Okay, so when I'm with a girl in an intimate setting I find it difficult to make a move. When it occurs to me something could happen I get all tense and shivery, which is a turn off to women.

Is there something I can do to make the whole thing smother? I've never really kissed a girl and the thought is getting scarier and scarier.

An example of my ineptitute would be this:

At a pary talking with a girl i know is interested She wants to play the shitty question game Ask's shit like "who are you crushing on right now", u know, stuff to get the ball rollin. I clamp up and deflect the questions becuase im emotionally insecure.

Idk feel like im not being very lucid here, just maybe looking for some advice on the issue. Im 21 btw