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| 3 | How to get up to THEIR place?It can depend on the girl tbh and how confident she is as a person. Whatever the girl is like though, I'd avoid directly asking to go back "her place" or "my place" as it's just too blunt in most cases. Sometimes saying literally anything other than that can work. I once walked a girl back to hers, but because earlier in the night I'd suggested that we "go back to her place for drinks", she was like "oh no I'm not into hooking up". We stopped in a park near her place and started heavily making o… | /r/seduction | 05/10/22 12:05 PM |
| 2 | How to pick up enviromental activist chicksGenuinely interested on these sort of girls' blueprint. I'm not really political at all but a lot of girls in my area, i.e. student types, seem to be very into social justice and enviornmental issues. Would be cool to hear peoples experiences on this. | /r/seduction | 16/09/22 12:20 PM |
| 13 | Any recommended books to destroy neediness?In terms of inner game, I think it's hard to actually re-wire your brain to no longer become needy and emotionally invested. I'm kind of similar in that I'm a more 'romantic' type and I enjoy the romantic side of things. What I'd recommend is to accept the fact that you are more needy/emotional, don't fight it, but always assess your behaviour and communication to make sure that that does not come across, particularly in the early stages. Look into what dating coaches and people that teach game … | /r/seduction | 12/09/22 12:44 PM |
| 1 | FWB: How to maintain it / General AdviceCool thanks:) | /r/seduction | 15/08/22 04:01 PM |
| 1 | FWB: How to maintain it / General AdviceThanks dude👍 | /r/seduction | 15/08/22 04:01 PM |
| 1 | FWB: How to maintain it / General AdviceIt suits me for the moment, my career plans and where I'm living in the country may change soon, she's aware of this and we like hanging out; I've not had a FWB before so I'm curious to see how it goes. | /r/seduction | 15/08/22 10:09 AM |
| 7 | Guys shit test you too!The motivation for banter is fun, the motivation for a shit test is to test - or, at worst, to slight someone to raise your own social capital, if you’re that type of passive-aggressive person. | /r/seduction | 15/07/22 03:08 PM |
| 38 | Guys shit test you too!Nah I think there’s a subtle but clear difference between banter and shit tests. If I had to define that on the spot, I’d say banter is mostly done for fun/entertainment of the group and the guy dishing it out, yes at the expense of the ‘new guy’, but even if it’s harsh, banter can also invite the ‘new guy’ into the fold in a way, by laughing along and not being so up-tight. Whereas I think shit tests are less fun in nature, tend to come from a more cynical place, and are almost an affront to th… | /r/seduction | 15/07/22 02:12 PM |
| 242 | Guys shit test you too!It tends to be weak/passive aggressive men that actually shit-test other men imo. Bantering is one thing, but giving passive aggressive, back handed compliments e.g., or shit tests is another. It always used to catch me off guard when I was younger, and I'd only really notice what happened after the interaction. I think this is because I'm a pretty straight-up guy, not weak or passive aggressive, always up for a laugh or a scrap or whatever; so it didn't just occur to me that other guys would be… | /r/seduction | 15/07/22 01:00 PM |
| 1 | Texting: When To Send Follow Up Text After Date?Thanks, just to say: this worked. I didn’t text her again on the next day then that evening she texted me. Cheers | /r/seduction | 09/07/22 10:52 AM |
| 0 | Texting: When To Send Follow Up Text After Date?Thanks:) | /r/seduction | 08/07/22 04:43 PM |
| 1 | Texting: When To Send Follow Up Text After Date?Thanks for this, I appreciate the advice man. | /r/seduction | 08/07/22 03:34 PM |
| 1 | Texting: When To Send Follow Up Text After Date?Fair, for context we were texting every day this week leading up to the date, and had long 4hr evening drinks date. Would this change that or would you still say leave it a couple days? Thanks | /r/seduction | 08/07/22 03:16 PM |
| 1 | ThoughtsJust going back to negs - I'm not an expert but I thought negging was quite outdated now. I think what's encouraged now is for guys to call out/tease a girl when she does or says something silly or weird, but in a humorous, way as you would with a guy friend. This leads to a much more fun and genuine interaction than just giving out clunky negs. | /r/seduction | 07/07/22 11:14 AM |
| 1 | Best Day of the Week For Evening Drinks?Makes sense man, thanks. | /r/seduction | 27/06/22 04:21 PM |
| 1 | Best Day of the Week For Evening Drinks?Thanks for the info. I think I’ll probs go for Thurs tbh as my city has a lot of students so places could be a bit hectic on a Fri night. If we go somewhere too dead we can always move as you say. Thanks | /r/seduction | 27/06/22 02:56 PM |
| 1 | Best Day of the Week For Evening Drinks?Cheers, this makes sense, my only concern now is whether or not places onFriday might be too busy? Thursday may have more of a chilled atmosphere that's better for a first date. What do you think? | /r/seduction | 27/06/22 12:29 PM |
| 1 | Best Day of the Week For Evening Drinks?Haha thanks:) | /r/seduction | 27/06/22 12:28 PM |
| 2 | Advice On How To Spend The Night Together?Thanks man, this makes sense. So as well as building on intimacy I also need to create more trust/comfort too(?) | /r/seduction | 19/05/22 11:13 PM |
| 1 | Advice On How To Spend The Night Together?Haha, let’s hope so! | /r/seduction | 19/05/22 05:55 PM |
| 0 | Advice On How To Spend The Night Together?Haha, definitely to be avoided. | /r/seduction | 19/05/22 05:53 PM |
| 1 | Advice On How To Spend The Night Together?Very good point, last thing I want to do is make her feel uncomfortable. I just feel like she does want me there, and to do what I can to facilitate that happening? But yeah certainly don’t want to push things. Cheers | /r/seduction | 19/05/22 05:32 PM |
| 1 | Advice On How To Spend The Night Together?Sex but also logistics, it’s far away from where I live I’d rather just stay over tbf than go on a long drive back. Cheers for the advice! | /r/seduction | 19/05/22 05:30 PM |
| 1 | Advice On How To Spend The Night Together?Haha, cheers for the advice:) | /r/seduction | 19/05/22 01:09 PM |
| 1 | Advice On How To Spend The Night Together?Thanks for the advice, this makes sense. She’s quite conservative and also confident/hot so we’ll see:) Cheers. | /r/seduction | 19/05/22 01:09 PM |
| 1 | I want to bring a board game to make my coffee dates better. What are some good games?Don’t bring a board game; if you have to bring anything along then maybe cards? It’s a bit more casual. Still though I’d leave games/cards out for dates. | /r/seduction | 09/05/22 10:00 AM |
| 1 | Social Media/Showing InterestYeah, agreed. Good point. | /r/seduction | 05/05/22 02:05 PM |
| 0 | Social Media/Showing InterestThanks for the info, that makes sense. She has replied to my story in the past but as you say the best way to compliment virtually is if she sends me a pic/vid to my dms then I'll say something like "looking cute btw"(?) | /r/seduction | 05/05/22 12:18 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts On 'Opening Up'Got you, thanks. Much appreciated. | /r/seduction | 04/05/22 03:28 PM |
| 2 | Thoughts On 'Opening Up'Thanks for the insight, and yeah she talks a hell of a lot, often long voice notes too. My worry was that if I'm too closed/distant I may loose her interest? Though it's still early on as you say. Thanks. | /r/seduction | 04/05/22 03:14 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts On 'Opening Up'That's awesome advice, I really get where you're coming from. I definitely did loose frame a bit here, saying something like "yeah other people have mentioned that to me before, all I can say is that I'm working on it as I don't just want superficial relationships". So yeah hopefully it wasn't fatal but I'll keep your advice in mind for the future. Thanks. | /r/seduction | 04/05/22 03:11 PM |
| 1 | Should I text her? Or wait? Weird situation..Thanks for the advice man. It sucks as I thought we had potential, but I’ll follow your advice here. | /r/seduction | 03/05/22 10:29 AM |
| 1 | Should I text her? Or wait? Weird situation..Thanks for your reply, this seems like really sensible advice. One thing I didn't mention in my original post was that she mentioned having a minor operation coming up this week, would it be worth sending short message at the end of the week to say hope things went well etc? Or just fully leave it for now? Cheers. | /r/seduction | 03/05/22 09:50 AM |
| 1 | is it possible to adopt a pet for a limited bit of time to help with online dating?Taking on a dog is a big commitment, even if you only agree to look after the dog for a few months. Are you prepared to walk it every day? Are you going to be at home enough so it doesn't get lonely? What about how the dog feels btw, isn't it a bit cruel to let it get attached to a new owner and home just for you to give it up once you've got enough selfies? This is a bad idea imo. | /r/seduction | 05/04/22 08:22 AM |
| 5 | If she ever ignored your message or always replies late, get the out of there and move on!Yeah I suppose so, maybe don't rule her out completely, just keep meeting new girls and you've got nothing to loose by keeping communication open with her. | /r/seduction | 02/04/22 10:01 PM |
| 18 | If she ever ignored your message or always replies late, get the out of there and move on!Generally true but not always, some girls just don't respond that quick. Before I had a first date with this girl she would take 1-3 days to reply, and suggest phone calls and leave long voice notes. Since our date, she's said that she'd like a 2nd and has suggested we have phone chats in the meantime. Sometimes she takes a couple of days to get back, sometime's she'll double text me if I'm a bit slow getting back to her. She's even sent me video messages recently and always fully replies to wha… | /r/seduction | 02/04/22 08:38 PM |
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