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Ooh yikes. Good luck.
/r/seduction20/01/18 02:08 PM
1

Everyone should get into Tantric
/r/seduction19/01/18 04:10 PM
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It may take more than a few days. I needed a 30 day reset before I got my mojo back.
/r/seduction19/01/18 04:09 PM
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Dude I’m not going to argue for hours on what ‘should be’ here. This is a practical and goal oriented sub and the fact is people are judged on their appearance so in the short term, look like you give a damn. This is not an indictment of the man in the video, I’m just commenting that looks matter.
/r/seduction04/01/18 07:23 PM
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Don't try to get back to her place. It was NYE, you two were already out. Trying to go back is awkward. Do coffee, dinner, or a movie night, but don't try to get straight back into her bed dude that's weird.
/r/seduction04/01/18 04:44 PM
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Everyone? Your look is the first thing people notice about you. If my doctor comes up to me dressed like Boy George, I'm going to ask for a different doctor. How you present yourself visually is like the first thing we preach here.
/r/seduction04/01/18 02:54 PM
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Fair enough.
/r/seduction04/01/18 02:44 AM
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He needs to get a lawyer before he needs to get in bed with someone else. His wife does not need to be in his life anymore.
/r/seduction03/01/18 09:48 PM
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Your wife messed up, you are finished. If she can't be faithful, then she shouldn't have gotten married. Do you think this will be the only time? She may quit for a time, but if you accept this behavior, you will get cuckolded over and over for the rest of your life. You'll find yourself home alone with the kids while she's out every Friday doing blow and letting other men fuck her in the ass. And she'll be using your credit card because she lost her job and she'll be relying on you. Don't belie…
/r/seduction03/01/18 09:03 PM
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Welcome to Tinder bud, sorry. 2 options that I can think of. 1) "I need a confirmation before I head out. Let me know by X time" 2) Be there at the agreed upon time and hope she shows up.
/r/seduction03/01/18 08:51 PM
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This is called a ‘Skinner Box’ Basically Snapchat set up the streak system to trick your brain into thinking snapchat is rewarding. Same as reddit karma. It’s a ploy to keep you engaged and keep their numbers up. It does nothing for YOU so if you aren’t getting anything from the conversation, just move on.
/r/seduction02/01/18 06:29 PM
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Don't be that guy.
/r/seduction02/01/18 05:38 PM
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It was not funny
/r/seduction06/12/17 03:59 PM
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Think about what you just said. You just called him a future rapist.
/r/seduction06/12/17 11:03 AM
3

She’s using you. Be honest. Say ‘I can’t keep cuddling someone who is ashamed of me and won’t date me’
/r/seduction06/12/17 11:00 AM
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I’m pretty monogamous. Developing a harem is a long and exhausting process and statistically you get more sex and enjoy the sex more from a high quality LTR. The single life is not for me.
/r/seduction06/12/17 10:57 AM
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I pick something in their photos that I can tease them for.
/r/seduction05/12/17 04:33 PM
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Then delete and start over or pay for one of their boosts. What’s the issue? Work the system.
/r/seduction05/12/17 04:33 PM
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Ok. Give up then.
/r/seduction05/12/17 03:25 PM
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That’s probably fine.
/r/seduction05/12/17 03:24 PM
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In my first paragraph. I have no idea what the average experience is and I’m not claiming to be an expert. Read what people have to say, don’t assume you know people’s motives, and being negative helps no one.
/r/seduction05/12/17 03:24 PM
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Try to do pics in locations that say things about you. Have you climbed a mountain? Take a pic! Do you enjoy the club? Take a pic. Do you have a nice car? You get the point.
/r/seduction05/12/17 12:45 PM
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Have you thought about improving your look? Hit the gym. Get some nice clothes. Style your hair.
/r/seduction05/12/17 12:43 PM
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I’m pretty sure I didn’t link facebook.
/r/seduction04/12/17 09:07 PM
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I can’t imagine less being better unless you simply don’t have good or interesting photos.
/r/seduction04/12/17 09:05 PM
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I had success on my first try. I explained what I did. That’s all this is.
/r/seduction04/12/17 09:04 PM
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Your guess is as good as mine. IMO those girls are just as clueless & lazy if they aren’t putting effort in, then you can’t expect much.
/r/seduction04/12/17 09:02 PM
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I didn’t link facebook. So no.
/r/seduction04/12/17 09:01 PM
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It worked for me. And by exotic I meant a park.
/r/seduction04/12/17 09:01 PM
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I was kind of amazed at how easy it was. Had I been going for numbers instead of quality, I might have had 3-4.
/r/seduction04/12/17 06:52 PM
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I did not go in with a canned response. I looked through their profile, found something interesting in a photo or their bio, and I made a comment on that. For example. Her bio said she was a single mom, but she had no pictures of her kids. I said she was breaking the rules by not having pictures of her kids. She said she was horrified of pedophiles and we went from there.
/r/seduction04/12/17 06:29 PM
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I just did a selfie in my car for the profile pic. The other pics were in more exotic locations.
/r/seduction04/12/17 05:55 PM
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Kevin Hart, Mark Whalberg, & Bruno Mars are all below average. It’s not about your size man. It’s about what type of man you are. If you can command respect while being short. You look like a fucking god.
/r/seduction03/12/17 12:26 PM
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Ask her what her hard limit is. She will appreciate you being respectful of her needs and feel safer with you.
/r/seduction02/12/17 11:01 AM
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This sounds like normal friendly behavior. I wouldn’t assume he’s trying to flirt. From this alone. Perhaps if he escalates.
/r/seduction02/12/17 10:57 AM
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Your attitude of “a man’s job” is straight out of the 1950s. That’s fine, but understand the culture has moved on. You may have to explain to men that it’s ok to take on a more traditional role so that they know how you want to be treated.
/r/seduction01/12/17 11:31 PM
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Oblivious =\= obvious. And your mistake is you are treating men as if they are women. Men are not women. We are men. Men are direct and to the point. That’s why it’s a common mistake for men to send unwarranted dick pics. Those men are treating women like men. We want to see you naked, ergo you must want to see us naked. So a common problem today is that the consequences are higher than ever if you fail an approach. In the 50s if you were aggressive and forward with women, you wouldn’t hear anot…
/r/seduction01/12/17 10:57 PM
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If you don’t set a specific time, then it’s not going to happen. Also don’t be afraid to lightly slap a guy and say “make a move on me damnit!” We are far more oblivious than women think we are.
/r/seduction01/12/17 09:58 PM
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This is complete horse shit. It will work on desperate and weak willed women, but it’s borderline predatory. It’s no relationship it’s a parasitic lifestyle with you as the leech. The author bashes poor behavior in women without recognizing that he has become the wosrt of man kind. This will work in the short term, which is probably why the author posted this, but your women will become husks of their former selves. There will be no joy, just constant attempts to please you until they realize th…
/r/seduction01/12/17 09:09 PM
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Complete removal is not guaranteed, it can require several treatments, and it can leave scars. Tattoos are still something that needs to be thought through completely before you dive in.
/r/seduction01/12/17 08:21 PM
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He’s coming at this from a different perspective. Pursuing a LTR (with the right attitude and the right woman) does not make you a needy loser. It’s all a matter of what you want. He (to put it politely) doesn’t want to sacrifice some of his freedoms, which you will have to do in a LTR. So he gambles on a revolving door of short term hookups. And that’s fine. Statistically this lifestyle means getting less sex, but he has more of his freedom in tact and he can ‘hang with his boys’ whenever he pl…
/r/seduction01/12/17 07:25 PM
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Getting into relationships is 10x easier than hookups if you ask me. I don’t think you will have issues.
/r/seduction01/12/17 05:03 PM
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There is no magic number for texting. It depends on the person. I have a job with a lot of natural lulls. It’s very easy for me to text while working. This wasn’t true back when I worked restaurants. It’s the same with women. Some love texting, others find it tiresome, some would love to text but don’t have the time. Try to match their pace. But understand 99 times out of 100, you will need to instigate.
/r/seduction01/12/17 04:36 PM
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A few thoughts Face tattoos, even behind the ear drastically reduce the places that will hire you. You'll never see a Disney prince/princess or a news anchor with face tattoos. Be ok with limiting your options. Only get tattoos in places easily covered by business clothing IMO. My boss hates tattoos, but 1/3 of the office has a tattoo. This is possible because they can hide the tattoos with clothing. Some girls don't like tattoos. So be ok with limiting your options there. SLEEP ON EVERY TATTOO …
/r/seduction01/12/17 02:35 PM
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Well think of the opposites. Aggressive is the opposite of Passive. Women (and here I'm speaking in generalities) don't like it when a man is complicit in life. A man who goes with the flow or worse someone who mentally checks out is not going to be appealing to women. Do you play 10+ hours of games per week? Or are you using your free time to better yourself in the gym or your career? Are you agreeing with everything she says? Or do you have your own opinions and can carry a conversation? Women…
/r/seduction01/12/17 02:27 PM
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Use the search function in the side bar. There are lots of great conversation questions that get posted to this sub from time to time. Awkward pauses are going to happen. If an awkward silence happens, it's because you weren't prepared.
/r/seduction01/12/17 02:18 PM
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It depends on your goals. Are you satisfied with nudes or are you trying to sleep with her? If a girl told me she takes requests I would say Why are we bothering with Snapchat? Come over so I can make these requests in person. Remember we aren't here to help you discover what turns you on or what kind of sexual fantasies you want to explore. We are here to help you increase the quality and quantity of girls that you pursue relationships with. Asking us what kind of nudes you should ask for is no…
/r/seduction01/12/17 02:16 PM
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I tried submitting this once, but something happened and reddit deleted it. So Hooray for starting over. Get comfortable with approaching. You can't just say... If the girl wanted more, she can pursue me. It may be true, but it's not what women want to do. I don't care if you are a creationist or an evolutionist, all signs and evidence point towards most women want to be pursued. It's not 'needy' to be the one doing the pursuing. 'Needy' is texting her 6 times for every time she texts you. Or ha…
/r/seduction01/12/17 02:11 PM
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I would play up hiking, biking, and Eagle Scout. If you have a pic from your service project, use that. This shows women something about you. Video Games, Hip Hop, and Football are a little too generic to play up. Don’t hide them, but they don’t need to be front and center.
/r/seduction28/11/17 03:18 PM
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I know the difference but like I said I didn’t want to waste my time on arguing semantics when I agreed with you. But you got pissy that I didn’t use the right word so here we are wasting time arguing semantics when otherwise we are on the same page.
/r/seduction28/11/17 02:15 AM
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That’s a shame. It’s happened to me twice. Admitedly I didn’t close on one.
/r/seduction28/11/17 01:25 AM
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I get it, and it’s arguing semantics. I said friend zone, but with your belief system I should have used the word friendship. I’m not going to apologize or change anything in the post because I misunderstood your definition of a largely made up concept.
/r/seduction28/11/17 01:24 AM
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I do not have oneitis. I am dating other people. You are putting words in my mouth and assuming motive.
/r/seduction28/11/17 01:21 AM
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Having read two of your posts now, I think the women we meet are fundamentally very different. And you seem to think I have a problem closing and moving on which is’t true. (Well isn’t true anymore).
/r/seduction27/11/17 10:08 PM
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What do I care who she dates? She’s her own person and I’ll have closed someone else by then. Getting coffee with her doesn’t mean I stop my search.
/r/seduction27/11/17 10:04 PM
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Ok I’m not going to argue semantics when ultimately we believe the same thing and call it something different.
/r/seduction27/11/17 09:59 PM
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Let's break this down, step by step. Depending on how you met Sunday, you probably should have escalated on Thursday and definitely by Saturday into some kissing & petting or some kind of interest. By Monday she's clearly thinking "This guy isn't going to make a move". Of course she wasn't interested by Thursday because she doesn't want to keep wasting her time if the spark isn't there and it isn't going anywhere. As for her text "But we haven't been talking" clearly you two aren't on the same p…
/r/seduction27/11/17 07:36 PM
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I completely agree. That's just a woman who is trying to be polite while rejecting you. That's not a friend. This thread is not talking about those women. Those women are dishonest. Ok for example I just had a woman say to me "You are attractive, you have a brain, and I enjoy my time with you, but I can't date a divorcee, I can't get in the middle of that drama.", I can respect that, I can work with that, and we are getting coffee before work tomorrow.
/r/seduction27/11/17 07:19 PM
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That’s not a huge deal at 18. He’s still learning how to interact with women and going on a few friend dates can give him confidence when it comes time for the real thing.
/r/seduction27/11/17 03:33 PM
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In the back of her mind she will always be prepared for you to leave again. It will never be the same. It probably won’t be as good as you think it will be. I’d focus your efforts on someone new.
/r/seduction27/11/17 03:28 PM
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Fair enough.
/r/seduction27/11/17 01:59 AM
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No no no! Your mindset is trash. Your goal must be self improvement. Looking only to get laid will have you searching for shortcuts. You are running a marathon backwards and expecting results. We can’t help you with your current focus.
/r/seduction27/11/17 01:35 AM
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You misunderstand. YOU WILL NOT GET LAID UNTIL YOU STOP ACTING PATHETIC That’s step one through motherfucking ten. Nothing I say will help you until you deflate your ego and see what you are actually doing. And honestly it’s pretty easy to get laid after that but damn I don’t think you even realize how scummy your messages make you look.
/r/seduction27/11/17 01:16 AM
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Get out of your own head and treat it the same as the first visit. There could be 1000 reasons why she SEEMED less interested, but seem is the operative word. She still agreed to hang out with you. Shoulders back, crack jokes, eye contact, and for the love of god touch her!
/r/seduction27/11/17 12:55 AM
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Your desperation is clearly visible. Stop it. Do you honestly think women would be attracted to this? Women like confidence and strength of character and this is neither. You’ve got to do some things to get your sense of self respect back. Stop degrading yourself and go hit the gym tomorrow.
/r/seduction27/11/17 12:49 AM
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Dance classes are a big one.
/r/seduction27/11/17 12:42 AM
1

Tell us more about yourself and how you approach and less about the stats of the women. We can’t help you without getting a good sense of who you are. My guess is that the shut in life is catching up with you. As women get older they want a man who has his shit together, and being a shut in gets less appealing.
/r/seduction26/11/17 11:44 PM
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This is true except when you are ready for LTRs. Then this stuff is important.
/r/seduction26/11/17 09:04 PM
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You gave us no details. If you like her call her. Easy as that. If you don’t like her. Dkn’t call her.
/r/seduction26/11/17 08:59 PM
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fair enough but twice a week seems low to me. I come from an evangelical background and the women in our church are constantly encouraging each other for six times a week or more with their husbands. The last girl I dated said she masturbated multiple times per day and expected sex that often from her future spouse. They wait until marriage then the floodgates open.
/r/seduction26/11/17 08:52 PM
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Twice a week is a below average sex life for a couple that is living together. I wouldn’t call that healthy. For some people, it is enough, but since you weren’t feeling connected I am guessing it wasn’t enough for you. Good luck.
/r/seduction26/11/17 03:10 PM
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Fair enough. If you aren’t a good fit, I would move on. Be sure to tell him why. The lack of affection is worrying to me. If he is a heavy porn user it may be that he gets his affection need taken care of through porn. It may not bother him, but it’s affecting you and that is a sign of addiction. Good luck. Go find an affectionate partner.
/r/seduction26/11/17 01:37 PM
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I’m saying you may not have clearly and effectively communicated the problem. You like to speak in idioms (at least in this thread) but they aren’t clear. I’m worried that you haven’t clearly communicated the problem and why this is important to you.
/r/seduction26/11/17 11:29 AM
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I’ve read a few of your posts. You have a tendency to beat around the bush and not say what you mean. Be direct. Ask a direct question.
/r/seduction25/11/17 09:02 PM
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You’ll be initiating for 99% of your life.
/r/seduction25/11/17 05:34 PM
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Flowers and a special dinner, light a lot of candles, make out like it’s the first time, take a half hour before her clothes come off. I won’t say it works every time but it has a damn good track record.
/r/seduction24/11/17 08:32 PM
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I get that, but I think she may be feeling a bit emotionally distant from you. I’m not saying you have to dive into monogomy, but I do think she may be feeling like you aren’t prioritizing her the way she wants and that can be a problem even if she enjoys you with other women. Ultimately you know her best but I would bet if you prioritized her for a few weeks she would feel better and more secure.
/r/seduction24/11/17 08:22 PM
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What? No! He could absolutely say there is a place he wants to try based on Yelp reviews or word of mouth. Don’t be absurd.
/r/seduction24/11/17 04:20 PM
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Why did you deny the lunch? Seems like she was busy and that was her only meet time. Make your intentions clear. Cut through the games. Then decide from there.
/r/seduction24/11/17 04:16 PM
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You have such a non-standard problem that it will be hard for us to answer with much clarity. I will post a few thoughts here. Stripping for males and females alike is a very exploitative field. You tend to end up in very one sided business relationships. Be very careful. It’s also an environment that breeds substance abuse. And of course it’s not a very respected field so it won’t lead to many better opportunities. I think you need to work towards a better career and find your sex elsewhere. Sh…
/r/seduction24/11/17 04:11 PM
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Ooh I’m going to get downvoted for this... Girls operate on a plane of natural manipulation. Remember that old move “My big fat greek wedding” one line from that movie got very popular among the ladies in my area “The man may be the head of the family, but the woman is the neck, and she can move the head however she wants”. It brings the house down. Women (and I don’t know if this is for biological reasons or sociological reasons) communicate indirectly and so everything they say and do is a nud…
/r/seduction24/11/17 03:35 PM
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I have never had a relationship without fights.
/r/seduction24/11/17 01:12 PM
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Have you ever thought that perhaps they fizzled because you weren’t passionate or opinionated enough? People like a bit of uncertainty and I don’t know you, but I can’t imagine you are having an exciting relationship if you don’t fight ever.
/r/seduction24/11/17 01:10 PM
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Please seek therapy.
/r/seduction24/11/17 10:17 AM
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I just don’t want people thinking they have game bothering women while they are most vulnerable when there are better places.
/r/seduction23/11/17 08:46 PM
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A not insignificant sub section of women and men ghost. I think it’s immature and rude, but you can’t help it.
/r/seduction23/11/17 07:01 PM
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I plan on it, but that doesn’t change the fact that many women hate it and pound for pound you can get better results elsewhere. It’s like picking a girl up at a funeral, you can, but there are better places.
/r/seduction23/11/17 06:59 PM
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I’m not sure I understand your question. It feels like you had something you wanted to say, so you phrased it as a question.
/r/seduction23/11/17 06:58 PM
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Just an FYI. I’ve had many women say this is their least favorite place to be approached. They feel exposed and judged which naturally makes them more defensive. Take this video with a grain of salt.
/r/seduction23/11/17 04:38 PM
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This is creepy and will not land you quality women. The women it will work on are going to be 1) Completely bored or 2) Have low self worth. The second reason is what makes this borderline predatory.
/r/seduction23/11/17 04:27 PM
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I can tell you what I would say. But understand you are asking me to respond to a girl I’ve never met. I don’t know her hair color, eye color, I don’t know her likes/dislikes, I don’t know her favorite food or the type pf perfume she wears. You are asking a blind man to describe the color green.
/r/seduction23/11/17 04:21 PM
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Yeah move on. Lots of women fake interest so that they don’t seem rude.
/r/seduction23/11/17 03:38 PM
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Get a number dude. If she says she doesn’t use it much, that’s probably true. SC is a gimmicky way to communicate.
/r/seduction23/11/17 03:37 PM
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Turn it into a strength. If your voice is monotone you can play a role and make jokes like you are a “Souless Robot”. People will laugh and you can make a fun game out of your own personal challenges. That’s just one example of course, you will find what works for you, but confidence and game are going to be a lot more important than looks.
/r/seduction23/11/17 02:23 PM
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I wrote you another one explaining more on the what to do. Be sure to check out that one.
/r/seduction23/11/17 02:12 PM
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Following a girl’s social media is not a way to get her to like you. You need to be have some combination of attractiveness, success, and game. The most important by far is game. Start hitting the gym and giving a shit about school/work. Those two things alone will get girls a bit interested and they have a clear path forward. Not to mention you will feel better and bring in more money. Game is MORE important than those two, but it’s the hardest to work on. If I get more time, I’ll give you some…
/r/seduction23/11/17 02:02 PM
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Hahahahaha no! What attention grabbing monster has 2 Instagram accounts? Bail! I don’t care how hot she is, that’s a huge red flag!
/r/seduction23/11/17 01:56 PM
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A tough topic and one that I’m not sure is apropriate for the forum. Some of these are bound to be true. I know Kevin Spacey & I think Franken admit to theirs. Some of these are bound to be cut throat politics, but we should investigate to be sure. What does all of this means for us? Be careful and respectful of boundaries. If you are in a borderline situation (i.e. girl is a little too tipsy) then put her to bed politely and go sleep on the couch/go home. Getting your dick wet is not worth a gi…
/r/seduction23/11/17 01:54 PM
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CL is full of scammers and bots. They message you until they get an email or phone then they sell it to fishing scams. Try Tinder instead. It seems like less of a cesspool.
/r/seduction22/11/17 05:14 PM
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I text girls but I try not to flood her with texts or text at weird times. It’s easy to look desperate/clingy if you aren’t careful, but a few, fun responses can be fine. Don’t force conversations though, that’s important. If you don’t have interesting things to say, then don’t say anything.
/r/seduction22/11/17 05:10 PM
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I think you are right on most counts. I wasn't planning on dating this early, but the opportunity presented itself and I thought I'd go for it. I actually knew this girl before the divorce, we run in similar friend groups, so the 10/10 status was cemented before I became available. Thanks for the advice.
/r/seduction21/11/17 08:44 PM
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You said it yourself in the title. It’s a liability.
/r/seduction21/11/17 08:14 PM
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Then go with none at all. The moustace is a huge liability.
/r/seduction21/11/17 08:09 PM
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The molestache is out of style. Go with a beard or no facial hair at all.
/r/seduction21/11/17 07:26 PM
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The gym is a horrible place to try and pick up women. They don’t feel any security, they feel watched, exposed, judged, on display, etc. Their barriers are as high as can be there typically. All my female friends agree, the gym is the last place they want to be hit on.
/r/seduction21/11/17 07:20 PM
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I have to commend you. You recognize the problem is you and you are taking steps to fix it. Women are people, you don’t own them, and they are allowed to talk to other guys and even flirt, kiss, or fuck other guys until you establish some type of exclusive relationship. I think you KNOW this but you have some type of FEELING that gets you pissed and makes you act out. I would suggest therapy since these are coming out as violent outbursts. A therapist can help you dig down deep and figure out wh…
/r/seduction21/11/17 07:16 PM
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Oh ok good. Sounds like you aren’t being pressureed I just want to make sure.
/r/seduction09/11/17 12:55 AM
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Pardon me for a frank question, but are you comfortable with moving forward like this? You say you want to learn strip teases but you seem reluctant and uncomfortable. Are you sure this is what you want? To answer your actual question, men want to be wanted and appreciated, same as women. The worst dancer in the world can still make her man feel like a sex god with good eye contact and a few well timed compliments.
/r/seduction08/11/17 03:01 PM
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There is nothing weird about virginity. I lost mine at 19 and I regret it later. Don’t fret too much. Everyone telling you to masturbate beforehand is a dipshit. You don’t eat McDonalds an hour before you go to a nice steakhouse. Masturbating beforehand misses the fucking point (literally)
/r/seduction08/11/17 01:32 PM
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It’s up to you. All I can say is, I wish I had waited until I was ready. But it’s hard to know when you are actually ready.
/r/seduction07/11/17 11:17 PM
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I don't think there is anything wrong with a casual relationship with this girl as long as you are upfront about it. "Hey, I think you are a cool person, and I'd love to take you on a few dates. We've got college soon, so let's not pretend that this will be forever, but I think we can have a good time in the mean time". I'm a bit different on this from most people, most people will tell you to sleep with whoever you want. I'm not one of them. Casual dates are fine, no harm there. But I had sex a…
/r/seduction07/11/17 09:04 PM
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Sounds like you need to ask her this question and not a bunch of strangers on Reddit. I'll help you out on technique though. You should be expressing your attraction more. If you aren't touching her, you aren't expressing attraction. Grow up and hold that poor girl's hand, touch her on the back, don't shy away from this. Be more flirty. You keep saying non-platonic. It sounds like this poor girl likes you and thinks you only see her as a friend. You keep trying to look for signals that she likes…
/r/seduction07/11/17 08:42 PM
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First things first. You have a very low opinion of yourself and that's just silly. You haven't kissed a girl? So what? I had kissed two girls at 16 and I was such a bad kisser that they dumped me on the spot. It's not about a number, it's about the quality of the interactions and what you learn along the way. You are treating the kiss (or getting laid) as the goal. Your goal needs to be self improvement. A kiss can be a marker of improvement, but it's not your goal. So you say you are a decent a…
/r/seduction07/11/17 08:33 PM
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How do you know she's interested in you when you don't talk or spend any time with her? Seems like someone could easily be messing with your head here. Talk to us about how you know.
/r/seduction07/11/17 08:17 PM
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The marriage system is REALLY broken in America.
/r/seduction07/11/17 06:51 PM
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I'm not feeling this at all. She dumps you so that she's free to sleep with foreign dudes while overseas, and now she's back in the states and you want another shot. I don't see this ending well buddy. Especially don't start up another LTR with her.
/r/seduction07/11/17 05:49 PM
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You know you can have sex like anywhere right? Nature trails, park benches, etc. Just find a secluded place and go nuts! Air BnB is a good way if you want to keep up a facade of success. Also some creeps on craigslist often put out free rooms if you don't mind being on camera. You'll have a lot more success on second and third dates if you get that car & your own apartment. Start working towards that.
/r/seduction07/11/17 04:41 PM
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Amen! Never getting married without a pre-nup again! It's a shame because I HATE Pre-Nups, but my soon to be ex is coming after me for EVERYTHING.
/r/seduction07/11/17 04:11 PM
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If you are in high school he might still be very shy. I was approaching girls at 16, but I know plenty if guys who didn’t get comfortable until their 20s.
/r/seduction07/11/17 01:52 PM
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Renting is always more expensive monthly than owning, but I don’t want you to buy a house then get smacked with a foundation issue that you didn’t save for either.
/r/seduction07/11/17 01:51 AM
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Are we talking first date here or many dates later? First date, don't get too crazy or you can scare her off. The novelty should be coming from the new woman. If you NEED toys and games to get aroused you may have some ED problems that need addressing. I might do something simple and fun. Truth or Dare is always a classic. I might try passing a timer back and forth. You each take turns passing the timer. You can only kiss exposed parts of the body. When the timer goes off, you remove another art…
/r/seduction06/11/17 07:51 PM
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This is true, but it may not be the complete picture. You may be able to afford the payment, but can you afford the repairs? Do you want to lock yourself into an area so young? Etc. there are many things to think about.
/r/seduction06/11/17 06:45 PM
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This is a question for a different sub brother. If you do a 40 year loan, understand you will pay double what the house is worth in interest and taxes. That's not an exageration, for a $100K loan you will pay $198.5K over the course of 40 years. Basically you buy two houses and give one to the bank. Also you won't have paid down any of the principle balance for the next 10 years. Interest is paid in arrears, this is a fancy word for saying you pay interest first and the balance of the loan secon…
/r/seduction06/11/17 06:42 PM
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I’m a Realtor: DONT DONT DONT DONT DONT DONT DONT DONT DONT DONT DONT TO INFINITY!! DO NOT start a deeply intimate relationship with someone who has easy access to your stuff and is rent responsible. You are opening yourself up for a world of hurt if this goes poorly. Actually here is a lesson for all of you. STOP MOVING IN WITH PEOPLE YOU JUST MET! I know co-habitation is cheaper but I’m super tired of explaining to young couples that a contract can’t be broken just because you don’t love each …
/r/seduction06/11/17 12:24 AM
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This. Pride and adrenaline can get you through the first wave making you feel fine. So you go out thinking you are over it and perhaps do something you will regret. There is no shame in taking your time. I always give it at least 30 days. Sometimes more.
/r/seduction05/11/17 10:17 PM
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A lot of people will say there is no set time, and while this is technically true I would be very conservative with your number. Crisis moments like bad break ups have far reaching effects that may not be immediately present. I would do a month minimum. And don’t feel bad if you need more time.
/r/seduction05/11/17 10:14 PM
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Zig ziglar is a motivational speaker who uses something similar that he tells people to repeat everyday.
/r/seduction05/11/17 10:11 PM
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Kind of. It’s just disapointing when I ask first and she freaks out because butt stuff. I know when it’s done right it feels amazing but it’s hard to get women over that initial hump. Especially if they had a boyfriend who did it wrong the first time.
/r/seduction05/11/17 09:22 PM
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Oh in every relationship I’ve done manual stimulation, then oral, then penis in vagina sex in that order to make absolutely sure we are comfortable with each other. That question was meant to be a bit further in the relationship. I need help communicating and so I saw an opportunity to ask.
/r/seduction05/11/17 08:51 PM
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Since you have been so helpful. I would like to ask one more question if you don’t mind. And again I hope I am not being too graphic since you clearly said this was about kissing. On the subject of “Experimenting as long as they are comfortable” how should I aproach more taboo sex subjects. It is my experience that women are more open to certain sex acts after you have warmed them up. But it could be said that it is coercive to introduce these topics when they are horny. For example I was with a…
/r/seduction05/11/17 08:23 PM
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Thank you so much! This is precious info. I’m open to being emotional support, I’m not the type to hit it and quit it.
/r/seduction05/11/17 03:40 PM
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Thank you! I assumed they would be somewhere in the middle, but it’s good to have a lady’s thought process on the matter. I have a tougher question this time. What are some signs and body signals that she may be ready to move forward to those next steps? I am in a heavily christian/conservative area and these women, while possessing many fun and wonderful traits are very coy about this subject. I am ok with taking it slow, I get confused by mixed signals. I would talk to them about it, but even …
/r/seduction05/11/17 01:38 PM
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There is no (one) right answer to “How long do you pursue a girl”. If she has a drastically different worldview/religion then you should probably stop immediately and save yourself the trouble (For LTR anyway, feel free to smash). Now if you click with this girl but she’s getting out of a bad breakup or is a shy virgin, then it may take a little longer. And that’s ok. It’s up to you how patient you want to be. You don’t die if you wait a month without banging a girl. Decide what is right for you…
/r/seduction05/11/17 11:55 AM
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Government is full of stupid stuff like this.
/r/seduction05/11/17 11:49 AM
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You feel bad because you aren’t working towards your purpose. You’ve accomplished meaningless flings and it didn’t satisfy you. Now it’s time to turn your attention to what you want to be for the rest of your life. This isn’t necessarily relational either it could be spiritual, economic, friendship, physical goals (working out), any number of things really. I’d spend less time getting laid and more time contemplating your future.
/r/seduction05/11/17 11:44 AM
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What are your thoughts on moving towards the neck, earlobes, collarbone, etc. with kisses? Is this acceptable in the early stages of making out or should I save them for later?
/r/seduction05/11/17 11:32 AM
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The divorce rate in America is actually 30% now. Fewer people are getting married in America due to high costs and fewer religious pressures. People are going into marriage more confident it will last. Also if you factor out people who divorce multiple times over the course of their life, the number plumets again.
/r/seduction01/11/17 03:23 PM
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Well it makes sense. In a town of only 50,000 you don't have as many options. A guy living in NYC can strike out as many times as he wants, there is practically an infinite number of women waiting in the wings. You don't have that luxury. If the NYC man is playing with 9 innings, you maybe have 1-2 just because of the number of women around. Plus word travels in a small town like that, so an epic strike out can make it's way around the dating pool. You are playing a different game because of you…
/r/seduction01/11/17 02:09 PM
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The perfect smile exercise
/r/seduction01/11/17 02:01 PM
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Why would you be ashamed of it?
/r/seduction01/11/17 01:53 PM
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If that’s the case I wouldn’t try the numbers game. I would instead focus on quality interactions.
/r/seduction01/11/17 11:11 AM
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Simple mistake
/r/seduction01/11/17 10:52 AM
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Just because someone doesn’t want to cook doesn’t mean she’s lazy. I had a nasty cut with a knife and stayed away from cooking that used knives for about a year. Perhaps she’s burned some things and feels inadequate in the kitchen. It’s too early to tell and I wouldn’t write her off from one moment. She was obviously sexually interested but interested doesn’t mean she wants her ass slapped. He obviously did something that turned her off, and I think that’s on him.
/r/seduction31/10/17 09:13 PM
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Let me know if she responds.
/r/seduction31/10/17 09:06 PM
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I believe you, but this wasn't made clear in your original post. I would think long and hard about how clear you made your intentions and what you communicate through your actions. Re: Is it worth trying to salvage? That's up to you. She's still responding, so it can be salvaged. If you want to salvage, I would man up, admit you didn't get to know her, admit you put her into a situation where she was uncomfortable. I would tell her "All right, next date there will be no touching, I'll just liste…
/r/seduction31/10/17 08:07 PM
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She's exactly right. You didn't bother to find out if she's comfortable cooking and you invited her over on a third date for a night that requires moderate cooking skills. You are forcing your perspective on her when you say things like "This is your job", "You need to cook", "You are like the animals in the book with the hen". You are calling her ungrateful and making her feel bad by comparing her to the bad guys in a children's book. So after you don't clearly communicate your intentions for t…
/r/seduction31/10/17 07:50 PM
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Good luck. I’d pretend you need help with a workout. They like it when they think they can out lift or out squat one of the guys.
/r/seduction31/10/17 06:50 PM
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Again, I disagree. You can be fun, playful, without being needy all while establishing what the relationship is. When I'm out for a one night thing, I let her know, when I'm not ready, I let her know, if I think she has LTR, I let her know. I'm not sitting her down to discuss life goals in front of a mediator, I'm telling her through jokes and light moments. It's important to set up the expectations.
/r/seduction31/10/17 04:39 PM
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I'm not here to insult the guy, I'm here to give him a reality check. He's got boatloads of self confidence, but not a lot of common sense, and that's a dangerous combination.
/r/seduction31/10/17 04:19 PM
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Firm disagree with u/kwarkje. You should have established the relationship before having sex with her. You say "I'm sure she knows", that attitude is going to get you into a lot of trouble with women. You need to be setting the expectations from the get go. Even if you aren't sure where the relationship will go long term, you need to let her know where your mind is. Set the relationship up explicitly. That's what happened with you and this girl the first time. You had a nice night, you thought i…
/r/seduction31/10/17 04:18 PM
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Really unlikely she was considering being your boyfriend. She's paid to smile at you. Don't read too much into women in the service industry smiling at you.
/r/seduction31/10/17 04:09 PM
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The gym is a very vulnerable place for women and is not going to get you much mileage. You hinted at why, all the guys are staring at her. She's constantly feeling like she's being evaluated and judged, and to top it off, workout clothes are very revealing. She's uncomfortable, but she's there for a reason so she has to push through it. If she's standoffish and cold at the gym, it's because she is specifically trying to avert advances. Now some girls do go to the gym to meet men, but from how yo…
/r/seduction31/10/17 04:06 PM
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You can absolutely change other people’s minds and insecurities too. It’s manipulative and rude, but you can do it. Cult leaders, bad politicians, even Hollywood all make use of manipulative mind control techniques.
/r/seduction31/10/17 02:51 PM
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I disagree with that so much, but then again I’m an old fogey past his bar hopping days. I’m here for the LTRs.
/r/seduction31/10/17 02:48 PM
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Yeah to her certainly you would need to stand your ground to avoid her treating you like her son or some boy toy. But if a woman around my age were to politely say up front "let's only make this a one time thing", I don't think I would push the issue.
/r/seduction31/10/17 02:27 PM
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I can see that with some women, not with others. I’d probably immediately throw it out like “I disagree, this is a two time thing.”
/r/seduction31/10/17 01:42 PM
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Here’s a tip: Girl: “I like guys who XYZ” You: “OH! XYZ reminds me of this time where I...” So I’m chatting with this girl who is a huge backpacker. I am not, but I’ve been camping enough that I know the deal. I can connect with her on some level even though I’m not Paul Bunyan. All she needs to see is elements of her ideal frontier man and she will fill in the rest. So if she says “Oh I want a linebacker” you as the artsy type say “Oh yeah I’ve done plenty of sports photography to pay the bills…
/r/seduction31/10/17 01:30 PM
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Oooh that’s advanced. You have to time that perfectly to pull it off. This isn’t some line you can try you have to mean it. I’m for it though.
/r/seduction31/10/17 01:21 PM
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You can absolutely change insecurities what are you talking about? Did you ever have a vegetable you hated growing up that you eat now? Or maybe you were scared of rollercoasters and clowns but now they are NBD. You can 100% change insecurities.
/r/seduction30/10/17 08:43 PM
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Do you want an honest answer? Blow him for absolutely zero reason. He’s had someone in his past that treats sex as transactional. Quid pro quo, sex for perks, etc. Whatever the situation, he now feels like girls only want money from him when they get with him. So you give him a heart stopping blowjob. I mean really dress up and make him feel like a god. If you don’t do oral then do a strip tease before riding him. The point is it has to be completely for him. Something to say that you appreciate…
/r/seduction30/10/17 08:40 PM
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Take your time this first time. She’s going to be super tight this first time so make sure you spend a solid 10-20 minutes on foreplay. It will be a lot easier after this, but take it slow this first time. Don’t go for stupid kinky stuff on your first time. Ok no joke I have to tell this story. I had a friend of a friend who for his first time tied his girlfriend naked to the bed and he put on a superman cape. He jumped off a dresser like he was flying in to save her and he hit his head and knoc…
/r/seduction30/10/17 08:30 PM
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I did but I was zoning in and out due to the poor audio quality.
/r/seduction30/10/17 07:46 PM
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I have asked this very question of a woman recently and here's how she responded (keep in mind this will vary from woman to woman). Think about the head space she is in. If she's working in a restaurant, don't do it. She's likely there just for the cash and she's likely miserable. Her kindness for tips is frequently mistaken for attraction, and any suitor will be ignored simply because location. Same with the gym. Gym's are very vulnerable for women. They are trying to better their body, and fli…
/r/seduction30/10/17 06:55 PM
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That's not my point. I've slept with girls I wouldn't date (though I don't anymore for different reasons). But this guy is clearly targeting women that are traditionally unattractive and using them as a confidence booster to go after "higher" women. There is a difference between casual sex & straight manipulation. This post is leaning towards the latter.
/r/seduction30/10/17 06:43 PM
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Women do like a guy who has their own opinion and isn't a simple yes man who has no thoughts of his own. But I do feel like some people take this to the worst extreme sometimes in the form of "negging". You don't need to intentionally act like a dick to establish yourself as a separate complete person.
/r/seduction30/10/17 06:36 PM
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Don't force yourself to put on a character and neg girls if that's not your thing. I mean damn dude didn't you watch Disney's Aladdin growing up? Pretending to be something you aren't doesn't work long term, or even short term. Don't change who you are because of these tips, use the tips to guide your actions. I'm not going to tell a chick "ooh you ugly but I'd still smash" just to cross "negging" off the list I needed to do that night. But I did tell a girl recently "That was one of the worst p…
/r/seduction30/10/17 06:34 PM
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Your FWB violated her boundaries. I'm sure it was intentional. Just have a talk with her about rules and expectations. She can't ruin your chances like that and expect the relationship to stay the same. You guys need to talk about becoming exclusive or she needs to stop blocking you as you pursue other women. My guess was she wanted an evening with you that began with a little fun, and then escalated into sex. She probably saw you flirting with another woman and decided to mark her territory for…
/r/seduction30/10/17 06:18 PM
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Get comfortable and excited about making out asap. You don't 'talk women into sex'. You seduce them, excite them, play with them, etc. If you aren't into the foreplay or the kissing, then you are better off with prostitutes & porn.
/r/seduction30/10/17 06:07 PM
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I think I'm using approach differently from the tribe here because another guy said something quite similar... When I say 'approach' I'm using it to refer to the moment I state my intentions and try to move further (which I have nearly a 100% success rate on). I think the rest of the group is using approach as the first moment of contact.
/r/seduction30/10/17 06:01 PM
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Let's just say it's from experience. Some girls are great at hiding the crazy, and crazy can come out in some explosive and dramatic tantrums. Like steal your wallet, key your car, slash your tires, and run off to a neighboring state with some burnette girl she just met type tantrums. Of course I'm speaking in generalities and I'm better at identifying the crazy now, but I take my time now to make sure I'm compatible.
/r/seduction30/10/17 05:55 PM
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Oh ok, you and I were using approach differently. I think we're on a similar page.
/r/seduction30/10/17 05:49 PM
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I mean she is an ex, and that's not THE reason, but it didn't help. You can bust some serious nuts when she makes you wait that long though, it's not all bad.
/r/seduction30/10/17 05:48 PM
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Be attracted to whoever you want, that's not my point. There are certainly unattractive women, and I don't pursue them. I'm saying don't manipulate people just to get a confidence boost.
/r/seduction30/10/17 05:46 PM
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I don’t approach girls blind. I need to know something about them before I take them out. In 12 years a girl has never said no to a first date with me now that I think about it.
/r/seduction30/10/17 04:51 PM
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I feel like the "Nice Guy" approach gets a bad rep. You have to be nice to her on some level to build that attractiveness. The Neg or Tease is not the primary focus here, it's a tool. If you are constantly treating her like dirt, then you are only getting the most desperate and most needy women. There is a balance to this, and being nice is part of that.
/r/seduction30/10/17 02:49 PM
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I'm going to ditto u/ritrm, u/Close, & u/recyclablebanthas. There is good stuff there, and you should factor that into your next attempt. I'm also going to say, you rushed things and burnt out. You made out for a couple of minutes and then expected to close? That only works in porn, and news flash, it's fake. On average, women need about 11-13 minutes of foreplay, and that's the average! Some women need 20 minutes or more. My ex wife for example needed to make out 15+ minutes, then clean herself…
/r/seduction30/10/17 02:44 PM
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Here's what I learned from this post. Women are objects, feel free to use the less attractive ones as a tools to use for your ultimate goals. I'm sure you mean well, but this post is cringey. I'm not a huge fan of the HB 1-10 system, but I'll use it for explanation purposes. Your 5s and below don't want to be your practice girl because you couldn't land a 9-10 that night and you need a confidence booster. They are out for a fun, casual night, same as you. There are plenty of 1-5s in attractivene…
/r/seduction30/10/17 02:20 PM
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Congratulations, you're working a plan and getting results. We're proud of you. I disagree with "Quantity > Quality" though. You got 3 dates this week with 15 numbers. I approached 1 time, I got 1 number, and still I went on 3 dates. If you want to play the field, more power to you, but it's also perfectly acceptable to build confidence and charisma with a more deliberate approach in mind. Specifically those of us looking for LTRs.
/r/seduction30/10/17 01:37 PM
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You are walking a tightrope here. You can convinve girls to sleep with you in any scenario of course but you are going to hit a lot of stumbling blocks and turnoffs if your apartment is messey and if your parents pay your bills for you. Work hard to become self sufficient and get your own place.
/r/seduction29/10/17 06:22 PM
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Thanks. I forgot to mention it has been about 2 years. If you are seeking divorce and you have no desire to reconcile, I would not delay. It can take a WHILE especially if one party stonewalls the process like my wife did. I’ll take it slow. You are right.
/r/seduction29/10/17 05:01 PM
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Being direct Using facebook Pick one. Facebook is a very INDIRECT way of communicatin since she can’t see, hear, touch, taste, or smell you (yes taste and smell you read that right). On Facebook, the only tools you have is to engage these senses through the power of your words, and I’m sorry, but bluntness on text does not charm or delight. Alpha status does not mean you state your intentions bluntly and demand results. Alpha means you know what you want, you take steps to make it happen, and yo…
/r/seduction29/10/17 12:47 PM
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Of course it complicates things, but it’s not insurmountable. First thing’s first, check with your housemate on protocol. Are they comfortable with it? What days and times? Do they need to be out of the house or can they keep to their room? Apartment cleanliness standards for days you plan on bringing women home should be addressed. If they are leaving while you have sex, how many times do you displace them from the apartment. Better to discuss all this up front or it will come back to bite you …
/r/seduction29/10/17 12:23 PM
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