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| 22 | Pregnant just two months after getting engaged. Feeling like I'm suddenly speed racing into wifehood and freaking out!Although weddings, engagement, bridal showers, gender-reveal, baby showers, any “party” stuff are fun and beautiful and socially important…it really does not matter. Your relationship with your husband matters. Take a deep breath, focus, and enjoy your relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/23 12:42 AM |
| 3 | Going down on womenThere is no “consensus” in this community. Although we value partnership and commitment and “sexual strategy” the way that you sexually relate to your partner does not matter! Some powerful men enjoy being dominated in the bedroom. It’s their “reprieve” from having to be powerful all the time. Some powerful men enjoy aggressive, degrading to the woman, BJ’s. Some men enjoy vanilla sex. Consent is always important. Otherwise none of these sexual preferences makes one man more Red Pill than the ot… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/06/23 09:44 PM |
| 3 | Do HVM care about where you attend college?Do HVM care about where you go college? No. Is an ADN employable in your area? I’d research that to figure out your transfer pattern. ADN as a new grad is not employable in major metropolitan areas filled with Magnet hospitals. Go straight to BSN. But nursing is hard. You might not like it. ADN will be less money to take that risk. The amount of debt you are in and if you have an employable skill will matter more to a man than ADN vs BSN. I am an RN if you have more questions. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/05/23 07:42 AM |
| 1 | What do you do when the one you love calls you “useless?”My boyfriend on the other hand, did not but has found the RP community and is building these “traditional” values. I really want to say, “I’m going to vomit” but I will keep trying… Either way, I just wanted some advice from a community that he’s involved in to see if this is normal, how to handle it, etc. It obviously really hurts me because I don’t deem myself as useless…. Who do you think we are? The dumbass crowd? I’m actually offended. You are seeking like-minded weak people to give you cop… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/05/23 05:11 AM |
| 2 | Cannot find most guy attractive due to hypergamy, my father and my secluded lifestyle.We seriously don’t know anything about her father. Or her. It’s possible that he’s greedy and corrupt. It’s possible that he’s a very intelligent scientist. It’s possible that they are descended from royalty, participating in crime, or that he rips bread out of people’s mouths. Why does it matter right now? She said she grew up privileged and respects her father. We don’t need to debate whether the upper class earned their wealth. It’s absolutely irrelevant to her question. We can debate other s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/05/23 08:57 PM |
| 3 | Do men have a wall? When do they become HVM?Does it always need to be about children? Can you be feminine without being a mother? If you are 32 and you want children, you’d dating pool might get smaller. If you are 32 and you don’t want kids, does it get larger? What if you already have some, what if he already has some? Can anyone in this scenario be “High Value” the answer is a complicated and messy “yes” What if no one has or wants children??? You can still be RP even if you are childfree. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/05/23 08:42 PM |
| 1 | Cannot find most guy attractive due to hypergamy, my father and my secluded lifestyle.I’ve been thinking about my responses a lot. Was I leaning too hard into defining adultery or “branch swinging?” I think I was mixing them. If OP is as she says, a politician’s daughter, are there people above her/her fathers social status? Maybe not. Either way I don’t think being a top 2% young woman seeking a top 2% husband makes her hypergamous. I’ll keep thinking on it though. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/05/23 04:51 PM |
| 7 | Do men have a wall? When do they become HVM?I’m going to devils advocate right back… with love for the sake of discussion I totally agree that women should take their time in nun mode and self improvement, regardless of how close they are to the wall or how far past the wall they are. That time is not wasted; time taken to gain discernment and self awareness is never wasted. LOVE THIS! So true! A man at 32 that finds God and wants to settle down - has no obvious reason to be insincere or desperate at that specific age. Whereas a woman at … | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/05/23 11:47 AM |
| 1 | Cannot find most guy attractive due to hypergamy, my father and my secluded lifestyle.I understand your misunderstanding. It is a correct use if you are poor, married, and life goes on. You are a married woman. It’s settled. It’s final. But… You noticed that fancy man, that buys the suits that your husband launders. The richer man is so alluring. Your husband labors at the dry-cleaner job, he always smells like chemicals. Your mind focuses on the man who can afford the suits. That’s hypergamy. You seem like you come from wealth. Like big money. And another culture. We all have di… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/05/23 11:19 AM |
| 1 | Cannot find most guy attractive due to hypergamy, my father and my secluded lifestyle.You are using the word hypergamy incorrectly. Hypergamy is similar to lust. It’s sexual attraction, yes. But it’s worse. Let’s say that you marry the “Mine Owner Man” get married, have kids, etc. But you realize the Foreman or Manager of the Mine Employees is actually a harder worker, or a better person. You also know a man that knows about computers. He is so smart. As a married woman, if you dream about lust for the foreman, or the computer guy, and you think “forget about my children, husband… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/05/23 10:53 AM |
| 13 | Do men have a wall? When do they become HVM?I’m really impressed that you linked studies and statistics. Anecdotally, I’m just mad that I’ve never been asked: “do you smoke, have you tried psychadelic drugs, do you agree with this social policy, what is you’re opinion on pair bonding after 10+ sexual partners.” Seriously. No one asked me anything. Even when I was in college. And seriously…who cares about college? Plenty of people don’t go, or don’t socialize, join sororities, or remember anyone’s name from their night classes. It’s a tota… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/05/23 10:37 AM |
| 17 | Do men have a wall? When do they become HVM?The women that are the most insecure about “the wall topic” are the one’s with the least objective factual problems. They complain, “I’m 22, 26, I’ve had 3 sexual partners and I masturbated once, therefore I’m ruined.” Single mothers with 3 kids, no self awareness, swiping through tinder: they don’t despair about whether they are good people. Why are these young women with ZERO or very few sexual partners talking so negatively about their outlook. I’m not suggesting to read feminist propaganda, … | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/05/23 10:05 AM |
| 2 | Cannot find most guy attractive due to hypergamy, my father and my secluded lifestyle.You are not using the word “hypergamy” correctly. That’s okay. Your life is very different than mine. I’ve had many many sexual partners. And I’m not sorry about it. I am much more attracted to personality. I notice men’s personality much faster than I notice muscles. It’s because I’m a woman. Women are emotional. Men are visual. This is very simplistic. But…it sounds like your family is wealthy. It sounds like you have high social status. Because of your wealth and status, it will be difficult … | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/05/23 09:25 AM |
| – | how to reverse the damage of high body count?It’s like “what do you think you want?” “When you have what you want, what will it feel like?” “What would it feel like if you got some of the things you wanted, but not all?” “How will you know when it’s not right?” “What would you do to keep trying for what you want?” “What would it feel like if you accepted that you got most things?” “How would you tell other people the things you want?” “What if the other person didn’t like what you said.” It helps you define things beyond saying “I want mar… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/05/23 06:14 PM |
| 1 | how to reverse the damage of high body count?what if my answers are the bad ones? You need to listen to what u/Wife_and_mama asked you. Copy her comment/questions. Save it in a word document or phone note, You need to sit down. Set a timer for 30 minutes. Record your voice response, write in a journal, or type on your phone notes app. Spend 30 minutes answering the questions. Do it off the top of your head. Don’t try to be perfect or impress anyone. Go to work, live your life, get distracted, be depressed, whatever. Just don’t review your … | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/05/23 11:51 PM |
| 1 | how to reverse the damage of high body count?I’m going to DM you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/05/23 11:25 PM |
| 6 | how to reverse the damage of high body count?I thought about adding an edit to my last post but nope…I’m doing a whole new one. You’ve posted about your forehead on Vindicta Plastic surgery is fine. If you can afford it, do it. I’ve had multiple plastic surgeries with very fair skin, no scars. Overeating/binging/trying to hit 1200 calories You need to do some math about calories. You won’t be successful if you aim for the absolute lowest safe calorie recommendation, fail, and then binge. Go slower with your goals. And gender dysphoria I th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/05/23 11:21 AM |
| 7 | how to reverse the damage of high body count?I totally thought you were a man. But I reviewed your post history…sigh…it doesn’t seem you are How do you reverse the damage? You don’t. But not in a bad way. What do you do about... ... Less happiness/sexual chemistry/marital satisfaction? Don’t get married to someone you aren’t happy/chemisty/ sexually satisfied with. Don’t obsess about your past lovers. Don’t marry a man who you don’t like and isn’t good in bed. ... Less ability to pair bond/fall in love? Now that you have a high body count,… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/05/23 10:56 AM |
| 1 | Are “redpill” men the type to make you feel empowered?There is substantial evidence that indicates humans are monogamous lovers in our sexual behavior. Close interpersonal relationships have been proven as good for the human psyche. Even without the need to transfer wealth, humans still paired up. Again, I’m not an anthropologist. I do think that there have been countless psychological studies that demonstrate that humans are social and enjoy intimate social contact. I want to reference theHarlow Monkey Love Study the monkey preferred the comfortab… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/23 02:41 PM |
| 1 | Was it me?I just wanted to say that the effort you put into your response was amazing!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/23 07:32 PM |
| 1 | Was it me?This is such a weird and interesting discussion. I really appreciate that you are taking the time to explain. I don’t mean this in a mean way, but I’m curious if you have friends, siblings, family, coworkers? You seem like you are saying “I am really lonely” through a lot of your descriptions of your behaviors. There’s a lot of “I need someone to like me” and “I need connection” If you don’t have friends, you need to go hard on making friends in real life. Cooking classes, hiking, community coll… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/23 07:31 PM |
| 1 | Was it me?Oh my gosh… Okay. Do you find any of his conversations about gender dynamics interesting? I think gender dynamics are interesting. I could totally have a conversation with this guy. But are you just being talked at? As he just tells you all his philosophies? Or is this a discussion you enjoy? It sounds like he very clearly said he’s not monogamous. He wants to explore sexual chemistry. I am NOT monogamous. My partner of 10 years is NOT monogamous to me. That is a COMPLICATED agreement that we ha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/23 06:57 PM |
| 2 | Are “redpill” men the type to make you feel empowered?Wow, I did a really long and thought-out reply that just disappeared? I do love talking about this stuff so I'm giving it another go. I hate when that happens!! The reality is that suitable people don't stay single long. Fair. Women can tell if a guy has the ability to be a provider before they become successful. Hard disagree. (Maybe my father would know that if he was arranging my marriage) Historically, historically, historically… I’m not an anthropologist…but historically monogamy was create… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/23 05:39 PM |
| 4 | Are “redpill” men the type to make you feel empowered?This comment took an almost complete 180 from your original comment of ”Most RP men make me feel like a useless meat sack with no life meaning waiting for death.” I think you are saying “RPM make me feel like…”with much too broad of a brush. I’m shocked that you’ve gotten so many upvotes. Now your new comment: Red pill is a loosely used term and I find there are stages to red pill. I got into red pill and struggled a lot with those feelings but as more time has passed and I've found some flaws i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/23 01:09 PM |
| 9 | Are “redpill” men the type to make you feel empowered?I love to submit. It’s fun. It feels natural! Expectations about being feminine and submissive actually calms me down. It gives me a goal and a focus. I’m never quiet…. Unless I was told to be quiet during a very serious social situation. I am absolutely powerful. Being feminine doesn’t make you Less. It doesn’t make you dumb, incapable or powerless. I’ve found a lot a comfort in letting men lead … which is to say, a correct and worthy man. Confident, free, authentic, uninhibited? Well…I don’t a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/23 06:22 AM |
| 1 | As RPW, what are your opinions on age gap relationships?I’ve always (mostly) done it. My sweet spot is 15 years older. I was doing it when I was underage (illegal and very harshly judged) I did it when I was a young adult. It was not the right fit, but it was a learning experience. I also dated a guy my own age and experienced the most serious definition of physical domestic violence in my dating history…that really changed my life. Now I’m back at 15 years older. It’s going well. Sure we have our troubles, but it’s a really fun and beneficial dynami… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/23 03:24 AM |
| 33 | How can modern dating change?People or society need to start viewing relationships as important work that you need to give effort to and be proud of. It’s not a fairy tale for either men or women. A man is not going to sweep you off your feet and spoil you because you are special. A woman is not going to begin reenacting a porn scene and require zero emotional support. Your family life won’t be perfect because of your religion. Healthy relationships require effort and commitment. That’s not to say that early troubles and in… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/05/23 12:55 PM |
| 1 | How to handle/communicate small issues that upset you to your partner in a feminine way?Tough question. Because I do explode, we’ve agreed to this email/note thing as a communication style when we are upset. He sends the emails to me sometimes to for the same reasons (being upset but not wanting to start a fight) If you can verbally express that you are trying not to nag or pick fights you can warn him that you will email. Otherwise you could make the subject of the email “something has been on my mind” Say what you need to say, but add that you weren’t trying to start a fight. I d… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/05/23 04:21 AM |
| 22 | How to handle/communicate small issues that upset you to your partner in a feminine way?Oh man…I do this a lot and then I explode. I really have a lot of work to do in this area. There are suggestions from Laura Doyle to say “ouch” in the moment. Not getting asked about how you are feeling on your period isn’t a great example. It’s more if he says “that’s silly” about something important to you. Just say “ouch” it communicates immediately and it’s not mean or accusatory. I have also found a lot of value in writing notes on my phone and then sending emails. The first note often star… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/05/23 06:23 AM |
| 2 | I am feeling conflicted about opting to be a housewife or stay-at-home mom instead of pursuing a conventional job.I’m so happy for you!! If you love being a mom, whether it’s bio-mom or step-mom you truly make a difference. A lot of people assume that this is “natural” but a lot of women don’t have it. (That doesn’t make those women bad) But rock on Mama! I can’t do it. I like kids and I give my caregiving energy to my RN job, and I LOVE my adult step daughter. But I’m childfree. I’m not into it. And my step-daughters bio-mom was overwhelmed, postpartum depressed, and just not into it. I started being step-… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/05/23 07:30 PM |
| 2 | Do you think it’s possible to be a mainly stay at home wife, only working part-time and have my man be the main breadwinner if I don’t want kids?I love it so much that you said “O” instead of “K” I totally agree with your reaction and the effort you gave to your response. That is absolutely my dark humor!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/05/23 02:39 PM |
| 3 | I am feeling conflicted about opting to be a housewife or stay-at-home mom instead of pursuing a conventional job.I used to be a nanny/babysitter. I was a runaway from a broken home. I went to alternative schools where teens who had babies could bring their kids to school and other students would care for the kids in some sort of “home economics/childcare” class. I LOVED IT! I totally wanted to be a preschool teacher. But I was mostly just a runaway that would use what I learned to babysit spoiled kids so that I had a place to live. I became an RN because an aptitude test said that I would be good at it. Wh… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/05/23 02:24 PM |
| 2 | I am feeling conflicted about opting to be a housewife or stay-at-home mom instead of pursuing a conventional job.There’s a lot to consider. I was interested in dental hygiene for a while. That job requires a lot of fine motor skills and holding your hands and arms at awkward angles. There’s also a lot of anatomy and physiology. Pharmacy is going to require a lot of math, chemistry, and physiology. If you are preparing drugs (ranging from chemo to vasopressors which need to be a specific concentration) you need to be really on top of lab safety standards and sterile technique. Dental hygiene will require a … | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/05/23 01:59 PM |
| 2 | I am feeling conflicted about opting to be a housewife or stay-at-home mom instead of pursuing a conventional job.You are really young to decide that you never want to work. It’s good that you don’t want to go into debt. So go to community college and take some very basic Early Childhood Education and Home Economics or Food Safety Classes. I’m not asking you to get a STEM degree. But take some classes. Pay for them. Continue working as a babysitter or barista. Learn the value of a dollar. (I realize I sound like a boomer. But I’m not) Get familiar with basic first aid, nutrition, cooking, math related to bu… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/05/23 01:30 PM |
| 2 | Do you think it’s possible to be a mainly stay at home wife, only working part-time and have my man be the main breadwinner if I don’t want kids?Please read my other replies. If you look up my comments. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/05/23 06:59 AM |
| 1 | Do you think it’s possible to be a mainly stay at home wife, only working part-time and have my man be the main breadwinner if I don’t want kids?You said what you said. Own it. I’ve been a stay at home girlfriend. It seems really simple if you described it as: “being cheerful, fun. Taking care of simple chores, in a beautiful setting, while getting your hair done and trying on fancy clothes!” For real: I even know how to cook! Sounds amazing on paper. I’m actually very depressed, and difficult to be around. (But I meet all the other qualifications!!) And I bet those TikTok videos show a reality that will last forever! | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/05/23 06:28 AM |
| 5 | Do you think it’s possible to be a mainly stay at home wife, only working part-time and have my man be the main breadwinner if I don’t want kids?I’m going to go off topic granted, I am very stupidly trusting…you have to lead with trust….otherwise you don’t deserve her trust. This is an optimistic but dangerous statement. I don’t even know if you are a man or a woman, but it’s dangerous either way. It’s okay to say, “I see the best in people” “I don’t look around and feel like other people are taking advantage” but sometimes you do have to view relationships as transactional business decisions. That sucks. It’s not romantic at all. But em… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/05/23 06:18 AM |
| 2 | Do you think it’s possible to be a mainly stay at home wife, only working part-time and have my man be the main breadwinner if I don’t want kids?Wow! This was articulated so well!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/05/23 05:57 AM |
| 2 | Do you think it’s possible to be a mainly stay at home wife, only working part-time and have my man be the main breadwinner if I don’t want kids?Eh, I think that RP, HVM, and TRAD men can be very different. HVM might not want kids. That might be part of why they earn SO much money, go on so many adventures, and have expensive hobbies: because they didn’t get brought down by family life. “Brought down” might be the wrong phrasing for men and women who want a family life. But a HVM can absolutely say: I don’t want kids. (He might also say I don’t want commitment or marriage) That type of HVM probably doesn’t want a freeloader. Even if he’s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/23 11:00 PM |
| 8 | Do you think it’s possible to be a mainly stay at home wife, only working part-time and have my man be the main breadwinner if I don’t want kids?I think that if you don’t want kids and you want to be a SAHW that you need to have a very intense hobby. Think marathons or triathletes, or sewing custom corsets on your Etsy page. Without that structure, this is probably a recipe for depression. Sure, homemaking and cooking and planning take time. But without children it doesn’t take a lot of time. What will you do with the rest of your time? Netflix? Read? Wine? Dream of lavish vacations? Ponder ways to resent him because you are bored? If yo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/23 06:39 PM |
| 2 | Hi, I'm not redpilleed at all but I've found it enlightening in this groupYou should not get challenged if you are an expert. Even if your expertise is something traditionally masculine such as “repairing motorcycles” You can also be really physically strong! Physical health is awesome. But when you are having a conversation, or especially a social event, don’t say “lol, and then he told me he doesn’t know what to do when the check engine light comes on! We went to the gym together and I can bench press more than he can deadlift!” Don’t compete with him about traditio… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/23 06:23 AM |
| 2 | How much will a man actually change?I disagree with: Your post definitely paints a picture of you as the ungrateful girlfriend. Unless you are just talking about the original post, and not her comments. You then said: I think you're giving him too much credit. Honestly, it seems like you're trying too hard. I think so too. We agree on that. Sorry I wasn’t trying to argue. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/23 09:08 PM |
| 3 | How much will a man actually change?Yes!! This is absolutely “covert contract” territory. Me and my partner don’t really care about Valentine’s Day. But I will directly say “I want to go to my favorite restaurant named “THISNAME” on Valentines Day because it’s on a Friday and I want that” Stupid statements such as “this is a special week” “im excited about our horoscope” “I know you are gonna impress me later this week” ….guys do not know what the F that means. If you want flowers on Valentines sometimes you have to say, “I know y… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/23 09:05 PM |
| 4 | How much will a man actually change?I disagree. I’m getting major vibes that he doesn’t care and that she doesn’t want to bad mouth him. Interesting that she didn’t confirm or deny whether they are having sex. That was a direct question!! I hope she keeps replying. The rest of my opinion is that she doesn’t know HIS love language and her wasted efforts are making her feel like she gives more effort. Great discussion. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/23 08:56 PM |
| 1 | How much will a man actually change?What is his receiving love language? Seriously. Bringing cookies is acts of service. Your commute towards him might also be acts of service. If his receiving language is physical touch: cookies, notes, and gifts don’t matter. Physical touch doesn’t have to mean sex. We haven’t even discussed if you do that in your relationship. Physical touch is hugging while greeting or departing, holding his hand during a movie, or putting your hand on him when he tells you something. You might be baking all t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/23 08:33 PM |
| 5 | How much will a man actually change?Taking you on dates is him giving you shared experiences. While you might enjoy the dates, you need to tell him to save his efforts. Being a “gift receiver” as a love language doesn’t make you materialistic. I’m a “gift giver” as a love language. If you were my friend and we had brunch and we got into a silly conversation about how much you love French bulldogs, I will write that stuff down and I will buy you a trinket key chain with a French bulldog on it or send you videos of Walter Geoffrey. … | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/23 07:33 PM |
| 5 | How much will a man actually change?I think that if you already know each others love languages that this scenario is becoming more important and now I have more doubts. Buying flowers on Valentines when you know she likes to receive gifts is not Rocket Science. I think it’s a big deal. Sometimes men are working, preoccupied, stressed, and they miss stuff. That’s okay. So you need to repeat yourself “my love language is receiving gifts. That’s how I feel cherished. Recently I’ve noticed that you aren’t trying to make me feel loved… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/23 07:11 PM |
| 16 | How much will a man actually change?The question isn’t how much will he change. Do you guys know each other’s love language? There are 5 of them. They are 1) words of affirmation 2) physical touch 3) acts of service 4) shared experiences 5) receiving gifts. Each of you has a way that you like to give and receive love. It sounds like you give gifts and want to receive gifts. He might be showing you love by words or acts of service, but you aren’t noticing because you find gifts to be more meaningful. He might want to receive acts o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/23 06:12 PM |
| 7 | Hi, I'm not redpilleed at all but I've found it enlightening in this groupI’m definitely hypergamous. It’s not a popular confession, but it’s a true phenomenon. Groupies want to bang heroin addicted rockstars because “he’s confident, he doesn’t seem to need my validation, and the fact the he gives zero fucks probably makes him interesting.” That gives me the tingles. Well meaning people might shout “WHY! HOW! He’s skinny and dirty! He’s not going to commit to you!” I don’t care! I still am getting lots of positive nuerochemicals that make me feel desire and lust. I do… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/23 07:18 PM |
| 1 | Can you share your favorite (relatively easy) dinner recipe?Here is my meatloaf recipe: 2 lbs ground Turkey or beef 1 small sweet onion diced 1 red bell pepper diced 1 small zucchini shredded 8 oz pepperjack cheese shredded 2 egg 1 tbsp Worcestershire sauce 1/2 cup Breadcrumbs (I usually don’t add breadcrumbs but most meatloafs have them) The secret ingredient!! 2-4 tbsp ranch dressing powder mix Put it in a 9x13 inch baking dish, leave a 1/2 border (finger sized) barrier between the loaf and the edge of the dish. Cover with 1/2 to 1 cup bbq sauce and ke… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/23 11:11 PM |
| 2 | How do I get over his wandering eye?Unpopular opinion here: but me and my fiancé of 10 years are polyamorous. We are both allowed to look and act if we communicate with each other. Honestly, I’ve deeply considered becoming monogamous to him because my “other” relationships have been boring and unsatisfactory both sexually and emotionally the longer that I’ve been with him. And he is not monogamous towards me. He has sexual and emotional relationships with other women. This is consensual, communicated, and it doesn’t bother me. By … | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/23 10:51 PM |
| 1 | Permanent ban off another subreddit for “participation” in this one weird flex but OK MatrixI don’t ever visit the original RP subreddit anymore, because I think after it got banned the low-level posts got more attention, the people in the angry phase were offering advice like they were experts. But a long time ago…the original RP sub had lots of interesting content. And people on Reddit HATED IT. “Oh this must be a RP dude… etc” That rhetoric actually made me curious to go look and as I saw more I said “I agree, I agree, omg that’s funny, I agree” It took me longer to get into RPW bec… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/23 10:29 PM |
| 2 | body count issueThe vetting process is complicated and unique for each person. I have an extensive history of drug use and promiscuity. Some of the ladies on RPW don’t relate. And some of the ladies on RPW are here because they do relate and are trying to change. As we seek information from men during the vetting process, it makes sense that men might also seek information from us. I think the interview/interrogation from a man of “Tell me your entire sexual history” is cringey. It just reeks of low self-confid… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/04/23 01:05 AM |
| 40 | body count issueJust don’t tell. I don’t mean hide, or lie. I don’t. But this isn’t polite or feminine conversation. There’s no way to say, “I’ve sucked 4 dicks, or maybe it was 5??? But I’ve only done anal twice…” Stop talking! Turn the conversation around. Focus on him. Say something like, “you always smell so nice…” or “the thing I like about you is when we laugh and kiss before we start…” or if he needs help with pleasing you then gently say, “I want to spend more time trying this.” There is just no way to … | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/23 08:28 AM |
| 2 | What would a Red Pill alternative from a leftist perspective look like?Red pill theory is a sexual strategy. It’s not political. I think healthcare is a human right, wars are bad, racism is wrong, gay people deserve respect, corporations are greedy, religion is stupid and that confident men turn me on. A lot of people argue that the values of “personal responsibility” make RP intrinsically conservative or politically right leaning. But right-wing conservatives are fucking dumb hypocritical gullible tools, so they wouldn’t understand red pill values either. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/23 05:38 AM |
| 2 | I feel so worthless as a womanI’m a RPW. I’m American and I grew up watching a worthless broken marriage where my parents refused to divorce each other. I started as a golden child, recruited to get into college early, but I hated the idea of a boring, monotonous, loveless, white picket fence life. I decided to do drugs and prostitute myself in order to “make my own choices.” I’m not joking. And I was angry. I lived that lifestyle loud and hard, and now I’m educated, successful, and I’ve found fulfillment in submitting to ac… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/01/23 06:51 AM |
| 11 | I feel so worthless as a womanI would like for you to consider that you are empowered. If you don’t want to be a housewife, please do something about it. Some people in RPW were culturally raised to adopt traditionally feminine roles, and they want to be the best they can be. Other RPW come from diverse backgrounds, and they have “always” wanted this lifestyle or they come here looking for options after feeling lost or unfulfilled. RPW are choosing to be in this lifestyle though. If you really don’t want this, read an empowe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/01/23 04:44 AM |
| 1 | To love and be loved and to make love is one of life’s greatest pleasures. Why do you think achieving that shouldn’t be very hard?If either gender worked on their body, physique, hobbies, and then admitted (in an appropriate context) that they enjoy loving others, being loved by others, and making love frequently and joyfully, would you view either gender differently? Would you view that person as a good partner that matches your values? If you hope that people act more hedonistically, will you accept them when they act that way? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/12/22 02:01 AM |
| 1 | Girls don't want a 'guy who's 6ft+' because that's some magical height, they want a guy who's 6ft+ so that they can tell their friends they're dating a guy who's 6ft+.Which is hypocritical because if/when men chose women as arm-candy or accessories they are DISGUSTING SHALLOW PIGS. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/12/22 12:50 AM |
| 4 | Am I a chameleon if I get my tattoos removed?I have fair skin. The tattoo was black. I was told I was the perfect candidate. I used to know the name of the laser they were using. I’ll try to find out again. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/12/22 08:05 AM |
| 43 | Am I a chameleon if I get my tattoos removed?I paid for a tattoo removal. It was a package that cost $1500 to do it repeatedly until it was gone. Each treatment would have been $150. I went more than 30 times. It’s not gone. It drives me CRAZY to hear stories of success, or advertisements of 6-8 treatments. Just so you know. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/12/22 09:19 PM |
| 4 | Julia Fox Says Men ‘Shouldn’t Even Be Allowed To Have Penises’, Describes How She Would Kill ThemI’m tired of the old “Girls next door” playboy chicks too (Holly and Bridgette, haven’t seen Kendra in a while) I strived and strived, moved to LA to sexualize my youth and get in to the highest levels of the Playboy/Hefner inner circles and then they…just treated me like a sex object 😭😭 | /r/MensRights | 23/11/22 02:34 PM |
| 10 | My Respect for this Queen👑📈(this is a gif, video with audio is in the comments)Would it be better in text? I agree she’s being fake. But she’s expressing that men deserve gratitude. It’s better than: “He took me to mcD and I dipped because my pussy is royalty!!” OP did give her to much credit though. | /r/MensRights | 13/11/22 02:30 PM |
| 1 | why are most feminists so against sex work?In a similar scenario, are you against male football and soccer players who sell their bodies for fame, prestige, and devastating repeated traumatic brain injuries? Both sex workers and athletes potentially “choose” to do this. There’s exceptions with human trafficking or the extreme pressure of parents and poverty. But is it the same? It’s potentially devastating consequences for the participant. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/11/22 02:20 PM |
| 1 | “Enola Holmes” lead actor Millie Bobby Brown, 18, details 'terms and conditions' relationship with Henry Cavill, 39. (He doesn’t want to get Metoo’dI disagree if this young woman/child said “we are friends” there would be backlash against the man for trying to be friends with a child…even though that’s not what she was expressing. She would have to say, “it’s like a dad, or uncle, or mentor, or teacher,” and as she continued to try to pinpoint what she means, “mentor or teacher” in this context could also be considered “grooming language” for any feminist blogger trying to have a meltdown. It’s an “adult relating to me as a child politely a… | /r/MensRights | 11/11/22 11:59 PM |
| 5 | “Enola Holmes” lead actor Millie Bobby Brown, 18, details 'terms and conditions' relationship with Henry Cavill, 39. (He doesn’t want to get Metoo’dI am a huge Mens Rights Advocate!! In my comment history in the last 2 hours I’m arguing with people on HandmaidsTale about the dumbest most offensive take on her husband. It’s all radical feminist bullshit. But this post, up here, on MensRights, is pretty stupid too. She said he’s an adult that realizes he’s talking to a (beautiful) teenager, and he treats her respectfully. She didn’t ask him to finger her. He didn’t send her a dick pic. This article is a nothing-burger. Let’s talk about some r… | /r/MensRights | 06/11/22 03:40 PM |
| -19 | “Enola Holmes” lead actor Millie Bobby Brown, 18, details 'terms and conditions' relationship with Henry Cavill, 39. (He doesn’t want to get Metoo’dI read the whole article. Where do you get that? Where did she project that? Haha. Lol. Are you projecting? | /r/MensRights | 06/11/22 01:18 PM |
| 1 | Is it possible to overcome Alpha Widowing or should I just settle/stay single forever?u/glum_palpitation_587 Being an Alpha Widow is not cool You ALONE are responsible for the life you make. You are not a victim of anything. If you think you deserve more…as in a man adding awesome value to your life, you need to give more. You need to be BETTER. THATS IT. THATS THE FACTS. You don’t give time or sexuality to people that don’t meet your standards. Period. But people won’t give you time, money, or commitment if you don’t meet their standards. Either lower your standards, or be bette… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/11/22 12:17 AM |
| 1 | Husband asked me if I’m slow… is this contempt?It’s been about 4 years now, I know exactly what parc ferme means, who’s being rude in the pit lane, and why it’s possible that McLaren is headed towards a comeback. After several (possibly) annoying questions I’m all in on this sport. Because I’m not dumb. I still don’t know how the engine works. Lol. But my Captain was patient with me. And now we share it together. It’s beautiful. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/11/22 12:06 AM |
| 4 | Own Your Stuff DiscussionI like this idea. I do think RPW can handle some truth and reality without kid gloves, because we are trying to be responsible for our role in the relationship. I worry that a variety of topics discussed might be met with “you should lose weight” if we get specific on the fitness stats. But if my problem is depression/motivation trust me, I already know I need to lose weight. Therefore feedback vs encouragement is a great thought!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/11/22 12:04 AM |
| 6 | Husband asked me if I’m slow… is this contempt?Yes. The original comment of the original post was rude. I know nothing about engines, cars, nothing. But I follow F1 racing with my boyfriend. I’m constantly like, “why is it a yellow flag, what does parc ferme mean, didn’t he cross the line, what is downforce?” Although this may be obnoxious to a man that completely understands the sport, he’s never called me dumb or slow while watching a race. He holds my hand and appreciates my efforts to share it with him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/11/22 07:51 AM |
| 7 | Husband asked me if I’m slow… is this contempt?I’m a non-mono RPW. It’s not traditional or common. But if another woman likes my man I immediately have something in common with her. I’m ready to be friends. I don’t need to convince people to join my way of thinking. That’s not my goal. But I can certainly explain “compersion” I can help with “the jealousy bug” and I can also recognize totally dysfunctional communication styles. I’ve told people “stop all attempts at non-monogamy immediately. Seek help” I’ve also been to couple counseling. Th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/11/22 07:03 AM |
| 3 | Hurt his pride and wondering what to do for next stepsIn your original post you said you hurt his pride, etc. I wonder if you showed more gratitude (not that you are grateful) but if you showed more compliments and affection in all his efforts, including his awesome, note-taking, surprises, if his feelings would be less hurt when you reject a trinket that you don’t want. Appreciate him, adore him, but it’s okay to turn down weird refrigerator magnets. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/11/22 06:33 AM |
| 2 | where do you RPW stand when it comes to having kids?My fiancé had a teenager when we met, he had 80% custody. I don’t want kids. She’s an adult now. My RPW relationship is all about my relationship with HIM. Neither of us wanted more kids. Children are an important aspect of “family life” but it’s not even necessary for a RPW to become a mother at all. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/11/22 04:28 AM |
| 4 | Husband asked me if I’m slow… is this contempt?I DM’d you about this topic a while ago. You can still feel free to ask me questions. As for the original content of this post the comment about being slow was totally uncalled for. And doubling down was worse. There is a strategy from Laura Doyle to try to say “ouch” out loud right in the moment if you feel hurt by his words. That way you don’t swallow it and become resentful. Honestly, my fiancé so rarely hurts my feelings, and when he does I try to let it slide off my back, so I myself have n… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/11/22 04:21 AM |
| 2 | Hurt his pride and wondering what to do for next stepsThis is really good insight. I also want to ask… u/FunMeet7624 do you need to be surprised? And does your BF need to feel like he is surprising you, or being spontaneous? I don’t love gifts. It’s not my love language. And it’s not my partners to give them. But is it so bad to very directly say, “I know you are trying to be generous with your gifts, it makes me shy to ask, but I would love this one” This might be the solution. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/11/22 07:08 AM |
| 6 | Thoughts on an own your shit weekly thread?This is a hard one. Because if I were to post an OYS right now, I would want to say, “here’s 5 ways he’s been irritating me: 1)” But we aren’t supposed to complain in specifics. I could reframe it as: “I’ve been irritated, but here is what I could do better:” But the facts are: I’m not there yet. I want to complain. That’s my true OYS. I’m not over it yet. OYS on MRP atleast gives you a little bit of leeway’s to describe how you’ve failed specific tests, or DEERED, and the men who respond can ma… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/11/22 05:50 AM |
| 10 | Should I move on ?I think you know what you want. You defined several of your values in that wall of text. I know you might be emotionally attached because you care about him, and have stayed loyal and focused on him, so this is going to be sad/crappy. But, you are very young. You just spent a long time keeping your n-count really low, and defining what is REALLY important for you to have in your partner. I don’t think he’s serious. I don’t think either of you are mature enough to move in. It’s time to part ways.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/10/22 12:09 PM |
| 3 | My husband doesn’t want to get a jobFor what it’s worth, I would keep trying with old friends. It’s possible that they are busy and not meaning to be distant. It’s also possible that they were not real friends and you should leave them behind. But getting new friends gets harder every passing day. So if you can have enough grace to be patient, this might be worth continuing your efforts. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/22 10:45 PM |
| 3 | My husband doesn’t want to get a jobA young man. A man that lost his job as a restaurant worker while he’s in university. A man “not looking for work” while he’s in the middle of a college semester is not a character flaw, it’s a man that is determining his priorities. As the armchair quarterbacks, we might not agree with his priorities, but if we have new information that he often makes correct decisions, and as OP said, “lead her through hard times, has checklists, and knows what to do and when to do it,” then you shouldn’t insu… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/22 10:40 PM |
| 4 | My husband doesn’t want to get a jobHi Pearls, I modmailed a few months ago about a bot saving posts that get engagement etc. This is the exact type of post. Endorsed contributors are commenting. It’s interesting. Etc. I’m not suggesting that OP might delete the post later, but this is the type of post where a bot should preserve the content, just in case. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/22 05:09 PM |
| 1 | Ladies, what are some things you wish your mother had taught you?Controversial, and late reply. I wish my mother had been stronger. One of my earliest memories is my mom coming into my bed and crying. I might have been 4. I was distressed, confused, but my mom kept saying “it’s okay, it’s okay” but she was hugging me and crying. My dad told her her didn’t love her anymore and was having an affair. She was pregnant with my brother or recently postpartum. We’ve talked about this/the details of that were revealed as adults. My parents didn’t love each other. It … | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/22 04:41 PM |
| 15 | My husband doesn’t want to get a jobThis is a really beautiful answer. It gives me more confidence that this is a temporary problem. I’m not bashing women when I say that I agree that we are the more emotional gender. I get really emotional during high stress times. I’ve been around the red pill for a long time. “I feel like” it’s been more than 10 years. I’m not even going to edit that last sentence. I casually speak in ways that demonstrate that I’m talking about feelings. So just try to recognize when your feelings are getting … | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/22 03:35 PM |
| 8 | My husband doesn’t want to get a jobGood point. Supporting a man through education is a special place to be. His value/potential is absolutely going to manifest later. OP is already a wife. She needs to learn how to “not nag” and not “be a pushover”during the formation of bad/lazy habits. She needs to learn to Inspire and STFU, while not losing her mind during a stressful period. Hopefully all goes well. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/22 02:58 PM |
| 21 | My husband doesn’t want to get a jobTo be fair, she’s young and she married young. On paper, especially based on the values of this sub, that’s an amazing success. I hope OP and her husband have a beautiful marriage and get passed this difficult time. I asked the question because I want to know more about the happier times. I want to know more about the good qualities of the man she married. Your reply of: He was different when she chose him. It doesn’t offer any insight into the situation. And any woman, young or not, who is tryi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/22 02:47 PM |
| 29 | My husband doesn’t want to get a jobOk so don’t break up. Why did you choose him? | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/22 06:14 AM |
| 2 | Newlywed desperate for advice.This post did not age well. Everything you described about a masculine, protector, provider fell apart within 2 months? | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/22 05:58 AM |
| 93 | My husband doesn’t want to get a jobSimple answer. But this is it the BEST question. Men having some minor personal problems benefit from an awesome wife being supportive. Men having catastrophic motivational issues NEED men, not wives trying to become push-over caretakers. I don’t always agree with you Stripe, but I agree with you now. OP I won’t advise you to cut your losses and break up. That’s poor RPW advice, but why did you choose him? | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/22 05:52 AM |
| 2 | Casual but feminine outfit ideas?I have bought stuff like this: dress dress dress These are just casual daily dresses. But they work really well | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/09/22 01:14 PM |
| 8 | Casual but feminine outfit ideas?Dresses! Once you get stared you never go back. I love when stitch fix asks what size jeans I wear. I literally haven’t worn jeans in 8+ years. I have dresses for all occasions, but for super casual days, I just buy simple cotton pattern dresses on Amazon. They pill and fade after about a year from washing, because they are pretty cheap…so… just get new patterns every so often. That works best for me. I’m a big fan of finding a flattering cut/style etc, and then buying multiple colors. Calvin Kl… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/09/22 12:27 AM |
| 0 | What would you do in my shoesYou’re post Title is “what would you do in my shoes?” So your intelligence is just shining through. I’m not bitter. But honestly, what was your question? You didn’t want to go overseas, some guy talked to your dad, and then you had a modeling gig. So any insights? | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/22 03:36 PM |
| 4 | What would you do in my shoesYou didn’t go “overseas” with a potential partner because you didn’t feel like it and you were tired? Are you top 1% income where you are just that disconnected from the opportunity to bond with someone in a foreign city? It’s just exhausting to even think about it? I’m cracking up at your stupid bragging!! What kind of shoes are you wearing? What could anyone possibly say? You both don’t like each other. I don’t even know why I took the time to respond to this. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/22 09:54 AM |
| 2 | Is my boyfriend manipulating me?This is awesome advice. It’s possible she’s wrong, but we shouldn’t always say, “try harder” if he is being weird OP; Stop arguing over text. Type up your angry feelings, and then edit them over the next few days until you have more clarity. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/08/22 05:34 AM |
| 4 | My best friends of 10+ years had a cold reaction to my engagementFollow up anecdote: I have a friend who is secretive about her boyfriends. During the pandemic she fell in love. It seemed perfect. Rich, generous, family oriented, wanted children. They discussed where to get married. The friend group never met him because of pandemic/COVID. I wanted to meet him. Turns out: cheating on her the whole time. His “ex” got on his phone (knew his password) and texted my friend proof of horrible things. Fucking before they went on this fancy vacation. Texting with tim… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/22 08:59 AM |
| 1 | where to get "Why Men Love Bitches" by Sherry Argov for free?What’s your favorite chapter of FW? | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/22 08:51 AM |
| 3 | My best friends of 10+ years had a cold reaction to my engagementHi. Please describe your future husband. I’ve heard a lot about your lackluster friends. But who is the guy? An engagement should be about, I’m excited for my upcoming life with a man that I love. Not: mmm did my friends like my social media post enough? I’ll give you some grace, this is a brief post about your friends. But where is your brief post about your man? It’s hard for me to not make assumptions that you are excited about beating your friends engagement timeline. And then calling them “… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/22 08:48 AM |
| 2 | My best friends of 10+ years had a cold reaction to my engagementQuestions: 1) how good of friends are these? Have you gone through trials and tribulations with them and assessed that they are true and mature friends that are beneficial to your life? 2) how well do they know this man, do you keep him secret, or has he interacted with your friend group? 3) getting upset about hearts vs likes on social media seems immature. Are you looking for hearts on your Facebook page, or a LIFELONG COMMITMENT. Are hearts vs likes going to change your mind? That’s a red fla… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/22 04:12 AM |
| 0 | Sharing your husband with other womenI just wanted to reply: 1: it could be a source of resentment if she also wants to bd nonmono but is not allowed to be. It could also be a source of resentment if she is COMPLETELY against it. But it sounds like she is trying, although naively as she is still not comfortable in knowing “anything about it” 2) slippery slope. It’s her husband. Now that’s a title that we should respect. But I don’t know if it’s a husband after 2 months of dating, a religious husband, a 21 year old husband, etc. I h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/22 04:06 AM |
| 1 | Sharing your husband with other womenThe red pill is not conservative or trad con. It does not exclude liberals. There might be crossovers in certain aspects. But RPW strategies are still applicable to prostitutes, sugar babies, and BDSM relationships. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/08/22 08:52 PM |
| 4 | Sharing your husband with other womenI am in a non-monogamous relationship even though I’m very active in the sub and know it’s not common here. Red Pill Women is a sexual strategy. Being non-mono can be part of that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/08/22 01:44 AM |
| 23 | Be careful at the gymIt’s so stupid. Yes I did buy lululemon pants for an absurd amount of money because I think other women who wear them are attractive. I think I look hot when I wear them. I look at my ass in the mirror and it gets the nod of approval. I’m at the gym trying to improve my health and my body. But if you look at me? It’s criminal behavior. | /r/MensRights | 30/07/22 12:38 AM |
| 1 | Fiancée cheated weeks before the wedding. Please help.As an answer to your edit: you will find strength after the initial difficulty. You will be proud for standing up for your values. A flashy wedding is meaningless if you call it for what it is: an expensive party that is superficial/fake and causing you legal and social problems when you need to get divorced. If you maintain or achieve your goal of having kids before or at 30, how will you deal with explaining to your child that an unexpected new life will now be their new half-sibling. Do you w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/05/22 05:55 PM |
| 3 | How do you feel about "settling" for someone?There are gentle ways to encourage people to lose weight without judgement. And it’s important that you’ve lost your virginity to him. It’s okay if you are inexperienced and figuring it out. I personally overlook many physical characteristics if the personality and values line up. I am much more sexually stimulated by the dominant and protective nature of a man…than even his hairline. I hope you take away both sides of this discussion: the ones that say it’s not fair if you are already having do… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/05/22 11:39 PM |
| 4 | How do you feel about "settling" for someone?Sorry for bringing this up on RPW but I have to ask: are you having sex with him? Your post history does include some comments on BDSM subreddits, and although the graphic specifics of your sexual life are not common threads in this space, I’m curious if you are having sex with him. If you are, are you sexually compatible? Is he meeting your needs? I think if you already know whether or not the sex is satisfying, then I hope that your sex life builds and gets better. Or if you are sleeping with … | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/05/22 11:25 PM |
| 2 | Am I being paranoid in my relationship or is there something going on?Ohhh missed. That. Just making sure 💛 | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/22 05:36 PM |
| 2 | Am I being paranoid in my relationship or is there something going on?I have a different perspective. Lets assume he’s high vale. Some people would argue that this behavior detracts from his value. But I don’t. If he’s high value, he probably has lots of meaningful and interesting relationships where his “high value” probably equates to him being a good friend. He probably has meaningful advice or perspectives, and “is there for them” through career or interpersonal struggles. Just because there was a potential that he maybe would have dated her…he didn’t. There m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/22 05:10 PM |
| 6 | Petition To Remove Amber Heard From Aquaman 2 Has Hit 2 Million Signatures Amid Defamation TrialI went to the first aquaman with my step daughter. I thought the female lead was insanely hot. Found out it was Amber and felt like I had been totally manipulated into giving her 1 second of my attention. Never again. | /r/MensRights | 28/04/22 01:25 PM |
| 2 | what’s the line between assertiveness and abuse?Anecdote: but the most “actually” abusive guy I ever dated…always a used his past relationships of abuse. And I felt so bad about it…he didn’t deserve that. It’s funny that you said some other girl pushed for 3somes and he hated it. But anecdotally…he always pushed me for 3somes and the non-success made him mad at me!! Even though we for sure achieved it. Just think about what you are doing. RPW strategies dong cause success in abusive relationships, only healthy ones. It’s hard to self blame an… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/04/22 11:55 PM |
| 2 | Your partner gets paralyzed from the neck down, do you stay?Sexual faithfulness is really the least of your problems. Normal average non-disabled people get depressed and anxious for no good reason. And society is just starting to accept that mental health issues matter and should be normalized. The situational depression that a person would face in the situation of being completely paralyzed..I mean even if it was lower down just legs…even if it didn’t involve the sex organs. The situational depression from that would Be extensive and complicated. I’m n… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/22 06:29 AM |
| 4 | what’s the line between assertiveness and abuse?Rape can be very black and white, and rape can be very nuanced and complicated. OP has not insinuated, expressed, or worried about anything about rape. We are already in delicate territory advising her whether or not she’s involved in abusive situation. Adding a rape allegation into the known information isn’t helpful. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/04/22 02:52 AM |
| 1 | what’s the line between assertiveness and abuse?I think your explanation about why the age difference doesn’t matter was really well stated. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/04/22 01:03 AM |
| 2 | what’s the line between assertiveness and abuse?Both of these examples are not abuse. For example being sick and caring for people who are sick: one person needs to expressively proclaim they are a germaphobe or not during times of sickness. As a nurse during COVID my partner didn’t want to get sick, so when there was risk involved and we communicated we just kept boundaries. When my whole household catches random sniffles or eats bad leftovers there’s no yelling or blame. He comes to you sometimes when you are sick. He gets sick sometimes to… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/04/22 12:27 AM |
| 2 | Your partner gets paralyzed from the neck down, do you stay?five wishes sample I’m sure you could get this for free at most clinics/doctors. But it’s great. Hard questions. Easy questions. Great resource. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/22 07:13 PM |
| 4 | Your partner gets paralyzed from the neck down, do you stay?I think this is a weird PP question. The true discussion should be: Do you want to live like that? Some people do…they really value being alive over everything else. Most people don’t realize the horror of the reality of that situation. It’s pretty much guaranteed bed sores, pneumonias, feeding tube issues, problems with circadian rhythms and day time wakefulness, it’s not just rolling around in a park with your new wheelchair. I’d probably try to convince my partner to accept death. I’d stick a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/22 06:42 PM |
| 7 | what’s the line between assertiveness and abuse?What behavior of yours is “abusive” Getting distracted during sex isn’t abusive. It’s maybe rude…maybe warrants a conversation…but it’s not abuse. There’s a much more calm way to encourage you to not neglect your feminine duties. In an ideal situation you should be inspired to do them, and the inspiration shouldn’t be “fear” or “avoiding criticism” or “avoiding arguments. Some ladies do need to look inside to see if their behavior is disrespectful, or causing unintended consequences. But abused … | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/04/22 06:06 PM |
| 21 | what’s the line between assertiveness and abuse?I think you should go check out Married Red Pill sub. STFU is advice that those men tell other men to do. The advice is for the man to stop talking so much. STFU as a RP concept isn’t something that a man yells towards the woman. As a woman, learning to be a good listener during conversations where a man is being open, communicative, vulnerable etc… is a beautiful skill But complying with someone yelling STFU at you, or having difficulty complying with that rude and potentially abusive request…I… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/04/22 05:59 PM |
| 7 | Should women who are single in their late 20s be concerned?You sound like a beautiful person who is really harsh and mean to herself. May I ask you why you want a husband? Seems like a dumb question, especially In this RPW subreddit. But why do you want a husband? I realize that you are saying mean things to yourself (sorry, I’m just borrowing from your comments) you said you are a 5. You said you are ashamed. You said you are ugly. That’s not the correct way to meet a man. If you feel that way, you need to stop and learn to love yourself. You aren’t ug… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/01/22 01:35 AM |
| 8 | No preschool? Thoughts on what age for preschool or maybe no preschool?Oh my gosh. I have so many things to say. I remember preschool. My teachers name was Miss Joy. I learned how to read, do math (up to multiplication) and I could write in cursive when I was five years old. I remember that we did a lot of singing, and that everyone was nice. I briefly wanted to be a tomboy as I was roughhouse playing with the boys in the sandbox. And I briefly had a preschool boyfriend. And it was a big deal after several months of being my boyfriend that we held hands. I went to … | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/22 09:31 PM |
| 9 | Seeking advice on how to handle arguments with boyfriend.I have a problem with how I react when we argue that I need help with. I need more details about your reaction. Last night he was looking at pictures of my friends and calling them beautiful and sexy. This is normal and it never upsets me, but yesterday he did it for a bit too long for my liking and I felt uncomfortable. Although it might be common for women or RPW to find this to be inappropriate, you said it normally doesn’t bother you. This similarly would not bother me, so I’m relating to yo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/12/21 03:10 PM |
| 4 | New mom feeling resentfulThis is spot on. And I have gotten so much value out of knowing what a “covert contract” is. I still do it sometimes. I hate the emotion of feeling angry. But now when I’m angry, I can usually realize that I have covert contracts that haven’t been fulfilled. This gives me something actionable to solve my problem. Communicate what is wrong. Help to avoid it in the future. MRP talk about covert contracts much more frequently than we do. Someone should write a post. (Maybe me in a few days) | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/12/21 08:08 PM |
| 20 | New mom feeling resentfulMaybe someone hasn’t said thank you.Maybe your husband hasn’t said “thank you” or maybe he did. But thank you for taking care of your baby. You are awesome. Thank you for breastfeeding and waking up at night (remember when pregnancy was crazy 10 weeks ago!!! I’m sure this is worse) The time you are spending with your baby is beautiful and exhausting. You are doing hard and valuable work. Sometimes compliments from strangers seem fake. But I actually have been having some serious personal struggl… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/12/21 08:43 AM |
| 2 | Just got into contact with my dad- i have daddy issues.If you can’t get therapy, and you should really find out and try, can you you do Cognitive Behavioral Therapy by yourself? Or in your native language? Google “motivational interviewing” you can do that by yourself. One thing I would say is that Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) doesn’t like labels. If you say, “I have daddy issues.” Then it’s true. And what does it excuse? Every time you make a bad decision and have an unhealthy relationship you can just reenforce that thought, “I have daddy is… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/12/21 12:42 AM |
| 1 | I'm been asked on my first ever date, need advice!Thank you…Master Dom… for this amazing advice to this 16 year old girl. Do what feels right? You will be advantaged in life by learning the dating game faster this way? Valuable learning curve? Who are you to possibly think this is good advice?? | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/11/21 04:32 AM |
| 2 | I'm been asked on my first ever date, need advice!You have no idea what you are talking about. And you can’t admit it. You don’t have an open mind about this situation. You said in another comment that “obviously hopefully everything goes perfectly…” And you keep insisting “he’s a really good guy” You don’t know that! Period. You can not determine anyone’s character or value after brief and periphery interactions. That’s the dating advice that you need to figure out. You don’t know shit. And you need to open your mind to all possibilities. That… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/11/21 12:13 AM |
| 3 | I'm been asked on my first ever date, need advice!Oh my god wow…this is a lot to unpack. You are correct that you are inexperienced in dating…and you actually have no idea how to evaluate anyone’s HVM status. He’s new to town…and has a job…and wants to date a 16 year old? You have a long beautiful life ahead of you…so here’s my advice about dating…if many people…including internet strangers and your parents would think this is a bad idea…listen!!! Women are emotional…it’s not bad…but sometimes these extremely dumb and misguided emotions make yo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/11/21 09:36 PM |
| 1 | How to repair damage I caused by all my lies?The answer to your problem is difficult…but you have to wait. You must wait a long time. Sometimes it will seem that you’ve waited for a really long time but…that wasn’t long enough. You have to go back and figure out why this started. Possibly you will have an “a-ha moment” and you will think it’s solved…but you still have to wait. Trust is gained over time. You recently broke his trust. He needs time to get over it. And it’s not your job to fix the acute stress he’s feeling. It’s your job to n… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/11/21 09:24 PM |
| 15 | The sexual strategy of abortionThe golden times…omg I’m laughing so hard. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/21 07:13 AM |
| 2 | Would love your insights - best strategy for 23yr old girl who loves science but wants a HVM?Yes!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/21 09:29 PM |
| 1 | Would love your insights - best strategy for 23yr old girl who loves science but wants a HVM?Welcome to the Red Pill and getting the straight truth. I work side by side with the exact guys we are discussing here and I know exactly what I am talking about. Did you just welcome me to TRP? I hope you are not serious. I can’t… The passion for biology and being educated are major pluses. Shortchanging the kids with a part-time mom is an absolute MINUS in a game where the smallest defects get her sidelined for someone else who is ready, willing, and enthusiastic about being an incredible full… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/21 09:27 PM |
| 2 | Would love your insights - best strategy for 23yr old girl who loves science but wants a HVM?Totally new reply to you about “having it all” thanks but I don’t need to search this sub. I’m here all the time and I know that many people can be very misguided and overconfident. I think a big tenet, or cornerstone of all red pill theory is EFFORT. Change requires effort. Relationships require effort. Submission requires (sometimes a lot of) effort. OP can’t “have it all” because she is a special individual. OP can “have it all” if she purposefully makes an effort towards being a good partner… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/21 08:54 PM |
| 2 | Would love your insights - best strategy for 23yr old girl who loves science but wants a HVM?I really think we are still generalizing and assuming a lot about these HVM. So your quote: OP is going for the top 0.1% of men Okay. Let’s just take this at fair value. OP might be really trying to do this. Who are these men? I probably can only list celebrities…but who are they? Tom Cruise? Elon Musk? Steven King? Ryan Reynolds? Leo DiCaprio? Scott Disick? Keanu Reeves? Okay yeah, it was all celebrities…but what do you really know about them? I only know…what the publicist says. These real 0.1… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/21 08:25 PM |
| 3 | Would love your insights - best strategy for 23yr old girl who loves science but wants a HVM?16 years. Just celebrated our 9th anniversary | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/21 07:29 PM |
| 2 | Would love your insights - best strategy for 23yr old girl who loves science but wants a HVM?I just want to say in fairness, I disagreed with your original comment. But I think you make excellent points in this one. Perfection looks different for different people. I think women and men have different pressure to be “perfect” based on gender roles assigned to them. If a woman is really seriously dedicated and into homemaking, motherhood, being a wife, and sending children out into the world with a happy healthy lovely childhood: well that is a beautiful thing. I just don’t want to dismis… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/21 07:24 PM |
| 5 | Would love your insights - best strategy for 23yr old girl who loves science but wants a HVM?I replied to you on another comment. But I’ll reply to this to. And I’ll identify myself as very well versed in all RPW and TRP topics. I’ve been active in both communities for many years. I’m not the same as everyone else here. And in fact “everyone else here” are also very varied. Some are religious homemakers. Some are BDSM enthusiasts, trying to be good submissives. Anyways… there is a huge variety. My story: my man is divorced. He has a child, doesn’t want more. When I started dating him he… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/21 07:14 PM |
| 1 | Would love your insights - best strategy for 23yr old girl who loves science but wants a HVM?I don’t agree with you at all! HVM come in many shapes and sizes. Not all of them want the same thing. Let’s not minimize the men to just be “big important business men” who need a “docile full time mom.” A high value man might be busy…a lot. And it might benefit him to have a wife that has her own passions and isn’t constantly lonely and bored. A high value finance man may hope to have children that also become very successful, and have a very smart wife/mother to build a family with will expos… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/21 06:45 PM |
| 6 | Red pill movies?Not the movie!!! But Anna Karinina the book. There’s a dude that basically gets rejected from a proposal…that’s not quite how it went down, but similar enough and becomes a mgtow. Anna is infatuated with another man…her husband tells her to stop embarrassing him. She just keeps pushing the boundaries. She almost dies having her lovers baby, and these cucks fawning all over her disgust her. She gets stuck with her lover (her branch swing) and then they make each other miserable. And she left her … | /r/RedPillBooks | 17/08/21 06:06 AM |
| 7 | Here's a calculator for women to find how many men fit their criteria, and the results are not goodI think it’s depression. I mean, I’m speaking for myself: but if I was looking for that 0.65% man, and never finding him, I’d be fine 20 days out of the month. But the other 10 days I’d say “fuck it” And I actually have a 0.65% man, and I still have trouble with depression, and sometimes I don’t…I get on a real perfectionist wave, and feel like posting selfie’s with the hashtag “blessed” But I think mental illness is a major factor with weight. But maybe I’m just having a bad day. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/21 12:14 AM |
| 23 | How do you deal with the feeling of " but I deserve better" when it comes to settling down with a man?Ask yourself what YOU can control about what could be better. Practice gratitude, what are the things you appreciate and admire. Don’t romanticize dating, being single, and finding a better guy, it’s actually really crappy. Have hope for the future. NOT hope that he will change, but HOPE that you will both grow together and be awesome. Mindfulness and meditation. The book (I haven’t read it) Marry Him: The Case for settling for Mr. Good Enough | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/07/21 12:58 PM |
| 38 | Where can I meet traditional, successful men?You should consider that you are just gonna have to do this by trial and error. If you advertise your self as a “soft submissive woman that won’t talk back and loves to clean” everyone would come out of the woodwork to respond to you. Similarly if A man said, “I’m successful and wealthy and I’m looking to take care of YOU” he would get the wrong responses and frankly, I wouldn’t trust his words. I have to get to know his actions. That means you are just going to have to go on dates and get to kn… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/06/21 05:26 PM |
| 2 | Expired SMVOmg you are speaking to me because I am having such a low day. And I’m absolutely in mania right now and I can’t shut up my brain and I just keep crying and saying I’m sorry and changing my mind. Maybe it sounds like you are depressed. But I’m manic right now and it’s so bad. So I’ll give you advice that I need to take. You are good. Your family loves you. You are beautiful. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/06/21 10:34 PM |
| 14 | Just lost my virginity at 26Lol | /r/askTRP | 25/05/21 04:27 AM |
| 5 | Advice for 23 year oldIt’s never too late. I see these posts and questions here all the time. How could it possibly be too late? This is about self improvement. All those platitudes about, “a year from now you will wish you started today...” apply. Start learning more about it. Start taking small steps. Try to honestly rationalize the “yes, it’s too late” side of the coin. So if it’s too late you are just going to give up? Not try? Stay in the job you hate for another 42 years? It’s really a silly question. And “the … | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/05/21 10:13 PM |
| 91 | For the men on here: If a woman doesn't have biological kids with a man, is she mostly only good for her looks and likely to be discarded after the wall?Of course it’s realistic. You don’t have to have kids to be a RPW. Just find a man that doesn’t want children either and then go forth and have an awesome relationship with him. If you take basic care of your appearance and provide him with a nice feminine presence, he will value you in his life, and as his wife. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/05/21 05:03 PM |
| 3 | Found a piece of a condom in my plate's vaginaDid you have a condom on? 🧐 | /r/askTRP | 07/05/21 03:18 PM |
| 7 | To the younger girls in this sub: Some things I wish I knew when I was youngerNo. I’m not pressuring women to be sexual. Being low libido or asexual is something that exists. And I accept it. But the entire red pill is about sexual strategy. It’s sexual strategy for men to find lots of mates or quality mates. And the sexual strategy for women is to find commitment. I would never suggest that any man or woman who was not comfortable having sex should do it anyways. And I’m not prude-shaming. But if you want to be a female...who gains the commitment of a man...in a traditio… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/21 02:15 AM |
| 12 | To the younger girls in this sub: Some things I wish I knew when I was youngerI like what you said in the post. I think it’s valid and important. I want to say the things you described are obvious, but the behavior you see online demonstrates that it’s not obvious. So these are all valid points. But also: one day you are going to be partnered or married, and at that time you do need to be sexual. Not on social media, and not for the world to see, but you do need to be sexual. I think that some women on here deal with their personal values of saving themselves, or limiting… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/05/21 11:46 PM |
| 2 | Looks plays a massive role in men’s value in women. How can I work on this when I'm average-looking? I am also not a very agreeable girl.Your post swings from looks in the title to attitude in the body. But as far as looks go, take care of your skin, hair, and weight. And then, wear dresses. Figure out which cut works for you, and then buy both casual and dressy dresses. Get comfortable wearing them, and you will look like you made an effort, and you will look feminine. That’s the simple formula and you can expand on it from there. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/05/21 05:37 PM |
| 2 | WIVES OF HVM - how’d you do it?I think men upgrading their wife/woman is less common than you may think. Culturally, in the US we are fed ideas, through media and pop culture that Don Draper, and James Bond, are the archetypical male who doesn’t love women, and exchanges for younger models. It’s very taboo to speak about hypergamy. If a couple gets divorced and a woman tries to “find herself” we call it finding herself. If a man acts in a similar way he’s a “dog” or a “man whore” now I know people use derogatory language towa… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/21 09:37 PM |
| 5 | WIVES OF HVM - how’d you do it?Not a wife...but that’s not my goal. And not a mother...also not my goal. But we’ve been together for 9 years. I think the biggest thing was being adaptable. And taking calculated risks. I’m not very judgmental, but I am very street smart, and I recognized his sense of self responsibility and potential. As far as potential goes, he was already doing fine, owning his business and making a lot of money. I tried not to get in the way or tell him what to do. For example...I think he needs more emplo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/21 07:52 PM |
| 1 | No nice feminine clothing at the mallCheck out ModCloth. It’s just online with only a few actual stores but I really like the styles. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/04/21 08:26 PM |
| 1 | Thinking of moving out of a blue state for a more traditional life, 21FI look at what is happening to the mainstream; widespread doxing of people, primarily on the right, to silence them. Indoctriniation into SJW issues up to and including freaking gender transitioning and hatred of whites in ELEMENTARY school, and I get angry. The days of Pat Buchanan leading the Moral Majority are decades in the rear view mirror; today the totalitarian Left is where almost all of the oppression is coming from. And leading that charge are, amongst others, Feminists, who are destro… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/21 11:25 PM |
| 3 | Thinking of moving out of a blue state for a more traditional life, 21FI considered not replying but I will just for the spirit of conversation. I think it’s easy to demonize another political viewpoint based on the worst or loudest examples of that ideology. I don’t care that you are not liberal. And I don’t need to convert you. That’s not my intention and I would never be successful. Lol. But I am liberal for many personal reasons. I grew up in a home where my parents stayed together for Catholic guilt about divorce and my dad was a loser alcoholic and my mom had… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/21 05:08 PM |
| 16 | A break up ahead. The end of 3 years with my best friend and life partner. The only man I've truly known.I actually think you sound really mature. If you just take the singular statement of bugging him about his job...yeah...you didn’t need to do that. But everything else sounds like really honest self reflection. You’ve spent the last several years building him up, but if you aren’t right for each other, it’s not a total loss. I’m sure you learned a lot along the way. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/21 01:12 AM |
| 2 | Thinking of moving out of a blue state for a more traditional life, 21FCan’t believe how much downvotes I’m getting. Good luck girls. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/21 04:25 AM |
| 2 | Thinking of moving out of a blue state for a more traditional life, 21FJust wanted to say, I’m super liberal. And it seems like I live in a liberal area...but there are also far right extremists that live near me. It used to really upset me that the political protests I go to don’t get nearly the attendance of the anti-face ask protests...but I digress. Honestly, I think it’s unfeminine to get worked up about this stuff. I’m not saying “don’t be educated, don’t care, don’t have an opinion.” That is not what I mean. But honestly, wherever you go, wherever you live, … | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/21 12:01 AM |
| 2 | My partner is working a lot but not making much money. How do I support and encourage him?Right. I can’t imagine sitting there complaining about the way my husband invests his money while simultaneously living comfortably off his previous successful investments. OP, I’m not being mean to you, I just can’t believe the fear-mongering going on where everyone is calling him a gambler. It’s fair to have a conversation about goals, but it’s not fair to judge him about his choice of investments if he’s covering your expenses. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/03/21 03:44 PM |
| 19 | How to encourage husband to act in his masculine energy?If you want to make a change you have to let it go. Just like he needs to let go of his weird attitude...you need to get rid of yours. Make a list everyday for the next two weeks of something you respect or appreciate about him. You see: if you look for examples of whiny bitchiness, you will find them and miss the good stuff. If you spend time looking for the good, your attention won’t be fixated on the bad. I also recommend reading the surrendered wife for you to learn more overt and simplified… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/21 10:26 PM |
| 2 | I’m 26, have only slept with 2 people and I’m actually embarrassed and ashamed by it.I’m not. But I will now: you need thicker skin. You asked a question...I asked a question to get more information. I didn’t hurt you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/20 07:26 AM |
| -1 | I’m 26, have only slept with 2 people and I’m actually embarrassed and ashamed by it.Yes. Masturbation is fun. Do you know what you want? What would make a man better than your dildos? I’m honestly curious. Not judgmental. When I masturbate, I try to just use my fingers. No dildos. I’m also very sexually experienced, numbers I’m ashamed of, but a dildo means nothing to me when I have my fingers. And a man I care about means much more than my fingers. But a man, like, a good one...feels better. So hold yourself out for that man. And don’t let masturbating distract you. It’s not g… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/20 07:01 AM |
| 0 | I’m 26, have only slept with 2 people and I’m actually embarrassed and ashamed by it.You are not boring. Or scared. But be honest with yourself. Is it because you are holding out for a good man, or uninterested In sex? I don’t even care...or should i say...I don’t really mind what your personal sexual preferences are... As long as you are being honest with yourself. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/20 05:56 AM |
| 1 | Is there a new wave of RP guys on here who are taking things a bit differently?I’ve been on TRP for 8 years. And I’m a 33 year old woman. I never took offense to what was going on here before. But I take offense now. Recently my boyfriend asked a question: how can I cum more? The context was: my girlfriend wants me to cum all over her face, but we have sex all the time, and I have other girlfriends, so I can’t blow huge loads because I’m so so sexually active. The advice was: have less sex. What? Another thread asks: I don’t trust women, but I want to spread my seed and ha… | /r/askTRP | 30/07/20 02:11 PM |
| 7 | What is your least favourite household chore and how do you make it tolerable?Gloves were a game changer for me when doing dishes. It takes away from having to touch all the dirty stuff- if you don’t use them already. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/07/20 01:40 PM |
| 2 | Would you rather be with someone who will provide 100% financial security but not much emotional connection, chemistry, and compatibility, or someone with all that but could not provide TOO well financially?25, but it’s never too late | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/07/20 11:20 PM |
| 1 | if i get deployed, how am i supposed to know that my gf or wife won't cheat on me?Question for you from the woman’s perspective: Why are you committing to her or asking her to commit to you while you are gone on deployment? (I heard you say you aren’t in the army...I’ll get to that later.) If you are gone, and rarely in contact, all she has of you are her memories. During your deployment, you are probably growing up, doing manly shit, having internal conflicts and overcoming them. Maybe even facing real danger and being brave during these trials of your life. She sees none of… | /r/askTRP | 27/07/20 06:57 PM |
| 1 | Acne and accutane?Probably, but accutane can also cause depression symptoms. After a while your acne might got better and you’ll have to battle with, “my skin is so clear but I don’t feel any better.” Or “my skin is so clear but I’m still not confident” Those thoughts might be worse because of accutane’s effect on your mood, but it’s also still true. If you handed clear skin on a golden platter you still would need to work on your confidence. The whole thing will be a journey. But it’s probably worth it. | /r/askTRP | 26/07/20 03:58 PM |
| 10 | How to spice up the bedroomI agree about not starting too late and reducing the nudity. I would wonder if you could go back and forth. Penetration, then stop. I think you are young, and nipple stimulation might not be your thing, but as I’ve gotten into my 30’s, I really enjoy nipple stimulation. Go back and forth, penetration, then self masturbation, penetration, masturbation...I just trying to help him last longer while you are aroused. RPW is good for many things, but you can also branch off into the R sex subreddit fo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/07/20 02:40 AM |
| 2 | How would you guys deal with public shaming? [Story inside]Just want to add a comment from the female perspective: Abuse accusations are serious. There are consequences. I’ve been around TRP longer than many of you I’m sure. TRP is not about abuse. And TRP men should avoid any possible contact with anything that could possibly be called abuse. Don’t ever abuse a woman...and by that I really mean...don’t ever care enough. If a chick does something to make you attracted, even though you know she’s crazy, so you get laid a few times and it turns out she’s … | /r/askTRP | 13/07/20 10:29 PM |
| 1 | Would you rather be with someone who will provide 100% financial security but not much emotional connection, chemistry, and compatibility, or someone with all that but could not provide TOO well financially?If he knows that you love him, and that you trust him, respect him...he might take bigger chances. Sometimes big changes include risk...and he will consider your needs when he takes that risk, if he knows that you will respect him during the hard times. If he wonders if you leaving him, or not loving him, or being rude to him during his hard times, he won’t take any risk with income, and therefore no rewards. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/07/20 10:08 PM |
| 2 | Would you rather be with someone who will provide 100% financial security but not much emotional connection, chemistry, and compatibility, or someone with all that but could not provide TOO well financially?This really resonates with me. Though this sub seeks tradition, and some of that means the SAHM lifestyle. Providing is really emphasized and valued. But what you described is what my boyfriend gives me. In the early relationship I was working retail and going to school full time, even accruing debt but I still paid my way. Now we bring home close to equal money, but he owns his own business which is an asset worth much more than his take home pay. By appreciating the providing and having my own… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/07/20 05:18 PM |
| 127 | Would you rather be with someone who will provide 100% financial security but not much emotional connection, chemistry, and compatibility, or someone with all that but could not provide TOO well financially?There’s a theory in FW that if you can provide a generous heart, warm home, and soft place to land, that you can inspire him to earn more. I would caution you on placing too much value on the finances, but I also know it’s important so I won’t be naive. I will tell you that I personally had a horrible experience with having financial security without love. There’s just something about sacrificing your dignity and self respect for money that tastes bad. There’s some things you just can’t fake for… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/07/20 10:55 AM |
| 3 | A very confused 19F in need of guidanceIs becoming a registered nurse (or the equivalent) respectable in France? It’s a decent education. The skills you learn could translate to caring for your family. Not only your young children, but even aging parents or parents-in-law, as time goes on. Many nurses I know have families, they leave for periods of time during pregnancy or early childhood it has the benefit of being both well paid, but also replaceable. I think nursing is an amazing and feminine career. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/07/20 10:25 AM |
| 2 | Addressing an elephant in the room.Social media isn’t a private space. It’s social. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/20 03:00 PM |
| 1 | "Transwomen are Women"?So...what’s your take? What’s your opinion? Don’t shame me for being nice...I’m fucking lovely. Would it be classier to fight? Nah... I’ll just keep being me. That’s why I’m successful. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/20 05:50 AM |
| 5 | "Transwomen are Women"?Controversial opinion: make more sports. Make sports and competitions for alt-gender folks. Furthermore: make sports for people who want to take steroids. Regulate non-steroid sports. And also have steroid sports. Look, I don’t want anyone to be abused by a coach or pushed harder than they need to be. But if you could make a competition: take experimental drugs at your own risk...just separate the competition and let people do what they want. If it’s unpopular or less popular, well the public ca… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/07/20 05:34 AM |
| 0 | "Transwomen are Women"?Tough issue. I will certainly not cry about your privilege. But people are people. Humanity is humanity. Different cultures deal with different things differently. I’m often called: abused, naive, and backwards for believing in some red pill women concepts. What if the DSM eventually says RPW ideology is a disorder? A victim complex? Etc? I’m not pretending anything about body dysmorphia, but I certainly don’t need white coats telling me that I’m mentally ill. I choose acceptance, compassion, an… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/07/20 05:27 AM |
| 1 | "Transwomen are Women"?I like your response. I don’t understand it. It doesn’t really touch my life. But I think if you want to identify yourself as something, you should be able to. They won’t experience some things that I do, I won’t experience some things that they do. But I don’t need to take a strong stance on this as someone that isn’t personally affected. For me, I’d like to judge a trans woman on her character, and not on her “label” as trans. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/07/20 05:19 AM |
| 1 | TRP & ethical non monogamyI guess you missed the part where we’ve already been doing this for years. His cock is plenty. He gets the novelty of having any other relationship or sex that he wants. And I ask permission. Girls have hypergamy. And it’s a tough question to ask, would you rather know or not know. Personally. I know I bend over backwards to earn his affections. I don’t get anything in return other than his affection. No ring. No commitment. I pay market value for rent in his house and if I walk away, start acti… | /r/askTRP | 07/07/20 04:42 AM |
| 1 | TRP & ethical non monogamyWe aren’t married, so there’s no way to get alimony. We don’t have kids. So no child support. He owns his home and I pay rent. So no half of his shit. The emotional investment can be negotiated. But swallowing the red pill means swallowing it. Life is like this. Women have hypergamy. It’s not yours it’s just your turn. I introduced him to the red pill. We both know what’s going on, but as per the posts we could communicate better. There’s no cum leaking out of me either. I use protection. He doe… | /r/askTRP | 07/07/20 04:33 AM |
| 5 | Not sure how I feel about himI totally understand this sentiment. Guys that latch on really early give me pause as well. But from what she’s described he just said “he felt open with her” and “wanted to hug” that’s not really love bombing, or alarming behavior. Unless there’s more to the story and they are talking all the time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/06/20 05:30 PM |
| 21 | Not sure how I feel about himPeople lose attraction when they lose contact. You start to think, I’ve only spent a few hours with this person. They are not important...why am I still spending mental energy on them? It sounds like you had 2 successful dates. You complimented him...or at least didn’t say anything negative. If you fell in love with him in two hours and were convinced(!!) that he was awesome, that would be more of a red flag. He’s trying to engage with you, and stay connected. He’s initiating, not making you cha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/06/20 03:19 PM |
| 1 | TRP career advice (Software Design vs Health Science)?I’m more concerned that you already have a doctorate and already don’t like your salary opportunities. Didn’t you know what your outlook would be during your multiple years of schooling? Have you really explored other ways to increase your income without going back into the time and money and energy of another degree. | /r/askTRP | 27/06/20 09:38 PM |
| 0 | LTR cheated with a guy who has a GF - let his GF know?Don’t lie to yourself. If a close friend had a LTR and was getting some ass on the side would you be investing all this emotional bullshit on what the “moral” thing to do is? No. There are only loses here. What if you tell the girlfriend and she starts sucking this other dudes dick harder to keep his attention. This is some basic ass pettiness. | /r/askTRP | 22/06/20 03:32 PM |
| 3 | How to transition from friends to LTRTalk about your values. If your friendship isn’t superficial then you should be able to share about important topics. Don’t start quizzing him about his values, but look for them when you are listening to the things he says. Maybe talk about some of yours. Don’t cross continents on a whim, whether it’s for family, career, or love. Don’t cross continents without a bold reason, or that’s a desperation red flag. We love the books “Fascinating Womanhood” and “The surrendered wife” | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/20 03:28 AM |
| 1 | What’s the most beta shit you’ve ever done/said to a girl?Alright yeah, it got a little gay there at the end, but a lot of my post history on RPW or ppd could reiterate that stuff. | /r/askTRP | 14/06/20 03:06 PM |
| -1 | What’s the most beta shit you’ve ever done/said to a girl?Downvote me to hell...but some alpha guys like being dominated. It’s like this: if you suck at life and the only way you can have any security in a relationship is saying “I’m a dom” it’s like that line from game of thrones “any man who must say I am the king is no true king” And like this: if you go through life succeeding, handling shit, slaying, making money, focusing on your mission, comfortable that you are the prize, and you want to have some time off, a little fetish and role play of “not… | /r/askTRP | 14/06/20 05:49 AM |
| 5 | What do you think the dating world will look like in ten years time?I think that there needs to be some movement towards forgiveness too. Forgiveness for men who didn’t take women seriously in their youth. And forgiveness for women who had to learn the hard way the partying doesn’t lead to real connection. I for one witnessed by parents oppressive marriage and thought I would die from the boredom, contention, and lack of passion I witnessed. I thought I’d never love a man, and I was upfront about it. I did the breaking up and then was stalked several times in my… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/06/20 09:19 PM |
| 5 | How do I join the top 15% in my 20’s?I recommend the book “The Slight Edge” it’s about discipline. The first lesson is about how small habits overtime become cumulative. If you overspend by a dollar a day, you’re $360 in debt over a year. If you spend 5 extra minutes in the gym a few times a week that’s like 20-25 hours of extra time in a year. Advice about investing: Start where you are. Some really good funds have $2-3K minimum buy ins. Don’t wait to invest because you “aren’t there yet” just start where you are. Shares of AT&T a… | /r/askTRP | 05/06/20 08:33 PM |
| 3 | I want plastic surgery even though everyone is against itPlastic surgery isn’t bad, but may I ask if you can afford it. I just had Lipo and I’m really really happy. Maybe I’ll do my nose in a few years. But I can 100% pay it off with a no interest loan over six months and I had the credit score to obtain that loan. If it will help your self esteem then do it. If it will dig you into a financial hole, then don’t. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/05/20 04:22 AM |
| 3 | You cannot hide being insecureThis is really brave. Acknowledging this will only help you grow | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/05/20 04:29 AM |
| 3 | Irritated by BP friends. Any advice?1) A: it depends how you express your views about preferring a masculine man. If you are obnoxious about it and they fight back, maybe you are being obnoxious. If you are just expressing a true preference from the goodness of your heart, find new friends. B) A man not paying for your meal disqualifies them? This is where I break from RPW norms. Unless you have commitment: you aren’t entitled to not paying your own way. I landed a very high value man that doesn’t throw money at early dating partn… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/05/20 04:51 PM |
| 2 | Responses during change^ yes this is the strategy. “Ouch” also immediately addresses your reaction. That way you don’t have to bring it up in two months when you are bursting with grievances | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/05/20 03:18 AM |
| 3 | I find it weird how Dead Bedrooms is mostly women. Why is that?I don’t want to say, “you should have thought about that.” But you should have. But it’s a hard situation. I’m childfree, and will never have any children for many reasons. First my body, then the tireless work, and then the permanency of potentially coparenting with an ex. I’ve had like 4 LTRs that go sour after 3 years. I get along with most of my ex’s but damn, if I had to argue about money, and OUR child’s upbringing, (because it’s his too, not just mine) if I had to approve the girlfriends … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/20 01:45 PM |
| 12 | Trying to decide if I should move in with his parents --please help!I know many people are highly against this...but I don’t think a decision needs to be made in this time of crisis. Make your opinions known, keep your eyes open, and if both of you are financially stable in a few months, deal with it then. Edit: Don’t give up your cat. If they want you there so bad she needs to deal with her allergies. Do not give up your pet. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/20 03:58 AM |
| 2 | I’m leaving my husbandThis is really good advice. Is it possible, sure. Should this be your priority? No. OP, if you can really manage some personal growth, embrace your motherhood, then you’ll be in a better place. If you can’t achieve the above personal growth and you need a man for financial support, you will ultimately cut important corners. Don’t worry about being “alone forever” focus on getting ready to improve your life. I’m sure you didn’t have 4 children and expect to end up here. But you did. And you must … | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/20 04:18 AM |
| 3 | How important IS vetting?There is grey area...if you just think about regular life in all situations without the red pill perspective, you will find a huge theme of personal growth in common human experiences. If you think about friendships, employment, or relationships, there are always compromises and things you “put up with” sometimes this is real, and positive, and helps you maintain a long relationship when times are hard. Sometimes it’s toxic manipulation. But when something occurs that is so offensive to you that… | /r/RedPillWives | 21/04/20 07:53 PM |
| 8 | What was the fate of low-SMV women you know?The highest SMV girls ended up with the lowest RMV, because they married young, and have children, and are divorced. Not all high SMV people fail in this manner, but most of my normal friends in real life are average looking, and many of them are more beautiful on the inside, and the way they treat the man in their life, and their own self respect is the most important factor of relationship happiness. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/20 06:58 PM |
| 5 | How did you meet your men/husbands?I met him online. He’s much older than I am, and divorced. He had his own business, and custody of his child which was intriguing to me. It’s not perfect, because I would consider a divorced parent without job security (Very wrong about this first impression) to be strike 1, 2, and 3. But I met him and was impressed by his independence and strong sense of personal responsibility. Dating older men is a mixed bag. They either date young because they are douches or they date young because they are … | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/04/20 05:35 PM |
| 1 | Should I leave my LTR with a unicorn?Start telling her that you want a one way open relationship. Be ethical about it, but keep the mystery. Pros: you get to chase other women, you might even find out that other women suck Cons: she freaks out and leaves. Pros:She knows she’s not special and works harder Cons: you might disrespect a really nice wife material girl and if you fail now, you will fail again and enter the void of vapid online dating. Pros: if you can manage it, if you can communicate openly about your leadership, she wo… | /r/askTRP | 05/04/20 04:53 AM |
| 2 | Is self-improvement the solution to getting alpha widowed?I copied this directly from a post I made in RPW 4 months ago. Being an alpha widow isn’t just about value. It’s about being hopeless. I just wanted to have a brief discussion about being an alpha widow. First we should define it: An Alpha Widow is a woman (with low SMV) who has a relationship with a high SMV man. After the relationship ends she never gets over the Alpha guy, never finds meaningful relationships with anyone else, and goes through life dissatisfied in love. Being in a relationshi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/20 06:49 PM |
| 18 | Girl crying that I don’t value herFull on autism | /r/askTRP | 28/03/20 03:16 AM |
| 7 | Just received specialized Christmas gift for my recent exWhen she gets caught with it she’ll throw you under the bus. | /r/askTRP | 21/03/20 07:00 PM |
| 6 | Recommend a Show or Movie!If you like to read I love Anna Karenina. It’s a blueprint of what not to do. Dreadfully compelling to watch this woman ruin her whole life. But I have heard that the movie adaptations aren’t very good. Not red pill but awesome dramas to binge: Rectify-a man who has been in jail for his entire adult life gets released in order to be retried. Adjustments are difficult for his family. You also aren’t sure if he really committed the crime. Fascinating. The Americans: Russian spies posing as America… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/03/20 10:08 PM |
| 11 | Sending sexy pictures?Don’t entertain him with your sexuality. Entertain him with you femininity. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/03/20 02:57 AM |
| 7 | Sending sexy pictures?I consider myself to be a VERY sexual person. But I never send nudes. Even with my man of 7+ years, if he wants to see something sexy. It should be in person. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/03/20 02:55 AM |
| 15 | Teen girl here, how can I become as beautiful as possible?You don’t have to be slim. But don’t be overweight. Find a hobby that makes you interesting. No that’s not makeup tutorials on YouTube. Find a physical activity that you enjoy. It could be golf, tennis, biking, hiking. If you have a passion that is exciting for you, people will be attracted to your light. No one cares about your shoulders or neck. Women are always awkward at your age. It’s hard to swallow the truth that inner beauty counts more than outer beauty at your age. But people say it al… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/03/20 06:17 AM |
| 1 | Teen girl here, how can I become as beautiful as possible?No. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/03/20 06:10 AM |
| 1 | So I know TRP desires women with low N-counts, having supposedly high N-counts themselves, but do any of you also prefer men with low N-counts?I know many men who have left the JW religion. They are all divorced/even multiple marriages and commonly agreed that they married low value women because they were so desperate to have sex that would be sanctioned by God that they just rushed things and figured it would work itself out. There’s good intentions, and then reality. Men need sex for their emotional health. For those who can make a controlled decision and wait until marriage, still might not be making a good choice. I’m glad it’s wo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/03/20 09:28 PM |
| -2 | So I know TRP desires women with low N-counts, having supposedly high N-counts themselves, but do any of you also prefer men with low N-counts?So you are looking for an alpha guy that doesn’t have sex and doesn’t watch porn? Your heart is in the right place... | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/02/20 04:35 PM |
| 4 | Postpartum low sex driveI’ve hesitated all day about whether or not to post this. But I’m going to do it. Treat this like a game, an experiment, and a temporary learning exercise. I’m going to ask you to have sex like it’s a chore. Your husband needs to be on board too. I don’t want to hurt his feelings, and I want everyone involved to know that this is a game. There are rules. And the purpose of it is to reconnect with each other and regain intimacy. So the rules are: have sex every day. Oral counts, mutual masturbati… | /r/RedPillWives | 27/02/20 02:20 AM |
| 23 | What a dumb, textbook mistake.If it was as you said it was, and you just raised concerns, you can get past this. Tomorrow is a new day. As soon as you can: rub his shoulders and tell him that you trust him. Tell him that you heard him when he talked about his day that was full of trials. Tell him that you support him in his complex decision making. If you got emotional but spoke to him with respect, then tell him that you got emotional, but that his mothers affairs are your family affairs and that you trust him. After all, i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/20 06:12 AM |
| 3 | Help - Getting back in shape post-babyI have no clue...but I wonder if you have health insurance if you could see a physical therapist. Online advice has its place, but so does professional help. When I get running injuries I always try to see a real physical therapist (or physiotherapist in some countries) They would know the true extent of your muscle deficits and the care, rest, or strengthening exercises you need. | /r/RedPillWives | 21/02/20 05:18 AM |
| 4 | He told me that he's more intelligent than me and my feelings are hurtI really do understand your reaction of having hurt feelings, but I also want to break it down for you. At a “function” or what I interpreted to be a work event, your SO said he was more intelligent than you. This is not a bad thing. I hope you can take this humbly, but he should be smarter than you. I’m NOT disparaging women or knocking different strengths or intelligence types. You might be really smart. I fancy myself as being really smart. I’m not saying women can’t be smarter than men, even… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/20 07:02 AM |
| 1 | Dreams and goals you have outside the relationshipI found Anna Karenina to be a very red pill book. Every character has their own path, and it’s more like a “what not to do” to be a red pill woman, other than maybe “Kitty” who goes into nun mode for a while and then finds a husband. But I loved that book!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/20 12:32 AM |
| 8 | Dreams and goals you have outside the relationshipI’m really into nature more than traveling. I want to go to Wyoming to see the mountains, not the shops. I want to go to Chile to see the sunrises. I want to go to Utah to see the red rocks. I’ve run more than 10 half marathons at this point. It helps me to create these “Calorie neutral vacations TM” I went to South Dakota once during peak Fall foliage, ran past the Snake River over looking the Grand Tetons in the Spring. My next run is through the Slot Canyons of the Antelope Valley this winter… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/02/20 06:43 PM |
| 5 | Can marriage be saved after an abortion or am I foolish for sticking around?I’m very pro choice and have actually had an abortion more than 10 years ago. So I’m not coming from a place of shaming you for what happened. But disagreements about abortions are really really deep seeded. There’s mismatched emotions between your feelings and his, so you will never get the support you need from him unless he has a spontaneous rebirth of his empathy capacity. I hope that you can look at yourself and remember that you have worth and value. Your childbearing years are not over. Y… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/01/20 02:21 AM |
| 10 | Sharing recipes that were a hit!I love to cook! But you can get stuck in a pattern and I know that feeling. Several years ago I did a little experiment, which was to eat only vegan food for 3 weeks. I didn’t do it as a crash diet, or to save the animals, or just eat celery, or any of that, but I did get a lot of recipe ideas from websites and books that were pitching elimination diets. It got me out of my comfort zone. I spent time blending different stirfrys for color and texture. I learned how to make sauces from things I ne… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/01/20 08:52 PM |
| 30 | Sharing recipes that were a hit!The book “Salt, fat, acid, heat” really helped me understand cooking a lot better. It gives you the big picture about why salt, cheese, butter, vinegar and oil taste good on our palate, and how to balance when you should substitute them out vs just ruining the dish without them. I find that if I add a bit of salt to zucchini or red peppers, they don’t need to be smothered in cheese. Or if you are making a dish with several ingredients that are already sources of salt on their own such as fish, o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/01/20 08:17 PM |
| 1 | Laura Doyle's advice vs my therapist'sMaybe this is different advice, and deeper therapy tools, but I really recommend you listen to the “take a break from drinking podcast, episode 153: how to get your needs met. “ Now hear me out: I know you didn’t mention anything about problem drinking. But this lady talks extensively about Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. So I thought it would be relevant to this situation. Sometimes, when you begin self improvement you begin realizing “the things that are missing” and it’s an easy distraction to … | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/01/20 06:34 AM |
| 3 | Moved in w/ LTR, big fuck up...Sometimes you have to make hard choices. Now, later, personal decisions, business decisions. Some choices are hard because there is a cost involved. So what’s six months rent? $2000, $8000, $12000. If the situation was reversed, and you weren’t going into debt, but instead getting paid, would you act like a wet towel weak bitch for 6 months? There’s a lot of psychology in this, conditioning your brain over a long period of time to accept your weakening status and submit to a bunch of bullshit. W… | /r/askTRP | 19/01/20 08:25 PM |
| 2 | To have kids or notThis entire thread is a dumpster fire. Almost everyone is telling him to do it. I’m almost wondering if they are trolling him. And OP is replying to people about how he’s going to pay his main caretaker of his child to make up stories about him “like he is a hero” to make up for the fact that he plans to be absent and just spend all his beta bucks surrounding his kid by the best nannies and the best schools And no one is calling him out on it! Unfuckingreal. | /r/askTRP | 14/01/20 05:27 PM |
| 4 | To have kids or notYou are the reason I do not date weak guys with weird egos about their genes. When was the last time you heard any stories on any RP sub about nannies, coaches, grandparents or international schools in Singapore or Shanghai saving your kids from the realities of life. Go ahead friend, fuck yourself. Your kids will thank you for your thoughtful selection of underpaid substitute mentors. I’m sure they will be high quality. | /r/askTRP | 14/01/20 05:15 AM |
| 6 | To have kids or notJesus! The comments on here! Are you people crazy? If you find yourself walking around in your bomb ass life thinking that all you’ve ever wanted to do is pass on your genes, then maybe. But every business you own, every property that you’ve acquired needs to be boring to you. Because petty problems and ridiculous inquires, and the unending curiosity and energy of a child who doesn’t want to learn handwriting is going to plague you for the next 25 years. I’m a post wall woman who landed an aweso… | /r/askTRP | 14/01/20 05:01 AM |
| 7 | I want to make him feel like a man, but I act like a boy.There are two books that can help you. The Surrendered Wife by Laura Doyle can help you surrender your masculine traits. If you surrendering creates a void, give him space and opportunity to fill it. Fascinating Womanhood by Helen Andelin can help you cultivate your femininity. u/JanuaryArya led a book club on this sub last year. It has a lot of good advice. Finally, I’ve only read three paragraphs about your relationship, so my advice might be harsh, or completely wrong, but men who smother me … | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/01/20 01:28 AM |
| 4 | How is sex after waiting till marriage?Not at all | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/20 01:14 PM |
| 45 | How is sex after waiting till marriage?I’ll add another comment. My parents got married. They were Catholic. My mom’s parents got divorced before she was conceived!!! ( Drama ensued. Think about it. ) My mom grew up in Catholic school. The stigma of her divorced parents haunted her. Her older sisters who were 10 and 12 years older than her never treated her kindly. My mom and my dad had a dead bedroom. They finally got divorced when I was 27 years old. They didn’t love each other for years and years as my father spun into alcoholism.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/20 05:08 AM |
| 7 | How is sex after waiting till marriage?I don’t believe in waiting until marriage. It’s a big deal. I’ve had bad sex with people I’ve waited for. Having sex as a virgin is a learning curve, and it can be painful. Follow your heart. If you’ve vetted a guy and want to try it then you should. If it would really bother you to lose your virginity before marriage then you shouldn’t. Everyone can learn and grow sexually, even if it’s with the same person for a lifelong commitment But I would try it before I tied the knot. Just a personal opi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/20 04:36 AM |
| 4 | What’s something you could do once a month to drastically improve your appearance for the next couple weeks?Before you notice wrinkles. I get it in between my eyebrows because I started to notice 11’s. My upper forehead isn’t a problem (yet). I started at 30. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/01/20 02:35 AM |
| 27 | How To Cheer My Man Up?Edit: Home-cooked meals and affection! I try to find the opportunities to listen. Sometimes my boyfriend starts talking about something, and I start thinking about what to say, and then I realize that this is an opportunity to listen. I still cater my answers to be more than the generic, “what do you think, or how does that make you feel...” but I try to let the conversation move in the direction of him working out what he needs to work out by talking out loud. Yes, wine and drawing also sounds … | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/12/19 01:59 AM |
| 20 | LTR wants to bring a girl in the bedroom”and tell her to find the other girl, its way easier this way, if she approaches women will be more receptive, if you approach you'll sound like a perv.” I disagree. Preselection makes taken men quite attractive. If the guy can pick up other pussy and give other women tingles then he should be part of the process. I don’t find it attractive when other women try to convince me to fuck their shy boyfriend who wants a threesome but can’t manifest it. And his chick trying to give me a sales pitch ab… | /r/askTRP | 29/12/19 05:34 AM |
| 3 | Would it be poor etiquette to give the same gift to two people?Love your user name | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/12/19 05:35 AM |
| 4 | Rant: Being an Alpha Widow is not cool or interestingMaybe I should have said “low RMV” ”It would be the same. You wrongly assume that the alpha wants other thing than sex, or that he wants monogamy. That's unwarranted.” I think this is a bit dismissive of men. I’m not saying that men aren’t driven by sex, but I do think you are minimizing the spectrum of what an Alpha man might be trying to accomplish. ”An alpha is going to dump any woman, no matter how high is his value, just because that woman is a hurdle getting other women. ”The alpha's biolo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/12/19 05:04 AM |
| 8 | Rant: Being an Alpha Widow is not cool or interestingI won’t “die on this hill” arguing with you. Maybe I should have said “low RMV” However, I think that if you are relationship with a true Alpha, and cant make it work. It’s okay to leave, and grieve, and grow from the experience. If you Literally can not get over it, months and years later, If you spend time in your day dreams obsessing over what could have been, there’s something broken inside of you. If you feel disdain and closed off from eligible suitors that follow him but can’t get him out… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/12/19 04:23 AM |
| 23 | Rant: Being an Alpha Widow is not cool or interestingJust to clarify, I am not an alpha widow. I’m trying to discourage others from labeling themselves as one with too much haste. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/11/19 11:40 PM |
| 3 | Can a RPW be single forever?I was ready to be alone before I met the one for me. That attitude, and non-desperation led me to see the world for what it really was. It also led me to notice what a gem he truly was. Stay strong. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/11/19 04:14 PM |
| 3 | How to balance living in the moment with your own timelines of wanting to get engaged?Do you desire to have more children? That changes everything. I had a bit of an unlikely path with a divorced man with a similar age difference. I’m 33, he’s 47, together for 7 years. During this time we both became RP aware, and I graduated from a plate to an LTR. But it took a very long time. A failed marriage with two children probably weighs extremely heavily on his mind. Everyone enters marriage with a lot of hopes and the crushing reality of divorce is not something that most people can ju… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/11/19 05:01 AM |
| 2 | I rarely drink, but when I do I go overboardCheck out the podcast “taking a break from drinking” by Rachel Hart. It’s a very nonjudgmental, cognitive behavioral therapy based approach to get in touch with any behaviors or habits around drinking that you feel you need to address. There is also a book called “This Naked Mind” by Annie Grace that helps you to understand falsehoods in our cultural obsession with alcohol. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/11/19 01:56 AM |
| 1 | Need an attitude adjustment about messy dishesGreat perspective to try to find joy as easily as it is to come to annoyance. I’ll try to practice that today. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/11/19 10:14 PM |
| 15 | I’m turning 33 soon and want to know how to realistically and successfully date at this age. Are there any tips or things I should know?Focus in the early stages of dating on finding a man that you respect, even if he’s not number one in the looks department. See if your respect for him helps build your physical attraction over time. Though if the physical attraction doesn’t come, be fair to him and let him go. Review the posts on the sub related to Fascinating Womanhood especially the early chapters about Acceptance, Appreciation, and Admiration. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/11/19 05:20 PM |
| 1 | Need an attitude adjustment about messy dishesI think this is really good advice. The only thing is I don’t parent her. We don’t have that sort of relationship. Neither her, or her dad, or me are desiring me to be a parent to her. So I think he would have to be the one doing any disciplining. I stopped doing the Venmo thing and I don’t think anybody took a lot of offense. She’s Venmo charged me about silly things. And in general we get along famously. We sit and chat. We do fun things with the dog. I give her advice about college and dating… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/11/19 06:36 PM |
| 3 | Need an attitude adjustment about messy dishesThis is really helpful. Maybe if I stop personalizing the space I could be less offended. Great advice. Thank you so much!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/11/19 04:31 AM |
| 2 | Need an attitude adjustment about messy dishesI am trying. I even say to myself as a clean the kitchen, “I am proud of this kitchen” “this is the kitchen where I nourish myself and my loved ones” “keeping this kitchen a warm and loving space brings me joy” That’s why it irritates me even more when I put on my gloves and sigh. I am happy to do these things. If it was already tidy, I would still go in there and polish it. I want to hold the attitude that’s it’s my joyful realm, not a nuisance, but sometimes my positive thinking just doesn’t g… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/11/19 04:04 AM |
| 2 | So I’ll just go ahead and ask: Is the Red Pill real?Yes, it’s real. The only reason I ever went down the RP rabbit hole is because it spoke to me. It spoke to me about my own (stupid) behavior, why I was attracted to “big dick energy” over any other logical and safe choice. I’m still more attracted to a mans attitude than his muscles. It explained why I lost attraction in my relationships. It’s not so black and white to say, I want alpha fucks, I want Chad. But it did happen in all of my personal experiences. The fantasies that I masturbated to. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/19 02:35 AM |
| 2 | RPW gives horrible advice to women and /r/FemaleDatingStrategy is unironically closer to being the female red pillI’m genuinely submissive. It is part of my personality and I do turn it on and off. I spend my entire day at work questioning doctors, telling them when they are wrong and what their patients need. I play a leadership roll in my nursing unit, arguing with management about which patients are not acceptable on my floor. I champion changes in nursing practice, participant in committees, and call out my coworkers when they need to get in line. I give out tough assignments and educate stubborn and no… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/19 04:53 PM |
| 13 | 'An Essay for Women,' by Rollo TomassiOverall boring article. I’m not sure the argument presented in the essay will change any minds. There was some good content under the “value added” section. Overall I’m not impressed. Some people are aloof. This applies to men and women alike. It’s not rocket science to suggest to not be a self absorbed prick/bitch in order to foster a fulfilling relationship. Anyways, I did read it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/11/19 03:46 AM |
| 6 | You know how women say they don't want to be a "mother" to their husbandThere needs to be some degree of generosity in a relationship. Both parties should strive to achieve giving 2/3 and only expecting 1/3 in return. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/10/19 08:13 PM |
| 5 | Has anyone read the book “Getting to I do?” It has lots of concrete examples on how to become more feminine and get the relationship you want!I thought the beginning arguments about masculine energy attracting feminine or vice versa was actually quite inclusive. It could be applied in a broad sense to monogamy, polyamory, kinky, heterosexual or homosexual relationships. It basically said if you want to be a bad bitch masculine woman, there’s nothing wrong with that, just find a passive man. Of course that’s mostly not what we are looking for here, but it’s not just screaming into an echo chamber. I personally don’t find engagement or … | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/19 08:13 PM |
| 3 | Has anyone read the book “Getting to I do?” It has lots of concrete examples on how to become more feminine and get the relationship you want!I kind of thought something similar that the other commenter said. It’s important to take the time to learn things you prioritize. If you say “Be feminine, eat healthy, smoking is bad” everyone says “okay, sure, I agree with that advice.” But it’s very superficial. It passes through your consciousness very briefly and it’s meaningless to you because you don’t recall it in your time of need. If you take the time to read, internalize, relate emotionally, and critically think about long form argume… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/19 08:07 PM |
| 9 | Has anyone read the book “Getting to I do?” It has lots of concrete examples on how to become more feminine and get the relationship you want!There was a lot of solid advice in the book, but the end didn’t sit well with me. If I remember correctly there was some weird advice about withholding sex and affection if he drags his feet about proposing. That would certainly be an awkward situation either way, but altogether worth a read. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/19 06:00 PM |
| 4 | Checklist or ToolboxNonmonogamy in many ways is “Known Dread.” It is understood that your man is great, attractive to other people, and has other options. But men want more than just sex. Fascinating Womanhood talks about this at length. It’s a woman who respects him, admires him, and is lighthearted, warm, and compassionate that awakes his fascination and affection. If you make the same efforts, whether you are monogamous or nonmonagamous, he will stick by your side for the important and fulfilling aspects of your… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/10/19 01:17 AM |
| 2 | Have you ever dated a passive man, or one who turned out to be way too weak/soft/needy for your tastes?It was really miserable. I met him in a philosophy class and asked him on a date when the semester ended. He was studying in a Masters program to become a Social Worker. I always thought it would be a sweet college romance that would end when we transferred to our next institute of higher learning. After I told him that I didn’t want to go to Nebraska with him to finish his degree he dropped out. Every conversation we had was about how much he loved me. Every day he texted me from the moment I w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/10/19 06:05 PM |
| 1 | Is it too late for me to become a good wife?I really love the podcast “taking a break from drinking” by Rachel Hart. On the surface it’s about reflecting on your drinking habits, but the advice is quite far reaching and relates to all manner of self improvement. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/19 03:49 AM |
| 6 | Is it too late for me to become a good wife?I feel like this is a situation where is order to change your ways you need to get an education. By that I mean, if you’ve always been a party girl, or some form of waitress with a pretty face, a new and serious passion would help to elevate you out of your current situation. I don’t know what you should become, and I don’t really care. It could be a nurse, real estate agent, paralegal, CPA, just something to show that you have your own dreams and goals beyond being a wife with a past that peopl… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/10/19 02:53 PM |
| 1 | New wardrobeI really like Ralph Lauren and Calvin Klein dresses, like the stuff you could get at Macy’s but buy it on sale. I also used to really like Ivanka Trump dresses, if that isn’t against your political views. I don’t buy them any more, but I have several. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/10/19 12:47 AM |
| 7 | How to be “led” when you don’t feel like your leader is wise?Do this u/officecoffees . You are really doing damage to your relationship when you lose control. Especially with the name calling. You don’t want to put yourself in a position where he is losing affection and attraction to you. It will aggravate his own bad behaviors and send you guys into a tailspin. The Surrendered Wife is really a great read. It drives home the point that if you just step away from the responsibility and cause a vacuum he WILL become responsible. He will learn how to do so. … | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/10/19 08:44 PM |
| 5 | [19F] Stressing over when I should be settling down. Is there enough time?In many ways online dating is inevitable. It’s always nice to meet someone authentically, except it’s not supposed to be a coworker, or a close friend, or someone in your inner circle where a breakup would be awkward. It’s tough. And I do suggest to stay off tinder, and any online dating site is going to get you thirsty men. Maybe try bumble, where you both have to connect, but you have to like him enough to make the first message. Another thing that you need to consider is that you won’t know w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/09/19 03:46 AM |
| 2 | Open relationship?You haven’t responded to anyone else, so I can’t learn more about your situation than your single paragraph post description. But I am a RPW in an open relationship. It’s one sided right now, but it hasn’t always been and I’m free to venture back out if I discussed it with him. I’m very happy. It can be complicated. It’s certainly not worth it if you are not interested. But if you are...I have a really long post history and you can feel free to reach out. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/09/19 03:23 AM |
| 12 | What is the red pill for women?I ended up at red pill women after a long time of reading TRP for men. The red pill is just truth about human nature. Some men are lost and try to succeed with blue pill tactics and they fail. Some women are lost, and wander around asking where all of the good men went and don’t understand their attraction to bad boys and chads. So red pill women is a place where we try to understand our nature, do work towards the personal growth required to achieve a higher standard of men, and then apply that… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/09/19 01:33 PM |
| 0 | Am I being unfair?I agree with the other posters about letting him explain. I had the same problem some years ago. I set an arbitrary age limit of 40 (even though I’d had LTR’s that we’re older in the past) I met a guy who was 39, found out some years later that he was 41 when we met... Long story short we just celebrated another anniversary. Sometimes it’s just because women would have filtered him out. Now that you’ve been on 3 dates, ask him about it and see if he lies in person. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/19 08:23 AM |
| 1 | Will losing 30 kilos (66 pounds) in 3 months cause loose skin?Yes...and: That’s absolutely unsafe. Even morbidly obese people are supposed to intake 1200 kcal. For the sake of their gallbladder and electrolyte balance, And the people who chose to eat 800 kcal a day are: less that 4ft tall, on amphetamines, or have an eating disorder. Therefore: it’s not easy or safe. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/09/19 07:57 PM |
| 1 | Will losing 30 kilos (66 pounds) in 3 months cause loose skin?I’m not saying that amphetamines don’t have a place in the treatment of ADHD....but you lost the weight because you were on amphetamines...a very powerful appetite suppressant. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/09/19 12:15 PM |
| 11 | Woman offers a threesome with my husband and I.Look, I don't always toe the line when I comment on RPW, because unlike the vast majority here, I am non-monogamous. For a long time I was just straight-up poly. But I've been with a Captain now for many years and I never even miss other male companionship. Still, he sees other women and I totally understand being okay with sharing a high value man. So I might be the most experienced person in the room right now. I must admit, that lately I have been courting a girl to sleep with my RP man. So I… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/09/19 05:23 AM |
| 3 | Any ideas for healthy and quick-to-prepare breakfasts and lunches?I always make this salad and split it into 4 lunches 2 head of romaine, diced 1 cup dry quinoa with taco seasoning (cooked) 1/2 cup of corn, divided into 2 tbsp each. I also use Trader Joe’s tomatoless corn salsa. 1/2 cup pepitas dived into 1 tbsp each. 1 can of black beans, rinsed and divided 1 red pell pepper, diced I avocado, quartered 1/2 cup of ranch, opadipty chipotle ranch, or Trader Joe’s chipotle ranch, divided into 2 tbsp each, Sometimes I add turkey. Meal prepping will change your lif… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/09/19 01:38 AM |
| 1 | How do I (32F) deal with shit tests from a girl?Bait for what? | /r/askTRP | 23/08/19 07:05 PM |
| 1 | What is your daily routine and how does it better you?Usually for at least an hour. When I get closer to a race day it gets longer. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/08/19 06:47 PM |
| 1 | What is your daily routine and how does it better you?I wake up and do a few sun salutations. Then I have coffee, and go for a run. Sure I could also wake up by reading my phone, or watching tv, but I start the day burning calories. While I’m running I can: plan my day, prioritize, decide what I want to make for dinner. Once you make it a habit it’s a lot less exhausting than it sounds. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/08/19 07:20 PM |
| 2 | How can i improve. I'm a 7...I know this question was short and sweet but there is a lot to unpack here. First of all, it’s great that you are looking for self improvement. I think setting off on a path where you are striving to be better is a worthwhile endeavor. It’s good that you are not just letting your looks carry you through life. The things that you listed were really confusing. I imagine that you typed them as a list but reddit format requires two enter spaces to make it look the way you intended. So: A thick fit b… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/08/19 06:41 PM |
| 3 | How important was your husband's income or financial stability in the relationship?When I first met my boyfriend I almost thought the high income was going to be a yellow flag for me. To clarify, I had dated rich beta providers in the past and it was a nightmare. The combination of slowly realizing what a spoiled ineffectual leader they were, and being financially dependent on someone I didn’t respect, was a really formative experience in my early 20’s. So I became a high earner myself. You need to focus on potential, and alpha characteristics. If you need a provider, that sho… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/07/19 08:59 PM |
| 3 | Are there any RPW rules which you don't "follow" or cannot accept for you?Well I started my journey with the red pill agreeing with the men’s red pill, agreeing about the reasons for attraction, and the analysis of women’s behavior within that framework. I met my LTR. Introduced him to it, and we agree with a lot of what it teaches. For example the responsibility and self determination that it takes to maintain attraction in a relationship. I never wanted to get married. I said that early in the relationship and I’m not going to change my mind now. We live together an… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/07/19 06:56 PM |
| 3 | Are there any RPW rules which you don't "follow" or cannot accept for you?The rules of RPW that I break are the big ones. First one would be that I’m not trying to get married. I’m in a LTR. He loves me and I love him. I don’t need a ring or a legal document to bolster the commitment that I know we have for each other. Second, we are not monogamous. I’ve been practicing ethical non-monogamy for my entire adult life. I never thought I’d want to change if. We started out that way. I have had periods where I have been monogamous to him to see if I could try, and now I’m … | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/07/19 05:39 PM |
| 2 | RPW seems like it serves the male imperative more than the female imperativeIt’s not necessary, I just enjoy it. I find advice that is beneficial to me, and implementing RPW strategies has made my relationship better, and made me happier. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/19 11:43 PM |
| 1 | RPW seems like it serves the male imperative more than the female imperativeNo, I didn’t need it. And lots of things are obvious. But the ass backwards radical feminists are trying to be offended by manspreading and hold up free bleeding as some sort of normal behavior. Askwoman is a great example of how ridiculous and censored a woman oriented sub can be. I don’t need someone to tell me not to get fat. But it’s refreshing to be around a subreddit that will ask if you you are fat if you are asking ridiculous questions about being unlucky in love, rather than telling me,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/19 11:21 PM |
| 2 | RPW seems like it serves the male imperative more than the female imperative”For me, The prototypical RPW has always been Angela from the Office: she loves the IDEA of gender roles and that tradthot prairie wife life but she’s also a compulsive shrew who cannot help burning down her partners with her autism barbie personality.” This is funny. I get your perspective and I get that you are making an example of one of the extremes of RPW, but of course, it’s not all like that. This is a caricature of some women there who don’t get it. But they are trying. Just like the aut… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/19 09:41 PM |
| 5 | RPW seems like it serves the male imperative more than the female imperativeSo what’s worse? A fat girl who doesn’t give a fuck, or a fat girl that’s trying to take responsibility for her own self? And you seriously took the few responses on the stickied self improvement post instead of any of the other content on the whole sub? Great effort. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/19 09:04 PM |
| 7 | Not comfortable wearing lingerieWorking such a physical job can be hard to unwind from. Construction seems like a pretty masculine job too. Focusing on simple lingerie, instead of elaborate may help you get some of your feminine energy back. Maybe that’s what your boyfriend is seeking from you. It doesn’t need to be elaborate, or a performance. Just let your hair down, and try to be softer. Also see my other comment. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/07/19 07:54 PM |
| 4 | Not comfortable wearing lingerieWhat’s uncomfortable about it? Lingerie is more than just fishnets and corsets. Or, For example, I have large breasts and I don’t like the way my unsupported breasts feel. Is that what we are talking about? Or are you “too lazy” to wear a matching floral bra and panties set? Are you heavy/overweight? I find that buying stockings in a larger size that the package recommends is much more comfortable. A babydoll chemise type lingerie is basically a sexy nighty. A high wasted garter belt (only buy o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/07/19 07:45 PM |
| 2 | Potential prospect seems too comfortable letting me pay. Bad sign?That’s a great way to think of it. Build up your boundaries, but also absorb RP theories about where to be flexible and submissive. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/07/19 01:33 AM |
| 2 | Potential prospect seems too comfortable letting me pay. Bad sign?I’ve given this comment a bit more thought and I’d like to recommend the book Boundaries by Dr Cloud and Dr Townsend. It has strong Christian overtures but it is nonetheless very sound advice. I have only ever “loaned” money to someone with the honest and truthful intent to not have her pay me back. It’s good practice to say, “under no circumstances will I ever loan anyone money” and then only ever bend in extreme cases. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/07/19 08:08 PM |
| 1 | Potential prospect seems too comfortable letting me pay. Bad sign?I was reading your post history and I almost asked if you were studying nursing. I hope you love it! It’s seriously such a light in my life. Being a new grad is really hard and if you ever need support don’t hesitate to reach out! | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/07/19 06:28 PM |
| 3 | Potential prospect seems too comfortable letting me pay. Bad sign?That’s true, and I realize that I am being unnecessarily feisty towards u/StroopyLoopy But I think the content and context about her post, where she offered to pay, and he playfully accepted by offering more lunch dates is silly. And should not be considered a flag of any color. Vetting is important. But it goes both ways. A woman (hopefully) will sense when men do superficial chores and favors, and play lip service to get sex. Men (also hopefully) will sense that they are being used for money. … | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/07/19 05:27 PM |
| 7 | Potential prospect seems too comfortable letting me pay. Bad sign?I’m just making sure you understand that this isn’t a sub about getting old fashioned gentlemen to provide for us. It’s about becoming the top tier quality woman that can obtain the powerful relationship that she seeks. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/07/19 04:44 PM |
| 39 | Potential prospect seems too comfortable letting me pay. Bad sign?You say you want a man that prides himself in providing for you. What are you going to provide for him? You are on a first date. He made a comment that offered further dates. You think that was a red flag. Seriously? Until you are committed, having sex, making his home pleasant, and making him fresh bread to have with his elaborate packed lunches, then maybe his drive to provide will kick in. My Captain makes a lot of money, and he laughed at girls with your attitude. Careful not to disqualify y… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/07/19 04:33 PM |
| 1 | A different kind of Alpha widow seeking adviceThe worst part about this whole thing is that it’s all fake. If the stars aligned... If he remember you at all... If he breaks up with his current girlfriend who might be making him very happy... If he gave you a second chance... If everything in the past was understood and forgiven... You never even got to know this dude. He might be lazy, self absorbed, bad in bed, following Instagram thots, going into debt, YOU HAVE NO CLUE. You never even dated him. He might have poor hygiene, he might be a … | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/07/19 01:23 AM |
| 2 | CMV: Men Are DangerousI love the early scene in “Nocturnal Animals” where the two girls get abducted. It’s so creepy and so long. You can see the end of the scene from the beginning. And I literally don’t know WHAT Jake Gyllenhaal could have done to prevent it from happening. It was a slow, haunting, burn. Real life is not like that. People don’t act like that. When I’m at work and I interact with the public I carry on through all this training about how body language and non verbal cues speak louder than your words.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/19 02:40 AM |
| 3 | What traits go into making an alpha? Are they personal or objective or concrete?I’ll try not to confuse you further but I think of an alpha man as someone I can respect. Not someone I like, or think is nice, or feel responsibility or pity for. An alpha man is confident and strong. Hard working and courageous. He is an emotional rock, and if our relationship ended, he’d find another high value woman, easily. I’m dating a guy who is sexually submissive. It’s a kink, not a fetish and we do it occasionally. When we do go there...we go all out. It’s fantasy, and role play. I enj… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/19 06:42 PM |
| 6 | What made you think differently?The men’s red pill is often full of men who are angry. You’ve heard of the stages of grief? Denial, anger, surrender, acceptance. You often see the Angry men being the most vocal in TRP subs. “Spinning plates” is a metaphor for dating (multiple) women who don’t really matter to you. You keep them at a distance. They aren’t wife material. When the relationship blows up, it’s like “dropping a plate that you were spinning” In RPW we advocate for you to not be a plate. Only date men who are serious,… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/02/19 10:58 PM |
| 19 | What made you think differently?Congrats on your sobriety! I’ve been at this for 7 years or so. I remember reading the men’s red pill and thinking that it was so true. I immediately could pull up examples in my head of people that I knew acting how they described, whether it was relating to game, being flirted with, people cheating/getting cheated on, being a victim, being too nice. I thought it was fascinating, and offensive, and hilarious all at once. I’d been in a string of strange relationships, too immature, too nice, too… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/02/19 10:30 PM |
| 8 | Career advice for a young woman?Most doctors I know are jealous of the nurses. Because we only work 3 days a week. They say we make more per hour than they do because they are always on call. Great pay. Great demand. Very feminine career. Also, if you are very passionate, there is plenty of opportunity to advance to Masters or Doctorate degrees, research, informatics, etc... And if you ever get bored, just switch specialties. Most RN’s I know have kids and enjoy the work life balance they have. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/01/19 10:50 PM |
| 5 | Being sexually dominant as a RPW?Perfect answer. I find inspiration in stuff like like this. “Im gonna tell your boss” (to the man who is his own boss) This is how I play dominatrix, | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/12/18 05:51 AM |
| 9 | Being sexually dominant as a RPW?That’s fine. I don’t need to argue this point any further. Weird sexual acts are fantasy. And role play. And frequently private. But it’s popular to turn your nose up at peoples kinks, and yet it’s common that people still seek them out. RPW might not be a common sub where people discuss kinks, and the man and the OP might not be a good fit. I just know from my experience that if I had been judgmental or not compatible with my Captain’s sexual preferences, we would never be where we are today. H… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/12/18 01:11 AM |
| 12 | Being sexually dominant as a RPW?Why? If he knows what he wants, and gets it, why does that threaten your perception about what is alpha? Should he be pressured by societies expectations about what is masculine? Isn’t that the definition of blue pill? Being scared? Suppressing your true nature? TRP definitely does not discourage seeing sex workers, as long as you don’t fall in love with them. So please. Tell me why? Edit: typo. “The” changed to “love” | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/12/18 11:11 PM |
| 4 | Being sexually dominant as a RPW?I’m not sure how I feel about the fact that this has already come up. My advice to you about learning whether this is something that you could see yourself doing is to ask him more probing questions. I also identify as a submissive and never would’ve considered switching ever before the person I’m dating now. It took a lot for me to learn to be comfortable playing that role. (I still feel unconfident sometimes) However I knew that I wanted to do this for him, and I wouldn’t have done it if I did… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/12/18 09:27 PM |
| 1 | 10 Books To Read In 2019I love this! I’m going to save this post! | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/12/18 01:26 AM |
| 2 | Boyfriend Asks how I feel about Open RelationshipsCould you be in an open relationship with him that is one sided? I met my Captain while we were both in an open relationship. I never thought I'd love anyone or let anyone get close to me again so that's how I conducted my life. As the years went on and our relationship stayed we grew closer together, even though he's always seeing someone else. I never thought I'd give up open relationships on my side, but here I am. The last time I had sex with someone who wasn't my Captain it was lame. So for… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/12/18 05:22 PM |
| 4 | Im at the end of my ropeYou’ll have a whole new life after him. A better life full of opportunity and self respect. After some time you’ll value that freedom more than the “things” on the street. The turmoil from abruptly moving out will be worth it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/18 08:33 PM |
| 6 | Giving wife a book recommended by RedPillWomen?DO NOT do this. I would have been so offended. I personally hated the tone of the first few chapters of The Surrendered Wife in particular. Now that I’m done with the whole book, yeah, it’s fine, but I was a Red Pill Woman before reading it. It did not “convert” me in any sense. It was barely tolerable. I liked “Fascinating Womanhood” a lot more, despite it being very comically sexist, and rumored to be written by a man, I found the advice easier to implement, despite the outrageously stupid fra… | /r/askMRP | 01/12/18 05:54 AM |
| 1 | Should everyone be looking for a real partnership from their relationship?We entertain a lot, for example, and after a couple glasses of wine and some tense exchanges people will just start pouring out their problems. It’s entertaining and sad. Sometimes we shake our heads after the guests leave, why would you go on together the way some people speak to each other-we don’t do that. Example where i don’t contradict: If people were having casual conversation about things that I feel that I’m qualified to talk about: like their health problems, dieting goals, or vegetari… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/11/18 04:42 AM |
| 1 | Should everyone be looking for a real partnership from their relationship?As i said previously: I’m submissive in my demeanor. And my mannerisms. I don’t contradict him. I don’t speak to him dismissively. I’m willing to let him make decisions. When we go out in public together I consider my actions carefully and try to make him look good. I still think you are confusing “willing submission” with “not having any control” and when you are personally experiencing abuse it clouds your world view. The way you live on guard at every moment might be hard for you to imagine j… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/11/18 04:04 AM |
| 2 | Should everyone be looking for a real partnership from their relationship?”You don’t need to be a better partner. You don’t need a man to help you improve your life is all I’m saying.” Correct, this is what I want. I don’t “need” a man. One of my top priorities in life is having a warm, harmonious, satisfying romantic life. This is why I put an effort into achieving that goal. “I don’t think you can really be true to your own self if you need to follow a mans lead.” You’ve mentioned a few times that women are fully functional adults who can think for themselves. I am … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/18 11:43 PM |
| 1 | Should everyone be looking for a real partnership from their relationship?As someone who identified themselves as “being in an abusive relationship” you are sure throwing stones. What advice would you give me about being a better partner? How am I not an individual? I’m a professional nurse, I make my living helping people. I’m satisfied in my work, relationships, and social life. I have hobbies, free time, and I’m a marathon runner, constantly achieving new goals that I’ve set out for myself. Can you improve any of that for me? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/18 09:34 PM |
| 3 | Should everyone be looking for a real partnership from their relationship?It’s about how I spend my energy, and it goes back to your line of questioning about a partnership. I spend my relationship energy trying to be helpful and pleasant, not trying “to be right” I’ve watched him make big and small decisions, about himself, his family, and his business. He’s level headed, considerate, practical, responsible, and we share similar values. If he told me that a major life change- such as moving across state lines was in our best interest, I would deal with my anxiety abo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/18 02:10 PM |
| 3 | Should everyone be looking for a real partnership from their relationship?I’d say that the aim is to be a better person, to evolve, and to do so to a point where: whether others take notice and want to follow—or not—is irrelevant, because you are following your own program. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/18 07:23 AM |
| 5 | Should everyone be looking for a real partnership from their relationship?Warning: stream of consciousness ahead: Abuse is different. It’s hard to explain. I’ve been with abusive guys. They are charismatic, have great game, etc. But as with all abusive relationships, once the honeymoon phase is over, and you are enchanted, the abuse seems like a misunderstanding, an over reaction, and then all the gas lighting and harm and nonsense start, which other people should be able to describe better than me. Red pill has different levels. Denial, anger (Frequently from newcome… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/18 06:47 AM |
| 3 | Off Topic Thread: For The Lurkers (03 November 2018)I’m definitely RP, but I think debate is healthy. I read through the topics that interest me. I don’t come here to change anyone’s mind. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/18 12:33 AM |
| 2 | How did The Red Pill change your life? What's your storyIt’s hard to say. It’s kind of like how you can’t lead men to TRP. It backfires. Redpillwomen is supportive once you find them on your own. But if someone lead me there or encouraged me to read their stuff I would be...offended. | /r/askTRP | 29/10/18 06:19 PM |
| 11 | How did The Red Pill change your life? What's your storyTRP taught me why I have hypergamy, why I’m attracted to my boyfriend, why I should ignore “some” of my emotional impulses. TRP taught me that it’s up to me, to be thin, pretty, and sexually available, and to treat him like the catch that he is, in order to be truly happy. | /r/askTRP | 28/10/18 10:19 PM |
| 5 | My boyfriend is always hesitant about getting marriedHe had told you the answer. Multiple times. You are not listening. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/10/18 08:43 PM |
| – | Homemaking: Tips, Tricks & QuestionsI am really having trouble with streaks on mirrors. So I stopped using windex, and got some terry cloth wash cloths for cleaning. Then I made my own stuff. With vinegar, water, castor oil and essential oils. It was less streaky once or twice, but now the streaks are back. I’m not opposed to “chemicals” aka name brand stuff if it works. I just want it to work. Thoughts? | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/10/18 09:59 PM |
| 3 | Taking care of your appearance at homeIt’s not hard either. I wear simple cotton dresses all the time. Same dress with different fabric patterns for $20 each on amazon, | /r/RedPillWives | 06/10/18 09:54 PM |
| 4 | What Are Your Favorite (Or Most Lusted After) Cookbooks?Salt, Fat, Acid, Heat by Samin Nosrat is a recent favorite. The first several chapters address each of the title elements and teach you HOW to cook. The chapter about fats, and making emulsions has inspired me to only make sauces and dressings from scratch, it’s so easy! The book also has traditional recipes that can help you apply what you learned in the beginning of the book. It really is a neat alternative to a traditional cook book. | /r/RedPillWives | 18/09/18 07:54 PM |
| 2 | What Are Your Favorite (Or Most Lusted After) Cookbooks?I love the website! | /r/RedPillWives | 18/09/18 07:48 PM |
| 12 | Regretting my "alpha" career, do I even have a chance at the love life I want?I’m a nurse, most MD’s I interact with say that RN’s make more money “hourly” than they do. Because we only work 36 hours a week. It is truly a great salary and it affords me Time, and peace, and it’s very feminine. 23 is not too late to get out, and your previous coursework will be relevant. Think about it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/18 01:31 AM |
| 2 | [Serious] Do you condone men cheating?Ah yes, compersion comes easily to me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/09/18 11:39 PM |
| 7 | [Serious] Do you condone men cheating?I used to, primarily with a FWB that I’ve had for 10+ years, but Ive also had long stretches of monogamy with him. I think I’m more and more just embracing RPW values and no one else compares to him. But at the same time if I wanted to do it again we’d have conversation about it. He is of the RP frame of mind where he’s not “enthusiastic” about me doing it. But our relationship started off casually and has grown into what it is today over a very long period of time. It’s relevant that I am total… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/09/18 05:56 PM |
| 1 | [Serious] Do you condone men cheating?I’m in an open relationship. So it’s not technically cheating. We have had years of communication about this. I know Non-monogamy seems to be at odds with red pill teachings for men and women, but think of it this way: If having tons of awesome manly qualities is attracting other women to my man, then I know I have picked a good one. I’m confident that he loves me. TRP helps me to understand why I’m attracted to others, and what hypergamy really means. In a sense, I kind of know that he’s using … | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/09/18 05:29 PM |
| 0 | What to pursue for work and college ?Get into nursing. But beware, you are going to need a huge amount of motivation and effort to get through school, but it is worth it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/18 11:19 PM |
| – | Monthly GoalsMy goal for this month is to actively try to stop swearing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/18 11:17 PM |
| 2 | Advice (internal conflict)I agree with other posters talking about waking up early and looking for a job. My suggestion is to wake up early and go to the gym. Hear me out: you could go to the gym and get your sweat on, run a couple miles and feel great. Or you could go to the gym and lazily ride the stationary bike and browse reddit. You can start lifting weights. Look into routines for 5x5 or strong curves. You could go to the gym and use the stair climber for 5 minutes and then decide that this was a mistake and go hom… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/08/18 07:07 PM |
| 2 | Off topic chat: What are you reading/watching/making right now?You should check out Matt Maeson on Spotify. It’s my recent obsession. | /r/RedPillWives | 19/08/18 12:16 AM |
| 5 | Off topic chat: What are you reading/watching/making right now?I read Anna Karenina by Leo Tolstoy. It’s in my top three favorite books of all time. It was overflowing with red pill truths in every character. Anna basically self destructs and ruins her life because her husband stopped giving her tingles. It really read as a warning against chasing emotions down the rabbit hole. Fantastic read! | /r/RedPillWives | 19/08/18 12:14 AM |
| 11 | Engaged but feeling some doubts... is this the hamster in action or something else?I think you will be disappointed if you branch swing. I know that when women do that they might achieve a higher value guy, but YOUR value will be lower for it. If as you replied to another comment, if you just feel like you missed the infatuation phase, I would let it go. I would hate for your hamster to ruin a well thought out relationship. If he isn’t giving you the tingles because he’s getting comfortable and being more vulnerable, then I would try to lead him back to his usual self via comp… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/08/18 09:52 PM |
| 3 | Engaged but feeling some doubts... is this the hamster in action or something else?How do you feel when you have sex? Do you crave him? Can’t wait to please him? When he kisses you, do you respond physically? What color butterfly’s are you looking for? Does your mind wander? Is there another man that you find yourself thinking about even though you don’t mean to? | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/08/18 06:41 PM |
| 4 | How should I spend my new found free time?Start by looking up Stronglifts or Strongcurves. Then watch YouTube videos about form, see if it interests you. Get a gym membership and go. Or look up Couch to 5K | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/07/18 05:26 PM |
| 2 | Tattoos from my previous SJW life...I have posted about this before and I will do it again: Tattoo removal is difficult and painful and not always successful. I had black writing tattooed on my back in 2008. In 2011 I started to have it removed. I’ll look for info about the laser when I get home. I went every four weeks for three years. In the end I had grey writing and raised red welts developing into scar tissue. In 2014 I spent several months having consultations with plastic surgeons, other laser specialists, and cosmetic derm… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/06/18 01:22 AM |
| 3 | RPW, what's your career and how did you get to where you are in life right now?I love nursing. It allows me to make great money, the schedule is amazing, I get to use my brain, and it’s romanticized as being a very “feminine” career. I love it! | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/06/18 07:18 PM |
| 1 | Expensive Gift-Giving?Why don’t you take the love language quiz with your partner and share the results with each other? You’ll both learn something. Then all you can do is show him love in his language and hope for the best. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/18 10:44 PM |
| 24 | 'For Women Only' - Insecurity & Affirmation - Chapter 3Never tear your man down. If a wife reinforces her husband’s fears of inadequacy it can become a self fulfilling prophecy. I like this a lot. And thankfully the opposite is true. When you show love and respect you can give your man the ability to accomplish more. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/18 11:24 PM |
| 5 | An Alpha widow anthem?Lana del Rey - Blue Jeans https://youtu.be/JRWox-i6aAk And Amy Winehouse- Back to Black. https://youtu.be/TJAfLE39ZZ8 | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/18 12:13 AM |
| 2 | Surprising him with breast implants?You should involve him in the consultation. If you want to pay for it then that’s fine, but you should get more input on what he would want them to be like. Plus recovery isn’t tough, but it’s not “nothing” either, so don’t surprise him in that way. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/03/18 10:30 PM |
| 11 | How can I become stylish and feminine?What you really need is time to figure this out. My suggestion is to dedicate a set amount of time to go shopping each week. Let’s start with 2 hours a week. And the goal is to never buy more than one or two pieces at a time. That way you can spend time trying on clothes, finding what works for you, and taking advice from different sales clerks at different stores. Eventually your sense of style will come together. I also used to really simplify my style by deciding that one element of my outfit… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/03/18 03:54 PM |
| 1 | Book recommendations for both genders on a road tripI’ve read that one. Great book! But not quite what I was looking for. | /r/askTRP | 05/03/18 12:55 AM |
| 3 | Laura Doyle Book DilemmaI’m half way through the Surrendered Wife and I don’t really like it. I’m enjoying Fascinating Womanhood a lot more. If you search for Fascinating Womanhood on this sub you can find a pdf link. I find the advice about how to love your husband and show him very applicable to my relationship. The first several chapters of the Surrendered Wife are about how to stop being a nag, and a back seat driver. It then asks for you to remember how to respect your husband and feel confident that he can make d… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/18 05:32 PM |
| 2 | How can I encourage my girlfriend to keep trying?You don’t have to look at the list of “people who like you” and in fact, you can’t unless you pay for the premium part of the app. You can only view mutual likes, and people you have liked. I know there is a counter at the bottom of the app that screams “you have a billion notifications” but just ignore that. And turn off push notifications. And be picky. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/01/18 06:44 PM |
| 3 | Week 1: Secrets of Fascinating Womanhood (book club)The first few chapters are about how to stop being a control freak. It also reminds you to remember why you loved and respected your husband. So...it doesn’t really seem applicable to me in my current situation, but I’m trying to take the advice that is for me, and not focus on the differences. Regardless, I’m going to keep reading. She says early on, (paraphrasing) don’t tell your husband you are reading a book about how to remember to respect him, or tell him you are trying to be a better wife… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/12/17 10:04 PM |
| 5 | Week 1: Secrets of Fascinating Womanhood (book club)The first three chapters were a little cheesy but I understand the tone it was setting up. The quote that gave me the most pause was: “He knows his weaknesses. But he needs you to admire him for his strengths, not draw attention to his weaknesses. Your husband needs admiration like you need his love.” I also thought exercise 1 was interesting. When you consider the qualities that he demonstrates to others you realize that If you aren’t seeing them anymore maybe your intimacy is lacking. I also n… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/12/17 03:46 PM |
| 1 | Book Club: Secrets of Fascinating WomanhoodI’ve done the reading, can’t wait to get involved. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/12/17 02:59 AM |
| 11 | Update on gifts for my boyfriend’s family!That’s awesome. I try to keep notes in my phone so if anyone ever volunteers info such as “I love this perfume” Or “I’ve been thinking of trying essential oils” or “I used to eat fudge at my grandparents house” I’ll write it down. Then when there is an occasion for gifts there is something to draw from. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/12/17 02:36 AM |
| 6 | New Years resolutionsMy New Years resolutions are as follows: I want to continue hugely moderating the amount of alcohol I drink. I took this on this year and it’s had AMAZING benefits. I want to run a total of 750 miles. Last year my goal was to run 365 and right now I’m over 600. I like these goals because even if you fall behind at some point you don’t feel like you failed because you have all year to catch back up. I want to do hot yoga at least once a week. I just converted a groupon into a membership for this.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/12/17 12:43 AM |
| 2 | Book Club: Secrets of Fascinating WomanhoodYes absolutely | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/12/17 12:51 AM |
| 6 | Kesha swore under oath in 2011 deposition that Dr. Luke did not sexually abuse herI am a huge MensRights supporter and advocate but all I saw in this article is "no, he didn't give me a roofie" but "I don't remember" (when asked about waking up naked in a hotel). She doesn't consider the relationship "intimate" (does not mean sexual shit did not occur, just wasn't 'intimate') and her mother didn't know the details. Writing odd ramblings on pages of a coloring book while in rehab are plausible behaviors of an abused person. There are plenty of other prime examples of Men's Rig… | /r/MensRights | 21/02/16 02:10 PM |
| 1 | A week to travelI think it's really what you make of it. I don't know where you live but I think getting out into nature is very spiritual and inspiring. My vote goes to visiting a national park, somewhere peaceful to hike or go fishing. In terms of gaming or inner game I'm not quite sure how to answer but getting inspired by nature is my quick fix for a short vacation. | /r/askTRP | 09/09/15 03:59 AM |
| 6 | As a woman who is fully supportive of TRP, but still trying to understand some of the complexities, I have a specific situational question that I'd like some input and analysis on.Where to begin??? TRP discusses women's slutty nature-which is true. But now you are using it as an excuse for your behavior-TRP is not about making excuses. You just emasculated your DEPLOYED SO IN THE WORST WAY POSSIBLE. What a way to thank him for his service and show respect to the "leader" of your relationship. You are delusional. And you are highly susceptible to manipulation. If a man had enough TRP knowledge to break you of your disloyalty, he would have enough RP knowledge to see that y… | /r/askTRP | 23/08/15 02:56 AM |
| 2 | Cheating website "Ashley Madison" dumps released - prepare for an influx of new usersMy comment is so lame: but this is exactly the plot of Jim Carrey's Liar Liar | /r/TheRedPill | 20/08/15 05:04 AM |
| 3 | Smoking Shit Test- How should I have handled this?Everyone is complimenting you on your one liner. Good for you. But you smoked because you were stressed out with your study group because life is hard and you are above it and won't continue. You worked it out well with your plate but you failed to stand up to your social circle. That's it. | /r/askTRP | 12/08/15 03:02 AM |
| 2 | Fucked over by former oneitis, bf threatens to kill meShe/her BF don't care about you. You are in your own words obsessing over them and wish to ruin his/their life/lives. The only person suffering in this equation is you. By allowing this situation to make you angry, you are giving them power over you. They don't spend any of their energy giving thought to you. You should do the same. Keep reading. And consider the book "you can't make me angry" | /r/askTRP | 07/08/15 03:23 AM |
| 18 | #GiveYourMoneyToWomen hashtag on Twitter exposes feminism's final form: "Give me cash or I'll call you a misogynist"I am so embarrassed. So embarrassed! It's awful. | /r/TheRedPill | 02/06/15 05:23 AM |
| 3 | How do you guys deal with your LTR/ GF while she is on her period? Hers used to last about 1-2 days on some birth control med, now its 4-6 as she is switching. Please give this confused 20 y/o some adviceSo what's the question? | /r/askTRP | 15/03/15 03:39 AM |
| -2 | Should I lie about my age for more results?Female perspective: I hate to preface my advice but I do think that men should seek the advice of men. Don't say your age. I know you don't want to lie, but consider it none of their business. Don't ask her age unless responding to a shit test. Her: how old are you? You: how old are you? A: Her: I asked first You: old enough to not play that game. B: her: that's impolite. You: exactly C: her: 26 ( or whatever age is acceptable to you. ) You: close enough. My advice: if you are that young don't s… | /r/askTRP | 12/03/15 05:12 AM |
| 1 | Breakup talk, advice needed.Her perspective: You seem really nice, and you made some mistakes along the way. She still likes you, but she definitely doesn't have oneitis for You. Think about that. Sounds like (despite the fact that she already cheated, and that's bad) going forward she can't commit to you. And she likes you enough to realize and warn you that if you continue the relationship you will be helping her move, and then if you move too down the road, she'll be completely over you and will only string you along be… | /r/askTRP | 23/02/15 03:49 AM |
| 1 | TRP view of men and women confuses me"I dont get what all this fuss is about being super manly or really feminine, why cant everybody just be whatever they want to be and chill out yaknow? My thoughts are, if you just be yourself and stop worrying so much, i think that is way more attractive than anything." So your nice boyfriend doesn't challenge you. Good for you. I recommend getting comfortable and fat. After all, I'm sure he will understand, and love your body. But at the end of the day when you aren't happy anymore, you will h… | /r/askTRP | 11/02/15 05:18 AM |
| 5 | I'm not one of you... but I humbly ask for your perspective/help in getting over my ex.Poly girl, who agrees with the red pill, as best as I can apply it to myself. TRP: you are being too needy, who cares about Facebook pictures. Poly: she's not communicating well enough with herself. If she took you back, and then left you 4 days later, she doesn't understand her own feelings enough to negotiate with you. TRP: you do have oneitis, you need to be with more women. Even if you feel like the emotional connection is too important, you need to date more women to get more perspective; a… | /r/askTRP | 07/02/15 06:37 AM |
| 2 | How can I use a large casino on first dates without spending a ton of money..?I mostly lurk on TRP but I'll give you my 2 cents. I dated a gambler when I was 19 and got lost in this terrible relationship with a beta provider who I wanted to love, but he bored me. Watching a guy lose money gambling would make me feel bad for him. Id next him if it was one of our first dates. It might make me want to make you feel better (sex) if we already knew each other well enough. It also shows me that you have expendable income. Be it $40 or $100. My previous ignorant girl-self saw th… | /r/askTRP | 29/01/15 05:45 AM |
| 3 | Need some incite.Congrats on 20 days, but that is not very long. It takes a long time to change your mindset. If you have anxiety about not doing enough, keep track of your activities. At the end of the day reflect and record a list of your accomplishments and what you want to improve. Review in the morning and make a game plan. Repeat. | /r/askTRP | 29/01/15 05:22 AM |
| 2 | LTR Anal sex question- Do some girls really just ever do it?If you rephrased the question or searched through r/sex you can take what you learn from r/sex and apply TRP to it and adjust your strategy. Anal sex is not inherently painful but the idea is something a girl has to get used to. If she's never done it she needs to get used to it. My best experience with anal was a guy who talked it up to me and made me feel like I would be important if we tried it. Don't get me wrong. I'm not asking you to buy flowers or rub her feet but you have to tell her tha… | /r/askTRP | 16/01/15 03:36 AM |
| 3 | Having a hard time deciding my feelings about TRP now that I've been on the receiving end of it's practices.I'm a woman and I love TRP. Stop hate reading. As you are beginning to see, it makes a lot of sense. I like Alpha males/Alpha fux. Every time I've been with a blue pill guy it goes from "Aww he's so sweet" to "This is annoying!" Some of the things I read on here are tough to swallow or downright criticism of my personality traits. But it helps me understand myself and the world around me in a different light. It's been drilled into society's head that TRP behavior makes a guy an asshole. But it … | /r/askTRP | 08/01/15 10:11 PM |
| 2 | When and if should I let them know?Do you swim? You should start to. Turn it into a positive. | /r/askTRP | 02/01/15 12:21 AM |
| 1 | FeminismI'm a woman, but I love Women Against Feminism. I follow on Facebook but it might also be a tumblr thing. The woman that started it has a bog called judgybitch. I realize that you'd be better off taking advice from the men on these subs but it might give you another perspective to see what the women who reject feminism use to support their arguments. | /r/askTRP | 01/01/15 11:00 PM |
| 3 | The most redpill female in music? Lana Del ReyOne of her songs is called, "I fucked my way up to the top." Not that I believe every lyric sung is true. | /r/TheRedPill | 01/01/15 12:02 AM |
| 1 | What is the average age of the TRP Sub?I was totally over immature guys when I was 19. I was dating closer to 40 and still do. I'm not a gold digger and I have a great relationship with my dad | /r/askTRP | 02/03/14 11:12 PM |
| 2 | Tattoos... on menI just want to mention that my brother started to get tattoos even though he knew I had one that I regretted. He lives in another county so I don't see him very often, and of course it's not my business. But maybe over a holiday sometime he spent the night, got dressed for work (white dress shirt, tie, slacks) and I'm standing in the kitchen under some fluorescent type lighting and I stopped dead in my tracks. Dude, do you have stars tattooed on your collarbones/shoulders? I could see right thro… | /r/TheRedPill | 25/01/14 07:54 AM |
| 5 | Wife Cheated on me with friends 16 years agoGenuine curiosity, (f): I lurk on this sub because I am into mens' rights, and also because TRP is a rational social argument, that I would have no perspective of, if I didn't read articles/commentary that didn't already fit comfortably into my world view. I read Dan Savage all the time, and there are tons of common questions about men who's partners belittle their kinks or even completely transform a marriage into a sexless marriage. There might be an argument that these men might be displaying… | /r/TheRedPill | 25/12/13 05:41 AM |
| 4 | Self-described feminist explains why rapists are almost never your average joeIt's a guy. At the top of the page it says he's a college student who lives out of his care. Great post. | /r/MensRights | 26/11/13 02:37 AM |
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