I'm noticing a fine line here, every time a girl starts seeing me as a player, it tends to really fuck things up between me and her.

The other side of things is that I know that it's a "social proof" kind of thing if you're a guy who has a bit of fun with girls you know, as it shows you're not a desperate loser.

 

But where is the fine line to walk, and how can I avoid giving the impression to a girl that I'm just out to play her, but that I'm also someone who does have choices?