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Covert contract
/r/askMRP24/06/25 06:13 PM
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No one should remain in your life unless they add value to it. That includes your wife, your friends and even members of your extended family. Seems your brother is causing you trouble, does he bring more benefit than that trouble causes?
/r/askMRP26/05/22 10:59 PM
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I know it's a hippy bullshit thing to do a cleanse, but there is a diet called the Whole 30. It's an elimination diet, basically you strip it down to basic whole foods for 30 days to reset your body then you slowly add in things to see if you react poorly. Would also suggest seeing a Nutritionist with this (which I am sure you already are)
/r/askMRP09/01/21 09:17 PM
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Don't move in with her. You obviously don't trust her and can already see a path to leaving in the future. No matter what you think if you move in with each other you will lose half of it.
/r/askMRP07/10/19 04:50 PM
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will add value to your life? That's about it, why spend time with anyone unless they add value and have value to you.
/r/askMRP28/09/19 07:05 PM
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Thank you for the link i am reading up on it. I also have contacts through family and work that I am going to reach out to. The head of surgery at a hospital in the Caribbean (family relation) and an Orthopedic surgeon through work contacts at Cleveland Clinic. I am getting updated MRI's to send to them. I may also look into ADR in Europe to see if there is a Doc I can consult.
/r/askMRP18/09/19 08:03 PM
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The facets healed incorrectly, hell there is nothing really holding them there so they healed where they healed. Now they have to cut off the overgrowth and the fusion is to cage the S1/L5 back into a decompressed position. Have gotten the opinion of a Neurologist and Neurosurgeon Waiting on an appointment with a orthopaedic surgeon.
/r/askMRP18/09/19 01:25 PM
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My issue isn't discs, it's broken facets and a pars defect causing stenosis. According to the Dr. All of my discs are extremely healthy except the one where the break occurred and after 30 years the disc finally flattened. But I will check it out.
/r/askMRP17/09/19 07:44 PM
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I looked into it and Decompression and spinal fusion surgery runs about 150-280K in the USA. If I had no other choice I would pay it by my option is to wait 8-12 months on a waiting list in Canada. I tied that against value lost and Since I can work (desk) job it doesn’t make sense.
/r/askMRP17/09/19 12:24 PM
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I did in the past and found a guy in my area who could get me T from China and needles. I kinda found it all to be a little sketchy who knows what this shit is if it's from china and smuggled in so decided against it. My current plan is to get check again in 18 months. I also have another issue going on, I broke the facets off my L5 vertebrae in HS football and now in my 40's it's caused an issue pressing on the nerve. So I am due to get spinal surgery to fix that next may so I'm not worried abo…
/r/askMRP16/09/19 07:56 PM
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Is this an option in Canada? Money is not an issue I just seem to be hand cuffed by the process and law.
/r/askMRP16/09/19 05:05 PM
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I am 43 years old and tested 11.1 nmol/L range is 8.4 - 28.8 nmol/L which is converted to 320 in US measurements. I am told I have no recourse because I fall within range.
/r/askMRP16/09/19 03:54 PM
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Not quite what I was looking for but still a refreshing read.
/r/askMRP04/09/19 07:55 PM
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Too bad you missed an opportunity to artificially inflate your ego by belittling some stranger over the internet. Not to worry there are 7,831 more readers on this sub reddit to give you a second chance.
/r/askMRP04/09/19 07:50 PM
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Thanks. That was actually the first helpful response I got to this questions, thanks for that angle it is the more helpful approach.
/r/askMRP04/09/19 06:13 PM
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Not looking to convert anyone. Friend split from his wife once he found out she had cheated on him. The only thing he is finding difficult in the split is dealing with his friends and his own family who are siding with the Ex no matter what. So I was trying to convey to him the understanding that it does not matter what he says or what happened the fact is no matter what - "the failure of the marriage will always been seen by as his failure". I was looking for the word to describe to him that it…
/r/askMRP04/09/19 05:11 PM
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It was related to a conversation I am having with a friend. So the desire to find the post is that it would help him to understand RP in a way.
/r/askMRP04/09/19 03:46 PM
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Unfortunately it’s fact
/r/askMRP04/09/19 03:08 PM
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Lead by example and through example. Also note that your wife may want you to deal with it or not deal with it so that she has something to complain about. My Mother In Law got drunk and made a huge scene the last time she was over. Rather than trying to teach my wife how to respond I let her see my exampl. I told MIL and FIL that being drunk and carrying on is not acceptable behaviour around my children. That they were welcome to continue to visit us but from now on no one will drink when they …
/r/askMRP23/02/19 12:14 AM
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Read the sidebar... Hint it has nothing to do with Bambi. p.s. We may seem like total assholes for not answering a question, there is good reason you need to put in the work to get the results, just skimming coles notes is no way to run your life.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/19 12:47 PM
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Scientifically speaking there was a study that found that heavy metal or other hard music decreased capacity compared to classical music which increased it but that was negligible and had no effect on long term gains. Personally I like new Rap/Hip Hop mainly because the beat helps me keep tempo so I’m not just blasting through. Lemon by N.E.R.D is a favourite for burpees.
/r/askMRP28/01/19 11:39 PM
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What happens in the first few years will effect your kids less and you and your relationship more. An often used torture method is sleep deprivation as it causes an individuals psyche to break allowing them to let down barriers. Think about that when a crying baby has you all up 6 times a night and you try to keep your frame.
/r/askMRP17/01/19 04:57 PM
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Why even get married if you both already have your own kids and no future plans. As far as you asking for 15K from her? Man the fuck up if you want 15K go make it and put it away for yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/18 12:35 AM
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I had a heard time figuring this out until I looked at it this way. Sitting there thinking how do I act so that she reacts x way was me being in her frame. Get out of her frame and into your own. You got shit to do, go do it and get excited about clearing up it clutter to build your “body shop” in your garage. Pun intended. Wife comes along, so what. There is that juvenile girl who was acting all hissy the other day I got shit to do I don’t engage or she will waste my time. She is being nice aga…
/r/askMRP13/10/18 07:50 PM
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Holly shit that was a big long story. Respond if you want to not because you feel it’s what she wants. As per the main event reason, Your 6 month project to set you up for life? That shouldn’t be your end goal it should set you up to do your next big 6 month project etc. That said, your LTR should be someone who lifts you up and compliments you not a crutch you need or a wobbly leg you support. If you are going to keep driving forward toward higher goals is she going to be cheering you on or dra…
/r/askMRP23/07/18 12:00 AM
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A good guideline is. Don’t compare yourself to others especially FB. Remember that FB and Instagram are the highlight reel no one ever posts behind the curtain.
/r/askMRP20/07/18 02:07 PM
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Either way don’t be childish and punitive “it’s her fault”, “she did it”, “not me” see how all that sounds. Tell your kids what is relevant for them to hear don’t lie to them. Just the facts no emotion or blame your kids will that you and respect you more.
/r/askMRP28/06/18 12:12 PM
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Homer
/r/askMRP28/06/18 01:24 AM
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And then you laugh and walk away. Consider frame in all of this. She made this about your mother, and you are busy in her frame trying to figure out how to respond to her. Fuck that shit. Your hamster is spinning thinking of how she will respond. Here is how I would think about that whole conversation. Wife: “she slipped on your mom’s diaper genie.” You: "What? She got out of her Crib? That's dangerous, time to get her into a bigger crib in her own room" This is the more pressing matter and as t…
/r/askMRP27/06/18 05:55 PM
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AA - Agree and amplify to let her know how stupid her comment is. I should have know about the diaper genie my mom has been trying unsuccessfully to kill me for years. Makes sense she is trying to kill our kid now. Did you check underneath the diaper genie to see if it was made by Acme? Also agree with clean up you ur shit. If you didn’t leave you ur toys lying around like a child she wouldn’t talk to you like one.
/r/askMRP27/06/18 05:04 PM
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Doh
/r/askMRP27/06/18 02:08 AM
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DAMMIT THIS IS NOT ASK REDDIT
/r/askMRP18/06/18 09:11 PM
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I was Trolling your history as well to make a joke, but isntead found out you are also a friend of Bill W.
/r/MGTOW14/06/18 07:38 PM
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I didn’t even know this was a thing. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mythopoetic_men%27s_movement
/r/askMRP13/06/18 11:32 AM
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Air travel tons of it.
/r/askMRP11/06/18 10:25 PM
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I would pay for that. In fact I have gone on several men's weekend retreats (non RP affiliated) to get to the next level. The quality was not as good as I thought it would have been and the fact that I had taken the red pill i scoffed at a lot of the teachings.
/r/askMRP11/06/18 08:10 PM
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Declare War on Yourself, Added to my list
/r/askMRP11/06/18 08:08 PM
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Thanks, I was actually able to get a combo audio book. Stoicism Collection: Meditations, On the Shortness of Life, and Enchiridion Written by: Marcus Aurelius, Seneca, Epictetus Narrated by: Jonathan Waters Length: 8 hrs and 27 mins Release date: 2018-05-01
/r/askMRP11/06/18 07:13 PM
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Not going to berate you on getting married again, we are all here because we either have a penchant for punishment or we see the value in sharing our experiences. Questions: After getting fleeced in your first marriage did you learn your lesson and get a pre-nup? If so the rest of this is a mute point if not then here are some thoughts. Married RP is about being married to someone who is your partner, who makes you better. If the person you are with is not helping you then why are you helping th…
/r/askMRP11/06/18 07:07 PM
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Mediations (seneca) Is that "The Tao of Seneca" or "Meditations by: Marcus Aurelius"?
/r/askMRP11/06/18 05:29 PM
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Read it... I am actually getting a listing of all the books I have. Should have had my shit together when I posted the question.
/r/askMRP11/06/18 02:49 PM
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I get that it's shitty to have to set up the sub for the redesign but for new users finding us it would be valuable to see a sidebar. Myself, I Use Incognito Mode when browsing MRP (Don't talk about fight club) so it never remembers my preference and defaults me to New Reddit, I just got used to using it. Just realized it has nothing to do with Cookies, it is attached to my login. I just selected Opt out of Redesign on my login and now I am seeing old reddit everywhere.
/r/askMRP11/06/18 02:12 PM
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After some more thought I decided to try the Old style reddit and now I see it. Mods need to update the layouts so that the sidebar shows up in the redesign.
/r/askMRP11/06/18 12:39 PM
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TWOTSM That's the one I was thinking about, The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida
/r/askMRP07/06/18 12:02 AM
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I can recall more explicit wording like “explore your self with no goal in mind...” but now I’m just giving you shower nauseating masterbation material.
/r/askMRP06/06/18 09:00 PM
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I can't recall which book it was in, but pretty sure it was in a sidebar book. The recommendation is not "nofap" but rather no porn. The guidance is to continue doing what comes natural to you (masturbation comes natural to humans and animals) but to avoid porn which gives artificial elevations of endorphins and dopamine.
/r/askMRP06/06/18 07:58 PM
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It shows 1,609 reviews to me?
/r/MensRights25/05/18 02:39 PM
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you have your answer. She told you that you are not a man you are her little boy and she will continue treating you as such until you stop being a boy. Read the sidebar, Leave the cave and join the other men on the hunt until you’ve figured out what it means to be a man.
/r/askMRP02/05/18 12:15 PM
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FUCKkkk Posted my reply before I went to the gym. See your reply now that I am back from the gym and realize I left my GD wedding ring on the whiteboard ledge. You fuckers jinxed me.
/r/askMRP30/04/18 12:05 PM
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I don’t wear my ring at the gym, I don’t want to glove my finger. My wife got me a Qalo ring but I lost it in less than a month. Any ring even a silicone one will cause blisters, callouses.
/r/askMRP30/04/18 09:52 AM
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It’s Kelly Kapoor
/r/MGTOW17/04/18 03:32 PM
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Maybe she doesn’t know how, why don’t you find her big black dildo she hides in the back of the closet and suck on that to give her a demonstration. All cuckery aside, get out of your gentle frame with regards to sex. The fundamentals of TRP are to break from the training mold we have been put into, To realize that women don’t want gentle romance they want a driven man who knows what he wants and won’t settle for anything less. Especially when it comes to sex we were conditioned at an early age …
/r/askMRP16/04/18 12:30 PM
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You know what fuck your prejudice just because I am a helicopter doesn’t mean I attack and doesn’t mean I am illegal. I am simply an undocumented propeller entity.
/r/MensRights11/03/18 04:44 PM
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That’s it well make our own internet with blackjack and hookers.
/r/MensRights07/03/18 11:12 PM
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I just switched to Firefox and DuckDuckGo
/r/MensRights07/03/18 11:10 PM
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I’m at the gym 6 days a week, 3 days lifting, 3 days HIIT (CrossFit) on the 7th day I ski. That has been working for me cardio wise. I would like to also do some Jui-Jitsu or other type work but finding the time right now.
/r/askMRP10/02/18 03:10 PM
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I will be out of town for work, makes it pretty easy.
/r/askMRP10/02/18 03:03 PM
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I tried to help a drowning man and ended up getting pulled down under. Crabs in a bucket. From his BP perspective he sees you as his opponent to the dating game. If only Chad's like you didn't exist girls would realize the benefits of his White Knighthood.
/r/TheRedPill09/02/18 01:44 PM
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Yes but FY or AY? It may be different depending on when the company closes their books.
/r/MGTOW08/02/18 12:06 AM
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Your wife isn’t jealous, in fact she isn’t even your wife she is your mother. She is telling you what to do because she is the captain of your ship. Many of us have been there, being a drunk captain. She stepped in to take over as captain and she isn’t going to give up her leadership of the home and leadership of you, until you prove you’re not going to steer the ship aground. Go back and read all the books in the sidebar especially Athol Kay. If you still don’t get it read them again.
/r/askMRP06/02/18 10:43 PM
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The way you described being grateful for the test because it showed A, B, C was about the definition of good frame that I needed. I have been in a miserable fuck funk. For lots of other reasons as well but a great instruction to have an abundance mindset.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/18 06:46 PM
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Your ma better be buying you kids school books with that money and not blowing it all on booze again.
/r/askMRP04/02/18 10:00 AM
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I loved that one, used something similar when my pay check wasn’t in my account on the 30th (because Jan has 31 days) wife: where’s your pay check is there something I should know. Me: I already told you my pay checks are going straight to my other family in Florida now. Don’t believe me, you could just wait until the 31st to see if it’s there, it’s only the 30th.
/r/askMRP03/02/18 05:01 PM
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Canada recently added free immunization for boys. It started with girls due to HPV leading to higher risk of cervical cancers. With updated info on boys they were also added to the immunization list.
/r/MensRights29/01/18 01:53 PM
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As I said in my post, Mid Forties.
/r/askMRP19/01/18 08:01 PM
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Well I said in my post, Mid Forties.
/r/askMRP19/01/18 07:22 PM
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That is a good point as well, I'm doing well at my job but feel like it's a case of golden handcuffs. I make really good money for little work but it isn't challenging or engaging. I am interviewing for another career but not sure If I am that excited about it yet.
/r/askMRP18/01/18 09:35 PM
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Build new Habits is the key I am focusing on, will update the main post.
/r/askMRP18/01/18 09:08 PM
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Vasectomy 12 months ago, shortly after procedure I got an infection that was cleared up with antibiotics.
/r/askMRP18/01/18 09:03 PM
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Vacation is coming up in a few weeks and she will ask and notice if I’m not wearing it. It’s been 3-4 weeks and I haven’t been frantic over not having it during that time. I’m upset I lost it, that’s the truth. It’s a few hundred bucks and don’t like losing shit but figured to not keep it to myself.
/r/askMRP29/09/17 04:16 PM
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I had a hard time with this at first because I was still in the beta cuck mindset where I had gotten all hinderances out of the way before I approached her so that she couldn't use that as an excuse. Now I don't wait for all my shit to be done, I ask, if she turns me down well I had all this shit I wanted to do anyway.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/17 03:28 PM
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War brides explains it for me. My fathers war was work, he worked 12 hour days 7 days a week building a business to provide for our family. So he was not there to raise me as much as he would have wanted. Because of his sacrifices, I am fortunate enough to be able to work less hours and spend time with my boys. But it's a struggle because I am learning at the same time as them.
/r/MGTOW14/08/17 11:53 PM
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Ask yourself are you actually listening, women can sense if your mind is wandering she wants you to be listening actively (nodding and mumbling uhh-huh)? I can only deal with listening to my wife 50% of the time, the other 50% I am thinking get to the GD point already. What I have since learned, is that if I am not in a listening mood because I have other shit going on, I tell her - "I really want to hear about this but right now I have to go do this (work, project, errand, etc.), can we talk la…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/17 07:14 PM
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/u/bogeyd6 brought light to this which I think is a bigger issue than covert contracts. Why is you GF talking to you like that? That is the same way my wife talks to our 10 year old boy, are you good with being talked to like a little boy? Now I get that she is working and you are looking for work but that should not define your dynamics at home. Sure go ahead and pick up additional house work to do your part while not working, but don't pick up the behaviours of being a house slave.
/r/askMRP13/06/17 07:02 PM
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Be careful someone might think you are mansplaining. Oh I forgot this is our safe space. Jokes aside stellar explanation.
/r/askMRP25/05/17 11:04 PM
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That just gave me a newfound way of looking at shit tests. They are not an opportunity for her to see if I pass, they are an opportunity for me to prove myself.
/r/askMRP23/05/17 05:29 PM
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Someone who knows when I'm giving my all or not And ... My wife compliments my life, she doesn't make it more difficult. It's important to distinguish the later statement will not be true if you fail on the previous. My wife knew Beta me was not giving my all and she did not support me, instead she stood in the way and made me feel like a failure and discourage me from taking risks. Once I TRP'd and started changing so did she in how she compliments my life and goals. Example: In 2009 (BP Me) wa…
/r/askMRP23/05/17 05:01 PM
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Have to agree, my wife does not use Reddit, isn't the suspicious type and doesn't care to understand any of this. So I don't hide shit, if I did she would probably become suspicious. When she asks what I'm reading (NMMNG) and why I'm reading that, I simply say I am working on being a better me, end of discussion.
/r/askMRP16/05/17 02:12 PM
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After your week off, if the CTOs first words don't include that he looked into the complaint, these people have been disciplined and you will never work in the same group as them again your answer should be, I'm still leaving. Women are very good at spinning public opinion and very aware of Female In Group Preference. They will be using this to their advantage while you are away for the week. They are now left free to spin tails to everyone at your organization of the horrible things you have do…
/r/MGTOW11/05/17 04:44 PM
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Have to agree, AM was not needed here and probably caused more problems than a straightforward response would have. I have something similar there is One day a week that my work schedule is not flexible, I don't DEER or AM about it, it is a fact that on this day of the week I can't help out, it's not negotiable. Period.
/r/askMRP08/05/17 04:21 PM
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This was the beginning of my downfall into blue pill betadom. Keep these thoughts close: If she doesn't go out of the house to work she will lose social interactions you will become her girlfriend to talk to (the only other available adult) She will spend more time on social media, learning from other women of all the ways you are a horrible husband and all the ways you oppress her. Don't put a covert contract in your head that she will be a 1950's housewife. Set boundaries and expectations. I s…
/r/askMRP02/05/17 11:00 PM
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My first eye opening experience was a talk at our Catholic school from Micheal Reist an educator and social worker. He isn't an MRA by any means but he did talk frankly to say that, "Boys and Girls are different" they learn differently and require different things. The reason I mention it was a Catholic school is that at the time he said that the public school systems would not have him speak (presumably because he didn't fit their narrative). One example from his talk was regarding boys failing…
/r/MensRights12/04/17 02:13 PM
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Depending on the mother that may not be so clean
/r/askMRP11/04/17 06:56 PM
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False allegations are the same reason there is a decline of male teachers. http://www.cea-ace.ca/education-canada/article/false-accusations-growing-fear-classroom
/r/MensRights11/04/17 06:03 PM
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Check with your lawyer and state laws before you plant recording devices. In most states there is "Single party consent" which means you can record a conversation you have with another person without their knowledge but you cannot record another person without their knowledge if you are not party to that conversation. So recording your conversation good, leaving a recorder in the house for when you aren't there, not good.
/r/askMRP11/04/17 04:37 PM
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Planned Parenthood will do free and discrete testing for STD's
/r/askMRP11/04/17 04:35 PM
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Well you could ask for a "Free" class of your own to make it fair. And since it is free you don't have to worry about the gender wage gap by making the womens class cheaper. However you will have to give more time to the men's class to make up for the longer hours they typically work in a week.
/r/MensRights04/04/17 09:08 PM
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NSFW / NSFL Circumcision being performed on an infant (with sound and it's soul crushing to watch) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v7sPB_xtHmw
/r/MensRights27/03/17 05:28 PM
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Speaking from my experience, this post would have been very helpful for me a while back. I took the pill started lifting kept reading and getting more than angry, I got irate and hateful towards my LTR and myself for living 43 years as a beta. As she improved on her own, seeing me improve I was missing it because I was so filled with hate. She started approaching me for sex and it would make me mad, I saw that as Hypergamy and her playing games realizing I am better looking than her now so now s…
/r/TheRedPill27/03/17 09:54 AM
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That is the point I was trying to make. I am no role model myself but I am improving. Focus only on your kids and your happiness and make weighted decisions. Would you feel better living in the same house with a woman who disrespects you, fucks other guys and snorts coke VS not having to live with that mess but downsizing to a basement apartment until you get your shit together? Would your kids be better off seeing Mom and Dad treat each other like shit and yelling at each other all the time VS …
/r/askMRP10/02/17 01:37 PM
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You need to embrace a different direction in your Oneitis. This entire post you have told us about her, spent a bit of time on you and then a lot of her again. This bitch is dead to you, get over it there is no future with her so no need to watch what she is doing or care except where it affects your kids. That is your new Oneitis, your only concern now is "you" and your "kids".
/r/askMRP09/02/17 03:02 PM
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I would add, and she does know it even if you didn't verbalized it. People can sense when you are bluffing and I struggled for a while faking not having oneitis. It wasn't until I increased my SMV several points above hers did my mindset change and oneitis went away. Rollo explained this well, that oneitis isn't just the sole mate myth it's also fear of not finding anyone else and once I internalized that I could do better if I wanted to, my wife sensed the change in me and it stirred a change i…
/r/askMRP18/01/17 12:22 AM
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Thank you, after 2 weeks of not being able to work out following a minor surgery I was struggling to get back in routine. Good encouragement to commit to the mission.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/16 10:47 AM
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I think there are better examples you are right.
/r/MensRights07/12/16 12:36 PM
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Male driver article for comparison maybe it was his leaving the scene that means the difference between $1000 and Jail. http://www.640toronto.com/2014/08/29/one-man-charged-following-fatal-hit-and-run-in-north-toronto/
/r/MensRights06/12/16 06:26 PM
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Maybe I will, I have a few long flights coming up next week.
/r/askMRP23/11/16 07:50 PM
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THe MIRR requires the NPV as an input but post initial purchase your NPV does not take into account sunk cost only current ongoing costs (payments to a loan on that ring).
/r/askMRP23/11/16 07:49 PM
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<sarcasm>Chocolate and roses, that is what the Chatelaine article told me she wants.</sarcasm>
/r/askMRP23/11/16 07:45 PM
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I also have to add that MIRR (Modified Internal Rate of Return) is exactly what we need to keep doing with investments of our money and our time. If the amount you are investing is not having a positive rate of return and the forecast does not look like you will be getting a return any time soon you would probably pull your money from that investment. Yet so many men keep investing their time and energy into relationships with negative rates of return. This is the MRP plug now... why keep invest…
/r/askMRP23/11/16 07:43 PM
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Well... to be truthful, NPV would mean something the day you buy the ring, you would take the initial investment (cost) and evaluate the return benefits over time to come up with the Net Present Value of this investment. NPV doesn't mean anything 5 years later except as a data point to see if you met your target.
/r/askMRP23/11/16 07:37 PM
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Let's just say that there are many men not happy with the MIRR on these purchases.
/r/askMRP23/11/16 07:28 PM
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Is that the weider program?
/r/TheRedPill22/11/16 05:48 PM
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My initial mission statement was all about my MAP which was a good start. Currently reading Gorilla Mindset and putting together a concrete one.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/16 02:54 AM
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Thanks for this post. I am realizing that I lost focus for the past month. Shit like ED appeared, my frame is fading and I had been reverting to anger. I thought all of this was due to ED and her shit tests but it is all me, I lost focus. I have been going to the gym adding muscle and doing Keto to cut fat but that's not enough, your FR has helped me to re-engage on my mission and the rest of my MAP.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/16 12:00 AM
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Fuck... just realized I fucked something up this morning missed a chance to lead. Wife joined me and my son doing our morning workout, she comes up to me and says - see I've got abs under all this fat. I just smiled and dismissed it. She wanted it to be about her and I walked away without giving her a good-girl pat on the back. I should have responded and said "that would be sexy, you would look sexy with abs".
/r/askMRP17/11/16 02:36 PM
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Thanks for the straight up advice. She decided she didn't want to be a SAHM anymore when I started leading again. Started slow and I put my foot down and told her, your primary responsibility that she chose was to be a SAHM. This means you have to keep a clean house and you are failing miserably. She spent about a week trying to keep the house clean before conceding that she didn't want to do that. We are now on step #2, fine don't want to be a SAHM now to go out and start working. I am also abo…
/r/askMRP17/11/16 02:17 PM
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I had good results sitting my wife down and telling her it was time to get back to work for budgetary reasons. This is my struggle, I do very well we don't have money needs. My first round at this, I told her that she elected to be a SAHM, it was her choice to not return to work after maternity but that she is failing. The house is a disaster even though we have a cleaning lady and I cook all the meals. It was a WTF are you doing all day that the house is like this discussion. Then she conceded …
/r/askMRP16/11/16 04:05 PM
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It was an endless river of shit tests rather than frame based on you failing the first one, i don't know the exact nature behind you agreeing to cancel noshave November but assuming you didn't want to, she wanted you to here is the river of shit. Can I get him to not do this No Shave thing, it does not add to my life and he should only do what matters to me... Yup got him to do what I wanted - FAIL. He got ready too quick, doesn't he know how important this is, he should spend more time shaving …
/r/askMRP15/11/16 07:41 PM
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No ones has said this yet. But why was it her decision on whether you are in the pictures. They are your kids right? You are part of the family. My reaction would have been different, smile STFU go about your day, show up for pictures.
/r/askMRP15/11/16 05:58 PM
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Thank you for writing that article and I have questions if you have time. I am in a similar situation. I was a bad role model, gained tons of weight and so did she after 3 kids. Working on my MAP and today I am thinner than I was when we got married, down to about 23% BF but still on a mission to 10%. She has not lost anything and moreover I am at a loss to help her. Lights on Shower together - That's not a big issue, she is comfortable letting me see her, still though you had some good tips to …
/r/askMRP15/11/16 04:45 PM
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Nah, more like thinking if you only want to have kids if they are perfect then maybe you should stick with fuck only.
/r/TheRedPill13/11/16 04:09 PM
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I know a girl who is 18 who had a baby with DS. Guess you are going to have to explore illegal avenues for your perfect little snowflake family.
/r/TheRedPill13/11/16 02:30 PM
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OP needs to get over his anger phase. It might interest you to know that the majority of children born with Down Syndrome are born to mothers under 30 years of age. Yes the risk goes up as you get older however there is still a chance it will happen. My son was born with DS when my wife was 27.
/r/TheRedPill13/11/16 12:04 PM
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52% of white women voted for Trump. They are sick of this shit as well.
/r/MensRights10/11/16 01:46 PM
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Just because you fail at one thing should not put you into a backslide you won't backslide just like that it will be one thing then another then you figure all those things are fucked so fuck it. Be disciplined to not let one small failure define you. On Halloween I totally failed on my diet, ate a shitload of the kids candy but I didn't let that define me. I felt like shit in the morning but forced my ass to go to the gym and fasted until 2:00 PM then straight back onto a Keto diet. One small b…
/r/askMRP04/11/16 08:22 PM
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I gave up porn and PMO as part of my MAP. But it's funny she saw me reading a crossfit article and there was a picture of Christmas Abbott on the web page. She said "oh gross a girl with Abs", I replied "I think it's sexy".
/r/TheRedPill04/11/16 07:48 PM
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Recent TRP convert, at my BP worst I was 250+ lbs now at 180 (not there yet - goal of 170). But as I continue Lifting, Diet and my MAP my wife has been gaining. I seriously don't find her attractive, and when she asks right now I mostly STFU about her weight. Thoughts on ways to tell her, yeah you are fat and it's not attractive without being a dick?
/r/TheRedPill04/11/16 07:22 PM
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Here's an idea, call up her sister or one of her friends and tell them hey you know Mrs Alci... would really like to got out with you on her birthday. They take her out, you spend no money and you're a champ for giving her girl time.
/r/askMRP04/11/16 05:15 PM
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And the circle continues
/r/askMRP04/11/16 03:06 PM
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Increasing attention as a result of her good behaviour is something I only recently learned. I was a Disenfranchised BP when I swallowed the pill. So imagine an absent husband now sprinkling on Alpha with no corresponding BP comfort behaviour. Once I learned that those behaviours are as important as Alpha in a LTR setting many things started to improve. Wife is currently sick right now fighting a cold. I have her a hug told her I hope she feels better for the weekend and she is fighting through …
/r/askMRP04/11/16 01:48 PM
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When I started treating her like a sick child yes. When she told me oh this hurts that hurts I think all these things are wrong with me I sent her to the doctor. Seems like a waste of taxpayers money but after several tests the doctor told her there is nothing wrong with her and told her to read a book "mind over mood". So basically I passed the buck. She still gets sick but it's more realistic now. I didn't even realize what I was doing back then was TRP I just had enough of her acting like a c…
/r/askMRP03/11/16 11:58 PM
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Much longer story but the TLDR of my BP behaviour. I was not getting sex so amped up my Beta servitude. when I still didn't get sex I withdrew everything so she was starving for any attention. Now I try to consciously give attention "be attractive and charming" especially to promote good behaviour and withdraw it when there is bad behaviour.
/r/askMRP03/11/16 10:39 PM
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You really need to read the sidebar, I say this because I was and mostly still am you but I am trying to change that. I would do elaborate things for my wife's birthday, like writing her a short story that narrated all the gifts I was giving her (oh my god I am making myself sick thinking about that Beta bullshit). She on the other hand would run out the day before my birthday to try and get me a present and I usually ended up with some bullshit I didn't want/need. My parties always sucked, my w…
/r/askMRP03/11/16 09:52 PM
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Because it turns into attention seeking behaviour. My wife was sick all the time, she was sick more than she was healthy. It was attention seeking behaviour, it may have started out as true sickness but when I took care of her she liked it and eventually colds lasted longer and became debilitating that I needed to do everything for her. This was before my RP days but I finally had enough, when she was sick I took her up to bed. When she said but I just want to snuggle with you on the couch and w…
/r/askMRP03/11/16 08:58 PM
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I saw this on my FB feed too. I replied for 3/4 of these the proper thing to do is to tell your date hey it's not working out let's not continue the date for the 4th whether you are male or female if you feel in danger ask for help no need for special codes.
/r/MensRights03/11/16 02:09 AM
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Am Canadian, can confirm.
/r/askMRP02/11/16 02:51 PM
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I don't regret it, my marriage for all its mistakes, successes and gifts brought me to where I am today. Today I am happier, healthier and more enlightened than I was when I got married. If I never got married I would be a much different man, I don't know if that would be better or worse. I was a BP all my life, so I can't tell you if I would have remained one if I stayed single or found my Alpha without hitting rock bottom in my marriage, who knows? If I was to suggest something to a guy consid…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/16 02:27 PM
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10:00 PM or earlier if I need it. The only thing I gave up by staying up past 10:00 was watching TV. There are exceptions of course last night friends were over and I stayed up till 2:00 AM and got up at 7:00 instead.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/16 07:35 PM
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I don't have these morning problems you speak of. I get up at 5:00 AM get ready for the gym get my coffee at a Starbucks on the way and work out from 6:00-7:00 home by 7:30 and by 8:00 I am showered, ready and focused. It only took me one week to adapt to a 5:00 AM wake up and I would suggest it to anyone else.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/16 05:31 PM
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I easily broke myself of this mindset. Early on I read on the materials here that your LTR should be someone that helps make you a better person. That was my reality check she made me a worse person she is not encouraging and does not drive me to be better. But then who would blame her BP me was a failure she just didn't want me to fail more.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/16 12:57 AM
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Thank you for this post. Wish I read it a few weeks ago. I started down my path of improving myself but wasn't maintaining my BP behaviours that were important to her. As a result she is being shitty and I slid back into the anger phase. Time to regroup and start back up making sure to keep a happy positive attitude.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/16 09:03 PM
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Althol Kay's MMSLP. I get the parameters of the SMV, my looks, money, status, etc all play a part in my SMV, but I like your point on taking 5 as average. If I compare myself to others at my crossfit gym I am a 5 but these are people like me working out 5 days a week, on the street in my town I am in better shape, earn more and dress better than most. Maybe I just need to get out more.
/r/askMRP19/10/16 02:19 PM
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Where do people get their SMV comparisons from? I am sure it's different city to city but I have no clue where to place people besides above and below.
/r/askMRP19/10/16 01:04 PM
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This. Early on I learned I can't demand behaviour I have to set it by being the example. Dinner is a big part of this, everyone now sits at the table together, no electronics, if the phone rings it rings until it stops and most importantly I sit at the head of the table.
/r/askMRP19/10/16 12:03 PM
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As I read through this I am thinking that you already have a Beta frame in your head that your wife is all set to fuck chad. A better frame would be to think your wife wants to look hot and wants you to come so that she can show off to her ex, show him how he fucked up in ending it with her and show him how she ended up with the better man. Be the better man your wife wants to show off. A few weeks back I went clubbing with wife, I was out to have a good time did not pay much attention at all to…
/r/askMRP19/10/16 11:44 AM
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Months ago I would have thought that having a wife with more means and money than you would sound like it's impossible for you to take the Alpha role. It after reading and listening to /u/bluepillprofessor podcasts he is in the same boat. His wife makes more than him but she still needs an Alpha husband. I would read his books, post and podcasts to get into a better frame.
/r/askMRP19/10/16 09:54 AM
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I like that idea, but he lives quite far away and the only time I ever talk to him is at Family gatherings. I also just re-read the Principals of Least Interest... post from the top posts section. Reminded me that her feels and frame are not my responsibility and trying to focus on how to use this would be putting her on a pedestal. The best way forward is to focus on myself and use his experience to better myself. There is no One and seeing how he has pulled himself together to re-enter the dat…
/r/askMRP18/10/16 05:36 PM
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Like you, past holidays we planned together took months of discussions, arguing, research and fights before I would finally give up or give in to what she desired. Then during the holiday, everyone complained no one was happy and it was more stress than it was worth. This Winter Holiday planning scenario was a perfect (for me) blend of Alpha and Beta. The frame that I was in was, I want to take my family on a winter holiday with the money I earned. Keeping in that frame I still need some Beta, s…
/r/askMRP17/10/16 03:30 PM
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So much can come from the context and detail so I don't know if this will help but here are two different trips and the ease vs hell I went through. Winter Holiday planning - we had to plan for a winter island vacation between 3 families. I planned the trip with my brother only, took me less than 6 hours of back and forth over 4 days until it was booked. I kept quiet and STFU with her, planned and booked then let my wife know the plans once it was booked. How I let her know was. "For our winter …
/r/askMRP17/10/16 09:56 AM
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I am so glad it happened all this weekend I have noticed how she sets up every discussion for plausible deniability. A problem hasn't even occurred yet but she frames everything in a way to give herself an escape route, makes me laugh and I am beginning to feel that AM comes naturally as my eyes are opened by the red pill.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/16 10:55 PM
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I can tell you from my experience. I drove a base model Toyota Tercel for 10 years it was a Get A-B car. My next car I got a 2 year old Audi A4. After the A4 I went to a jeep Cherokee, seemed a more reasonable family car. I discovered at least for me, It did not matter if anyone actually saw me in my expensive car, when I had the Audi I had a boost to my self confidence and that self confidence showed. The boosted self confidence gave me more success at work and in life.
/r/askMRP14/10/16 04:50 PM
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I recently started driving the new SUV exclusively. She started with shit tests, "but why, the gas, the mileage". I responded, "I prefer the SUV" then broken record until she finally gave up.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/16 07:22 PM
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Make yourself busy. This was the biggest lesson I learned in the past 2 weeks, if I am idle she will fetch request me to death. If I always have a mission and am working on a task then she is interrupting me and I can respond appropriately.
/r/askMRP12/10/16 02:45 PM
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I suffer from the same issue of cutting people down to elevate myself. It's not an attractive trait, so I started to address it with STFU, smile and listen. Then looked to add in simply acknowledging but not commenting further. Last weekend we went out dancing with friends. By 11:00 PM my wife is trashed, stumbling everywhere so I take her home, she pukes in the car and all down the hallway when we get home. Next day she is telling me she doesn't know what happened she only had 3 drinks, She had…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/16 01:18 AM
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My coach had me do banded good-mornings over and over until I got the form. He also noticed that as soon as I had a bar I was dropping my shoulders and reaching for the weight which made me round my back. So this time he had me do Good Mornings without the band, hands flat with one thumb in my belly button and the other in my sternum as i was bending I had to keep conscious that my hands did not move closer together or further apart.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/16 10:59 PM
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Have you had someone advise on your DL form? I was at 300 but hurt myself. Healed then got help with form and dropped weight for a period but am back up higher than before.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/16 05:44 PM
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I will cross that bridge when it's time. Right now it's a few comments here and there so I just STFU.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/16 03:33 PM
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I'm a boob guy, she used to have perky B's which were good but after 3 kids I can understand why she wants to do them. I was screwing a girl for a few months with implants and I didn't care, thought they were great.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/16 02:23 PM
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I thought this thread would give me perspective but it didn't. My Wife has talked about getting implants as well. My response has always been, she should do what makes her happy. Of course I will enjoy them but at the same time Internally I'm thinking maybe you should lose the 40 lbs of fat first. Externally I'm not saying anything about her looks because I still have 15 lbs of fat to lose myself.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/16 12:52 PM
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My wife does the same thing. What I have learned is not to look at her behaviour, I look at my own and deal with it. Wife tells me lawn needs to be mowed. Well she is right that is my responsibility and I haven't done it, my fault for not keeping up on my duties. Wife starts to give me some of her chores, I ask myself why is she giving me her shit to do? Oh yeah because I'm sitting on my ass watching TV. Always be busy, always have a mission/plan. Women love to fill things, closets, conversation…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/16 05:40 PM
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I am not going to waste my day building one, but thought to at least spend 10 minutes searching the web. Why am I not surprised, a website and android app dedicated to how many times you have aren't having sex http://bedposted.com/ https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.tmsl.trackmysexlife&hl=en
/r/askMRP06/10/16 11:56 AM
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Not a spreadsheet it was a full workbook with multiple tabs that categorized the reasons she said no into 6 genres and overlaid those with her menstrual cycle, moon phases, barometric pressure and astrology signs all displayed in graphs. I have the template still if you want it. That was sarcasm by the way, I did read about that Reddit guy who made a spreadsheet. But hey if you aren't busy improving yourself or screwing might as well spend time making a spreadsheet about how pathetic your life i…
/r/askMRP05/10/16 11:47 PM
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And to think my wife lost her shit on me 5 years ago when I wrote down how many times we weren't having sex.
/r/askMRP05/10/16 01:32 AM
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Maybe it's a culture thing but you didn't blow up at the fact that she secretly recorded your conversation? If my wife was secretly recording conversations I would be calling my lawyer ASAP because she obviously has been.
/r/askMRP05/10/16 01:07 AM
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Or I realize that trying to reason with her after her perception of that evening was already jaded by emotion and alcohol is an effort in futility. What benefit would I gain by putting her in her place? Self satisfaction sure but it would not further my path. Instead I stuck to What was working for me, STFU and Fog. Eventually she worked herself into how she feels she is losing me and pulled a comfort test, "Do you even love me is there even hope?" I took a lesson from this sub, gave her a big h…
/r/askMRP05/10/16 12:50 AM
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I do agree... I am easily 3 SMV's above her right now, she gained the 40 lbs I lost. But that is irrelevant because out on the open market I don't want what my current SMV would naturally attract. So until I am at that level, I need to Cool how I hold frame.
/r/askMRP04/10/16 10:10 PM
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So close... I tried to avoid talking about it at all when I got home, hoping to STFU to get past it and move on. She felt the need to just keep talking and talking and talked herself into revealing that she had drank more than she planned on. That leaving the car there was some sort of B option and that I should not have said anything about her wanting to take said B option?
/r/askMRP04/10/16 10:03 PM
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Thanks, that's the measure stick response I was looking for. It almost pisses me off that she can get away with calling me out in public but I can't do the same. But after all that's why I am here, accepting the paradigm will keep me from getting butt hurt.
/r/askMRP04/10/16 05:16 PM
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To clarify and this may help me get an outside objective view of whether I am being an asshole. Wifes girlfriend had borrowed wife's car for the week and the plan as I understood it, was that we would meet at a 3rd friend's house to drop off our kids to be babysit with their kids and all of us would go out to dinner in my car from there. Then after dinner we would return to 3rd friend's house where wife would get her car and drop her friend off at home while I brought our kids straight home to b…
/r/askMRP04/10/16 04:54 PM
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I am starting into L3. Very early stages where I have started to go out with friends once every other week. I am thinking that this is coming from L1 Dread of passing shit tests. She is not happy that I STFU and won't react to emotional outbursts, or simply that I have an opinion of my own. EDIT: to add that I am still very focused in L1 passing shit tests mostly with STFU and Fogging. I am getting better at AA but know that AM is a far way off. L2 working on my Map - Luckily I had a head start …
/r/askMRP04/10/16 04:39 PM
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I use the lacrosse ball to open up my infraspinatus tendinitis (shoulder) Edit: just realized we sound like a bunch of old men complaining about our bad hips.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/16 03:44 PM
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That worked for me too, now I maintain myself using a foam roller.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/16 02:00 PM
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As a newbie here are my thoughts. You are hamstering, this entire post is about what could or could not happen, what will possible plate do, what will my Oneitis do? You have no control over other people so stop playing out scenarios in your head of how things will go. You have Oneitis for your wife, what will she think how will she react. Will she find out, etc. Stop playing out imaginary futures in your head and plan out your ideal future. Do you want to go out if yes then go if no then don't.…
/r/askMRP29/09/16 12:16 AM
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A lady friend of mine became an instructor at the YMCA within a year. She also used her new found independence to leave her Absent husband, but that's a story for another time She started at the local YMCA, first thing she picked up was spinning and moved into leading spinning classes. She then took some courses offered in night school and within a year left the YMCA to start coaching individually at a different gym. I realize spinning is not gonna be your thing but pick up something weight trai…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/16 11:00 PM
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Pegging is also gaining in popularity in porn. Go get your lube if you want to keep up.
/r/askMRP27/09/16 11:52 PM
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Great post, it brought me back to the basics of many of the TRP writings. Show me the research paper... Answer - this is tribal knowledge, but it was lost. Lost when fathers went off to war and didn't come back sons were left to be raised by their mothers. Back even further to when tribal fathers stopped stealing their adolescent sons away from their mothers to bring them to the hunt. Part of me learning to be a better man has been teaching me to be a better father to my 12 year old son. He now …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/16 05:49 PM
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MMSLP covers a lot if not all of this. Keep reading and you will have a better understanding then read WISNIFG to learn delivery of your wants.
/r/askMRP27/09/16 11:33 AM
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I am thankful for this post, it reminds me of my Cousin's Ex Husband. Big biker looking dude also grossly overweight, very alpha in all of his interactions he commanded a room and didn't take shit. Except when it came to his wife, she wasn't having any of his shit, he didn't apply any Alpha with her, she was his princess and princess didn't like to be touched. Not by him anyway, she fucked multiple guys over the 4 years they were married before she finally found a new guy to leave him for.
/r/askMRP23/09/16 08:14 PM
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Totally Agree I was about DEER on how how much I've lost, but caught myself. I don't need approval on my progress, I need to lose 15-20 lbs STAT. Thanks for the link.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/16 06:02 PM
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I'm so torn. Currently 25% BF want to cut a lot in 2 months but wondering if I should do Keto which worked for me in the past or IF
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/16 02:51 PM
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Are you talking 30/50G net Carbs? What foods do you get your carbs from. I am fully off Sugar and No Alcohol as well. Drunk Captaining for many years but marking 3 years sober in 38 days.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/16 05:37 PM
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are your tracking her cycle and stop getting butthurt I'm not tracking her cycle, thought that was next level from where I am but I can see the value, will start that now. I was saying she was getting butt hurt not me. Example, I initiate during the day, she picks a fight and even before I react she is already butt hurt, there is no defusing it and I know her play here she has used it many times in the past to avoid sex. You made me upset I don't want to have sex with you. You shit tested your w…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/16 05:31 PM
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Anyone have any suggestions? I really like Shortcut to Size I was doing Stronglifts for about 2 years, then went to 5X5 only to discover it was basically the same thing. On suggestion I started Wendler's 5/3/1 which was a good next step. In my case I got bored of the Gym and I was in a place on my MAP where I realized I had no friends and working from home I had no interactions with anyone except my family. So I started at a Crossfit Box, it's been a double hit for me. 1) Seeing faster gains and…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/16 04:59 PM
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Interested to learn more about IF. I'm at about 20% BF right now planning on cutting down to 10-15% for a Christmas vacation, I was going to do that with Keto, but Keto sucks for energy while doing crossfit. How are your energy levels on IF?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/16 04:50 PM
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Maybe because I am in the middle of reading WISNIFG but her bringing up that she is tired and the kids seems like it could be responded to by "ASSERTIVE RIGHT III You have the right to judge whether you are responsible for finding solutions to other people’s problems."
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/16 04:04 PM
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2 Months in - MAP going strong and getting stronger every day. Lifting: Seeing great gains now that I switched to crossfit, I could stand to lose 8-10 lbs of fat but I am not as concerned with that as I am focused on building muscle mass right now. Have an island vacation booked for after christmas so will continue on the gain cycle until November when I will switch to reduced calorie to get cut for vacation. Reading: I really got caught a few weeks back not understanding frame and getting stuck…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/16 03:44 PM
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The main thing I see in this thread is you are talking from her frame. I think that's what you need to read into this, stop living in her frame and focusing on her thoughts and needs. That doesn't mean you need to be a dick, if she were your roommate and your roommate was pissed that you were messy then clean up. Look for the shit tests, if you are a generally clean guy and one time happen to leave something on the floor while you are still working on it then it sounds more like a shit test, res…
/r/askMRP20/09/16 01:30 AM
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Sounds strong on paper but for me it would fail. The responses flying would be, "what more could I have done explain it", weep, cry etc. You guys helped me see a lot from this interaction and from what I now understand my place in this is. not to go to these sessions with her anymore If I do go I need to just STFU The other thing I learned this week is that I suck at AM, when I try, it comes out as sarcasm and is then perceived as me belittling her. I need to wait and learn more before getting t…
/r/askMRP18/09/16 11:32 AM
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I think it's sad that in the US a head of lettuce costs $3 but a box of carb, sugar and chemicals called Kraft dinner is 33 cents.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/16 12:36 AM
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Did not will not give her a timeframe. A time frame will only serve one purpose for her to try hard until then and then cry that I didn't give her enough time. Instead I told her she needs to get her shit together now, meanwhile I am working on my MAP and as I learn more and apply more RP things will naturally take their course. I have stated to her that I spent 15 years hearing I promise it will get better I am not prepared to spend any more time waiting. I am mentally prepared to leave I am st…
/r/askMRP16/09/16 10:32 PM
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OMG dude that sounds brutal. I am fortunate in that our therapist is an old fashion type and sees through the bullshit my wife puts up and often times is the one holder her to task, last night she even said "Well you are a SAHM that is your job during the day while your husband is working at his job". Coming out of the session the only task we had to do was to schedule out responsibilities between us which I think will work well. Wife seems to think I don't pull my weight with the house/kids, I …
/r/askMRP16/09/16 04:16 PM
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Recognize that women are a reflection of their man... & That's why they never accept blame for anything, because in the end it's your fault for letting it get that way. Those are words to live by. Later in the session another shit test was thrown at me. Wife was upset that when she came to me with her diet plan of how she was going to lose 30 lbs by Christmas I shit all over it. I didn't actually shit all over it, I asked her a question about her diet plan then I quickly realized she did not wan…
/r/askMRP16/09/16 04:02 PM
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I knew I would have found DEER again in the required reading but thought to ask for help rather than spending more time searching. And now that I am typing this I am realizing how much more of a dumbass I am this morning, I read everything on Kindle could have done a word search. Where is my coffee. Thanks for the video links, these are highly useful for when I am driving and can't read but I can listen to audio.
/r/askMRP16/09/16 01:38 PM
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Thanks, I have finished MMSLP and NMMNG, currently on WISNIFG. I know the meaning but forgot what the acronym stood for and they weren't in the acronym post. I remember DEER as shit I used to do like a deer caught in the headlights of a shit test. That it meant I was over explaining and trying to justify but the full acronym helps. Going to go read Rollos post on AM now. EDIT: Link to Rollo's post for those that are interested... https://therationalmale.com/2012/09/14/amused-mastery/
/r/askMRP16/09/16 01:34 PM
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Agree, own that shit. Wife saw me reading NMMNG since then she whenever she sees me reading she asks if I'm reading that "how to be a dick book" and she will throw it out that I act like a dick here and there. So I own that shit AA AM, "yeah I'm a huge dick wanna see it" that's my favourite response yet.
/r/TheRedPill10/09/16 11:05 PM
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You are missing applying what you read and as a Newb myself my big one was learning to be accountable. Plugged in I blamed everything wrong with my marriage on my wife, unplugging meant I had to realize I was accountable. Causality every action has an equal and opposite reaction. Own your shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/16 08:11 PM
1

I dunno man sounds like you are doing a lot of work for her. Your entire post sounded exhausting. If planning shit for her is not what she wants then don't plan shit for her. Plan shit for you and invite her along if you want.
/r/askMRP09/09/16 11:46 PM
1

Thank you for pointing this out I've done half of these and this is good warning not to do the other half. To sum it up, I am hearing the only time you should weep to your wife is when your dog dies.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/16 03:54 PM
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If you did, it should be done anonymously. He does not know this guy, has no stake in that BBs future just a nice thing to do. Anonymous because that shit will make it back to the hens and after they all start clucking he will lose any chance with her friends or others in their hen house.
/r/TheRedPill09/09/16 02:38 PM
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This is the new paradigm I am living every day. Shit tests will come and talking them out leads to arguing, raised voices and losing your shit. I have embraced STFU when these shit tests come however STFU needs explanation in some cases, and in those cases my words are short and calculated. Recent example. Wife asks me what time my flight home from my business trip is. I tell her I am taking the red eye back and landing at 6:00 AM. She automatically raises her voice and starts lecturing me that …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/16 02:55 PM
3

My dad would joke on every wedding anniversary that if he killed her instead of marrying he would be getting out in 5 years, 4 years etc. However for my father it is all joking he is a true modern Alpha and the older I get the more I see how he has his shit and marriage together.
/r/TheRedPill08/09/16 12:57 PM
1

It really has been working going with my gut, doing what I feel is the right thing to do. Just today I booked a family vacation without asking for permission or quorum from my wife. All she said was "wow prices are expensive around Christmas, but I can't wait I'm so excited".
/r/askMRP07/09/16 12:02 AM
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I'm taking in the advise but listening to my gut right now. My gut tells me taking on this challenge today would be nuclear and I'm not at a level to manage that yet.
/r/askMRP04/09/16 03:36 AM
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ACALT?
/r/askMRP03/09/16 05:43 PM
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I know, but I also know (trusting my gut) that it's not the right time to tackle that beast. When we first met I sucked with money, credit card debt and no savings. Mommy I mean wife fixed that for me until I could grow up financially. I do manage all the investments and I am more than happy with where savings are at. I don't control the daily banking, paying bills and preparing taxes. I approached taking over taxes/banking a few years ago and was quickly dismissed, rightfully so cabin boy had n…
/r/askMRP03/09/16 12:29 PM
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I will be more gentle with my response because you obviously seem totally new and haven't read any of the sidebar material. I'm pretty new as well so I am going to read into this, things that I observed and caused me to take the Red Pill. my wife is still the love of my life This is called Oneitis, your wife knows that she can do whatever she wants and you will always be there (even if it's at a subconscious level). Think, if you acted this way at work and told your boss that you never want to w…
/r/askMRP02/09/16 06:51 PM
1

Back when I was an avid DB subscriber it would not have mattered if someone chopped off my junk. I had lost all hope it would ever be used again. Thank god a good samaritan pointed me to TRP and MRP.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/16 08:49 PM
1

Dude, it does not matter if you can over power her, you have to sleep sometime. Bitch pushed scissors into your chest, she is Lorena Bobbit do you really want to be John?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/16 12:27 AM
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Jesus fucking Christ. I Just came to a realization that back in the day 12 years ago, my wife would tell me I talk to much. I was acting like a fucking Chatty Cathy. I always thought she was a bitch for telling me I was talking too much but she was seeing her man turn into a girlfriend and calling me on it.
/r/askMRP31/08/16 11:59 PM
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I got the berating that I needed from /r/askMRP last week so I took that advice and put myself in the frame of Chad going out for a dinner date. I picked the restaurant, acted polite but assertive and listened with interest. Biting my tongue was the hardest part. It paid off because I did get my dick sucked when we got home, so I guess I answered my own question. Not pointing out her faults leads to me getting off while getting mixed up in her drama doesn't.
/r/askMRP31/08/16 11:46 PM
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That I did know, I have no stake in her seeing the naturopath and none of the discussion had outcomes affecting me so I figure, go have fun glad you enjoyed it. Smile and nod.
/r/askMRP31/08/16 09:44 PM
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Nice way to put it.
/r/askMRP31/08/16 09:40 PM
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There's a difference between lying, and not enough proof In the case in question, if he did beat her and she beat herself up more to make it more believable or to get more sympathy than I am sorry but in the eyes of the law the guy shouldn't be charged. Here is a scenario, your house was broken into (crime actually happened) but they missed stealing your jewelry. You wanted more sympathy or insurance money so you hide the jewelry in your car and tell the cops it was stolen as well. Cops review y…
/r/TheRedPill30/08/16 02:21 PM
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Remove the external validation sex can sometimes provide I would second this. I was yoyoing, lose weight do well with lifting resulted in more sex. More sex was giving me validation and my nutrition and exercise would decline. Just focus on lifting for now if you get sex don't let it distract you.
/r/askMRP29/08/16 09:52 AM
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Thanks for the constructive feedback and I'm happy to take the criticism the reason for posting this was to get the criticism to know if I did anything right.
/r/askMRP25/08/16 10:14 PM
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That's why I wrote all that. Part cathartic and part as an observation to others how my hamster was spinning out of control until I stopped to read and set myself into a better frame. The end result and thanks to all your suggestions. I'm planning the night I want. When she mentioned seafood I recalled a new place that opened up that I want to try so I am going there. Afterwards I'm going to find an good nightclub with EDM. I watched the Steve Aoki documentary on Netflix and it's gotten me in th…
/r/askMRP25/08/16 05:45 PM
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Good points to help me further refine. I keep finding more and more covert contracts it's been such a bad part of my Nice Guy personality for so long. Good point on giving her the wheel, now it opens the door for, "this isn't what I had in mind" or "didn't you hear I wanted..." discussions later. Simply telling her I have a plan, be ready at 6:00 wear a dinner dress would have sufficed.
/r/askMRP25/08/16 04:17 PM
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If you are doing Keto you "should" still do breakfast unless you are doing a mass deficit and even then should replace your breakfast with something like Bullet Proof Coffee. I know I hate breakfast, I never used to eat before noon but as I started working out I forced myself to eat breakfast every day and I personally feel much better. Wake up at 5 AM, work out from 5:45-7:30, get home eat breakfast, shower and I am feeling great for the day.
/r/askMRP24/08/16 04:02 PM
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Diet stuff often comes back to anxiety about increasing SMV It's funny how I see this coming when it happens to me now. Start Keto - "That's not healthy, it's not maintainable, you are losing weight too fast, you look too skinny" Go to the Gym - "Why don't you just run instead, why do you need to go to expensive gym instead of YMCA, just work out at home." Buy new clothes - "Did you really need to spend $900 on one suit, you can get 3 suits for $500. What's wrong with buying clothes at Old Navy"
/r/askMRP24/08/16 03:27 PM
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(oldest teenager, right?) I think /u/nopeToThe43rd was referring to the fact that your Wife is the most responsible teenager in the house. You also need to understand that she is your second mate not captain. If she brings you information, you digest it and make a decision on that. So one approach would be read the information, then make a decision (which should be to eat breakfast, you end up over compensating to get calories in other meals if you don't). Then tell her, "I read the article you …
/r/askMRP24/08/16 02:41 PM
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My wife wants to work out with me but I am lifting weights and she wants to do Jillian Michaels estrogen fests. So to compromise I suggested we do yoga on my non-weight training days. I get a good stretch and work up a sweat and it's the right intensity for her as well. We have a shitload we enjoy doing together already though. We camp through the summer snowboard in the winter, go to movies. I did cut out things I don't enjoy doing, I won't go shopping with her anymore not even for groceries sh…
/r/askMRP23/08/16 11:11 PM
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Makes so much sense. Thanks
/r/askMRP23/08/16 07:14 PM
1

Confused... teaching for me or for her... I am but a new grasshopper myself still learning and looking for MRP guidance. Teaching lesson for her by throwing away things that she thinks she could sell but hasn't? She is a preteen and I have told her over and over to clean her room but she hasn't. Would I go into my preteens room unannounced and just throw crap away? Not my parenting style, what I would and have done is to tell them that on Saturday I'm going in their room and clearing it out so t…
/r/askMRP23/08/16 07:00 PM
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Done that before in smaller amounts. She went and brought "Everything" back in. This is why I am thinking it needs to be dealt with as a mental health issue.
/r/askMRP23/08/16 05:30 PM
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Be supportive. Offer ahead of time to arrange a series of counseling sessions if she needs to process with a professional and get to the bottom of why she feels this way about her stuff. She has been seeing a counselor over her issues for a long time. She has figured out that her controlling and overprotective mother is what causes her to be so self centered and rebellious on a lot of things. Her mother (MIL) is a collector (not quite a hoarder) but is also a clean freak. MIL cleans the house ev…
/r/askMRP23/08/16 05:24 PM
2

Bonus, there only needs to be 2 piles, Keep or Trash. We have a service where I live called 1-800-GOT-JUNK, you put everything you don't want in the bin. They go through the bin after they take it, sort out items to donate, items to recycle and items to trash. She may want a 3rd pile of items to sell, but is she really going to get to posting and selling shit? Example we have a brand new 3in1 printer that we could get cash for but for a year it's been sitting NIB in the basement.
/r/askMRP23/08/16 01:13 PM
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You are right. She doesn't care that the basement is a disaster I do. Do I let her know it's happening on X date to give her the opportunity to deal with shit herself or just surprise her. Part of me wants to surprise her with a bin showing up on the driveway but I realize I only want to do that to be a dick and think I am teaching her a lesson. If she helps I know she will want to keep more than I will allow.
/r/askMRP23/08/16 01:04 PM
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Tried this in the past. The problem was there was a 4th pile added - the pile of I am not sure keep for now (Her OCD peaking). Back when I tried this before my spirit was broken and I was a Beta fuckboy following her lead. Rather than argue with her 90% of the shit stayed. I am not sure I have matured enough as an Alpha to hold my frame and get through a weekend to do this.
/r/askMRP23/08/16 12:52 PM
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I like this the best. I was honestly thinking about this Riccardo Patrese video the whole time. It's what kept me smiling as she yammered on, starting with me me not listening to her advice, our relationship and somehow her father came into what she was saying? I dunno was a total hamster pukefest.
/r/askMRP23/08/16 12:45 PM
1

The BP cleared my mind enough to realize that she ear fucked my beta vagina brain good. Convinced me it was my decision to get the SUV we got.
/r/askMRP22/08/16 12:18 AM
1

I realized years ago that my wife set on a mission to make me grow up by putting me down when I joked with buddies. Even succeeded in getting me to hang out with some Alpha male friends and hang out more with the beta male friends because the Alphas would make sexist jokes. I am realizing She wasn't making me grow up, she was making me more beta and taking me away from the wheel and down to the galley. Thankfully a few of those old friends responded when I tried to reconnect recently.
/r/askMRP22/08/16 12:02 AM
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I'm stuck with a car I fucking hate because i let my wife make the decision on that 2 years ago. 2 more years the lease is done and it's a constant reminder.
/r/askMRP21/08/16 10:12 PM
1

I need to keep frame and not complacent now, my only job is to keep doing what I have been doing.
/r/askMRP21/08/16 07:27 PM
1

She is learning. yesterday we are home alone I just get out of the shower and she says oh I was going to join you. I didn't really feel like getting wet again so said well I'm done and went to get dressed and go downstairs. Later she summons me again to come upstairs. Same question, why are you naked? Her response no even better come see. So I do and she is lying in bed in lingerie and proceeds to suck me off like pro. Quick learner this one.
/r/askMRP21/08/16 05:51 PM
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My wife looked over my shoulder to see me reading my Kindle the other day and only saw the book title NMMNG. Today she saw me reading my kindle again and asked. Are you still reading that be a dick book, because you are enough of a dick. I just laughed and kept reading.
/r/askMRP21/08/16 03:54 PM
1

Most responsible teenage was one of the first posts I read and the one that convinced me to get that red pill down my throat fast. Among the temper tantrums other Teenage girl shit my wife pulled that convinced me she does act like a child. Telling people that she paid for her own vacation with her PT job money. Ha ha, nice so I provide for you for 12 years and the second you make some money it's yours not ours?
/r/askMRP19/08/16 11:45 PM
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Still have more reading to do on Frame. I tried to watch the podcast but was a little lost. So I am going to finish reading NMMNG before I get there.
/r/askMRP19/08/16 11:37 PM
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Got my response from her. Since posting, I kept my mouth shut, kept busy doing what I was doing. She just came downstairs to apologize for her mood and behaviour.
/r/askMRP18/08/16 01:42 PM
1

Got it! Good at nothing, but mediocre at everything. He doesn't care enough to do anything with passion Fuck that describes me.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/16 03:01 PM
1

That's why I only did it for 30 days. Could you imagine saying I won't eat bacon for a year. Fuck I guess I could do that but would I? Could I instead just not eat bacon today well shit yeah that's easy now all I have to do is string 7 easy days together and I have a week, do that 4 more times and I have a month. One day at a time. And I already have my 2 hours in today.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/16 02:59 PM
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I get you, I haven't reacted negatively towards her progress yet because I am still internally evaluating it.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/16 12:44 PM
1

I know of a Starbucks with a nice back room area and a big shared table.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/16 11:31 PM
1

Many books read from the sidebar not bad advice and to be truthful it's what I needed to hear before being able to accept what is posted in MRP. Take Michelle WD and TSSM, it's got a lot of great information but it comes at it from a soft angle, teaching that you are not able to change another person and lightly touches on why don't you lose weight etc. I personally needed to understand her point of view before I could accept my current situation and hear more truth. I can't make someone desire …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/16 09:50 PM
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Starbucks next week then. Shitty thing is doing calls with customers from a noisy coffee shop or a boiling hot car sucks. Have to pick a day with less customer calls.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/16 06:33 PM
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I'm trying to deduce whether your 'not caring if things get fixed' is from anger or from your wife not living up to your expectations. A bit of both, mostly she is still not living up to expectations.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/16 03:47 PM
3

OI and Abundance getting better but still needs focus and work. Not gaming and number closing nearly enough. I am just starting to make friends of my own and get out, that has to come first. When I am away on business trips I have more opportunities to get out into the public but I work from home usually.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/16 02:54 PM
2

That's what I gained from this. I need to be the guy I appear to be
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/16 02:34 PM
1

Free Condom Samples, YW
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/16 02:22 PM
3

I am there with you... in spite of growth in myself and in my marriage, I now see that I married someone I am just not compatible with Do you think it's that you picked the wrong person, or that the person you married is no longer the right person. I am feeling like my SO became someone I am no longer attracted to because of her neglect to the marriage for so many years.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/16 02:13 PM
2

They're not getting fucked because they are unfuckable. I both struggle and don't with that line. I wouldn't say I was unfuckable. The girls that hit on me and essentially tried to Mate Poach me prove that I was fuckable. That said, I was not fuckable to my SO. I was worse than a beta because I knew I was a beta and had no delusion that I was anything better. So even if I had good looks and success outside of the home, inside I was a whiney little boy throwing temper tantrums because I didn't ge…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/16 02:10 PM
1

Stay away from Calvin Klein jeans, the only pair that still fits over my thighs is 4 inches too wide in the waist and end up looking like shit with a belt. You just have to try a lot of brands that fit your legs, ass and waist properly.
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