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| 549 | Blood in the water: a custom made tactic | STRATEGY | AutomaticNopeMachine | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 07:08 PM |
| 47 | Stop giving this site money | REMINDER 👑 | AutomaticNopeMachine | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 07:36 AM |
| 1 | “They know” applies to many things | STRATEGY | AutomaticNopeMachine | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/21 06:57 PM |
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| 101 | The text that started it all … this is when I learned what gaslighting was …Haha you ladies crack me up | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 11:34 AM |
| 39 | Double Standard with Long DistanceIt’s not that you get nothing in return for relocating your life for his sake — you actually get resentment. Especially if you manage to recreate a social circle and enjoy your life in the new location. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 08:56 AM |
| 1 | Red flag - a man who uses spirituality to avoid relationships with actual consequences. Link to post picture captions.Not a ramble at all! Thank you :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 10:24 PM |
| 3 | Red flag - a man who uses spirituality to avoid relationships with actual consequences. Link to post picture captions.That’s so smart. Do you have any resources you recommend? I think my therapist doesn’t do somatic but I’d see if it’s a good fit for my situation as well | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 10:16 PM |
| 1 | Red flag - a man who uses spirituality to avoid relationships with actual consequences. Link to post picture captions.Thank you :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 10:03 PM |
| 2 | Red flag - a man who uses spirituality to avoid relationships with actual consequences. Link to post picture captions.Makes total sense. That’s my therapy-approach too. I guess that dbt/cbt is really a different kind of thing, less for re-embracing intuition and more for coping with anxiety responses? So it does make sense to prefer a different approach for cptsd/ptsd. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 10:02 PM |
| 4 | Red flag - a man who uses spirituality to avoid relationships with actual consequences. Link to post picture captions.Thank you for this informative response! And on a side note — I am so so happy to see a trauma work psychologist who’s also fds minded. You are going to be (and probably are already) a life saver for your clients. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 09:59 PM |
| 6 | Red flag - a man who uses spirituality to avoid relationships with actual consequences. Link to post picture captions.Woha I thought it is recommended for ptsd? Do you know why not? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 06:54 PM |
| 4 | Avoid throuples, open relationships, ENM, etc. These people are not your friends. They are definitely not your partners. And they will throw you to the curb the moment things get sticky. They’re just using your body.💖 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/21 09:18 PM |
| 39 | Avoid throuples, open relationships, ENM, etc. These people are not your friends. They are definitely not your partners. And they will throw you to the curb the moment things get sticky. They’re just using your body.Some misogyny right there, blaming the other woman while the man is portrayed as dumb innocent controlled-by-dick. Did the sister even ask if she knew he was married before bashing her via texts? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/21 09:12 PM |
| 22 | Avoid throuples, open relationships, ENM, etc. These people are not your friends. They are definitely not your partners. And they will throw you to the curb the moment things get sticky. They’re just using your body.I’m so sorry for what you went through. I’ve read your longer comment up here. This is hell on earth, soul shattering. Your words reminded me of my abusive relationship with a serial cheater. The blood race, the smirks. Only it’s harder when poly because it’s cheating combined with gaslighting. I wish you the best, takes time to heal but you sound incredibly strong | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/21 09:10 PM |
| 27 | My best friend's BF dumped her on the day she got a PROMOTION!Sounds like a narc. Causing havoc the night before your first day plus keeping you up so you’ll fail. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/21 07:27 AM |
| 43 | Targeting👏Young👏Girls👏Is👏Wrong👏A great evidence is that it’s safer to give birth at 25+ than 24, 22, 18 or whatever illegal age men fantasize about. Your body isn’t strong enough to carry children at 16, it’s grooming disguised as biology. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/21 07:11 PM |
| 6 | Emotional Memory Management: Positive Control Over Your MemoryGotcha, thanks for the clarification! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/21 07:04 PM |
| 198 | As she should !Well, when you associate slurs and violence with orgasm x60 times a month you obviously can’t fathom why women find this unacceptable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/21 07:03 PM |
| 7 | Emotional Memory Management: Positive Control Over Your MemoryI love it. But do you add the additional funny-sentence into the memory (as if you told it to, say, someone who was next to you on the traumatic event), or do you add it as if you are now re-telling the story to a friend and add a funny comment in the present moment? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/21 06:40 PM |
| 19 | A saying from my Shanghainese mother - raise girls rich, raise boys poorLove your story! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/21 01:43 PM |
| 26 | VICE (🤢) News: Inside the Hunt for the Porn King — “every single day, the equivalent of half of Netflix’s entire library is uploaded onto PH” — there never seems to be any accountability!!!Small dick energy right there | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/21 12:56 PM |
| 299 | A saying from my Shanghainese mother - raise girls rich, raise boys poorLet me just add that it’s better if the girls see their mother make the financial decisions and not their father. Growing up in a comfortable mindset - managed by a man - is still giving the message of dependency on males’ goodwill to respect women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/21 12:54 PM |
| 46 | Need a "Feminism is for Women" flair and a "Fu*k his feelings" flairTW needed 💔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/21 05:38 AM |
| 7 | How to raise boys with HVM values and traits?Yes! The old art of cutting off the bad influence friend or friends even. Until 18, it’s on the parents to vet their child’s friends and keep distance from the ill mannered and misogynistic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/21 05:32 AM |
| 44 | How to raise boys with HVM values and traits?There was a great discussion on this during the episode with Prof. Gail Dines at the fds podcast. She talked about raising her sons into being feminist-allies. It was very reassuring. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 08:00 PM |
| 2 | A minor peeve but still annoyingWhat’s up with scrotes and their inability to undergo anything OiLy on their skin? Are they so used to fapping their bare, chapped and bleeding d*cks? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 07:55 PM |
| 5 | A minor peeve but still annoyingHere’s your tarot spread 🔮 He won’t use any of the expansive products his gf will buy him. He’ll resent her for momming him, they’ll break up. In a few years she’ll encounter him on the street looking like a fine 45+ year old aged-like-milk while on his early 30s. She’ll laugh her way away from there looking 10 years younger. Ask me how I know Bonus: he’ll then text her to CaTch Up LoNg TiMe.🥛💀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 07:46 PM |
| 55 | Dating & Socioeconomic StatusI dated someone of a different background than mine and because of that I dismissed red flags thinking they were indicators of a different upbringing. But nope, he was simply a douche. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 05:29 PM |
| 5 | Body Positivity - Need HelpAre you in contact with anyone who’s a bad influence, negging or subtly negging? If so, grey rock or better block and delete them. That includes deleting social media. If your situation allows, therapy is key for body issues. Other than that, I’ve found that engaging in consuming esthetics for myself - going to museums, the cinema and looking at good looking men - is healing as it shifts my perspective from the mirror to the outer world. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 05:21 PM |
| 60 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 19 - Overcoming A Defeatist Mindset: Femcels, WGTOWs, & Radfems + Explosive DiarrheaNot only that good looking women are abused regardless of looks, often times they undergo abuse because of it. Negging can and will escalate to emotional abuse with a scrote. I agree that beauty is capital in society (& in nature) but just like wealthy women are often targeted because of their money, same goes for looks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 01:16 PM |
| 7 | Seeking advice on serious situation with teen daughterThat was my first thought too | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 09:49 AM |
| 12 | How do you do it?Sure thing. I think the hopelessness was always there, it’s part of the grooming+ conditioning, we are raised to feel valueless. But once you get aware of the social conditioning then the hopelessness gets recognized. It’s very depressing at the beginning but then it gets better when you realize it’s only a social standard. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 09:17 PM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Check-inI thought it was like the reddit algorithm trying to keep me at the home tab | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 02:40 PM |
| 86 | How do you do it?I think it’s like a normal curve in which, at the beginning (for many, pickme days), you are blissfuly ignorant of male depravity. After reading fds you get more aware and therefore hyper vigilant of dangers. I guess that in the past you’d probably brush this ex coworker off as annoying or even nice but now you see through the creeps of it. Then there’s a max point where it’s very depressing to be at, but after a while the curve gets down again and fear/sadness goes down as you learn how to prot… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 02:27 PM |
| 11 | Weekly FDS Check-inLadies, any of you know why some posts are only visible on my reddit feed/home tab and do not appear on the sub itself? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 02:19 PM |
| 53 | The open demand for ‘feminine, submissive’ women by LVM is cringy as hellYes, submissive means take zero credit for the 100% labor made to uplift the male. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 09:26 AM |
| 6 | Ikea knows what's upGood idea! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 11:34 PM |
| 36 | Are success stories on marrying a HVM?I know about 4-5 HVM/HVW couples, a few of whom I know my entire adult life. They are totally out there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 07:51 PM |
| 2 | Blood in the water: a custom made tacticSure ! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 07:49 PM |
| 276 | Ikea knows what's upThis reminds me of a nice vetting strategy: the Ikea stroll. This is more for long term dating situations, and only of it’s NOT a pickme thing to do where you live (not a ring hint). Then go to ikea or any other such store and observe: • Most scrotes will be using it for future faking. (“Our kids will love that car shaped bed haha” when you’re not even talking of engagement). • Is he implying you’ll cook for him in the display kitchen or hinting any other kind of wife performance? • Some furnitu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 07:38 PM |
| 322 | So the LVM in my city are pulling this now. Thoughts on how to respond ladies? It was that “let me get the first you get the second” line. She declined a 2d date and got this in reply.Ask him to venmo for your makeup, perfume, lotions, haircare, haircut, esthetician bill, wax, wax-pain fee, eyebrows, lashes, manicure, pedicure, bath products, dry cleaning for delicate clothing, shoe and clothing depreciation, physiotherapist for wearing heels, birth control, birth control bloodwork, birth control side effects, self protection class, pepper spray & time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 12:31 PM |
| 84 | This is nothing but truth.Did you work with that salesperson before? Why does he think that you should “trust” a stranger with your business’ private details? The stupidity | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 12:01 PM |
| 254 | “You’re a woman though”Was it porn that fucked up their brain, or even before porn it was like that? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 11:51 AM |
| 2 | FDS & Anxiety / NeurodivergenceI LOVE this suggestion | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/21 10:24 PM |
| 80 | What are some tell-tale/subtle signs of a LV/NV man “warming” you up to physical abuse?Harming furniture or any other object, and road rage when you’re in the car. Both are examples given in Bancroft’s WDHDT. Also: porn consumption. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/21 04:16 PM |
| 74 | FDS & Anxiety / NeurodivergenceFor me anxiety comes more from the stomach or chest area along with a more racing heartbeat and a harsh inner voice that runs through the most awful scenarios. It feels…critical, as if I’m about to die. Intuition feels like a quiet, reserved voice coming from the back of my head. My physical body feels the same as before, it’s just a calm and brief realization. A moment of “a ha”, like when you’re reminded of something. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/21 04:06 PM |
| 14 | Proper posture is sexy!This is a beautiful interpretation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/21 09:05 AM |
| 23 | List of Boundarieshttps://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/nl1ih4/male_shit_tests_and_the_pickme_radar/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 03:47 PM |
| 20 | List of BoundariesLuckily it’s a given here in this community. Thank you so much for sharing that list. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 03:46 PM |
| 69 | List of Boundaries• I refuse to date anyone who watches pornography, videotaped or in photos. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 03:42 PM |
| 70 | Rejected a man due to his height - family are giving me second thoughts +gaslighting me!Your gut instincts are absolutely right. I dated a short man and his insecurities sky rocketed with every day that passed. So he negged & cheated. Dating ugly and/or short men is putting your self esteem and physical being at risk because they project hard. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 12:54 PM |
| 43 | How all of the "Chad" stuff really soundsSo well said | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 08:45 AM |
| 1 | Advice?Congrats on your level up journey! Read the handbook and posts, in a few months you’ll rewire your brain to see men the way they truly are. It’s a harsh awakening but extremely liberating, the most liberation I’ve had my entire life. Blocking him is highly recommended. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/21 11:26 PM |
| 52 | Write down your boundariesAlso, put that list in a place a future boyfriend will not have access to. Males snoop | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/21 07:03 PM |
| 38 | I am so triggered by cardboard cutouts if the grooms face at my former students bridal showerGoes to show that even when someone seemingly has it all they can lack important things like..not putting their self worth on men. High risk game | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/21 05:11 PM |
| 35 | men are self-aware, when they truly want to help, they give FDS type of advice. HVM agree with FDS, only the misogynists whose tricks are exposed by this sub slander it.100% equally shitty options | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/21 02:49 PM |
| 442 | men are self-aware, when they truly want to help, they give FDS type of advice. HVM agree with FDS, only the misogynists whose tricks are exposed by this sub slander it.He’s probably lying (the boyfriend). Men don’t date women they don’t consider attractive. It’s more likely that he liked her looks and style etc, but now he’s moving goalposts so she’ll be on her tiptoes to satisfy him & won’t notice his growing pot belly | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/21 12:04 PM |
| 35 | ALL men benefit from the actions of bad, violent and repugnant men.Spot on. They’re also hypocrites because they see themselves in Ansari. A somewhat pathetic, not-good-looking man takes a pub date to his apartment and pathetically pushing her for sexual acts. Not the hollywood mogul who rapes in hotels. They defend the men who are like them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/21 05:27 AM |
| 284 | Let's give it up for the bare minimum!“Wiping 🥰🥰🥰” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 02:33 PM |
| 77 | Mini rant about needing to let strange men into my placeThere are cctv cameras you can buy online and just tape into your ceiling or put them like a webcam on your desk. Cameras are intimidating. You can also buy a real camera (they are very affordable) and take it off after construction work is done. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 02:24 PM |
| 42 | 33 women by 21. These are the men who will dunk on promiscuous women for a body count they were traumatized into and the sexual encounters they did not enjoy but endure. His poor gf, you can't turn a hoe into a husband (he's also active on cheater/porn subreddits lol)Oh lord I read it as in his 18th birthday | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 07:43 AM |
| 28 | Just for laughs ladies.I have those all the time, I think it’s our body/mind’s need for rest. Like those sick days we faked as children in school, they were really needed i think🪴 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/21 07:01 PM |
| 42 | Just for laughs ladies.Hahaha true | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/21 01:23 PM |
| 456 | Just for laughs ladies.Skilled time management: 11:00 AM - rise 11:20 AM - breakfast: cheetos 12:00 PM - fap 12:06 PM - finish 12:10 PM - eat cheeto left in beard 13:00 PM - scroll SM & OLD 18:00 PM to bedtime - gaming | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/21 12:46 PM |
| 153 | I salute this woman who built a fence. Good job lady.99.9/100 times no such thing as platonic male friend unless he isn’t sexually attracted to women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/21 12:37 PM |
| 98 | Ladies what is something men do that you thought was a green flag but is actually men being trash as usual?Being extremely kind to other men who he actually disliked. E.g, acting very polite towards a hostile colleague, protecting a friend who did vile things to his gf. The last example is self explanatory but the first one is a more special kind of red flag; he was so AFRAID of other men because he internalized the patriarchy to his core. He respected males and males only, and that manifested in being their doormat and taking out his rage on women instead. He was also a kissass. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/21 11:33 AM |
| 1 | Lingerie is NOT a giftGreat one 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/21 10:38 AM |
| 13 | Covert NarcissistWe have very similar stories. My hardest lesson learned was that the only way out is through. The feelings you let yourself feel, including the worst ones, will pass and get a little better with every time you let them be. You are grieving your past self (who died) and your past love (who died), either dead in a rapid crash or agonizing process, this is still death. You will not be as strong as you used to and that’s okay. Don’t put high expectations on yourself and just live it as one little ta… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/21 04:26 AM |
| 16 | For episode 20 of the podcast, we will be doing an extra-special (and extra long) listener feedback episode! Comment below with your questions/feedback for a chance to be discussed on the podcast!Covid restrictions are being lifted in some places and the male gaze is once again, everywhere. I would love to hear your ideas on how to reject this from the inside out. Literally to hear your voices speaking up against that male, negging voice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 09:05 PM |
| 66 | Posting Low Effort Memes and Screenshots makes you a LVW [Controversial]Highly needed emphasis on the fact that said screenshots are usually of DV victims, clearly trauma bonded. I closed my old fds account (“disciple”, mind you 🧚🏻) because I felt low key accused of being pickme for formerly tolerating a narc DV monster, out of sheer survival instincts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/21 08:56 PM |
| 5 | female health issue is not new to all, everyone know about the problems faced by women specially regarding the health and menstruation. not only men but females are not well educated about these issuesThis isn’t women’s health issues it’s simply…health issues. Men aren’t the default body and from now on I’m referring to either health issues or male health issues. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/21 01:48 PM |
| 6 | SINGLE FATHER REFUSES TO DATE A SINGLE MOTHER! HE FEELS HE'S TOO GOOD FOR A WOMAN WITH KIDS!For some men the moon is their only chance on having seemingly working penises | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/21 01:45 PM |
| 55 | I am chillin.Great anecdote. Maybe it shows how being coupled is an outcome of socialization rather than an inherent need for us | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/21 01:25 PM |
| 38 | I will NEVER understand how any woman puts up with this behavior 🤢🤮CoMmUniCaTe | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/21 02:09 PM |
| 9 | Why exes circle back aka “the phenomena of the circling penises”100% | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/21 08:51 PM |
| 18 | Gaslighting men on tiktok love to go around making up “facts”. We all know men in almost all age groups are the ones most likely to cheat.Yea plenty of studies are done on “soul ties”. Sure | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/21 04:36 PM |
| 1 | just.... wow???I’m glad she refers to that as cheating. Other than that, this is why women shouldn’t date until their frontal cortex is fully developed (25+). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/21 04:29 PM |
| 80 | Why exes circle back aka “the phenomena of the circling penises”“Imaginary friend” is spot on. An ex I randomly met a year and a half after narcissistic discard was a surprised pickachu when he saw how put together I looked and heard where I was working (nothing crazy just a normal career step). He genuinely thought I ceased to exist after the breakup, waiting in the exact same room in the exact same clothes for his pp to come take me back | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/21 02:44 PM |
| 138 | Young celebrities, their boyfriends, age gap relationships, and the cultural impactPower dynamics can be emotional or physical without money issues. Wealthy women get abused too. And anyway the age gap provides the male more money/investments/freedom. Billie or Olivia aren’t more mature - becoming famous young is about being run by extremely talented agents/parents. It’s even not necessarily about 8 hr practice/day. If anything they might be less mature than women their age because they’re isolated from real people by the age of 14. Imagine growing up thinking that people only… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/21 09:21 PM |
| 46 | Mental Gymnastics and Ignorance at their best!I don’t engage in questions about the table yet I will never call myself a table, women are not objects | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/21 05:26 AM |
| 33 | Dad calls out sexualization of young girlsI loved having pockets in my clothing as a child, collecting little stones and “maps” I drew and all dry leaves in them. Then came the age of 8, 9, 10 and I started wearing what all the girls were wearing and no more leaves or stones for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/21 05:28 PM |
| 197 | The Porn Paradox | Megan Johnson | TEDxGreenvilleI see more women waking up from pickmeism due to how awful porn make them feel. We want healthy sex with healthy bodies&souls. Darwinism. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/06/21 04:37 PM |
| 89 | I'm ✨embarrassed ✨He also never goes out for a run after dark or take the metro after 10pm. So equal 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/21 07:03 PM |
| 120 | I'm ✨embarrassed ✨They also split waxing! She’s doing the right leg and he’s doing his left leg and armpit and b*lls 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/21 06:30 PM |
| 43 | ‘Make sure they are invested in you first’ erm I’m sorry but as women our default is skin in the gameWe all laugh at his warped idea of ‘don’t spend on her, spend on my patreon!!’ but this is a prime example of many economic forces relying on men being selfish and stupid investors in order to make them stuck in this loop of being zero value > buying more toxic masculinity merch to feel like mEn. From barley useful sports equipment to OF subscriptions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/21 05:05 AM |
| 59 | ‘Make sure they are invested in you first’ erm I’m sorry but as women our default is skin in the gameLove it when jerking creatures who break their dicks at by the age of 25 call themselves stoic rational pillars of strength. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/21 04:57 AM |
| 3 | Found an old coloring book from my childhood in the 90s. Even then I had my priorities straight.Haha I loved this coloring book! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/21 10:51 AM |
| 17 | I have no words for this...Some go to therapy only so they could enable themselves into jerking even harder into socks | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/21 02:45 PM |
| 21 | Worried about coworkerAlso, the key with low self esteem is to enhance her sense of self and as a former boss you are in a prime position to do that. Don’t emphasize on how she is doing mistakes but on the fact that she can do better, can change her situation again, have the ability to change jobs and do amazing things just like she did with her former team. Empowering is more efficient than warning, esp because she was left broken by that ex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/21 06:20 AM |
| 30 | Worried about coworkerI have a different take than everyone. Right now he’s love bombing her, waiting for her to move in & take as many mommy bangmaid jobs he can load on her. I say wait for the lovebombing to be over, and only then meet her for coffee. Talking to her during love bomb will not work, it’s like speaking to an addict when their life is still put together. She will just ignore you / he will make her cut you off for good. Ffs, she is choosing a 4 mo date over her cats. So, wait for his mask to slip and on… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/21 06:05 AM |
| 34 | Screening video chat…for a walk.So much the cam girl! Spot on | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/21 05:35 AM |
| 382 | "He never seemed to mention that he could only live those dreams because his wife was at home with the kids." I don't think many men even consider the perspective of their wives giving up their own life for them. ('Humans of New York' if you want to read the rest)An ex of mine (extremely narcissistic) had a few couples like this in his family and also a close friend, and he glamorized these men. He expected me to do the same: cook, clean, pay half, look good on his work events, support him while he’s living his dream life. NOPE. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/21 07:30 PM |
| 7 | Never stop getting the bag Queens! 💰Good for you for planning your escape! Please inform him about the divorce after you have a place of your own & don’t be alone with him when you announce this, because cheaters are very often abusers who can become violent when you file or separate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 01:19 PM |
| 31 | You weren’t cheated on, HE IS A CHEATERGross enabling friends | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 07:14 AM |
| 136 | Blood in the water: a custom made tacticSo pathetic | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 11:17 PM |
| 32 | Blood in the water: a custom made tacticOriginal idea isn’t mine, I just added the tip to use it with something in the theme of your real insecurity so you won’t miss the negging like I have. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 11:16 PM |
| 16 | Blood in the water: a custom made tacticJust edited :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 11:15 PM |
| 52 | Blood in the water: a custom made tacticNegging on first dates (unless extremely calculated) is indeed dumb and will get anyone blocked. Negging becomes problematic in a relationship when you gaslight yourself to tolerate his escalating treatment / when you actually believe the negging and the male gets to abuse and lock down a woman who forgets her worth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 11:14 PM |
| 45 | Blood in the water: a custom made tacticHealthy instincts! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 11:12 PM |
| 32 | Blood in the water: a custom made tacticClassic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 11:11 PM |
| 71 | Blood in the water: a custom made tacticThis is true, and this is why it’s a drop and not drops. Pick one thing, say your ankles, and mention it casually twice. Men remember these things, no need to mention it anymore. Imo, this minimal lie is okay even if later you are married and he’s the love of your life. Our security comes first, and faking a little ankle hating issue is okay when risking getting into abusive relationships. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 11:10 PM |
| 27 | Blood in the water: a custom made tacticEdit: just did :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 10:31 PM |
| 161 | Blood in the water: a custom made tacticWe were having dinner and I did not understand what the waiter was saying (where I live we have outdoor dining but staff wear masks), I got upset because I was hungry and ordered a wrong dish. He said something along the lines of: hehe it’s only dinner, imagine fighting with X (the girl friend he thought I fought with) over this. This was obviously rude as it was referring to an alleged hurtful situation. But since it was completely made up and fighting with loved ones isn’t really a wound of mi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 10:30 PM |
| 20 | "You can't let one bad experience color your perception of all men!" "Actually, most men I've met treated me/women badly" "If every man you've dated was a jerk, there is probably something wrong with you, you're the common denominator"I completely agree with self diagnosis for narcs. Even if they do go to therapy they manipulate their therapist and use them for supply/enabling. The only people who are anti self diagnosis are narcs themselves. This is why it’s rare to find a self proclaimed narcissist. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/21 06:51 AM |
| 34 | "You can't let one bad experience color your perception of all men!" "Actually, most men I've met treated me/women badly" "If every man you've dated was a jerk, there is probably something wrong with you, you're the common denominator"😂 😂 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/21 06:33 AM |
| 116 | “Build with him”The silver lining is that when these ugly souls leave their partners they level down in the gf department. Their journey back down to earth is beautiful to watch. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/21 03:33 PM |
| 4 | This is how the other side talks about us and expect us to accept it🤏🏼😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/21 10:08 PM |
| 12 | Older queens if you woke up as a 20 year old again, what would you have done differently?A. Their massive egos can’t handle a successful woman, B. They want you dependent so you’ll tolerate escalating bs without leaving. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/21 04:08 PM |
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