask about his whereabouts. Don't look at his social media…
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/24 05:58 PM
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If it's not petty and doesn't affect your relationship, then I wouldn't worry about it.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/24 08:31 PM
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I’ve also noticed he can get a bit rebellious and doesn’t respond well if I tell him to do something directly. He likes to feel things are his idea. Is that a masculine trait to have, or an issue? It depends, can you give an example? It could simply be that he's the leader and feels giving orders isn't the role of his first mate. Or he's petty and doesn't listen to what you say simply out of spite. Like if you're giving him directions and he turns the opposite way because he doesn't want to list…
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/24 04:57 PM
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Congratulations!! ❤️
/r/RedPillWives28/09/24 01:00 PM
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To recap: you find the relationship to be bland and boring, he's not the provider you want him to be, you have different cultural values and marriage timelines. Side note: don't delete your posts. It's against the rules. You don't like nor respect him. What exactly do you want us to tell you that we haven't already told you?
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/24 12:00 PM
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When I was vegan, I cooked meals for my omnivore husband (then boyfriend). I would make one meal with parallel proteins. For example, if I made alfredo I would make chicken for him and tofu for myself. If I needed something to be tasted, I would ask him to do it for me. He really appreciated me cooking for him and not forcing my beliefs onto him.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/24 12:19 PM
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I believe that crying expressed from genuine emotions is not emotional manipulation. It's not fake crying to influence his behavior, OP is actually feeling hurt and betrayed. Crying is a natural and understandable reaction to those feelings. If a man doesn't care that his wife is hurt and crying, the issue is his lack of empathy not her crying.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/24 03:16 PM
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Oh, that is tough. I don't really have any more useful advice. I am so sorry you're going through this.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/24 01:18 PM
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Try a strategy I'd like to call: Don't get mad, get sad. Approaching him in anger, although while very justified, puts him on the defensive and nothing productive tends to come from that. Alternatively, something about a woman crying triggers the protective instinct in a man and they want to come to your rescue. Maybe say something along the lines of "when I see the stuff you do on social media, it really hurts my feelings. It makes me feel like I am not enough for you as a wife, that our marria…
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/24 01:11 PM
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Here's a post on avoiding/ending arguments. TL;DR Step 1: Don't create the spark. Watch yourself and try to make sure you are not creating sparks in your relationship. Avoid triggers whenever possible, and if you have to go near them, tread cautiously. Step 2: Don't ignite the spark. If you choose not to respond negatively there won't have to be an argument. Ask yourself "is this the hill I want to die on"? Step 3: Defuse the situation: listen earnestly to what he is saying, choose your words wi…
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/24 02:47 AM
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Vulnerability, not neediness. You want to be open, honest authentic, and emotional. Expose your weak underbelly and place your trust in him. Here's a couple suggestions: Snuggle into him and tell him you feel so safe in his arms After work say "today was such a hard day, can I get a 15 second hug?" Ask for his counsel. You said he would rather listen than offer solutions, so we can take baby steps here. A simple "what do you suggest?" and follow through by actually doing what he suggests. If he'…
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/24 02:41 AM
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To be frank, if in the entirety of your relationship you've been very independent as you said and consistently shown that you don't need him then you aren't exactly inspiring him to develop protective instincts. Do you think it's possible that he genuinely wants to be needed by you, but suppresses those feelings because he knows that you don't need him?
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/24 01:25 AM
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RPW offers you tools to keep in your toolbox. It's up to you to adapt those skills to your life and marriage in the best way possible. Other husbands might not want to hear the details of their wives' day, but your husband cares. So if he's interested, then you should talk about your day. It's a small act of the submission: the Captain asks how your day is, the first mate obliges and tells him.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/24 12:39 AM
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You weren't advised to be in nun mode because of your weight. I just want to be picked. See, this is why we suggested nun mode. Do not skip nun mode. You have low self esteem and you need to work on becoming a woman worthy of a good man. Do not skip nun mode. You've been at it for what, 2 weeks, and you're already giving up. In the last few months you went from trans to trad Christian to practicing Muslim wanting an arranged marriage to leaving Islam to nun mode to leaving nun mode. Do not skip …
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/24 08:06 PM
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I tried to give it the benefit of the doubt since I've heard the title floated here and there. But given the quotes Pumpkin pulled from it... I'm not rushing to read it. Yea, I'm not sure why OP chose to start with this book considering she's single and unmarried. Surrendered Single would be a more useful starting point.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/24 03:57 PM
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Reminds me of a Mother Teresa quote Wash the plate not because it is dirty nor because you are told to wash it, but because you love the person who will use it next. It's these little things that show the people in our lives that we love them and care about them. Serving those you love really is a blessing and quite nourishing for the soul. I saw a post on Instagram of a woman that lost her husband and she said she'd give up everything to have his dirty socks on the floor again. That helped chan…
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/24 03:53 PM
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Granted, I've never read the book, but perhaps OP's description does the book injustice. Here's a blurb from a review I saw: Unabashedly asserting that man is a "very simple creature," who needs only "direct communication, respect, appreciation, food, and good loving'" to respond with devotion, compassion and love, this controversial marriage and family therapist claims that every woman can achieve a deeply satisfying marriage if she adheres to certain fundamentals men require. Preparing dinner,…
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/24 02:47 PM
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Respectfully, the issues that I won't back down on are those that disrespect me and our marriage, not just general topics or differing opinions. Such as? Seems like a rather important issue that should be mentioned in the OP. Is he talking to other women?
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/24 05:57 PM
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we are partners not one above the other. This is not how a hierarchy works...
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/24 05:25 PM
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Husbands need be respected above all else. You can achieve that reframing your mindset to actively choose love and gratitude. I strongly believe that love isn't just a feeling but also a verb. Do small things with great love because intimacy is built and kept in these small moments. Try: cooking his favorite meal, serve him a drink with a kiss, give him peaceful downtime, keep the bedroom hot and active, listen to him yap about that hobby you don't find interesting, give him compliments, praise …
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/24 05:18 PM
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Also, does his fiance know you exist? Does she approve of you and him seeing you? She has everything in her power to make your life miserable. Competition between cowives in polygamous situations is intense, and we haven't even gotten to the logistics of child-bearing yet.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/24 06:32 PM
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My stepmom was once talking about how two of my aunts used to fight over my uncle. Mind you, he already had two children with two other women and children with both of my aunts. I don't understand it. Nick Cannon and NBA players at least have money, so I can see some women trying to get their bag by having children and getting child support checks. Fast forward to today, my uncle is in none of their lives or his childrens' lives. And my aunts are besties now.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/24 06:24 PM
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I think it was maybe 10 weeks postpartum, in part due to longer healing time.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/24 11:12 PM
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Great post and a great reminder! We've had a rough month: NFP induced abstinence, husband had pneumonia then some long and late workdays, baby had a stomach bug, I got minor versions of both illnesses. My husband and I drifted apart for a bit and there was a noticeable decrease in intimacy and affection. So last night my husband came to me wanting to cuddle and reconnect... with his penis lol. Sex is SO important to a healthy marriage. We're Catholic, which has a bad rap for being prudish. But i…
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/24 02:20 PM
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Yea I'm banned from r/blackladies too. Which is fine, because there are a lot of bitter betties over there.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/24 12:33 PM
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Thank you for a well written field report! Always happy to see RPW skills leading to a happy outcome ❤️.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/24 12:27 PM
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OP are you and/or your fiance Muslim? If you are, please add that context to your post.
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/24 02:31 PM
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Ma'am, you ask me to be respectful yet you waste your words slandering Americans... the same Americans you are asking advice from. You're not unmarried because you choose to date Americans. I'm an immigrant married to American. I'm going to leave you with this one piece of advice because clearly you're not here in good faith: the grass is greenest where you water it.
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/24 03:03 AM
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I would take a step back from hosting. It seems you've been through a lot. I don't know how much (if any) you've improved from your last post, but as a new mom you need to be protective of your mental health. When discussing this with your husband, express your feelings without bringing up that specific coworker. As soon as you do it's probably going to derail the conversation and he might accuse you of being jealous, but that's not really the core problem. You feel dejected, unappreciated, sadd…
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/24 02:54 AM
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Yet here you are... unmarried. Wish you luck.
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/24 02:32 AM
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Dissing Americans while dating an American but also bragging about going to American university. Huh. I suppose your parents will have to find a nice husband for you then.
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/24 02:27 AM
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You're putting the cart before the horse. Be honest - do you even like him? According to you the relationship is bland and boring and he's not the provider type you envision, yet you're pressuring him to marry after just six months. Completely nonsensical. Those I know that had successful marriages after dating for a short time were (and still are) head over heels for each other. This ambivalence you have towards your boyfriend is not conducive for a thriving marriage. If it's so important for y…
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/24 02:13 AM
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This is such an immature worldview. I hope you grow out of it.
/r/RedPillWives15/08/24 01:23 PM
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Situation 1: nothing needed to be said. Someone wanted to extend a small, empathetic (and useful) gift to a person they don't even like and you criticized that? Friend 1 could have given a gift card with a sweet, supportive note attached. No, it's not emotional support your friend needs. But looking at the prices of groceries these days, she won't turn down a gift card for groceries. Situation 2: your friend has malicious envy. She wants what you have and is jealous of her inability to achieve t…
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/24 05:36 PM
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Start with an open and honest conversation. "Previously, we discussed having a traditional family, where the wife stays home to raise the baby and the husband provides. Do we still have this same vision?" If he says yes, ask him to walk you through his plans for the family- the finances, division of chores, and division of parenting. Ask about how he expects you to pay for items without a job and what he'll do when your savings inevitably dries up (which I don't recommend doing btw). If he says …
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/24 07:49 PM
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Is LD Laura Doyle?
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/24 01:17 PM
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In another thread, OP writes that the other woman wants to take her place and be the one taking care of her husband. It seems they're both cruel people unfortunately.
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/24 06:10 PM
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I would just stop micromanaging him. Why unnecessarily stress yourself out? He can figure out his diet and fitness on his own, he doesn't need you do to it for him.
/r/RedPillWives01/08/24 02:07 PM
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Have you looked into other methods of entertaining your toddler besides you being the main source of entertainment? A few ideas: audio players like Tonie and Yoto, the Little Tikes story projector, sensory bin activities, water table. You can also try instituting a quiet hour with your toddler. I know one mom that does daily tea time with her six kids where she sits everyone down at the table with tea or steamed milk, a few sweet treats, a book, and gets a full hour of quiet time. She says it's …
/r/RedPillWives01/08/24 02:02 PM
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Core and pelvic floor exercises to for pregnancy and labor. And weighted squats for when you're holding the baby and need to pick something off the floor.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/24 09:53 PM
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He pulled all his books and deleted his online presence.
/r/RedPillWives18/07/24 01:53 AM
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Your suggestion feels like I should continue making decisions where it “really matters” and let him fail at the small stuff until he basically figures it out. Yes. You don't need to micromanage, intervene, or rescue every situation. Even if you think he's going to fail, let him fail! Natural consequences are a powerful teacher and motivator. This is also a big exercise in surrendering control, which further serves your ultimate goal as being the First Mate to your Captain. You want him to lead, …
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/24 01:56 PM
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Breakups are cheaper than divorce.
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/24 12:08 PM
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We all agree that neither OP, her boyfriend, or anyone for that matter should be having heated conversations while drunk. However, given the context, this isn't a (metaphorically speaking) drunk Captain. Per OP's comment history: she didn't know what time her flight was and had to be woken up, she messed up the hotel and they had to walk an additional half hour, her boyfriend needed help taking care of their piss drunk friend but she couldn't help because she was also piss drunk. OP seems to thi…
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/24 12:54 AM
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He expects more of you beyond "balancing out his personality." Respectfully dear, that just sounds like you're doing you and not being attentive to him at all. Here's some suggestions on things you can do to pull your weight without bringing an income: -be a soft place to land. Your boyfriend shouldn't feel the need to go to someone else for emotional support. That's your responsibility. Our husbands and our men do not need their own Rock in us to cling to, they need a soft place to lie their he…
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/24 02:39 PM
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I saw my mom go through this for 10 years and I’d rather break up than be in an unequal relationship. The way you decrease your chances of being in a relationship with a terrible man is by vetting and ensuring compatibility on major issues. Watching your mother endure a poor relationship understandably creates hesitation towards male led relationships, but her life is not your destiny. Is your boyfriend a good man? Do you trust your man? What reasons do you have, besides fear of becoming like yo…
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/24 02:19 PM
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Compliment how they look in their clothes instead. Say something like "wow, that shirt makes your arms look so big and strong."
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/24 10:25 PM
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In the context of Catholicism (the focus of his speech), what does vocation mean?
/r/RedPillWives22/06/24 04:33 PM
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I really appreciate this post, thank you for writing this. Honestly, I felt I could have written it myself. The most detrimental thing to my postpartum experience was social media and the whiplash on my algorithm between the parenthood is terrible hot mess moms and the sacrifice yourself for motherhood tradwives. When I was maybe 2 or 3 weeks postpartum I saw a reel denouncing moms that call themselves exhausted, frustrated, or touched out. Needless to say, it made me feel like a terrible mother…
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/24 03:27 PM
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You're three months into the phase of the relationship where you are supposed to heavily vetting (part one, part two) and assessing compatibility factors contributing to a stable, long term relationship. You two seem to be at different phases of life- he wants to party and roam free, you want to settle down and have stability. He doesn't understand your concern for this party or why you felt hurt for not being invited, which tells you he isn't mature enough for a relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/24 04:12 PM
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We abstained (imperfectly) for I believe 3 years. We didn't live together until a few months before our wedding, which was a trying period of near occasion of sin. When we began dating he was an agnostic, I was an atheist, but we wanted to return to the faith together. I came to the conclusion that we ought to stop having premarital sex before he did and while he did agree on principle, he wasn't ready to take that step. He wanted only a decrease in sex, not complete abstinence; however, a littl…
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/24 06:39 PM
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You're asking a religious question on a secular subreddit, keep that in mind with the answers you will get. From a religious standpoint, yes, you absolutely should stop fornicating (including oral btw). I also recommend contacting a priest to schedule a confession before you get married. The difficulty, however, is your fiance isn't Catholic and seemingly has no desire to be. A unilateral decision to abstain until marriage is like a bomb going off in your relationship. Choosing to abstain nearly…
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/24 05:30 PM
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Because taking accountability for one's actions is a more difficult journey than simply shifting all the blame onto the husband. Sometimes typical reddit thinking affects with sub too. The mods already removed a few comments with no advice besides leave him.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/24 04:53 PM
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Re: submission (forgot to add this to my previous response). I understand in your situation you find it difficult to submit to a man you don't respect but submission isn't just about expressing thanks to your husband. In marriage we are called to submit to our husband regardless of who provides and pays the bills. Rather it's how God has ordered the roles of each spouse. The bible says we are to be subordinate to one another: wives are to submit to their husbands and husbands are to die for thei…
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/24 04:45 PM
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Your husband gained 55lbs since you've been together? That's a rather significant amount I would consider bringing up to a doctor if it happened in a small time frame. Perhaps there are underlying issues like thyroid or low testosterone. My charitable response is that your husband is suffering tremendously from grad school and is letting everything go- himself and your marriage. There's a very good chance your husband is depressed. His comments about your weight are insecurities he's projecting …
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/24 02:06 AM
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I can tell you that my beautiful wife, Isabelle, would be the first to say that her life truly started when she began living her vocation as a wife and as a mother. Her life, not your life, began when she embraced her vocation. The message of his speech is to prioritize vocation over occupation.
/r/RedPillWives23/05/24 05:55 PM
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Benedictine college is recognized by the Cardinal Newman Society for its commitment to Catholic orthodoxy and refusal to compromise on secular ideology. 85% of its student body is Catholic and the college even offers a weekly TLM.
/r/RedPillWives23/05/24 01:15 PM
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Again, not once in his speech did he say all women must be homemakers.
/r/RedPillWives23/05/24 01:14 PM
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Also, if your schedule is too complicated to briefly summarize here, you're likely doing too much. There's no need to micromanage your lives. Consider outsourcing some of the day to day tasks you struggle with. For example, a monthly housekeeper or a part time nanny to handle the children during meetings.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/24 07:29 PM
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If you could describe the series of events that lead you to yell at your husband that would be helpful. And if you haven't already, apologize to him for raising your voice. With regards to the schedule you have two options: 1) rigidly cling to a schedule that clearly doesn't work for your family and become resentful when your husband fails to meet your expectations or 2) acknowledge the flaws of the schedule and find another solution. Did your husband have equal say in developing this schedule o…
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/24 07:22 PM
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OP you wrote 2 months ago that you filed for divorce. Are you seeking reconciliation with your husband (or ex husband idk)? In any case, here's my answer to your question. Frankly, this is a situation that requires you to surrender control. What is your "very realistic schedule" and how is it realistic if it isn't flexible enough to include your husband and his quirks? Forcing your husband into a schedule that you designed isn't respecting his role as a leader. So what if he did something at the…
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/24 04:22 PM
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He very briefly praised his wife, moved to the point of tears, for her dedication to her family. It was beautiful. His speech was about living the faith proudly and embracing vocations. In the Catholic Church vocations are: married life, religious life (monk/nun), priesthood, and consecrated virgin. We have to deeply discern God's calling and find fulfillment in it. For some women, that may include a fruitful career but they should never lose focus on their vocation. In world increasingly agains…
/r/RedPillWives21/05/24 12:26 PM
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As a traditional Catholic woman with a college degree (i.e. Harrison's target audience), I do not find fault with Harrison's speech. A career exists to serve vocation, a career is not a vocation itself. Much of the reaction to his speech is overblown and people are ascribing to him beliefs that he never expressed. He was applauded right after the portion aimed towards women and received a standing ovation at the end. He also told men about the importance of being a present father, yet somehow th…
/r/RedPillWives20/05/24 10:16 PM
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I don’t believe anything my boyfriend says is abusive or a real concern of his. I think he’s mostly just angry. That is a concern, however. Being upset someone won't respond in kind to angry remarks and not perpetuate an anger cycle is toxic and immature. Ten years down the line this type of behavior creates emotionally dysfunctional families. Have you completed vetting? Currently therapy is mainly for my own issues of some anger and resentment and not being sweet or bubbly like I used to be and…
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/24 03:39 PM
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You have a toxic relationship exacerbated by actions from both you, but with especially concerning behaviors from your boyfriend. STFU is meant to contain snarky comments/criticism/nagging within your head to avoid creating unnecessary tension with your man. STFU isn't meant to brush away legitimate concerns or abuse. It's not normal to be seeking couples therapy this early in the game. Typically, attempted reconciliation of this intensity is for couples that have been married for years and have…
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/24 02:35 PM
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Typically, when people show you who they are, you have to take it at face value. If 30M is calling you annoying and cursing at you, that shows you his character. He may never change and you should not marry a person expecting that they will. That only leads to disappointment and resentment.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/24 03:37 PM
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u/ChamomileMist u/ArdentBandicoot Given OP's history of mental illness and physical abuse from her husband, I strongly believe this is beyond the scope of RPW.
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/24 01:31 PM
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I'm terribly sorry you feel overwhelmed. You do a lot and sound like an awesome mother and wife! I always recommend to wives that feel burnt out to schedule self care. Let him know you're going out one morning to the spa/salon/brunch/where ever and leave the children with him. He's a parent too, he'll be fine taking care of them. You need your time to decompress and have a moment to yourself. IMO, the simplest way for him to see that you're struggling is to lean into your feminine vulnerability …
/r/RedPillWives07/05/24 02:40 PM
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Your mistake was thinking the relationship was real, the gifts were out of generosity. It was all transactional. OP is being disingenuous here, she posts in sugar baby forums. She was looking for a freestyle sugar baby relationship without the "formalities" of an arrangement then came here crying when it failed. Edit: she blocked me 😂😂 OP, having perused your history I don't think its best for you to be dating for marriage. You'd be best served by spending your time in nun mode with the goals of…
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/24 01:02 PM
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When I was freshly postpartum, like 2 or 3 days, I was pumping and my husband told me I was hot and called me a milf. Same thing- messy bun, baggy t shirt, joggers, a literal diaper, and a machine attached to my chest. My hormones at the time had a tough time understanding, but it makes sense that he would find his wife becoming a mother attractive.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/24 03:12 PM
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RatchedAngle never said that OP's man isn't high value, you are misinterpreting her comment. Her last couple of stars were given for her comments clarifying the role of men as leaders and captains. It's not uncommon for advice threads like this one to get a little meta about the broader issue being discussed. There have been plenty of threads where starred users and ECs alike tell OP of their husbands misdoings (granted those misdoings were far more serious than silly jokes). What she said is th…
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 05:12 PM
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I don't disagree with her comment. There's a trend of maintaining low standards from men while upholding high standards for women. The comment below literally says "all men are children" which I find to be incredibly disrespectful to the intellectual capabilities of men. It's the type of blue pill thinking you see over and over in shows where the husband is a bumbling fool and the wife is the mature one in the family. Sorry, I reject that trope. OP's husband is a strong, capable man that doesn't…
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 03:38 PM
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You're kinda making my point. Both of what I mentioned are modern, stylish options for a bag yet you put the handbag over the backpack. As long as it looks nice, men don't care.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/24 11:18 AM
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I think it's likely that these women came from an UMC background themselves, either born or made from a career they gave up to be SAHMs.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/24 10:52 AM
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Men obviously want put together women, but they couldn't care less about the details. No man cares if his wife chooses a Coach handbag over a Dagne Dover backpack. That's all women.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/24 10:45 AM
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No short skirts, shorts at the beach, clothes with lace on it from another thread. Anway, I was explaining why I thought he sounded vaguely Muslim. I'm not disagreeing with you.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/24 11:32 PM
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The hair in addition to no shorts, nothing that will attract any form of male attention, and essentially hiding the fact OP is a woman vaguely reminded me of the Islamic perspective on female modesty. It could be both, though.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/24 11:06 PM
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It would make sense, the hair thing made me think that he is culturally Muslim. Edit: the comment I'm responding to originally said OP's family is from Afghanistan.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/24 10:35 PM
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The way I overcome frustation is reframing my mindset to actively choose love and gratitude. Btw this is Laura Doyle terrority, read Surrendered Wife if you haven't already. Do small things with great love. I strongly believe that love isn't just a feeling but also a verb. To love is to choose the good of the other. Let's say I've been up a night with the baby and my husband asks me for cereal. In my head, I'm grumbling that he could probably make the cereal himself. But in actuality, I make him…
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/24 01:36 AM
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I'm married with a child, I don't need to play games. See my other comment regarding this community.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/24 10:21 PM
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You misunderstood. That's tradcon and while many of us here are with providers (which I interpret to mean living on a single income), not all of us are. There are women of all walks of life here including homemakers, working women, women that outearn their husbands, even women that are the sole provider for their families. The purpose of this community is to help women find, attract, and keep a healthy, long lasting relationship with a great man. It's what can you do as girlfriend/wife to bring …
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/24 10:17 PM
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It's the mindset. Dating you is "an expensive affair." You expect the man you're dating, not even married to, to provide 70%-80% of your needs and wants. RPW encourages vetting for a man that has good traits such as ambition and a proper work ethic. Having a minimum salary requirement to go on a date isn't a RPW strategy.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/24 10:07 PM
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She got downvoted because we're not sugar babies looking for men to bankroll our lifestyles.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/24 03:35 PM
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What's "poor" to you?? Because plenty of people raise children making less than six figures. I took a look at your post history. You have a membership to a luxury gym. I suspect his salary does not keep up your high expectations and you want him to fund your lifestyle. Have you considered cutting back on expenses and possibly moving out of the city?
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/24 03:31 PM
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OP's husband is a porn addict (amongst other problems apparently) and presumably doesn't go down on her. So she came to reddit hoping to get some ammunition to use against him.
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/23 06:23 PM
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You asked about this 19 days ago and got good advice. Did you reflect on any of it?
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/23 01:42 PM
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The comments on this thread are bizarre...bickering about the age gap and no actual advice. Anywho, OP divorce is not the magic bullet you think it is. From what I gather, the main problem is your husband lost his job and became depressed about it. You said it right here: "He used to say that it made him feel fulfilled to provide for the family, and he took on 70% of our expenses." Men became depressed when they lose their sense of purpose, doubly so when that purpose is providing for their fami…
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/23 12:34 PM
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You're totally right that he needs the space and opportunity to be a present husband, father, and provider as well. When our baby was first born, I admit at first I was heavily influenced by toxic mom groups and was side-eyeing my husband whenever he said he was tired. Then I stopped to think - how does me being tired with the baby stop him from also being tired? It doesn't! If it was perfectly reasonable for him to be tired after work before the baby was born, it's still reasonable with the bab…
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/23 05:22 PM
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i considered also the possibility of an arrangement where he could be allowed to have sex with other women to satisfy his needs Horrible idea. A man that is equally willing to wait until marriage would be disgusted by that suggestion and you would have revealed to him that you do not share the same values about sexual intimacy. A man that will agree to maintaining your virginity but sleep with other women until marriage likely isn't the type of man for a stable, healthy marriage. Sex is one way …
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/23 03:49 PM
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This is hilarious. Please make an update post!
/r/RedPillWives23/12/23 02:32 PM
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Oh wow, thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/23 08:06 PM
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Hey dear, sorry you're going through this. Motherhood can sometimes be a tough sacrifice but please do try to remember that it won't always be like this. They do grow up and the baby will eventually sleep. There is a light at the end of the tunnel. You have to find a way to fill your own cup. After the children go down for naps or bedtime, use this time to decompress. Take a bath, drink some tea, read a book, knit a scarf, cuddle your husband. If the children have naps that overlap, sleep!! The …
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/23 03:35 PM
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My current bf hasn’t given me any reason not to trust him. If that were true, you wouldn't have made this post. Edit: 8 months you ago you made a post (that you've now deleted) where you said you were single for 3 weeks. Doesn't that mean you've been dating for less than a year?
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/23 02:50 AM
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So this is a toxic relationship: arguing, name calling, secrecy, and I assume your own anxiety manifests itself in an unhealthy way as well. I mean, you guys are in couples therapy and you've been dating for what 8 months max? That's not normal... I noticed the men you date come from broken homes like you: this one from an abusive family, the previous one with a traumatic upbrining. Reading between the lines, it seems, just like you, neither they have not fully healed from their childhoods. Your…
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/23 02:28 AM
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Strong disagree. A man confiding to another woman about his woman is a relationship security risk and an easy way to end up "accidentally" being unfaithful. It's more appropriate to vent to a guy friend.
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/23 01:34 AM
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my bf sounds a lot like yours. thinking of leaving soon, but we also have therapy lined up. He's called me selfish, inconsiderate, condescending, cheap, narrow-minded.. I've lost respect for him. He only says these things in the heat of the moment and when he's really upset, and he grew up in a very abusive household. It sucks. OP, is this the same guy?
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/23 01:32 AM
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Do you have access to a lactation consultant? Triple feeding isn't meant to be permanent, you need to have an exit strategy.
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/23 09:59 PM
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At the same time however, it doesn't take more than a few seconds to text your wife asking how she and your sick toddler are doing. And that can happen at any time of day.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/23 10:35 PM
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Good advice, but check OP's previous two posts for (very necessary imo) additional context: here and here
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/23 10:17 PM
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No, this is infantilization of grown adults. People in their early twenties are not children, nor should they act or be treated like children. It's not a period of extended adolescence.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/23 06:43 PM
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This is a major red flag that I would not take lightly if I were you. Behavior like this can easily escalate into physical abuse years down the line. Also, is this the same guy??? Because of it is, I'm not really sure why you choose to remain in that relationship. You should find a way to return to your home country.
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/23 10:40 PM
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I quite literally came here to post that comment!
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/23 09:10 PM
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The problems I have with submission are more than likely due to childhood trauma and toxic males in my family. Have you sought therapy to heal from your trauma?
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/23 01:32 PM
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After he is done comforting you, does he look for some space to do his own things/chill out? This thread, which discusses men getting aroused from comforting their women, may interest you.
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/23 01:30 PM
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Yea I find this thread and much of the commentary to be a little perplexing tbh.
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/23 03:18 AM
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There are hard no's and soft no's, which is basically an invitation to seduction. In the above situation, OP's husband issued a soft no and allowed her sexual interaction. Where OP went wrong wasn't in asking her husband for sex, but in her overreaction to his performance. It's perfectly acceptable to ask for sex when he "isn't in the mood" and try to entice him with foreplay, but that needs to come with the understanding that sex still may or may not happen.
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/23 01:42 AM
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Really that's the worst? Feel free wonder into my bump group where women aren't even willing to have sex with their husbands months later. Y'all are being unnecessarily rude for OP wanting to have sex with her husband more often.
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/23 01:17 AM
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Polygamy is common in some parts of Africa, so if they're first or second generation immigrants, it may be a cultural thing. The men that tend to be more accepting of polygamy usually are Muslim or follow their tribal religion. Although, there are equally as many Christians that don't follow the tenets of their religion either.
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/23 10:53 PM
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You received a lot of good advice in your (now deleted) previous thread. What did you think about that? Have you worked on taking things off your plate to become less stressed? While he's away, focus on as much self care as you can. Ideas include: guilty pleasure TV shows, baths, reading, tea or hot chocolate, skincare, shopping, mani/pedi, hair salon. Definitely try arrange for some help from family or friends. If you can, try to also do big fun activities with the kids and send photos to him. …
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/23 12:47 AM
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The best way to heal your gut microbiome after a course of antibiotics is to eat probiotics (yogurt) and fermented foods (like kefir, kimchi, sauerkraut).
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/23 07:18 PM
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I ready to be a wife? No, you're still very emotionally immature. I still want to improve on myself. Please do. Search "nun mode" on this subreddit.
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/23 06:57 PM
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Absolutely not, this is moving on a crazy fast timeline that frankly is throwing red flags. You're a young single woman and a man from Europe is throwing money at you trying to get you to marry him and move to another continent. You've known him for seven months! Let things cool for a bit, you barely know him and you've even admitted you're not attracted to him. Edit: it's also horrid that you're sleeping with other men while toying the idea of being in a committed relationship with this man. Yo…
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/23 04:26 PM
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It certainly waxes and wanes. I don't think a healthy sex can adequately be defined only by the frequency, as there are plenty of other confounding factors like openness, communication, and of course how pleasurable it is for both parties. One woman may have daily sex that feels forced and dutiful, while another may have amazing sex once a week. It's best to not compare yourself to other couples. My husband and I have had multiple times a day sex, extended periods of abstinence, and everything i…
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/23 03:27 PM
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Children that come from families with loving, stable marriages have better outcomes. Children that come from broken families, including ones where the parents remain nominally married, do not share those benefits. Kids aren't stupid, they can tell when mom and dad aren't in love or even worse, hate each other.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/23 01:15 PM
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I'm here 👋
/r/RedPillWives18/11/23 02:53 AM
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It's very possible that she never desired to be in a relationship again. She mentioned mass, meaning she's Catholic and per Catholic teaching if she was validly married, she cannot get remarried after divorce. So actually as a Catholic myself, I think it's a major flex that she remained single for 25 years.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/23 01:36 AM
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You're going to have to stop being super woman then. Scale way back and stop putting yourself through the ringer trying to do everything. Do you really need to help him with the business? He's the provider, let him provide. It's probably going to be controversial, but imo the simplest way for him to see that you're struggling is to break down and cry. Show him that raw vulnerability - that you're not super mom, you can't do everything, you're totally overwhelmed, and you just miss him so much wh…
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/23 10:25 PM
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Honestly, schedule the spa getaway. You need a break as well. If he needs help with the children, arrange for a family member to come help while he works.
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/23 09:59 PM
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2) he's sadistic (yes this unironically popped up...which i find dumb) It's not dumb when you consider that sadism kinks exist (BDSM). There are men that genuinely are aroused by a woman crying/in distress.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/23 02:28 PM
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I asked my husband, and he confirmed it's more the contact that comes from comforting than the crying itself. Like holding me tight, snuggling, feeling boobs on his chest. Strange to think about first, but it makes sense.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/23 12:53 PM
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What kinks? Are you afraid to commit to him because you think you'll break up again? Also, what's the current breakdown of responsibilities, like who does what at home? Context is extremely helpful dear.
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/23 01:58 PM
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I'm still confused. He wants to husband things (provide) and wants you to do wife things (submit), but not get married? Why does he think you're not ready? You already live together and have been together for 4 years. Edit: is this the guy you broke up with nearly two years ago because "he was secretly dealing with another lady at his job?" You said you had a really rocky relationship, what's changed?
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/23 01:36 PM
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There are high yield savings accounts that earn 4-5% APY, so money isn't exactly "doing nothing." A money market account offers higher interest rates, however they have greater stipulations than regular savings accounts.
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/23 05:35 PM
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Divorce won't necessarily solve your problems and even having the thought in your mind is toxic to your marriage. Sometimes, you have to be the bigger person and pick up the slack if you want to materialize success. Regarding his hobby, can you travel with him when he goes? Otherwise, you can always take the baby somewhere else when he's gone. Like, stay at your parents for the weekend to alleviate the load of solo parenting. Put aside the house, having no savings is playing with fire, especiall…
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/23 05:21 PM
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I didn't mean to sound like I'm blaming or faulting your husband! Sorry if it came out like that. It's just such a small problem that if that's your biggest concern, you're doing a great job.
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/23 03:40 PM
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So the real issue isn't how long you take to get ready but that you get out bed loudly. I can't really advise on that front. Wake up quieter? Lol. If you wake up later, attempt to get ready in 30 minutes or less, and miss the mark (take 45 minutes for example), would that cause you to run late? How old are the children, could they do some of their morning routine alone?
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/23 02:05 PM
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Take a 4 minute shower. Wash and prep your hair at night. I've seen people do overnight, heatless curls on tiktok. Simplify your makeup routine down to brass tacks (5 or less products). Alternatively, you can get him a white noise machine to drown out the sound of you getting out of bed.
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/23 01:19 PM
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RPW is not sugar baby school. It's all too funny. Years ago commentors complained that RPW felt like plate school. Now, we're complaining that RPW is feeling like sugar baby school. I suppose it'll even out in the end.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/23 06:27 PM
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I guess I'll be the minority here and say I sort of did the "girlfriend effect" thing to my husband. He had no sense of style, so I helped him upgrade his wardrobe. Even now, I buy most of his clothes and I pack our bags when we go away. If I can change my clothes to accommodate his likes, he can do the same for me. I don't think it's a big deal. However, I don't totally override his autonomy and do take into account his personal tastes. Although tbf, when my sister and I were younger, we we mad…
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/23 03:09 PM
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I believe the inverse is true as well - girlfriends do not receive wife privileges.
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/23 07:06 PM
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Tell him you love him and appreciate him. Give him a big hug, then a kiss, then let him be. Give him space. Make dinner if you haven't already, then put something sexy on and have sex. You already know he's affectionate for sex, so make that work for you.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/23 01:50 AM
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Fantastic advice 👏👏
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/23 10:10 PM
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Issues regarding him just coming home and flopping on the couch or using his days off to do whatever he wants and not considering that I also don’t get much time off. This comes up very often, in fact we had a post here earlier this week. You can scroll back to find it. Men need their decompression time as well, but you can't force him to spend time with his son unless he wants to. It hurts, but it's true. He'll build a relationship with the toddler at his own discretion. However, you should sti…
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/23 10:09 PM
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I'm sorry love, this all sounds so stressful but it's good that you've come here to turn things around. Here's my advice: -Quit having these discussions with your husband. They're unproductive and further cement his negative beliefs about the marriage. If you're having one of these arguments, say you'll turn things around, and nothing changes you're not exactly inspiring confidence in him that the marriage will improve. -Piggybacking off the previous point, practice STFU. Seriously. We women hav…
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/23 09:54 PM
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That along with lots of lying and dismissive on his part. Like what? You're going to get better, more pointed advice if you tell the whole story at once instead of breadcrumbing.
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/23 09:13 PM
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No, not at all. You shouldn't be his mother nagging him to clean his room. Cleaning his place falls solely under his responsibility. I get it, you love him and want to show him that you can take care of him. Cooking nice meals or baking treats on occasion is fine. Once you start grocery shopping, meal planning, having a cleaning schedule, doing his laundry (in addition to everything do you for yourself at your place), etc. you've stepped too far into the daily domestic care role.
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/23 01:43 PM
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My husband was like this. I've made some strides in domestic training, but it's just how he is, totally unbothered by mess or disorder. I'm inclined to believe it's a male characteristic. During the pandemic, I had briefly lived him and it drove me nuts having to clean house after a long day of work. I kept telling him, "you really need a woman in your life." Eventually, he agreed. So when we got married the deal became I clean the house, you make the money. And that's how we keep the peace. On …
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/23 01:41 AM
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His wife is barely treading water and his response is essentially "sounds like a you problem, do better." You're telling me that because he works he can't watch his own children for 10 minutes so she can have coffee? The captain is responsible for the whole ship and letting the first mate falter is shirking on his responsibilities.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/23 03:08 PM
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If he hasn't gotten the picture 4 years into having children, he's not magically going to start now, so in a sense that commenter is correct. In fact, he's actively disengaging. OP can't force her husband to have a relationship with his children yet she's (understandably) driving herself crazy trying to do just that.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/23 12:40 PM
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Your husband probably isn't going to come around and empathize with your struggles, so I'd probably drop that fight. Nothing you can do will make him want to spend that extra time with the children or help you out because he doesn't envision an actual problem. So instead, don't rely on him and I suggest reducing your expectations and your own workload. The house might be messier, meals might be simpler, but it allows you to be a more present wife and mother. You could try to do a morning tea tim…
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/23 11:13 PM
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Honestly, just go by yourself. He doesn't enjoy grocery shopping, and him being there stresses you out. You called this your "happy day," so lean into that for yourself. Put headphones on and listen to your favorite podcasts or jam out in the car on the way to the store. Now, if he keeps putting pantry items in the fridge that's poor house training and you should address that with him.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/23 11:29 AM
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This sounds exhausting. How old are you guys? I want to say you're being overbearing, but at the same time it's a low expectation to put refrigerated goods inside of a cooler. Have you spoken to him about this at all?
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/23 12:51 AM
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Wait I remember you! The last thread everybody told you explicitly not to marry this man because in your own words he's an ex cheater, divorced twice (now three times??), lacks integrity as a religious figure. Ever so often you post in multiple subreddits seeking advice for this clearly suboptimal situation. What are you expecting from us exactly?
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/23 01:24 PM
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Don't book the table for him, you don't need to be his manager. Let him live by his words. If the restaurant is fully booked, that's simply the consequence. Edit: skimmed through your post history and saw you are struggling. You must have really been looking forward to this date. Sorry dear. When did you last have a serious heart to heart with your husband? Based on this comment, I think you need to make a new advice thread. There's more going on that a missed date and too many hours in the offi…
/r/RedPillWives20/09/23 01:24 PM
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Perhaps your relationship has ran its course and he's just not into you. If he wanted to make time to see you, engage with you when you're home, or even send an "I miss you" text message, he would. Have you spoken to him about the perceived unequal effort in the relationship?
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/23 03:40 PM
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Ok hold up, per your post history your BF is 40?? Is he depressed? I'm inclined to believe he was this way before you had the baby. He's not going to change unless you light a spark under him, and frankly he has no need to. You do everything for him, including providing him with a free place to live and presumably sex as well. Have a deep, serious conversation with him not only about his contributions to the household but also the future of the relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/23 12:38 AM
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Oof. You got pregnant early into the relationship. What was the initial agreement on division of roles? Have you had a serious conversation on what he's supposed to do if he's not working? He's essentially a freeloading boyfriend.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/23 07:01 PM
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What does he do with his free time if he's not working, doing housework, or childcare?
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/23 06:50 PM
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She said atheists have no moral reason to avoid porn, not that atheists have no morals.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/23 11:49 AM
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He’s an atheist so i assume he has no moral reason not to look at it [porn] Read the comment again, that's not what she said.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/23 11:48 AM
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Again, it's not granny panties, just basic cotton underwear. He stops sex, in the act, because of her panties instead of you know, taking them off and continuing. I don't think that's analogous to not going on dates. Wearing polyester/polyamide thongs daily is not conducive to vaginal health. Many commenters, myself included, already suggested OP get cotton underwear that's lacy.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/23 11:58 PM
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Pushing aside your materialism for a moment. The newer car and the apartment are both from his parents. Is he an incredibly frugal man that chooses to live a simple life or is he a financially unstable man reliant on his parents? The answers to these questions are far more important than your dislike of his apartment decor.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/23 01:03 PM
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It's bikini cut underwear, not her nana's knickers. If they bother him so much, he could just take them off.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/23 04:55 PM
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It's immature, but not majorly so. Just try not to resort to the silent treatment in the future. However, he doesn't get to play the victim when he explicitly choose to not discuss exclusivity. The baggage he's carrying from ex is his responsibility to handle. He has to decide if he's actually ready for a relationship. Lick your wounds and move on.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/23 04:05 PM
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He was on the app after choosing not to define the relationship, yet criticized you for also being on the app. You got upset at him missing your birthday and chose to ignore him instead of talking it through. These are games younger adults play in relationships. I think it's best to move on, reflect on what happened, and communicate better in your next relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/23 03:40 PM
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For those of us unfamiliar with Bumble, does that mean he saw your location changed on the app or are the two of location sharing your phones?
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/23 03:33 PM
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It's a strange that he gets so turned off by normal cotton underwear. For spontaneous sex, it usually doesn't even matter what I'm wearing because they come right off. I struggle to imagine that a man would stop sex because of cotton underwear. Thongs shouldn't even be worn daily for health reasons. Does he have a lingerie kink? Anyway, Aerie sells lace panties I think are a good cross of sexy and comfortable. Regarding your discomfort with the clothing changes, take time to reconnect with your …
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/23 01:52 AM
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You're fine! My issue with pick me isn't the term, but how it's used. Usually it's a term feminists throw at other women that disagree with them. For example, if I said I enjoy making my husband's lunch, I'd get called a pick me. Pearl is a whole nother level, though.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/23 03:53 PM
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I dislike the usage of the term pick me, but Pearl is a true pick-me girl. I once saw that she had liked a post from a RP guy that said the following: "If a woman isn't a virgin, a nun, or married with children then she's either a man, a child, or a whore." So then what would that make her, as an unmarried nonvirgin woman? Too dedicated to the grift to think things through, I guess.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/23 02:15 PM
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Pearl is a grifter, but I also believe that she's deeply uncomfortable in her own femininity. For someone so obsessed with the lack of femininity in Western women, her clothes fit her poorly and her makeup doesn't suit her. And then she picks fights with happily married women on twitter. Pearl doesn't follow her own advice and does the same things she criticizes other women for.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/23 09:09 PM
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Don't wear patterned scrubs unless you work with kids. Wear figs, get a pair of hoka sneakers, do light makeup, and keep your hair neat. Avoid wearing jewelry (besides stud earrings) and painting your nails, especially if you have patient contact.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/23 02:03 PM
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If you've been trying for a year with no success, you should make an appointment with a fertility doctor.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/23 03:49 PM
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The original discussion was about old money and new money that sort of devolved into an unorganized discussion about class strata within the elites.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/23 08:09 PM
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Bezos vs William is an example, not the thesis. The Crown isn't entirely ceremonial, although modern monarchs have elected to not exercise their prerogative powers. Bezos and the like can't stop an entire nation's productivity to celebrate their wedding or other personal festivities. If the highest ranking female royal married Bezos or Musk, she would still be marrying a commoner and therefore marrying down. There are different types of wealthy and elitism exists amongst the aristocratic class. …
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/23 01:33 PM
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Men value work life balance just the same as women do but men are more willing to put up with increased workload to provide for their families. It gives them a strong sense of purpose and fulfills that provider drive. When he's home, cherish that time with him and let him know how much you miss him when he's gone. Also, leaving home to watch the game with his coworkers seems a little bit like escapism to me. How often do the two of you go on dates or outings without the children? Re: not texting…
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/23 03:14 PM
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It may be silly to you but the distinction exists. It's not just about the money. Hang around the wealthy long enough and you'll pick up on the subtle cultural differences.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/23 04:12 PM
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You are aware that other billionaires beyond the nouveau rich exist right. And those billionaires are products of generational wealth and run in the same circles as the ruling elite and monarchs.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/23 03:57 PM
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I don't know why this is so funny to me. Yes, His Royal Highness Prince William of Wales, the future King of the United Kingdom is more powerful than Zuckerberg. Be for real dude 😂. You want to know what's power? Prince Mohammed bin Salman had Bezos' phone hacked and suffered zero consequences. Even the elites have social classes.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/23 03:46 PM
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The difference between old money and new money is culture. There's truth behind phrases like "money talks, wealth whispers." Compare Jeff Bezos to Prince William. Bezos has more money, but Prince William wields more power and influence. Pedigree matters. Status signifiers matter. Some form of higher aspiration is required whether that's a degree and well paying job, running a successful business, or being a well accomplished equestrian. The wealthy value more than a pretty face, especially for s…
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/23 03:33 PM
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Not sure about that either. Her father in law is the founder of five different airlines, including JetBlue. Her husband is wealthy in his own right.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/23 02:19 PM
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That "some man" would be your husband, whom you build a life and a future with... Nonetheless, no one is forcing you to give up your academic career to become a SAHM.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/23 01:49 PM
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Why would you assume that she's not?
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/23 01:36 PM
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The new tech trophy wife isn’t the hot young model. It’s the most brilliant, accomplished woman you can get to give up her career to have your kids. It's true for me. Every single homemaker in my circle is college educated. My MIL is the sweetest, most domestic woman I have ever known and even she has a degree. Ballerinafarm (instagram) went to Juliard and married a multimillionaire heir. Now she's milking cows and homebirthing 7 children.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/23 12:55 AM
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You're correct in that 50kg (110lbs) is considered underweight for a 5'5 woman. It's irresponsible imo to recommend a woman lose weight to the point of becoming underweight.
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/23 03:34 PM
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The key is delivery and humility. I try to avoid saying "I told you so" because I see it as rude and condescending. Instead, I usually just smile and give a small, encouraging "mhm" nod. I do my best to minimize the embarrassment or humiliation that the other person might feel. One of my big deal breakers is a guy who thinks or says that I’m smarter than him Here's a memory from early in our dating days. We were on video chat with each other and the conversation moved to talking about the immune…
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/23 02:57 PM
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There's even a whole segment of society that celebrates an upcoming wedding by going to a strip club.
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/23 05:01 PM
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Oh I see. I thought you stumbled upon magical inexpensive braids.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/23 10:05 PM
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I understand this is personal/political for you, but in 5 years, would you regret not being in the wedding over a wig? She's not asking for something more permanent/damaging like a silk press or a haircut. Have you spoken to her about it? Choosing to do wigs doesn't necessarily mean she thinks natural hair is "unpresentable." I'm a naturalista and choose to wear a weave for my wedding. In fact, it's a simplest way for her to achieve a cohesive look for bridesmaids that have different hair length…
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/23 06:11 PM
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None of this has any place in a happy, healthy marriage imo. He said his wife would be hurt knowing he flirts with other women (that also often reciprocate). Most women would. Other woman flirting with him is one thing, but it's more likely to fuel insecurity and distrust instead of building/maintaining attraction. Plus bringing down that barrier opens the door to physical cheating no matter how much self discipline one claims to possess.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/23 03:07 PM
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Why do you need to flirt if you're married? Is having oneitis for your wife something to be ashamed of?
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/23 11:21 AM
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Oh, for sure. I fully agree there.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/23 12:03 AM
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No, you're wrong there. RPW is indeed anti-feminist; see rule no. 5 No Feminism Posts & Comments Reported as: no: feminism, debating, justification of beliefs This is an anti-feminist community, and as such, we are not interested in being "saved" by feminism. Anybody stopping in to weight-in with the feminist perspective will be shown the door, as it is off topic. Here's a mod post about it from a few months ago. This community has been and will always be anti-feminist. We allow feminists to par…
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/23 08:41 PM
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To be clear, I never said that homemaking is the only valid way to be a RPW. My point was taking issue with the recursive idea that housewives are glorified bangmaids that contribute nothing of value to their husbands.
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/23 11:10 AM
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Well no disagreement there. I never said that housewifery is the only path for RPW.
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/23 10:54 AM
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Yea that wasn't the point of my comment. I don't care if you choose to be a career woman or SAHM, there are RPW happily living either lifestyle. It's just bewildering to see homemaking, an extremely common manifestation of feminine traits, characterized as a nonsensical, transactional arrangement on a subreddit partial to traditional gender roles. A housewife is not just a maid that a man is married to by happenstance nor are husbands being taken advantage of by their housewives. In a healthy, f…
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/23 01:09 AM
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Interesting seeing a comment disparaging homemaking as a negative female trait on RPW. Homemakers don't get "paid" by their husbands to stay home; it's a mutually beneficial relationship. He gets to fulfill his masculine role to protect and provide, she fulfills her feminine role by nurturing. So long as they both abide by their roles, everyone is happy.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/23 10:44 PM
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Pilates! Lot's of youtube videos and at home fitness courses you can do. Only a minimal amount of equipment required.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/23 12:33 PM
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From this post and her post history, we gather that it's a 2 month old long distance relationship where he's already proposed to her (she said no), he talks to girls on the side, and tries to control her whereabouts. OP is in the vetting stage of her relationship where she should be assessing the quality and compatibility factors contributing to a stable, long term relationship. It's perfectly appropriate in this situation to advise her to leave.
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/23 03:21 PM
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There are many different methods of FAM/NFP. The simplest way to start would be reading Taking Charge of Your Fertility and follow those rules. You can buy a basal body thermometer for ~$10-15 and ovulation kits for $10/pack on Amazon. However, I would not recommend just buying supplies and starting on your own. There's a learning curve in learning how to chart and interpret correctly, so I'd suggest picking a method and finding an instructor. Check out r/FAM/NFP
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/23 12:42 PM
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She's a mother of two now but her content is still that sweet, lighthearted femininity. She mostly does vlogs and beauty related videos.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/23 12:14 AM
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I literally said in multiple ways that Christianity has very high standards for sexual ethics and does not encourage fornication, which yes includes women as well. It's a major sin. We discourage it. I don't understand what you're being combative about. Also, not all conservative women are Christian. We can chat about the infiltration of secular hedonism into formerly conservative spaces if you want, but that discussion might get a little controversial.
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/23 07:45 PM
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Did you even read the sidebar? If you think conservative Christians support or encourage pre-marital sex in any form, stop reading whatever blog you're reading and touch grass.
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/23 07:26 PM
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Comments like this are exactly why rule 9 exists lol. If you don't understand the female strategy, don't comment here. P.S. Lila Rose is an accomplished, well spoken woman who founded her advocacy organization at 15. She's also a traditional Catholic and we believe very strongly in sexual morality and discernment for marriage, even if that means get married at the ""old"" age of 30.
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/23 07:07 PM
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Neither would I categorize Matt Fradd (Pints with Aquinas) and Lila Rosa. They're all traditional Catholics and while there is crossover in certain beliefs, that doesn't make them RP. Knowles and Lila Rose were both on the whatever podcast and I don't think you can say their arguments were entirely red pill. For example, Catholic sexual ethics has the same standards for both men and women and RP ideology doesn't view the world that way.
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/23 06:54 PM
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He got clowned by Lila Rosa though.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/23 12:21 AM
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This is..odd for sure. And a huge violation of privacy to disclose your private medical condition to his parents. I don't know of anybody that openly talks about their sex life with their parents. Why does he need to keep them updated?? Your relationship is roughly three months old so you should be continuously vetting. It's not an unreasonable deal breaker, especially if you're considering marriage and a family with him. Is he going to disclose all the intimate details of your wedding night? Wh…
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/23 11:57 PM
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This is what I thought as well. OP hates her body, especially her sexual features. Per post history, she also struggles with intimacy. This isn't something RPW can fix by itself.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/23 11:09 PM
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Pre-pregnancy I had good results eating a clean diet, doing pilates videos, and 12-3-30 on the treadmill. None of the fitness/wellness influencers I follow lift heavy and tbh none of them look like they do. One instructor's specialty was reducing waist and hip measurements in models by focusing largely on the transversus abdominis muscle. Body weight exercises and resistance training works if you remain consistent.
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/23 06:42 PM
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Girl just move on, you don't need this baggage in your life. You'll find another man, it's not the end of the world.
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/23 12:29 PM
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The hypocrisy of an imam actively engaging in a terrible sin (zina) should concern you. It reflects on his character, in addition to being deceptive about his work, the cheating, and rushing you to get married/get pregnant. Girl just move on, you don't need this baggage in your life. You'll find another man, it's not the end of the world.
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/23 12:22 PM
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There are plenty of non-white tradwives with tens of thousands of followers, what are you talking about.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/23 12:27 PM
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Tradwives of color go against "the narrative," so they'd never discuss them. And if they do, they spin it as internalized racism.
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/23 06:35 PM
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I was being facetious, sorry the tone didn't come through.
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/23 10:04 PM
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It's not allowed, I was being facetious.
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/23 10:03 PM
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Simply, the purpose of this sub is not for dating. DM a lady if you really feel inclined, but don't post a thinly veiled dating advertisement under the guise of trying to understand the ethos of the sub.
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/23 07:41 PM
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He's a "devout Muslim" that dates and engages in premarital sex (and prays when he cums even though he's sinning??). He says one thing and does the other. That's the man that you currently have. What kind of change are you waiting for? Starting to think this is a troll.
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/23 02:17 PM
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You can decline a proposal.
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/23 02:07 PM
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Cons: Ex cheater, divorced twice, lack of integrity as a religious figure You've been posting about this relationship for three months now. Why do you want to marry this man again?
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/23 02:02 PM
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Men like to be problem solvers. You bring them a problem, they bring you a solution. Simple communication usually fixes this issue.
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/23 06:20 PM
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My grandmother, because she can't figure out how to text. That's literally it. Such a silly standard to hold for men.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/23 11:26 PM
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Here's what I think strictly from a tradcath perspective. The Church permits marriage to atheists and people of other religions, but it's often discouraged due to uncompromising theological beliefs. However, it's possible to make it work with enough communication and understanding. Plenty of practicing Catholics marry atheists and go on to have happy, fruitful marriages. It's a good sign that you're taking a mature, compromising stance, but he is correct in that facilitating sin is hurting you. …
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/23 02:35 PM
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Wear light, loose clothing made of natural fibers (cotton, linen). Tight clothing and polyester trap heat even if you think they're lightweight. And stay hydrated of course.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/23 07:48 PM
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You can dress modestly in summer too. I don't even own a pair of shorts and I live Florida.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/23 02:22 PM
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Lemme guess OP, you started your journey to Christianity AFTER you become a teen mother. Repentance is a very big thing in Christianity, in fact it's very encouraged.
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/23 05:42 PM
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May I ask how you started to focus on modesty? What were the first steps or how you realized you needed to make that commitment? I guess I could say the catalyst was the pandemic. Right before lockdown in 2020 I was confirmed, then all the churches closed and I lost access to the sacraments. It was rough on my faith, especially having to celebrate Easter from my couch. So I shifted my focus to the interior soul and developing a faith that wasn't so easily shaken by worldly events. I don't know h…
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/23 08:54 PM
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Yes, she has great genetics. She's also very overweight, far more than most people here would advise.
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/23 02:32 PM
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The main issue is phrasing, it's not worded to say maintain a healthy weight and take care of your body. She's pointing out one body feature that her boyfriend likes and made an advice post. You can bring up the waist to hip ratio research, but not every woman has the perfect hourglass shape. For me personally, I've always had a lower belly pooch even at a BMI of 18. It's like if I made a post saying my husband thinks thigh gaps are hot, so you should work on getting one.
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/23 02:27 PM
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But it's still a bit myopic isn't it? Some of us here are pregnant, recently gave birth, or had lots of babies and no longer have that snatched waist. A better title is "men prefer a healthy, fit wife/girlfriend." Even still, it's a generalization that doesn't account for every man. Some men love the Megan Thee Stallion body type.
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/23 02:13 PM
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I feel like I could have written this a few years ago. Materialism and vanity are areas I struggle with, I was basically "that girl" before it become a trend. In the last two years I made a serious commitment to modesty, both interior and exterior. I could do everything "right" on the outside, but if I'm still coveting materialism and my beauty then I haven't changed. I keep my makeup light and fully cover my body. I swapped pretty lace mantillas for neutral colored scarves. Of course, I still l…
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/23 02:06 AM
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For starters, don't let him drive your car unless you are supervising. I suggest he return to driving school, many offer adult remedial lessons to help build driving skills for those that haven't driven in a while.
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/23 01:11 PM
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I went the healthcare route (med lab tech) since there's a lot of flexibility in work hours and I can have it as a backup plan in case something happened. If you choose a career path that requires a degree, make sure you have a solid plan to pay it off before you start having children.
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/23 03:05 PM
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This group isn't religious, so not exactly an appropriate place to ask. But I will answer from my religious (traditional Catholic) perspective. Form fitting (skin tight) clothing isn't modest in my opinion. If it's tailored to fit your body but doesn't hug your body, it could be fine. I think skirts/dresses should go beyond the knee to be considered modest. Hard to judge without seeing an image. That being said, a lot of online religious groups lean (religiously) conservative. The members of tha…
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/23 06:06 PM
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What denomination? Not all churches are full of old people, mine has a lot of young people and families. Just have to keep searching for a suitable church.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/23 06:25 PM
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If it's a non-monogamous relationship on his part, are you really a long term girlfriend? I don't mean to be rude, it seems more like an extended friend with benefits situation. He's getting the relationship he wants out of you without having to commit to you or the other girl. You clearly had the expectation of being exclusive, otherwise you wouldn't be so shocked. Yet he seems to think it's no big deal. What bothers you the most about discovering the other woman? If you stay with this arrangem…
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/23 04:21 PM
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Is this the 61 year old? At his age with his level of wealth, he probably won't marry you. If you've been together for 10 years and are living separately, at best you're a long term girlfriend. Realistically, you're likely a plate. He probably doesn't view your relationship as seriously as you do. And if you decide stay, you'll have to accept that.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/23 05:00 AM
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Lol we're allowed to say other people aren't godly in Christianity.
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/23 04:54 PM
1

The show has both men and women with overseas partners and sometimes the American woman is the loser. There are some successes (which I define as a stable relationship), but obviously the most popular story lines are always trainwrecks.
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/23 04:49 PM
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Does he go to the dentist at all?
/r/RedPillWives10/02/23 07:28 PM
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We know you're not Muslim, you talk like a Westerner. Give up the act already.
/r/RedPillWives10/02/23 12:39 PM
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First "making peace" with your pedophile BIL, now defending honor killings. Booo, learn to troll better 🍅🍅
/r/RedPillWives10/02/23 04:37 AM
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It's not in most states actually. Only 7 states totally ban marriage for minors and some have no minimum age of marriage.
/r/RedPillWives10/02/23 04:21 AM
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It's a case by case basis. My husband and I met at that those same exact ages. He admitted to me that he originally was worried that I'd be too immature for a successful relationship. I never felt anything was off about him, and neither did my family or friends. What do the people in your life think is creepy about your relationship? Were you underage when you first met? Does he only date young girls, play games, or make unreasonable demands? If their only objection is the age difference, I woul…
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/23 07:16 PM
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My husband and I are different races (he's white, I'm black). For us, the uniting factor of having the same religious values is greater than our any of our differences. Our families get along very well. The "cultural politics" of my relationship are never something I think about (pre-baby at least) and it rarely came up in conversation. That's not to say differences don't exist. Some are minor, like, our wedding was lit and his family was not prepared for it. However, as we prepare to become par…
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/23 01:36 PM
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You will not find that here. Your husband can choose to have a relationship with his brother. But as their mother, you need to protect your children because they cannot protect themselves.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/23 01:50 AM
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If a hijabi sub can't help, why post on rpw? We aren't imams either. I'm sure you would find more religiously guided advice on the islamic subs. I can't quote hadith or the quran but I do know that your husband has a duty to protect his children. Your bil is mahram to your children, so he could potentially have access to them in the future and harm them. Niqab and abaya is not enough to protect them from a predator, they need to have no contact with him.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/23 01:37 AM
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I'm certain if you were to post this in the islamic or hijabi subs, very few people would tell you that you must allow your BIL access to your children.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/23 01:15 AM
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Read her post history...
/r/RedPillWives01/02/23 03:51 PM
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Do you have the capability to fully accept your husband as he is right now, a liar and cheater, until death do you part? The man has revealed his character to you. You cannot change him and his actions, only your response to them.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/23 05:44 PM
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Husbands in healthy marriages don't plan on making their wives homeless. Wives in healthy marriages don't think their husband is a demon. You're obviously not happy with him.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/23 05:31 PM
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I just looked over your profile. You consider him to be a narcissistic sociopath that made false reports about you and tried to make you homeless. What benefit do you get by staying in this toxic marriage? Can you see yourself remaining sane in this marriage for decades? Even if you stay with him now, divorce could still be in your future. He could fall in love with another woman, get another woman pregnant, bring home STIs, etc. etc. You cannot change him and it's your choice to continue trying…
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/23 05:23 PM
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Just to reiterate: you do not have to compromise your modesty, especially for a boyfriend. Why would you throw away clothes he doesn't like, he's not your husband. Shorts over a swimsuit isn't even extreme and I'm honestly curious what his reasoning is here (side note: check out swim dresses and swim skirts). Maybe he's projecting his upbringing onto you, considering how strongly he feels about Islamic modesty. I'd talk to him more to figure out where this opposition is coming from. Is he around…
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/23 02:23 AM
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You don't need to compromise your modesty, especially for a boyfriend. There are tons of ways to be stylish yet modest at the same time without being frumpy, bag lady. Search the modest fashion tag on Instagram or try r/modestdress for outfit ideas. If you find a blogger or influencer you like, model your outfits after them. I dress modestly (I fully cover my legs and arms) in public, but at home my husband gets a show. I would be uncomfortable wearing a crop top in public, so don't feel bad if …
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/23 10:29 PM
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You've asked this question twice. Dear, I think deep down you know the answer. You haven't met his family after a year of courting and he's delaying nikkah. To me, this points towards disinterest more than forgetting your birthday. Either that or he's waiting to see if better "options" come around and is weighing you versus other women. You'll have to ask yourself if this is the type of marriage you want. He's a potential, you're not engaged or betrothed so this is the time to vet before committ…
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/23 02:31 PM
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The sexual revolution is what ruined dating culture; everything from sex positivity to birth control lead to rampant hookup culture. The old fashioned dating/courting people like to look back upon happened in a more religious society. Women would brunt the shame of premartial sex or pregnancies, so they would guard themselves more. Birth control has removed this risk for them and our society isn't religious anymore. If women began saving themselves for marriage, we could see a shift in how datin…
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/23 02:29 PM
1

Freezing eggs does not guarantee children in the future. The success rates are poor, and it should not be viewed as an insurance policy. There's a 2-12% chance that a frozen egg will result in live birth. The poster child for egg freezing, Bridgette Adams, ended up using donor eggs since her eggs were not viable.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/23 04:16 PM
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I personally wouldn't use Daysy as your primary method since bbt alone isn't a good measure. A mucus based method (i.e. Creighton) pairs well with temping. Taking charge of your fertility has a good protocol as well. If you're into femtech, try Marquette.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/23 03:07 PM
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He needs a new job, ASAP. He's turning to drugs in order to cope with the stress, that's not a good sign. There was a very similar thread to yours a couple of weeks ago. You can help him decompress with his favorite meals, a massage, and words of affirmation (let him know how much you appreciate his hard work). Gently start bring up a job hunt and offer to help. Be in his corner and give him support. However, he is ultimately responsible for himself and his work/life balance. He's not respecting…
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/23 12:17 AM
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In my personal experience, this was exactly when I knew my husband was getting ready to propose to me. I knew that he didn't want to get married until he was ready to be a provider and a father, so when he started going along with my baby fever I began researching wedding dresses.
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/23 08:43 PM
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Listen, I get called a white supremacist despite being black. Don't put too much thought into it, ok.
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/23 01:16 PM
4

I am so sick of hearing about Andrew Tate.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/23 06:15 PM
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You're not truly contrite unless you own up to your mistakes and accept the consequences that come. Bring it up with the therapist and stop seeing your friend's husband. Running from your problems is not a solution.
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/22 01:01 AM
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Congrats!! There's a ton of spreadsheets and checklists for every type of wedding at A Practical Wedding. Also /r/Weddingsunder10k is great for cost saving tips and ideas. And don't be afraid to ask for help, even simple weddings can become overwhelming.
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/22 01:51 PM
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Perhaps that's true of your social circle, but it's false in mine. Not all men watch porn, support prostitution, or are otherwise active in the sex trade of women.
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/22 03:21 AM
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Have you tried posting on r/MuslimMarriage? Most of the people on RPW are secular atheists or Christian, so you may get more useful advice there for both yourself and your husband.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/22 12:24 AM
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In a now deleted post it seems she's worn lingerie and it wasn't successful. The commentators said his behavior was weird, but I don't know the full context. Also, they're Saudi Muslims. Porn is haram.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/22 12:04 AM
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She lives in Saudi Arabia.
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/22 02:06 PM
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You've been asking for advice for several months and it seems nothing is improving. A dead bedroom after only 9 months of marriage is awful. At this point, I think you should have someone you trust speak with your husband, considering he's drinking and possibly sneaking around with other women. Perhaps have your imam talk to him. Also, please don't delete this post like you've deleted your previous ones.
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/22 02:06 PM
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Assuming you're asking in good faith, biblical view of marriage is a self-sacrificial gift to a spouse who gives their whole self constantly to Christ. Marriage demands that we love (meaning to will the good of) our spouse in the way that Christ wills the good of His Church. It's also written to be fruitful and multiply, so being aggressively childfree would not be in accordance with the faith. There isn't any specific number of children a couple should have, so the matter of family size is deep…
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/22 05:57 PM
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Girl, I know you did not come here thinking rpw was going to give you advice on how to have a relationship with your friend's husband. You don't love him, you're lusting after him because he was hers. This entire situation will end horribly. You need to stop seeing this man and definitely stop claiming to be a friend of his poor wife. Own your shit and whatever the consequences may be. Also, by sleeping with your friend's husband, you've severely tanked your RMV. Very few traditional man would w…
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/22 12:20 AM
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If a man only interprets the world via sex and cannot control his base impulses, he has no business being in a committed relationship. It's not appealing for your husband or long term partner to have relationships with other women. If that's what he wants to do, he should remain single. Have higher standards.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/22 06:02 PM
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I got my iud removed about three years ago after having one in since I was a teenager. I've been using FAM/NFP ever since. My body's reaction was immediate. For the first time, I really felt the entirety of my menstrual cycle. Now, I understand my hormones better and am really in tune with my body. People don't really talk about the negative side effects of hormonal birth control like vitamin depletion, changes to mood, increased risk of cancer, and increased clotting risk. I've found ob/gyns re…
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/22 06:52 PM
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My husband won't tell me the exact price he paid for my ring, but I know it was more than his original budget. He spent months researching stones and cuts, even viewing their flaws under a microscope before finally picking the one he proposed with. I once asked him why he invested so much on a ring and he told me he only wants the best for me. I suspect your boyfriend hasn't started his research and doesn't know the true cost of an engagement ring. Let him know the styles you like and your ring …
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/22 01:12 PM
1

In the first comment of yours that I originally responded, you sympathize with the handmaid's tale activists and give your opinion on reproductive rights. That's what you wrote. It's a bit hysterical of course but I understand their frustration. I personally don't like the idea of the government telling a willing and able doctor that he's not allowed to perform any procedure on me should I want to pay for it.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 04:04 AM
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I often hear supporters of the book warn this is the path America will take if right wing Christians take charge. Yet, in the past few centuries of Christian hegemony in the Western world, no country had state sponsored and enforced concubinage. Not the papal states, which were under the sovereign rule of the pope for hundreds of years. And definitely not in America, where the majority of this hysteria is centered upon.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 03:44 AM
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What you said is the government prohibiting a certain procedure is communist oppression, right? That you sympathize with those using handmaid's tale hysteria for political activism and you understand their frustration. Clearly you do have an opinion about RvW, regardless of its affect on you.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 03:26 AM
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Based on your comments in this thread, especially those concerning the overturning of Roe v Wade. The book/show is feminist outrage porn, and screaming "Gilead" at every thing is little more than fearmongering.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 03:02 AM
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So to be clear, you think denial of one procedure will lead to total oppression and disenfranchisement of women in a society that mandates polygamy and surrogacy? And that America is headed there?
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/22 11:22 PM
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Traditional couples have traditional weddings? Like church ceremony then reception. Visit r/weddingsunder10k if you have a small budget or want ideas on how to lower cost.
/r/RedPillWives30/05/22 11:19 AM
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Congrats! You should have no problem finding nighties at macy's, but I've found aerie has rather plain sleepwear. And I think VS is too overpriced for the quality but you'll certainly find things I'm sure your husband will enjoy. Sometimes target has cute stuff too.
/r/RedPillWives18/05/22 05:36 PM
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Tradfemsnark is the most obvious one. But there are no talking points, just irrational hate. In one post someone felt "sorry" for tradwives because they just sit at home and can't go to concerts or take trips to mountains lol.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/22 01:29 PM
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I have so many favs (most of them are Catholic btw): lilyinthevalley, tradfemmebecomesher, hishappymrs another-trad-girl-blr, stay-at-home-soul, patriarchalfemininity, meafides, tradrevert, feminine-renaissance
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/22 11:19 PM
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Reddit is so hostile to tradwives that there are subs dedicated to hating us. Instagram and ironically Tumblr are the only places I've found with welcoming communities, but still I've seen many come and go because of vitriol from feminists.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/22 03:14 PM
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I think you responded to the wrong person
/r/RedPillWives20/03/22 03:07 AM
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You can be proud of your city hall wedding without putting down those that had traditional weddings.
/r/RedPillWives18/03/22 03:57 PM
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Piggybacking off this comment to also remind people that it's always a good idea to keep emergency food and water storage, just in case.
/r/RedPillWives28/02/22 04:01 AM
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She said in the edit he's not being rude, she's a little sensitive and takes things the wrong way. And I said in my previous comment, I said, "If she does feel insulted by something he said, saying "ouch" or "that hurt" is sufficient to convey the message."
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/22 05:14 PM
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Bickering and arguing with your partner is not productive discussion. The advice given isn't saying she should never have a conversation with her partner, rather that she shouldn't respond because it perpetuates the bickering. OP even said these are pointless things they're arguing about. It's not healthy to constantly bicker and argue, especially in a new relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/22 04:51 PM
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Nobody should be looking to "win" in situations like this; not every fight needs to be won, not every battle needs to be fought. Prudence is necessary for maintaining peace in the relationship. If she does feel insulted by something he said, saying "ouch" or "that hurt" is sufficient to convey the message.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/22 03:32 PM
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Use this as an opportunity to grow in maturity and learn to STFU. Seriously, learn to hold your tongue. You can't control his actions but you can change yourself, so remove yourself from this equation. Eventually he'll stop on his own.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/22 05:21 AM
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Skelecature?? I want soft arms. There's a wide chasm between emaciated and defined arms, no need to be rude about it.
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/22 01:40 PM
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It's subjective. For myself, I do not like visible musculature on my arms so I don't train arms. But you think differently.
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/22 02:37 PM
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We did not do a prenup because of our views about marriage. Marriage to us is a covenant before God that once created cannot be broken. The priest that prepared us said prenups would invalidate the marriage oath because they essentially are preparing for divorce.
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/22 02:28 PM
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When people say "bulky" we should be giving examples since the word means different things to different people. You mean bulky as in a bodybuilder. What I consider bulky, you might consider to be just fit or athletic.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/22 11:19 PM
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I have embarked on a 2022 hair growth challenge. My hair is type 4 (afro textured), about bra strap length, and I'm trying to get it to waist length. I've done my research, diyed the diys, made a routine and everything. Kinda really excited about it and I hope it grows!!
/r/RedPillWives23/01/22 03:47 AM
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I adore her content and she's inspired me in terms of homemaking, frugality, and femininity. She's talked about living simply and purposefully and it really resonates with me. Plus her babies are super cute. I know she's controversial but I don't care for the drama.
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/22 09:16 PM
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I met my fiance on okcupid, but it took a very long time and weeding through a lot of men to find him. I had also tried match and eharmony. There were men wanting a serious relationship, but the demographic wasn't for me and you had to pay for it. If you have the perseverance for online dating, go for it.
/r/RedPillWives06/01/22 05:28 PM
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Wow, the utter lack of empathy from those women!
/r/RedPillWives13/12/21 03:27 PM
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Thank you for putting into words why I don't find guilt by association to be particularly compelling. Also, spot on with the rumors/snark association. They will fabricate lies about her (and others as well) then spread it as truth.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/21 02:53 PM
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I did watch the videos, but frankly I don't find guilt by association to be very compelling. Maybe I'm being a little defensive because I used to run a trad blog and people came after me the same way people go after her.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/21 02:14 PM
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Caitlin is right wing, but that doesn't mean she's a Nazi.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/21 01:15 PM
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She's my fav. Her vlogs are so peaceful.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/21 03:38 AM
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That's why I was so happy to see one on sale!
/r/RedPillWives01/12/21 05:14 PM
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Not yet a wife, but I have reached the age where I got a Dyson vacuum on sale and was ecstatic about it.
/r/RedPillWives30/11/21 06:15 PM
4

Like in one month? Six months? A year?
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/21 01:33 PM
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In total, all of packages that arrived at your house, how much was it and what was the time frame? The groceries wasn't what ended it, just pushed him over the edge. The money you spent on the boots and perfume could have been saved or invested.
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/21 01:31 PM
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How much money did you actually spend? In the previous post you said you shop out of boredom and you seem to be dismissive of his concerns. I've also noticed your refusal to take any responsibility for these problems, even in this post blaming your husband entirely for the failed marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/21 01:26 PM
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Ok, this is red pill women, not r/relationshipadvice, and if your only contribution is telling her to destroy her relationship you frankly have no business giving advice here. OP's husband is going through a lot right now: his wife was treated for cancer and he probably feels like an inadequate spouse and provider given his high anxiety about having a child. And to dismiss that as "he probably doesn't care" so they should get divorced is so bewildering to me. This is terrible advice.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/21 05:24 PM
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Asking how many children she has is immature and irrelevant, but also ironic since you're talking about miscarriages and assumed she's never had one.
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/21 09:00 PM
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Check her history, she's in high school right now. They're both really young, which explains the immaturity
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/21 08:53 PM
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Definitely a common belief in today's society. Look for a Christian man who has the similar values to you instead of an atheist, these types of differences tend to become greater as the relationship progresses, especially if you consider yourself devout.
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/21 04:27 PM
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Mrs Midwest is my fav. She does vlogs more often now, but her older content is good
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/21 04:33 PM
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I answered your question. Both husband and wife should have oneitis for each other, because that's what you do in a marriage.
/r/RedPillWives02/08/21 05:27 PM
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Consider this: a man vows to stay with one woman for the rest of his life and likewise the woman vows to stay with him for the rest of her life. Neither party should have eyes for anyone besides the person they are marrying. If a man wants to flirt with other women, he can do that while single.
/r/RedPillWives02/08/21 05:25 PM
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In no way is "not cheating" a sacrifice someone makes in a relationship. Anyone with this kind of mindset should not be in a serious relationship. I am so sick and tired of the RP notion that men are sex crazed beasts that struggle to control their most base urges.
/r/RedPillWives02/08/21 02:16 PM
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The sound of music is my fav. And call the midwife is good too.
/r/RedPillWives01/08/21 10:43 AM
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Youtube is a great resource for learning how to do natural hair and keep it moisturized, if that's something you're struggling with. You could leave it in protective styles i.e. braids or twists until you figure your wardrobe out.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/21 02:28 AM
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I mean RP does call itself secular and imo there are a lot of non-Christian ideals, but I wouldn't say incompatible.
/r/RedPillWives19/07/21 09:46 PM
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Freeze your credit with the three bureaus and watch your reports like a hawk. The personal finance sub has a lot of suggestions for what to do when your information is compromised.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/21 10:35 AM
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It's been a while, but I remember saying that I'm family oriented and was seeking a traditional relationship. I had listed my hobbies (reading, crochet, baking, etc.) and said that I was looking to improve my homemaking skills, which turned out to be a big hit with men. I briefly mentioned my school and job plans, because men like to see that you're competent enough to take care of yourself. Also, pick pictures that make you look feminine and welcoming, like wearing skirts/dresses, light makeup,…
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/21 05:02 PM
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I found my SO using online dating. Use the right app (i.e. not tinder) and be selective enough to filter out bad matches but open enough that you'll still include man that may not be your "type." I worded my profile to say that I was looking for a serious, traditional relationship and although it took some time, I found my match.
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/21 02:19 PM
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I recommend stopping by r/modestdress
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/21 08:01 PM
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I'm banned there too! They think we're a hate sub
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/21 02:36 PM
3

I love this, thanks for sharing! Where did you get the prayer book?
/r/RedPillWives17/06/21 05:47 PM
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We're just going to have to disagree there. I know how reddit gets when talking about dating teenage girls.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/21 05:20 PM
2

The fact that a grown man was interested in dating a minor raises no red flags for you?
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/21 01:31 PM
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You're shifting goal posts a bit. You regret not getting married at 24, which most people here find to be a reasonable age, yet OP was dating a man 9 years a senior at 17. Think about yourself or your daughter in the 11th grade dating a grown man in his twenties. Those two situations aren't comparable.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/21 10:54 AM
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Depends on the church unfortunately
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/21 10:50 AM
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That's not really rpw advice. No one said she needs to be married right now, just that she shouldn't push it off because she's young right now. And that her youth shouldn't be used party and dating, or, to use rp terminology, riding the CC.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/21 01:05 PM
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Your youth will not last, this is a fact. You do not want to waste your twenties partying only to face a harsh dating market in your thirties. It would do you well to stick around this sub and read the advice threads given to young women your age.
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/21 05:00 PM
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I understand your frustration that I'm focusing on you instead of him, but as the phrase goes, you can only change yourself not others. So, if you want to change your situation it almost always begins with a little introspection. RPW used to have submission questions that included: what is the problem? (Don’t badmouth your SO!), how have you contributed to the problem, and what have you done to resolve this problem. I think the two of you are incompatible and that you need to find direction in y…
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/21 04:57 PM
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I do wanna go on that vacation with the CEO who DMd me Please don't do that. The message you're missing is that you use your prime years to find a good man and eventually settle down with him, not to party and date around.
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/21 04:45 PM
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Your age shouldn't be used to excuse poor behavior (re: insulting your SO). That being said, I strongly recommend working through your daddy issues and insecurities. The wrong man can come along and exploit those under the guise of "traditional masculinity." What do you offer besides your aspiring modeling career? What are your hobbies, can you cook well, can you hold a conversation with a man a few years your senior, would you actually let him lead the relationship? Youth is fleeting so don't b…
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/21 04:38 PM
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I don't think you're mature enough to be in a serious relationship right now. You can explain further, but I'll need you to answer my last two questions first.
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/21 03:44 PM
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I can tell by this post that you're very young, late teens early twenties? I know you want to break up with him, but it isn't classy to make cheap shot insults at every given opportunity. Stop doing that, it demoralizing men. Immaturity is certainly not a desirable trait, but a lot of the things you listed are kinda superficial. Like he didn't send you a sexy video and he's a fashion student. That's what you're mad about?? What are your actual standards for a man and what do you bring to the tab…
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/21 01:46 PM
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The people in your life and how you interact with them can have a huge impact on your self esteem. If you're surrounded by people that make comments about the way you look and constantly compare yourself to women you perceive to be beautiful, it will eventually wear you down. Having your own family say you're ugly is just demoralizing. When I was growing up all the kids would call me ugly, so I empathize with your situation. Personally, I think you need to develop your self esteem probably with …
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/21 03:51 PM
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Is this the same boyfriend that checks out other girls and called you a hippo? If so, it could be that the people in your life are being unnecessarily rude to you.
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/21 10:09 PM
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Tumblr is so chill now. My dash is full of pictures of freshly baked bread, little cows, and small poems. No one cares about followers or clout, just things that vibe with you.
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/21 02:36 PM
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Based and red-pilled.
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/21 09:12 PM
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Paraphrasing the OP a bit but it did say marriage is the literal death of a man's lifelong dreams and he only does it to achieve the woman's dream of marriage and having a family. The conclusion, that we should support our partners and appreciate their sacrifices, is correct and I'm not arguing against that. The premise that women only ever want to be married and men almost never dream of marriage is heavily, heavily flawed. OP is extremely overt in framing marriage as the ole' ball-and-chain.
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/21 09:06 PM
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I follow enough trad pages to know that there are men whose goal is to be a husband and a father and view material successes as means to that end. Conversely, I know plenty women who had to sacrifice their careers and dreams to be wives/mothers and that in fact spawned an entire social movement. So yes, we should acknowledge the sacrifices our partners have made for us and our relationships, but to blame women for the failures of men achieves very little.
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/21 02:14 PM
2

I used to be big on bullet journals a few years ago, now not so much. It was helpful to track weight progress, diet, exercise, habits like taking my vitamins, finances, when my amazon packages would arrive, etc. In terms of supplies I used: a leuchtturm a5 jounal, sakura micron pens, tombow dual brush pens, mildliner highlighters, washi tape, and stickers. It was really fun and relaxing to do, but the reason I stopped was because my weekly spreads were taking too much time to do and I also began…
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/21 01:02 PM
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I bought a bunch of basic midi/maxi dresses from target, amazon, and uniqlo to wear around the house. I also have a couple of knit skirts that I just wear with t-shirts and sometimes a cardigan. Cute but super comfy.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/21 11:50 PM
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I stopped shopping at the mall and buy pretty much all my clothes online now. I don't know about your mall, but the ones next to me mostly have fast fashion like charlotte russe and primark. If you still want to shop at the mall, try stores with an older demographic like Talbot's, Ann Taylor, J Crew, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/21 12:13 PM
2

Oh we troll now? No one informed me lol
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/21 02:15 PM
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I'm banned on naturalhair too! I wonder what their reasoning is and they think rpw can't be naturalistas.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/21 11:58 AM
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You can find them in the archives
/r/RedPillWives31/03/21 08:58 PM
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What we did was looked at a map of FSSP and ICKSP churches, then went I'd like to live here, here, or here. Those parishes tend to have thriving communities and we researched things like cost of living, weather, if the Catholic schools are actually good, whether they have homeschool co-ops, etc. Our top contender right now is Irving, Texas for mater dei (FSSP) but moving to Tulsa is a close second because of clear creek abbey.
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/21 01:48 PM
1

Are you opposed to the tlm? That's how my boyfriend and I narrowed down the places we'd move to in a couple years.
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/21 01:39 PM
1

For me it's not about "learning to deal with differing opinions." It's that the company my boyfriend works for promotes things that are completely against his morals and he lives in constant fear of being called a bigot and fired from his job. It's that everyone just assume I have the same political opinion as them and feel comfortable slandering and insulting people that hold the same views as me. Where I live liberals are genuinely hostile to conservatives. So leaving is a quality of life impr…
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/21 10:56 AM
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Here you go. And if you click the username, you can find all her posts
/r/RedPillWives12/03/21 09:15 PM
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Have you been screened for food allergies or Celiac disease? Have you spoken to your pcp about this?
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/21 11:27 AM
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There was a RPW theory post way way back when the sub began about the concept of a feminine mind. I'll have to dig it up again because it's a great refresher on feminine disposition. The core concept of that post that has stayed with me throughout the years is that femininity is expressed through appearance but appearance is not the source of femininity. What makes a woman feminine is truly her mindset to be supportive, yielding, receptive, graceful, and all around pleasant. It begins with inwar…
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/21 04:00 PM
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It's counterculture non-conformance. Every generation has some form of this, ignore it and move on with your life.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/21 07:25 PM
3

The sidebar
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/21 07:21 PM
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Sometimes life circumstances get in the way; however, for the average woman, it is inadvisable to wait until your 30's to settle down, especially if you want children. Also, a popular recommended book in rpw used to be The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough. A woman should not waste her 20's searching for prince charming because a perfect man doesnot exist.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/21 12:39 PM
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Hmm. I'd disagree that a 30 year old single woman inherently isn't rpw because everyone finds the red pill at different stages in their life. But more to your point, I agree. The sub has grown in size but the people who used to post rpw theory and field reports have all left. Gone are the rpw endorsed contributors. So in that regards the quality of the advice given depends on whoever waltz into the sub on any given day. This is supposed to be an anti-feminist sub, it's in the rules after all, bu…
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/21 12:33 PM
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It's pretty and feminine. I'd wear it with a longer skirt.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/21 11:15 AM
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I'm in a private group about womanhood and feminity so you'd have to get invited, but if you dm me I can give you the info.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/21 12:30 PM
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This is a troll. I remember the original poster, she deleted her account
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/21 02:27 AM
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My man and I committed on the second date and we've been together for a few years now. But the point is that we each took time to assess each other for long term compatibility and worked together to achieve that goal. Vetting is an important relationship step that should not be overlooked. If my man had disrespected or betrayed me and I told him it hurt me, he would rethink his actions the next time. And I would do (and have done) the same for him because when you love someone you take care of t…
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/20 11:11 PM
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SMV is not the only thing that matters when it comes to LTRs and marriages. RMV is far more important here, this red pill women we are not interested in being plates. The whole point of the sub is to build a long lasting relationship with a great man, read the sidebar. High value in the context of red pill women is an ideal potential marriage man.
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/20 10:42 PM
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Sorry but you're conflating looking at a woman (which again, I said is a natural occurrence) with actively lusting for a woman. A man that likes to talk about how much he thinks about other women in bed is not high value because this is not the action of a man that respects his lady. Remember, the other aspect of RPW is to vet men for LTRs and marriage. Playing the field has no place in a committed relationship; if that's what a man wants, he can do that while single. And he's already making her…
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/20 10:22 PM
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Mods don't like when you tell a woman to leave a low value man without first suggesting how to fix the relationship with said low value man. Some rule made a couple months back.
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/20 09:26 PM
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This is true, however it will probably be removed. A man that inspires loyalty and commitment does not unabashedly lust after other women, especially not in front of his own woman. How does that reflect onto her? A man that respects and values his woman is perhaps the simplest thing to vet for when considering the feasibility of a long term relationship. Inevitably too there's the question of whether a man who is so open about his sexual desire for other women will remain faithful to 'til death …
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/20 09:11 PM
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This comes up all the time on this sub, so I'll be brief. All men look at attractive women, they have eyes after all and it's unrealistic to expect them not to. However, a committed man sexually talking about other women is disrespectful, hurtful, and uncharacteristic of a high value man. Talk to him again when your emotions are a little calmer and explain to him that you feel emotionally betrayed when he talks about that way. Ultimately, you can put up with it and hope he eventually matures or …
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/20 08:06 PM
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I'm guessing fascinating womanhood and surrendered single/wife since those are always recommended.
/r/RedPillWives24/12/20 08:39 PM
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Would your husband be against attending your grandmother's funeral as well? Seems like neither of you ever want to step foot inside a Catholic church. That's fine if that's a boundary for you, but realize you'll be missing weddings, funerals, baptisms, first communions, confirmations, etc. that are a big part of Catholic life and thus a big part of your family's life. Try to remember you are not receiving the sacraments yourself but supporting your family when they do.
/r/RedPillWives18/12/20 09:20 PM
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I'm not yet a mother, but there are a ton of traditional minded mothers on instagram that I feel give good tips, advice, and insight on motherhood and womanhood.
/r/RedPillWives04/12/20 08:59 PM
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Then it's a perfect opportunity to take up some new hobbies, both to help improve yourself and help you be more attractive to future men (but mostly for yourself tbh). There's: baking, cooking, reading, crocheting, embroidery, knitting, cross stitch, quilting, fitness, etc. Plenty of stuff to do.
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/20 01:14 PM
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I'd skip barre classes and just got straight to ballet. A lot of studios have classes for adult beginners (I am one!), but most are on Zoom right now if you're ok with that. It's a very feminine environment imo and will teach you proper technique and grace, which barre definitely does not do. And in my area ballet classes are cheaper than barre.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/20 09:05 PM
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Right, and you're some big shot fortune 500 CFO. For the rest of the world, HBS and M7 business schools are prestigious institutions.
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/20 06:34 PM
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What? You don't get into HBS or any M7 business school for not doing anything significant. Do these students look like "start of their career"? Most, if not all of RPW, would consider these men high value. Sure, I'll give you that the definition of project varies between person, but it's still silly to consider a well accomplished person to be a "project" in the same way an active drug dealer would be.
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/20 05:40 PM
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An olympic athlete with an Harvard MBA is already an accomplished man. Rather disingenuous to compare that to a drug addict going to prison.
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/20 03:44 PM
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She can be a mom, she can't be a stay at home mom which is what she wants to do and what we're talking about. Not to mention, unlike men, women have a hard limit for fertility. Sorry, we just can't have it all.
/r/RedPillWives05/11/20 09:15 PM
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She can't be both a homemaker and a lawyer, there isn't the time and the money. A law degree takes 3 years and costs ~$150-200k. She'll be 34 when she finishes then will have to work a few years of a well paying job (not all lawyers make high six figures) to pay off the debt. That's a huge investment to make if your end goal is to be stay at home mother and a homemaker. Plus, she already has a bachelor's degree, it's not like she's sitting at home twiddling her thumbs.
/r/RedPillWives05/11/20 11:42 AM
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When talking about winter wear, it's also important to include location because winters in minneapolis/boston/dallas would all feel very different from each other. I live in a cold, windy city and I could wear that outfit underneath my not cute heavy winter coat. On the really cold days, I would wear the long sleeve under the bulky sweater. I definitely value function over fashion in the dead of winter.
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/20 05:08 PM
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It's more for OP, since she's Catholic. She'll know what they mean.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 01:33 PM
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No, I'd say go to a TLM parish like the FSSP for example. Tradcat men tend to take masculinity seriously.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 01:27 PM
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It pains me that you and u/glittergrunge99 are being downvoted for defending the unborn. Widespread acceptance of abortion is the most harmful consequence of modern feminism, full stop.
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/20 04:30 PM
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Essentially, the Second Vatican council drastically reformed the Church but chiefly, the form of the holy mass. Holy mass (which is said at church) is far superior to any prayer said at home and is greater than the culmination of all other prayers said past, future, and present. In the Roman Catholic Church, the traditional latin mass (TLM), aka Tridentine mass, was primarily celebrated from the council of Trent (1545) until the second Vatican council (1962). After the Second Vatican council, th…
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/20 12:43 PM
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It's not really a subset per se, there's a movement of Roman Catholics who wish to restore many of the Church's traditions to what they were before the Second Vatican Council's extensive reform.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/20 03:36 AM
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You're mixing up chasity and virginity. Engaging in oral sex is definitely not chaste.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/20 01:15 AM
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This sub is pretty secular and leans atheist imo, but there are definitely traditional Christians here.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/20 01:11 AM
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Don't straighten your hair so it will be long enough, grow your hair so it will be long enough. Slower process and time consuming but ultimately it's more rewarding and healthier for your hair. To answer your question, I generally keep my hair in either a halo braid or dutch braids. Occasionally I'll twist it or wear a wash n go. And about once a year I'll put in crochet braids.
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/20 11:12 AM
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I think they call their fleece lined leggings something else, but if you got the ultra warm ones I think you should be fine. You're going to have a much better winter experience with warm clothes.
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/20 01:08 PM
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Tights under jeans instead of leggings, looks less bulky.
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/19 01:48 PM
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Snow is so beautiful when it first falls and everything is quiet and serene. I hate winter, but snowfall makes me secretly like it. You should proper snow boots that reach mid calf. They have grip on the bottom to make trekking through snow easier and are usually insulated. Good brands are Land's End, LL Bean, Sorel (so many people have the Joan of Arc), and North Face. Aww a coat for Christmas! Your boyfriend and mine think alike. I think mine just wanted to stop hearing me complain about the c…
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/19 01:45 PM
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Without fail, every winter someone I know shares a variation of the "why am I living where the air hurts my face" meme. Winter can be brutal, I won't lie. But if you're properly prepared you shouldn't feel constantly cold. My main tips are: wear layers, buy snow boots, and get a good winter coat. You want a coat that covers your butt, is windproof (very important), and is waterproof. I swear by uniqlo's heattech line. I love their knitted tights, lined tights, and fleece lined leggings. The heat…
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/19 01:03 PM
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Leggings under a dress is perfectly fine. Most, if not all, of my winter style is skirt + sweater or maxi dress + cardigan. Leggings underneath the maxi if it's cold or if it's made from a thin material. Sometimes I'll layer a sweater over a maxi dress too. Knitted tights would be my top recommendation for looking cute and staying warm, but if it were to drop to single digits or lower, fleece lined leggings may be your best bet. I also wear tank tops under everything because it keeps me warm. So…
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/19 04:58 AM
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Ask the Catholicism sub. They get questions like this everyday and a lot people there are far better at explaining theology than I am.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/19 11:36 AM
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Incorrect. The unitive aspect of sex refers to the conjugal love of husband and wife that unites them as flesh and blood and preserves in it's fullness the sense of true mutual love. In marriage the physical intimacy of the spouses becomes a sign and pledge of spiritual communion. A man's orgasm, in addition to not otherwise impeding conception, is the procreative aspect of sex. The NFP vs contraception I explained below. It's not the comparative effectiveness we care about.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/19 10:48 AM
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OP wanted Catholic answers so I gave her Catholic answers. If you want a debate regarding the Church you can DM me or post to the Catholicism sub.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/19 12:58 AM
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Natural family planning is allowed because it doesn't alter the act of sex. You're still having sex that's open to life. Contraception (including pulling out and finishing in other places) changes the nature of sex because it is not open to life. The result may be the same, delaying pregnancy; however, Catholics are not consequentialists thus the method used to achieve those results determine the sinfulness of the act. Catechism 2331-2391 explains the teaching on sex, chastity, and marriage. The…
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/19 12:46 AM
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There isn't and won't ever be an official Catholic list of "things allowed in sex." According to Catholic doctrine there are two indissociable functions of sex: (1) unitive (2) and procreative. The second point, to put bluntly, means the husband must complete inside his wife. What a couple does to please each other in bed is entirely up to them. Sex is an integral part of being united as flesh and blood, and limited to their own intimacy and love for each other.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/19 12:38 AM
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You can have oral sex/use fingers/use toys/etc. so long it doesn't entirely replace penetrative sex. Sex is supposed to be fun after all.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/19 12:25 AM
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Great to start off the show but can't be the whole show. Foreplay really isn't a sin.
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/19 08:20 PM
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Pulling out disrupts the order of sex therefore is gravely sinful. As you know, sex serves two functions; it's both unitive (ordered to the conjugal love of man and woman in marriage) and procreative. Any act that is not for conjugal union and/or open to life is disordered and sinful. Having sex while interfering with where the sperm are going in order to prevent pregnancy (in this case pulling out) is a kind of contraception and therefore intrinsically disordered. Resources: Catechism, Humanae …
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/19 06:59 PM
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That's a mortal sin, he's not going to be open to pulling out.
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/19 02:11 PM
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What method of NFP are you using and can you consult with an NFP instructor for further help? Different methods may work well with some yet be disastrous with others. I'd avoid trying to convince him to use contraception or using contraception yourself as the Church's teachings are extremely clear on the matter and you'll cause a bigger rift in your marriage than you perhaps intend. See: Humanae vitae. Also, if you post in the Catholicism sub or Catholic women sub, you'll get more Catholic answe…
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/19 11:17 AM
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How does mentioning race make one a racist? How is talking about the things concerning your own race racist?
/r/RedPillWives13/11/19 02:59 AM
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Why do you think she's racist?
/r/RedPillWives12/11/19 02:33 PM
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People in that thread are so mad lol
/r/RedPillWives10/11/19 05:50 PM
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Straight to the point, I love it. What's the stop being a degenerate meme? Also: r/barefootandpregnant
/r/RedPillWives10/11/19 11:40 AM
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Keep houseplants! Check out r/indoorgarden and r/houseplants.
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/19 03:37 PM
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Being that underweight is inherently unhealthy. If she were obese with no health issues the recommendation would still be to reach a healthy weight.
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/19 01:34 PM
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I have no desire to ever be underweight again. Nor is my weight any of your concern.
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/19 09:18 PM
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Keep telling yourself that.
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/19 09:15 PM
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You made a post about irregular periods just a week ago, stop lying.
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/19 09:12 PM
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Lololol, no one should be taking any advice from you. Source: was in this exact situation OP is in right now. I was underweight, lost my period, had heart palpitations, felt like I was going to die. It's not healthy, don't delude yourself into thinking it is.
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/19 09:08 PM
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Eating 1200 calories is what most women around that height eat to lose weight, so I'd aim more towards 1400. Track your calories with something like myfitnesspal or cronometer. To gain weight, I'd focus on adding healthy fats to your diet such as avocado, full fat salad dressing (low fat stuff is high in sugar anyway), lots of nut butters like almond butter and peanut butter. You can easily add 100 calories by eating almond butter with an apple for a snack. In recovery, one of my friends mixed h…
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/19 09:08 PM
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She's underweight with a BMI of 16.5. Stop giving bad advice, this woman wants to be healthy.
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/19 09:02 PM
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How many calories do you usually eat and what do your meals consist of? Also, have you spoken with a dietitian?
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/19 08:07 PM
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IDK that last one sounds pretty close to the truth. Truth be told, it's probably all that layering I like to do.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/19 05:38 PM
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Tbh, I'm always cold so I don't even know how it keeps me warm.
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/19 11:00 PM
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I bought mine from Uniqlo. It also helps that my winter coat goes almost to my knees so my calves are the only "exposed" part.
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/19 01:18 PM
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Here's my fall/winter secret: layers. During the cooler months, I wear either a tank or a tee under all my shirts and blouses. If it's really cold, I'd wear leggings under pants. I find that tucking the tank into the leggings retains warmth better. Uniqlo's heattech line is perfect for this; lots of trees, tanks, long sleeves, leggings, etc. that are perfect for creating a warm base layer. My other piece of advice is to not forgo functionality for the sake fashion so before you buy a winter coat…
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/19 10:13 AM
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I know some posters here are somehow warm in a dress and tights, but this barely keeps me going in the fall -- let alone winter. Depends on the dress and tights. If you're wearing a summer dress and filmsy tights - that's probably not going to work. I wear dresses made of thicker and heavier fabrics with fleece lined or cable knit tights. If you don't mind a little bit more bulk, fleece lined leggings are a great option.
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/19 09:57 AM
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I prefer "man is the head, woman is the heart and together they are whole."
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/19 03:56 AM
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Seconding sales and rewards! I got a free (including shipping) bra from them last month!
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/19 08:27 PM
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I made a comment the last time this question was asked, so I'll just copy that here: Ok so there's a lot of backstory as to why there are two subs (and unfortunately the relevant threads have mostly been deleted/removed). The fundamental difference I think is male participation. Redpillwives (RPWi) is a sub ran by women for women. All of the advice given is from the female perspective in the best interest of the female strategy. Women teaching women how to be good girlfriends/wives, do what's be…
/r/RedPillWives21/08/19 09:13 PM
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I'm the opposite way. My face loves sheet masks and the difference is almost immediately and very noticeable. Clay masks on the other hand tend to make my face feel dry.
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/19 08:49 PM
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I know how much a boat cost to maintain; there's a saying that goes a boat is a hole in the water into which you pour money. It also depends on what kind of debt. Mortgage or student loan debt is understandable. If he has 20k in credit debt that's a major red flag.
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/19 06:41 PM
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That's only marginally better. He's either not turning a profit or is profiting but squanders it with expensive parties at the marina and the various other purchases that generally come with this lifestyle. I'm not sure why you want to be with a man that's not exactly financially responsible.
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/19 06:22 PM
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He's probably broke because he has a yacht and throws expensive parties. It's all about appearing like he has money.
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/19 05:40 PM
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Same here. A few pounds makes a crazy difference. My boyfriend once told me he could see the difference before and after I used the restroom, much to my embarrassment.
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/19 01:44 PM
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Have you ever read the surrendered wife? If you haven't, you should because these sound exactly like the examples she brings up. Situation 1: he said he will pick them up in a minute, that's fine. In the meantime, you can get things ready and fix them both a snack that will be waiting when they arrive back. And it's not a big deal if you arrive a minute late, I doubt your son will be the next Marcus Rashford. Situation 2: frankly, I'm not quite sure what's the issue. He discusses his thoughts in…
/r/RedPillWives11/06/19 10:13 AM
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What makes you worthy of having a traditional woman? Are you a high quality, traditional man yourself?
/r/RedPillWives04/06/19 10:30 PM
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Reading what he wrote about his sister and her death, I think his conversion is true. He knew that he will lose many followers with such a drastic change to his forum, yet he did it anyway because it is righteous. He took the St. Augustine route, that's all.
/r/RedPillWives31/05/19 08:13 PM
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It's against their religion, which judging by this post OP takes seriously.
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/19 01:45 PM
1

Thanks but I don't want another iud.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/19 07:33 PM
1

I have Mirena as well and when I first got it, my libido plummeted. When I get it taken out, my experience probably will be similar to yours. It seems so strange to me now, that I have a foreign object pumping hormones into me.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/19 04:17 PM
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I don't entirely disagree with him. I've come to realize rarely anyone talks about the detriments of contraception and many equate the invention of birth control to women's liberation. Just listing some medical side effects: birth control can cause raging mood swings, weight gain, ectopic pregnancy, PID, loss of libido, increase risk of clotting, and it decreases bone density. Socially, contraception catapulted casual sex and hookup culture because separates sex from the natural purpose of repro…
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/19 01:40 AM
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That's not a red pill, that's just nihilism. And that kind of defeatist mindset is exactly how liberals keep advancing their "progessive" ideology virtually unchecked because conservatives just let them. Poland and Hungary just began their stand against globalism and we can already see an increase in birth rates and retention of the traditional family structure.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/19 04:19 PM
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He's not wrong. At 5'3 weighing 144lbs, OP has a BMI of 25.5 which is overweight.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/19 04:46 PM
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Read my comment, I'm with an older man.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/19 09:26 AM
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I never called a him a predator nor you a child. All I said was that the circumstances were questionable given the difference in maturity. Take a chill pill.
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/19 01:53 PM
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Well, clearly I hit a sore spot. Look, I'm the same age as you and I have an older partner as well. A thirty-year-old marrying an 18-year-old within a year of knowing each other will give most people pause. And your sister marrying an older man at 24 is not nearly the same as you marrying an older man fresh out of high school.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/19 10:00 PM
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A grown man in his thirities was dating a teenager and married her once she became of age. What does a 17 year old have in common with a 29 year old anyway? The difference in maturity and life experience is astronomical at those ages. I wouldn't define it as "pedophilic" per se, but it is certainly throwing off predator vibes.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/19 05:09 PM
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Concept is called heterozygote advance. A commonly used example is sickle cell anemia. Homozygosity gets you malaria protection but also sickle cell disease. Heterozygosity still gives you malaria protection and the less severe (and frequently asymptomatic) sickle cell trait.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/19 04:39 PM
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Tangentially related: Ashkenazi Jews are genetically predisposed to congenital disorders relatively unheard of in the general population due to consanguineous marriages. See also: hemophilia in British royality and maple syrup urine disease in the Amish. Inbreeding is terrible for genetics.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/19 04:34 PM
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Have you looked into the curly girl method? It could help you out with the dryness and frizz.
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/19 08:57 AM
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What to Expect was a terrible book that should be burned in a dumpster fire. Why is that?
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/19 04:30 PM
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The mods are likely to remove this and refer you to trp and asktrp. We don't answer questions from men here, per community rules in the sidebar.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/19 02:39 PM
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Perhaps you posted on the wrong sub by mistake?
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/19 02:26 PM
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Don't go down that path. Really avoid it at all costs. It may look like on their outside that your friends' lives are peaches and cream, but the reality is eating disorders are colossal nightmares that destroy your mental and physical health. They're not telling you about the heart palpitations that wake you at night feeling like death. How your nails become brittle and your hail falls out in chunks. Or how every waking second becomes a torturous amalgamation of self hatred, anxiety, and unrelen…
/r/RedPillWives01/03/19 03:49 PM
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Do what works for you. Learn what your hair likes and dislikes, what works with your schedule and your wallet. Keep it moisturized. This is essential for length retention. Protect your ends and trim them when needed. I usually do my hair in a halo braid, so I don't have to worry about by ends rubbing against my back/shoulders. Never dry detangle, your hair will break. If you do protective styling (braids, weaves): make sure your hair is properly moisturized beforehand, don't let the stylist snat…
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/19 11:40 PM
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VS models like Lais have strict fitness regiments comprised of mainly cardio, bodyweight or lightweight exercises, and resistance training. That's how they get the lean, svelte look without much bulk (in addition to clean diets of course). Heavy lifting will not give you a body similar to theirs. Check out joja, an Instagram account by two VS angels. I'd also recommend model trainers/gyms such as p.volve, ballet beautiful, doghouse, kirkmyersfitness, and john benton model fitness. Both Sanne and…
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/19 09:12 PM
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Naptural85 made a video of hair care using only dollar store products and her hair looked amazing (as usual). Honestly, leave in and deep conditioners are the only thing I think are worth spending money on. Pretty much everything else you can diy or buy inexpensively. My conditioner is Aussie moist, $6 for 36oz. I've heard great things about their 3 minute miracle deep conditioner, but I've personally never tried it. Cantu makes a good curling cream for $5 too. Also, Shea moisture is rarely ever…
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/19 08:55 PM
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From fellow black girl: learn how to take care of your hair properly. I have picky 4c low porosity hair and it took me forever to learn that common hair care tips/practices were actually damaging my hair instead of growing it. If you already have your regime set, that's good, adhere to it consistently.
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/19 05:48 PM
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I’m one of the kindest, warmest, loyalest, ‘sweetheart’ kinda girls you could ever meet. If you have to tell someone that you are feminine, generally speaking you aren't (think of Tywin Lannister's "true king" quote). OP wants to come off as feminine, and the only way she can do so without meeting the other person is conveying her soft, feminine charm through the messages she says. A woman can be succinct and honest without sounding masculine and resorting to swear words. If I may say so when I …
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/19 05:53 PM
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Overlap, yes. Pretty much the same thing? No. Important distinction.
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/19 11:49 AM
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Friendly and flirtatious are certainly not the same thing. There's a sexual aspect of flirting not present in regular, plain friendliness. And if you believe that everyone that is friendly with you is flirting with you, there's going to be many mistaken signals.
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/19 10:52 AM
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Here's a post I loved on Tumblr: Be soft spoken, gentle and polite. Vulnerablity is your strength, cultivate it. Show compassion. Act with love. Enjoy your domestic duties. Take care of your man. Love him. Spoil him. Give him the respect he craves and he needs. Dress feminine. Dress modestly out in the world. Dress for him in the bedroom. Embrace your beauty. Take precious care of your body. Be gentle with your children. These are simple ways of embracing your femininity.
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/19 08:37 PM
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Well I think it’d be weird for me to include all the reasons I’m so great I'm not saying you need to list all your greatest achievements, but talk about what you bring to the table. How are you in the kitchen? Do you have good homemaking abilities? Are you submissive and feminine? Pick up surrendered single and fascinating womanhood if you have not done so already. Here's another RPW primer. I’m working on losing weight but I generally don’t think it’s that big of an issue It is a big deal.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/19 02:46 AM
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Honestly, you need to read the sidebar, lurk some more, and lose weight. The only thing you've listed as a reason men should date you is that you're attractive and have big boobs...which will get you into the bedroom and not much further. What makes you a good catch?
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/19 02:20 AM
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We do have a great relationship! I can't wait to be his wife 💕 It really does help for him to come home to a relaxing environment. There's a good article floating around about 1950s housewife advice. Of course feminists decry it for being "sexist" but it contains good pieces such as greeting him with a smile and a kiss, tidying up before he arrives, minimizing noise and distractions, and focusing on him and his needs. I also think pleasant smells from candles or diy room scents would be lovely. …
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/19 09:28 PM
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My Captain and I don't live together and we don't plan to until marriage. Off the top of my head, things I do include: Make his meals including meal prep lunches/dinner for the week when I'm over at his place Bake yummy treats Text him throughout the day how much I love him and respect him Make myself look beautiful for him: doing more/better skincare, monthly manis, taming my hair, etc. I'm going to splurge for his birthday and get him a switch + games. It was supposed to be a surprise but my b…
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/19 06:10 PM
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More info please. Edit: per submission guidelines: What is the problem, and what do you think is the root of the issue? How have you contributed/attempted to mitigate the problem? What are your ages, relationship status, time together? What is your bedroom life like? (I threw this one in here because it's always relevant).
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/19 05:28 PM
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I don't think you're getting the point. This is about compatibility, and absolutely no one, men nor women, can compromise on their fundamentals. There's a difference between preferences (which I suspect is how you're characterizing Christianity) and requirements, often called "deal breakers." These of course vary between persons and usually include things such as wants to be married, wants children, is the same religion, has the same vision for life, is Captain material, etc. Entering a lifelong…
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/19 11:16 AM
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Again, neither are mutually exclusive. For the religious, they are often one in the same. This is what you think her priorities are: Top priority: I desire to be with a christian man Lower priority: I desire to be a wife and a mother In actuality, it's closer to this: I desire to the wife of a Christian man and mother to his children. It doesn't matter how many men approach her if none of them share the same convictions or aspirations she desires in a partner for life. OP shouldn't compromise he…
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/19 01:27 AM
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She wants a man with the same faith and beliefs as herself and that wants to raise children the same way. Her goal is to be a Christian wife and raise Christian children, both can coexist as a top priority as they're not mutually exclusive. Personally, I do agree that a Godly woman marrying an atheist or other religion man is setting the family up for a theological nightmare. Sure it can work, but why set yourself up with additional strife? Nor is it exactly difficult to find Christian men (espe…
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/19 09:22 PM
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Along with thick, knitted tights. And not flimsy material for the dress/skirt either.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/19 04:03 PM
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I can't believe I didn't think of tennis skirts with leggings. Thanks for the tip!
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/19 02:39 PM
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You can view quarantined subs by opting in on desktop mode.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/19 02:40 PM
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I'm currently in process of phasing pants out of my wardrobe (with the exception of scrubs for work), so I'll try to give a comprehensive answer from my perspective. This winter I purchased a couple new heattech leggings and tights from Uniqlo to wear underneath skirts and dresses. If the dress I want to wear if made from light, summery material I'll typically wear a long sleeve under it (but that's probably because I'm a baby in the cold). Also, my coat goes down to my knees which helps keeps m…
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/18 11:17 AM
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For my hair, I make my own African black soap shampoo, moisturizing oil mix (for both hair and scalp), ACV scalp rinses, and Greek yogurt protein treatment. The shampoo I feel doesn't save me much money, but my natural hair can be extremely picky and I also like that I can control the quality and quantity of the ingredients that go into it. I've tried to make a weekly deep conditioner, but so far I've struck out. I do like making massage oil (out of coconut oil and essential oils), body butter, …
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/18 02:42 PM
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She doesn't mean be annoying and in his face all the time when they're together. It's common courtesy (esp in a new relationship) for the person you're with to have your undivided attention, doing otherwise is generally considered rude.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/18 10:48 AM
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I submit to him, dote on him, bring him beer while he games, cook our meals, keep the house clean, and attend to his sexual needs. Overall, being attentive to and in tune with his desires and wants. I can tell when my man comes home extremely stressed from work, whether he says so or not. I also know the best way to get him fully relaxed is a steak dinner w/ a bj followed by a massage and lots of cuddling. Other times, his spirit are low and all he wants is a nice, long hug (his primary love lan…
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/18 03:11 PM
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What constitutes a great body is entirely subjective. People who like strong, fit girls will tell you to lift. People who like slim and slender girls will say to run and do yoga. Squats with heavy weights will build your hamstrings and quads, no doubt about it. Look into glute isolation exercises like barbell hip thrusts, bridges, donkey kicks (weight ankle weights), etc.
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/18 12:15 PM
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See, I think people have different definitions of what's considered muscular on a woman. Of course, women can't get bulky and look like a man without concerted effort, but that's not to say she can't be muscular. For me, most fit women who lift are muscular. For you, presumably, they just look fit. Whether or not the muscle mass is wanted depends entirely on the individual.
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/18 10:14 PM
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My ideal aesethetic is the long, lean VS angel look. After some instagram research into the gyms, trainers, workouts of these models, I developed a program for myself compromising of cardio and bodyweight exercises with low weight dumbbells, ankle weights and/or resistance bands. I aim for cardio 2-3 times a week and bodyweight excerises 4-5 times a week. It also helps that I live in a city and walk pretty much every where I go, although my quads could probably be smaller. My advice to you would…
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/18 10:11 PM
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Call the midwife! I'm currently watching through it and I love it
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/18 05:47 PM
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what you said I will work on being more open and kind to men in general. is not antithetical to what she said be less mean It's essentially the same thing reworded, not a personal attack against you. Nearly every piece of advice in this thread includes something about you being more feminine to attract masculine men, that one was no different. I will reiterate what I said previously - read up on feminity and work on your girl game.
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/18 06:26 PM
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There's something about this response I find very telling. In a thread where you are asking for dating advice, you give a snarky lecture to someone on the advice they give you. That one line u/pinkwaff1e gave you builds the foundation of what it means to be a RPW: be sweet, be kind, be receptive. Let's not forget that when you eventually find a high-value man, you still need to match his masculinity with your own high-value femininity to keep him. Go back the basics and read this post. Come back…
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/18 05:13 PM
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That's steak and BJ day
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/18 05:24 PM
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Going to the gym, 4-5 times a week also won't change anything if diet remains the same. OP is eating more calories than she needs to and that's why she's not seeing weight loss.
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/18 06:40 PM
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Parenthood will age you just the same, if not more than pregnancy. Nonetheless, he cannot stop the slow, forward march of time that will age you.
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/18 10:18 PM
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I was taught that staying married is a choice. You pick the right man and you realize that he will never be perfect because nothing is. Emotions come and go for all people and for women in particular. The feeling that you've "fallen out of love" or whatever the women in your post was thinking could just as easily be regained if she committed to the relationship and saw what her husband would do next. Just because he makes me crazy today, doesn't mean that will be the case tomorrow. To me the red…
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/18 04:24 PM
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I think a more important thread would be "how to stay committed when you've lost all respect and attraction for you man." Make a thread specifically asking that question if that's what is most important to you. Usually when people make threads describing their men in negative lights the advise is typically "talk to him, if he doesn't give you the answer you want, dump him." People don't really advocate for true commitment. They advocate for trying to be committed but then abandoning ship when it…
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/18 04:21 PM
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I get what you're saying but "others have failed, so will I" will only become a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you want to use others a guide, find what lead to their failure and work to prevent the same mistakes from happening to yourself. "Just stay committed" is oversimplistic, but not incorrect. Sure, you can always let your committment to your SO slowly wither away until it dies a slow, painful death ultimately ruining your relationship. Or, you can make the conscious, active decision to cons…
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/18 04:14 PM
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Don't be afraid of commitment because of other women's failures. It's your responsibility to stay true and committed to your SO and no one but yours. Keep yourself to high standards. If you want to be the woman that stays with her man through thick and thin, then be that woman. No one is stopping you.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/18 03:50 PM
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Correct me if I'm wrong, but a "marriage" without a license isn't legally considered a marriage, right? Also, what's the point of a prenup agreement if you aren't married? I'm confused.
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/18 11:12 PM
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I'm vegan, my Captain is not. Frankly, our differences in diet isn't an issue 98% of the time. When I cook I usually make "his and hers" version of meals. For example, the other day I made sea bass (for him), tofu (for me), and roasted veggies the both of us. I never taste any of the meats I cook, I have him to do the taste tests. He tells me I can make steak and eggs like a pro despite being vegan. Prior to being with him, my experience cooking meat was entirely non-existent, so I watched a ton…
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/18 08:48 PM
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Promiscuity seems rampant in the black community as a whole, not only with black women. When you think of all the terms - baby daddy/mama, thots, side piece, main piece, etc. as well as increased single motherhood and absentee fatherhood amongst black people the issue seems rather systemic as opposed to isolated to one gender or another. I may be wrong, but we have the highest rates of children born out of wedlock and STIs. I believe the best way to combat this problem is to first acknowledge we…
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/18 02:42 PM
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I am! Personally, I wouldn't say my race has an impact either which way on me being a RPW (with the exception of hair related advice). I've never felt less than or inferior to other women because of my race and my Captain is a white man. The "racial politics" of my relationship are never something I think about and it rarely, if ever, comes up in conversation. Being a Catholic immigrant to the US, I was raised with traditional gender roles and had a somewhat red pill upbringing. My parents encou…
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/18 12:36 AM
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AM: cleanse with philosophy purity made simple, moisturize with belif water essence and aqua homb, then follow up with sunscreen (and one for my hands too) PM: cleanse with philosophy purity made simple, claudalie serum, moisturizing sleeping mask (right now I'm using the Sephora brand because it was $4). I also try to exfoliate and do a moisturizing mask once a week. Drinking 64oz of water daily is perhaps the most crucial daily skincare step; there's a noticeable difference in the clarity of m…
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/18 08:00 PM
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There's a degree of subjectivity here. What I may consider to be bulky you may say is just a strong, fit woman.
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/18 01:50 AM
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always eating off of small plates. This also helps trick your mind into thinking you have more food than you actually do. I like small bowls, plates, and utensils.
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/18 01:29 PM
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Slightly off topic, but I always envy girls with the courage to big chop. What hair type do you have?
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/18 01:17 AM
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I bought myself the Eucerin Broad spectrum SPF 30 lotion and use it for my hands. You can buy specifically formulated hand lotion from skincare brands, but the Eucerin is $7 and works just fine
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/18 09:14 AM
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The disagreement, I believe, is the way you intended the post to be received and the way it was received. I do also agree with u/fosho_away in that there's something seriously off-putting about suggesting women lose sovereignty of themselves and that we should be ok with that. If you took the angle of "submission" rather than "sovereignty," the disagreement wouldn't exist because the difference in connotation between the two is immense. By saying "give up ownership of your body," you're implying…
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/18 09:34 PM
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Re sunscreen: everyone always mentions a facial moisturizer with spf but forget hands and neck, which are exposed to the sun just as much as your face.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/18 10:09 PM
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I got banned from a hair sub for posting here
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/18 09:50 AM
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Noise every time? Lying about visiting her? Once or twice is a coincidence. Multiple times is a pattern.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/18 06:16 PM
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1) this type of man really isn't worth your time 2) you don't need to "pass" for anything. A lot of men don't like black women because they're the angry/sassy/woke black women. Be a sweet, feminine, submissive woman and your race won't matter. As for the hair, check out naptural85 and nappyfu on YouTube. Find the products and routine that works best for your hair. By taking care of yourself and being mindful of who you are, you will raise your SMV and find a high quality man worthy of being your…
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/18 03:55 PM
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This is just a list of your personal preferences and therefore is not suitable for general advice. Also, although femininity is expressed by appearance it is not the source of femininity. Her journey should begin with psychological femininity, as in the post linked by u/fumblesRPW
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/18 05:16 PM
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Tip: if you don't want people replying to you or debating with you, don't respond to them and don't goat them. You don't need the last say. Leave them on read and move on.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/18 01:59 AM
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They met when she was 16, started dating at 18, and have been together for 6 years. There was long thread about her wanting to get married and have babies, but he didn't want it so she was looking for all kinds of workarounds to agree with him. Any attempt of discussion or debate about children and marriage with her will be fruitless, so just ignore it.
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/18 03:07 PM
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A little insulting to grooms, don't you think? He just doesn't know anything about weddings. Listen, men are intelligent beings more than capable of engaging in wedding planning. Even if he doesn't know what a centerpiece is, I sure he can still say "I like that one" or "whatever one you like best." Believing that only the bride should plan the wedding leads us right back to bridezilla square one.
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/18 09:52 AM
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Love it. I use it for all sorts of things from recipes to crochet patterns and natural hair care. My boards are pretty organized as well, most of them also have sub sections ex. my beauty board has a section of makeup and one for hair. I also pin useful things I find from other sites, which I find to neater and easier than keeping bookmarks.
/r/RedPillWives24/08/18 05:55 PM
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This takes lady balls of steel! This one time he said I had a baby roll on my back and I wanted to cry (I almost did). But then I did low carb and focused on core workouts and within 2 weeks it was gone. My weight and being healthy is pretty important to me, so I like having both of us keep a watchful eye on me. I think the important thing is phrasing. If he told me I was a fat in an extremely rude and harsh way, I probably wouldn't stand for it. He says it more "I've noticed you've put on weigh…
/r/RedPillWives21/08/18 02:23 PM
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In the beginning of our relationship, I asked him to let me know if I was gaining weight or looking flabby, and he's not afraid to let me know for the reasons that he wants me to be healthy and attractive to him. I'm one of those "hates the scale" people, so if he can notice I've definitely put on weight. I'm currently in the process of losing ~8 pounds, a decision I made and he fully supported. To be honest, I want to lose more weight than he would like but both of us would like me 8lbs lighter…
/r/RedPillWives21/08/18 10:24 AM
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This is really helpful, thank you very much! I'm in the process of transitioning my wardrobe to be more modest, so I think these would be just what I'm looking for.
/r/RedPillWives16/08/18 09:58 AM
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I think discord is more popular these days than IRC. Also, I avoid new Reddit at all costs.
/r/RedPillWives15/08/18 10:01 AM
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My look this past weekened included this cute skirt leggings, trail shoes, a dri fit tank, a ultralight weight jacket, faux pearl earrings like u/glitterchild suggested, and hair in two dutch braids. Functional and feminine. We do a lot of backcountry hikes and camping, so I typically wear long sleeves or a lightweight athletic jacket because bugs. For the lighter stuff, I wear my nike running shoes but for the tougher hikes I wear my trail shoes. Depending on how active you're going to be/how l…
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/18 01:04 AM
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I agree, it's a fairly ridiculous assertion to make. I'm a tradcon women in my twenties who wants to create a strong, happy family, and I know many women my age who feel the same. In fact, I would say that there's a small trad movement in my generation and younger. To say there are very few tradcon red pill women would be understandable, but to come into RPW of all places and say they don't exist is completely off base.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/18 09:16 AM
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Thank you, my dear! I wish all the best to you as well
/r/RedPillWives20/07/18 11:27 PM
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I love listening to podcasts on my commute, so I'll definitely look into it. Thanks!
/r/RedPillWives19/07/18 02:32 PM
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I can't believe I've never heard of blessed is she before, it looks like such an awesome community too. Thanks for the reply!
/r/RedPillWives19/07/18 02:31 PM
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I thought of clarifying the title after I submitted, so I'll just edit the post itself. I love Proverbs 31! I have a study bible so it has been marked up and highlighted all over. It's definitely a good one to return to whenever I feel discouraged, out of place, or I feel I'm straying. Thanks for the post!
/r/RedPillWives19/07/18 10:17 AM
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I'm a traditional Catholic and it blends very well with RPW teachings. Tradcats follow the millennia long tradition of the Catholic Church by attending the Latin Mass, veiling ourselves in Church, and promoting modesty in both clothing and behavior. We embrace our femininity as our greatest strength and encourage women to be submissive to God and to their husband and trusting that he knows best. This image is a fairly simplistic synopsis of our views on what a household should be.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/18 09:58 AM
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Sex is NOT primarily about your husband, with benefits for you tacked on as an afterthought. Sex is about both of you. The author is so right, you can find a lot of advice telling women to have sex with their SO for what it does for him and as a side effect, what she gets out of it. Now, I understand why people phrase it that way since there are women that consistently deny their SOs sex. It's an easy trap, especially in RP circles, to fall into that women are nothing more than glorified fleshli…
/r/RedPillWives15/07/18 10:54 AM
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I completely understand how you feel. My SO is 10 years older than me. I just graduated college, but he's been established for quite some time now so there's a world of a difference between his experience and my experience. However, that is not a good reason for neither me nor you to feel inferior in our relationships, especially if our SOs haven't voiced any significant concerns. The best thing I would say is to allow yourself to grow and mature, and let him help you. Research the "adult" probl…
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/18 09:12 AM
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Presumably, they're already married.
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/18 06:16 PM
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Men who frequent TRP spin plates, typically don't want LTRs, and are against marriage. To contrast, RPW are actively seeking LTRs with marriage as the goal. That (usually) means TRP men and RPW are incompatible for each other.
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/18 03:12 PM
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I just use generic shampoo/conditioner, air-dry it Well there's your issue! You have to take care of it. Invest in a good shampoo, conditioner, deep conditioner/treatment mask, and moisturizer. Your hair will definitely thank you. I totally get the extensions though, I always have my natural hair in some form of protective style (usually braids).
/r/RedPillWives19/06/18 12:26 AM
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What's your hair care routine?
/r/RedPillWives19/06/18 12:08 AM
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Something similar happened to me too! A mod told me to behave myself after a disagreement with another "endorsed contributor." Agreed, it's a healthier view of submission. I will respect other men and be civil towards those I do not agree with, but I submit to one man only - my SO.
/r/RedPillWives17/06/18 09:10 PM
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Yes, thank you! I thought it was you, but I wasn't too sure.
/r/RedPillWives17/06/18 08:46 PM
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That whole thread was crazy, that angry guy from MRP telling women we don't know what a happy marriage looks like... I don't remember who, but someone once said RPW promotes worshipping of men, the idea of women=bad and men=good, and that certain male ECs like watching women fail. In my opinion, they promote a warped view of female submission where a woman is inferior to a man. Don't get me wrong, there are definitely good posters over there, but as a whole, the sub is largely inconsistent and c…
/r/RedPillWives17/06/18 07:57 PM
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Ok so there's a lot of backstory as to why there are two subs, I'll have to dig up the relevant threads at some point. The fundamental difference I think is male participation. Redpillwives (RPWi) is a sub ran by women for women. All of the advice given is from the female perspective in the best interest of the female strategy. Women teaching women how to be good girlfriends/wives, do what's best for their long-term, committed relationship, and to continuously grow as a person. Conversely, redpi…
/r/RedPillWives17/06/18 05:59 PM
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You should read her post from 5 months ago. There's a lot more going on here than flirting at a party.
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/18 03:50 PM
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Women: why won't men date me?? The future with feminism
/r/RedPillWives16/06/18 02:30 PM
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Do not allow yourself to be recruited to religious or political groups or causes. They will take everything you have to give, and give nothing in return. I'm sorry, but this sounds more like a personal bias, not red pill advice. Can you clarify what you mean?
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/18 01:29 AM
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As someone who's been down the ED path many times before, I strongly suggest you find a good ED therapist even if you don't feel ready for recovery. Being alone in this disorder is a terribly isolating thing. Workout, keep yourself healthy, and don't sleep around (boys your age aren't worth it anyway). Femininity is more than just external, in fact it's mostly internal. Appearance is the expression of femininity, but not the source. Work on your feminine traits: being pleasant, yielding, recepti…
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/18 07:29 PM
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I'm sorry, but that's just something you're going to have to deal with. RPW doesn't cater to questions from men.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/18 07:06 PM
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No. That is not the purpose of this sub. This sub is for the female sexual strategy, teaching women to become high-value so they can attract and keep high-value men. There are subs that will give you male-centric advice, just not this one. If you want to learn how to fish, ask the fisherman not the fish.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/18 07:00 PM
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This is a sub for women looking for RP advice and resources. Are you a woman? No, go to TRP.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/18 06:54 PM
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There's a mobile app...
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/18 09:53 PM
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You should start making bread! It's really fun and soothing I find. This my favorite recipe. It makes a very soft and fluffy loaf, with a solid crumb. I used it to make rosemary rolls this past weekend and they were a big hit. Edit: the recipe says add the oil to the flour but that makes absolutely no sense so add the oil when you add the raised yeast. Also, put a pan full of several cups of boiling water in the oven right before you baking the bread. The steam helps create a crisp crust. If you…
/r/RedPillWives14/06/18 09:12 PM
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I'm sorry, I thought he wasn't your husband? Isn't that the whole point of this discussion?
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/18 02:16 PM
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You won't be the mother if your name isn't on the papers. Any lawyer will tell you that. He would be the only parent no matter how much you think you love that child. Legally, he will be considered a single dad in a one parent household. I've said all I have to say. Go live your life.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/18 02:02 PM
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I'd also add Fascinating Womanhood and Surrendered Single to that list.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/18 01:27 PM
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If he's protecting himself, protect yourself too! At the end of the day, all of this is your decision. You've decided you're fine not having biological children or getting married. So don't have biological children or get married. If marrying you and having children with you was something he valued, he would have put effort into moving somewhere with more balanced laws. Where have the two of you talked about moving to? What's the timeline? Honestly, it's simply not important to him. It's not in …
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/18 01:09 PM
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Do you foresee the relationship ending? Do you not trust that you'll always want to protect his interests? After 6 years, does he not know enough about your character to trust that you won't destroy him? I get that you're fine with only being a girlfriend, that's your choice. But why are you making yourself accountable for all the kind of women? He's not deciding against marrying all women, he's deciding against marrying you.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/18 12:25 PM
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Except for the "beautiful face" part. Men definitely care about beauty.
/r/RedPillWives13/06/18 08:12 PM
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It is not wrong to express concern over the situation however it is also not wrong to answer the question that the OP has asked. Both types of responses are acceptable. If you only want to hear one thing, that's fine, it's your choice. But you can't stop it from being said.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/18 06:45 PM
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You're going to get advice whether you asked for it or not. RPW isn't here to protect your feelings. Sometimes the advice that's given is harsh and hard to hear, but that's the nature of the red pill. We're just trying to get you to see that your feelings, hopes, and dreams matter as much as his. That it's ok to advocate for your own interests in your relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/18 06:38 PM
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We're not judgemental OP. We're worried about you because you're been revealing red flag after red flag about your relationship. u/White_pony413 asked if you have friends because isolation is not good for your mental health or sanity. It's good that you're close with your grandparents, every women needs strong role models. Outside of them, who do you have?
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/18 06:24 PM
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Your man doesn't trust you, even after 6 years together. There's no relationship without trust from both partners. What's he's doing is protecting himself but leaving you completely vulnerable. At 6 years together, your relationship should be 100/100 not 100/0. If he decides to take the child and leave, he can without any say from you. If he wants to kick you out of the house, he can leave you with nothing but the clothes on your back. Ironically, he's doing to you what he fears you'll do to him…
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/18 06:18 PM
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I'm sorry you took my post as argumentative, but I'm not here to give you the advice you want to hear. You don't have to compromise your fundamental beliefs.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/18 06:09 PM
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You would terminate all parental rights to your child for this man??? You would carry a child for 9 months, birth it, raise it, mother it, and see no problem signing away all rights to your own flesh and blood? Dear, you're a woman not an incubator. You're a future mother not a vessel for this man. If you did this, you'd be nothing more than a surrogate.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/18 05:59 PM
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You say you're ok with not having children of your own, however you wrote this post detailing your desire to have children with this man. It's easy at 24 to think you'll be ok with not having any of your own, but once you hit your 40s and can't have children, will be you signing this same tune? I think not. I can tell your devotion to your family and desire to be a mother are strong, all the more reason you won't (and shouldn't) be ok with denying yourself the wonderful experience of motherhood.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/18 05:43 PM
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She said elsewhere that only his name would be on the papers, so they won't be sharing equal risk. You can compromise on what to eat for dinner, who does the laundry, what color to paint the rooms. But youcannot compromise on getting married or having kids. These are commonly called deal breakers for a reason. For there to be harmony, both partners have to be in agreement. A successful LTR is perfectly balanced, as all things should be. You ask why someone has to lose something, but OP has alrea…
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/18 05:23 PM
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So if the two of you decide adopt a child, legally the child will be only his and you're ok with that? Adopting a child, raising that child, and not legally being their mother. I agree with /u/PumpkinSub that he is very hesitant to add you to his life in any permanent way. How much of yourself are you going to sacrifice for a man that isn't your husband and has no desire to be?
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/18 04:28 PM
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"Empowered women"
/r/RedPillWives13/06/18 02:33 AM
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Submit to him in the bedroom and use that as motivation to get into shape. The same principles apply. Make an active effort to lose the weight. If you know your SO doesn't find you physically attractive, work on it!
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/18 12:50 AM
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For supplements, I take iron, a multivitamin, and a hair & nails supplement. Intake of iron, B12, and folate can do wonders for women since we're more likely to be anemic due to menstruation.
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/18 09:36 PM
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There's no reason for this man to be getting any more of your attention. Move on. Keep working on yourself, read some core RPW posts, and find a high-value man.
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/18 09:32 PM
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I love this question! I noticed I've been letting myself slip, so I recently reread the post about psychological femininity, and I'm working on further internalizing and appling the concepts. The biggest thing for me is letting go of the need to control everything. I also want to lose roughly 10 pounds, so we've been working out more and eating healthier. For reading, I recommend The Good Housekeeping Marriage Book, Surrendered Wife, and Fascinating Womanhood. You're religious, so I'll also reco…
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/18 01:33 PM
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Throw in his favorite beer, hot sauce, or other manly things he likes. That way it won't only be a hygiene basket. Also, you could pamper him as a second part of the gift. Take all this nice stuff, run a warm bath with epsom salts, give him a body scrub, then rub him down with a good lotion or give him a massage that ends with um, a little extra. Have some fun with it
/r/RedPillWives11/06/18 11:57 PM
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This one of the cases where there is no strict RPW way to do something. Find what works best for your relationship. If you feel it's most harmonious for you to do all the chores, then do so. Alternatively, if it's most harmonious to divide chores individually based on respective strengths, then do that. The most important part is that you discuss this with your Captain and come to an agreement that will not cause strife in the relationship. Be flexible and generous, and don't demand things out o…
/r/RedPillWives11/06/18 09:38 PM
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Yes, you should experience guys before you get married. Maybe try one or two in college, then your partner. Wait what? That's just the Carousel Lite. Listen, if you have one or two relationships that don't work out, that's perfectly normal and no one's going to fault you for that. But suggesting women "try" relationships is still purposefully a short-term relationship and casual dating. I'm not supportive of having "trial relationships" before marriage. Date seriously or don't date at all.
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/18 09:26 PM
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Hmm. Failure to groom and poor hygiene are often signs of some other mental health problems. Has there been any other personality or mood changes?
/r/RedPillWives11/06/18 02:31 PM
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Before you go looking for a relationship, you should work on yourself. The best way to attract high value man is to become a high value woman. There are no excuses or shortcuts here - you get out what you put it. Look Presentable. This is the first thing men notice. Your appearance communicates information about the level of care for yourself, health, class, and lifestyle. When you’re in a relationship, it is also a reflection of your man. If you want to portray the image of a well put together …
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/18 12:34 AM
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Online dating: okcupid, eharmony, and match are more geared towards traditional LTRs. If you're still in school, join clubs you're interested in. There's also church, volunteering, fitness groups, concerts, book clubs. The list is endless. In any of these situations, you'll still need to flex your girl game and properly vet men. If you're being sweet, positive, and receptive, you'll naturally meet people.
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/18 12:26 AM
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I actually found some good Facebook groups and pages for tradwives. The ones I'm in are all religious oriented, not sure if you're interested in that. Also, there's a small trad community on Tumblr of all places. On Youtube I like GirlDefined. I don't use Twitter, but I've heard good things about wife with a purpose. In general, I try to stick to groups/pages/people that are religiously trad, but that's not necessarily for everyone.
/r/RedPillWives08/06/18 02:54 PM
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You're missing the point. No one here is going to TRP or any other sub looking for a partner. The strategy and goals of RPW and male-centric RP subs are not the same. This type of relationship maybe ok over at TRP, but it's not a relationship RPW advocate for or strive towards. We're not interested in being plates.
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/18 01:37 PM
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That's a fair point. I kind of viewed it at a different angle, more "I'm not going to judge you for it but I'm also not going to sacrifice my comfort for it."
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/18 12:45 PM
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You're right in that a man doesn't necessarily need TRP to be red pill, but I think she means men from TRP sub. Most of these men want to spin plates, not enter a long term relationship and a very small minority wants to marry. This means these men aren't suitable for RPW who want an exclusive relationship and eventually marry. The OP dropped his other plates and made this girl the top plate. It's not an exclusive LTR, therefore not good enough for RPW. Commitment is important.
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/18 11:25 AM
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There is a difference between a boyfriend and a husband and it's not just a piece of paper, otherwise why would people get married? Boyfriends do not get husband privileges. There are differences in how much you will sacrifice for them as well as what you will put up with. The greater the commitment, the more you should be willing to do for him. Husband comes before everything else, within reason, and you are always yielding until one of you dies. That being said, I agree that you shouldn't judg…
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/18 11:11 AM
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Don't reply and get off of tinder. Female hookups is not what RPW is about.
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/18 12:43 AM
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If you have a lying problem, you should fix it. I have no experience with this so I'd suggest seeing a therapist to help you figure out why you lie and prevent future occurrences.
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/18 12:35 AM
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The second part is what I was worried about. He isn't respecting your boundaries, which is a problem regardless of how much or how little sex you are having. It also seems like to me that he is using male sex logic and applying that to you, which isn't working because you're not a guy. That is to say, he is doing what he thinks would work if he were in your shoes. However, he isn't doing any of this out of malice or selfishness. He's so attracted to you, he wants to do it multiple times a day! H…
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/18 05:46 PM
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I feel like her dilemma is far deeper than sex; she also mentions finances, the marriage timeline, and not knowing what she wants to do. I took her comments as she wants to have less PIV because it makes her sore, but she can always use lubes, gels, her hands or mouth, etc. to mitigate the soreness and satisfy her SO. Our bodies are pretty great and very adaptable. The problem is she feels like a sex slave because he gets more out of the relationship then brings up finances as another strong poi…
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/18 04:25 PM
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I was more referring to "it's not my technique." She has to be willing to put some effort in for it to work. Giving up altogether is not a solution to any problem. Although, I'm not accepting "it takes too long" as a valid reason for denying your SO bjs.
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/18 03:20 PM
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Plenty, I happen to like them. It usually doesn't take more 10-15 minutes. I understand there's a lot of variation between the man himself and the ability of the women, but that's still not an excuse for her to not try.
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/18 03:11 PM
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It always bothered me that they allowed male users from TRP or MGTOW to comment/post without any sort of vetting because "TRP mods founded the sub." Like you said, why would a man hang out in a women's sub? Even if a man has good advice, the male perspective is entirely different from that of women. A woman can't teach a man how to be dominant, likewise, a man can't teach a woman how to be submissive.
/r/RedPillWives07/06/18 02:58 PM
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She said that the pain is tolerable, not excruciating, and that he takes her out afterward to make up for it. "It's like he feels bad but can't help himself." I interpreted that two ways. The first is that she told him it hurts her and he cares enough to treat her afterward for something he knows is taxing on her body. Yet, he doesn't quite know the extent of her concerns otherwise she wouldn't have made this post. The second is that he simply doesn't care that it's hurting her. Note that I am n…
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/18 02:39 PM
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Tried that. It takes him 30-45 mins. And it's not my technique either. :/ Girl seriously. You have the internet at your disposal to help you learn all sorts of tips, tips, and techniques. Practice. Learn. Use a grapefruit if you feel so inclined. He won't object, in fact he'll probably appreciate it.
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/18 01:07 PM
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You're seeing this way too transactional. Sex is an activity both of you should enjoy. You're not having sex because the guy likes it, you're having sex because it is a fun, healthy activity that couples do; it's also a bonding experience. It is a shared act that is different from him buying you food when you're hungry. See the difference? One is "us" the other is "me."
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/18 01:03 PM
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Ask him to slow down and use lots of lube. There's other types of sexual activities you can do as well, i.e. blowjobs (don't say you're not good at them, that is not an excuse). Besides sex, what do you do for him? Sex is only one aspect of the relationship, it won't sustain your relationship once you are marriage. The only issue I see is that you told him it hurts you and he still asks for it. This can mean two things: you didn't explain your concerns well enough for him to understand or he sim…
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/18 01:00 PM
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I still participate there every now and then, but it's so obvious to me that they lost the core of what it means to be a red pill woman. I've seen posts about polyamory, accepting cheating in a young relationship, anti-marriage rants, telling women to sleep around if they want to, and more insidiously, men promoting poorly disguised male sexual strategy as female sexual strategy. It is exactly TRP Plate School™ They said the mods of RedPillWives were "too strict" but strictness and discipline pr…
/r/RedPillWives06/06/18 10:06 PM
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A controlling MIL + momma's boy is a huge red flag (in fact there's a whole sub about it) you need to seriously consider. Eventually, it will start creeping into your own relationship. She could make it her job to decide what engagement ring to buy, where you should live, the menu for the wedding, the color of the nursery, where to give birth. And I haven't even touched the crazy stuff. Don't underestimate the influence of a manipulative MIL on your relationship. You'll need to set boundaries, a…
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/18 12:34 PM
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I'm not sure about this. If he doesn't want kids, he doesn't want kids. End of story. He's already stated his reasons, she doesn't need to dig any further to find justifications. And he probably won't appreciate her nagging him about a decision he's "pretty set on." Men can reach conclusions without women trying to insert their own reasonings and logic.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/18 09:12 PM
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Sure, but not particularly relevant in this case. OP wants children and that cannot be compromised. Him not wanting to have children is completely incompatible with her life goals.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/18 08:53 PM
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Related question, I have a friend that I've tried to help in the past, to no avail. Now she says she's willing to listen to advice, so what's the best way for me to introduce her to this sub?
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/18 11:26 AM
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Very true. Women are pretty adaptable too, I mean we give birth to little people and continue marching on. I think her issue is that she's slightly out of practice and is getting sore without much time for recovery, so I can see how that may lead to problems if it's persistent. Personally, I'm surprised no one has said "just give him a BJ" yet.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/18 09:33 PM
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Those professionals do get sore as well. You run a marathon, you get sore. Even still, that's a self-selected group; they wouldn't be in their lines of work if they couldn't handle doing it all day. Just because they can, doesn't necessarily mean she can.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/18 11:01 AM
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Physical stamina aside, soreness can become an issue especially if you're doing it multiple times a day several days in a row.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/18 03:05 AM
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Reading between the lines a little bit, I think you're blaming men for your behavior. Men don't think "ah science she's too smart for me, stay away." They will, however, be turned off if you think you're smarter than them and use it to belittle or intimidate them. Intelligence is good; being prideful/argumentative is not attractive. Men want their women to be partners, not competitors. Read this post. When I told my SO I was going to school for science his response was "nice." I never brought my…
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/18 12:57 PM
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Excellent post! And I love that you concluded it with Proverbs 31.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/18 02:24 AM
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Her post history is a little worrying, to be honest.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/18 11:24 AM
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I missed the part where she doesn't want kids for 5 years. You're right, that changes the dynamic.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/18 11:55 AM
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SAHWs do much more than 2 hours of work. It's a common misconception that they do nothing at home. I'm a fan of the trial period u/Ok_Philosopher suggested below
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/18 11:38 AM
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Congratulations! Babies are a wonderful blessing! We're not married yet, but when I spend time at his house, my SO loves when I bake, decorate, and have lovely scents in the house so it feels and smells amazing. But homemaking is more than just the home. I love this post about making a binder to keep the household organized and manageable. Being organized before the baby arrives, will help make a smoother transition into parenthood; a little structure goes a long way. I would also work on things…
/r/RedPillWives06/05/18 02:24 PM
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Barely so. And Asians tend to be healthier at lower weights than Westerners anyway.
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/18 02:48 AM
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Her BMI was 23.9. I still recommended that she lose weight. What I meant that Asians have a lower threshold for overweight than Americans. Example, at a BMI of 20 I'd be chubby in Asia but most Americans would say I'm "skinny"
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/18 07:08 PM
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Ok, so you're just on the line. I think you should aim for a BMI 18-20.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/18 02:24 PM
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What's your BMI? Overweight for Asians could still mean skinny for Americans.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/18 01:58 AM
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the 1% can have whoever they want, and they by and large choose stereotypically beautiful women, because they are the most valuable partners in men's eyes. That is not widely the case. Like OP said, there's a lot of variation in the types of women the 1% choose because there's a lot of variation in the 1%. Men who come from old money typically want women with similar breeds: women who went to the same private schools, have college degrees, live the same lifestyle they do and will raise their chi…
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/18 10:38 AM
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Feminists have taught a generation of women that femininity is bad and being a housewife is inferior to having a career. Ironically a movement centered around giving women the choice to live their lives as they please doesn't like when women choose to be traditional. There's a thriving trad community on Tumblr if you're interested.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/18 10:57 AM
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Here are some of their videos: Advice for Single Girls on How to Prepare for Marriage, 8 Reasons We Aren't Feminists, Praying for Your Future Husband These are a bit more controversial : How to Wear Makeup in a God Honoring Way, Why Christian Girls Should be Beautiful but not Seductive, Project Modesty
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/18 10:17 PM
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I love them! I'm religious so I find their videos extremely helpful in my spiritual and feminine journey. I can see why from a secular perspective someone wouldn't relate since their content is heavily focused on biblical womanhood and biblical submission. Still, they do align with red pill beliefs. They talk a lot about embracing your feminity, not being promiscuous, resisting feminism, modesty, building strong relationships, supporting your significant other, and lots of dating/marriage advice…
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/18 09:56 PM
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