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RP THEORYaZombieKitten/r/RedPillWives06/04/16 11:48 PM
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GIRL GAMEaZombieKitten/r/RedPillWives02/09/16 04:29 PM
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No, I would be an incel, probably.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/18 12:28 PM
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I would draw the line at killing my pets or other severe animal abuse. I can't tolerate that in anyone. It's one of my few genuine deal breakers in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/18 07:06 PM
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It isn't even about smashing gender roles. I just don't care. My bf could go to jail for murder, and I would still love him to the moon and back.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/18 04:20 AM
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Nope, dgaf about my partner's job. I'll probably be the breadwinner anyway. My bf doesn't plan on any kind of high-earning job anyway, afaik. Broke men don't bother me one bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/18 01:43 AM
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To the person, it is a character flaw. Masculinity can add to one's character. In men, it's often additive rather than something that detracts from your liking of the person. A lack thereof makes it a flaw, no? There is now a hole in the character that, to the other person, cannot be filled by femininity, and possibly, that femininity can make it even worse. Also, it is not not women as a whole deciding this; it's just a general opinion on the subject which will vary from person to person, obvio…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/17 05:35 PM
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Nobody said men aren't allowed to be feminine. They can be. But high degrees of femininity in a man are more often than not unattractive. An attractive guy can get away with being a little feminine in some small aspects (such as having baking as a hobby).
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/17 04:52 PM
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How does a woman possess a character flaw by not being masculine? That makes zero sense when you consider how men and women have evolved and the natural and preferred feminine energy being in women while the masculine primarily in men. How is it a flaw to be something women naturally are not anyhow?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/17 04:30 PM
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Adding another "sexist" response. I couldn't deal with a moderate autist all day. Nope, nope, nope. No, thank you. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/17 05:37 AM
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I am already dating a man who drives just fine, thank you. My cute petty criminal.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/17 01:08 AM
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I mean, we would have discussed what happens ahead of time, realistically speaking, and I tend to date men who are smarter than that anyway. BUT, if I loved him enough, I wouldn't be bothered by either of us being arrested (note: this would be a long-term partner). By normal conventions, though, I would have vetted him ahead of time to check for any potential problem behaviors. Also, I can't drive, so that second point is kind of irrelevant, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/17 12:59 AM
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Everything cannot cater to EVERYONE. Again, take what you need, leave the rest.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/17 12:55 AM
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Criminal behavior is a good example, actually. Most of my partners have been at least petty criminals or have done enough illegal things that a lot of people would consider a dealbreaker. Or "controlling" behaviors, when I love the guy enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/17 12:53 AM
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We never tell someone to stay with a partner if they have experienced DV. I don't know where you're getting that idea from. We cater to making a marriage work with a partner because YOU WANT IT to work, as in a dealbreaker has not occurred. As a poor woman, RPW still helped me maintain my relationship(s) as compared to how I would have been without it. It is pro stand-by-your-man when you feel it's the right thing to do or that you are willing to put up with something that others might consider …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/17 12:47 AM
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Narc: 62, Mach: 78, Psych: 68. For reference, on the LSRP (Psychopathy only), I score 96 primary and 92 secondary psychopathy.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/17 09:39 AM
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I don't speak literally.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/17 05:30 PM
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That would confuse the fuck out of me, honestly.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/17 05:30 PM
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Uh, my personal preferences: Fun (aka can make me fun or get me out of my comfort zone) Funny (Makes me laugh or groan at his jokes) Intelligent (I just like someone that can understand my arguments about things) Every "positive" trait (honesty, stability, etc.) beyond that is bonus and is not necessary.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/17 08:41 AM
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Right, but I was clarifying "if they still felt strongly." If they're not feeling incredibly strongly, no hormone therapy treatments.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/17 06:28 AM
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As a freak, I cannot refute this statement with an anecdote. But I also dunno what you're defining as abuse, fren.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/17 05:46 AM
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So, I've been debating this a lot in my head. If I had a truly transgender child, regardless of their gender, I would want them to be attractive. I would hate for my child to end up ugly because I denied them treatment that would make them more attractive. But I pride myself on being a potentially chill mom who will let her kids be weird if they wanna be weird. Depending on their age, I would wait to see if they grow out of it (much like I did). If they get to puberty and still feel strongly, I'…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/17 05:15 AM
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I just want to say, to all of the omega males, I love you, bbs, stay strong. Jk, don't come near me, otherwise you'll get snapped in two. But you can talk to me about anime and vidya all day! Just don't date me. Ever. P.S., /u/theiamsamurai, don't get butthurt for other people. That's a waste of your time, fren. P.P.S. I DO WHAT I WANT, BIATCH.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/17 04:33 AM
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This is the most important thread of the entirety of Purge Week.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/17 04:15 AM
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She has such a breadth of knowledge that I love learning from. Even when I disagree with her, I usually end up learning something.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/17 04:06 AM
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No, I was giving the guy a chance to impress me. It was his idea to buy me alcohol after he fucked up the date to make it up to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/17 04:01 AM
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I don't target. I just happen to attract a lot of omega males, and I give them a shot at impressing me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/17 03:56 AM
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I do think men are generally better than women at things. Doesn't mean I like all men. I generally get annoyed with omega men.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/17 03:49 AM
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Meow! Henlo fren. :3
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/17 03:41 AM
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Was I trying to?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/17 03:37 AM
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Every bad thing that happens to every omega ever is my fault. Hell, I just friendzoned a guy this weekend after he bought me $30 worth of alcohol.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/17 03:34 AM
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STOP. Dude, you're making me not even want to PM with you anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/17 03:27 AM
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TL;DR
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/17 03:24 AM
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Let's forget how retarded the logic of this argument is and focus on the fact that incels are too whiny and not man enough to even commit rape. Weak manchildren who couldn't bring themselves to do it because it wouldn't validate them in the same way that a "love me for me" relationship would. If incels want sex so bad, just buy it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/17 01:11 AM
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I think my porn searches would be the most disturbing. Other than that, I don't have many friends IRL, anyway, so nobody to be disturbed, really.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/17 12:18 AM
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She always told me men were trouble, not worth it, and that I should be lesbian instead. It's as simple as that, really.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/17 01:58 PM
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My mother wanted me to be lesbian. Maybe our moms would be friends?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/17 05:16 AM
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No, u eat poop. You're just jelly you can't compete with the M&M's of the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/17 04:19 AM
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Heck you. M&M's are God's gift to mankind.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/17 04:05 AM
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Put on an eyepatch and pretend to be a pirate or pirate henchman. I heard that's hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/17 03:47 AM
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Anyone who has given me a headache on here just from reading (e.g., theiamsamurai), since I don't post as much. I'd have to pay someone to go after people because I am a weak baby, though. Better get started building my beta orbiter army for the Purge!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/17 03:28 AM
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3gay5me, except for the last one. He is a GOD among men.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/17 02:29 AM
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No, she needs to look fantastic in her divorce selfies. Fuck how she looks in the marriage pics! Gotta show she got better due to leaving him, of course!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/17 02:22 AM
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For my srs answer, I am definitely sexist in that I don't believe my fellow women are on par with men in most areas like they think they are. Most women are not masculine enough to even try to be on par with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/17 02:19 AM
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Sexist AF here. #TEAMMANISTHEONLYTEAMINTHEWORLD #IAMJUSTALOWLYWOMANPLEASEDON'THITME
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/17 02:13 AM
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For shame, putting down your fellow starfish! Go sit in the corner and think about what you've done!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/17 02:09 AM
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Obviously wear a black dress to lament the fact that you can't be a CC-riding sloot from hell anymore! Also, you should've been getting fat starting yesterday. If he can't love all of your luscious curves then what kind of man is he? As far as the blue pills go, I personally recommend hiding them in a hot dog. That's what we used to do for our dogs, and it worked wonderfully. Blissfully ignorant, they were! I'm partial to Porania pulvillus. It's the BBW of the starfish!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/17 02:04 AM
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1) Only if I get dem sweet bux. 2) Mega-ultra-super anal or bust 3) Bat signal, of course
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/17 01:53 AM
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I always welcome volunteers for my experiments. ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/17 01:49 AM
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Personally, I like to keep them in my basement and torture them. Much more gratifying.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/17 01:34 AM
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Mass murder or serial killing are tied for the top!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/17 08:03 PM
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You're only half basic, then. ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/17 01:43 AM
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Etsy sellers arguably have a hobby. I didn't say female-specific sites were inherently uninteresting-edited-. I think making things to sell is cool and interesting, personally. Crafty people are interesting people. Edit: I specifically mentioned crafts, which I would classify Etsy under.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/17 12:48 AM
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Someone is interesting to me if they a) share something in common with me that I think is cool or b) bring some kind of novelty or entertainment into my life. Things could include hobbies (crafts, sports, whatever), interests, or personality quirks that are a plus rather than a minus. A person needs to be at least interesting to talk to if they want to be my friend or my partner. I really put emphasis on the novelty part, though, because I don't want a carbon copy of myself to talk to or otherwi…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/17 11:40 PM
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How many of those types that are already doing this would think twice, though? Betas aren't the ones engaging in this behavior. Alpha-types are less likely to listen to the law, especially if they believe they can get away with it anyway. Affirmative consent would not actually do much to protect women, based on my knowledge of how people behave when they're intoxicated (especially severely intoxicated).
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/17 03:12 PM
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Nobody with half a brain thinks fucking a passed out girl is okay. All affirmative consent does is restricts sex in such a way that could cause even an innocuous situation, like drunk or blackout sex (which is MUCH more likely to occur than, say, passed out sex) to become a life-altering problem for the man involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/17 03:10 PM
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What does this even mean? Usually these cases are two people being drunk (aka judgment is impaired) and sex is had because nobody clearly says NO. Sex is then regretted in the morning. You also mentioned most social individuals. The people that don't follow societal rules won't really be affected by affirmative consent other than that they're more easily prosecuted. It doesn't meant they won't STOP or not have sex with the girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/17 03:10 AM
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Irrelevant to this thread. NEXT.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/17 02:49 AM
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Because I have destroyed omegas in relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/17 02:45 AM
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I am saying social engineering would be virtually impossible because it wouldn't really work on the people it would actually be aimed at. Your average beta potata is not the one sexually assaulting/raping women on a college campus. It's your atheletes, your frat guys, your badboys, not Steve from Calculus II. Convincing them not to do something they're hardwired to do is pretty damn hard. But that's what consequences like expulsion and jail are for.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/17 02:38 AM
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No, you can't make the risk "small" by using the law as a deterrent in some places. If you're at a school where a lot of sexual assaults seem to occur, it seems likely that you, too, might get sexually assaulted and should take special precautions. There are already consequences in place. This just means more people can/will be PROSECUTED, not that the behaviors themselves will slow down.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/17 02:35 AM
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That does NOT make it safe. It just makes it illegal. That doesn't mean it won't happen and that you are suddenly safer. Stealing is illegal everywhere in the US, but if you live in a bad neighborhood, your valuables are more likely to get stolen than if you lived in a good neighborhood. You wouldn't leave your door unlocked because you SHOULD be able to without having your home gotten into and your things stolen, would you?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/17 02:23 AM
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You are trying to repress male nature, which is naturally violent and predatory. That, by definition, is difficult to do and would require literal brainwashing to accomplish, especially as you move more towards alpha-type men (who are more likely to be less honest, more violent, and more predatory) versus beta-type men (who are more likely to follow laws and society's chosen morality).
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/17 02:19 AM
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Wrongness does not prevent something from happening. There will always be thieves. There will always be rapists. There have been since time immemorial. Why trust that a potential thief/rapist will leave your things/you alone when you can take extra precautions to protect yourself from that harm? It is easier to protect yourself than to try to socially engineer people to completely eliminate thievery and rape. To assume we CAN socially engineer people that way is asinine. You make bad choices, yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/17 02:10 AM
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Not at all unfair. Humans naturally judge others on MANY metrics. Weight is just one of those, especially when it comes down to "Is this woman attractive to me?" Weight is a marker of health, and we prefer healthy people over unhealthy people. That's perfectly natural and not at all unfair.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/17 04:19 AM
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I'll kill myself before I sleep with either.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/17 02:51 AM
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They often show raw masculinity via violence and general behavior, like Atlas says. That's attractive to many women, since high T is known to be one of many attractive traits in men. It signals good genes for reproduction, if you want to get scientific about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/17 05:58 PM
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He's not treating her as though she's a goddess or anything of the sort. Finding her worth waiting for is perfectly okay. He isn't acting like the sun shines out of her ass and that she's perfect. He is waiting and getting to know her while getting tail on the side. Nothing wrong with that at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/17 11:35 PM
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You didn't read what she said, clearly. He's not pedestalizing the woman if he's getting sex elsewhere while he waits for her to be ready for that. He can want a good girl or high value woman who doesn't want to give it away too soon and still get pussy on the side.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/17 11:25 PM
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Maybe because you misinterpreted her comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/17 11:24 PM
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Yes, I've been pumped and dumped. It sucked, but I got over it quickly. In hindsight, it was very obvious; at the time, I wasn't really aware. I did get pumped and dumped again afterwards. I don't think it was wrong for him to do at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/17 11:13 PM
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I've never seen the argument be made that it's difficult to avoid being pumped and dumped.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/17 10:56 PM
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No, mainly because I can't handle those kinds of feels.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/17 04:25 PM
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Physical traits: Beard Thick waist Physical strength Large hands Dem calves Aka this guy Character traits: Lack of fear Willingness to fight & kill Intelligence (can be raw, untutored (not sperg levels!)) Funny Basically, I like violent men who look like they could kill me and probably would if I ever did something terribly wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/16 12:22 AM
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Let me repeat: I LOVED having sex with him. It was great. I never said no, never wanted to say no. The sex was wonderful. It was too much to take care of him, however. That is why I left him, not because my pussy dried up.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/16 05:35 PM
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I didn't break up with my ex because of lack of attraction. We had killer sex that I never hesitated to have. If anything, I had the higher sex drive between the two of us and wanted it MORE than he did. But the reason I broke up with him is because of a deep depression that made him non-functional as a human being. I still loved fucking him, but I couldn't stay with that and let the stress of taking care of him eat at me.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/16 05:21 PM
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I think it's common behavior. Mimicry is a method for endearing others to you. If you either mimic them or something they like, they'll be more inclined to like you (provided you aren't being overtly fake). Happens in both genders, but I see women using it more in manipulative ways, myself included. It's an easy tactic to run.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/16 01:05 AM
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Honestly, yes, but it usually doesn't last long. I think one very memorable thing was with regards to online dating. I was asking for feedback on my profile, and I had it in paragraph format, like an essay. I got advice to trim it down to only a few lines because it'll just deter people from my profile if they have to read that much and that I'll look like a bitch if I use too many periods and not enough emojis. So I changed it. I even experienced this as a child. I literally tried to pretend I …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/16 10:33 PM
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Oh, definitely! It's just an issue of making yourself attractive to only your niche than can be a problem. Some girls think that wearing clothes that fit more into their niche will enhance their chances of getting a man when it actually makes them worse.
/r/RedPillWives05/09/16 10:11 PM
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Right, anti-female hate space... Have a nice time elsewhere, since it's obvious women either are pedestalized or hated and there is no in-between to you.
/r/RedPillWives03/09/16 05:19 PM
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This is a perfect addition to the post! Everything you've listed is important, especially the pedestalization being extremely tempting. I've been there before when I was younger, looking at the other girls and thinking "WOW! I am so much better than the rest of them. I'll be fine," but then when I would look at most of the average girls outside of my niche, that quickly fell flat. It's easy to artificially inflate your ego that way.
/r/RedPillWives02/09/16 11:36 PM
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I definitely agree! You should always keep balance with your approach and not get a huge ego over casting a wider net.
/r/RedPillWives02/09/16 11:33 PM
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Religion is arguably less niche for the reason that a much larger sect of people are within a religion. Religion is also often at the core of some people's lives, so it's an aspect as important as basic personality for many, whether you're Christian, Atheist, etc.
/r/RedPillWives02/09/16 11:32 PM
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It would be part of a larger program. But part of the reason that people are not having children is financial. Either they feel unprepared at their earlier years and wait too long to have children, or they look at the financial aspects of feeding, housing, clothing, and educating a child and decide against it on the grounds that children are "too expensive." By offering incentives and compensation for bearing children, younger parents might be more willing. It also doesn't help that dual income …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/16 03:10 AM
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Incentives are a simple way of doing it. Instead of offering more birth control, we simply offer money or other compensation for improving the birth rates. This is especially easy to do with those on welfare, as Atlas said, since they already have higher birth rates in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/16 08:54 PM
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Incel threads... I feel like these are just a plague.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/16 01:16 AM
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Hopefully this decision goes well for you! Moving him in with your dad already being there sounds like it will be tough, so stay strong emotionally. If you let these stresses get to you, it could cause some major strain so early in the move, during that adjustment period.
/r/RedPillWives08/06/16 08:41 PM
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My standard advice is to do what you think it's best for your relationship. It's obvious your SO would rather move in together to get a better understanding of the girl he might be marrying because he doesn't want to end up in the described situation of finding out the chick is an entitled slob. However, you also seem to have some reservations about this happening, so why did you offer that space to him in the first place? If you don't feel ready for that step, then you generally don't do it. Yo…
/r/RedPillWives08/06/16 08:26 PM
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Betas do not necessarily have genes that should end. That would be omegas, who are the true bottom of the barrel with deformities or other gene errors causing them to not be able to get laid at all (unless they manage to get with another female of their tier or lower). Like /u/Atlas_B_Shruggin said, we basically made sex too easily accessible to alphas. When betas would have typically been taking wives and starting families, they are now struggling to compete with alphas for the women because of…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/16 07:01 AM
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I wouldn't date a clueless guy. They're very difficult to deal with as partners. It also says bad things about his ability to lead well if he can't even pick up on obvious IOIs.
/r/RedPillWives03/06/16 02:33 PM
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It's always fascinating to me how people love to shit all over someone's parade. This woman is trying to talk about how she wants to make her marriage better than most, and people are trying to tell her that it's basically not okay because "reasons." Which is likely a sign that others are jealous that she's figured out a key that they refuse to work with. It's childish of them to treat that like a bad thing that she shouldn't be doing just because it makes them feel bad under the guise of seemin…
/r/RedPillWives20/05/16 03:26 PM
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Nobody loves unconditionally. Not even parents love their children unconditionally. Now, I do think men are overall more tolerant of negatives in their SO as opposed to women and are willing to deal with some changes, like a wife losing her job (which a woman is more likely to leave a man over). I think they're a lot more willing to do dangerous things (like putting their lives on the line or even committing murder) for their SO than women are. They cope in ways that aren't leaving until the pro…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/16 06:49 PM
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You don't seem to understand activity levels. More sheer comments does not equal more activity if they're all written by the same person. That's a monologue. 100 comments by one person is worth less than even 100 comments by two people. Therefore we have a better ratio of users to number of comments, rounding out our sub much better than redpillwomen.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/16 07:54 PM
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I hope everyone involved is safe and everything else is otherwise alright! My thoughts are with you! <3
/r/RedPillWives19/04/16 05:02 AM
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Lovely post as always, Camille! Developing a feminine frame of mind is definitely key to being RPW. I know it's one thing that took me a while to develop, since I was initially a masculine, dominant type with previous SOs. I cannot stress enough how necessary this is.
/r/RedPillWives18/04/16 02:26 AM
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I checked 10! Neat link. :)
/r/RedPillWives16/04/16 10:24 PM
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Inkblot test -- Just for funsies because personally, I think inkblots are neat.
/r/RedPillWives16/04/16 08:24 PM
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No, the fuckzone is where you're only there for sex but they never want to pursue a romantic relationship with you.
/r/RedPillWives15/04/16 10:56 PM
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Hehe. So many women. Some NSFW language. Huehehue
/r/RedPillWives09/04/16 02:59 PM
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This is probably the cutest thing I've ever read!
/r/RedPillWives09/04/16 03:36 AM
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The STFU and relax method really help a lot when dealing with things that might've previously pissed you off. You start to realize how completely crazy you were being in the past when you'd get upset about those things, and it's even better when you show your SO that you aren't crazy, too!
/r/RedPillWives09/04/16 03:24 AM
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Hi, y'all! I'm Zombie (aZombieKitten). I'm 21, currently a student. Single. I'm in the IRC, so please join and meet a bunch of us! <3 My hobbies include writing and some graphic design.
/r/RedPillWives07/04/16 06:28 AM
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Oh, that's definitely a big one. Like men are supposed to read their mind and just KNOW.
/r/RedPillWives07/04/16 03:48 AM
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Lovely post, Lifter! The humor really helps sell it. :) You did an awesome job at explaining exactly why the plate life isn't the best female strategy out there, especially if it's a one-way deal (as Phantom said, may as well do the same!).
/r/RedPillWives07/04/16 02:51 AM
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Welcome and congratulations! :) Happy to have new ladies aboard.
/r/RedPillWives06/04/16 07:56 PM
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It floors me how people just argue and fight in public now. I see so many couples arguing all over the place, and I hear a lot of heated phone conversations. Even my boss complains at me about her husband, and I see her toss her phone down onto the desk in frustration frequently. I've been vowing to myself to never let an argument escalate past "I disagree" but defer anyhow if it ever even came to that in the first place (ideally no disagreement would ever be had).
/r/RedPillWives06/04/16 07:34 PM
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This is SO important! Apologizing puts the focus on yourself rather than the person that's been listening to or helping you. A thank you goes a long way in making someone feel genuinely appreciated, especially if you've been just dumping everything on them (this goes for friends, too!).
/r/RedPillWives06/04/16 07:17 PM
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Yeah, I wouldn't refer to this as LMR either based on its connotations. I think a lot of couples have this kind of fun dynamic where they like to make their SO "work" for it.
/r/RedPillWives06/04/16 07:04 PM
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I think this is a really important piece of information to note, and you really do see it all the time! In-laws not liking a husband or wife causing the couple to argue by proxy of trying to decide if the in-laws should stay or go. Stepchildren trying to play parental favoritism. People luring married men and women into their beds instead of respecting a marriage (and vice versa for the men and women not respecting their own marriage).
/r/RedPillWives06/04/16 03:33 AM
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I laugh at this every time I see it, and it is SO accurate! I've had a similar crazy train of thought at least once, and usually on his end, it's always been something so simple that I overlooked because I was too busy overthinking it all. It reminds me to slow down every time I worry about something that's happened with a guy! It's made dating much easier than it would have been previously.
/r/RedPillWives05/04/16 06:07 AM
4

I know that I prefer to give love through gifts and acts of service as well as touch and quality time. I have recognized this over the course of my dating life, particularly in terms of gifts. I have spent much of my pay on SOs and less on myself (which is perhaps a bad idea, now that I think about it, since some men do not like being given gifts and prefer giving them--this is something I am currently working on). I prefer to receive love through touch and quality time with words of affirmation…
/r/RedPillWives05/04/16 05:50 AM
4

I absolutely love that you put this as a main post for the sub. We've been needing a nice, simple intro post like this for quite a while. :)
/r/RedPillWives04/04/16 11:14 PM
3

Would love How to Train Your Dragon 2. I've been dying to see this!
/r/RedPillWives04/04/16 10:15 PM
2

This is a great reminder to get cute/sexy PJs for around the house. A sexy nightgown, cute lingerie... All of that helps out a ton for maintaining an attractive image for an SO (provided they're into you wearing those things).
/r/RedPillWives04/04/16 04:53 AM
2

I figured out not verbalizing my problems or other complaints and instead trying to directly fix them first was the major step that's made me happier and healthier. This is especially true when I'm having an issue while I'm having a nice time talking to a guy who I'm considering dating. Even if I'm having a minor issue, I don't mention it anymore like I might have before. Now guys think I'm much more happy and attractive as a partner to them.
/r/RedPillWives04/04/16 02:45 AM
2

You brought this on yourself. You encouraged him to contact her and then snooped his email. You need to stop trying to control him so much. That is your major mistake with this relationship.
/r/RedPillWives04/04/16 02:32 AM
3

I love that we have a schedule for this stuff! I'm excited for all of the new stuff, especially the film club.
/r/RedPillWives03/04/16 07:14 PM
3

I love this. Even as an introvert myself, I sometimes forget that other people need their alone time and not necessarily when I want MY alone time. It's key that SOs have their space when it's needed. Everyone needs a little recharge.
/r/RedPillWives03/04/16 07:13 PM
4

Very ready for this move! I'll enjoy the new sub. <3
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/16 06:38 AM
5

GO FUCK YOURSELF, YOU TRANSNORMATIVE-MARGINALIZING, CISHET-PRIVILEGED OPPRESSOR Hahaha!
/r/RedPillWives03/04/16 06:31 AM
5

INTJ/"Effectiveness" I always test as INTJ and agree with its description of me. Its interpretation of how I ask about love is almost spot on. I care a lot about reliability and loyalty in a partner. However, I don't necessarily agree with the point about career goals, but I am not career-oriented by nature. I also agree with how it says I say "I love you!" Especially with boasting about an SO's accomplishments. I absolutely love to gush about how awesome my SO is. The misinterpretations are als…
/r/RedPillWives03/04/16 06:13 AM
1

4. 1 STR. 1 FWB. 1 LTR. 1 fling.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/16 02:57 AM
1

Really, for me, it was mostly keeping to a routine and just letting myself fall asleep whenever I did. Eventually, I got used to the sound levels and began to fall asleep faster over time. It takes a while for this to work, though, which is why I think naps are a great way to orient yourself to different sound levels without disrupting your nighttime sleep. The mask will help a lot, though, since it forces you to NOT be able to look at the TV (provided you remind yourself not to take off the mas…
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/16 03:40 PM
1

I am just going to reiterate that earplugs or some kind of wireless headphones would be ideal along with a mask for blocking out the light. You could also try prepping for bed a bit earlier if you find it takes you too long to fall asleep with the TV on. Although you lose out on some waking time, it might help to try this out if you couple it with sleeping supplements (like melatonin). On that note, setting the TV to turn off after X time is a great way to make it easier on both of you AND use l…
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/16 05:01 AM
13

There are a lot of excuses being made and very little honest remorse for your mistake. You seem as though you think you are free from accountability (by proxy of announcing you are married, pregnant, and don't believe in divorce--which means nothing for adultery, by the way), since your responses and post seem to place all of the blame on him for "not knowing" he's not supposed to hit on a married, pregnant woman who is engaging him all the same that a single woman would. You should have known b…
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/16 05:35 PM
2

395 for me. Whoops. I think it's all relative. People of similar degeneracy levels would likely work better together than those with wildly different ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/16 09:32 PM
2

What do you DO, though? All I am getting are things his friends could easily do for him. I don't think you have a decent concept of how love works. I don't think you know anything beyond the high of NRE and the high that your ex gave you. You want someone who can give you that high forever, but it isn't going to happen. And, at your age, your options are waning. So, if you leave him: 1) I think you should stop going after men younger than you. You are competing even more so with younger, pretty …
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/16 03:04 AM
16

You are an alpha-widowed mess, and you clearly don't love this man. This entire post sounds like you are trying to convince yourself that you should love him. In fact, you should probably let him go so he can be with a woman who really appreciates him. However, you are also right on the wall. What are your chances of finding someone else again that is just as quality of a partner? Very low, I would imagine. Even playing the field above your age, you will be competing with younger women. So, ther…
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/16 07:49 PM
1

You've got to be kidding me? I was simply stating that there is nothing on her personality besides what I can guess based on the way her post was laid out. It's often a hallmark of self-centeredness to start every line with "I," and I was noting that as "here is a personality trait I am guessing based on how you've written your post." I am not here to say she is amazing and my assumptions could be way off base. That is why I asked her for a description of her personality.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/16 01:53 PM
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One major question for you: what is your personality like? Because right now, all I am gleaning is that you're scatterbrained, first of all. There is a lot of "I" here (almost every line!), so you are starting to sound self-absorbed as well. So, on that note, please describe your personality.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/16 03:27 AM
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Humans are a species of animal. What RP is saying is that, much like animals, our mating practices are predictable and relatively based in nature with twists based on culture, just like how the mating practices of different subspecies of animal (birds come to mind, especially) change based on coloration, location, what they have at their disposal, even if all of these mating practices mainly have the same things at their core (like nest-building, dancing, etc. for birds).
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/16 05:57 AM
1

Impulse control does usually deal with compulsion, though, which is why I mentioned it, although I get what you're saying. Following one's whims without care can be seen as much an issue as well, but that's typically referring to hedonistic behaviors rather than impulse control (which is more often used when referring to self-destructive behaviors). However, that's mostly a semantic disagreement. Reasonable point, though!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/16 02:59 AM
6

Does having a lot of casual sex correlate to other risk-taking behaviors and poor traits? Sure. Is it bad impulse control? Not necessarily. To say it's bad impulse control is to say you are doing it compulsively. A compulsion is something you feel like you MUST do, as though you simply cannot not do it. A compulsion is "an irresistible urge to behave in a certain way, especially against one's conscious wishes." Meaning you don't want to do these things because they have consequences for you, lik…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/16 12:18 AM
1

Keyword: wife. She is not trying to advertise herself as arm candy. Her job is a bonus. It should not be the forefront of her profile. She wants to show that she is worth wife status without just being hot, so she should focus on those other things.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/16 09:12 PM
1

Well, you can casually say you've done some modeling (and maybe a commercial or two) or something of that sort, but try not to let it become the focus of the conversation. Don't make it sound like it's the most interesting thing about you.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/16 02:07 AM
4

You realize that she's trying to market herself as a good partner, not just arm candy, right?
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/16 12:40 AM
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Avoid advertising that you are a model and actress. If you want to say you work, just say you have a job. If they're interested in what you're doing, they'll ask about it themselves. Your job should be a bonus, not a focus. You don't want to seem like you're Ms. Careerwoman and more that you're an attractive, marriageable woman. Advertise what makes you valuable to a partner, the things that you can enhance his life with. All else is pretty much unimportant. Additionally, avoid using photos from…
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/16 06:25 AM
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I agree with the second part of this especially. He specifically asked you if you think he should take the job. You responded to that and then gave him support/encouragement that you believe he can do it, which is absolutely normal cheerleading. Unless he showed disappointment or concern with you being so supportive, I doubt you made an actual mistake there.
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/16 11:46 PM
2

Health Lose the remainder of my excess weight (minimum 10lbs) Get back into the gym and do my regular lifting and cardio General Life Learn to drive Practice my German (and another new language which is TBA) Bang out the first semester of grad school with a minimum 3.5 GPA Make plenty of quality meals (probably mostly crockpot, to save time) Start building credit
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/15 07:20 PM
2

29/36. 21-year-old female, native English speaker.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/15 08:57 PM
1

Yeah, that's why I said just to say it's important to you and leave it at that. The choice is still his that way. I just see it as giving him that piece of information.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/15 08:24 PM
1

I don't think he's asking her to make the decision, though. I think he just wants information so he can decide if going with his buddies isn't going to cause her to resent him. I doubt he seriously wants you to make that decision for him. That would be controlling and like you're in charge of who he spends time with.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/15 07:37 PM
1

I think you can still leave the decision to him. That's why I said to just let him know if it's important and let it go after there. He's ultimately the one choosing where he goes. If he does choose to go with you, remind him that you are grateful that he chose to come to the event with you, even though he would have more fun with his friends. Make it worth his time to go so that he isn't just totally sacrificing and you are getting absolutely everything out of it.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/15 07:29 PM
1

You are not forcefully preventing him from doing anything. He just wants the full course of information so he can make a well-informed decision. If it is genuinely important to you, let him know. Just simply say "This event is important to me," and leave it at that. He can make the decision from there. I imagine he would rather know if he is certainly upsetting you by going with his friends, otherwise he's going to assume he can go guilt-free. Someone is probably going to be sacrificing their fe…
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/15 06:47 PM
1

That depends on the person, but point was simply about trends anyway. I was going off of my own experience with blue collar workers.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/15 08:26 AM
1

So literally nobody takes on blue collar work because they find it interesting or enjoyable?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/15 08:05 AM
1

Did I ever say it wasn't?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/15 05:34 AM
1

I am speaking of tendencies, not prediction using those tendencies. Men with blue collar jobs tend to be hands-on guys. Men that are hands-on types tend to have blue collar jobs. No cause and effect, no prediction.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/15 09:10 PM
2

You must really hate Southerners, because I am sensing some vitriol coming from this comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/15 06:11 PM
2

People do choose to take blue collar jobs, and there are guys who genuinely enjoy the hands-on work. Does every blue collar man hate his job? To take it on, you typically have to be a hands-on type of person. People more suited for white collar work generally are not going to take blue collar jobs because they know their strengths aren't there.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/15 06:10 PM
2

I've grown up in a small town where everyone is working class. Everyone carried a pocket knife. Practically everyone went hunting, fishing, and knew how to put together a bonfire. Granted, I lived in the South. But I've seen the trends continue even outside of my own roots. Plenty of blue collar men I've met (even in cities) absolutely do carry around pocket knives (they're so handy!) and understand the basics of building a bonfire. Many of them love to hunt, fish, or do both. Sure, some don't, …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/15 05:56 PM
5

If it is important to you, just be honest. Don't lie and say it isn't important. If he asked, it's because he genuinely wants to know so that he isn't being a dick if he does go with his friends instead. Don't dance around it. He's not trying to manipulate you or anything. He would probably rather not upset you, so if you tell him it's honestly important (to you), he will likely end up going with you because of that. If you tell him it's not, he will assume he can go with his friends guilt-free,…
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/15 06:16 AM
5

Honestly, if he catches wind of guy friend stuff, he is probably going to want to do that more and probably does want to make sure he's not going to be bothering you if he goes to do that instead; this is especially true if he doesn't hang out with his buddies a lot. It's effectively just him wanting to make sure he's not being a dick since you made plans first. In the case of your friend, I think you may have been getting into business that's not yours. One girl going to a bar does not a freak …
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/15 05:43 AM
3

All living things reproduce when they can. Is it selfish for prey animals to reproduce even though their offspring are likely to die at the fangs and claws of predators? Selfishness, to me, revolves around a lack of reciprocity, of utility. What is selfish is to take and take without giving back in return. Taking food for yourself when you already have plenty, depriving another person unnecessarily. In parenthood, it is a trade. There is reciprocity. You give your time and effort to raise a chil…
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/15 07:54 AM
6

First, you should focus on making yourself marriageable. He will probably want to marry you if you make yourself a woman worth marrying. On the other hand, if for some reason things don't pan out (see point two) you will already know how to market yourself as a marriageable woman. Second, you should talk to your SO. You both clearly are not seeming to communicate about what you want in life. You need to not immediately freak out because he said not "anytime soon" which doesn't even have a defini…
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/15 05:12 AM
3

You don't respect him. Just by the way you're speaking, you don't, otherwise you'd be able to trust him to make decisions. You sound like you don't think he could make a decent decision. Have you ever let him try to make decisions or lead in general? You want all of the control, and you need to rethink that. You need to consider that he wants to do more. You need to look at yourself and ask yourself why you think you need to be in control of everything at the moment. Realize that you don't need …
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/15 06:36 PM
9

I know you say you can't defer and that you are struggling with it, but just try it out. It won't hurt you to step away from the controls and let him steer the family for a little while. Let him show you that he's a capable man. You, based on his posts, freak out about insignificant things. He, based on your posts, is doing a lot right but is just "being a dick." He's new to TRP. Newbies tend to want to try out what they've learned, even to the detriment of their relationships. The guys reamed h…
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/15 06:29 AM
5

It sounds like you want him to spend his time in a way that you like. He'd probably be happy enough with some good food (especially favorites) to eat, beer (if he drinks), and whatever else he normally does for entertainment.
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/15 02:56 PM
2

Not necessarily. Note, she's the common denominator here. Every guy is not exactly the same. She is dealing with rejection, meaning she is the one with the issue, so she is probably doing something wrong that so many guys would call off seeing her. There could be a million things she's doing wrong, but she doesn't really speak to her own behavior. She tells us what she wants and what the men said about her place. There's nothing there about what she's saying or doing aside from that she invited …
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/15 05:18 AM
1

That is an interesting set of majors. Why did you choose those specifically? It may help for trying to figure out what you might prefer to do for a job.
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/15 03:12 PM
10

The frowny face was the most convincing part, tbh. ;)
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/15 02:39 PM
14

For starters, you are certainly aware that the common denominator in your failing dates is you (or your place, maybe). What could this mean? 1) These men could genuinely be turned off by the fact you make more money than them. It's quite possible, given that men tend to want to be the breadwinners and want to feel like they're taking care of you rather than the other way around. 2) You could be doing something wrong personality-wise. Do you have some weird quirks about the money or other things …
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/15 02:03 PM
18

Tell me how this is RP. I'm feeling a "you go girl" attitude here. No mention of how to improve.
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/15 01:54 PM
4

Yup! And those differences are not necessarily even a bad thing. I would argue our differences in cognition are needed, since we tend to balance one another.
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/15 01:50 PM
4

We aren't equal. Not 100% of the time, at least. Sure, some individuals will be just as intelligent as one another, but not always. This is usually most often seen in the breakdown of intelligence, like you're discussing. "Book smarts" are just one form of intelligence. Given all that, there's always someone around the corner who could be smarter, dumber, or just as intelligent as you. People are different from one another.
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/15 01:46 PM
1

The simplest thing to do is to genuinely include her if she wants to be included. Obviously, in the case of her wanting to help with cooking, give her the steps she can't mess up and have her do those things (like chopping, beating eggs, checking the recipe for the next steps, grabbing ingredients, tasting, etc.) while you do the other things so that it does feel like a team effort for her. Obviously, you can't be condescending about it, though. Also, like the other suggested, finding other thin…
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/15 06:12 AM
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I'm going to be simplistic here. 1) We are not saying women are 100% dumb. On the contrary, a lot of the ladies I've met on the sub so far have a high IQ. We just may not always be as intelligent as the guys (see: the variability hypothesis), and that's perfectly fine. We don't NEED to be more intelligent than them or even equally as intelligent. 2) Aside from point 1, less logical does not mean "stupider." It means that we simply tend to think first with our feelings and then with our "brains" …
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/15 06:01 AM
8

There will ALWAYS be someone smarter than you. If you fear looking stupid (which, you don't NEED to be smarter than his friends), look at it more as a learning opportunity. Appreciate that you can learn more about your own interests, and appreciate that your SO hangs around such smart people! If you are afraid to speak, then listen. Talk when you feel comfortable. If your SO feels you're more knowledgeable, then trust him on that! He wants to involve you in his social life, so let him.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/15 02:20 PM
2

Step 1: Sleep in late and then have a nice breakfast (or lunch, depending on how late we slept in!). Step 2: Enjoy a good TV show (or a few) together, probably something nerdy (like The Flash or Mr. Robot); proceed to discuss theories about what the heck is going on in the show. Step 3: Afternoon cuddly nap (if we didn't sleep in too late). Step 4: Individual time of reading, playing video games, whatever (sharing is optional) Step 5: Grocery shopping (or just browsing at the local game store). …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/15 04:29 AM
3

First things first, maybe not prefacing your question with a bunch of ex bashing would be a good start. All I currently know about you is that you seriously did not like this ex. This gives me zero to work with. What is your personality like? With no real information on your personality, there's not much advice to give. Are you already relatively feminine in nature? Are you kind? Do you listen well? These are all important to being a RPW. Additionally, since I only have your post to go on, I alr…
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/15 01:13 AM
1

Ideally, my daughter would be smart enough to consider her options and be wise about who she dates, so this would be less of a problem. Aside from that, trying to personally control her dating would be a bit hard anyway, but that's the logistics of dealing with a 17-year-old. Probably could not win that battle either way if that was what she seriously wanted to do! With that said, I honestly don't think I'd want my daughters dating TRPers, just based on my own experience with dating one (granted…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/15 06:30 AM
2

First of all, that is legitimately only ~$10 a year (varying based on individual tax rates). Not a major dent in almost anyone's finances. Here, even food is taxed (1.5%). You cannot escape the taxes on anything except for prescription medications (which, surprise, tampons are not a prescribed medication!). It's stupid to scream for no tax on tampons if everything else is taxed anyway (including OTC medications, which tampons would technically fall under). The only thing I'd lobby for regarding …
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/15 04:49 AM
1

I remember seeing that on TV as a kid. Terrifying stuff. The 90s-early 2000s Black Friday sales were unforgiving.
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/15 05:54 PM
1

My aunts tell me it's a lot less hectic than it used to be, now that stores are opening Thanksgiving evening, so all of the insane people generally get their things earlier. The things I've seen on TV are the reason I definitely had not been going previously and chose to stay home with the guys, though!
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/15 05:42 PM
2

Any tips for Black Friday shopping? I am going with my aunts and cousin for the first time in my life, and I just have no clue about strategy and whatnot for doing this.
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/15 05:22 PM
2

You can really only play a supportive role if he starts making changes. If he doesn't, well, that's up to him. Odds are, he's been like that since you've met him, so if you've been fine with it for X amount of time and suddenly decide he needs to fix himself, you're going to have issues. I often recommend leading by example. Start working out and taking care of yourself; he may follow suit, especially if he wants to be the higher value partner. Sometimes, you can even ask if your SO wants to do …
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/15 05:09 PM
2

I don't have an official planner. Instead, I use the Calendar app on my Mac and phone. Everything is color coded on those, of course. I also have a whiteboard calendar and a regular whiteboard. Again, these are color coded. I like having the physical boards because I see those every day before I go to sleep and when I wake up. Plus, it can't hurt to have the information in various spaces. I'm looking into using EverNote or OneNote for organization of things that aren't really planner-related, li…
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/15 10:32 PM
4

Absolutely, if you are looking for someone with ambition.
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/15 05:21 AM
3

I think one of the problems here is that you're letting your emotions rule so strongly and have esteem issues (very obvious from your "I hate myself" statements). You aren't taking the time to step back and think about what you're doing and how to improve (and then implement those improvements). I think, right now, you need to get your head in the right place. It certainly doesn't seem like it's there. An unstable mind must become stable before everything else can fall into place. You have to re…
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/15 06:28 PM
3

First of all, welcome! I personally can't see how it would be a problem for you to participate here. We're all about femininity (especially the mental aspects) and what we can do for our relationships as women. Since you identify as female, that means you can absolutely learn from this place. My favorite thing about this place is that you can use what works for you and your relationships, so if RPW principles apply to you, then this is the place for you. :)
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/15 06:22 PM
2

Don't know if you're following me already or not based on January's mention, so I'll go ahead and provide my link as well, since others may want it, too! http://www.pinterest.com/azombiekitten
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/15 04:06 AM
3

I've gotten those feelings plenty of time before. Soft dreading myself was a common thing. Always thinking about how cute the waitress was and how well he would seem to grab her attention. On the one hand, it's really reaffirming, like "Man, I have such an awesome, attractive partner!" and on the other, it can definitely make you very anxious about your position in the whole thing. Always fun to look back on in retrospect and really see your own hamster spinning.
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/15 05:57 PM
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That's all SMV vs RMV/MMV. Sexually speaking, your major is entirely irrelevant and will be overlooked entirely. It's not going to spring up a boner. It can bring up your RMV/MMV, though, since there are men who will prefer a partner of comparable intelligence (a college degree can affirm that for them). As far as French goes, I think people are just really interested in foreign languages in general (you know, always asking someone to say something in X language if they find out a person speaks …
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/15 05:04 AM
3

It is certainly valuable and important in its own right, but it's definitely not a job in the simplest sense. It requires time and effort like a job (perhaps even more so, since motherhood seems to be particularly taxing on time for the first few years until school age), but it's not something you do for money. You aren't really expecting to get anything out of it (aside from perhaps the satisfaction that you are keeping your kids and home in order) like you would a job. So, in short, no, it's n…
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/15 04:58 AM
3

Cut him off. This doesn't really seem like a good relationship to be in, since there appears to be a lot of baggage. I can't see this being a feasible thing. You also sound like you're a plate at this stage, anyhow, which is not a good position to be in.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/15 07:22 PM
3

Your height may or may not be an issue. It will likely shrink your dating pool, but this is not as huge of a deal if you put forth your best self and show that you can bring something to the table relationship-wise. Men appreciate a good woman, so it's important you show them that you are one. I would not fear online dating. I have met wonderful men through online dating, and, even though not all of those worked out well, it shows that you can get quality partners that way. You don't have to use…
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/15 02:53 PM
2

I'm one of many INTJs here. Socially come across as INFJ, however. I frequently waffle between the two when taking the tests.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/15 02:22 PM
2

Yeah, I can see how the anxiety would cause impatience and assumptions to form. Definitely practice just relaxing and kind of taking things as they come rather than trying to anticipate them or even expect things too much. It can quickly cause emotional turmoil.
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/15 04:55 PM
1

Okay, that makes sense. I know that can make someone anxious, but one day of not texting you back, I would think, is not enough to warrant an assumption that he hates you now. I really think you are overanalyzing the situation. Have you ever heard of a self-fulfilling prophecy? If you act like you know things are going to happen one way (usually negatively), it will influence that thing to happen. If you act like this means he hates you now and doesn't want to be with you, that is MUCH more like…
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/15 03:52 PM
2

Holy anxiety, Batman! Is this a frequent issue for you in romantic relationships, to question the status of your relationship so quickly if there is even a small lull in things? You seem like you are a highly anxious and clingy person based on this.
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/15 06:31 AM
1

Allergies are, unfortunately, non-negotiable. I get weird reactions to alloyed metals as well. It's best to let him know that you need it replated so that your skin isn't exposed to the nickel anymore or, like Phantom suggested, go for a necklace that will allow you to still wear the rings that way. I think he won't find it unreasonable since you DO have a very obvious allergy to it.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/15 02:46 AM
1

Congrats, Camille! :)
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/15 02:43 AM
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There's pretty much zero context in this post, and you're getting angry over what seems to be a one-time issue. You sent him to bed like a child. You are treating him like a child. He does not deserve that, especially when he is grieving.
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/15 04:33 AM
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Obviously, but you should still be in charge of making sure he knows what he needs to do. Nobody is saying he shouldn't have to put in effort. I was saying that women need to be on top of their own orgasms, too, since it's not like their man may know exactly what to do 100% of the time. That is being responsible for your own orgasm, not saying YOU have to force yourself to orgasm or do the work on your own.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/15 05:15 PM
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Well, yes, you should be responsible for your own orgasm. Knowing what you like and communicating that to your partner is important, and letting them know if you are having trouble achieving orgasm (or are close to achieving it but aren't quite finishing) is also of value to them. Guys will generally orgasm from sex regardless (so ensuring male orgasm is not that difficult). Women, it takes a bit more effort, and it's only fair she is on top of her own pleasure as well. It's not like it takes th…
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/15 03:32 AM
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I got a bit in college (a Bio class) about fertility. We only talked a little bit about the age thresholds at which birth defects and troubles carrying to term became more likely as opposed to the younger years. I also got pieces in Evolutionary Psychology about the attraction portions of women's fertility, mainly that the most fertile women are more often sought after as opposed to their less fertile counterparts (in other words, younger > older).
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/15 07:23 PM
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Ah, I see. Well, aside from the example, then, I think the difference between sharing and complaining really comes from your individual relationship and what is defined as such within it. Mainly, when I think of complaining, I think about someone pushing out mostly negative information all the time. To some, mentioning a minor wreck (such as in the example) could be seen as complaining, since it wasn't a major deal and there is not much to really report to the SO (such as no injuries). But to ot…
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/15 06:59 PM
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I would like to remind you that this is your friend's relationship, not yours. They don't seem to have had any problems with her not complaining/sharing bad things with him. Why are you trying to change how she's reacting to and handling the situation (because it sounds like you think she's wrong for not reacting the same way you would to the situation)? There's not a problem with waiting to share it with him after he gets back from his vacation, and if there is, that's her issue to find out, no…
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/15 01:27 PM
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Our apartment is "clothes optional," so most of the time we're both hanging out in our skivvies or less. The man likes easy access, so he doesn't care for having me dressed up at home. If I had to wear clothes, I'd like a cute little nightie or PJs to lounge around in that don't make me look overly lazy or unkempt.
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/15 03:14 AM
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I grew up in a Southern Baptist household, but I'm essentially Agnostic and have been since I was a young girl and chose to no longer attend church. My SO is the same, although he leans more towards an apathetic angle about it ("could be a god, but I don't care").
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/15 02:03 PM
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Perhaps we should remind girls that they can indeed say "no" and should say "no" in circumstances when they genuinely do not want sex, otherwise they should not blame the boys for not being able to read their minds.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/15 01:59 AM
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I'd think it's more that he's saying (in the cases of "rape" that don't involve force), if you're not giving a clear no, that really is on you. You can't expect every guy to be well-versed in reading body language or even be capable of reading your mind no matter how much in your head you say "I don't want this." This is why the definition of rape keeps getting more and more diluted to include things like deciding after the fact that you were raped. Because women don't bother to try to stop it a…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/15 01:10 AM
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You say target like he's trying to or is going to hurt the girls he's attracted to. Aside from that, sexually mature women are automatically going to end up being more attractive than their non-mature counterparts. Earlier age means longer period to have children. Low count means a better likelihood any child you have with her will actually be yours because there weren't other men in the picture sexually. So a young virgin is pretty ideal, really. And? At 16 she's legal, so it doesn't matter any…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/15 07:41 PM
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Did you not consider the fact that it may be important to know that information anyway, aside from the fact that people's looks can be deceiving for their age? Nobody wants to get themselves in trouble with the law. I had a former FWB who checked my ID to make sure I wasn't too young because of this exact reason. Besides, late teens is not insanely young. You act as if he's going after 13-14 year olds.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/15 07:02 PM
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In your opinion, no. To her, he may be husband material.
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/15 01:33 AM
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I was being conservative since she hasn't had sex yet. Yes, essentially firmly already on the CC, though.
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/15 03:34 PM
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Do you trust him to not leave? Have there been discussions of marriage in the future?
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/15 02:29 PM
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What do you define as "his share?"
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/15 01:29 PM
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All you have to do is indirectly show interest. Smile, laugh at his jokes, etc. You don't have to be super forward and ask a guy out. Let him do the chasing. Men like to chase rather than being chased. You should also cultivate your femininity. Have feminine interests (cooking or sewing, for example), show that you're willing to be submissive and let him lead, etc. Wear dresses (optional; some guys don't care for the frills) if it makes you feel more feminine. Have a pleasant, approachable perso…
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/15 01:29 PM
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She thinks he's husband material. But if she seriously cares less about him than she does these other people, then she should let him go so he can find someone that DOES care about him.
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/15 01:19 PM
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Only a few things there than men genuinely would care for, which are perhaps the affection, support, and high sex drive. Do you cook or clean? Do you offer anything that would legitimately enhance a man's life if you're going to end up cohabitating?
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/15 02:42 AM
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So, why did you entirely skip the parts of your AskTRP post where you essentially had sexual relations with 6 men? That doesn't tell me that you're shy in the least. If you're looking for an LTR, that's fine, but don't skip over important details and try to paint an entirely different picture of yourself. You have a lot of changes to make if you want to have an LTR, especially with regards to how you approach relationships with men, because you are veering down a path of riding the CC. Now, what…
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/15 02:38 AM
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I have one question for you: Which is more important, your relationship or rowing? Because the way you talk about "future datability" makes it sound like you don't think you're in this relationship for the long haul, and if you aren't, then you should let this man go immediately.
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/15 12:46 AM
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Mine are touch and quality time, and my SO definitely has touch as a love language as well as acts of service. I am glad for the bit of overlap that we have!
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/15 04:06 PM
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It is not really your business what her SO is complaining about to your SO or the fact he is complaining at all. Just let him handle it and let the guys talk. Don't worry about it.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/15 11:37 PM
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He doesn't care if you think the cursing is too much. He's saying that he was using it for emphasis, which you are ignoring. We don't sugarcoat things here, and that can include cursing.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/15 04:15 AM
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Why is it him who has created the problem? He was clearly uncomfortable with it from the start, and she could have nipped the behavior in the bud then. Instead, she chose to let it continue and it escalated to this point.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/15 01:07 AM
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That makes more sense now. My apologies for misinterpreting your comment. Honestly, you may not even want to try to understand the situation but instead just apologize and end the hugging relationship with your manager, then keep it in mind for future situations that may involve hugging other men.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/15 12:58 AM
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What is more important to you: your job or your relationship?
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/15 12:49 AM
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I disagree. A brother is family, which is entirely different in nature. This man is not family. He is merely a friend, and, therefore, is of lower status than her fiancé, who she is planning to spend the rest of her life with. If he is uncomfortable with it, then she shouldn't do it. He is not making an unreasonable request to ask her to stop showing such intimacy (yes, hugs are intimate) towards another man, regardless of whether it's a platonic friend or not.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/15 12:46 AM
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Why are you even asking yourself if you should try to convince him it's okay to hug this man? He is clearly uncomfortable with it, so you should stop. You are putting your manager's feelings over your fiancé, and that is not okay. You are going to be spending the rest of your life with your SO, not your manager.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/15 12:42 AM
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No. Do not just hug random people, especially if your SO is uncomfortable with it. That is intimate with another person, regardless of if it is platonic in nature or not. Edit: removed a word
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/15 12:27 AM
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And have her number potentially skyrocket? That is a terrible idea. We don't advocate sex outside of commitment for good reason.
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/15 11:44 PM
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I might be inclined to go with what Camille suggests, then, especially if you are having difficulty with release anyway. Activity can take your mind off of it, and exercise is good for you anyhow.
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/15 08:04 PM
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I assume you mean difficulty having orgasm, otherwise your libido should actually be lower, since Adderall tends to suppress it. Are you on a scrip or are you using recreationally to study?
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/15 07:57 PM
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Fap like the wind. Or does masturbation do absolutely nothing for you?
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/15 07:41 PM
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Do you really need to KILL your libido? Is it honestly bothering you that badly?
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/15 07:35 PM
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I think he took a gamble in hoping that it would work. We meshed together well otherwise except for that (perhaps he already figured it was just a stage; I'm not sure), but the second he noticed I was getting annoyed with Tumblr feminism, he took what chance he had to see if my views could be changed. I figured it was a nuclear tactic to either dodge a bullet or gain a better girlfriend.
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/15 11:36 PM
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You know nothing about how she's acting or why he's saying the things he did, and yet you're assuming she's doing everything right and he's basically an asshole. We focus on what the woman is doing wrong when there are problems like this, because a man typically doesn't get angry at a woman for no reason. You need to consider asking more questions about her behavior before assuming he's just 100% a bad guy.
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/15 03:50 PM
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Please suggest what? He is clearly not over her. It is in your best interest to move on.
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/15 04:05 AM
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Yeah. So long as the ideas are good, the source is less important. :)
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/15 11:35 PM
3

The Manosphere seems like an easier way to get into it, especially when you think about how TRP can sound to people based on its current posts. I think I managed to get into TRP prior to the shift in the makeup of posters.
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/15 02:50 PM
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Long-winded story oncoming; may want to skip some parts. I'll start by saying that I grew up in a traditional home in the sense that my mother was a SAHM and my dad brought home the bacon, but beyond this, my immediate family was far from RP. My parents often butted heads, and my mom frequently urged me that I would be better off a lesbian because "men are not worth the trouble." Luckily, my grandparents had a very strong marriage, so I did have a better relationship model to look at, as well as…
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/15 05:51 AM
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Congratulations!
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/15 03:55 AM
1

All we can do is just kind of watch and wait and hope nobody gets injured too badly physically or emotionally. Actually, many of us constantly reiterate that you should pay attention to what your SO likes. For instance, with dress, we advocate dressing femininely, but if your man likes you in jeans, t-shirts, and the like, then you should totally go for that. There is a lot of customization to it based on the individuals involved, it's just that when we don't get a whole lot of information, we t…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/15 11:03 PM
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Yeah, I'm worried some people will end up getting hurt because they're not well-educated in safe practices. 50 Shades didn't include things like aftercare or anything of the sort. I'd had kind of those leanings prior, since at one point when I was with a different ex, I had gotten really strong feelings that I wanted to take care of him and be cute and such, so it wasn't super foreign to me that these thoughts exist. Of course, the first time I felt them, it really confused me, but I "snapped ou…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/15 06:38 PM
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He just finds it hilarious. It's his favorite game to see if he can make me squeal over something being gross. That's interesting. I suppose it's not strange to me due to the fact I started on anime pretty young, and I just really liked the art styles, so I stuck with hentai. I mean, I do like regular porn as well, but hentai is just so stylized and offers a lot when I don't care about realism.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/15 02:16 PM
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Sounds great! Can't wait for the AMA.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/15 01:49 PM
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Well, the BDSM came first. RPW followed after I was turned off from feminism. I can understand where they're coming from though about seeing as "playing" at a RP lifestyle, but that makes more sense for people only pretending to be into that particular kink because it's becoming mainstream (see 50 Shades).
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/15 04:17 AM
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Uh, it's mostly hentai, so pretty weird. didnt you mention once bdsm play with your bf where he ahem... marked his territory if you know what i mean No, he just pees on me in the shower for funsies, because it makes me squeal.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/15 11:17 PM
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Decided I'd finally come around, because why not. Questions seem innocent enough. I am certainly not uncomfortable talking about sex. I just find there is a time and place. I've said things on the IRC multiple times before, so it can't hurt to answer a few questions. I want to note that this is also more public forum than, say, the IRC (or even discussion with IRL friends), where things are a bit more private, since only certain people go there. Detail, I find, is not necessary all the time, and…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/15 03:32 PM
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Little late on the draw here... My SO doesn't really care if I wear sexy lingerie (except for cute/sexy panties) or put on makeup, etc. He just seems to really have a thing for me as a I am, so he doesn't see the point in the frills and such unless there's a special occasion. So, I normally wear cute/sexy panties and go topless or just completely naked, since he likes easy access to me. No need for extra bells and whistles unless he specifically asks.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/15 01:24 AM
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Last week, I kept up with my school goals and improved my anticipation of C's needs a bit. I kept forgetting to do the makeup goal, so I'm going to have to get back on that one. This week: Continue with keeping up with notes and quizzes for my class (which ends this Friday) Do light cleaning daily Go swimming / Work out at the gym at least 3 times this week Practice German daily (using Memrise) Keep up with anticipating what C wants/needs
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/15 03:09 AM
1

Vitamin D is commonly prescribed as a treatment for mild depression/feeling a bit blue! It's often gotten from sunlight, of course, and since people are indoors a lot more now, the vitamin D deficiencies can be a potential problem, so supplements are a fantastic fix. From my Evolutionary Psych professor: "Just go for a walk (exercise) in the park (sunlight/vitamin D) with some friends (social interaction) and have a picnic (tryptophan in some foods)." It's the ultimate fix for feeling a bit blue…
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/15 03:28 AM
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I was simply trying to say that she shouldn't ignore it just because it's a low chance of it occurring, which you seemed to imply (I apologize if you were not). There isn't enough information to make any kind of conjecture about why his libido has dropped off. I would argue it should not be the main consideration, however, especially if there is no evidence that points towards it. Then she would constantly wonder if he's sneaking around behind her back and will become distrustful, which will ref…
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/15 03:05 AM
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It drops off on average of about 1% a year after 30 (source). Just because it's only a 5% chance does not mean it should be ignored and that she should automatically assume he's got a porn addiction or is cheating, which are worst case scenarios. This can lead to insecurity and worse behavior as a result of that insecurity (such as snooping, accusations, etc.) which can lead to further relationship instability for no good reason. I would not recommend assuming a woman's SO is cheating unless the…
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/15 02:54 AM
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This could simply be a temporary dry spell. Those happen from time-to-time, so there's no way of telling if this will be a long term problem or not. There are a variety of possibilities as well, which have been mentioned by many of the others. I'd recommend you maybe step back and stop trying to initiate so much. Be more affectionate in a general way, with cuddles, kisses, etc. If he does initiate, don't say no unless there is something truly pressing that can keep you from having sex with him. …
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/15 02:42 AM
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T drops off naturally with age. My SO is 28 and his T levels were somewhat low. If he's older AND out of shape, low T is not an impossibility and should still be considered. There are plenty of ways to naturally boost T as well (such as lifting), so it can't hurt to attempt to boost the levels, if her SO wants to do that sort of thing.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/15 02:31 AM
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Absolutely! When I went to visit family, I was horrified to see both kitchen sinks full of dishes. And my aunt kept putting them off because of how massive the buildup of dishes was. It really becomes a vicious cycle if you let the house get messy.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/15 03:26 PM
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Got a few things going, here. :) SCHOOL: Transcribe notes from notebook to laptop daily. This is important, because I like to make PPTs for exam notes, since I like how tidy they look and how I can make charts and everything. Do quizzes daily. My class has quizzes for each chapter we cover, so it'd be easier on me to do each chapter's quiz the day we go over it. This also helps with studying, since I won't be cramming. RELATIONSHIP: Anticipate C's needs. I don't do this as much as I should. I'm …
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/15 12:50 AM
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Natural, yes. Necessary, no. When people do that, they want to hear they are perfect as is. There is ALWAYS room for improvement.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/15 10:06 PM
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They expect validation for being so pretty (assuming they are actually a 7+), as if it may make up for anything they may be doing wrong. It is useless information as well without anything to go with it. It is not that it affects me so much as it affects the perception of the poster and the way I may respond. If they are misrepresenting themselves, that means the advice may not be quite right. Even more so, I may ignore it entirely and assume they're still having appearance issues anyway because …
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/15 10:01 PM
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It makes a difference because it is attention-seeking behavior. A number is meaningless without an explanation, such as mentioning being in shape (or BMI or something of the sort) for one. It's better if a woman can explain or, even better, give a comparison image when mentioning a number (such as using this scale, for example), so that we get an actual idea of whether or not they're being ridiculous with the rating (which many people tend to score themselves upwards rather than downwards). Edit…
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/15 09:48 PM
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Little bit late on the draw here, so here's my goals and some explanations for them, because I would like to make up for a late submission. :) KEEP ORGANIZED. Organization is super important to me now, so I've realized, so I'm trying to make sure I organize well, which includes taking care when putting away the groceries so that things are in places that make sense. I also now have my whiteboard calendar over at C's so I can plan a whole month's worth of information at once, which is a godsend. …
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/15 01:41 AM
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Honestly, your chances of escaping from the plate zone and landing a happy LTR are pretty slim. Men of that variety generally are not going to remove you from the plate zone, but instead make you "top plate" or just may not tell you they're plating other women at the same time anymore to try and keep you out of the know and make you think there's exclusivity when it hasn't been explicitly stated. Knowing this, your best bet is to really just cut off contact and don't get yourself into a situatio…
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/15 01:24 AM
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Those were awesome threads! Would love to see them started up again. :) I'm down for any day of the week as a starter, but Sundays definitely make sense.
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/15 04:54 AM
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Many aren't, but they can start LTRs with men in their mid to late 20s, which may be more LTR/marriage-minded than younger men. I am 20 and my SO is 28, so I can speak to the experience that it really is not so strange having a larger age gap, especially when you consider dating between an undergraduate and graduate student, for example. It also helps if you have good girl game, as some guys may be more willing to settle down if they know they're getting a good deal rather than typical Marriage …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/15 04:32 AM
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Here's a perspective you may not have considered regarding AF/BB and female dating strategy: a mix of AF/BB in a single man. This the honest ideal for a woman: a man with alpha traits that's also very capable of and willing to provide for them. These men get snatched up quickly. Why? Because they are the ideal. Who snatches them up? Young women of high relationship quality, most likely. The longer you wait, the lower your value becomes physically, so you have to work even harder to be attractive…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/15 01:29 AM
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I do come to my SO with problems if I think he can help me with them or with things I genuinely may not want other people to know about, such as family problems, since I basically do consider him to be family at this point in our relationship and want him to know what's kind of going on so that there aren't any surprises. If he offers me a solution, I'll implement it. He's even more objective than my friends are because he's going to be realistic if I'm doing something dumb, as opposed to my fri…
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/15 05:42 PM
1

I sext with my SO and send pictures if he requests them, mainly just when we're away from each other for extended periods of time. I trust he wouldn't leak anything, as he doesn't have a remotely vindictive personality. Otherwise, it's generally us hanging out together indecent in his apartment because we're together almost all of the time, so there's no need for photos!
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/15 01:45 AM
1

It definitely shows I value his opinion and want to make sure he's okay with it. Most of the time, he'll make his opinion known anyway, though!
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/15 01:08 AM
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There are little to no rules for what I can and can't wear. If he feels something I'm wearing is inappropriate, he lets me know so that I can go change. Most of the time, it's in regards to going to see his parents (so, no low-cut tops or short shorts, mainly). Some days, he'll care about certain articles of clothing, and other days, not so much. His opinions can range from "So long as I can't see your cheeks (butt)" to "Goodness, you're showing a lot of skin." If something seems like a borderli…
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/15 12:04 AM
2

Good luck with that! Try not to stress out so much that you're overloading your concerns on your SO. Both of you don't need to be unnecessarily stressed out at once.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/15 03:55 AM
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I've gotten overwhelmed with details myself a few times. What's important is that you realize that it may not be the best idea to try and force your SO to give you tasks and whatnot. There are ways to try and take the reigns yourself. I would check out Pinterest for ideas. Find ways to organize yourself and your thoughts. Make to-do lists on your own. Ask your mom (or another married woman) for help with planning. Check online forums for advice. Maybe even see if you can make an appointment to d…
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/15 03:31 AM
2

I hope whatever decision you make works out well for you! Ambiguous decisions can be hard to make a call on.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/15 03:48 AM
1

Basically, now that you've had an alpha and have been left by him, you have the female version of oneitis where you can't get over him and are willing to give him chance after chance in hopes he'll keep you.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/15 03:47 AM
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Your trusting him could either pay off or hurt you dearly. You can't really know what's going to happen, so you need to consider the odds and decide for yourself if you can trust this kind of thing to not go wrong or if you should move along and find someone who doesn't do these kinds of setups.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/15 09:17 PM
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You are what is called an alpha widow and have also been demoted to a plate. What you should do is cut him off entirely. Move on. Work on yourself. Get some hobbies, go to the gym, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/15 08:00 PM
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Honestly, this is a highly suspicious situation. He's going far away, alone, with an attractive single woman. With a little persuasion, it would be easy to cheat, and you would never find out because only they would know. Not to say that he 100% will, but the situation makes it highly probable. Your friends' reactions are not wrong. I mean, you can trust him and hope that nothing happens, but odds are, something will and you may never find out about it just based on how removed you will be.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/15 07:53 PM
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They hooked up in the past? That complicates things. This could mean they are hooking up again, or that she is legitimately trying to stir shit. Did she show you proof of any text messages/emails/Facebook messages/whatever? Did you ask for proof? Can you ask for proof now?
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/15 04:38 AM
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There's not a whole lot of background here, so questions incoming! How long have you been with your SO? Why do you feel like you should trust her more than your SO? Gut instinct that something is off? Is this the first time something like this has happened? How did he react to you telling him what she said?
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/15 04:01 AM
2

That's fantastic, then. :)
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/15 07:26 PM
2

I play video games, but I notably tend to stick to cutesy RPGs or other sorts of games, mainly Nintendo titles (Pokemon, Fantasy Life, Mario, etc.) and The Sims. I occasionally play more serious games like Skyrim and Portal, and I've tried MMOs. Video games can be a great way to connect with your SO, especially when doing cooperative play. I'm sure he'd have fun teaching you how to play a game and having you play one with him. What kinds of games was he wanting to get you into? It's also totally…
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/15 04:55 PM
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Awesome! Keep it up, and it'll eventually become genuine and natural for you to act that way, so you won't have to consciously make that decision every time. :)
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/15 04:47 PM
2

Honestly, ask yourself this: Are these acts that bad with a man you love? Would it hurt you that badly to be a little wild for your SO? What things did you do that made you feel so devalued that you're not willing to do them with the man you married? He feels hurt that he's not getting that wildness from you that you gave so freely to randoms. He feels like he's getting the short end of the stick, and he is, frankly. Nobody wants to know their SO was once "fun" and then they get the boring versi…
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/15 04:33 PM
1

Blowjobs. Nothing else really gets my SO in the mood if I want to initiate. Doesn't work all the time, but he still enjoys them even if it's not to completion and we don't end up having sex. A spontaneous BJ is always fun. :)
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/15 01:29 AM
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Perhaps it's better to say that you're focused on LTRs/are marriage-minded instead of being focused on flings and short-term relationships like many people. If he also says he's marriage-minded, you have something to work with and may be able to bring up the "virgin until marriage" aspect without it being an immediate scare for a guy.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/15 07:17 PM
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With my SO and I, in the beginning, he was primarily paying for our dates. Now we just take turns at times, depending on who's got more money at the time. But that's the way our dynamic established, and we both enjoy it this way, since we both get to treat each other. I don't think we've done separate bills at any point in our relationship. It's always been one paying for both. Generally, it makes sense for the guy to pay, since he's usually the one who's asked you out, but it's also very common…
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/15 07:11 PM
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Do you believe this is true for all people of each sex or do you believe there is variation in strengths/weaknesses based on the individual? Of course there will be individual variations. No two people are exactly alike. When I speak of strengths and weaknesses, I'm referring to the general strengths and weaknesses. There are exceptions to every rule, though. Would you vote for a woman? I have yet to honestly partake in politics, but if she was the more promising candidate, then yes. If she were…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/15 07:34 AM
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My SO is a hairy beast, and I love it. Beards and hair just really make a man for me.
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/15 06:56 PM
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My SO is the same way about the bathroom. Gotta try to make it as awkward as possible so I feel embarrassed or get stage fright. But that's just his playful personality. lol We're perhaps a little too open in that regard, but it's probably only improved things since we just have fun with it and make jokes instead of me trying to be uptight about things. We have a very playful relationship, and I wouldn't trade it for anything. :)
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/15 06:54 PM
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In some ways, yes. In other ways, no. Each sex has its strengths and weaknesses that are innate. If she manages to be good at it, then I don't really care if we have a female president or not. The same goes for any other race of president. The quality of the leadership is more important. If they're happy with choosing that route and are good at what they're doing, then I don't care if women are in business or not. So long as they're not getting special treatment for being women, it doesn't reall…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/15 09:24 PM
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As the others have said, move on. There is really nothing to be gained from going back to this relationship. Things will not be the same, even if you could manage to get back together. If he is done with you, let him be done. Learn from your mistake and be better for your next LTR.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/15 04:51 AM
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What works best for me, I find, is to start small. Take it one step at a time. Don't try to make multiple massive changes at once, because you will probably burn out and will lose all motivation. Exercise: Work out at home if you feel unmotivated to go to the gym. There are lots of videos online dedicated to working out at home. I would personally recommend P90X. This is also great for a rainy day, which can be especially demotivating. Start small. Don't do anything overly complicated, and don't…
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/15 06:57 AM
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It's been 3 years. Has this always been a problem? Were your intimacy levels higher in the earlier stages of the relationship? If so, what do you think caused things to change (changes you've made, he's made, you've made as a couple, situation, etc.)? Is it possible he has low T? It can never hurt to get tested, even though it can bruise the ego because a man typically does not want to feel like (or know) he has low T. Lower sex drives are common with lower levels of T. I have the much higher li…
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/15 06:29 AM
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Aggressive and critical is certainly not the kind of attitude you want for making friends OR relationships. What this means is that you need to work on being less aggressive: no sarcasm, no angry tone of voice, no being mean for the sake of it, etc. Regarding critical, it's okay to have criticisms, but make sure they're constructive and warranted. Don't try to randomly criticize people, especially your future SO. Instead, make suggestions if you're asked for them.
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/15 06:25 PM
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For starters, I'd like to say that I am sorry about your mother. I lost mine at 15, so I can understand the kinds of feelings that come along with such a thing. It can be hard navigating the world after losing a parent. Regarding being professional and strong, it is possible to separate that from your casual personality. You can still be "strong and professional" in a workforce if you need to be, but gentle and pleasant outside of it, provided you learn how to balance the two. There are quite a …
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/15 06:30 PM
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I met my SO on OkCupid, so I would recommend that. Survey questions and profiles help you weed people out. I haven't had as good of results on another site, but the pay sites can be really good, if you're willing to pay for it.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/15 04:50 PM
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were your parents more involved in your life than most other kids or less involved in your life than other kids? Average, I suppose. My dad was around when he got off work (usually before we got home from school). My mom was a SAHM up until she passed away when I was 14. After then, I was with my grandparents most of the time. Less involvement once I went to a boarding school. did your parents make your breakfast, lunch, dinner or did you do that yourself? We had our meals made for us, but at on…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/15 01:50 AM
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I just do things as they need to be done, so I don't have a particular schedule. I just do a little bit here and there, like collecting a hot pocket wrapper from my SO's desk or making sure a dish goes in the sink, then when a load is ready, I get it into the dishwasher and get that going (even if it's right after I wake up). It's one of the few cases where I don't need a schedule to get things done.
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/15 10:48 PM
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This is not a "why not to set your hair on fire" situation. This is you claiming that the location is WAY more important than it really is. Sure, meeting on the street isn't average, but it happens. Think about when people bump into each other. You can make friends and even relationships that way. Simply smiling and appearing approachable is not the same thing as "soliciting" which tells me you don't know what soliciting means.
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/15 10:44 PM
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To you, maybe. You can still meet awesome people on the street or in the grocery store or whatever. What's important is more the guy himself, not where you met him.
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/15 10:41 PM
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Is it REALLY a big deal that he doesn't constantly call, text, or anticipate your needs, or is this something minor you can get over? I would think it's the latter. You should be considering what the positives are in your current relationship, not focusing on the (relatively minor) negatives. This will cause you to just continually view him in a negative light for what he doesn't do rather than what he does do. You need to focus on the good.
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/15 10:29 PM
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Getting rid of resting bitch face is fantastic! My short-term goal is making more eye contact with people when I speak to them. I have a habit of accidentally just looking elsewhere, especially when it comes to purchasing things at the store.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/15 05:56 AM
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It sounds like you're thinking of this with a tit-for-tat mindset, which isn't productive. You should thank him for the times he does help out. Are you perhaps very unenthusiastic about doing the chores or aren't doing them often (such as letting laundry pile until you don't have clean close to wear)? That may come across to him that he's doing it himself if it's not being done often.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/15 05:00 AM
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I am unsure if I would or not. From my experiences with trans people thus far IRL, probably not. They are just honestly not attractive enough for me. I have not met an individual post-op, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/15 08:18 PM
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Oh, I meant 50 Shades is poorly written. I haven't read Sleeping Beauty! I also really liked the Meredith Gentry series by Laurell K. Hamilton, if you're into faerie literature. I should note that series isn't BDSM, but it was an alright series, in my opinion.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/15 06:22 PM
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I read the first one. It was not well-written, but the quality of the writing itself doesn't matter to most people as much as whether or not the story hooks them. In this case, it's hooked women quite well. I actually hail from the BDSM community, so I was excited to see a novel that was supposed to be focused around BDSM. I was very disappointed to see that it was not well done and even ignores some important parts of BDSM, like aftercare and usage of safe words. It'll be just like Twilight. It…
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/15 04:13 AM
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Keep in mind that women's romance novels are caricatures and exaggerations of what is considered the "ideal." Christian Grey is powerful, intelligent, and rich, and yet he wants this very average woman who is uncomfortable with something he enjoys. Women want Mr. Perfect to fall for them, even if they are not Ms. Perfect themselves. Add in some dominance, and you've got a recipe for women to flock to the novel. Sure, lots of women are probably going to want to try BDSM, thinking this is the type…
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/15 05:30 PM
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As the others have said, do what makes your SO happy. Don't try to force him to like makeup if he doesn't like it. My SO personally doesn't care for makeup. He'll tell me I'm pretty if I'm wearing it well, let me know if I'm overdoing it, but doesn't mind if I don't. He finds me attractive regardless of if I wear makeup (unless it's done badly) or not. For me, this means finding a makeup style he likes and using that (if I want to wear makeup) or go natural if I'm not in the mood for it. This is…
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/15 05:24 PM
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Thus why I said to "take what works for you and your SO and leave the rest." It's not a guarantee that embracing gender roles fully will work, nor is it a guarantee that embracing equality fully will work. Each couple is different, although the vast majority will probably benefit from a specific method, which seems to be a more gender-role aligned method, since it rests more naturally with how most people are built and has worked well in the past. Yes, not everyone fits the mold. But if neither …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/15 05:18 PM
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It's really a lot of trial and error and watching the reactions, honestly. Figuring out what works is the hardest part.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/15 04:26 AM
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Good luck with sticking it out! :) More rambling ahead Some major differences that I perceive between RPW and other dating advice: RPW emphasizes embracing gender roles (mainly cooking, cleaning, and maintaining a pleasant, demure personality) RPW emphasizes self-improvement for the sake of the relationship (being fit and dressing well, cutting back on the harsher behavior or personality traits) rather than trying to force someone to accept fixable faults (this can work both ways, which is why w…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/15 11:27 PM
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I would like to say yay for you for trying rather than just saying "no" to RPW. Also, it's important to note that RPW/a RP dynamic is not for everyone. Since we focus on the masses, it will generally work for most people, but there are outliers in all cases. Many start from a position where their current dynamic isn't working, so trying something new can't hurt. In your case, it sounds like the current dynamic was probably doing well enough that you didn't need the changes (minus a few of the sm…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/15 09:23 PM
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I have no problems with porn. I watch it and enjoy it occasionally, mostly a boredom thing. I also have no issues with my SO watching it. No, I don't feel extreme porn should be censored. People have different things that entertain them, and I feel they should be able to have that entertainment available to them. Do I consider male porn stars alpha? Not sure. I've never really thought about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/15 09:46 PM
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As someone who has anxiety, it's very important to recognize what causes your episodes. It helps with coping to know why they occur and when, so you can anticipate them and work with them as they come on as opposed to starting while you're in the middle of the panic. There are herbs that may help out, so you can look around for various calming herbs. Some of them are relatively sedative, though, so pay attention to how much you take if you use them. Additionally, if you find it is a "build and b…
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/15 01:37 AM
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I was saying that her particular opinion on what is attractive does not matter here because she is not OP.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/15 01:17 AM
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Congrats! Such fantastic news. I adore posts like this.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/15 01:14 AM
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Not sure of everything that's going on, but we're definitely going to be getting ice cream from a super yummy place that makes it homemade and will stuff as many toppings into it as they can. Other than that, I imagine it'll be a night in, watching a movie or a new sitcom (if we've started one). There's been no talk of buying presents.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/15 01:58 PM
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I think this kind of behavior is twofold: It keeps her interested and attracted. It's just the way he operates and he finds it fun for himself as well. He sounds a lot like how my SO is now. He often jokes about the fact that his mind games make me love him more, but he also just finds it really fun to see how I'm going to react to something like him spooking me or trying to seduce me with some weird voice to see if I swing towards attraction or being grossed out (in a funny way). It's up to her…
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/15 08:37 PM
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Mind games can be playful and somewhat enjoyable for both parties. It's all about how you come at it. C's favorite thing right now, for instance, is to enunciate something after I've said it with an accent or mispronounced it, because he knows it bothers me to think I'm wrong about something. Other times, he'll try to get me hot and bothered, only to quit and just smile cutely at me like he's done nothing. He toys with me, and it's fun, even though at first I would just get frustrated with the f…
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/15 03:21 PM
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Feminism: Men and women are absolutely the same Women should not need to change; men should love them as they are Women can have standards, but male standards are misogyny Being a slut should not affect relationships RP(W): Men and women are inherently different (and complimentary) Women should strive to improve themselves for themselves and their partners (and for RP, men should strive to improve for themselves) Women can have standards, but be realistic; men's standards are perfectly fine Bein…
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/15 03:17 AM
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If his weight is a deal-breaker and you don't see him changing his weight, then you should leave. Honestly, you are not tied to him, and you can only change yourself, but changing what you are attracted to is very hard, so I would think it's best to leave. I don't consider this salvageable if he hasn't changed his weight in years.
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/15 03:01 AM
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I had an ex who I shamed for drinking (which wasn't really a passion but more of something he enjoyed doing with his friends), despite the fact he was never irresponsible with it, because I was uncomfortable with the idea of it. I will say that it harmed our relationship for me to do that. I would never try to talk my SO out of anything now. I may worry about something he does or give a suggestion about a different way to do something, but that is about as far as it would go. I trust him to keep…
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/15 02:45 AM
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This is really interesting! It's cool to see signs of femininity in different cultures. I think those also look really interesting, like a very small but cute belt. Thank you for sharing. :)
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/15 02:40 AM
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Your friendship will never be the same. I suggest you move on. I would also suggest that you should stop hooking up with people.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/15 05:27 PM
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So am I. :(
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/15 01:21 AM
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Coming from a similarly imperfect home life, it took me quite some time to realize that I didn't have to let my bad experience at home define me or my relationships. Now that I have, it's very freeing. I can look back on my old bad behavior and understand why it occurred while simultaneously realizing I was rationalizing that it was okay to be that way. They say nurture has a heavy hand in how an individual turns out. What they don't seem to include is the idea that the nurture portion can conti…
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/15 02:47 PM
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Having children is not necessary to be a RPW. If being child-free is comfortable for both you and your SO, then go for it! Some people just don't want children, and that's fine. So long as there's not a discrepancy with your wishes and your SO's wishes, all is well. Now, if your SO wants children and you don't, then you have a problem. It may (or may not) shrink your dating pool (if you're single, since you speak of your LTR in the past), so consider that when searching for a partner (or conside…
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/15 04:10 AM
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That's actually worse, in my opinion. At least be honest about that kind of thing.
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/15 05:58 PM
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Please. Most women do not respond well to being directly told they're fat, lazy, etc. In case you haven't seen online, the common response to this is to come running to other women about how "mean" their partner is for not loving everything about them. They come for validation that they're not the problem. They want to think they're all perfect and their SO is just being mean for no reason. This is especially true now that Team Woman is very strong. Women are told everyday they are amazing and p…
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/15 11:35 PM
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Keep in mind this is for the average woman. The average woman is typically going to want a relationship or LTR, so this is geared for those women who are willing to improve themselves in order to improve their relationships. It's a benefit for both the woman and man.
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/15 11:58 PM
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If it's their own choice, I see no problems with it. If they're happy doing it, yay for them. What I do take issue with, is the women that become sex workers and then complain no man wants to be with them. That's just a problem with the person's attitude, though, not the profession.
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/15 10:34 PM
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TRP and RPW come from the same vein of information. The strategies used, however, are pretty different because of the fact that each space is focused on what works best for men or women. In that case, for TRP, than spans everything from MGTOW to plate spinning to LTR/marriage. For RPW, the strategy is LTR/marriage, specifically focused on what we, as women, can do to improve ourselves and our relationships (with good men). There has always been a difference in male and female sexual strategy. Ad…
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/15 10:12 PM
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One I watched and enjoyed recently was titled My Wife is a High School Girl. The main character is very adorable and loving towards her husband. It's a very cute and funny slice-of-life, if you enjoy that kind of anime. Of course, her husband is a bit dorky and oblivious at times, but their dynamic is very sweet.
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/15 04:04 AM
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When you ask what's wrong with the opposing scenario, you are asking about exceptions to the rule, or outliers in the data. These things exist, sure. They even work at times. Here at RPW, however, we like to focus on the majority, not on the outliers. Thus, we primarily look at the male lead, female support dynamic and center discussion and advice around that. It's not to say that any other system doesn't work, but rather that those other systems aren't our focus.
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/15 05:45 PM
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What is your body type like? Is all of your fat in your gut? What is your BMI? If you can stand to lose 20lbs, I suspect that you are either mildly overweight or are at the very high end of a normal BMI. Either way, if people are seeing you as fat, you are probably fat. If you don't need to legitimately lose weight, then you should go to the gym or work out at home to firm up, like someone said. If you are, then you need to get to restricting calories (I recommend using a calculator to find out …
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/15 03:34 AM
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Ooh. Sounds interesting. I'll check it out.
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/15 10:30 PM
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Just be appreciative of what he's doing for you, both in actions and in words. I'm sure he understands that since you are losing a parent, you may be a bit different in behavior for a bit (like being extra emotional) and that you need someone to be strong. You can let him know how you feel about him helping you so much with this issue. I doubt he assumes you are always like this. Additionally, I am sorry for your loss. Losing a parent is never easy.
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/15 10:03 PM
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First things first, this reads very much "me me me" with you kind of tacking your SO on there, like you're just obsessed with looking good and are sad you're not getting tons of male attention anymore. How does your SO feel about your looks? Now, for advice: How much weight have you gained? Losing weight will probably help you at least a little bit. Look into a sustainable diet plan. Check what your BMR and TDEE are (I recommend using this) and focus on keeping in between them (recommended -500 …
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/15 09:55 PM
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I'm hoping for something like that soon. :) Right now, I have Walmart flats, which are alright but not super comfortable. I would be excited for low wedges, even, since wedges can be a bit more comfortable than heels.
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/15 09:43 PM
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I clean up more often, at least C's apartment, keeping it at least semi-decent (can see the floor, dishes in the washer as soon as they're ready to go, counter and computer table cleaned off, etc.). I'm still working on a cute-but-functional wardrobe, since I don't have too many pieces and walking campus in heels can be troubling at times.
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/15 09:34 PM
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That's only really a problem if you let those things affect you. Entertainment is entertainment. Yes, the tropes aren't cute, but we can still laugh at these things and enjoy them. The same goes for trash TV. It may be annoying, but it's entertaining, otherwise it wouldn't be so popular.
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/15 09:26 PM
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So long as you remain grateful for all of the help he's providing, you should be good, especially if he insists on taking care of it himself. If there's one thing men love, it's when their woman is grateful for what they do.
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/15 02:13 AM
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Congrats, first of all! Also, like the others have said, it's best to listen to your SO regarding the finances. Ask him how he feels about you paying it all off by yourself (or even just trying to pay part of it off). Trust his judgement. He sounds like a great Captain.
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/15 12:14 AM
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That's a good idea to wait and keep from rambling. You seem to be doing well so far with this. Just don't stress about it. It'll be up to him if he wants to date you or not.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/15 01:15 AM
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It's probable, yes. Usually such things get covered quickly since women are often eager to share their degrees, job titles, etc., thinking a man will take interest in them like she does in his degrees, job titles, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/15 12:22 AM
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It's really going to depend on the individual guy. In the earliest stages, it won't matter a bit. What matters is that you look nice, are pleasant to be around, and are supportive of him and his goals. In the later stages (considering LTR/marriage) it can be important, if the individual guy feels that it is. But once again, that's individual preference. Across the board, though, men generally do not care about your educational level.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/15 05:53 PM
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That is also an understandable reason to prefer meeting up rather than being picked up.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/15 07:27 PM
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I note that this article seems to err on the side of single women, so it may be better to base things on what your SO prefers.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/15 03:36 PM
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I really liked this article. The dating section will be great for any single ladies. I personally need to work on numbers 2, 6, and 8. 2 because I curse like a sailor and need to calm down a bit, at least while having a meal. 6 is something I honestly never considered, since I use a phrase like "It's a pleasure to meet you" at the end, after having conversed and just before leaving. Finally, number 8 because I do have a tendency to use yep and nope more than "yes, please" and "no, thank you." I …
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/15 02:57 AM
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I am not much of a media/marketing person, so I am unsure how to give advice other than to keep your SO's thoughts and feelings in mind. Remember that he is more important than your career. You seem to be doing well on that front so far, so just keep to it. If you get stuck, I imagine your SO would be happy to help you find a way to advance without sacrificing too much. Regarding bikinis, I like classic string bikinis and tankinis with any style bottom from skirts to regular bikini-styled bottom…
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/15 03:56 PM
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How weird are we talking for side effects? Were they worse than your symptoms? Because sometimes we have to weather the side effects in order to get the necessary treatment. Have you tried exercise to see if that would help things? It's very common to give exercise a go in regards to treating a wide variety of disorders. Hmm... So genetic predisposition tied with environmental factors. Sounds classic enough. Moving beyond the past is possible, which may help you like it helped me. I was beat oft…
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/15 08:26 PM
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I have a question: Are you currently medicated or have you considered medication? Also, if you feel your therapist is not helpful, there's nothing wrong with changing to someone who better meets your needs. It's important to have a good relationship with your therapist and know that they'll give advice that fits what you need, not what they want (such as trying to force your SO to do more, even though it sounds like he's done plenty). Also, I think it's safe to say after so long, anyone would bu…
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/15 04:30 PM
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Oh, I'm not saying that you should, but it sounds like you both might need some relaxation techniques. Anyway, do improve yourself, regardless.
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/14 10:06 PM
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I hope so too! I love reading them, from both seasoned and new members alike.
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/14 09:28 PM
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I'm so grateful to have found this sub (thanks to my SO). I have grown so much within the time that I've been here, and there's still so much more to learn about and understand. The tough love that's given here is important and constructive, even if it can seem harsh to others. I do wish more women would strive towards the kinds of lives we advocate here so that they, too, can experience the happiness that's gained from using this knowledge to better themselves and their relationships. I imagine…
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/14 09:20 PM
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Both of you sound like you need to learn to deal with stress, in that case.
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/14 08:11 PM
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Hi there! Your history sounds a lot like mine, even down to having the higher libido. I was quite wound up and stubborn (still a bit wound up due to anxiety issues that are currently unmedicated) when my SO and I first got together. I often thought I needed to be right, like being wrong was the bane of my existence. Some things that helped me: Take a step back when you're starting to feel like you're being crazy, because you probably are. Examine what's causing you to be this way. Is it a major …
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/14 07:38 PM
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Avoidant behavior is unproductive. It's not going to make her more relaxed to pretend she's busy just to actively avoid her FMIL. Nor is it going to resolve her feelings. A better way would be to bond by helping out, so she can learn more about and from her FMIL about herself and how to help out her FH, like the others have said, that way she's not harboring resentment and still feels like she's doing something. I'm sure her FMIL would appreciate it.
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/14 08:49 PM
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I honestly think OP was just being overreactive, which is fixable behavior. She has a distorted view of her FMIL's behavior, and it is her view that is at fault, not her FMIL. This is fixable by actually spending time helping her FMIL out and also by trusting what her FH says, rather than avoiding her for the most part. It's important that she understands her FMIL so that they can get along better.
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/14 08:40 PM
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I feel there's a better way to handle this than what you're suggesting, though. Your tactic is very passive-aggressive and unproductive.
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/14 07:58 PM
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This sounds like you're telling her to be competitive and passive-aggressive about things. This is not how to deal with someone who is only trying to be kind and helpful. That's being an unappreciative asshole. Better advice is to help her out, to reciprocate, not just squash her efforts because you don't like them. That's just asking for your MIL not to like you and feel alienated, which will foster a bad relationship, not a good one. It's clear her SO is very close with his mother and apprecia…
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/14 07:18 PM
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I used to think I was more comfortable being in the lead and taking charge because I had to when it came to group projects and such in school. I found it easier if I took control because I was a control freak and needed everything perfect. It was just who I was. But I found this didn't work for my relationships because in doing that, I was focusing purely on myself and what would make me comfortable, forgetting that my SO might feel differently. I wasn't being a proper leader. With C, it took a …
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/14 07:00 PM
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When I got with my SO a little over a year ago, I was 123-125 pounds (borderline overweight for me, with all of it in my gut). It took me a while to finally decide I needed to lose weight. It really hit me when I'd come back home to him after a visit home and he told me I almost had back fat rolls. So I decided it was time to lose. I'm 111 now and am still in the process of losing more and becoming fitter. C also gained "comfort weight" and is in the process of losing weight as well, but that's …
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/14 05:01 PM
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I have the FitBit app which has a barcode scanner. Quite convenient. Unfortunately, it doesn't sync to MFP, so that sucks, but I can quickly scan things and enter them into MFP to make sure everything is accurate or compare them against user entries to make sure.
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/14 09:20 PM
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Does counting calories cause you to become obsessive? It is really helpful in making sure you're meeting a proper goal for nutrition (maintenance, for instance) or gaining, in the case of recovery.
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/14 06:51 AM
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On a similar vein, I recommend you meet people who live nearby you as well (if they're within a good age range). Propinquity (or proximity) effect works as well, plus the mere-exposure effect, for making friends, as you're more likely to befriend those physically closer to you.
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/14 02:24 AM
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Based on all of this, it sounds like you don't need that child support, you just want it, which makes it sound like you want it purely for revenge for him leaving you.
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/14 05:49 PM
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If you're seeing it that way, then you're obviously not having sex right. You should find it enjoyable and you should be enthusiastic. That sounds like you would agree to sex and then just lay there like a starfish. That's not enjoyable for anyone.
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/14 04:46 AM
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A lot of ours are a bit explicit, but one of my favorite things that he uses on me is when I ask to cuddle, he'll briefly hug me and say "There you go. One cuddle." We also exchange kisses for things.
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/14 07:49 PM
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It's often difficult to try a new strategy, but it's certainly worth it especially with such positive outcomes. :)
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/14 05:18 PM
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This is a great FR! It's always nice to see the new ladies coming around and making a true effort to make their relationships and themselves better.
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/14 06:45 AM
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So then everyone should just be uncommitted/non-exclusive? That is not good sexual strategy for women.
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/14 12:04 AM
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This is not a useful or helpful comment.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/14 11:59 PM
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You don't want to be a plate. Cut your loss. You should always make sure that both of you are on the same page about looking for a relationship and not give into sex before getting exclusivity.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/14 10:36 PM
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It sounds like you are a plate if he's concerned you're getting "too attached" when what you want in a relationship is attachment.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/14 10:10 PM
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This does not sound like the kind of man you should be in an LTR with. I agree that you're a plate. Also, So I how do I convince him to give me more commitment? Even if this was a good man, what are you doing to earn commitment anyhow?
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/14 01:15 AM
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You can use the advice you can find here, as it would probably be helpful for your relationships. What I will say is that I genuinely don't care that you're trans, so long as you're not hurting anyone else. However, it's also common for the trans community to take a more SJW approach to things, and this sub is not best suited for SJW types. You need to be open to the information given here and not argue with members, as this is specifically not a debate sub.
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/14 07:43 PM
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Find a sweet guy who wants kids and is willing to stay home with them and play the nurturing role. You'll have best luck if his earning potential is relatively low (like a humanities or liberal arts grad), and make sure he isn't easily emasculated by fulfilling the typically "woman's role" - honestly, and I'm going to get banned here - but if you go this route, don't shoot down self-professed male feminists, they might be your best bet. Most women are not going to do well with this type of SO be…
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/14 07:30 AM
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You are essentially telling her to settle, which is NOT good. Settling leads to resentment and a lack of respect, which is very negative for a relationship, since men need respect from their woman. Both parties would be miserable in this case, since it is extremely rare for a setup like this to work out.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/14 08:10 PM
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Good that you're putting the phone down! Especially since your SO admitted he doesn't like you using it so much. About bringing up his T levels, that's completely understandable. I brought it up, considering it may be a possibility, but it would be up to your SO to get his T levels checked. My SO had his checked on a whim. But there are natural ways to enhance T, like lifting, so I wouldn't be too concerned.
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/14 03:41 PM
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You can't really force someone to believe anything. It'll probably be easy to tell that you're inexperienced and are a virgin. You can mention it's your first time, and the guy may or may not believe that. That's really all you can do. You can awkwardly explain what happened, but it'd be a boner killer, for sure.
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/14 07:04 AM
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Be supportive. Don't sit there and rage about the boss' decision (at least he didn't fire your SO!) because it won't help anything. Instead, be there for your SO.
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/14 06:38 AM
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10/10. Love Firefly and this shirt.
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/14 06:32 AM
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but I spend a lot of that time on my phone which I think may not be good No, it's not. That means you're not paying attention to your SO at all, even less so when you're watching TV and playing on your phone. You should be enjoying the cuddling and the show (something you're doing together) versus your phone (something you're doing individually). Also, I came to ask, is it possible that he's suffering from low T? Low T can mess up the libido quite a bit (my SO is 27 and suffers from it mildly). …
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/14 06:12 AM
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You explained how you feel. There's not much else you can do without coming across as controlling. Sure, you can keep your SMV higher than hers by looking great at the party, but don't force your SO's attention onto you. Don't follow him around everywhere unless he wants you to. And don't act neurotic about the old flame. It's important to note your SO's actions are independent of hers. He may genuinely see it as just catching up with an old friend (even though I disagree with the idea that men …
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/14 08:15 PM
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I agree with the fact that a lot of men don't notice the "no make-up" makeup style and think that's genuinely a bare face, thus their idea that you do look good without makeup. So they think you look better with makeup, exceptions being when you generally have a very nice face without it, then they may not care if you wear it or not. Then there are some men who don't care if you wear it or not, so long as it's not caked on. My SO is of this variety, since he's seen me bare-faced often enough to …
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/14 07:49 PM
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There have been many questions before asking why we chose this. I encourage you to use the search feature and read the sidebar because any question you have has probably already been answered by multiple people, probably multiple times. Rehashing again and again isn't really adding anything of value. Basically (if you're in college, this analogy should work), you're trying to skip up to an upper-level course without having had the prerequisite. You're then coming into said upper-level course wit…
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/14 04:11 PM
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Always nice to have reminders like this, Temp. :3 The outside is important for first impressions, but the inside is what really matters for having a successful LTR with a good man. It's imperative we don't forget this.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/14 02:33 AM
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We are not here to change your mind. Only you can change it. You should actually read around the sub to help you decide if you'll like this place or not, not basically ask us to tell you why you should be here.
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/14 11:10 PM
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Copy-paste part of the text (not sure how much) and then press Alt+1 and 2 (on the num pad) to paste the female symbol. That awards points. :3
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/14 11:07 PM
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I was already beginning to get frustrated with and bewildered by internet feminism (most famously, Tumblr feminism). I was finding it to be more and more insane. Well, C introduced me to TRP via a link to some post explaining the core tenets/the basics (can't remember what it was for the life of me, though), which was a real gamble now that I think about it. I read it and just kind of tucked it away as "Well, that's interesting." Later, I found myself revisiting it and rereading it. I began look…
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/14 08:33 PM
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It is a bit weak to have to explain himself, but his reasons are good ones. I don't understand making fun of someone for having standards.
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/14 08:24 PM
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That sounds really cute but also sad that he's so excited over something so simple like this. It shows how women don't really value helping their man out and reminds me of how individualistic our culture is.
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/14 08:21 PM
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Among my original circle, I got plenty of backlash from two friends (now ex-friends) for being in a relationship like I am. Verbal abuse, claims of ignoring them, etc. One knew about TRP and just spit vile things at me fro supporting it and ignored any explanations that it isn't all misogyny like they think it is (cue: I don't care, I'm right anyway). Was not fun. From then on, I learned not to bring it up.
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/14 02:37 AM
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I completely agree. Feminism has messed up the way men navigate life and what they think would be the best way to go about it instead of everyone generally going the same direction with little to no problems. Meanwhile, women see no issues with this while being upset over the fact that they can't find a "good man" (read: alpha who will settle down because who needs a beta when you have a job?) while ignoring the fact that before feminism blew up so much, there were PLENTY of "good men" out there…
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/14 03:56 PM
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Manicorn made me giggle, but you're right. The optimal and most preferable man has the right mix of alpha and beta traits, which was evidently much more common in the older days, when households were more patriarchal. Now it's common to see alpha or beta, but the mix of the two is rarer or simply isn't being encouraged as much.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/14 02:28 PM
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I would not advise you go over there alone, as it sends a message that you are probably interested in that kind of intimacy. It's preferable to go on a date somewhere with others around. You sound like the type that would probably feel "pressured" to give in because you'd feel bad telling him no, so it's better to not put yourself in that situation because it's quite probable you'll do something you regret.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/14 12:34 AM
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There's evidence in psychology that the menstrual cycle in general affects our preferences. During the period, women prefer more feminine partners (while at the least fertile), while during ovulation, they prefer much more masculine partners. It's unsurprising that the pill would create changes in mating preferences because of how it changes the hormones.
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/14 11:36 PM
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I love it. lol
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/14 09:35 PM
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Hormonal birth control does not cause weight gain. It just increases your appetite, and it's up to you whether you eat more food or not. If you eat your normal amount of food, you won't gain weight out of nowhere. There is some slight water retention, but that goes away after a bit because it's only temporary while your body adjusts to the new hormones. But, if you're hellbent on not taking the pill, I'd talk to your gyno anyhow about how extreme your PMS symptoms are. You may need some kind of …
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/14 03:52 PM
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As an IN(T/F)J, I concur that we need a study.
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/14 01:35 AM
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My troll senses were tingling so much. :p I just had to respond.
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/14 04:36 PM
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they're pushing a traditionalist agenda (in general) in order to lure inexperienced RP men to their doom What? I repeat. What? Have you been hanging around here very long? Many women here aren't looking for men aware of TRP or have SOs that are even aware of its existence. In addition, we are not trying to doom men, so I'm not sure where you're getting that from. I find it disgusting that TRP even tolerates /r/RedPillWomen. You may not be the only one that feels this way, so I can't say you're w…
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/14 05:33 AM
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I started following it. Looks awesome. Gives me more reason to keep up with Pinterest.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/14 03:10 AM
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My SO likes the enhancement, even if he feels I don't need it. To him, it's sexy and it enhances my features for him. He already knows what he's getting. He understands that the push-up is only there for his enjoyment. To men that are not your SO, they will be unaware that you're enhancing until they've seen you without it, thus they'll think you have more than you do. For some, this is a turn-off because you would be lying. Note: I am not talking about lightly padded push-up bras that don't add…
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/14 06:20 PM
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When I say push-up, I'm referring to the ones that give so much boost that after it's removed, the person you just attracted would be disappointed by the fact they're not getting what they thought they were. Regarding the relationship, I wear them because my SO wants me to. If I'm not going to be seeing him, I don't wear them. That would just be in bad taste.
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/14 05:45 PM
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Fit Friday. 1: How did you get moving this week? Lifted 3 times this week (10 lbs/max reps (60 bicep curls, 60 deadlifts, 30 overhead presses)). 2: What was your go-to healthy food item or meal? A protein shake because my protein macros are often not that great 3: What song got you moving? Didn't really work out to music. 4: What are your plans for next week? Keep it up! Try to lift more intensely. Fat Friday. 1: What is the most delicious thing you ate all week? Baked salmon and fries from Texa…
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/14 03:48 AM
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If he wants help, he'll ask for it. That's the major thing you need to be thinking about. He probably wants to do this on his own and doesn't want help with it, especially since you're above him in a way. That can be really emasculating in and of itself for some (or many) men. Additionally, think about what /u/TheTerrorSquad said. Why do you want this so badly for him? Is it because you want him to be on par with you or because you just want him to be happy?
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/14 03:43 AM
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I don't usually wear push-ups, but that's because they don't typically make them in my size (because by the time you hit DD/DDD, a boost is entirely unnecessary). When I wear them, it's because my SO likes the way the bra makes my boobs look. I never wear one otherwise. Generally, single women shouldn't be wearing them (at least not the ones that boost way too much (+2 cup sizes)), in my opinion. It can seem like you're trying to advertise what you don't have, and it also can seem slutty from so…
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/14 03:22 AM
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Fleece leggings are wonderful as both an undergarment for warmth with pants or to go with a skirt while still looking cute.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/14 10:48 PM
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If your man likes it, then no worries. What would be a problem is if you continued to do things like this when he expresses dislike for it, or if you were a single woman looking for a valuable man, since those things would run off a good chunk of men right off the bat. Otherwise, you're good to go.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/14 03:09 PM
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If he becomes hardened and more angry over time, you're obviously doing something wrong. People don't just randomly change personalities for no reason.
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/14 11:27 PM
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This is awful. She's manipulating him rather than encouraging him to be better. There is a difference between the two, and it's clear she's using manipulation. This is not the way a RPW should do things.
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/14 11:06 PM
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It's a lesson I had to learn the hard way. I used to be so naive about my male friends until C brought me around to realizing what I was doing.
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/14 10:17 PM
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This. I do have male friends, but one of them is in a relationship, one is asexual, and the other is gay. I generally never hang out with any of them alone. If a challenger steps up wanting my friendship, my SO gets to pick whether he stays or goes, and if they start hitting on me, they're instantly cut. We have strict rules regarding opposite sex friendship, but I don't care as much about his (few) female friends, since they're generally SOs of his male friends.
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/14 05:44 PM
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I have very lazy friends. I don't harp on them about their laziness, however. Instead, I focus on my fitness and doing better for myself. I talk about my excitement for the campus gym reopening, and whether or not they agree with that excitement is up to them. They generally don't complain about me and my goal of fitness (except for one friend who tells me I don't need to lose weight, but she's not vicious about it). I feel similarly about their non-RPW attitudes. When they talk about things I d…
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/14 05:20 PM
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I'm a bit late to the party, but as bad as it is that you feel threatened (and I'm sorry that it happened to you), the rest of the lurkers or anyone who hasn't considered this being a possibility to happen to them should take this post as a warning that if you regularly post in RPW or other RP-centric subs, you should have an alt for other subs so that this kind of thing can't happen (and alts for other subs that get similar hate). If you post an unpopular opinion, someone will probably go throu…
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/14 05:07 PM
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Oh, I know some people look better with fat, but it's usually not an insane amount of weight (think 20+ pounds when considering twins). And it also depends on fat distribution as well. For instance, my fat (even if it's not even that high of an amount), isn't attractive because it's all in my gut. A woman who has the same amount of fat on her hips might look much better. That being said, personal preference wins over all, and I have my biases due to seeing plenty of women aging in my family and …
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/14 06:27 AM
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Thanks! :) It's great to be doing so well and not be falling too far off the wagon.
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/14 11:08 PM
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Fit Friday: I lifted weights (10 lbs, max reps) and did some squats this week (legs are still sore) A tortilla with cheese and sliced chicken (closest I can get on a college budget) I don't actually listen to music when I work out! See about increasing weights and upping the amount of squats I can do per day/every other day. Fat Friday: I didn't really indulge in any foods, but I did have soda twice this week. I don't have one, but if I was making something quick, it'd probably be cinnamon roll …
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/14 10:10 PM
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You're welcome! Lyrics can be hard to understand sometimes.
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/14 06:14 PM
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When you really look into the lyrics, it gets into the darker side of the party girl style, like those using it to get away from their problems instead of facing them. Party girls don't get hurt / Can't feel anything, when will I learn? / I push it down, push it down This line references the fact that she's using alcohol and partying to numb herself. I'm the one "for a good time call" / Phone's blowin' up, ringin' my doorbell / I feel the love, feel the love Obviously not real love. Again, using…
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/14 06:51 AM
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Really enjoyed this article. Strength training is certainly important and something I would have never considered until my SO brought it up. Now I can't do without it. An excellent tool.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/14 02:26 AM
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Congratulations, you've witnessed the fact that AWALT and that some men allow themselves to be ran over, regardless of how uncomfortable they are with a situation. However, is it really your business what she's doing? Your morals are not her morals, and it is generally not a good idea to try to convert others to TRP or even introduce the concepts of it without them bringing it up first because it can backfire. From the way you talk, you sound like you are trying to bully your friend into accepti…
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/14 01:43 AM
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He'll stand up for himself. Now, if she was directing this comment to you (like Phantom stated), there's a good reason for you to defend your SO. How did he react to the situation? That's what's important here. If it were my SO, I know he'd just laugh it off and make another similar statement. You seem to be making a mountain out of a molehill.
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/14 12:57 AM
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This was an amazing explanation, Phantom. I really couldn't explain it better if I tried to.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/14 12:03 AM
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Laughing at the request throws up a red flag in a practitioner. Please go see someone who is willing to tell you the strain.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/14 06:49 PM
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It depends on your SO's feelings about the situation, really. If those friends aren't toxic and your SO (future SO) doesn't mind you having them as friends, then you're good to go. I know I personally have two male friends (one asexual and one straight in an LTR) but I never hang out with them alone. It's always in groups (or in the case of the one in the LTR, with his girlfriend), which is something C is completely fine with, so long as no lines are crossed (which we have specific rules for bou…
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/14 06:45 PM
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I can see the differences in a few of these, and I can understand how a bit (keyword: bit, as in maybe a few pounds) of extra weight can cause a more youthful appearance, but overall, most of the sets of twins look almost equally bad, but the ones with harsher lifestyles most certainly look worse.
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/14 01:33 AM
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You're welcome! Having the experience is both a blessing and a curse, as I can use it to help others in the same situation. I hope you are doing well in understanding and coping with your anxiety. :)
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/14 09:58 PM
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Question: Do you have an anxiety disorder? Because you sound a lot like how I was early on in my relationship. You have to learn to let go of the insecurities (at least, don't drive yourself insane with them) and trust that your SO won't leave you for some random reason or another. If you are doing your best to be an amazing girl for him, he'll have less reason to leave, but if you're constantly driving him up the wall about it, you'll cause him to leave because he won't want to deal with the in…
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/14 08:11 PM
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I used to do many of the things on this list. It took me so long to realize what I was doing was bad. Regarding the issues dealing with male strangers and friends (no exes allowed), we have explicit boundaries set up regarding how to deal with them. If conversation gets flirty, they get a warning. If they persist despite the warning, they're cut off immediately. I find this strategy works well for us, but for others, a stricter zero contact rule may be better.
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/14 09:26 PM
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My SO farts and then proceeds to laugh the second I saw "ew" or "stinky." He's such a gassy man no matter what he eats, so I've learned to laugh at it rather than acting like it's disgusting. Now, I may leave the vicinity if it smells horrible, but I'm not going to get mad at him over it. You need to learn to have a little humor and not be so serious about something everyone does. Don't be so prissy.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/14 03:39 AM
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My SO does the same! It's taught me that you truly can choose how you react, so I choose to react with laughter and not get angry at him for having fun with things that would normally mildly annoy me.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/14 03:34 AM
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Look, you can't change him. Only he can change himself. All you can do is help yourself and do well for your children and hope that he comes around. You need to be kind and understanding. Many people can't just change their lifestyle on a whim, so you can't expect him to either. If he comes around, he comes around. If not, you can still try to keep your marriage together by being a kind, gentle wife regardless of what he's doing.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/14 08:16 PM
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This was really nice to listen to, regardless of the religious pieces. It's great to see this kind of thing on YouTube, too! The more public, the better.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/14 11:47 PM
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This was a little bit crazy to read. I hope it's satire and not legitimate just because that made me shudder.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/14 11:43 PM
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I'm going to say the obvious: you cannot help someone who doesn't want help. Very early on in my interest in this sub, I asked about helping a friend and was reminded of this fact. All you can do, really, is walk the walk and talk the talk and show her how much good it's doing you. She may or may not decide to try it out and see how it works for her. This is pretty much it. If you try to outright change her mind, I can almost guarantee backlash. If you want to try that method, you have to be rea…
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/14 10:04 PM
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It's pretty awesome to see some good self-training of behavior going on over there. All that being said, this really is great advice for any time you feel the need to fight over something. Just take a step back from the situation and look at what you're doing. Is it ridiculous? Probably yes, and you should stop it.
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/14 09:30 PM
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Congrats, Lifter! :3
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/14 08:20 PM
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The amount of sheer honesty in this makes it a great read! It's awesome to see things turn around like this. Battling the hypergamy is difficult but can be done. I've had my own share of "Wow, this dude is awesome, I wonder..." moments only to remember that I have an amazing SO and don't need an "upgrade." It's a conscious process, since it's easy to hamster away why person X is better than your SO and would be the preferable partner, even if your SO has done nothing wrong at all.
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/14 11:21 PM
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I'm sensing some butthurt at the fact you took a statement too literally.
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/14 12:19 AM
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My mom's goal for me was to become a lesbian because men are trouble, and she really stressed my education (money making, I don't know). My dad also definitely stresses my education, and I'm not sure how he feels about my relationship at all. The rest of the family is very much pro-career.
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/14 12:17 AM
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No, but you can learn to deal with it in a way that's constructive. It is very possible to move beyond a bad past and depression.
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/14 11:28 PM
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I remember the first time C got onto me about needing to shave my mustache. Such an embarrassing time. Now I make sure I shave often! No more fuzzy upper lip for me, especially since I have dark body hair.
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/14 11:27 PM
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Define "absolutely nothing" because you can ALWAYS work through your problems.
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/14 11:22 PM
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Yes, I literally mean that people are objects. Good job.
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/14 11:22 PM
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I would very happily become a SAHM if my SO and I ever have kids, but my family would likely exile and/or shoot me out of disappointment. They feel like my "talent" shouldn't be wasted when I could have a career and make so much money. It's not going to be fun if it ever comes up.
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/14 09:59 PM
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Definitely so! Damaged goods are damaged goods, and damaged goods are not going to look so pretty to men.
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/14 09:49 PM
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It definitely takes an extremely patient man to work with those kinds of circumstances. I should know, considering C is still with me despite my anxiety disorder and knowledge of my less than perfect childhood. It's also important that if those issues are present, you should try to work through them on your own as well, so that you're at least putting in the effort to not be kind of psycho because of your problems.
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/14 09:44 PM
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When I say excessively high, I mean like insane. I have no idea of the exact amount of sex they have. He probably has an "average" sex drive (I'm estimating probably 3-4x weekly) while hers may be elevated (daily or beyond). I know I have the higher libido than my SO, and he is by no means T-deficient (he is using Androgel because his numbers were slightly below average at one point), so it doesn't necessarily mean her husband has a strangely low sex drive. If they're both okay with their sex li…
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/14 04:05 AM
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Oh, okay! My apologies then.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/14 02:43 PM
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What I would tell my younger self: Don't date that guy you dated for 4+ years Get some real friends (preferably female) Don't flirt with all of those guys; most of them aren't worth the time Don't be so quick to lose your virginity (even if it won't be until you're 18), and don't let that boyfriend talk you into an open relationship If you still do that thing right above this one, don't try to make yourself feel better with a FWB Don't procrastinate on your homework so much; you'll be less stres…
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/14 09:08 PM
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I...I can't tell if this is a troll or just poorly worded, but I'll go for it anyway. Easy and fresh recipes: Anything iced, like a smoothie Ice pops (can make these any flavor you like) Fresh fruits and veggies (practically no prep involved in some) How to look cute without having to wear too much clothing or makeup /r/femalefashionadvice How to make it easier for my bf when he is cranky Don't be all up in his face. Bring him foods and drinks that he likes. If he tells you to do something, do i…
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/14 09:01 PM
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I smell a troll, aside from the fact this is entirely irrelevant to the sub. We don't focus on careers here. Move along.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/14 08:56 PM
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Some people just don't have excessively high libidos. I wouldn't take it to offense.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/14 03:57 AM
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Nope. Someone else entirely. About to hit the modmail with the username.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/14 02:45 AM
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I got one of those. Ignored it and moved along.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/14 02:05 AM
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My grandparents were 16 and 19 respectively. I don't know all of the details of their marriage from when they were younger, only what I got from my mom and aunts about when they were growing up. My grandparents were tough as nails, but you wouldn't have known that from looking at them in their last few years! They seemed like the sweetest couple and just never argued if they could help it (and if they did, the arguments were very minor). I agree that love and relationships are about effort. It d…
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/14 02:43 PM
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Whee. I see Gen Y (my generation) constantly just leaving relationships rather than trying. Ironically, I tried hard in most of my relationships (mostly out of sadness at the thought of being left alone) until there was just literally no point anymore. It never made sense to me why people would just abandon a relationship because of a job loss or because of one fight. You can bounce back from those things, but they'd rather ignore any potential pain. This generation is all about the pleasure and…
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/14 02:41 PM
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Superiority complexes bother me so much. sigh If you're "better" in one facet, it doesn't mean you're better in all and that your boyfriend/husband sucks because of it. But that logic apparently doesn't make sense.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/14 02:38 PM
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That's logic a lot of people my age and slightly older don't seem to understand. There's a concept of "working on a relationship." They like to think every good relationship they've ever seen (like, say, their grandparents') was just sugar and rainbows the entire time.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/14 12:49 AM
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That's why I always look at all of the positives of my relationship over banging anything with a pulse. Instant gratification is not always worth it.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/14 12:26 AM
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Some just get curious of what the other side is like (especially if they've never experienced it), and as we all know, curiosity kills.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/14 12:25 AM
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I've heard of it happening out of jealousy of friends' "fun" single lifestyles, but not just out of the blue because "I can," so that's extra crazy to me.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/14 11:56 PM
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This. Fetishes are fetishes, and so long as the fetish doesn't harm the relationship, they're perfectly fine and can be doable. It is hard to find a dominant who is purely submissive sexually, though, so it would likely have to be a pure role reversal to work. Having never been in that setup, I can't say for sure, though.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/14 11:51 PM
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Good for him for moving on and being happy (or at least seeming that way). Why do people just walk away from perfectly fine relationships like they'll find another good relationship ASAP? It's just pure insanity. I have no sympathy for her.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/14 11:48 PM
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This was a really sweet story and a great field report. Absolutely loved it!
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/14 05:26 PM
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I second this. I met my SO (of a year now) on OKC. It can be great when you know what you're looking for and are patient.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/14 09:30 PM
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An excellent post! I know the feeling, coming from the "smart girl" attitude about things, minus the fact that I'm in a more people-oriented major (psychology). Changing yourself like this and making sure you're doing well is a constant battle; you will slip up if you're not paying too much attention, and when you do, you need to be ready to correct it. All in all, great post!
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/14 09:27 PM
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Showing gratitude is fine, but it becomes annoying if you're constantly offering to pay, much like it can become annoying to constantly ask if something is done yet. If you're worried about it, you should talk about who's paying beforehand, that way there's no stress at the table about it.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/14 04:58 PM
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Whoa, overthinking, much? Anyway, if he's willingly continuing to pick up the check, it's fine for him to do it. Don't stress about thinking you may seem entitled by having him do this, especially since he wants to do it. It's okay to suggest occasionally that you would like to pay, split, or just do the tip, but don't make it a constant thing. It becomes annoying that way. In my relationship, my SO picks up the tab most of the time unless I say in advance "I want to treat you to dinner" or "I'l…
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/14 03:55 AM
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Agreed. Even if one's feelings are valid, they can still be pretty silly and irrational. Sometimes one needs to realize that to understand not everything is as awful as it seems.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/14 03:50 AM
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In my relationship, my SO allows me to vent, but he mostly just tunes it out or is more focused on something else (in other words, I'm blabbering to no-one) so that I'm able to talk until I feel better about it without him having to give input at all. If a solution is possible, he gives me a solution. Otherwise, he just silently listens until I'm ready to shut up and then says "Oh, aZombieKitten" in a non-serious way that tells me I was being silly, gives me a kiss, and then it's all done with.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/14 04:56 AM
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Ask yourself: why does he not want you to do those things with him? He probably has a reason for not choosing to engage in things he considers "kinky" with you. You need to figure out the reason why he doesn't want to first before you figure out a course of action. In my relationship, we're personally very open to exploring our fetishes together and engage in them frequently. It makes our sex lives better, but that's just us because we want to experience those things physically. Some like to sav…
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/14 04:39 AM
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INTJ or INFJ (depending on the day, as I usually get around 1% T or F). I'm not sure what my SO's type is. We've never discussed it really. Now I feel the need to ask. Added: So I checked with C, and back a while ago (read: years ago) he tested as ENFP. Neat.
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/14 03:51 AM
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They're mostly dumb teenagers. The one thing they demand is attention, so they'll use anything to get it, including mental illnesses (see: self-diagnosed autistics).
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/14 02:34 PM
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Tumblrinas making real PTSD and other anxiety issues seem trivial because of their overuse of the word "trigger" to mean "I'm mildly uncomfortable right now."
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/14 09:04 PM
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The extremist feminists aren't going to bother trying to believe it as it is. Sources won't change their minds because they'll try to find sources to refute it instead because their feels say the article is wrong anyway. Those less extreme will still find the information interesting and would be more willing to listen, possibly even do their own research. Again, I said it should definitely have more sources, but it's also no excuse for audience laziness.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/14 03:46 PM
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Both parties are lazy for different reasons, but I don't know why people insist on not bothering to do their own research, sources or no sources. Yes, the article could use more sources, but would it seriously hurt people to look on their own?
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/14 03:37 PM
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A lot of people refuse to read the sidebar, not just the men. It's an unfortunate thing. Most people just won't bother because they think they'd be better served asking a question.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/14 12:55 AM
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It is a bit scatterbrained and jumps around, but the information itself is good. I think it may have just been poor planning.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/14 12:29 AM
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I just think a general comment about cringing when men comment in this space is a bit much. Some of the guys may think a very simple question is alright to ask. It's ultimately up to the mods whether or not they allow the question.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/14 12:28 AM
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That still doesn't get rid of the fact people are capable of doing research on their own to decide if the journalist has a good point or not.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/14 12:01 AM
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Perhaps I am just biased in that I see people who just refuse to do research on their own as lazy.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/14 12:00 AM
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I don't really see a point in a culture in which we have to coddle people by providing them with all of the information. For scientific research, that's understandable because you need to see their data to see they're not pulling bullshit from thin air, and the same for general academia, but with journalism, it's very easy to research the issues at hand and make a decision on your own about what's right or wrong.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/14 11:29 PM
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Keep in mind this is not a female only space. Men are allowed to give their thoughts and input here, as it can be helpful to have the male perspective. We have male mods and men who regularly post/chat with the women (such as SH or RPS). Do you cringe when they comment as well?
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/14 11:22 PM
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Journalism's job is using found research to make a point, rarely citing sources for the all of information found (especially when there are multiple bits of statistics or something else involved) unless it was a personal interview. With journalism, it's generally up to the reader to do their own research and decide what's correct based on said research. I can't fault the article for presenting its information well just because it doesn't cite every little piece of information. Why is it that we'…
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/14 11:13 PM
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It still implies that if they're able to refute them, they're able to prove it wrong, which is a part of refute's definition, but based on what you're saying here, I'm guessing you're referring to its second definition, which is about the denial of a statement rather than proving it's opposite. Perhaps I just read it wrong, though.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/14 11:04 PM
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You're confusing "will be able" with "will try." Saying that they are able implies they're right.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/14 02:28 PM
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Neat info! That female plate-spinner, though. lol
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/14 09:12 PM
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Subscribed to TRP and AskTRP. I read, but I don't comment.
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/14 09:09 PM
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As far as some masculine interests go, it really depends on the type of guy you're trying to attract so long as you're mainly feminine with a little masculine, but the case of the guy friends? Usually a no-no. Platonic opposite-sex friendships are practically impossible, and some men don't like their women being so close to other guys. Some may not mind, but, again, that's going to be on an individual basis. Other things to keep in mind include your appearance. Do you dress femininely and have a…
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/14 02:44 AM
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You're welcome! I hope you get plenty of responses. I'm curious to see the info.
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/14 11:57 PM
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It's completely possible to work out at home, since some people don't like the gym atmosphere. I know I do most of my workouts in C's apartment or mine. Not to mention there are female-only sections in some gyms, which many women prefer unless they're doing more intense strength training (which OP's girl may well be doing), since they're usually cardio and low weights. I wouldn't be too concerned, but I'm also not OP.
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/14 11:17 PM
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Short and sweet with very inclusive options, so it was really nice.
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/14 11:12 PM
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I did it! :D
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/14 11:07 PM
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I do find this to be the reality, but the ones who act like that about trash-talking tend to be relatively new to the gaming world and are only playing to seem like one of the dudes rather than because they genuinely enjoy gaming. I feel the same way about women who whine about not having enough "positive" representation in video games and comics. Girls I've seen that are seriously into a game are terrifying and realistically masculine, who will take and dish out trash talk like nobody's busines…
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/14 03:14 PM
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I'm going to go with the obvious bit here that you can't expect him to change in just two months. That's not enough time for someone to feel safe enough to step into what feels like a new role to them. Has he improved at all? As in, do you feel the change is just too slow for you? You have to consider what you said two months ago about him being from an abusive home. It will take him a bit to trust that you're not going to go all crazy and try to take control. Some of the ladies here said it too…
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/14 03:06 PM
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My darling introduced me, so his behavior itself didn't change, but I sure did notice the RP tactics he was using on me now! It makes me laugh a bit when I recognize the negging or something of the like, and it still works despite my clear knowledge of what's going on. That's pretty fantastic for me. All that being said, our happiness level as a couple increased more than anything else. :) Much less conflict, and when it happens, we know how to resolve it quickly.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/14 10:55 PM
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Laziness is one of the reasons. Long hair evidently takes too much maintenance for them to want to bother with it, so they chop it all off for the sake of ease, cost, and efficiency. Although, the longer it gets, the better it appears to be naturally without a whole lot of maintenance aside from keeping it clean and conditioned, so I don't know why they think it's so difficult.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/14 04:25 PM
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Ursula used a spell to capture his interest, not just Ariel's voice, as he was clearly falling in love with Ariel despite her lack of voice. He didn't even need to hear her speak to fall in love with her. Once Ursula's seashell is smashed, the spell is broken, and Eric realizes the truth of what was going on.
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/14 05:34 AM
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I had a pixie at the start of my relationship. When it started growing out, C blatantly told me "I'm glad you don't look like a 12-year-old dyke anymore." It's now about to my shoulders and is a bit of a fluffy mess, but he prefers it this way because of the softness and pull-ability of it. I'd say pixies are a definite "do not" ever in a hair style. It takes a very special face shape to pull it off, and even then, it doesn't really make the face look "better" in any way.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/14 11:14 PM
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My great grandma is in her nineties and is in a nursing home. Her hair is still down to her butt and is braided, and it's still really pretty. I can't imagine her with short hair. Even if it's more efficient for elderly women, it looks better long; it's more youthful to have longer hair.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/14 11:11 PM
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Excellent! Yes, it's always important to be respectful of your SO's parents and their wishes, even if they don't perfectly align with your own. I think the only case where that may not work so well is if your SO is also extremely uncomfortable with their wishes, in which case, defer to your Captain. But it is indeed best to not strain relationships with your future in-laws if you can help it, that way everything runs much more smoothly for you as a unit. Straining your relationships with his par…
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/14 11:01 PM
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This is something I completely forgot about, the fact that Ursula was completely right about not needing her voice to get her man. It's always cool to see Disney sneaking some real truths into their films like this. I imagine a lot of people might see TRP like Ursula. They think it's some trap that might screw them (or a friend) over in the end, even if there's temporary benefit, and then they see it turned out to be great all along, even if it came from a place that seems to have bad intentions…
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/14 10:57 PM
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Not married, but it's on the table as an option once we're both finished with our education (don't want to dump debt on each other). When we met on OkCupid, I was 18 and he was 26. We're 19 and 27 respectively, with me turning 20 in a few months. In 3 weeks, we'll hit the one-year mark, and both of us are happy about making it this far (which is a bit small in the face of the lengths of time many of the women here have been with their SOs). We essentially interact like a married couple, and I've…
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/14 10:40 PM
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Thank you! I am tired of seeing TRP-bashing posts. You are allowed to feel negatively of posts, but don't treat the entire sub like it's awful. It's fine to disagree and you may not like the harsh tone, but it's important to understand why and be sensitive regarding the circumstances. Saying "OMG TRP is awful because X, Y, and Z" is not productive at all, especially since RPW comes from TRP. TRP and its other subs are not here to cater to your feels. They're here to help you improve yourself, ma…
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/14 05:44 AM
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You could have been on either side of things and been helpful. What's important is what the men you're trying to attract (or your SO, if you have one) think. Some guys may find it refreshing that their woman can help them out with projects around the house. Others may prefer she just do more feminine activities (like bringing snacks or cleaning) and be helpful that way. It's important to be mindful of their particular preferences. Your femininity may not be completely compromised by one or two m…
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/14 06:30 AM
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Well, that's just sad. sigh I'll check out that book, though.
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/14 05:20 PM
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My SO introduced me to TRP, so I would have to say yes. He knows I tend to stick to RPW, though, and so he doesn't really bring up much content from TRP in conversation. He definitely has the attitude for RedPill LTR down, and the fact that he does helps me keep in line with RPW better.
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/14 04:42 PM
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Well, that's ridiculous for them to do. It doesn't take that much to check the labor market out. Why give useless majors the same amount of funds as the rest?
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/14 04:38 PM
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Very true. I often find that if I'm in a bad mood, affection (often the more sexual kind) tends to calm me down faster than anything else. Of course, it's definitely because of those feel-good chemicals being released in your brain, but it's still awesome to know that something so simple can be the fix.
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/14 03:37 AM
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I agree that useless degrees should not be paid for; for state-funded education, it should be a requirement that whatever you're studying have actual value. What can you do with a Women's Studies degree? Nothing that a high school graduate can't do. All you get to do with that is have a "voice" in the feminist community, which is useless in and of itself. It's going to take quite the revolution and education to change things, though.
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/14 01:06 AM
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No-fault divorce certainly has a hand in the fact that divorce rates are higher. There's no denying that fact. I also recognize that the government doesn't need to be putting its nose into people's personal lives like that. I'm not completely blaming them, but I know the feminist ideology has a hand in the falling marriage rates. The problem is that they don't see what they're doing to marriage while sitting there complaining about the fact that nobody wants to marry them, so they're not helping…
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/14 11:28 PM
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Oh, I know the movement is crap, and I also know radfems personally. There are also the more minor issues that exist even in the more normal women, like denial of gender roles (refusing to cook, clean, etc. when the man doesn't want to do it either and preferring to divvy up household chores despite the fact that men also do extra things around the home) and refusal to accept having the man lead the relationship (arguing over who's right, lack of trust, etc.), that are getting in the way of happ…
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/14 11:23 PM
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So you don't think their bad attitudes, contributions to hookup culture, complete defiance of gender roles (for no good reason other than "I don't like doing dishes"), and blaming men for women's problems isn't contributing to marriage's decline? I recognize that the divorce system is very skewed, but it used to be less of an issue due to there being more stigma around divorce and the fact that women relied more on men for financial stability, among other things. If there were a lot more good wo…
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/14 10:00 PM
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They're not technically "winning" with this, though. They're screwing themselves over by messing up marriage so badly. It's their fault men don't want to marry, essentially. So long as enough of them exist (and push the ideas onto their children), there's going to be a problem. The stats don't look too good right now. (Not that I'm saying they're not losing on some things and that they do more than just bitch.)
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/14 09:44 PM
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Dealing with infidelity is something that varies from relationship to relationship. Some have rules that state if infidelity happens on either side, the relationship is over. Others have rules that state accidental infidelity is forgivable so long as it doesn't become a regular thing. Some are even in open marriages (would not recommend this). You need to discuss with your SO what you think should happen in the event that infidelity occurs within your relationship, that way the rules are set and…
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/14 07:36 PM
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It makes me really sad to see information like this. All of these feminists complaining about how no one will marry them yet continually ignoring what they can do to fix it because it goes against their dogma. At this rate, things aren't looking good for the next generation in regards to marriage (or even the next few generations).
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/14 07:31 PM
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You should make a public apology, making sure to let them know you are sorry that you went off on them like that, preferably verbal rather than written because it's more personal that way. It's important not to lose your cool when you're in a leadership position because people will quickly find you an incompetent leader if you can't handle changes, regardless of if they're at the last second or are for bull reasons. They will very quickly grow to dislike you, especially if you go off on them.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/14 07:22 PM
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If your SO finds you attractive, don't question it. That shows you don't respect his opinions and is a bad thing to do as a partner. Who cares if everyone else thinks your face is a 6 so long as your SO finds you attractive? You are dating him, not everyone else. You need to get your self-esteem boosted a bit. If you really want to improve your face, you can do so with makeup and even the way your hair looks can make your face look better (certain cuts go with certain face shapes and whatnot). B…
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/14 07:11 PM
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I really like this post. It's always important to note that we can control our own behavior, not the behavior of others. The less you argue with your partner, the less they'll argue with you. It's important for women, especially, to do this since we're often led by our emotions and will argue or yell over things that logic would say is irrelevant, even keeping the argument going for no reason because it takes us longer to cool down when we do get upset.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/14 01:26 AM
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This is so true. C is much more receptive towards me when I'm being softer and more feminine and also feels more of a need to protect me when it's very obvious I need it (i.e. when I'm very distressed). Being open about not being able to handle everything on my own is important, otherwise C will assume I can handle it, even if I can't. I need to let him know, in some way or another, that I need help.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/14 07:54 PM
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Great update! It's awesome to read about these successes. It's great that you're doing better now.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/14 07:31 PM
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That's because supporting your SO is key to his abilities as a leader. If you're not supportive, he may start becoming unsure of himself (second guessing decisions or even refusing to make decisions), and you may argue with him because you feel your ideas are better, ultimately getting nothing accomplished. A leader with no supporters cannot lead well.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/14 10:29 PM
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I really like this piece; it has some excellent info. It brings me back to just how many respect-based mistakes I made with former boyfriends and even with C before I found this place and started changing my behavior. This is a reminder to filter my thoughts well and make sure not to make those same mistakes.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/14 05:09 PM
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My SO enjoys being a leader and doesn't act as if it's any kind of burden on him to be making the big decisions. He's less burdened by the fact that I don't make it difficult for him to make these decisions because I support him. The way our system works is that he makes all the big decisions and then I make smaller ones, like what we're having to eat. Although I'm a very indecisive type, I understand that he wants to make sure I do make some decisions on my own rather than him taking control ov…
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/14 04:59 PM
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Those kinds of women honestly scare me on a deep level. Why not just politely say "No, thank you?" At least then you can refuse the help and not sound like you're insane while you do it.
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/14 07:54 PM
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So she's one of the actual pushover types? That's definitely a part of the problem. There's a difference between being submissive and actually letting yourself be run over so that you're not happy at all. She needs to up her self-esteem fast. Does she dress well? Work out? Having a body you like is the first step to having some self-esteem. Her girl game is going to have to be good. You're also right that she needs to assess whether or not she's compatible with him overall. Dating in your thirti…
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/14 09:37 PM
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Has she tried to encourage him to be more of a leader, to inspire him to do better? This is certainly a problem with her judgement. She's doing the typical female thing of waiting until her biological clock is going crazy before deciding she actually wants a kid (especially since now she has only 5 years before the risks drastically increase) and is just now figuring out that this current setup is not what she wants. It took 4 years to figure this out? Additionally, the onus shouldn't be on her …
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/14 07:36 PM
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It seems like what happened here was a case of neither of them being ready for marriage when they got married. She was unable to deal with her husband's changed personality (but never seems to want to figure out why his personality was different) and fell flat when it came to being properly supportive (like occasionally staying home with him when he didn't want to go out--I'm sure she made him feel like a loser for not wanting to go somewhere by leaving him at home alone). She doesn't realize th…
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/14 07:33 PM
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Have you tried eczema cream? It works very well for very stubborn dry skin. I use this cream. Not all eczema is rash-like, so it's not always diagnosed, since most people with the dry skin issue just assume it's very stubborn. I have eczema and have had my hands dry out randomly (which turned out to be a small eczema outbreak). I tried regular lotions and Vaseline, neither of which worked, so I decided I'd see if my eczema cream would cure the problem, and voila, turns out it was the eczema!
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/14 06:32 AM
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Entitlement is an ugly thing, and women seem to only notice how ugly it is if men act entitled. If women act entitled, it's because they truly deserve to it. How about just being polite and/or helpful towards anyone, not just women? But oh, wait, men don't deserve to be helped out with *anything (even if it's something small like holding the door open) because they're all a part of the evil patriarchy!* Also, she definitely could have just asked for help if she couldn't get her luggage up. I'm s…
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/14 06:22 AM
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They really look for things to be angry about, don't they? Gotta love those attitudes. It's especially not oppressive to tell a fat woman that she needs to lose weight. She needs to hear it, for her health's sake if nothing else. Being healthy while fat is very temporary. I love how they often chalk up their joint problems and whatnot to something other than having a massive amount of weight (note: fat, not muscle) on a frame that's not meant to support it. Lovely, really.
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/14 02:35 AM
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PORN'S SO SCARY! /s Really, though? Porn's a very normal thing for people to enjoy. Nothing wrong with that. The women in porn are "objectified" by choice. They know what they're doing. They're not being "oppressed" in any way. Porn is not evil. Also, poor man. :/
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/14 02:33 AM
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/u/FleetingWish, You've been an amazing part of the community, and it's painful to see one of our own have something like this happen. I hope that this was indeed caught early and hope that you'll be well. You're a strong woman, much like many of the ladies here, and you're in good hands with an SO like OP. Take care, dear. Sending positivity your way.
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/14 02:29 AM
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You should perhaps make some friends in the military, then. People you can talk to and enjoy the company of, that way you're not just being an internet hermit all the time. Making new friends is perfectly fine; your old friends won't hate you for it. Having guy friends tends to be a red flag (as most guys will not want their girl hanging out with other dudes or seeking validation from them), which is something you can fix. You should be able to surround yourself with other women, even if you hav…
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/14 02:02 AM
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So you have met him in person before, then? This isn't just one of those LDRs where "We're going to see each other eventually" but eventually never happens? Also, I still want to stress that you should have hobbies and interests that are your own, outside of the relationship. You still need to be able to do your own thing, and your man will appreciate having you be less clingy (a little clinging is fine, obviously), since you'll have other things to do besides attach yourself to him constantly. …
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/14 01:13 AM
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It is imperative that you have hobbies and interests. These kinds of things not only make you more interesting as a person, but they also keep you busy. Additionally, get some friends outside of the internet. I cannot stress this enough. I was an extremely boring person as a hermit. You will feel much better having friends you can hang out with, hug, and chat with face-to-face (not Skype). Even if you're an introvert, a little bit of personal interaction with people is helpful and helps you deve…
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/14 12:54 AM
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Excellent post. I have had friends openly say C must be a controlling man because of some of our rules without even talking to him until I explain why the rules are in place. Standing up for him (especially while he's not around) is one of the most important things I need to do as a girlfriend. If I were doing otherwise, it'd be disrespectful not only to him but to us as a unit.
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/14 12:43 AM
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Love this post, Temp! It is in fact the entire reason I often come to C with problems that I'm unsure of how to fix. I know he'll probably have a better solution than anything I can come up with, and it helps me be less neurotic about issues I can't fix.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/14 12:03 AM
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They're allowed to vent. There's a difference between venting occasionally (I have a problem that I can solve, but I want to talk about it to de-stress) and whining constantly (I have a problem that I refuse to solve and just want to complain because it's all I know how to do).
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/14 12:01 AM
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Being broke, I often find myself buying cute dresses from Walmart (which, yes, they do have some adorable ones from time to time), Target, or thrift shops. I frown if a dress is even $30, so a lot of preferable stores (JCP, Rue21, etc.) can go out the window if I don't have enough money. Occasionally, I'll splurge and get one about $40. My style: Casual: Skinny jeans or jean short-shorts (depending on the temperature) Cute graphic tee or blouse Strappy sandals, tennis shoes, flats, or heeled boo…
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/14 11:58 PM
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Since he'd rather have a list, it's fine to make a list of what needs to get done. What would be bad is if you were forcing a list on him if he didn't want one or are doing it to passive-aggressively nag (like putting up a list without mentioning you're doing it in a place where he can't ignore it so that he's forced to follow it, otherwise he'll get yelled at).
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/14 11:38 PM
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Being approachable is important for a woman looking for a relationship. Yes, if a woman looks very approachable, men with too low of SMV may approach (which, hey, helps them learn it's not scary to approach a pretty girl because the worst that can happen is rejection). Just because a woman is approachable doesn't automatically mean she'll go for any guy that approaches, though. Having an obviously pleasant resting expression and friendly attitude will also help with getting all of the right men …
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/14 04:15 PM
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If Psychological Statistics taught me nothing else, it's that you can have a 3C sample that works so long as it's large enough, randomly sampled, and is representative (a diverse sample of people that simulates the overall population you want to look at). It's quite possible that this sample was reliable, especially when compared to the information we often find online and what we experience in life.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/14 04:35 AM
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This is not a "poor you" scenario. A RPW should not whine about the poor circumstances but rather work to beat them. There are possibly multiple reasons why you aren't finding an LTR right now: One: Small dating pool. The smaller the dating pool, the harder it can be to find a person because of less variation. Also, couples tend to form quickly in small towns, so there are likely many established couples that shrinks your dating pool further. Two: You're being impatient. You want a relationship …
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/14 04:18 AM
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This is excellent and very true. C acknowledges he is my rock, and that's very important to me. He stresses that if I'm having issues, I need to come to him about them. He keeps my head on straight when I'm starting to let it go crazy over something that may be completely silly due to my worrywart nature.
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/14 05:24 AM
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Reminder posts are useful. Be mindful that these types of things may need more than one post to drive home the point, much like many of our other posts have very similar messages.
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/14 05:20 AM
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It's fantastic you've found something that works so that you can continue to do what you enjoy. This was lovely and inspiring to read.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/14 03:38 AM
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Because doing the dishes is so horribly difficult that she can't cook and clean up dishes. Most homes (and apartments) have dishwashers, so it doesn't even have to be a huge effort. I love how the comments are talking about giving him an ultimatum to do the dishes or he can cook for himself. Punishing him for not doing a small chore like the dishes? Childish and awful advice. I imagine there's quite a bit he does around the house, especially since she says the rest of the division of chores is "…
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/14 03:30 AM
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It is, which is why I don't advocate becoming FWB at all. Most plates might not be considered FWB. It would imply you hang out plenty outside of sexual contexts, which isn't something I hear happening often with plates. FWB really requires you to be on a friendship basis first. Plates don't necessarily have to be, so there are differences between the two. Also, it is a weird thing. Most single people (mostly guys) would prefer multiple FWBs for the assured lay. I can't explain why C chose to add…
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/14 07:49 PM
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It depends. Plate refers to the fact that a guy has more than one girl as a FWB (if he would even call them that) at the time. FWB is the individual relationship between two people. You are only a plate if he has more than one FWB relationship going on at the same time, otherwise you're just a regular FWB.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/14 07:27 PM
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The BP versions tend not to go for the exclusivity immediately, though. I also wouldn't imagine those to last long due to the fact the relationship started because the man begged for a relationship. It probably is common enough for FWB to evolve, but not to be a stable relationship. I feel my case was special because of the fact that I was lucky enough to both not trap myself into a pure FWB situation where my number increases with no actual relationship and to also have it be stable and lasting…
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/14 06:29 PM
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girl and guy become fwb. Girl starts seeing another guy, guy panics and begs for her, they become a couple. This sounds BP by the fact that the guy "begs" to have the girl for seeing another guy. If I had been FWB with another guy at the same time (provided we hadn't had the exclusivity clause), C would not have kept me for more than just sex, and maybe not even for that because many men don't want even their FWBs to be screwing other guys at the same time.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/14 06:09 PM
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I'm going to preface this by saying I do not recommend what I did to the single ladies in this sub because I was purely lucky. I met C on OKC, and we hit it off pretty quickly because C was sly and already knew how to grab my attention. A week or two of talking. Instead of going for "hey, I want to take you on a date" he went a route more of: "let's become FWB but exclusive." Alright. Easy enough. Set some rules for the exclusive non-relationship. Set up a weekend to spend at his place. The seco…
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/14 05:29 PM
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Welcome to being overly sensitive. It's a nightmare, but it's fixable and is something I'm working on. C reminds me that he understands that I just get too emotional sometimes and lets me talk out how awful I feel until I've calmed down enough to be rational again. Listening without directly calming me down is actually fairly effective.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/14 06:30 AM
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I do the basics of cooking and cleaning right now (the cooking mostly coming from watching Food Network and following), but I'm still working on the cooking aspect, as I need to learn about how to cook more foods and begin memorizing how to make them without needing a recipe. I'm planning to learn how to sew soon enough, both by hand and with a machine since I figure it would be a useful skill to have. I'll be learning that from one of my aunts who says I should have some gift with sewing since …
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/14 04:31 PM
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Love the point of this piece, Temp! Thanks for sharing. Being lovable is a skill. And if you don't work on that skill, you will be unlovable. Now, some people are naturally lovable but it's still an active effort to stay lovable; it's very easy to make yourself unlovable if you try to because you choose how you behave and present yourself to others, internally and externally. Make the choice to be a lovable person, and you will be hard pressed to have difficulties with finding or keeping a partn…
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/14 04:16 PM
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I'll be very honest, the few times that C and I have had fights (I wouldn't call them fights, though, since it's not mutual; more like I've disappointed him because I refuse to argue out of respect for him), I've gotten very emotional, usually on the verge of an actual panic attack. No matter how logical I am, it all goes out the window if I know he's mad at me; it really upsets me to know I've messed up so badly that he's legitimately angry with me. Recently, I've discovered working out (especi…
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/14 04:04 PM
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The ladies have really hit a lot of the other points spot on, but I wanted to touch on this: I've seen several posts mentioning how important it is for a woman to have grown up with a father figure (preferably one who maintained his traditional gender role). That's something I missed out on and I can't really change it now - is that a big problem?. It's one of those things that's considered a red flag, but it doesn't automatically disqualify you from being capable of being a RPW. You have to kno…
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/14 03:47 PM
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Oh darn. I had this really nice reply all typed out, and then the comment was deleted before I could submit it. At least you got the chance! ;)
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/14 06:19 PM
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Hookups are irrelevant. You just need to look hot for hookups to happen. You could have the worst personality and still get laid as a woman. Also, your specific friends may not be as feminist as they claim to be. Many young feminists are very masculine in behavior (and often strive to also be so in appearance) all while still wanting a masculine man. A masculine woman and masculine man will typically clash, thus feminists' problem. Feminine feminists are very rare and are arguably not feminists …
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/14 05:35 PM
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C has total say over whether or not I have male friends. The two I have are in LTRs, and I would drop them in a heartbeat if C told me I wasn't allowed to talk to them anymore. If he's uncomfortable with them, they're out. And the rule of thumb is that I never hang out with them alone. The same can go for female friends he finds toxic. He gets the final say, whether he's hanging out with them or not.
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/14 11:24 PM
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Definitely not encouragable. Lying like that is a bad foundation to a relationship. Even if you did have a wild past, it's better to be upfront and honest about it. Lying will cause the truth to come out later, and he'll begin to wonder what else you're lying about if you lied about sexual partners. Most men are probably going to doubt the number they're told, anyhow, especially if it's a low one due to today's sexual culture, so why lie about having a low count?
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/14 03:59 PM
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Don't tell them that. They don't want the easy way! Gotta make everything difficult.
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/14 11:11 PM
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Bisexuality can be used to cope for the lack of attention. It wouldn't surprise me that she's trying another street since her preference isn't working out. Sexuality is fluid enough to allow a use like that. Pretending to be fully lesbian, though? Dumb. Just call yourself bi.
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/14 11:11 PM
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It really depends on where you're from. I came from a small town where everyone was very close, where high school sweethearts would get married and be happy being married so young. Then I moved to larger towns/small cities and found life, and women's attitudes, to be very different. Not many small town girls were feminists, but I found very rabid feminists and women with tiny hearts everywhere in the cities. I would see relationships end at the drop of a dime, almost always on the woman's part.
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/14 06:21 PM
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Feminists: forever surprised and angry that men don't want to marry them because of their masculine attitudes and behavior. This article has it right.
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/14 06:15 PM
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Mine? No. But many women are very prone to conditionally loving. I've seen it happen, even with small changes. You see this happen with women who just abandon their men for losing a job because it means they won't have the same lifestyle; they're so turned off by that idea that they seem to fall out of love almost immediately and just go. It can be a really sad thing to watch.
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/14 05:50 PM
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Empathy? Yes, we are capable of being empathetic, being the more emotional sex. But we can very often be absorbed in our own feelings as well, just choosing to ignore others' feelings because we may feel our emotions are more important. You see this often with women feeling that their lack of desire for sex outweighs their man'a desire for sex just because it's their personal feelings on the issue. Love? For women, love is very conditional whereas men tend to love more unconditionally when they …
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/14 05:11 AM
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I know C likes to enjoy the visual of a good-looking lady as much as the next guy, and it doesn't bother me. Why? I know that, in the end, he's still mine. He looks because it's the natural thing to do. The best thing you can do is recognize this will happen and just relax. Beautiful women are always going to catch a man's eye. It doesn't mean he's going to cheat on you with said beautiful lady. Work on your self-esteem, and find out what he likes about these women so that you can see if he'd li…
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/14 04:55 PM
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His original question was about mommy blogs that could help his wife be better at managing her time, though. It's still a valid question to bring to our sub, whether it turned into a discussion of what his wife should be doing or not. The context is important.
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/14 04:47 PM
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I think context is important. A question about mommy blogs (like the most recent one) is a perfectly valid question to bring to our sub. Questions about changing their woman's behavior, however, aren't the best for this sub.
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/14 05:16 AM
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An important thing to remember: you can't force anyone to do anything; you can only influence them. Your behavior in taking your more natural role should work to get her to take her natural role. You can lead her to water, but it's up to her if she wants to drink or not, in the end. That being said, my boyfriend introduced me to TRP just by linking me to a post that discussed TRP's core tenets. He told me to read it and tell him what I thought. I read and absorbed, told him I found it interestin…
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/14 06:02 PM
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This just made me sick reading it. I couldn't imagine doing something like that to C. It's just horrible on so many levels. I agree with some of the commenters in that I imagine she's the type to screech at him about enjoying porn or will act surprised if he cheats just to get sex, assuming he's capable of doing it.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/14 11:30 PM
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Perfect example. Also a sad reality, because I see this kind of thing happen often enough from trying to steal shopping carts while someone's in the bathroom to another woman's partner the second she's not immediately at his side (and sometimes while she is).
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/14 09:19 PM
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Ah. Lovely when The Onion actually makes sense.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/14 08:44 PM
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It's great that you've improved and also had a great time. I hope this continues for you and that others get the message that deferring to your SO really isn't going to hurt you.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/14 12:39 AM
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Currently, we're child-free. Marriage isn't even on the table for at least a couple more years or so, and children are something we've discussed but haven't expressed a true want for right now. Perhaps our minds will change by the time we're married, but for now, we're very much child free and plan to stay that way.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/14 06:27 PM
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The only times I ever say no are when I'm too sore from too much sex or when I'm absolutely too sick (which is very rare). Otherwise, it's always a yes, partially because I have a large drive, and primarily because I want him to be satisfied. Don't leave him in the dust. The reasons you listed are all reasons to definitely have sex rather than to avoid it. Sex is an emotional release and relaxant almost unlike any other. It will soothe any sore feelings you have towards your SO, especially while…
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/14 06:38 AM
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What I mean is that it's more relevant for relationships. STEM (or logical-mathematical) intelligence is more of what we consider "typical" intelligence, which doesn't always work out well for relationships (at the very least it isn't an immediate attractant), but a balance is certainly important overall.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/14 06:33 AM
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Sounds like you had a lovely time despite the other ladies really dragging on their bad behavior. It's grand that you were able to have so much fun with your husband and the other men in his family and that your daughter got to enjoy a bit of the camping fun as well. All goes to show that you can only really have fun if you try to. I imagine the other ladies were primarily miserable up until that last day when they finally decided to join in on the fun.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/14 03:23 AM
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I did the things you did when I was younger. Here's what I've done recently (even when I had relationships that ended mutually and without hate): Block / Delete contact information (I regret to say these were delayed until C told me to cut contact because he felt weird about me talking to exes) Have a day to myself to cool down from my upset feelings Leave them in the past (don't check any profiles you have access to, don't ask anyone about how they're doing (or ask them directly, even if you ge…
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/14 02:58 AM
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There are some antifeminist, anti-SJW tumblrs if you look around hard enough (but they mainly just speak about how poor these movements are). You might also be able to find some on femininity (but they may still be tied to feminism) as well as things like foodie blogs. Just search the tags! I have an anti-feminist, anti-SJW, RPW tumblr, but I haven't gotten to adding RP content (such as things we find here with analyses). But WordPress is the favored RP blogosphere, so if you want to find conten…
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/14 02:43 AM
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Some points I took issue with that weren't already mentioned: 9 - Get an education and make use of it. Women all too often hide their intelligence which is truly the greatest waste of ability in the world. Excuse me? I don't know that many women who try to hide the fact they're smart in this day and age. And besides, which intelligence is relevant, because there are different types. Emotional intelligence, for instance, is often more important as a woman than is an intelligence focused on STEM (…
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/14 02:38 AM
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All good reasons. :3 Now if only more women would look at this list and appreciate how great sex is for both themselves and for their partner. Just look at how healthy you can keep your man just by having sex often!
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/14 04:27 PM
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We both enjoy video games, but we enjoy different types of games. We also both enjoy watching similar types of movies (often horror films) and anime together. Most everything else is separate, however.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/14 09:44 PM
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Well, I hope you both do well with self-improvement. :)
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/14 06:44 PM
2

I'm working on weight loss. Need to lose about 13-18 more pounds (depending on how I look after the 13). Right now, I'm stuck at a plateau and need to find a way to break through it. C's been so understanding about the light fluctuations in weight and the fact I'm stuck, so I really want to break through this for him. I also should probably stop cursing so much, so that's something I'll need to actively work on. Swearing is certainly not cute.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/14 12:17 AM
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C does this to me, but only because I'm the picky one between us, and he's generally game for anything (or will just eat anything). I'll usually ask for him to narrow it down and then pick the specific restaurant instead. It helps with my personal decision making process, since I'm extremely indecisive. I wouldn't sweat it when he does this. It's alright for a man to want to treat his lady to her favorite place (or a place she just generally wants to go) occasionally.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/14 12:15 AM
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Depends on the person. Some people will respect you just for being a good person. Some people will respect you for being talented. Some need a very specific reason to respect you. But many women seem to prefer being loved to being respected because you can be hated while still being respected (i.e. being a dick but being very talented at something). So you should focus on making yourself lovable. Women are loved. Men are respected.
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/14 07:24 PM
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You must earn it in order to deserve it, that's the point. You just don't automatically deserve it for existing.
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/14 07:05 PM
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Quick reminder that this is not a pro-feminist space, because you seem to be treading close to that line.
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/14 06:38 PM
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Respect is definitely earned. If you were a rude, selfish person, would you still deserve respect? No. Thinking you automatically deserve respect shows entitlement issues.
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/14 06:32 PM
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Those last two make me laugh. So beautiful.
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/14 05:46 PM
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Quick comment: I don't see how it was "entirely a joke" when you also complain about the lacking femininity in the current generation. It makes it sound more serious than you say it is.
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/14 09:20 PM
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It shows you clearly don't hold women to a very high standard as well.
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/14 09:07 PM
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Even if you're joking, that's a pretty sad thing if just this little bit of femininity would make you want to marry a woman on the spot.
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/14 08:57 PM
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Drat. And this time I thought I really had it. :c
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/14 08:31 PM
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Oops. I guess I accidentally logic'd. Better go stop doing that immediately.
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/14 08:27 PM
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That's awesome! :) It also serves as a great reminder that femininity is such a positive thing for beginning and keeping relationships that women are ignoring in favor of being masculine, something that rarely helps out women in a similar manner.
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/14 08:21 PM
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There's the fact that every time we go out somewhere, he always insists on holding my hand and letting me give him little kisses, even if it's just to the store. He's also very affectionate while we're at his parents with plenty of kisses and a frequency to use me as a soft spot to lean against/lay his head on. It's all very sweet. :3 He definitely shows affection through touch.
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/14 05:17 PM
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Wow, he sounds like he was glaringly insecure. But at least you know a type of behavior to screen for now (meaning really poor attempts at negging that are more like real insults/generally rude behavior).
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/14 04:47 PM
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What's your ideal as a couple? That's what's important. Personal answer: For me, I'd prefer every day, possibly multiple times a day (if my body could keep up). I'm not sure what C's individual preference for frequency is, but we usually do 4-5 days a week, sometimes multiple times a day, sometimes one really long session. There are sometimes short lulls because one or both of us are too sore to do it more often. BJs pretty much daily, even if not to completion (which C doesn't always want them …
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/14 04:35 PM
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Every time.
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/14 10:34 PM
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Congrats! That's an awesome thing for him and it's great to be proud of your darling's accomplishments.
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/14 10:26 PM
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Congratulations, you've met some crazy types. That doesn't mean they're RP. And rapists certainly are not RP. I don't think they even know what misogyny is sometimes, though. Some of the things mentioned are hardly "misogynistic."
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/14 10:23 PM
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I think it depends primarily on your SO's opinion, if you're taken. I know I wear them because C doesn't mind, I don't have enough skirts and dresses to make up for it, and also understands that it's too hot for much else. If you're single, you should dress more tastefully and according to the kind of man you'd like to get. Short shorts are only doable if you don't have much else in these kinds of situations, especially if you're going to be out in the heat. But the buttcheeks? Definitely should…
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/14 10:19 PM
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It's great to see FRs like this. Improvement in your behavior leads to a happier relationship. Glad you're doing well with it. :) Keep it up!
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/14 07:45 PM
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You are having a seriously negative attitude here. Why is that?
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/14 07:43 PM
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I feel like that's satire, but I can't tell. The reality is way too close.
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/14 03:41 PM
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Why do you worry so much about how people will judge you for not having a boyfriend yet? Just be honest about the fact you haven't been able to find anyone who's as serious about relationships as you are, since that seems to be the only thing you really mentioned. Also, as it's been said before, go for older guys, not ones your age. You'll have better luck of dating vs hookup, since they'll be more ready to be serious about a relationship. I can confirm this, being 19 and dating a 27-year-old. M…
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/14 02:34 PM
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Perhaps, then, this is one of those issues that can be fixed with time so that you get used to this current body shape and recognize that you're still you, just with a slightly less slim figure than before. Your health and your H's attraction to you should certainly be your main concerns, and so long as you're not violating one of those concerns, you'll be alright. :)
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/14 02:07 PM
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He calls me "Bub Bub" (I'm fairly certain he got it from this, so you can imagine what that nickname means), and I call him "Pap Pap" (he kind of came up with that one, so I need to find something of my own) or just simply "boyfriend."
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/14 03:29 AM
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Being the best you can be is a constant battle. There is no winning, no arrival. You need to go at your faults daily, as they'll crop up when you least expect them, especially if you begin getting complacent. Slip ups happen, and it's important to focus on fixing them and being the best you rather than being sad because you haven't reached your best yet. You need to strive to be the best and keep being the best, not be the best and then assume you're done. And remember, constructive criticism is…
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/14 03:06 AM
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I'm assuming you're a guy, so /r/asktrp may be of more help to you. I imagine they'll be quick to tell you to next her based on the behavior you've presented her as having so early on in your relationship. Some will give you advice in how to deal with this shit with proper frame better than we can. Quick Response to your tl;dr: Awkward silences happen. When my boyfriend and I talk on the phone if I'm away, we get them, too. Lulls in conversation happen sometimes. It's nothing to lose your shit o…
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/14 02:54 AM
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It's really as simple as this. Just talk to him about your feelings about your body. Frankenoodle, if you're having body image issues despite the fact your H likes your body the way it is currently, you should also ask yourself whether or not those issues really run so deeply and if the bit of softness is really that problematic to you. If so, ask yourself why because it's obviously not the fact that your H is disinterested in your current body shape. Are you concerned about what other people be…
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/14 02:37 AM
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This weekend I'm staying with some friends so C can focus for his final on Monday. We have no plans for the Fourth, either. I don't think he wants to go out, and that's beyond fine with me as someone not big on celebrations.
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/14 12:06 AM
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We don't usually advise approaching a guy, but in your case, it probably wouldn't hurt to just chat with him about camera stuff. If you guys hit it off, then great! But long distance relationships are difficult, so he may not go a romantic route with you. You can even go the indirect route (may be better) and post about the camera and see if he comments or inboxes you about it. If so, you've successfully gotten him to approach instead, which is probably a better strategy. If he doesn't, then you…
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/14 11:54 PM
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That was one of the most beautiful things I've ever read. She seems to be doing a fine job. :3
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/14 06:13 PM
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I wouldn't say it's a harder job. Arguing over who's job is harder makes it a tit for tat situation. Both sides should be appreciated, no matter who is working harder.
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/14 11:43 PM
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Agreeing that these are super cute. Much more style to them. :3
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/14 11:36 PM
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It's good to see girls of the current generation still fighting for girls to be classier with the way they dress, especially ones that are essentially still celebrities like Bindi. Gives me a little bit of hope.
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/14 11:34 PM
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I was once that purely apathetic type who didn't have interests in much of anything (especially not of importance). It took time for me to figure out that having interests and learning new skills are important in life. Now I'm trying to work on the skills especially, since it's difficult to force myself to be interested in something. But yes, this is definitely what's wrong with people today. We have "no reason" to have some interests outside of the internet and learn skills like sewing or cooki…
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/14 11:11 PM
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I'm aware of why it usually happens, but it's still abnormal to go back to a source of pain so easily. I was also asking why she, in particular, went back anyway despite knowing he was abusive. She may have had a specific reason. Either way, it shows poor judgment skills on her part because people usually don't become abusive for no apparent reason. There were likely warning signs of his potential to be this way that she missed or simply wrote off as not being serious enough because of being bli…
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/14 08:22 AM
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Neat! Added this to my Chrome. :3
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/14 07:36 AM
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I really enjoyed this. I also noticed it seemed like tumblr users are in the comments and are trying to be snarky. People who get attitudes are so lovely, yes? :p
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/14 04:41 AM
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Another question, but why did you get back with him despite him being abusive and being arrested for domestic violence? That does sound like a weird thing to do if you were in an abusive relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/14 01:40 AM
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I'm sorry your ex was genuinely abusive. I imagine you've moved beyond that. The single mother life does scare off plenty of men, especially ones closer to your age because they are not willing to settle down. You will probably need to lower any "extreme" preferences, though, as your dating pool will be much smaller. Finding a more RP man as a single mother is very difficult, but you can always try to help a man become more RP by being a proper RPW. Also, as a girl, having a good male role model…
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/14 01:17 AM
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My question for you is: what happened to your children's father that made you a single mother? The reason will have an impact. You'll possibly have more luck with older men who are willing to settle down and like children, but it will be more difficult overall, as many men would not want to raise another man's child. Your children will need to be very well-behaved for a man to be willing to work with you having them; children with attitude problems drive men off very quickly. Also, no man necess…
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/14 12:29 AM
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You're welcome. :3 Opportunity arose when I saw this thread.
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/14 12:16 AM
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Definitely look for cute dresses like that have a smaller waist, like this (except perhaps a little longer, if you'd like). Also, if you can get a cute belt to go around your waist, it can be easier to modify any dress you like so that it fits your shape better than it might have before.
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/14 12:14 AM
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Had the big flair previously from months of posting but now I have nothing since, well, yesterday. Would love to have it back, but there's no rush. :3
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/14 12:02 AM
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Are you losing respect for your husband? Does your reverse dynamic seem to work without major problems? Does it bother you that you're the breadwinner? How much of the housework does he do? It's not the typical RP situation, but there are some things that can be done to make it a little more RP or at least help out with the marriage: You can still be a breadwinning wife and not necessarily lose respect for your husband provided he steps up his game as a leader and a man. He still likely needs to…
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/14 05:22 AM
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I stay motivated for two reasons: My SO deserves the best version of me he can possibly have, so that means I do my best to look good for him day in and day out. I don't want to have to hate what I see in the mirror or be disappointed in myself when I know I can fix whatever problems I feel I have, and if they're fixed, then I have nothing to complain about. Feminine beauty is rather easily changed, for the most part. Effort to keep yourself looking good is very much worth it.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/14 03:23 AM
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