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Get in shape, have a personality, be positive to be around
/r/seduction20/03/21 06:45 PM
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GOD DAMN! I haven’t visited this sub in months, but I’m so glad to see you’re still here doing the same thing. Although it looks like you changed up the pics - nice! Keep it real man. You’re a dedicated troll.
/r/seduction18/05/20 10:09 PM
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Well to answer the title, no, of course your life isn’t beyond repair. This seems more like a life question than a seduction one, but I digress. You’re 22 man, absent felonies or severe physical harm to your body, it’s nearly impossible for your life to be “beyond repair” at this age. Even ex cons can turn their life around. You’ve gotten onto a different path than you’d like, but the right path isn’t far away - just a couple turns. Have you explored therapy for depression and/or anxiety? I did …
/r/seduction18/05/20 10:03 PM
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Are you seriously asking if being in shape makes you more attractive?
/r/seduction09/02/20 11:03 PM
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What’s your natural personality like? There is game for both naturally funny and light people and game for naturally serious people. Play to your strengths. Congruency between words and actions is key.
/r/seduction14/08/19 12:45 AM
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And here I thought this was going to be a “help me figure out my sexuality” post...
/r/seduction13/08/19 03:44 AM
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Doesn’t look like it worked here either
/r/seduction13/08/19 03:27 AM
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Good luck boss
/r/seduction13/08/19 02:04 AM
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You’d be surprised how easy the last part is if you’re already able to get laid. Find a girl who’s down to bang, and just bring it up that you’re trying to get better and ask her to tell you what she likes as you’re giving it to her. (Most) Women fucking love head. They’re just more selective on who they get it from than us dudes. A woman who’s already down to have sex with you will leap at that.
/r/seduction13/08/19 01:55 AM
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Lmao dude you’re worrying about something that’s a nonissue. 5.5/4.7 is well within the realm of normal dick length. I wouldn’t worry about leading people on. Very very very few women would consider those a deal breaker. As far as oral on ONS’s, it kind of just depends. Am I looking to keep this going or just get my rocks off? Did I meet her a decent place or in a dingy club? Maybe I’m too reckless with my oral though. I’ve never had anything really
/r/seduction13/08/19 01:38 AM
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Just post a TLDW and people will engage the post
/r/seduction13/08/19 01:21 AM
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Before I answer that, how small are we talking erect?
/r/seduction13/08/19 01:11 AM
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What’s that adage? It’s not the size of the ship but the motion of the ocean? Maybe this is preaching to the choir, but the key is giving orgasms, not having a big dick. Personally, I’ve always found that women have way more powerful orgasms from getting head and fingered. As for avoiding size queens, I don’t have any advice for you. I wouldn’t come right with it on date 1 though.
/r/seduction13/08/19 12:55 AM
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Date more women. Options = less likely to get stuck on one
/r/seduction09/08/19 01:56 AM
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How long did you know her before telling her you miss her? That’s needy as hell if you haven’t been in a relationship for a year
/r/seduction03/08/19 04:19 AM
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Well you told him that the relationship was physical and nothing more, so I’m going to say he wants head. If you wanted more than just a casual thing, you should have said so, instead of defining the relationship as merely physical from the outset
/r/seduction31/07/19 11:17 PM
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There isn’t really any “way” other than just doing it more. It’s supposed to be uncomfortable.
/r/seduction31/07/19 09:53 PM
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I went out with a girl who felt the same way about getting head as you. She really enjoyed sex, fingering, and giving oral. She just wasn’t comfortable getting it. It’s not that weird
/r/seduction30/07/19 04:14 AM
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Like the other guy said, offer drinks and bathroom. Hopefully you have something decent to drink. Pour a drink and chit chat for a bit in the kitchen. Find a natural end to that conversation, and change gears to talking about the movie. On the off chance she declines the drink, pour yourself one anyway and ask if she’s sure she doesn’t want one. If she still says no, brush it off and move to the movie. Have two movies already pre-planned and already set up in the living room, some sort of recent…
/r/seduction30/07/19 01:40 AM
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When you say she only lets you kiss her on the cheek, do you mean you’ve tried to kiss her and she turned away?
/r/seduction30/07/19 01:13 AM
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Yeah you went straight for the kill without any build. That’ll work maybe 1/100 times. You should have sat beside her confidently (It’s your house after all), reach for and hold her hand after maybe 5-10 or so minutes, stay there for a bit, playing with her fingers and shit, then move your hand out your arm around her. Read her body language. Is she leaning into it or shying away? If she’s leaning into, great. Start lightly scratching the back of her arm or something similar so you’re not sittin…
/r/seduction29/07/19 07:37 PM
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When it’s short, I put some American crew pomade in it, and I move to American crew holding gel as it gets longer. I mix the two at mid-length
/r/seduction25/07/19 09:21 PM
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Tapered business cut
/r/seduction25/07/19 06:26 PM
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How are you going out if you’ve never gone out? I’d move on from this. It’s been two months and you still haven’t met her.
/r/seduction23/07/19 02:58 AM
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Nah, not unless I actually have an open sore. But I don’t really go out on dates when that happens. It’s pretty seldom. Less than once a year.
/r/seduction22/07/19 09:28 PM
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More women. More options = less likely to focus on one. I’m pursuing things with one girl right now (and kind of lost the drive to go after other girls for whatever reason), but I otherwise usually have 3-4 women that I’m dating at a time. Too exhausting for me to keep up with more than that.
/r/seduction22/07/19 06:42 PM
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You sound like a pig. Let your girlfriend go. She deserves better.
/r/seduction22/07/19 06:38 PM
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I mean it’s always possible, even with a condom, but it’s not exactly likely. I usually get tested once a month or so. Nothing yet beyond a cold sore last year...
/r/seduction22/07/19 06:37 PM
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The legend returns !
/r/seduction22/07/19 06:35 PM
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Are you trolling or? Wet fabric is colder than dry fabric at any room temperature.
/r/seduction17/07/19 08:58 PM
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I mean it’s exercise... that causes sweat. The sweat gets on the sheets, makes them wet, and wet fabric is cold.
/r/seduction17/07/19 04:24 PM
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I mean you do you dude. I just feel like I’m banging a kid.
/r/seduction13/07/19 05:49 PM
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Don’t really know how to describe it. Just seems kind of creepy. Like there are 18 year olds still in high school
/r/seduction13/07/19 05:41 PM
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It’s a few things. Women tend to like older men, but you’re probably more confident now than you were in your 20’s, which makes an even bigger difference. I’ve had better success as I’ve gotten older, but I’m also 24, and banging 18 year-olds seems kinda weird
/r/seduction13/07/19 04:43 AM
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Ambien.
/r/seduction05/06/19 03:49 AM
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Lol I know. I used to come to this sub every once in awhile last summer, and he was still there doing the exact same thing. Like it’s the same story verbatim. I had kind of forgotten about him, but this was definitely a good laugh
/r/seduction05/06/19 03:48 AM
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Ahahahahaha well I’m mocking you
/r/seduction05/06/19 03:47 AM
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Dude I login to this account like once every three months, and you’re still here?!?!?!!!?! You’ve been reposting the same thing with the same pictures for over a year hahahaha
/r/seduction05/06/19 03:44 AM
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I’m often torn here too. I’ve decided it’s best to not ask for their number while they’re working. It puts them in a really awkward position because a lot of places have rules against that sort of thing, so she’s torn between possibly getting into trouble and turning down a guy she likes. I’ve decided the best approach is to create a sense of familiarity. My style of approach is a lot of corny humor (like dad-jokes type thing) because that’s just my personality. There was a girl working a regist…
/r/seduction24/12/18 10:34 PM
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This is some pre-incel shit right here Edit: sorry, it’s been one of those days. If you’re not happy, you need to get out of that relationship. It’s neither fair to you nor her to be dating someone that doesn’t make you happy. Whether in a girlfriend situation or just casually dating, the people you spend your time with should at the very least evoke positive emotions. Break up with her, and if you want a hotter girlfriend, start approaching hotter girls. It’s harder, and you’ll have to improve …
/r/seduction24/12/18 10:22 PM
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This. You look fine. Don’t focus on it. Looks matter far less to women than they do to men. Fall in love with your positive traits.
/r/seduction15/11/18 05:24 PM
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Sure. It’ll probably take me awhile to answer though. As an aside, thanks for asking. It probably never crossed your mind, but a lot of folks just blow up your inbox without even introducing themselves or realizing the time someone takes out of their day to help strangers on the internet. It’s a small thing, but really. That’s class.
/r/seduction28/09/18 07:55 PM
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I have had girls want to have sex with me and flirt with me but my brain poisoned it once AGAIN with negativity and so it became a self fulfilling prophecy....that is possibly the worst feeling in the world Yes, exactly. This was my point. The reason you looking young has nothing to do with any of this is because that’s not what’s really going on when a girl asks you how old you are/makes some comment about how young you look. It’s about your mental resolve, how easy is it to knock you off your …
/r/seduction28/09/18 07:41 PM
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Take a chill pill for starters. Not getting laid has nothing to do with you being 5’6” (for what it’s worth, I’m 5’7” and 135lbs), being skinny, or looking young. This has everything to do with your toxic mindset that’s full of negativity. This isn’t about turning sexual frustrating into positive energy. This is about 1) becoming not sexually frustrated, and 2) actually being a positive person. You don’t need to have sex to do the first one; just stop focusing on sex so much. I’m guessing you ma…
/r/seduction28/09/18 07:00 PM
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What the fuck is this?
/r/seduction20/09/18 03:35 PM
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Not gonna lie, 3 days for a number isn’t something to brag about man. The confidence is really all he did, and he could hold a conversation. And then he asked her for her number... All it took was guts and holding a conversation, like 99% of pick-up
/r/seduction07/09/18 12:24 AM
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You’re the one who’s sounding like an incel here man. Dirtysaccs sounds like a pretty normal person
/r/seduction05/09/18 08:27 PM
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I’m confused as to why you care about tinder girls when you’re doing well in real life. That said, I’m similar. I’m great at talking face to face, but my text game is pretty weak. It just feels unnatural, so I’m not the best at hooking and engaging girls enough to want them to go out with me online. Something that’s helped me improve my game is to ask myself, “what can I say that would make this conversation more fun?” A corollary is, “What would I be inclined to respond to?” and go from there. …
/r/seduction05/09/18 08:21 PM
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What is ELO? In my experience, Bumble does the opposite: they send new profiles to the front of the line to encourage them to stay. I’ve deleted and recreated my account several times and usually notice a surge in matches. Online dating (especially swipe dating good lord) is notoriously fickle. I’m not sure where you live, but if you’re in a college town, remember that all the students just came back, so while there are more people around to swipe right, there are also more people to have your c…
/r/seduction30/08/18 01:27 PM
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I never said girls don’t give their numbers multiple times a night. You should stand out from the rest of the guys she talks to that night so that when you say “hey, what’s up it’s chronosthetitan,” she immediately remembers who you are
/r/seduction26/08/18 02:13 AM
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I’m not being dumb. I know what I’m talking about. You’re telling me that you have to trigger a girl’s memory by telling her you’re X guy who did Y thing. I’m telling you that you need to make enough of an impression that she is hoping you’ll text her. When you text her, “hey, it’s BozoCardozo, what’s up?,” she’ll immediately remember who it is because she was already hoping it’d be you. Say she met two guys named Bozo that night, she hits you back with a “I met two guys names Bozo, which one ar…
/r/seduction26/08/18 12:59 AM
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Right. Keep telling yourself that.
/r/seduction26/08/18 12:31 AM
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If you make a good enough first impression, she’ll remember you and your name. If you have to remind her who you are, you’ve already lost
/r/seduction25/08/18 10:48 PM
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You haven’t given us any examples, but in going to hazard a guess and say you’re not physically escalation throughout the night
/r/seduction18/08/18 12:57 PM
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Can we drop all the French bullshit? This is clearly an English subreddit
/r/seduction18/08/18 12:53 PM
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It’s called last minute resistance. Lots of girls do it, and you can overcome it with persistence. There are lots of guides and stories in this sub about busting through LMR. The idea is that you’re responding to her body to gauge if she wants to have sex. That said, there are times when LMR is going to be a flat out “no,” and if it comes to that, it comes to that. Most of the time you can bust through it with relative ease though.
/r/seduction18/08/18 12:51 PM
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Pick things up, and put them down.
/r/seduction18/08/18 12:42 PM
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People don’t value you if you don’t value yourself. Why should we? You’re person who has the most motivation to think you’re valuable. If even you don’t think you’re valuable, how can we? Learn to value yourself, and other will start to value you too. There are tons of ways to do this, and the lessons are only a google search away, “how to learn to value yourself“
/r/seduction14/08/18 11:38 PM
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Not even close to the right sub man. You want something like iPhone, tinder, iOS, etc.
/r/seduction13/08/18 11:27 PM
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You’re like the 46 year old mom who’s been celebrating her 35th birthday for the past 11 years. “It’s still my first 35th, Jerry!” “No it isn’t, Karen! The people at the bakery are going to think I’m a fucking loon if you keep this up”
/r/seduction11/08/18 10:38 PM
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Welcome back! I chuckle every time I see “U.K.” now
/r/seduction11/08/18 09:56 PM
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This is some pre-incel type shit. Looks aren’t everything man. Don’t go down that dark path because it’s a long way back. You can’t use a chat site as your metric; of course that’s about looks. Girls in real life respond to energy, namely positive energy. You’re coming across as pretty lame in this post; no girl is going to want to get with someone who thinks like this. Girls will get with the guy who’s fun, who’s cool, who’s confident in himself because fuck everyone else. Looks certainly help,…
/r/seduction11/08/18 12:07 PM
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One of these is exactly like the other.
/r/seduction08/08/18 12:04 AM
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Ha! I just moved from Charlotte last year. Hell of a city. Good luck out there man.
/r/seduction07/08/18 11:02 PM
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You don’t need to worry. It sounds like things are going well. Keep the texting to a minimum like you’re doing. Texting is bad for relationships because it’s so impersonal. You don’t get closer to someone over texting.
/r/seduction06/08/18 11:47 PM
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You are overthinking this my dude... just approach more dark-haired women.
/r/seduction06/08/18 03:11 AM
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Yes it does lol.
/r/seduction03/08/18 05:55 PM
3

Huh?
/r/seduction02/08/18 10:06 PM
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She isn’t interested bro. You’re willing to put up with a woman who disrespected you by waiting a month to hit you back up? You’re better than that man
/r/seduction01/08/18 07:28 PM
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A high value man doesn’t feed his ego in the first place. He doesn’t have an ego that’s waxes and wanes based on the women he’s with. That’s also not why women like bad boys. Bad boys are attractive because they’re exciting and exude confidence. You never know what he’s going to do next, and it’s usually pretty fun and exciting shit.
/r/seduction01/08/18 06:47 PM
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Doesn’t seem like you screwed up. Seems like she just isn’t interested in you. I’d move on to other girls
/r/seduction01/08/18 02:21 PM
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LOL can we make a /r/whereispepper style sub for this guy?? Edit: you can’t get my opinion on your pics.
/r/seduction31/07/18 06:39 PM
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Uhh.. no. You might know one person who is the exception to the rule, but if you don’t have your life together, high quality women aren’t going to fuck with you. Being hot doesn’t automatically mean she’s a high quality woman. You might get lucky and have a couple ONS’s, but that’s about it. The overwhelming majority of high quality women don’t fuck with low quality men.
/r/seduction31/07/18 06:34 PM
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Oh believe me I have seen your weird ass picture posts. I love your trolling
/r/seduction31/07/18 01:58 PM
2

You don’t know that. Leagues are a joke
/r/seduction31/07/18 01:51 PM
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36K isn’t really that much.. she’s a political figure. Of course she has some followers. Why are you so cynical?
/r/seduction31/07/18 12:50 PM
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Here’s the thing, a lot those girls probably make out with 2-3 dudes that night. And even more don’t really have any interest past making out for a bit. If you aren’t pulling her to your place that night, it probably isn’t going to happen
/r/seduction31/07/18 02:17 AM
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Thou doth protest too much
/r/seduction31/07/18 01:27 AM
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How many girls are you falling in love with on vacation
/r/seduction31/07/18 01:19 AM
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Because they’re sexy? Guys like girls with tats too.
/r/seduction30/07/18 11:51 PM
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How the hell are we supposed to help? Edit: you guys don’t even speak the same language. This should work great once you find her.
/r/seduction30/07/18 11:47 PM
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Welcome back. We’ve missed your insecure ass. Did you seek professional psychiatric help between the last time and now?
/r/seduction30/07/18 11:16 PM
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HOLY SHIT HE RETURNS
/r/seduction30/07/18 05:08 PM
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Gotcha. Yeah, then you’re putting her on a pedestal even if you don’t mean to. Exposure therapy is pretty useful here.
/r/seduction27/07/18 04:22 AM
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Damn that’s a lot of words. Can we get a TL;DR?
/r/seduction27/07/18 03:48 AM
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My understanding was that OP basically locks up when he meets a woman who acts confident and aggressive and gives him shit. Sounds to me like one of those I don’t know what to say and just stutter like an idiot kind of things
/r/seduction27/07/18 03:47 AM
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I agree that “hun” is innocent enough. If a girl younger than me said, “hey what’s up kiddo?” I’d probably respond with something like, “How’s it hangin, grandma?” As far as whether you’re friend zoned or not, I don’t think either of these definitively establish whether you are or not
/r/seduction25/07/18 05:19 PM
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Confidence is knowing that there are people who are going to be better than you in every way and being okay with that because you know what you bring to the table. You are completely at peace with what you can and can’t do. When you get in your head and start thinking about every move you make, you create a disconnect, whether that disconnecting from the conversation, from the people, or just from the moment in general. People notice your demeanor change, and it’s felt by everyone. You lose conf…
/r/seduction25/07/18 12:40 PM
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I’m 5’7,” and I don’t really think it’s an issue unless you make it one. It’s in your head man. Sure, I’ve had girls say I’m not tall enough for them. I’ve also had girls say I’m not good looking enough for them, don’t make enough money for them, etc. If that’s how they feel, that’s how they feel. Doesn’t mean every, or even most, girls are that shallow. Sure, more girls probably care about height than a paycheck, but it’s definitely not so many as to make it an issue to overcome. If you’re noti…
/r/seduction25/07/18 04:02 AM
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What’s left other than a date and time? “Cool. Dino’s on Saturday at 3 it is then.”
/r/seduction24/07/18 12:36 PM
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Was this over text, or do you talk like that in real life? “I hesitate to come,” and “as you wish,” just sound too formal. Nice guyish It doesn’t sound confident or assertive at all. It sounds like you’re timid and you’re asking her to ask you out. You know how this could have turned out differently, as soon as that girl put in the group chat that she wanted to go to the show, you reply back to the group, “yeah, me too. Let’s go Claire. Who else is down?” Not standing there practically asking pe…
/r/seduction21/07/18 08:10 PM
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What’s your goal? I don’t really think this is a shit test though
/r/seduction21/07/18 02:48 AM
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Way to go man keep it up! Just goes to show you that most of approach anxiety is all in your head. The more approaches you do, the easier they’ll get.
/r/seduction19/07/18 04:44 PM
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I’m tempted to sign up as an agnostic just for the concentration of Arab women
/r/seduction19/07/18 12:31 PM
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No, they’d be even harder. Do you really think a woman wants to deal with your shit when she had her own kids/has already dealt with kids’ bullshit for 18+ years? If you’re looking for milfs, you’re going to be competing with older men, so you’ll need to act more mature than you would with a woman in her early 20s
/r/seduction18/07/18 04:17 PM
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Yeah, because no one really cares about someone banging 100 girls. Two people getting married is worth celebrating
/r/seduction17/07/18 12:13 AM
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My hands sweat a lot, especially if I’m under a lot of stress. I’m usually holding onto a napkin or something to keep them dryish
/r/seduction17/07/18 12:10 AM
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Eh, I believe the insta/Snapchat is way better than numbers. I don’t even bother with the latter anymore. Building attraction over text is tough if not damn near impossible. It’s waaay easier over snap/insta because they can look at your pictures while also thinking about your message
/r/seduction16/07/18 06:03 PM
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aren’t you an incel?
/r/seduction16/07/18 12:32 PM
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Thanks for the good insight. I’ll work on building that kind of dynamic next time we all hang out
/r/seduction16/07/18 12:27 PM
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Au pairs!
/r/seduction15/07/18 09:46 PM
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She can meet you there. She’s a grown woman. How much rapport did you guys build when you met? If it wasn’t much, go to drinks at halfway decent bar. If you built a decent amount of rapport and already know you’ll get along pretty well, I’d do something active, like go-karts, mini golf, or bowling. The reason I say the bar if you haven’t built much attraction is that the latter activities require a lot more investment. You don’t want to invest that more when things might get shitty. Confirm the …
/r/seduction15/07/18 05:09 PM
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As others have stated, you need to become an attractive person. But I can also tell you’re attaching a lot of your ego to your virginity. Losing your virginity doesn’t make you a man. And being a man doesn’t mean you have to lose your virginity. To be honest, I think you need to center and find yourself before trying to find girls to fuck. The first step in attracting women is not needing women; you are comfortable by yourself, and if a woman wants to come along for the ride, she’s welcome to jo…
/r/seduction15/07/18 04:35 PM
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As others have stated, you need to become an attractive person. But I can also tell you’re attaching a lot of your ego to your virginity. Losing your virginity doesn’t make you a man. And being a man doesn’t mean you have to lose your virginity. To be honest, I think you need to center and find yourself before trying to find girls to fuck. The first step in attracting women is not needing women; you are comfortable by yourself, and if a woman wants to come along for the ride, she’s welcome to jo…
/r/seduction15/07/18 04:33 PM
1

You’re being paranoid if you won’t even say what industry you’re in, but okay. Different jobs have different atmospheres and you can get away with different things.
/r/seduction15/07/18 11:26 AM
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Well, what’s your job? I bartend on weekends, and I flirt with the girls that come in if they seem fun
/r/seduction14/07/18 08:17 PM
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It wrecks my game. I like getting high before bed every night, but I can only talk to people I’m super comfortable with. I just get all in my head and become hyper aware of every move I make and word I say. Being around people I don’t know well sucks when I’m high. Everyone is different though. One of my wings loves getting high before we go out because it relaxes him and puts him in a carefree, chilled out state.
/r/seduction13/07/18 04:39 PM
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Because it triggers them. Who cares what they do?
/r/seduction13/07/18 01:31 PM
1

Nah, OP is a shitbag but damn OC flew off the handle
/r/seduction13/07/18 04:58 AM
1

You’re mixing up terms. Outer game = confidence to approach = inner game = fun and engaging = happiness with people you meet = contented ness with yourself = personality. You see why you’re not getting any answers? This shit is complicated.
/r/seduction12/07/18 08:37 PM
1

Seek professional help
/r/seduction12/07/18 08:29 PM
1

But wait! There’s more!
/r/seduction12/07/18 08:27 PM
1

here ya go
/r/seduction12/07/18 08:22 PM
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Lol and I thought I overthink shit
/r/seduction12/07/18 08:10 PM
6

Damn man. This is good stuff. You should try to figure out the internal combustion engine or portable telephones next
/r/seduction12/07/18 12:02 PM
5

Remindme! 20 years
/r/seduction10/07/18 10:38 PM
4

You’re in a negative feedback loop. In a sense, you’ve conditioned yourself to expect your dick to go soft before sex, so it’s a self-fulfilling prophecy. The best of us go through short spells of this. If you can have sex with someone you’re comfortable with, stop masturbating for a week or so, and try it again. Don’t think about “I hope my dick doesn’t go soft!” Let her blow you, close your eyes, and let her climb on top and ride you. Just think about how great it feels, nothing else. Edit: in…
/r/seduction10/07/18 04:52 PM
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Warm weather is correlated with more sex
/r/seduction10/07/18 12:13 AM
2

You’re taking his advice to the extreme. No one’s saying do something without her consent. The advice is “Don’t give up just because she’s told you she doesn’t want to have sex.” If OP, unites her over, things get heavy, and she ends up wanting him, great for OP. If he gave up because she said it wasn’t gonna happen, he never would have invited her over
/r/seduction08/07/18 08:41 PM
1

It’s really not fair that have to go through that. Send some of your money so we can shoulder the burden together.
/r/seduction08/07/18 10:58 AM
2

She’s scamming you
/r/seduction07/07/18 11:45 PM
8

See, this is where I disagree with a lot of pickup. In my opinion, it’s kind of dickheaded to not think of her schedule too. My go to is, “Let’s grab a drink and talk about [relevant but fun topic]. What’s your schedule look like this weekend?” If she says she free Saturday night, “Cool there’s this place called name in X district I’ve been wanting to check out. 7:00 work for you?” This girl and I were texting earlier today about how she likes bar trivia, but I told her she’d have to try our if …
/r/seduction07/07/18 02:35 AM
0

This right here. Driving an hour or so to game is fine
/r/seduction06/07/18 06:41 PM
31

Sounds like you have some serious insecurity issues... it’s just sex. Everyone does it to some degree or at least wants to do it. If someone’s past is a turnoff for you, then okay that’s your standard, but it’s going to make your sex life a whole lot more difficult. To answer your question, no. I don’t really care what a girl does in the past or even in her free time. Unless we’re in an exclusive relationship, I have no right to say whose dick she can and cannot put in her mouth.
/r/seduction06/07/18 02:07 PM
1

Don’t be afraid to go to sex therapy if you feel the urge. Porn addictions are hard as hell to kick. I’m recovering, as well, and sometimes I fail and end up pulling up gonewild or something. It’s a one day at a time thing. I’ve found that exercising whenever I feel the urge come on helps a lot. I get the dopamine release from exercising, and it takes away the overwhelming need to look at porn
/r/seduction03/07/18 08:03 PM
4

How often do you watch porn to masturbate? It sounds like you’re at the early stages of a pornography addiction. Cut that shit out of your life. It’s really hard, but it’s also necessary. You can (and should) still jerk off a couple times a week, but don’t watch porn; just focus on how good it feels. I’m not going to go into all of the psychology behind it, but chronic pornography use has a significant impact on the fundamental ways the mind processes women and sex.
/r/seduction03/07/18 03:03 PM
2

I really hate to say this when you’re already grieving, but she’s just being a good friend man. Don’t read any more into it other than she just wants to be there for someone who lost a friend.
/r/seduction03/07/18 03:20 AM
1

Bad spells happen. Just like in baseball. Past week it’s been 3 numbers, 2 snapchats, 4 rejections, 2 rejections after getting info, 2 k-closes, 1 f-close. One girl was pretty refreshing. I got her number and she added me on snap. After snapping for a time or two, she texted me saying that she really isn’t interested and felt kind of put on the spot by how quickly I asked for her number. I thought it was nice that she was so forthright instead of just ghosting.
/r/seduction03/07/18 02:27 AM
1

That’s what the search function is for man
/r/seduction03/07/18 02:23 AM
1

1) Not weird. Shows you’re a confident man who knows what he wants. 2) Unequivocally yes.
/r/seduction03/07/18 12:38 AM
3

Uhh... no. This is a bad idea unless you guys are close enough in age that you can pretend you’re friends.
/r/seduction03/07/18 12:37 AM
1

Good luck!
/r/seduction02/07/18 08:25 PM
3

It depends on how you word it. “Wanna come over to watch a movie” is going to be a nonstarter for most girls. But say you were talking about stand up comedy or some shit, you can hit her with a “Hey you checked out John Mulaney’s new Netflix special? Let’s grab a couple pizzas and watch it at my place this Saturday. You game?”
/r/seduction02/07/18 08:06 PM
2

She reached out, so there’s some level of interest there, either from boredom or otherwise, but the logistics pretty much destroy the chances of something happening. Based on what you said, it sounds like her interest dropped when she found out you won’t be around for the summer.
/r/seduction02/07/18 07:41 PM
14

Lol she sounds like a shit person anyway. Nice job approaching!
/r/seduction02/07/18 07:21 PM
3

Girls you just met shit test more than girls you’re dating...
/r/seduction01/07/18 01:09 PM
1

That’s it. More practice. A lot of pickup is dependent upon culture. Most of what you read in geared towards the United States, and it often frustrates people from more reserved cultures. (This is more of an issue with cold approaches, not as big of a problem with clubs/bars.) That’s why it’s so important to remember that nothing you learn/read is set in stone. Game is a recursive and adaptive process; it changes over time and space. If you’re in a new place, you have to adapt your game to suit …
/r/seduction29/06/18 03:19 PM
6

Your other posts say you’re a 25 year old dude.
/r/seduction29/06/18 11:45 AM
3

It‘s hit or miss, but it works similarly to a lot of online dating. You have to look good and put off a fun and sexy vibe with just some pictures. Isn’t too hard if you‘be got a few photographer friends. Check my man /u/simbakr out though https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/8sdl69/how_to_slide_in_dms/?st=JIZ5R7KP&sh=526e2a6f
/r/seduction28/06/18 11:07 PM
3

I don’t think most guys assume that. That’s a foolish thing to assume. Why wouldn’t a guy get violent if he meets a so called woman and it pulls out a dick on him? Because that’s battery, and it’s illegal. Freaking and getting upset, sure. But violence isn’t the answer here. At that point I’d think it’s some sexually deranged serial killer trying to rape and kill me That doesn’t make sense.
/r/seduction28/06/18 04:52 PM
2

That’s what my comment strikes you as? You sure jump to conclusions with very limited information about a person. I said your advice was bad because it is. You’re telling guys to be cautious, to be careful doing what they want. That’s the reason so many guys come this sub are frustrated that the girl they like won’t text them back or said they’d be better off as friends. Yeah, it’s safe and you’ll be sure to not piss a girl off, but it isn’t sexy. It isn’t going to make a girl attracted to you. …
/r/seduction27/06/18 01:12 AM
2

Welcome to the seduction board?
/r/seduction27/06/18 12:43 AM
1

This is not good stuff. “Enforcing the date,” makes no sense as a sentence. Do you mean forcing plans on her? That’s obvious. Or do you mean that you shouldn’t plan the date? If the latter, I completely disagree. The man should be ready to lead and make the plans. It’s about her and what her friends like? No. It’s about you and the girl getting to know each other. Fuck what her friends like; you’re not trying to bang her friends (unless you are). Get to know her before asking her out? Well yeah.…
/r/seduction27/06/18 12:29 AM
6

You sound really insecure, like you’re supposed a girl as attractive as her is with you. Why do you need to tell other guys to back off? Do you think your girl is going to cheat on you or something? Guys are going to hit on and flirt with attractive girls whether they’re in a relationship or not. Telling someone to back off is one thing, but having your girlfriend forward a message to a dude is lame as hell. You can’t let that shit get to you. It comes across as possessive and juvenile. She’s cl…
/r/seduction26/06/18 12:34 PM
3

She sounds like someone who uses texting to tell someone something, not someone who texts just to text. I probably wouldn’t have answered that text either. Not because it was “wrong,” but because it was the natural end of the conversation. Personally, I try to only use texts for some witty banter of 3-4 messages and for logistics. Talking about your day/what you’re doing over text is boring. Mostly because texting takes a lot of effort to explain things, and if someone is doing something m cool,…
/r/seduction26/06/18 03:17 AM
1

They don’t care
/r/seduction26/06/18 12:47 AM
3

He’s trolling. But yeah, you do. Your looks are solid.
/r/seduction26/06/18 12:24 AM
6

Alright, everything I said still applies. Your texts were needy and insecure. And by that same token, if you know she just lays around all day, why would you say “wyd?” You know the answer is “nothing.” If you’re going to text, make it interesting. Make her want to reply.
/r/seduction25/06/18 07:26 PM
5

You’re not being fucked with; you’re confusing her by jumping to conclusions. You sent her a boring text (I’d leave “wyd” on read too. That’s boring af.), she didn’t answer. You double texted her, and she basically said “I don’t feel like texting.” Then you followed up with a suuuuper lame text about dating. First of all, not being a big texter is meaningless. People are busy. High value people don’t have time to just sit around on their phones all day and have smalltalk about what they’re doing…
/r/seduction25/06/18 06:47 PM
4

Here, I used the search function for you. https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/5xg9dd/congruence_and_consistency_the_key_to_attracting/?st=JIQJVJ6D&sh=2e6a66db
/r/seduction22/06/18 10:31 PM
1

Yes, of course it’s possible, but you need to work on yourself and stop blaming your Aspergers for why you don’t get laid. I think we’ve had this conversation before, no?
/r/seduction22/06/18 06:05 PM
1

“That’s a really nice white dress, kind of like La Llorona”
/r/seduction22/06/18 05:42 PM
2

They backed off because you were one step away from basically cat fishing them. Even though you told them who you were, you basically bait and switched them. Like how could you not see that as the main reason they’re not into you? It makes you seem nuts from the girls’ perspectives
/r/seduction22/06/18 12:17 PM
4

Well, if you know you’re not taking her to bed thst night, “I had a great time, let’s do it again. Have a great night.” Kiss if it feels right.
/r/seduction22/06/18 03:19 AM
4

I’m dying from the mental picture of some dude eating your face off. Seriously though, go out with him again. When he starts eating your face off, just pull back and tell him something like, “listen, only two people kiss like that: a medic giving CPR, and the walking dead. Here, let me show you...” Who knows, maybe he dated a girl who like kissing like that (for whatever reason) and hasn’t kissed many people since
/r/seduction22/06/18 03:12 AM
2

You could turn it around on the girl who said that with something like, “you don’t have to call her out just because you’re intimidated by her height” You could agree and amplify with, “Yeah, come over here. Tell me how the weather is up there” You could make eye contact with the “6 feet” girl and say (towards the one telling her to measure herself against you), “Can you believe this girl? She thinks you’re full of shit” There are endless things you could say
/r/seduction22/06/18 02:49 AM
1

The things I wrote above. I absolutely hate the term, but like I said before, agree and amplify is the single best way to deflect those comments that are meant to test your metal and make you stumble over your words. Just have fun with it.
/r/seduction22/06/18 01:49 AM
4

Which also conveys the message that you do care about your height. It goes back to the whole “thou doth protest too much” saying. Basically, the more you say you’re fine with something, the less it appears you’re fine with it.
/r/seduction22/06/18 01:29 AM
1

Ha, that’s a good classic, especially with a little “bring it around town” with the hips. I’ve had a decent amount of practice with the short thing since I’m a 5’7” man who has a thing for long legs lol
/r/seduction21/06/18 08:44 PM
21

It’s a classic shit test. Agree and amplify. Like the other guy said, used to date midgets is a good one. You could say “you think I’m short now? Just wait til I take off my heels,” or “yeah, I’m legally midget. The tax break is pretty fucking sweet.” The point is to go a bit over the top. Trying to justify like you did “it won’t affect me becoming a surgeon,” still paints being short a negative trait, and despite your negative trait you can become a surgeon. Agreeing and amplifying makes it see…
/r/seduction21/06/18 06:28 PM
14

You realize this is normal for almost every attractive girl who interacts with people, right? If she were going to cheat, she’d do it regardless of how many times she gets asked out a day. You’re putting way too much thought into this
/r/seduction21/06/18 11:13 AM
1

Yes. She’s interested. Did you talk to her? You blew a chance if you didn’t
/r/seduction20/06/18 01:28 PM
1

If you’re going to do this, you have to say it in a way that says you already know she likes it. It has to be a statement. If you ask this as a question, it’s going to be lame and insecure as fuck
/r/seduction20/06/18 02:38 AM
2

Check this out man https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/8qul6g/how_to_go_from_a_nice_and_friendly_conversation/?st=JIH08ZYR&sh=a99600f7
/r/seduction16/06/18 06:12 AM
1

Well that was sad
/r/seduction14/06/18 03:00 AM
1

Dude just read the sidebar. This gets asked a hundred times a day
/r/seduction12/06/18 01:19 PM
5

Maybe cut down on the emoticons too
/r/seduction11/06/18 11:00 PM
4

Talk to him like he’s any other guy. Don’t forget that attractive people are just that: regular people with lucky genes. There’s nothing inherently different about them as a person.
/r/seduction11/06/18 10:45 PM
1

Sounds like she has a high school degree. Go for it.
/r/seduction11/06/18 03:08 AM
1

Overthinking it. Not an issue.
/r/seduction11/06/18 03:06 AM
6

Just shoot him a text saying “hey, I’m really flattered, but I don’t think it would work out.” If he’s a halfway normal guy, he’ll get the hint
/r/seduction07/06/18 10:38 PM
3

I would go outside to meet women.
/r/seduction07/06/18 10:25 PM
1

Meeting women in real life. I don’t believe for a second that there aren’t any hot, single women in your town. There might not be as many as somewhere like New York or DC, but they are out there.
/r/seduction06/06/18 02:16 PM
4

Good job man. Next time, build a little rapport before going for a date or number.
/r/seduction04/06/18 07:05 PM
3

Nah, your last message was a natural end to the conversation and wasn’t one that required a response. Ask her to drinks
/r/seduction04/06/18 07:04 PM
38

On to the next approach! You should be glad that she didn’t waste your time with meaningless conversation when she wasn’t interested from the get go!
/r/seduction01/06/18 11:01 PM
2

It really doesn’t mater what you say. If dark humor is your deal, then that’s your deal. Be yourself within reason (e.g., jokes about 9/11? Probably alright. Jokes about rape? Probably not). By worrying about what to say, you’re already overthinking it. I say dumb shit every single day. Anyone who would categorically judge me over it isn’t someone I care to spend my time with. As a general rule, we have a pretty big confirmation bias when it comes to people we know. If we already like someone, w…
/r/seduction01/06/18 10:39 PM
1

I usually go for Snapchat these days. It’s way easier to flirt over Snap than over text since you can use a picture. I wouldn’t say it’s losing popularity. There was a pretty big revolt after the redesign, but they didn’t lose a ton of users. They’ve also changed the design again recently to make it a bit closer to what it was before. (E.g., they separated the stories from be chats again.)
/r/seduction31/05/18 03:54 PM
1

Wait a minute....
/r/seduction31/05/18 12:23 PM
1

You’re overthinking it. I had to cancel twice in a row with my fwb a couple of weeks ago because I needed to study. I didn’t suggest a day because I didn’t know if I’d be free again until finals were over. Give it a few days, and invite him over again.
/r/seduction31/05/18 01:18 AM
5

Because people are shitty? Don’t respond. Just let it go because they aren’t worth your time. If you react, you’ll only satisfy her. Also, don’t be friends with that guy anymore.
/r/seduction31/05/18 01:10 AM
1

I don’t see the problem? You agreed on a time and a place for a date. So what if other guys are texting her? Being better than them in person is all that matters Edit: You don’t need to build attraction over text before you even meet her. Building attraction over text is already an uphill battle, doing it with someone you haven’t met is even harder. Go on the first date and have a good time. If she tells you she has hundreds of matches or guys talking to her, say something like “yeah, I know wha…
/r/seduction30/05/18 12:07 AM
4

You tell her that you’re the kind of gentleman who prefers getting to know someone the old fashioned way: face to face, not over a screen. And that you’re looking forward to your date on X day
/r/seduction29/05/18 11:46 PM
4

This isn’t /r/tinder. Get out of here with that bullshit.
/r/seduction29/05/18 10:18 PM
8

Oh, our bad. We forgot that one isolated incident spoke for an entire group of women.
/r/seduction29/05/18 05:15 PM
5

That’s part of what happens when you’re new at this; you start having the ability to get girls because you’re learning, but your emotions haven’t caught up and learned that you can get girls. Just keep repeating the abundance mindset mantra to yourself, and whenever you feel yourself falling into a needy state, tell yourself that it’s 1 out of millions of girls in your ballpark. This will fade soon enough.
/r/seduction28/05/18 08:41 PM
2

Damn, and I thought I over thought shit....
/r/seduction28/05/18 08:38 PM
4

Improv for sure. Preferably improv acting
/r/seduction27/05/18 10:25 PM
1

This is some voodoo shit right here.
/r/seduction27/05/18 04:50 PM
2

Yeah, they were mocking you bud.
/r/seduction25/05/18 10:45 AM
2

I really err on the side of don’t shit where you eat (I.e. don’t game coworkers), but if you’re going to, at least wait until you’ve been working there for a few weeks. If it’s an internship, your reputation there matters a ton in the future. Head down to the hotel bar. There’ll be plenty of girls there
/r/seduction23/05/18 11:16 PM
1

I’ve never been asked that question over tinder, so I can’t say. I usually say that whenever a girl gives me the “you’re just trying to get in my pants” shit test. It almost always gets her to straight up apologize for being presumptuous or some version of “well you’re a guy aren’t you?” I had one girl tell me “oh nice line. How many fuck ups did it take you to come up with that one, huh?” That girl was fun as hell.
/r/seduction23/05/18 11:12 PM
1

“You really think I’m that easy? Nah you ain’t getting that lucky yet”
/r/seduction23/05/18 10:38 PM
2

Nice man! The first ones the hardest. It gets waaaay easier the more you do. Eventually, if there’s a day when you don’t get rejected, you’ll realize you didn’t go enough hot enough women that day.
/r/seduction21/05/18 11:27 AM
1

Something simple like “hey, looking forward to drinks/putt-putt/ice cream/touring Willy Wonka’s chocolate factory tonight!
/r/seduction21/05/18 11:15 AM
1

Uhh... right.
/r/seduction20/05/18 04:31 PM
1

I’m not sure why you’re going to a club for the very first time alone? There’s nothing wrong with going out alone, but I feel like your first time at a club should be just having fun with friends. I’m a big believer that you need to feel comfortable to be able to run decent game. Maybe you’re the type of person who’s comfortable in any situation, but I think it’d be hard to focus on your game and not the lights/sounds/sticky floors in a club when you’ve never been there before
/r/seduction12/05/18 07:18 PM
1

Yeah I had a similar situation a couple weeks ago. What I did was take her to 2 different places about 15 minutes apart going back towards my house. It was a lot easier to say “let’s go to X, it’s like 10 minutes down the road.” Worked like a charm.
/r/seduction11/05/18 11:37 PM
2

Close. It’s [ this ]-(www.url.com) Take out the spaces and the dash
/r/seduction11/05/18 12:35 PM
4

Yes. This 100%. She is not your obligation. She’s an adult who can take care of herself. If you let this go on now, it will only get worse and more severe
/r/seduction11/05/18 06:24 AM
10

That’s fucking rape.
/r/seduction10/05/18 02:55 AM
19

This is great stuff man. Thanks for taking the time to write and post this
/r/seduction10/05/18 01:51 AM
2

Eh, I don’t really agree. I’m 23 and date girls around my age. I hate texting and tell them upfront that texting is just not my thing and I mostly just use it for communicating plans. I’ll respond if they text me, but if they try to start s conversation, I’ll say we should save and talk about this in person, and I’ll transition into setting up a date and depending on what the topic was, maybe write it down to bring it up during the date. They’re usually fine with it. Maybe it’d be different if I…
/r/seduction09/05/18 07:19 PM
1

That is absolutely what the core of most of this advice is with a little bit of social psychology thrown into the mix. The rest of the advice are just tools and methods to get there.
/r/seduction09/05/18 04:19 PM
2

And what other conclusion can I draw from this than Im physically unattractive? Nah man. The other conclusion is that you’re emotionally unattractive. People want to be around positive energy. That’s one of those things that you can’t fake. You can’t “put on positivity.” It’s either there or it isn’t. If you aren’t comfortable with yourself, you aren’t going to be able to have that genuineness that’s necessary for positivity. When it comes to cold approaching, it’s all wanting to talk to someone…
/r/seduction09/05/18 04:13 PM
6

relatively ugly black dude Sounds like you have a frame of mind issue. Why would you tell yourself you’re ugly? That lack of self-confidence likely shows when you’re talking to girls. (Even if you say you don’t let it show, I can almost guarantee you that it does.) It takes a certain level (albeit low) of trust to give a stranger your phone number. If a girl gets the sense that you’re not confident/comfortable in yourself, she’ll probably get the sense (likely subconsciously) that you’re despera…
/r/seduction09/05/18 04:00 PM
2

This.. is not ideal, but you already know that. Do you have her Snapchat? If you do, I’d send her a snap of something funny/related to your past conversation/something you know she’s interested in, etc. Don’t have full-on conversations but keep yourself within her thoughts. If you don’t have her Snapchat, I’d ask her for it via text. If she doesn’t have one, you can do the same thing maybe once a week or 2 weeks. Keep the conversations light/fun. Once they start moving towards something mundane1…
/r/seduction09/05/18 02:41 PM
2

Do not bring it up. Act like it never happened. I repeat. Do not bring it up. On the slim chance she brings it up, just play it cool. “Oh yeah, I’m heading to X bar on Y day to watch Z game.” Don’t ask her to come with you. Just say you’re going and leave it at that.
/r/seduction09/05/18 05:42 AM
1

Well I know what I’m trying next semester
/r/seduction09/05/18 02:06 AM
3

If she offered another time, she’s at least somewhat interested in going out. As far as the time between responses goes, I don’t know whether she’s in school or not, but it’s finals time right around now. I know I’ve been taking hours and hours to respond to people because I leave my phone in my room/in my car so I’m not tempted to mess with it
/r/seduction09/05/18 01:17 AM
10

100% this. Working out will also boost your testosterone. Combining the two is a lethal combination
/r/seduction08/05/18 10:41 PM
1

Lol that’s corny as hell. Just wait til she responds. Everyone’s different, but I only check Tinder once every day or two
/r/seduction08/05/18 01:00 PM
4

Can we get this guy to narrate every pickup tips video?
/r/seduction08/05/18 12:15 PM
1

She’s messing with you. She wanted to ask those questions but didn’t want to seem too interested. If you haven’t replied to the message yet, you could say something like “your friend sounds pretty cool give her my number”
/r/seduction08/05/18 01:34 AM
2

You write like you’re 16.
/r/seduction07/05/18 10:05 PM
6

Don’t sweat it, man. Remember, you are a guy who has things going on, and dates aren’t a big deal for you. You’re looking forward to getting to know her, nothing more. There’s no need for any major interaction between now and then. If you pass her in the hall or bump into her while leaving class, say hi, be friendly, but don’t linger there. You’re a friendly, confident, out-going guy, but you don’t need anything. You’re looking forward to the date, but that’s it. If you have her number, send her…
/r/seduction07/05/18 02:31 PM
1

It’s tough to do. One thing that helped me when I was starting out was to talk to everyone. Strangers on bus, old people at the coffee shop, dude’s waiting for the metro, women at the library, cashiers at the grocery. Everyone I found myself next to, I’d strike up a conversation with. Most people were receptive (especially the older folks), and it improved my conversation and improv skills immensely.
/r/seduction07/05/18 02:15 PM
1

Sure thing man. Hope you’re feeling a bit better this week.
/r/seduction07/05/18 05:00 AM
1

I feel you. Always fun trying different shit
/r/seduction06/05/18 09:16 PM
2

Yeah, there’s way more than 2. The vast majority get removed within minutes. He’s just trolling at this point lol
/r/seduction06/05/18 09:03 PM
3

Sidebar.
/r/seduction06/05/18 06:29 PM
5

Dont delve too deep into pickup research, just have a strong idea of daygame and nightgame basics and go out and employ them. The worst you can do is sit around reading all the theory and not applying it. This is some of the best advice here. If you dive too deeply into pickup tactics without applying any of it, you’ll get stuck in your head. Talking to women (and people in general) isn’t a mechanical process that can be learned in a book. It’s an evolving, discursive process that will change wi…
/r/seduction06/05/18 04:52 PM
4

/r/MaleFashionAdvice /r/MaleHairAdvice /r/MaleGrooming /r/Fragrance /r/MaleLifestyle
/r/seduction06/05/18 04:44 PM
2

Can we get a TL;DW?
/r/seduction06/05/18 01:50 PM
1

I’ve been giving this a shot lately. Open, talk for a few minutes, ask her name, she gets confused and excitedly asks whether I’m going to tell her mine. I’ve also been trying responding to the name question with “what kind of a name do you think I look like?” with varying results.
/r/seduction06/05/18 01:30 PM
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It really doesn’t matter what you say. It matters that you say it boldly and confidently. For example, I opened a girl the other day by saying her dress looked awesome with that handbag. She said thanks, and I asked her “Do you think it comes in a size 6? I’m trying to expand my wardrobe.” Like come on that’s weird as shit, but I said it confidently and with a smirk on my face. There’s also the indirect openers where you ask whether she knows if there are any X places around here and then transi…
/r/seduction06/05/18 01:26 PM
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Oh shoot I remember this. Thanks for the update. But uhh.. sounds like she wants you to come over? You’ve already built a halfway decent rapport over going to Dunkin for the past 2 weeks I guess the serial killer thing is always a possibility, but hey, maybe you’re a stud.
/r/seduction06/05/18 01:15 PM
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Do you have a fear of coming across as creepy? That seems to be a common cause of AA in public places. It’s definitely possible for some guys to come across as a creep, but if you’ve been having success with women in other parts of your life, the chances of you coming across that way are pretty low.
/r/seduction06/05/18 02:13 AM
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I totally get that. That’s just not how a father is going to look at it. He was young once; he knows what the vast majority of men want. Regardless of what your interests ruins actually are, he’s going to assume the worst
/r/seduction05/05/18 10:45 PM
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I agree that the father/daughter combo is risky and probably a waste of time. You’re a man with a dick, and you’re trying to get his daughter’s phone number. He knows what you want, and he doesn’t like it. The mother/daughter combo is a bit easier but tread carefully. You’ll have to be very good at charming mothers for this to go over well, and you have to make a point to be talking to both of them at the same time, only barely focusing more on the daughter. It’s definitely doable though, but it…
/r/seduction05/05/18 10:42 PM
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Way to go man! That’s great! Next time don’t be afraid to stay in set and go for the number! Practice makes perfect with this stuff. You’ll be there in no time
/r/seduction05/05/18 10:37 PM
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Can we IP ban you, or what?
/r/seduction05/05/18 10:30 PM
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/r/seduction05/05/18 10:15 PM
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Kissing her neck is a really sensual thing, so yes. I wouldn’t kiss down her chest until her clothes are off though. Do the things I said in the second comment before kissing down her chest. Remember, making out is foreplay. Girls love making out, so what feels like “alright.. it’s been 5 minutes of kissing, what now?” isn’t an issue for a girl. Our engines can get started in a few seconds/minutes. Girls take longer, so don’t just rush into using your hands/trying to take off her clothes. Unless…
/r/seduction05/05/18 10:13 PM
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By ignoring them and continuing with your day.
/r/seduction05/05/18 09:01 PM
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Really dude? You’re going to be that guy? You’re better than a Jody. A dude is off fighting for the country, and you’re trying to fuck his wife? Fuck you and your lack of morals.
/r/seduction05/05/18 08:41 PM
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Use your hands. Start by putting your hands in the back of her hair, on her stomach, (why don’t like the inner thigh? That’s a great place), rubbing her back. Read her body language. Move to her butt over her pants. Read body language again. Then to boobs over the shirt. Again, read body language. Move to hands on her stomach under shirt. Then her back under the shirt. Then boobs under the shirt and over the bra. See how she reacts. Does she seem to go with it? Unhook her bra with her shirt stil…
/r/seduction05/05/18 08:29 PM
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Just fucking kiss her. You’re already in her bed. Half the battle’s been won
/r/seduction05/05/18 08:07 PM
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I dunno, man. Sometimes you need a little gas to get the engine started
/r/seduction04/05/18 03:26 PM
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Should probably bring a dog tho
/r/seduction04/05/18 01:59 PM
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I’d probably say “no, it’s a fruit thing,” and then keep on going about what I was saying before
/r/seduction04/05/18 04:14 AM
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I would wait until next shift
/r/seduction03/05/18 05:24 AM
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I totally agree. Increasing your value will absolutely make you more attractive to both women and people in general. That said, I think this post still represents a lot of what's wrong with "dating advice" and the reason why guys vent that "the advice I'm getting isn't working." It tells you the "what," but it doesn't explain the "how." It's easy to tell someone you need to "increase your value," "be confident in approaching women," "don't act needy," etc. After the advice is given, veterans pra…
/r/seduction02/05/18 11:08 PM
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I’m not even going to entertain that question because 1) you clearly don’t care enough to follow the rules of this sub, so why should I reward that? and 2) You’ve gotten your answers. Look at the comments on your endless amount of alternate accounts.
/r/seduction02/05/18 10:40 PM
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Dude. Just stop. You post this shit every few days, and we’ve told you this isn’t the subreddit for that. You’ve gotten your answers. Move the fuck on. Edit: and get a better camera.
/r/seduction02/05/18 10:32 PM
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And here I was thinking I overanalyzed shit...
/r/seduction02/05/18 10:12 PM
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It’s kind of hard to quantify because I already made sure I was in a positive state before cold approaching. I suppose the two biggest things I noticed were 1) I just felt happier. Smiling more has a positive cognitive effect, and 2) I noticed girls were more willing to make pre-approach eye contact with me. One of my cornier moves hey I heard from someone else is that if a girl and I make smiling eye contact, I’ll give her a cheesy-ass wave. If she waves back (she usually does), I waste no time…
/r/seduction02/05/18 09:08 PM
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Uhh.. have you ever met this person?
/r/seduction02/05/18 08:51 PM
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Yes! I used to (and still occasionally do) have a resting depressed face. I just try to keep a smile on my face when I’m out/approaching. It took a lot of conscious effort at first and my face would get tired from smiling so much. It’s pretty much natural now! That said, if I’m just riding the metro after school or work, I’ll probably go back to RDF because it represents my current emotion.
/r/seduction02/05/18 08:50 PM
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Honestly, I’m not sure. Smiling has a different connotation in Eastern Europe, such as conveying that the person isn’t trustworthy. I don’t have experience with game in E. Europe, so I don’t think I’m in a position to offer advice.
/r/seduction02/05/18 08:23 PM
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Yes. Absolutely. Why does anyone think this would be beneficial? Unless she works somewhere like Walmart or the grocery store, that’s some stalker shit. Even if she does work at a place like Walmart, it’s still creepy as hell if you try seeking out her register, etc.
/r/seduction02/05/18 05:57 PM
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trying to fill a void within myself with the idea of something with someone else who I essentially blew it with. I’ll be the third person here to sign onto this, OP. After getting out of a 4-year relationship, I tried to jump right back into dating. I met a girl who I clicked with and tried to use her to fill the girlfriend void in my life. It ended terribly because I tried to basically treat her like my girlfriend after 2 dates. I was a little puppy and smothered her. She’s a woman with options…
/r/seduction02/05/18 05:40 PM
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Lmao what does she expect? Great sex for a guy’s first time? Get real. You get over oneitis by 1) meeting more women by destroying approach anxiety and doing approaches, 2) getting more hobbies to keep yourself busy, and 3) spending plenty of time around people and with friends.
/r/seduction02/05/18 05:26 PM
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Do you happen to live in Eastern Europe or Asia? If you’re in the States, it’s, for the vast majority of the country, a smiling-to-show-interest culture. If you make eye contact and smile, and she does nothing, she either 1) wasn’t making eye contact, or (more likely), isn’t interested.
/r/seduction02/05/18 05:23 PM
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If she’s hot and down to be your wing, more attractive.
/r/seduction02/05/18 05:30 AM
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I’d probably say something like, “I agree. You’re gonna have to step your game up”
/r/seduction02/05/18 03:21 AM
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At least until tomorrow. Maybe her phone died? Maybe she went out with friends? It's finals time, so maybe she's studying? A few hours is nothing. People have lives and get busy. If was into you at the restaurant, trust yourself that you built enough attraction to continue. Just don't double text her. It's needy and annoying. If she gets back to you, just wait it out for awhile before answering her. If it's late at night, just wait until tomorrow. Make your moves towards setting up a date instea…
/r/seduction02/05/18 12:14 AM
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Thanks for being frank, man. It's refreshing. The only thing I'm not totally clear on is how she was acting more dominant than me. Could you elaborate? Quoting from the last conversation that I didn't end up deleting: "Hey, Looking forward to tomorrow. I'll head over to pick you up about 7:30." "Hey, I'm super swamped right now with school and personal stuff. And the [home country] stuff is really getting to me so I think I'm gonna bail. I'm sorry. I'm not really in a good place with time right …
/r/seduction01/05/18 11:27 PM
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Have fun! Don’t forget kino.
/r/seduction01/05/18 07:48 PM
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Sorry if you're the one who made this video, but I don't think it's particularly helpful and might even be damaging to a lot of guys who are brand new to game. Frankly, a lot of these are either 1) basic common sense (e.g., deodorant, really?), 2) not something you can change, or 3) not descriptive of what's actually attractive. A wedding ring I'm not sure where you got this one, but I'd have to disagree. There's a difference between 1) passing the "Do you have a girlfriend" shit test, and 2) co…
/r/seduction01/05/18 07:12 PM
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Like Kenic said, set up a date for a couple days from now (around 2-3 days if possible) for some sort of fun activity, something like mini golf, go-karts, ice skating, etc. Send her a text saying something like "Hey! I think we can both agree that needs to happen again. What're you up to this weekend? I've been wanting to check this [go kart track/putt putt course/ice skating rink/etc.] for awhile now" Just let the date take its natural course. It sounds like you two had a good time, so the seco…
/r/seduction01/05/18 05:58 PM
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You’ll have a lot of blondes in any area, but dark hair is just statistically more common than other hair colors. Certain people are attracted to certain hair colors, but it doesn’t work the other way around. Certain hair colors aren’t categorically attracted to certain people.
/r/seduction01/05/18 03:14 PM
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Yes. It sounds like things are going well. Stay the course. She might not be looking for a boyfriend, and if that’s the case, enjoy dating her while also dating around. It sounds like she’s doing the same thing. If she changes her mind and things are going well, she’ll bring it up.
/r/seduction01/05/18 03:07 PM
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Hey, man. I really appreciate this. You’re always one to get folks around here to take a step back and look at things from a different perspective. You’re right about this not being the first time this has come up, and figuring out what I actually want is something I’m going to have to figure out for myself. One bit in particular is that my competitive nature has a tendency to get me wrapped up in something I can’t have. Sometimes perseverance is good, but only if it’s for the right reason, such…
/r/seduction01/05/18 03:04 PM
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from 209 lbs now sitting at 180 Great job on the weight loss so far. I know you're still working on it, but 29 lbs is a fantastic start, and I'm sure you've noticed your self confidence improve already. We already hang out just the two of us together but she only thinks it as a friendly hangout. You need to go out with her under the pretense of a date. my friends said that she already knows about it. In my opinion, it's generally a good sign if she knows and hasn't started acting weird of stando…
/r/seduction01/05/18 02:44 PM
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Either. If I’m with others, I’ll give them a heads-up that I’m trying something risky to make sure they’re on board. Nothing’s worse than having a wing who fucks up a set when you actually want a specific girl
/r/seduction01/05/18 12:19 PM
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Damn, man, that’s gold. I am totally using that.
/r/seduction01/05/18 05:35 AM
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I get where you’re coming from man. Really, I do, but what are you going to do when he dismisses your advance? Keep yelling until he gets pissed off again and threatens to even call the cops if you don’t leave? Nothing good is going to come of it. He got under your skin because he embarrassed and emasculated you. It happens, but you are secure enough in yourself to know that one interaction with an asshole bouncer doesn’t mean you’re less of a man. It means he’s an asshole; nothing else to it. Y…
/r/seduction01/05/18 05:11 AM
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I think I'm gonna go beat the shit out of him I get why you would want to do this, but for what end? To teach him a lesson at the risk of criminal and (possibly) civil battery liability? Even if she was into you (which I really don't think she was because that is a quintessential shit test phrase, but you were there, and I wasn't, so what do I know?), it's one girl. She waited in line and had a stamp. You didn't. Even if she was begging the bouncer to let you in, he had no obligation to do so. B…
/r/seduction01/05/18 04:54 AM
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Honestly, I'd forget about the whole bouncer thing. Yes, he overreacted. Yes, it was absolutely uncalled for, but like I said, it was outside of a club where most people are drunk. It's going to be your word against the bouncer's who people see every night and likely trust. Nevertheless, there's a few relevant points here: 1) Dwelling on it is just going to cause more frustration and anger than it's worth. He was a dick. People are dicks. 2) Confronting him isn't going to solve anything. He's go…
/r/seduction01/05/18 04:43 AM
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Sorry you had a bad night man. Sometimes your game is just off, and when it is, there's no shame in calling it a night early. You'll do better next time. This isn't part of your post, but that bouncer definitely overreacted. Battering someone (especially a sober someone) for standing outside the door of a club and then hitting them again after the confrontation is over is uncalled for, and if this were a different situation (i.e., not in front of a club where most people are wasted), I'd say to …
/r/seduction01/05/18 04:24 AM
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Give it a day or two before calling her. You can do what Flakey suggested, but it could come off a bit standoffish via text. Based on your post, I'm guessing you two didn't talk about going out prior to getting her number. If that's the case, I'd start with something like "Hey, Tori, this is Bozo. It was fun talking to you Monday let's do it again. What're you doing this weekend?" Send that message and then send another message with " I could probably do something Friday, but I'm free Saturday"
/r/seduction01/05/18 04:12 AM
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I suppose one possible explanation is that dark hair is overwhelmingly more common than other hair colors. I'm not sure what the breakdown actually is, but it might just be a numbers thing. There are just more dark haired women than light haired, so statistically, more dark haired women will be into than light haired because there are just more of them out there.
/r/seduction01/05/18 03:44 AM
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qt3.14 Ah, yes. I remember 2005. All jokes aside, take it in steps. Start with "hi," like you said. Do that for a couple days. Move to compliments without an ulterior motive for a bit. Then try to transition those compliments into conversations once you're comfortable with the former. Check out the sidebar for a more in-depth discussion for how to slowly progress your game and defeat AA. All in all, just remember that the absolute worst thing that could happen is she rejects you and you move ont…
/r/seduction01/05/18 03:04 AM
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Working out is one of the best ways for men to naturally increase their testosterone levels.
/r/seduction01/05/18 02:03 AM
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I have to disagree. I haven't specifically tried the dating/single meetups, but I've met some awesome people by going to wine/whiskey tasting and trivia night meet ups.
/r/seduction01/05/18 01:33 AM
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Sadly, I've already graduated and moved for grad school, but yes. A small part of me feels like I wasted my time in Mo'town by being in a relationship all four years.
/r/seduction01/05/18 12:52 AM
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Damn, man. Recyclable always hits it right on the money with these kinds of things. If he isn't, that guy really needs to be a life coach. You're totally right though. Keeping your expectations in check and not getting invested early on are crucial to succeeding in this arena.
/r/seduction01/05/18 12:02 AM
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Here's a post I just wrote up about something I'm dealing with. https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/8g3k1z/it_happened_i_caught_oneitis_and_now_im_kicking/ This is probably going to hurt, but she's probably fucking a few other guys. It's a lot easier to avoid feels when you have abundance. When one girl/one guy (attractive girls always have multiple guys at the ready. It's just the natural pecking order) is your only option, it's way too easy to get attached. Get out there and meet more …
/r/seduction30/04/18 11:42 PM
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Agreed. I finally got over the learning curve of this game, so now I’m working on the parts of myself that need work, namely 1) getting too emotionally involved in one girl (I think this is mostly because I jumped into game about 6 months ago right after a 4 year relationship), which I’m dealing with by being comfortable being single and learning to juggle abundance, and 2) feeling guilty about seeing multiple people, which I’m dealing by realizing most girls are doing the exact. same. thing. Bu…
/r/seduction30/04/18 11:34 PM
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Sounds like she wants to hook up every once in awhile while seeing other people. So, I’d keep doing that unless you think you’re catching feelings for the girl. If the latter, I’d walk away before you get wrapped up and start acting needy.
/r/seduction30/04/18 11:11 PM
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https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=V3Z4Nq0OrrM&feature=youtu.be Here’s one video about the rapid escalation technique. It’s a bit of a watch at nearly an hour, but I’d highly recommend it. Essentially, Liam lays out how to signal to a girl that you plan to have sex with her without being crass. It doesn’t specifically cover how to ask out on dates, but there’s no reason that couldn’t be incorporated into the technique.
/r/seduction30/04/18 10:00 PM
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Good idea! I’ll keep that in mind next time
/r/seduction30/04/18 09:32 PM
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In a sense, yeah, but ideally you’ll approach every interaction with a masculine frame.
/r/seduction30/04/18 09:07 PM
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There are so many different means to an end, and what works for one person isn’t going to work for another. Likewise, what will work in one situation won’t work in another. That’s why you hear the words “calibration” and “numbers game” thrown around here so often. You have to calibrate yourself to a certain situation and be able to adapt the change in circumstances/a different girl’s personality. If there were a mechanical process that worked in every situation, everyone would do this stuff. But…
/r/seduction30/04/18 09:00 PM
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He’s not?
/r/seduction30/04/18 08:53 PM
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I get what you’re saying, but that’s why I love this game so much. So much of game involves pushing limits to see what you can get away with. When you went to far, remember it and adjust next time. When I first started out, I tried to be as absolutely polarizing as possible to see what happened. When I went full asshole, got a few drinks thrown in my face. When I went full on nice guy, it was mostly uninterested, boring conversation. Now I’ve reigned it in to what’s most effective for my persona…
/r/seduction30/04/18 08:33 PM
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I’m not sure what you’re asking? Are you asking whether there are seduction techniques that support making sure a woman is explicitly okay with kino before moving forward? If so, the answer is no because that defeats the purpose. As another person said, seduction is the art of pulling a girl into your realm, not pushing her to something she’s uncomfortable with. You’re getting her used to you touching her, getting her comfortable to being around you. That’s a lot different than sexually assaulti…
/r/seduction30/04/18 08:14 PM
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This is the Ben Franklin effect, but it doesn’t quite fit here. The premise of the Ben Franklin effect is that by asking someone a favor, you make that person feel important, valuable. “Oh, this person needs my help? That means I must be able to do something well.” For example, if I ask a classmate to explain a concept from the class, that person is going to be friendlier to me in the future because I’ve validated their abilities. It takes a certain amount of skill and effort to explain a diffic…
/r/seduction30/04/18 07:44 PM
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Don't you guys flip UVA's hamburgers on game days?
/r/seduction30/04/18 06:51 PM
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How old are you?
/r/seduction30/04/18 05:13 PM
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The whole point of the question is that if you buy her a drink, she most likely isn’t going to sleep with you.
/r/seduction30/04/18 04:57 PM
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Girls are subtle. They aren’t going to yell out “oh jolly good! That feels great now let me do you.” No, a girl’s body language is going to be much more subtle than that. If she doesn’t like it, she might shift awkwardly when you touch. Back off a bit and try again later. Or, she might shift closer to you. That’s receptive. The best kino advice I’ve ever heard is to touch her like she’s already your girlfriend as you’re talking to her. Is she wearing a ring? Grab and “inspect” her hand. Ask her …
/r/seduction30/04/18 04:37 PM
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We all went to West Virginia lol
/r/seduction30/04/18 04:18 PM
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You don’t want to offend her? Why do you care what she thinks? Yeah, she’s a model; so are millions of other girls. If she’s pitching a pyramid scheme, call her out on it. Show her that you don’t care about offending her just because her looks are above average. She’s used to guys doing what she wants and agreeing with her. Giving her shit will drive her wild because she’ll wonder why you don’t just bend over backwards to make her happy. “Here’s my bs pyramid scheme bit” “You’ve got to be kiddin…
/r/seduction30/04/18 03:52 PM
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You mean a girl who shit tests? Because no one would ever get laid if that was their mentality.
/r/seduction30/04/18 03:28 PM
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You could do a couple things. If you’re just approaching at a bar, you could carry a glass of coke. No one is going to care what’s in the glass. If you’re going on a date with a girl, there are a couple of options. 1) Tell the waiter that you’re going to order “drinks” but to only serve you plain sodas/non-alcoholic beer. 2) You could also use an excuse that you’re working on a body cleanse right now. 3) If you actually want to date this person instead of just have sex once in awhile, I’d be hon…
/r/seduction30/04/18 03:25 PM
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Check out the sidebar
/r/seduction30/04/18 03:10 PM
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Nah, that’s her telling you she’s not interested. Hard to get is a type of flirting. Being flakey isn’t flirting.
/r/seduction30/04/18 03:08 PM
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That’s definitely a way to do it to keep the conversation going a bit smoother
/r/seduction30/04/18 02:51 PM
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The thing about a shit test is that most girls don’t consciously shit test a guy. It’s a subconscious way that they test s guy’s mettle. What I mean is that the shit test often is just a question, but it’s a loaded question designed to put you on your toes. The vast majority of girls (and guys too) don’t even realize they’re shit testing someone. It’s something that happens naturally to help determine the pecking order of the pack. So what about when a girl just wants to know a simple, straight …
/r/seduction30/04/18 02:19 PM
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It’s on you to divert the conversation. In your body count example, after she you use the whole “I’m a virgin” bit, you turn the question back around on her and then move on. For example, So how many girls have you slept with? Just today or this whole week? Haha no really I’m actually a virgin. You’re the first girl’s hand I’ve ever held Hahaha no I mean it Why am I getting interrogated here? How many guys have you slept with? She’ll probably push back and refuse to answer. You can either keep g…
/r/seduction30/04/18 01:35 PM
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Hey, if it makes you feel any better, you still had sex at the end of the day. Most guys can’t even get that far
/r/seduction30/04/18 01:24 PM
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It’s important to avoid “interviewing” her here though. For example, if you want to go the sexy route, Watch football Oh yeah? Not many girls are into football Well I’m not most girls Prove it then. Who’s your favorite player? Say this slow with a sly grin on your face. If you want to go for the more casual conversation, Watch football What? There’s no way a girl like you is into football. Who’s your favorite team? Her response could be either I’m a [mainstream] team fan To which you could reply…
/r/seduction30/04/18 06:12 AM
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I’m not totally sure what you’re asking, but if it’s about being committed to the game and getting her home, stop watching porn and stop masturbating until you have to.1 Porn is such a motivation killer. Why should you put effort into banging a 7/10 when you can effortlessly watch a 10/10 doing things that no human should ever do. I cannot express how much better my game got when I cut that shit out of my life2 . By limiting myself to only seeing a naked woman when I’ve gotten her myself, it’s 1…
/r/seduction30/04/18 03:51 AM
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No, YOU are awesome!
/r/seduction30/04/18 03:36 AM
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You know, that really isn’t a bad idea. Truthfully, I think she said that as a way to say she would have come home with me if it really wasn’t for her roommate. I think that’s he case because [neighborhood] is really just a DC suburb with absolutely nothing special about it other than some houses. I took Kenic’s advice though, and we’re going go-kart racing on Friday. The logistics won’t be perfect because the closest karting place is about 35 minutes from my house. My plan is to go to a bar tha…
/r/seduction30/04/18 03:33 AM
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Glad to hear it man!
/r/seduction30/04/18 01:01 AM
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I understand where she’s coming from. I recently had to end a significant relationship in which we were talking about marriage. It crushed her, and we’re both still grieving over the relationship. (As a side note, you’re allowed to mourn/feel hurt too even though you’re the one who ended the relationship.) The key thing to focus on is that by doing this soon, you’re giving her the opportunity to find someone else. The longer she stays in a doomed relationship, the more time she’s wasting. That s…
/r/seduction30/04/18 12:27 AM
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In what way? None of us are seeing what you’re seeing
/r/seduction30/04/18 12:14 AM
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I think your relationship has run its course. The first part of a relationship is the hot, heavy, and lustful phase called the “honeymoon period.” This is where you’re both wild about each other. You can’t see enough of the other person, and all you want to do is think about ripping their clothes off 24/7. In a few months, that phase starts to die down. You get used to each other. The other person is no longer new and novel. It isn’t as exciting. This is where you find out whether you and the ot…
/r/seduction30/04/18 12:09 AM
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Like I said in the OP, logistics weren’t on my list of priorities because this was just supposed to be a boys night out
/r/seduction29/04/18 06:14 PM
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Nah, I’m an American, and this was in DC. She was Brazilian though going to school in the States. That said, I do have a tendency to speak with an accent when talking to non-native English speakers. Not sure why I do it. Just happens.
/r/seduction29/04/18 05:49 PM
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Yeah, I think you’re right. In retrospect, I was so focused on building the attraction and sexual tension that I didn’t pay enough attention to what she was really worried about, her roommate. I also think I was so far in the zone that I was convinced I could build the attraction so high that she wouldn’t care anymore. This was a pretty amateurish thing to assume, but oh well. Lesson learned. Any thoughts on date ideas? Like I said, I don’t usually play the super assertive take what I want role,…
/r/seduction29/04/18 04:22 PM
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Nice man! I was at that bar crawl too
/r/seduction29/04/18 05:53 AM
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I’d probably go with this too. You don’t need that type of negativity, OP
/r/seduction28/04/18 01:09 PM
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Not over text.
/r/seduction28/04/18 01:08 PM
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chatting by the pool and then Netflix and chill 😊 You messed up by using the phrase “Netflix and chill.” I don’t know if you meant for it to literally translate into “chatting by the pool and then having sex,” but that’s exactly what it means. Something along the lines of “hanging out by pool followed by a nice meal at my place,” would have been much better.
/r/seduction28/04/18 01:19 AM
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Check out the sidebar
/r/seduction27/04/18 12:19 PM
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Good points. You specifically mentioned that it’s important to be both happy and content with yourself but not be a narcissistic douche. In my opinion, being arrogant and cocky is a direct sign that you aren’t content with yourself. Having to project to such a polarizing degree screams insecurity and a need for others to see you the way you wish you could see yourself. On the other hand, a person who is humble doesn’t need to project at all because he is secure in himself and has internalized hi…
/r/seduction26/04/18 08:51 PM
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I honestly just think it needs more mods. It’s pretty much just /r/dating_advice at this point
/r/seduction26/04/18 07:55 PM
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I had this situation just this week! We set the plans on Sunday, and we’re going out tonight. I’m not a big fan of texting, but I’ll usually have one conversation at or around the halfway point if the date is in 4-5 days. During our initial conversation, we both talked about cooking, and I mentioned that I have a science cookbook, which she loved (PhD candidate in biology). On Tuesday night, I sent her a picture from some pages of the book saying “This is exactly what I was talking about. 14 pag…
/r/seduction26/04/18 03:40 PM
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Nothing wrong with a small studio. Just make sure it’s clean and kept. The latter is way more important than the size
/r/seduction26/04/18 01:23 PM
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Why are there only 3 of them for fucks sake
/r/seduction26/04/18 01:01 PM
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Great frame of mind. Love reading your stuff man keep posting.
/r/seduction26/04/18 12:24 PM
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Mario kart. I shit you not girls love Mario kart
/r/seduction26/04/18 01:05 AM
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Way to give it a shot man!
/r/seduction25/04/18 11:25 PM
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It happens to the best of us man. Whether it’s nerves, booze, or you donated blood that day, we’ve all been there. Take it slower next time. Get to know her well, some slow foreplay. Be comfortable with her. You’ll get there just give it another go.
/r/seduction25/04/18 09:30 PM
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You can try to talk to her, but chances are she’s getting paid to be flirty and friendly to everyone.
/r/seduction25/04/18 03:42 PM
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This is a fine text to send. You’re playing it cool while also offering another activity in a way that doesn’t come off as desperate. Like he said, see what she says. If she’s interested in you, she’ll offer a date to reschedule
/r/seduction25/04/18 03:40 PM
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I don’t think it’s fair to characterize it as a 1 in a million chance though. There are plenty of folks who make LDRs work. That said, it seems like OP’s isn’t doing great, so I guess the point is moot
/r/seduction25/04/18 03:10 PM
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LDR do not work, under any circumstances. I don’t think this is correct. It’s anecdotal, but my ex and I did long distance for nearly a year. It was rough, but we got through it. That said, we ended up breaking up a couple years after due to unrelated reasons.
/r/seduction25/04/18 02:10 PM
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Good luck man! Keep us updated!
/r/seduction25/04/18 12:44 PM
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Well, if you guys aren’t exclusive, what’s the issue? If you like her and want to keep dating, then do it. After 5-6 dates, bring up the idea of exclusivity. She’ll either be on board or she won’t be.
/r/seduction25/04/18 11:54 AM
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You ever run into any roadblocks on the way to/back from DC? I’ve been thinking about heading up that way for an Orioles game one weekend but I absolutely can’t stand sitting at checkpoints.. especially with the Nats right here anyway
/r/seduction25/04/18 02:28 AM
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Depends on the city. LA? Charlotte? Yeah you need a car, and it’s a bit weird if you’re an adult without one. DC? NYC? Not so much. It’s normal to not have one.
/r/seduction24/04/18 11:03 PM
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You look about 23. I’d shave that ‘stache though. Edit: I looked through some of your other posts, and honestly man, shave the facial hair and get a business cut. You have great features and bone structure, but the facial hair is killing it. A clean face and business cut will take you a really long way Edit 2: holy fuck you have a similar facial structure to me. That’s uncanny
/r/seduction24/04/18 09:46 PM
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Ah hate to see it. Not a whole lot you can do about that though. Way to go for giving it a shot though
/r/seduction24/04/18 06:59 PM
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It just takes practice. The 3 second rule usually applies. If you see a girl you want to approach, give yourself 3 seconds to do it. It’s tough because you’ll be wondering “well how can I come up with something to say in 3 seconds??” This just takes practice. Just pick something specific1 out about her and say it. Have a few generic openers in your back pocket in case you can’t come up with something. All in all, the more you do it, the faster your brain will work. It’s like conversation, it tak…
/r/seduction24/04/18 05:39 PM
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Way to go, man! Going straight for the number takes balls! Maybe give a bit of conversation a shot next time, but you’re on the right track! Approach, approach, approach. Practice makes perfect
/r/seduction24/04/18 03:40 PM
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Is this a specific girl or just in general?
/r/seduction24/04/18 05:16 AM
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Sure thing. In general, I would say dating is more about being yourself and less about using the tricks or games talked about on here. If you want to take things slow, take them slow. If you want to text her after a couple of days, do it. The reason is that the advice here is about seducing so that she’ll lust over you. An exclusive relationship is one in which you see each multiple times a week; you enjoy being in each others company for the sake of being together; you do silly and cute things …
/r/seduction24/04/18 05:02 AM
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There’s /r/dating and /r/dating_advice !
/r/seduction24/04/18 04:38 AM
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That’s because seddit isn’t about getting girlfriends. Seddit is about having sex with lots of women. That’s why you hear things like “abundance mindset.” A lot of people come to seddit with questions about girls they’d like to make their girlfriends, and were happy to help, but that isn’t what the sub is really about.
/r/seduction24/04/18 04:06 AM
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A glass barrier? Huh. That’s odd outside of convenience stores and banks. I still think you need to be a bit more flirty than just “I’m X.” Like I said, if I were in your shoes. I’d say something along the lines of “you know, you’re always making fun of my ice cream order, but I don’t even know your name.” I really think you’re overthinking this man. She’s into you. If she’s already busy getting your ice cream and ringing you up, she’s free to talk. It doesn’t become burdensome until other custo…
/r/seduction24/04/18 12:58 AM
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Fair enough
/r/seduction23/04/18 09:47 PM
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This is good stuff.
/r/seduction23/04/18 09:32 PM
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No one on Seddit says you have to have money or 11% BF to get women, and if they do, they get downvoted to infinity and beyond. Edit; clarity.
/r/seduction23/04/18 09:09 PM
2

Amazon has some awesome deals. I forget how much exactly, but I think I bought a 100 pack for something like $30
/r/seduction23/04/18 03:21 PM
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Nah, you didn’t mess up. She’s just not interested.
/r/seduction23/04/18 02:45 PM
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Gotta buy in bulk man. Ain’t no reason to pay $2 for a love glove
/r/seduction23/04/18 12:08 PM
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I get where you’re coming from. I’d say stick with something like I originally said, but just carry it on naturally as she’s getting your ice cream. Personally, I don’t think anyone would notice the 8 seconds it takes to introduce yourself and shake hands. After that, just say the bit about lunch and number as she’s ringing you up, that way you’re not holding anyone else up in line I agree with you on the tattoo stuff. That’s a great conversation topic. Good on you for noticing things like that
/r/seduction23/04/18 04:15 AM
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Not this again... you keep posting and never ask a question that’s actually meant for this sub. How are we supposed to read some random girl’s mind
/r/seduction22/04/18 11:19 PM
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What?? You’d choose Swiss chocolate over a New York cheesecake?? What kind of a person just eats a piece of chocolate after a good meal
/r/seduction22/04/18 11:01 PM
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What did she say? I think a lot of people (myself included) keep notifications for Tinder turned off. It’s very possible that she didn’t even see the message until now. Give it a couple of hours, and take be conversation normally. I wouldn’t say anything about her taking too long to respond. The last thing you want to convey is that you have so few matches that you notice when one doesn’t message you back
/r/seduction22/04/18 09:57 PM
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Please, enlighten me as to the correct context then
/r/seduction22/04/18 08:25 PM
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I think she’s into you. If I were in your shoes, I’d walk in, stare up at the menu for a few seconds, walk up to the counter, say hey how’s it goin smile etc. If she’s still acting like she was in your OP (flirty, friendly, chatty), I’d say something like “you know, you always make fun of my ice cream order but I feel like we’ve never actually met. I’m Bozo1 .” Extend hand for a shake, “nice to meet to meet you, I’m IceCreamGirl.” While still holding her hand, maintain the eye contact and say “I…
/r/seduction22/04/18 05:45 PM
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There’s a difference between being interested in someone and liking them though. Game is most of it, but you still have to pique their interests.
/r/seduction22/04/18 05:16 PM
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Your post history is.... disturbing. You’re going to have to get rid of that creepy af incel mentality before you’ll ever get a girl to even talk to you, let alone give you head. What is with you people and thinking that women are the problem? You keep posting about how “how did this ugly dude get a hot girl wtf not me.” Because no one wants to be around someone who thinks women are nothing but walking pussies who are out to victimize people because they aren’t fantastic looking. They’re fucking…
/r/seduction22/04/18 05:07 PM
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they're just beta orbiting chodes that have hot girls around them. Or are, you know, friends.
/r/seduction22/04/18 04:07 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/8dz46o/first_time_using_tinder_to_get_a_number_think_it/?st=JGARBEEH&sh=c67d4646 Someone posted this earlier. At least some sort of example
/r/seduction22/04/18 11:56 AM
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Be honest with yourself man. Could you actually be friends with this girl and get over her at the same time? I can’t answer that for you, but for the vast majority of people, the overwhelming answer is “no.”
/r/seduction22/04/18 11:47 AM
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I don’t want to put words in his mouth, but I believe he means that you’re using women as a gauge of yourself. If you’re more successful with women, you think you’re a better person. If you happen to fail with women, you feel less confident, less whole as a person. There are two potential problems that can stem from this sort of thinking. First, if you happen to fall into a dry spell with women, your feeling of self worth might all but disappear. The truth is that you are valuable, not your skil…
/r/seduction22/04/18 07:29 AM
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Ask her on a date. You clearly have a thing for this girl. If you ask her on a date, you have a chance. If you don’t ask her on a date, you don’t have a chance. Take the chance.
/r/seduction22/04/18 07:22 AM
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I don’t think it necessarily is. I think it’s just whatever your style is. I’m kinda of a flirty type of charmer. The other guy might just be more of to the point kind of person. Do whatever you’re comfortable with. It conveys the same message
/r/seduction22/04/18 02:07 AM
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Post it once. Get your answers. We don’t care what you look like and stop using the same title. We’re a friendly bunch here, but you post the same thing 2-3 times a day
/r/seduction22/04/18 01:53 AM
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Dude. Stop posting the same thing over and over again.
/r/seduction22/04/18 12:12 AM
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The fuck? A credit card?
/r/seduction22/04/18 12:12 AM
2

Are you not attracted to your wife or....?
/r/seduction22/04/18 12:11 AM
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Good luck! Let us know how it goes!
/r/seduction21/04/18 10:59 PM
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I agree with Guy. It’s too passive; it almost feels like you’re asking permission. Since you’ve only talked to this girl for a few minutes, I’d say something like “Hey Tori! This is Bozo. Great talking to you the other day let’s do it again. I’m heading to the market this week. You should join me when are you free?”
/r/seduction21/04/18 10:51 PM
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I’m from the US, so my study abroad wasn’t via Erasmus, but the vast majority of exchange students were, so I kind of became an Erasmus by association student. The short answer is yes, there were lots of parties and sex, but it wasn’t just out there on a silver platter. I still had to run some mild game; the difference was there was just less LMR, and girls seemed more open to doing things that implied sex. For example, in the US, when I’m trying to work a girl who’s into me but has a slut shiel…
/r/seduction21/04/18 10:44 PM
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Why do you keep posting from alt accounts? We all know it’s you.
/r/seduction21/04/18 07:52 PM
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To my knowledge, pupil dilation happens to let more light in (either because it’s too dark or the person wants to get a better look at something (e.g., someone they’re attracted to)), and constriction happens whenever the person wants to either focus intently on something (e.g., aggression) or it is simply too bright. Constricting pupils when walking outside is probably just a brightness factor. I’d imagine the girls whose pupils dilate when you talk to them are at least somewhat attracted to yo…
/r/seduction21/04/18 07:35 PM
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Nice work man. Been enjoying your FR’s today.
/r/seduction21/04/18 06:07 AM
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Hey man it’s all good. We’ve all been there. The important thing is to remember that you can do this. Get back out there and give it another go tomorrow. In the meantime, read this post https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/cj3mz/each_time_you_fail_to_act_you_lose_something/
/r/seduction21/04/18 06:01 AM
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Not a major issue here. Call her up. Instead of saying “hey do you still want to go out Saturday,” call her and say “hey, so about our date on Saturday, let’s go to X. Are you free around 6?” This way you’re still taking charge and keeping the reigns in your hands. It sounds like things are going well; don’t sweat this. Since you guys are underage and can’t go to a bar, how about some putt putt? It’s a fun activity that balances entertainment with opportunity to talk, and it’s perfect for gettin…
/r/seduction21/04/18 05:13 AM
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Sidebar. Glossary of terms.
/r/seduction20/04/18 11:50 PM
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I’ll tag onto this too. Fucking a girl I totally have a thing for, but probably won’t stop anytime soon. God damn self-destructive behavior.
/r/seduction20/04/18 11:19 PM
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The move is to not shit where you eat.
/r/seduction20/04/18 11:16 PM
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Eyebrows, too, can’t forget about using your eyebrows. Also, gotta make sure you‘re aware of how her pupils dilate. Are they constricting? No bueno. Dilating? Muy bueno.
/r/seduction20/04/18 11:13 PM
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It’s over. Move on.
/r/seduction20/04/18 11:04 PM
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they're banging, too Holy shit I'm dead
/r/seduction20/04/18 09:21 PM
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You're putting your entire sense of confidence and validation into how much you pull/don't pull. And that's pretty low value. This hits home. It takes so much work and self improvement to get comfortable enough with yourself that you know that you are what has value, not your charm, techniques, and ultimate ability to pull.
/r/seduction20/04/18 09:20 PM
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trying to have meaningful conversations with girls, building comfort This is exactly the right mindset. At the end of the day, you're getting to know someone; you just happen to have a study guide on human psychology and sexuality.
/r/seduction20/04/18 09:05 PM
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Motel/hotel? Holiday Inn
/r/seduction20/04/18 09:01 PM
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100% this. I'll usually even throw in a "just X activity" at the end to reinforce the idea that I'm not just going to sleep with her. Sometimes you'll hit a bit of pseudo-LMR in the form of "hey, I thought we were just going to watch a movie." Easily overcome with a "yeah, looks like you changed your mind."
/r/seduction20/04/18 08:54 PM
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I get where you're coming from. I think people fall into roughly 4 categories when it comes to game: 1) People who just have it naturally, 2) People who are generally good networkers but need a little guidance when it comes to women specifically, 3) People who can hold a decent conversation but don't really understand what makes people tick, and 4) People who just won't ever get it for one reason or another. If you ask me, the vast majority of people fall into category 3. (I think I was like a 2…
/r/seduction20/04/18 08:49 PM
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Ayo! That’s what I like to see! Good work, champ!
/r/seduction20/04/18 08:09 PM
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She offered to reschedule. Most likely that something really did come up. Offer a couple days that you’re free and make something work. Seems interested.
/r/seduction20/04/18 04:46 PM
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Because he couldn’t give her that substantial performance ^(you can just ban me now)
/r/seduction20/04/18 04:32 PM
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Do you keep making the same post with alt accounts? I swear I’ve seen this exact title 4-5 times in the past 2 days. Anyway, no. She’s doing her job. She’s supposed to tell you to dress smartly, look professional, and smell good1 because that’s what you do in job interviews. Someone cracking a joke in your presence doesn’t mean they’re into you 1 Honestly, I recommend against this. Cologne generally isn’t a good thing to wear to an interview. People make subconscious judgments about you based on…
/r/seduction20/04/18 01:26 PM
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You’d get fired for taking 10 seconds? Edit: actually, yeah I can see that happening
/r/seduction20/04/18 01:11 PM
1

This is so wholesome but so true.
/r/seduction20/04/18 04:54 AM
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I’ve been waiting for hours to use this one: Why did the construction contracts break up?
/r/seduction20/04/18 03:54 AM
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Look into one eye, other eye, lips, one eye, other eye, lips, one eye, other eye, lips. http://westsidetoastmasters.com/resources/book_of_body_language/chap8.html It doesn't get any simpler than that article
/r/seduction20/04/18 12:20 AM
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If you're a good talker, my go-to first date is waterfront park with a bottle of wine. Sit in the grass near the water1 , open the bottle smoothly in front of her and drink from the bottle together. It's different, and a little happy water never hurt anything. Kill the bottle in about 1-2 hours if you can while getting closer and instigating light kino. I'll try at some point to get her favorite TV shows or documentaries she's interested in. If things are going well, say something about "hey, th…
/r/seduction19/04/18 11:48 PM
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I disagree. If she didn’t reply to you, she isn’t interested. Dates are very low pressure for a girl. If she’s interested in a dude, she’ll say yes to the date. Why wouldn’t she? If you’ve already shown your hand and she didn’t take you up on it, I doubt any amount of groundwork will change that. I’d still give it a month or so and try again. If you start pestering her, your chances go from 1% to -100%
/r/seduction19/04/18 10:48 PM
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Great tips. The 10 toes thing killed me lmao
/r/seduction19/04/18 10:41 PM
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Damn. Yeah, that’s probably the hardest one. It’s one thing to know it’s happening. It’s another thing to see it happen before your eyes. I agree with the others. You need more girls on rotation. Go out there and meet more women!
/r/seduction19/04/18 10:38 PM
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Wtf $3? What kind of host is she? I wouldn’t waste my time; she seems very immature.
/r/seduction19/04/18 10:35 PM
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Short. Succinct. I like it. Remember boys, online dating is a numbers game. 1 girl out of 30 is still 1.
/r/seduction19/04/18 10:33 PM
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Yeah, I’d encourage her to take it. It doesn’t matter what she says, if she pops a kid out, you’re liable for half his support
/r/seduction19/04/18 10:30 PM
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I err on the side of caution with this stuff. Get the plan b.
/r/seduction19/04/18 10:30 PM
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Give it maybe a month. Call her (call, not text) up and say something like “hey, Tori, how’s it goin?” “Good! What’s up?” “Well it’s been awhile! We had fun last time; let’s do it again! How about some drinks this Friday?“ If she doesn’t answer, just combine the first and last parts and leave a voicemail. If she doesn’t respond to the voicemail, she isn’t interested.
/r/seduction19/04/18 10:28 PM
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Eh.. this is playing with fire and is 100% an “in the moment” type of thing. If it’s been awhile since that conversation, the ship has likely sailed for the time being. Personally, I would have added something like “well there’s a first time for everything, I won’t tell if you won’t 😉.” The only thing I’d be worried about is if she’s ESL, she might miss some of the innuendos, but that doesn’t mean to be overt about “hey, send me nudes.” Whatever you do, don’t just send her a nude photo. Girls, e…
/r/seduction19/04/18 10:15 PM
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Hahaha you're totally right. I wrote that before having my coffee this morning.
/r/seduction19/04/18 09:26 PM
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First things first: Suicide hotline: 1-800-273-8255. Who do you have to talk to about this other than a message board? If you don't, DM me, and I will give you my phone number so that you have at least one person you can talk to without fear of being judged. Alright, taking my seduction hat off for awhile. Here is the thing. What you are going through feels awful, like it will never get better, that the light at the end of the tunnel has been extinguished. You feel like you've hit rock bottom, a…
/r/seduction19/04/18 09:19 PM
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To be fair, my sign is a Scorpio, but like you, don’t put any weight in astrology
/r/seduction19/04/18 08:43 PM
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Good luck! Let us know how everything goes
/r/seduction19/04/18 04:37 PM
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I agree with you 100%. If I’ve learned anything in the last few months (and from this thread/sub in general), it’s that the chase is part of it, but a key part of the chase is building real attraction. Both of those key elements were missing here.
/r/seduction19/04/18 04:36 PM
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Good work! :p
/r/seduction19/04/18 04:29 PM
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Way to step it up man!
/r/seduction19/04/18 04:24 PM
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I do love her and we have talked about doing a threesome so that might get rid of any feelings of missed opportunities. So, I’m not a sex therapist, but that is a baaad idea, and it isn’t going to fix the relationship. Experimenting with FFM or MMF’s is something to do when you’re so comfortable in your relationship and so into each other that it’s nothing but platonic fun with the third person. Using it to get fulfillment is a recipe for disaster because you’re going to want it again. I cringe …
/r/seduction19/04/18 04:15 PM
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First, college isn’t really like that. There are a few guys who get consistently laid, but the vast vast majority are frustrated and get lucky maybe once a month. That said, just based on what you have here, I think it’s time to call it quits. This is quintessential resentment building up. You’re still young, and so is she. If you’re feeling this way now, it isn’t going to go away. This is extreme, but say you guys get married, do you want to feel that resentment for the rest of your life? No. W…
/r/seduction19/04/18 04:01 PM
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This is insightful, and I appreciate the time you put into thinking about and writing this. I mean, you're treading over ground that many have gone over before. Look at guys like Style, who wrote The Game. You’re right to draw a parallel here. This is something that I know I will need to work on before I’m ready to settle down. That said, I’m quite young (23). I spent 4 years in a relationship that was, for better or for worse, comfortable but fairly mundane. I’m not sure how to express this ove…
/r/seduction19/04/18 03:48 PM
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I think it’s part of being young honestly. I’m 23. I spent 4 years dating one girl. Broke things off when I had to move for school. Maybe it’s just something we have to get out our system? I’m sure it’ll get exhausting eventually, which is a sign of being ready to settle down
/r/seduction19/04/18 03:23 PM
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I’ll be honest man, starting conversations over Snapchat has never been my strong suit. I usually just have the phone number already and call her to ask. I think there’s a calling option on Snapchat, but I think it’s a bit unconventional so might come off as a bit odd. Does she post stories? Comment on one of her stories to get the conversation going. Look for something that’s semi relevant to something you talked about, take a picture and send it to her. That said, starting Snapchat conversatio…
/r/seduction19/04/18 02:04 PM
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That’s not the point man. What if things go badly? Friends and girlfriends are completely different. What’s okay with one isn’t okay with the other, and vice-versa. Not all breakups are bad, but the vast majority leave at least a little bit of resentment. Don’t shit where you eat man.
/r/seduction19/04/18 05:08 AM
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Hahaha that’s actually kind of funny. I’d say remove the last part. Why would she discontinue use? Other than that, are you getting a decent amount of matches with it?
/r/seduction19/04/18 04:50 AM
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I get what you mean. If you’re interested in fucking (or dating) this girl, I’d say drinks at a local bar. Somewhere quiet where you can talk. Ask around if you’re unsure of where to go. If you’re interested in being friends, do coffee. Coffee is much more casual and during the day. Drinks set the pretense of a date. Coffee is ambiguous. As regards the Facebook/Ig, I can’t speak for her, but I don’t know why it would. Maybe she thought it was weird. Maybe she thought it was mysterious. I honestl…
/r/seduction19/04/18 04:28 AM
1

Wtf are you talking about
/r/seduction19/04/18 04:22 AM
1

What did you end up saying?
/r/seduction19/04/18 04:21 AM
2

Great points. Enjoyed the read.
/r/seduction19/04/18 04:17 AM
1

Have you considered that she might be resentful towards you for making her fall in love with you and thereby ruining her marriage?
/r/seduction19/04/18 04:13 AM
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Is that bad? Yes. This means you don’t value yourself enough. You’re worth more than someone who falls in love with any pretty face who shows you affection. As for the pursuit, she’s into you1 . Forget that group apartment pool shit. Man up and ask her for drinks2 . (Why did you get her Snapchat and not her phone number?) Take charge. Something like “hey that was fun yesterday. Let’s get to know each other over drinks3 .” She’ll say yes. Try to schedule it 1-2 days in the future, not an awkward …
/r/seduction19/04/18 04:10 AM
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“2 for the pan, 1 for me, 3 for you”
/r/seduction19/04/18 04:01 AM
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Your post doesn’t say anything
/r/seduction19/04/18 03:14 AM
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you can make fun of their race The fuck? No.
/r/seduction19/04/18 03:13 AM
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Hey man glad you got laid. Sometimes a change of pace feels nice. You’re usually the one chasing; sometimes it feels good to be chased. Since you asked out perspectives, I think attraction is inherently subjective and can change day by day. On Friday, you want to chase the 10’s and want the reward of winning. On Saturday, you’re exhausted from Friday and just want to feel good about yourself and get your rocks off at the same time. That’s part of the human condition. Now get back out there and f…
/r/seduction19/04/18 03:10 AM
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I wouldn’t sweat it; you’re thinking too much. It was an hour-long second date. You were jet lagged. She was likely feeling rushed because of her schedule. Maybe her mind was on other things? That doesn’t mean she isn’t into you, especially if she still reciprocated physical stuff. Ask her for a third date. How are you in the kitchen? A great third date is to invite her over to your place for a home cooked meal. If you can’t cook, say something about getting Chinese for two. If she’s into you, s…
/r/seduction19/04/18 03:03 AM
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I agree with what Kenic said. If you knew you’d be successful, what would you say? If I were you, I would call (call, not text. Leave a voicemail if she doesn’t answer. No one leaves voicemails. Girls love voicemails) her to drinks tomorrow by offering to show her around some of the better bars in town. (I hope you know the better bars in town.) If she’s interested in you, she’ll accept. Once there, start the night naturally. If you’re new at this, which I assume you are, the first few minutes m…
/r/seduction19/04/18 02:45 AM
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Absolutely! You’re a catch!
/r/seduction19/04/18 02:04 AM
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I don’t necessarily agree with this. It’s a tough opener, and you have to have a certain charming je ne sais quoi to pull it off, but it’s definitely not something you should never do. You just have to be ready to quickly and smoothly transition into something more meaningful. It‘s better to have something specific to attach to it. E.g., “Those earrings make your hair look absolutely gorgeous, and I had to come talk to you.” Then transition based on her response.
/r/seduction18/04/18 09:22 PM
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Great mindset!
/r/seduction18/04/18 09:18 PM
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Interesting take on the subject. A lot psychology stands for the fact that we're attracted to people who are like us, but that tends to focus more on personality types and interests. I'm usually attracted to and approach pale white girls most often, so I'll give this a shot and see how it goes. (I'm white.)
/r/seduction18/04/18 07:16 PM
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Eh.. I don't think this girl is into you at all, and she likely used you for a coffee just now. Let us know how it went, but I wouldn't waste my time, especially if she's with another guy. Maybe I'm nicer than the other guys here, but if a dude is into a girl, I'll leave the girl alone. There are thousands of other girls on campus. Why care about this one? Why dog another dude who's just trying to do the same thing you are? We're all playing the game together, and there are plenty of girls to go…
/r/seduction18/04/18 07:12 PM
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I was typing a comment, but realized it was pretty much this verbatim. This is a good take.
/r/seduction18/04/18 06:45 PM
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I know what you mean, man. I have anxiety as well. My biggest weakness is overthinking things, thinking if I send one more text, one more call, I'll get her back. It gets the worst at night before bed. One thing that helps me is when I start overthinking things at night , I'll start reminding myself of why I'm a catch. Almost like the cliche standing in front of a mirror saying "I'm gonna kick ass today1 ." It seems like you're handling it well though. 1 As an aside, I don't think anything is wr…
/r/seduction18/04/18 06:41 PM
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Live and learn. You came across as needy, so move on. Learn from the mistake. If you're still wanting to get with the girl, maybe wait a 2-3 months and ask her out again, but definitely don't invest anything in it. Maybe around July, just a simple text midday saying something like "Hey, it's been awhile! Let's grab drinks this weekend at X place at Y time." If she accepts, awesome. Do better than this time. If she either doesn't answer or seems flaky, just delete the number and move on1 . 1 If s…
/r/seduction18/04/18 06:31 PM
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You're right; this is unlucky, but you didn't do anything wrong. You happened to approach two people who knew each other. This is the tough part about closed systems, which a University is. People tend to know each other, and girls routinely tell each other things. But hey, you know that you can do it, and that's what's important. You're getting out of your comfort zone, and it's working well for you. Keep up the good work man. Looking forward to more FR's from you in the near future. Edit: In t…
/r/seduction18/04/18 06:14 PM
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This is one of those things that’s tough to give advice on because it involves so much nuance. I tend to err on the side of not texting, but it also depends on how long until the date. 1-3 days? I don’t text. Any longer than that, and I’ll usually come up with some excuse to let her know I’m not planning on ghosting her. Maybe I saw something on the street that we talked about last time. Maybe there was something interesting on her Snapchat story. It’s just one of those “feel” things, not as muc…
/r/seduction18/04/18 05:11 PM
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Sure thing man! Keep it up champ!
/r/seduction18/04/18 03:44 PM
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This is one of the many problems with apps like Tinder and Bumble: it’s difficult to get into meaningful conversation. Everyone loves talking about themselves; no one likes typing a bunch of shit. First, get them talking about themselves. Ask questions, but avoid interviewer mode. One of the ways to avoid interviewing her is to 1) listen (erm.. read) intently to her answers, 2) make short comments on them and follow up1 . Next, once the conversation is going well, move from tinder. Ask for her p…
/r/seduction18/04/18 03:11 PM
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Yeah, exactly. That’s the idea of push-pull. When she says stoooop, find some sort of witty way to make her feel a bit better. You could even try something like “whaaat? How am I being mean??” in a laughing type of way. Contradiction drives people insane. You haven’t really given a whole lot of detail, but it sounds like you’re using this one right. I don’t see anything to suggest it’s holding you back. Edit: you can think of it like two steps forward, one step back
/r/seduction18/04/18 02:18 PM
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it's always like "stoooooooooooooop" or "you're so meaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaan" That’s textbook flirting. You’re basically working with a version of push-pull method. Be a bit mean, but follow it up with something charming. It seems to be working for you. Maybe the close is what you need to work on?
/r/seduction18/04/18 01:52 PM
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“Hey, so how about that movie night at your place. I’m pretty open this weekend. What night works for you?” “Hmm. I’m open Saturday night. Does that work?” “Awesome. Saturday at 6 it is. Looking forward to it” “Me too” Leave it at that. Don’t text her until you’re about to leave. “Hey, I’m about to head over. Hopefully traffic won’t be too bad” Whatever you do, do not ask if the offer is still available. You have to assume it is. It’s the subtle confidence that will work in your favor. Asking if…
/r/seduction18/04/18 01:48 PM
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I’m not going to outright disagree with this, but I’ll question it to some degree. I’m not an 8, but direct openers work well for me. I think it has more to do with whether you can come off confidently charming instead of creepy and, more importantly, how good your transition is.
/r/seduction18/04/18 01:42 PM
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Of course. Everyone is attracted to you man. I smile when I see attractive people. People smile at me. I talk to them when they smile at me. Always. Assume. The attraction. You have a lot to offer.
/r/seduction18/04/18 01:40 PM
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I’m gonna take off my game hat for a second. I agree with everyone here that it sounds like this girl has her own, slow speed. Like you said, she had trust issues. Girls don’t say that if you’re the problem; they’ll come up with some other excuse if, for whatever reason, they want to keep seeing you but not put out. If you like her and things are going well, I’d stay the course. Based on what you’ve said, it sounds like she’s into you and that you’re doing things right. In fact, if she has trust…
/r/seduction18/04/18 01:35 PM
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I think you need to learn people first. Learn to be a social human being who is comfortable in his own skin. Yes, talking to women takes a certain level of confidence and a little savviness, but first foremost, women are people. If you aren’t good with people, you aren’t going to be good with women. All of the experienced guys here will tell you that they feel comfortable talking to anyone, woman or man. So, my advice is get comfortable with people in general first. It’s gonna sound cliche, but …
/r/seduction18/04/18 01:17 PM
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What kind of grammar is this
/r/seduction18/04/18 04:36 AM
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Why would you do that? Ask for her number, wait a day or two. Call her. Ask her out.
/r/seduction18/04/18 04:22 AM
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That is one hell of a voice
/r/seduction18/04/18 04:10 AM
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You’re welcome man! What do you have to lose? Man up and ask her. Either she says yes or she says no, but she’ll definitely lose interest if you say nothing. If it was Sunday afternoon, I’d say hold off, but it’s Tuesday evening. Call her and ask her. If she doesn’t answer, leave a voicemail. I bet it’s been forever since an awesome guy’s left her a voicemail. Something like “Hey, I had a great time the other night. Let’s do it again. You up for some putt putt on Saturday1?” would definitely be …
/r/seduction18/04/18 01:27 AM
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You obviously like this girl; I can’t speak for you, but based on your comments, it doesn’t seem like you just “want to take her out and sleep with her” and then be done. If you like her, tell her. Saying something like “hey, I had a great time last night, and I’m really into you. Let’s have dinner at my place this weekend. When are you free?” is not needy. It’s the opposite of needy. It shows that you are a man who 1) has some balls, 2) isn’t afraid of rejection, and 3) your time is valuable en…
/r/seduction17/04/18 11:51 PM
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I’m working on myself in this way too. It sounds like you’re treating women as your fulfillment in life. I’m not saying don’t date, but I think you need to work on yourself first. You should be comfortable with who you, where you are in life, what you have going for you without a woman. I know, it’s easier said than done, but it’s the truth. There aren’t any “tricks” that will immediately make you less needy. It’s a slow, deliberate process, much like getting in shape or learning a new language.…
/r/seduction17/04/18 11:12 PM
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For me, anxiety feels very similar to excitement. I love excitement; if it’s exciting, it’s new. We all love doing new things, having new experiences, meeting new people. I agree with the above poster, get excited when you’re so attracted to a girl that you get butterflies in your stomach
/r/seduction17/04/18 11:05 PM
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This is awesome stuff. The only anecdotal thing I’d add is that, for me, learning some “game” really really helped me with the approach. I was always unsure of how to start a conversation with a woman. After learning it was really just as simple as “hey, I absolutely love your X/that X makes you look stunning/etc.” and going from there. If she introduces herself, she’s interested. I’ll admit that one “trick” I often use is to not tell her my name right away. If she asks for it, she’s definitely …
/r/seduction17/04/18 11:01 PM
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What’s the worst that happens? Just ask her to hang out. It doesn’t have to be anything fancy. Ask if she wants to get coffee or something after school. If things are going well, tell her. Something like “hey, this was really fun, but I have to get going. I’m really into you though, and I think we should do this again soon.”
/r/seduction17/04/18 10:40 PM
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As a fellow 5’7” man, I feel your pain. It’s annoying, and it can feel shitty, but why should it feel like that? Like you said, it’s out of your control, so why let it bother you? Don’t frame it as “she rejected me because I’m short.” Think of it as “She missed out on all this awesome stuff about me because she’s shallow about height.” The matter is the truth anyway. Being short isn’t a blockade with women, but being self-conscious about your height is. Any woman who cares so much about height t…
/r/seduction17/04/18 10:33 PM
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You’re totally right. But I think a lot of guys need some sort of “script” at first. It probably won’t go amazingly, and they might look dumb not knowing what to say when it goes off script, but we’ve all been there. (I’m still there occasionally.) It’s a practice makes perfect kind of thing.
/r/seduction17/04/18 10:21 PM
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Pretty sure you're the person who gave me the advice on to text her the whole "I'm into you thing." Thanks again for that. Getting back into this stuff is pretty fun, pretty decent self confidence boost to realize women just want someone who is comfortable with himself
/r/seduction17/04/18 09:38 PM
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