~ archived since 2018 ~
~ archived since 2018 ~
| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
|---|---|---|---|
| 1 | Girls reject me because they say I’m “too preppy”. What could I do to change this?Go after better girls - Girls who get you for who you are. Don't change for anyone (unless you want to). | /r/seduction | 20/09/18 07:39 AM |
| 2 | Become less political.Go after girls who also share a passion for politics. If you love it, then love it - don't change who you are so you can get some random chicks vagina. Now, there is also a time and place for it. So you need to catch yourself if you're at a party, people are trying to chill, and you're all amped up about some political shit. The audience at that part probably doesn't give shit - so understand the audience, but also surround yourself with an audience that shares your interest. | /r/seduction | 16/09/18 03:20 AM |
| 2 | Identifying my approach anxiety as one of the main things holding me back has made it FAR worse. What now?Flip the script a bit. Yeah, sure, you can start conversations with hot women but you struggle with intent. But is she even good enough? How so? Yeah, maybe she's hot - so what, what else you got? You're probably introverted, and we like depth. Sure, a chick is hot - but is she smart? "She needs to play her cards right to get me out on a date." I don't mean to be an arrogant dick about it - that repels (smart) women more than anything. But understand that having the intent to suss her out an… | /r/seduction | 30/08/18 04:21 AM |
| 6 | Finally decided to ask for a girls number.. fail.Getting outside of your comfort zone and asking for her number was the win. The result is irrelevant. Keep focusing on the process of growing yourself and getting better at this and the numbers will come easy. Then you will hit the next roadblock and the next one etc. There is no such thing as an overnight success. It just comes down to continually pushing your boundaries in the right direction that get the results you want. | /r/seduction | 07/08/18 05:34 AM |
| 1 | Whats your best opener?"HI, my name is (Your name here)" | /r/seduction | 10/07/18 03:35 AM |
| 1 | How to make people chase you : give them spaceAwesome post man. Obviously you can't sit at home behind a computer screen waiting for miss right to hit you up (complete apathy), but there is a balance of putting yourself in environments of women, showing honest interest and letting them reciprocate. The other end of the scale is simple being too desperate, needy, outcome dependent (which usually stems from insecurity in oneself). Once you find that balance, you're in for a good time. | /r/seduction | 05/07/18 04:48 AM |
| 9 | Put my oneitis girl in the friendzone and now she won’t stop hitting me up. What comes next?When we're not outcome dependent and stop putting them on the pedestal, this can flip the tables of attraction. I'd let her come and chase you, continue to BE hard to get (don't play) then maybe she will want to fuck you. But she might also just want to be friends, either way, it's a win. | /r/seduction | 05/07/18 04:39 AM |
| 2 | Conversation Casonova?It's a good book - I recommend it a lot. If you are scared to invest the time into reading for now, have a listen to the podcast I did with the author and then consider grabbing the book: http://podcast.honestcasanova.com/hc043-flirty-fk/ | /r/seduction | 03/07/18 02:00 AM |
| 1 | Any good podcasts you guys listen to?Yeah some of them are pretty wanky. Some aren't. Have a read of my actual posts, or listen to the podcast and get an accurate picture of what I am about. Or don't. I'm not here to convert you. | /r/seduction | 06/03/18 02:05 AM |
| 5 | Any good podcasts you guys listen to?I have my own podcast on dating: You can search for "The Honest Casanova Podcast" or just head to www.honestcasanova.com But I listen to Tim Ferriss, Bill Burr (for the lolz), James Altucher Show, Joe Rogan and Seth Godin's "Akimbo". All are good, based on building a better life etc. | /r/seduction | 03/03/18 06:15 AM |
| 1 | How do I find out if someone is taken?"Hey you're not married or anything crazy like that, right?" | /r/seduction | 15/01/18 11:16 AM |
| 5 | How are you supposed to have an "interesting life" when you have to work and go to school full time?+1 to Wing Wednesdays. | /r/seduction | 27/11/17 08:36 PM |
| 3 | What were some deeply held assumptions that proved false when things clicked for you?I wrote about mine here: http://www.honestcasanova.com/blog/9-false-beliefs-stop-getting-laid/ Then I talked about it on my podcast, here: http://www.honestcasanova.com/blog/hc042-9-false-beliefs-stop-getting-laid/ | /r/seduction | 27/11/17 05:47 AM |
| 2 | How do I apologize after making things really awkward with a girl? Or is it worth my time? Is there a correct way?You should talk normal as you would when you're hanging out around your closest friends. You're not trying to win them over or "seduce" them. You're just being you. And when you are YOU, the right women are attracted to that. Even if they bring up your awkwardness, just say "Yeah lol sometimes I get a big stuck in my head and act awkward." Then ask her a question about her and move on as if it is nothing. | /r/seduction | 25/10/17 03:14 AM |
| 3 | How do I apologize after making things really awkward with a girl? Or is it worth my time? Is there a correct way?Being afraid of being awkward makes things more awkward. Also, apologising for being awkward makes things even more awkward (unless you're having a laugh about it because you've accepted it). If they're chasing you, then go and give them what they want, stop worrying about potentially being perceived in a particular way, and just go out and have a fun time with girls in the present moment. Attraction is about BEING not DOING, and if you're stuck in your head you're worried about what to DO rathe… | /r/seduction | 24/10/17 09:39 PM |
| 1 | 23 Good Questions to Ask a Girl You Like in Any SituationIt'll bore the chick to death if you're a boring fucken dude. If you've got some level of social calibration, you should be able to put your spin on it instead of acting like an accountant with an extra long dildo in his ass. | /r/seduction | 19/10/17 08:22 AM |
| 3 | A Beginner's Guide: How to Get Good Fast, The Natural WayThis post is excellent. Thankyou! | /r/seduction | 16/10/17 01:07 AM |
| 4 | A Beginner's Guide: How to Get Good Fast, The Natural WayLol I thought the same thing. So many guys making excuses and complaining. This post is absolute gold! | /r/seduction | 16/10/17 01:00 AM |
| 2 | A Beginner's Guide: How to Get Good Fast, The Natural WayBeing introverted is not an excuse. We are all social creatures, but introverted people "recharge their batteries" by being alone. Being socially inept is not an excuse, but it is often a side effect of being introverted and wanting to stay in. Extroverts tend to charge their batteries by being out and being social. THis is why they tend to be better, socially. Us introverts have it better IMO as we don't speak all that much, but when we do, we command attention. Extroverts tend to be a hyperact… | /r/seduction | 16/10/17 12:51 AM |
| 1 | I feel like being successful with girls has too much work involved for me.It's not that you don't have confidence, it's that deep down you think you don't deserve it. Because your subconscious definitions of how you think you should be living your life by now don't match your actual reality. | /r/seduction | 11/10/17 11:01 PM |
| 1 | I feel like being successful with girls has too much work involved for me.Sounds like you've retreated from life, and decided to deal with it with apathy because deep down you're afraid. But here's the thing - you DO care. Because otherwise, you wouldn't have created this post on Reddit as a call for help ;) Read this and push yourself to do the exercise: http://www.honestcasanova.com/blog/what-should-i-do-with-my-life/ I use this for clients to help them find out what they REALLY want to do with their lives. This usually gets them excited, inspired and motivate to go… | /r/seduction | 08/10/17 10:19 PM |
| 2 | I feel like being successful with girls has too much work involved for me.Alright then. So don't get laid. Don't reproduce. Allow your bloodlines to die out. Be a passenger for life then die alone and lonely. BUT. If you wanted to make changes and get the success with women (and life in general) that you really want then you 100% can do it. But don't come here being a sook about it trying to get people to say positive things to make you want to be better with life. | /r/seduction | 08/10/17 01:35 AM |
| 2 | I need a pep talk.Firstly, don't beat yourself up about it. It happens to everyone. Secondly, next time, I hope you remember how much regret you feel, and that makes you take some action next time. Thirdly, be a social creature FIRST, PUA second. So you should be talking to people all the time anyway, and you could have had a random chat to her. This goes from "Approaching" to "Meeting". Far less stress in that head of yours when you decide to meet her, rather than approach her and try and win her over. Also, she… | /r/seduction | 05/10/17 11:39 PM |
| 9 | Any other books like Models by Mark Manson?Just buy it bro. It's only a few bucks, it supports the author and if you pay for it you're more likely to read it and actually do the work. THEN you get the change and growth you're after. | /r/seduction | 20/09/17 09:59 PM |
| 2 | Any other books like Models by Mark Manson?+1 for 3% Man. I also found Tucker Max's book "Mate" to be really good as well. | /r/seduction | 20/09/17 09:57 PM |
| 3 | I am a self help/ self improvement junkie. Help me!!You just have to go and take some small actions. Just little baby steps, every single day. The results come from the action, not having the information. The problem with knowing so much is you become a deer in the headlights and you are frozen with fear. So, write down what you want to get out of all this personal development then start actually applying it. Or don't do anything about it. Keep absorbing more stuff. But eventually you're going to get sick of having a shit life, and people thinkin… | /r/seduction | 27/08/17 02:46 AM |
| 4 | Approach singles at bar who are on phone"Is this the area where we stand to send text messages?" "You looked bored, so I figured I'd say hey - I'm Brett" "Hey, you should hang up" Her: Why? You: Just tell whoever you're talking to that you're about to get hit on by a really cool guy and you'll call them back. | /r/seduction | 25/08/17 05:28 AM |
| 3 | How do you respond to what are we going to do?She doesn't want to be used as your cum dumpster and you need to understand that she needs plausible deniability so when her "friend" Stacy asks what she got up to, she isn't slut shamed. I get that you just want to get laid. Congrats. But just because you want to use some chick as a fleshlight, doesn't mean that shes going to be up for it. There is a process that women need to feel safe and comforted that you aren't someone who just wants to use her as an ego validation tool. Now, it looks like… | /r/seduction | 25/08/17 05:24 AM |
| 1 | Any tips for abroad seduction?Be social. Make new friends. Do what you would do with any other girl you're attracted to. It's really not that different than being at home, other than you have an excuse to open and chat to new people because you're not from there. | /r/seduction | 04/08/17 03:50 AM |
| 2 | Any good counters for the "You're short" shit test?"And you're observant. So anyway, what makes you so special?" | /r/seduction | 27/06/17 05:47 AM |
| 1 | If I'm going to read only one book on game, which should it be?Models By Mark Manson. Or "As You Are" by Nick Sparks. Both are bullshit free. | /r/seduction | 27/06/17 05:44 AM |
| 1 | Daily Habit vs Irregular Battle.It's all dependent on where the person is. A lot of men simply can't talk to anyone but themselves... other men can talk to women but struggle to convey sexual intent. | /r/seduction | 11/06/17 03:29 AM |
| 1 | What is a "nice guy" ?*The “nice guy” is a pussy, a softy and a pushover. He tries to get along with everyone and tries to fit in. He will fold his boundaries and let people walk all over him, you know because he is a “nice guy”. He doesn’t want to offend anyone, or incite any negative feelings. He lacks a backbone, a leg to stand on and some goddamn self-worth. He won’t sexually escalate with a girl and risk being shot down by her because he doesn’t want to make her uncomfortable. Then she throws him into the friend… | /r/seduction | 07/06/17 11:50 PM |
| 1 | I've had feelings for one of my best friends for almost three years and I've never been able to decide whether or not to tell her.Noting that she's possibly just as inexperienced as you - Go for it. You don't really have anything to lose other than a bruised ego. Even if you do surprise her with your feelings, if you're actual friends, then it'll be a short-term hiccup. If it isn't reciprocated, you need to work on yourself and become a man who can get sexual with girls. That doesn't mean being the PUA PussyMaster 5000, it just means working on yourself so you don't have such a scarcity of women. You really need to have a … | /r/seduction | 16/05/17 05:41 AM |
| 7 | Eye contact issuesIf you're worried about coming across as creepy, you will come across as creepy. The problem is that you're so worried about how you're possibly being perceived, that you end up being perceived as that by being worried about it. How other people perceive you is not your responsibility. Some girls might think I'm creepy, most do not - But that's not my problem. Now, obviously I don't want them to perceive me as creepy, but some people just might, based on the way they see the world. But that's ou… | /r/seduction | 16/05/17 05:35 AM |
| 1 | How To Inoculate Yourself Against RejectionIt's more about getting out of your head with self-amusement. | /r/seduction | 12/05/17 12:52 AM |
| 1 | Has anyone read Mark Manson's newer book "Subtle Art"? Is it worth the read?I loved it. I don't think i've read a whole book as fast as that one. Everyone I've met that has read it has loved it and recommended it. | /r/seduction | 20/04/17 05:19 AM |
| 2 | Is it worth losing my virginity to a large girl?If you want to have sex with someone, have sex with someone. You don't need validation from strangers on the internet (or anyone else by the way). If you want to save it for someone hotter, then do that. But if you think you want to get it out of the way, then go for it. A fattie is better than a hooker in my opinion, but it's up to you. | /r/seduction | 20/04/17 05:13 AM |
| 1 | Hi seddit, how did you find motivation to go talk to girls when its so much easier to stay in your comfort zone?You "find" the motivation when the pain of being a lonley, scared, unconfident "man" becomes greater than the perceived "pain" of a few rejections. | /r/seduction | 19/04/17 04:16 AM |
| 1 | "Looks don't matter"I wrote an article about this. Looks do matter to a certain point, you just don't need to look like brad pitt in Snatch to get girls. But you can't be a fat piece of shit or a skinny runt who don't care about themselves. The article is here if y'all wanna get deeper: http://www.honestcasanova.com/blog/being-good-looking-is-not-enough/ | /r/seduction | 17/03/17 01:40 AM |
| 1 | Can You Help A Bro Out, Plz. (Quick Question).Fear of rejection is a massive one. | /r/seduction | 11/03/17 06:37 AM |
| 4 | How do you flirt with a girl without coming off too strong?If you scare women off - GOOD! They probably weren't available or interested in the first place. The idea is to find women who are actually interested in you. With flirting, you don't want to be too direct. Flirting is an art form of playful banter with underlying sexual connotations. You want it to be a mysteriously playful dance of words and suggestive actions. If you are too direct you remove the mystery and it loses its energy. Dave Perotta from Post Grad Casanova wrote a good book called "C… | /r/seduction | 25/02/17 04:00 AM |
| 1 | Girl on Tinder unmatched me shortly after I asked her WA number. Why?Is called the "Shotgun approach". | /r/seduction | 07/01/17 02:18 AM |
| 1 | Girl on Tinder unmatched me shortly after I asked her WA number. Why?Ofcourse it works. Walking up to 1000 different women and saying "wanna fuck?" also works, but it is very ineffective. From personal experience, I think you need to understand and have a good grasp on "game" offline first, then as a side effect you'll be able to communicate more effectively in the noisy marketplace that is online dating. | /r/seduction | 06/01/17 07:26 AM |
| 1 | I want to hear a girl's opinion on RSD and their techniquesYeah I suppose there are a 2 that come to mind: - Go to add value to the interaction. Bring sexual energy and fun to their night. (most guys are focused on what they can get out of the "set" rather than what they can give). - Try more, but care less. | /r/seduction | 06/01/17 06:59 AM |
| 1 | Girl on Tinder unmatched me shortly after I asked her WA number. Why?Awesome. Now you can stop wasting your time on there ;) | /r/seduction | 06/01/17 06:53 AM |
| 2 | Girl on Tinder unmatched me shortly after I asked her WA number. Why?Shes probably like most women who go online to mess around and have no intention to meet up with any man. She did you a favour - so go and meet someone who is actually worth your time. (Hint: Not online). | /r/seduction | 06/01/17 03:53 AM |
| 1 | Any advice for someone who is abstaining from alcohol?If I go out sober i'll just drink soda with crushed lime. It looks like you are drinking vodka, which beats walking around with nothing and people wondering what the hell you're doing there. Good work on taking action and changing your appearance - your future self thanks you. | /r/seduction | 06/01/17 02:57 AM |
| 12 | How's your guys luck on Match.com?They're all the same. Get offline and go and meet real people in real life. There is more than enough content here to help you with that. I have a video on why online dating sucks (and what to do about it) here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=skyuN7K2TFk | /r/seduction | 06/01/17 02:47 AM |
| 6 | My Morning approach attemptAwesome man. The fact that you got outside of your comfort zone and met someone new means you won. The outcome is irrelevant. You just did what 95% of the men on here are too afraid to do - So, sir, I tip my hat to you. Now go and meet someone else. | /r/seduction | 06/01/17 02:39 AM |
| 7 | I want to hear a girl's opinion on RSD and their techniquesWhat women SAY and what they unconsciously respond to are completely different. Ervin_A wrote what women say, perfectly: "Omg this RSD stuff is so weird and creepy!! Like who has to learn how to pick up girls? Eek! Only losers would have to read a book about girls! Just be yourself! Trust me, the right girl will come along just be patient and nice and generous!" (this is obviously, fucking stupid advice). But they still respond to it and sleep with men who bring fun, adventure and confidence to … | /r/seduction | 06/01/17 02:33 AM |
| 1 | Advice, plz.They only thing you can do is make a move. There is no way to cheat the system. I have in the past, however, started a playful pillow fight. It usually goes to wrestling and then kissing is easy. | /r/seduction | 06/01/17 02:26 AM |
| 0 | Gonna have sex but don't want her to see my scars, first time tips?Own it. "I was a stupid 16 year old I made some bad self-harm scars on my thighs that still show. So anyway.... (continue talking about whatever you were talking about...)" You problems become a problem for her. They aren't if they aren't. Own it. Embrace it. Laugh about it. | /r/seduction | 03/01/17 03:05 PM |
| 1 | To all the wannabe struggling PUAsGreat post mate. | /r/seduction | 25/12/16 01:44 AM |
| 14 | When a girl texts you that she's tired all the time ?Haha. bows | /r/seduction | 24/12/16 02:28 AM |
| 16 | Why am I constantly getting flaked on for dates?You're not building up enough rapport in the intial interactions. I work in a pub and get numbers all the time - But almost all of them flake. Why? Because I am busy running around working instead of building a deeper connection with them. Also, you need to realise that new situations for human beings are scary. So its easier to bail than it is to go out for a quick coffee date with a random guy you just met. Keep working at it, you'll get there. | /r/seduction | 24/12/16 02:22 AM |
| 166 | When a girl texts you that she's tired all the time ?Shes just not that into you man. Go and find someone else who is worth your time and effort :) Also don't assume she is "fucking around behind your back"... You guys aren't together, you don't own her and she doesn't own you. Even if shes sometimes initiates and chases you, there is obviously some internal conflict there, so call her out on it and ask her what the deal is and then if nothing changes then move the fuck onnnnn | /r/seduction | 24/12/16 02:17 AM |
| 2 | "I like your tattoos""Thanks. I like your face. Wanna hear the stories about why I have them?" Also, You won't come off cocky unless you actually ARE cocky. | /r/seduction | 11/12/16 04:48 AM |
| 6 | Frustrated that I'm not able to grow a pair and approachWork with a coach. There are a lot of different things going on here and no sentences of advice will yield anything decent. | /r/seduction | 11/12/16 04:46 AM |
| 2 | I can't talk to girls anymore any help?You can't control the outcome of people choosing to cheat on you, you can only surround yourself with better people. This means getting better as a man. Go and talk to girls and guys, and keep it platonic. It sounds like you're dependent on the outcome of them liking you. You can't control that and it's not your responsibility for people to like you. Sure, we WANT people to like us, but your job is to show up and be seen as your authentic self. When we meet the right people it feels natural to w… | /r/seduction | 11/12/16 04:41 AM |
| 2 | "you're too young""Why? You're only 28, right?" (With a big ol' playful smile) "Oh - as if you don't want some young toy boy to play around with..." (Then continue on the conversation). | /r/seduction | 11/12/16 04:37 AM |
| 6 | How do I learn to have fun?You have fun training MMA, right? So go meet a girl who is into fitness and martial arts. MEETUP.COM has heaps of singles fitness groups around, and if not, you can start your own. | /r/seduction | 11/12/16 04:34 AM |
| 2 | Simple first date do's and dont's?Coffee is good. Go for a walk around a park or some gardens (if you live inner city). Grab some Uno cards or some playing cards to do an activity while chatting if you find somewhere to sit down. If you both have dogs, take them for a walk. If eating is on the cards, I will generally take her to a "sushi train". Basically, it's a restaurant where sushi comes around on a conveyor belt and you only pay for the plates you eat. She isn't going to be eating a whole stack, so it's a cheap way to pay f… | /r/seduction | 11/12/16 04:30 AM |
| 7 | Seddit, Would I get more attention from girls if I go from 5'7" 120lbs to a more lean and muscular size? Is my weight too skinny?Don't change your body for girls, change it for you. The girls come as a side effect of you being your best self. If you want mass, go get mass. If you're happy, stay there. Some girls might like how you look, some might not. Your body is yours and you should change it for your own personal reasons, not for what you "think" they might collectively like. | /r/seduction | 01/12/16 06:05 AM |
| 2 | How much of a ripoff are RSD courses?Yeah I agree - but you get pieces of shit everywhere. The knowlege here is fine, its just that people need to go out and use it, reflect on it, then try again. | /r/seduction | 22/11/16 06:33 AM |
| 1 | How much of a ripoff are RSD courses?There is an infinite amount of free information available on the internet on dating and seduction. This subreddit is a goldmine. Gaining the information isn't a problem, its applying the information in the real world that men struggle with. I think paying for content is a good idea though. You are leveraged to actually go out and apply the knowledge that you have learned. Most people don't take action, and paying for something makes you do the shit you know you should do. I charge for my online … | /r/seduction | 22/11/16 04:03 AM |
| 3 | What's the craziest girl that you've ever dated?I had one ex try and drive her car through my house because I broke up with her. My dog was also in the car. She then tried several times to kill herself. Then I had another ex who did the following: - Broke into my house to sleep in my bed. I wasn't home, so I called the cops to get her removed. They slapped a 24-hour restraining order on her, and as soon as she drove off and the police left, she came back. - She faked a pregnancy to get me back into her life. - She faked cancer to get me back … | /r/seduction | 22/11/16 02:45 AM |
| 1 | Suck with girlsYeah you still need to learn from it. | /r/seduction | 21/11/16 03:35 AM |
| 2 | What can a woman do to make you talk you her? - Asking for a friendEye contact, wave at him. | /r/seduction | 27/10/16 06:23 AM |
| 2 | Second date, not sure how it went. Tips?Get the kiss out of the way early, instead of waiting until the end. The tension gets too high and most times us men bitch out. Sounds like you aren't being vulnerable and sexual enough. Grab her and kiss her, Man. | /r/seduction | 27/10/16 06:18 AM |
| 1 | Does being skinny work against you with women ?Long story short - No. | /r/seduction | 27/10/16 06:14 AM |
| 3 | Suck with girlsRead Mark Mansons book and go out and fail a heap until you learn how to do it. | /r/seduction | 27/10/16 06:13 AM |
| 2 | Got a girls number-Give me tipsGet her out on a date. Texting is for logistics, not for chit chat. Its good that you had some fun over text, but now its time to get her out with you. | /r/seduction | 27/10/16 06:11 AM |
| 1 | How do you take a lead in the text game and make it "go wild"?You build up good banter and a real connection when you meet her (before even texting her). Upon failure of that, you text her to meet up somewhere and you build good banter and a real connection. | /r/seduction | 27/10/16 06:10 AM |
| 1 | What does confidence look like ?Care more about your opinion of yourself, than other peoples opinions of you. It sounds like you're trying to hard and being overly analytical about it all. If you have to try to be confident, you generally aren't being truly confident. Confidence is a side-effect of competence, so if its confidence with girls that you want, go out and meet and date more women. You do that being vulnerable and failing enough times to learn the lessons that get you competent. | /r/seduction | 27/10/16 06:07 AM |
| 2 | Advice on being less investedYou can still demonstrate you are a sexual man who finds a woman sexually attractive in a healthy way. Just because you haven't had much sex doesn't mean that you can't demonstrate you're a man. Eventually, you'll get laid and you'll get rid of that performance anxiety - because you'll stop putting sex on a pedestal and you'll realise that is JUST SEX and even if you blow your load in your pants, you can still go down on her until you recharge the ol' batteries. If you're really anxious, go and … | /r/seduction | 29/08/16 03:45 AM |
| 1 | Is this life?Yes - Life is a series of problems until you find the answer and overcome it. Those relationships failed for a reason and you're better off for it. The problem is you think you're not supposed to have failed relationships and find the ONE GIRL who will be perfect and blah blah blah. It will happen eventually, but before you deserve that Girl, you need to go through and learn from the problems that are causing you to have relationships that fail. Everyone has a different path - what is important … | /r/seduction | 26/08/16 07:27 AM |
| 6 | Mindset/motivation to help approach strangers?When you're going to approach, you are currently focused on what YOU can get from this situation. You are trying to TAKE someone's number, to WIN her over so YOU can feel a certain way. Flip it around and go and give her a heartfelt gift. Walk up to her and say " Hey, I just noticed you and I had to come and say hi. You look amazing. My name is....." You're going to give her a friendly gift - that is it. She can't reject you because you're not trying to take anything from her. If she has a bf, s… | /r/seduction | 26/08/16 07:10 AM |
| 1 | Strange question for Seddit, but how do you stop recurring thoughts about girls/relationships?Have something more important to you - Which means setting some life goals and going and doing them. | /r/seduction | 26/08/16 05:54 AM |
| 6 | Is she interested, or is this what people do nowadaysShe might just be a like-whore. Regardless, hit her up. Let her know you think she's hot, but you want to know what else she has going for her. You'll find out if she's interested in you or not. | /r/seduction | 26/08/16 05:50 AM |
| 4 | Messaging after it fizzles out?Sounds like she isn't interested - Why would you want to hook up with someone who isn't interested? I get shes's hot - but there are millions of hot girls. Your problem here is that you have a lack of abundance - Go and work on that first. | /r/seduction | 26/08/16 05:48 AM |
| 6 | Girl asked for my number after asking her if she liked breadAwesome bro. It really doesn't matter what you say - it is what is being sub-communicated that counts. (and asking for the number). | /r/seduction | 26/08/16 05:41 AM |
| 8 | How do you change your behavior when you start to realize that a lot of girls are becoming wary of how successful you are with other girls?Be honest about it. If you're successful with Women, that is a good thing. What they're unsure about is if you're a liar (AKA: Player). I used to be a well-known male slut. I banged circles of friends. But they knew that that was what they get with me - I never lied about anything and was completely honest about my wants and needs. If you're being honest and upfront, and people don't like it, you're hanging around with the wrong people. | /r/seduction | 26/08/16 05:40 AM |
| 3 | Advice on being less investedHave something more important to you than dating some Girl. This comes down to having some big life goals and going out and achieving those things. (f you're unsure about what you want out of life I wrote an article about it here: http://www.brettellis.net/personal-growth/what-should-i-do-with-my-life/) Texting is strictly for logistics - It's for organising the next date (not chit chat and boring BS). Otherwise (as you found out), you end up killing the mystery around you that makes this dating… | /r/seduction | 26/08/16 05:36 AM |
| 5 | Would like some reviews on Mark Mansons models.It is by far the best book I have read on dating and it completely transformed my approach to it. Seduction is inherently dishonest, and this just makes it simple, real and honest. I have read it about 3-4 times. Go and read the amazon reviews - it's gotten a tonne of love. I'll always make sure I read the 2-3 star reviews as well (the 1 star reviews are generally people who are too retarded to read anything in the first place - so not worth the pixels). | /r/seduction | 21/08/16 07:45 AM |
| 4 | What is the definition of creepy (dating wise) and what makes a guy creepy?Go out and be you. If she says "that's creepy" then figure out what you did, then don't do it. Rinse, repeat. Creepiness is generally when a guy lacks social intelligence and is trying to be too sexual without first building interest and comfort. | /r/seduction | 19/08/16 08:42 AM |
| 2 | good icebreakers for when you first meet a girl?In all seriousness, I wrote a guide that should help you out: http://www.brettellis.net/relationships/approach-a-woman/ | /r/seduction | 19/08/16 08:37 AM |
| 1 | good icebreakers for when you first meet a girl?"A GREAT BIG POLAR BEAR!" | /r/seduction | 19/08/16 08:35 AM |
| 1 | FINDING ROOM MATESGo to events with Men who are on the same mission as you and ask. Meetup.com, your local "lair" (if they even exist anymore) or even local Men on seddit is a good place to start. | /r/seduction | 15/08/16 12:13 AM |
| 1 | What hobbies/activities helped you imrprove your confidence and game beside pickup?Opened up a Beauty salon and worked at the front desk every day for 6 months. I pretty much was there most of the time after that and was talking to Women all day every day. You learn how to talk, sell, flirt and develop strong boundaries when dealing with idiotic customers who want to take you for everything you've got but you don't want to give it to them or piss them off either. | /r/seduction | 27/07/16 08:08 AM |
| 2 | I'm afraid of alienating or weirding people out when the topic of music comes upSay EXACTLY what you just wrote if music comes up in a conversation. Dude you won't be an asshole if you don't act like an asshole. What you just wrote is your honest perspective on music. Use that and don't be ashamed about being YOU. Your intentions are good, so communicate it. FYI: Top40 fucking sucks. I like metal and I hate everything else. But I don't hate people for liking it, and I don't pretend to like it to impress anyone. | /r/seduction | 27/07/16 07:55 AM |
| 1 | Logistics, I live far from my cityCreate enough sexual desire in the first date, and if shes really wanting it she will come for the drive (or do her in the car). I'd just make sure the second date happens closer to home. You can also hire out an AirBnB but thats $$ (or ask a friend who lives close). Logistics are a pain, but just make it work or go for girls closer to home. | /r/seduction | 19/07/16 10:28 AM |
| 1 | Where are you sticky points right now?Sounds like you're a bit lost in life and you're not sure of your direction bro. I have an article and an exercise that I take people through to help them find that big juicy picture again. It's here if you're up for it: http://www.brettellis.net/personal-growth/what-should-i-do-with-my-life/ This happens to EVERYONE - so don't stress about it. I had a flat spot a few weeks ago and now i'm back on fire again :D | /r/seduction | 08/07/16 06:09 AM |
| 3 | How do I a 23m hook up with older women?The same way you hook up with any woman, except you go to where the cougars hang out. | /r/seduction | 08/07/16 05:27 AM |
| 0 | How to properly handle the "how old are you?" questionThats exactly what I do. It makes a boring conversation fun. | /r/seduction | 03/07/16 02:12 AM |
| 2 | "This is the best sex I ever had" - heard from 3 girls. What the fuck?Awesome man. good for you! | /r/seduction | 02/07/16 07:32 AM |
| 1 | What do you do when women are bullying you at a party? (How do you disarm asshole chicks?)Hahah - Nailed it! Sarcasm kills it. | /r/seduction | 30/06/16 02:09 AM |
| 1 | What do you do when women are bullying you at a party? (How do you disarm asshole chicks?)"oh is that what you say to try and put people off?" "YOu know you can't make yourself feel better about yourself by trying to drag others down, right?" "I have too much self-worth and self-esteem for you to try and rattle me. Keep trying though, I'm enjoying your attention" I wouldn't even hang out with cunts like that. If that's the calibre of people you hang out with, then upgrade your social circle bro. Even if they're friends of friends - Your friends allow those people in, and you need to … | /r/seduction | 30/06/16 02:09 AM |
| 1 | Why do pickup gurus give such absurd advice?It depends on the context, no necessarily the content. Yes, some people can get over AA by smashing through it and attacking it head on. Yes, you can learn by doing - but for some people, they are so crippled. It depends on the context of the individual who reads it. Everything is subjective and everyone has differing opinions. Take it onboard, try it out and find what works for you. | /r/seduction | 30/06/16 02:02 AM |
| 1 | Did you guys struggle to start approaching?Dude just do it. Go and fail. Go and make a dick of yourself. Be vulnerable. You're in your head and the only way to get out of it is go and do some imperfect action. AA never goes away, you just learn how to deal with it. | /r/seduction | 22/06/16 02:53 AM |
| 1 | I'm Wasting My OpportunitiesBe vulnerable. Go in for the kiss. Go make some big fucking mistakes and learn from them. You don't need more knowledge you need to be a masculine male and put yourself out there. It's not going to get any easier - Be a Man. Girls are everywhere, you're just making excuses. | /r/seduction | 22/06/16 02:52 AM |
| 1 | What's a cheap device I can use to record audio of my cold approaches?A newish smartphone and the headphones that come with it. Have the headphones and the mic hanging over your collar and you're set. | /r/seduction | 22/06/16 02:48 AM |
| 2 | I completely ignore outer game and only care about inner game what's your thoughts on this?I think it is better than doing the opposite. If you're cool with who you are, you don't really give a fuck what line works. You just go and talk and see who she is. It's the best way. Success is 80% psychology, 20% strategy. Inner game is the 80%. Sure, you might struggle a little bit with the strategy, but you're still 80% in the green. | /r/seduction | 22/06/16 02:46 AM |
| 5 | Missed opportunity [advice]Dude you're not always going to be in the mood to approach. Don't beat yourself up about it - you're a human, not a robot. There are millions more Women out there so learn from the situation and apply it next time. | /r/seduction | 22/06/16 02:40 AM |
| 5 | Should I read No More Mr. Nice Guy if I have already read Models?Yes. Both are excellent. You can't read enough books. | /r/seduction | 22/06/16 02:36 AM |
| 1 | How hard is it to meet women if you don't have any friends?You need to have some social intelligence before you will be able to seduce a woman. Level 1 is to have some friends. Level 2 is to have female friends. Level 3 is where you can actually communicate and then seduce a Woman. By all means go for it, but you need some friends - not just for girls, to live a life that you truly enjoy. | /r/seduction | 19/06/16 03:47 AM |
| 1 | The fine line between confidence and being an assholeYou will never impress everyone. Just be you - as long as you are honest about it I don't see any problem. Some people will think you're a douche, others will think you're awesome. You can't win them all. Your job is to show up and be seen for who you are. If you're being a dick, then apologise. If they're overly sensitive then they can beat it. | /r/seduction | 19/06/16 03:32 AM |
| 1 | Why do we do this?Our basic human need is to perpetuate the species. The better you are with the opposite sex the better you will be able to procreate - especially with the females that have the best DNA. | /r/seduction | 19/06/16 03:26 AM |
| 3 | If you've noticed a girl quite a while ago, but only after you decide to talk to her, should you mention this fact?You can just approach as per normal and mention that she looks familiar. But don't walk up and say something creepy like "Hey I saw you ages ago and now I coming to talk to you". | /r/seduction | 19/06/16 03:23 AM |
| 1 | It's the rejections you don't see coming that hurt the mostYeah they all sting, but you can't avoid it. You eventually realise that its not you, its more to do with her and her current state. Atleast you're out there and actually trying. The more vulnerable you are, the more you are rewarded. | /r/seduction | 19/06/16 03:21 AM |
| 3 | How do I pick up girls at a music festival?Same way you do in any situation: "Hey - I just noticed you and thought I'd say hi." If its a festival she's probably wearing something that stands out, so maybe comment on that. | /r/seduction | 19/06/16 03:19 AM |
| -2 | So today I got the number of a girl having a first date with a guyHaha. So awesome. Well done, sir! | /r/seduction | 19/06/16 03:16 AM |
| 2 | How To Get A Date More EasilyYeah it's the annoying "welcome mat". Not a fan. | /r/seduction | 08/06/16 06:06 AM |
| 7 | If I'm running out of things to say, what's are some of your ways of fixing that?A while ago I learned about being able to talk forever. It was an exercise called "Conversational Chunking". Basically it goes like this example: You start talking about a Brand of a car - Lets say a tesla. You can get more specific and talk about how it works (this is chunking DOWN) or you can go UP and talk about cars in general. You can then go UP another chunk and talk about transportation in general and then chunk down and across onto other modes of transportation (Bikes, trains, Aircraft e… | /r/seduction | 08/06/16 06:00 AM |
| 1 | Book That Blows "Models" Out of the WaterI have been watching his youtube channel for quite some time. You just reminded me that I need dis. Thanks mate. | /r/seduction | 08/06/16 01:20 AM |
| 1 | I think I got most of the requirements to be a seductive man, though the mindset is still shaky. What advice can you give to have rock solid frame and convince yourself you are a beast?You don't need a "Beast Checklist" to give you permission to go and meet girls. Just go and meet girls. Mindset comes when you're already doing it. You're just getting ready to get ready - stop procrastinating and putting Women up on a pedestal - you are good enough! | /r/seduction | 04/06/16 04:33 AM |
| 2 | Should I even be with her?You could see how she pans out. If she can bring more to the table and you can overlook the fact that she isn't your definition of attractive then keep at it. But, if it isn't a FUCK YES - it's a no. | /r/seduction | 04/06/16 04:30 AM |
| 1 | Picking up girls as a retail sales associateIf you do it in a creepy and pathetic way, yes. But if you've built up rapport and missed an oportunity to get her number (and followup calls are done as part of business) then there is nothing wrong with it. Its all about context. | /r/seduction | 02/06/16 01:17 AM |
| 2 | Ethics as a customerYeah sounds like you did the right thing and there is no way i'd stalk her. You could find other excuses to go to the DMV again, but i'd just let her go and go and find someone else. | /r/seduction | 01/06/16 03:01 AM |
| 1 | Picking up girls as a retail sales associateThe same way you'd pick up any Girl. Atleast now you have an excuse to talk to them other than saying "Hey, you're cute and I wanted to meet you". Build rapport, flirt with her and get her number if she's keen. Followup customer calls are good "to make sure you're happy with what you bought / hey what you doing later". | /r/seduction | 01/06/16 02:55 AM |
| 15 | Ok, how do I stop getting validation from women?Get validation from within. That involves increasing your confidence and self-worth. Which means being vulnerable. Which means doing things you are afraid of enough until you become competent at them. Then you'll be confident. Then you'll be able to recognise that you are enough, you are OKAY and you are cool in your own skin just the way you are. | /r/seduction | 01/06/16 02:52 AM |
| 10 | My favorite way to go for the kiss on the first dateAnd if you miss out on the first kiss, get her over for Netflix and playfully get into a pillow fight. Going for the kiss is easy mid-pillow fight. | /r/seduction | 01/06/16 02:49 AM |
| 2 | How to Just Not Care?You can't NOT care, but you can care MORE about something bigger and better. (like your life mission). Do you know why people get up in arms about seemingly meaningless shit (Think: The Kardashians)? Because that is the biggest thing they have going on in their lives. Kim Kardashian doing a shit is the BIGGEST PROBLEM with their lives at that moment. If you get yourself a bigger problem (Think: Do all of your bucket list) you wont get bogged down by dumb shit that doesn't matter all that much. | /r/seduction | 01/06/16 02:44 AM |
| 4 | What to do between dates?Like everyone is saying. Go live your life, and if your want to, meet some more girls. Texting is good for logistics only in the beginning. What if it turns out that she's not a fit for you? You'd be kicking yourself that you didn't set yourself up with someone else in the interim. It's also great personal development to go and meet new girls - so go do that and keep working on your life mission. | /r/seduction | 01/06/16 02:41 AM |
| 1 | Not feeling desired by women even though I have a lot of things going for meBy reading Mark Manson's book then applying what it says. It's not a quick fix (there are no such things). | /r/seduction | 01/06/16 12:16 AM |
| 1 | Advice on approaching girls at parties or events?I wrote an article about this: http://www.brettellis.net/relationships/approach-a-woman/ This approach works anywhere. You're stuck in your head, so go out there and get the first 3 approaches out of the way and you'll get into a good flow. From there it snowballs. | /r/seduction | 31/05/16 02:27 AM |
| 3 | Not feeling desired by women even though I have a lot of things going for meA business can provide the best service, but if it can't market itself it won't get any business. It sounds like you struggle to put yourself out there and actually market yourself as a Man. This is where "Game" comes in and you learn how to communicate yourself in a way that Women find attractive. Have a read of Mark Manson's book "Models". | /r/seduction | 31/05/16 02:17 AM |
| 1 | Self Conscious about my lack of a social circle, should I lie?You don't frame it to anyone. You just own it. Just say exactly what you wrote: "In actuality I overindulged in weed and videogames, and girls actually scared me due to my lack of interaction with them. They still do a bit, but I really don't give a shit now." You can't get anywhere being a liar, you tell it how it is and people will either accept you as you are or they won't be in your life. People will like you for who you are, so best to be that person and just own it. Good for you for wantin… | /r/seduction | 31/05/16 02:12 AM |
| 2 | How To Tell If She Really Wants YouThanks man. Everyone wants the quick fix but the quick fix is actually the long way around. If you just be you and express yourself honestly you'll find the right people and push away the wrong people. The world needs to know that. | /r/seduction | 29/05/16 05:15 AM |
| 2 | Do tall girls like older men moreDoes a mouse prefer cheddar or swiss cheese? Depends on the mouse! Younger girls do tend to like older Men because the Men their age aren't as mature as they are (hehe - titties!) AND they haven't spent all that much time with older men - so it's a bit of a fad as they are perceived to be better. Also, a Females primary need is support, and an older Man is more likely to be able to provide that if he is older. As for height and age? I don't think there would be any correlation. Unless it comes d… | /r/seduction | 27/05/16 01:53 AM |
| 2 | Approach anxiety & good booksYes - I use it all the time and my students use it. It is direct, honest and even if she has a BF/Not Interested/YouGet"Rejected" it's still a really nice experience for both people. Approach anxiety never goes away - EVER. People who are good at approaching just feel it and act despite it. It comes down to a Man's greatest fear - and that is rejection! | /r/seduction | 27/05/16 01:46 AM |
| 2 | I hate women, and this isn't fucking worth it. Why can't I just stop?You don't need to manipulate and lie to anyone. In fact, that's the worst shit you can do because you're just going to attract girls who are the same as you - Lying, manipulative, insecure assholes. All you need to do is BE YOU, and learn how to market yourself the right way to the right people. Dude, go and read Mark Manson's book Models. | /r/seduction | 26/05/16 07:11 AM |
| 1 | Not seeing many girls a day to approach...Good Job! See, it's easy. Now just keep doing that and you'll do great. | /r/seduction | 26/05/16 07:08 AM |
| 1 | I always think that if you aren't attractive enough you cant pick up Hot/Attractive girlsHave you seen how ugly some of the "wold renowned PUA's" are? It's obvious that looks don't count for much at all. Good DNA does count, but good DNA isn't just about aesthetics. | /r/seduction | 26/05/16 04:39 AM |
| 1 | Game : one size fits all?Nope. Be the best version of yourself and learn how to market yourself to the right people. That means knowing who you are, what works for you and what sort of girl you want. The way you go about it is different for everyone. But you have got to try a lot of different "styles" to see what works. And what works is your own STYLE. | /r/seduction | 26/05/16 04:31 AM |
| 1 | Not seeing many girls a day to approach...Unless it's an all boys university, I recon there would be hundreds of young ladies for you to approach. Sit next to them in classes and chat to them all. You sound quite reserved, but it also sound like you might be making excuses and waiting until "the right time" to approach. Become a guy who talks to everyone, and when you get good at escalation you'll find yourself with alot more Women. | /r/seduction | 26/05/16 04:29 AM |
| 2 | How to end first dates if there's bad logistics?Escalate as much as possible, regardless of whether or not you can go somewhere to have sex. If she is horny enough, she will fuck you anywhere - car, park or even at her/your parents house. Be in the moment and take it as it is - you're thinking too much about it. Have the most fun in every moment possible and you'll be surprised how it works out. She might even have a friend close by that has a spare room. At worst you'll have to go home and rub one out (and so will she) but ONE DAY no one wil… | /r/seduction | 26/05/16 04:25 AM |
| 1 | How To Approach A Woman Like A BossGood Movie - I am pretty sure Bret Easton Ellis has only the one t | /r/seduction | 25/05/16 03:19 AM |
| 1 | How To Approach A Woman Like A BossIt's not what you say its how you say it. You could say just about anything with a smile on your face and get away with it. | /r/seduction | 25/05/16 03:18 AM |
| 1 | Struggling with not texting/talkingTexting is reserved for organising the next date and for all of the logistics. It isn't good for chatting - BUT - If you love it, then LET HER KNOW that you can come across as needy because you ENJOY texting everyone. She won't think it is weird or needy if you just address it up front. You sound like you might be an anxious attachment type, so be aware of it and just tone it down a bit. | /r/seduction | 25/05/16 03:15 AM |
| 1 | Being short - how to take advantage of it?Your problem becomes their problem. If you are insecure and worried about it, she will pick up on it and it will become a problem for her. I'd make jokes about how you're so short you don't go down on girls - You go "up" on them. You can't change it so just own it. If you find girls that don't like it then go meet girls who it isn't a problem for. Honestly man, it's only a problem if you think its a problem. (I'm 174cm but have never had a prob with it). | /r/seduction | 25/05/16 03:07 AM |
| 2 | What to do if the girl gets annoyed or starts to feel uncomfortable?It depends on what annoyed her. If shes being silly you can just own it and don't even give it any weight. You just keep moving past it as if it didn't happen. If she is royally pissed off, then i'd just leave and reflect on what you did and whether you can improve on it next time (or meet better women). | /r/seduction | 25/05/16 03:04 AM |
| 1 | How do I cure oneitis of 7 years?The problem is the world according to you is extremely scarce. In actuality, there are over 3.5 billion women out there - Even a tiny percentage is a huge amount and of that, chances are they're a better fit than your ex is anyway. (Or you'd still be with her). Go see how the world really is, not the way you think it is. | /r/seduction | 25/05/16 03:01 AM |
| 2 | How do I cure oneitis of 7 years?th hobbies or whatever. You have to break the mental barrier of your neurons fireing over her. It can take time, but force yourself to not think about it. Use the rubber band trick. Everytime she comes to mind snap the rubber band hard against your wrist. Models = Best book! | /r/seduction | 25/05/16 02:57 AM |
| 3 | Do it because "today is not my day"Yeah you can't be "firing on all cylinders" every day. And if you do fuck up, just own it and be unapologetic about it. Show up and be seen and even if you're having a "bad day" you can still get a good result. | /r/seduction | 25/05/16 02:56 AM |
| 2 | How to take a girl off a pedestal?You naturally will put people up on a pedestal due to several different cognitive biases. Remind yourself that how you perceive her isn't actually true, and just go out and try and find someone who is a better match for you. She's out there, you just haven't found her yet. | /r/seduction | 25/05/16 02:52 AM |
| 3 | 9-5 Dilemma: Go on Dates Thursday/Fri/Sat vs. Hitting up bars/clubsIt depends on what your priority is. If you want to meet more numbers then focus more time on going out. If you want to build better relationships with the girls you know then spend more time doing that. I used to spend weekdays on dates (sometimes would do lunch dates) then go trawling on the weekends to set up my next week. It all depends on your priorities, but also don't spend time with any girl - choose only the great ones. | /r/seduction | 25/05/16 02:50 AM |
| 1 | Have a date but I´m brokeJust be honest man - You aren't a poor homeless person, you literally just had to pay a shitload of bills off. If she's that interested in you she might come out afterwards or change her plans. If you can, get her to a park, grab some bottles of wine and get her wasted there. | /r/seduction | 24/05/16 01:15 AM |
| 2 | How to take a girl off a pedestal?Men usually feel the remorse well after the breakup. Women feel the pain straight away, then move on pretty quickly. I have done that before, and put an ex up on a pedestal. Then we got back together and I realised she wasn't that great. Then broke up again. Then got back together again. And repeated this cycle another 5 times. Eventually you figure it out that she isn't that wonderful magical person your brain thinks she is, shes the person you used to date and is no longer compatible with you.… | /r/seduction | 24/05/16 01:10 AM |
| 10 | How to take a girl off a pedestal?She's not up on a pedestal, you just think you aren't worthy of her. Here is what you do: Go and meet other Women. Get better with Girls in general and your confidence will increase and you will prove to yourself that you are worthy of anyone who is a good fit for you. She burps, farts and does shits that are just as horrific as yours. She's as much of a Human being as you are. As soon as you recognise that you are just as Human as she is, and you open up your mind to the real abundance of other… | /r/seduction | 21/05/16 05:27 AM |
| 1 | Anybody in Toronto?Hey bro I run a Meetup.com group called "Single Men Of Toronto". You can join it, come to the events we run (we do alot of infield Day Game stuff) and you'll also be able to meet other guys who want to go out as well. When you join put a message up and you'll get a few guys who will be keen! | /r/seduction | 21/05/16 05:23 AM |
| 1 | Dealing With The Fear Of JudgementThanks mate. Appreciate it! | /r/seduction | 21/05/16 02:13 AM |
| 1 | For 3 Years I defined myself by my relationship, and now it's over. In a new city, I need a clean slate...how to start?You already ARE rebuilding yourself, bro. You are already on the journey :) It is hard and lonely when you're in a new place with no one to connect with, so go to www.Meetup.com and check out groups on there that you would enjoy going to. Meetup is awesome to connect with like-minded people! | /r/seduction | 27/04/16 03:55 AM |
| 2 | Why is inner game the first thing you wanna work on"Success is 80% Psychology, and 20% strategy" - Tony Robbins. Let me put it another way: You can try and install Apple software on a Windows laptop all you want, but it won't work. But if you install windows software on a Windows operating system - it'll work perfectly. Your inner game is the operating system and the programs you use are the strategies to get girls and "use lines" and all that surface level shit. Without good inner game, none of that shit will work. | /r/seduction | 26/04/16 01:08 AM |
| 2 | Advice Needed - How to Handle Success?No problem :) Glad it helped you out! | /r/seduction | 26/04/16 01:03 AM |
| 3 | How do I stop taking rejection so hard.If a girl "rejects" you she is doing you a massive favour. We aren't supposed to be BFF's with every human being on the planet - we are just so different. Not only that, our moods and situations change every minute so not only do you need to stumble upon a girl who you'll get along with (AKA: Share similar values) it has to be the right timing too. The key to success is vulnerability, and yes rejection sucks but it is a natural fact of life that is inevitable - it's just that you're not used to … | /r/seduction | 25/04/16 12:24 AM |
| 3 | Advice Needed - How to Handle Success?Just be honest about it all. If they don't like it, then be a gentleman and hold the door for her as she leaves. You just got out of a long relationship and you've never lived this life before - so of course it's going to be weird and you'll be a bit unsure about it. As long as you are honest, you're doing the right thing - You aren't responsible for the way they choose to feel about your situation. Just take it one day at a time, chill out, and enjoy the ride. Whatever happens, happens and you … | /r/seduction | 25/04/16 12:19 AM |
| 3 | On finding 'The One'Hey Mate, I am a dating coach and I help Men with this exact problem. You sound like you're already miles ahead of most men, but I'm wondering as to why you've never had a girlfriend? I'm not judging you, but as we are 90% unconscious, I'm going to go out on a limb and guess that deep down there are some behaviours that you're doing that is pushing the good Women away (I used to be the exact same). The first step is to define exactly who your "Dream Girl" is, then you go out and find her. Most g… | /r/seduction | 25/04/16 12:07 AM |
| 2 | How do you greet girls you've been with later on?I just act like they're a good mate. So I'll be a bit more forward with them, laugh about some inside jokes that we had together, but I wouldn't worry too much about how you act around them. If you just be normal and don't make things awkward and weird then everything will be fine. She's probably more self-conscious than you would be anyway, so if you just act like what you did together was fine and do go making a big deal about how you fooled around then there won't be an issue. Remember, your … | /r/seduction | 24/04/16 06:02 AM |
© TheRedArchive 2026. All rights reserved.
created by /u/dream-hunter