Some questions

FleetingWish · 2014-09-10T21:50:33+00:00

It's not bad or good... It just "is". You are the way you are. We don't really talk about that here, because your model doesn't represent the vast majority of people. Since these types of relationships are so far outside my scope of knowledge, I have no idea how workable that might be. If I imagine a perfect situation where a woman behaves exactly like a man, and a man behaves exactly like a woman, there's no theoretical reason that it shouldn't work. But I don't know.

angel_pantsu · 2014-09-11T00:08:41+00:00

I find it when I actually love the guy and respect him, and not just his façade (or what he agrees to show me), I am more submissive and eager to be ladylike instead of being one of the guys. If I find a man attractive I want him to make the final decisions rather than rest that responsibility on me.

IanIronwood · 2014-09-11T03:58:53+00:00

Let me break it down.

Roughly 70% of cishet women prefer dominant men 70% of the time. Roughly 70% of cishet men prefer submissive women 70% of the time. There are those who lie at either end of the bell-curve, preferring either all male dominance, all the time or all female dominance all the time. If those people are very lucky they will find each other's complement.

The actual numbers are left as an exercise to the student, but you can get my drift. Most women prefer dominant men, but not all of them or all of the time. It's not a moral judgment, it's just how things are. Nor does the occasional bit of fdom play detract from a good RP marriage. Every now and then the First Officer needs to take the stick, so to speak, and the Captain shouldn't mind the break in routine. Novelty is crucial to a good sexual marriage. And letting a woman assert her sexual authority and sexual power without constraint helps her understand why that constraint can be helpful other times. It expands our erotic perspectives, builds trust, and for some it fulfills a deep need.

DianaDewAsmr · 2014-09-10T21:08:24+00:00

My first thought is to ask to r/AskTRP and r/trprelationships

My idea is that if man is turned on by it it's fine but I don't know how it can work in the long run in the roles and stuff.

SQQQ · 2014-09-11T20:36:53+00:00

based on the concepts of "survival of the fittest"... 1. male can not be 100% certain that the child is his 2. therefore male need to mate more frequently than female for his genes to survive 3. therefore male need sexual dominance 4. male loath female sexual dominance because a) she may be less likely to care for HIS baby b) she may cuckold him

ultimately, male keeping a harem is a proven survival strategy observed in nature. this strategy necessitates submissiveness of the females.

homo_homini_lupus · 2014-09-10T21:08:55+00:00

Yes

TheTerrorSquad · 2014-09-10T21:16:46+00:00

yes lol

MeowZedong- · 2014-09-10T23:19:50+00:00

I feel like the first part of your question is personal preference. I know men who prefer a submissive partner but my husband finds it a turn on if I throw him down and give him a BJ. Personally I'd find a submissive man a turn off.

ALadyLikeMe · 2014-09-11T04:17:27+00:00

To answer your specific questions specifically....

A woman being sexually dominant is not "bad" unless she wants (consciously or subconsciously) a traditional RP style relationship. I'm sure plenty of female doms are "good" people and good partners (for their specifically minority fetish/relationship group). But if she needs the tingles of an alpha man, then playing the dom role in bed is going to work against her in finding/keeping such a man.

A sexually submissive man is not "bad" either. Different strokes for different folks. But if he is with the average woman who craves alpha tingles, then his submissiveness is going to be a turn off to her. He is better off with the female dom from above.

Are there personal reasons you are asking these questions: you like to be dom in bed or you are with a sexually submissive man, and you want insight? If so then more context is required to know if this situation is "good" or "bad" for you. Or are you just curious about power plays as they apply to RPW?

ayvyns · 2014-09-11T04:38:42+00:00

Not if he likes it and asks you to be that way

Bea_Noemi · 2014-09-11T05:00:40+00:00

It depends on what your SO enjoys. If he wants a dominant sexual partner, give him that. Do what makes him happy because that's what makes you happy. He will captain the ship the way he wants/sees fit and you support that.

[deleted] · 2014-09-11T09:06:57+00:00

I think a fetish is a fetish, whether its a man who likes playing the sub in bed or playing with sock puppets. It doesn't necessarily make someone 'good' or 'bad'. If it's something that turns your man on and it's not a hard limit for you, do it for him. As long as you don't let it spill over to other aspects of your relationship then it's perfectly acceptable to explore into this realm.

tofeelforever · 2014-09-11T13:41:21+00:00

Not exactly answering your question but dominance can be up played and down played depending on the situation.

In college I was dominant in group projects. I wanted to get the work done and I wanted to get a good grade and I did not have time to screw around with my partners.

I am dominant in my role at work. I do a great job, I am praised by management, I am given raises. I do not let coworkers step on me.

I am submissive in my relationship. What S says goes, he leads, I follow. We talk about things, he takes my view into account, but decisions are ultimately up to him.

Granted, if you're trying to use your workplace or classroom as a way to meet your future SO dominance might be a hindrance. For me though I've been with S for a few years so my focus at work and school is to do a good job.

Title	Some questions
Author	Carriemonroe
Upvotes	2
Comments	31
Date	September 10, 2014 8:33 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
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