Thank you, ladies. Met a really nice, mature, intelligent guy who happened to be divorced with kids — or so I thought. Searched his name on local court records and found...

  • Dude has been divorced twice.
  • His latest divorce case is still active over two years later and they are still battling over the parenting plan.
  • He filed a complaint against his latest ex-wife accusing her of domestic violence two days before she filed for divorce. It was dismissed without trial.

I’ve read enough Lundy Bancroft to know that the chances that this guy is the actual abuser are high. Plus! In the two times I chatted with him, he never mentioned his kids or spending time with his kids — I’m starting to think that he doesn’t even have partial custody. I wOnDeR wHy?

Thanks for saving me valuable time, ladies. I’ll never not run a background check again. Only thing that bums me out is that he had me so fooled.