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While this could be true, it could also be the fact that the guy was just approaching for practice. Then, while he was walking away, he sacked up and asked for the number. Could've been both reasons too. He sacked up and put a false time constraint.
/r/seduction23/05/14 12:40 PM
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I know you want miraculous advice, but there is none. There's two things to you can do Go slowly. Escalate slowly. Practice with different girls. Even if they're just friends, when you see them, hug them. Practice kino on them. "Just go for it." That's all there is to it. Just break your limits. Go in with a mentality of not caring. There isn't more than that
/r/seduction23/05/14 12:38 PM
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Listen and pay attention to her body. A lot of guys make the mistake of just jackhammering away, just thinking about themselves and what they're feeling. If you want her to have a great experience, listen to what she wants instead of what you want. If kissing her neck makes her groan, make note of that. If touching a certain area of he body makes her squirm with delight, remember that area. More important than anything, make her talk. Tell her to be vocal. Tell her to moan when she likes when yo…
/r/seduction23/05/14 12:34 PM
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I only realized this after I posted it, my b. Thanks curveball
/r/seduction21/05/14 09:57 PM
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Everyone's there to have fun. And you're there to be having fun too. Focus on having fun first before anything else. That's probably the only core tip I can give you. Everything that follows is just being social. Talk to everyone, smile, be high energy. And if you make eye contact with a girl at any moment, make sure you smile and approach. But to stress what I said, just got and have fun.
/r/seduction21/05/14 09:51 PM
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I can guarantee you that I wasn't, because I wasn't even trying to hit on her. Her name is long and is a bit complicated to pronounce in my native language, so I just wanted to shorten it. I've been doing this long enough that I know how I come off. I just really have no idea, nor do I care. I'm just legitimately curious to know why she said that
/r/seduction21/05/14 09:48 PM
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"Don't shit where you eat." As much as you might be tempted to do something about it, I recommend avoiding it
/r/seduction21/05/14 02:08 AM
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Start off with light playful kino If she's already there alone with you all you have to do is escalate.
/r/seduction20/05/14 11:43 PM
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Mark Hanson makes a good point when he says we should 'take baby steps' when achieving our goal. I agree with you there. The 'always approach' mentality is for those who really want to push themselves. But most people on seddit are still learning to become more social adept. You wouldn't throw a baby in a swimming pool and expect it to learn how to swim right? I mean it can't even walk yet. Same thing here, sedditors starting out should learn how to approach slowly before they start doing anythi…
/r/seduction06/05/14 12:45 AM
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I've been there before. In fact, my roommate was half crazy and suffered from some angry issues. But the thing you have to remember is we're all human. He's honestly just look to meet people. His only outside connection is with you. Trust me, I KNOW it gets tedious to have a puppy dog around. I know it can become a burden. But the best thing you can do is try to help him out. Take him out to a party. Try to teach him some things. Be direct about it. "Yo I'm telling you this as a bro, but get off…
/r/seduction02/05/14 05:41 PM
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On top of this great advice, I recommend you just stop caring.
/r/seduction02/05/14 02:21 AM
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Ah this is my area of expertise. I'm not a Spanish speaker by first-language but I have success with Latina women. (Also my Spanish is fluent). I'm from Brazil so the cultures are very similar in terms of openness. First of all, they're VERY open to being approached. I'm assuming you're from the States? Girls here are less receptive and tend to be colder. I could go as far to say that if a Mexican girl is going to a party, it's because she's expecting something to happen. What you want to do is …
/r/seduction01/05/14 02:39 AM
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I read through this entire post and I have to say I agree whole heatedly with every point you made. There are no shortcuts in life, just hard work.
/r/seduction30/04/14 05:02 PM
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First off, try nofap. Masturbating hurts your sexual confidence a lot. If you're jerkin' the meat often, I highly recommend you stop or at least reduce the frequency by like 90%. This will up your sex drive and you'll be less fearful of getting into it. Secondly, self-sabotage normally results from a fear. This is sometimes a fear of failure. I highly suggest you meditate for a little bit. Think about yourself. Think about why you can't go through. Recall some of these scenarios of you pulling b…
/r/seduction28/04/14 05:32 PM
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You just gotta find someone who wants to play the game as much as you do, and is down to wingmanning. Unfortunately I would avoid asking or even talking about this topic unless you're with your best buds
/r/seduction27/04/14 04:06 PM
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Never underestimate or take for granted the advice of your elders. These people have been in your shoes before and you just gotta trust what they tell you.
/r/seduction27/04/14 04:04 PM
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Good job man. the "just approach" theory seems legit so far I think it's the only 'theory' that is self explanatory just from its title
/r/seduction27/04/14 12:23 AM
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Like everyone said, make sure they don't steal the show. You gotta shine brighter than them when talking to girls. Also, they can't get you laid. It'll be like 80% your part, 20% theirs. The 20% indicates that they shouldn't cockblock you and play you up when they can. The 80% is going to have to be all your game.
/r/seduction27/04/14 12:20 AM
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Not a noob question at all. BBH normally stands for bros before hoes
/r/seduction26/04/14 11:58 PM
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That awkward moment when type our comments at the exact same time, both with similar meanings
/r/seduction26/04/14 10:35 PM
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Even hammered, calling someone 18 times is still excessive. I see an excuse at like twice or three times, but 18?.. You let the alcohol and your emotions mix. Gotta be careful with that mate
/r/seduction26/04/14 09:44 PM
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This isn't the case for some "Nice Guys", but it's a general thing I noticed the most Nice Guys do: They're not honest enough. Here's an example of what I mean by 'honest': Let's say you're at a party dancing and there's this girl dancing on you. One of the guys you came with is in the corner not doing anything, just staring at his phone. You guys are pretty good buddies. The girl notices the guy and says, "Wow that guy standing over alone is such a loser." A nice guy would just agree. "Haha yea…
/r/seduction26/04/14 09:41 PM
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And a spinoff of this: go to the Dells! It's filled with beautiful women looking to have fun. You'll run into girls left and right who went there with a group of friends and are sharing rooms in hotels. Makes for a great experience!
/r/seduction18/04/14 04:11 PM
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"Relax there". Top kek. I was filled with teenage angst and I was smashing my keyboard out of rage. How can a person on the internet do such a thing!
/r/seduction18/04/14 01:27 PM
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I agree with what you said, but you're a little bit hypocritical. You just posted a "rate me" on reddit. Inner game doesn't need exterior validation like that. Especially from strangers.
/r/seduction18/04/14 12:50 AM
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"I'm 16 now: 14 year olds like me, but 16 year olds don't. I'm 18 now: 16 year olds like me but 18 year olds don't. I'm 21 now. Good shit." Girls tend to like older guys. And I think the being 18-19 is quite the odd age, especially where 16 year olds don't have the same university experience as you, but 21 year olds have more bar experience than you. It's an awkward middle ground you'll just grow out of. That doesn't mean you can't game. In fact, it's probably the best time to game. It's where y…
/r/seduction18/04/14 12:46 AM
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You can definitely have both. I have a core set of friends. However, this doesn't stop me from becoming acquainted with other people!
/r/seduction17/04/14 06:52 PM
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Well you went fishing in another man's spot. So all I can really say is deal with it. Go approach as many women as you can and you'll forget about her.
/r/seduction16/04/14 06:48 PM
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Follow up casually. Give out a day or two then text her and see if she wants to meet up again. See where it leads you
/r/seduction16/04/14 04:55 PM
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Depends. Either "k" or I don't respond at all. My life doesn't revolve around her. If she can't make it, then I don't care.
/r/seduction15/04/14 04:43 PM
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Whenever you feel like oneitis is coming on, approach! Approach so you can distract yourself. You'll realize there's multiple women, and not just one.
/r/seduction15/04/14 01:40 AM
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Problem with this is: unless that person REALLY enjoys your company, they most likely won't invite you out.
/r/seduction15/04/14 12:34 AM
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Yep, if you have any other questions fire away.
/r/seduction14/04/14 10:57 PM
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Build rapport in person. Escalate slowly. When you're talking to her one on one light kino, occasionally look at her lips. She'll get the hint. If she replies with positive IOI's, then you're good to go.
/r/seduction14/04/14 10:46 PM
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Dude you have to work on your inner game. I'll say it again: who the fuck cares. Let her be. You're acting insecure by complaining
/r/seduction14/04/14 10:45 PM
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Post your results later :)
/r/seduction14/04/14 10:04 PM
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Most women hate the silence. If you keep looking at her and smiling, like you're EXPECTING her to talk, you'll demonstrate self-value: that she's supposed to impress you, not the other way around.
/r/seduction14/04/14 10:03 PM
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That's probably because your buddy shows women he likes to have fun, right? Most guys can't dance. Really. I can't dance. But if you go out and make of yourself a fool on the dancefloor, you'll have have and women will notice that. Pay attention to what your buddy does, you may learn a thing or two
/r/seduction14/04/14 10:01 PM
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Stop being melodramatic. You're putting her EVEN MORE on a pedestal by being needy; in fact you're not better than any of those other guys. Who the fuck cares. Do you think she does? All those pictures give her an ego boost. If she's doing this constantly it's because she's looking for attention. If she's looking for attention, approach her in person, and give her a little bit, but not enough. Make her crave your attention. Make her need you, not the other way around. Stop complaining about thin…
/r/seduction14/04/14 10:00 PM
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I began reading this thinking you were going to ask for help lol. But you're right. If I get rejected at a party or something it feels like a tiny little neg. But here's the trick: you just have to move on and approach someone else before the feeling starts to get worse. The longer I spend dwelling on my rejection and the interaction, the longer it takes for me to recover, the more of an annoyance it becomes.
/r/seduction14/04/14 09:56 PM
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Go to the one club in your town. It may not be the best, but it's a great place to start knowing people and begin #closing to expand your social circle.
/r/seduction14/04/14 09:54 PM
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Maybe I can help, I normally approach with low energy and a smile. I'm also NOT the wittiest person in the book. My specialty is dry, well-timed one liners. So it's natural for anyone who's talkative and witty a lot of the time to get more attention while approaching a group than I am. Honestly, it's pretty simple: Lead. If your buddy is being witty and funny, lead him into being that. Is he about to tell a story? Ask him to tell them about "that one time". Or better yet, you can start it off an…
/r/seduction14/04/14 09:53 PM
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This is exactly it. I like her a lot so I am eager and happy to jump on every sign of her liking me It seems like you may be giving her too much of the 'nice guy' and it's causing her to lose interest in you. This is sometimes called the friend zone Best thing you can do? Cold shoulder. Show her that you don't need her. If she texted you after a week and a half of you not contacting her, it's because she's looking for your affection. This is why you shouldn't have even responded to the text. Or …
/r/seduction14/04/14 09:38 PM
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Unfortunately, you may have made the wrong move. You're at your job to work, not to get women. You should have only made a move if she was giving you positive IOIs. But this is my personal opinion, if anyone feels different, feel free to share
/r/seduction14/04/14 09:32 PM
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I never read any seduction books, but after seeing so many people praise Models by Mark Hanson, I decided to give it a shot. I'm about fifty pages in and it's got pretty decent content.
/r/seduction14/04/14 09:30 PM
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"Whelp, more cushion for the pushin"
/r/seduction14/04/14 06:44 PM
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By doing this, and not burning any bridges, you'll be seen as a good guy with game. If you burn bridges with women, you'll be seen as a player.
/r/seduction13/04/14 07:41 AM
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If your mind is shutting down it might because you're slight outcome dependent. Your body might be subconsciously trying to 'protect' you from a negative feeling by making you somewhat inept when trying to speak to a girl one on one. Depending on the situation, this might help you: Try speaking to her as if you were speaking to a group. Speak loudly; imagine if other people are hearing you. Eventually you'll get accustomed to talking to people one on one without your brain shutting down
/r/seduction13/04/14 01:45 AM
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I always emphasize this! When I'm helping out some people getting over AA, I tell them to realize that's it just an adrenaline rush they're feeling. How they chose to interpret it is up to you. Imagine it like a roller coaster. You could be scared to be on it. But once you're in and the first drop is about to happen, there's no turning back. You can either enjoy the sensation or let fear overtake you. Choosing one makes the ride enjoyable, the other makes it discomforting.
/r/seduction13/04/14 01:42 AM
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I could, but, you know. Tl;dr
/r/seduction12/04/14 12:48 AM
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Or, you know, it could just be a feature that you really like on a girl.
/r/seduction11/04/14 08:37 PM
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That's definitely one of my top ones too. And you could probably stretch "hygiene" to include working out as well.
/r/seduction11/04/14 06:28 PM
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Saw the howcast address. Not even going to bother clicking it
/r/seduction11/04/14 06:22 PM
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Ah how could I forget!
/r/seduction11/04/14 01:09 PM
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If nothing is in your hair, then yeah it applies. Try running your hand through your hair when you're talking to her. Not every girl mirrors, but if she does, it's because she's 100% interested. She'll do it subconsciously too
/r/seduction11/04/14 01:09 PM
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I would try avoiding the direct approach. Women like the game as much as men do; they don't want for the attraction to die. If she's already there with you, chances are she likes you. You just have to escalate and see just HOW much she likes you.
/r/seduction11/04/14 01:41 AM
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Hot babe/hot bitch
/r/seduction11/04/14 12:48 AM
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Learn to read her body language: Twirling/touching her hair while talking or listening to you. Crossing her legs when she's sitting in front of you. Her eyes are constantly darting back and forth between your left eye and right eye. This is a biggy. If she's doing this, it's because she's thinking of positive things about you. Most chances are, they're probably sexual.
/r/seduction11/04/14 12:47 AM
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Without going into much detail about myself, I know EXACTLY where you're coming from with this. Honestly, I just had someone push me to break the limit. "Dude just fucking go for it, who cares". Eventually things happened, and I lost the belief. Also if even if the woman is more experienced than you, it won't matter. COMMUNICATE with her. Let her know. Most women LOVE the fact the guy's a virgin. Let her show you the ropes the first time; every pro was once a beginner. You gotta start somewhere …
/r/seduction11/04/14 12:44 AM
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tl;dr Try in school
/r/seduction11/04/14 12:40 AM
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This. OR Since I'm a little hot-headed, I would've responded wryly to the girl who who said: "I'm here to talk to you babe." And would've winked at her. Regardless of how she reacts to that, I would've won. The HB sees me as fun and confident. Her friend either: 1. Hates me. Which is no big deal, because now I've pissed her off more than she has pissed me off. 2. Sees that I'm just having fun and don't care who I'm with, so she'll loosen up a bit.
/r/seduction11/04/14 12:37 AM
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Not a big deal (as long as you keep you hygiene to a good standard). Just smile and show confidence, they won't care
/r/seduction11/04/14 12:34 AM
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I am now terrified, and nauseous, sitting in my car with her phone number and a promise for a call in the not too distant future. That's adrenaline that you're not used to yet. It's a huge thrill; I still feel it to this day after an approach!
/r/seduction11/04/14 12:29 AM
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Good luck man! Good ole Wisco' girls are good pickings ;)
/r/seduction10/04/14 09:41 PM
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This comment made me laugh harder than I should have
/r/seduction10/04/14 09:38 PM
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Congratulations man :) should post your FR of the approach!
/r/seduction10/04/14 05:45 PM
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Don't speak on behalf of all Christians for saying "sex is special and wait for marriage." I was born and raised Christian. So were my parents. First thing my dad said to me when I turned 16? "Wear a condom and so help me God if you come home with a girl pregnant..." So not all Christians hold sex to this sacred esteem. When it comes to gaming girls that are more uptight due to moral values remember two things: 1. If they don't want it, and you want it, NEXT. 2. most of them are just scared and …
/r/seduction09/04/14 12:42 AM
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Honestly there's no time limit. You could text her right now if you really want. But I wouldn't let not texting her go past Wednesday, this way you can form weekends plans with her
/r/seduction08/04/14 02:25 AM
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LOL - I'm in a generous mood, take it
/r/seduction08/04/14 01:50 AM
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I lol'd. Are you being serious or is this a joke? I'm asking a honest question, because she doesn't exactly sound...human? Could be an eWhore too, so watch out for those (for those people that don't know: eWhore = a person, normally a guy, that uses other girls pictures and pretends to be a girl who flirts with another men on dating websites, in order to try to get their money in exchange for nudes.)
/r/seduction08/04/14 01:47 AM
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Looks like she may be falling for you again. I don't know what happened that made the relationship end, but a word of caution: old flames never die, but if they dimmed down, it's because there was a reason. Just keep doing what you're doing and let her feel comfortable with what she's feeling. Because honestly, it feels like she's not comfortable with the idea of liking you. She maybe liking you, but at the same time she might be regretting it. Keep at it though, and keep us posted :')
/r/seduction08/04/14 01:45 AM
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Just kino and casual conversation. Make sure you're having fun first. Here's an example of what happened to me a few weeks ago at a concert: I went with a group of buddies, but made sure I stood close enough to be associated with them, but far enough to show that I was having fun with myself while I was dancing. There was a girl next to me who was dancing too, and often times our bodies would touch. One time we hit arms, so she lowered hers. I looked her in the eyes, smiled, grabbed/raised her a…
/r/seduction05/04/14 03:20 PM
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As the guy who posted the 'always pick one' thread , maybe I can help with this hahah. like /u/ARealSocialIdiot said, There's a reason that any PUA worth his salt will tell you to engage with everybody in a group. and Ignored friends become cockblockers. In fact, thing about it like this too. If you're out with a buddy, and you guys get approached by a girl. You have no interest in the girl, but the girl is interested in your buddy and your buddy may be interested in the girl. If she befriends b…
/r/seduction03/04/14 08:44 PM
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Honestly? There is no way to always be happy. Because it's just human nature to enter periods of sadness every once in a while. Look at it this way. For you to truly enjoy your happiness, you needed to truly experience suffering. Only thing I can say is that those moments/days/whatever you go through where you just feel...'sad', is to just roll with it. Do your best to cope. Because life changes from one moment to the next, and it's never the same as yesterday.
/r/seduction03/04/14 08:35 PM
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Like everyone else said, it's a good idea to just 'go for it'. But before you go out, think about it this way. What's the worst thing that could happen? Oh damn, you got a kiss out of it (at the very least.) She won't hate you for it, and you shouldn't hate yourself for reciprocating the feelings that she's projecting onto you.
/r/seduction03/04/14 08:31 PM
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I see it this way. Even if you do, the only way you can look is up
/r/seduction02/04/14 11:51 PM
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It happens sometimes. But the best thing to do in this situation is to take charge. As nervous as you may be, she'll feel calmer knowing you can lead/guide her.
/r/seduction02/04/14 09:23 PM
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A long time ago haha. Maybe I'm getting it confused with the movie of Ryan Reynolds in college?
/r/seduction02/04/14 07:33 PM
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Friends man, friends. Your friends. The people that make you laugh, help you when you need it, and sometimes even cry with you. They're the ones that keep you going when you just can't go any longer.
/r/seduction02/04/14 01:56 AM
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Lol, you're making the biggest mistake most guys make. You're overthinking things. You're seeking their approval. You won't ask over girls to play video games (unless they're into that), just like you won't ask guys over to cuddle. In high school, you HAVE TO set yourself a base group of friends. Associate yourself with them. Then get acquainted with everyone else. And it's not creepy at all to invite people over.
/r/seduction02/04/14 01:32 AM
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I'm afraid of being too blunt about it but I've had real scares in the past and so I know what that terror can feel like. Just tell her that. "Yo you're clean right? I mean, I think you are, but I've had real scares in the past and I know what that terror can feel like."
/r/seduction02/04/14 01:26 AM
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When approaching, I avoid the generic 'you're very pretty' line. "Hey, I love your shoes!" or fill in shoes with whatever you feel appropriate with. Just make sure it's a genuine compliment. As with activities...honestly, invite one or two of them over to your house for a movie, play video games, or anything like that. Parties will come when you're older, and you'll really start experience 'parties' when sweet 16s come around. You've done the right thing to learn at a very young age, now just le…
/r/seduction02/04/14 01:15 AM
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Bring a hidden camera too. Serious answer: Just go to his office hours and talk to him. See how he reacts when you two are 1on1
/r/seduction02/04/14 01:10 AM
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Oneitis normally comes from the fact that a person feels the need to be validated by another person. Everyone gets it every once in a while. I think it's one of the trances of attraction a person can get. OP has to realize that he does not NEED her to validate himself. However, even when realizing this, oneitis does not go away. Honestly? I think only time can fix oneitis. Sure there's many things you can do to help ease it's tension. But it's like they say, time heals all wounds. Think it appli…
/r/seduction02/04/14 01:10 AM
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James Marshall addresses this situation: Basically, he slept with a hot model, while he as a hippie band musician (and very broke). This model was a russian and well-off. He was competing with another guy who was at the very least, a millionaire. Here's what happened: James Marshall payed attention to this woman. She told both men that she hated this rich and fancy restaurant (we'll call it restaurant A). Marshall invited her instead to his place, where they made food ( instead of going to the r…
/r/seduction02/04/14 01:06 AM
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should I look sideways the whole conversation and look at her? Should I vary it? If you can help it, try to turn your body to face her. Otherwise maintain eye contact with only your head turned. I believe that you should always maintain eye contact when possible with ANYONE, especially if you're flirting.
/r/seduction02/04/14 12:57 AM
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I'm not a big dude by any means, and due to an injury I recently just started lifting (after 6 months). The biggest thing exercise can give you is confidence. That'll be the first thing women notice. "Oh this guy seems confident." Secondly, if you are big/defined, that'll be their second assumption. "Oh this guy works out and takes care of his body."
/r/seduction02/04/14 12:54 AM
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You're a freshman in highschool. Dude you have all the time in the WORLD to focus on pickup. Girls your age are more worried about having fun and doing well in school. Just show them that you can be a fun guy, as well as a studious student. But to answer your questions I feel as though they would let me know if they were interested. Is this a mistake and if so how can I escalate without ruining a friendship? Girls at that age don't even know what they want yet. Just keep talking to them, call th…
/r/seduction02/04/14 12:52 AM
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Yeah haha you're right, I should've! I should've escalated with A right away, and if I got rejected from going too far, B was always an option. He's not actually my big brother, but he's been helping me get girls since I was 13. He even taught me how to approach and escalate and I managed to get my first kiss! But this was so long ago haha. And yeah, I'm an older brother myself. Little Blue has game too, but I always give him major pointers on where I screwed up, so he hopefully doesn't make the…
/r/seduction01/04/14 01:27 AM
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Go talk to people, watch some PUA videos. Brush up on general advice for PUA. Then from there, go for it. Teenage girls just want guys who can show them a good time and can be 'mature' at the same time.
/r/seduction29/03/14 04:53 PM
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DROP HER. DROP HER. DROP. HER.
/r/seduction29/03/14 04:43 PM
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You're lacking confidence and putting her on the pedestal. Drop her, right now. If she gave you the wrong number, she's giving you a sign
/r/seduction29/03/14 04:32 PM
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Lol just do it. Don't open your mouth up too wide and not too small. Don't use tongue right off the bat. Since it's your first time, let the girl guide you a little bit
/r/seduction29/03/14 04:18 PM
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Bro you're stressing. You have confidence, but you're just stressing. Remember, a marathon runner doesn't practice JUST the day before the event. He spends all year practicing little by little. Same thing here. You tried to do too much and expected too much out of yourself. Next time, go, and make it your objective just to meet people / establish friends. That's it. From there you'll move on
/r/seduction29/03/14 01:14 PM
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"She is out my league" Get that shit out of your head bro. She's into YOU. I don't believe in leagues, but if I did, I'd tell you that means that you're in the league above her. Confidence is key, friend!
/r/seduction29/03/14 01:12 PM
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Great FR. This is a perfect example of why it's often better to not rely on alcohol for confidence. Another thing that happens to people when they're drunk, is that they don't pick up on IOI's. And you picked up IOI not only from her, but other people too.
/r/seduction26/03/14 11:15 PM
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If a woman let's you start from scratch after six months it's because she must be really desperate or not living an interesting life. No one likes revisiting the past
/r/seduction26/03/14 01:00 PM
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I was talking about food, not drinks.
/r/seduction25/03/14 04:58 PM
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Food that's put in the freezer to be reheated later doesn't taste the same, even if you do end up eating it.
/r/seduction25/03/14 01:25 PM
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Ask her to grab dinner. It's a familiar setting and it'll be one on one. As to grabbing her number. Just ask for it while conversing. "Hey we should hangout sometime, what's your number?"
/r/seduction25/03/14 12:49 AM
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"Hey, how's it going" "Not bad how about yourself?" "Not bad either. At least the weather is finally getting warmer! Hahah!" "Right? I can finally bike again!" "You bike?" "Yeah i biked competitively in..." that's one, out of the infinite possibilities that a conversation can branch from. Don't sweat it. You're overthinking this. If you overthink it, you will screw it up
/r/seduction24/03/14 09:51 PM
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Guys this is sarcasm. I don't think anyone picked up on it haha
/r/seduction24/03/14 04:10 PM
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You're 16? Start working out now. You'll thank me later. You'll reap a lot of benefits if you do this
/r/seduction24/03/14 04:06 PM
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Bar sports are never a bad hobby to pick up on. Buy a pool table and practice. You'll get a lot of positive attention at the bars if you can run a table well.
/r/seduction24/03/14 04:05 PM
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This x 100. You don't learn to ride a bike by watching others do it. Sure you can pick up on a few things, but the only way you really get into it is by doing it.
/r/seduction24/03/14 04:00 PM
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The same way you don't keep the used tissue after your jerk off session. (Which I think nofap is the way to go anyways)
/r/seduction24/03/14 03:57 PM
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Different people have different triggers. Some people like listening to motivational songs. Others like watching PUA videos. Others meditate. I personally do a lot of meditation. Relaxes my mind and keeps me sharp.
/r/seduction24/03/14 03:56 PM
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Read the sticky articles. There's a section in one of them that specifically addresses this.
/r/seduction24/03/14 03:51 PM
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Everything /u/TimPartendale said is correct (except for the reverse grinding. I've never seen it work well and it makes you look non-alpha.) In fact I just went through this on Friday at a frat dance party, so maybe I can provide a little more insight. I established rapport with a girl while she was with her friend before approaching the dance floor. My target was her friend, who was a HB9.5. While everyone was dancing, I included myself into their circle. It was easier for me because a few budd…
/r/seduction24/03/14 12:44 PM
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Hopefully this simple example can help. You're in the club. See a girl. Smile at her. Then start dancing with a friend, ocassionally making eye contact with her. By doing this you'll demonstrate that you don't NEED her to have fun, and that'll give yourself value. All while showing her you're semi-interested in what she can offer.
/r/seduction24/03/14 12:27 PM
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As much as women want their sexual desires fulfilled, they also want to be emotionally satisfied. Take her out for some coffee and talk to her. This sounds completely uneventful compered to what you've already done, but it will actually add fuel to the fire you guys already have going. If she makes emotionally satisfied and is invested a bit in you, the sex will be a lot better.
/r/seduction23/03/14 11:02 PM
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Ignore the logistics. Don't be afraid to 'burn' through. Just let everything happen on its own. Chances are, the women that are single within that age group are looking for guys just like you...and they're stuck in a small town too.
/r/seduction23/03/14 11:00 PM
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No. Do not do that. Approach in person first, always. Otherwise you'll be labeled as the 'weird guy who added me on facebook'. It may also devalue you a little bit. Let the event occur and approach there.
/r/seduction23/03/14 10:59 PM
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Just do it. A wise man always reiterated this nike symbol to me. Whenever my AA creeps on me, I think about this. Biggest regret in life are the things we wonder about 'what could have been'.
/r/seduction23/03/14 10:57 PM
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There's nothing wrong to be flirting. But remember, you're at work. Your main job is...well...to be doing your job. Not to be trying to get with girls
/r/seduction23/03/14 10:54 PM
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If she stopped giving her number to you because of her friend's disapproval, then she isn't worth it.
/r/seduction23/03/14 02:36 PM
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She might be good at game. Might. She handed you her phone and told you to put your number in it. That's a pretty fucking alpha move for a female, because that gives HER the power to either text or not text you. And if she doesn't text you, it's because she want you to think of her. Which is working, because you think you gave her the wrong number (which you can relax, because I doubt that's the case.) Give it a few more days before adding her on facebook. Midweek, I'd probably add her and say, …
/r/seduction23/03/14 02:18 PM
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No. It just means she feels comfortable enough to spend a night with you. When she leaves the next day, then that's that.
/r/seduction23/03/14 02:11 PM
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Elaborate a little bit more on your story if you can. Did you approach the group as a whole? Or did you single her out right away as soon as your buddy played jester? Getting a number isn't hard. The girls would never cockblock over a number. Especially if you and her were just talking one on one. And getting a number takes about 30 seconds tops. I could be wrong, but it sounds like you're making excuses. If you're truly wanting to get with this girl, add her on facebook (since you have no means…
/r/seduction23/03/14 02:10 PM
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I'm not sure why you're unemployed, because times sure are tough. But I recommend getting a job. Why? It's a win-win. You'll be forced to interact with people you don't know AND you'll be making money. It'll help you tackle your AA and make you feel more confident about yourself. Besides, most woman find unemployment unattractive, especially depending on their age. Women around 25+ are looking for someone that is financially secure
/r/seduction23/03/14 02:07 PM
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I go to Brazil a lot so maybe I can chime in. Yeah there's a huge difference depending on the culture. Brazil has a VERY open hookup culture. It's considered the 'norm', so girls tend to be a little bit more outgoing. I'm currently living in the U.S., so there's a drastic difference. The girls here tend to be a little bit more 'dry' and carry with themselves a feeling of self-entitlement. (Which there's nothing wrong with a girl being confident, but when she thinks she deserves the world...then …
/r/seduction23/03/14 02:04 PM
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Do you think about things before you approach? That can mess you up if you do. I recommend just approaching with a smile. Even if they can tell you're a little awkward, they won't mind it too much because you're smiling. It's the whole 'wear black because it makes you look slimmer' concept. If you smile, it makes you look less awkward.
/r/seduction23/03/14 02:02 PM
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I agree that you should value yourself. And you might be overthinking this too. A simple 'like' just demonstrates you like the photo. That's it. Like seriously there's nothing more to it. If I'm on Facebook and I see a picture that's cool/interesting, I'll go ahead and like it. A problem does exist if you're ALWAYS like the pictures from the same girl though. You guys are overanalyzing things.
/r/seduction22/03/14 10:20 PM
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I don't know why, but this comment was so funny and true at the same time.
/r/seduction22/03/14 06:59 PM
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7 girls? Shit dude, that puts you ahead of a lot of guys. You're great with women. If you were able to get with at least one woman through your own game, then you don't have to say you're not great with women. First thing is first. Change your mentality. Get rid of your oneitis. You seem like you know what you have to do in order to do it...all you have to do is do it. Just approach. That's all you have to do is start. Also, I guarantee you that if you start focusing on what you gotta do, everyt…
/r/seduction22/03/14 06:45 PM
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Would not have invited both over simultaneously because it can end badly for you. Just play it cool and be fun.
/r/seduction21/03/14 01:45 PM
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As a person that's part of your generation, let me say this. Those girls are interesting in having a good time. That's about it. Show them that you're a good time, while being MATURE about it, and you'll do fine.
/r/seduction21/03/14 01:31 PM
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This is something I don't think can be taught entirely through theory. You have to weigh out the conversation and see how she's reacting. Is she asking questions about you? How's her body language? You can tell she's investing heavily by how curious she's acting. If after your interaction with her you feel as if she wasn't, replay the conversation in your mind and imagine some of the things you said. Were you too nice? Did you not invoke enough curiosity from her? Were you too 'dry'? Then go fro…
/r/seduction21/03/14 01:29 PM
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Read the stickies on the right side. They'll give you a general idea. Aside from that, a lot of people recommend the book Models. I personally have never read it, but it's supposedly a good read and possibly invokes change in a person.
/r/seduction21/03/14 01:27 PM
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This was so adorably dirty
/r/seduction21/03/14 01:12 PM
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Work with it man! Anyone can have a good smile. If you don't smile too often, you can always play it off as a joke. "I'd smile at you but then I wouldn't be able to see." If you can show women you enjoy yourself, they'll enjoy you.
/r/seduction21/03/14 01:09 PM
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I should've clarified more haha. You're completely right. American women have a complete mentality. When I'm in the bars at Brazil, girls make eye contact CONSTANTLY in order to get you to approach them. It differs from place to place
/r/seduction21/03/14 02:12 AM
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If you're tensing up during interactions it's because you may be a little anxious still. If you're not being emotional open, it could be because something is holding you back. I'm just assuming
/r/seduction20/03/14 10:40 PM
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It won't. If it feels really awkward (positioning wise, such as really uncomfortable) to you, then it will to her. I guarantee you she's thought about this. You have to show that you don't care, and that you'll hold her. Women want to feel safe when you hold them. Show her you can do this, and nothing about the situation will be awkward!
/r/seduction20/03/14 10:31 PM
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I could be wrong, but your post makes me feel that you're lacking confidence. Let me explain why. Even though I work out, do sport and have a pretty body my face looks pretty smashed and damns me to be average, so the first impression I leave might be rather bad. If you keep your face well-groomed, you have nothing to worry about. Sure a 'pretty' face might work a little in your advantage, but the biggest advantage that you can have on your face is a smile. peacock effect Just want to point out …
/r/seduction20/03/14 10:29 PM
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Is the movie date to a movie theatre or at home? If it's at home just have her lay on your lap. If you're in a movie theatre, there's nothing wrong with the cliche "grabbing her hand in the middle of the movie."
/r/seduction20/03/14 10:22 PM
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Remember when a girl asked you what time it was? Or if you thought the tomatoes looked good today in the supermarket? Or the time a girl walked up to you and said, "You have a really nice smile!" ? Yeah, they approach.
/r/seduction20/03/14 10:21 PM
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This should be an ELI5 as well
/r/seduction20/03/14 10:18 PM
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Seems you still have a little bit of AA. Not so much in the approach part, but in the anxiety part. Normally if you're not speaking your mind, it's because you're afraid of being judged. If you're just looking to befriend girls in general, imagine that they're you're little sister. As much as everyone says 'treat them like you would your bros', I respectfully disagree. When we men get together, we're rough on the jokes, farts, what have you. You have to maintain a certain level of respect when y…
/r/seduction20/03/14 10:17 PM
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The same way you get any other girl's number. I'm serious. Only difference you're encountering is that shy people tend to take a little bit longer to warm up to you. Just casually talk to her. Get into a conversation. If you feel like she's still not comfortable with you, strike up a conversation with her a second time. And ask for her number. I won't prolong this though, if you ask for her number in the first few conversations she'll get the hint that you're interested in her (to a certain degr…
/r/seduction20/03/14 10:12 PM
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As newlyweds you guys are going to go through a lot of tough shit these next two years. One thing is keep in mind why you fell for her. What you did to make her fall for you. Always stay that guy. Because for her, you'll always be that guy. This is why a lot of marriages fall apart. The romance that was once there, doesn't exist anymore.
/r/seduction09/03/14 04:31 AM
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Approach the mother/grandmother FIRST. Always. Always. Always. Be sweet and be lighthearted. Here's what I mean: Let's say you're in line at a Starbucks where the daughter is with her mother/grandmother. Something most older women are sensitive about is their age. So you hear the mother/grandmother say, "Oh a woman my age can't do that..." (or some variation) This is where you step in: "Ma'am, you don't look a day over 25!" Say it with a large smile. Women will ALWAYS react the same. They'll eit…
/r/seduction09/03/14 04:19 AM
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