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So true my soon to be ex husband watched me spiral in depression and never lifted a finger to help. I have a habit of going on very healthy and unhealthy binges and when I was in a downward spiral he always enabled my bad choices in food and drinking instead of trying to pull me out. The whole relationship in Hindsight was so terrible and I was incredibly lonely all the time, it’s why self love is so important so you can recognize when you’re truly unhappy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 02:29 PM
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Amazing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 02:23 PM
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Yupp I had married a child. Here’s to a happy and healthy divorce! 🥂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 02:09 PM
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Omg I can’t even see your face but you look amazing!!! Such beautiful hair ❤️❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 11:58 PM
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Needed this ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 02:45 AM
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My best friend paid for half of her engagement ring 😐 it was hard to hide my reaction
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 02:36 AM
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Oh the romantic I can’t tell you how swept away I was🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 02:16 PM
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The comments in this video were so sad. Filled with women saying how they feel bad “embarrassing the men” so they don’t say anything. And men going off about how “not all vaginas are the same so it’s not a big deal” 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 04:58 PM
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Lmaoooooo yupp
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 05:09 PM
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No I’ve never heard of whisper! But I’m sure they run that into the ground like you said just like they did everything else 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 06:16 PM
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When I began my individual movement towards bettering and respecting myself the first thing I did was delete Snapchat. Men have literally weaponized this app it’s breadcrumb fucking central. It’s the sweet little toxic spot they keep you to keep in contact with you but not actually acknowledge you as a person. They can and will often send you messages that appear like they are sending it to a bunch of people when really they are most likely just sending it to you but making sure you don’t feel l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 04:23 PM
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Yessss!! I just watched this and sent it to all my girlfriends and sisters such good tips for safety and awareness
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 04:59 AM
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Beautiful 😍💓!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 11:15 PM
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I’m so glad you kicked that loser out! It’s just the pure laziness of it like I just can’t 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 02:37 PM
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It’s terrible 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 06:34 PM
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Don’t feel bad in the end you walked away from something that wasn’t making you feel good and that right there is growth
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 06:04 PM
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I feel very sorry for the next victim but very happy for my personal freedom! ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 02:40 PM
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Exactly I thought that he would at least have the decency to take care of this considering he was the one who left. But no a lazy person doesn’t change and you’re so right if you want it done do it yourself. I’m just happy that the only weight I will have to pull in the future is my own!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 02:39 PM
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True that!! Cant wait to finally be free from this lingering nonsense!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 02:27 AM
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Hahaha okay I needed that hype I loved my maiden name!!! Oh lucky for me I don’t have a Facebook! I guess that’s good considering I don’t need any scrotes coming out of the wood work hahaha 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 01:36 AM
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Thank you! I am literally in the middle of filing now and need to contact this loser for information I hate this but it will be worth when we are finally apart and I can get my last name back!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 01:05 AM
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Yuppppp and then have his new girlfriend call me for it as well was prettyyyyyy low class 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 11:41 PM
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Thank you!!! 🥰🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 11:40 PM
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Wow what a prick! I’m sure my LVM ex wont be much different unfortunately but yessss hello sweet freedom
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 11:39 PM
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Absolutely!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 08:45 PM
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Same!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 07:41 PM
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Oh yeah thank god I actually have about half of that done. When he left me (just about a year ago now) i moved out of the suburbs as fast as I could and moved into a place in the city with my sister. I’ve had his number blocked now for about 9 months now. I’ve just been putting the divorce off because I wasn’t ready to grow yet despite many attempts. But now I’m fully settled in, live and work in the city, nurturing my female friendships, finding my authentic self and dropped all the fuck boys I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 07:15 PM
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Wow mind blown never even thought of it like that! I could literally never imagine getting involved in another couples divorce like what in the pick me is that?!!!! Like girl have him you’ll see what he’s all about. The financial part blows but feeling free will absolutely be worth it. This sub has totally changed my views on how I was dealing with my pain and self worth. I feel like even though it’s a hard time financially my self growth will remain stagnant as long as I’m tied to him legally. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 07:08 PM
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Wow this was super helpful thank you so much!! Will definitely be keeping all this information in mind moving forward. Thanks queen 💓
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 06:53 PM
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Oh yeah she did me a HUGE favor. That’s what has been so difficult during this whole disaster that I’ve been hurting and lost at what happened but also absolutely incredibly grateful that I escaped the sad life I would have had with him. I just hate that I have to spend effort and money on divorcing him but hey life is filled with tough roads that often lead to salvation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 06:49 PM
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That’s insane that he profits from not having the kids live with him. It’s so hard right now financially and that extra couple of hundred will hurt my pockets but it’s worth having this weight off of me, to know I will never have to deal with him again. You women are what keep me strong thank you! ♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 06:38 PM
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Yeah it’s definitely for the better for me to do it the scrote comes from a long line of divorced bitter men so I don’t exactly trust him or his family. Oh the new girl is his new victim. My ex was extremely good at playing the victim. It’s now one of my red flags when a man victimizes himself in terms of talking about his exes. I know he definitely gave her a sob story and tore me apart to her and she fell for it. I hope she enjoys an alcoholic, video game addicted 27 year old with ED. Such a p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 06:30 PM
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Thank you! I’ll definitely be needing the support thanks girl ♥️🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 06:24 PM
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Thank you! I really can’t wait to just be truly single and living for myself. It’s women like you that keep me motivated!😭❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 06:23 PM
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Oh yeah it’s been such a weight on my back and I can’t wait to feel a thousand pounds lighter once I know this scrote is officially gone. This whole year had been such a mess and I honestly didn’t see what I was doing to myself until I found you amazing women! I really didn’t know how to love myself until I found this sub and now that I did I think it’s time to really take out the trash and build a beautiful future on self love ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 06:21 PM
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You’re right!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 06:17 PM
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For sure will!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 06:17 PM
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You’re right it’s best to get on it and protect myself any way I can. It’s so frustrating but I know I’ll be much happier when I’m completely free of him. Thanks queen 💓
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 06:16 PM
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Ugh thank you it’s just so annoying that I still have to be his “mommy” and do everything because he just can’t be bothered to do it himself. This is why I’m single and protecting myself with an iron gate against these LVMs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 06:14 PM
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I know :( it was bad I’d be like “that’s my legggggggg”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 06:09 PM
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My ex would always use the excuse “I’m not doing it because if only I lived here I wouldn’t do it”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 05:48 PM
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My LVM ex was so bad in bed that as a grown man in his mid 20’s I still caught him fingering the crease between my groin and thigh. I would be so mad in my head like seriously are you this lazy you can’t tell the difference between a crease and a vagina?!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 05:47 PM
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Oh yeah it was shocking and gross 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 02:12 AM
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I have recently cut all male friends out of my life and don’t intend on making any new ones. I don’t mean to say someone can’t have a good male friend just in my own experience it has never worked out well for me I feel like they always made me feel like a damsel in distress every time I ever had a problem or had romantic intentions no matter how much the relationship had been kept platonic. Hopefully I can meet some HVM friends in the future but I’m happy with bomb ass females any day of the we…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 11:49 PM
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I worked at an OB/GYN office with a doctor who was in his 70’s he gave me a piece of paper with info I needed on it one day and had forgotten he had written down his password to the EMR on it. The password was Pussydoc123 Yuuuuuuuuuuuup.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 11:17 PM
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Couldn’t agreeee more :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 04:08 PM
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Couldn’t agree more! Found FDS a few weeks ago and it changed my life completely!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 03:08 PM
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At least you only talked to them :/ I had come out of a sexless relationship so I thought I’d go out there and get what I was missing. Caught feelings, got used as a booty call and just downright disrespected a lot. But I know I don’t need them and I will never accept that behavior again!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 03:04 PM
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Not with him anymore thank god! I live with my sister now and we have the most fun together :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 03:02 PM
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I had a few that still felt like I was waiting around for them so I just wanted to officially end that access. It does feel great indeed :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 02:42 AM
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Aww thank you! I totally am so happy to have my family who supports me always they drive me crazy sometimes haha but I’m always grateful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 12:56 AM
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🥰🥰🥰♥️♥️♥️♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 12:31 AM
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My wedding was the saddest day of my life, i was never a dream wedding girl but I wanted something small and beautiful with someone I truly loved. It was a destination wedding and my groom spent the entire time either drunk arguing with me or binge drinking and playing pool with his friends. I laid in my wedding suite on the bed with my sisters 90% of the time crying and having panic attacks. They held my hand and so did my parents. I married my family on that trip in my soul not my LVM ex husba…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 11:28 PM
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Omg this website is sweeeeeet! Will definitely be checking out more of it. I struggled with self love too considering I did anything in the world to avoid it. I didn’t want to be alone, always wanted to pour love and help into Other people and never even look at myself. The truth is I wanted a distraction and was scared that being alone would be too much. The truth is I feel a lot less alone now that I’m actually alone, funny how that works.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 11:09 PM
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🥰🤗🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 09:49 PM
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That’s a very interesting way of looking at it! When I was in this chaotic stage of hooking up with all different types of guys I had all these crazy stories to tell and while they were entertaining it wasn’t doing me much good on the inside. And I remember when I first started to make this shift of ending these kind of relationships with men my roommate saying “this is boring there’s no more drama”. And yeah maybe I didn’t have anymore wild stories but I also wasn’t being used anymore, I wasn’t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 09:45 PM
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Oh yesss self love seems to be great scum repellent 😏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 09:33 PM
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YESSSSSSSS!!!!!!! I had been married too young and divorced by a LVM only months after marriage and being his former maid/chef/therapist. I was so sad and lonely out of that relationship I seeked out the worst forms of coping. Until I realized one day the one thing I truly truly want is to be with me and be happy. To have a beautiful relationship with myself, surround myself with love and laughter from the people who truly love me and want the best for me. I know I took the first steps to that l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 09:18 PM
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You’re gonna make me tear up! Thank you so much queen!!!!! ♥️♥️☺️☺️☺️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 09:14 PM
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Yupppp!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 09:05 PM
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YESSSS! Back when I was on tinder I was literally a few hours away from meeting up with this guy and exactly that happened. He had updated his profile and on his last photo was a new updated one of what he currently looked like. I decided I was not going to go on the oh so specially planned “walk around the park and smoke a joint” date so I screened his calls. The dude called me 3 times which I’m sorry it’s too many calls for a tinder date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 09:03 PM
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Wow guy sounds like a totally creep so glad you blocked him! When I stopped answering their (former fuck boys) messages I was enjoying ignoring them and what not but I knew I was still in their game while doing that. I wanted real change and also a wipe out of the men who knew me when I was not in a good place. Even though I cut them out mentally I had this gut feeling that said it’s time to completely purge and I already feel so proud of myself and that I making real change and looking inward. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 09:00 PM
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Thanks girl so excited to focus on the positive! 🥰🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 08:30 PM
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Thank you so much! I had mentally cut them off and blocked a few here and there but I just had this feeling in my gut that I needed to do a real clean sweep. To not care who looks at my posts or stories or waiting for the impending and ever so romantic “wyd” and I figured I wouldn’t test myself or even let them be in any form of my life anymore. To bigger better and more self improving things! 💓💓💓
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 08:25 PM
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Every time I come across a clip from his podcast it usually entails a man referring to women as “bitches” or him dying laughing at another man saying some disgusting crap like how “fat models disgust him”. A video resurfaced of him laughing at a comedian saying how he only let female comedians go on stage in exchange for oral sex. I will also add that any man who showed interest in him was a complete douche with no respect for women. So REDDDD FLAG if I guy likes joe Rogan in my opinion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 06:43 PM
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Yeah they are basically saying how appealing you are to their standard of how fuckable you are to them where as when it comes from a woman it’s real and doesn’t have some kind of expectation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 03:29 PM
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Some of them have hit their wall as early as their late 20’s back when I used OLD a lot of them would post pics of themselves from their late teens/early 20’s because they had already gone so downhill
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 02:53 PM
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Absolutely. It just enrages me that this content needs to be spewed out of a MALES mouth in order for these Jack asses to actually hear it. You know if this was a woman saying these same exact things men and sadly most women would roll their eyes and not even listen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 02:45 PM
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It’s funny how compliments from a man will make you feel sexy? (Or like they wanna have sex with you)Okay yeah but a compliment from a woman will literally warm your heart from within. It’s real and genuine imagine how amazing we could make each other feel if we did this more often.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 02:15 PM
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Now we just need joe asshole Rogan to speak the truth
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 02:12 PM
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I think that it is a war that is happening amongst women. And I think that these two things happening simultaneously are almost happening in an order. From what I’ve seen and experienced I’m seeing that a lot of women come out of relationships mostly ones that were too long or serious for however young they were. Then they go out there wanting to be taken seriously in this new world of OLD and “liberal feminist sexual freedom”. They are pulled into the ideas of being chill and trying out new thi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 01:54 PM
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During my “pick me stage” in life I was a chaotic concoction of self hate-no value-and a man pleaser. I didn’t realize it at the time I was trying to “empower” myself but really deep down I didn’t think I deserved better and wanted masochistic sex to express how I was feeling on the inside. What’s so scary about this is and younger girls is that they have social media in their face everyday. Fake asses, tiny waist, flawless faces, big lips they already don’t feel adequate. But what would make a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 07:12 PM
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Sad British law in 1837 protected woman better than the US court does in 2021
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 04:48 PM
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The fact that this man is more enamored by whatever is on his phone than having a brand new child in his hands speaks volumes. And the woman being more concerned about his feelings than her babies HEAD also speaks volumes. WTF!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 04:47 PM
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LMFAOO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 07:59 PM
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😂♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 04:09 PM
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Here’s a story of self proclaimed “nice guy” A few months ago (while I was down in the slumps fresh after my husband leaving me, a pick me and a mess) I got a request on IG from an old friend of mine. He was my friend since middle school and we stayed in touch until I was in high school. When we caught back up (online only) I found out that he was in college getting a PhD and couldn’t stop talking about how he hates all his colleagues and how they’re creeps and he fights for women’s rights in th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 04:04 PM
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THANK YOU!!! Me and my sister (who has also recently discovered FDS) have just been talking about how much we could not stand the thought of that mans face after that night. It had been our first night out since the pandemic and we learned a lot especially not to let the “ugly nice guys” leech off us all night as well as not letting strange men into our home. Learned our lesson on “nice guy” scrotes for sure. I have definitely found my voice in telling men to back the fuck up from physically tou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 03:57 AM
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My roommate had fallen asleep in her shirt and underwear on the couch and he was trying to sleep on the couch with her. So I said no I don’t feel comfortable with you sleeping next to My half naked roommate when I don’t know you. And he kept asking to stay or at least wait a half hour and i sternly said no I’m going to bed now and you have to Leave. At some point during the night he put his number in my phone and after he left sent me a screen shot of his maps saying it was a 40 min walk with a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 03:49 AM
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Hahaha never she’s a straightttttt shooter 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 03:29 AM
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Yeahhhhh she is we’re in very different places in life lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 02:46 AM
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Yeah he hoped in the Uber last minute and my one roommate wanted him to come and then she immediately fell asleep once we got home it will never happen again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 01:43 AM
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ugh exactly he SUCKEDDDDD. He slithered back to our house at the end of the night and when I kicked him out he goes “and you say things aren’t hard for men” LMAO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 12:33 AM
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Every time I complained about a guy using me off tinder my mother would always say “You mean 1-800-dial-a-vag?” God damn she was right lmaoo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 10:14 PM
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They don’t give a FUUUUUUUUCK. Even my first ever boyfriend I had when I was a teenager who knew I was a virgin, who I made wait months to have sex with me wiggled in one day without a condom. Afterwards when I was horrified and hysterically crying he put his arm around me and said “don’t worry this wouldn’t be the first time I got someone pregnant”. Im SEWING myself up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 09:42 PM
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I went out to a bar this weekend and this “nice guy” bombarded me and my two friends. He stuck to us like glue all night and repeatedly touched me and my friends when I had told him a million times not to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 09:36 PM
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Hahahahahah
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 09:35 PM
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I totally get it I had to get married to realize my husband was an extreme LVM who would never step up to the plate for me in any way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 09:27 PM
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YES!!!!! Same I haven’t been single in YEARS I don’t even know who I am without mirror myself for a mans approval. I had brainwashed myself into thinking I was sexually free and not just a pick me. Turned every asshole into the idea of “something special” when all I really wanted was to be chosen. Until one day I decided to choose me. It’s so fresh for me and while I’m literally high on this new power it’s hard to rewire my brain to no longer think that meeting a man is my happy ending. And that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 05:27 PM
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It’s so unfair he put in the work until he had you hooked and then just stopped when he knew he could. It’s terrible how they don’t see us as human beings and what they do to our self esteem. I guess that’s where the never stop vetting comes in. We deserve someone to give us their all for the WHOLE relationship not just until they capture us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 03:12 PM
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It really is. It’s a blow to yourself esteem and you feel so silly for falling for it but it also opened my eyes to the fact that people are willing to trick you like that it raises your guard and it’s disappointing. In my pickme low self esteem stage following my break up I gave myself away to an array of LVM. And out of all of them I found the lovebombers to be the most vile. they trick you into thinking you’re special and that you did something wrong or didn’t meet their standards when the lo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 02:26 PM
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Yupp I was super vulnerable and a love bomber swooped right in. I came right out of a 7 year relationship desperate for someone to treat me nice and prove to me I was a person of value. Well they stroked that ego and I fell right into the palm of their hand. When you are a genuine person it’s truly hard to believe that there are people out there who know how to manipulate you like that. This post is super helpful because as someone who is only beginning their self value journey I want to have th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 02:07 PM
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My LVM of an ex husband had ED we were in a 7 year relationship from 19-26 no medical conditions just couldn’t stay hard a lot of the time. I asked him for sex or anything sexual all the time he almost never initiated. I begged him to see a sex therapist or go to the doctor but he never did. A few weeks after leaving me he told me about how now that he was single he was gonna go to the doctor for his dick problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 11:42 PM
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Hindsight is always incredible after you have the time to really look back and say why the hell did I accept that? I am still dealing with so much anger and resentment at myself for not loving me enough and accepting the treatment and LVM in my life. All you can do (and I’m speaking to myself here too) is take that anger and bitterness and say never again. Never again will I let myself or someone else treat me like that. Everything in life is a learning experience and it’s all about how you move…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 03:53 PM
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Right?! Like he sent me a whole paragraph telling me how he did say happy birthday instead of literally just texting out the two words haha. That makes a lot of sense actually I mean this guy would completely deflect any time I tried to confront him it was his way of never accepting his own behavior. It’s funny how someone not accepting their own behavior makes you then question your own it’s taken me a long time to look at the cold hard facts and behaviors of people and say “yeah nah it’s not y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 03:44 PM
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It is literally the most amazing feeling in the world when you’re like this attachment and fear of loneliness is less important than never letting another person let me feel that little again. Hallefuckingllujah I saw the light.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 01:12 PM
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Wow I am so sorry this happened to you, you deserve so much better. It’s so unfair how you literally shared your body with him for his pleasure but he couldn’t be bothered to treat you like a human on your birthday. The guy who made me his booty call was snap chatting me on my birthday and I told him it was my birthday and he left me on open. After I had a few drinks I confronted him only for him to gaslight me and tell me he did say happy birthday. Oh lord girl NEVER AGAIN!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 01:10 PM
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Thank you! It can be so hard to look at something dead on and accept it for what is it and not what it “could be”. When my husband left I was like I will never accept that behavior again and then immediately did. Leaving this guy while still having feelings was so much more of a hurdle but made me feel so much stronger. Proud of us ladies for choosing OURSELVES! ♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 01:54 AM
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Around this time last year my husband of only 6 months left me. I had wanted to move from the suburbs to the (about 30mins away) and he chose his janitor (lol) job and friends over me. I met a scrote off tinder who knew the vulnerable situation I was in and he lovebombed me until I had sex with him. After I slept with him he breadcrumbed and booty called me for a YEAR. Through out that time I would confront him, ask him to treat me like a person and block him. Only to always fall back into his t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 11:35 PM
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Thank you!!! And we’re so conditioned to guilt ourselves over those behaviors that were done to us or to just be programmed to “be cool” and please the man. Men are so entitled and selfish it’s just insane
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 06:39 PM
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I had an ex come over once and he was trying to get me back so he went down on me. After he got on top of me I didn’t want to but I felt like I “owed it to him”. In the middle of his having sex with me I started crying he didn’t stop. I hung out with a guy I had been having sex with from tinder and while I was bent over the bed trying to get a condom and had said “let me get a condom” he just put himself in me. I felt like a “prude” getting mad about it. I had just met a guy from tinder and we h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 05:39 PM
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YES. Every day all I can think about is how I married a man I had to beg to do a dish, sit and watch a movie with me, pick my side over his friends, make the bed etc. followed by that man leaving me and letting a full array of men use me for sex, love Bomb and manipulate me. You are not alone and all we can do is learn. I’m still removing these strings of attachment from these men and trying to tell myself I just deserve more and to be wiser in the future. Also find out why I accepted that treat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 04:54 PM
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YES!!! This movie is so amazing and speaks VOLUMES on men supporting other men’s violent behaviors and how easily society forgets/neglects the women who are affected by said behaviors. WATCH THIS MOVIE!!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 01:51 PM
1

Great suggestions thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 03:26 PM
6

Exactly!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 10:29 AM
3

It’s true it’s like I was scared of holding onto my last outlet for “intimacy” but it doesn’t do me or my mind any good
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 10:29 AM
9

Thank you so much I’ve finally found my safe haven Of like minded queens! ♥️♥️♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 03:20 AM
20

“She has an opinion/something to say?? SLUT”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 03:03 AM
17

Lmao I wouldn’t be surprised I could be posting about being a nun and he still would have called me a whore no Brain whatsoever
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 02:59 AM
3

Hell yeah!! :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 02:51 AM
107

Yeah I posted on here and got messaged “lol whore lol” they are so clever aren’t they
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 02:18 AM
9

Yes blocked and then deleted the number incase I have a few cocktails and make any silly unblocking decisions
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 02:17 AM
2

Absolutely i finally feel like I am choosing to be better and listen to my intuition
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 02:16 AM
1

Yesss!! For sure any recommendations?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 02:16 AM
5

Okay this analogy was literally amazing! As someone who had a bit of a food addiction at one point and had to go through the misery of stopping eating processed sugary foods this actually made total sense to me haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 01:12 AM
2

Thanks so much the support from here is so amazing so happy to have found you guys!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 01:09 AM
15

Yesss blocked!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 01:08 AM
5

Yes!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 01:08 AM
1

Absolutely and making sure I respect the boundaries I set myself thank you for all the suggestions I’m gonna fill up my Amazon cart tonight!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 11:13 PM
1

Thank you!! You too🥰🥰🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 11:12 PM
5

Haha yeah I definitely get more pleasure from my vibrator than most men. I think if I’m being honest with myself it’s the need to be touched physically but that’s not even worth the low side of the person not feeling anything for me. Time to order some new sex toys off Amazon
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 08:53 PM
7

Oh yeah the best part is he had ghosted me twice when I was a TEENAGE GIRL. I took it better than he did as a 28 year old man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 08:50 PM
9

It’s so true! People know when you’re desperate. I tried so hard to convince myself I was “just having fun” but I have just reached my limit of being the “cool girl”. Deep down inside I know the things I was doing weren’t for me it was to appeal and to be desired by men. But what is the point of being the “down, hot, cool girl” when in the end I’m not even worth someone’s real time and effort? I was a pickme girl and I didn’t even realize it because I was trying to fool myself too. And the “it w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 08:08 PM
15

THANK YOU! I hung out with a guy I knew from my past a few times when I moved back to the area he lived. We hung out a little but I didn’t like him and had a feeling he would bug out if I ended things so I blocked. He went to my sister (on Instagram) demanding to know if I ghosted him and then telling her I must be or my fingers must be broken. Then went to an old mutual friend of ours who he hadn’t spoken to in years and called me a fucking piece of shit and was trying to get him to send me thi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 07:45 PM
2

I will FOR SURE be looking into those books! I’m so excited to work on myself and posting on here really puts things into perspective for me! Thank you!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 07:15 PM
7

Yes! I always loved fitness and I’m getting back into it and making it a priority again. I love to cook and have been getting into meditation and yoga. Definitely gonna try to do some DIY decor around the apartment!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 07:13 PM
8

Thank you so much for sharing that with me and letting me know other women have gone down this road too. I tried to make up for what was missing in my marriage/relationship but I really think I was trying to fill this void of pain and rejection. It’s like I finally woke up one day and had to face the truth that sleeping with these guys wasn’t making me feel better just worse and that in some way it had to be a mix of masochism and wanting any kind of “love” and affection. But that’s not what it …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 07:10 PM
18

Exactly and I went off on him explaining that I’m an adult with things I have to do and if he didn’t have the decency to tell me if he was going to come over to then fuck off and he told me to calm down. I just shouldn’t have to explain common decency it’s just insane. BLOCKED.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 07:01 PM
20

Getting on that ASAP thank you!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 06:42 PM
16

Yessss I will thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 06:42 PM
38

Thank you definitely hitting that block button!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 06:26 PM
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