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5

Jesus Christ! You just made me realize this is (mostly) true of myself!
/r/seduction01/03/15 04:08 PM
24

Good advice, but heed the following: Don't date any of the barmaids there; If shit goes south and things go bad between you both, then you lose any social proof the venue can give you, at least until the staff turns over. Best case, you feel awkward bringing dates there and it will show.
/r/seduction01/03/15 04:03 PM
1

"I have that effect on women ;)"
/r/seduction05/02/15 07:34 PM
2

Many here say there is hope for dating a woman like this. While I won't disagree with the prevailing opinion here, I will relate the following for perspective: It is possible for self-esteem issues in a woman to manifest in such a ragingly selfish need for external validation from as many sources as possible that she's willing to try and put you on a leash while she dates/fucks as many guys as it takes to feel like she has worth. I have no problem with anyone having lots of partners (i.e., won't…
/r/seduction04/01/15 04:12 PM
2

I met a girl the summer who said early on in our relationship that she "doesn't like girls". It was a disaster - she was catty with all my female friends in subtle ways (while appearing to actually make friends with them to me) to the point where once we were done, those female friends would come to me eager to shit-talk her. Interestingly enough, these things always happened when the girl saw or heard any indication that I was close with the others. It was like she was so insecure that she coul…
/r/seduction03/12/14 06:08 PM
3

Upvotes for you, my friend!
/r/seduction22/10/14 09:37 PM
6

I really like this, but have to qualify one of your statements: To break free...requires setting aside...externalisation of blame... I understand where that comes from, but in the interest of confidence building, I believe (and I think the community will agree) that it is unhealthy to shoulder any and all responsibility. i.e., It's hard to maintain an "I'm awesome" attitude and walk with one's head held high if one unilaterally and unquestioningly accepts all blame for things...at least where ex…
/r/seduction18/10/14 02:23 PM
1

Easy there - those women do exist, but that is an extremely rash generalization. If you really believe this, you shouldn't be here. This sub is for people who love women.
/r/seduction12/10/14 04:33 PM
3

Disclaimer: I see that this was 14 hours before my response, so I'm late to the table, but this is mostly future-proofing advice, so please read on. This won't help your current situation, but it's a reason why "Leave them Better than you Found Them" should be a guiding principle in future. I live in a small city where running into ex's day and night is a very regular thing. You have to do everything in your power to ensure that things end up amicably in every situation (even if you end up with …
/r/seduction10/10/14 01:33 PM
1

True?
/r/seduction06/10/14 01:35 PM
25

Somewhere in an old thread, possibly in the sidebar, is a quote: "If you keep telling a woman over and over again that she's better than you, eventually she'll believe it." Fuck. Same thing.
/r/seduction06/10/14 12:06 AM
2

Not a friend. Friends don't give mixed messages and friends understand that. Maybe you were being chivalrous by keeping her company, fine. Don't keep her company again.
/r/seduction03/10/14 07:50 PM
1

Fuckin' A!
/r/seduction03/10/14 04:32 PM
1

Quitting is just a way of stopping yourself giving so many fucks. If OP stops giving fucks, which it sounds to me as if he needs to, then quitting could be all he needs to do to start succeeding. Ironic, but we all know how fucking ironic that (important) aspect of game can be! Go for it OP! You may just start pulling mad poon!
/r/seduction02/10/14 12:42 AM
1

I feel your pain, bro. Hottest girl I ever banged...well, I couldn't, really. But hey, now she's plus-sized and I'm single and in the best shape of my life. Dodged a bullet there. Maybe you did too!
/r/seduction01/10/14 11:47 PM
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First point is quite noobie, but worth saying for the noobs. Lots of guys have made that mistake (super glad I haven't), so right on. Second point much more for guys not making the first mistake (I don't imagine anyone who does that EVER gets laid), and a good point; We talk about women's anti-slut defenses and their own plausible deniability, but often neglect to have our own. Good insight.
/r/seduction01/10/14 09:05 PM
2

Nope. What he did wrong was the ED. Not your fault OP, she expected to be fucked shitless, and now doesn't see you as sexual. Fix it, whether through therapy or medication, whatever you gotta do, or this problem will persist and make you miserable and full of self doubt.
/r/seduction01/10/14 03:40 PM
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I wrote you a wall of text, so detailed that on review, it seemed pretty off point (it's also me blowing of a LOT of steam, so I figured I'd spare the community and just pm it to you. I hope it explains the above point I tried to make.
/r/seduction01/10/14 01:27 PM
1

I have recently attempted to a approach a situation like this and been badly burned. The reason, despite that I'm proud I did it your way, is that making such an effort automatically creates a power imbalance wherein you are clearly a great deal more invested in outcome than she is, even if your worst-case-scenario desired outcome is simply no bad blood. What I would recommend is something like this, but more quick and concise; Make your intentions clear, insist on her doing the same, and get th…
/r/seduction30/09/14 09:41 PM
2

This. Is. Good.
/r/seduction25/09/14 08:31 PM
2

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Zn6gV2sdl38
/r/seduction25/09/14 08:30 PM
13

Good God, Man. Please go meet some other women YESTERDAY. If you have money, please go to a bar right NOW. Put on some of your favorite energy music, shave, flex in the fucking mirror, shower, flex in the fucking mirror, do whatever else you gotta do to make yourself beautiful, and get the fuck out there. Have enough to drink so you can be sure to sleep adequately (I dunno about you, but serious oneitis makes it hard for me to sleep). Talk to women. Any subject but her. Tomorrow, eat a big heart…
/r/seduction25/09/14 02:17 AM
2

This is a good post. Everyone piss off about the fighting bears and staring down alphas parts. It's the principle and the succinctness of its presentation that matter here.
/r/seduction25/09/14 12:03 AM
2

Any reminder that "You are the shit" is useful. At least for the droves of people who come here with confidence issues, oneitis, etc. While being at or near the very core of pickup and self-improvement, the habit of thinking this way is one of the easiest things to forget to do, and forgetting to is a fast track to failure. I think there should be a stickied post right at the top of Seddit, titled, "You Are The Shit", with comments strictly limited to paraphrases of the idea.
/r/seduction22/09/14 02:15 PM
1

Jesus, I never thought of that before! I get seriously cranky when I'm hungry and eating gets delayed, and am (not exactly prone), but susceptible to the same condition when pursuing someone who's not interested. That is, unless I remember to have abundance mentality and out outcome independence. Nice perspective!
/r/seduction18/09/14 03:10 PM
2

Definitely true. Bonus points if you can take away a confidence boost from getting hit on by a gay guy. Most gays are not overbearing in this respect, since their gaydar is stronger than any straight man's; They know that you're not genuinely interested, so you can have fun with that interaction, and the effect on women who witness this can be much like that of preselection!
/r/seduction18/09/14 03:08 PM
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I see. I thought OP was mixing up authors.
/r/seduction17/09/14 10:17 PM
4

TrooDat! This guy happened to be a gay man, which makes for interesting (and oft enlightening) discussions about women, in my experience.
/r/seduction17/09/14 08:03 PM
1

Is not "The Game" by Neil Strauss?
/r/seduction17/09/14 04:46 PM
12

Very good point. In a sense, I suppose Mr. Barkeep's point was a roundabout way of suggesting one adopt that mindset, as in "So why don't you have anything better to do than whine about her? Oh right - YOU DO. Go do it."
/r/seduction17/09/14 02:27 PM
1

So, Rome was built in a day, and OP didn't do well?
/r/seduction09/09/14 07:21 PM
1

That's what I said; It was his strong reply that got the response, regardless of the fact that the weak reply came in at 3:10 a.m.
/r/seduction09/09/14 07:18 PM
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Good point, but it was still the re-phrased question that got the response.
/r/seduction08/09/14 07:04 PM
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Oh, not me, son. I just hang around stating the obvious ;) Seriously, though, keeping that leadership frame seems like sound advice - both for the texting and interaction. Others may have more to say, but perhaps you could keep us abreast of whatever texting goes on in between... And good luck!
/r/seduction08/09/14 06:43 PM
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Not to state the obvious, but for anyone who doesn't get this (I was initially wondering where the "before" screenshot was): 1) He asked her when she was free - no response for 11 hours. 2) He told her when he was free - immediate positive response. This is a really great, concise example of this principle in action. Bravo, OP.
/r/seduction08/09/14 06:32 PM
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Hey man! You're Awesome! Seriously, though, these things can be tough to deal with if you're not careful. I personally find I eventually want to get to a place with a girl where I have to allow myself to be a little vulnerable, then, as you put it, "BAM", and it sucks for sure. I would advise you to curtail thoughts like "Fucking bitch, man". It does no one any good. Remind yourself that a) this early on, she owes you basically nothing, so no real ethical transgression has happened. b) That she …
/r/seduction08/09/14 01:19 AM
1

1) The only time I've seen any results at a show was when I had plenty of female friends in the audience, who ended up acting like my groupies, which made me look and feel like a rockstar. HB's bring drinks to the stage for you and having them ready when you get off stage is pretty badass. 2) Agree with most here already that leading with it is pointless. For me that is; I've seen dudes do it successfully, but as a dedicated musician I view doing so as cheapening the craft. Don't know how differ…
/r/seduction07/09/14 11:58 PM
1

I have hyperhydrosis as well and recently discovered Certain-Dri. Avaalable over the counter at the pharmacy. I have a fairly acute case, but it helps maybe 75% of the problem - at least over this particularly hot summer. Looking forward to its results during the colder months. About 8 bucks a bottle here. Good luck.
/r/seduction07/09/14 11:48 PM
1

Indeed. Subtleties in syntax, tone, and body language (eye contact, shoulders square to the server. Also, when dealing with servers, the alpha/beta dichotomy practically disappears. They're in the hospitality business, so they are uber-sensitive to how cordial other people are with them - both on and off duty. One needn't supplicate (to anyone), but in the context of server/servee relations, please/thank you simply shows manners and appreciation, which, in my experience, will always be returned …
/r/seduction04/09/14 03:13 PM
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Bartenders are great people to practice conversation and social skills with; They often have to deal with/tolerate extremely socially inept people. Being solidly acquainted with barkeeps is a sure fire means to gaining social proof when going out during busier times. From your writing alone, I can surmise that your social skills are not as bad as you are saying, so give yourself a break. *Disclaimer: This is not intended to be a daygame opportunity, though it could go that way; Rather, it is a c…
/r/seduction03/09/14 09:38 PM
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I totally am that type. Got a few lady friends that are ex-gf's or fwb's. It's my opinion, from these experiences, that awkwardness is never necessary if you have good mutual communication. But it takes two. I don't see a genuine friendship happening with this girl as it stands, but I at least hope that at some point any awkwardness is forgotten.
/r/seduction07/12/12 05:35 PM
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Her awkwardness is the evidence, empirically observed. The conclusion not that she's a bitch, but that she's not handling this natural awkwardness as well I am, which puts me on the high road, and nullifies any remaining disappointment. Unless of course, you want to put words in my mouth, in which case we can all just hang out and call each other names.
/r/seduction07/12/12 04:26 PM
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Done and Done!
/r/seduction07/12/12 04:08 PM
-1

Oh...haha! Sorry. Also, I was kidding, FWIW.
/r/seduction07/12/12 03:38 PM
-1

OK, so she's a "very pretty lady". Welcome to seddit, where commonly used terms are shortened for brevity.
/r/seduction07/12/12 03:29 PM
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Nice of you to weigh in. I can totally see that. She may see me as creepy because I was too nice (y'know, not making my intentions clear and all - big fail on my part there), but I sent two texts and then left her alone, so as far as I'm concerned, any awkwardness she feels is not my fault. I do hope she comes to understand my OK-ness with the rejection so that if and when we bump into each other, no one feels weird about anything.
/r/seduction07/12/12 03:24 PM
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This is a good tl;dr of my post. Thanks!
/r/seduction07/12/12 03:19 PM
-4

I don't think she's acting awkwardly because she didn't respond. I know she's acting awkwardly because I encountered her, and she acted awkwardly. If, after a single date, she cannot keep her frame while I can, does this not mean she is not worth my time? I fail to see any inanity in this reasoning.
/r/seduction07/12/12 03:17 PM
-6

Nice :)
/r/seduction07/12/12 07:33 AM
-19

Not caring, sharing.
/r/seduction07/12/12 07:32 AM
-3

I win because I walk away unscathed, not because I'm better. You have to understand that our social circles overlap, so future run in's are inevitable. My attitude is one of being fine with this. If she is not, that reflects a level of maturity that, IMO is not compatible with mine.
/r/seduction07/12/12 07:30 AM
-6

All true, but what about unwavering no-fucks-itude? There is no one here in the right or wrong, I'm just keepin' on keepin' on, and passing on a certain mindset that might help the odd bloke avoid experiencing rejection-related setbacks.
/r/seduction07/12/12 07:28 AM
-7

Seconded, although I am obviously tremendously biased.
/r/seduction07/12/12 07:23 AM
-7

"She's fucking some other dude right now" Haha! Prob'ly this.
/r/seduction07/12/12 07:21 AM
-11

Yeah, bro. Bitch had jugs out to like....here.
/r/seduction07/12/12 07:20 AM
-5

She didn't see the friend, but I like the way you think.
/r/seduction07/12/12 07:19 AM
-11

I got all crazy and creepy and weird about this, then I read your username. Upvotes!
/r/seduction07/12/12 07:18 AM
-9

Too much here to respond to. Answer to last question is: Yeah, but I wouldn't act like she was someone I'd had a bad breakup with. Small potatoes. She shouldn't sully both our social lives (which overlap) by making this more than a passing thing. Also, "Kept showing interest"? I just followed up - did not act that invested, did not "demand" a reason, thanks.
/r/seduction07/12/12 07:17 AM
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Didn't I say, "Fail, fail, fail...."? I didn't get her to fall in love with me or have sex with me. Guess I'll go crawl in a hole and die now. Ha. So much for "Fail Faster".
/r/seduction07/12/12 07:11 AM
-9

Informed, I have been.
/r/seduction07/12/12 07:07 AM
-20

Already admitted that, thanks. What's the point of this sub again?
/r/seduction07/12/12 07:06 AM
-3

It's natural to brood a little if you're disappointed. Some guys brood for weeks. I bounced back after two days.
/r/seduction07/12/12 07:03 AM
-9

Thank You.
/r/seduction07/12/12 06:50 AM
-11

I don't think I'd do it, but, OP approved, nonetheless.
/r/seduction07/12/12 06:48 AM
1

Cam here to say something completely different. But, this.
/r/seduction02/12/12 03:35 PM
1

Robert DeNiro Face "Maybe...Hmph! (looks around)...Maybe it was a yes or no question. (DeNiro Smirk/Shrug)".
/r/seduction26/11/12 03:59 PM
6

Show up early and meet a server. Introduce yourself and ask for a favor. Tell them the story and ask them them to pretend you've known each other for a while (not "old friends". This is risky.) If they agree, request that they keep an eye out for when your date arrives and approaches you, and the come over, say hi, and introduce themselves. I think some of the ideas here are way better, but now you've got an opener for a cute waitress while you wait for your date to show up, you dog.
/r/seduction05/11/12 05:02 PM
1

1) If they're intimidating (i.e. Assholes), they're not alpha..at least not in the good sense. If they're simply high value, value giving individuals, relish their company. Take what value they will give freely (though value taking is widely considered beta), but use it as inspiration; Give value back! Being around this kind of alpha is a golden opportunity to learn by examples. Suggestion: If you're in a port city or a place where there might be military folks on leave, go where they hang out a…
/r/seduction21/10/12 04:43 PM
3

First, this/these questions belong in askseddit. A lot of people here are sick of such questions when they have bigger fish to fry. Second, they should be split into two posts. And now that I'm done being a prick: Question 1) "I juggle topics and get so dependent..." You lost me at "dependent". Stop giving fucks. Maybe practice staying on topic for longer periods of time, but tangential subject changes are alright, as long as you don't come of as someone who's fishing for a subject in his/her ow…
/r/seduction18/10/12 10:44 PM
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Having been both Needy McTryhard and Fuckit McPhuckerson, I can verify this post.
/r/seduction18/10/12 09:32 PM
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Dear Tofu, I have every confidence that you are a master of all you speak of here, and of all that is implied by the titles of the next 8 parts. But what I know for certain is that you are a value giver; Your contributions here are tremendous and inspirational. I am particularly inspired by your focus on being a high-value, value giving individual, with success with women seen mostly as a mere by-product. I recently posted a plea for something inspirational to get me out of a funk. Though I was …
/r/seduction18/10/12 09:22 PM
1

I cut her loose after 1) She played me like a fiddle longer than any man should allow, 2) I ignored her until she became "hung up" on me, and told me so, 3) I allowed myself to be played again, due to the above, and 4) Concluded that none of this was necessary in the first place. Proud to say no girl has since got me to 1). Invest no more than she does, increase investment only if she does, and cut her loose after (IMO) no more than 3 attempted meetups. Disclaimer: This advice is not directly in…
/r/seduction16/10/12 02:40 AM
1

All good stuff. FWIW, when I'm not on top of my instant-good-response game (almost always), I pull out the magic Fonzie-Stye, "Aww, Eyy!", with a bit a shrug and a grin. It works pretty well without risking a deer-in-the-headlights reaction. There's also the jokingly self-effacing reaction: "Cool, so....wait, what?". Optional: Jokingly backpedal with the fonzie or other great funny/cocky answers already posted.
/r/seduction10/10/12 08:33 PM
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Up ALL of the votes. Edit: Accidentally upvoted myself. Apparently the punishment for that is an automatic downvote. -_-
/r/seduction10/10/12 08:16 PM
8

"We're actually both kinda peach. I bet we'd make some beautiful jello together." But then, fuck that bitch.
/r/seduction05/10/12 03:42 PM
1

Agreed. My suggestion was intended as something you could try independently of your therapy, hence the super casual nature of the activity. Then, your SA might be way more serious than I perceived. Your call, but I think you should try something like this immediately.
/r/seduction04/10/12 08:01 PM
2

Suggestion: Find a bar or pub you like, and spend an hour or two there in the daytime, now and then - enough to become one of the "regulars". You should get to know the bartender(s); On a slow day, he/she is your captive audience, so unless your people-skills problems include being an ass, you can practice small talk/eye contact etc. on them, with no real investment. Of course, don't try to make drinking too much of a routine/crutch; Nurse a beer or two, alternate with water. Daytime regulars wi…
/r/seduction03/10/12 03:48 PM
1

Why not start small and eliminate one or two items from that foods list (say, milk and cakes), and add something simple like running? I know you get lots of exercise between work and lifting, but I think your problem is that you're daunted by the overall change (eat less/better + exercise more). That much lifestyle change is impossible to expect overnight. Baby steps, my friend! Edit: Getting laid = extra exercise. Bonus. And good luck!
/r/seduction30/09/12 07:29 PM
1

From a ton of the same experience, and in agreement with the other comments: You need to do the approaching. Then, just be the guy that gets all that attention from dudes. Girls will like that same dude, but you have to bring it to them.
/r/seduction29/09/12 03:08 PM
29

I've had a lab that fits this description for ten years. She always makes my day, makes me happy, etc, etc. But somehow I've never taken this lesson from her the way you put it. Have a pupvote!
/r/seduction21/09/12 04:17 AM
1

"Hiya, Dollface" is my personal fave. Never been taken the wrong way. Though honestly, I don't think I've ever used it in a cold approach. When comfort and/or rapport are already present, this is fine. Same for "sweetpea", "babe"...even "toots". I'mma have to try some of these cold and see how it goes. I'm pretty confident it'll have a reasonable success rate if the tone is confident and not condescending.
/r/seduction18/09/12 01:31 PM
1

All sounds reasonable, thanks! Lazy sounds pretty on the money ;)
/r/seduction29/08/12 09:19 PM
1

This thread seems to have run its course, but I can't resist. I am you, 10 years later (17 year vet here, same kind of attitude, not much of a singer in the least). You can do this three ways: 1) Do your thing: As widely agreed upon here, it probably won't work. You'll either sound too preachy when you explain, or sound stand off-ish and anti-social if you flat refuse to play along. Qualification in 2), below. 2) Leave the goddamn thing home (My favorite): 2 Things can/will happen: 2A) The other…
/r/seduction14/06/12 04:02 AM
3

I was with a female friend last night, and, like our last few hangouts, she updated me on the many ways in which her ex won't let go: 5-10 texts overnight (while she's sleeping), each getting more and more desperate for a response. Sometimes several in a row just say, "...?..." He shows up at her house, posts on her FB wall, sends her e-mails, calls her. He thinks he's taking the right steps to either get her back, be fuck buddies, maybe just get back to being pals. He's WRONG. He's pushing her …
/r/seduction05/09/11 04:45 PM
1

I feel your pain. You're obviously moving in the right direction. :)
/r/seduction04/09/11 09:01 PM
1

:) If you do, and you plan to apply any of this, don't forget the importance of laying the groundrules for your relationship. If there's any strings attached, if either of you feels you're owed any exclusive rights to the other's attention, you're up fucked river without any pussy. EDIT: To stave off grammar nazis like myself, I must remember to proofread my "your"'s, "you're"'s and "yours"'s...
/r/seduction04/09/11 08:59 PM
2

It looks like you missed some good opps to close, but if mastery of fun, approaching, and state control is what you're focusing on (and your post makes it clear that it is), then practice, by all appearances, makes perfect! Good job!
/r/seduction04/09/11 08:03 PM
1

Yeah. It sort of feels like a much more objective way to analyze the whole picture. A bird's eye view! Link to Pt. 2 added to the OP. I hope it's the two make a coherent picture, but I have a feeling I'll have to critique them both and edit a bunch...
/r/seduction04/09/11 07:44 PM
1

Thanks postman! Pt. 2 will focus on a subsequent night with the same HB8, but at a different venue with different circumstances, including some significant parallels. My intent is to tie them together as proof of the concept, and hopefully elaborate a bit further. I'll start work on it now and link it from the OP.
/r/seduction04/09/11 06:24 PM
2

Thank you. The best elaboration I can give is a quote from Tofutofu's primer on the modern alpha male: "You do not NEED approval from others. Approval is something a high value individual doles out to others. Receiving approval is taking value. Seeking approval is being a value taker. YOU dole out the approval. YOU are approached by value takers. YOU are a value giver. Every person you encounter in your life is better off for having met you. Whether it's just a wave hello to a stranger, a compli…
/r/seduction04/09/11 09:38 AM
1

Hint: "ENGLISH, MOTHERFUCKER! DO YOU SPEAK IT!?
/r/seduction29/03/11 05:07 PM
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This. The waitress was irrelevant. You got shit tested by your family and failed. To pass this in future, put the whole thing to bed by telling Granny, "No matter how cute she is, there are or have been lots of guys out there who've gotten sick of her crap." Then you've alpha'ed the matriarch. At that that point you might even be able to make an approach - of your own volition.
/r/seduction08/03/11 02:24 PM
3

I would (barring the more realistic outcome that I'd be stuck for words) say "Easy, there. It was an accident". That way you justify it to the class while avoiding the dreaded apology.
/r/seduction27/01/11 12:50 PM
3

Me Likie! I also could've pulled that after the kiss - I believe it was my willingness (read: eagerness) that killed the f-close. One for the books, thanks!
/r/seduction26/01/11 05:16 PM
15

"Wanna see my boob that just had surgery done on it?" "Not particularly" Ten minutes later, k-close. No Lay.
/r/seduction26/01/11 04:47 PM
2

Ditto to that. Longtime lurker, just joined (This is my 2nd post). I've already seen and learned enough to say that Seddit probably saves lives. <somberly> Now let's all go get laid ;)
/r/seduction14/01/11 10:44 PM
1

Upvoted for, "You gotta help a girl in distress". I'm gonna have this one in mind next time I go out.
/r/seduction14/01/11 02:10 PM
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