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FDS HUMORCandid_Check_4843/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 04:51 AM
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How-To High ValueCandid_Check_4843/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 05:40 PM
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#JustLVMThingsCandid_Check_4843/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 09:49 PM
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DISCUSSIONCandid_Check_4843/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 04:35 AM
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#HeAin'tTheOne2021Candid_Check_4843/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 05:50 PM
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Ok I stopped reading after "he didn't have his own place or a car" because lol wtf no
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 03:31 AM
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Massive upgrade! Congrats 💅✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 06:06 PM
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Amazing, thank you so much for laying it out so clearly ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 01:44 PM
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Wow I love this, what a boss mom!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 08:59 PM
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"Who wants you after you achieved these things" Other high earning and similarly accomplished men want me ☺
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 01:34 PM
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😂😂💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 01:49 PM
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Very enlightening, thank you for taking the time to educate us on this important issue! All the more reason to guard your womb. Do not reproduce with any mediocre loser man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 06:49 PM
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Woohoo, go you!! 🎉❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 04:09 PM
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I'm so sorry. Sending you love and support 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 03:53 PM
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I'm so sorry you're experiencing this. Your words are heartbreaking to read. I really hope that you can graduate and become financially independent soon, so that you can live on your own and be away from your dad. Your dad reminds me of mine. Life gets so incredibly immensely better once you move out, finish school, get a good job, live on your own etc. I promise ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 03:46 PM
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I love this story so much! Great job!!! The guy sounds possessive and unstable af. I wouldn't be surprised if he was violent as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 08:59 PM
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Great perspective and advice, thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 02:30 AM
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Hi Lilith! I hope you're doing well! Very thoughtful and intriguing ideas. I would love to read more. Could you fix the link please?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 02:13 AM
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Wonderful, insightful, love it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 05:26 PM
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Good for you ❤. Men who use women for money are so cringe and sad that it's almost funny. You have all of the privileges of being a man in a misogynistic society, and yet you can't even financially support yourself; and need a women, who've only relatively recently been legally able to open a bank account in her own name here in the US, to do so? Really unmanly and big turn-off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/22 04:35 PM
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Such an insightful, informative, deeply thoughtful, well-written piece! Thank you ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 06:02 PM
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Yes you tell them Ms. Katie! Being a step-mom for an incompetent man involves all the work of being a mom with none of the acknowlegment, recognition, and legitimacy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 07:45 PM
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Your reaction is perfectly valid. He definitely overstepped the boundaries of medical professionalism. You were in a vulnerable position, and his medical training and common sense should have made it obvious to him what is and is not ok to say. I would file a complaint about him to his supervisor and stick to female doctors for sensitive procedures like mammograms. If I were in your position, I would be so furious about his creepy disrespectful behavior that I would write a Google maps review pu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 05:36 AM
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What?? That is so so mean! So sorry that happened to you. I hope you have thrown him in the trash where he belongs. You deserve full respect and kindness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 05:08 AM
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Good for you. Best wishes on finishing nursing school! ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 06:14 AM
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Thank you for sharing your story. I support you 100%. Best wishes to you and your family.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 07:07 PM
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Wow, this is stunning! I love it so much! I love the variety of professions depicted here-- writer, doctor, scientist, lawyer artist. I completely agree with the message. I've focused on my education, family, and friends all my life. I've never prioritized boys because I've always gotten a lot more satisfaction from the former compared to the latter. I'm now 27, recently defended my Dissertation and received my PhD (big lifelong dream), and accepted a 140k job from a top company in my industry i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 11:25 PM
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Yes! Same!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 10:56 PM
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Yes, very good points, so true!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 03:04 PM
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Ugh yeah definitely, too cringy. Make them work for you. Make them invest their efforts and money in you. Make it expensive for them to waste your time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 02:58 PM
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You don't owe him anything beyond basic human respect and politeness. You don't owe him emotional labor. You don't owe him the benefit of the doubt. You don't owe him your trust. You don't owe him exclusivity unless that's been discussed. You certainly don't owe him a hug, a kiss, any physical touching. And you most definitely don't owe him sex! On a date, you're already giving him your time and attention, and that's probably the most he deserves anyways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 02:40 PM
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Low effort guys who are afraid of commitment and emotional intimacy who want all the benefits of having a women with none of the responsibilities Mediocre guys with unimpressive educations and average jobs, "meh" looks, "meh" personalities, low-effort profiles, just boring, nothing stands out to you; you swipe "no" because nothing about them gives you reason to swipe "yes" (by far the largest category of online dating men in my experience)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 02:24 PM
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Yes Red Flag #1 (age 61 never having been married/in a serious relationship) is such a red flag! I can't believe he would let you guys be together for a whole year without being man-enough to talk about long-term commitments! He's looking for all of the benefits with none of the responsibilities. What a free-loader. I'm so glad you let him go because you deserve so much more than what he could ever give you. Time to turn your attention to the other men waiting for their chance to court you! Prou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 05:12 AM
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Great, good for you! Haha I love the short and sweet summary
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 05:21 PM
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Hey, I'm so sorry that happened to you. I would have been freaked out by the whole situation too. I feel really annoyed that he had to make one of your favorite places feel unsafe. I'm not sure how relevant this suggestion would be to you, but for me, getting a big, protective, leash-reactive dog has given me a lot of peace of mind with respect to my safety. Whenever I go trail-walking, I always take her with me and she makes me feel so safe. She's very protective of me and views men as threats.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 01:54 AM
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Thank you for sharing your story. What happened to you and the next woman is so horrifying. I'm so glad you got out in time. I'm so glad that you're safe. I love how your mom and dog were there for you in your time of need. You are such a brave and kind person. I'm so sorry that the next woman wasn't able to leave earlier. I really hope he's in prison for life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 01:29 AM
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Love you, sending you hugs and support <3. Wow, starting medical school at 20 is amazing! You have a wonderful future ahead of you. What's in his future? Failing that engineering class a fourth time? You were always too good for that spineless loser, and he knew it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 06:00 AM
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Yes, I read about her in the news today. Here's an NBC article. It's so sad. She's a college student, young, gorgeous, with her whole life ahead of her. She was last seen in her apartment, where she was suppose to be safe. Ughhh. He did something horrible; I just know it. Please protect yourself. Live with roommates or get a big protective dog. My big momma pitbull mix who is super protective of me and hates men (more like she's scared of men and so she sees them as threats and goes into full-on…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 05:45 AM
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Sorry you had to experience these uncomfortable situations. Just reading about the first man made me feel gross and icky. Good for you for standing your ground on how Chipotle is too casual for a proper date. Asking a woman what she wears to bed is so inappropriate and disrespectful. Glad the trash took itself out. I personally don't date anyone who makes significantly less than I do. I don't see the point in doing so, and I find that guys get weird inferiority complexes when that happens. We ar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 12:56 AM
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Stellar post! I've never thought about it like that, but that makes so much sense. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 05:46 PM
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Wonderful post. I completely agree with all of your points. Almost all of the men in my family, and many of the meaningful men in my life, have PhDs or JDs. Their wives all have graduate degrees, MSs, PhDs, JDs etc. As a woman, your educational background and job status absolutely matters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 05:21 PM
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If he is a king, then why does he live with his mom, have no car, and have bad finances? Very confusing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 12:31 AM
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That is sexual harassment. They were pressuring you to sleep with them, despite you saying no. They even went as far as to follow you and touch your thigh?? What a loser he is. If this happened in the workplace, it would definitely without a doubt be sexual harassment. Therefore, it is sexual harassment regardless of where it happened. I'm so sorry this happened to you. Your feelings are very valid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 12:44 AM
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Great information, thank you for taking the time to write all this out 💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 04:49 AM
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I hear you and I wish you both well ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 02:25 AM
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Thank you for sharing those examples. I also get so annoyed and frustrated when a woman throws away her education/career/dreams just to follow a man around. What an absolute waste of potential.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 08:44 PM
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Yes I definitely see this too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 06:01 PM
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Oh hahahaha that's so funny 😂 I remember playing Sims 2 growing up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 05:39 PM
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Ahhh I personally wouldn't do this. I couldn't leave my baby behind, boy or girl. But I don't know what painful experiences you've gone through, so sending you hearts ❤❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 05:38 PM
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Omg that is horrible. I didn't know it could be so painful after childbirth too. So sorry you had to suffer though that 💔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 05:03 PM
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I'm so sorry that happened to you 💔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 04:55 PM
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Yes, you would be able to get abortion pills straight from the vending machine, beside the chips and candy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 04:40 PM
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Yes! That's what my sister said! She said the fact that it was the mom's 5th c-section was the reason why she was delivered by the very specialized top-of-their-field ob-gyns at that top medical school hospital, rather than at her local hospital. There were "innumerable risks to her health from that pregnancy," and my sister was relieved that the mom got an IUD afterwards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 04:38 PM
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Yes Queen, I 100% agree with you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 03:17 AM
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I'm automatically nice to women, children, animals, very old people etc. because I identify with other women and their struggles, children and animals are so little and cute and precious, and very old people are just more frail and vulnerable. However, remember that you as a woman don't owe stranger men anything. I act cold, aloof, distant, unimpressed towards stranger men. I do not give them the benefit of the doubt. It's kind of like adjusting my communication to their level (i.e. my engagemen…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 02:54 AM
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This is something you would maybe consider doing after 20+ years of a happy committed marriage. Imagine doing this for a mere boyfriend 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 05:33 AM
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Omg why am I picturing that villian with the sharp nose from The Minions movies 💀💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 05:23 AM
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Afterward he insisted we go to a park (at 10pm in the dead of winter). We get to the park and its gross, my boots are getting messed up in the wet grass. He lays a blanket and we lay there in the cold dark, he used his shoe as a pillow. Sure the views there are nice but it was all so stupid to be there in the dark cold. Oh my goodness, I'm so sorry. That is too much cringe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 08:05 PM
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Ohh congrats on the upcoming Phd!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 06:21 AM
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Of course, just because his education, career, and earnings is impressive to you doesn't automatically make him high-value. You also need to look at his empathy and thoughtfulness, grit and mental strength, character traits etc. Oh and don't forget that you actually have to find him attractive. Any guy who negs you on your perfectly reasonable standards is just projecting their fears and insecurities onto you. "You'll just end up alone" etc. Are you threatening me with a good time, all the freed…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 06:10 AM
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Yes, marry rich! But please make sure that you have your own source of income. It's dangerous to solely rely on a man for money. That lopsided power dynamic is ripe for abuse :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 05:55 AM
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Lolol the audacity, entitlement, lack of self-awareness and self-reflection is clownishly comical. Thanks for the laugh!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 06:06 AM
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Hypergamy is the cultural norm and expectation in Chinese culture. Women marry up or equal, never down. Women lose too much when they marry down in Chinese culture, because there, you're not just marrying the man; you're marrying into the family. So you're expected to do wifey/womanly duties for not only the man and future kids, but for the family as a whole. Why would you, as a women, agree to this if your man is a loser who can't offer you financial security, good looks, good genes for your ki…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 05:43 AM
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Ughhh expecting women to go 50/50 on the cost of an expense when there is a large income gap is infuriating! Never do this! Given that a large income gap exists, don't go 50/50 on the cost of the expense. Instead, it makes so much more sense to go 50/50 as a percentage of income: Let x be a percentage, expressed as a decimal x * (income 1) + x * (income 2) = cost of expense Literally solve for x. This is the percentage of income each person should pay. Person 1 who makes income 1 pays (x * incom…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 05:26 AM
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Sweetheart, there are definitely kind, empathetic, loyal, and sweet men out there. There are men who treat women with respect, and know right from wrong. They understand that women are more vulnerable and face more threats, and so they are protective over the women's safety. I've had guys walk me to my dorm at night, to make sure that I got home safely. I've had a guy tell me to "be careful" in a caring way when I walked to the library at night. I've had a guy help to get me breakfast when I was…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 05:31 AM
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Yes! You are a Queen! You deserve to exist simply because you do exist, and you deserve to live for yourself simply because you are alive. I love seeing women realize their worth and using it to empower themselves and other women. Sending you my love and well-wishes :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 05:54 PM
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Fantastic report! This is exactly what dating should be like as a woman. I will be thinking about your strategies and mindset when I start dating again in the future.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 05:47 PM
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Wow!!! You are so inspiring :) Sending you all my love and well-wishes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 05:30 PM
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Welcome Queen!!! :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 07:02 PM
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Hey Lilith, I've loved reading your posts. They have been wonderfully insightful and well-written. You are clearly an intelligent, compassionate, and wonderful person. I will miss you dearly, but I completely support and understand your decision to focus more on the podcast and on cultivating FDS outside of Reddit. Please take care of yourself. Your mental health and overall wellness are of the upmost importance. Please send along pets and kisses to your cutie dog from me :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 07:00 PM
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Yes, focus on yourself: your self-care, your education, your career, your finances, your passions and hobbies. Focus on cultivating strong relationships with the women in your life. Focus on helping out those more vulnerable than you (children, the elderly, animals etc). That's how I'm living my life now :) I'm 26; I started dating at 24, stopped dating at 25 (mainly due to the pandemic, but I'm thankful that the pandemic made me pause and reassess the role of men in my life); and now I'm in abs…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 10:25 PM
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Yes!!! I completely agree with your point of view! I also cannot believe I used to agree to dates with guys who couldn't even plan one properly and "let me choose." No, be a man. Plan a proper date and show me a good time. Show that you care about me through your time and efforts. Otherwise I have hundreds of other things I'd rather be doing than risking my safety by socializing with a stranger man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 09:24 PM
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Awww I love "The Dodo" videos! They have so many sweet and heartwarming animal rescue videos! Their videos on rescue dogs and rescue pitbulls are the best :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 09:13 PM
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I'm so excited for you!!! You're levelling-up in your job and your relationships like a boss! Full-benefits and no overtime is such a win! 💯👍✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 02:48 PM
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Thank you for sharing your experiences. I'm so sorry you've suffered all of that; it sounds horribly traumatic. I'm also an Asian woman with younger sisters, and I've volunteered in animal (dog) rescue; it was heartbreaking to read about someone like me suffering traumas that nobody should ever suffer. I'm so happy that you were able to leave the long relationship and are on your own with your kitties now. Sending you love and wishing you the best ❤❤❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 02:37 PM
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I'm so glad that you got out of that horribly abusive relationship. That other woman is very admirable-- I love seeing women supporting other women :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 11:41 PM
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I'm so excited that you found a job that makes use of your education, and is a step towards your dream job! I love seeing successful, empowered career woman! Love and hugs and support from everyone here :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 11:34 PM
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Very astute observations; I will be thinking about this; thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 03:53 AM
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I love this so much! You are living the life ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 03:45 AM
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Yeah that works for koala babies, not human babies. You're literally suppose to use your arms to hold human babies, which the muscular guy seems more qualified for anyways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 07:02 AM
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Ugh yes I totally understand the "circus animal" feeling. It's so uncomfortable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 06:48 AM
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Goodnight, hope you sleep well :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 06:43 AM
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Any 30-34 year old woman would be able to realize that a 13-17 year old boy is a child whose brain is still developing and who does not have a meaningful understanding of the world because they are so young and lack life experiences. Any woman would understand that any "relationship" with the boy would have horribly unbalanced power dynamics in her favor, taking advantage of his naivete. Very few, if any, women would accept this dynamic because they have consciences and a sense of what's right a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 06:39 AM
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I agree with everything that you said. My personal solution is that I've just stopped dating white guys. I don't want to deal with all that racial and racial fetish stuff-- if not from him, then likely from his family or friends. I'm Asian American and there are so many dehumanizing stereotypes that men have about Asian women. Some white guys are so sick with yellow fever (i.e. fetishing Asian women) that it's absolutely repulsive. I only date Asian American guys now. I personally find them so m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 05:59 AM
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Take me on a date please
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 04:17 AM
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Wow yes please :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 04:17 AM
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Yes! I've never taken myself on a date before, but I should start doing so
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 11:25 PM
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I never give men the benefit of the doubt, and it's worked out pretty well for me so...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 09:30 PM
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Thank you for sharing your story with us. You must be so strong because you've survived and endured through so much :) Yes, substance use disorder is a disease just like any other disease; unfortunately it's a brain disease like other mental health diseases, which makes it more difficult for people to understand and accept it as a disease. I'm so glad that you're getting the treatment that you need. Yes, go get that additional training in addiction medicine to further your career and be able to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 07:42 PM
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I'm in my 20s, and most men in their 40s and 50s are absolutely geriatric to me. So many men in that age group are balding, graying, overweight, diseased-looking in general; and if they still look decent, I can't help but think that they more likely than not have sexually harassed or sexually assaulted women in their past, and that just absolutely kills any attraction on my part. On the other hand, I see women in their 40s in 50s and many look like healthy, happy, confident, thriving women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 07:19 PM
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If Roe v Wade gets overturned here in the US I’m going on an official sex strike. I’m already kind of on an unofficial one because there’s no one I’ve wanted to sleep with in awhile, but if they take away more of my bodily autonomy to the point where I am obligated to carry an unwanted pregnancy like a broodmare, no ones getting any. Yes, yes, yes! I was thinking the exact same thing a few days ago! It's literally so difficult to find someone I'm attracted to, and no way would I even think about…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 06:51 PM
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You are absolutely gorgeous!!! What wall???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 06:38 PM
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I'm convinced that if men were the ones who got pregnant, or even if somehow men and women both got pregnant, then abortion pills would be available in vending machines, like chips or candy :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 05:55 PM
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Hahaha savage. I love it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 05:48 PM
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Your words and advice contain so much womanly wisdom. You are amazing and I am in awe :) I'm ecstatic that you were able to throw that abusive narcissist in the trash where he belongs. Best wishes to your continued healing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 05:43 PM
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Wow you are totally rocking life!!! Great job, and I'm so glad that FDS helped you get here! I'm only two years older than you, and I think you probably have more "real-world" experience than me, since I've been in school this whole time doing my PhD and will start my first "real adult" job in August. My advice would be to definitely look into doing that MS program. Having a graduate degree will give you a pay-boost, and make you qualified for more opportunities in your career. You mentioned a l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 05:28 PM
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Exactly! Anytime a man accuses you of being a gold digger, it really means that he knows he can't afford you. You are too expensive for him. You are too good for him. And he resents you for that. You can just think of the term "gold digger" as another neg. "Ugh gold-digger." "Wow good for you for realizing that I'm expensive and you can't afford me. That's more self-awareness than I expected from you." :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 04:22 AM
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You are amazing. Keep thriving! :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 04:04 AM
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Great advice :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 04:03 AM
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Also men: does everything they can to sleep with women Also men: "BuT I CAn'T FEel ANythInG wiTh a CONDom oN" Also men: "Bye, have fun raising my kids. I'm out of here!" Men are trash. I tell my dog to stay away from men everyday.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 03:22 AM
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Wow your aunt is such a Queen. I admire her so much!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 03:13 AM
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Exactly!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 06:02 PM
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Thanks :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 06:01 PM
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Yes I definitely agree that vetting for if the man will be a good husband and dad is super important! Hmm about the late-20s thing. I think it's mainly because my desire for kids is so much stronger than my desire for a man, so if I don't find a good man by my late 20s (I'm currently in my mid-20s), then it's time to move on to what I really want-- to be a mom :). I'm not going to let the prospect of finding a good man delay one of my main goals in life (exceedingly few men are worth that sacrif…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 05:56 PM
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I was hoping that I would be provided information about their hobbies and activities. I'm attracted to men who devote their time to more vulnerable populations-- for example, volunteering at the animal shelter, volunteering at the soup kitchen or food pantry etc. I think that this shows empathy and caring for others. However, I don't really know anything about what information you're provided about the donor because I haven't started this process.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 05:48 PM
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Hahahaha I'm dead 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 05:42 PM
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😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 05:42 PM
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If these men can't attract a women while in the physical prime of their 20s, and have to rely on the massive power imbalances of a large age-gap relationship just to potentially attract a woman (this is pathetic), can you imagine how much hatred and resentment they must have towards women, built up over the decades? They must be absolutely seething inside. No healthy relationship will come out of this. Hopefully any young woman being "courted" by an ancient grandpa will listen to the wisdom of t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 05:30 PM
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I've never thought about it that way... very interesting. Thanks for taking the time to write this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 12:09 AM
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Woohoo what a success story! :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 11:51 PM
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I hope that tomorrow's better for you :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 05:11 PM
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Awww this is too sweet! I love women friendships like this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 05:10 PM
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I think that you handled it very well. You are a Goddess, and he is a piece of trash :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 05:05 PM
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Sorry that happened to you. His life must be so sad and pathetic that threats of sexual violence is all he has left. He's so good at telling on himself. Poor thing. Bless his heart.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 04:58 PM
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Yes, it's so important to decouple your desire for children from your desire to find a man who deserves you! You absolutely do not need to have a man in your life in order to have children. Protect your womb from low-value men because pregnancy and childbirth and post-childbirth pose significant risks to you and your body. If you're going to go through so much risk to have a child, you might as well make sure that you are giving your child strong desirable genes by using a sperm donor or finding…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 04:52 PM
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All of that does sound really tiring and stressful. Good luck with your first therapy session. You'll get through this difficult time! ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 02:24 AM
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❤❤❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 02:22 AM
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😂😂😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 02:00 AM
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Haha same. I totally feel that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 01:46 AM
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I absolutely love this! You are so right! Wow ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 07:34 PM
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❤❤❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 01:07 AM
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Thank you for the comprehensive analysis :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 01:06 AM
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Yes queen go get that PhD! And don't you ever let a man neg you over your decision to get one. He did that because he was feeling hella insecure and knew he isn't worth even a tiny fraction of that doctorate. Haha who gets a PhD to be "greedy"? As if living on a humble living stipend will make you rich?? I'm making almost 1/5 the amount as a PhD student compared to my new PhD-level real job that I'm starting in August. He's a loser. You're too good for him and he knows it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 12:58 AM
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Very intriguing ideas, thanks! I've never heard or read about the concept of "uterine mortality" before. I completely agree with it. Yes our wombs are completely our private properties, though too often men tend to think that it's their property 😡😡😡. I think there is definitely a fine line between what is and isn't eugenics; but under the view that women bear the responsibility of deciding which genes get passed on to the next generation, simply because so much risk comes from pregnancy and chil…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 12:38 AM
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Yes, I completely agree with you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 12:52 AM
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This story made my day, thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 10:28 PM
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I also dated another guy with a dick so tiny that I honestly thought it was cut off at some point and was growing back now. Hahahahaha that is too funny!!! I'm so happy to hear about your blissful singleness, and your future plans are so exciting! Please stay safe, you and your parents <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 01:13 AM
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Ohhh I bet she'll love the Hawaii trip so much :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 09:16 PM
14

Starting a degree at 23 and finishing at 26/27 sounds perfectly reasonable to me! Good luck!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 09:05 PM
71

"Bald head...missing tooth" hahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 12:17 AM
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Yes, yes, yes! You go girl! Someday when you set a boundary, and he sends you the Wall of Text in response, you'll be able to just laugh at what a big baby he is :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 12:11 AM
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Haha savage. I love it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 11:53 PM
21

After reading that, I hate him too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 06:01 PM
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Congratulations! I'm so happy for you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 09:25 PM
9

Ewww that is so gross. He definitely made that up. Why is he even doing an ama based on being raped? Can you imagine a woman rape-victim doing an ama? So weird and ingenuine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 09:24 PM
2

Nice job!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 09:19 PM
2

Oh my gosh, that's so much money. Are you going to do it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 09:18 PM
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Good prompt! I don't have any 😭, but if you replace "men" with "dogs" and "date" with "met/seen," then I have all the stories 😂🐕❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 09:08 PM
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Most haven't even considered the possibility that the "legacy" they are so entitled to might never happen simply due to the free will of others. Cue existential crisis. Wow I am screaming. You're right, this is brutal. Props to you for playing it once, realizing the extent of its harmful effect, and deciding not to do it again; that takes a self-awareness and compassion that many men don't have.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 06:29 PM
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I'm so sorry that happened to you. That whole experience sounds stressful and really discouraging. I hope that she's made plans to visit you, to make up for the bad experience; otherwise, you deserve better friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 06:16 PM
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I'm so sorry that you were bullied like that. I'm glad that you've realized that no one deserves your niceness. I hope that you're in a better environment now. Keep on standing up for yourself :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 06:07 PM
13

So true!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 01:49 PM
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Too true. All my personal achievements, I've achieved while single. I love your username by the way :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 02:03 AM
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Poor woman 😞💔. This happens too often. No man is completely reliable, which is why getting a good education and a good job is immensely important for women. Hopefully she finds a good way to support herself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 11:06 PM
7

Ohhh that book looks great! I'm rooting for you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 11:02 PM
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Yes, great realizations! FDS has also made me feel very calm and at-peace with being by myself, which gives me all the more power when dating and vetting. I also want a family and children, so I wanted to repeat a wonderful piece of advice with respect to that, which I read on here a few months back: uncouple your desire for children with the perceived need to find a man. In other words, there's lots of ways to have kids without being in a relationship-- use a sperm donor, adopt etc. The idea of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 11:00 PM
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Good for you! I'm very proud of you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 10:45 PM
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Yes!! I agree with this 100%. I'm a few months away from getting my PhD, and today I found out that I got a job offer to do cancer research at a top-10 university in the US. I'm beyond excited! No man's ever made me feel this excited before. My degree and job will keep me warm, fed, happy, and a whole lot more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 10:44 PM
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Ugh I know. It's literally none of his business. It says that he's active in a red pill sub, which means that he's an incel loser with nothing going for him in life, which is probably why he has the time to message random women on this sub 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 04:04 AM
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Nice! You go girl! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 03:57 AM
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Awww sweetheart ❤ Thank you for your post. You are more than enough, and you always have been. Your boyfriend did not deserve you. You're too good for him. It must have been so hard trying to figure out who you are as an individual after being with him for so long in your formative years. We care about you and support you ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 03:24 AM
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You're so brave to share that with us. Thank you. I'm so sorry you suffered so much abuse and neglect because of your dad. It breaks my heart to think of a little girl going through what you went through. I hope that you have found good sources of support and are doing better these days ❤❤❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 03:10 AM
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Empowering things broaden our options and independence in life, they dont fence us in and turn us into a commodity. This is so true and so well phrased. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 08:31 PM
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Great advice! I'm very careful about keeping my address private. I'm so glad you're moving soon. The stalking and attempted crash sound really scary. Some men are capable of violence that most women would never even consider inflicting on another human. Please stay safe! <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 06:39 PM
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Your translations are spot-on! Any man who uses these words in this context is misogynistic trash and not worth your time. Great post :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 06:30 PM
10

Very helpful, thanks for summarizing this information!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 06:19 PM
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I'm so glad that this sub has helped you a lot! It's helped me so much too. I love this women-oriented supportive environment so much :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 06:16 PM
17

Oh what a simple yet powerful mindset! Thanks so much for sharing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 06:06 PM
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I feel the same way! Concealing half of my face with a mask makes me feel safer against leering men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 06:00 PM
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Hahahaha Ms. LilithWon you are amazing. I can't stop laughing at the image of loser guys running around in circles, arms up and flailing, "screaming into the void with their impotent rage." It's too funny-- something straight out of Spongebob.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 05:39 PM
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Hahahahaha omg I cannot
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 08:14 PM
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Yes Queen! I'm so glad that he's an ex now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 08:13 PM
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This is wonderful. Thanks so much for posting! I think that this is handbook-worthy :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 08:07 PM
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Wow, I cringed SO hard reading that. He sounds like such an awkward mess. Good job for sticking to your boundaries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 10:45 PM
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I'm so sorry you had to experience that. He does sound like an absolute loser. I'm glad that you had the support of your family :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 12:39 AM
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I'm feeling absolutely gleeful thinking about the LVM/NVMs who stalk this sub reading this post and its comments and feeling absolutely inadequate about themselves. LVM/NVMs may not care about how they treat women, but they do absolutely care about their dicks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 12:29 AM
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Great post once again Ms. Lilith! The post that you're referencing is fantastic as well. Congrats on the salty male tears; the more salty male tears I get in my messages, the more I laugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 08:48 PM
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"My heart just breaks. I’m a single woman with no children. But I still feel protective of other women. Even fictional characters. I’m at the point where seeing a man hurt a woman makes me sick to my stomach and makes me feel vengeful af" I completely feel you here. I'm the same way <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 05:41 AM
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Please don't change him. He's an adult so he's perfectly capable of changing his own poopy diaper 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 05:30 AM
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I'm so happy that you're free and doing better now!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 05:26 AM
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I've been in your position in various ways in the past. It's really hard to let go of someone when your brain says, "Leave, run!" while your heart is trying to hang on because you still do like the person. Just reading your words, I am absolutely confident that you made the right decision, even if it feels horrible right now. I'm sending you love, support and hugs! I know that you're an amazing independent Queen, and you know that too :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 05:23 AM
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I don't listen to Chris Brown because he abused Rihanna so he doesn't deserve my attention. There's a song that I've been hearing on the radio with the lyric "can't make a wife out of a h*e." It makes me angry-annoyed-cringe so much, so I don't listen to that song either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 09:54 PM
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Haha oh my gosh, same. If you're so useless and inept in bed that you can't even make me orgasm, then go away because you're definitely not worth going on birth control for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 09:48 PM
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Great, thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 08:16 PM
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So sorry that happened to you. I would be furious too. Try to have him held accountable in some way, like let your coworkers know that he is perverted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 08:14 PM
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Very valuable advice, thanks for posting! I completely agree with running at the first signs of a guy having no money or still living with his parents post-college. Yes there are probably some very rare exceptions, but in general nothing good will come out of getting involved with a man like that. If he is an adult yet can't do basic adult survival things like earn money and not live with his parents, then do NOT reproduce with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 06:36 PM
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You're a Queen yourself! :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 04:55 AM
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The truth is: Asian-American feel inferior to white men while simultaneously feeling ownership of Asian-American women. On top of this, they too desire proximity to whiteness and view white women as a "prize". Not because they actually value white women, but because they desire ownership of what the white male has in an attempt to become equals with the white male class. I'm Asian American and I completely agree with this analysis. I hate when a group of men feel ownership of a group of women si…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 04:51 AM
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I love this story! Love how he waited for 30min for you to finish "pooping" hahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 04:41 AM
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I'm a single woman in my mid-20s and I've never been in a relationship. I enjoy being independent and doing everything by myself and being financially independent. To me, doing all this by myself doesn't seem like a distinction, but just something normal; but I can see how it can be viewed as such. I personally feel like it would be tougher to deal with an lvm while trying to live your life. I've never felt a woman look down on me for being single, but I feel like in your mid-20s it's still "soc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 03:26 AM
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He's lmaooo-ing because he knows that you're too good for him and doesn't want you to realize that or else you'd leave him asap. Yes, you're definitely entitled to a better man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 04:16 AM
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I'm so glad you kicked him out immediately and sent screenshots to his mom. Ugh what a predator. He's disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 04:07 AM
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Oh my gosh, the fact that he had a gun and pulled it at you, then later tried to get his gun when you broke up with him is so scary. I'm so sorry you had to experience that abuse. I don't do guns and I don't date guys with guns.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 04:01 AM
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Lolololol one year later he was still texting you despite not getting any response back for the past year? That is hilarious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 03:55 AM
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Hahaha what a boss move. I'm screaming!!! Good job.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 03:54 AM
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Earlier this year I was messaging with a guy who seemed kind, empathetic, educated, normal, had a cute dog etc. But then he told me that he voted for Trump in 2016 and 2020. That tells me everything I need to know about him. I told him I don't date Trump supporters, then deleted him. He told me this as we were planning a first date. I'm so glad I found out before I actually went on a date with him. Can you imagine the shame and humiliation of finding out that your date is Trump supporter???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 03:40 AM
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HAHAHA wow so woke, such an ally, marry me now BABE <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 07:22 PM
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Great read, very important and insightful points, thanks for writing it out! I also used to think, "Yeah! I should approach men because maybe he's just intimidated by me!" and on dates I would go out of my way to be really nice and understanding and give him the benefit of the doubt when the guy showed indications of being low-value and underachieving (barf). Looking back, I laugh because it was so silly. If a man can't match my achievements and aspirations and desires, then why would I go out o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 07:18 PM
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He left a shit stain on my sheets from sitting there in skid marked boxers. Oh my goodness. Nope nope nope!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 06:49 PM
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That event and the men's complicity is outrageous and I feel your anger. The media's initial backlash of the men "for leaving the women alone in the classroom, and standing by in the hall as they were shot" was completely justified and that should continue to be the narrative today. The men were not innocent victims because their complicity to the shooter was required for the murder of the women to occur. Not one of the men tried to fight the shooter? I bet if the shooter was targeting both men …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 06:29 PM
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Disgusting. Some basic empathy would go a long way here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 05:57 PM
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Sending you love and support <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 05:53 PM
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Very important advice, thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 05:51 PM
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"A LoT OF thiNgS yOU dOn'T UNDERstanD CaUSeD IT" lolololololololol wow this guy is stupid
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 05:45 PM
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I've heard the saying "you're the average of your 5 closest friends" and I believe it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 05:42 PM
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I 100% agree, thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 05:37 PM
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Incredibly important advice, thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 05:33 PM
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Awww that is wholesome and so wonderful!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 01:50 AM
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Wow, I'm so sorry that you had to experience that. It sounds traumatic and horrible. Thank you for sharing that and thanks for your wisdom and advice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 07:23 PM
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These Queen Bees are the original Queens. I love their no-nonsense attitude. It makes complete sense that the scarce food resources during the winter should go to the female worker bees who do all the work for the family-- collecting food, taking care of the baby bees, building and protecting the hive. If the male drone bees don't have anything more to contribute to the bee family, then... bye.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 09:14 PM
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I know! I'm so impressed by the quality and complexity of his toys, and all made using simple cardboard!!??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 09:10 PM
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Yes exactly! Seeing the little girl smile while playing with the toys with her dad makes me so happy :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 09:03 PM
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Wow, you are such a Queen! Lifegoals!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 08:49 PM
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Lolololol to the salty men downvoting this because they could never live up to this man's example and would never get another date ever again if all women raised up their standards because we know how much men are truly capable of and we know our value. If he wanted to, he would. Bye losers, your DMs will be ignored and deleted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 08:46 PM
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Proud of you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 08:19 PM
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Thank you so much for taking the time to write this post to educate us on these tactics and their mindset. The complete lack of empathy required to think this way about fellow humans is stunning and deeply disturbing. Given the depth of their dehumanization of women, I do not doubt that they would not hesitate to holocaust us if one day we stopped being so essential to their deranged sense of identity and value. I really hope this red pill stuff only applies to an extremely limited set of men. T…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 08:17 PM
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If a man implies that they've had lots of first dates and very few second dates, then please listen to the wisdom of the women who've come before you and do not date him. If your intuition tells you that something is "off" or "wrong" about the man, do not date him. Stay safe because your life may very well depend on it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 07:51 PM
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I love so much how you've realize that men's "attention is negative value and [you] do not need or want it," and that your confidence comes from yourself rather than from men, and when they sense that, they respect you more. That's Queen-level :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 07:41 PM
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Extremely good advice. I agree 100%. Thanks for sharing with us the wisdom that you gained from your personal experiences. I'm sorry that you had to go through all that. I think women who want to have children are much better off using a sperm donor and raising children by themselves rather than to have children with a LVM and therefore be forever tied to and burdened by such a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 07:31 PM
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Inspiring post about anger from about a month ago: https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/ln058k/i_just_felt_like_this_belonged_here/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 07:12 AM
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Yes, never feel bad for turning down a guy for whatever reason. My reasoning behind this is that in a relationship and in marriage, the woman generally has the most to lose and the man has the most to gain. There are countless examples of this. For instance, the study that concluded that married women live shorter lives than their unmarried counterparts, while married men live longer than their unmarried counterparts. Women risk being raped/murdered when going on dates, while men don't have to w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 06:37 AM
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"Even if my vibrator was on fire" 😂😂🔥 I wouldn't date that loser even if he was the last man on earth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 05:54 AM
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Sweetheart, you know that leaving him would be the best thing to do. Your mom knows too. Otherwise you wouldn't have taken the time to write your post. I really think that you will be much happier, healthier, and productive without him in your life. That fact that he makes you feel bad and "like it's not fair" means that he's low-value-- he's not adding much value to your life. You deserve so much more from a man. You should never feel like you always have to prove yourself when you're in a heal…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 05:50 AM
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I'm so sorry for what you went through and are going through. Sending you love and support ❤. Always trust your intuition. Prioritize giving YOURSELF the benefit of the doubt (by trusting your intuition) over giving any guy the benefit of the doubt. YOU are the prize that HE'S trying to win. He's just some guy and there is an overabundance of guys in this world. I've been in a situationship when I was younger and much more naive (way before FDS); it ended in a similar way as yours did and it hur…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 05:38 AM
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I read all of that, and it made me deeply sad. It wasn't surprising, but still really sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 05:22 AM
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Hey idiosyncraticg1, I support you ❤. You got your job and financial independence from your education and degree. That's how economic mobility works (at least where I am in the US). That's the classic modern-day American dream. I think some people feel jealous of your situation, which makes sense because poverty and financial instability is incredibly stressful. I'm proud of you and your achievements.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 06:53 PM
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Oh I actually don't live alone. I have roommates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 06:14 PM
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You sound like such a Queen! :) Sending you love and support. I'm finishing up my PhD and live alone with my dog, and love it. I'm aiming to become more handy; I've picked up a good amount of basic car maintenance knowledge, but could definitely learn more. I agree with you that I feel like I can do the typical "male" roles like financially supporting myself and general house/car maintenance, as well as the typical "female" roles like cooking and cleaning. My dog is a big rescue pitbull mix who …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 05:33 AM
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Thanks for keeping an open mind!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 06:14 PM
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Yes, he is so brave and talented!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 06:13 PM
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I know!!! I love how he shows his love and dedication to his daughter by learning how to sew and making dresses for her, to make her feel beautiful and special. And I love how he makes videos of her modelling the dresses so that when she grows up she can remember the fun experiences that she and her dad had together. It's so beautiful it makes me want to cry!!! Where can I find a man like this???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 06:04 PM
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Hmm I don't think that anyone's necessarily congratulating anyone else. I think we're acknowledging that this is the expected behavior of a good-quality husband :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 05:55 PM
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Guys who can cook and clean are so attractive to me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 05:49 PM
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Haha I think so too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 04:48 PM
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Yes, please do get law enforcement and the law involved. Sending you support <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 01:34 AM
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I currently live in a more rural part of the US. I'm here because of graduate school. The guys in this area generally are not well educated, have mediocre (at best) jobs, and I just don't want their genes for my future kids. Previously I was briefly on Hinge, which is a dating app where you can see the people who've like you without needing to like them first. Looking at the profiles of the guys who indicated that they were interested in me was so cringey and actually made me annoyed-- "Ugh why …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 01:30 AM
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Wonderful!!! We're rooting for you! ❤❤❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 01:55 AM
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I saw this too! It was funny how the apartment was prefectly well decorated before 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 01:54 AM
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You are amazing! I'm so happy for you :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 08:12 PM
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Do you guys remember the "Scrote tropes decoded" post by u/DutyKooky a few days ago, where she claims that when guys say: see where it leads/looking to see what happens= looking for how much I can extract from a woman/ how much I can get away with before she dumps me Well here it is!!! The guy is this post literally says "I don't know, we'll see what we want as we go" and it precisely means "[I'm] looking for how much I can extract from a woman/ how much I can get away with before she dumps me."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 08:05 PM
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Yes! Respect, consideration, and actual effort are so important!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 07:56 PM
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Lolololol if you told me that a 1st grader made this card I would have 100% believed you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 05:57 AM
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That sounds absolutely amazing! I personally know that I do want kids, so my own version of this dream would be everything you mentioned above, plus we would be mothers raising our kids together. Oh and a few large kid-friendly dogs for protection (my big pitbull mix is wonderful and is so naturally protective of me).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 05:11 AM
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I agree. I've had some good friendships with gay men, but I've learned to keep my distance with straight men who I'm not romantically interested in because those friendships tend to be very one-sided. They're not good at reciprocating properly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 04:31 AM
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I saved your post because it can be so jading and just plain tiring to see post after post of LVM behavior; it makes me feel like I need a break from this sub sometimes. I love reading about HVM behavior and how happy it makes the woman feel ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 04:23 AM
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Thanks so much for sharing! He sounds amazing. I'm really happy for you ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 04:11 AM
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Oh sweetheart, you sound so young ❤. I'm so glad that you did not end up going to the fancy restaurant with him. He seems like an untrustworthy, deceptive, manipulative person. You were not rude at all; you were setting boundaries and trusting your intuition. He was rude for trying to coerce you on a date when he was fully aware that you were not interested. He was extremely rude to send you a picture of him and another girl at the same fancy restaurant (wtf is that shit???). Being good at setti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 04:03 AM
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Ugh I feel so bad for the little girl. The dad is the adult here. He should have taken on the role of both parents, and tried to give the little girl as good of a childhood as possible after such a tragic event. Any surviving mother or HVM would have tried to do that. It's heartbreaking that the dad made the little girl take on the "mom" role at such a young age. I've always thought that women are internally stronger and have more resilience than men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 03:46 AM
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I watched this a few days ago on YouTube! The comments are surprisingly amazing. There are many other similar videos on YouTube focusing more on the women who are at the "top" (i.e. well educated, good career, beautiful) who refuse to marry "beneath" them and whom the Chinese government has misogynistically (and illogically) deemed "leftover women" because they are 27 or older and unmarried. I love watching videos about them because they are such strong and successful Queens who follow FDS witho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 09:39 PM
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He sounds like an absolute loser. So sorry that you guys are related.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 09:16 PM
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Welcome! We're so glad to have you here ❤ I'm really glad that you got out of that harmful relationship, and that you were able to get therapy which helped you out alot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 09:06 PM
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Great message, thanks for the reminder! ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 04:18 AM
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Wow!!! Very nice!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 04:08 AM
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"Convinces the other that their sexual actions aren't for the purpose of sex" ?????????????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 04:02 AM
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"Does she expect his sperm to even work if he is laying in bed all day?" 💀💀💀😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 08:33 PM
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I love your post and completely agree with it. Your third paragraph, "But I would so badly like to be loved...probably never be loved that way" is so deeply human and intensely moving and heartbreaking. Sending you love and support ❤. I wholeheartedly hope that you find what you're looking for in the future. On a similar note, I have a big soft spot for momma dogs. I think it's because they give so much to their nursing puppies. I think that their postpartum momma bellies are adorable. My curren…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 06:54 PM
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That image actually makes me want to throw-up. It's that cringy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 06:24 PM
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Lol what a joke. He seems illiterate af.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 06:19 PM
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❤❤❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 06:13 PM
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Thanks so much for sharing that with us. That's very brave of you to do. I'm so sorry you feel that way. I understand how you feel because I feel exactly the same way about my dad. He's a narcissist who fits every criteria of that mental illness (self-grandeur, very low empathy, very low self-awareness, judges your value based on the amount of narcissistic supply you can provide to him etc.) who has anger and rage problems and is physically and emotionally abusive. He also contributes very close…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 06:06 PM
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I think that "I don't need you to keep up with me" is a witty, badass reply to that man who had no business critiquing your hobbies or their quantity. That's a much better reply than what I could have come up with in the moment! Good for you for looking straight into the camera while you said it-- what a burn 🔥!!! Someone get that man an icepack for his burn 😂. It's weird that the other men nodded in agreement to the first man's comment-- are their lives so sad, insignificant, and miserable that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 05:37 PM
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That's very helpful to know, thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 05:14 PM
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I'm on the asexual spectrum, and it's quite freeing. I still get lonely for romance and companionship though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 05:11 PM
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Hahahaha he thinks that opener will seduce women??? What a joke 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 05:08 PM
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Lovely post! Your experiences are so relatable for me. My first instinct is also to pursue, to make things easier for him by splitting the check, driving to him etc. The quote is excellent; I'm also working on allowing myself to relax and be treated well. I'M the prize that he's trying to win, so why should I pay on a date? By paying for the date in-full, he's also paying for my time, attention, and consideration of him as a suitor. In the average relationship, the women always has the most to l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 05:57 AM
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Oh that's unfortunate :( My pitbull mix stands her ground and will bark/growl/lunge at unknown men because she sees them as a threat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 06:33 PM
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Dogs' only fault is their short life span :( Otherwise they are perfect :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 06:27 PM
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Yes, my 60lbs rescue female pitbull mix is naturally skeptical of men (i.e. to her, unknown men are a threat) and has very strong protective instincts. She makes me feel very safe. Hmm I would say that getting a big and "dangerous" breed without much prior dog or breed experience is alright, as long as you're willing to invest a lot of time and effort into *learning* how to train and connect with your dog and actually *training* your dog. My rescue pitbull mix was my first dog. I've spent lots o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 06:26 PM
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I would recommend getting a dog. My 60lbs rescue pitbull mix is very protective of her people and home. She barks and growls at anyone who comes too close to the apartment. She'll bark and growl, even lunge at (but not bite), if she feels she needs to, people who come too close to me on our walks, especially at night. She is especially suspicious of unknown men. She makes me feel very safe. She seems intimidating to strangers, but to people she knows and trusts, she the most well-behaved, docile…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 06:15 PM
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Welcome to the community! :) And he sounds absolutely wonderful, very considerate thing to do for you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 09:25 PM
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Welcome, I'm so excited that you're a part of this community! :) I can already tell from your words that you are a strong determined queen who knows her value, and we support you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 09:20 PM
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Wow that is so terrible. I'm so sorry that you had to experience those abusive things that no woman should ever have to experience. Thanks for sharing your story so that other women on here can learn from it. I'm glad that this is in the past now. Sending you love and support <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 09:16 PM
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Hahaha yes, he sounds pretty worthless. Down the toilet he goes. But don't flush the phone though-- you could sell it and make some money off of it (unlike the man...)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 09:08 PM
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This is incredibly interesting and insightful, and so useful to everyday life! I appreciate that she cited research universities, professors, and papers. There may be some critiques of the studies, but I think the overall findings still hold. Shout-out to Florida State University :) Thanks so much for sharing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 09:05 PM
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That is so wholesome! :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 08:43 PM
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Oh no, sorry to hear that; what happened today? If you know that something needs to change, then don't be afraid to make that change :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 06:37 AM
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Yes, I definitely agree that that 50% split on rent and other shared living expenses is very unfair in the case where there is a significant difference in income level. In this case, instead of basing the percentage on the cost of rent/expenses, it makes a whole lot more sense to base the percentages on individual income. For example, suppose shared monthly expenses are $4,000. And suppose person A makes $50,000 and person B makes double that amount at $100,000. If we were to base the % on expen…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 08:46 AM
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Wow, what a boss move! 👏👏👏 Yes, what he said was very rude and disrespectful. That's no way to treat a date, and you deserve all of his respect. I love that you hung up on him right that second; what a great way to establish your queen-level boundaries!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 07:50 AM
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Congratulations!!! 🎉🎊🎆 What sort of degree and field of study is your honors essay for?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 07:42 AM
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I agree! I would not answer that question. That's such a weird question to ask when in the "talking stage" of dating. Intrustive and none of their business. I would reply with something like "Why would I want to change my physical appearance?? 😊" or "Lol that's a creepy question, next."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 07:40 AM
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Response: "Thank you, you're a 5 at best :)"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 02:23 AM
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I'm so proud of you! ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 02:17 AM
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Yeah I'm also glad that accents are more normalized now :) I have a good number of friends in my graduate program who are from India and they're fun to hamg out with. I'm Chinese and my parents have Chinese accents because they grew up in China. Looking down on or mocking someone just because they have an accent seems extremely uncultured and idiotic to me. Someone having an accent just means they speak at least 1 other language fluently, which is probably one more language than the mocker can s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 05:03 AM
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Ugh gross, this old, moldy, expired, and straight-up repugnant R Kelly wannabe needs to deflate his ego and accept reality: he is mediocre at best and no 18 year old wants to sleep with him. Why would an 18 year old girl, who has her whole life in front of her, waste her time talking to, much less sleeping with, a "middle aged man or older??" Why in the world would she be "flat out happy to be with you??" Are you sure you even have a sex drive at your ancient age?? And remind me how you'll be ab…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 04:50 AM
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Hahahaha what a gem 😂 His Indian accent is adorable too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 04:24 AM
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Dismissing his preferred restaurant for his (not her) birthday dinner, then making him pay for his entire birthday dinner seems rude and selfish tbh :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 04:21 AM
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😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 10:04 PM
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Haha yeah, if it didn't work out for Larissa and Jess, it's not going to work out for you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 09:57 PM
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Oof they are "all lives mattering" the heck out of this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 07:34 AM
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Oof yeah, I think that as long as you have a penis, there is always at least a little part of you that doesn't have women's best interests in mind; the woman almost always has a lot more to lose than the man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 07:33 AM
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Yes, he does seem like a good decent guy overall, but needs to be more empathetic towards women's perspectives. But then again, just like how in the US, a part of white privilage is not having to think much about race because your race is the "default" race; I think a part of male privilage is not having to think much about gender because your gender is the "default" gender.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 07:20 AM
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"I'll never understand women" Hmm it doesn't take too many brain cells to consider the consequences of online porn from a woman's perspective 🙄 I'm glad he has the decency to ask for the girl's consent before posting anything online.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 07:07 AM
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I agree. And whenever I scroll through the front pages, I see way too many posts about gaming which I have no interest in and don't care about (why are there so many guns??), not to mention the oversexualized amine drawings? Eww. I want to see more funny twitter posts, cute animal posts, and wholesome story posts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 06:59 AM
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Wonderful gift and impeccable message! Love the absolute Queen energy radiating from this post. On a personal note, it would not be inaccurate to say that I have both standards and an attitude 😂😂😂. I'm just good at concealing the attitude when advantagous to me. As an Asian woman, I've learned to use that stupid ignorant "Asian women are agreeable/submissive" sterotype to my advantage 😂. By the way, I don't think anyone who believes that stereotype has actually gotten to know an Asian women beyo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 06:23 AM
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/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 06:09 AM
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Lolololol would not recommend that 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 06:08 AM
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I'm sorry that this is happening to you. It sounds like a stressful and frustrating situation. I don't understand why your coworkers are being so mean to you and degrading the importance and quality of the work that you're contributing to the project? I mean you guys are literally on the same team working towards the same project. It sounds like you are completely 100% qualified to do the work, based on your MS degree, your "senior" job title, and your 10+ years with the company. Is it the compa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 06:05 AM
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Great post; very eloquently and concisely written. I completely agree with your points. I respect and sympathize with single mothers; they sacrifice so much for their kids. Hating on single mothers is a prime example of victim blaming.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 05:52 AM
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I'm pretty sure the red pill one and the "men going their own way" one both got banned, and probably more
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 05:44 AM
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Yes, so true. I could text any guy friend up if I wanted casual sex, or I can make an online dating app and get matches in minutes; it's almost too easy to get casual sex or a date. But none of the guys in my current area are worth risking pregnancy for at this time in my life when I'm super focused on finishing up my PhD research so I can graduate this summer. Guys come and go; there's an overabundance of them. But this is the one chance in my life-- a culmulation of 5 years-- to get that PhD!!…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 05:43 AM
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That is so lovely and wholesome!!! Congratulations :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 04:45 PM
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Oh I should start looking up potential dates in the online courts pages, thanks for the idea!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 04:39 PM
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You go Queen!! <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 06:18 AM
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Oh please don't apologize for your previous post! I thought it was very romantic and well-written, but while reading it I was also pragmatically aware that what you were describing was only one dimension of the multitude of dimensions that make up a real-life relationship, and that I didn't know anything about the other dimensions in the relationship. Yes, I agree that sometimes it's so easy to let one good flag overshadow the bad ones. I've also had the experience of being really impressed by t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 05:44 AM
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That sounds absolutely lovely!!! I'm so happy for you :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 05:29 AM
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I'm so sorry that you went through a terrible and traumatic experience with that loser guy. I'm so sorry that seeing/hearing him again on social media gave you a panic attack. Personally, I would say to listen to your body and trust it and accept what it's telling you-- it seems like you need more time to heal from your experiences and that's completely fine and normal <3 I would say to block all instances of him on your social media, and to be generous to yourself in your healing process. I hav…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 05:26 AM
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Looks very nice and relaxing! Enjoy :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 05:03 AM
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I remember your green-flags post about the amazing sexual consent that you experienced with him. I even saved the post because I was so impressed by it. I'm so sorry that he turned out to be a LVM; that must have been such a disappointment. I'm glad that you had the wisdom to see his LVM behavior and the initiative and self-confidence to drop him and not look back. He seems so slimy, using the "post and its votes constantly as proof of his HVM status" ugghhh gross. Sending you love and support <…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 04:49 AM
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Absolutely gorgeous!! Happy Galentine's Day to you too :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 10:45 PM
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Imagine having masculinity so fragile that you would pay premium for butt wipes with anti-gay powers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 10:21 PM
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Hahaha that commentary is hilarious! I've seen those products at the grocery store and rolled my eyes so hard
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 10:06 PM
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I'm an East Asian woman by ethnicity (and American by nationality and culture) and let me tell you-- the women in my family are fierce. Not fierce in an obvious, "threatening" way; but fierce in a "femimine"/"fun" way. Kamala Harris comes to mind (she's half South Asian 😊)-- you know how you can tell that she's such a fierce queen at her core, but at the same time she just projects this fun, warm, nurturing aunt, "let me cook for you/feed you" vibe? In my experience, many East Asian women are li…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 04:59 AM
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I agree with you-- since covid, I've always started off with video dates instead of in-person dates, and now I also "do not want a man anywhere near me before I’ve known him for a few weeks." I can't believe I used to be ok with meeting up in-person for a first date-- that's too much access to give to someone who hasn't even proved himself. I'm glad you talked to him long enough for that offensive and rude comment to slip out, so you could quickly dodge that bullet! Congrats! A few weeks ago I w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 02:30 AM
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One of my biggest dating fears is that a man that I turn down will turn out to be a dangerous stalker man. Women die from guys like this. I guess my best bet is to listen to and trust my intuition, and to never tell them where I live until they are more fully vetted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 11:35 PM
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Yes, I hear you. Although I don't 100% identify with your perspective, I definitely see where you're coming from. Sending you love and support <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 11:31 PM
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That sounds amazing! I'm so happy for you! Thanks for sharing-- now I know what to look for 😘
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 02:52 AM
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The short and concise "Do not contact me" is a boss move 👍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 07:50 PM
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I agree 100% with your post title. I'm in my mid-20s and have spent essentially all of my 20s so far working on self-development, my education, and cultivating my financial independence. I feel like I've grown so much as a person, gained so many employable skills, and gained a lot of life experiences in my 20s so far, which I feel would have been stifled or muted or stalled had I been attached to a man. I've dated here and there, but never in a super serious way; the guys I've dated have been gr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 07:45 PM
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So true, they're just vetting themselves out, saving you the time and effort you would have put into vetting them. So they're essentially doing your work for you 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 07:10 PM
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Ohh that sounds like a great date!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 07:04 PM
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Yes, I completely agree that "that emotional intimacy is reserved for the guy who earns his way there." I once read a good reply to that invasive question-- "I'm just lucky I guess" 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 06:47 PM
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Haha so true. If you don't care enough about dating me to plan a date, then you're not worth my time, bye 👋
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 06:34 PM
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Good luck!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 04:59 PM
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Congrats, you got this! I was also feeling pretty overwhelmed when I first started graduate school. Oh wow, I can't imagine doing a masters while also having a full time job; that sounds exhausting. Wishing you the best <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 04:58 PM
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Ohhh that's super cool! Congrats to her/him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 04:52 PM
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I completely agree with your thoughts. Thank you! I agree 100000% that "financial security is critical for women because it allows us safety." I can't fall back on my parents for money, and relying on a man for financial security sets up a power-imbalance that could too easily get abusive. Relying on myself is my best bet. And self-reliance is empowering in and of itself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 03:38 AM
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I'm glad you're pursuing a Masters and enjoying the experience. Go you! 🎉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 11:38 PM
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My message is to encouage women to pursue graduate degrees because I've found it to be very empowering. I am speaking from a math/stats perspective because that's my experience and that's what I know and can comment on. I never claimed that pursuing STEM is "the right choice," just that it's the right choice for me. This post is written with observational intentions rather than prescriptive intentions. Yes, I love the humanities too. I love Virginia Woolf, Flaubert, Faulkner, Russian history, th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 11:36 PM
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/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 08:58 PM
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Thanks! Yeah I wish there were more truely empowering posts on here. Congrats on furthering your education in a technical field! Yes, I wish someone had encouraged you in math when you were young :( In my experience, doing a math undergrad is as much about grit and discipline as it is about math ability.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 08:58 PM
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Ohhhh good luck on your PhD program application! Crossing my fingers for you! Yeah, I've definitely also used the term "graduate student" rather than "PhD student/PhD candidate" to seem more modest about things. But then again, I didn't spend 5 years of my life on this degree, nor did I take an 8 hour math/stats exam twice (qualifying exam) just to downplay my degree :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 08:48 PM
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Thanks 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 08:34 PM
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Wow congrats on all your degrees! I think it's great that you're continuing to improve your skills by doing certifications. Yeah, strategic education is really the best way for economic mobility. Haha if guys are intimidated by our education, then that is 100% their problem, not ours!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 08:33 PM
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Thanks 😊. Hmm have you considered applying to PhD programs in the US, and then getting a PhD-level job in the US? That's how my parents immigrated here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 06:47 PM
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Best of luck on your grad school applications! Yeah, doing a math undergrad was really hard and demanding, but I find that people really respect you for it since you have knowledge that they wish they had.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 06:42 PM
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Wow, that all sounds super exciting! Congrats on your MS and your rotations-- sounds like a really good experience/resume builder! Some of my students also want to apply to PA school, and I've heard it's a great job 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 06:37 PM
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Yay, I'm so glad this resonates with you! I love meeting other STEM PhD women! Yes, I totally agree-- in my dating experience, the LVMs who are either intimidated by your degree, or see it as a strength that makes you harder to manipulate/play practically filter themselves out 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 06:35 PM
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Congratulations on your Computer Science Masters!!! I did a scientific computing minor in undergrad (Python, Java, C), and my current research is in R and Python. Programming is such an intensely useful skill.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 06:29 PM
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Yeah, this is "public branding" is definitely pretty cringe. If she feels the need to buy this for him, then she probably feels quite insecure in the relationship. You shouldn't feel insecure in a healthy relationship where both people put in equal effort. If you really feel that way about each other (i.e. "I'm her king and she's my life"), why do you need to casually announce it to strangers on the street? Weird vibes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 04:18 AM
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Hmm yeah, if he does have a racist past, then that would negate the HV status. I wasn't fully aware of his racist past.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 02:44 AM
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Hmm it's his apartment, so he should be cleaning it to impress her before she moves in? Or at the very least clean it together as a team?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 01:38 AM
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Not to be too political, but Joe Biden seems like a HVM as well. You can tell that he treats his wife well, values her, and isn't intimidated by her PhD. His family in general also seems to regard him highly. That empathy and sympathizing with others' hardship comes so easily and naturally to him is very high-value. And the fact that he comforted the boy who struggles with stuttering and gave him advice on how to overcome it is so kind and heartwarming.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 11:44 PM
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You go Queen!!! He sounds like a deadweight. You're too good for him, and he and his parents probably knew that too❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 11:38 PM
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Congratulations!!! I SO glad you didn't get involved in all of that mess ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 11:35 PM
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I'm so sorry. Get a good education, become financially independent, and you won't need them anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 10:47 PM
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Yes, especially with big dogs, training and early socialization are essential.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 10:13 PM
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Aww sweetheart pittie mix! Look at that beautiful smile! I love him so much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 07:51 PM
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Hahahaha perfection!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 07:48 PM
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*Pukes profusely and screams into the void* My dog's poop is more intelligent and worthy of respect than him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 07:45 PM
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Hahaha what a loser. Especially the "porn induced erectile dysfunction at 23" wow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 07:15 PM
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Ahhh it's such a shame when male family members or relatives who you've loved as babies and kids grow up to be misogynistic and disrespectful of women, or even abusive and violent; and so you need to distance yourself from them to protect yourself. I know that if I end up having a son, I will emphasize and encourage his sense of empathy and kindness (especially towards those more vulnerable), and I will makes sure he understands the importance of respecting women. But I worry: what if he stills …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 12:14 PM
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I appreciate your insights, thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 10:06 AM
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Very insightful and empowering observations, thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 09:51 AM
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Congratulations! It sounds like you're really striving for improvement in your life and I'm excited for you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 09:43 AM
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Ladies, Do men who abandon their family deserve respect?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 01:31 AM
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I'm sorry that you had to endure all of that abuse and gaslighting from your ex and from the redditors. That sounds terrible and traumatizing. I'm so glad that you're out of that situation now. It sounds like you've been able to heal to the extent that you're able to critique your mindset/headspace back then, and give advice to other women who may be in a similar situation. Keep on leveling up Queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 12:58 AM
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I'm so proud of you!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 12:49 AM
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I was briefly amused, just because it was such an unexpected profile picture; but then I thought about how dirty the inside of that trash can must be and how he probably didn't even wash his hands afterwards, and felt icky
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 12:45 AM
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Hahaha omg so true
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 12:43 AM
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Ughh anyone who thinks that is automatically not funny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 10:21 PM
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10/10 for efficiency!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 10:20 PM
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I don't understand what he means by "to take back what us men deserve." At least in US history and present day, white men (most of the rioters were white) have been the most privileged and are still the most privileged. If they are not able to achieve success even with that top-level privilege, when white women/women of color/men of color are able to achieve success with much less privilege, then the fault lies with them and they need to improve themselves (education/personal development/therapy…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 10:17 PM
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Thanks for sharing these insights! Anger issues are a big red flag for me, but I think I would have also overlooked the first and third points, but now I know to be cautious of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 09:39 PM
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This makes me feel gross. He is a self-centered baby so my recommendation would be to throw the whole man away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 04:58 PM
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What an aspirational story, thanks for sharing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 05:57 AM
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This is super helpful advice, thank you! I've heard many good things about that book and have been meaning to buy and read it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 02:06 AM
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Thank you for sharing your insight on this. I really appreciate it. I agree that "You need to decouple your desire to have children from the need to accept any man that can provide that" is epiphany-level advice! I'm in my mid-late 20s, finishing a PhD program. I know that I want kids (I was lucky to grow up with younger siblings who were born when I was old enough to help take care of them, and I've loved babies ever since); but finding a good man is hard enough, and even harder in the relative…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 10:20 PM
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