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It really isn't. But politics make it out that way to devide us and create conflict between the sexes this allows for voter manipulation. In fact, most abortion conflicts are a womans issue in general and the real devide is between general woman and religious woman. Men usually get behind their wives or religion and hold their oppinions. Advertisers jump in as they can spin it to sell products. We saw this when the me too movment gain momentum. Women are also the primary source of economic stimu…
/r/MensRights29/10/24 12:37 PM
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Oh it's still there. Just wait till the next war breaks out. I'm sure they will need us then.
/r/MensRights26/07/24 11:48 AM
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You just saved yourself a huge headache
/r/MensRights13/12/22 11:01 AM
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Bingo!
/r/MensRights11/12/22 12:46 PM
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It's really simple to fix this shit. In the marriage agreement there is also a separation agreement. If she starts stomping her feet, you run.
/r/MensRights03/12/22 12:14 PM
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They guy is known for being a complete dick to actors and crew. This is an obvious attention grab to promote a new movie to women and nothing else. He is also under contract with Dis parks and they are really pushing the woke stuff.
/r/MensRights02/12/22 12:41 PM
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Family Law.
/r/MensRights02/12/22 12:13 PM
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If you don't care much about moving up at this company and your contract states 40 hrs a week for your salary. Then hold them to that. You can't get fired for doing "your job". What they are doing is actually lowering your hourly rate by forcing you to work longer hours. its illegal.
/r/MensRights01/12/22 10:59 AM
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I'm confused. Who is this?
/r/MensRights23/11/22 12:31 PM
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See this is why we take them out for coffee first.
/r/MensRights12/11/22 12:39 PM
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I have dealt with lots of this crap in my career. Keep your head down and try not to smile at women in the office. Leave a barrier between you and them. The added bonus about work is that you don't have to become friends with everyone. You can be a work colleague. Stand up for your self and hit up HR early so you can be heard before she can manipulate everyone against you.
/r/MensRights12/11/22 12:28 PM
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Yes!, your friends should feel bad that they see their child as imperfect.
/r/MensRights10/11/22 11:10 AM
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You Either Die A Hero, Or You Live Long Enough To See Yourself Become The Villain
/r/MensRights10/11/22 10:42 AM
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according to the "Law", only 50%
/r/MensRights09/11/22 11:01 AM
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Contact the police and ask for a FOA request and have them send you the police reports for these occurrences. you can use it in court if you need. Paperwork is what courts feed. Take it as a win.
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/22 12:53 PM
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There has always been a bias. https://abc7ny.com/con-man-louis-carlucci-scam-nypd-1980s/5552869/
/r/MensRights05/11/22 12:08 PM
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What a looser!
/r/MensRights03/11/22 11:21 AM
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Dude, I was successful!!!
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/22 01:16 PM
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A day off.
/r/MensRights29/10/22 11:51 AM
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NP. In my own experience. The thoughts lasted until the settlement agreement was signed. took 1 year and 10 months. The relief was so great that my back went out the next day, I got sick with a sinus infection, a week later back went out again and got Covid. When that stress leaves you, take it easy. Your body could do something unexpected as a result of the calm. Best luck and keep doing what your doing. Therapy is a must!
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/22 12:41 PM
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Practice forgiving out loud. It will speed up the process of dealing with this. The brain is working hard at reorganizing thoughts. It will pass.
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/22 10:54 AM
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are you kidding me. It's insane what happens to women going through divorce. must be a real blow to the ego.
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/22 12:02 PM
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"Player - Baby come back!" - Duchesst is listening
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/22 11:06 AM
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Your going to be the primary if she had heart surgery. You'll do fine. make sure you make it to all the doctors visits. let work know of the complications and keep moving forward. Second part, I dealt with the same things. Once your free your relationship with your kids will flourish. Stay cool, be nice, and forgive. Thats the trick, divorce is really a competition for who can forgive the fastest. I suggest you be the first one there. it will make dealing with the next year+ so much easier. And …
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/22 10:32 AM
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Sounds like a bunch of narcissist's. Just remember, it's never their fault. If you use that to translate then you will understand how and when to enjoy a win.
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/22 11:40 AM
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Sounds like they know how to take and manipulate. Did the apples fall from from the tree?
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/22 11:37 AM
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You set the example. What kind of dad do you want to be?
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/22 10:46 AM
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Hey Bud, My in laws did the same thing. I had 3 of them trying to start a physical altercation. It's for the restraining order. My MIL actually through herself into me with a smile on her face. I don't know why as I was recording them with my phone at the time. Some are not that smart. When your doing an exchange get a cheap fake go pro for your car window with a suction cup. Keep yourself protected but without calling attention to it. You don't want to be accused of intimidation or surveillance…
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/22 11:25 AM
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Congrats man. that is great news.
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/22 10:01 AM
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I would get the separation agreement done first. like straight 50/50 if separating. She wants a expensive ring, and you want expensive paper.
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/22 11:30 AM
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I'm almost 2 years in now. Been to 2 motions, and several court dates. Keeping fingers crossed that things get better soon. This has gone on for long enough. Thanks for the encouraging words. Stay strong brother.
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/22 02:16 PM
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Did you win your interim also? I have won that, she is still pushing for Trial. Trail is in the next few months. Nervous.
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/22 10:11 AM
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You leave when you have a paper saying 50/50. She will control everything once you leave the house.
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/22 10:50 AM
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Hey, not sure this will help but I had the same problem. Her Daddy is a lawyer and doing shady crap. I kept telling my lawyer to stop accepting these allegations and eventually we wrote we would no longer respond to them but would wait for Trial. If she continues, your lawyer will be able to go after cost I believe. This is a trick some try to pull in order to destroy you. Stay strong. I have been working 2 jobs for 2 years paying all my fees. I am there in spirit with you bro!
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/22 09:53 AM
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Good advice. This is the train I am on currently. 2 years in, haven't even thought of dating.
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/22 11:51 AM
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Mine made more then me. Dads a lawyer too. She feels she is entitled too 100% of everything including our kid.
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/22 10:27 AM
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Judge can order 50/50 at an interim motion ($10,000 to $15,000.) This is after the pre motion. (4,000 to $7,000) At this point there will be a plan put in place and the judge will give his/her rule on what's best for the kid. Do not argue with mom or get upset with her. Keep it super peaceful. Let mom do her own thing. As time goes, your ex maybe more inclined to avoid a trial as there are also pre trail cost that will be around $7,000 to $10,000. These are the settlement conferences. Usually 2.…
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/22 11:56 AM
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Do you have a police report of the knife issue? that will go a long way in protecting yourself from getting stuck supporting her.
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/22 09:46 AM
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If you didn't call the police and report it, then it never happened.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/22 10:05 AM
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That !!! !!!
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/22 09:55 AM
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My sister in law decided she would be the best person the break the news to my kid.
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/22 10:11 AM
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Love bombing trains you like a dog. Treated like crap 95% of the time, and then the love bombing starts and everything calms to the point you feel some what comfortable enough to stick around another day. Pavlov's dog...
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/22 12:17 PM
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Mine kept telling me she had long time friends. Found out from the friends after we got married this wasn't really the case. Thought it was funny they played along for her benefit. My buddy had the same thing happen to him. Her's ended up being new work collogues. They didn't really stick around that long.
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/22 12:15 PM
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Wow, you and I should grab a beer!
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/22 12:12 PM
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THC before bed.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/22 11:22 AM
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It happens my man. Get your ass to the gym. Socialize there, and you'll start coming out of your shell. remember your friends are there for support. They don't need to hear everything, but I am sure they will listen to what's really bothering you. Good luck!
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/22 12:30 PM
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Don't worry to much about money. In the end its all going to end up in the lawyers pockets.
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/22 09:58 AM
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Yeah don't give into anything shady like that.
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/22 09:53 AM
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Wow, this says it all. I'm another former caretaker. Amazing how we end up shoveling shit for years after.
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/22 09:52 AM
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Call the police. I would also document what you can on video. Is he smoking pot - in the house? Around your kids? There are things you can do. Also if he is a guest. He isn't your guest. They can go somewhere else. She is doing it to cause an issue in the house. Domestic. Wait till he uses the stuff in the house and it smells then call the police in. Sorry you have to deal with this shit man.
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/22 10:37 AM
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Get out.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/22 12:24 PM
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Yeah, she's asking you out. Probably those k9's :P
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/22 09:40 AM
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Get out there and start living. Fill your spare time with groups. Join a team, go play pool. Play some online Vids. there are tons of things you can do. Your also allowed to date. But get the paper work ready if you start dating seriously. Even if its over 4 months. Have her sign something to protect yourself. If she walks away then you know and you can find a new person to spend time with. Be like He-Man and "Have the power!"
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/22 10:42 AM
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"hell knows no fury like a woman scorned"
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/22 10:44 AM
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Yes do this. I have a friend who was to proud to take alimony and she offered no child support if he let go of alimony. He agreed. Months later she came back and sued him for child support and he could no longer take the alimony.
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/22 09:41 AM
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I agree. If she is relocated for some other guy, that shows that she is not child focused and is doing it for her own self interest. If your son is in school, plays team sports and is part of your local community, It will strengthen your claim to keep him with you. Offer her an opportunity to leave him in your care so she can go out and date her internet boyfriend. If your son is older, it stands to reason he is better off with his real father then some potential slime ball.
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/22 12:21 PM
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My Ex have been putting me through this shit for 1.5 years. 80K in and haven't been to trial yet. I understand the feeling like the world is collapsing. Keep fighting. You giving up is the goal your ex has set for her self. They have cart blanch on being horrible human beings and you have to eat that shit. The best advice I have been given is to kill them with kindness. Be strong, put your nose to the grind stone and push forward. One day it will be over and you can strut with confidence that yo…
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/22 11:21 AM
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Sounds like you know where it's heading. You want a partner, not some guy who is out knocking boots with other people. It will never end well.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/22 12:30 PM
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From what I understand. If she looses it after the date of separation. And you have proof of this date, like you e mailed to tell her your done. Then you shouldn't be help liable to carry her ass.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/22 10:10 AM
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I second this. Also if she looses a job after date of sep, then it's not your problem. Get the fire hose ready.
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/22 10:18 AM
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I'm with you there. I have the ability to live with my parents during the never ending ordeal. I am currently 1.5 years in and still paying lawyers fees. I have about $100 spending a week as daycare and child support are another cost factor. So if you have a hobby that you can turn into paid work on the side. Now is the time! Best of luck bud. Hope things start going your way.
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/22 10:02 AM
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Get a lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/22 12:15 PM
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Bingo. He should become really good friends with the guys wife. like Friend Zone Friends. LOL.
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/22 10:15 AM
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If there are kids involved, she can't move without approval from the court.
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/22 11:08 AM
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There are some other things to consider. Remember you wont be buying expensive gifts any longer, no more crazy Christmas spending. No more couples trips to crazy resorts. Just Disney World. Food - its just you and your kids your feeding. No more bottles of wine/alcohol for someone else. If you have a point system at certain grocery stores or drug stores you can use those. that includes gas points at certain stations. I buy a lot of toys for my kid at thrift type shops. They can always have a new…
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/22 10:57 AM
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I can speak to this personally. Her family will manipulate and depending if they are enmeshed, they may even start accusing you of things and involve them selves in your divorce. This is also a method to burry you in legal paper work (rebuttals) to kill your bank account. Don't give into the games. You have decision making now, get a parenting schedule set up and take the kids to see them yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/22 10:48 AM
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Yes, And once you have it, it will be over and you can move on. Also depending on the legal fees, you will want the money back.
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/22 12:50 PM
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You need to get photos of al those text mate. Trust me it helps.
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/22 12:18 PM
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Good for you compadre! One day you will take that box and destroy it. But you decide when the time is right. Also if its her wedding dress. Sell it. That's some cold hard cash right there. take the kids out with the money. It will probably pay for a lot.
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/22 10:25 AM
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The kids are part of your home community, mom doesn't like it, well she can leave. You have support there. Going through something similar right now in CAD. Won my interim court case. 50/50. Remember if your working that hard as it sounds you are, you shouldn't suffer for it. Mom can deal with a little disappointment better then your children growing up without a father and getting stuck with some looser step dad telling them how it is. IMO Stand Strong Broseph.
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/22 12:48 PM
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They don't usually allow audio recordings in court. You can quote from them though. I know that.
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/22 10:23 AM
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She has made mistakes already. Document everything.
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/22 12:32 PM
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I did a support group online. It was great. Meeting was once a week and I am still in communication with them. Helps to have others going through the same shit.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/22 10:56 AM
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There are community driven activities that you could sign them up for. It doesn't have to be sports either. Could be creative things at your local cultural/art center. They offer things for kids. Is there anything in your agreement that states you can't both show up at these events. Start piggy backing onto her days when they go to these events and be really nice and stay on your side of the room.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/22 10:44 AM
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Be strong, and if you do out her. You might want to record it, incase they spin something on you. Parents some times go weird when they find out its there daughters fault.
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/22 10:12 AM
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"She says that my behavior in the moment dictates whether she wants a divorce or not, so its on me. It gets way more intense than that as far as rhetoric, but I'm not going to put my wife on blast." -Sounds light gaslighting. Been through it. The opposite thing to watch for is Love Bombing when she is building up to something she wants. If you leave the house there is the abandonment claim she could make.
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/22 11:34 AM
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Words to live by "I only date unicorns". Get that tattooed on your forearm.
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/22 11:50 AM
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In the beginning if you leave the matrimonial home that you own or rent, then your going to have to pay support. If mom wont allow for time with kid like 50/50. Then you still pay support and have to take her to court to order her to stop being an idiot. Now your child support will end up being re-calculated. If you both make $40k a year, then a 50/50 is going to zero you both out. Maybe you pay $100 a month. If you make 80k and she makes 40k with a 50/50, then you still will even out. However t…
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/22 11:26 AM
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I've so far spent $80k and I am still not divorced. I could have paid a surrogate that money and been free and clear in less time. Surrogate is really the way it should be anyway. They want money for having the kids. So lets just make it standard practice.
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/22 11:19 AM
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yeah, there seems to be an idea that divorced guys wont ruin it for other men who are getting married, by telling them the truth. This is what needs to change.
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/22 11:00 AM
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Yeah, The wedding is always a great tell tale. Narcissism will rear it's ugly head when you start looking for a place to end your happiness. Also if your in laws creep you out, take that into account.
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/22 10:59 AM
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This is the scary truth. This is basically legal slavery.
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/22 10:47 AM
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Wish I had trusted my gut. I did everything this guy says but didn't trust my gut. FML.
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/22 10:45 AM
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Yeah, single dad step one. Get absolutely Jacked! "I am a rock, I am an island" - Simon and Garfunkel
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/22 11:05 AM
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Wait, is this for the second kid she wants to have. One week after you file?
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/22 10:31 AM
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"And why don't you just directly ask your lawyers this question. Clients are such pussies sometimes, I swear. Just fucking ask. Scared of their own lawyers and would rather come online and accuse the lawyers of selling them out ..." This has never been a problem.
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/22 10:14 AM
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We need shirts made.
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/22 10:29 AM
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Thanks my man!
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/22 10:21 AM
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Wow. 1 year and 5 months and I am still lawyering for 50/50. Congrats guys. You give me hope.
/r/Divorce_Men08/03/22 11:50 AM
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I stopped my mediation 30 minutes into the second session. My councilor was playing all kinds of games and making decisions that only a court could actually make.
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/22 02:13 PM
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Do not have another kid. This is a classic play in the soon to be divorced game. Mine tried it. Others I know have had their wives try this. Don't do it. You wont see that kid for 3 years and that's the point.
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/22 11:15 AM
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If your asking for others opinions, you probably already know the answer. Keep your head down. take detailed notes, and create the pod cast after when you can look back on it without the emotions being so raw.
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/22 11:11 AM
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No. I have two friends who have. One had his kid smuggled to Russia by his Ex. Sorry if you have gone through this.
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/22 03:15 PM
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Sorry not meaning to ignore. I don't know what a dissolution hearing is but I will look it up. He is the ex FIL. He has got his daughter a lawyer that is a former colleague at his old firm. There has been no realistic attempt to settle. Instead when i was asking for parenting time I was also him back with more allegations. This happens every single time I try. A ploy to keep me paying fees. But he has added an affidavit to our motion case. On it he has actually lied which can be proven easily in…
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/22 01:42 PM
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Interesting. My ex (as we were really close to the end) started asking to have a second kid with me. I guy I work with said his was trying the same thing. Narcissistic people pull this garbage trying to extort money. Move to another room if you can. Throw a lock on the door so she doesn't go through your stuff. Change your passwords also. Very important. FYI child stays with Marital home. Who child stays with, sets the parenting schedule off the bat. Don't get screwed like I did.
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/22 12:53 PM
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just to add. In CAD. Judges don't like watching video and it can be seen as a privacy thing. But cops will. If something happens they will also put what they watch in their report.
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/22 12:46 PM
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Sounds like she is doing the classic pandering till she gets this guy under her finger and then wham. Good for you, plant those feet.
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/22 01:37 PM
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He has now added in his own affidavit to my motion for equal parenting time. And also lied on the affidavit. Which is provable. He has always been on the side lines. there was a landlord issue years ago. He organized it all and had another lawyer friend come in and do the arguing at the tribunal. He was present for that. But kept his name off the paper work. Still have the e-mails though.
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/22 12:48 PM
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The worst part is that this comes in waves. Some days its fine, then a letter comes and kaboom! It's better to be in a job where people have gone through what you have gone through. I currently have 3 members of my 10 person team getting divorced. Have you told you boss yet? Going through a divorce is one of the toughest things, but to those who don't know. They can seem kind of cold. Its like a 1 to 3 year long funeral and your the only one who has to speak. Be open about it and if he is still …
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/22 12:10 PM
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Everything you listed is what I am dealing with right now. I have spent a years salary over 13 months, just on trying to establish a 50/50 parenting time schedule. From what you wrote, it sounds like my lawyer is aware of what he is doing. Bringing it back to my daughter over getting pulled into different directions. Now the father has lied on his affidavit. And it is 100% provable. In the future could that be used with the bar if needed? (generally asking. not legal advice or anything)
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/22 11:48 AM
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Thanks so much for the reply
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/22 11:39 AM
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Sounds like someone knows where she is sitting in the relationship. Giving her more is not going to solve things and there is no telling what the future will hold if you do. If this person is the type that doesn't want to work hard and expects you to support her then that is who this person is. Take time to figure out your options. Talk to a lawyer and they will let you know all the outcomes. Might make you feel better and help with your decision. Counselling only works when two people are willi…
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/22 01:36 PM
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Yeah, if your unhappy then no kids. Kids make divorce a nightmare. For you.
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/22 01:32 PM
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Best thing I have done is join a divorce group. Its good talking about these things with other people. The majority of people in my group are women. And they get it bad from some guys. So it goes both ways. Also your lady friend might see him as a guy. But he might be the one caught in the "Friend Zone". Watch her body language around him. It should be obvious if something is happening. And remember that not every women is cold hearted. We all had moms right?
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/22 10:47 AM
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My Divorce group is primarily women. They have been so supportive and have also been hurt by men who didn't treat them well. It goes both ways. Try your best to get past it. Talking about these things with groups or a professional can really help. Don't isolate yourself. Your allowed to be happy and not everyone on this planet is a psycho. That being said. You also might have a radar now that you didn't have before. Use it to your advantage and keep alcohol out of your decision making process.
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/22 11:05 AM
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Bingo! There is the surrogate option.
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/22 01:16 PM
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