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| 5 | How to tell if a man is a leader or a dictator?Being a leader doesn't mean "being in charge", you become a leader when you are able to inspire people to follow you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/23 05:44 PM |
| 1 | How do you guide your man?I personally don't have a lot of faith in counseling, but then again I've never used it. The reason I'm sceptical though is because in order for counseling to work, it would have to improve the relationship without counseling. Ultimately when you go home at the end of the day it's just the two of you and you still have to work through your shit. In the situation where you're not getting gifts from your bf, that by itself wouldn't be a reason to terminate a relationship for me. If he is showing l… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/12/22 08:20 PM |
| 13 | How do I find out what makes him crazy?Ask him. After sexy time is the perfect time to get feedback for future sexy time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/09/22 06:21 AM |
| 1 | What do you think of men with tattoos?Eh depends. At best they are a net neutral, more likely they are net negative. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/09/22 10:24 PM |
| 11 | How does this all work in an extremely liberal culture where no one gets married?Marriage is not part of the red pill. The red pill is a guide to how to interact with men for positive relationships with them, that's it. I am not married and my partner doesn't want marriage, but we've been in a happy, fulfilling relationship for the past 10 years. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/09/22 04:40 PM |
| 9 | I drew my line in the sand about my fertility with my husband.Mods, give this lady a star. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/09/22 03:31 PM |
| 2 | Sharing your husband with other womenI'm in a relationship like this, feel free to pm me questions. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/08/22 03:00 PM |
| 3 | You Can't Comply Your Way out of Censorship -- Whisper Has Been BannedHe appeared on a couple episodes of realjoedee's podcast. | /r/TheRedPill | 29/05/22 08:16 PM |
| 2 | Good pie crust recipe?What is apple cream pie? That sounds delicious, never heard of it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/05/22 07:42 PM |
| 3 | You have his love, you have his commitment, but do you have his devotion? - More lessons from my grandmother.I think we're talking about different things, you're talking about a more idealized version of marriage (where devotion is high) and I'm talking about how marriage currently exists in our society. As for alternatives to raising children I can think of a few off the top of my head: Community parenting (the whole community takes care of all the communities kids) Generational parenting (the parents of the parents are the primary caretaker) Separated parenting (raising kids separately after divorce)… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/05/22 06:30 PM |
| 4 | You have his love, you have his commitment, but do you have his devotion? - More lessons from my grandmother.I think it depends on what your goals are for the relationship. I think that when the notion of marriage was created the intent was for the support of children. Is it the only method of supporting children? Perhaps not, but it's a tradition built for that purpose. I'm not sure I would say I'm necessarily anti-marriage in principle, but I think that it may not be the only way of doing things. When there's kids involved it certainly it certainly makes it more complicated. But I would say that marr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/05/22 05:07 PM |
| 27 | how do I make it known that I'm dating to marry and I'm looking for a serious relationship without coming off as desperate ?You make someone serious about you by being someone they want to have a long term relationship with. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/05/22 02:07 PM |
| 5 | You have his love, you have his commitment, but do you have his devotion? - More lessons from my grandmother.Thank you for this. You've finally given the me the language to talk about my relationship that I've been lacking. We're not married and so everyday we have to make the decision to be together and our relationship is built on 10 years of everyday saying "yes.” Doing anything else is unthinkable. We're not committed (at least not in any traditional sense) but we are extremely devoted to one another. +1 | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/05/22 01:48 PM |
| 3 | How can I get better at letting him lead?Common sense = stuff that seems natural/ important to me. If you're waiting for the stuff that is natural / important to you to be the same as what's natural / important to him then you will never have him as a leader. Having a leader means trusting someone especially when they do things differently than you. If you only trust someone when they do things the same as you would do them, then you don't need someone to lead you there, do you? | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/03/22 02:47 PM |
| 6 | When I wake up, I find my husband is sleeping on the sofaHow do you know? Let's just say that lack of sleep, causes high cortisol, causes gut biome issues, causes being unable to eat most things without feeling sick or throwing up, causes low energy and feeling sick all the time that makes it even harder to sleep. Then even when you finally figure out what's wrong it takes a years of treating sleep with importance to and lots of medication to reverse the damage. Why? Because one of us has to take sleep seriously, and is trying to train good sleep habi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/03/22 09:15 PM |
| 12 | When I wake up, I find my husband is sleeping on the sofaHe can't sleep. I understand that you want to sleep with him, but that doesn't matter, he needs to be able to sleep. His health is much more important than that. Going without sleep long term can make you very sick, ask me how I know. You can try the tricks other people mentioned, but when you end up finding him still going the couch, maybe then you'll realize he can't sleep with you in the room. Get him his own bed and his own room. My SO and I have been together for 10 years and have never sha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/03/22 03:34 PM |
| 9 | How can I become more nurturing/ work better with children?Of course they find you boring. They're kids, and boys on top of that. They'd rather be doing pretty much anything else instead of sitting still in a classroom learning things they don't care about. If you want to engage them above what a teacher normally gets, then you have to reject the classroom model and ask yourself how do kids learn, and what are they interested in? Most of the time boys want to be outside doing things, so if you want to teach them in a way that resonates with them find a … | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/03/22 09:51 PM |
| 4 | Valentine’s Day dinner ideas??The humble pasta dish can be easily be elevated with fancier ingredients. Bechimel cream sauce, with shitake mushrooms and shrimp, serve with a some bread and some home mixed butter and you have yourself a fancy and really easy to execute meal. And that's just one of sooo many things you can do with pasta. Crab mac and cheese is one of the courses on our home made Valentine's day menu. Taking a simple dish for kids and making it fine-dining just by adding crab and using different cheeses. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/02/22 07:18 AM |
| 12 | How to stop bickering in relationship?Have you read The Beginner's Guide to Ending Arguments? | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/02/22 07:09 AM |
| -8 | How to get him back?Not sure we're getting the whole story here. But assuming we are, he's seeing you (any relationship?) as more of a burden than an asset. It may not be that you're high maintenance per say, but the maintenance you do requre is more than he feels like he can handle (he may even be putting it on himself, what he wants to give rather than what your needs actually are). Or you may be high maintenance, I have no way of knowing. The best way I see to change his mind is to go to completely 0% maintenanc… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/02/22 08:55 AM |
| 4 | Splitting bills when he makes significantly more?Our financial situations are completely different in that I receive a monthly allowance from my parents, who are relatively well off, while he has accumulated a significant amount of wealth, but comes from a less fortunate background. I'm going to propose an alternate interpretation here. You come from money, he does not. This may just come from that. When you come from a less than secure financial upbringing, what often happens is that it's very hard to feel financially secure. The feeling that… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/01/22 07:55 PM |
| 9 | Hi, if you’re a woman who is not attracted to men don’t immediately get turned off by this sub!Anyone is welcome to read and apply the advice. Just as long as your cool with the fact that this is not a sub for picking up women (most of us have no idea how) you can take whatever you want from here. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/22 07:05 AM |
| 10 | I am a plateIf a man is in the 3rd category then that means that he is potentially interested in a relationship, but that could be with one of his plates or with none of them, and with someone different entirely that he hasn't met yet. When you talk about romantic dates, cooking for you, having sex etc... That tells me that this man is vetting you for long term potential. But I'm not sure what to make of this. He has pitted me against another one of his women I think there's two possibilities here. The 1st … | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/12/21 04:40 PM |
| 2 | Do you have a redpill role model that you draw inspiration fromYoung Rebecca from This Is Us. She stands by and supports her husband no matter what, and she doesn't do it from a point of weakness, she does it with a lot of courage and strong conviction. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/12/21 11:49 PM |
| 2 | How do I peel myself off the wall?Oleplex-3 for damaged hair. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/21 06:09 AM |
| 11 | How do I peel myself off the wall?I'm not a skin expert, but you can try /r/skincareaddiction and /r/asianbeauty for lots of info. The go to for skin repair is retinoids. You can also try krave's "great barrier relief". You may want to consult a dermatologist, or if all else fails, a plastic surgeon. As for the weight: intermittent fasting, and cut out sugar from your diet. And for your hair: hard to say without more details. Sounds like it's either thin or damaged. But I don't know what to suggest without knowing what's going o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/10/21 08:14 AM |
| 9 | What is he thinking? Is this selfish?The problem with "you were right to leave your job, and he was wrong to suggest you should stay," is it's not actual advice. Sure, it might feel good to find you were on the "right" side of an argument (whatever that might mean), but ultimately it doesn't examine the problem that a relationship is made of two people. Being "right", even if you are, doesn't make it seem that way the person who was disagreeing with you. It doesn't tell you anything about how to proceed in the relationship to make … | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/09/21 05:57 PM |
| 30 | How to STFU when I know I'm right?No no no. STFU is not code for "don't ever tell your man anything". It is only for people who first impulse is to bite whenever they open their mouths. It is to keep you from saying things that are venomous in the heat of anger. It's a trick to bite your tongue for a moment until you can reform things in your mind calmly. That's it. It is okay to tell him how you are feeling. It is okay to bring him your problems. It is okay to tell him when he's doing something wrong. It is okay to tell him you… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/09/21 03:10 PM |
| 19 | What is he thinking? Is this selfish?So you quit, regardless of the fact of he said no? I think this shows a much larger problem in your relationship. You're not on the same side working together for a common goal. You're adversaries. I got past the 1st sentance, where you say he's a feminist and your not, and I wondered how he became your husband in the 1st place. Your relationship is not RP and it goes a lot deeper than this instance, it's fundementally flawed in that he is not the leader and he won't be because he's a feminist. … | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/09/21 02:58 PM |
| 10 | Am I actually RP?RPW is a way of relating to men and what we do for men to maintain our relationships with them. Since everything you mentioned here was done for you, I have no idea whether you're RP or not. Though I do feel compelled to remind you that your relationship has two people in it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/21 04:17 AM |
| 9 | New here! Truely have a question so please don't jump down my throat if I phrase something incorrectly or used the wrong flair. Are ugly women allowed to be RPW?From what I have read, the most important thing in the philosophy is your outward physical appearance. Have you read anything here, like at all? That's literally the opposite of what we teach. Looks matter, it would be a lie to say they didn't. But all that does is gives you more opportunities. Girl game (which is what this whole subreddit is actually about, seriously did you read anything?) Is what seals the deal. And from what I've read here, you are all very young and attractive. What? There … | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/21 05:18 AM |
| 1 | I feel as if I’m starting from the bottom - how do I build up my skills?I'm trying to remember what it was that we tried reverse searing a while back and it didn't work out at all. Was it steak? I honestly don't remember. Anyway the issue in that instance was that roasting it first got all the juices going, and wet thing (what was it?!) in the pan made it too wet and you can't get a proper sear like that. But anyway the techniques on a fundamental level seem like they should work basically the same. I'm not sure that one is objectively better, in terms of either tas… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/08/21 12:06 AM |
| 3 | My partner doesn't acknowledge how hard I'm tryingthat to me just reeks of insecurity-- and perhaps I am insecure! Any way I can work on this need for validation on my own? If you can't be insecure and vulnerable with your partner, when can you be? | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/21 09:54 PM |
| 5 | I feel as if I’m starting from the bottom - how do I build up my skills?The basics of how to cook steak: Season generously. Use salt and pepper always, as you get more confident add other flavors. Grease a (preferably cast iron) pan, and get it really hot. You can test if it's hot enough by sprinkling a little bit of water on it. It should sizzle! Put the meat on (it should sizzle!) and let it sit there for a couple minutes. Be patient, you are trying to get a nice dark brown color. It's okay to peek to check on it, but mostly you want to just wait. When it's nice a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/21 05:30 PM |
| 14 | Those in a dual-engineer relationship, how did you modify RP ideas to fit your situation?The "whatever you think" tactics are more for men who aren't already the leader in relationships. If a man isn't inclined to lead, you need to aggressively show him that you want what he wants, because otherwise his protective instinct will make him worried about stepping on your toes. If a man is already comfortable with leading, he is will be perfectly okay with suggestions from you, with the understanding that they are just suggestions. He is knows he is under no obligation, and they just giv… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/07/21 07:18 PM |
| 5 | There's no sense in following this strategy if you're not hot.this is all bullshit. Men are all liars. They don't give a single fuck about nice, feminine women they don't give a fuck as long as she is hot. And I also start to hate hot women too. Bitch, shut the fuck up. Evidently you still have a lot of work to do on the whole "being nice and feminine" thing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/06/21 06:03 AM |
| 5 | Need advice regarding understanding men's self withdrawing behaviourI had been pushy once and he had completely cut off so yes i know what you are saying. The thing to remember is the feelings you caused when you did that don't disappear just because you haven't done it lately. It takes an active reversal to fix. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/06/21 04:36 PM |
| 12 | Need advice regarding understanding men's self withdrawing behaviourYou're pushing him, and he is starting to resent you for that. He should want to call you, instead now he feels like it's an obligation. What happens then is he starts putting it off. Sound familiar? The issue here is you gave him your solution "I want you to call me more (or more often)" when you should have given him your problem "I miss you when you don't respond/ it makes me feel uncared about". The 1st statement tells him what to do, while the 2nd one tells him how you feel about it without… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/06/21 04:10 PM |
| 4 | Red-pill utopia or dystopiaThe Handmaid's Tale was written by someone who doesn't understand male nature at all, which doesn't surprise me seeing as it was written by a woman. Feminists who distrust men are those who are incapable of imagining what the world looks like from men's perspective. They imagine "what is the worst possible thing men could do with all that power". They don't understand the male protective instinct and how powerful it is. To understand compare it to power fantasy stories written by men. A story wh… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/05/21 08:50 PM |
| 18 | Looks plays a massive role in men’s value in women. How can I work on this when I'm average-looking? I am also not a very agreeable girl.I will not agree for the sake of agreeing, if someone is wrong I will call them out on it, and I do not shy away from debates. That is a very self congratulatory way of having the arrogance to think you are right about everything, and that you have nothing to learn from someone else. Being feminine doesn't mean you have to agree with someone on everything, it's the understanding making allies (even those who don't always agree with you) starts from understanding core values and finding common gr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/05/21 07:51 AM |
| 4 | Can I apply RP ideas if I'm attracted to women?RPW is a tool box. You can use it for whatever you want. However there is no advice for hitting on or dating women here. So use what you want, but you'll have to find the rest elsewhere. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/21 03:18 AM |
| 5 | Fantasies about heartbreakI think a lot of people have fantasies that arouse us but also... Would be terrible if they actually happened. I don't think that means that they're screwed up, and even if it did mean that, it's not like you can flip a switch to make yourself stop wanting that. My advice would be to find someone who can inact your fantasy (threating to leave, smacking you around, etc) while arousing you. Making it seem real so that you can have your fantasy, but at the same time you know it's not real. He would… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/21 08:13 PM |
| 10 | TradCon is RPW but RPW is not TradConWith divorce rates so high, and people who cheat on their spouses, I think it's safe to say that marriage doesn't guarantee commitment. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/03/21 08:37 PM |
| 4 | As an alternative to TRP/MGTOW, how about a forum that's only about plating, and devoid of any relationship thinking?You are free to create anything you want. | /r/askTRP | 11/03/21 12:43 AM |
| 1 | Just so I have it clear...It's bullshit when a woman says "I'm not interested in getting to know anyone right now" right?It's completely true, because the person available to them in right now is you. That interest level will change when and where someone makes them interested. | /r/askTRP | 08/02/21 06:22 AM |
| 2 | Feeling frustrated and not sure how to handle this :/I'm not sure. I can tell you that people do things for a reason. He's not just trying to jerk you around. I think there's something that you're not telling me, perhaps it's something you don't know yourself. Maybe he's a loss for conversation topics because you've been apart for so long. In LTRs it can be hard to keep the spark going. Maybe it's something he wants to do, but finds the array of options a little overwheming. Have you tried asking him about it? | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/21 06:09 PM |
| 1 | Feeling frustrated and not sure how to handle this :/Well if you already got his feedback, why are you still sending him things? You should have an idea of what he wants now. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/21 05:38 PM |
| 6 | Feeling frustrated and not sure how to handle this :/It sounds to me like you're presenting him with too many choices, especially if you spent all day on it. Think of it this way, if someone said "I'm interested in a new car" and you showed the tons of makes and models at every price range, it not only would be unhelpful, it would be kind of thoughtless because you are not taking his needs and preferences into a consideration. Not to mention taking way more of a time investment to look at all these options than he was interested in. It needs to be… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/21 05:20 PM |
| 56 | He found out I had a secret savings account and he's really hurtWell it's a good thing you had a secret stash, because your relationship might now end suddenly. I don't have any advice for you to save your relationship, because you basically had one foot out of the relationship this whole time, and now he knows that. My only advice would for the future. Don't invest so much time in relationships that you're not fully invested in, and don't take relationship advice from people in relationships that you don't want to end up like. I know nothing about your moth… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/01/21 06:56 AM |
| 10 | How do I show him I’m not a pick me type of woman?His response was yea sounds great. and then appeared disinterested in what I talked about next. Well yeah, you're talking about stuff he has no interest in. You might as well be talking about painting your nails or horoscopes... Are you on the autism spectrum by any chance? If he started talking about different engine performances would you be interested? If you want people to be interested in what you have to say you have to talk about something they would be interested in. I also do tend to be… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/21 07:36 AM |
| 2 | Women don't understand that you still need a good personality in order to keep a high quality man around"Personality" is not really the word I would use. It's more, how you act towards others. The key idea is to be pleasant to be around, and there are many personality types that can accomplish that. Men want to be around women who make being with them a positive experience. Things you can do to be that kind of woman are: Be positive and cheerful/. Nobody likes a downer, and the more time you spend being happy, the more they will want to be around you. The more you move towards enthusiastic the bet… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/01/21 01:47 AM |
| 9 | “Dead Zone” during holidays/weekendsshould I not respond at all to any texts or calls during that time and get back to him Sunday or Monday? Not unless you want the message to be you're not interested in talking to him or seeing him. Also there's nothing wrong with showing your interest in spending the day with him on New Years Eve. Lastly, there's definetly something wrong if you're playing mind games like this a year into the relationship. It is common for misguided women to want to play these games in the beginning, but only be… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/12/20 09:18 PM |
| 5 | Is this BAD gift giving?Sorry, I had to call in the mods on this one. You were literally getting people suggesting that not liking your gifts is equivalent to emotional abuse. It's not. Ultimately, it doesn't matter what we thought of your gifts (why are you even asking us) it only matters what he thought of your gifts. But, if you really want to know what I think of your gifts, they were pretty bad, obviously. If they were good gifts he would have liked them. You got him socks, you got him a toothbrush, you got him a … | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/12/20 01:05 AM |
| 5 | RPW truth: appearance is the most important thingRule number 1 of emulating people. Do not emulate people you don't want to end up like. She's literally one of the worst people I have ever met. She's lazy, skips work constantly and the only reason she hasn't been fired is because it's a municipal job. She's also quite cruel: like bullying the local autistic guy level of cruel. Does this sound like a person who has "won" in life? Or phrased another way, is she happy? Sounds to me all her "beauty" bought was the ability to attract men. She's not… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/11/20 05:57 PM |
| 16 | I’m so tired- ready to give up my dreamThe first thing you have to do is realize what you are doing is not working. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/20 10:57 PM |
| 4 | Is anyone in here interested in how Fascinating Womanhood relates to RPYou're welcome to contribute something like that to the subreddit. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/10/20 06:33 AM |
| 9 | Is anyone in here interested in how Fascinating Womanhood relates to RPThere's a book club series for the whole book. Here's the 1st chapter: https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/aafrwy/book_club_fascinating_womanhood_chapter_1 The whole series can be found in the wiki. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/10/20 06:17 AM |
| 1 | I have a terrible habit of overly reaching out to people, quadruple texting, answering in two seconds when they’ve taken hours. Can you ladies please give me tips and advice on how to nix this?This is not a problem. Being overly responsive may make you look needy or desperate if you're a man. If you're a women it just makes you look enthusiastic and endearing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/20 11:12 PM |
| 0 | I don’t know what to do about my boyfriend when I go to grad school.Then why is it, without me saying anything specific, you know exactly which way my post is suggesting? | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/09/20 07:16 AM |
| 3 | I don’t know what to do about my boyfriend when I go to grad school.Sounds to me like your mind is already made up. Not sure why you came here, do you want us to validate your decision? | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/09/20 06:55 AM |
| 1 | Can I change how people view my relationship with my boyfriend?If something they're saying bothers you, just tell them so. I normally act feminine and nice to people, but when someone goes after my SO, the gloves come off. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/09/20 06:16 AM |
| 1 | I want to get into some of these hobbies but I have a few questions…Maybe about 4 years now. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/09/20 04:57 PM |
| 4 | I want to get into some of these hobbies but I have a few questions…In general men love a women who is fit from working out, because that's just plain sexy. Plus having a hobby that your good at can give them bragging rights. So all of these would be great for that. The only ones that might be an issue is pole and burlesque, because of the fact that they can be intentionally very sexual. I think most men might have a problem with that especially if you are performing. Men who also have an issue with there women being scantily clad in public, might have an issue … | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/09/20 06:16 AM |
| 4 | Most men secretly want a homemakerYes and no. The ultimate fantasy is a woman who can do it all. Cook, clean, always look put together, bring in money, be great in bed, etc. Obviously men know that a woman can't do all these things, and he has to be willing to make some compromises. So really, they want all these things, but what differentiates men is which things they value more, and which things they are willing to do without. The result is some men who believe very strongly in the idea women should contribute to the household… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/09/20 08:03 PM |
| 13 | Is this sub reddit filled with trolls?!Absolutely. RPW works because it speaks directly to the instinctual part of the male brain, so the rational part of the brain doesn't stop it from working. Sort of the same way knowing the reason a cookie tastes good is because it's full of sugar doesn't stop it from tasting good. The rational brain may interfere and tell you "sugar is bad for you" and make you avoid cookies, but the sugar still makes you want a cookie. My SO knows I'm on RPW and I know he's on TRP. That doesn't stop it from wor… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/09/20 02:34 PM |
| 1 | Looks or money?So... Not homeless. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/09/20 03:16 PM |
| 1 | Looks or money?Is he homeless? | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/20 07:57 PM |
| 1 | Looks or money?Sorry, I don't understand. What about him? It sounds like he is a case of: highly attractive people are more likely to presented with opportunities | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/09/20 07:17 PM |
| 2 | Looks or money?False dichotomy. Most people will have some degree of attractiveness and wealth. For the outliers, they will never be attractive. A person with a face lost in a fire will never be attractive, no matter how much money he has, and a homeless person will never be attractive no matter how much facial symmetry he has. Also, these are not independent variables. Highly wealthy people can use money to scale attractiveness, and highly attractive people are more likely to presented with opportunities. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/09/20 08:25 PM |
| 6 | PornMy stance is I don't tell him what to do. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/09/20 08:20 PM |
| 2 | Couples who are both redpill aware?We're both RP aware, and practice RP principles all the time. We're in a positive feed back loop where I want to do things for him because of how attractive I find him, and he wants to do things for me because I do things for him, and then I want to do things for him, etc. It's a great relationship. If we do talk about RP, which happens, it occurs in a few different ways. We discuss it sort of philosophically, analyzing what's wrong in the way most people view relationships. Sometimes fueled by … | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/09/20 07:52 PM |
| 3 | Should I move international for my boyfriend if he isn’t willing to move to me?Are my feelings of wrongness about this justified or is this a normal compromise couples make? It doesn't matter. Your feelings of moral "rightness" are irrelevant here. Either you want the relationship to be over or you don't. That's the choice that he's given you, and that is what you have to choose between. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/08/20 12:44 AM |
| 1 | Fashion helpStart too early and it’ll snowball into further control over differing aspects of her life. That's the whole point. You don't get a Captain on day one by giving him control of your finances and having him tell you to move in with him. You don't have him make big decisions right away. What you do is have him make small decisions and see what happens. Have him pick where to take you to on a date, dress in a way he might like. Then you watch how he handles things. Does the date go well? If there we… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/08/20 06:22 AM |
| 1 | Do you think there's little competition when it comes to dating?The lesson in there being a whole subreddit dedicated to teaching men how to be attractive to women isn't that it's impossible for men to learn to be attractive. It's that the majority of men don't use the tools, and learn the lessons they need. | /r/askTRP | 26/08/20 06:04 AM |
| 10 | Fashion helpLol, wut? Early in the relationship is a perfect time to start doing little things for him that he likes. Doing what your man likes is one of the easiest things you can do to help turn a short relationship to a long one. I'm not recommending she update her whole wardrobe, she's asking for advice about dressing up pretty for one date. That's about as low risk as it gets. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/20 12:38 AM |
| 4 | I recently found myself in a dangerous situation and am now agonizing about carrying a gun. Do any of you ladies conceal carry?Pepper spray is a terrible option, if someone is intent on causing you harm, pepper spray is not going to stop them. You could get someone killed with bad suggestions like this. You cannot bet someone's life on pepper spray. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/08/20 08:01 PM |
| 14 | I recently found myself in a dangerous situation and am now agonizing about carrying a gun. Do any of you ladies conceal carry?I carry conceal carry wherever I go. My boyfriend wanted me to because he didn't want anything to ever happen to me in the event he wasn't around. I'm a tiny little girl and I otherwise would have no means to defend myself. In my experience the "idea" of carrying a loaded gun everywhere I went was much more intimidating then actually carrying a gun. After carrying a gun for a while you sort of lose the irrational fear that it will jump out and bite you... metaphorically speaking. Now onto your q… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/08/20 07:59 PM |
| 8 | What is your advice to a femcel?The 1st step to self improvement is understanding what the problem is. As long as she is unable to admit/realize she has an emotional problem rather than a physical one, there is literally nothing we can do to help her. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/08/20 03:54 PM |
| 13 | What is your advice to a femcel?If you have men who "only want to have sex with you" you are not ugly and you are not involuntarily celibate. The problem here is not your looks. From your post, you problem seems pretty obvious. You are unpleasant to be around because all you do is whine. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/08/20 03:37 PM |
| 1 | The destruction of the family: Is it really so bad?Everyone gets bored of their partner after a while Speak for yourself. Some of is know how to keep our partner interested, and with partners who know how to keep us interested. If only there was an information resource accessable to everyone that taught people how to be attractive and maintain attractive to the opposite sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/20 08:21 AM |
| 1 | Give him the opportunity to ghost youUh no. This is terrible advice. You risk telling him you're not interested. Pretty soon he's thinking "if she was interested she would text me", while you're sitting around playing some stupid game. Instead of this spend 2 seconds to initiate. If he is not interested and wants to ghost you, he won't respond. If he doesn't respond, then move on. Your post is basically amounts to "show him your not interested, and don't be surprised when he loses interest." | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/20 07:58 PM |
| 4 | Does being unphotogenic affect your SMV?No man in the history of mankind has ever cared about the pictures you post on your Facebook account. Outside of online dating it's a non issue. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/06/20 04:53 AM |
| 1 | How do you tell a girl a fling is over without being a dick about it? No ghosting allowed eitherIf you want advice ask for it, if you've already decided what you want to do, then don't. But none of this, "I want advice but only tell me what I want to hear". | /r/askTRP | 30/05/20 07:15 PM |
| 6 | I honestly believe that most brunette women lose out by not dyeing their hair blond or red...I've found the key to being attractive is take what you have and enhance it. If you try to replicate what looks good on someone else, you will often look like like a mess. For example: I don't think I even looked very good with red hair, I actually looked pretty trashy Try to work with your brown hair. I don't mean "leave it as is", I mean build on it. Rather than trying to replace it entirely with a look that doesn't work on you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/05/20 08:33 PM |
| 2 | Views on Comestic surgery?"You'll fix this little thing, then there will be another little thing and another here and it will never end" Many people say this as though it is a bad thing, but you could also describe any self improvement this way. An attitude of continous self improvement and never being satisfied is the difference between Chopsticks and being a master pianist. I believe putting in the effort (or money) to better yourself, it's much better than being dissatisfied lookimg in the mirror the rest of your life… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/05/20 06:35 AM |
| 1 | A lesson I learned from a stranger on the busI am awarding you a star for this. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/20 06:06 PM |
| 31 | Spin off of cock carousel thread; Number of sex partner's impact on marital stability vs divorce rates?? What are your thoughts as red pill women?I know in men's red pill, there is definitely a narrative that women with high-counts are viewed as high-risk and not suitable marriage and mother material. You just answered your own question. RPW is about understanding men's desires. If men think of it as a negative trait, and don't want to be married to a woman either a high n-count, then self evidently, high n-count is a disadvantagous position for a woman who want to be married and have children. A couple possible counter points you might b… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/20 05:23 PM |
| 1 | Creative June Cleavers come in! Need a product recommendation. Something like contact paper on steroids.They sale adhesive "tiles" at home depot. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/20 01:50 AM |
| 2 | Issues with dressing feminine and my boyfriend's reactionsYeah, "high value" is not code for "behaves in whatever way suits my whims". I see this as just another way to shame men for their preferences. It's no different than shaming men for not wanting a high n-count women. RPW is not here to be a another forum that sits around wanting men to act a certain way, saying what men should want, based on women's values. It's here to be the forum that focuses on what men actually do want. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/20 04:24 PM |
| 1 | Issues with dressing feminine and my boyfriend's reactionshere on RPW I keep reading that high value men appreciate a modestly dressed feminine woman First of all, let me set the record straight. This is completely untrue. There is no EC who has ever said that. Men have different preferences and it's completely seperate from whether or not they're high value. Typically men are in 3 categories: The "for my eyes only" man will want her girl to look chaste and unavailable to other men. This is men who prefer the mormon look on women. Sometimes this can be… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/20 03:49 PM |
| 1 | Pettiest Social Media Question Everhttps://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/4i8ukh/bring_your_captain_your_problem_not_your_solution/ | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/20 04:44 PM |
| 4 | Pettiest Social Media Question EverThis is what happens when you mix up your problem with your solution. Your probem is that you feel insecure in your relationship. Your solution is that he should take down pictures of another girl and replace them with you and possibly get heat about it at work. It sounds silly when you say it like that because you are trying to come up with your own solution. However your problem is real. You have a real insecurity, and you want to not feel that way anymore. But do you see how your problem can … | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/20 06:08 AM |
| 1 | What to bring to the table when you feel brokenIt you want to know what your SO values about you, ask him. You are never going to figure out what you can do well, while focusing on the things that you can't. You listed 3 things here that you don't/can't do, but there are tons of other ways you could be making a positive contribution to your SOs life. RPW never stated that in order to please a man you must be able to cook. If that's the message you got, then you need to go back to class. A couple tips: Do not compare yourself to your SO. Men … | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/04/20 03:41 PM |
| 2 | I just reread an old romance novelNot really in the same way. Women are unique in wanting contrary traits, they want the alpha sperm and the beta comfort. Men have fantasies as well, but mostly those are about how attractive she is, and how well she treats him. There's no real reason a person couldn't be both of these things, within the limitations of "nobody's perfect". The most similar thing I can think of that men have is the Madonna/Whore complex. Most men want a woman who a sexually exciting with him, but prude towards othe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/20 11:25 PM |
| 1 | I just reread an old romance novelThat is what the romance protagonist is, the prize. In order to continue being the prize in a relationship a man cannot allow a woman to enter into his frame, because if he changes his behavior to fit her wishes, he loses the very thing that she found attractive about him in the first place. Am I getting this right? I think that "frame" is the wrong word to use in this instance, which is why what you said confused me a bit. But I think you get the idea. To give a more concrete example, let's say… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/20 10:13 PM |
| 3 | I just reread an old romance novelplaying hard to get, acting tough, making him jealous. This is coupled with a male protagonist who responds symmetrically. He will chase her, admit weakness, and act jealous. The amusing thing is that this is not at all what women respond to, and what I would consider lower beta traits. An interesting question to ask is why are males like this written into a story that is designed to be a woman's romantic fantasy? The first thing that happens, before any of the romance pursual, is that the love … | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/04/20 08:52 PM |
| 20 | How to increase my SMV? Have many faults..If you want to be "natural", I suggest you start sleeping outside, stop shaving, stop showering and stop brushing your teeth. If you want to be pretty, I suggest you get used to the idea that being pretty takes effort. Even those who have won the genetic lottery have to worry about not over eating, doing their hair and makeup, dressing well, taking care of their skin, etc. So you can either cry to the universe about how you wish you were already pretty (hint: no one is listening), or start putti… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/04/20 06:43 PM |
| 7 | How to date in late twenties to get commitment from guys who are also late twentiesIn order to get the kind of guy you want, you have to be the kind of girl they want. Do you know what they want? Let me give you a hint: A few times now I’ve dated someone a year older who ended up leaving me for a girl who was 3-5 years younger than him instead. Obviously you can't be younger, but that's your competition. What else do you have going for you that men in your age range want? | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/04/20 05:55 AM |
| 10 | How to avoid turning bitter when in the presence of women more attractive than you?When I see a woman that I view as "better than me", the first question I ask myself is "how can I be more like her?" This allows me to keep in perspective a couple things: That being better often requires hard work. Even people who have been blessed with great genes have to worry about diet, hair care, skin care, exercise, clothing choices, etc. Otherwise their genes will be hidden under bad self-care. When I view what they have as an accomplishment, it makes me view them as admirable. This is a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/20 07:07 PM |
| 1 | Hobbies make you sexyHobbies are the frills. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/03/20 08:37 PM |
| 2 | Advice on Dealing With Insecurity About Being Attractive?When you were looking at pretty girls, you assumed all they had going for them was "being pretty", and now you assume that that is what people would think about you, if you were pretty. That's pretty natural, people often assume others will think the same way they do, despite the fact it's quite solipistic and more often than not, not true. The 1st thing to realize (if you haven't already) is that you assuming pretty=stupid was a coping mechanism, because you were jealous. You needed them to be … | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/03/20 06:27 AM |
| 3 | What're you guys doing to stay in-shape during this "lockdown"?Joking; you don't want to carry your friends right now, you might catch covid. Instead, fireman carry and squat your furniture. | /r/askTRP | 17/03/20 04:26 PM |
| 3 | Receiving compliments with graceThe thing about complements is that are typically not very original. You will find that you get the same comments again and again. So, if you're nervious about responding here is what I would do: Step 1: Get a compliment Step 2: Stammer uncontrollably and get tongue-tied. Step 3: Later think about what you wish you had done better. Step 4: Get the exact same compliment from someone new. Step 5: Do better. You are posting this here because you are at Step 3. But, realize grace is just a matter of… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/03/20 10:28 PM |
| -4 | Boyfriend left me :(Here's the thing, you did something wrong. He was already feeling bad about how the phone call went with the recruiter, and you just magnified it. My guess is when he said "do you think I'm stupid?" He probably meant "I know that didn't go well, you didn't need to tell me that. I already feel like shit." But no, this is not why he broke up with you. When he broke up with you, he said he didn't love you, that tells me that there has been stuff going on for a long time. Repeated patterns of bad ex… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/03/20 12:15 AM |
| 1 | Boyfriend left me :(Here's what the OP says: When he hung up he could tell I was shocked that he would say those things to the recruiter I think we can assume that he sayed something to her about the look on her face to let her know "he could tell...". Otherwise; she is assuming from the look on his face, that he's assuming something about the look on her face. Occum's razor says that's a little silly. So if we proceed from that assumption we get 2 possibilities. She confirms it. She denies it. I would strongly sus… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/03/20 11:14 PM |
| 2 | Do you still have sex with your partner if the two of you are in an argument? Why or why not?Why in the world would we be having an argument? | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/02/20 06:52 AM |
| 14 | I've been trying to increase my femininity. I wore perfume for the first time two days ago, and my male friend commented on how nice it was.he walks around, stands in front of me, puts both his hands on my shoulders and leans in right by my neck... Glad that you perfume worked out. Also there is no chance he is not hitting on you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/20 08:35 PM |
| 4 | Charming Other MenThose who have an SO who prefers to be the only man who lays eyes on you should skip this article. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/02/20 06:07 AM |
| 132 | Why would my boyfriend cheat on me with a much older woman?He said he wasn't felling fulfilled with me anymore. That she gets him. He told you why. This wasn't "it didn't mean anything" cheating, it was "dissatisfied in the relationship" cheating. Your post doesn't say anything about your relationship before this point, but my guess is that it had some problems. It's time for some self-reflection, because while this relationship is over, you could learn something that might prepare you for the next one. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/02/20 09:20 PM |
| 3 | He told me that he's more intelligent than me and my feelings are hurtI don't really understand this. I am not as smart as my SO, but I don't find anyone saying so insulting, it's just a fact. Someone telling me I was not as smart as him would be no more insulting than someone telling me I was shorter than him. You seem to be equating "not as smart as him" to being dumb, or not good at anything. Which leads me to believe you have a lot of insecurities about your own intelligence. Or you don't think your SO is very bright. Why else would being seen as less smart th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/20 07:38 PM |
| 6 | [Advice] How to talk to an "alpha" guy and look cool while doing it.You don't need to look cool in front of men. They find nervious girls tripping over their words adorable. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/01/20 06:46 AM |
| 4 | RP strategies for weight loss?It's more important that you have something you can stick to than it is to have the perfect keto+vegan+low calorie weight loss diet. The harder your diet is to stick to, the quicker you will find excuses not to follow it. Start small, restrict your desserts to one dessert per week. Then when you are successful, add one more thing to your diet, like maybe reading food lables to avoid prepackaged foods with added sugar. Then start counting calories to find out how much you are consuming, and reduc… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/01/20 01:26 AM |
| 0 | Men do or don't want sex?Uh... Wut? We established that men want to have sex... So men who will have sex with you would be every non-gay man on the planet with a healthy sex drive. That's not exactly "high standards". Unless you are really unattractive or unpleasant to be around. In which case you need to reevaluate your SMV. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/01/20 12:22 AM |
| 0 | Men do or don't want sex?Sorry, but in order to get a quality man you have to act like a quality women. You cannot just demand quality and expect it will come. Well... You could, but it wouldn't be very effective. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/01/20 08:12 PM |
| 3 | Men do or don't want sex?I demand sex from him Oh no, please.. no. Do not do that under any circumstances. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/01/20 05:39 AM |
| 1 | Men do or don't want sex?Women and men both want a relationship that they are happy in. If men want sex, then why would they stay in a relationship where aren't getting any? The short answer is they wouldn't. Most men will seek out their goals by just setting their sights on someone else who will give it to them. There are exceptions, for example men who feel they don't have other options because they are not very good relationship partners. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/01/20 04:56 AM |
| 3 | How does one deal with SO wanting you to play video games or be into sports?Men aren't attracted by women with specific interests... Not really. Let me use the game girl fantasty as an example. You see men frequently dreaming of a hot girl that plays video games, because they too play video games. You assume that the reason they fantasize about this is that it would be a dream come true to find a hot women with the same interests as him. That is not however the root of the fantasy. The reason for a man to fantasize about this is because he believes the myth that in orde… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/12/19 06:15 PM |
| 41 | How does one unlearn years of feminist conditioning??That's hard to answer because it's a really broad question. Maybe try spending some time around here asking yourself "Why might she think this way?" Or when you see a feminist react negatively at something (or you get angry at, yourself) ask yourself "Why might this "perceived injustice" actually be something that makes logical sense? What are they not seeing?" Typically feminism prioritizes feelings over logic, so if you apply some logic to it, it pretty quickly unravels. Practicing seeing thin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/10/19 04:38 PM |
| 7 | How do you ladies feel about the female dating strategy sub?It's interesting that you say that to me since I am child-free, have no plans on getting married, and have a "real" career in STEM. I check all the feminist boxes for being a strong independent women. But I want nothing to do with feminism, strength or independence. Maybe there exists women who really find a sense of purpose in the male world, but I tend to think of them like I think of MGTOWs. MGTOWs claim to beyond women, and maybe some of them are, but the vast majority are bitter from their … | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/10/19 04:04 PM |
| 9 | How do you ladies feel about the female dating strategy sub?No one is questioning its right to exist, they are questioning the validity of advice given... since that's what it's supposedly for. TRP is built on the premise that men and women are different, and that subreddit is full of women pretending that they can do anything a man can do. But the thing is being like men, and striving after masculine goals, doesn't leave a woman happy or fulfilled. That's why those in RPW can't relate. The women here understand that fundmental happiness for a women is t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/10/19 12:02 PM |
| -1 | What to do when you’re young and ugly?Plastic surgery. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/19 04:50 PM |
| 1 | Women seek attention, men seek...?Respect. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/19 05:52 AM |
| 4 | About childlike angerHe just said to keep going. And I just turned around and walked briskly away while tears streamed down my face. I'm glad it worked out for you, but I wouldn't normally advise "doing the opposite of what he told you to do" as something that would gather a favorable reaction. Normally my advice to be childlike is more along the lines of "be vulnerable, be playful, look up to him." Frankly this reads to me like you threw a temper tantrum. There are much more favorable ways to communicate how your f… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/10/19 04:33 AM |
| 15 | My boyfriend wants to move across the country, but I’m not ready for that.Whether or not you relationship is over is up to you. my boyfriend has recently informed me that he is depressed It sounds like even if he chose to stay with you, it wouldn't be good for him in the long term. And there's also the possibility that he would come to resent you for it. That would make the relationship that you wanted to save no longer the relationship you have. You have a choice to make, supporting your boyfriend when he needs you. Or supporting your family when they need you. But t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/10/19 06:21 PM |
| 0 | I feel unsafe when I go out, any advice?I carry pepper spray That's not going to stop a man coming after you. Get a concealed carry liscence and a carry a gun. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/10/19 06:06 AM |
| 17 | How much should a man "take care" of you when vetting for marriage?So, let me get this straight, your test to see if this guy is marriage material is based on how well he can read your mind? Oh dear. You do realize that you're telling him you are self-sufficient and the only thing he did "wrong" here was believe you? | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/08/19 02:47 AM |
| 8 | Redpilling the Redpill: Attractiveness is all that mattersUm... If a guy wants to have sex with you that tends to mean you're not unattractive... at least not to him. Also... We never claimed that looks don't matter. There's post after post here about how to improve looks because part of the red pill is that they do matter. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/08/19 04:11 PM |
| 2 | Feminine athleisure?Me too. I'm all sweaty and gross in t-shirts and leggings (which are not flattering on my frame). Neither my make up nor my hair is done. My philosophy: I work out so that I can be attractive outside of the gym. Then again, I'm not trying to meet men. Single women might want to use the gym as a possible place to meet men. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/08/19 07:21 AM |
| 1 | ServitudeShould we all strive toward the ultimate definition of womanhood? For what purpose? | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/08/19 04:56 PM |
| 0 | ServitudeDoes it matter what we think? You've already made up your mind that you hate it, and are not going to do it. Is there a chance that your husband would respond positively to feminine changes? Sure. Is there a chance it could make your marriage better? Sure. But it doesn't sound like he's planning to leave you any time soon, and you've already decided that your marriage is good enough as it is. There's nothing we could do or say to make you want to be more feminine, even if we cared to, because yo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/08/19 03:50 PM |
| 4 | Improving SMV when you are already thin?There are so many things you can focus on to improve your SMV the are not weight loss related. Here's some things off the top of my head. Hair: color, cut, health Face: plastc surgery, make up, skin care Clothes: style, fit, color. Body: muscle building/toning, plastic surgery, skin care, hair removal. Misc: Teeth, nails, eyebrows... Each small thing you do only adds a little but they add up, and pretty soon men are blatantly hitting on you while your boyfriend is standing right there... | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/19 06:22 AM |
| 35 | How does a girlfriend behave differently than a wife in a relationship with a man, and how can a girlfriend be of value to him without giving away too much too soon?To me, nothing. The girlfriend is the audition for the chance of getting permanent commitment. When you audition, you go all in. If you withhold something all he knows is that this is something you don't do. It doesn't make him want to marry you more because he won't think "if I marry her she will change for the better". When a man makes the decision to be with someone for the rest of his life, he makes the decision based on her past behavior, assuming future behavior will be the same. The only … | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/19 05:56 AM |
| 4 | Forget Chad and Dylan Thundercock. Set your sights on Michael Thunder, the poor cousin.There's so much more than a man than what he does for work. He could be a mechanic, a doctor, or a accountant. But none of those job descriptions tell you enough to know if he has shared values with you and if you can respect him. It's obvious you have a lot of respect for your husband, and I think the point of your post is "don't overlook Michael just because he is a mechanic"... However don't fall into the trap of thinking Michael is great because he is mechanic. Michael is great because he is… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/07/19 02:02 AM |
| 9 | Recently i've noticed that even as a woman, if I apply the same techniques and mindset as the guys over in trp do towards women , only in my case to men, I get the same desirable results and it's awesome. I just read trp like it was written for women instead of men and the outcomes are still theSame desirable results In order to claim success in your expirement you need to more precisely define what you are trying to achiece. What is your win condition? | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/07/19 05:45 PM |
| 13 | Confused: my n count and my partnersIt doesn't matter how we feel. It matters how he feels and how you feel. We can tell you that 2 is a small number, pat you on the head and tell you that he's being a big meanie, but ultimately that's not the point. There are is only one thing that matters here. Do you want this relationship to work out or not? If the answer is yes, then the question you should be asking is how to help him overcome this and not see it badly. If you think that he's being too unfair to you, then the answer is no. I… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/07/19 12:09 AM |
| 1 | LTR feels like I am a "messy" person and has to "clean up" after meDon't let your woman tell you what to do. | /r/askTRP | 16/07/19 05:09 PM |
| 5 | How and When to Pick between 2 GuysIf you're not sure who to choose, don't pick either of them. It's a sign that you are not interested enough in either. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/07/19 04:49 PM |
| 1 | i'm missing something and i can't figure out WHAT.Change doesn't happen over night. It takes time. The good habits you build now and the time you take on yourself are investments you make that you can reap the reward of in the future. Every journey begins with the first step, but after the first step it won't look like you traveled very far. Remeber where you are now and keep moving forward and learning new things. Then in a few years and you'll be able to look back and see how far you've gone. The important thing is to not give up trying. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/06/19 06:10 AM |
| 2 | LTR has a ton of guy friendsWomen don't want to win. They want a winner. Men often don't understand this because they want to win, and they can't imagine anyone wanting anything different. But for women's happiness doesn't come from success, it comes from the strength of their relationships. I want my SO to be happy, but even more than that creating happiness for my SO gives my life purpose and meaning. Sure I have a career, a few hobbies, and a number of things I'm good at. But that's not what drives me. | /r/askTRP | 22/06/19 05:35 PM |
| 1 | I need some advice for my relationship: should I dump or man up and tell her what I want?You don't give a relationship to any woman who speads her legs for you, you make her earn it. She has done nothing to earn commitment from you. | /r/askTRP | 30/05/19 02:32 PM |
| 8 | Is this girl from my job trying to get with me?“Yeah he thinks we’re sneaking upstairs and having wild sex all day”. She's thinking about you and sex at the same time, so yes. | /r/askTRP | 29/05/19 04:42 PM |
| 3 | I think I’m lower SMV than I thoughtHonestly, that visceral of a reaction could be a looks thing or a personality thing. If it not your looks, could it be your personality? | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/05/19 05:31 AM |
| 116 | Are Moms Doomed to Get Fat?What? Have you never seen a thin woman over the age of 30, or something? No one is destined to get fat. That's just something women tell themselves to feel better for letting themselves go. What happens often is they stop prioritizing their fitness, in favor of other things. If you don't let your fitness fall by the waist side when you become a mother, then you won't get fat. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/05/19 01:10 AM |
| 3 | Fulfillment vs. Enjoyment: feeling sad!Otherwise I feel like it's a punishment. That's a really interesting use of words. When you feel like something is a punishment (but it's clearly not) it means you are attributing it to a feeling a guilt that you have. You look at this as punishment because you have repressed guilt that you feel you deserve to be punished for. Do you know what you feel guilty about? | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/05/19 06:06 AM |
| 2 | Why is lying about your past frowned upon in the RPW community?TRP doesn't advocate strategies because of morality. TRP is amoral. TRP advocates things because they are optimal strategies. So why do you think lying to someone who you hope to spend the rest of your life with might be a suboptimal strategy? | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/19 02:08 PM |
| 3 | (Little off topic) Which underwear do you buy? Is Ck worth it?I prefer the lacy-frilly kind myself. | /r/askTRP | 06/05/19 12:32 AM |
| 1 | Is she selfish if she submits but never initiates?Hi "Coconut", women are supposed to be molded. They look for guidance from you for what to do. They do that because they care about your happiness and well being. Without guidance, how would they know how to do that? | /r/askTRP | 21/04/19 11:54 PM |
| 3 | I realized that I have absolutely nothing to offer men.A woman who has multiple relationships is a woman who can't make one relationship last. Getting into a relationship isn't a sign of success for a woman, it's being able to keep one. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/19 04:31 PM |
| 7 | How to subtly suggest I want to do the 36 questions?After reading this, I have to admit that I immediately thought that these questions would be absolute BS. So not wanting to make any assumptions without evidence, I looked them up myself. I was surprised to discover these questions were way worse than I expected. They read like something out of Cosmo written by a woman who never actually met a man... Like ever, in her whole life. Men don't think like this. Here are some of my favorite highlights. Questions that have zero relevance to compatibili… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/19 01:31 AM |
| 15 | Lies and the hidden truthThis is simply not correct. People don't have the right to not be decieved. I can wear makeup, push up bras, and tell people I have an extra toe without violating anyone's rights. I have the right to tell people what I want for whatever reason I choose. The reason you should be honest with someone has nothing to do with their "right to know" or their "right not to be decieved", it has to do with the quality of relationship you wish to have. If you want to have a relationship where you can trust … | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/04/19 10:47 PM |
| 2 | Angry MenMods, give this lady another star. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/04/19 06:00 PM |
| 31 | How to deal with other women who put you down on purpose?I find it fun to flip the script on them. The purpose of insulting you is to make themselves look better than you (if only in their own mind) and getting a negative/defensive reaction from you. However if you stay feminine and positive, they often have the realization that they wanted a negative response, and they quickly become aware that they are the jerk. Plus it becomes clear to anyone watching who is the better women. For example: Her: Your boyfriend only likes you because you are nice and … | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/04/19 06:08 AM |
| 8 | Thank you for existing RPW.First of all, just because there are certain people who can't be responsible for their own well-being, doesn't mean that the people who can be responsible for their own well-being shouldn't take responsibility for their well-being. The comment that you are replying to was intended for a grown women. While someone might ultimately be unsuccessful in protecting themselves, that doesn't mean they shouldn't try. Second, what you are really objecting to here is giving responsibility to people who can… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/04/19 06:10 PM |
| 1 | Thank you for existing RPW.The point here is not "carry a gun". | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/04/19 05:01 PM |
| 6 | Thank you for existing RPW.I carry a gun everywhere I go. You can bet that if someone comes after me I am going to do whatever it takes to defend myself. The point here is not "carry a gun" (though I don't know why you wouldn't, seeing as you've personally witnessed the consequences of not having one), the point is it's your responsibility to defend yourself because you're the one your well-being matters to. Someone else might protect you by stepping in if necessary, but you can't assume that. It may not be your fault if … | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/04/19 04:52 PM |
| 1 | is hypergamy only about money and status or can it be looksWrong and wrong. | /r/askTRP | 13/04/19 02:02 AM |
| 3 | Do men find boundaries attractive?Oh absolutely. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/04/19 10:50 PM |
| -1 | Do men find boundaries attractive?Since a huge male fantasy is being urgently desired by women, I would say "having boundaries" is the opposite of a turn on. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/04/19 09:47 PM |
| 7 | The Power of the Pussy by Kara KingI'm sure this works well on men with no balls. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/19 11:54 PM |
| 1 | How to lower my sex drive?The terrible part isn't giving your man information later than ideal (you can't go back in time, and so the soonest you can tell him is now). The terrible part is that you didn't trust him to tell him them in the first place. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/19 11:10 PM |
| 4 | Fitness RoutinesThe first thing to note is that your BMI might be a little overstated if you excercise a lot. I can't tell if that's the case here, but if it is you may be losing fat and replacing it with muscle. It could explain why you are working hard but not losing any weight. To know what's going on a little better try pinching your fat, or looking in the mirror. The second thing is whether your excercise is efficient depends on what type of excercise you are doing and for how long. Are you lifting heavy w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/03/19 12:00 AM |
| – | Simple QuestionsIf you're worried about your appearance invisalign is an option. But I don't think most men find traditional braces off-putting. Though since I'm not 100% sure on that, I would do a thread search in /r/askmen. I'm sure the question has been asked before and you could use it to gather some data points. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/03/19 11:40 PM |
| 4 | Alternative ImperativesI don't need kids to add meaning to my life. I have a man who I love more than anything that I've devoted my life to. That's all the meaning I need. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/03/19 07:15 PM |
| 3 | Smv after a nose jobIt's intesting... Because a good nose job is one people don't notice. So it's really hard to quantify a change in SMV because the change seems subtle to people because people pay very little attention to your exact facial structure, unless you have something that looks out-of-place. But if you look at the before and after pics, there is a noticible difference. Practically nobody noticed, even my own family. Out of everyone I know, one coworker noticed that something was different, but she could … | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/03/19 07:01 PM |
| 3 | My boyfriend (19/m) and i have only been together about 2 months, and he's already suggesting we sleep together, would it be prudish of me if i said no?he's been insisting that he wants it to be "Special", by special he means with no protection. So... Because of that I would assume you're not interested in having sex with him. Go back to comment 1. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/03/19 06:38 PM |
| 37 | My boyfriend (19/m) and i have only been together about 2 months, and he's already suggesting we sleep together, would it be prudish of me if i said no?Well yeah... You should definitely say "no" if you're not interested in sex, in fact if you are not interested in sex with this guy you should be dating someone else. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/03/19 07:08 AM |
| 23 | Just wanted to thank the sub for the clothing adviceDressing well absolutely will make people notice you. But that's not necessarily a bad thing, the important part is what people think when they notice you. Will they think you look like a slut? Will they think you don't know how to dress yourself? Or will they think you're poised and well put together? When I go out, the people who do come up to talk to me (and tell me what they are thinking) will compliment some part of my appearance. Sometimes they will say things like that they wish they had … | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/02/19 06:45 PM |
| 39 | 21 years old and torn between two men. :(Neither. If you are having trouble choosing then you are not interested enough in either of them. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/02/19 05:42 PM |
| 5 | Help me with this disagreement!!Him being in charge doesn't mean you never tell him what you think, it just means that he makes the final decision. In fact, it's your job to tell him your opinion. Because without it he doesn't have all the information he needs to make a decision. Having your input is how he makes an educated decision with all the facts at his disposal. Without it he has to guess. Also never make him ask you the same thing more than once. He told you he wanted your input on this and you ignored him. So... you i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/02/19 05:13 AM |
| 5 | Saw a terrific example of feminine vulnerability on a TV show last nightdishonesty of any form is a sign of weakness It's not about weakness versus strength, both vulnerability and "invulnerability" have their pros and cons. They have both their place. If, for example, I went to my next interview saying that I desperately needed a the job because I needed to for an expensive surgery and that I would also need lots of time off in the future, it would do me no good to hear your praise about how "strong" I was for being honest. I would not be hired. While your definiti… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/19 04:27 AM |
| 5 | What’s a good response to “so you have many girls huh”Yeah, I'm starting to lose track... Er... What was your name again? | /r/askTRP | 20/02/19 07:31 AM |
| 2 | 32/37 enough of an age gap?Why are you asking us if you're young enough? Ask him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/02/19 07:28 AM |
| 1 | THE LIONS DEN - OFFICIAL NO-BAN FREE-FOR-ALL MODS-ASLEEP AMA-TRP DAYWhy should TRP care whether you take it seriously or not? | /r/TheRedPill | 13/02/19 06:35 PM |
| 3 | Don’t hate me but... does anyone else feel like half the stories in TheRedPill sub are totally made up?Does it matter? Try it yourself and make your own stories. Those who have TRP figured out and mastered tend to think that the stories are less outlandish than those who have not. It doesn't matter if some people are making stuff up, what matters is whether or not it works for your life. | /r/askTRP | 09/02/19 03:54 AM |
| 27 | Circular dating strategyExcept that a majority of men (especially the high value ones) don't want to be one of several men you are dating. Even in the early stages of dating they will take it as a sign that you are not too into them. Women having tons of attention from men is a constant in the world. Men know that attractive women get hit on a lot. You don't need to play up how popular you are and how many dates you have lined up for them to know that you are attractive... They can see that by looking at you. What make… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/02/19 07:37 PM |
| 2 | Who should pay?https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/4q0e50/deciding_who_should_pay_for_the_first_date/?st=jro482tv&sh=33cc5686 | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/02/19 11:35 PM |
| 27 | My needs/his needsSo, you told him sexy things, that were also deep insecurities that you wanted comfort about... And you're upset because he saw them as sexy things. Well, I could just point out that the fact that he got off on it means he's totally cool with it... Or if that's not enough you can just talk to him about it. Tell him you are feeling insecure. Let him know that these are things you are ashamed of. Don't be mad at him for not knowing you needed emotional support when you didn't tell him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/02/19 06:48 PM |
| 2 | How to express my feelings without sounding like a bitch?You're relationship should not be a competition between you and him. You're making it into one by comparing his and your expenses. Instead of competing with him, work together with him. Express to him that you would like to visit your parents because you miss them. When he says he doesn't feel comfortable spending boarding money for the dogs, offer alternate solutions that he may not have thought of and see what he thinks. Maybe you can get a friend to watch the dogs, maybe you can go when he ge… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/19 10:59 PM |
| 13 | Swallowing the (T)red pill: The Raw Truth of Weight ManagementWhile total fat = calories in vs calories out is technically true, it doesn't take into account what your body is actually doing with the food. If you eat sugar your body processes it differently than when you eat protein. If you eat a lot of sugar your body will develop metabolic syndrome (check out Dr. Robert Lustig for detailed information on why). What basically happens is that your body starts throwing off all the signals that you are starving when you're not. This makes your body store fat… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/01/19 06:51 PM |
| 33 | FR: The Mental Load: Why we shouldn't follow it and what to do instead.Great post. I also want to add that the mental load is a burden that women choose to take on. The author of this comic and feminists have noticed that it's women who tend to do a lot of these sort of tasks, but the haven't bothered to ask, why? The mental load is just the name that the author gave to the idea that there are certain things women care about that men do not. In other words, if the dishes aren't clean and the laundry isn't folded women are bothered by that more than men are. Men and… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/01/19 08:07 AM |
| 7 | Has anyone internalizing the red pill experienced the tug of war between the blue pill and the red pill?You do know there's a whole subreddit for people in dead bedrooms right? | /r/askTRP | 29/01/19 02:05 AM |
| 8 | Did I just miss a threesome?Opportunities are a river, if you miss one, there are always more. | /r/askTRP | 13/01/19 09:27 PM |
| 12 | Thoughts on the "second shift" mentality?It's just another way of saying that you care more about this stuff being done than he does. People remember things that are important to them. You reminding him means that he just doesn't care as much as you do. There's no point in being mad about it, it's no different than you not caring about what muzzle velocity of a AR15 chambered in 308 is (or whatever his interests are that you don't care much about). People are geared to care about different things (especially men and women, because they… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/01/19 07:45 AM |
| 1 | Reinserting myself back into his life. How unfair is this?You blew it because you couldn't decide if you wanted to make it work out with him. Your half in-half out mentality caused you to bail. It's fine to be unsure of a new relationship, but when you bailed you made a decision to not pursue that relationship anymore. Even if he breaks it off with her, he's not going to be able to trust you anymore (which looks like it goes both ways, since the reason you broke it off was because you didn't trust him). That's not a solid foundation to build a new rela… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/01/19 10:57 PM |
| 5 | I think I fucked up and married the wrong guyI actually disagree. I think his online sexting could be a problem, and this man's actions would clearly be a big problem for you, but it's not big a problem for her (at least the fact that it's "only" over the internet doesn't cause her great distress). I say this because she mentions it last, almost passingly, in a list of 4 grievances... After the item about cursing too much and the item about not cleaning up after himself. Determining this as the main problem is a bit like examining a Sundae… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/01/19 07:48 PM |
| 0 | I think I fucked up and married the wrong guyI think you misunderstand me. It's not the root of the issue, it's just one less thing you can respect him for. It takes a certain type of person and relationship for that not to matter, but it is certainly possible for it to not matter. If you want to save your relationship you have to find and create respect for your husband. The real problem here is that he's not the leader of your relationship, and because you see him as inferior to you, you are not keen on letting that happen. But if he was… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/01/19 07:32 PM |
| 54 | I think I fucked up and married the wrong guyAll of your "reasons" for hating your husband are just background noise to a larger issue... You don't respect your husband. You don't respect him, and these are just some of the reasons that trigger that feeling the loudest for you. If he stopped cursing tomorrow, I don't think you would suddenly feel better about your marriage. It wouldn't change your respect for him, you'd just find something new to hate, the way he chews with his mouth open, the way he leaves his durty clothes everywhere, wh… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/01/19 01:55 AM |
| 4 | Boyfriend prefers I wear makeup every time we’re out in public.It's not so much that beauty standards have changed, it's that the availability of makeup has allowed women to compete in higher brackets. An average looking woman can look above average with makeup and compete with above average women for above average men. Makeup helps to level the playing field so that our ability to be "attractive" is less determined by our genes, and more by the effort we put into our appearance. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/12/18 06:12 AM |
| 7 | How to forgive yourself for oopsies you've made before finding RPW?I don't forgive myself for my past mistakes. What I need is not forgiveness, what I need is to be better and not make the same mistakes. My mistakes are there for me to learn from, but I don't spend my time dwelling on a past that can't be fixed, I focus on a future that I can make better. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/12/18 07:05 PM |
| 1 | Division of labor at home?I don't know why that's relevant. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/12/18 07:55 PM |
| 1 | Division of labor at home?Being bossed around 24/7 by a "commander" doesn't teach you how to be a good leader, it teaches you how to be a good subordinate. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/12/18 07:53 PM |
| 3 | Division of labor at home?Many here would disagree. I don't understand your point. Not everyone here knows what they are talking about. This is a forum that helps people learn how to become great women, so by defintion many women here will still be on their journey to becoming great women... and thus not have all the right answers. The EC tags are there to help you with that, but ultimately it's your choice whose advice to follow. From my experience, I stand by what I said. But it's up to you to figure out who to believe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/12/18 07:48 PM |
| 3 | Stressed over expensive christmas gift...Gf is eratic and disrespectful, not sure what to do?Have some self respect. Don't let your woman tell you what to do and treat you like shit. | /r/askTRP | 22/12/18 06:12 PM |
| 10 | Division of labor at home?I think some could spin your having to nag your captain as him not being captain material If a woman thinks she needs to nag a man to do what she wants then she is the bad partner, not him. She either needs to do it herself or use feminine virtues to make him want to do certain things. If your relationship involves nagging, then it is a tug of war... You guys should be on the same side, not opposing ones. he can't "man up and take on a bit of responsibility." It's funny to me that certain women … | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/12/18 06:02 PM |
| 6 | Division of labor at home?In my Essential Duties of the First Mate article (can't link, on mobile) I discuss this a little bit. There are two reasons why certain household chores might be your responsibility. The first is if those chores have been assigned to you by your captain. The second is that if you don't do them, no one will, and by doing them it helps things run much smoother. Dishes are cleaned when needed, laundry is ready to wear, etc. Having a harmonious household means not agonizing over who does what. It's … | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/12/18 05:18 PM |
| 5 | Skincare Routine?Personally, I really like /r/asianbeauty. You should check them out as well. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/12/18 11:05 PM |
| 2 | Problematic TimeI talked to him, respectfully and loving, bringing the problem to him and then backing off. Okay, how did you approach him? What did you say, what did be say? dH said nothing, I mean what did he do when the electricity went off? When my Father talked to him he hurled insults at my Father instead of thanking him for saving us. Yes, I already explained that to you. It was extremely disrespectful, so of course he is going to be upset by it. It was probably the worst thing you could have done if you… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/12/18 03:51 PM |
| -2 | Problematic TimeI went to my Father hoping to loan me the money. You went behind his back... But I want to know what your SO did when that happened. optimism and hope. It sounds to me like you were just doing the same things like nothing was wrong hoping things would be better and not talking to him when you started getting worried. Why does he refuse jobs then? Why does he refuse any and all supplemental schooling offered Well because you won't actually talk to him I can't tell you the exact reason, but it's o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/12/18 08:05 PM |
| -2 | Problematic TimeMy Father has made his concern known to DH, in a very kind and respectful way. His parents are deeply concerned too but chose a way less constructive and supporting manner. Why is your father and his parents coming to him about this instead of you? There are so many things wrong with this. These people should not even know that this is an issue. This is a private matter between you and your SO. If you told them, it was very disrespectful to him. Them approaching him about it undermines his autho… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/12/18 07:34 PM |
| 2 | Co-worker accused me of staring at her ass (lifeguarding) Why are they like this?"Yeah, it needs some work" | /r/askTRP | 09/12/18 04:02 AM |
| 2 | Building Trust When He Has BaggageThey have few functions. Bragging rights Letting you know that your content is valuable to others and in line with sub values. It meant to encourage quality posting. Letting other users see what quality posters look like by letting them see who has stars The mods use the stars to help keep track of who good users are and who posts quality content. Consistently good users can be promoted to Endorsed Contributors and even mods. Endorsed Contributors are the voice of the sub's values. The tag is to… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/11/18 01:59 PM |
| 2 | Building Trust When He Has BaggageGreat advice. I'm going to ask the mods to give you a star for this one. /u/pearlsandstilettos /u/luckylittlestar | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/11/18 07:22 AM |
| 1 | Are pretty girls not allowed to be funny?You have no idea what attracts men, do you? fat girls This is not attractive to men. entertaining, witty, charismatic This is not attractive to men. easy to confide in A man who is willing to confide in you, and you're not aready in an LTR, is a man who is not interested in you. Men, like women, try to put there best foot forward when courting. They are not going to confide in someone they are inferested in. "Easy to confide in", unless you are an in a LTR, is synonymous with not attractive. sel… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/18 10:05 PM |
| 3 | Are pretty girls not allowed to be funny?That sounds exactly like it is with my SO. I'm able to, very occasionally, strike him right in the funny bone with something that would not survive a re-telling. It's very situational and context humor. I deliver something with just the right tone and delivery in a way that's totally unexpected and it gets him rolling with laughter. Because of this, he experiences me as being "funny" but it's not the sort of humor that would allow me to quit my day job and become a stand-up-comedian. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/18 09:52 PM |
| 19 | Are pretty girls not allowed to be funny?I am so confused, why would a pretty girl want to sabotage herself by acting like "one of the guys"? Hint: men don't want relationships with men, they want relationships with women. The reason the obese girls do this is because they are trying to get men's attention, but they are not doing something that will actually work. The pretty girls don't need to do this because they have no issues attracting men. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/18 07:30 AM |
| 4 | Are RPW “pick me” types of women?Of course we are. ALL women are "pick me" girls. Are women want to best attract men. Whether they are nerdy, slutty, "one of the guys" or RPW, women want men to pick them. The only difference between these methods is not the motivation of women, it's which ones are the most effective. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/11/18 09:47 PM |
| 3 | Is there any chance for a 32-year-old virgin to find someone?Well the problem isn't exactly whether it's possible or not. It is possible, but your situation raises red flags for men who might be interested in you, and for good reason. They'd want to know why it is that you've never been in relationship like that before. They'd want to know what is it about you that is making things not work. Frankly, you should want to know that too. Because while it may be technically possible for you to get a relationship, whatever you have been doing is not working. Yo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/11/18 06:00 PM |
| 4 | Field Report: First date after discovering RPWIt's great that you wrote this up here because unsuccessful field reports can be even more helpful as successful ones. They help you learn. In your introduction, twice you mention pulling away because you wanted more effort from him. At one point, I tried to give him an "out" in case he didn't want to keep messaging with me, so I responded with a conversation-ending answer to his question. You do not need to do this. If he doesn't want to talk to you... He'll just stop talking to you. He'll make… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/18 08:43 PM |
| 5 | The Conservative WomanThe reason why women tend to lean left is that women value security over freedom, and men lean right because they tend to value freedom over security. Almost any conflict between red and blue can be boiled down to this fundamental discrepancy. The difference between the conservative woman and the liberal woman isn't that she no longer cares about security, she absolutely does (that's one of the biggest reasons they tend to be pro-marriage). The difference is that right leaning women derive their… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/10/18 05:07 AM |
| 3 | How to Tell Between the Ego and The Self?Who cares? Which part of "yourself" do you want to be? | /r/askTRP | 25/10/18 03:00 AM |
| 1 | Girl I'm seeing found TRP posts in my reddit history and I think it killed my chances with her. How do I recover?Oh, you don't want to answer because I'm shit testing you, right? Of course it is, she's giving you shit to see how you respond to it... what else could it possibly be? For the record you didn't pass the test. | /r/askTRP | 22/10/18 08:16 PM |
| 11 | "Gender Critical Feminism"She embroiders pictures Sounds reasonable. of female genitalia Ok that's weird. and cute phrases Sounds harmless. about destroying the patriarchy. Annd... You lost me again. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/10/18 08:53 PM |
| 14 | I feel that I don't need a manI love being submissive. Do you even know what that means? It means he's in charge. I start throwing tantrums, being needy, being jealous. So you attempt to control him. This absolutely not submissive behavior because you are acting like you can tell him what he can and cannot do. And I acknowledge many men WANT a woman to keep him in line and "civilize" him. Um no, you have absolutely no idea what men want. I'll give you a hint, it's the exact opposite. Treated like a queen No, that is not how … | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/18 06:00 PM |
| 6 | Whisper's Comprehensive Guide to the Shit TestI wouldn't suggest sarcasm. That might create the appearance of being bothered. Try a neutral tone or a grandious/ exaggerated/ over the top tone. | /r/TheRedPill | 13/10/18 09:46 PM |
| 1 | What I look for in a man: Husband MaterialThere is no such thing as a truly unflappable man. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/10/18 04:29 AM |
| 2 | What changed in her mind? [FR]Stop worrying about it. Replace girl. | /r/askTRP | 12/10/18 03:39 AM |
| 3 | If A Girl Ignores You, Should You Just Drop Her or is Calling Her Out an Actual Option?Your disapproval only matters to her if your approval matters to her. | /r/askTRP | 12/10/18 03:34 AM |
| 3 | If A Girl Ignores You, Should You Just Drop Her or is Calling Her Out an Actual Option?If your goal is to look weak, I guess it's fine. Girls don't get turned on when you make them feel guilty. They avoid the source of the guilt. | /r/askTRP | 12/10/18 03:33 AM |
| 7 | Status of the Appeal 10/11I think you're forgetting that they didn't promise to read or respond to the appeals. Perhaps the whole point is to make you feel like you've been heard without actually doing anything. It's a placebo button. Or maybe they will read them, but have no intention of opening a dialog. Perhaps they will only respond to users who have presented terms that they will agree with. | /r/TheRedPill | 11/10/18 09:14 PM |
| 2 | How to look fun and mature at the same time?Why are you not lifting? Go lift. | /r/askTRP | 09/10/18 11:58 AM |
| 26 | How can I avoid having sex with him too soon when I REALLY want to?I would say you should work focus more on your girl game. From this post and from your posting history, I'm pretty certain he doesn't like you for your "great personality". | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/10/18 06:52 AM |
| 2 | Blowjobs & CookingIf you want you can "train" yourself to have a Pavlovian association with it. If you practice giving a blow jobs and then cumming afterwards you will start to associate the blow jobs with sexual arousal. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/18 08:37 PM |
| 7 | Blowjobs & Cookingdo women get any sexual pleasure from giving blowjobs? There are no pleasure receptors in the mouth, however it can be sexually arousing the same way porn or romance novels can be sexually arousing. It can excite your mind. That said, a blow job isn't for you, it's for him. It's to make him feel loved and appreciated, it's to let him just sit back relax and enjoy, it's to let him know that you will take care of him. The same reason you might give him a massage. So whether you enjoy it or not you… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/18 08:24 PM |
| – | Homemaking: Tips, Tricks & QuestionsI hate windex, it doesn't keep windows and mirrors streak-free at all. I use off-brand foaming window cleaners which work much better. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/10/18 10:07 PM |
| 46 | Playing hard to get vs. being too "easy"?is that just me projecting/female solipsism? Exactly. That's what is attractive to you, so you assume that's what would be attractive to them. it implies that they have nothing else going on. Why on earth would a man care about how busy you are? Or like you more if you had less time for him? Let me put this in perspective so that you understand. Men spend their lives in a sea of disinterest, while women get hit on and checked out all the time. Men are starved for affection and attention, they wo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/10/18 06:07 PM |
| -1 | Alternatives to Captain/First MateCaptain/ First Mate is definitely the most common RP dynamic, but some other examples that would work with TRP would be the polygyny model or the Master/ Slave model. I'm sure there are others. But the commonality is a clearly defined power and responsibility dynamic. It is important to note that there is no such thing as a truly equal relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/10/18 05:30 PM |
| 29 | I have an extreme jealousy of red pill men. It’s honestly getting me down.If you want to get praised for accomplishing something hard, go accomplish something hard. Don't get mad at men for mastering all the hard tasks, there are pleanty of hard tasks to go around. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/09/18 09:43 PM |
| 3 | I have no idea how to get in a healthy relationship- help!I would disagree. I think the desire to have long term investment in a woman who provides value to a man's life is a desire for most men and it's seperate from the desire to raise and mold a young mind. Sometimes the goal of having children might be an added reason for men to want a relationship, but it's certainly not the only reason a man might want one. However if you want children and he does not, I would call that a black flag because your long term goals are fundamentally incompatible. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/09/18 05:09 PM |
| 1 | Engagement ring after already getting engaged...I'll pay for it myself Go and buy yourself a cheap ring and wear it on your ring finger. Objects only become "symbols" when we assign meaning to them. So all you need is to obtain an object and assign a meaning to it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/09/18 11:35 PM |
| 2 | How to deal with having an average face?Tailor your skin routine to make your face clear and glowy (Korean skincare is a godsend for this). Can I ask what your routine and products you use for the results you get? | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/09/18 05:43 PM |
| 3 | Should I submit to him or be more assertive?It seems like he doesn't believe that he is in charge. The fact that you phrased this question as "should I submit or be more assertive" gives me a window into why: you haven't submitted to him yet. Assertiveness should never be on the table, and if it has been in the past it may explain why he doesn't trust you. A man who is in charge believes that he is entiled to make the decisions, whether or not you agree with him. This gives him the ability to make decisions that might benefit you in prefe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/09/18 05:38 PM |
| 1 | Men are also hypergamousIt’s unheard of in hunter/gatherer cultures That's just you misinterpreting anthropologists. It's unheard of because they haven't been able to provide definitive proof either way. However there is some evidence in that they have shown that only about 20% of men have successfully reproduced while 80% of women have. The post hoc theory is that men died in greater numbers, and that left a small portion of men to repopulate. However there is no support for harem type models. It could have been a fre… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/18 10:15 PM |
| 3 | Weird situation: Can you be the “beta bucks” of an alpha male?He never mentioned a thing about being attracted to me, about wanting me. It was always about the connection he felt, about how comfortable he was. Men want to have sexual relationships with attractive women and that want to have romantic relationships with women who they value for more reasons than their looks. Which type of relationship do you want to have with men? | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/09/18 05:31 PM |
| 1 | Men will be men?I think you are looking at this on the wrong access. What you're basically asking is "are certain men saying certain things acceptable or unacceptable?" You're trying to figure out whether or not certain behaviors should be tolerated or not. That is the wrong question to ask. By categorizing it into acceptable vs nonacceptable, you are putting yourself in charge of his actions. You are (directly or indirectly) putting yourself in the role of the monitor for his actions. This puts you in charge o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/18 05:48 PM |
| 2 | Stumbled upon this site today. It has a nice collection of dresses that are intentionally fashionable but also modest.Yes asian clothing should work well if you are not busty. You have to be careful with some asian online stores because they are low quality and bad customer servicd. However YesStyle is a good sourcd that has a lot of brands from different regions. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/09/18 11:29 PM |
| 2 | Stumbled upon this site today. It has a nice collection of dresses that are intentionally fashionable but also modest.Sometimes clothing stores will have a section between children and adult geared towards around ages 15-25. Sort of "teenager" section. Juvenile/ misses are two different names that section might be referred to by. Personally as a woman of short stature, I've never had a problem with fitting in dresses as long as they are cut not too long and fit in the torso. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/09/18 11:14 PM |
| 2 | Are there any redpill subs for women that doesn't advocate for marriage?If you can't tolerate contradicting view points, then you are the one with the issue. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/18 11:09 PM |
| 2 | How do you be supportive without appearing patronising?You seem to be running in circles contradicting yourself and not even realizing it. You say the problem you are having is that you think the opposites should attract. Have you stopped to really think about what that means? If I'm reading your story correctly, you want someone who will take charge. That means that you don't want to take charge in your relationship and the person you are with will want to take charge. Do you see how that is opposite (though I prefer the term "complementary", becau… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/18 07:51 PM |
| 6 | How do you be supportive without appearing patronising?According to my dad and personality experts, I'm destined to marry a phlegmatic man. I'm preeeetty sure you are destined to marry the person you choose to marry. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/18 04:13 AM |
| 2 | Are there any redpill subs for women that doesn't advocate for marriage?This sub allows for many alternate views on what the definition of a long term relationship with a man looks like. Marriage just ends up being the most popular because it's the predominat paradigm in society. There are women here who don't have marriage as an end goal, I happen to be one of them. We're just in the minority. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/08/18 06:54 PM |
| 5 | Older Men2)The fact he's going after a woman much younger over his peers suggests appearances are more important to him than personality/character Younger people people with bad personality and charcter don't grow into old people with good personality and character, young people with good personality and character do. Young attractive people are actually capable of having a good personality and character, believe it or not. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/08/18 08:11 PM |
| 8 | How can I stop feeling sad about never getting male interest?I was hit on was 2 years ago and the guy told me that he thinks I am very beautiful. It is worthwhile to mention that this is a really direct approach, and most men will not be so direct if they are attracted to you... especially these days with men being so actively discouraged from doing so. Here are some things to look for: Men going somewhat out of their way to help you. Helping when they see you struggling with something. Holding the door open for you even though you are more than a few pac… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/08/18 07:24 PM |
| 5 | What do you think of "internalized misogyny?"Thank you :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/08/18 04:50 AM |
| 26 | What do you think of "internalized misogyny?"What do you think of "internalized misogyny?" It's feminist for: "You can make any choice you like, as long as its a choice I like. And that's a choice I don't like." Is this really a thing? How can I know that my beliefs are my own or if they are a result of some sort of self-perpetuating system? Let me ask you something, if it was part of a "self-perpetuating system", would you believe it to be true at all? If a society can make you believe something to be true, than a few generations of peopl… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/08/18 02:38 AM |
| 2 | I have a wonderful and awful problem in my relationship.You are supposed to have silly emotions. You're female, it's part of the terrain. However if you are nagging him to behave a certain way, then you are giving him your solution. Tell him what you are feeling, but also let him know it's more about you than about him. Let him figure out what to do about it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/08/18 02:49 AM |
| 3 | Help me with advice before everyone wakes upIt doesn't really matter who was right and who was wrong here. What matters is that you are his partner. You prioritized the feelings of his family over his feelings, and that's why you made a mistake because it's him you have to sustain a relationship with. Instead you worried more about the relationship you had with his family. If you had gone with him, the responsibility of any fall out would have been his to worry about. He is the one who made the decision, so he's the one who would have to … | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/08/18 05:20 PM |
| 6 | where do you/did you meet your high quality man?A friend of a friend of a friend of a friend (4 layers) who I met in high school. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/08/18 06:45 PM |
| 1 | Is it RPW or is he asking too much?Is this the hill you want to die on? You are making up a hypothetical scenario, and you aren't sure that it will actually be an issue. That's probably why your SO reacted so negativity. You aren't coming to him with a problem, you are creating problems that you simply don't have. I think if you are in the weeds most men will help out a little because they care about you, especially if you treat them well. Or they may react by giving you a break ("You can do the dishes tomorrow"). What you're bas… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/08/18 05:56 PM |
| 3 | A Cautionary Cohabitating TaleIn every way, but legally, she and Brent are married. They own a home together and he foots most of the bills, while she works part time. He's essentially step-father to Lucy's daughter I don't understand why someone would blow up their relationship based on a legal technicality. She already had the relationship of someone who was married. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/08/18 06:57 PM |
| 1 | Dating a mgtow!Er, not exactly. MGTOW, for the most part, are men who are disenchanted with the idea of a relationship with women due to never having a relationship with one be benefital or worthwhile to them. This means either they don't derive benefit of maintaining a relationship with a woman or women have so far failed to give them benefit. (One is a lack of need from him, and the other is a lack of quality women.) MGTOW in most cases are more of the later. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/08/18 07:58 AM |
| 1 | Initiating ‘the talk’ or a serious conversation as a RPW?Is it okay for me to initiate this talk? It's not a good idea. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/08/18 10:58 PM |
| 9 | Genuine Feminine Experiences Can Be Had By...?Finding joy and laughter in every aspect of life. The small and the big. Taking care of those who are important to you. Feeding, nurturing and loving. Being gracious to those who do things for you when they don't have to. Showing kindness and understanding to people, sometimes even to those who don't seem to deserve it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/08/18 04:07 AM |
| 3 | Why girls seem more interested in LTRs, and boys in casual dating/sex?I used the word virtually on purpose, because while mostly free it is not totally free. But, you're not thinking about this from an evolutionary perspective. men run the risk of producing offspring Men don't have to raise all the children they create. Their evolutionary goal is to create as many as possible (some may die) and only invest the limited resource of time with the woman (and her children) with the best genes. This is why men have the dual mating strategies of having sex with many wome… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/08/18 03:27 AM |
| 1 | Why girls seem more interested in LTRs, and boys in casual dating/sex?I used the word virtually on purpose, because while mostly free it is not totally free. But, you're not thinking about this from an evolutionary perspective. men run the risk of producing offspring Men don't have to raise all the children they create. There evolutionary goal is to create as many as possible (some may die) and only invest the limited resource of time with the woman (and her children) with the best genes. This is why men have the dual mating strategies of having sex with many wome… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/08/18 03:26 AM |
| 12 | How long are you willing to wait for a proposal?If a guy actuay wants to be married and isn't proposing it's because he doesn't want to marry you. If a guy says he wants to married and isn't proposing, it's because men don't have enthusiasm for marriage any more. A lot TRP unaware regular Joes don't really see any benefit to them of marriage. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/08/18 05:21 PM |
| 1 | Is mt super high sex drive a turn off for men.She's deleted her post now, but apparently that was something she was fairly proud of. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/08/18 11:30 PM |
| 8 | Why girls seem more interested in LTRs, and boys in casual dating/sex?Women are biologically forced to keep the men around in order to protect her and their offspring I would add to this that humans didn't evolve with birth control in mind. If you have sex and you're a woman, that is a huge investment of 9 months pregnancy + baby raising, not to mention the mortality risk was much higher. Naturally, you are going to be very choosy about who you have sex with. For men, competitively speaking, sex is virtually free. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/08/18 09:42 PM |
| 3 | My hamster is spinning out of control -- someone smack some sense into meAww that's kind of you to say. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/08/18 06:45 PM |
| 1 | Dating a mgtow!Those who won't marry are a broader group than MGTOW. There are many men who do want relationships with women, don't consider themselves MGTOW, but won't marry. Though I suppose it depends on how a MGTOW defines himself if he lands in this group as well. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/08/18 06:44 PM |
| 19 | Dating a mgtow!The difference between a MGTOW and everybody else is that a MGTOW doesn't see the value in a relationship with a woman, most likely because relationships with women have never added value to his life. This means a MGTOW changes back to an everybody else when he finds a reason to invest in a relationship with a woman. So, you can have a relationship with a MGTOW who is no longer a MGTOW if you add value to his life. This takes really good girl game, depending on how hard-core he is/was, practical… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/08/18 09:31 PM |
| 4 | Is there any hope for a single mother?It's harder because you are competing with women who do not have kids. However it does make a difference that your husband died, rather than the fact that you left him. Men will look at you more favorably because of that. The key thing to remember while dating as a single mom is that men do not want to feel like they are in 2nd place to your kid. Use that and other red pill principles when dating. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/18 05:42 PM |
| 1 | Bret Contreras aka "The Glute Guy" - saving my backside!I do a light weight ramp to heavy weight style weight training. For my light sets that are under 135lbs, I just stick a couple of 25s on there and lift from a little lower. I hope that helps. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/18 05:58 AM |
| 2 | Is mt super high sex drive a turn off for men.right now I wouldn't want to hear red pill advice on weight If you don't want advice on how to fix your life, what are you doing here? If you only want the advice you want to hear, go ask a mirror. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/18 01:09 AM |
| 6 | Is mt super high sex drive a turn off for men.I think there is probably a middle ground between being a prude and winning a blow job contest in front of all your friends. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/07/18 08:56 PM |
| 14 | I love my boyfriend but I don't want to sleep with him anymoreDo you want him to think you stopped caring about him? Because that's what will happen. Men conflate sex with love, caring, respect and passion. These are all intertwined deeply for them. You do not withold sex from a man you consider your partner... period. If you no longer love him, it's fine. But do him the courtesy of breaking up with him so he can find someone who does love him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/07/18 04:43 PM |
| 6 | Is this a problem to bring to my husband or STFU?STFU is mostly for women who have a tendancy to nag, belittle, second guess, or take charge. If you have a problem, that is what you're supposed to communicate to your captain. Keep in mind, this: My MIL said "that's why she's so tiny" in reference to the baby and it really hurt my feelings... I would like him to know certain comments are hurtful and I have a hard time taking them as a joke Is your problem. And this: Maybe he could not laugh or act like it's okay? Is your solution. Only bring yo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/07/18 05:33 PM |
| 3 | Any tips? Would this be considered super overweight? Honestly not sure.The solution to being too skinny is not to become fatter, it is to put on muscle mass. Squat, bench press, deadlift, over-head press, rows. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/07/18 03:51 PM |
| 17 | Boyfriend lives with mum and she does everything for himhe said that he would buy me dinner sometimes. I feel like it doesn't add up to dinners I make him he has never made me a coffee and it is always me making coffee for him and clearing up after him If you start keeping score in your relationship, you will never be happy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/18 02:30 AM |
| 4 | Laura Doyle's Views on Verbal Abuse in Marriage...True or Not?I didn't misunderstand anything. It's you who is misunderstanding. She says that she often counsels women to stay in verbally abusive relationship Of course she does. She's talking about relationships where: This kind of mistreatment is not a one-way street and a man is protecting himself against ongoing insults and emasculation. are applicable. If the relationship can be made to be better, where there's no more verbal abuse, why wouldn't she try to make it better. She is NOT talking about cases… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/18 08:41 PM |
| 3 | Is it the end of the world if I don't date in college?Is it the end of the world if I don't date in college That entirely depends on what you priorites are. I'm thinking that the difficulty of my major won't leave much time for me to actively seek out guys. That's just you saying "I want to prioritize getting a stellar career over meeting a mate". We only have so much time in a day, and what we choose to do with it will affect our life outcome. Prioritizing your career will make you really successful in your life. You will never need something that… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/18 04:35 PM |
| 10 | Laura Doyle's Views on Verbal Abuse in Marriage...True or Not?Let's look at why you think this situation contradicts what Laura is saying. Laura Doyle says that verbal abuse is always a two-way street, but this situation really feels like a refutation of that. But that's not what she said. Let's look at your quote. This kind of mistreatment is very rarely a one-way street, and is often a man's way of protecting himself against ongoing insults and emasculation. She uses the words "rarely" and "often",. These words are not synonyms with "always". She is not … | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/18 04:05 PM |
| 2 | Not getting home before fiance causes huge fights, please help meWork? Why isn't it an issue at your work to leave early? | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/18 03:57 PM |
| 3 | Not getting home before fiance causes huge fights, please help meWhere are you when you're not at home? | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/18 07:11 AM |
| 3 | What are the stages of dating?I don’t drill them or interview them on dates and the conversations just flow naturally. Okay, but that's the baseline. Everyone's first dates go like that. I mean, it's good you don't come off as a crazy person, but that's only like 10% of the population. What are you doing to win over the other 90%? That's sort of what I meant when I said " maybe you are not differentiating yourself well enough from the other girls these guys are meeting". He made an off hand comment about “one being for all m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/18 08:58 PM |
| 11 | What are the stages of dating?If they are repeatedly leaving you or losing interest in you after having sex with you, then it means that the only value you provided to them was sex. This means that you're probably fairly attractive, which explains the initial enthusiasm, but not much else, which explains the excitement disappearing after the sex happens. In order to make men want to continue to hang out with you, they have to enjoy your company. The experience of hanging out with you falls somewhere in this range: "the thoug… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/07/18 02:35 PM |
| 1 | My husband got our camper van stuck for two hoursI don't know if this helps, but try to remember, at the end of the day that's just "stuff". Stuff can be lost, stolen, broken, and destroyed. But what that stuff represented to you, the memories, that will be with you always. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/07/18 05:00 PM |
| 8 | "I opened the fridge and shouted "I'LL MARRY THIS WOMAN"" - A quote from my man to me. TY ladies. Update inside.He said he'll keep trying the others ones if I make them right. Haha, yeah I was going to say when you had him dipping his finger in spices to taste them that you probably wouldn't get very good results. A lot of spices aren't meant to be sampled on your finger, because that is way too concentrated. They are meant to be added delicately by a skilled hand. A skilled cook knows by taste and smell what a little bit of a spice would do to a dish. But I'd never ask someone to "finger sample" habanero… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/07/18 10:00 PM |
| 3 | A Field Guide to Retarded BullshitMy god this is horrifying D: | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/07/18 05:11 PM |
| – | Simple QuestionsCheck out the external resource mega-list in the wiki. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/07/18 07:01 AM |
| 14 | Advice on how to be organically feminine needed :)I can pretend all I want, but I want it to come from a place of truth. With any new skill that you learn it takes practice to become easy and feel "natural". So, I do recommend you "pretend" at first. Yes, it will feel fake and forced. Just like a toddler taking it's steps for the first time, it will feel clumsy and awkward. But, keep practicing and don't give up. It will become more natural and feel more like "who you are" overtime. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/07/18 06:52 AM |
| 4 | I just finished “The Red Pill” and I just want to post this to solidify that I am no longer a feminist.you have to be strong, a provider, emotionless, etc It's because men a lot of pride themseves on these values. It's sort of like telling someone who is hard working that they shouldn't be, because you see it as all the time they are away from their family. But they see it as the most important thing they are doing for family, wanting their kids to have a nice life and go to college, etc, is why they get up in the morning. It what gives them their self-worth. The term toxic-masculinity look down … | /r/MensRights | 16/06/18 05:29 PM |
| 5 | I just finished “The Red Pill” and I just want to post this to solidify that I am no longer a feminist.Then that's a valid choice as well. The further away from feminism/sjws you become, the more you realize that feminism isn't just a belief system, it's something that is present in all aspects of their lives to the point where feminists and non feminists have very little in common anymore. It's a way of life. If you don't derive benefit from your relationships, it's okay to walk away. Though I would suspect to see a lot of push back. | /r/MensRights | 16/06/18 04:57 PM |
| 1 | Feeling entitled... please put me in my right place.I actually thought about that, funnily enough. This post was sort of structured as a specific response. I'd have to rethink it to make it more general. Maybe it can be second part to my post about inspiring what you want from men? | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/06/18 03:30 PM |
| 2 | Why do men ask out women more than the opposite? Why do women get asked out more than men? Women: What's your secret to getting asked out so often? Men: How do you continue dating despite rejection after rejection?Women's long term relationship strategy can be pretty much boiled down to "hook the most attractive guy who shows interest in you". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/18 03:27 PM |
| 1 | Feeling entitled... please put me in my right place.Rule 6: Sex is really important to men. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/18 10:38 PM |
| 1 | Feeling entitled... please put me in my right place.In return, I want to be pampered by my boyfriend (flowers once in a while, taking me out to dinner a couple times a month). Rule 1: Don't engage in covert or explicit contracts. I think "no engaging in explicit contracts" should be self-explanatory, since that's not what you're doing here. But your instinct to not tell him "I'll clean the house if you buy me dinner" is correct. You don't want to turn your acts of service into a barter system, and turning your relationship into a transnational on… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/18 10:35 PM |
| 18 | RP truths vs Feminism -- I need some encouragement!I find it funny that an ideology that discourages femininity and traditional feminine behavior has the audacity to call those who embrace it "misogynist". They the platform of free-choice for women, but only as long as that choice is in their pre-approved list of choices. Let me ask you this: Are you happy? Are you hurting yourself or anyone else? If your answers are yes, and no, respectively, then I see no problem with what your doing. The thing with feminism, is that it relies on women's tende… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/06/18 09:47 PM |
| 3 | When your Captain is a dad & has an ex-wife - valid worries or not?It sounds to me like you are not really concerned about him spending more time with his kids, his family, and even his ex. It's just that you are starting to feel left out or even ignored. You are starting to feel like you are not important to him. Even though intellectually you know you are, you haven't been receiving that message from him lately. > I'm finding it hard being vulnerable with him right now. That's exactly what you need to do. Let him know how your feeling, give him your problem a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/06/18 09:25 PM |
| 7 | He has access to endless free sex....what am I getting out of this?Shrug. If you don't see the value in a relationship, get a cat. We're not here to sell you on the idea of relationships, we're here to help you get one if you find that to be a worthwhile goal. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/18 05:53 AM |
| – | Simple QuestionsThat's not exactly how I would put it. How I would put it is; Hypergamy is wanting the most attractive man possible. If you believe your man is the most attractive man possible then your Hypergamy instinct is satisfied. You can definitely become in love, or become obsessed with a man where this is a thing that happens. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/06/18 04:10 AM |
| – | Simple Questionswhat if there were women who are better in sex than me? Let me put in this way, while not having sex is a deal breaker for men, it's not the main reason he chooses to keep a girl around for. That's the purpose of girl game. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/06/18 04:04 AM |
| 8 | The "nice girl" vs the "nice guy""Nice guys" are those who are inflicted with the notion that what is attractive to him will be attractive to her. Since this is, by definition, acting in ways men find attractive, there is no issue with women acting this way. The female equivalent would be the feisty women who pads her resume and plays hard to get. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/05/18 05:06 PM |
| 5 | I can't seem to get commitment before sexIn order to get commitment from a man you have to make him like the idea of spending time with you. What are you doing to "sell" yourself as a good relationship option? | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/05/18 09:03 PM |
| 49 | What has been your experience with men who ask you about sexual details and N-count?In my experience, men don't need to ask. They can tell. They won't know your exact number, but they can interpret a lot from how you act. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/05/18 10:11 PM |
| 1 | How to offer to split a check on a datehttps://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/4q0e50/deciding_who_should_pay_for_the_first_date/?st=jg1rqfdg&sh=47d12efd | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/04/18 04:58 AM |
| 10 | Hairstyles, honouring RPTIn most cases I would say, "Do whatever it takes to be more attractive". But I think in terms of hair color, it is largely a matter of preference. Men have different preferences with hair color, and they don't care enough about it to reject you on that even if it wasn't their preference. As long as you have nice features, and feminine nature they will gladly be with a woman who is not their physical ideal. (99% of the time you won't be his physical ideal anyway, because that is an ideal woman th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/04/18 05:49 PM |
| 3 | [News] Dishwashing causes more relationship distress than any other household task.Well, I would say that this is the weirdest thing I've read all day, but that's probaby because the day is still young. Honestly, no one really likes household chores... but if they are causing tension in your relationship then you have bigger problems in your relationship than dishes. I believe that household chores can be another source of tension in a already tense relationship, but I don't believe they can be a cause of tension in an otherwise happy relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/04/18 07:06 PM |
| 3 | Need help. Currently dating a PERFECT match but there's only one issue....It's an issue that I don't really know what to think, simply because I haven't really been around it or experienced the need to own a firearm Well then your problem is quite easy to solve. You have an outsider's view of firearms because you've never seen one outside of a movie and never knew anyone who had one. Your problem is ignorance, which is why you don't know what to think, or even what to feel about it. Have him teach you about them. Let him show you how to handle a gun safely, and show y… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/04/18 06:40 PM |
| 2 | Getting “in shape” — gracefullyIt's only intimidating because you it's outside of the things you are familiar with. Have someone help you with your form with light weight, then build up your weight to find out your personal 1 rep maximum. Then you can use an online calculator to determine what you should be doing for reps (I use the "Mad Cow" progression). Don't worry about what other people are pulling, you do what you can do. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/18 12:38 AM |
| 5 | Getting “in shape” — gracefullyOlympic Barbell and iron plates. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/03/18 11:41 PM |
| 70 | Let’s Talk About the “Pick Me” FemalesI think you are not drawing a very clear distinction between an RPW and your so called "pick me" girl. For example you say, RPW don’t put other women down or feel superior to others. While simultaneously showing you feel superior to a "pick me" girl. All women are trying strategies to get men. The only thing that's note worthy about different strategies are which ones work to secure a long term relationship and which ones don't. So what I'd rather see is a list of behaviours that don't work (tha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/03/18 05:54 AM |
| 5 | Advice for staying classy while social drinking?work people drink more than I’m used to. You have two oppositional goals here. Matching your coworkers drink-for-drink Keeping classy Choose 1. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/03/18 06:06 AM |
| 5 | can you compromise on marriage?I think the pinnacle of a relationship is determined by two people who want to stay together forever. I don't see what about "getting married' changes that. If you were already planning on staying together, why get married? | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/03/18 11:47 PM |
| 2 | Ever see something in the media and think, "I'm glad I discovered RPW before I thought this was a good idea"?Then you need to throw away the feeling of "mine". If this guy is your fiance, then he is going to be your husband, and everything that is yours will be his too. That means those towels he ruined were his towels too, and he can do whatever he likes with them. I'm sorry that you picked out everything in your household without his taking his needs into consideration, but you have to realize those things are his too now. This is why we don't typically promote the notion of the woman being the main … | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/03/18 08:55 PM |
| 1 | Ever see something in the media and think, "I'm glad I discovered RPW before I thought this was a good idea"?It's absolutely his home as well... just not in name. So the home is his as well, just not the stuff in the home? | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/03/18 04:29 AM |
| 2 | I want my boyfriend to know that I’m not helpless and I can run my own errands. Is this compatible with RPW behaviour?Honestly, this sounds like the behavior of someone experiencing resentment. I don't know what he's resentful about, but it probably has nothing to do with driving you places in the car. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/03/18 04:28 AM |
| 1 | Ever see something in the media and think, "I'm glad I discovered RPW before I thought this was a good idea"?I'm confused. Is it his home too, or is he just a guest in your house? | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/03/18 02:05 AM |
| 15 | How do you flirt?This is not a post by me, original post here. I made some edits, keep in mind that there are different levels of intensity here depending on how you know the person. Don't start a tickle fight with someone you don't know. Touch: Touching anywhere can be actually construed as flirting -- the more unnecessary, the flirtier it is. Touching is usually far more flirty than your words or body language. More notable and obvious examples: Any sort of playful horse play -- punching/pushing shoulder, etc.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/03/18 10:40 PM |
| 3 | Advice please: BF [31] has high SMV that will only get higher. What can I [30F] do to grow with him?You sort of have the right idea, but you have it backwards. Feeling someone is "better than you" doesn't mean that you necessarily feel bad about yourself, it just means that you admire that person. If /u/girlwithabike's SO has a higher IQ than her, than it means he is smarter than her, and there is nothing she can do about it. But she doesn't beat herself up about it (because she's realistic), but she does get to think he's amazing for his brilliance. In a way it is sort of like dread gaming yo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/03/18 06:10 AM |
| 2 | The Art of Getting Things... Without Demanding ThemI doubt the number who are there for love is zero. I didn't say that they didn't love their wives. Loving your partner and feeling obligated by them are not necessarily opposed. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/03/18 06:01 AM |
| 3 | The Art of Getting Things... Without Demanding ThemYou shouldn't be calling this strategy a trick. It's probably the only course of action that men don't consider trickery. I disagree. I don't believe a trick is not a trick if it actually works. A trick that it is so good you don't recognize it as a trick, is the best kind of trick. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/03/18 07:35 PM |
| 4 | How to overcome (mostly social) self-sabotageAh I see, you're addicted to praise and attention because you don't feel good about yourself. When someone gives you verbal confirmation, you feel good about yourself... for about 10 minutes before you feel insecure again. This is because you don't really believe the things they are telling you. You have to reduce your addiction to feel-good-now platitudes. In order to start feeling good about yourself, you have to start working on yourself in a serious way. Go to the gym, start eating better, s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/03/18 07:19 AM |
| 3 | “Men are more satisfied by their bromances than their romantic relationships, study says”Do people have higher standards for their friendships? Yes and no. People, including men, do not have have high standards for friendships. However, the term "bro" is not a synonym for "friend", it is a synonym for "brother". If a man is your bro, it means he is your non-blood brother. He is as easy to replace as your brother. In fact a man will possibly have a greater loyalty to his bro than his actual brother, depending on how much he trusts his brother. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/03/18 06:43 PM |
| 6 | “Men are more satisfied by their bromances than their romantic relationships, study says”So guys don’t really care if their girlfriends are trustworthy or have good/compatible personalities? Keep in mind, for a lot of guys their "girlfriend" is just their current sex source. This is especially true for college aged men. They are not looking to spend the rest of their lives with this girl, they are just trying to get laid. Women are different due to the fact they tend to not enter a relationship (or stay in a relationship) if they can't invision a future with a man. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/03/18 06:30 PM |
| 23 | “Men are more satisfied by their bromances than their romantic relationships, study says”While this specific comment seems to elude to the sort of temporary nature of college romantic relationships, it also reveals the strong loyalty that men have towards each other that never goes away. A man's relationship to his "bro" has a different sort of quality than any other sort of relationship. It's different than a man towards a woman, a woman towards a man, a woman towards a woman, and a parent towards their child. A "bro" is a man you can rely on no matter what to have your back. When … | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/03/18 07:46 AM |
| 1 | Caught husband doing drugsWith steroids and growth hormones, you can get too big. And also too small in others, making body unbalanced looking, not sexy. That's not true, if it were they wouldn't need a blood test to confirm steroids use on athletes. Is it possible to get grotesquely big? Sure, but not all steriod users take it to that extreme, in fact most don't, unless they are into specifically competitive body building. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/03/18 07:13 AM |
| 4 | How do you effectively "fight" in your relationship?If you have to fight, you've already lost. Try starting here. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/02/18 01:49 AM |
| 2 | Caught husband doing drugsI'm worried about my husband's safety is that wrong? No it's not wrong. It makes total sense that you want him to be safe, however you can't try to control him or tell him what he has to do for you to feel safe. You don't keep him from driving because he might die in a car accident, do you? He has responsibilities to me too You don't get to tell him what those are, or force your idea of what his responsibilities are onto him. Lots of idiots have died from insulin and steroid use Is your husband … | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/02/18 12:50 AM |
| 5 | Caught husband doing drugsHe doesn't need that much to make strength gains I hold onto his vials and lock them away. I think it's okay, as long as he also calls you "mommy". | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/02/18 12:15 AM |
| 22 | Caught husband doing drugsWoah, slow down there. He's not "doing drugs" he's using steriods. Steriods are a non-addictive, non-mind altering substance. Doctors prescribe steroids all the time, sometimes even the steriod known as "testosterone". There's a lot of anti-testosterone propaganda on the internet. Here's what you need to know about testosterone. Men produce it naturally from their testicles. Men who produce low amounts of testosterone experience low energy, low libido, and sometimes depression. Men who produce h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/18 07:55 PM |
| 6 | Being More Feminine?I don't shave my legs as I'm scared of thicker hair growing out That's not true. Even if it were true it's no excuse. Why would it matter if your hair is darker and thicker... if you're keeping it shaved? There's also a bunch of other options: epilating, waxing, nair, even laser hair removal. You don't do anything to present yourself better not only because you don't know how, but because part of you just doesn't care enough to bother. It is that part of yourself that you're going to have to cha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/02/18 06:55 PM |
| -5 | jewish beliefs & marriageA couple of things. A man is obliged to provide for a women financially, sexually, and emotionally. No A woman is obliged to RESPECT a man, and please him. And no. There are no obligations in a relationship. A relationship is built on inspiring reciprocity. Relationships work when a women works at respecting a man and pleasing him, not because she is obligated to, and not because it is the nice thing to do, but because she genuinely cares about making him happy. Men will then respond to this aff… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/18 05:47 AM |
| 1 | Being "high maintenance" - opinions?Well then people are going to invite you to less things, and want to hang out with you less. It's a tradeoff. You are certainly making choices to be less flexible. For example you could compromise and just order the sad salad at the restaurant and then grab something from the fridge when you get home. But being liked is not as important to you as getting to eat the things you like. That's fine, it's your choice to make. Just understand that the way people feel about you is a result of the way yo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/18 06:50 AM |
| 3 | Open relationship, stupid idea?You probably know the answer to this better than we do. You've been in your relationship for 10 years. That's long enough to know how strong your relationship is, and what its strengths and weaknesses are. What I would recommend is not doing anything like this to "fix" your relationship. You don't add a chaotic element to something that is already volatile. It will make your relationship worse. However if your relationship is strong and capable of weathering any storm, then it can withstand a te… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/18 06:35 AM |
| 19 | Fiance's office messy, need adviceHis office is his territory. You have the rest of the house, let him have his space. If it becomes a problem you close the door, or put up a curtain or a divider. You may ask him if he would like you to tidy up in there every now and again for him. However in that case, I would only work on things that are fairly obvious. Clean up trash/ dishes, vacuum, dust, put things back in designated storage spaces. Don't start getting rid of stuff that he wants, or putting it away in a place where he won't… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/01/18 05:24 AM |
| 3 | Best Birthday In AwhileHe hardly ever let's me pay. It sounds like paying for you is a way he shows affection for you, and shows his desire to provide for you. I would say if he wants to pay, let him. Be sure to be greatful and thank him for it. If this is the case, then by paying for yourself you're taking away something he genuinely wants to do, and may even enjoy doing because he wants to treat you well and see you happy. (Be sure to be happy when he treats you!) Instead of offering to pay, or worrying about whethe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/01/18 05:16 AM |
| 9 | Housewife with no kids.Why are you asking us for? If it works for your relationship, that's all that matters. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/01/18 06:43 AM |
| 6 | Red Pill Theory has caused me (19F) to become obsessed/insecure with my appearance?Of course, now I know that the majority of a man's attraction to a woman is her appearance. Sort of... not exactly. Men's attraction to women is a two stage mechanism. Stage 1: Is she attractive? Does he want to have sex with her? In order to have a man interested in you at all, you must be somewhat attractive to him. The more attractive you are to him, the more desire he will have for you (sexually). But, to get past this hurdle all you need to do is be attractive enough (above his minimum stan… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/01/18 07:26 AM |
| 1 | How to handle a bitchy boss with grace?So why ask the question, if you already handled it? | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/01/18 07:15 PM |
| 10 | Being "high maintenance" - opinions?This is a bit odd. When people call someone "high maintenance" they don't typically mean the amount of maintenance you use on yourself, they mean the amount of maintenance they have to do on your behalf. Examples would be: Someone with excessively long fingernails needing everything done for them. Someone who is exceedingly picky about what they eat to the point where 90% of restaurants are unsatisfactory. Someone who starts crying at the smallest inconvenience. When people are trying to talk ab… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/01/18 07:12 PM |
| 6 | How to handle a bitchy boss with grace?You want to show her that the problem is with her, rather than you, with your actions. You can say something like, "I understand. Thank you for this wonderful opportunity, I learned a lot from working with you." The key is to act gracious, humble and sincere... even though you are not actually being honest. When someone victimizes you like that they want you to be hurt, angry, or resentful. By holding your head high and not giving them what they want/expect, you can cause them to get flat-footed… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/18 06:38 PM |
| 7 | Does the Red Pill devalue women or make them lesser than men?It's you who has devalued them. It's you who has decided that femininity and motherhood is unimportant. Why? Because we live in a society that values certain masculine virtues in order to measure success. We live in a society that values being a leader as something that is hugely desirable, while forgetting that leaders are worthless without people who are willing to follow them. The reality is that both roles are important; the masculine and the feminine. They are complementary and support each… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/01/18 08:01 PM |
| 13 | The vast majority of people I know who recently had a baby are unmarried. Why is this the new normal?I hear many women saying that they don't want to get officially married ("I don't need a piece of paper to affirm our love"). I sort of disagree. For me at least, it is the realization that a lot of men are jumping off the marriage band wagon because they're noticing that marriage is a bad deal for them. Realizing that grim reality that marriage is just not an option for a lot of men was part of taking the red pill for me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/01/18 07:05 PM |
| 1 | Afraid of vulnerabilityjust let him chase after me and prove he's worth my time (as he rightly should), but I can't help but become extremely clingy and too eager to please. You've got it backwards. Men hate having to chase you. The moment they have to chase you, they will assume you are not interested in them and move onto someone else. You have to show you're interested in them by chasing them. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/12/17 08:26 AM |
| 9 | What is the appeal of red pill to women who are fat or older?There are two types of people in this world, the first is those who feel that who they are is a permanent state, and there's nothing they can do about it. The second is those who believe that they can improve their lives and want the most they can get out of it. The red pill is for the later. You're always going to get older, but the more you take care of yourself, the younger you will look. No matter where you're starting off at, there's always ways to improve yourself, and if you're ugly, even… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/12/17 06:29 PM |
| -7 | I found out that the man I have been dating for two and a half months doesn't know my last name and Im unsure if I reacted the right way.I think you're over-reacting. You've been on 10 dates with this guy, of course he's not serious about you yet. He may want a wife some day, but that may or may not be you. He hasn't decided if that's you yet. That is what dating is for, deciding if you want to be serious about somebody. You want this to turn into a relationship because women are LTR oriented, but men have to be convinced that their life (overall) is better with the girl than without the girl before they want an LTR. So, no, he's… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/12/17 07:04 AM |
| 22 | I applied a bunch of tips from Fascinating Womanhood and other books. Here are my awesome results!Overall great. The only part I want to comment on is here: when a man complains about an obstacle, it is NOT an invitation for us to help! Of course we can offer our help! We are not there to save him, but we certainly make his life easier. Read this. But here's the key, you offer once. If he takes you up on it, you're good, if he says "No, I've got it." then you take him at his word. If he changes his mind and wants to take your idea, then allow him to do that. You're there to give him options.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/12/17 03:14 AM |
| 9 | Ever see something in the media and think, "I'm glad I discovered RPW before I thought this was a good idea"?A couple weeks ago there was a meme on reddit where men were showing off the ridiculous shower curtains they picked out, sort of trying to one-up eachother with the ridiculousness. The title of these posts were "My wife let me pick put the shower curtain". Let, as in, they needed their wives' permission to pick out shower curtains. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/12/17 08:34 PM |
| 5 | Is the red pill for me [22F] if I don't want to get married or have children?I think I can relate to your situation more than most. I do not want kids, and I don't find "marriage" to be a necessity to have what I want, which is simply being in a relationship with someone I love. [they] told me they would never commit to a woman before having slept with her. That sex is so widely available these days that they wouldn't commit before at least knowing if they'll be satisfied sexually in the relationship. I think this echos my SO's sentiment fairly well. He see's sex as the … | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/11/17 02:42 AM |
| 8 | To those of you that have a career, not just a job?The word "career" is sort of misleading. People tend to believe the notion a career necessarily means long hours. I have a career, however; I get paid salaried, work 40 hours a week, often less. I have one time during the year when sometimes there will be long hours, and even then my SO will tell me to turn it off when he feels that they are taking more of my time than he is getting. I have a career, I make good money, I like my job. But, it will never be my top priority. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/11/17 04:33 AM |
| 5 | How entitled should you be?I was trained from a child how to be a domestic - so I will always offer to help with laundry or offer to cook, because I'm also a giving woman. These are more tasks that your boyfriend will not experience as signs of affection from you. Try to think about doing the kind of things that will actually bring a smile to his face. My problem is I'm too humble and don't think I deserve anything. That's the thing. I know it may sound cruel, but you don't deserve anything. But that doesn't mean you can'… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/11/17 07:57 PM |
| 22 | To those of you that have a career, not just a job?You can't have it all. There is simply not enough hours in the day, and you cannot expect that you will have an infinite amount of energy. Right now you are prioritizing your job (because you "love" it) and your relationship is suffering because it's not as important to you (because you don't love it as much). That's fine and it's a perfectly valid way to live your life, just as long as you're honest with yourself about that. If you want your relationship to not suffer, you either have to cut ba… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/11/17 07:20 PM |
| 7 | How entitled should you be?Don't give with the expectation of receiving. Feeling entitled to get what you give, and keeping score in your relationship will lead to resenting your partner, and lead to them resenting you if you make it known that you want something in return. Think about the reason you do nice things for your partner. It shouldn't be because you want him to do something nice for you, nor should it be because you feel obligated to, it should simply be because you want to see him smile. Give him the same oppo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/11/17 06:15 PM |
| 4 | BF receives blue pill advice from sisters/friends.. how to deal?It's not really relevant what his sisters want him to do, what's important is what he wants to do. Is he inclined to agree or disagree with them? Find out what his opinion is and talk to him about it. His sister's opinions aren't important unless they are influencing his in some way. If that's the case talk to him about it, and find out what his concerns are. If not, then it really doesn't matter that they're saying. Either way, I suspect since you are both red pill, he will have a well reasoned… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/11/17 01:50 AM |
| 1 | Examining 'Dread'This feeds back into the post about insecurity we had a few days ago. Dread creates insecurity, however I think it is a little narrow minded to think that insecurity is bad 100% of the time. There are two types of insecurity, the 1st which makes you feel hopeless and unable to be someone of value. This is bad insecurity. I think that when people think of dread as a negative thing, this is what they're imagining. The 2nd type of insecurity is the one which is motivational. It is the one that make… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/17 08:44 PM |
| 0 | How do you behave regarding conservative/provocative clothing?So you are perfectly ok with her wearing... a baggy sweater or pants. ... once she is in a relationship with you? | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/11/17 06:47 AM |
| 1 | How do you behave regarding conservative/provocative clothing?So... you're saying that maybe she should dress a little more so that she can show how good she looks... rather than wearing a burqa? | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/17 11:03 PM |
| 2 | Do I need to give up my male-dominant hobbies to get commitment?I have a good amount of guy friends. My friends are probably 60/40 split between guys and girls Sounds like you have no trouble meeting guys who could be potentially interested in you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/11/17 07:58 PM |
| 3 | What's your RPW opinion on casual relationshipBut I start to like him more than the initial physical attraction I think you already know what you want. RPW just agrees that this is how women tend to feel about casual relationships. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/10/17 01:57 AM |
| 4 | Harvard article: Stay single if your spouse doesn't support your career.I want to even include those who aren't particularly happy about it. Sometimes compromises have to made in relationships, and that means "not necessarily getting everything you want 100% of the time". If you are totally miserable because you feel like you're being stepped on in the entirety of your relationship, then sure, get a divorce, but I don't believe that is what is happening most of the time. Most of the time someone has to put their career on hold, and it's less-than-ideal for both part… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/10/17 06:38 PM |
| 15 | Harvard article: Stay single if your spouse doesn't support your career.Stuff like this gets under my skin. Two adults, in a loving relationship, have decided what is best for their careers/ children/ relationship, and Harvard/ Feminism decides that not good enough because they notice it's trending in a direction that they don't particularly like. Then women take this to heart and start thinking, "Maybe there is something wrong with my relationship." STFU Harvard, no one asked your opinion on what my relationship should look like. There are two people in my relation… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/10/17 05:57 PM |
| 69 | Please help me know if what I did was really wrong or he is overreacting.Oh god, please stop. Seriously, take your fist and shove it in your mouth. You have no idea what kind of power you yield with your tongue. Until you understand the power your mouth possesses, keep your fist firmly shoved in there. Your mouth firmly secure? Okay, lets move on. If you wanted to destroy your whole relationship in a single sentence, you would be hard pressed to find a better way. This is not just a small mistake, this is a huge one. Let's look at what he says to you: Until now you h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/10/17 02:23 AM |
| 45 | Husband said leading is "sickening"So, let me get this straight. You want him to be in charge of your family, so you told him what to do? | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/10/17 05:08 AM |
| 15 | The reasons why men marryThis is not a list of why men get married, this is some data points on how likely a man is to want to get married. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/10/17 03:28 PM |
| 1 | will breaking up with him make him respect me more?If I break up with him, will he respect me more? No, but is that really your goal state? | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/10/17 05:53 AM |
| 26 | How to respond to unromantic gift from boyfriendI can just imagine this from her SO's perspective. See's a few red dots on her face. Remembers all the trouble he went through to get rid of his own. Remembers the greatfulness of finding something that actually works. Just doesn't want her to have to go through all that when he knows the solution. Gets her acne medicine to save her from a huge potential headache later. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/10/17 05:39 AM |
| – | Simple QuestionsOh absolutely. It is much easier to do tasks my captain wants me to do. I am no longer doing it for me, so it feels less optional. This will have the effect of giving me the appearance of having great self control. I wouldn't go to the gym every day and eat right religiously if it was just me doing it for myself. But, because I know I would let my captain down, it gives me that extra motivation, when I might feel less-than-enthusiastic about it otherwise. I don't have a lot of self control. What… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/10/17 04:55 AM |
| – | Simple QuestionsIt may be overly simplified, but rather than breaking actions into categories it is much easier to distiguish the difference between dominance and abuse as your experience of it. Let's take BDSM as an example to illustrate my point: it is easy to dismiss physical violence as abuse, but the existence of BDSM proves that physical violence is not necessarily, in every case, the same as abuse. To put it quite simply, you are not being abused if you enjoy what is happening to you. In general people c… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/10/17 04:45 AM |
| 52 | Uni girls claim most men are "too dumb" for themOh they are, just about different things. Your degree is not attractive to a man the way being a doctor or lawyer would be attractive to a woman. What men care about, ranked from most important to least important: Physical attraction. A banging body is what really lights men up in terms of attraction. Not only do men tend to prefer people who are more attractive, they also have a lower limit threshold, where they will not date anyone below that threshold. A man would be equally enthusiastic abou… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/09/17 07:33 PM |
| 7 | Article reminds us that everything falls apart when you try to destroy gender rolesExactly. This "emotional labor" is just us taking on extra stress. And whether that stress is warranted or not, complaining about it is pointless. For example, if your emotional labor is wanting the dishes to be done right away, it is a waist of energy to want your SO to relieve some of that burden, because in essence you are saying "I want you to care about this as much as I do" or "I want you to take some of this worry off my shoulders". If you examine that for more than 2 seconds, it's ridicu… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/09/17 08:11 PM |
| 1 | Lay it on me straight--can I have nerdy tendencies and still be feminine, or should I forsake them completely?Sure thing :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/09/17 03:24 AM |
| 3 | Lay it on me straight--can I have nerdy tendencies and still be feminine, or should I forsake them completely?I feel like I could have written this, except for the part about the classy mom. My mom feels dressed in a stained t-shirt, mom jeans, and sneakers. Everything about self care I learned myself, when I was in my 20s. It has been an uphill battle and I still feel like there is a lot I don't know. But, I'm way better than I was then, and it certainly hasn't been wasted efforts. I was exactly like you, feeling like I was a nerd and that was what I had going for me, and that I couldn't be like those … | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/09/17 01:34 AM |
| 17 | Lay it on me straight--can I have nerdy tendencies and still be feminine, or should I forsake them completely?None of those geeky hobbies matters, this is the part that matters: I mean, take a look at the 10s out there seen on social media. They aren't doing what I'm doing. You think the world is divided into 2 categories, attractive girls and nerdy girls. You use nerdiness as a way to define yourself, but in addition to that you use it as an excuse to not take better care of yourself. It's not the geekiness that is keeping boys away, it's the letting yourself go. You think boys care that much if a girl… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/09/17 11:42 PM |
| 6 | Need Advice: What to do after 1st fight with boyfriendOk, I think I figured out what happened here. He had a shitty day, or something, and didn't really want to hang out. He probably wanted to stay home and play video games or something instead. It probably has nothing to do with you, though I can't be 100% sure. If it does, then your relationship might be in trouble. Anyway, assuming he just wanted to stay home that day, the next thing that happened was he didn't feel free to reschedule, especially since he didn't have a good reason. This is why h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/09/17 04:34 AM |
| 1 | What do you do to get in great shape?Oh wow, I would love some tips. I'm pretty much a beginner. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/09/17 03:41 AM |
| 1 | What do you do when your SO is having a bad day?There a lot of good active suggestions in here. Greeting him when he comes home, feeding him a warm meal, offering a massage and bj. But, you should also be prepared if he wants his space. You should offer him these things and let him know you're available if need be, but he may not want it. Men often want to decompress and be alone after a long hard day. If he wants to go off and play video games and rest for a bit, let him be, and then be warm and welcoming when he's ready for some affection. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/09/17 03:54 AM |
| 5 | What do you do to get in great shape?I do gymnastics. You'd be surprised how little strength is involved in a handstand. It has far more to do with leverage, stability and balance. If I had to pick strength components that would be most helpful, I would say shoulder strength and core for stability. Mostly it just takes practice! | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/09/17 03:39 AM |
| 17 | "I dream women will one day have the same rights as guns!"Yes, I too dream of the day that women are bought and sold like property. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/09/17 03:06 AM |
| 1 | Having children when you have a mental illness?And what are the options for a happy, child-free life if not? How to live a fulfilled life is a very broad question that none of us can answer. While I agree that having a happy life can be hard for some people, I think the question of "how can I be happy without children" is a backwards question. Children may bring purpose and fulfillment to your life, but if you are looking to them to bring happiness to your life because it is not already there, that is going to happen. You have to be happy fi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/17 04:48 AM |
| 2 | Ladies, what is your personal style that helps you feel your most feminine in?I am obsessed with kitten d'amour. So I think that resonates with the sort of style that appeals to me. I love the bows, lace and sort of noir style. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/09/17 05:01 PM |
| 6 | SO of 12 years cheated. Thinking about staying in the relationship. Any thoughts on staying after cheating?I think the situation is salvagable, but it depends on what you do from here. I think that the most important thing to be able to continue the relationship is to be able to forgive him. I don't mean ignoring it and pretending like it never happened, I mean really and truly forgive him. Because as long as you harbor resentment towards him for this, it will fester in you the same way his resentment festered towards you. The resentment will manifest itself in trust issues, or arguing about the slig… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/17 04:18 PM |
| – | Simple QuestionsThis is more of a financial question than an RPW question. The TLDR is that there are a lot of factors that go into buying a home than just what your friends are saying. Buying a home is a commitment and it costs a lot of money. You should wait until you have a sizable down payment so that the interest doesn't hurt as much. (Also if your friends are paying less in monthly payments than you are, they are paying a lot more in interest.) You should avoid buying in a "seller's market" where houses a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/09/17 04:05 PM |
| 2 | What do I do when encountering resistance to TRP?I will add on to this that your behavior is a sum of your habbits. OP, you're are reverting to old behavior because that was the behavior you are in the habit of doing. Just like you can learn a new habit, you can learn a new behavior. Keep practicing and pretty soon it will become habitual. Just don't give up. Like any new thing you are trying to learn, it takes practice. Don't worry, it'll become easier and start to feel more "normal". | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/09/17 03:06 AM |
| 2 | Advice: is it important to have an anniversary date?I think what you are trying to say is you want the significance acknowledged, because you want celebrate your time together, but perhaps "important" is to strong of a word. If you really want to make an event of it, you can make a special dinner and dress up. When he asks why, just tell him you wanted to celebrate how long you've been together, and today seemed like a good day. In the long run, what day it is doesn't really matter all that much. What's important is your relationship is still sta… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/08/17 03:10 AM |
| 3 | Is having oneitis as a girl unhealthy? I don't like the idea of having my heart in some guy's hands.If you always have a foot out the door, are you ever truly invested? | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/08/17 02:59 AM |
| 2 | Advice: is it important to have an anniversary date?Important to who? Important to him? Important to you? Important to RPW? Important to women in general? I think you mean important "to a relationship", but it is not important to all relationships, because it is certainly not important to mine. So, actually what you mean is "your relationship", and it's only important to your relationship if it is important to you. If it is, for example, not important to your SO, then that means he is perfectly fine with having a relationship without one. So, is … | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/08/17 08:19 PM |
| 8 | "Yes, I know."I like to go with, "Don't worry, I remembered. Here is your sandwich, with no onions, on whole wheat, and mayo on the side :)." I like to add in things I wasn't reminded of as well, it shows I'm paying attention, and am thinking about what he wants. Either that or I might say "thank you for reminding me". Even though I might remember already, he is trying to tell me something that is important to him, important enough to tell me more than once. By thanking him I am telling him I want to know the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/08/17 11:36 PM |
| 3 | RPW, please don't have this mindset when you get olderThey cannot even compare to bring to the table what we can with our wisdom, experience, and good hearts. How... good hearted... of you. /s | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/08/17 01:00 AM |
| 5 | "What other people think of you is none of your business" and similar quotes: how true are they?Interesting topic.The short answer is, it depends. Most of the time you should care about what other people think of you. How you present yourself to the world is important because it effects how you will be treated. If people like you and you present as being approachable you will have more friends who you can call on for favors, more job opportunities, and people will generally treat you better. It honestly doesn't take much effort to act in a friendly manner, and the rewards for being "likeab… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/17 04:07 AM |
| 3 | how do you feel about video games?This is why you give your partner your problem, not your solution. Solution 1 You tell your SO to shut off his games before 11 pm. Result We had a massive fight about it the next day because he didn't turn it off till 11 pm Solution 2 You hint at your SO to do something else Result "but there's nothing to watch or do anyway" You keep acting as though this is about his video games, but it really has less to do with that, and more to the fact that you are feeling neglected. Tell him that. Tell him… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/08/17 05:27 PM |
| 4 | Applying RPW principles made me resent my boyfriend and be ashamed of myself...I feel more and more irrelevant and erased and small each passing day and I have a visceral resentment towards him, myself and the person I have become... I am not even attracted sexually to this man anymore, I feel only hate and anger every time he takes the lead, and every little thing I do for him makes my blood boil inside. This is the most important part of your post, but you need to expand on it in order for me to help you. Why do you feel resentful? What is it that makes you cringe? What … | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/07/17 08:38 PM |
| 5 | How much can you ask for?I think you are kind of looking at it the wrong way. It's more about realizing what your priorities are, and what you are willing to give up. Because realistically, you can have all these things and be reasonably happy, but not necessarily all at the same time. For example; to illustrate my point, let's say this was actually in priority order. I want to live in San Francisco work at a job I love have a family (or have my boyfriend move there with me) If your 1st priority is moving to San Francis… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/06/17 07:42 PM |
| 1 | You are a TeamHeh, I dislike that one. It kind of makes me think, "the woman tells the man what direction to go in". | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/06/17 04:39 AM |
| 2 | You are a TeamThat could be it, it also could be she's writing more for people who are more geared towards nagging. So, she takes the approach, "if you're going to nag, it's better to not say anything at all". | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/06/17 04:37 AM |
| 1 | You are a TeamAnd to go even further, if I suspect that I have figured out what an effective winning strategy would be, why wouldn't I tell him? I totally agree. I'm not the one who coined FM/Captain analogy, but I don't understand how you can believe you are the first mate, but yet you don't think you should tell your captain if you notice a giant rock ahead. That, to me, would be your primary responsibility. I think the advice works particularly well for emotional, intra-relationship issues, as well as issu… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/06/17 04:32 AM |
| 6 | You are a TeamThat is what prompted me to write this. This is where I disagree with Laura Doyle. I don't agree that it is emasculating to help out your SO where you can, though I suppose it's feasible that there are men who see it that way. But, that is why you offer help, but don't demand that they use it in a certain way. If you know something that your SO may not know that could help him, you're making things harder for him by not telling him. I just don't understand why someone would want to do that. Thin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/06/17 03:56 PM |
| 6 | You are a TeamHmm, I don't have anything like that. I'll have to think about it. It is hard to think of a template that works in every situation. However one thing that occurs to me to try is to work backwards from your solution. I think for those of us who have knee jerk reactions to tell our men what to do (giving him the solution) one thing to try is to think about why we want him to do that. Some examples: You want him to call you more often. Why? Maybe it's because you miss him. You want him to pick up g… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/06/17 05:52 AM |
| 3 | Declining caloriesHim: "You don't need to lose weight" You: "Thanks :D, I guess my hard work is paying off!" | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/06/17 04:37 PM |
| 1 | Handling Conflicts The RPW Way?Newish, I guess? I wrote it a few months ago. Though I don't know if the mods put it on the sidebar. Let me know if is helpful. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/06/17 06:43 AM |
| 1 | Not much love, warmth"captain" just feels stiff. And that's why I dont think in terms of alpha, beta, and blue red pills, just seems stiff to me and not real. Meh, it doesn't really matter what label you give him, if he is important to you it counts. Yes Doyle thinks men don't like demands to be made too. Of course not. That's what they face all day at work! Lol Yeah, I haven't read too much of Doyle's work, but from what I've gathered she seems to do a good job of pressing women away from telling their men what to … | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/06/17 06:38 AM |
| 2 | Handling Conflicts The RPW Way?I'm glad you read that article, next on your reading list should be "The Beginner's Guide to Ending Arguments". Sorry, I can't link on mobile, but you should be able to find it with a quick search. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/06/17 06:15 AM |
| 2 | Not much love, warmthYes, that's exactly what it means. You need to communicate with your SO what your needs are, without telling him what to do. In otherwords you can tell him you would like to talk to him more, without telling him he should talk to you more. The latter is more demanding, and is less likely to yield the results you want. Don't worry if the word "captain" doesn't feel right to you. It is only meant to be a metaphor. If it doesn't fit your relationship, don't use it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/06/17 06:07 AM |
| 5 | Not much love, warmthTypically these types of problems are from a mismatch in values and expectations, rather than a mismatch of interest levels. In otherwords, I suspect he is still interested in you, however he finds it meaningless and unfulfilling to communicate with you on skype. While this is something that is important to you, it's not nearly as important to him, due to the fact he would much rather see you in person. I think that if it is important to you, you should communicate to him how much you miss him, … | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/06/17 04:17 AM |
| 24 | "He chose his job."That's a bit like saying "she chose to be mainly a stay at home mother". She doesn't see it that way, because she see's it as her duty to take care of her child. Ultimately that is such a dominant part of her value system, she doesn't even see it as a choice, but it absolutely is. She could choose to do many other things, but this is what she chooses to do because it's what is most important to her. Similarly, he has a choice too, but it's no more of an easy choice than the one his wife has to m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/06/17 04:46 PM |
| 1 | Wanting to become more feminine but feeling like I'm betraying myselfThat is what I suspected. You feel on some level that you would be betraying women, or the advancement of women, if you behaved or dressed in a more "feminine" manner. Here's the thing, you are trying to live up to someone else's ideals of what a "modern woman" should be. The people who came up with these ideas don't know you, they didn't consult you, and they don't have your best interests at heart. They don't have to live your life, and you get nothing from them for doing what they want. There… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/05/17 05:35 PM |
| 5 | Wanting to become more feminine but feeling like I'm betraying myselfBetraying yourself, or betraying who you think you should be? I think this is a very important distinction. If you were betraying yourself, and values that are important to you, I don't think you would be seeking change. If you are betraying "what you think you should be", then you probably feel guilty for not following the feminist script for how you should dress. You feel guilty for not being faithful to feminism. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/05/17 06:30 AM |
| 5 | Difference between girlfriend and wife "duties"No, I don't think so. Here's the thing, you only have control over what you do. So, sometimes, in order to get what is important to you, you have to be willing to sacrifice what is less important to you. If a man refuses to marry you, you have to choose what is more important, him or marriage. Ultimately no amount of girl game (or withholding girl game) is going to fix that. I had to give up marriage to get what I wanted (the man), and other women would give up the man to get what they wanted (t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/05/17 07:06 PM |
| 3 | Difference between girlfriend and wife "duties"Well, I wouldn't really relate the two variables quite like that. If you have some understanding of statistics, it is like "x and y are correlated but only because they are both correlated to z". Ex. Shark attacks and ice cream sales are correlated, but really they have nothing to do with one another because they are both correlated to summer time. I wouldn't deliberately "hold back" on girl game during the dating process. The reason is that as you are vetting him, he is vetting you too. He is t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/05/17 06:43 PM |
| 6 | Difference between girlfriend and wife "duties"Good catch. It is because I disagree with the fundemental premise. Marriage is not the most important thing to me, I met a man who is much more important to me than that. I do not see what value marriage would add to my life, and I especially don't see how my life would be happier if I walked away from the most amazing man I've ever met for the sake of "marriage". I already have everything I would want out of a marriage so the ceremony and the contract are meaningless to me. Simply put, I am not… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/05/17 06:18 PM |
| 2 | Does his description sound like a captain?Do you trust him totally and completely? I am guessing probably not since you don't know the guy. Go find out. Trust is something you build. Someone doesn't get to be a captain by anything less than that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/05/17 05:42 PM |
| 1 | I want to quit. I feel lied to, from feminists and conservatives.Oh let me be more clear, I have no problems with women being in STEM, I am in STEM myself. But you cannot be both a traditional girl and in a "male dominated field", simply by definition. If a field is "male dominated" that means it is unusual for a girl to be in that field, which means it is not "traditional". Further, if you look at the classical, idealized "traditional" woman, it is a woman who stays home and takes care of the kids. I don't think women outside of traditionalism are incapable … | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/05/17 05:35 PM |
| 8 | Difference between girlfriend and wife "duties"I actually disagree with the sentiment that there is such thing as too much girl game before you are married. The 1st thing you have to do is decide being married to someone is the most important thing to you, even more important than the guy you are with. In otherwords, you have to be willing to walk away once you learn a guy is not going to marry you. Then getting married is just a matter of being the most awesome, indispensable part of his life, and then reminding him that he will lose you fo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/05/17 05:12 PM |
| 3 | I want to quit. I feel lied to, from feminists and conservatives.I think femininity is mostly about how you treat and respond to your man more than which specific feminine hobbies you pursue. It is not really about whether you crochet or ride motorcycles. I don't tend to think there is anything fundamentally attractive about someone who crochets, nor about someone who rides motorcycles. I'm sure there are a couple of exceptions, but I think there are few hobbies that make someone fundamentally more attractive vs less attractive. As for what is important about… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/05/17 02:50 AM |
| 1 | I want to quit. I feel lied to, from feminists and conservatives.I see what you are saying, but I simply don't think that it's true. "Conservative women" are a fringe group, there are not that many of us either. I don't know if there are enough alphas for us all, nor do I know if there enough of us for all the alphas. Either way I fairly certain that every single one of them hasn't been taken. Here are the possibilities I see. You are not in the same rooms with these people (probably sometimes you are, but these are times when you wouldn't notice, like at the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/05/17 12:27 AM |
| 4 | I want to quit. I feel lied to, from feminists and conservatives.It's not so much that it's too hard but I believe it is impossible Really that's just your negativity and self-doubt talking. It you truly believed it was impossible to find such a man, then you wouldn't be talking to us. You wouldn't even believe our stories were true. for all traditional women like me to find a traditional man. And this may be part of your problem. Your definition of "traditional women" seems to be "does not have sex". There is more to it than that, a lot more. For example a t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/05/17 06:20 PM |
| 7 | I want to quit. I feel lied to, from feminists and conservatives.I see good men staying in relationships with women who treat them horribly but keep them around with sex. If that's the kind of relationship you want, then by all means go for it. The reason you see relationships like that so often is that it is easy to find a man who is sex starved and can be controlled with it. So, finding a relationship like that would be easy, but easy is not a synonym of good. We don't advocate relationships with men who are willing to be puppets here, but it might be harde… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/05/17 06:26 AM |
| 9 | Two X Comic completely missing the point of healthy relationship work balances.People don't remember things that aren't important to them. It is important to understand that we remember these things because keeping track of whether the house is clean, and the groceries are bought, etc etc, are more important to us. We cannot expect these to be as important to men. But if you are at your wits end trying to keep up with everything, and you ask for his help, likely he will help you. Not because household chores are important to him, but because you are. I think women just ten… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/05/17 11:56 PM |
| 0 | Boyfriend coming home from work after a weird morning - I want to diffuse the situation but not look like a doormat / plate.You really have to re-evaluate your priorities here. He is mad because he feels you don't trust him (and frankly you don't) and you're worried about coming out of this with your dignity intact? You lost your rights to dignity when you snooped through your SOs stuff. At this point, a doormat or a plate would be a step up, because you would be lucky if he can forgive you at all. Let me put this in perspective for you, a plate would no longer be a plate if she did what you did. Beg for his forgiven… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/05/17 09:10 PM |
| 3 | New to RPW, this is exactly what I've been looking for, please read on and offer opinion / advice.I have been in a relationship with my Captain (seems to be what you ladies call your Partners) To clarify for you, and other new faces, "captain" is not intended to be a term for any partner. It a specific term we use to describe a relationship where your man makes the decisions for you or your family. He is the head of household, or, metaphorically, the captain of the ship. Not all of the women in here have captains, because it takes a relationship with a man who you can trust on that level and… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/05/17 03:26 PM |
| 5 | What do you as women feel you offer a relationship?Your point is lost on me. This comment does not come close to addressing the issue that your premise is faulty. We cannot discuss the use of something, because you seem to have arbitrarily changed the definition of usefulness. Cooking, for example, does not seem to meet your definition of something that is useful. Your post boils down to asking the community to see if they can come up with things that meet your standards of what it means to be "useful". Well, if that's the case, I am sorry. We a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/05/17 05:42 PM |
| 1 | What do you as women feel you offer a relationship?Sorry, I did not see the comment simular to mine. If you could point me in the direction of your reply to that post, that would be great. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/05/17 05:09 PM |
| 2 | What do you as women feel you offer a relationship?Do you honestly think "nice guys" have no utility? Of course they do, that is why girls will keep them around despite not being attracted to them. The girl will claim to want to just be "friends", and reap all the utility and benefits nice guys provide. Not being attractive is not the same as not being useful. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/05/17 04:45 PM |
| 2 | Is my shyness caused by family, and do I have a right to be mad about it?Is my shyness caused by my family? Possibly. Do I have a right to be mad about it? Sure, feel however you want. We don't have a lot of control over our emotions, so if you feel mad, be mad. That's okay. However it is important to keep in mind it won't do you any good. We only get one chance at a childhood. So there is not a lot of point getting hung up on what "should have been". You are who you are right now, and no amount of "should haves" will change that. We can't go back, we can only move f… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/05/17 05:48 AM |
| 8 | Disenchanted With Modern Romance MediaThe problem is more insidious than that. Stories are the tools in which we share and teach the values of our culture. The fact that these stories are being told tells a grim tail about what authors think are valuable lessons to teach children. From the stories that are most mainstream you can tell what type of society we live in and what its values are, and what values we think are most important to teach our children. Stories are: What the author believes. A reflection of what our society belie… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/05/17 05:46 AM |
| 5 | A Review of the Posting Guidelines for Male ContributorsActually neither of these explanations are quite right. It has to do with the differences with how men and women communicate, and how you need to communicate to them in order to get your message across. If you say something insulting to a man, like "You're being a pussy" the main goal isn't to make sure he has high self-esteem, it is to motivate him to change his life. The goal is to get him to reflect on his life and say "wow, I really have been...". Men sort of smack the truth into other men b… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/17 06:13 PM |
| 7 | Just be Yourself!I would just like to say for the record, though I quoted her, I did interperet FW’s comment the way I read it and it may not necessarily be what she meant. She had no input in this post and what I wrote here does not in any way reflect her thoughts and feelings on the subject. Oh don't worry, you are completely on track. Thank you for the courtesy though! I think you raise another important point here that I would like to expand on. I think the "self" is malleable. Like you said, when people sta… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/17 03:19 PM |
| 4 | In what situations is it okay to not be yourself?The way you experience your self, and the way others experience you are completely different. If you are, for example, an intelligent book-work, other people will experience you as a shy recluse. If is far more important to act as you wish to be perceived, rather than being 100% true to your "self". We are much more than any given impulse at any moment. We have the power to filter through our the rational part of our brains to pick the best possible option. We have the option to pick which versi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/17 05:05 AM |
| 8 | In Which I Refute The Vice ArticleIt stands for "Last Minute Resistance". It is the idea from RP and other PUA groups that it is highly common for women to put out token resistance right before having sex for the 1st time. This is done probably to preserve an image of chastity or being unable to admit that she does want it. If you read the theory, they are very careful to distinguish between "last minute resistance" and "real resistance". The 1st being the girl wants it, but can't/won't admit it, and the 2nd being where she real… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/17 03:48 PM |
| 29 | How do those on this sub feel about stay at home husbands?The reason you don't see that advocated here is because it is fairly typical for a woman to lose respect for a man who is a stay-at-home-husband (where as it is not typical for a man to lose respect for a stay-at-home-wife). But it is important to remember the primary ingredient in a working relationship is respect. This means that while it is typical that the wife loses respect for the husband or the husband to lose respect for himself, that doesn't necessarily mean it will happen in every case… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/04/17 05:51 AM |
| 2 | Advice On Timing- NSFWI actually wonder if it could be dehydration. Typically you're going to be dehydrated first thing in the morning. 8 hours is a long time to go without water. Try drinking more water before you go to bed and first thing in the morning, also drink water if you get up in the middle of the night for any reason. If you try this, it will probably be a couple weeks of religious water drinking before you see any improvement, but give it a shot. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/04/17 04:46 PM |
| 1 | Simple QuestionsTaking responsibility is what gives life a meaning. Most people who have money and don't need to work, have all the hedonistic needs met are depressed or get depressed in time. False dichotomy. Taking responsibility does not necessarily mean "getting into a relationship". There are many places people can channel responsibility and feel satisfaction, work, their selves, family, etc. Actually, I think responsibility is the wrong word all together. It is not "responsibility" that gives people satis… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/03/17 11:01 PM |
| 3 | Simple QuestionsThat is because you are confusing your goals (or what you want men's goal to be) with their actual goals. You can view that the sign of success and what people brag about at TRP is to have as much sex with as many women while giving nothing in return, marriage means less women and more responsibilities. That is exactly what they want. There is no incentive for them to take on more responsibility in exchange for less fun. It's like you're asking them to stop playing with their dog and spend more … | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/03/17 07:16 AM |
| 2 | Simple QuestionsThat's not true at all. There are several top tier Red Pill Guys in LTRs. RPS and GayLubeOil to name a couple. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/03/17 06:57 AM |
| 1 | Advice for career choice and prioritiesThe thing is, to even have a small chance at getting an entry-level job as financial analyst, I need to get a bachelor at a top 10 school in this sector (I'm considering University of Chicago and Pennsylvania). Let's say I do get in, and it takes four years. The typical workload for a beginning analyst is 10 hours a day, 6 days a week for around 2 years. This doesn't sound right to me. "Financial analyst" is a kind of broad term to mean anyone who looks at company's finances. Usually it is a ter… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/02/17 01:50 AM |
| 2 | My captain is asking to me sacrifice something. Is he asking too much?That was my 1st thought when I read this too. This is clearly some kind of sexual fetish thing on his part. Some sort of cuckhold/humiliation thing. This is not normal behavior for most men. But, I also think he is unaware of his own fetish (or afraid to admit it), hence the elaborate excuses. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/02/17 01:39 AM |
| 6 | Low SMV and YouObesity isn't the best example of someone being stuck with a low SMV. I agree with you, but it is a good example of someone who has a low SMV. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/17 10:48 PM |
| 1 | Women's MarchI don't really want to get into a political debate with you. That is one of the nice things about Red Pill Women, it is not really a political discussion space. But, in this instance I am not even sure what you mean by "penalty", I can only assume you mean: Removing free access to birth control and abortions. Since that is definitely not a service provided to men, having it would be a "benefit" to women due to their gender, rather than a "penalty" to take it away. Now, if you want to have the di… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/01/17 10:58 PM |
| 4 | Women's MarchI still don't understand what it was about, even after trying to understand. I tend to prefer to understand people's points of views, even if I don't agree with him. The best I can do is say it was really about people being mad about Trump being elected, and being afraid of what he might do. Here is their mission statement from their website: The rhetoric of the past election cycle has insulted, demonized, and threatened many of us - immigrants of all statuses, Muslims and those of diverse relig… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/01/17 01:01 AM |
| 5 | Would you recommend The Rules?Basically the willingness to reject a person by keeping in mind that there are more people out there. To a degree woman can use this too. But, if you imagine it's taken to the degree of aloofness, waiting for the other person to make the first move, because you think you are worth it, and be willing to reject someone who doesn't... you can imagine how two people with the same mentality would reject each other quickly. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/17 09:08 PM |
| 15 | Would you recommend The Rules?Basically "The Rules" are what would happen if a woman went to TRP and applied that advice to men. Abundance mentality, dread game, push pull, etc. In short, they work (though I tend to think you need to have a pretty high SMV to get them to work, like 8+). With a solid application of "The Rules", you can get many men begging to marry you. Though "The Rules" won't work against men who already Red Pill (aware or not), you can't win someone over with "abundance mentality" who already has abundance… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/17 08:09 PM |
| 13 | The effect of color on femininity!I think the important message here is really to learn and work with what looks best on you. I agree, for example, that spring colors are more objectively feminine, however some people look terrible in spring colors. Some men might prefer blondes, but if you have darker skin you have to appeal to a different market. This is where we use the fact that men like variety, and the actual true fact behind the claim that "SMV varies by the beholder". It is not that a fat girl with pink hair can be just … | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/17 05:39 PM |
| 14 | Do you think hypergamy can ever be a positive thing?I actually don't quite agree with him. If that was correct, then it wouldn't be true of all women (NAWALT) or even a sizable majority of them. It simply isn't true that all women leave their mates (or even want to leave their mates) for better prospects. Hypergamy is the desire to have the best possible mate (and yes it can be a good thing, as long as it doesn't lead to branch swinging or the inability to feel satisfied with any partner). If you already think you have the best possible mate, the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/01/17 06:10 PM |
| 8 | Don't attractive women reach "The wall" at older ages?In the case of most women, the mix of genetics, not taking care of themselves, and lack of good technology (treatments that really make you look younger) will make what you say true. You can work hard to dampen the effect of the wall (the taking care of yourself part), but realistically you will probably not be able to compete with 25 year olds in terms of male attention unless you also have really good genetics. However, I do think it is theoretically possible for some women to still compete. T… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/01/17 05:47 PM |
| 2 | Starting reading GoneWildStories - fucked up and my Captain feels disrespected.I want to know for sure how it happened, because I think it could be an important part of the story. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/01/17 06:56 PM |
| 4 | Starting reading GoneWildStories - fucked up and my Captain feels disrespected.There's something missing in your story. If you were up all night reading porn, and he was sleeping (undisturbed, as you say), how did he know you were up all night reading porn? | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/01/17 06:42 PM |
| 7 | Can you change what you are attracted to?How do you expect me to make that sort of money I'm sorry, but the universe doesn't care whether or not you are willing or able to improve yourself. You either do, and get what you want out of life, or don't and stay exactly where you are in life. You have so many excuses, you have excuses for your excuses. Well, fine, if that's the case, don't change. But, don't expect your life to improve either. We can't help you, only you can do that. We can only point you in the right direction, after that … | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/01/17 07:21 PM |
| 4 | Simple QuestionsIf I had to summarize what a red pill women is, I would say it is someone who wants to get the best possible man by being the best possible women. We do this by studying and understansing gender dynamics. It is rooted in the belief is that men and women have significant default differences in their goals and strategies. Have you read the "Axioms of RPW" article? It might be helpful to you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/01/17 06:55 AM |
| 3 | Simple QuestionsAs bigredrover alluded, there is some overlap. But rather than being a venndiagram, I would say that RPW is a grab bag of tools and ideas. People here have different goals and ideas for how they want their relationship to be. So, if tradcon is "no sex till marriage, housewife, kids, probably religious" there are members in our group who have followed that. However, there are also members of our group who are in non-marriage LTRs, work full-time, have no kids, and aren't religious. Since, I am in… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/01/17 06:47 AM |
| 2 | Advice on maintaining hair down there...Do you mind if I ask what you do for your face and arm hair? | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/12/16 09:17 PM |
| 2 | Christmas Mega-ThreadI have a pretty good pie crust recipe you could try. 1 and 1/2 cups cornstarch 3/4 cups almond flour 3/4 cups dextrose (We use dextrose, but you can substitute in sugar, you would need much less though. You might have to experiment a bit with how much. Maybe 1/3rd cup?) 1 tablespoon of xanthan gum 1 stick butter Water to feel Mix in all ingredients, leaving water till last. When adding water add in slowly. Only add enough water so that it is no longer crumbly. Work it together with your hands. S… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/12/16 09:40 PM |
| 6 | What is the RPW version of spinning a guy's hamster?It might be against RPW but is there a way to hamster wheel him? This has no meaning. In RP jargon, there is a "rationalization hamster", which is the ability to generate rationalizations so that things fit into your world view. For example; she rationalized that she cheated on him because "he didn't spend money on her", rather than admitting the truth "she was no longer atttacted to him, the other guy was hotter, and she was too cowardly to break up with the 1st guy". But "to hamster wheel some… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/16 03:46 AM |
| 6 | Getting a "wealthy" man..Honestly, don't be in it for the money, look for the guy, not for his wallet. Guys with 6-figure incomes are used to girls who start flirting with them the moment she hears what his income is. They can smell a girl who is attracted to his wallet a mile away. They might plate a girl who acts that way, but never LTR her. The best way you can get a guy with money is to not care about the money. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/11/16 07:49 AM |
| 20 | Former RadFem trying to be RPW in relationshipsHe said that it's because when he was stating his argument, I replied "ugh". For me, that comment on my side is just a retort that expresses my annoyance to his argument, but for him, it's arrogance. It's really not about insulting his manliness, or anything like that. It is more that you are being disrespectful and condescending. It is okay to have differing view points. But, it is not okay to act like someone disagreeing with you is less informed or less enlightened than you. When he dismissed… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/11/16 07:07 AM |
| 9 | how to undo a shit test?Honestly, it depends on how bad it was. Not all shit tests are created equal. Some are harmless, for some an apology will suffice, some you can repair with hard work, and some put you in the permanent "not-LTR material" group. So without more specific details it is hard to say. What did you say? | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/11/16 06:48 AM |
| 1 | Meal MondaysHaha, I just made shepard's pie on Friday. Though I did mine with cauliflower instead of potatoes for a more low carb version. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/11/16 04:11 PM |
| 2 | I feel like my boyfriend doesn't care about meI think you make a interesting point. But, I don't quite agree with you. Let me explain. You are right in one respect, Captainhood is a status earned overtime. What I talk about when I use capital "C" is the complete trust that is built through a relationship that makes a man your Captain. However, here is where I think we disagree. When you are vetting for a Captain, you must treat a man like a captain. When I use a little "c" in this context, I don't mean complete trust, what I mean is... Capt… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/10/16 02:15 AM |
| 1 | I (F 44) consider myself ugly (and based on comments from others, I'm not the only one) but I want help. I know I have flaws, but I would like to look better and be more appealing.Yeah, I know about my teeth. I've got one in front that looks all goofy, and as a result I try not to smile too much, or at least smile too big. It is a terrible way to live through life being afraid to smile. Make the commitment to get them fixed so you can be proud of your smile. It doesn't matter how many people tell you their fine (even if their being honest) because the fact is you hate it, and those words will seem hallow because of that. You can either get them fixed, or spend the rest of… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/10/16 06:23 AM |
| 36 | I feel like my boyfriend doesn't care about meThis is why you go to your captain with your problem, not your solution. Your solution was for him to take you out more often. The results were that he started doing it, but it didn't actually make you feel better because you didn't address the actual issue. Your problem is that your feeling less affection from him, and a little worried about that he is losing interest in you. Tell him how your feeling, then let him decide how to deal with it. Then you will know that the ideas and affection are … | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/10/16 06:14 AM |
| 1 | I (F 44) consider myself ugly (and based on comments from others, I'm not the only one) but I want help. I know I have flaws, but I would like to look better and be more appealing.I can't tell for sure if a nose job would be beneficial to you. I would need to see a side view. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/16 09:13 PM |
| 4 | I (F 44) consider myself ugly (and based on comments from others, I'm not the only one) but I want help. I know I have flaws, but I would like to look better and be more appealing.Ok, looking at the picture, I can see you have some work to do. But, there is a difference between being ugly, and not taking care of yourself. What I see in this picture, that you call "ugly", is mostly neglect. The good news is, your facial structure, that you spend most of your time worried about, is actually fine. Despite being overweight, it doesn't appear to show in your face. The bad news is somewhere along the line you decided you weren't worth caring about. You decided that "ugly" was a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/16 07:30 PM |
| 1 | I need some advice about active duty vs reserve?Then, do you not believe him? You spend a lot of your post worrying that he will resent you for making the wrong decision. You need to trust him when he says that he wants what you want. Stop trying to protect him from himself, and start respecting as a leader whose decision was to do whatever you think is best. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/16 03:02 PM |
| 9 | ADVICE - How to not be "cold"The best method to communicate to your SO that you care about him is to learn his love language, and to expess your feelings using that. For most men, their love language is "touch", so if that's the case cuddle up to him, hold hands with him, use any excuse to be physically close to him or touch him. I've been super busy at school recently and I've been extremely stressed out. Instead of dealing with stress on your own, go to him for comfort and support. Let him be there for you. Again, if his … | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/16 03:17 PM |
| 2 | What is "cool"?It just means that he enjoys spending time with you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/10/16 05:02 AM |
| 4 | May the vampires be ever in your favor: Bella Swan, Katniss Everdeen, and the red pill.Personally, I think the solution to good female characters is not "uninteresting" nor "practically perfect in every way", because both of those character tropes are incredibly boring. To me the most interesting female characters are flawed. Someone who makes mistakes and learns from them is a much more compelling character to me than someone who never makes mistakes or someone who never bothers to try. I have seen very few female characters like this, but the rare time I do I fall in love with t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/16 11:10 PM |
| 3 | May the vampires be ever in your favor: Bella Swan, Katniss Everdeen, and the red pill.Well, that's the fundemental problem with fiction, it emerses you in a world that doesn't exist and anything is possible. It's the world we wish we could live in, rather than the world we do. We don't enjoy stories that talk about the world like it is, because we already live in that world. It is a male fantasy to be awesome, slay a dragon, and get the girl. That is why their stories about heroism. It is a female fantasy to be whisked away into an adventure by an adventurous man. That is why the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/16 08:29 PM |
| 21 | May the vampires be ever in your favor: Bella Swan, Katniss Everdeen, and the red pill.While I agree that having "boring" female protagonists might give young women bad role models, I think it is important to understand the purpose of that. In almost every romance the female lead is exceptionally ordinary. Often her only defining features are that she is shy and extreamly clumsy. She is never stunningly beautiful, but she always unconventionally pretty. The purpose of this is simple, it is to make the character not only relatable, but identifiable. The purpose of the "nothing spec… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/16 07:13 PM |
| 6 | S.O.S. Ex gf continuedStart a contest of "who can hurt the other the most" with your SO. What could possibly go wrong? -_-; | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/16 01:58 AM |
| 0 | Partner likes porn during sex, makes me insecureI am a little confused by your response. It seems contradictory. You say: I presented the reasons I didn't like it and then also said I'd like to be able to continue to do it because it satisfies him. But then you say: I'm fairly certain his response would be for us to stop using porn. ...and How can I approach him effectively about this sensitive issue? In the first quote you've already talked about it with him, but in the second two, you are unsure how to approach him with it because you are a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/09/16 04:59 AM |
| 5 | How can I get him to seal the deal?The thing is I'm comfortable in our relationship and I don't even need the proposal. So, then what's the problem? | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/09/16 09:49 PM |
| 1 | Partner likes porn during sex, makes me insecureWhen we have sex he either takes a very long time to finish or doesn't at all. He orgasms in maybe a third of our encounters. This is not a problem for me or him (from what he's said). Of course this is a problem for him. Otherwise he wouldn't be watching porn to fix it. If he truly didn't care he would be indifferent to sex with porn vs sex without porn. He is not indifferent, therefore it matters to him. Men often will not be forthcoming with things that are bothering them because they are sup… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/09/16 07:43 PM |
| 2 | I'm Baaaaaaaack!I am going to echo Rproller, I am also surprised to see you come back so soon. Especially with a new bundle of baby only a couple days old. Never the less, glad to see you back and in good condition. Now your new phase of RPW begins. Learning how to be a good wife and mother. Good luck! | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/16 05:46 PM |
| 3 | How to Not Get Mad When He Doesn't Want To Spend All His Time With YouThis is great information, I think it warrents its own post. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/16 05:12 AM |
| 1 | My boyfriend is subscribed to the red pill...the guys over at red pill say some REALLY out there shit sometimes I don't understand. It is a deal breaker to you because he reads a forum where some people believe "out there shit", or because he believes "out there shit"? I don't understand wanting to break up with him because you disagree with some of the people on the red pill. He is not even necessarily one of those people. The red pill is not a hive mind, people only take what is valuable to them from it. Why don't you find out what value… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/08/16 03:08 PM |
| 1 | The Beginner's Guide to Ending ArgumentsThank you so much. I did come up with most it on my own, though the mods did contribute to a couple parts. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/08/16 08:31 PM |
| 3 | The Beginner's Guide to Ending ArgumentsI'm glad you liked it! I hope you don't mind me borrowing from you with the "is this the hill I want to die on" bit. I just felt like it was appropriate to the article. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/08/16 08:30 PM |
| 2 | The Beginner's Guide to Ending ArgumentsAwesome! I am glad that this was helpful to you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/08/16 08:27 PM |
| 12 | Who is Red Pill for, anyway?Beautiful post Sadie. It is not worthwhile to be overly critical about our past. We can not change our past, and we cannot become younger. We only can only fix our future. While it is true that certain baggage will exclude certain men from our reach, that doesn't mean that you should give up... because you only truly condemn yourself to a life a spinsterhood when you give up. We are not here to be learn how to be virgin, 18 year-olds, with 10/10 looks, because none of those things are things you… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/08/16 08:52 PM |
| 2 | How to cope when captain is "letting go"?Your SO might be sick. Consider asking him to get his testosterone levels checked. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/08/16 12:01 AM |
| 3 | How do you know that your standards are too high or low?It is about meeting in the middle. Let's say that your standards are: masculine, hard working, ambitious. If you have trouble holding on to these kind of men, you have to ask yourself what you bring to the table. If you want a men who is masculine, hardworking and ambitious, you have to be a woman good enough to get that. You only have to lower your stardards if you can't or are unwilling to raise your own SMV/RMV to match the SMV of the man you want. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/07/16 03:41 PM |
| 8 | Lunch ideas?You should check out the 300 sandwiches blog for many inspiration ideas. The story behind the blog is very RPW as well. Things are fairly serious between E and I. We’ve been dating for more than a year, and recently, we moved in together to a lovely Brooklyn apartment. We talk about the future—-getting a dog, buying a country house, we’ve even talked about having a family without him breaking into a cold sweat and changing the subject. But I didn’t know when E would be ready for marriage. And li… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/07/16 05:03 AM |
| 2 | Meal MondaysYou don't strictly need a cast iron pan for pancakes. They are advantageous because they transfer heat well (they don't get localized heat spots) and they are good at maintaining a constant temperature because it takes a while for them to cool down. All you really need to make pancakes is a pan with a flat bottom. Saying that, I do recommend you get a cast iron pan at some point. They are an absolute invaluable tool around the kitchen, and last forever if you maintain them properly. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/07/16 08:33 PM |
| 2 | He talks like a kid...I used to baby talk a lot... I have since stopped and have been trying to be more lady like I actually think this right here is your problem. Being feminine does not necessarily mean being super sophisticated all the time. Part of femininity is playfulness. When your SO baby talks with you, he is trying to play with you. Playing with one another is something that fosters bonding between men and women. What you think you are saying to him, when you don't participate in his games is, "I am too mat… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/07/16 06:41 PM |
| 1 | My Painful, DIY Transition From BP to RPWow, that is an incredible story. That you for sharing. I imagine it was very hard to write, but the fact that you are completely vulnerable with the truth is what makes it such a great story, and emotional to read. I started tearing up at the end when your SO started getting really sick. I can't imagine having to watch my SO get that close to death, I would lose all my composure. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/07/16 05:45 PM |
| 1 | Keeping yourself "put together"I used to think the same thing about eyebrows. I thought, "What guy cares about the hotness of eyebrows?" But, I realized something the more into RPW I got. It's not about any one specific detail, it's about creating a whole picture... which is built when you put all those details together. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/07/16 08:18 PM |
| 2 | The Coxswain Post revisited. Submitting to a new partner: How much, how soon? Pt. 1This entirely depends on what you want to prioritize. When a man, no matter how long into your relationship, wants you to change something, you are making a decision between him and what he wants to change. This is a judgement call based on the reasonability of what he wants. For example, if your boyfriend of 6 months wants you to stop hanging with your ex, that can be seen as reasonable thing for him to want. So maybe in this case you will choose to continue your relationship over hanging out w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/07/16 06:04 PM |
| 1 | New here, natural RPW with modern man. Would like to make it work.There is a post stickied right now about getting your captain to lead. Read that first, then come back. Here are some of my thoughts; first you have to understand even the most leader-like captains don't care enough to make every decision (though they will if you can't decide), they sometimes want you to pick as a gesture of generosity. They want to do what you want sometimes because they want to make you happy. Or they simply don't want to do it because the task is too mundane. My captain will … | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/07/16 05:26 AM |
| 2 | How do I bring my boyfriend a problem?It is hard to give tips without a direct example, but the general idea is you want to focus on how you feel, rather than what he needs to do about it. For example, if you feel like he doesn't text you enough throughout the day, ask yourself why you want him to text you more often. It is okay to say, "When you don't text me it makes me sad because I miss you when you are not around". See, the problem here not about the texting, it's about wanting to feel loved, and missing him. Then your captain … | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/16 05:31 PM |
| 2 | The Case Against Women on the Front LinesIt depends on what kind of feminist you're talking about. There are many feminists who were not in favor of the draft. These feminists I have less respect for because they are "Gimme Feminsts", feminists who want the same privileges as men without any of the responsibilities. The type of feminists who would support the draft are what I would call "True Equality Feminists". These feminists are probably outnumbered by the former group, but they understand at least the principle of the fact that yo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/07/16 08:38 PM |
| 20 | The Case Against Women on the Front LinesThis one of the reasons why, even on a fundamental level, I cannot support the idea of equality between the sexes. If women want the same rights as men, they must be willing and able to carry the same burdens. If men must carry more burdens than women, you have to incentivize them to carry those burdens with privileges that women don't have. Otherwise what you get is men opting out of the things that are beneficial to society, but not to men, like the army and marriage. When I see MRAs site repe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/07/16 05:04 PM |
| 1 | Need help navigating a captain who flipped script.Just to get this straight, you've only been dating him a couple months, and you have broken up and gotten back together several times? Without any of the other details... this doesn't sound like a strong foundation for a relationship that is supposed to last the rest of your life. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/16 04:41 PM |
| 2 | The Wife TestsThen, maybe instead of saying, "this isn't a very good list," which isn't helpful to anybody, you could contribute to the discussion by saying, "These aren't really good initial indicators in my opinion, here is a list of what I think are better initial indicators." Or even perhaps create your own post that is specially geared towards initial indicators. This is a good list, just maybe not in the context you are thinking of. But your response makes it look like you think this is an overall usele… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/16 10:13 PM |
| 2 | The Wife TestsEvery list is superficial and incomplete, that is why RPW is a complete forum that discusses all different aspects of girl game. There was a full post a while back simply discussing how to create the perfect eyebrows. It can be easily argued that eyebrows aren't important in a relationship. But, that is not the point. The point is to scrutinise every detail of how we act, how we dress, and how we present ourselves... down to the eyebrows, to create a full picture of a woman. So, while I agree wi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/16 09:32 PM |
| 14 | Need advice, in a difficult situation with my husband.Woah, you need to tone down "STFU" a little bit there. Read this. It is okay to tell your SO that you are worried about your financial problems, it is okay to tell him that you are stressed out about all the hours you feel like you have to work to cover your living situation. This is coming to your captain with your problem. It is not okay to tell your SO he needs to get a job, or that he shouldn't have asked for more children. That is coming to him with your solution. Come to him with your conc… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/16 02:04 AM |
| 1 | Can I attract a man with SMV while dressing goth?No problem! | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/16 01:59 AM |
| 1 | Can I attract a man with SMV while dressing goth?I don't know, because I am not an expert. I can't tell you exactly why these photos look good, I just know they are aesthetically pleasing. I would recommend talking to a hair dresser about what colors might suit you. I do imagine it has something to do with skin tone, and possibly face shape. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/16 01:59 AM |
| 3 | Can I attract a man with SMV while dressing goth?Again, it totally depends on what you do with it. Pick something that looks good on you. Bad Examples: 1. 2. 3. Good Examples: 1. 2. 3. You are trying to present the image that you want to look good, despite having an alternative style. You just have to focus on colors and styles that work well on you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/07/16 11:18 PM |
| 13 | Can I attract a man with SMV while dressing goth?The name of your style doesn't matter, what matters is the message you convey with it. Here are some examples: Goth 1: "I'm going to kill you in your sleep." These are the looks that are are more prone to keep men away. Look 1 Look 2 Look 3 Goth 2: "I like the way these clothes look, but I also care about what you think." These are the looks that will be more appealing to men. Look 1 Look 2 Look 3 Tips: Wear clothes that flatter your body type. Avoid black lipstick and black nail polish. Wear ma… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/07/16 10:20 PM |
| 2 | Urgent: Salary negotiations for women?Usually, I tend to be more hard on offers I can refuse and softer on ones I really want. My strategy is to let them say what their offer is first, and then say back, "I was thinking more in the range of x to xx" (where this is higher than the salary they stated, no matter what the original offer is). You do not need to justify your request by saying "I am not going to use those other benefits" or "I am a hard worker" or "I am more qualified" or anything else. Just state what you want, and then l… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/07/16 04:15 AM |
| 5 | Lessons from Fido: How to Be a Better First MateFeminists reading this are probably thinking, "OMG rproller is telling us womyn that we have to act like dogs to please men! I'M SO TRIGGERED" Haha, that is exactly what I was thinking when I read this. I can't wait to see the rage from TBP when they see this post. XD But, besides for that, it is solid advice. The only thing I would say is, obviously, use your judgement. You don't want to be as needy as a dog, for instance. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/07/16 04:46 PM |
| 3 | He can't forgive me - and it's not even my faultI really don't think this is the right answer. Even it is a boy, until you know what the true source of the problem is, you don't want to do something rash. Like you said, this could be adding fuel to the fire. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/07/16 03:02 PM |
| 2 | Looking for and Sharing Resources for Red Pill WomenHmm, I am not sure why deadbedrooms is on this list. I am not sure it fits. But, here are some other relevant subreddits I can think of: Self-Improvement /r/Acne /r/AsianBeauty /r/BeautyDiagrams /r/FemaleFashionAdvice /r/FrugalFemaleFashion /r/LoseIt /r/Makeup /r/MakeupAddiction /r/SkinCareAddiction /r/xxFitness Cooking /r/Baking /r/Cooking /r/CookingForBeginners /r/EatCheapAndHealthy /r/FromScratch /r/Recipes | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/06/16 05:43 PM |
| 5 | Why I Encourage Every Woman to Try Pole/Lap Dance Classes at Least OnceI think this can be good idea. A "pole dancer" is an unattractive mate choice because she sells her sexiness. However the mear fact she is sexy and selling it well tells us that men like this. Men want a women who is sexy for them, who acts like a porn star for them. They simply don't like women who share their sexuality. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/06/16 06:00 AM |
| 2 | SO Appreciation DayOh, I absolutely agree with you! I wanted this to be a "day" event, but I didn't necessarily mean it had to be a specific day every year. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/06/16 06:40 PM |
| 1 | [Discussion] On the topic of "Fitspo" postsThe sad tragedy of this mentality is that sends the message that if you don't like the way you look, there must be something wrong with the way you think about yourself, or your brain, rather than focusing on what is wrong with your body. It is much easier to fix yourself to the point to where you actually like the way you look in the mirror, than trying to convince yourself you like what you see in the mirror through the "power of positive thinking". This type of "just be yourself" mantra convi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/06/16 09:19 PM |
| 1 | RPW Views on Drinking AlcoholI think the most "RPW" stance on alcohol is that we believe that women are responsible for their own actions. So for example, if a woman gets drunk to the point that leads to negative consequences, she is somewhat to blame for putting herself in that situation in the first place. In general, I don't drink alcohol. Alcohol is bad for you and makes you fat. There is nothing "feminine" about being tipsy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/06/16 05:48 PM |
| 3 | Meal MondaysI don't usually post on these, because I never measure anything, but here is what I made for dinner tonight. I think it came out pretty good. I took 1 chopped onion and cooked it in a hot pan (the largest frying pan I own) with some olive oil until the onions became sweet. Added some defrosted chicken thigh meat (cut up into cubes), about 5-6 pieces. Cook on very high heat. Then when the chicken is no longer pink I added a head of cauliflower florettes, and cooked that down until soft while seas… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/06/16 12:53 AM |
| 17 | 22, pregnant, dead fiance and considering and abortion.This is not an easy decision to make. Anyone who tells you otherwise is not being honest with you. Ultimately, this is a decision that only you can make. But, if you want a red pill perspective, here are the cold hard facts. Understand that there are no guarantees of you finding a future partner in any scenario. There is no promise that the universe grants us to pair us off. Finding a partner with a child will be harder. The comment by /u/nep214423 is true. The fact that your husband is diseased… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/16 06:13 PM |
| 1 | Questions for Red Pill WomenI should have specified. These are one in the same goal for Red Pill Women. | /r/askTRP | 12/06/16 04:34 AM |
| 3 | Your thoughts on contraceptives (Male or Female) in RPW?I hope you don't mind me not directly answering your question, I wanted to respond to this part specifically. I am planning to remove my copper IUD in a year or so The paraguard IUD is notorious for giving really bad cramps in the first few months after insertion. If you are not planning to remove for a whole year, by that time it may have stopped being a nuisance. I only point this out because there is a possibility that you may not have to consider other birth control options. In a year's time… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/06/16 05:31 PM |
| 1 | Questions for Red Pill WomenIs the goal creating a fulfilling life for yourself, or simply snagging a man? Both. Women derive their satisfaction in life by being with a man they love and admire. Is /r/TheRedPill seen by /r/RedPillWoman as an instruction manual for women? TRP is an instructional manual for men. At best it can give some insights on what men are thinking, but it contains no actionable advice given that information. That is what RedPillWomen is for. Where is the line drawn between domination tactics and emotio… | /r/askTRP | 11/06/16 06:09 AM |
| 3 | CMV: The [other gender has so much more privilige!] arguments exists mostly because the person saying it has a big lack of empathy.What about women who believe men are the less advantaged class? Do they lack empathy for women as well? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/16 04:42 PM |
| 8 | Getting the Sunday Sads hardcore when I part from my SOWe are all secret t-shirt huffers. o.o | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/06/16 11:44 PM |
| 2 | Meal MondaysI actually don't know a recipe. I normally use the "dash of this and some of that looks good" method of cooking, rather than following a recipe. A cupboard full of different spices helps with that. Use some ground cumin, curry powder or garam masala, fresh basil, salt, pepper, paprika, cayanne pepper, some soy sauce, a little white wine, maybe yogurt (which I never use, but it is pretty common in Indian cuisine). Then cook it up with some sausages (or meat of choice), mushrooms and bell peppers.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/06/16 11:29 PM |
| 2 | Meal MondaysI love tomotes, with them you can do so many things. Have you tried making tomato sauce? You can do marinara, tomato-cream, meat sauce, cocktail sauce, indian style curry. Then you can make any sort of pasta dish, spaghetti, baked ziti, lasagna. Or you can just do chicken breast, or shrimp. Or you can do a stir fry with the curry. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/06/16 10:43 PM |
| 3 | Growing up with an Alpha father. Introspection with questions and observations about The Red Pill.Pair Bonding I think pair bonding to the red pill is probably related to hypergamy and how much each individual woman is susceptible to it. If you have many partners, or have a lot of men attracted to you, it is probably easier to think "I can do better" or "I have done better". Women love a man they can look up to, someone they adore and idolize. A pair bonded woman thinks that the man she is with is the most amazing man in existence, so she is less susceptible to thinking that another man coul… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/06/16 05:10 AM |
| 1 | Thoughts on Plastic Surgery?I got them done after we already were together. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/05/16 05:43 AM |
| 1 | Thoughts on Plastic Surgery?Absolutely. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/05/16 05:29 AM |
| 6 | Thoughts on Plastic Surgery?I see no problem with using advancements in technology to make yourself more attractive. If there was a new miracle cream on the market that could guarantee you would be wrinkle-free after using it a week, it would sell like crazy. I think there is something about the invasiveness, price, and permanence of plastic surgery that makes people feel like it is somehow cheating. My first requirement in looking for something that will better myself is that, most importantly, I will get the results I wa… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/05/16 08:07 PM |
| 3 | Thoughts on Plastic Surgery?I think there can be a bit of selection bias there. By definition good plastic surgery is done so that you can't notice it. So you only notice the ones that have "unnatural shape and movement" and think that is what all plastic surgery looks like. It could perhaps be argued that the technology is not advanced enough to be totally unnoticeable, however I have heard too many stories about men who didn't recognize a breast implant until they were told, to believe that this is the case. Edit to add:… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/05/16 07:52 PM |
| 2 | Simple QuestionsI dye my curly hair. The issue that I've had is that if I try to keep it very long, the ends start to fray. So I keep my hair a little shorter. It is still past my shoulders in curly mode, which is how my SO likes it anyway. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/05/16 10:17 PM |
| 5 | New to Red Pill. Question about testing my man?I think your issue is probably that you feel as though he is not listening to you. I find that if I am communicating what I want, but I don't feel like I am being listened to, it can cause some frustration. Where as if I feel like my opinion has been taken into account, I have a much easier time accepting decisions, even if they are not what I wanted. When you feel yourself getting frustrated, try just telling him, "I feel like you are not listening to me." Confirmation from him that he is takin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/05/16 07:16 PM |
| 2 | Anyone interested in a weight loss support group?I could potentially be interested. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/05/16 10:37 PM |
| 1 | Ongoing Discussion - What comes first: Sex or a relationship?So you prefer waiting a certain amount of time, rather then for commitment? | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/05/16 07:41 PM |
| 5 | Howb to Handle a Depressed HusbandGood to see you again Baker, and I'm sorry that it couldn't be under better circumstances. I know what it is like to have to go through periods where you are... less then your best self in a relationship. Luckily for me those periods were short lived, and are long behind me now. I hope you are also though the worst of your medical treatments. If not, the most you can do is your best. You have to accept your limitations, but try your best to do what you can, and try your best to be cheerful. As f… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/05/16 04:39 AM |
| 1 | THE ONLY 6 SKIN CARE INGREDIENTS YOU ARE EVER GOING TO NEED (with product recommendations)They just require a lot of time and research in my opinion to make sure Serum A isn't reducing the effectiveness of Cream B, etc. Honestly, this is the first time I learned that this could be a thing. I am feeling a little overwhelmed and have no idea how to start. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/05/16 09:58 PM |
| 2 | In the process of swallowing, struggling to change, and looking for much needed communication (and everything) advice.I think you are feeling a little overwhelmed by everything you have to do. Instead of looking at the whole bundle, take it in small chunks. Remember "every journey begins with the first step" and looking at it "one step at a time" will make the task ahead of you much less daunting. Life is built by a series of moments, and what we do in those moments determine who we are. If in this particular moment you want a glass of water, just think to yourself "what would a RPW do?" and then do that. How w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/05/16 07:09 PM |
| 2 | THE ONLY 6 SKIN CARE INGREDIENTS YOU ARE EVER GOING TO NEED (with product recommendations)This is awesome QueenBee! Thanks for all the amazing tips. Some questions: What is AHA? What are your thoughts on Asian Beauty products? Can they fill any of these gaps? | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/05/16 01:11 AM |
| 15 | Ongoing Discussion - What comes first: Sex or a relationship?I don't see anything about being in a committed relationship that makes it more likely to last. The words "committed relationship" don't stop him from breaking up with you one month later, or from cheating on you. What makes a relationship last is being the type of woman that makes a man want to stick around, and him being the kind of man who can see you as worthy of that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/05/16 05:42 PM |
| 3 | Does this prove that some girls are still RPW at heartI think the existence of RPW proves that there are some girls who are still RPW at heart. ;) But seriously, there is some overlap with RPW and religion, but there basically RPW are women with the fundamental desire to treat their men with respect and be the kind of woman worthy of good men. Religion isn't required to feel that way. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/16 10:38 PM |
| 1 | Vasalgel Donation PledgeEh, insurance companies don't have a lot of say in what comes to market. That is more in the hands of drug companies and the FDA. | /r/TheRedPill | 14/05/16 05:31 AM |
| 1 | Conspiratorial over CriticalYes, I find that expectations (or stereotypes) aren't hard to overcome. All you have to do is present someone with an alternative option, and they will automatically put you in a seperate mental box. A great way to alter men's expectations is to play with them. Look at life as a chance to play games. If a guy you like drops something, snatch it and run away. Don't do what people expect. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/05/16 10:07 PM |
| 0 | Who are all these moron women telling men all of the things theyve done sexually with other men?I also think there can be an element of "he will find this attractive". Some women think that talking about there sexual exploits will make them look more desirable. It is women who pre-selection works on, and think that it will work for them too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/16 03:04 PM |
| 2 | Meal MondaysTo reduce the spice level some tricks you can try are: Use less spicy things. Simply use less of whatever you are putting in there that is spicy. Don't mix spicy things. If you are using cayanne + red pepper flakes, cut out one or the other. Using both intensifies the spiciness by a lot. "Cut" the spicy flavor by adding new ingredients. If you have a dish that you accidentally made too spicy, try adding dairy (milk, cream, cheese, butter), oil, or citrus. This is why you see Mexican food paired … | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/16 10:59 PM |
| 6 | Bring Your Captain Your Problem, Not Your SolutionVery good point. You are absolutely correct. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/05/16 03:49 PM |
| 10 | What would a RPW do to feel empowered?This may be an odd answer, but when I think of being "empowered" I think of having strength to overcome adversity... so really my SO empowers me. He gives believes me, and makes me believe in myself. He makes me think I can accomplish anything, and lets me know that he will be there for me of anything goes wrong. He is always standing by my side, encouraging me. I feel strength because I don't have to face the world alone. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/05/16 05:25 AM |
| 7 | Is it possible for women to "go their own way"?I think the issue is with looking at an exact analogous to MGTOW. You cannot simply write down what MGTOW would be for women, and expect it to make sense and align with what women's actual goals could conceivably be. For instance, when you came up with being a nun. While that might be a literal interpretation of what a woman's MGTOW might look like, it doesn't make any sense, because most women wouldn't want that. However, if you go back to what MGTOW's stated goals, what you find is that the ba… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/05/16 08:24 PM |
| 6 | How to handle what might be "sexist" talk at work?I think I would stop taking it so personally. You are in a primarily male space, so you are going to hear men talking to one another as they would if there were no women around. If you want another example of what a male space looks like visit /r/TheRedPill. This is simply how men communicate with each other. They are brash, offensive, and hyperbolic. This isn't meant to be offensive to you, men simply bond by speaking this way to one another. If you say something you are basically going to make… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/16 01:32 AM |
| 8 | I've started hating my fellow woman.I think I understand the issue now. You are worried about being generalized with the negative assumptions about women. Even though generalizations (positive and negative) are ubiquitous, they are easy to overcome. All you have to do is show people how you are different, and they will very easily accept you that way. Assumptions are easily dispelled by the presence of new information. That is how the human mind works. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/04/16 06:04 PM |
| 2 | Sex is TrustYes, thank you. Fixed. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/04/16 06:18 PM |
| 4 | Sex is TrustI think that saying "I can't trust a man unless he is in a committed relationship with me" is a valid interpretation, as is "I wouldn't be in a committed relationship with a man I didn't trust". To me, trust is something a man earns with his actions, that lets you know what kind of character he has. If, to you, trust comes with promises, that is fine too. As long as that works for you, than there is nothing you have to change. However if you use "trust" as rubric, you can adjust it if it is not … | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/04/16 02:51 PM |
| 3 | In light of the RPWives/RPWomen split, what is the role of trad-con and marriage in relation to TRP?Why do you think there was a split? Did you think they left for no reason? "He" wanted something, and "they" didn't want to give it to him. Whether or not he knew about the split in advance doesn't change the fact that him wanting to change something, and them not wanting to do things his way, is what caused it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/16 01:59 AM |
| 6 | Married friends jealousy, anyone experienced this?I think this response rings true. There are two types of people in the world, those who see someone successful and want to be like them, and those who wish anyone more successful than them would die in a fire. Inevitably you have to distance yourself from the second type, because they are the kind of people who will try to bring you down. It sucks that OP is losing friends because of this, but I don't see a way around it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/16 10:58 PM |
| 8 | What's so terrible about it?I am sorry that people have made you feel bad. I think a lot of people believe that being submissive is some how degrading to women, and that it is only a "choice" for women who are somehow defective. As though women who would choose it are weak, stupid, or push overs. They simply don't see us as people in really rewarding and happy relationships. At first, I too was hurt by these words, but then I realized none of these people are in my relationship, none of these people are my friends, and non… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/16 10:49 PM |
| 3 | In light of the RPWives/RPWomen split, what is the role of trad-con and marriage in relation to TRP?The big disagreement was basically whether certain methods of obtaining LTR could be discussed. RPWi created their own sub asserting that certain strategies would be incompatible for gaining long term commitment using the term "plate factory" to describe the sub they left behind, and RPWo decided that being a plate could be a viable strategy as a steping stone to LTR status as written in the "bitch management hierarchy". That was the hot button issue, but really to RedPillSchool it highlighted a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/16 10:04 PM |
| 4 | In light of the RPWives/RPWomen split, what is the role of trad-con and marriage in relation to TRP?I think you misunderstand the purpose of the split. Trad con is still allowed to be discussed in RPWo, it is just no longer the only accepted relationship dynamic. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/16 09:17 PM |
| 2 | Simple QuestionsIt mostly depends on your SO's preferences, you want to make him feel as comfortable as possible. Some men don't mind at all, some men don't want you travelling without then, some men just want some reassurance, some men aren't comfortable with expressing their preferences. If your man doesn't mind you going, I would at the very least, give him a phone call once a day. That shows that you are thinking about him, and miss him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/16 09:09 PM |
| 1 | Simple QuestionsAbsolutely. I am both childfree and marriagefree. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/16 07:22 PM |
| 5 | Back to BasicsI tend to agree with the first part. You should act like the person he will be married to, so that he can know what kind of person he is choosing to marry. As for the question of "why should he marry you, if you are already providing all the benefits of marriage?" I think the answer is simple. He will marry you to permanently secure the benefits you provide. In otherwords, if you want marriage and he won't provide it, he runs the risk of losing you, and all the value you add to his life. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/16 09:16 PM |
| 4 | Should I plan on buying a card or small gift for my boyfriend's(of one year) mother on Mother's day?I think you are over thinking this. Gifts should be seen as something we choose to give people, not something we do out of obligation. Do you want to get her a gift? If the answer is "yes", and it would be fine with your boyfriend go ahead. If the answer is "I feel it would be awkward and weird, but part of me feels I should," then don't. But definitely talk to your boyfriend about it, he will probably have some insight about how well a gift from you woukd be received. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/16 11:49 PM |
| 2 | Has femininity helped or hindered you in the workplace?I am writing that from the perspective of women. I don't really mean it like that. Men don't normally behave in a "bossy" manner. Women see men telling others what to do, and try to emulate that, and they end up becoming bossy, and don't really see the difference. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/16 10:20 PM |
| 3 | Has femininity helped or hindered you in the workplace?I agree with you. I was being over simplistic because that is how women view men. They see men in leadership, and assume people listen to them because of forceful personality and bossiness. They don't understand that has very little, or nothing, to do with getting a position of power. Groups of women operate by consensus, there is no leadership. They make decisions by whoever wants something the most. So, by being forceful, you can actually get what you want from women... the first couple of tim… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/16 07:39 PM |
| 4 | Hello :) I'm new here - A few questions about how to better myselfPlastic surgery when done right can come out very well, however it is very expensive, especially since ot one of the things where you don't want to skimp on costs. Get an expensive plastic surgeon and get a good job done. But, in the meantime you have to save money, so prioritize. Jaw. If your jaw is as bad as you say, it needs to be your first priority. This will effect male attraction to you. Get this done first, pay lots of money. Boobs. This one is not as much for men as it is for you. It is… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/16 06:11 PM |
| 2 | [29] Single Female keeps dating alpha males and failing to keep their interest? Understanding the game playing?It's called casual dating. You can call it whatever you like. If men won't commit to you, it means you are doing something wrong. In your case it is that you won't be able to secure commitment as long as you are not invested in your partners. Alphas won't commit to you, and betas won't even date you. So, you can stomp your feet and ask "Whyyyyy won't they date me, it must be the men," or you can take a hard look in the mirror. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/04/16 10:52 PM |
| 2 | [29] Single Female keeps dating alpha males and failing to keep their interest? Understanding the game playing?I always end up super into the guy I like even though I may be dating others at the same time... Well, that is one of your problems right there. If you are dating multiple guys, the guys will know you are not really that into them in particular. Alphas will be okay with it, since they are cool with relationships that are just flings. Betas won't want anything to do with that at all. If you are interested in more than just flings, you have to communicate that with your behavior. Both types of men… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/04/16 10:14 PM |
| 4 | How to show off your body in a wholesome way, to raise your SMV but not to get the wrong kind of attention?I think if you don't want to feel/look slutty, your best option is to clothes that fit you well. Clothes that are a good fit or are tailored can show off your body, without looking like you trying too hard to be sexy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/16 04:47 PM |
| 3 | What are you doing to improve yourself today?Beauty: I recently read about oil cleansing, so I purchased some oils and gave it a try. I love it so far! Neat, I just purchased something to start trying that. Any tips? | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/04/16 09:36 PM |
| 2 | A Note on PlatesI believe /u/aanarchist is male. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/04/16 02:58 PM |
| 3 | Why should we defer? Answer from attachment theory.Is deference something different than submission? I always thought it was just doing what he asked. I don't really know. There was a big thing in here a while back about using the word "deference" rather than "submission", however I think the difference is subtle enough that it really is arguing semantics. I think a lot of people don't like the word "sub" because it brings to mind BDSM. Where as to me deference seems like not strong enough of a word. Because I defer to someone if they are an exp… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/04/16 05:22 AM |
| 8 | New Subreddit RulesDoes this mean the "man here" rule is no longer a thing? | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/04/16 12:11 AM |
| 5 | Has femininity helped or hindered you in the workplace?While I know exactly what you are talking about, I tend to feel like those women are harpies, and are generally rude to everyone. But, perhaps I am wrong, maybe they have people in their life that they are perfectly nice to, and I am just not one of them. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/04/16 12:10 AM |
| 6 | Has femininity helped or hindered you in the workplace?In contrast, being overtly feminine in a female-dominated environment isn't often a good thing. That is a good point. Men respond to feminine women favorably, while women make no differentiation between feminine women and non-feminine women. You may have to adjust your strategy accordingly. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/04/16 11:18 PM |
| 5 | Why should we defer? Answer from attachment theory.Could you give a real life example from each perspective? Sure. Your example of scurrying over to sit in your SO's lap is a great example of submissive behavior because it is expressing affection in a feminine way. I say "feminine" because I could not imagine my SO doing that or even wanting him to. Instead, my SO expresses his affection by giving me a big bear hug when I get there. We are both are expressing good behaviours for a "secure relationship", but our expressions of that is different, … | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/04/16 04:53 PM |
| 15 | Has femininity helped or hindered you in the workplace?As a woman in STEM, I think I have a good prospective on this because I work with a lot of men. I think women act like men in the workplace because they mistakenly believe power is in behaving forceful, confrontational, and exhibiting other masculine traits. However these traits are how men achieve power, not women. Even for the women who try them, they will never be as good as the men at them. (Like one of your examples, try to make your voice as low as a man's. Most women are physically incapa… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/04/16 03:07 PM |
| 8 | Why should we defer? Answer from attachment theory.Interesting, I enjoyed the discussion on attachment theory, however I think it ultimately failed to answer the question you asked at the beginning. I entirely agree with you that in secure relationship, you should "want to jump on your partners lap". But, I don't think it answers the question of why do we prefer to be submissive or defer. Because a "secure relationship", as you describe it above, has to have both partners caring about the others' happiness. And while that definitely happening in… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/04/16 05:51 AM |
| 2 | Am I interpreting Laura Doyle wrong? (Surrendered Wife; First, Kill all the Marriage Counsellors)Firstly Doyal's book is not the bible on "how to be a good surrendered women". It might be good starting point to people who are new to this, but not adjusting it according to the needs of your man is a mistake. Remember, there are only 2 people in your relationship, and Laura isn't one of them. Her opinion is not as important as you are making it out to be. On to specific questions: "Whatever you want" would seem to me to only reinforce my "dependency" on him. I think my husband would also get … | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/04/16 11:31 PM |
| 5 | Better to, or not to, tell boyfriend about best friend hitting on me?If it were me, I would first tell the guy you are not interested. I don't care if he is drunk, if talking to you like that is unwelcome, then you tell him so. Then I would tell your boyfriend. Show him the text he sent you, and the text you sent him back. The reason you want to tell him is because there is a possibility this won't be the last time. You need him on your side about this. What if he hears your phone buzz and glances at the text over your shoulder and it says "I want to fuck your br… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/16 04:44 PM |
| 2 | Dude wants to commit and I don't. What's the best way to deal with this?I guess I'm not really sure he even is ready to settle down. Well, if he's not there's no issue. I kind of just think he's feeling... like a little possessive? Then let him down gently, tell him you are not interested in settling down yet. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/16 03:59 AM |
| 3 | Dude wants to commit and I don't. What's the best way to deal with this?I was hoping ... I might be able to talk about my goals here, too, the way a guy can in RP- in and open way with no moralizing and just a focus on what actually works. Yes, that true. But what is it that you want? If you are in it just for the sex then why not just tell him that? You seem to be stringing him along while avoiding telling him the truth. I'm not talking about this from a moral perspective, I am talking about it from a practical one. It is a lot of work to keep someone strung along … | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/16 03:41 AM |
| 4 | Is this an effective dating strategy for "ugly women"?Let's also say she cannot really improve her appearance further, short of plastic surgery. I don't understand the reluctance of getting plastic surgery. If you have a less than pretty face, do you want to look in the mirror for the rest of your life being disappointed, or do you want to do something about it? If you are less than attractive there is nothing stopping you from using all the tools in your tool box to fix it. That includes make-up, skin care, and plastic surgery. To me saying you do… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/04/16 04:53 PM |
| 4 | Oh, yay! Return to the discussion of what constitutes alpha vs. beta qualities in men.There is no predetermined definition on TRP. Especially not in Trump's case. I don't really have a strong opinion either way on whether Trump is alpha or not. But, I would like to point out the fact that he has been married at all, let alone 3 times, might make him look very beta in some of the eyes of anti-marriage TRPers. He has been divorced twice, and didn't learn his lesson either time. The idea that Trump is alpha is an immutiluble law of TRP is blantely false. The idea that "alpha" is a u… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/04/16 05:55 PM |
| 1 | Is RPW partially normative?The issue here is you are using different meanings of the word "should" interchangeably. The first meaning is "I want". When you say "Men and women should behave differently" you are saying "I want men and women to behave differently." This serves your own moral imperatives, because you want something to happen... and you have no idea how to incentivize the change. The second meaning is "you need", in this instance you are suggesting a course of action for someone to achieve their goals. For ins… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/04/16 04:46 PM |
| 1 | Oh, yay! Return to the discussion of what constitutes alpha vs. beta qualities in men.Exactly. Motive matters. Are you kind because you are afraid of the consequences of not being kind, or are you kind because that is how you are choosing to act? Do you have the ability to say "no", and only choose not to wield it? | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/04/16 01:20 AM |
| 9 | Oh, yay! Return to the discussion of what constitutes alpha vs. beta qualities in men.I honestly think the best example of a popular culture alpha I know is Robert Downey Jr. I think (old) RPW falls into the trap of thinking the Alpha is rude and takes charge, and the beta is supplicateing but nice. So they say that the best man to get with is "alpha with beta traits" but I don't think that is even a real thing. I think the true definition of "Alpha" can be summarized to be "leader". I pick RDJ as an alpha, because even though he is extreamly confident and charismatic, he can als… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/16 06:15 PM |
| 1 | New Flairs, Please Update Yours Now!Pink with LTR 4 Years | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/16 06:01 PM |
| 1 | Has Any Woman Successfully ended/help to end her bf/husband's anxiety-induced ED? (Possibly NSFW)I don't have any experience in this, so I am not sure I can help you. But, have you tried blow jobs? I think blow jobs can sometimes be psychologically different for a man. Instead of having to "perform", he can just sit back, relax, and enjoy himself. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/16 05:54 PM |
| 1 | New Flairs, Please Update Yours Now!3 Endorsed Contributor | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/16 05:47 PM |
| 1 | This is Rumor Control. Here are the facts.It sounds to me like Chairman Mao was just trying to make peace. =/ | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/16 05:36 PM |
| 1 | New Flairs, Please Update Yours Now!Are we still keeping the endorsed contributor flairs? | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/16 05:26 PM |
| 2 | Ever had an ex that left you but keeps looking for your attention?Haha, I totally missed that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/04/16 10:17 PM |
| 2 | Ever had an ex that left you but keeps looking for your attention?How did you know they were trolls? | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/04/16 09:40 PM |
| 2 | In Need of Some AdviceYou are a very hard position. On the one hand you love your SO very much. Your original post is unclear, but it sounds like he is committed to you too. Perhaps even sexually. But, you have to ask yourself which is more important to you marriage, or your boyfriend. There is no trick to change his mind. Even though it is possible he may change his mind in the future, you have to proceed forward assuming he will not. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/04/16 08:45 PM |
| 2 | What's a RPW to do when she suspects chemistry/mutual attraction, but knows he can't pursue because of professional reasonsI would be careful about this while you are in his class. I think there are rules about teacher-student relationships, even with consenting adults. It probably has to do with the fact that they don't want a relationship being a factor for determining a student's grade, and they don't want an exchange of favors for grades, either illicited by the student or the teacher. In otherwords they don't want the teacher trying to demand sex from the student, or a student bribing a teacher with sex. I know… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/04/16 04:57 PM |
| 6 | The Direction of RPW.I know not everyone felt censored by RPW, so they don't really understand what all this is about. I am sorry that that happened to you, but thank you for coming forward to share your story. It is people like you that redpillschool is fighting for. I am glad you were not disillusioned enough to leave all together. I, for one, am looking forward to hearing more voices in this sub. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/04/16 04:25 PM |
| 23 | The Direction of RPW.I think that this is great. I think I am not the only one the only one who felt marginalized by the mods. I am glad to see a return to the commitment of "truth over feels". This sub has always been about female sexual strategy, and obtaining happiness for women. But, with the old mods it often felt like there was only one female sexual strategy, and one path to happiness. If you followed that you were more than welcome in this sub. If not, you were either banned, or learned to keep your mouth sh… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/04/16 04:18 PM |
| 2 | Ladies, when you see a guy being AMOGed and the guy doesn't react or respond, does your opinion of him diminishes?Go to TRP, learn how to handle a shit test, then agree and amplify. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/04/16 08:25 PM |
| 1 | Update: BF stopped inviting me out to parties as muchWorry is kind of a useless emotion to have. If somethong terrible did happen to your SO while you weren't there, there is nothing you could really do about it, unless you are a trained paramedic. Hopefully the people close by would call 911. The point is it does nothing good and gives you wrinkles. That said, as illogical as an emotion it is, it doesn't make it stop just by knowing that. So, it doesn't really help you. Some actional advice I have for you is to try distracting yourself. Do the th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/04/16 05:27 PM |
| 11 | Do you take inspiration from foreign women/cultures?Here's what one thing you need to know about men. Men want to be able to love women. Men talk about other cultural attitudes because those are the kind of women they fantasize about loving. They dream of foreign places where women treat men with respect, and men are the heads of households. But, this is mostly fantasy because it is rare to meet a women from a traditional upbringing, who hasn't been changed by entering western culture. Even those who haven't will often marry and date within their… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/04/16 05:09 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Our gene pool has been polluted for a long time and it's only natural that a lot of men be incel.Of course, breeding with the strong over the weak is how evolution works. However, because we are a highly intelligent species, with sophisticated technology, and self-awareness, to a certain extent we can choose which category we are going to be in. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/16 05:27 PM |
| 1 | I need help coping with my husband being a new father.Honestly, I may be way off base here, but my guess is he may be feeling resentful how much time you are spending with the baby... and not with him. Are you still attentive with his needs? Are you making sure he doesn't feel like the baby is important to you? | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/03/16 10:27 PM |
| 3 | CMV: There is no such thing as social skills.This one is easy. If social skills were born and not learned then we would observe the same social skills throughout cultures. This is not the case. Also, very young babies (or as young as you could develop a feasible test) could be observed having signs of social skills. What we observe instead is that kids around the ages of 4-7 are well known for being socially blunt. Being on the spectrum simply impairs your ability to learn social skills, simular to how having a low IQ impares your ability … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/16 05:03 PM |
| 6 | Many of our relationship problems have been solved by having separate bedrooms.This is how we do it too. Mostly it is crucial because our sleep schedules and preferences are so different. But, I actually really like it. It gives us space to have alone time when we need it, and he is right next door when we want to hang out. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/03/16 11:59 PM |
| 5 | What is "Team Women" and why is it bad/wrong"Team Women" is siding with women because they are women, and you are also a woman. "All women need to stick together" logic. Example: "I am voting for Hillary Clinton because we need a woman in the white house." | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/16 10:01 PM |
| 3 | Married, pregnant... And being hit on?Well, arguably social media isn't that great either, but you are not sharing pictures with anyone personally on instagram. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/03/16 04:33 PM |
| 5 | Dating a guy who is too confident/flirty?It is not too surprising that you are turned off by this. He is making it look like he is desperate, and despiration is unattractive because it makes it look like he doesn't have options, and he would take anyone. It is natural to not want to feel like just "anyone" with your SO, you want to feel special. This is why TRP and PUAs teach "abundance mentality", coming off strongly doesn't work. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/03/16 04:26 PM |
| 5 | Married, pregnant... And being hit on?It was a picture. You asked him to take a picture of himself and send it to you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/03/16 04:19 PM |
| 10 | Married, pregnant... And being hit on?You are asking him to send you pictures of himself. What would you think if a male co-worker asked you to send him pics of yourself? Of course it is sexual. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/03/16 04:00 PM |
| 9 | Unsure about choices regarding college/career - Advice neededWill I disappoint everyone and let down/betray women everywhere by dropping out instead of pulling it together even though I have the potential to be an engineer? I can't tell you what you should or should not do. That depends on where your priorities lies. It is really a decision that should be between you and your SO. No one else should be involved. I can however tell you that how you look to The Women Collectivetm should be no where on your concerns list. You don't owe The Women Collectivetm … | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/03/16 12:26 AM |
| 1 | Tanning vs. Self-TannerI guess this is a topic I don't know much about. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/02/16 04:57 PM |
| 1 | Tanning vs. Self-TannerDon't bother. Fake tans look terrible, and real tans are bad for your skin and your health. Not to mention, if you are freckled, it means your skin literally can't tan. The most you can do is get more freckles and moles. Your skin type also makes it more likely that you will get cancer. Take it from someone who has had skin cancer, melanoma is serious buisness. It is not worth it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/02/16 04:02 PM |
| 23 | My husband thinks he deserves a hotter wife after he got promotedI have hit the gym more and followed through with his suggestions but its starting to take a toll on me, this is not who I am. I don't know from her post whether she is fat or not, but this is really all I need to know. She doesn't want to make any efforts towards her appearance because she thinks she shouldn't have to. She doesn't even identify herself as the "type of person" who would invest in their appearance. She thinks whatever she looks like should be good enough. For a while, she was rig… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/02/16 07:29 PM |
| 9 | My last three relationship have mimicked each other, and I've ended them all for the same reason. Is it something I'm doing, or just incompatibility?This is stupid. If he talks about himself, and that makes him unempathethic, then if she talks about herself, that makes her unempathethic as well. The absurdness of this would lead no one ever being able to talk about themselves. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/02/16 06:34 AM |
| 2 | Don't Be the Girl Who Cried Wolf, or How to Pick Your Battles!To me it sounds like you mostly just have issues with being a little hot headed when you are challenged or things don't go your way. What you can try to do is to just bite your tongue until your temper has gone down and you can start thinking a little bit more rationally. If you have trouble reacting in the moment, wait until after the moment and then react. https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/41qmvl/the_stfu_method/ | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/02/16 09:11 PM |
| 11 | How do you account for the "x factor"?This presupposes that there are an infinite number of preferences and you have an infinite amount of time to find each other. If there is a girl who is into fat neck-beards, this is only a valid strategy if you look at the chances your path will cross, and the chances that once you do, she won't already be taken. If there are few girls like this, the chances of crossing paths with a girl like this is slim. If amount of neck-beards is greater than the amount of girls like this, then the market is… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/16 05:44 PM |
| 15 | Don't Be the Girl Who Cried Wolf, or How to Pick Your Battles!Sounds to me like he was tired of the argument and just wanted to get you to shut up about the stupid toaster oven. He didn't do it because he respected your opinion, he did it to placate you. You did not handle this well. If something is important to you, there are better ways to handle it than throwing a tantrum until you get your way. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/16 04:02 PM |
| 3 | Caring too much about those outside of the relationship.Do you know how many times you wrote some iteration of "I am lazy"? There is your problem right there. You can complain all you want about how imperfect you are, and sit around doing nothing... or you can do something about it. You will never be the prettiest girl on the planet, but you can be proud of what you have and what you've worked to become. If you don't work to change it, you will never be anything more than a "old, fat slob", because that is the life you are choosing for yourself. Make… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/16 04:00 PM |
| 1 | Realistically, how much power do you have to make yourself more attractive (or, less ugly)?Thanks! I will definitely check her out. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/02/16 01:50 AM |
| 3 | Movie - How To Be Singleit will probably have an unrealistic happy ending (I'm guessing), where the drunk party girl(s) will have casual sex with a hot guy and then he will want a relationship with her. The irony is, if they go that route, that the whole point of a movie like this is to celebrate singleness. If it does have her end up in a relationship at the end (again, it probably will) it will be negating the whole message. What really is going on here is they need to say that "being single is the best thing ever" w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/16 05:30 AM |
| 1 | Realistically, how much power do you have to make yourself more attractive (or, less ugly)?Hmm, sounds like something I'd like to check out. Thanks! | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/01/16 06:56 PM |
| 1 | Realistically, how much power do you have to make yourself more attractive (or, less ugly)?Are they obligated to use a specific brand? | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/01/16 03:53 PM |
| 1 | Realistically, how much power do you have to make yourself more attractive (or, less ugly)?I didn't take any! But my SIL too a professional one (like in-depth session for a weekend). A weekend long one would be perfect for me. Now I just got to find one. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/16 09:37 PM |
| 1 | Realistically, how much power do you have to make yourself more attractive (or, less ugly)?Can you tell me about the course you took? How much of a time commitment was it? How hard was it to adapt what you learned to your face? I have never found a perfect solution to this problem. Youtube tutorials haven't worked for me because none of them are about what looks good on me, and that is a large issue due to the fact I have a rarer combination of coloration and facial features. I am willing to try the make-up counter route (if that is what you mean by "professional") but I am unsure whi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/16 08:14 PM |
| 2 | Realistically, how much power do you have to make yourself more attractive (or, less ugly)?I have some experience in this because my face is my attractiveness bottle neck as well. Here are some things you can do: Plastic Surgery. If you get a good surgeon he should be able to tell you what you need, versus you having to tell him. I would have never known I needed a chin implant to balance my face if my surgeon hadn't said something. Skin care. You can really make a big difference with good skin. Shout-out to /r/skincareaddiction and /r/asianbeauty. I have been using Asian skin product… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/16 05:24 PM |
| 1 | Realistically, how much power do you have to make yourself more attractive (or, less ugly)?Short answer: professional makeup classes I have been looking into something like this. However I don't want to take a full like ~6 week course since I have no intention of becoming a beautician, and taking a weekly class can be hard to fit with a full time job. I really just want to take a class or two on how to do my face well, since I don't need to learn how to do any kind of face. Are there classes like this? Or are you referring to the full 6 week course. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/16 04:08 PM |
| 5 | Coffee shop situation yesterday! What should I have done as a single RPW? Mildly silly questionIn this situation, should I have just continued reading and leave him to initiate conversation? Not if you were interested. Going back to reading your book is pretty much the worse thing you can do. The problem is it closes you off from conversation, and signals disinterest. If you want him to initiate conversation with you, you have to appear open to it. Reading a book shows you are busy or are otherwise preoccupied. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/01/16 06:43 AM |
| 1 | Does my sense of courtesy/manners need adjusting or are we potentially incompatible?I agree that he found it offensive. OP says that was the case. I am just not sure that she is completely at fault here for being objectively offensive (as much as "taking offense" can be objective). I am simply not sure what she could have said differently. When I see this, what I see when I look at this is a woman trying to solve a problem like a woman, and then her bf saying that would be offensive. Now, as I mentioned in my post, this can easily be solved by STFU. But, I am still at a loss fo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/16 09:07 PM |
| 1 | Does my sense of courtesy/manners need adjusting or are we potentially incompatible?Except that OP didn't make that judgement about his friend. That is how she always communicates. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/16 04:04 PM |
| 1 | Feminine hair colorHow often do you typically wait before adding more? How long does it last? | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/16 04:02 PM |
| 1 | Feminine hair colorDoes he prefer red-heads in general, or red hair on you? I ask because some people don't look as good in certain hair colors, it depends on their complexion. So while he make like red-heads you might look better to him as a brunette, or something. If you don't know whether he would like it on you, it is just hair dye, so there is no harm in trying. But, be aware that may not be his favorite look on you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/16 04:00 PM |
| 3 | Important Announcements, Updates, and Reminders!Sounds like that could be fun. Would it be just stuff written from a red pill lense, or things from a blue pill lense as well? Blue pill stuff can sometimes be fun to look at from a red perspective. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/16 06:30 AM |
| 2 | How effective would this dating strategy be for a man?Say it's from some happily married old lady on the Internet who's way past giving a shit what number some asshole would give her boobs. No, I don't think you understand. I am a 7. My boobs are a 10. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/16 12:52 AM |
| 4 | How effective would this dating strategy be for a man?What do you get out of this bargain? How about the privilege of looking in the mirror every morning and being confident in how I look. Do the perks for him involve getting away with treating his woman like he could treat a 5, while she's actually a 7? Oh no, the perks for him include treating me like a doormat and wiping his feet on me. I have to lay outside every day before he comes home, so he has a place to wipe his shoes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/16 12:26 AM |
| 3 | How effective would this dating strategy be for a man?This was me. Keep in mind though that I wasn't nearly as bad as the girl in the OP. I was just bearly attractive enough for my SO to find me physically attractive. Maybe around a 5. However the only reasons he took me on as a fixer-upper were: I met his minimum sexual standards. He saw that I had a good personality. I was (am) the type of girl who would be willing to change because I am eager to please. He made it clear that if I didn't change he would drop me. He was only willing to put in the … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/16 11:35 PM |
| 2 | Does my sense of courtesy/manners need adjusting or are we potentially incompatible?Yeah, that is a little odd. But, maybe he grew up mostly around men, or perhaps his exposure to women has always kind of left him not really understanding why women communicate differently than men, leaving him frustrated with the fact they don't say things directly like men. You may be experiencing some pent up frustrations from a man who doesn't understand the way women work. Being able to understand women is not a natural state for men, that is why there is a red pill in the first place. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/01/16 10:07 PM |
| 9 | Does my sense of courtesy/manners need adjusting or are we potentially incompatible?I have A LOT of work to do to get comfortable with saying "dude your dog smells" or "hey your apartment smells." Is that really better to say? How do you open? Just say it? You don't say it. There is a reason your man wants to communicate like this, and you feel very uncomfortable at the thought of saying it. This directness is the way men communicate with one another. It is Man-Speak. You don't have to say it, you let him say it. The reason you want to use your much wordier response, is you are… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/01/16 09:03 PM |
| 3 | Red pill: Do you consider your spouse "family" to the degree you consider your parents, siblings, and kids family?No. I value my SO much more. He chose to be with me, he certainly doesn't have to be with me, and I chose him, he wasn't forced upon me by genetics. I don't get a long with a large portion of my family. They haven't earned my loyalty and trust the way he has. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/16 05:15 PM |
| 2 | Alpha vs AssholeI understand you are not "trying" to check the boxes. I was simply pointing out all the boxes are checked, he is charge, you want to make sure that the man you choose is a good man, etc. However my feeling that something was off has nothing to do with that. That was all good. But, I can't tell you what it is or how to address it, because I can't pin-point what it is. Maybe /u/CoochQuarantine was right about it simply being about your use of language. I don't know. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/01/16 07:46 PM |
| 5 | Discussion: Saw these posts on TwoX detailing a woman's breakup with a RP man she claims was abusive.I know it's obviously the fault of the "cuntrag" in question, but it's still an example of how disturbed individuals could interpret or in this case misinterpret RP ideas. I guess no one should ever read the bible then, because disturbed individuals might misinterpret it. Someone might kill someone using it as justification. You wouldn't want that, would you? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/01/16 07:18 PM |
| 5 | Alpha vs AssholeI honestly don't see how much if any of it related to RP as it all sounds very BP to me. I kind of agree with this. There is something "off" about the OP, but I can't quite put my finger on what it is. It is like she is checking all the red pill boxes, but she doesn't really understand it. Because, I honestly think a lot about what she said is the correct way to approach a red pill relationship, but then she also says things like "he treats me like a queen". The whole posts gives off a kind of c… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/01/16 06:47 PM |
| 2 | Is marriage a bad choice for a young woman?Haha, good luck with that! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/16 06:29 PM |
| 3 | Study reveals that the greater the height difference, the happier the wife - evidence of hypergamy?Hehe, me too :) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/16 03:55 PM |
| 9 | Study reveals that the greater the height difference, the happier the wife - evidence of hypergamy?Clearly this is proof that short girls are the happiest girls. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/16 06:32 AM |
| 1 | Considering plastic surgeryI'm at loss. Is there something like an "aesthetician?" Like a person who I can pay money and who will tell me what exactly procedures can I undertake to become more attractive? A good plastic surgeon should be able to tell you exactly what you need to have done. For example, I had no idea I needed a chin implant until a plastc surgeon told me so. It's their job to know what will make you look good, and the advice is free. Just ask, "what do you think I need done?" and see what he says. | /r/askTRP | 12/01/16 06:29 AM |
| 6 | SO going out is causing problemsWhat steps have you already taken to try and resolve the problem? I try not to be bothered when he goes out without me. I don’t mind anymore if he does so when I'm busy (like I previously mentioned). However it's hard not to be bothered by something that obviously bothers me. So, you tried solving the problem by pretending it doesn't bother you? Unless your SO has a latent psychic power manifestation, that is not going to work. Here is my thoughts; try talking to him. Don't make demands, but tel… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/16 06:33 AM |
| 2 | RP Hypocrisy on Single MothersDon't bring abortion into this because not all women necessarily believe in it. I am simply saying that women have a choice whether or not to have a baby. If you don't believe in abortion you are making a choice based in that belief. That doesn't remove your responsibility or your culpability from the choices that you make. If I bomb a church using religion as a motive, I still get thrown in jail. Women already are held responsible. They have to take care of the offspring. Yes, and people who ma… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/16 07:34 PM |
| 2 | RP Hypocrisy on Single MothersI don't understand your point. Fathers are responsible for their children. Where I live, US, men are financially obligated to fund offspring they have. That isn't what this discussion is about. Men are held responsible for their children financially, and men hold women responsible for their choices and look down on them for making bad choices. The OP is about your disagreement of the latter. I think women should be held responsible for their choices. Do you disagree? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/16 07:26 PM |
| 1 | RP Hypocrisy on Single MothersThat doesn't matter. That doesn't relieve people from the responsibilities from the choices they make. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/16 07:19 PM |
| 2 | RP Hypocrisy on Single MothersSo you are saying they are capable of deciciding for themselves what is a sin and what isn't? Sounds like they are making a decision to not abort the baby to me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/16 06:32 PM |
| 3 | RP Hypocrisy on Single MothersReligious women don't want to abort. So, you saying that they are making a decision based on their religious preferences. Sounds like to me they are making a choice. Unless of course you are asserting that religious people (especially women) are mindless idiots, compelled to do what their doctrine tells them without any free-will. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/16 06:29 PM |
| 3 | CMV: If men are trustworthy, why are men so protective against their daughters when it comes to men?It's an ingrained slut-defense. Dad's instinctively know that women are "ruined" by having lots of sex. So, they "protect" their daughters from having sex, even though there is no more physical danger to the daughter having sex than the son. The father is trying to protect her chastity. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/16 05:34 PM |
| 18 | muslims and feministsReminds me of a joke my friend told me. "A gay couple walk into a bakery owned by muslims and ask for a wedding cake. The muslims refuse to bake the cake on religious grounds. Who do feminists side with?" | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/01/16 05:07 PM |
| 1 | Why do single moms receive so much praise?It is possible to get pregnant involuntarily. It is not possible to have to take care of a child involuntarily. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/01/16 09:03 PM |
| 7 | Why do single moms receive so much praise?It is possible to get pregnant by accident. It is not possible to have a baby by accident. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/01/16 09:02 PM |
| 2 | Birth controlApparently there is a risk of the string disappearing up your uterus if you do the string trim. If that happens it can cause a small issue when you want to remove it. They have to send robots in to retrieve it. It's a very low risk procedure, but it's probably costly if you need to have it done. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/01/16 04:20 AM |
| 3 | Birth controlMy SO was getting poked at first as well. We got it trimmed and it solved the problem. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/01/16 02:27 AM |
| 12 | Need some adviceWell, what did you expect would happen when you slept with your beta orbiter? No, it doesn't matter that you didn't like it. Take some responsibility for your actions. As for your relationship, It can't be fixed at this point. He would pretty much have to have no self respect to get back with you. My advice? Kick the beta out, live by yourself. Cut your losses swith your boyfriend. Learn from this and move on. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/01/16 10:52 PM |
| 1 | Birth controlAh, well I may be wrong, but she mentioned acne being a side effect, so that says "hormones" to me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/01/16 05:20 PM |
| 5 | Birth controlIt really is hormone free. For me the side effects have been a heavier period and a longer period. To me those effects aren't a big deal. The worst part was the adjustment period. For about 6-8 months I was experiencing some pretty bad cramping for 1 day during my period. I almost did remove it due to that, however now I am glad I didn't, because now I forget it is even there. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/01/16 05:08 PM |
| 11 | Birth controlSounds like you tried mirena IUD, I would try paraguard. It is hormone free. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/01/16 03:52 PM |
| 4 | CMV: the biggest difference between men and women is sex drive. anything else pales in comparison."The Pacific Ocean is the world's largest ocean by a huge margin, therefore the Atlatic Ocean is tiny." | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/01/16 06:57 PM |
| 2 | [Discussion] Raising a quality man.I do subscribe to the "women can't teach men to be men" camp. However, there was a guy in TRP who had a good idea of making sure that he has male role models around, even if those men aren't his father. Boy scouts, sports teams, etc, are a good way to do that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/01/16 06:21 PM |
| 1 | Telling women they are fat and uglyWow, it's like you have never met a disabled person. Disabled people can stay at healthy weights just fine by maintaining a healthy diet, and minimal exercise. You don't get fat by sitting around, you get fat by eating things that make you fat. We don't have an obesity epidemic because more people sit around than ~30 years ago. We have one because our diets have vastly changed. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/16 07:32 AM |
| 1 | Telling women they are fat and uglySo if 1 in 5 people can keep off weight (made up that number, you can pick any numbers you like for the sake of my argument) we shouldn't bother doing anything to help them because 4 might put it back on? We shouldn't help that 1, and save money with that 1, because it won't make any effect on the others? That is ridiculous. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/16 07:23 AM |
| 4 | Telling women they are fat and uglySo? We can't do a lot (ethically) to make old people lose the effect of ageing and save money. And to the extent we can do things to make them healthier to reduce costs, we do it. Why shouldn't we also save costs by encouraging fat people to live health healthier lifestyles? What is your next argument? NICU is more expensive than both of those, so we should ignore them both? Oh, what about Hep C? Those drugs are super expensive too. What's your point? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/16 07:14 AM |
| 2 | Why do people take issue with describing human behavior?They take offense to the idea that there is such thing as human behavior. The idea is that there is no such thing human behavior only "person" behavior, since each person is vastly different due to the multiudes of ways a brain can develop that are not entirely understood. It is a mix of a "nurture over nature" and a "free will" argument. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/16 06:50 AM |
| 2 | My successful boyfriend and his "rules", should I accept this?Well, there a few different ways to combat this. The first thing you have to do is ask yourself if you want to be like your friends. If the answer is "yes", then nothing I say will matter. If the answer is "no", continue reading. In order to combat this, you can try to begin politely. If your friends want you to "just take one more drink", you can respond with the fact that you don't want to. (If you are choosing to not drink to respect your boyfriend's wishes, then you are making that decision.… | /r/askTRP | 01/01/16 07:03 PM |
| 3 | My successful boyfriend and his "rules", should I accept this?Whenever your boyfriend wants something from you, you are making a choice between him and that thing. If he wants you to stop drinking so much, your choice is between him and getting drunk. When he wants you to do something, you have to ask yourself if that request is reasonable and whether your relationship is more important to you than the request. To me this is a no brainer. If the freedom to drink alcohol to the point of irresponsibility is more important to you than your relationship, I wou… | /r/askTRP | 01/01/16 06:13 PM |
| 6 | I am just terrible at doing nice things/giving giftsWoah there. Try not to be so hard on yourself. Getting The Perfect Gifttm is not always easy, and sometimes there isn't a perfect gift. I have failed at gifts before, and I have also had great triumphs, but the important thing is that you try and learn from your mistakes. What did you learn here? You learned that your SO actually appreciates practical gifts. He likes shop vacs? That means the next time you are looking for a gift for your SO, your first stop is Home Depot. My SO would dislike it … | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/12/15 03:42 AM |
| 4 | Responding to "I'll go if it's really that important to you" and other flakey tricksI don't really understand the issue here. If it is not really important the answer is "no". If you are starting to feel neglected because this is a regular thing, then the answer is, "Not really, but I've been feeling a little neglected lately, and like we haven't been to spending time together. I like spending time with you, and I miss that." The key here is to not tell him what to do, but clearly communicate your feelings so that he knows what is going on with you. As for your friend, I would … | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/12/15 08:20 PM |
| 1 | A woman's happiness is SMV-dependent (study: Rebbeca Addlington)I notice this too. I have been having a hard time reaching my goal body fat percentage. I have noticed that when I slip above a certain threshold and below a certain threshold my personality is literally affected by it. Even though in the clothes I wear it is hard for others see exactly how tight my stomach is, a tighter stomach literally raises my confidence and makes me more social and outgoing. Feeling good about myself makes a difference with how I present myselt and interact with others. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/12/15 08:07 PM |
| 6 | Why is "red pill" not simply called seduction?The only thing I would take issue with is your claim that "society's" path is so negative. I can only assume that you're talking about progressive society and specifically feminism. You are actually over-complicating it a little bit. Men don't turn to the red pill because of progressives, or feminism. They turn to the red pill simply because they are dissatisfied with their lives, as it has not yielded the results they wanted. Take the military as an example. Men register for it to defend our co… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/12/15 08:20 PM |
| 3 | Why is "red pill" not simply called seduction?Not being a man myself, I can't say that you are wrong about how men feel, and especially not about how you feel. However, I will say that I worded my post carefully to say that society is not giving men these things, while not saying that society should give them these things. I agree with you that society is a big machine, and wishing for it to be not to be a certain way is pointless. Saying society "should" give men respect is just as pointless as feminists saying society "should" treat women… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/12/15 05:06 PM |
| 7 | I'm almost 20, and have a question about relationships at this ageDon't force yourself into a relationship just because you want one. Wait for a guy you connect with to come along. If I could give 20 year old me one piece of advice, that would be it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/12/15 04:48 PM |
| 2 | Q4RP: RPW only. What are the things you disagree with TRP?Honestly? I agree with mostly everything. Not everything every user says (because who has the time to even know that), but I agree with all the core principles. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/12/15 04:42 PM |
| 3 | There aren't enough "blue pill" "progressive" (etc) women, thus you end up with disgruntled men and inceldom and "red pill" manosphere"I wish I could get a nice blue pill/feminist/progressive girl," said no red pill man, ever. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/12/15 04:34 PM |
| 7 | Cock carousel or commitment???Feminism advocates what women want. If a woman wants to dress modestly, it advocates that woman should be allowed to dress that way, without be shamed for it. If a woman want to dress sluttily, it wants them to do that without being shamed for it. If a women wants to be a SAHM, she should be allowed to do that without shame. If she wants a career, there should be job opportunities available to her (oh, and not shamed for choosing it). If a woman rides the cock carousel, she should be allowed to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/12/15 04:30 PM |
| 7 | Why is "red pill" not simply called seduction?TRP isn't just about getting sex. If it were, MGTOW would have no place there. The Red Pill is about the reclaiming of masculinity, making your own rules, and being accountable only to yourself. The Red Pill is called what it is because it is the realization that everything you were taught about how to be successful and happy was wrong. Society needs men to work, it needs men to marry, and it needs men to follow the rules and not be dangerous. It needs these things from men, but it doesn't creat… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/12/15 04:18 PM |
| 2 | What would Redpill parents do if their daughter didn't want to be submissive?TIL submissive women aren't brainy and can't program a computer. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/12/15 03:46 PM |
| 4 | Q4RP: Why is the banning policy so strong and authoritarian to defend the sub from being 'corrupted by feminist/leftist dogma' if you're all amused masters of Machiavellianism and Game?It is not that blue pill thought is "alluring", it is distracting. The red pill is a place for learning how to battle shit tests, not for actually battling shit tests. It is a little like asking why the military bothers with boot camp. The whole point of boot camp is to learn how to fight in war... so why don't we just put people straight into war? The reason is it is best to learn while not under the pressures of an actual war. You need a space that is seperate to teach necessary tools first. S… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/12/15 08:56 PM |
| 1 | TRP Philosophy appears strong but TRP "leaders" appear to have no track record in being able to attract women. Why is this?I guess they should give up then. Admitting there is no hope for them, and that they are total failures will surely make them less angry than trying and failing. Instead, they should just not try. Problem solved. They will kill themselves and you won't have to read about someone's anger on the internet. Everyone wins. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/15 07:20 PM |
| 3 | TRP Philosophy appears strong but TRP "leaders" appear to have no track record in being able to attract women. Why is this?Ah ok, hopefully you will forgive my confusion, since nothing in your OP even mentions that. My argument is that the vast majority of low value betas that visit TRP won't be able to pull it off. So your basic stance is that they should just give up, and stop trying. Good luck getting people to go for that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/15 07:09 PM |
| 1 | TRP Philosophy appears strong but TRP "leaders" appear to have no track record in being able to attract women. Why is this?how can we tell if any of them are truly "alpha" and speaking from experience or just fantasy land clowns? So, your post is about how TRP leaders can't attract women. Yet, you admit yourself, you have no idea whether they are alpha or not. So... erm... you have no idea if TRP leaders/vanguards can attract women or not. Are you just assuming they can't? Well, I'm convinced. It's over guys. TRP clearly doesn't work, since this guy is assuming that's the case. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/15 06:53 PM |
| 14 | Why did you have children? /Is childbearing selfish and is that okay?Of course it is selfish. Everything you do in life is selfish. Isn't going to college selfish? You could be feeding people in the 3rd world, but instead your spending 4 years paying people to teach you stuff so that you can make money. Asking if something is selfish is the wrong question. Really you should be asking if it benefits the child too. A benefit to you doesn't necessarily mean a bad thing for a child or society, because it is not impossible for other people to gain benefit from a selfi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/12/15 08:11 AM |
| 8 | Where do subs like TBP, niceguys, justneckbeardthings etc. fall on the punching up/punching down dichotomy?It's the internet, cry me a river ~/u/belletaco | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/15 06:11 PM |
| 10 | TRP doesn't give men what they want. It just convinces them that they don't want it.I agree with what she is talking about in terms of feminism's effect on men. But her conclusions come out of left field. Ultimately, she wants it to be true that we still live in a society where men can find love, and to be honest I want that to be true too. But, you cannot come to that conclusion after realizing that the respect men get from women has been lost. I understand where she is coming from. She is coming from the perspective that women want to love men, they want to respect men, and t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/12/15 09:05 PM |
| 21 | TRP doesn't give men what they want. It just convinces them that they don't want it.It is interesting to me as how OP's entire post is how men as a whole are losing their value to women as a result of feminism, and how men are suffering for a way to be loved. Yet the conclusion is that women, at their core, still love men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/12/15 06:29 PM |
| 23 | Attracting menI can smell the shit tests from here. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/12/15 06:35 AM |
| 3 | Husband's mother infantilizes him, then he brings it home.Clearly talking to him when he is one of these moods doesn't help. Have you tried talking to him after the fact, when things are back to normal? | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/15 06:56 PM |
| 12 | Husband's mother infantilizes him, then he brings it home.This is definitely a weird one. The problem for you is you can't respect a man who acts like this. Once you cannot respect a man, your relationship goes down hill. I am not sure it will help, because this is a really odd situation, but I did think of something you can try. It seems he is after this extreme, over the top praise his mother gives him. I wouldn't do that unless you want to have him act like that all the time. However, what you can try is giving him that type of praise when he does s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/15 06:53 PM |
| 1 | The difference between assholes and "assholes"It is more of a flirtatious laugh than a nervious one, but your point still stands. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/12/15 07:05 AM |
| 17 | Your man may just be laid back, not passive.This is often a source of confusion for newcomers. Being in charge doesn't mean "making demands all the time", it just means "having the final say". Often being a leader means letting your follower do what she wants, as long as he has no objections. This is a way he can show kindness to you. But, the thing is he is "letting" you do what you want. He still reserves the right to say "no" if he needs to. The ability to say "no" is the difference between a laid back leader, and a beta who resents yo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/12/15 08:14 PM |
| 4 | What role does sending death threats to blue pillers have in self improvement.Probably the same role that death threats to red pillars have in a "satire" sub. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/15 11:29 PM |
| 30 | I know you all are just as annoyed as I am by the new Cranberry Splash commercial!Once you start seeing how much men are picked on in the media, you start seeing it everywhere. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/12/15 01:52 AM |
| 3 | The metamorphosis of our pregnancy plans.I'm sorry, she doesn't get to have whatever she wants just because she wants it badly. That is an emotional reaction. The logical thing here is that makes the most sense is for him to watch the baby in the long term, since he is at home anyway. When I read this post, what I saw is a man who runs his own buisness (which can be a full time job by itself) willing to get another full time job, so that she can have some more time with the baby. She wants that, and he is willing to give it to her beca… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/12/15 10:11 PM |
| 6 | If, per RP a woman wants a man who is better than her (women date "up") does it not seem rational to assume that she wants a man she feels "less than"?By my rubric, yes, of course. If my SO is smarter than me, gets paid more than me, has higher status than me, that means that I am dumber, earn less, and have less social status. Good thing I am not dating me, because I make a terrible relationship partner. I am worse than my SO at everything that I value. ...well, that would be true, except for one thing, what I value is not what my SO values, what women value is not what men value. They value kindness, consideration, softness. While I want a c… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/12/15 09:56 PM |
| -1 | The metamorphosis of our pregnancy plans.My question to you ladies is this, Is she correct? Why does that even matter? You are the head of the household, you make the decisions. If she whines about it just deal with her like a whining child who doesn't want to act like an adult. If she wants to approach you as a reasonable person then you listen to her opinion, and then you only do what she requests if you think it is the right call. Also /r/asktrp | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/12/15 08:33 PM |
| 6 | Husband "doing" RP, and I'm strugglingA relationship consists of two people, not just you. Never occurred to me - thanks for the insight. That must be why your entire post is about how you feel, and hardly anything about how he feels. he did not feel like a man The reason I'm upset is that it feels like he's punishing me for that. He might be, and it might be actually your fault. Until you know why your SO wanted to do something different, you will never be able to get him to soften towards you. Any ideas on how to go about that? I'… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/12/15 08:07 PM |
| 4 | How to be supportive when I disagree?clearly [he] care[s] more than she does Exactly, this is something that is important to him, and something he has decided he wants. Your suggestions to stop trying don't make want to mend his relationship any less. I think right now what he needs is your support, not a little voice, echoing the one in his head, telling him his efforts are futile. Let him go through his process. That is his mother, and his is not willing to give up on that yet. Just be there for him when he is. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/12/15 01:36 AM |
| 8 | Husband "doing" RP, and I'm strugglingI love posts like these. "Dear RP, my relationship was practically perfect in every way until my SO discovered TRP, and now my relationship is terrible. What do I do?" Well first, you can stop describing your prior relationship as "practically perfect in everyway". A relationship consists of two people, not just you. If your relationship was so awesome, why did your SO seek out TRP in the first place? He sought out some help with his relationship because he was not satistfied, and because he did… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/12/15 08:57 PM |
| 13 | The ‘Luxury’ of At-Home MotherhoodWe’ve created a society in which people do not feel worthy unless they bring home a paycheck. Yup, we say watching your kids for a living is a waste of talent. However if you get paid to do it, we call you "teacher" or "nanny", which is perfectly fine, because your watching other people kids, and more importantly, you are being paid to do it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/12/15 09:12 PM |
| 5 | A theory behind the "Nice Guy" and "Asshole" dichotomyThis idealization exists in a fantasy where the women wants to take a specific asshole or nice guy and tame him into her own man that treats her well, as to say "he chose me and changed for me over all the other girls". They don't want men who are already easy to get generosity or kindness from because it's too easy, where the woman herself doesn't "tame" the man in anyway. This is absolutely true. The ultimate female fantasy is to have a guy who is a hard to get, fall completely in love with he… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/12/15 07:30 PM |
| 9 | [Field Report] OK let's keep it real for a moment....One of the things about a being a "slut", is that a "slut" is a woman who is giving away what she has very cheaply. If for example you give someone sex for the price of a drink, you are declaring that sex with you is only worth one drink. One of the reasons men are so put off by sluts is that they don't want to feel like they are being screwed over. If you give one man sex for the price of a drink, and demand a commitment from the next one, he is going to feel like a tool. That condemns you to e… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/12/15 05:43 AM |
| 5 | I'm struggling with my FMIL because she has no common sense but her heart is in a good placeWhat you might try is being proactive about her helping you. Instead of just letting her help in whatever way she wants, try giving her clear instructions on what you want done. For example: She wants to wash the dishes? Great! Have her wash and you "help out" by putting them away. She wants to help make pies? Great! You need some eggs cracked and beaten. You do the other steps. But also, you have to be willing to tell her no. And no, throwing a temper tantrum isn't going to change your mind. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/12/15 05:00 AM |
| 3 | Is Red Pill Woman only related to parts of the world where women already have their rights?That depends on how you define "rights". If your you think it is your "right" to have women in parliament, you are mistaken. If you think that the path men take is the path to happiness for women, you are mistaken. If you think the only power in the world is the power that men possess, and to achieve that power you must act like a man, you are admitting the feminine virtues are valueless. I think RPW values are important everywhere, and more so where people start to think that men are the only p… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/11/15 07:47 PM |
| 30 | Approached by mostly older men. Am I doing something wrong?It is because older guys have more perspective on life and are therefore more courageous. The majority of younger guys are not going to ask you out because of the fear of rejection. Older guys know that rejection is no big deal, they know this from experiencing lots of rejection. If you are getting 1 in 4 young guys asking you out, that is pretty good. That means you are hot enough that the guys who are courageous are willing to ask you out. If you want more young guys asking you out, just work … | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/11/15 05:56 PM |
| 1 | Tampon tax: an immoral anachronism or feminist histrionics?"Immoral"? I don't even understand the use of the word in this context. Which code of morality is violated by getting taxed? Sure, I understand that no one likes getting taxed, but it is certainly not "immoral". They are just upset that in this case it is the women getting taxed, and, in typical feminist fashion, ignoring what men have to do, and what men have to pay for. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/15 07:54 PM |
| 0 | Friends! Can I get some amazing suggestions for one of those relationship coupon books??I still don't get it entitely. Sure, my SO and I have a list of fun things on our "to-do list". But I would never consider a "fun to-do list" an appropriate present to my SO (not even as a "stocking stuffer"). Would you? | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/11/15 08:36 PM |
| 2 | Mini rant regarding calories and womenI am only 5'. But that is why I wanted to look at my BMR to make sure I wasn't too far from there. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/11/15 08:32 PM |
| 2 | Mini rant regarding calories and womenOh yes, I use my fitness pal and weight my foods. My question were regarding specifically BMR, what I should be eating, and if there was a trick to eating out a restaurants (there is not). Right now MFP has 1100 calories for me, but that was just a guess based on experimentation. I wanted to see about getting a better number in there. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/11/15 08:24 PM |
| 1 | CMV: SMV is relative and therefore generally useless as a metricThe point isn't to describe accurately how attractive she would be to the reader. The point is to describe how attractive she was to the story teller. This lets the reader know what the guy's state of mind is when approaching this woman. For example if a man thinks a girl is a 9 or 10, he is more likely to be nervious approaching. This can make it harder for him to run game, not because she more attractive in general, but because she is more attractive to him. This then makes it easier to give a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/11/15 05:23 PM |
| 3 | Mini rant regarding calories and womenOh god, yes. When I first started seriously losing weight, my parents (who are both obese) were conserned for my health. They were afraid I was being unhealthy. They were talking to me, and not my sister, who is also obese. You don't develop anorexia by figuring out what your body needs, and carefully eating only that. You don't develop it by exercising more. You don't develop it by refusing to eat cake. Anorexia is a serious illness, and treating everyone who is losing weight healthily as havin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/11/15 04:02 PM |
| 1 | Friends! Can I get some amazing suggestions for one of those relationship coupon books??I apologize for not understanding. I guess the disconnect for me was that my SO is the leader in my relationship. So, to me, that means what he says goes. Giving my SO a coupon (for example, "a carwash in a bikini") would be extremely disrespectful, because it is the act of me giving him permission to tell me to wash the car in my bikini. My SO does not need my permission to do anything, and giving it is disrespectful because it implies he doesn't currently have it. If my SO wants me to wash the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/11/15 05:57 PM |
| 1 | redpillers: what makes a woman a feminist?A feminist is someone who believes that there is a utopia called "equality" that can exist between men and women. While what is meant by "equality" varies from person to person, the underlying premise is that it is a state that we are not currently in, but we can achieve this state by just working harder or changing our attitudes. To be a feminist, specifically, you must believe that one of the reasons that equality doesn't exist is because women don't have some of the rights or social freedoms … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/15 05:33 PM |
| 4 | Odd question... but I'm pretty sure the dog likes me more and it's bumming out my bf.It just sounds to me like the dog is less disciplined around you. I am not too surpirised, I have always had trouble getting dogs to treat me like the leader, while most men I know never have that problem. I think it because I physically can't make my voice boom when I have to say "no". Sleeping on the bed is dominate behavior for a dog, because for dogs, the leader sleeps on the highest ground. When he sleeps next to you, he is basically saying he is the boss of you. I don't know how to success… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/11/15 03:57 PM |
| 2 | I didn't know how to answer his question.When men fall and women fall it is for very different reasons. A typical pattern for a woman is when she is not in a relationship she is in her best shape, and then when she gets into a relationship she stops putting in effort. Almost like, "I don't have to try anymore, I have someone". This is why dread game can be an effective tool for this kind of behaviour. It is a reminder that the relationship she is in isn't a sure thing. When a man falls it is because something in the atmosphere has chan… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/11/15 06:07 PM |
| 1 | Friends! Can I get some amazing suggestions for one of those relationship coupon books??I would say no on a coupon book. Coupon books are for people who don't already do those things on a regular basis. It is so patronizing. It is like, "here, let me give you the license to get the one of the things I know you like, so I should be doing these things for you all year round, but I don't do because I don't value your happiness. But just this once, I will treat you well because it is your birthday." Somewhere on reddit there is a great example of what I am talking about, I will update … | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/11/15 05:54 PM |
| 2 | As a woman, do you prefer sex that dehumanizes you and uses you as a mastubatory aid?Oh yeah, I love being oppressed. Didn't you see my flair? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/15 08:52 PM |
| 8 | Let's talk about fighting in your relationshipfighting happens No, it does not. I have been with my SO for nearly 4 years and never have had a fight. You don't have to accept fighting as the norm for your relationship. Fighting is a struggle for power, and I truly believe that if you have a full RP relationship, fighting won't happen. If you really internalize the idea that "the decision is up to him" there is no reason to fight, because raising your voice won't change that. Instead of fighting what happens is I tell him my position on some… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/11/15 05:56 PM |
| 5 | Why do people find Red Pill women to be bad?Who is Anna Duggar, and how is she involved in my relationship? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/15 06:35 AM |
| 3 | Question for RP: What do you think happened in between 200,000 BC and 10,000 BC ancestral times, when most of human psychological evolution took place?"Better" here is in the sense of which civilation survives and prospers. Evolution/natural selection doesn't care how you prosper, only that you do. For example, if there are still small H/G societies, one natural disaster could more concievably wipe out a whole tribe. The same natural disaster would have a harder time eliminating (as an example) all white people. The point being, while their society is functional, it is not stable on a large scale. This forces them to keep their groups small, w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/15 11:25 PM |
| 3 | More "monk mode," femininity questions/concernsIt doesn't hurt you any to attract men who you aren't interested in. Being attractive (approachable) will get you both the men you are attracted to and the ones you aren't. Being unapproachable will get you neither. There is no way to be attractive in such a way that only attracts alphas. Attractiveness will universally attract the attention of all males. The more attractive you are, the more attention you will get, and the more chances you will have that eventually it will be someone you find a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/15 06:12 PM |
| 2 | Just a lurker looking for adviseThis: Sometimes when I'm there and we're not doing anything I'll play with the cats or quietly sit somewhere on my phone, so it's not like I'm making him pay attention to me the whole time. Doesn't quite match up with this: I like being near him mostly, even if we aren't doing something together all the time. So, I am not sure which it is. Are you always around him? Or do you take some time by yourself? I think he just has a need for alone time. To the extent that if he is not feeling up for han… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/15 05:45 PM |
| 2 | Just a lurker looking for adviseHow is his place set up? Does he have a seperate bedroom from the living room? | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/15 04:02 PM |
| 1 | Outliers are the majority.Let us suppose you are correct, 25% of women fall for TRP men, and the rest are repulsed by them. Those are still pretty good odds. 1 in 4 women attracted you is great odds, and way better than the 0% of women who were attracted to them before TRP. Compared to the "natural alpha", 25% is not half bad. Why does a TRP man need to attract more than that? 1 in 4 women is pleanty to satisfy any man's desires sexual desires. Why does a man need to attract more women than that? There just isn't enough … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/15 08:16 PM |
| 8 | Raising boys.You think your boys are too feminine due to being mostly raised by a woman, and not having enough interactions with their father, so your solution is to ask a bunch of women how to raise them? I would talk to men. Try /r/asktrp. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/11/15 03:52 PM |
| 2 | Desperate for help to show my boyfriend I care about him and respect him.he doesn't like having to spell things out for me.. I'm sure you have many wonderful qualities, but being a mind-reader is not one of them. You two have different needs, different values, and different upbringings. It is not reasonable for him to expect you just simply know everything you need to know about him. I understand for him one of things he likes is for someone to just know what he wants without having to ask for it (like when you want someone to just give you a hug after a bad day), me… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/11/15 09:22 PM |
| 1 | Desperate for help to show my boyfriend I care about him and respect him.Your boyfriend knows what he likes and wants, but he has a lot of trouble being able to express it. Based on what you wrote, I have a good idea of what is going on with him, but I think telling you would be not useful because it would not really be helpful to you. The real issue here is that if your a submissive women (and from your post it sounds like you are), you love pleasing people. However without guidance, you start to feel lost and not know what to do. Then you feel discouraged because t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/11/15 08:01 PM |
| 3 | CMV: The tone present on TRP DOES matter as criticism since it represents emotions that influence ideasOk, so you have decided that TRP has not made a convincing/logical argument to your satisfaction. You have decided that TRP is not for you. So, why does their tone matter? Unless it is because of their tone that they have failed to convince you, tone has not informed your decision. So once again, why does tone matter? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/15 07:24 PM |
| 6 | CMV: The tone present on TRP DOES matter as criticism since it represents emotions that influence ideasSo, then why worry about whether or not you can trust what they say? You either believe what they say or you don't. How they say it, or what it means about them as a person, doesn't effect your ability to look at what they say and judge it for yourself. So why does that matter? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/15 07:17 PM |
| 7 | CMV: The tone present on TRP DOES matter as criticism since it represents emotions that influence ideasas a listener of that statement, it is fair for me to say, 'Hey I am not sure I trust your judgement because you have a high likelihood of being subjective and biased.' Then the logical thing to do is take what they are saying and examine it for yourself, not dismiss it off-hand because how they are saying it. But, TRP is not asking you to trust them. You need nothing from them, and they need nothing from you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/15 07:07 PM |
| 8 | This is why RPW are encouraged to NOT speak to "journalists"They will take your words and twist them to fit their agenda Look, I can do it to! It’s toe curling stuff. Yup, sure is ;) | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/11/15 09:02 PM |
| 2 | Why do women only have to meet one requirement-be hot, whilst men have to meet numerous requirements, to be considered datable?I think you are confusing the SMP with the RMP. For girls being hot means you can get a lot of attention from men. However it does not guareentee that you are "dateable", it just means guys want to have sex with you. If you are a bitch, guys want nothing to do with you, and the ones that do, put up with you for sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/11/15 04:06 PM |
| 5 | Asking him what he wants gets awkward...You are way overdoing it. Being a sub doesn't mean not doing anything without asking him first. Yes, asking what he wants is part of it, but anticipating his needs is another part of it. You, for example, can predict every morning that he will want breakfast, so you can just make it for him without consulting him on every detail. If your man is having trouble saying what he wants because he feels like he is inconviencing you, that will not be an issue for him if breakfast is already made. If he … | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/11/15 05:28 PM |
| 1 | Walter white, alphas and red pillsI haven't seen it, but in general I would say that TV and movies don't reflect real life, instead they reflect writers perception of world, and how they think the world should be. They cannot help but reflect their values and biases through their writing. If Walter White was a Red-Pill-Approved Ladies-ManTM , but girls still wouldn't go near him, it might be because the writers felt a guy like that wouldn't be able to get girls. Don't forget we live in a society where most people are blue pill, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/15 07:09 PM |
| 20 | What's your opinion on the gender gap in the tech industry?I am more concerned about the under representation of left-handed people. Even the tools are designed for right-handed people, it is like they are trying to keep the leftys out. Fight for your lefts! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/11/15 06:32 AM |
| 4 | I [19F] believe my mother [43F] doesn't treat my father [53M] well enough, even though she thinks she has good intentions. What can I do about it? [x-post from r/relationships]Unfortunately it is very hard for someone to change, and impossible if they don't want to change. As long as your mother has no desire to change, she won't. There is nothing you can do to make her want that. However your father has a lot of power in this situation. He has the power to decide whether it is worth it to him to continue living in this situation, or to not. If he wants something to change in his life, there is a lot he can do to make that happen. Maybe he doesn't want anything to cha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/11/15 06:24 PM |
| 6 | New to sub. Saw something on r/TheRedPill that concerned me.No but I don't treat them the same way I treat rational adults since their brains haven't fully developed. We have established how you don't treat children. How do you treat children? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/11/15 06:03 AM |
| 8 | New to sub. Saw something on r/TheRedPill that concerned me.Treating someone as a child/inferior due to their sex just really, really strikes me as wrong. Do you treat children like they are inferior to you? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/11/15 04:50 AM |
| 2 | Meatless Man FoodThere is a difference between correlation and causation. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/11/15 09:49 PM |
| -4 | Meatless Man FoodHonestly... why? He should be eating meat every day. Have vegetables with the meals to make it more balanced, but don't have a "no meat" day. Meat is good for you, it helps you build muscle. Do you also want to have a "no water" day to encourage the drinking of juice, and save water? | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/11/15 09:00 PM |
| 3 | Why You're Not MarriedI don't think you are looking at the reality of young people IRL, and are relying too much on what you read on the internet. I don't think you are looking at the data, and relying too much on personal anecdotes. Here is the actual data provided by the Bureau of Labor Statistics. According to their data 38% of women out earn their husbands if you include men who are unemployed, and 30% if the men bring in a salary as well. http://www.bls.gov/cps/wives_earn_more.htm Unfortunately, I could not find… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/10/15 01:06 AM |
| 4 | Why You're Not MarriedI am sorry, my meaning was unclear. I didn't mean men in general make more than women in general. I meant married men and those in relationships make more than their partners in general. The difference being that women will typically choose partners who make more than them. For example there may be a large number of unemployed men, however those men typically won't end up getting married. Most women do not want an unemployed marriage/relationship partner. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/15 08:32 PM |
| 2 | Why You're Not MarriedExcept for the fact that women typically don't earn more than men. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/15 08:11 PM |
| 3 | Why You're Not MarriedOf course they would, women have nothing to lose by being married. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/15 07:11 PM |
| 2 | TRP Proves that All Men Need Female ValidationBut, you wouldn't tell a women "you must not be looking in the right places", would you? That would be extremely unhelpful because most likely she hasn't just been looking in bars. So unless she has you'd probably tell her some variation of the following: Men actually are opting out of marriage, this has been shown by studies. The men who are interested are below her standards (the 80/20 rule). She is not attractive enough to get the men that would be interesting to her. The message "you must no… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/10/15 06:33 PM |
| 4 | TRP Proves that All Men Need Female ValidationI know some lovely, single women, but you won't meet them via online dating or at a bar. Straw man. You are assuming "they" (meaning all red pill men) have only tried online dating or at the bar. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/10/15 04:53 PM |
| 27 | Why You're Not MarriedI have commented on this before, but the TLDR is to be warry of her advice, because while a lot of it is good, you can tell why she can get married, but is unable to keep a marriage. She talks about men like they are children, and she talks about men like they are afraid of women. She doesn't respect men. Just as long as you notice that, and don't take those parts seriously, a lot of it is good. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/15 03:59 PM |
| 3 | Halloween treats!Make sure to make some real food too. Sweets are great, but that shouldn't be the only thing to eat all night. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/15 03:43 AM |
| 1 | If you orgasm-ed twice as often in serious relationships vs. casual sex, what would you pursue/value more?It is based on what I know about the red pill and what I know about men. I don't see the point in justifying further a number that I pulled out of the air. The point of my post was simply this: A woman who offers a lot of sex on a regular basis and is pleasant to be around is a viable option for a lot of red pill men, rather than spinning plates. I directly answered your OP. If you have anything further to discuss, let me know. Otherwise your question has been answered. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/15 03:07 AM |
| 2 | If you orgasm-ed twice as often in serious relationships vs. casual sex, what would you pursue/value more?I don't have a number for you. Of you are curious you can ask the red pill men. "Most" means more than 50%. If I had to guess a number out thin air, I would estimate at least 70%. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/15 11:13 PM |
| 3 | If you orgasm-ed twice as often in serious relationships vs. casual sex, what would you pursue/value more?Supposing that is true for a second, the statement "RP advocates dishonesty" doesn't contradict the statement "Most RP men like the idea of a relationship with a RPW." The two statements have nothing to do with one another. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/15 10:22 PM |
| 4 | If you orgasm-ed twice as often in serious relationships vs. casual sex, what would you pursue/value more?You basically just described the attitude of a RPW. Our philosophy is we give it to him when he wants, whenever he wants, plus initiate some times. This way our SO's don't really have any incentive to get sex elsewhere. Needless to say RP men don't have a lot of problems with the idea of having a RPW as a relationship partner. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/15 09:51 PM |
| 3 | Is this rude or self respect?he is part of the packaged deal I understand this. But, you are not stuck with him, you can get another place. You can get a roommate if money is a problem. It sounds like to me like it's not a big enough deal for you to move, so I really don't know why you bring it up. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/10/15 08:43 PM |
| 3 | Is this rude or self respect?Sorry: If your living situation isn't working for you, why don't make other arrangements? Why do you live with your sister and her boyfriend, if it is not working for you? | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/10/15 06:48 PM |
| 2 | Is this rude or self respect?There is part of the story I don't understand. If your living situation isn't working for you, why don't make other arrangements? | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/10/15 05:41 PM |
| 1 | Q4RP: What do you find most frustrating about non-RP/BP ideology?Why is your impression of her important? The purpose is to convey his impression of her. If his post is "I met this great girl who looked like this". That doesn't tell you anything useful. If instead he tells you "I met a girl who I thought was attractive". That tells you that he was in a situation where maybe he was more nervous than usual or other useful things about his state of mind at the time. The SMV scale is measuring how much her attractiveness is influencing the situation. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/15 05:00 AM |
| 11 | Alpha/Beta dichotomy from the ground upInteresting ideas. But it sort of falls apart at the end. beta = characteristics that potentially increase the survivability and reproductive success of current offspring (provider characteristics). Examples include status, ambition, and good father traits such as maturity and emotional control. We are attracted to betas. If these are all positive traits that women are attracted to, it doesn't explain why women lose attraction to providers over time. You also forget to notice that ambition (whic… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/10/15 12:31 AM |
| 2 | Should there be a Red Pill site for Dark Triad women?Sure, why not? Have fun :) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/10/15 09:14 PM |
| 1 | Should there be a Red Pill site for Dark Triad women?I'm asking if there should be a place for these people . If there "should" be? There either is a group or there isn't a group. "Should" is for people who want to change things. TRP doesn't care about "should", it cares about "is". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/10/15 07:46 PM |
| 1 | Should there be a Red Pill site for Dark Triad women?I am confused about your argument here. Are you saying that dark triads who want to abuse people in a mythotical way have a support group? If so, where is it? If your answer is "The Red Pill", even though I may disagree with you, what is your point? If the Red Pill is a mythotical abuse support group, is your point that they under an obligation to create one for women? If your point that there should be one for women? Then create one. If your point is that there is no such support group for wome… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/10/15 07:07 PM |
| 4 | Should there be a Red Pill site for Dark Triad women?I think you don't really understand abusive people. Maybe you have lead a lucky enough life not to have met any. Abusive people don't... plan to be abusive. They just think "I am having a bad feeling, how can I stop this feeling". Abuse is impulsive. Most abusers don't want to be abusive, but they are ruled by their emotions. As soon as a man gets angry, he puts a fist sized hole in the wall, as soon as a women doesn't get what she wants she starts crying. That is why there is no "how to put hol… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/10/15 06:33 PM |
| 2 | Should there be a Red Pill site for Dark Triad women?Ah, you don't know the difference between successful manipulation, and unsuccessful manipulation. RPW is just as manipulative as RP, you just don't care because their manipulation tactics are BP Approvedtm . What you refer to as "abuse" is unsuccessful manipulation. Abuse works for a while, until at some point the person being abused starts to realize they want to escape. Yes, it often can be hard for them to inevitably leave, but the sign that it is an ineffective manipulation strategy is the f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/10/15 05:46 PM |
| 7 | Changing your personalityOk, you need to take a deep breath. You are spiraling out of control. Hating yourself is not going to solve anything, or help anyone. Breath in and out, or take a walk. Continue reading when you are ready to talk about how to improve, rather than feeling sorry for yourself. Your back? Feeling better? Ok, let's continue. I took the liberty of reading some of your comments below to learn what exactly was going on here. You flinch when your SO tries to kiss you on the nose, and you got defensive ab… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/10/15 05:54 PM |
| 6 | Having trouble agreeing on a shared future. I'm uncertain if I'm being unreasonable or if this is a boundary issue.I still don't get it. If all that is true why do you want to move? Most of the reasons you listed just don't seem like they would change. First, his ex-wife, ex-MIL, and an ex-girlfriend all live in this community. They would still be close by. his place is falling apart. He doesn't take care of it. He still would be a person who doesn't take care of his place. His kids sneak over when they're supposed to be at their mom's place and raid his fridge and use the toilet and don't flush, etc. It's g… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/10/15 07:38 PM |
| 8 | Having trouble agreeing on a shared future. I'm uncertain if I'm being unreasonable or if this is a boundary issue.Something is just not adding up here. It seems to me that a lot of these things wouldn't change if you moved, and most of the things that would seem to be you trying to avoid his kids. Do you not like his kids? If you don't like his kids coming around frequently, being in your space, making a mess, etc, then you are not ready for this relationship. By moving in, becoming engaged, or marrying to this man, you are agreeing to be a mother to these kids. It seems to me like you just want to erase hi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/10/15 05:58 PM |
| 8 | Who handles the money?The first rule of a male lead relationship, is that the man is in charge. So, the person in charge of the money is whoever your captain thinks is appropriate. If he perfers you to do it that is fine. Captains can delegate responsibility as they see fit, to whoever they trust with it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/10/15 05:29 AM |
| 1 | Spinsterhood?It depends on what you mean by fluctuate. They won't be different from one day to the next to a degree that you would notice the difference, however it does change a little bit from day to day. Overall, however, testerone levels decrease overtime as you get older. They also decrease if you get fatter. It can help a little to lift, but those are the main driving factors. Symptoms can be low libido and lack of energy. It definitely would put you in a bad position because I can't think of a good wa… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/10/15 09:39 PM |
| 5 | First post here, would like some advice pleaseI hope I still belong here after this, but here goes...I am not the keeper of sex in our relationship, he is. He enjoys his "alone time" and has a lower libido than I do. He gets it anytime he wants it Don't worry, you're doing it right. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/10/15 05:39 AM |
| 5 | Is it possible to turn an unattractive beta male into an attractive man with some alpha qualities?I've been saving up to get a few cosmetic procedures done and had my mind set on leaving him once I'm prettier So you are not trying your best for him, to be the most attractive you can for him, but you expect him to become mega-sexy-alpha for you? If you don't put in any effort, he won't either. Let me guess, are you also significantly overweight? Try putting in some effort first, and then come back if that doesn't help. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/10/15 05:29 AM |
| 4 | Spinsterhood?It sounds to me like he has low testosterone due to being overweight, and lack of energy due to low testosterone. Is he also tired all the time, in addition to being stressed out? Not like "sleepy", but doesn't feel like doing much? | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/10/15 05:20 AM |
| 6 | Q for RP: Do these comments sound sociopathic to y'all? And is that okay with y'all?You have yet to make the case that sociopathy is necessarily a bad thing. However; This one basically implies that he won't have any human civility with a fat, female customer because she's not attractive. This is not sociopathic at all. Sociopathy is doing things because they benefit you. If you lose a customer for treating them badly (because they are fat), you are hurting yourself. If a sociopath had a lot of fat customers, they might start doing "Free soda with every purchase" campaigns. The… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/15 09:18 PM |
| 2 | Me (26F) with BF (25M)-Wants to have a 3-some but I do not. He ended the relationship.This is a huge red flag to men and I am not surprised that he dumped you. Basically you are saying to him, "I was willing to do crazy, sexy, things with my ex, but not you... because I like you too much." This is such a pile of b.s., even men who are have never heard of TRP don't want to be the guy you won't do sexy things with... when you did with your ex. To him it means you are not as sexually attracted to him, because you won't do the things with him you were willing to do with your ex. And,… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/10/15 04:15 AM |
| 6 | My critique of Red Pill Men and Red Pill WomenIf you follow Red Pill Theory, you are that house. You are focusing on the beautiful exterior (good looks, good job, nice clothes) but completely ignoring the foundation (personality, personal values, long term life goals, healthy self-esteem, etc), and your chirade will quickly collapse. Do you honestly believe that what you do on the outside (good looks, good job, nice clothes, etc) has no effect on what is going on "the inside"? You don't think that dropping 150 lbs can make someone feel bett… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/15 10:24 PM |
| 6 | How to trust my boyfriend vs my instinct?Being manipulated and being in a good relationship aren't mutually exclusive. To understand this better, think about this, if someone wears well executed make-up they are manipulating a man's instincts to be more attractive to them. We manipulate each other all the time. In fact part of the purpose of TRP/RPW is to learn how to effectively manipulate the opposite sex by tapping into their instincts. I think asking whether or not he is manipulating you is asking the wrong question. What you reall… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/10/15 05:36 AM |
| 11 | Hi ladies, I have a (possibly stupid) question for youI neither want children nor plan on being married, but I have a great man who I love and want to improve myself for. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/10/15 02:47 PM |
| 2 | DAE dread themselves?This is what RPers often called "soft dread". Soft dread is just showing he is valuable by social proof. Soft dread doesn't have to be intentional on the part of the man because his enviornment will provide the social proof if he is attractice enough. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/15 07:58 PM |
| 1 | Help me win the stuff war?You mention some of the tools are replacements for other tools (according to you, replacements you didn't "need"). If it is okay with your husband, maybe you can get rid of the old ones. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/10/15 02:59 PM |
| 44 | Agree or disagree? "Being a stay-at-home mom is not a job."While I might agree that being a good mom/parent is hard work, I think a lot of parents don't put in the work to be good parents. It is very easy to just do the minimum necessary for your kids to survive. Being a parent is a job where you can't be fired, you can get the job by accident, and you can put in any amount of effort you choose. I just have a bad taste in my mouth of people who think mothers are special, just because they are mothers. Like there is something inherently special about the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/10/15 06:15 AM |
| 2 | Recipes for vacation??Are you staying at the same hotel everyday, or do the ingredients need to travel? | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/10/15 08:45 PM |
| 8 | Is denial a part of the problem?It is very easy to think of people who do horrible thing (rape, murder, etc) as "defective people". That way we don't have to worry about what we are doing to others, and our own capacity to be "evil". It is very easy to think, "I would never do that", when studies and history has shown that the majority of us would, given the right circumstances. Thinking you are not capable of doing horrible things, and putting those who do horrible things in a mental category for "defective people", is intell… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/15 07:39 PM |
| 14 | Time?Hi RPW, I want to ask for your advice. (Please no comments trying to convince me otherwise, my hearts set.) But, only the advice I want, and won't upset me. Thanks! | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/10/15 07:06 PM |
| 4 | How much would legalizing prostitution actually change things for angry, ‘frustrated’ incels?I think talking about the lack of sex for incels kind of misses the boat. Yes, sex is huge drive and urge for men, but the vast majority of incels don't just want sex, they want to feel loved and cared about. Sex is an expression of that, sex is one of the biggest ways that men feel loved. So, yes they want sex, of course they do, but a lot of them also want someone special to share that with. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/15 05:30 AM |
| 4 | My SO and I both exclaim, "She's so hot!" Why?I do this to some extent as well. I think the reason I do it is to get verification from my SO. If I think a girl is attractive and my SO agrees, I have correctly identified what my SO finds attractive. I think to some extent I want to study and analyze what my SO finds attractive, to see if there is something I can do to be more attractive to him. If I can identify patterns in what attracts him, then maybe there is information there I can use. So, if I find someone I think is pretty, I ask him … | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/10/15 04:49 AM |
| 7 | I'm a university student, how can I come across as more feminine?It's currently Autumn and I just find them too cold to wear. You can wear sweater dresses with leggings. I personally don't like wearing cardigans with dresses because it hides my best asset which is my waist. That is what belts are for. Anyway redardless, if you have to layer up because it is cold, you are going to have to hide your features a little bit. If dresses don't work because it is too cold, find nice coats that flatter your figure. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/09/15 08:58 PM |
| 6 | I'm a university student, how can I come across as more feminine?Why are wearing dresses not practical? | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/09/15 08:13 PM |
| 3 | Fun Fact : In Greece keeping your maiden name has been the norm for decades and nobody cares .It is because in our culture it is seen as a sign of respect, especially to men. It is interesting because if you hear men talk about it they will sometimes not understand themselves why they want it... they just sort of do. They have a strong reaction to it, and they don't even know why. But it is the same reason women want engagement rings, because it is the cultural norm. These days, it seems like the only reason some men still get married is so that he can start a family where people will kn… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/15 02:57 PM |
| 4 | Fun Fact : In Greece keeping your maiden name has been the norm for decades and nobody cares .It's because of the culture. It's for the same reason we think it's gross if someone doesn't wear deodorant. You can argue until you are blue in the face that your smell is "natural", but it doesn't matter because people will not want to stand near you, and think you are not clean. It doesn't matter if you agree or disagree with deodorant use, if you want people to like you, you should wear it, because that is what the culture dictates. Not that you should do everything your culture says, but yo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/15 05:42 AM |
| 2 | Required college class wants me to learn about non-red pill values and I'm stuck!Personally, I don't like to make waves. If it were me I would probably BS my way through it, writing the things the teacher would want to see. Then I would just not take anything I learned with me. But you could go the "write about what you want to write about" route. If your essays are well supported enough, follow the directions, and don't have compositional problems, you should be able to pass the class anyway. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/09/15 11:13 PM |
| 1 | UPDATE: Am I making a mountain out of a molehill and overreacting to my bf helping out his mentally unstable ex?This is what you need to tell him. You don't need to say every word, but you should share with him your fears. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/09/15 05:26 PM |
| -1 | UPDATE: Am I making a mountain out of a molehill and overreacting to my bf helping out his mentally unstable ex?I got some advice that I should have kept it logical. I don't understand this because it is not logical. If he texted something that was obviously inappropriate, like "I want to screw your brains out", then you wouldn't have come here looking for advice, you would have dumped him. But since he said something ambiguous, that wasn't really over the line, you became unsure. You knew it made you uncomfortable, but it wasn't clear he crossed a line. That is because it is not clear he did anything wro… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/09/15 09:48 PM |
| 6 | UPDATE: Am I making a mountain out of a molehill and overreacting to my bf helping out his mentally unstable ex?I told him I disagreed that her "I've been dreaming about you text" was purely platonic, and he sent me a rebuttle screenshot with different wording. He did say that he would try to make things unquestionably platonic in the future, but never said he'd stop. You're arguing about what someone did or did not do. Whether or not "I am dreaming about you" or "I miss you" is platonic is not the issue. If you argue this way you are leaving room for him to say "well, I don't see it that way". Which is w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/09/15 08:48 PM |
| 8 | UPDATE: Am I making a mountain out of a molehill and overreacting to my bf helping out his mentally unstable ex?he didn't want to feel guilty about it and then got mad at me for nagging him. To be fair, I have been bringing up petty things lately, and that doesn't help that earlier this morning I was a bit annoyed (and told him I was annoyed, but also let him know it wasn't his fault) that our specific plans for tonight were getting postponed for literally the 5th time, and he got mad that I was annoyed. And this is why we go to our captain with our problem not our solution. He basically sees you coming a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/09/15 07:57 PM |
| 5 | Both pills: explain why SMV should not be correlated with actual value as a human being.Value to whom, value for what? Value is derived based on what you give to other people, and what they need from you. For example my "value as a human being" to my boss, has very little to do with my SMV. It has some for the same reason that attractive people are more likely to get hired than unattractive ones. But, mostly he values you for what you produce. My friends neither value me for what I can produce, nor my SMV (though again slightly... SMV is never totally out of the picture), they valu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/15 03:07 PM |
| 2 | Best way to inspire spouse in the gymThere is a post in /r/theredpill on this very subject. It is called "Day One of Your Captain and First Mate Dynamic". I can't link it because I am on mobile, but you should be able to find it fairly easily with the search function. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/09/15 06:54 PM |
| 4 | What if someone doesn't care about partner counts , age etc?Then they can date some single mother in her 30's. Actually, maybe he can go after the elderly. There are a lot of single women there since men die younger than women on average. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/15 05:33 PM |
| 5 | Question: Is TRP filled with a bunch of beta nerds trying to live an "alpha" lifestyle?It is like going to an MBA game and saying "How can all the players be over 7'? That is nearly impossible, look at the odds." | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/15 05:28 PM |
| 2 | Question: Is TRP filled with a bunch of beta nerds trying to live an "alpha" lifestyle?Every story is about a TRP who is 6 foot or greater, muscular, and has a >100K/salary I see you've met my SO. Oh, and he has an IQ of over 170. The odds of that are about 1 in a million. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/15 03:03 PM |
| 3 | Q4RP have you ever not been in the mood for sex?Just the other day, after I blew him 4 times, he said he was done for the day. I was traumatised. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/15 02:57 PM |
| 2 | Killing the hamster, a question about changing an old habitSo my dilemma is, do I just let the hamster tire out by misdirecting her attention, or am I failing as a captain by not finding a way help her take care of this? You fail as a captain for forgetting that men and women are different. You can't reason with an emotional woman, because emotions are not logical. Sometimes you may even have to figure out what she is really upset about, because often times she won't know herself. After she's had a good cry, figure out the real root of the problem, and … | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/09/15 04:56 PM |
| 4 | I hate making decisionsIt also depends on the guy. Some guys are not used to taking the lead, so you have to use phrasing like this to get him to realize you will be ok with him making decisions. Other guys are more natural leaders so it's ok to suggest something that you want, because ultimately it's his decision. He has no trouble saying "yes" or "no". | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/09/15 04:36 PM |
| 2 | Question about a dating situationJust curious, you think his behaviour suggests that he has a much higher SMV? Yes, for guys having higher SMV is a self fufilling profecy. If you act like you are high SMV, you will be higher SMV. Because people think you have higher SMV, you become SMV. The fact that he appeared out of your league, means that his SMV was higher than yours. That doesn't necessarily mean that you can't get a guy like that. Girls want guys with higher (perceived) SMV than themselves, that is how hypergamy works. B… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/09/15 04:53 AM |
| 5 | What to do when your guy doesn't like to text, yet you thrive on it?"he doesn't even ask how my day is, he obviously does not care." We are getting to the root of the problem here. When you don't recieve from frequent texts from him, you don't feel cared about. The problem is that you feel insecure about his feelings for you when he doesn't text you. This is important because you know in your head that wanting him to text more is kind of stupid. But, it doesn't matter that it is kind of stupid, because what is important is your feelings of insecurity that it cau… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/09/15 10:55 PM |
| 6 | What to do when your guy doesn't like to text, yet you thrive on it?I read through your post, and what seems to be missing is why it upsets you. The most got is that you like doing it, which isn't really a reason why not doing it bothers you. You say you want to know about his life, but we both know you can learn about that when you see him. Without really understanding why this bothers you, it is hard to help. The thing is, I don't even think you really know why this bothers you. Some self reflection is needed to figure this out. I have a guess what really is t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/09/15 04:00 PM |
| 9 | How are naturally disadvantaged people supposed to cope with the red pill?Honestly, life isn't fair. It's cruler to some people than others. Not everyone will live happily ever after with the perfect mate. Some people are genetic dead ends, that is how evolution works and removes defects from future generations. No one owes someone a relationship, and not everyone "deserves" one. That being said, there is more someone can do than ever before to minimize that. Plastic surgery can do wonders for someone in that situation. I would tell them to do everything they can to b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/09/15 07:00 PM |
| 1 | Surrendering and planning a weddingI still find myself extremely anxious for how things will turn out, whether it will be "good enough" or not Good enough for who? | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/15 04:02 AM |
| 4 | Can we talk about hair length for a moment?My SO pointed out to me is that the issue with short hair is that it makes you look more masculine. However, if you have a very feminine face, you can pull it off. A lot of women just don't have the genes for that, so you are better off having long hair, because that's a look that works on everyone. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/15 07:56 PM |
| 6 | Can we talk about hair length for a moment?Remember, what we try to do is be the most attractive we can, but "attractive" is a subjective word. This does not have the feminist meaning of "all people are attractive to the right person", it more has a nuanced meaning of "certain features are conventionally attractive to most people, but not all". There is a reason more men swoon over Emma Watson than Sandra Bullock. I am sure Sandra fills someone's niche, but if you want to be attractive, you are better off trying to look like Emma. What d… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/15 07:51 PM |
| 5 | Why do TRPillers advice men to ditch women that TRP strategies don't work on ?Let's suppose your assertion is true, let's say the total number of BP tactics is X, and /u/PemBayliss has only tried X-N of them (after all he is one man with a finite amount of time to try them all). At that point he stopped, and tried RP tactics. He has only tried 5 or so RP tactics, and already sees it working on the vast majority of women. What incentive is there for him to go back to try those last N BP tactics? What benefit would there be to trying them? Or in the case of one woman, who h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/09/15 06:03 PM |
| 0 | How does a RPW handle premature ejaculation?A lot of men have a period of which that can't go again after they just did, however if you wait a little while (at least 30 mins) and then try again he should be ready to go again. The time you have to wait depends on the guy, but even if you try again hours later in the same day, he should be less responsive. You may have experiment some to figure out what works best. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/09/15 05:37 PM |
| 5 | How does a RPW handle premature ejaculation?Hmm... well, when this comes up on reddit, a lot of men suggest masturbating more often, or wearing a condom to reduce sensitivity. But since you can't really say to him "I want you to masturbate more often", what I would suggest trying is blowing him frequently, and especially before you have sex. It follows the same sort of "cool down the trigger" logic, your SO gets more sex, and no "the sex is unsatisfying" immasculating talk. Win-win-win. I don't actually know that this will work because th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/09/15 02:59 PM |
| 2 | [Poll] Ladies of RPW: 3 questions for you on Kids, Living Together, and Marriageplease give age range Late 20's 1) Do you want to be married to you SO and how important is it to you? Would you accept not being married, but otherwise in a committed LTR with the 'right' man? Sure, there is no disadvantages to being married for a woman. Why wouldn't I want to be? That being said, my SO does not want to get married and I accept that. Having a relationship with him is more important to me than a piece of paper. 2) Do you ultimately want to live with your SO? Would you accept not… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/09/15 02:19 AM |
| 1 | A RealisationTo be specific to my relationship (without going into too many details), my SO has been unable to run finances, or handle day-to-day issues for much of the relationship Being a captain doesn't necessarily mean that he does the stuff you don't want to do, it means he's the one who is in charge and part of that means delegating responsibilities. That means that he could very well be in charge, but he has assigned his trusted first mate to take care of finances. There are times when I have to take … | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/15 05:47 PM |
| 1 | Tips and tricks for the home.What kind of stove top? Standard metal painted white? I think so | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/09/15 03:35 PM |
| 1 | Question for all pills, prove to me that your pill is the right pill to takeIf what you are doing isn't working, try something different. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/09/15 05:38 AM |
| 3 | Tips and tricks for the home.Any tips for getting a stove top nice and white? | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/09/15 01:54 AM |
| 3 | Healthy, pretty baked gift ideas?It's hard to design a baked good "keeping in mind he is health conscious", without knowing what "health conscious" even means to him, or what he is trying to accomplish. There is so much variation with diets plans, it is impossible to even start. Is he vegetarian/vegan? Is he low carb/keto? Is he paleo? Is he trying to avoid sugar? Is he trying to avoid fat? Is he calorie restricting? Is he low carb & high calories? Is he low carb & low calories? Is he on a vague "I just try to eat healthy" plan… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/09/15 02:39 AM |
| 13 | How does a RPW handle crushing disappointment?How does a woman react when life doesn't go as planned? My instinct right now is to cry like a baby. Pretty much this. If I am upset enough, I end up crying. My SO lets me cry on his shoulder and then tells me I am being silly. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/09/15 11:54 PM |
| 21 | Man Flu...I am reminded of a recent hike me and my SO went on. On the way back, after hours of hiking, my legs gave out on me and just wouldn't take me down any more steps without shaking. He made sure that I made it down ok, and he literally let me lean on him. After he rescued me from the mountain, his whole body starting shaking and twitching. He only let himself collapse after he knew I was safe. I am still in awe of how he could do that, just ignore his own pain, to insure my saftey. He truly is amaz… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/09/15 11:44 PM |
| 45 | Man Flu...I tend to think that men spend so much of their lives having to take charge and be responsible, that when they get sick, they just let themselves be sick. It's the one time they allow themselves to let their guard down and be taken care of, without feeling any shame for it. They just sort of collapse, and let someone else take charge for the day. My advice would be to take care of him this time, because he makes sure you are taken care of every other day, it's the least you can do. Also, stop us… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/09/15 10:55 PM |
| 42 | Hey girls! I need your honest opinions - do I need to change my behaviour?(this includes a few minutes in a tanning bed a few times a week) As someone who was diagnosed with stage 3 melanoma, please, please, don't do that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/09/15 01:49 AM |
| 1 | Proud of myselfMy SO is gluten intolerant, so I actually have a good knowledge about "everything you need to know about gf". If you need help I'd be more than happy to answer any questions you might have. In the meantime, be sure to check out /r/glutenfree. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/09/15 07:17 PM |
| 6 | The ability to let goI know submissive women are supposed to have hard lives Are they? I guess I must be doing it wrong. I hope they don't kick me put of the submissive women's club when they find out how wonderful my life is. Honestly, of you are a natural submissive, there is nothing more freeing and easy than being a submissive. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/09/15 07:26 PM |
| 1 | UPDATE: Thought I was his girlfriend until he said I'm not...am I a plate? (mid-20s)Thanks, it's a fairly recent development, as of about May. But it's been going great. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/15 10:35 PM |
| 14 | UPDATE: Thought I was his girlfriend until he said I'm not...am I a plate? (mid-20s)I think a lot of guys don't really like labels the way girls do. To them a "relationship" is a continued experience of day after day of still wanting to be around someone. I remember the first time I felt less insecure about my "status" with my SO was when his friend referred to me as his "girlfriend" and he didn't object to the wording. Then gradually he would start referring to me as his girlfriend, and I tested the waters to see if he would let me introduce him as my boyfriend. Now we introdu… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/15 05:42 PM |
| 17 | Success story! (Just a small one.)Is it the decision I would make? Absolutely not. I want to point something out here that may not be obvious to lurkers and newbies who may be thinking "this is an example where the man made a decision I wouldn't agree agree with. I'm not sure the resolution here was a good one." In her story, she mentions she doesn't know what to do with the car, and she wants him to deal with it. This is the part that is perfectly normal for most couples. She doesn't consciously think "I need my captain to make… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/08/15 06:50 PM |
| 2 | Why do you think America has such strict standards regarding nudity, as opposed to western european countries?Because there is no such thing as "universal morality". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/15 03:56 AM |
| 1 | Help with transitioningWell, "talking shit" isn't what makes you interesting, "talking shit" is the way you choose to say what you want to say. You can try practicing saying the you want to say, but saying them differently. You can still be interesting by having the content remain the same, but having the word choice, or tone choice, be different. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/08/15 06:49 PM |
| 7 | How to help my beta boyfriend stop suppressing his masculinity and my femininity?You need to suck it up and apologise and say something like " it was bad of me to lie bit I didn't want to make you feel bad. I promise I'll stop Faking it and there is no pressure on you I just want to be honest. At this point she's dug herself a hole so deep, I wouldn't be surprised if he dumped her for lying all this time. But, she still needs to be honest. Being dishonest will just cause her a perpetually unhappy and orgasm-less relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/08/15 05:34 AM |
| 5 | Looking for advice on how to make partner be more...I don't know, alpha?Yeah, it's hard to imagine someone enthusiastically agreeing to move somewhere... and then promptly turning into an uninterested lump. My guess is that he agreed to move because he felt he had no choice, which means she is not telling us everything about her pants-wearing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/08/15 10:53 PM |
| 3 | Looking for advice on how to make partner be more...I don't know, alpha?Whose decision was it to move? | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/08/15 10:22 PM |
| 2 | Looking for advice on how to make partner be more...I don't know, alpha?What was the reason for moving to a new city? | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/08/15 09:31 PM |
| 2 | What are you currently doing to improve yourself?Going to the gym 3 days a week Learning acrobatics/tumbling 1 day a week Currently experimenting with new face creams/moisturizers Studying maths Getting my facial scar revised Going schedule an appointment soon to get my blood work done | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/08/15 01:55 AM |
| 3 | How much makeup do you wear? How much makeup does your SO prefer you to wear?My face is my weakest part of my appearance, so my SO prefers me to wear make-up. I am still not great at makeup, but I do look at least a little better. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/08/15 10:20 PM |
| 1 | How does a woman determine her SMV?So what does my 36-25-36 get? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/15 05:30 AM |
| 1 | How does a woman determine her SMV?Honestly, just count how many times you notice a guy hitting on you or doing something he probably wouldn't do for a dude. The more often it is, the more objectively hot you are. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/15 05:28 AM |
| 2 | Cannot grow long hair. What should I do?I don't want to be accused of "trying to be white" or of being "ghetto" This attitude right here, nip it in the bud. There are two kinds of "haters" in the world, those who want to raise you up, and those who want to knock you down. If I say "I hate how women look with obsessively long fingernails" (though, I would never be that harsh) it's because I honestly think they would look better without them. If someone says "you are trying to be white", they are trying to knock you down. Think about it… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/08/15 03:12 AM |
| 1 | Cannot grow long hair. What should I do?I have not had a haircut in 10 years. In order to encourage hair growth it is actually best to trim it periodically. Otherwize the ends get damaged and stop growing. I don't straighten it or wear a weave because men don't like women to look fake and personally I don't like looking fake, either. I actually like the way weaves look, but I'm not a guy so IDK. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/08/15 12:52 AM |
| 6 | What exactly does it mean to not take women seriously ?Example 1: Come home crying because I failed a test. SO responds with, "You're being silly, no being silly." Example 2: Come home crying because I found out I have cancer. SO responds with, "Come here, we'll get you through this. Don't worry, I've got you." 99% of the time your problems won't rise to the level of example 2. If you're treating a not-serious problem like it is serious problem, you deserve to be treated like you are being silly. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/15 10:32 PM |
| 1 | Women: Do you find cocky/arrogant men attractive?Clarification: Being playfully arrogant (when flirting) is different from being truly arrogant. So, what you are saying is that you like arrogant people, who know how to pull it off. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/15 03:01 PM |
| 2 | CMV: Wealth and High Social Status are not sexually attractiveHe was also very romantic and devoted(remember : 365 letters). Sigh I said before the first sex scene. Why was that sex scene hot? Because he was funny? Also try to remember we're looking for something the fiance didn't have. Was the fiance not devoted? Is he not hot because he didn't send her 365 letters? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/15 05:52 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Wealth and High Social Status are not sexually attractiveHe's sweet and charming. Ok, so what does he do that makes him sweet and charming. Specifics. Remember Nicholas Sparks is writing a character that is supposed to come off as "sweet" and "charming". What does he do to make Noah appear that way? He's extremely cocky and arrogant How ?o.O I don't think we're talking about the same character. Ally even calls him cocky in their first meeting. He is supposed to come off as cocky. Anyway, so you're saying that the supposed "negs" are what made him attr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/15 05:18 AM |
| 3 | CMV: Wealth and High Social Status are not sexually attractiveI could point out that you're not exactly the expert on red pill techniques, and tell you that a lot of red pillars think that a well executed neg should look like teasing. Or I could point out in the movie it doesn't really look like he's joking around, but of course it won't look like that to you because she responds well to it (even though that's the whole point). But, I fear this is starting to slowly dissolve into an argument in which I say "yes, it is", and you respond with "no, it isn't".… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/15 08:23 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Wealth and High Social Status are not sexually attractiveI'm glad I was able to help. :) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/15 05:29 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Wealth and High Social Status are not sexually attractiveHe was just playfully teasing her So, what you are saying is that it's ok that he negs her, because she likes it? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/15 01:15 AM |
| 5 | CMV: Wealth and High Social Status are not sexually attractiveNoah was a pretty beta guy(he sent her 365 letters for Christ's sake) though Ok, use your imagination. What do you think would have happened if her fiance wrote her 365 letters? Based on what we know about all the characters, what probably would have happened is she would have told him off, and to stop smothering her. So the question to ask is why can Hot-Noah get away with writing the letters, and still be hot, while Lame-Fiance would still be lame, and possibly more so. The answer is that sinc… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/15 07:36 PM |
| 6 | CMV: Wealth and High Social Status are not sexually attractive1)Two of the most popular romantic movies of all time (Titanic,The Notebook) are against the concept of hypergamy. The love interest in these movies is of low status. Why are women so crazy about these movies then? You do know in both of these movies the plot is them branch swinging from a boring rich guy, to an exciting, charismatic, playboy who gives them tingles? It's every married BB's worst nightmare, and women love it. Especially in The Notebook, the other guy was nice enough, well off, re… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/15 06:37 PM |
| 1 | Challenge to blue pill: live like a red piller and see if it is better!It depends on his level of betaness, but basically what you do is step out of the way. You stop telling what to do and how to do it. You give him space to do his own thing. If he doesn't natuarally fill in the role you may have to show him that it's welcome by gentally encouraging him to to make decisions. Ask what he thinks of something, literally ask his permission for things ("Is it ok if I buy this?"), ask him what he wants to do (for dinner, or whatever) then act as though his idea is the b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/15 10:03 PM |
| 5 | They say TRP is misogynistic......Your story reminds me of my own. I was the type of girl who valued brain over beauty, who wore sneakers and jeans and told myself that it was more important to be comfortable, who looked at better dressed girls and thought they were so superficial. Really all that was just a smoke screen. I was rationalizing to make myself feel better about the fact that I wasn't pretty, even though I desperately wanted to be. I looked at other girls and didn't think I could have that. Thanks to my SO, I am on t… | /r/ThankTRP | 21/08/15 05:57 AM |
| 2 | Friendly reminder that you are all sub humanOnly compared to one human. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/08/15 06:16 PM |
| 11 | Am I overreacting?Am I overreacting? Yes. He doesn't text you for one day, and you get worried about the status of your relationship? It sounds like he just didn't have anything to say. You said "good morning", that's not exactly a conversation starter. Then you make it worse by letting him know that you are upset he didn't text you back. You are trying to control his behavior, and you are letting him know that. He didn't text you back, he didn't feel like you, texting every day isn't as important to him as it is… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/15 10:02 PM |
| 2 | Why does it matter if marriage is manipulative or divorces rapes men?What men want in marriage doesn't matter. It only matters if you want them to continue to participate. It has nothing to do with morality, it has to do woth your (or society's) goals. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/15 05:31 AM |
| 1 | What actions did your captain do that really solidified your respect and admiration for him?Yes, I'm pretty sure this was our second "date". It didn't actually become a "relationship" for a while after that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/08/15 04:46 PM |
| 9 | What actions did your captain do that really solidified your respect and admiration for him?The first time I remember noticing his capability for leadership was when he was taking me to a play that was about an hour's drive from where I lived at the time. On the way there the car started making bad noises, and it wouldn't have been suitable to get back. I was still living with my parents at the time, who are overly strict, so I was beginning to worry about whether we would be able to get back at a reasonable time. While I was worrying about stupid stuff, he had already formulated a pla… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/08/15 05:04 AM |
| 2 | How many of the field reports posted on TRP do you believe?As a purple-piller, one thing stopping me from becoming full red is the constant deluge of field reports on TRP that sound like they were written from a teenager's horny mind. Why don't you try it for yourself and see? You can always go back if you find it doesn't work. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/08/15 04:47 PM |
| 6 | I'm a true feministI'm a true feminist So you define the feminist movement? Are all the other kinds feminists "fake" feminists? If I run into them can I tell them that /u/gagonmycock said that they are not real feminists? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/08/15 04:43 PM |
| 3 | Study: Women hurt more by breakups but recover more fully than menEven if the data was statistically significant, which we are not told enough to know that it is, all it tells us is that women score themselves higher than men. That could mean something a simple as women are more likely to be emotional and men are more likely to not react to their emotions. Or something else. This is a very poorly done study. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/08/15 02:55 PM |
| 43 | If you're a guy, and you're here, read this.Well, in my opinion it's not entirely false. When a guy says "I like nerdy chicks" he is not picturing a fat girl, he is picturing the slave Leah girls at comic con, or Zooey Deschalel on New Girl. He is picturing a already moderately attractive girl, who is cute, nice, and fun, but also wears think glasses, or has an interest in video games. The thing is he doesn't even care where your nerdiness lies. You can have an interest in math, video games, or just be a little clumsy, and he'll still lik… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/08/15 07:22 PM |
| 5 | Thought Experiment. Nice Guys and Sluts."we're all unique" and "you just have to find someone who likes you for who you are" and whatever else. This makes the problem even worse. When you tell people that they are like puzzle pieces looking for a matching piece, they will attribute failures externally. If your method doesn't work the 20th time, it's not because of your method, it's because "you haven't found the right one". After all girls are different and like different things, so all it takes is meeting the right girl, who's into w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/15 05:39 AM |
| 1 | Why should we say that women , as a group, are inferior ?So, you recognize that is possible to say someone is better at something than someone else, (like smarter than them, or more capable than them), without meaning they are an inferior human being? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/15 07:12 AM |
| 3 | Female strategic response to TRP & PUAYou do what you want, but if you don't mind I will keep my relationship | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/15 04:26 AM |
| 1 | Why should we say that women , as a group, are inferior ?I know women who are more intelligent, logical and capable than certain men. So do you believe those women (the more intelligent, logical and capable ones) are superior to those men (the less intelligent, logical and capable ones)? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/15 01:00 AM |
| 4 | How much do you invest in a new relationship?If he asks you (or tells you) to not do something , the choice you make is between him and that something. You have to use some judgement on how reasonable he is being, and how valuable the relationship is to you. If he asks you after 2 days to move across the country to be with him, probably you should choose that wanting to remain where you are is more important than your relationship. If after the same duration of time, he tells you that your pole dancing hobby makes him uncomfortable, you sh… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/08/15 05:35 PM |
| 1 | Question for redpillers (and rpw) who believe in LTRs... Do restrictions on travel apply to men as well?Then I wouldn't go. Seems simple enough. But, that's a lot of "if's" there. The premise would never actually happen. If my parents booked me a trip to France (which they wouldn't do), I would want my SO to come. If for some reason he couldn't go or didn't want to, he may or may not want me to go. Your assumption comes from the premise of "what if your SO is a big meanie". He's not, he is a reasonable human being. But, because you are imagining him as "some guy", you imagine the worst possible sc… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/08/15 04:34 PM |
| 2 | Question for redpillers (and rpw) who believe in LTRs... Do restrictions on travel apply to men as well?No, our relationship is not equal. I never tell my SO what he can and cannot do. It's simply a matter of having respect for him. Similarly, I show respect for him by asking him before I go somewhere. No, it doesn't go both ways. He is the captain, and he is in charge. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/15 08:21 PM |
| 1 | Some questions on my relationship and doubting myself re: wrong decisions.Then you say, "I'm sorry, I really don't, please help me to understand". | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/08/15 04:44 PM |
| 1 | Some questions on my relationship and doubting myself re: wrong decisions.It's clear to me that you don't understand where he is coming from. Thinking someone is "unreasonable" is failure on your part, because it means that you don't understand the reason. People aren't just irrationally unreasonable, they have motives for their actions. This is the case even if you don't understand those reasons. "Talking to him" doesn't mean "presenting your point of view", it means "understanding his". Why doesn't he want you to wear a bikini? Do you even know? I am not saying your… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/08/15 04:11 PM |
| 8 | Some questions on my relationship and doubting myself re: wrong decisions.Especially since I have Asperger's I suspected that this might be the case. As such, I am not sure I am best suited to help you out, since I don't have a lot of experience with what Asperger's is like. But, I will do my best. You talk about what your SO wants you to do, as though he is insisting on you doing the "wrong" thing. Things are not that simple. When your SO expresses his opinion, he is not trying to get you to something "bad" or "wrong", he just has a different opinion on things, which… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/08/15 05:58 AM |
| 3 | What makes a good captain?Either raise your value so that an alpha will commit, or go with a beta. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/15 05:45 PM |
| 4 | What are Americans taught in school/life about fertility?This is not something that is taught in school in the US. Really we get one "sex" class in school called "health ed" where you basically learn about stds and condoms. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/07/15 03:11 PM |
| 1 | A real world example of a woman-on-man domestic dispute and the feminist bias in the police force.I think this is a post for /r/MRM. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/07/15 03:29 PM |
| 1 | What does it mean that women are "emotionally inferior" ?And just because you have a higher amount of it, doesnt necessarily make you a better athlete for one. So, you have successfully told me what it doesn't do. If you know so much about testosterone, what does it do? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/15 11:59 PM |
| 4 | What does it mean that women are "emotionally inferior" ?Wow, you really have no idea how testosterone works do you? wow, is that why some women have been just reduced to making babies and sammiches? Yes because I can't fly, I am going to declare birds the master of all species. All hail our feathered overlords. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/15 08:51 PM |
| 3 | What does it mean that women are "emotionally inferior" ?What I meant was you must compare people of equal training. You cannot compare a woman who weight lifts regularly against average joes. Yeah she might be stronger than them, but that doesn't prove anything. You have to compare her against people who also lift weights. Since it can be hard to compare these two categories (since it is hard to accruately measure how hard someone trains), the best thing you can do is compare two people who don't train, and see that men have the starting advantage...… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/15 08:00 PM |
| 6 | What does it mean that women are "emotionally inferior" ?hell i just saw a teenage girl lifter who can over power men twice her mass and weight. False dichotomy. You have to compare men at peak preformance against women at peak preformace and women who don't train against men who don't train. There is a reason men and women are seperated into different sports leagues... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/15 07:19 PM |
| 8 | Will someone ELI5 TPP, RP, and BP?RP: People's actions can be calculated and predicated in a systematic way. BP: You cannot predict the behavior of people because people are too different. PP: Thinks there are merits to both. Undecided, or decidedly in between. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/15 06:49 PM |
| 9 | Dilemma: Choosing between supporting SO and completing degree program.I think that's your answer. Honestly some of your reasons for not wanting to go, give me cause for comcern. You don't want to disappoint your parents. Who is it you want to spend the rest of your life with? You may disappoint your parents, but they will probably forgive you due to that whole "have to love you" thing. Your boyfriend doesn't have to love you, he is choosing to. Choosing to stay could cause a damage to your relationship that is impossible to repair. By the sound of it things are al… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/07/15 09:55 PM |
| 3 | Dilemma: Choosing between supporting SO and completing degree program.Honestly, have you talked to him about it to get his feelings on it? His opinion should be a huge factor for you, and it's not even mentioned here. This decision affects him too. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/07/15 08:40 PM |
| 3 | BP women, don't you know men lie when they act blue pill?Yes, they like 50 Shades of Grey instead, which is totally different. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/15 07:53 PM |
| 2 | Why do TRPillers dismiss the idea that women not taking responsibility of their actions might be a result of our culture ?They're not. To give you a short history of TRP, it started out as a replacement for /r/seduction when it started changing it's message and tone to avoid offending women and feminists. TRP was just a pick up group. The science behind pickup is, "I tried this, it seems to work, you should try it to". Pickup is just a combination of emergent ideas, with the most useful and effective stuff rising to the top. How is this relevant? Because TRP's ideas became "TRP's Ideastm " because they worked. Ever… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/15 05:24 AM |
| 5 | Why do TRPillers dismiss the idea that women not taking responsibility of their actions might be a result of our culture ?Just responded this to another thread: Ultimately, it doesn't matter whether women are "naturally" immature, in a biological sense, or immature because they are coddled and not given the chance to mature. The point is that immature women are the landscape that modern men have to deal with. TRP is an instuction guide on how to deal with the current landscape of modern women. If women change, TRP will change, but it's goal is not to change them. TRP is not a crusade. Same thing for taking responsi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/15 04:50 AM |
| 7 | Why do you believe TBPillers often attack TRP in their sub ?Because TRP offends them. What is your next question? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/15 05:50 PM |
| 3 | Can we clarify the "women are eternal teenagers" theory once and for all ?Ultimately, it doesn't matter whether women are "naturally" immature, in a biological sense, or immature because they are coddled and not given the chance to mature. The point is that immature women are the landscape that modern men have to deal with. TRP is an instuction guide on how to deal with the current landscape of modern women. If women change, TRP will change, but it's goal is not to change them. TRP is not a crusade. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/15 05:21 PM |
| 12 | How many of y'all are religious?I believe in my SO, does that count? | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/15 05:00 AM |
| 2 | Why don't TRPillers admit that dread game works on a lot of men too ?Yes we do. So why does RP advocate it while RPW not? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/15 11:32 PM |
| 2 | Why don't TRPillers admit that dread game works on a lot of men too ?Right, so what's the difference? Why is men using dread game and women using dread game different? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/15 11:25 PM |
| 3 | Why don't TRPillers admit that dread game works on a lot of men too ?it seems like the answer is that it does . Try to read more carefully. It doesn't work on all men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/15 11:22 PM |
| 6 | Why don't TRPillers admit that dread game works on a lot of men too ?Yes, dread game works on some men, but not the kind you would want. Try to remember rule #1 of red pill. Men and women are different. Women are not attracted to men who are rapped around their little finger. Men love that. Go read about women who have adopted "the rules". They wish they could unlearn them because they are not attracted to men anymore now that they have the power of "the rules". They are not attracted to men that they can control, and the men they can't control aren't interested … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/15 11:14 PM |
| 9 | RP Men, would you want your GF/Wife to dread you when she's unhappy with the your behavior?I know you have been around for a while, so I am not sure why you don't know this, but the entire red pill stance is that what we have been told about what to do in modern relationships does not work. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/15 09:11 PM |
| 6 | Question for BP: When is the right time and context for a man to approach a woman?I m wouldn't be thinking "wow I can't wait to fuck this guy" That's not the point. The point is whether or not you'd be willing to give him your number, or call him if he gave you his. Would you turn a "meeting on the street" into an opportunity to meet again? Would you do that for random Joe who asks you for your number, and won't take no for an answer? Would you do it for favorite musician Chad? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/15 07:53 PM |
| 3 | Do you believe that women have ruined society ?Not by themselves no. The things you listed are things that women can do, only because men have let them. Really if men could band together and all agree, they could reverse all this just by changing their minds. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/07/15 07:16 PM |
| 1 | Why is RPW sub not open to being critical of men?No he's to believe that he has below average looks. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/07/15 02:39 PM |
| 1 | Why is RPW sub not open to being critical of men?almost regardless of looks The wording there was intentional. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/15 04:51 PM |
| 9 | Why is RPW sub not open to being critical of men?Because what attracts men and women are different. Men are going to be initially attracted to any girl who is pretty almost regardless of personality. Women are going to be attracted to a great personality almost regardless of looks. Why does this make a different in the dating advice? For men this means the advice basically comes down to, "Dude, pay attention to her personality too" For women this means the advice basically comes down to, "Your attraction to him must mean there is something abo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/15 08:58 PM |
| 32 | In an argument, my boyfriend [24/M] of 6 months said he is a very dominant person and expects me [22/F] to not talk back to him. [X Post from /r/relationship/advice]we are both at fault for starting the argument in the first place. Translation: I don't know how fights get started in my relationship... they just sort of do. I can be sassy and he's known that from day one. Translation: I am a bitch and I know it, and he knows it too. It's not my fault if he doesn't like it now, he knew what being with me would be like. I shouldn't have to change for him. I've always been able to hold my own. Translation: I don't need him for anything, I am just fine on my own… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/07/15 10:13 PM |
| 18 | How to deal with people giving you credit for your SO's accomplishmentsI wish I could take that credit for that, but the truth is he did this on his own. He is amazing isn't he?" Gush | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/06/15 04:20 AM |
| 2 | Advice for handling mom during household meltdowns and man-hate mode?That sucks, I hope things get better for you soon. Don't be afraid of renting though. There are advantages and disadvantages to it. One advantage is that it lets you pay less while saving up money for a home that you really want (rather than the first one you can afford). Also it's nice because you don't have to worry about maintance expenses. If something breaks, you just tell the landlord to fix it, since they own it they have to fix it. It can save you on other expenses too like property tax.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/06/15 07:29 PM |
| 2 | What do TheRedPillers get from long term relationships ?Don't give me too much credit there. I can't "sit" or "stay", and I am terrible at "fetch". I guess it's not all bad though, because I am great at "come". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/06/15 07:04 PM |
| 1 | Advice for handling mom during household meltdowns and man-hate mode?I am sorry about that. It's really hard sometimes to distance yourself from your parents, when no matter how crazy they get, you still love them. And if you are anything like me, you probably feel guilty for even feeling this way. But, we cannot help how we feel, that is largely a product of our environment, and more importantly we cannot force ourselves to have feelings we don't have. There is a light at the end of the tunnel though. When you don't live with your parents it is easier to have a … | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/06/15 06:33 PM |
| 0 | getting a male partnerHumans men will at first , but eventually , they might be produced mechanically . and will have to maintain them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/15 10:33 PM |
| 1 | getting a male partnerWho? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/15 10:16 PM |
| 3 | getting a male partnerYes because all that "automation" falls from the sky. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/15 09:49 PM |
| 12 | RP and the masculine-minded womanI know a lot of women like this. Here's how it goes: woman is "dominate" (at least among other women and beta males) but she is still attracted to men who are more dominate than her. She is unable to get these men, because they want feminine women. So she ends up either marrying a beta male who she doesn't respect, or gets some cats. Like you said, people are being screwed up by society telling women to act more like men, and men to act more like women. If however they take the red pill, they ca… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/06/15 07:08 PM |
| 1 | Share Your Cleaning Tips, Tricks, Schedules, & Techniques!For dusting, I just use the vacuum attachment. Anyone got any tips for getting showers clean? That's the one I have trouble with. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/15 05:03 AM |
| 1 | How do I stop be shy and get a high SMV long term partner?Not precisely. When I read the original comment I assumed she meant they were all sexual partners. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/06/15 08:53 PM |
| 9 | How do I stop be shy and get a high SMV long term partner?6 men at 20? That's not veering towards the CC, she is firmly on it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/06/15 03:01 PM |
| 19 | My husband wants to try for our first child, but I am not ready to be a mom. Help.i'm scared tbh I am scared my captain will say "I think the best thing for our family is to start having children right now" And this is the reason why we get so many posters in here going to their captain with their solution instead of their problem. Going to your captain with your problem is scary, because it leaves you vulnerable to him coming up with a solution that you don't like. It opens up the possibility of him not caring about your needs. The possibility of learning your captain doesn'… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/06/15 03:30 AM |
| 41 | My husband wants to try for our first child, but I am not ready to be a mom. Help.Come to your captain with your problem, not your solution. Instead of telling him, "I don't feel ready to get pregnant." (Your solution), tell him what you told us "I wanted to finish nursing school, and I am afraid of missing out on other things I wanted to do with my life, like traveling." (Your problem). This will do let him know that the problem is not the fact that you don't want a baby, but rather your afraid of the impact it will have on your current life. Then it will give him the opport… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/06/15 05:55 PM |
| 8 | Do Redpillwomen believe AWALT applies to them?Women aren't hypergamous because they branch swing, they branch swing because they are hypergamous. All women want a more attractive partner, but not all women branch swing, or are even dissatisfied with their current partner. But it is the man's duty to stay attractive to his wife to keep that from happening. Just the same way it's the woman's duty to keep the man's interest if she doesn't want his interest to sway to the next pretty thing that walks by. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/06/15 11:01 PM |
| 5 | Do Redpillwomen believe AWALT applies to them?What makes men and women inherently different if not their instincts? What makes you happy is not necessarily going to be the same as what your instincts want you to do. For example I may want that piece of cake right now, but it won't make me happy in the long term because my long term goals might be to look skinny. If it's just instincts that make men and women different, then shouldn't TRP and RPW have the same goals because they are trying to learn to curb their instincts. The red pill isn't… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/06/15 10:51 PM |
| 2 | Do Redpillwomen believe AWALT applies to them?When you say "childish", what exactly do you mean ? I mean I like to play and be silly. I mean I sometimes can be emotional. I mean I like it when my SO pats me on the head. I mean I like feeling protected by someone stronger than me. Also, do you believe that literally all women are hypergamous and childish ? All women? Probably not. But the vast majority, as in the way the majority of people have two legs, absolutely. Hypergamy: wanting the best possible mate. I don't know why this is in dispu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/06/15 10:33 PM |
| 13 | Do Redpillwomen believe AWALT applies to them?TRP encourages strategies that will optimize their happiness, just like RPW. So, of course, there is encouragement there to ignore their instincts. RP men are taught to ignore their instincts to automatically give protection to a woman, automatically forgive her, and even sometimes turn down sex from her, if the situation calls for it. Part of the whole "taking the red pill" thing is about learning to control your instincts. You just can't see that because TRP is fine with lots of sex, while RPW… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/06/15 09:27 PM |
| 4 | Do Redpillwomen believe AWALT applies to them?Evolution does not care about your best interests, it cares in your genes' best interests. If I get pregnant by an alpha and get supported by a beta, that is in the interest of having the highest quality, best cared for, offspring. If I am also unhappy with said beta, or he finds out and dumps me, evolution doesn't care. I reproduced and my offering has a good chance of reproducing, so evolution was successful. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/06/15 09:17 PM |
| 4 | Do Redpillwomen believe AWALT applies to them?Of course I believe "I am like that", because I am. I am hypergamous, I am childish, I shit test, I can only love a man I respect, and so on. What exactly were you expecting? "All women are like that, but not me, I am a special snowflake". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/06/15 09:10 PM |
| 7 | Woman and Love by Rudolph ValentinoI was surprised to hear that even in the 1920’s, people were already talking negatively about modern women, particularly Americans That's what surprised me most about this. He talks about there are no women who are domestically inclined anymore. But this is in the 1920s, before feminism. What were the women doing, if the majority of them weren't becoming mothers and home makers? | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/06/15 10:57 PM |
| 16 | [Field Report] I went on my first date after finding RP.Don't worry so much about your "masculine" interests. If you have your femininity worked out and dialed in correctly, "masculine" interests actually are kind of icing on the cake, and add a sort of coolness factor to you, if it is something that the guy is interested in too. Now, it is true that you don't have your femininity dialed in just yet, but that's what you should be working on. Don't worry about losing interest in the stuff you like. It does seem like you are working on your femininity … | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/06/15 05:50 PM |
| 6 | Boyfriend wants me to be more emotional, but I feel like it isn't his responsibility to take on my issues. Thoughts?I'm a firm believer in not dumping my problems on others, but I do have one very best friend who I trust and we both "dump" our issues on each other sometimes. So, you're okay with dumping on someone just as long as it's your best friend. So, you are not trying to keep the weight on your shoulders (because you're not an island). Let's be honest about your motivations here. If you wanted to keep it bottled up you would, but that's not what you want, you just don't want to tell him. So why not him… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/15 06:54 PM |
| 6 | How to determine if he's ready/looking for an LTR?This post talks a lot about what he did to keep your interests, but not much at all about what you did to keep his interests, or what you might have did to lose it. What do you feel you did right, and what do you feel you did wrong? | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/06/15 06:48 PM |
| 2 | CMV: If women are like children, men are like retired old menbeing called "childlike" is only an insult if you think behaving like a child is a bad thing | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/06/15 06:07 PM |
| 8 | CMV: If women are like children, men are like retired old menChildren are innocent and have a good view on life. They’re cute and can make other people around them happy Exactly, being called "childlike" is only an insult if you think behaving like a child is a bad thing. Children can be spoiled rotten, or they can be sweet, innocent, and loving. The red pill didn't say "Women are like children, therefore they are awful " all they said was "women are like children". It was the blue pill said "The red pill thinks women are like children, therefore they mus… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/06/15 05:24 PM |
| 11 | Do RPers understand feminism?I'd like to think understand feminism. It's the idea that women and men can be treated the same, and that is something worth striving for. It is the idea that women, as a class, don't have things as good as men in some cases, and strives to make it so that they do. It is the idea that people (including women) are individuals and should be treated as such. It is a movement for the advancement of women Just because I understand feminism, doesn't mean I agree with it. We butt heads on the very firs… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/06/15 07:37 PM |
| 13 | RPW Version of the RedPill HandbookTwo of those are linked to the same post. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/06/15 11:03 PM |
| 2 | What do TheRedPillers get from long term relationships ?There you go again, assuming that just because the red pill says "woman want a man that they can look up to" means the same thing as "there is nothing of value a woman can add". I look up to my SO because he is the most amazing man I have ever met. He is stronger than me, he is smarter than me, he makes more money than I do, he is more stable than me, he is more assertive than I am, etc. For all these reasons I admire him. On the flip side, I am weaker than him, I am not as smart as him, I make … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/15 06:10 PM |
| 2 | Your Relationship is Not EqualHe may be a sociopath, I don't know. But, I do know that this man is not an alpha, and not a leader, because no one wants to follow him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/06/15 06:16 PM |
| 3 | Your Relationship is Not EqualDo you actually know any sociopaths? Because I do. The thing to understand about sociopaths is that being "in it for themselves" does not mean "no one else receives any benefit from them", and "not being empathetic" does not mean "never concerning yourself with someone else's well being". Successful sociopaths know that in order to get what they want (because they are in it for themselves) they sometimes must get things from other people. There is a high percentage of sociopathic CEOs because th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/06/15 05:13 PM |
| 11 | Your Relationship is Not EqualI know on the surface, "what if I give and give and receive nothing back" sounds like a valid concern, but it's really not. Let me explain why: In your head it is very easy to imagine a person who never cares about your needs, but that person does not exist, or if he does he is extremely rare. Men are hard wired to care about women, even the most cynical and jaded man can become very loving if you treat him well, and show him you appreciate and respect him. Furthermore, you are talking about men… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/06/15 10:36 PM |
| 2 | Even at its worst, feminism is not a conscious strategy to unfairly advantage womenmost feminists sincerely believe in equality That sounds on well and good on the surface. I mean who doesn't want to be treated fairly? But the problem is they have failed to be define what equality means, so each individual feminist can define to suit her needs. The fact of the matter is, there will never be equality between men and women by any honest definition of the word because men and women are different. Men cannot choose to have abortions, women do not have as much strength as men have.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/15 06:45 PM |
| 12 | Advice for handling mom during household meltdowns and man-hate mode?I'm reminded of what my SO taught me about my father, a perpetually angry man. It's no use to spend my life trying to keep him appeased, and not angry, because he will always find something to be angry about. Your mother sounds familiar. No amount of appeasement will help, so appeasement is not your answer. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/06/15 03:26 AM |
| 3 | Help! I'm a newbie who is separated.Aw, thanks! You are so sweet :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/06/15 03:22 AM |
| 15 | Advice for handling mom during household meltdowns and man-hate mode?without offending her Why is your goal not to offend her? She doesn't seem to have the same level of concern for your feelings. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/06/15 11:49 PM |
| 11 | Help! I'm a newbie who is separated.It sounds to me like you are in a cycle where things go well for a while, but then you get complacent and stop appreciating him. Then things start to badly, and you beg for his forgiveness. Once he comes back you appreciating him again, and the cycle begins a new. It is because he is not living with you that things are going so well. This is how dread game works, you fear he is going to leave, which makes you want to work at getting him to stay. The problem is he knows from experience that as so… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/06/15 11:29 PM |
| 3 | Shall we discuss what love really is ? What do you think ?Not only do red pill relationships have love, they know the formula to create It. Love is what happens when you push each others buttons in the right way. The red pill is about not only learning where those buttons are, but trying to get the high score. It's like in your rainbow analogy, now that you know how to make rainbows, you can make them as big or as small as you want. You want a double, or triple rainbow? You can create it. If you wait for rainbows to "just happen", you will probably nev… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/06/15 07:32 PM |
| 15 | Is it okay for me to be responsible for our finances?If he asks you permission to spend money, don't answer with "yes" or "no", instead remind him that he does not need your permission to spend it. If he doesn't know if there is enough money share the information with him, and let him see the books, but don't make the decision for him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/06/15 06:53 PM |
| 15 | Advice on how to meet men and learn how to interact with them?No where in your post do you mention how attractive she is, but it's probably the single most important thing when you're dealing with a woman like this. My guess: she might be attractive, but you can't really tell as she doesn't put much effort into her appearance. True or untrue? | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/06/15 04:30 AM |
| 7 | I'm Laura Doyle, author of The Surrendered Wife. AMALaura, You mentioned now you are in the business of mentoring women via the "Laura Doyle Connect". Have you ever encountered a case where "surrendering" or being submissive wasn't a viable solutions to a couple's problems, or didn't work (outside of the three cases where you called "a divorce you'd endorse")? If so can you share couple of stories? Why do you think it didn't work? What ended up happening? | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/06/15 08:58 PM |
| 7 | Avoiding the princess trapYou say you dumped your boyfriend because he didn't give much, while you were giving him everything. And now your personality has done a total 180 and you expect too much and give nothing back. It sounds to me like you can't respect someone who gives you too much, which is why you were giving and caring to you ex, and not to any of these guys. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/06/15 11:05 PM |
| 1 | Why are men and women unable to be friends?I believe it's possible for men and women to be "just friends", but it requires both the man and the woman having no desire to pursue a sexual relationship, so I believe they're far less common. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/06/15 01:53 AM |
| 4 | RPW are you comfortable discussing sex and sexuality? BPW are you?If you're not comfortable being sexually explicit on an online forum in the presence of other women, explain why. I was sexually explicit, you have yet to tell me why that was not satisfactory to you. You should come out of your shell! Look at all the other women who have. Isn't that a form of inspiration? You have yet to make any sort of case why being sexually explicit to perfect strangers is a worthwhile goal. You seem to think that it is and you have no idea why. Other women sharing is not i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/15 11:29 PM |
| 2 | RPW are you comfortable discussing sex and sexuality? BPW are you?Again, you're being too vague. I don't know what you mean by "discussing sexuality", what exactly did you want me to discuss? Is telling you how long my orgasms were not discussing my sexuality? If so, why not? Further, I did not say it was too personal. I don't know where you read that. It is out of a desire to not discuss things outside of people's comfort norms that I don't go there. I don't talk about it, because people don't want to hear it. It seems to me like you are looking to find somet… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/15 08:52 PM |
| 3 | Feminists want us to define these ugly sexual encounters as rape. Don’t let them. [Article]No, I agree with the article. I just find amusing the double think that the people this article is referring to engage in. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/05/15 08:42 PM |
| 4 | RPW are you comfortable discussing sex and sexuality? BPW are you?I am not sure what you're getting at. What do you mean by asking if I am comfortable with my sexuality in public? It sounds like you are asking if I talk about my sex life to random people, or go around flashing my tits. I am pretty certain that is not what you are asking. If you want an honest answer, you'll have to be more specific about what you to know. What is it that you are doing that you want to know if I am doing? The best I can answer is, yes I am sexual in public. My tits go with me w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/15 06:00 PM |
| 16 | Feminists want us to define these ugly sexual encounters as rape. Don’t let them. [Article]The irony is this is the same group of people who want to devalue sex. These are the people who are saying that women should have more sexual partners and not feel guilty for doing so. These are the same people who think that the more partners you have the better you'll be at sex. They say sex is just fun, and you should experience as much as you want. But then there's rape, one of the most "evil" things you can do to someone. Mentally we categorize it almost as bad as murder in terms as the mos… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/05/15 04:37 PM |
| 3 | She isn't your equal until she washes the crap off her face.I am not trying to be honest with you. We only have one chance at life, and only one set of genes. I am not going to let bad genes dictate my life, and make it so I my only companions are cats. I am going to do everything in my power to maximize my potential, and maximize my mating privileges, yes even if that means tricking your instincts to think I am hotter or younger than I am. Because your instincts don't know the difference between real and fake beauty. Just like my instincts don't know th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/15 07:03 PM |
| 3 | Boyfriend has a stressful new job. How can I help? What do I say?he didn't like it when I said that You don't have to say anything, just be there for him. Sex and lunch are good. Also dinner, back rubs, knowing when to leave him alone, and when to take care of him. Those are things that can really help. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/05/15 03:02 PM |
| 6 | Lady Gaga about her wedding dress: "it will be totally for [him]. It's all about my man"Hmm, while I'm sure he can appreciate the sentiment, most men don't care at all about the wedding dress. She should worry more about the things he might actually want. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/05/15 02:56 PM |
| 2 | How does a RPW handle a hurt man?I enjoy challenging their expectations by acting in a way they wouldn't expect. This normally involves acting in an overtly feminine way. I like doing this because even though I am not interested in them, it reminds them that hope exists. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/05/15 09:07 PM |
| 11 | What do you think about "divorce rape"?I just cannot see myself being the type of woman who would be so spiteful & vindictive at the end of a marriage as to take every last thing I can get my hands on. You also probably identify yourself as a woman who intends to remain married forever... but so does every other woman on the planet. No one imagines, going into a marriage, that they might ever get divorced but, it happens all the time. Either people change, or they can't predict their own actions, or whatever, it's irrelevant. The fac… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/05/15 12:12 AM |
| 1 | BP: Why, in your opinion, are men who follow TRP only capable of attracting insecure "dumb" women?RPW fall into two camps. Those who have never been in a relationship with a guy who knows about the red pill, and those who are in a relationship with someone from the red pill. The former, like all women, look at the red pill and say "who would ever be attracted to that". The later understand how and why the red pill works. The red pill, as a subgroup, is not attractive to women. It's not supposed to be. Think of the red pill like a gym. If you go to a gym expecting to see hot women, you might … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/05/15 04:27 PM |
| 6 | I need some help understanding something"Women" as a collective don't have a worth. "Worth" is defined by the individual, and how useful they are. If a RP man says that a woman is only good for sex, then his only needs from that woman are sex, and that is all the value she provides to him. Does that mean that she is only good for sex? Well that depends, is that the only value she provides? She might be good at her job, but that is value to her boss, not value to the RP guy. "Worth" depends on who you're talking to, and what you are ab… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/05/15 06:02 AM |
| 5 | I need some help understanding somethingI don't believe the red pill thinks that. Men and women are valuable for different things, and it's a useless waist of time to try to measure which is more valuable, or if they are equally valuable... because there is no reasonable way to quantify the value or measure it. Really we're only as valuable as we make ourselves. People are only valuable in so far as they are useful to other people. So stop worrying whether or not the fact that you're woman makes you valuable, and start making yourself… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/05/15 05:37 AM |
| 1 | As a man... no, seriously! How can I encourage others to discover RPW?While men can say how they accomplished the end result, only women can give insight on how to encourage the transition as it happens, and provide a little warning as to what parts were hard to swallow emotionally, and might require a lighter step on my part. I don't know that I agree with that. Maybe it's because there was no RPW when I became a RPW, but my SO was my entire support structure for transitioning. Including what to do, and handling all the emotional stuff as well. Being able to help… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/15 11:40 PM |
| 2 | As a man... no, seriously! How can I encourage others to discover RPW?This may actually be a question for men. It was my SO who introduced me to RPW... Before there was an RPW. He talked to me about how women take men for granted, so much so that there was no real community for learning how to be attractive to men, because women just didn't care. So, I set off to see if I could find such a community, because I didn't want to be like that. I wanted to learn how to attract men, for him, so that I could be more attractive to him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/15 10:33 PM |
| 1 | What is romantic love for a Red Piller ?Love is the feeling that happens when someone you meet presses all your buttons the right way. The red pill is a group for learning how to press all those buttons and get the high score. Love absolutely can exist, and can be maximized (no arguments, endless "honeymoon" period, complete satisfaction with one another, etc) if everyone involved becomes an expert at "button pushing". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/05/15 11:01 PM |
| 19 | Negative Effects of Withholding Intimacy?Sex and intimacy is to a man like acts of love are to you. Can you live without him telling you he loves you, without him complimenting you, without him ever wanting to hold you? Sure, but you'd either lose confidence in yourself, or start to dissociate yourself with him, becoming to separate entities who live together, but don't love one another. The lack of love in your relationship might even drive you to leave him, or cheat on him. Men react to refusal of sex the same way. Every time you ref… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/05/15 06:32 PM |
| 9 | New SAHW seeking inputIt isn't Husband's job to pat me on the back on all those days and tell me I've met expectations and should be happy and guilt-free. That is exactly your husband's job. It's his job to tell you what his expectations are of you, and if you are not living up to his expectations. It's also his job to tell you to stop when you are over working yourself. If you feel guilty for not doing enough work all the time, your husband needs to instill in you the fact that your well-being is his top priority. E… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/05/15 06:47 PM |
| 8 | What do you think about men who sleep with married women ?If morality is so subjective then why would anyone care about morality at all ? Because morality is the basic frame work in which societies can work together and trust each other. Let's take something that most people can agree on, "You shouldn't go around killing people". If people for the most part can get along without killing each other, then it allows us to be able to corporate, and build things together. However, there is nothing inherent in morality that is the distinguishing feature betw… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/15 06:18 PM |
| 8 | What do you think about men who sleep with married women ?Marriage is a contract between 2 people. They are the people responsible for enforcing it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/15 05:55 PM |
| 19 | Why do men want younger, less experienced women?Yes, but you have thought guys your age who were hitting on you were also creepy. Creepy is not a word for "old", it's a word for "I am uncomfortable in this situation". Creepy is a word for guys who fail to make you comfortable when hitting on you. If an old guy could do that... He wouldn't be creepy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/15 05:49 PM |
| 7 | Why are there so few RPW subscribers compared to TRP?We don't like to talk about it much, but there is a such thing as an "irredeemable woman", a woman who is so far gone that the red pill can't help her. If you're a beta man, you can subscribe to the red pill and find success, equal success to any natural alpha. If you're a single mother... there's no amount of red pill that can help you. Any success you do find would be a fraction of that an "undamaged" woman would be able to find. For a woman like this, all "red pill" means as coming to the rea… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/05/15 11:53 PM |
| 1 | I am another former feminist, here to learn your ways.I have no doubt that there are some red pill men are angry at women, but, that is what happens sometimes when you find out the world has been telling you the wrong things. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/05/15 08:07 PM |
| 4 | Advice needed on how to handle a break up with living with your SOHe's currently in the living room while I'm in the bedroom. Really? I know you are probably not going to get him back, but you honestly have a long way to go before you become RP. You're broken up for disrespecting him... And you're still disrespecting him. You take the couch... Not him. Never him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/05/15 04:35 PM |
| 14 | About self-reports of beauty (I'm a 7/8/9...)Well if someone is asking for advice on how to better themselves as a RPW, it is useful to know how attractive they are... Since the number one most important thing is attractiveness. And since we don't want to share pictures of ourselves, estimating it on a scale is the next best thing we have. No it's not perfect, yes it's prone to self report error, but we need some sort of way to look at it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/05/15 04:24 PM |
| 4 | Submissive Wives' Guide To Marriage On TLCHmm... I don't think it will show them in a positive light. It seems to have a "look at these freaks" vibe, which is something you get a lot of from TLC. It would be sad if they did that to submissive women, but I'd like to be pleasantly surprised. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/05/15 04:49 AM |
| 1 | I am another former feminist, here to learn your ways.That's a complicated question. The basic answer is that I believe that the end game of the red pill is the type of man I am interested in. The red pill to me is like a gym, you go there to become attractive, but not everyone who goes will meet their goals. A fat woman who wants to go to the gym is admirable, and is taking the right steps to become attractive, but in her current state she is unattractive, and she will stay that way until she works hard enough to become something else. Not all red… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/05/15 04:37 AM |
| 1 | Birthdays: How do you make your SO feel special?I like to plan an event for him. I invite all his friends, and we go do some sort of activity (that I hope he likes) and then have dinner after. Then everything is a secret so he doesn't know what the activity is until we get there. His birthday is not until September, but I already know what we are doing this year <3. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/05/15 07:05 PM |
| 1 | Is r/marriedredpill dogmatic and authoritarian?You do know that this sub is not recognized as part of the RP network right? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/15 11:21 PM |
| 1 | Is it safe to assume the red pillers are just plain smarter than blue pillers?They aren't more dumb, they just have a problem with the morality of the red pill, and that is their fundamental disagreement with it. They don't care if it works... Only that it is "wrong". If you suggest to "treat a woman like a child", their argument against it is not that it doesn't work, but rather that it is simply "wrong" or "misogynistic" to treat a woman like a child, that women deserve respect... As though there is a universal code of right and wrong that we all must abide by. No one a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/15 11:17 PM |
| -1 | BP: Why is the "Captain/First Mate" dynamic in regards to traditional gender roles so infuriating towards you?Feminism isn't about choice at its basic level. Can I get that in writing? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/15 10:04 PM |
| 1 | Why do so few women/feminists lean in the libertarian direction, considering Ayn Rand was a such a huge influence on it?What is unique about Ayn Rand is not that she has a vagina, it is that she got to be a first hand witness to what communism was like in Russia, because she was there. She got to see first hand why it's a bad idea. Most American women don't have that experience. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/15 09:56 PM |
| 4 | [Field Report] Total Absence of AnxietyI wish I could shake the BP women and feminists and say, "wake up! I found the secret to happiness and you HAVE to know!!!" This is exactly how I felt when my SO taught me that it's ok that I'm submissive. It was like I learned there is a secret to happiness, and I know what it is! Feminists and blue pillers are so focused on how "mistreated" we are, they can't possibly see how incredibly freeing it is. Don't knock it till you try it ;). | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/15 08:48 PM |
| 5 | [Field Report] Total Absence of AnxietyAnxiety in women, more often than not, seems to stem from the worry of how things are going to turn out. Fear of the future, fear of bad consequences, etc. When you let go of your need for control, and put it all in his hands, it takes care of that anxiety, because you know longer have to worry about those things. It gives you this safe feeling of "he's got everything under control", so now you don't have to constantly worry about whether or nor you have everything under control. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/15 08:35 PM |
| 3 | So, why do you "hate" women ?I happened to have written something on this very subject. Here it is copy-pasted for you. Why Do Men “Hate” Us? If you browse reddit for long enough it is easy to find examples of men who are angry with women. They are jaded, cynical, and perhaps even “misogynists”. But, rather than using these terms dismissively, let’s make an attempt to try to understand these guys. Understand first that the reason this behavior is easy to find on the internet, and not in real life, is not because it doesn’t … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/15 05:58 PM |
| 7 | [Update] Ghosts of Boyfriends PastYes, number 3 is perfect! So much of it is pure gold. I'd give you a point, but I can't figure out this whole alt+12 thing. Mods can you assist? I think having your man provide you with emotional support can actually strengthen the relationship... it does not entail complaining about every little thing just to get it off your chest and being in a sour mood. The main advice in here is "your default state should be happiness", and while this advice is good (I say it myself sometimes), it is not in… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/15 03:44 AM |
| 7 | How has society been lying to men ?Yes, but women who "figure it out" are not angry for being lied to, because they figure out what is wrong before it ruins their lives. Women who don't "figure it out" end up searching aimlessly for things to blame, and often don't know what went wrong because there is such a long time frame between the cause and effect. Not to say there are women who don't figure it out, there are. But this is just why you don't see hordes of angry women, angry for being lied to. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/15 08:36 PM |
| 33 | How has society been lying to men ?Yes, women have been lied to as well. However the consequences for that are different. When men are lied to... They can't get sex. This is an immediate problem for men. Meaning "I do this tactic, and I will get the result immediately". It is very easy to see a cause and effect relationship when you get the results fast. When women are lied to... They can't get relationships, or their relationships don't last. So they end up older, unable to understand where all the good men have gone. They can't… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/15 11:37 PM |
| 5 | This is something I have never understood....how in the world can men claim credit for building civilization?*The right to vote Men are only allowed to be able to vote if they are registered for the selective service. This means they cannot vote merely by existing, this means it is not a right, but a privilege. In the same way a driver's licence is not a right, you can only call something a "right" if there is no buy in. *Reproductive rights Men have no reproductive rights. They have no choice in whether a woman can or cannot have a child, if a woman has a child, they have to fund it regardless of circ… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/15 10:57 PM |
| 4 | This is something I have never understood....how in the world can men claim credit for building civilization?So why in the world is it considered selfish and narcissistic for women to want to vote, have reproductive rights, and to be seen as interesting and complex human beings just like men are? Because men don't have those things. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/15 10:41 PM |
| 1 | Is the institution of marriage oppressive for men ?Marriage, traditionally, was an exchange. Women would get access to resources for their children and men would get the promise of continued access to sex, and the promise of being bared children. It also enabled men to ensure the survival of their offspring, by creating a system where by they could be ensured that the children were theirs. In addition to that, since money for sex is not much better than a hooker, they were also promised to be taken care of. You don't need to look much further th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/15 10:39 PM |
| 5 | Do you believe women should be lead by men?Tell that to MLK, to Gandhi, to Abe Lincoln, to FDR, to Nelson Mendela. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/15 05:26 PM |
| 2 | IVF with stem cells turns back the clock on woman's eggsI imagine if it becomes popular, health insurance might cover it? Very unlikely. I work in the health insurance industry. As it is we don't cover any sort of pregnancy assistance, and I don't imagine that changing. It is not something that is considered a basic need because it is not something that is related to "health"... In any sort of definition of the word. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/15 11:36 PM |
| 3 | weekly goal threads?Be the change you wish to see in the world. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/05/15 10:25 PM |
| 9 | I am another former feminist, here to learn your ways.but I know that deep down he is red pill (but he is a natural... He isn't a misogynist at all, but he knows that men and women aren't necessarily equal). Try to relax a little. We won't jump down your throat here insisting your man is a misogynist because you mentioned him and the red pill in the same breath. You wouldn't come here excited and eager to please a man who hated you and treated you poorly. We know here that "red pill" is not synonymous with "evil men". All we have to do is look at y… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/05/15 10:17 PM |
| 2 | How do you get a man to open up to you?The desire to share feelings is something that is feminine. Men do not operate the way that women do, they have a system for dealing with their feelings, in order to not lose face, and also to present themselves from acting in a way that they would not be ashamed of. Men know that one of the things that women value in men is stoicism. Being her "rock". That is incompatible with showing vulnerability, such as feeling sharing. To ask a man to share his feelings is to ask him to humiliate himself o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/05/15 06:38 PM |
| 15 | Field Report: "You're so smart" and AMALT.Here's the way I look at it. We can't all be smart. We can't all be above average, because that would defy the definition of average. Yet, I have never heard a woman think of herself as dim, and I have never heard a man say to a woman's face that she was. Either we all must be super geniuses, or our impressions of ourselves are inaccurate, which is in part assisted by men trying to get laid. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/05/15 06:00 PM |
| 7 | How do you get a man to open up to you?Don't try to change the man you love, you will find that after he has changed, he is no longer the man you loved. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/15 05:53 PM |
| 0 | *Should* women even have rights ?Outrage may be a strong word, but you don't like that contributers of the red pill have suggested taking the vote from women. You, I presume, are in favor of keeping the vote for women, so you dislike them suggesting that should be done. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/05/15 10:48 PM |
| 0 | *Should* women even have rights ?In order to be equal, you must either take the vote from women or give it to men. You spend your time being outraged that people suggest taking the vote from women, where is your outrage for giving it to men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/05/15 10:41 PM |
| -2 | *Should* women even have rights ?Why should women have the right to vote, when men do not? Don't you believe in equality? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/05/15 09:38 PM |
| 28 | How do YOU deal with this common situation?Do you really think you get randomly approached by a guy because you're interesting? How would a guy approaching you even know that? | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/05/15 05:58 PM |
| 2 | Learning to enjoy giving head?Circumcised or uncircumcised? | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/04/15 02:56 PM |
| 4 | DH wants more kids and I do not.You're rationalizing. Speaking as someone who has survived stage 3 cancer, I would never let it me stop me from doing the things I want to do. But that's the thing... You don't want to do it. The idea that you are afraid that your children might catch cancer is a ridiculous reason to not want to have kids if you examine the premise for more than a minute. Start being honest with yourself and your SO and admit that you don't want to have more kids, because you are afraid of the time and energy co… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/15 11:55 PM |
| 1 | Dresscodes from a SOHmm I don't have a dress code per-say, he just likes me to wear things that look good on me and flatter my figure. For example he prefers I wear skirts instead of jeans. He also helps me to do this by telling me if I look good or not. I'm still developing my fashion sense, so I will often pick up things that don't quite suit me. Needless to say, he doesn't like me wearing stuff like that either. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/15 11:15 PM |
| 1 | What does it mean exactly to be a "red pill woman"So why are you here? Would you like to tell us the way we live our lives is wrong? | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/15 11:29 PM |
| 1 | What does it mean exactly to be a "red pill woman"I wanted to hear what women are actually getting from this "What we get out it" is not how we define ourselves, we define ourselves by what we do. We do not focus on what we get out of it because relationships do not have to be perfectly reciprocal to work. Let me ask, what do you think a woman gets out of taking care of a child? They change them, they put up with tantrums, all for the purpose of seeing them smile. If you asked a mother what she got out of it, she would look at like you were som… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/15 10:21 PM |
| 5 | Why are women banned from TRP but men get plenty of say on RPW?TIL that "Tits or GTFO" = welcoming. You don't know what "Tits or GTFO" is about do you? You can often tell a person's gender from his/her post history, regardless of whether it is stated directly in a given comment. Sure, but no one bans someone from TRP for the crime of "being a woman". Heck I post in there every once in a while, and it's obvious to anyone who reads my posting history what gender I am. But, TRP DGAF what gender you are, they only care if you wave it around in order to give you… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/15 08:12 PM |
| 6 | Why are women banned from TRP but men get plenty of say on RPW?Yes, TRP and RPW are different, and run differently, because men and women are different. They run by different rules, and want different things out of life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/15 07:27 PM |
| 5 | Why are women banned from TRP but men get plenty of say on RPW?They aren't. Women are welcome on TRP, they just aren't aloud to flash their gender around as though it gives their opinions more weight. If they contribute something that is true and actually works, TRP will accept their opinions. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/15 07:23 PM |
| 19 | Need relationship advice. New to RP after being *very* BP my entire life.Ok, here's the thing, a man like this is going to be very uncomfortable making decisions. If he even says he wants something, he's probably used to being scorned for admitting that he even has wants. So you not only have to allow leadership, (by stepping out of the way, and not questioning his judgement), you have to encourage him to make decisions by asking his opinions on things. One of the things that I often suggest is literally asking his permission for things. Like for example, ask his per… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/15 07:12 PM |
| 1 | I've handled an emasculating situation very, very poorly, and need RPW's helpI don't understand why your SO hurting this guy lead him to depression. Was it an accident? | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/15 04:02 PM |
| 14 | I have only ever slept with my SO...I guess you have to decide if you want man you are with, or if you'd rather try a different penis. Because make no mistake, once you branch swing, there's no going back. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/04/15 08:35 PM |
| 12 | I Just Received This Unprompted Anger Filled, Insecurity Laden Rant. Thought You Ladies Would Find It Funny :)Very few people give a shit about you either way, but most of us in the real world have a thing or two to say about the damaging philosophy you've chosen to follow So let me get this straight, very few people care about what we do, but the majority of people want to tell us why it's wrong. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/15 10:32 PM |
| 0 | Feminine fashion thread! Post your favorite places to shop, pieces, advice.I've heard bad things about the quality of sammy's dress. What is your opinion on that? | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/15 10:52 PM |
| 13 | Does anyone else here have a Captain who doesn't believe in marriage?I'm in this situation, my SO doesn't believe in marriage either. I can talk a good line about all the logical reasons why marriage makes no sense, save for the tax benefit (and let's be honest, who gets married with that as their incentive?), but there was a time when I was disappointed and sad that I couldn't have marriage anyway. So, I poked at that emotion within myself, and tried to figure out why it was I still wanted marriage, even though there was no logic to it. I tried to figure out why… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/04/15 06:46 PM |
| 9 | How do you keep your confidence when other girls are trying to get with your SO?That's preselection for you. He is much more "interesting" now that he is not single. I would still say let her. If she dumped him, she has shown him already how disloyal she is. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/15 10:03 PM |
| 2 | How do you keep your confidence when other girls are trying to get with your SO?They can try all they want. If an ex came after him, I'd say "good luck". He dumped her for a reason. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/15 09:07 PM |
| 3 | UPDATE: I foolishly made myself a "top plate." How do I convince myself I deserve better after my tarnished past?I'm not surprised, from your last post, it sounded like he was pretty much exclusive to you anyway. As for your anxiety, just take the relationship one day at a time. A relationship is made of several days of two people deciding to be together day after day. Try to make decisions based on what your ideal person would do. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/15 08:02 PM |
| 2 | Women in Western Countries - Do you Feel Like A Lot of Claims About Sexism Against Women Are Made Up or Real?I don't think that's true...There have been 2 different where people have attempted to rape me and I guess I just got lucky and got out of the situation. I'm sorry that happened to you, but I am talking statistically speaking, the kind of rape we are afraid of is not very likely. Men are more likely to be a victim of violence. But women are more likely to be a victim of rape. I think we can address both things. I don't want women to be raped, or men to be attacked, any more than anyone else, but… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/15 06:03 PM |
| 2 | Women in Western Countries - Do you Feel Like A Lot of Claims About Sexism Against Women Are Made Up or Real?I am also aware that there can be more impoverished parts of first world countries where women do face a very real threat of rape, violence and exploitation on a day to day basis. And even for middle class to rich women, there are still the threats of rape or violence they face for being smaller and more vulnerable than the men folk. Even this is something I struggle agreeing with. I don't believe that anyone should be a victim of violence or rape, but to claim that the possibility of rape and v… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/15 04:42 PM |
| 3 | Is It Possible For Men's Masculinity To Increase As A Woman Submits To Him?Interesting, do you have a source on this? | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/04/15 10:05 PM |
| 2 | Is It Possible For Men's Masculinity To Increase As A Woman Submits To Him?Yup, that is part of the whole point. Men and women will just sort of naturally fall into their roles, if you provide an environment in which they can do that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/04/15 10:04 PM |
| 1 | What's the RPW way to get over a breakup?Try to focus of self improvement behaviors, rather than self destructive ones. Do: Go to the gym, join a club, dress up and get out of the house. Don't: eat a tub of ice cream, stay in your night gown all day, sleep with random men | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/04/15 09:53 PM |
| 15 | Dread GameIf a man I was dating even so much as implied that he was cheating That's not quite what dread game is. Dread game is more like implying with varying levels of subtlety the possibility of moving on (or nexting you) to remind you that he has options (and thus is high value), to let you know he has standards (again shows high value), and sometimes to encourage your to change some behavior if you have done something to upset him. Some examples of dread game might include: Getting in great shape, wh… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/04/15 08:14 PM |
| 2 | Sex drive and relationshipsWell, it could be that you are more turned on by the "thrill" of doing something "against the rules" then you are to him. In which case you should save him some grief and find someone you actually are attracted to. Or you can try to find ways to be attracted to him again. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/04/15 11:20 PM |
| 1 | Sex drive and relationshipsMy sex drive immediately stopped That's really strange. Sex drive doesn't normally "suddenly" stop. Is there anything that you can link the event too? Maybe you should see a doctor and get your cortisol levels checked while your at it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/04/15 10:15 PM |
| -1 | Boyfriend's Travel Plans with Female FriendWell if she wants it to be a 6 month young relationship, she should consider what she does so she can make that happen. A LTR is a day to day decision to be together. If him taking this trip is a deal breaker for her, than the length of the relationship shouldn't matter. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/04/15 08:19 PM |
| 0 | Boyfriend's Travel Plans with Female FriendWhat is a bad idea here might seem good somewhere else. You're right that does happen, but how far do you have to go for that to happen? Do you have to go across an ocean? Do you have to go out of the state? Do you have to go out of the city? Or can you just be at the local bar, just a little drunk, and your gf just happens to not be around? There seems to be this notion that the farther away you are from home, the more likely you are to cheat. I think a person who is likely to cheat, even thoug… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/04/15 06:23 PM |
| 0 | Boyfriend's Travel Plans with Female FriendSo what if it is? "Opportunities" happen everyday, and can happen anywhere, cheating happens all the time, and that's because their SO was unable to stop it. All it takes is one "I'm going to be working late tonight" or one "I going to hang out with my friends". You can't reasonably stop it, without turning into a control freak. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/04/15 06:12 PM |
| -1 | Boyfriend's Travel Plans with Female FriendIt doesn't matter where he is going, because there are women everywhere. There are women down the street, there are women in different countries, and there are women in different continents. There's Anna, and there are millions of other single women. Heck, if he wanted to cheat with Anna, she lives right in his backyard, he could do it there. Ultimately, there is nothing any of us to ensure our partners don't cheat on us... short of locking them in the basement. So, our choice is either to trust… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/04/15 05:59 PM |
| -1 | Boyfriend's Travel Plans with Female FriendYour instincts are right, you should trust your boyfriend. Like you said, if he wanted to have a fling with her, he could do it here. Men like it when they are trusted, and because of that if you don't trust them, it makes it more likely that they will want to cheat on you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/04/15 05:15 PM |
| 5 | Joint vs. Split Checking AccountsI would say simply "whatever your SO wants". There is no "right" or "wrong" way to set up your savings. If your SO wants it split, then split it. If he wants it combined, then combine. Or whatever other combination he wants. He's the captain in your relationship, so whatever he thinks is best, is what you should do. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/15 07:17 PM |
| 3 | PPD generated definitions of Feminism and TRP. What are your thoughts?Feminism should have included in it the belief that women overall don't have it as good as men. I would also either remove the use of the word "respect" or define it. However it seems to many, and in many cases is, simply using pseudo-psychological jargon to justify the adherents own prejudices and insecurities. This is often perpetuated by posts on the sub by subscribers who seem to legitimately hate women, and some members who take TRP beyond sexual strategy and make into a lifestyle. This is … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/15 07:07 PM |
| 0 | CMV: Men care about how desired his partner is.To sum it up in over-simplistic fashion: Men want a girl that they are proud (or not ashamed) to be with. Women want men who other women want, or are with. That is what is meant by pre-selection. In other words, for girls pre-selection works on, a married man is more attractive than the same single man. For men, all that matters is her hotness, so the same women is equally attractive married or single. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/15 06:43 PM |
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