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I bring my boyfriend lunch almost daily, it means the world to him. I also don’t mind that others notice and tell him how lucky he is :)
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/19 02:58 AM
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The book has valid points but the best thing is to view what she recommends conceptually instead of literally (my opinion). You know your relationship best, so use critical thinking to apply the concepts to your situation. It may not come naturally to you right away so don't get discouraged. If you find what she's writing about helpful and applicable in your life it's a great book. I'd also recommend Surrendered Single if you'd like to learn about how she recommends single women behave. It's a l…
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/16 01:02 PM
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Send one of the admins a PM with your question. I'd also suggest the original RedPillWomen sub.
/r/askMRP01/05/16 11:47 PM
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I second the magnesium. It's part of my nighttime routine. Much better than melatonin
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/16 05:27 AM
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That was my fave too!
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/16 07:12 PM
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I'm a huge fan of the copper IUD... Painful (for me) to get but it subsides quickly. Talk to your doc to see if you're a good candidate. Edited to add: My first form of BC was Depo. The shot every 3 months. I gained 30 lbs over the course of 3 years on it, spotted my whole last month before the next shot, and generally turned into a crazy person. I'm a fan of non-hormonal BC in general.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/16 03:26 AM
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This is accurate. I became severely depressed cold turkeying cigarettes. I now vape, at a very low nicotine, and it works for me. I no longer get cigarette cravings. I'm continuing to lower my nicotine level until it's gone and I'll stop vaping. Quitting cigarettes was the best decision I've made I think and it's no easy feat, vape or no vape.
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/16 10:27 PM
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Congratulations!!
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/15 12:18 AM
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Can confirm, it's extremely popular in the RPW sub and the women who have read it (myself included, unmarried but in an LTR) have mentioned improvements.
/r/askMRP22/12/15 02:43 AM
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I listened to this TED talk years ago, well before I found this sub. It really resonated with me and it motivated me to focus on things I previously felt could wait. That shift in thinking was valuable and I try to pass this idea (softly) on to girlfriends who are younger than I am. Youth is wasted on the young.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/15 08:36 AM
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I love this Field Report. I am also an ENTP and as such, I love me a good debate. As a female ENTP I think that I over analyze even more because brain considers it a debate against myself, I dunno :) Anyway, it's extremely refreshing to read this, thank you for posting.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/15 12:56 AM
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I dig this post. I always see that "manipulation" has such a negative connotation and I don't believe it should. We are all guilty of it and there's nothing wrong with that. No one is truly altruistic all the time.
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/15 02:29 AM
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I love this story. Thanks for posting.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/15 10:25 PM
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Me too! ENTP-T
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/15 06:25 PM
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I think that trend is helpful. I read through most of the rest of the comments. Good luck, OP.
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/15 03:43 AM
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I bought this book for my married best friend. She has read it twice in two weeks and has noticed improvement in her marriage almost immediately. I own Surrendered Wife and Surrendered Single and this author writes in a way that makes the concepts completely relatable. I'm looking forward to reading more from her, thank you for posting.
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/15 03:37 AM
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Was he your boyfriend at the time?
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/15 02:30 AM
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I have sympathy for you, OP but I am not surprised he resents you. You are an anchor. I agree with the other advice about leaving. Don't burden this man anymore.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/15 04:10 PM
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Awesome post. Thank you for sharing.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/15 12:56 AM
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This is good advice. I'd expand and mention that making sure you understand what is worth losing trust over is important. If you're looking for a reason to lose trust, you'll find it. Forgetting milk at the market is NOT a representation of "he just doesn't pay attention and this relationship is doomed!"
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/15 03:23 PM
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You're making the right decision. I know you love him but you have to love yourself more right now. This isn't healthy and he doesn't deserve to keep you on the hook.
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/15 09:43 AM
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I'm sorry to harp on this but the animal thing would be an automatic deal breaker for me. He doesn't need to be a bleeding heart but I think a good man protects the weak and at the very least doesn't go out of his way to hurt/kill them. He must understand this isn't a desirable personality trait and if he is an actual sociopath I don't think he would have revealed that to you. Also, if you two have a family, is someone capable of intentionally killing another living thing for fun someone you wan…
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/15 09:36 AM
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I think l get what you're saying. Perhaps because he trusts OP with the finances, he wants to not worry about overspending and it relieves stress for him to ask? Just an idea. If this is his preference, it sounds fine to me as this is his choice. Like instead of keeping track of random balances, he can just confirm as things come up.
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/15 04:46 AM
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I respectfully disagree. A week without any contact is by design in this day and age. If he wanted a second date he would have asked for one by now. And what's wrong with the man doing the pursuing at this stage? The effort the woman puts in comes after she knows he is definitely interested and any man that goes with radio silent after the first date in the hopes she starts to pursue him isn't a guy I'd want anyway.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/15 01:24 PM
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I met a cool guy through Tinder in LA. It's possible.
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/15 06:58 PM
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I think the overall message is that my categorization of a formal education being attractive to women also means that automatically a formal education is attractive to men. I realize that I'm projecting. I do not feel inadequate regarding intelligence, I felt inadequate based on status difference. I can understand why it wouldn't necessarily work that way and that that education difference may matter to some men; overall men do not expect the same societal status level. I appreciate the insight.
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/15 06:21 AM
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I understand. That makes sense. Unfortunately, I do have student loan debt even though I didn't finish and I understand that is a major red flag for a potential spouse. It's not something I can get rid of right away but I'm slowly chipping away at it and I have adjusted my finances to live well within my means to help with that. But it will take a while.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/15 01:35 AM
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Thank you. I really doubt this specific gentleman will turn into anything serious but this is good advice going forward as well.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/15 01:34 AM
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My approach with that is to wait until I'm asked. He did mention specifically that he found my work interesting but I made sure I didn't ramble. I think this all just comes down to listening to what he says and responding in kind, while paying attention to cues in the conversation that indicate that the conversation is better shifted.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/15 12:42 AM
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Formal education specifically? I am intelligent but did not complete formal education.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/15 10:49 PM
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I assume that if it was important to him, it would have come up in conversation. Other sentiments were right on point, I believe I'm projecting.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/15 10:49 PM
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I would assume that it wouldn't progress to an LTR of those are important to him as those topics usually get covered early-ish right?
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/15 10:47 PM
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This is fascinating. Thank you for taking the time to write it out.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/15 09:41 AM
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Yes I feel like I can contribute to the conversation. Most people find what I do interesting because it's a bit techy. For this interaction I was extremely interested in his work and he said he enjoys talking about it. So that was no problem.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/15 09:34 AM
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Yes it makes sense that I'm projecting. Thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/15 07:53 PM
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Thank you for your insight. I understand that dating is much more expensive for men and I don't take advantage of that. On our first date I asked if I could pay and he smiled and suggested we split it. Which I was happy to do. The second time we went out I bought the first round and it became a bit of a "can I buy you a drink?" flirtation as we alternated buying drinks. This is a bit off topic of my first question but was this the right way to do it? If he was adamant on paying I trust that he w…
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/15 07:52 PM
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I guess my main concern is that on a fundamental level, he (or someone like him) may not view my lifestyle and education as "enough". I'm fairly new here and my lack of a degree has never made me feel inadequate before. As far as intelligence, I showed interest in his work and stories he shared and felt like I was able to contribute to the conversation. But in a work related social interaction (for example), would a man like that be proud of having someone on his arm that is simply attractive an…
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/15 06:44 PM
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I'm sorry, I did a quick search here and didn't see anything. I didn't think to check RP.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/15 06:33 PM
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From a safety perspective, I try to meet someone at our destination so I am able to leave if I'd like to. I also let a girlfriend know where we planned to go. If the first date goes well and there is a second date, then I'd be okay with him picking me up. I'm a bit private and not totally comfortable with someone I just met knowing where I live right away. Edited to include: I need to work on my language as well. I curse frequently and while I consider myself witty, some things don't need to be …
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/15 06:03 PM
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I apologize. I misunderstood.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/15 06:37 PM
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This is good, RP advice. OP, you can control how you react to things. It's just harder for you.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/15 06:34 PM
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I'm risking flak for this but this isn't something that "a black eye" can fix. This takes constant effort and management. Plenty of people with personality and mental disorders get beatings for a variety of reasons (mainly because they're behaving in a way where a black eye may be justified, I don't know) and it doesn't help. Perhaps I missed the sarcasm. My apologies if so.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/15 06:33 PM
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BPD is unfortunately one of those things that gets mentioned a lot in RP when there is any sign of a woman seeming unbalanced. True BPD is a struggle and I empathize with you. The women they talk about on RP (usually) are immature women with bad habits. A mental illness cannot be diagnosed on a Reddit Forum. Okay, now that my rant is over: Keep to your treatment. Having a fulfilling relationship is possible. From what I've read, medication isn't super useful although it's used to tame the behavi…
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/15 06:29 PM
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This post hit home for me. Thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/15 06:14 PM
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Yep. Lesson learned.
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/14 04:46 AM
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My apologies, I don't understand your question.
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/14 03:56 AM
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Exactly. I am told frequently "You just don't know what feminism ACTUALLY means..." By all means, please enlighten me about the oppression you face on a daily basis, middle class white friend of mine.
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/14 03:29 AM
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They reposted the one of OP's husband cheating when she came to RPW for advice. They're having a field day. It breaks my heart that these people take something that wasn't meant for them and exploit it for personal gain. I'm naive, I believe in some personal responsibility when in an Internet forum. Don't take information that wasn't intentionally shown to you and tear it apart because it's fun. But what do I know. The world is a big crappy place sometimes and the only solace some people have is…
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/14 12:25 AM
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I cannot wrap my head around that women fight this sub tooth and nail when we focus on bettering ourselves. This post will likely be posted to TBP and ripped apart (as I realized most other posts are) and they don't get that we are happy. We see benefit to having this mindset. And instead of letting people go on their merry way, they tear it apart for no reason. I wish they could see a post like this, without the RP/RPW terminology and actually understand what it means and not focusing on where …
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/14 10:36 PM
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I'm so sorry. I have no advice I just wish you the best.
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/14 10:05 PM
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Yes that's a good rule. I'd also stay away from comparisons that could be perceived as insulting to Americans. That sounds strange but something as innocuous as "Your police force carries guns AND pepper spray AND batons? We don't do that where I'm from..." Could be perceived as rude. Even liberal Americans have a strong pride of "America is the best country ever!" And growing up outside of the U.S. gives a far different view of our land of the free.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/14 05:41 PM
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That breakfast dish sounds like heaven. I'd offer to cook that. My background is Hungarian so maybe a bottle of something that your country is famous for? Hungarians are proud of their wine and Palinka. I brought a few bottles back of each with me when I came back from a visit in November. I'm saving them for special occasions.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/14 05:37 PM
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That's good :) and yes it's a pretty unnecessary comment but sometimes I would get into the whole "good natured ribbing" that the family was doing before but I realized that it's disrespectful and will never do it again. The family will view you differently if you join in.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/14 05:33 PM
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Sorry, I read that wrong (I thought you we're going to Europe from the U.S. and I had a boat load of stuff that may have helped) :) I'd still keep some of the old fashioned European upbringing going when you come to the States :) Be polite and ask questions and don't challenge your SO in front of them.
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/14 11:22 PM
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I assume he's not an idiot. He used to do these things more readily. Something changed recently (you mention it was pre-pregnancy but barely). I agree with Tempest, blunt, no more than three sentences and then listen to what he has to say. And then you don't bring it up again. He may be inherently selfish as a lover and before was perhaps him putting in extra effort. That's not to say he can't put in extra effort going forward but perhaps some reflection on things that you could put extra effort…
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/14 10:28 PM
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Seconded. Not post sex. You shouldn't really bring up anything super important post sex.
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/14 10:24 PM
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I totally understand what you're saying. I didn't mean to imply that you were, just that if you keep bringing it up you would be :)
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/14 08:11 PM
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You've communicated your needs and wants. Now you just need to wait it out and hopefully this is a temporary set back because you're pregnant. Bringing it up repeatedly won't make him want to do it. It might help to keep in mind the other things he does for you that make your life easier that aren't sexual. Keep a level perspective.
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/14 07:53 PM
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Ignore her. Completely.
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/14 03:16 AM
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Wait. Your LTR of a year and a half sent that in an email? It sounds strange... Overly casual I think. Cut her off. She sounds unhinged. Edited to add: it almost sounds like she may pull the whole "that was meant for someone else..." It just doesn't sound like something one would send an LTR.
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/14 02:28 AM
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I'm so happy for you :) It is a time saver. I wear very little makeup on a daily basis anyway and my face feels light when I skip it completely. I think I'll try skipping it more often. I've taken better care of my skin overall so that's a plus. I have less need for makeup.
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/14 02:23 AM
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Lease is up in February. I'll be moving much closer :)
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/14 06:37 PM
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Thank you for the suggestions. I'm in an LTR so perhaps something geared towards marriage would be best. I think anyway. I'm not a huge fan of Dr. Laura but I'll check her out. I haven't heard any of her new stuff.
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/14 04:33 AM
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All beautiful areas :) I miss being close to Malibu.
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/14 01:02 AM
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I used to commute from Garden Grove to Venture County for work. I feel your pain :) Thanks for the solidarity. My commute now (from the SGV) is better but still pretty terrible.
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/14 12:43 AM
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I have tried some This American Life as well. I'll check those other ones out. Finish Serial!! :D
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/14 12:41 AM
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I put my own name on cards for people he doesn't know. He called me out on it but I didn't think it was a big deal. I'll know for next time.
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/14 08:37 PM
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I agree. I made a promise to myself that I won't live with anyone else unless I'm at least engaged. I let that slide. You see where I'm going with this.
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/14 08:35 PM
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If I'm understanding correctly, I think I do something similar. I refer to him by name 99% of the time (usually because when I bring him up in conversations I say "my boyfriend, name" at first then going forward it's just "name") but when I refer to him by title (if you will) it's usually "the boyfriend". I'm not sure why I do it, I've ways referred to significant others like that. Most people think it's strange.
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/14 03:50 PM
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I had no idea it was like this. Is it similar in Toronto? I'm not sure. This would bother me as well. I would want my children to have my husband's last name and I wouldn't be comfortable not sharing THEIR name. We are a family. Not them and then me.
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/14 03:44 PM
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I also would like to know why not? Perhaps that's what he's looking for?
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/14 03:29 AM
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That's tough. I think it would come down to "what can I do differently to make you feel more attracted to me?" And do those things in addition to the other stuff. People think men are single focused when in actuality (I think based on experience) it's the package they're attracted to in an LTR.
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/14 03:27 AM
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Absolutely. The men as well. If your wife doesn't want you, become more sexually attractive. There have been posts there that are RP life without using the terminology. The man (HL) employs a bit of dread game and self improvement and things start to improve. It likely weans again because they stop and get complacent. At least, that's what I glean from that sub. The point is: if your person isn't attracted to you, be more attractive. This should be a conversation (frequently if necessary) betwee…
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/14 03:25 AM
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This is an excellent explanation. I struggle with this. I have a stressful job and hellish commute. So I sometimes have to let him initiate and respond in kind even though before that I'm thinking "meh, I'm tired".
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/14 03:20 AM
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If you find yourself faking it frequently you need to find out why and have a discussion about it. I am also of the "fake it till you make it" opinion and it's easier said than done. Making sex a priority over "I have to get up early for work" or "I'm so tired today" WILL help. For women, the "use it or lose it" applies here. Women want more sex if they're getting it. If it's been a month (I can't even imagine) some women just don't want to make the effort unless there is some overwhelming horny…
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/14 03:19 AM
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What's done is done. You were emotional when you didn't have to be, regardless of where in the conversation this took place.
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/14 09:59 PM
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No. Or else he would have discussed it with you. A man goes after what he wants. If he wanted you to be his girlfriend he would make that apparent. Don't waste your time sleeping with him. You will not be upgraded from a plate and it diminishes your value overall.
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/14 09:58 PM
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Agreed.
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/14 09:21 PM
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Yep. Cut contact. Or accept him cutting contact (which is what I imagine will happen after your emotional reaction).
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/14 09:18 PM
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If you've given it up once he won't take you seriously. If you are a plate he will drop you quickly if you don't put out, because you already did. Your options now: keep being a plate (which we don't advocate, obviously) or cut contact. There is no way to make him upgrade you. He either wants that or he doesn't and it doesn't sound like he does.
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/14 09:17 PM
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During a date cut contact? That is extremely rude and inconsiderate and will lead to confusion and questions. That guy will probably scramble to "fix" whatever he said and did that may have led to her sudden coldness. A polite "thank you" and explanation that the date is now over is much better than to treat him like garbage simply because she's not feeling it.
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/14 09:13 PM
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That sounds reasonable and I probably wouldn't forgo them for a date with someone exceptionally charming (even if it's just a "let's see how this goes" date just because feelings can cloud judgement) if that's all they've got to offer in the brief interactions prior to the date.
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/14 09:10 PM
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Trusting your intuition is fine, but make sure your "list" isn't too far fetched. That's usually the reason for a string of bad dates, you overlook the fact that there's really not much initial chemistry because he fits so many other criteria.
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/14 08:19 AM
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Brief and to the point, like "I appreciate the time we've spent on our date. I don't feel we should continue and I'd like to pay for my half." If he persists: "I believe we are not compatible and would like you to respect my decision not to continue our date. You understand." Stating "you understand" (instead of asking "you understand don't you?") is a bit more forceful in the event you get push back from your first attempt.
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/14 07:07 AM
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My advice? If you want to keep him follow through on what you said you wanted. Unless of course you didn't ACTUALLY want that and you said it because you thought you would maybe one day THINK about doing that and you held fast when he expressed interest as well, because you like him. If you had no serious intention of doing this, you should leave him. I believe you didn't actually think this through and were enthusiastic in the conversation because you like him, but that's just my opinion.
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/14 02:32 PM
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This is not a cowardly tactic on his part. I imagine the original discussion between OP and her boyfriend (prior to the commitment) was enthusiastic and mutually decided. He stated this was something he wanted to try and thought "I said I wanted to wait two years but this woman seems great, and we are sexually compatible. I'll give this a go." And now that's been removed through no fault on his part. I imagine he feels deceived. Sexual compatibly is extremely important and this circumstance was …
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/14 02:32 PM
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Job yes. Career as a doctor, Nope. You cannot have two number one priorities. And I didn't say she can't do it, just that one will suffer for the other if she tries to have it all.
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/14 02:17 AM
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Think of everything. If you decide to have a family and decide down the road you made a mistake, you will resent them. Again, I commend you for thinking of practicing medicine. It's a career not everyone can do well. We aren't trying to discourage you from following your dreams, but in order to be successful with anything (love, family, career) you MUST give it your all. There is no room for two number one priorities.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/14 09:26 PM
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If initiating is something that turns him on, keep doing it (some men are really into that from what I understand). If you get the impression that it's nothing special for him, back off.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/14 07:00 PM
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I understand what you're asking however societally speaking men get totally screwed in the event of a divorce. Even if their wives are also wealthy. It is not fair that men "get" to ask for a pre-nup, just like it's not fair that men get divorce raped while the complete opposite is the case (most of the time) for women. That is the reason it's okay for men to ask for a prenup. This isn't to say it's not okay to ask for one, I'm just explaining why this construct is the way it is (from my perspec…
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/14 10:18 PM
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If you want to be a doctor I commend you. You mentioned your father wants you to get married. You didn't say that was what you wanted. You cannot have it all. If your marriage and family will be your main priority then you won't be a successful doctor. If you want to be successful at your career, you will have a subpar marriage and family life. But ultimately you have to decide what you want and go after it full force. We put our families first. It doesn't mean you must do the same. But if you d…
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/14 07:09 PM
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I know that I lack patience for most things. I am especially sensitive to noises (tapping, kids screaming, etc). I realize this and I put extra effort into being more patient. When at the store, I will take a long-ish line and let the woman with two items go ahead of me (if there's no one behind me this would inconvenience). These exercises help me overall. Find aspects of your personality that you wish to improve and start there. Since I've started putting in more effort not to become a crazy p…
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/14 05:53 PM
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You will be surrounded by party people your age. Finding someone your age with your values will make them even more special I believe :) nothing wrong with it.
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/14 05:14 PM
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Those may be Red Pill Values but what we are offering are Red Pill Woman Values. Just because a man is Alpha doesn't mean he will automatically be a match for you.
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/14 12:35 AM
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Introduce him to a few of your friends and see where it goes. He may become more attractive when you see him interacting with a group he doesn't know. When men are comfortable meeting new people or are warm and charismatic when in a new group, I find that a very attractive quality.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/14 04:42 PM
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Yeah exactly :)
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/14 04:49 AM
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Look into an eyelash perm too. I was thinking about extensions for myself but then a friend who does them for a living told me that since my eyelashes don't curl up naturally that extensions, while they would make my eyelashes longer, may not help with the look I wanted. She suggested doing a perm first, they may give the illusion of longer ashes.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/14 01:44 AM
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I expressed that I was sorry she was going through this because it's possible to deliver a difficult message without being an asshole about it. If this scenario is real, this woman is going to go through some major emotional shit if she decides to take the advice and end it. The only way for people to learn is by going through this themselves, and I sympathize with that.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/14 11:01 PM
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Eyeliner during the day is almost always too much. Stick with that "Noxema Commercial" look for every day. Then, when you make yourself up to go out in the evening, the difference will be more striking. It works the other way around as well. The more natural your face looks every day, the less chance there will be a "are you okay? You look tired..." Statement when you go out with even less/no makeup on.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/14 10:31 PM
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You're using the typical Red Pill terms and are knowledgable about what they mean, yet your question is a very basic, dramatic one. Those two things don't mesh well.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/14 10:25 PM
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Because I think that she is wearing far more makeup than would be required normally (because she's being photographed under certain lighting actually natural makeup wouldn't work) it's hard to say if this is a good "every day look" on you. I tend to stick with my tinted moisturizer, a bit of bronzer and mascara. My SO also prefers me with "no" makeup.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/14 07:03 PM
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I'm so sorry you're going through this. He is not a good captain and you are a plate. Leave him and work on healing. The emotional baggage you have accumulated will be hard to get away from but you have to put all of your effort into that. It will be difficult and painful, your first everything always is. You sound like a wonderful woman and I think you'll be fine. But this will take work. Don't get roped back in. This man does not care for you like you need him to. Edited to express I also thin…
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/14 07:00 PM
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When someone says "I trust him, I just don't trust other women!" They don't trust him completely. It is not your responsibility to dictate who your boyfriend should spend time with. You cannot control that. I'll repeat this: you cannot (will not be able to) control that. You can control how you behave in general and regarding this issue. You are insecure. You think there is something about this woman that would make your boyfriend want to cheat. That's your business, not his. You need to realize…
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/14 11:07 AM
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Agreed.
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/14 11:39 PM
2

Joan Didion is amazing. My favorite of hers is Year of Magical Thinking. Her husband and daughter die and it's a collection of thoughts about those events. My mom recently passed away and I want to pick it up again but I know I can't handle it yet. I haven't checked out her more political stuff yet but I'm not surprised if she's got some RPW tendencies.
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/14 06:02 PM
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Yes exactly!
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/14 05:58 PM
3

Before I found out about RPW my SO told me that I contribute to his stress and he can only manage to "deal with me". That hurt. A lot. It's not perfect now but I'm improving. Recently he mentioned he no longer feels like he can only "deal with me" and that gave me extra motivation to be better. It constantly surprises me that by putting in extra effort, the result are net positive for both of us. That's what feminists don't understand. If the relationship needs work, I am more than willing to pu…
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/14 05:51 PM
1

I agree with this advice. It shows that her issues with these other women are not a big deal, she makes them a big deal. Worrying about people being mean to her is dramatic and the behavior shouldn't be rewarded by you listening to her whine all the time. Fake it till you make it applies here as well. She needs to act like they don't matter, at all. And then after a while they won't matter. But that won't work if you indulge her complaining about them all the time. This is not a real problem, st…
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/14 01:47 AM
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You did a wonderful thing. I gave some RPW themed advice to my girlfriend regarding her marriage. While I'm not married, I am in an LTR and it started to bother me when she would do the stereotypical bitching about her husband and I asked her about it. She says she's happier now.
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/14 12:43 AM
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If he says its endearing take it at face value. I am also very emotional and I am a stress case in general. You're aware that your emotions may be harder for him to handle and you're taking steps to try and prevent him from feeling like he's "dealing with you" and that's great. Don't beat yourself up. Women are emotional, men know that. Just don't drag him into it and you'll be alright. I struggle with this too.
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/14 07:40 AM
1

Yes I enjoyed reading the article... Not sure why that's so strange :)
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/14 04:23 PM
1

I enjoyed the article. Thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/14 06:21 AM
3

What a wonderful post. Thank you for sharing!
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/14 02:21 AM
4

I always knew deep down I wanted a "real" man, an old fashioned relationship. Unfortunately I didn't have a strong traditional female role model so I didn't act the part for the dynamic I wanted and I'm sure that contributed to my failed relationships in the past. There is something wonderful and fulfilling knowing I put my spouse first and I will receive love and fidelity in return. I have approached scenarios with "what did I do to contribute to this?" in all aspects of my life BUT love, until…
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/14 11:10 PM
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I don't disagree with this list but texting it to the woman he's been dating for 7 weeks is weak and drama filled. A man who will get a woman devoid of all of these negative traits isn't the same one to send an emotion filled text message to break up with someone after 7 weeks.
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/14 06:32 PM
2

Lol I was waiting for this :)
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/14 10:28 PM
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I'd like to offer some clarification: This lifestyle works best because of the caliber of men we are all with. Being RPW doesn't mean submitting to all men. It means that the man we are with becomes the lead and we support. We won't be in relationships with men who are not good leaders. We work on ourselves and put effort in to attract the man we want to captain our ship. If something isn't working, we ask ourselves "How did I contribute to this and how can I improve?" We know that if we put in …
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/14 08:57 PM
2

Of course not all woman want this. Any time spent on the internet being surrounded by feminism will tell you that. BUT being dedicated like that to your career means you will be less dedicated to your spouse. I want a husband who loves me and takes care of me and the needs of the family. I currently have a fantastic career and I know full well that when we get married/have children, that career will end because I know that is what needs to happen. When you try to "have it all" everyone loses. Un…
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/14 08:44 PM
2

Thank you for posting this and I'm so happy for you <3
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/14 01:09 AM
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I know this feeling. Ultimately the only thing that matters is what your SO thinks so make sure you put aside any insecurities and keep the theory of RPW in mind.
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/14 12:48 AM
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It doesn't sound like she's brow beating him. She's removing herself from a situation she negatively reacts to. I do this consciously. If I'm about to lose my temper I walk away.
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/14 01:02 AM
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It sounds pretty spot on IF the roles were reversed. If it were the man doing this, it would absolutely be Red Pill. That being said, I also disagree with the way she's going about it. You can help him maintain frame without the dread, it just takes more effort.
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/14 12:57 AM
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The fundamental difference is that men know women are different and go with it. Women know men are different and try and change men/make them better.
/r/askTRP20/10/14 03:39 AM
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She thinks a relationship will fall into her lap because that's what she's surrounded by online and talking to other female friends. "He should love you for YOU! You shouldn't have to try to be better!" It's hard to compete with that to be honest. I would start with small stuff you think she'd be into, maybe cooking more or dressing more feminine. Perhaps phrasing it in a way where she feels like acting more feminine just to "see what happens" might be received a bit better.
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/14 07:27 PM
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It's a terrible article for sure. If a man did this to a woman he'd be labeled a jerk and abusive.
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/14 09:43 PM
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There is absolutely nothing wrong with this (obviously) but it blows my mind how catty women can be. The "50's housewife" comment may sound innocent but it's a barb. I don't talk about this stuff with female friends (save for 1) because of that very reaction. They would think my SO is controlling and that I'm "wasting my potential".
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/14 07:00 PM
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I would do something similar if I were in this position. A few coworkers do the graveyard shift (all men) and their SO's work day shifts so matching schedules isn't really feasible but they're always talking about how they don't get to spend much quality time with each other unless someone can sacrifice a night's sleep.
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/14 06:58 PM
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I couldn't even finish it. Such garbage. And it's catchy. That's the worst part. Little girls will be singing this well before they even know what it means. And parents will be all for it.
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/14 06:47 PM
2

Ah yes that is different. When my SO plays I leave him be, it's his time to de-stress. If we didn't live together he wouldn't play if I was over so I guess it's a moot point :)
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/14 11:43 PM
2

My experience has been that if he is playing video games, he won't be interested in having a conversation with you unless you are playing together.
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/14 11:38 PM
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Cleaning a bathroom or kitchen can be done without rearranging anything. If your SO has expressed that it wouldn't bother him I say there's nothing wrong with it. I'm not talking a deep clean once a week but a bit here and there to express appreciation for spending time there is a good idea.
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/14 11:38 PM
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My sister in law is a SAHM and she gets up at 4am with my brother to cook him breakfast and get the kids off to school. They get a fresh breakfast and lunch every day. She also meets him at work most days and they eat together. It's a nice system. My SO expressed that he likes that arrangement so I'm sure it's in our future when kids start appearing :)
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/14 11:36 PM
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Aww happy birthday :D I just look into Jif. It sounds like it would be useful for me as well.
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/14 06:07 PM
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While I agree that she is just being lazy (she likely gets positive reinforcement about how hard it is to have a newborn, that she deserves to just "relax" every chance she gets, etc from the Internet, female friends, etc) I also think that taking her to a doctor to rule out postpartum depression is necessary before anything else you would want to do. If she has it and doesn't get treatment, your talks and dread game won't do a damn bit of good.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/14 03:07 AM
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You're treating him the way you want to be treated. Treat him the way HE wants to be treated. If you don't know how that is, you've got a bigger problem then what you're asking for.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/14 04:47 AM
2

I'm there with you, OP. My SO and I agreed that we don't include the other in any toilet habits (I believe for me it degrades the intimacy in my relationship) and I have asked that he not intentionally pass gas in front of me. If he hadn't agreed to that I wouldn't have thought too much of it, but it is my preference and he did agree.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/14 05:37 AM
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Welcome LoT!
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/14 10:15 PM
2

You can usually designate debt into a pre-nup. I would research that fully before you make a decision. Edited to add: if you marry her, do not ever ever ever make a payment for that debt using your money or joint money.
/r/TheRedPill28/09/14 09:30 PM
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It's not BPD... that's a serious mental illness. This is a women who reacted poorly to a perceived insult to her parenting. Not every over reaction is BPD.
/r/TheRedPill28/09/14 09:24 PM
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Tread carefully here. If you want marriage and kids and he is on the fence, don't put any more effort into this relationship. You're wasting your time. Trust me.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/14 06:15 PM
1

sigh this is maddening. And I wish I'd seen the deleted post, it sounds like a doozy.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/14 04:00 PM
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Happy to hear it :)
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/14 02:09 PM
1

Understood and I agree completely.
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/14 02:14 PM
2

It it me like a ton of bricks one day. He is smarter than I am and I respect him as a person. I had no clue what that felt like prior to this. We met through a mutual friend. She and I went out to a local bar near the ocean to have a drink and chat and I told her "I want to date a guy that rides a motorcycle." and she pulls out her phone and says "I have the perfect guy." It took a few weeks from that point to be committed and we are going on 2 years in November.
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/14 02:24 AM
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That mentality confuses me. If he is "the one" then how is he so easily replaceable with someone who will marry you? If I left my SO for someone that would marry me tomorrow, I will miss him forever. I want him and our life together. Not just someone to fill the marriage requirement of a checklist.
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/14 01:52 AM
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No offense taken :) I am not worried about screwing him over and he has said many times that he knows I'm reasonable about this just the way he is and we are on the same page. A small part of me is worried that he thinks I'm capable of that but to be honest (and I'm being totally honest here), previously in our relationship I haven't proven to be completely levelheaded and rational. Obviously RP helps with this but I know the trust was broken for a while and we are mending it. I do hope that dow…
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/14 01:50 AM
1

I'm sorry, what I meant was that FMLA will be available to us in our state whether we are married or not. Not that we won't ever have to use it. I can sympathize with it being stressful, I've had to take leave from work before and it was stressful in general.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/14 07:12 PM
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I am familiar with FMLA and that won't be an issue in my state. Benefits was something I researched separately.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/14 02:14 PM
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I am so glad for you, welcome!
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/14 02:35 AM
1

Where we live, civil unions and domestic partnerships are not extended to straight couples or he and I would consider that route. We can write current assets into a pre-nup but not future assets. And while future assets would be "ours", it will be primarily his income that will allow us to afford those assets as I will be a SAHM while the kids are young and work afterwards. It's not completely out of the question for me to go back doing what I'm doing now and making just as much, if not more, mo…
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/14 02:33 AM
2

Thank you for your reply. We are in the states and our state will throw out a pre-nup alimony waiver. Not the pre-nup in itself. The logic behind it is with alimony and child support, those circumstances should be decided when/if divorcing and circumstances cannot be predicted prior. So I understand both sides and each of us has researched extensively, and spoken to family law lawyers. The risk is there and we can't ignore it. I support my SO in this matter, but that doesn't mean I'm not a littl…
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/14 02:26 AM
1

To the point and complete truth. I love it.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/14 11:00 PM
1

The bathroom stuff is not discussed at all in this relationship. In previous relationships my SO's and I became very comfortable and it was pretty inappropriate. We ask each other if one has to use the washroom prior to occupying it so as not to create a circumstance where one is showering and the other is using it otherwise, etc. also, it's hard to maintain a sexy appearing when your SO knows that you just spent 20 minutes in the washroom after having a large Mexican dinner. We have codes for w…
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/14 11:00 PM
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Everything my SO researches says otherwise, especially in our area. He will likely always make significantly more money than I will. Also, child support shouldn't be based on a percentage of the person's income (at first it starts as a flat amount but once the paying spouse makes over a certain amount it becomes a percentage).
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/14 10:49 PM
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This is my SO's fear. In the event of a divorce, paying alimony. Alimony cannot be legally waived in a pre-nup (judges usually throw it out) or I would waive it tomorrow to marry him. I am in a similar situation to the OP now and I'm glad I can read everyone's thoughts on the matter. I won't leave because I love him and he's my person. But I am a bit devastated that we will never be legally married.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/14 05:21 AM
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The user Koskakot sent me a message in my second language asking why I feel comfortable in RPW. She (?) has only been active for 2 days and her posts have been deleted and there were only 2 in RPW. In case she hits up anyone else.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/14 02:11 AM
1

Thank you! It was sent to me by someone I know who sort of guessed I would like it. They had no idea I needed to read this today.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/14 12:09 AM
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http://www.elephantjournal.com/2014/09/where-i-extend-my-apology-to-men/
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/14 07:33 PM
3

I slept with two large gel ice packs when our AC was out a month ago. It helped a lot.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/14 12:57 AM
1

Two days?! Wow. Well, if that's his timeline then okay but I would require a lot of distraction and reminding myself to trust him if it's been almost two days since he was supposed to be back. My SO participates in a fairly dangerous hobby that he can't use a phone during so I've had my fair share of freak outs (before RP) and I've chilled out a lot. It's still not perfect but it's much much better.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/14 06:54 PM
1

My reaction varies based on what is said. I will normally make eye contact and smile slightly and say "thank you" if it's not vulgar. If it is vulgar I don't acknowledge it. I suffer from "resting bitch face" and I make sure to look them in the eye and not soften my face. It has never gone passed that initial comment. I take into consideration whether I'm in public or walking down the side street at my apartment and depending on the location I acknowledge or ignore it.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/14 12:06 AM
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Eye contact is important, no matter who you are encountering. Don't ever feel like you have to look down while you are simply going about your business. You can't control men, you can only control your reaction to things so don't let them make you feel like you have to avoid their gaze.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/14 12:03 AM
2

I could not agree more.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/14 12:01 AM
2

I saw this on FB as well and shared it. I'm curious about the comments I'll get.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/14 06:15 AM
1

http://m.wikihow.com/Attract-and-Keep-a-Good-Man These are good suggestions for the most part. Not too detailed. The advice of "make a list of your weaknesses" can be interpreted differently however, the next suggestion of analyzing how those weaknesses have affected previous relationships seems like sound advice.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/14 06:11 AM
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He is doing what he thinks is best for the two of you and cares about your opinion. Keep doing what you're doing (supporting and improving yourself) but don't get all giggly about stuff just yet. My SO behaves the same way and it's a comforting feeling. The "us" is always implied if not outright stated. He's my person and I don't doubt that we will be happy. Our relationship is newly RP although he has always had these tendencies and it's effort for me daily. But I'm willing to make the effort b…
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/14 05:09 AM
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It depends on what your SO enjoys. If he wants a dominant sexual partner, give him that. Do what makes him happy because that's what makes you happy. He will captain the ship the way he wants/sees fit and you support that.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/14 05:00 AM
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Agreed. I read it three times in a row.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/14 04:58 AM
2

That makes perfect sense. He was out of line.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/14 06:07 PM
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Jeeze, details aside, the OP should not continue a relationship she does not want. All of the advice above is good advice, with the exception of the (now) deleted comments. Edited to reflect updates.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/14 03:33 PM
1

Cooking can be more expensive depending on what you're buying/making. Getting a cheap couple of Tamales at Trader Joes for $6 is cheaper than buying the ingredients to make the same Tamales, but they're not as good for you as the package claims. We cook daily and never eat out (I've recently cut all sugar out of my diet so I need meals prepared frequently that I can eat quickly or I'll settle for a bag of cookies lol) but we use mostly meat on sale, frozen veggies (broccoli and green beans mostl…
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/14 06:43 PM
1

This is awesome :) I wish I'd done something similar. I was too focused in climbing the corporate ladder and at 29 I'm still not satisfied with it. I wish I'd cared less when I was younger.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/14 07:51 PM
0

This entire reply is spot on.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/14 01:42 AM
1

Yes. You can't assume that just because you asked nicely you'll get what you're asking for. The reaction to the "no" becomes important here. And varies, depending on the request.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/14 10:34 PM
1

I have many girlfriends that would love for their SO to do what yours did for you. It's classy and wonderful. They would imagine this scenario and then get upset if their SO didn't offer to do it... When I give my SO the support he needs and the ability to lead our relationship, he treats me the way I want to be treated all without expressing what I want. It's a classic "I want you to WANT to do the dishes!" Trust me, when he is happy and you strive to make him happy, he'll do the metaphorical d…
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/14 06:00 AM
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I have seen two more episodes on YouTube and it's fascinating. My parents don't have as RP Marriage but their parenting style is similar. We had lots of freedom and trust that we would do what was required of us. I appreciated it, even back then.
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/14 05:25 PM
2

This a great article. Bookmarked for future reading :) Thanks for posting.
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/14 05:05 PM
5

I highly doubt that a gay couple will seek out a religious person to mentor their kid, unless they'd like their kids raised with values that completely abhor their parents lifestyles... I also "shy away from" blanket statements about gay parents. I'll take gay parents over absent fathers any day.
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/14 07:54 AM
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Agreed. Change your attitude about this and it will get better. I think the "fake it till you make it" applies well here. It's difficult. Emotions are a big part of being human/women. But it's worth it.
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/14 08:28 PM
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