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LifestyleBuddhistPeace2/r/seduction20/07/21 10:48 PM
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5

Yeah, people can barely be good friends with more than 5 people, you can have a bunch of acquaintances, but really not that many you can be close with.
/r/seduction13/09/21 05:03 PM
4

In my experience it was the opposite, I was in an 11 year relationship, stopped caring about her thoughts and feelings and took her for granted so she started to not feel as attached to me. To survive a long term relationship you need to cooperate and communicate with your spouse, normie advice but it works.
/r/seduction09/09/21 05:06 PM
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I think this sub is much better for getting laid or getting into a relationship, but not how to keep one. If you want advice for relationships, there’s much better places to go.
/r/seduction09/09/21 05:03 PM
6

I know the more I tried to be ‘badass’ generally the more alienating and weird I’d be. I’d be very surprised if a lot of men have success adopting an ‘alpha’ mindset instead of just being funner.
/r/seduction08/09/21 07:25 AM
2

Honestly probably nobody cares about what happened to you except for yourself. I can barely remember people from 15 years ago. I think you’ve built up this big story, maybe because you’ve made it such a big part of your identity. You don’t have to be defined by anything great, just live your life and enjoy yourself.
/r/seduction07/09/21 01:21 AM
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That does sound very traumatic. In my view you’re probably never going to get justice for how those people treated you. It’s in your best interest to get over them and put that behind you rather than fixating on it. After all, what kind of ideal outcome are you looking for? Especially when it sounds like you have people who treat you much better. I get not getting your youth back, I definitely wish I had done things differently and that I had time to go back when I had more opportunity. But we r…
/r/seduction06/09/21 09:32 PM
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The part about a 15 year grudge is intriguing. It sounds like you’d benefit from therapy, or working on your mental health a bit
/r/seduction06/09/21 04:22 PM
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Right, I do see what you are saying that girls want a guy who is experienced, but I’d say give yourself the freedom to fail. I don’t think you’re giving yourself enough credit in being able to try even if you’re a very late bloomer. I’m 29 and I’m still trying to improve my social skills. Also you seem scared of being labeled a ‘freak’, what do you think would cause that reaction?
/r/seduction06/09/21 06:27 AM
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So what exactly do you want? It sounds like someone who will let you practice social skills without treating you badly for it. Not everyone’s going to mercilessly mock you because you didn’t say the best possible thing. And besides failing always had the risk of people humiliating you, it’s not like young people are immune to it.
/r/seduction06/09/21 04:37 AM
1

I think the idea that you are X years old so need to have it all figured out and not make mistakes is a negative mindset. There are people who turn things around in their 40s, 50s, etc.
/r/seduction06/09/21 01:14 AM
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I’ve had the same issue, go out wanting to meet girls and end up chatting up another guy all night. Still not a bad night, I like talking to new people. But it’s best to just go up and say something to a girl, anything, just to train yourself it’ll be okay.
/r/seduction06/09/21 01:12 AM
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I did learn something from door to door sales, regardless of whether you think you are intruding, most people forget about you very quickly when you are gone. I’ve only cold approached about 5 girls but I doubt any of them even think about me at all. That goes for all the girls I’ve gone on dates with, I think the majority have totally forgotten about me except maybe a thought of ‘I remember I went on a date with this guy’ once a year or something. Like most things, it seems very intense in the …
/r/seduction06/09/21 01:09 AM
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I wouldn’t really worry about it, I’ve known quite a few shorter guys who were good with women and taller guys who weren’t. You should really stop focusing on what you can’t change, I’ve been there, the incel stuff will only make you bitter. You give off the vibe like you’d rather talk with a woman about height preferences than have fun or flirt with them. That’s not an enjoyable person to be around, and again, I’ve been there. I have a friend who is also 6’0 and can’t help talking about blackpi…
/r/seduction29/08/21 10:14 PM
3

I’m 6’0 and have had trouble talking with girls.
/r/seduction29/08/21 05:55 AM
1

Good for you, I usually chicken out before approaching, I’ve only done it about 3 times. What do you usually say right off the bat?
/r/seduction28/08/21 10:19 PM
1

Sounds like it might not work out if you want a relationship and he doesn’t, but if you have these feelings anyway might as well just say them.
/r/seduction28/08/21 10:17 PM
2

Yeah I’d say just ask her out to lunch/coffee and take it from there
/r/seduction28/08/21 10:16 PM
3

Being playful is really great because people naturally are suspicious around strangers. Even people who have known each other for a long time can take a really long time to loosen up and let their guard down. If you do it first, quite often the other person will follow your lead. Being very serious and uptight is really poison to forming relationships.
/r/seduction27/08/21 01:13 AM
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This is good to hear, I’m almost 30 too. Definitely get wiser every year, I wish I knew what I did now 10 years ago.
/r/seduction22/08/21 04:18 AM
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I’ve had men literally toss their wife at me, like fucking grabbing her with both hands, over their head throwing their wife right at my face. I’ve sustained serious injuries and may never walk again.
/r/seduction22/08/21 04:15 AM
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I think she really is confused, because last year we took it really slow, only made out after 2 months then stopped talking. Then she hit me back this year and on the first date I took her home and finger banged her. She said that I’m not the shy, nerdy guy she knew last year anymore and said it doesn’t feel like it did last year. I think I have made her feel some conflicting emotions which is probably a good thing, I let her know that we can keep taking things further if she’s up for it, but I’…
/r/seduction22/08/21 01:38 AM
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It’s funny, a girl I went out with for a while was like ‘I’ve loved spending time with you! But I don’t think we should spend any more time together’ and we talked on the phone and almost all she could say was ‘I’m just confused’ so I figure if she wanted to be with me she would, I’m not really interested in the drama. I’ll just find someone else. She was really slow with doing anything sexual as well, we went out for a long time last summer and all we ended up doing is me finger banging her. So…
/r/seduction21/08/21 09:06 PM
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Yeah there’s a problem in general where being nice means taking away all desire. You can think of the holy man/monk as the extreme side of the spectrum, where they are supposed to have universal goodwill but also completely suppress desires. There’s probably another extreme of the guy who narcissistically wants to satisfy all of his desires but doesn’t care about anyone else. I think it’s best to fall in the middle, and change depending on circumstance.
/r/seduction13/08/21 10:18 PM
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No asking her out is probably the best way to do it
/r/seduction13/08/21 10:14 PM
1

Try to find commonalities, talk like you would with a guy, try to make funny observations
/r/seduction13/08/21 12:33 AM
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I’m getting déjà vu about this, like I’ve heard this exact scenario before. I dunno maybe it would end badly for her, but could end up well, it’s a complicated scenario.
/r/seduction11/08/21 07:14 PM
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Yeah she might flake, but it’s good to actually see her in person, most connection doesn’t happen over text.
/r/seduction11/08/21 07:12 PM
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I think it’s possible she can want to fuck the guy while still being friends, she probably just has little connection with the other guys.
/r/seduction11/08/21 02:34 AM
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Just ask her on a date, you can worry about the convo later.
/r/seduction11/08/21 02:30 AM
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You can do that if you want, but I’d suggest if you want to get better with women then you at least partly make that your goal. You already know not to be a ‘nice guy’ so you’re in the right direction.
/r/seduction11/08/21 02:27 AM
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Yeah, I’d also suggest watching interviews with some of the most attractive women, celebrities, etc. to get a sense of them as people, and when you see them as people it’s hard to be blinded by their beauty. But of course making friends with them helps a lot as well.
/r/seduction11/08/21 02:25 AM
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I’ve been watching late night talk show hosts talking to women as a good example of how to have an interesting conversation. Look up Craig Ferguson or Conan talking to female guests for some inspiration.
/r/seduction10/08/21 02:16 AM
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There’s no way to guarantee you won’t get ignored by a random woman. Even screaming in her face wouldn’t mean she’ll talk to you. You have to just let people react how they will to you and not let it get you down.
/r/seduction10/08/21 02:12 AM
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I guess you could make eye contact with her and call on her in class. I know when I was student teaching I would call on this one girl a lot because I thought she was hot lol other people will probably put 2 and 2 together though if you keep doing that
/r/seduction05/08/21 10:50 PM
2

See if you can get her in a time when she’s not with the other group or try to open up the group while they are together (which might be tougher).
/r/seduction05/08/21 03:52 PM
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I wouldn’t, maybe in the lobby as she’s ready to leave, but not in the main gym area.
/r/seduction05/08/21 03:50 PM
8

I think don’t mix work and pleasure, if she’s in your class leave her alone, but when she leaves get her number and ask her out for drinks.
/r/seduction05/08/21 03:49 PM
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Lol cringelord
/r/seduction04/08/21 03:24 AM
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Yeah just keep her in mind when she gets back or whatever, she seems interested, but maybe look at your other options in the meantime
/r/seduction04/08/21 03:22 AM
2

It is your attitude. You have to be able to handle rejection to deal with women. You have to be able to be knocked down and keep your head up. Use that frustration and transform it into determination to strive for what you want. Nobody can put one foot in front of the other for you.
/r/seduction02/08/21 05:45 AM
1

Yeah there is a huge cost in spending weeks/months building up asking out this girl, when you could literally get to the same point in 5 minutes and move on if she doesn’t like you.
/r/seduction02/08/21 05:32 AM
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Women find escalation attractive, so eye contact and breaking the touch barrier is really important.
/r/seduction02/08/21 05:29 AM
1

I’d say err on the side of cocky/arrogant over self-deprecating/supplicating, women want a self-assured guy.
/r/seduction02/08/21 05:25 AM
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A lot of guys see being in a relationship as a chance to let go and sink into comfort. Women become like mama to them, where they can do whatever they want and get unconditional love. The reality of the world is that your partner will never love you unconditionally and will grow to resent you if you let yourself go. It’s also not fair to them to become unattractive and just someone to coddle and put up with. A woman wants a man who gets up every day fighting, not someone who just lazes through t…
/r/seduction02/08/21 05:21 AM
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To my knowledge not all sales jobs are as dehumanizing. I’m starting a sales job today and I don’t think we are forced to push through if we get a ‘no’, but are supposed to respect what the customer wants.
/r/seduction26/07/21 04:12 PM
3

What’s your opener?
/r/seduction26/07/21 03:27 AM
2

The prison isn’t as well-guarded as you think it is
/r/seduction22/07/21 05:53 AM
2

Yes conservatism is definitely not conducive to a lifestyle of casual sex, even if it encourages more macho behaviour by men. If anything letting women have free sex without mate guarding like extreme liberalism accepts is much better for getting laid. We don’t live in rural Pakistan where women can’t leave their houses.
/r/seduction21/07/21 07:11 PM
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I’d like to add a personal theory of mine I believe is true, that time perception is directly related to new experiences, and so if you listen to the same album, watch the same movie, drive the same way to work, etc. then time will literally be perceived as faster than encountering something new. I had a few years where I did little new stuff and they went extremely quickly. Just think that every time you try something you’ve done before, you are speeding up your life. This is why old people oft…
/r/seduction21/07/21 03:45 AM
10

Constantly explore new things and start to see easy/ordinary experiences as detrimental. Just yesterday I went to Home Depot and went up and down the aisles looking at stuff I’m not that familiar with. I went downtown last Saturday night by myself just with the goal of talking to one person. A big thing was in general opening myself up to others physically, not looking down, trying to give off the vibe of ‘I’ll talk to anyone if you want’, not in a needy way, just being open to conversation with…
/r/seduction21/07/21 02:03 AM
1

Positive state builds throughout the day and each interaction, so you have to constantly say ‘yes’ to situations and getting out of your comfort zone or it’s going to be really tough to build up to bigger tasks like talking to a girl. That’s why it’s best to talk to everyone, each success will propel you forward. Every interaction is a learning experience and chance for success and opportunity. At some point simple conversations with strangers went from ‘exciting’ to ‘boring’ and I have to move …
/r/seduction18/07/21 12:29 AM
2

Do you think it’s easier for white guys to pick up black girls than vice-versa?
/r/seduction17/07/21 10:00 PM
2

New behaviour becomes ‘authentic’ when you adapt to it. Like trying on a new outfit just seems like a costume until you start wearing it often.
/r/seduction17/07/21 09:57 PM
2

I’m from Edmonton and haven’t tried it except once with a girl at West Edmonton Mall, but I’m getting ready to get into it.
/r/seduction17/07/21 09:42 PM
2

I felt the exact same when I was your age. I’m 29 now. It’d be easy to say ‘my 20s are over, might as well get fat and become a recluse’, but what kind of life is that? You are either stagnating or improving, every day is an opportunity to face your fears, learn more, gain more skills. You don’t have to go hit on a supermodel right away (though that’d be the right direction), just constantly push your comfort zone and face your fears. Make a bit more eye contact, stay in an interaction slightly …
/r/seduction17/07/21 09:40 PM
1

How old are you? I think honestly you are limiting yourself out of fear of failure, but the truth is that working at it might actually make you successful. Yeah I have a ton of regret that I wasn’t better with women as well, but forget about the past and move forwards. Hell, you can always be the guy in the old folks home getting laid with multiple women.
/r/seduction17/07/21 04:12 PM
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People who naturally understand how to interact with and pick up women. A lot of us needed to learn theory to get anywhere.
/r/seduction17/07/21 05:08 AM
2

I can understand your perspective, and it’s certainly a matter of degree. We’d probably both agree that a ‘cold approach’ at a party or music festival is fine, and on a subway or bus is not, but there’s some middle ground there. There’s some guys like Austen Summers who do a very nice, relaxed style of cold approach where they maintain a girls boundaries and try to be as direct and not aggressive as possible. I think I’d also like to not make women uncomfortable, of course, but I’ve also made wo…
/r/seduction17/07/21 01:58 AM
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Saying ‘no cold approach ever’ is too hardlined. Lots of girls actually do like being approached outright, as long as you do it in a respectful way. Yes, some girls could get uncomfortable, and there’s the tension of talking to a stranger anyway, but as long as you don’t pursue them after they make it clear they don’t want you, you should be fine.
/r/seduction17/07/21 12:51 AM
3

It’s obviously not over if you end up successful at the end of it. Stop comparing yourself to naturals.
/r/seduction16/07/21 10:37 PM
6

Biggest realization for me, that seduction is about weeding out the good leads rather than hopelessly pursuing women who will never give you a chance. Some guys will get so twisted up over girls who will never give them a chance instead of just giving up with that girl and trying one who actually likes you. It also points to the fact that those guys who are good with girls have often gotten rejected many times. At the end of the day, if you are getting laid and are capable of getting relationshi…
/r/seduction16/07/21 06:45 PM
2

Yeah things seem inauthentic when you first do them, but after a while you get more comfortable doing them and it becomes just a part of what you’d naturally say in a certain context.
/r/seduction15/07/21 07:43 PM
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This is the biggest realization that has kind of blown my mind, that most girls will probably reject you, but the key is to hunt for the one that wants you. It’s an interesting change of perspective, but actually gets results rather than idealistically trying to pull every girl or thinking your shit and no girl wants you because 4/5 say no.
/r/seduction14/07/21 11:55 PM
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If people are stereotyping you as aggressive as well, it could almost mean you don’t even have to be as aggressive for that ‘aura’ to be there. Like an Asian guy might have to be more aggressive in order to give off that vibe. So you can be chill and it might work in your favour. Regardless it’s probably best to just work on the escalation and being able to stay in the interaction, which it sounds like are the real sticking points for you.
/r/seduction14/07/21 11:50 PM
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It could be that there’s a natural lack of retention going from getting phone #s to them agreeing to go to your house. Kind of like how getting a first interview doesn’t necessarily lead to a job. Maybe try meeting them at a nearby bar, escalate more and transfer to your house from there?
/r/seduction14/07/21 11:44 PM
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It sounds like if you are giving up maybe you have a fear of going the whole way with the girl. I know I’ve had problems with seeing through the whole interaction from meeting to dates to sex. It sounds like you’ve gotten comfortable with the approach, now just have to work on sticking the landing. (I’m a beginner, so take with a grain of salt)
/r/seduction14/07/21 08:59 PM
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If you think you might come off as too aggressive, try to go for more of a chill vibe. There’s some pickup guys (not black, but still) that do more of a relaxed style and still get women. And if she’s reacting positively you can step up the energy without worrying if it’ll intimidate her.
/r/seduction14/07/21 08:50 PM
1

I’d definitely agree with that. Much of suffering comes when a person tries to maintain equilibrium, rather than transcending their current state.
/r/seduction14/07/21 02:16 AM
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Life is like a wagon that pulls us behind it, we can either keep up with the pace of it, or get dragged along against our will. Without action and growth, life can be a horrifying turmoil, but constant growth makes life exhilarating and fulfilling
/r/seduction13/07/21 06:53 PM
2

To my knowledge, if a girl is ‘shit testing’ you right off the bat it’s best to just leave and find another girl. You want someone who’s down for a playful and fun conversation. A guy can easily misinterpret a girl who legit doesn’t want to talk as just a test.
/r/seduction13/07/21 04:50 PM
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I’ve also had the same experience, where I tried to be really ‘alpha’ and it’s almost always had bad results. I ended up being very stoic, closed off, too angry to seduce a girl. It was more about trying to dominate them, which I think girls only respond to gently, and in a socially calibrated way. They’d rather have a guy who is seriously just present, looking at them as a human being, trying to understand them without fear. Girls have been much more receptive since I started just putting mysel…
/r/seduction01/07/21 12:24 AM
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Every interaction is practice. Now you’ll be a little more comfortable the next time you want to approach, and rejection won’t sting as much because you won’t build her up in your mind as much.
/r/seduction01/07/21 12:11 AM
2

How does that even work? Was she on the street or a place you both go to?
/r/seduction30/06/21 05:03 PM
3

Unfortunately everything tends towards entropy, so yeah most of the time we need to default to interesting/exciting stuff to keep people interested and excited. For a longer term thing, normal conversation connects you two together, but you need excitement or otherwise people in general will find you boring. From a recovering boring guy.
/r/seduction29/06/21 07:02 PM
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Escalation is one of the scariest things to me, but without touch, the whole thing ends up being way too platonic. I was on a date with a girl and I thought we got along really well and had a great conversation, but I think the fact that I didn’t try to escalate through touch probably gave me less of a sexual vibe and she ultimately didn’t see me as boyfriend/fuck buddy material. I think for a lot of us guys who grew up thinking of women in innocent terms it can be really tough to actually give …
/r/seduction29/06/21 04:38 PM
1

Psychologically we are what we repeatedly do, so you just have to consistently brute force think more positive thoughts until they become more automatic
/r/seduction27/06/21 12:12 AM
1

Yes, but being more beta can also help you hide and conceal yourself so you don’t draw attention. Acting more confident and fun draws female attention, but it also draws male attention for good or bad. In many places in the world, the nail that sticks out gets hammered down
/r/seduction27/06/21 12:05 AM
1

I think a lot of us overcompensate towards being an alpha dick, but I’ve rarely had a good response to it. Women don’t like men who are serious, they’ll appreciate the negging style stuff more if you do it in a relaxed, lighthearted manner. I think you have to be challenging at certain points, but better to open them up in a playful way. Austen Summers has some good pickup videos with a lighthearted, natural vibe.
/r/seduction26/06/21 09:54 PM
2

Experience is the best teacher, and you need a lot of failures and awkward moments to become able to feel confident in approaching random women and having effortless, interesting conversations with strangers. Also just with logistics and everything, you might be good at chatting her up and getting her number, but getting through the whole interaction to sex is a long time and it’ll take a lot of calibration to get to where you can follow through the whole interaction successfully. I’m still at t…
/r/seduction26/06/21 09:48 PM
2

I don’t think it’s society, biology makes men’s sexuality usually less valuable than a woman’s. A man has more to prove.
/r/seduction26/06/21 09:39 PM
1

I think that humour can be developed as a skill, so even if a lot of guys don’t have it doesn’t mean they can’t work on it. I think if a guy isn’t going into interview mode or just trying to transmit information like a robot he’s already on the right track.
/r/seduction26/06/21 07:10 PM
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I think it comes across more natural to say ‘what’s your number?’ Rather than saying ‘give me your number’. Although I guess it depends more on how you say it. Saying ‘what’s your number?’ sounds like a question, but is subtly giving them no option but to give you the number.
/r/seduction23/06/21 06:46 PM
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Getting back in the dating game the last year or so, I initially would send girls very boring messages like ‘Hi, how are you doing?’ on dating apps and, believe it or not, that didn’t get me much of a reaction. You do have to be entertaining, at least to some degree, and this is important for relationships with friends, coworkers, as well. I’m not getting women lately these days, but I feel more confident approaching and messaging girls on dating apps now. I think I’m general social skills can b…
/r/seduction16/06/21 09:47 PM
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She met you for a date, that’s a plus. A short date, sure, but it’s a step forward.
/r/seduction16/06/21 09:41 PM
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Bitterness is a losing strategy, socially and in life. Even if you become a paraplegic, you have to have a positive mindset in order to get SOMETHING out of life.
/r/seduction16/06/21 06:46 PM
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