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lol nice. Good job!
/r/seduction16/08/24 03:50 AM
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You honestly feel kind of alive after a rejection. At least you went out of your comfort zone and went for something you wanted. It’s good to feel alive in this life. It’s mature. Women need/want/like mature guys. They don’t want children. They see you react poorly to something like that and it’s a huge turn off. It’s like poker. If you go lose a big pot, you don’t throw a huge tantrum. You just keep playing level headed and try to win the next one!
/r/seduction26/09/22 10:37 AM
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What have you tried?
/r/seduction25/09/22 01:11 PM
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Good luck! Have fun, let us know how it goes. Give her a kiss if it's going good!
/r/seduction23/09/22 06:38 PM
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lol you're in already. No need to flirt too much. Just be a man and make a move already silly
/r/seduction21/09/22 03:45 AM
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Ok. So what’s next. When are you going to see her?
/r/seduction09/09/22 04:34 AM
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Why didn’t you continue to hang with her since it was going so well?
/r/seduction08/09/22 03:58 PM
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Don't plan on doing it a few weeks lol. Do it today. Do it tomorrow. Do it on a walk downtown. Or at the gym. Or at the store. Or at a park.
/r/seduction25/08/22 10:04 PM
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Kinda depends on what you want and what you are looking for in a girl. Also, what do you enjoy doing? If you want a fling/party girl, then go to clubs. But if that isn’t your thing, maybe it would be better finding a girl doing a hobby you enjoy Far from doomed! Lol. Sounds like you are in a pretty good position. You just need a few tips and experience. Dating is just like anything else. The more time and practice you put into it, the better you will be at it. I’d be down to help you out if you …
/r/seduction17/09/21 02:00 PM
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lol. If you are 30 and have sex with one girl a year starting at 20, you are at 10. Doesn’t seem like much. OP is right though. Rejection/getting girls is harder when it’s your main focus. And you have nothing else to talk about. If all you do is game, then that’s all you have to talk about and girls don’t want to hear that shit. You get better with girls the better your life is and more stuff you have going on in it anyway. Short term: it’s easy to go try and find a girl and trick her into a ni…
/r/seduction16/09/21 05:31 PM
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Stop blaming your area. Let’s focus on the things we can control. You are great at opening and getting numbers. That’s pretty awesome! I think a few tweaks and you will be killing it. Where are you opening girls? How long are the interactions? What are you talking about? What’s the reason for getting their number? How are you getting it? Are you planting any seeds during the conversation? Are you bailing right after the number? What are you texting them? How are you asking them out? If I had to …
/r/seduction10/10/20 01:07 PM
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It’s not nothing. It’s hard when you learn anything especially this. And you got a date out of it. That’s more than you would have if you just sat on the couch right? Yea dress and look as best as you can like others have said. Don’t forget a big one: the more things going on in the rest of your life, the better you will do with girls. I had better success when I went for more insta dates and more importantly figured out the logistics. I would ask what they are doing right now. If nothing, go ge…
/r/seduction19/07/20 05:46 PM
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Great job getting out there and being a man and going for it! Advice questions: does she know why you wanted her number? What are you guys going to do? When are you going to hang out? Do you know when she’s free/where she lives? How are you going to open her on text And lead into the date? Some things to keep in mind. Getting numbers is better than not getting numbers. But you really want to have a reason or plan or better understanding of the logistical situation unless you are going to have to…
/r/seduction13/06/20 03:37 PM
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Yea wondering if you just said alright I’ll join you for a nap. Then maybe the same result without the bullshit. But yours worked pretty well
/r/seduction16/11/19 05:19 PM
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Join groups/things/teams/events. Say yes to whatever you are invited to and talk to people.
/r/seduction24/08/19 07:59 PM
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The date is perfect. Especially for this kind of girl. It’s great she’s already coming over. It’s great you are getting free help with your furniture. I like dates where there’s movement. I assume you guys will be moving around putting things together. Throw in a few “I wonder where this fits” jokes lol. Should be a fun time! My last date we walked to the farmers market and bought a live sea urchin. Went back to my place cracked it open and spoon fed it to her lol. Doesn’t get much weirder than …
/r/seduction22/08/19 08:17 PM
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Good job. That’s all you gotta do
/r/seduction16/08/19 03:31 PM
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I like his points. Everything comes with experience. You learn as you go. Sounds like he’s come across all these problems already so he knows how to deal with them. For you, I would just focus on what you think you are stuck on. We can only move one step at a time right? Feel free to pm or post any specific examples of dates or interactions and hopefully I can help out. I always feel like us guys start out at 100 and only doing/saying dumb shit lowers your score. I feel like most guys think they…
/r/seduction15/08/19 06:14 AM
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Most definitely. So much easier with a situational opener. Like if they are in line with you or you guys are looking in the same section. But if not, you just gotta sack up and live right? Lol I was at the gym the day before. Doing those leg machines where you like flap your knees/legs to the outside. A cute girl was on the one where you squeeze to the inside. People sometimes rotate between these machines. I knew she wasn’t rotating and was doing all 3 or whatever on the squeezing one but I ask…
/r/seduction14/08/19 12:32 PM
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I think it should give you hope. I was an awkward virgin at 21. 33 now and I’m still awkward lol but I’ve had a lot more experiences to help me out. We had our date yesterday, I posted it in another comment. She actually commented that she thought it was cute how nervous I was when I approached her lol.
/r/seduction14/08/19 12:23 PM
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Damn that was fun! We planned for smoothies, but ended up walking by the farmers market instead. I saw a sea urchin (uni) and she was down to try it. So we walked back to my place and cracked it open and sat outside. Was a fun like together activity with gloves and I would like spoon feed her when I got a good piece lol. That was pretty cool. Then we set out and started walking again. I grabbed her hand and we held hands and she liked it and reciprocated by rubbing my fingers. It got a little ch…
/r/seduction14/08/19 05:52 AM
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Yea. Whole Foods is awesome. Why not? I’m in San Diego.
/r/seduction14/08/19 05:01 AM
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She was younger and I was all sweaty from the gym. I told her I was all sweaty. She said she didn’t care and came in for a hug anyway lol. I think I high five is better than a hand shake and didn’t want to hug when I’m sweaty. You have a better alternative? Also, the high fives sometimes turn into finger interlocking and holding hands on the way down.
/r/seduction13/08/19 07:01 PM
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Good job. Was there a possibility for an insta date? Why the false time constraint. Why not go for it then. Did you make plans with something to do in mind or find out when she’s free?
/r/seduction13/08/19 06:14 AM
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At least he’s trying. Trying is better than doing nothing. And he came here for advice.
/r/seduction04/05/19 09:57 PM
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Damn. I’d love to help you. Yea maybe like other people are saying, you are probably projecting something negative. All the approaches with little success, you aren’t expecting it to go well and they probably feel that. I mean I don’t blame you for feeling the way you do after that many approaches without results. You are 35 and got your shit together. That should be a big catch. Maybe you could do more with your looks/style. My biggest tip would be to join more things instead of cold approachin…
/r/seduction04/05/19 06:17 PM
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That’s so good
/r/PussyPassDenied15/12/18 08:40 PM
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I would just try to kiss her. If you can’t do that maybe just ask if she wants to kiss and see what happens from there. You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take!
/r/seduction15/12/18 04:37 PM
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nice work!
/r/seduction30/11/18 02:45 AM
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Nice. Sounds good. If something can come up naturally that reminds you of her/something that happened to you guys, even better.
/r/seduction18/11/18 09:01 PM
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Yea that's the tough one. But I like to strike while the iron is hot. Also, if she isn't ready she can always ask more questions to make herself feel more comfortable. Maybe just a what are your plans this week? Find out when she's free and see what works for you? Then just ask if she wants to hang out on X. What do others think about that? Doesn't feel too much like an escalation, more like a continuation! Build rapport in person, not over text. She/you guys are a bit young so that might take a…
/r/seduction18/11/18 06:34 PM
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Great job! Send her a text. Tell her you had fun and see when you guys can hang again. I don’t think there has to be much text “game”. Just see when you guys are free. I like planning dates near a lay location (yours or hers). That involve a lot of moving around (so it doesn’t get stale and you are seated the whole time). And it feels like you have experienced more together and different scenarios give more to talk about. Post more about your specific situation and I’d be glad to help. Good luck…
/r/seduction18/11/18 03:49 PM
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Get a motorcycle and find a hippie
/r/seduction25/09/18 08:21 PM
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Find a hobby that interacts with people a bit more that you like to do?
/r/seduction29/07/18 06:05 PM
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What did you say?
/r/seduction28/06/18 02:21 PM
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that's too much lol. too much trying and too much having a made up convo with yourself. Can't get something more simple? Like I had some pretty good pizza today cuz you guys talked about pizza lol. Yea. When should we hang out again? Oh I dno im free x. Cool, want to get a drink on x? She says yea. then ok how about x. I would def try a diff place. You don't have to sneakily ask her out. Just see when she's free and see if she wants to hang. don't bring up the lie about your ex more lol. man you…
/r/seduction25/06/18 04:22 AM
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Instead of going right for the date text, is there something light/jokey you could text her about your conversation? Or something that happened to you that could relate to her? And maybe since you like asking, I usually go for the: anything going on next weekend? She will let you know if she has plans or when she’s free and you can gauge around that and ask for a day/time that works for both of you. Good luck!
/r/seduction24/06/18 08:40 AM
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lol you will be just fine. Just keep at it
/r/seduction19/06/18 06:50 PM
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Nice fucking work!!!!!! So proud of you. That's all you need to do. I think you handled everything perfectly. Keep getting at it. Keep posting
/r/seduction29/07/17 01:23 AM
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Cool. Good job getting all that stuff worked on for free.
/r/seduction12/07/17 11:36 PM
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2 options I've used. You can hold out your arm ahead of time and stand in their path and start talking way before they are near you. That has worked, but it's more of a bold approach. When they slip by you, I don't see anything wrong with turning around and going after them. I'm usually just honest with them like, man I'd be kicking myself if I didn't come over and say hello. Or I wanted to meet you because I thought you were cute - whatever. In your spot I woulda waved them over to you, if both…
/r/seduction13/04/16 02:07 AM
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Nice work. Sounds like fun
/r/seduction18/02/16 01:26 AM
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wooooooooo nice work
/r/seduction02/01/16 04:13 AM
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get drunk and kiss her.
/r/seduction30/11/15 08:37 PM
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Well he said "become the guy that gets approached". You said celebrities get approached. Could he not become a celebrity?
/r/seduction03/09/15 03:22 AM
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Meeting more women is a good one. The busier the lifestyle you have, the less time you get to think about one specific girl as well. The mind is a very powerful thing. I think a lot of feelings are actually built during the time spent apart from each other. Don't think about this girl when you are doing mindless activities like driving or in bed at night. Keep her out of your mind. Only think about her when you are making plans or actually talking to her. This should help you from falling for gi…
/r/seduction31/08/15 03:35 AM
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There's supposed to be a happy balance - just like anything in life. Are people going to be really good at football if they sit on the sidelines and know every play/strategy/opponent by the back of their hand without ever actually playing football? No, they will suck. Just as much as you need to read/learn about your craft, you need to spend time actually doing it. Now, onto your problem. Your problem is you haven't been approaching yet right? What is the very first thing you need to do in order…
/r/seduction25/08/15 03:15 AM
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Cool read. Nice stories. Very motivating. The tinder one was awesome. I like how you broke everything down too, instead of set by set or something. Just highlights. Now I've been watching James, Yad, and sasha videos haha. I love picking up girls and meeting people. So much fun! On to part 2 now...
/r/seduction25/08/15 02:38 AM
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hay bb want sum fuk?
/r/seduction09/07/15 08:27 PM
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I loooooooooooove day game in NYC. So many people and so much to do!! I love everything about it. I'm from Staten Island. So I would usually already have a head start because I get a chance to talk to cute girls on the train and then again during the Ferry ride. Then, the train again in the city! So awesome. I'll be back there in about 3 weeks for a few days. Can't wait. My favorite spots are Washington Square Park and Union Square.
/r/seduction02/06/15 05:12 AM
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Yea she's about a 5 hour drive away and has visited my city around 5 times. I asked her to hang out on President's day because I was off, but she had left already. So she asked for a rain check.
/r/seduction18/02/15 05:09 AM
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I like making sure I meet girls near/at my/their place. So it is easier to have sex with them.
/r/seduction16/01/15 06:21 AM
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My cock sweat.
/r/seduction02/01/15 01:17 AM
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the term cold approach makes talking to ladies you find attractive so appealing!
/r/seduction27/11/14 07:41 AM
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i joined a co-ed kickball league. they give us a free pitcher from a bar after the game. so we all hang out afterwards.
/r/seduction07/11/14 12:39 AM
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good work. keep it up man the more you do it - the easier it gets
/r/seduction02/11/14 03:58 AM
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dude. If i was a virgin, I'd get laid everyday. Just tell girls and shit will happen
/r/seduction13/09/14 07:20 AM
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I failed and failed and failed, but kept approaching and stuck with it. Eventually after enough practice you get better. Just like with anything in life. A lot of it is the non-verbals though. When YOU are comfortable being yourself and especially being comfortable in silence, it doesn't matter what is said. That will come naturally. Girls suck at silence. That's how you build dat tension. When you guys are staying in one place, there isn't as much to talk about. Move around and your surrounding…
/r/seduction09/08/14 07:10 PM
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Very nice solid work. Brb learning how to slackline
/r/seduction15/07/14 05:27 AM
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I like all of these points. Also, don't forget to run away as soon as you get the number. I like to put in another 2-3 mins of talking after you have the number. I, just like you, went through a phase of getting numbers and getting pretty much all flakes. I still get number flakes all the time. It's just a process though; stick with it. Once you start getting dates, you will then have to get comfortable with going on dates, then sex, then after sex, etc etc. I have a slightly different style tha…
/r/seduction07/06/14 09:24 PM
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put your penis in their mouth
/r/seduction03/06/14 09:39 PM
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it's better to be pissed off than pissed on
/r/seduction09/04/14 08:05 AM
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do it 5000 times. then it will feel normal to you
/r/seduction23/03/14 06:06 PM
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but drinking is fun doe
/r/seduction23/09/13 12:08 AM
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let em
/r/seduction22/09/13 08:18 AM
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My day2 strategy: The date location has to be close to either where I live or she lives (pull spot). I have them meet at my place for 2 crucial reasons. 1. They see it and are comfortable with it. Much more likely to go back after the date if they already know what they are going back to. 2. Just because you guys have a date planned, there are already at your place and you guys may never end up leaving. I like to see if they want a beer or something and just chill and maybe make shit happen. I f…
/r/seduction22/09/13 01:26 AM
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ya texting is for setting up dates. Not to get the know the person + you already did that. Set up a date somewhere close to either your place or her place and try to lead it back there
/r/seduction19/09/13 01:48 AM
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First of all, great job. Hope you keep up the good work. Pick up isn't always about amazing super awesome skills. Sometimes just being out there and putting yourself in good situations will make shit happen. You went up to this girl and created an opportunity for yourself. Winning. I don't see any reason not to text her back. I think any kind of experience will be good for you right now. My favorite rebuttal to the bf is "do you want a manfriend?" (said with a silly grin). It's pretty hard not t…
/r/seduction18/09/13 07:56 AM
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I got an outer game tip for you. Stick your tongue out at girls when they are walking by or anywhere that they make eye contact with you really. I'd say it has an ~85% success rate. Most of them get this stupid little smile. Some of them revert back to when they were 5 years old and scrunch their face and get super into sticking their tongue back at you! - it's awesome. I used to get nervous doing this. So it was a small step for me to get out of my comfort zone. Now, I do it for fun and it usua…
/r/seduction14/09/13 09:33 PM
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Good post. You are pretty good looking you liar. You have pretty good facial expressions as well. I would make sure you use that to your advantage. Ya just get comfortable talking to people in social situations and you will get better when you see a girl you are attracted. You get better by practicing and constantly putting yourself out there so it becomes normal.
/r/seduction12/09/13 07:55 AM
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Yea. That is one of the reasons why I did it. I had a better chance of having sex by giving them a ride getting closer to where she is sleeping than going home by myself. But still, I was giving a ride to 3 drunk girls at 2am I barely knew lol.
/r/seduction11/09/13 01:58 AM
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I don't know. Giving 3 girls I barely know a ride home for really no reason? Isn't that supplicating/AFC shit? I mean after we are cool and friends/had sex I don't mind doing shit like that.
/r/seduction10/09/13 07:03 PM
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she was on her period
/r/seduction10/09/13 05:00 PM
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lol
/r/seduction16/08/13 07:37 AM
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Awesome. Great lr. All of it seemed really solid to me
/r/seduction13/08/13 07:27 AM
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Jaysus. Sounds like you put in a lot of effort for things you didn't really need to do. Why are you "negging" this girl so much. Getting a new puppy is cool. Nipple piercings are fucking cool. Good job with the 6 pack kino. Seemed like you could have kissed her the first time you guys watched the movie. Why start so far away when the movie started? Get closer when it starts, so it doesn't take so long during the movie. Seemed like the poking was good. Maybe turn poking into tickling into kissing…
/r/seduction11/08/13 09:05 PM
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A baseball date seems long and stationary after the initial thrill of seeing the ballpark. I'm surprised the kino wasn't better received after she had to have her arms around you during the scooter ride. + the kiss on the cheek. Although, how much can you really do at a baseball game since you are in public. Like i said, a baseball game is long. You started the date off on a high note then it was probably low energy for a few hours. Kinda hard to go back to high energy after especially because i…
/r/seduction11/08/13 08:51 PM
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These are your 2 best bros? Man, fuck them. I usually don't make fun of the people that I consider good friends. One of my friends is 350lbs and every time we are hanging out with girls I point out to them how fat he is and we all laugh. He loves it when I do this. It's why we are such good friends. wut In any case, if you think of something clever go for the agree and amplify. If not, ignoring usually just the trick though.
/r/seduction10/07/13 05:55 AM
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What is wrong with doing something/anything near or at your place or hers? I can only think of one girl that I took to mini-golf.
/r/seduction10/07/13 05:39 AM
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Get comfortable with yourself. Do it the hard way by starting with things that make you uncomfortable.
/r/seduction10/07/13 05:29 AM
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I've went out with wings. I've went out solo. I started from having to high five random strangers and saying "hi" to everyone to get in "state". One important thing for me is that I remind myself why I am there. I like to have sex with girls. Having sex with girls is fun. So, I look at a girl and I see that she is pretty and I think of what it would be like to have sex with her as I'm walking over. Also, don't you feel alive after the first approach? Good or bad, I start to remember how much fun…
/r/seduction10/07/13 05:24 AM
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I've watched this video before. I think this guy is pretty cool. That being said: I'm 1 FOR 1 LIFETIME with this approach. It was during the night in the street though
/r/seduction04/07/13 06:00 PM
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yea good shit. takes a real man to go after what you want. keep up the good work. you will only get better
/r/seduction04/07/13 07:26 AM
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I think this post is cool. I liked the details and how you talked about what you enjoyed. I like how you pointed out his escalation tactics and how you responded to them in your mind and during the date. I enjoyed the FR. It would be cool to see more of them
/r/seduction02/07/13 06:56 PM
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MOVE ON TO NEXT GURL
/r/seduction30/06/13 08:55 AM
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I guess you did a good job. You were persistent, but like another dude said it wasn't your sensational pick up skills. I'd like to back up here for a second. Why are you going for your first kiss when you guys are getting out of the car? It isn't a very sexual place. There isn't any room for escalation. There was probably nothing leading up to it. And so what, your first kiss attempt didn't go so well. She was still hanging out with you wasn't she? She didn't get freaked out and run away. If you…
/r/seduction29/06/13 08:26 PM
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pinky swear, thumb war, mercy (also could very easily turn into a makeout), high fives for them saying cool things, and that quick slap game where they put their hands over yours and you have to stand in front of them. all these little tricks helped me get comfortable touching girls hands when i was a nub.
/r/seduction28/06/13 04:52 PM
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i think you might be wasting time talking to these girls for so long then. whats the point? you can't escalate. girls are down to give numbers under real quick. there isn't really too much to gain in the 20-45 minute window if there really isn't a good place to escalate ya know? when i first started, i had an AWFUL number to date ratio. but man, it all comes in steps. for me, it started with simply approaching and then after i while i got passed it. next step was getting numbers. it took a bit, …
/r/seduction23/11/12 06:10 AM
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dude small community colleges are the best for picking up girls... because no one really knows each other and are looking to make friends! what is this non sense about girls leaving unpredictably? ask them early in the convo what time their class is, so you know how much time you have haha.
/r/seduction23/11/12 12:12 AM
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correct
/r/seduction16/05/12 04:50 AM
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wait a second, guys talk to girls they want to have sex with during the day? you go out for lunch right? during a time where other people who also eat food go out for lunch? say hi to a girl you want to put your penis in
/r/seduction20/03/12 01:54 AM
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have you had sex before? why don't you want to have sex with girls? are you worried/anxious about something? do naked girls turn you on? are you attracted to them?
/r/seduction06/07/11 06:26 AM
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next time you get a number, seed in you guys hanging out in the future. give her a reason why you are taking down her number. suggest something fun you guys can do together. when the time comes, you don't even have to do what you suggested
/r/seduction04/07/11 05:56 PM
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This next time you chill with her in my opinion will be decisive so i'd pull out the big guns if possible, bring any cool ass friends you have, invite other girls, get that social proof working for you, make sure your energy is 100% correct when you chill with her, get your inner-game down BEFORE you meet-up with her. As for date ideas, i'd try to take a group of friends males&females on a night barhopping/clubhopping. Getting some alcohol involved will loosen any inhibitions she has about doing…
/r/seduction04/07/11 05:26 PM
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