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It’s been a positive life changer for me.
/r/askMRP29/07/25 12:31 PM
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Cool, no worries. Yes you got my reaction and mindset exactly right, unfortunately. We talked about that yesterday too (see update 2), I guess since I’ve gotten in much better physical shape I’ve neglected the mental improvements and my expectations are way too high. I need to read again and STFU.
/r/askMRP02/07/25 08:17 PM
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It is painful to be as dumb as me, and great observations. I do need to fix a lot of problems with me, particularly losing my shit at her. That’s a good point on knowing whether on not I should get a divorce - and it even came up in one of our arguments and she said the same thing. I’ll have my problems go with me and it will just happen again. I’ll start reading OYS again and contributing. I need to focus more on me, and need to read the sidebar again, it’s been a long time and I obviously need…
/r/askMRP02/07/25 07:49 PM
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Correct, she said that’s off the sexual menu permanently. It’s been almost a year.
/r/askMRP02/07/25 05:53 PM
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I know my reaction was bad, that’s why I posted. Need some feedback to improve myself. I feel like I’m just getting to the end of my rope and I hate it. I’m getting worse and worse at STFU when dealing with her shitty behavior and it’s making me react in kind, shitty behavior on my part.
/r/askMRP29/06/25 09:00 PM
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I do go down on my wife, even though she never asks. She usually tells me to just come up because I never do it right for her now. It is definitely awkward because she told me she’s never going down on me again, but I try to help keep the peace and warm her up if she isn’t ready. Whatever is going on with her mentally just doesn’t let her enjoy it anymore. I think this last argument may have been the last straw.
/r/askMRP29/06/25 06:36 PM
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I want to have sexual compatibility with my wife and keep my family intact and happy. We were great a few years ago but something switched within her, and it’s been chaos ever since. Most of our marriage was good in all aspects outside of a year or so after kid 2, and of course the last few. I wasn’t planning on throwing a tantrum or having this conversation at all, I was trying to STFU and move on, let life happen to me as you said. Frustrated and miserable every day. I was just driving along a…
/r/askMRP29/06/25 06:28 PM
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Otherwise in day to day stuff it’s fine, we hug and kiss and snuggle all the time (prior to this event of course). I don’t think it’s the physical touch that’s conditioned her but it’s any sexual activity, and I have to add “with me” to that since she insists she’s hyper sexual. I don’t understand her shit at all.
/r/askMRP29/06/25 05:35 PM
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Yep, I’ve read that here many times. Unfortunately I think I’ve lost the opportunity with my wife. The hatred is so bad now I can’t see anything to do other than STFU, which I’m not good at.
/r/askMRP29/06/25 05:18 PM
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Ok you’re right, my bad on that one. I do go down on her, but she usually doesn’t care and it doesn’t help. She just lets me go on for a few minutes and then says ok come up, and have some wine because she doesn’t like the taste of vagina. Our sexual compatibility has taken a nose dive the last few years. It definitely mental on her part, she literally only wants to do anything if it’s been too long since she rejected me.
/r/askMRP29/06/25 05:14 PM
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I’m just getting to the point where I’m restarting hobbies (track car and guitar) so I need a few months to see how that goes. You’re right, the hard part is to STFU. When the sex life started to go downhill a few years ago I was able to be quiet for about it for a while but something switched in me and I just tell her she’s not doing what I need her to now. I guess I’ll start the research, at least I have a warning that we’ll be splitting.
/r/askMRP29/06/25 02:59 AM
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Thanks for a good reply. I’m talking to a therapist myself, it’s mostly about how to manage reactions to my wife’s behavior. She’s not talking to anyone yet, but that came up in the fight and she’s said any therapist would tell her to leave me now. With the bullshit she says I don’t doubt it. I have been putting in the work generally but this week and today specifically was a game changer, which is why I posted. I agree I should’ve just done what she asked in the moment, I guess it was just an e…
/r/askMRP29/06/25 02:48 AM
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I don’t have any advice to give, never said that.
/r/askMRP29/06/25 02:36 AM
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Wow.
/r/askMRP11/05/25 05:40 AM
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There’s no reason to be pissed or terrified about the election. If she was smart she’d be happy about it. You made a bad choice decades ago, cut your losses now.
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/24 03:56 AM
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The insane stuff was mostly a lot of summer travel with the kids since our district has a very short summer, they already went back to school yesterday. We also had a hurricane attack our house while on one vacation and came back to destruction I hadn’t experienced before and no power other than my backup generator (not whole house but it runs one AC) for several days. My wife also had a few weeks of work travel in between trips, so nothing I could really control but tried to manage as best I co…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/24 04:55 AM
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I know it’s been a long time since I’ve been here, things have been insane. I’m now going to weekly counseling for my drinking (helping), along with marriage counseling with my wife (not helping). I’ve been successful at reducing my consumption during the week by 50% or more, weekends are still iffy but generally better. I have a long way to go to fix myself and my marriage might expire before I get there, right now I’m trying to minimize damage and clear my mind. Reality is not as nice as I tho…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/24 05:50 AM
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Excellent explanation. This is a long journey.
/r/askMRP10/05/24 05:04 AM
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Looking over Sinclair Method now, thank you. This is obviously a serious struggle that I’ve so far failed to address properly. Not that it matters but I’m getting zero support from my wife so I’m kinda flailing around here. Will update in OYS going forward and send you a DM.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/24 11:53 PM
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Yeah you’re right about all that, thanks. I’ve been slacking in my reading and self control, getting too comfortable (briefly) so it leads to me doing stupid shit. I’ll pick it back up.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/24 12:18 AM
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OYS #2 43M / 44F / 2 kids elementary and middle school age. Married 13 years. 5’11” 220 lb 15-16% BF. Will re check BF this Friday. The good: I’ve gotten my bench up to where I finish my 5 sets with 2 sets of 300 lb (6 then 5 reps). This makes me pretty sore for a few days so hopefully that means I still have some room to improve. I’m working in more leg days and increasing weight in leg press, haven’t found my max yet - currently finish at 360 x 10 reps so will increase again this week. Adding …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/24 12:22 PM
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Same here, only I didn’t slip back to beta. I just turned into an asshole after the fun disappeared again. At best I’m starting over.
/r/askMRP23/02/24 04:33 AM
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Thanks. I’m glad I finally posted in OYS, and I do need to get back to reading more. I did ok at STFU for a while but it didn’t stick, I’ll work on that as another priority.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/24 09:06 PM
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Thanks for the advice. I can go a day without here and there (usually when I had too much the day before) but every time I do I can’t sleep at all. I get the shakes, cold sweats, nightmares, all the withdrawal signs. If I have 1-2 glasses of wine that helps, but then that’s another day I drank. How did you start the process? Taper off or just cut down to a couple days a week immediately?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/24 09:03 PM
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Good points, thanks. It would be a long shot for me to get someone to fuck me tomorrow, so yeah I agree I need to work on my game. Yeah I would definitely need to wait some time to get any favorable or even tolerable outcome in a divorce. There’s a lot of fighting and drinking that she’d easily use against me and that stuff always goes in the woman’s favor. I’m willing to leave depending on the circumstances of course. I need to get my shit together first, that’s why I’m here.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/24 08:55 PM
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Oh shit. What happens? I thought I already went through it but maybe not.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/24 06:25 PM
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Thanks, I have been lifting hard. I was down to 13% at the same weight last summer so my goal is to get back there or better, and stay there. My goal to significantly reduce drinking should help, I get way too many calories from alcohol. I get that dating at this age and with young kids is definitely not easy, but I’m sure she’d have someone ready to jump in the sack with her before she slammed the door behind me if we split. Doesn’t that count as competition? This all started a couple of years …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/24 05:32 PM
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Did today, thanks for the advice.
/r/askMRP13/02/24 03:59 PM
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Right now mostly posts and comments from others. I’ve read NMMNG, TRM, and BoP. Started WISNIFG but haven’t finished it. I tried saying we should stop sex for a while based on NMMNG but that didn’t work, she still wants some when she feels like it so it doesn’t last much longer than a week. I do too so I haven’t turned her down if we’re not fighting about it. She quickly detects changes in my behavior and either gets really mad or really sad, and I haven’t been able to effectively apply the less…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/24 03:58 PM
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You’re right about all that, the only time I had any success was when I did some social stuff with friends that I wouldn’t normally do. We live over an hour from most of our friends so we’re generally just stuck with each other unless it’s a family gathering. It got her out of her comfort zone and things changed for a few months that I mentioned. I do try to talk to people more when I’m out of the house but nothing close to catch and release. I need to work on my social skills.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/24 03:39 PM
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I doubt she’s actively cheating, but know she’s as unhappy as I am and if the opportunity presented itself (maybe during a work trip like she’s on now) I wouldn’t be surprised if she did. It doesn’t feel like rooting through the trash, at least not yet. It may get there, and if I found out she cheated it would be over immediately. Right now I still have enough reasons to want to try to right the ship. The grass isn’t always greener on the other side.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/24 03:07 PM
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I know.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/24 02:33 PM
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OYS #1 43M /44 F / 2 kids elementary and middle school age. Married almost 13 years. 5’11” 220 lb 15% BF. I can rep 285 lb on bench multiple sets, but stick to machines for legs because of knee and back pain, so no squat or DL numbers. SMV for each of us is pretty close to equal now finally. Took me a long time to catch up after years of slacking, she may have a little edge thanks to a great upper body doc but we look good together. I’d say both at least 8.5s, maybe 9 in our area. I rarely see a…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/24 01:33 PM
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Good points, thanks. Starting OYS #1 now.
/r/askMRP26/01/24 06:41 AM
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I may be an asshole but I’m sure as shit not lazy or entitled. Just need to focus properly.
/r/askMRP26/01/24 06:39 AM
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Great reply, thanks this is helpful. Guess I just need to do it. I know the feedback will be brutal but it’s what I need. I’ve been up and down in this journey for 1.5 years, as you can see and I’m basically starting over.
/r/askMRP26/01/24 06:20 AM
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Yes, I’ve lost a lot of progress the last several months after being in a pretty good spot the first few months of the year. I’ve been on this journey for about a year, and recently my wife has accused me of being a complete asshole the whole time, including the period where we had a few good months. At least now I’m in a lot better shape a have made lifting a habit. Mentally I’m in a better place because I feel like I have options should we split, but the relationship is not in a good place. I …
/r/askMRP18/09/23 07:29 PM
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Thank you, I appreciate that. I haven’t been able to quit yet but I’m cutting back, of course some missteps along the way. Trying to avoid things catastrophic like the event in this post. Accepting the goal will be a big step.
/r/askMRP10/08/23 01:42 AM
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Still wet. Just got back from a week long trip with two other families, it was a lot of fun and I didn’t overdo it luckily. The last few years we’ve had this vacation I’d really get loaded, so I’d say this is one small step forward. We have another trip this weekend coming up then I have one the following weekend, so I have some big tests in front of me. Of course even without trips every day is a test. Currently in a big fight with the wife and barely speaking, so that doesn’t help. Feels like …
/r/askMRP31/07/23 12:45 PM
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Why do you think she fucked someone else?
/r/askMRP18/07/23 02:42 PM
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Fear is a better way to put it, good point. So what did you do?
/r/askMRP18/07/23 02:40 PM
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If I got a lock wouldn’t that alert her to me knowing how fucked up my problem is, and in effect bring her into helping me recover?
/r/askMRP17/07/23 08:29 PM
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I know I’m an alcoholic, but I’m hoping I can be saved to the point where I can just hang out and have a drink like everyone else. What I don’t know at this point is if there’s a path to that. I’m guessing most people will say no, but I want to find a way to try.
/r/askMRP17/07/23 07:17 PM
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Ok thanks. I can lift regularly, she actually prefers when I hit the gym every day. I understand that a lot of that is she just doesn’t want me around for another couple hours, but at least I look better.
/r/askMRP17/07/23 07:11 PM
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You’re right. I hadn’t heard the term drunkard in a while but that fits and is much more shameful than alcoholic. If I had a backbone I’d STFU and focus on shit I need to get done instead of wasting time and getting fucked up. Now things take twice as long because I have to stop for a drink, then it all slows down and half the time I have to fix what I just fucked up.
/r/askMRP17/07/23 06:50 PM
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Appointment booked, thank you. I’ve been in gym since August last year and have lost 5% BF and gained 10 lbs of muscle. I’m almost to the point where lifting is my life, I go 4 - 6x per week. Had to add cardio a few months ago to help my heart . I’m 5’11” 220 lbs, 14% BF. Looks aren’t the problem anymore, I know that much. Hitting the gym all the time seems easy compared to what I’m facing. Edit: got the book on my kindle, will listen while I drive to and from work tomorrow.
/r/askMRP17/07/23 06:42 PM
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Good point. Good time to STFU.
/r/askMRP17/07/23 05:36 PM
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Yes you’re correct. Removing all will be a challenge because my wife drinks daily too. She manages well though. I think removing all would be a pretty big tell, any ideas on managing with alcohol still in the house?
/r/askMRP17/07/23 05:14 PM
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Yeah I know, it’s actually a lot like that. I do have a therapist but not regular appointments. Summer is busy with trips and kids stuff. Would you say that therapy is more important than lifting? I ask because I work from home on Fridays and that’s when I normally go, but have to pick one or the other. My goal is lifting Monday to Saturday but sometimes stuff comes up.
/r/askMRP17/07/23 04:57 PM
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DM sent. That’s a great reply, I never thought of it like that. First I need to get out of Alcohols frame, then my wife’s, then find my own. I’ve been trying to get out of my wife’s frame for all these months but didn’t realize I had a blockade. I should’ve known. Thanks for the reply.
/r/askMRP17/07/23 04:53 PM
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I can’t thank you enough for this reply, this sounds exactly like me. I’m glad you were able to recover, it gives me hope and motivation. Since I’ll be trying to recover without getting my wife involved, does it matter if she knows I’m reading that book? We share a kindle account so she’ll see it if I download it, and works from home so will get it at the door if I order it. How often did you talk to your mentor and how did you communicate? We don’t have a FB account so that’s not an option for …
/r/askMRP17/07/23 04:13 PM
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I think I don’t want to go to AA meetings because that would mean admitting I can’t recover. I want to be able to have a beverage socially, but the AA stage means no more as I understand it. My wife drinks daily too but is in control of it. She may have too much every now and then but nothing like me. Agree on the unattractive point, thanks.
/r/askMRP17/07/23 03:52 PM
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Brutal but true.
/r/askMRP08/07/23 04:57 AM
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Sorry for the late reply. I asked her if she’d cheated and she said no, of course. I don’t have any evidence that she ever has but I’m not sure I believe there’s never been an incident at some point over our many years. Since I posted this things have generally been better, but still kinda rocky at times. We share all accounts (that I know of) and when I was getting a new book to listen to on kindle while I drive I saw she was reading a lot of relationship books. Most notable was “how to love yo…
/r/askMRP08/07/23 03:37 AM
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WTF? That’s strange thinking, I find it hard to believe an RP guy would think that way.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/23 08:51 PM
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No there isn’t a chance she was asking someone else for nudes. I talked to her on the phone while she was at the airport and told her I just got out of the shower. She asked if I was naked, I said yes, she said send me a pic. We finished our conversation but I didn’t take it seriously because she never does that, so I got dressed and checked on the kids and got ready for bed. Then about 10 minutes later she texted and said where’s my pic? I was shocked so I did it because I’d feel like a bitch i…
/r/askMRP30/05/23 02:31 AM
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Thanks. Deep down I know that but obviously haven’t been able to put it into practice yet. I’m too focused on sex and still accepting shitty sex. I think I need to keep this conversation closer to top of mind, but things have been so up and down since then I push it out of my mind. I need to remember there is no quick fix even if there is a good day here and there.
/r/askMRP30/05/23 02:03 AM
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Good points, thank you. I don’t want a divorce but don’t want to keep going like this either. I need to read more. Do you think it’s still a good idea to at least talk to a lawyer even if I don’t intend to initiate a divorce at this point? P
/r/askMRP27/05/23 11:02 PM
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No she hasn’t asked for nudes since before we were married. It was very out of character. Legally speaking, I should not leave the house or move out even temporarily right? As I understand it that action could affect things in the final resolution, whatever it may be.
/r/askMRP27/05/23 10:57 PM
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We did like the money, but it’s not even close to worth it. Pretty soon it’ll just be a matter of who takes what. To your point, we probably would never have been in this situation if she kept her old job. Take note people, don’t repeat my mistake.
/r/askMRP27/05/23 12:18 AM
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I was not prepared for that. At least now I know I need to talk to a lawyer.
/r/askMRP26/05/23 10:53 PM
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It’s a sure way to initiate a divorce. I’m not there yet without it.
/r/askMRP26/05/23 10:52 PM
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Good point, thanks. Any tips on how to pick a lawyer to talk to? I live in a burb of a huge city so there is no shortage.
/r/askMRP26/05/23 08:44 PM
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Not to sex but I have told her no, and I’ve been more frequent about it the last few months. That’s one of the things that sparked a huge fight last week, so she sees it and obviously doesn’t like it. I haven’t read WISNIFG, I will read it next. Again, probably too late. As you said, the disrespect she has for me is clear and abundant.
/r/askMRP26/05/23 08:42 PM
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Yeah. Hard to find evidence from those.
/r/askMRP26/05/23 08:37 PM
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I said that out of frustration about a month ago during one of our similar fights, but I assume she already had this issue in mind at the time. If I talk to a lawyer and she finds out does that accelerate things, or make it worse somehow? Again I don’t really want to but it may be too late.
/r/askMRP26/05/23 07:26 PM
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She said those exact words unfortunately.
/r/askMRP26/05/23 07:21 PM
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Agree, TRT injections are a life changer.
/r/askMRP27/01/23 11:20 PM
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Fellow new guy here, I did the same thing at the beginning a few months ago. I thought STFU meant don’t talk and I was close to silent for like a week and a half. After some huge fights about WTF was wrong with me I dug deeper into the archives and got a better idea, so I’m improving there now. The comments here are great, this is one of the better threads on the topic. This will be useful to a lot of people.
/r/askMRP11/01/23 03:51 AM
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This is a reply I’ll refer to a lot going forward, thank you. This helps. This dumbass post has provided a lot of great advice, thanks to you guys. It didn’t take long for me to regret it at first but I deserve the shit I got, and now I’m glad I did. Back to work.
/r/askMRP07/01/23 07:08 AM
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No I didn’t. It was the first book I read and at the time there was no way I could open up enough to anyone. I did see a counselor on my own and that’s been mediocre, but he’s not someone that I trust with RP stuff. I haven’t told anyone what I’m doing and only have one person I might be able to, but he’s newly married for the 4th time and probably would put in the time. I’ll read it again soon and work harder to do the activities. I’m about done with MMSLP and going through TRM, next I was goin…
/r/askMRP07/01/23 01:05 AM
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I get the first 3, but no initiations for 90 days will get noticed. At one point near the beginning of this journey I didn’t initiate for about 9 days, including two weekends, and by that time she started crying and saying I don’t want to have sex with her anymore. Is that supposed to help me learn to truly NGAF? It sounds like a worthy challenge that may do some good and be worth a try. At this point I honestly do GAF and need to get to where I don’t. On lifting, I’ve been doing the StrongLifts…
/r/askMRP07/01/23 12:55 AM
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Yes it is, I realize that. Reading the material and many posts every day helps some, but I haven't been able to shake the sting of rejection. Is there something else I can do to work towards genuinely breaking free? I know she wants to fuck, I've been there. I also know she doesn't want to fuck me. I recognize some outward changes I can make, focusing on myself, though I think the biggest hurdle is the mental change I need to accomplish.
/r/askMRP06/01/23 07:25 PM
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Thanks for this comment, this is excellent advice. You're right about all of it, I appreciate this.
/r/askMRP06/01/23 04:25 PM
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Good point, thanks. Looking at the situation now I'm sure I'm coming across as needy.
/r/askMRP06/01/23 03:38 PM
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This is a great comment. 1 - sorta. Need to work on this. 2 - yes to all. 3 - no. Huge improvement opportunity.
/r/askMRP06/01/23 03:32 PM
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Becoming the prize and being irresistible is my goal. You're right that my current strategy is not working so I will change it up and STFU more. I'm mistaking gains for success, thinking I'm pretty good where I'm at. Obviously I'm not. I'm lifting a lot but think a cut plan would be beneficial to add to lifting at this point. I'll research that, and if you have any references that were helpful for you I'd appreciate it.
/r/askMRP06/01/23 03:21 PM
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Haven't started yet, was supposed to be today but the counselor had to reschedule. This morning my wife did ask if she "is supposed to go with me" today, so it sounds like she's indifferent to it (of course). I may just go on my own next week, the consensus seems to be it's not a good idea for both of us to go.
/r/askMRP06/01/23 02:49 PM
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You're correct, I need to take it more seriously and stop expecting instant results. Thanks.
/r/askMRP06/01/23 02:42 PM
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Agreed. I'm mistaking looking better than I used to for looking good.
/r/askMRP06/01/23 02:39 PM
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Understood, thanks. Will hit the books more too.
/r/askMRP06/01/23 02:38 PM
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The wasting my time part was referring to my efforts at proactively showing affection and kino efforts, but you are correct in saying that I didn’t initially start this journey for myself. I used to half ass work out at home with adjustable dumbbells that got as heavy as 45 lbs (!) but finally got a gym membership after I realized she really meant it when she said I was too fat. Like a week later she threw the hammer down saying I don’t deserve the attention I used to get. If I’d done it for mys…
/r/askMRP06/01/23 01:46 AM
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You’re right, and that does explain my situation too. Thanks for the reminder, I need to be more aware of this.
/r/askMRP05/01/23 09:06 PM
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Good point. It’s hard to imagine considering how busy she is, but it’s possible and would explain a lot. Other than a shitty sex life for the last 9 months, she does a lot of good and brings value to my life. She would be difficult to replace but a good sex life would make up for lacking in other areas. So yes, I think I could, as long as I can get my shit together and keep it together. I understand I have a long way to go.
/r/askMRP05/01/23 07:11 PM
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I’ve done some reading on that and maybe just convinced myself that’s not what I’m doing, that I really just want to get some. I need to learn more about it and how to escape it. You’re right, it is exhausting.
/r/askMRP05/01/23 06:53 PM
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It was more of just a hope, but you’re right I shouldn’t have let it turn into an expectation. The “good week” really threw me off. Yes I have read it but clearly need to again.
/r/askMRP05/01/23 06:45 PM
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Well put and true, thanks for pointing that out.
/r/askMRP05/01/23 04:27 PM
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Edited, I’m 5’11”. Just reporting BF that inbody said when measured last Saturday. I’ve been wondering about cheating too but haven’t been able to find any proof. It would be easy for her to accomplish and hide if she wanted to. Short of hiring a PI I don’t know what to do.
/r/askMRP05/01/23 04:21 PM
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You’re 18. Both of you should move on.
/r/askMRP24/12/22 06:23 AM
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Yes she does, more than I do when you consider work time only. We’re both salaried, she is full time WFH and I go to the office 3 days a week. I WFH 2 days a week. My commute is around 50 miles each way so I have 2.5+ hours driving those days. I can get my work done in 40 hours almost every week, but put in OT as needed. The industry I work in is very cyclical and prone to layoffs (but pays well), and we were in a layoff period when she took the job she has now. We agreed it was a good idea at t…
/r/askMRP19/12/22 05:03 AM
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5’11” 215 lbs 16% BF. I’ve been focusing on upper body over the last few months and only added squats and dead lifts in the last two weeks, so I’m not strong there yet. After warmups I can bench 250 x 6 without much trouble, 410 x 6 on the incline press, and straight bar curl 100 x 5 for two sets. Edit to add that I started TRT 9 weeks ago, my levels were very low at the time. They are coming up well but I still need more to get to normal range. Overall I feel better than I have in many years.
/r/askMRP19/12/22 04:35 AM
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I am aware. I will never beg, my weakness at this point is OI and I’m working on that daily, and every time I want to initiate. Thank you for the reminder that I always need to display high value. No breaks.
/r/askMRP18/12/22 05:46 AM
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Yeah this is not fun at all, and I’m beginning to think no sex would be better. I’m considering not initiating anymore, but need to honestly be able to know that I DNGAF before I can do that. My frame isn’t strong enough yet.
/r/askMRP17/12/22 02:14 PM
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Wow, you’re exactly right about all of that. Great comment, thank you. So my line would be that I’m not living the rest of my life with once a week (or less) starfish sex and no chance of a blowjob. I will not say that there. But a huge problem is I’m not far enough along in my journey to lose my family over it. Other than the sexual issues most things are pretty good. So whatever shit happens, I guess my path forward will be to STFU, lift, sidebar, and fix myself.
/r/askMRP16/12/22 02:04 AM
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The comment about kicking me out and divorce raping me was in August, the morning I got home from the hotel. So that’s not a regular occurrence, but sometimes when she rejects me she has told me to “find someone else”, most recently last weekend. That’s happened many times since then. I guess I assume she’s not serious or thinks I won’t do it. Yes, her actions clearly show reduced desire and attraction. I guess the reward would be getting significant motivation pushing (maybe forcing) me toward …
/r/askMRP15/12/22 08:46 PM
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It’s not exactly no sex, but it’s 95% missionary only and no oral for me (I can still do her though of course), and usually only weekends, but not all weekends. I’m not happy with it and I’m trying to make myself better so I can find a good sex life somewhere. I agree that it living like this feels like being cheated on. I’m trying to internalize and mentally prepare for the worst, but I haven’t been able to kill that last bit of hope that it will work out.
/r/askMRP15/12/22 07:42 PM
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I think I have been successful at getting rid of covert contracts - I have no expectations anymore so no reason to do something I don’t think I should. I’m getting better at passing shit tests, but they aren’t excessively frequent.
/r/askMRP15/12/22 07:25 PM
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I did think it was a victory at the time. I got what I wanted and it was pretty easy for the most part. I’m going because I want to figure out what her position is at this point. I know I still need to work myself (a lot) and that it will take time. If I had removed the pedestal and had mastered DNGAF this wouldn’t be happening.
/r/askMRP15/12/22 07:19 PM
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I think I got ahead of myself because when she’d compliment me on looking so much better, I expected a positive response from her that I didn’t get. Now I feel like I’ve regressed because of that.
/r/askMRP15/12/22 07:01 PM
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At this point she wouldn’t give me one even if I begged. I’m starting to think you’re right and trying to prepare myself for that possibility.
/r/askMRP15/12/22 06:52 PM
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I’ve been working on this since mid August. You’re right, I do need to chill out and learn DNGAF. I don’t have a good handle on that yet.
/r/askMRP15/12/22 04:10 PM
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Thank you, yes I do realize that I have a long way to go before I’ll be of higher value. I’m making noticeable progress in looks and grooming, and I do earn about 30% more than she does. Game and frame are issues right now. I’ll keep working on this daily.
/r/askMRP15/12/22 03:54 PM
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Honestly not where I am right now with what little frame I have. Unfortunately she’s pretty smoking and I haven’t taken down the pedestal yet. That’s really holding me back significantly.
/r/askMRP14/12/22 09:22 PM
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Haha, got me there. He wasn’t sure if she’d consider him biased since I’d been talking to him so long, but I guess not.
/r/askMRP14/12/22 09:16 PM
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I know you can’t negotiate desire, I guess that’s why I’m not sure what will come out of this. I need a lot more work to be fixed. I haven’t seen any evidence of cheating yet, but would not be surprised. She certainly could quite easily.
/r/askMRP14/12/22 09:14 PM
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Thanks. Yes it has been more challenging to internalize the material than I expected. I thought for a while I was at anger phase 2 but now I’m not so sure. I’m getting ahead of myself before I have the frame to do so.
/r/askMRP14/12/22 08:56 PM
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I don’t think you should lol at that guy if you’ve been around very long. Sounds like you need to OYS.
/r/askMRP12/12/22 03:53 AM
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My wife had a hysterectomy last year and it did not cause menopause. It’s nice to be done with the monthly cycle for sure, so if things are good for you otherwise I wouldn’t expect a lot of changes once she recovers.
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