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gesture for her to take the headphones off first.
/r/seduction10/05/26 07:55 PM
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Stop converting them into one on one dates. Starting converting them into: Taco Tuesday with other friends (who are all women) Party invitations Nights out with group of friends Game night Then even if she flakes it won’t matter because you didn’t waste time and already have several other women with you. You need to screen her first. She should have to earn one on one time with you.
/r/seduction10/05/26 07:31 PM
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Less questions. More observations. Longer interactions. 10 min or more. Push for insta-dates. Only go for number after a reason to hangout again has been established. For example, you both like sushi. That fixes about half your problems. You can thank me later.
/r/seduction10/05/26 07:05 PM
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You are asking the wrong question. “What things do you say to make her attracted?” That is a weak frame. It’s a frame where you are selling to her, and she is the buyer. Instead ask yourself, “What’s the funniest thing I could say right now to amuse myself?” Your lines and particularly your openers should be self-amusing. If it doesn’t make you chuckle a bit when you are thinking of it, it’s not gonna come off with the right vibe. One opener I like is “I love you” because it’s funny to me. You c…
/r/seduction10/05/26 06:52 PM
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Whenever I’m asked my age, my default is “guess”. Then it turns into a game. It makes her work a bit. If a younger girl asks me, I sometimes say “Old enough to be your daddy”. Which has sexual connotations.
/r/seduction10/05/26 05:50 PM
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It’s the most overrated thing in game. You have a better chance pretending you are gay than acting macho. Yes, I’m serious. “Masculinity” is a trap. Don’t get me wrong, masculinity is great in all other areas of your life. Have discipline, sculpt a great body, build an empire, etc. But when you are with women masculinity doesn’t take you very far until you are in the bedroom. You want to be masculine with your voice tonality, body language, and eye contact, but drop the masculine persona. Have f…
/r/seduction10/05/26 04:49 PM
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bro he’s talking about Lead, the metal lmao
/r/seduction10/05/26 04:42 PM
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Being a natural has its disadvantages because once they experience a loss, they don’t know how to recover. I’ve seen it before. Plus I can get better results than 99% of naturals. I don’t envy these guys.
/r/seduction10/05/26 04:24 PM
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You are in your prime actually. If you don’t have the social skills to run a proper cold approach, that’s gotta be fixed. Keep at it. Getting two numbers out of 12 is good for a newbie. Instead of pushing for a follow up date, try to get an insta-date right then and there. “Hey let’s grab coffee.” At a minimum try to extend your interactions beyond 10 minutes. The number means nothing without a connection and reason to hang out again. Find a common interest and invite her to that thing. Once you…
/r/seduction10/05/26 04:11 PM
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Sounds like you’ve had three platonic dates and she hasn’t reciprocated with you on the physical escalation. The 4th date needs to be one where you can physically escalate. It needs to have good logistics so you can pull her to your place. Honestly, if you are having these feelings and shes rejected your advances at the bar she’s probably not going to continue.
/r/seduction09/05/26 03:04 PM
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It’s actually less investment, because you have more leverage for your time and energy. One well executed event will generate a lot of attraction from many women. Why plan a date with one girl when you can plan a date for 15? Doesn’t require that much more effort.
/r/seduction09/05/26 02:56 PM
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Yep, the friendzone is mostly to “disarm” them so they don’t have their guard up around you. They will introduce you to other girls. They may even actively encourage you to hook up with these girls. Some dudes are complaining about the “investment” on setting up an arrangement like this. As if it is a big burden to hang out with 15 women at once.
/r/seduction09/05/26 02:54 PM
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Because most people getting started in this space can’t do a basic cold approach. Cold approach is the best way to sharpen your confidence and charisma skills. It’s brutally honest feedback about where you are at with your skillset. Plus it’s really fun. Cold approach does have its limits though. It’s usually a one on one interaction. Social circle game has a lot more leverage behind it, you could show up at an event with several women and attract many more. Host a party and bring a bunch of bad…
/r/seduction09/05/26 02:06 AM
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You’d be surprised to learn that anywhere there’s lots of women you can have success. The best way to go about this is to game the entire group. Talk with all the girls, be a little flirty but not uncalibrated. Invite them to parties or events together. Friendzone them all and make them compete for your attention.
/r/seduction08/05/26 06:01 PM
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Stop thinking in terms of absolutes. It’s not a binary yes or no. Women’s attraction level fluctuates wildly. One moment her attraction for you is a 3/10, and an hour later it’s a 8/10. If you do something attractive she could get turned on very quickly, especially if she’s ovulating. On the flip side, she could get turned off very quickly. This is really difficult to recover from because her biology doesn’t want her to reproduce with the wrong guy. But it’s not impossible with social proof. I’v…
/r/seduction08/05/26 12:50 PM
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You probably aren’t taking enough action. If you took more action you wouldn’t care about getting laid with any of these girls individually. You’d probably get more takers if you took more action. “I go out most weekends” The guys who get really good go out EVERY DAY. I’ve gone on several streaks of 3+ months of going out every day. At one point I went out something like 363 days of 365 in a year. You build momentum every single day. Just like going to the gym. At a minimum, 3 days per week to m…
/r/seduction08/05/26 12:42 AM
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I agree that there isn’t a magic pill. Game is a skillset. Meaning it’s not one skill to learn, but many. However if you put a gun to my head and asked me “what’s the magic pill?” I’d tell you it’s voice work. If your voice projects well and uses proper downward tonality, results will get a lot better very quickly. On a primal level we are wired to respond ti powerful commanding voices.
/r/seduction26/04/26 03:10 PM
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Go by yourself and confront your demons head on. Make friends while you are there. If they are regulars you will see them again.
/r/seduction26/04/26 02:58 PM
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Female to male physical contact is never an accident.
/r/seduction26/04/26 02:56 PM
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Ive spent $50k+ on coaching over the years I wholeheartedly agree and it was totally worth it. Doesn’t mean you need to spend anywhere near that, but it makes a huge difference knowing you’ve got an expert watching you. You can probably become competent from hiring one coach.
/r/seduction26/04/26 02:51 PM
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Game is a skillset. It’s not one thing or even three things. It’s many skills, and to be elite you probably need to learn them all, or at least most of them. Body language and posture Voice tonality and projection Eye contact Physical Fitness Looksmaxxing (lol) Fashion / Style Charisma (lots goes into this) Acting Humor Improvisation Verbal communication Flirting Non-verbal communication/ physical touch Logistics Problem Solving Leadership Social Circle Texting Phone Calls Flake management Socia…
/r/seduction25/04/26 11:31 PM
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A few things to improve your odds: Extend your interactions longer. Go for a walk or grab coffee together. That’s what we call an insta-date. Ideally an interaction should be at least 10 minutes, but if it is going well extend it as long as you can. How you ask for the number matters. If you just ask for a number without a reason, she will see that as low value needy behavior. Instead, seed a potential date idea first, like sushi. “Do you like sushi btw?” Talk about sushi for a bit without invit…
/r/seduction25/04/26 11:11 PM
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He didn’t magically get abundance. The attractive behaviors come first. Of course it reinforces the behavior - he’s getting rewarded for it. You keep downplaying his game, but he’s getting laid and you sound butt hurt about it. “He doesn’t have any game..” The girls opinion is the only one that matters and they beg to differ. So you can either start to mirror him and learn or just leave his social circle because he’s outcompeting you.
/r/seduction25/04/26 06:53 PM
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You say he is low effort and doesn’t have good game. But low effort is great game, my friend. Imagine the lazy male lion in the jungle…that’s attractive. The King is also lazy, he has others serve him. He’s relaxed and calm in his environment. Low effort alpha. Many celebrities are like this too at night clubs. The lowest effort wins in many cases. He probably does some things really well… relaxed body language, good vocal tonality, intense but relaxed eye contact. That vibe of being in control …
/r/seduction25/04/26 04:34 PM
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Who has told you what you are or are not? You have to ask yourself if the version of you today is your own doing or society imposed view of you. Improving your social skills doesn’t really change you on a personal values level. It’s you plus social skills. You don’t have to change your hobbies, likes, or dislikes… Just better express them.
/r/seduction25/04/26 04:21 PM
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First, 30s to early 40s is probably your prime if you stay in good shape. Second, you can get a TON better in just 3-6 months of consistent action. Approach every day for 6 months and you will get good provided you identify your weaknesses and work on them. Like hitting the gym, if you put the reps in eventually you will get to a 300lb bench press. Start small and slowly work your way up to more challenging sets. I’ve seen guys get ridiculously good in just 6 months, but they were straight up do…
/r/seduction25/04/26 04:16 PM
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If you’re not getting the results you want, you should be open to changing everything and anything.
/r/seduction25/04/26 04:09 PM
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Easy to mock, harder to actually say something useful. Go ahead.
/r/seduction25/04/26 04:06 PM
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Pretty much. I don’t accept ‘maybe’ dates for this very reason. I tell her I consider her a no and I’ll find something (or someone) better to do. You also told her that if she doesn’t hang out with you that you have nothing better to do than stay home and study. That’s pretty low value and indicates she doesn’t have competition. Either be vague about it, or tell her explicitly “i’m gonna get into some trouble 😈” or “I’m gonna hit up the bars”. You want her to feel like she is missing her window.…
/r/seduction25/04/26 03:03 PM
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Jeffy is lowkey the GOAT. He doesn’t get enough credit.
/r/seduction25/04/26 02:32 PM
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Coffee is fine if it’s the only option for an insta-date on the spot during a cold approach. Otherwise it’s a crummy date that tends to put you in the friendzone because it doesn’t set a romantic vibe that can lead to sex. Coffee tends to be a morning date or early afternoon at the latest. Dimly lit bars in the evening are a much better first date.
/r/seduction25/04/26 03:01 AM
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Guy thought he was going to get a threesome and is instead in a jail cell. I’ve used the apocalypse opener with mixed results. It’s worth playing around with just for the confidence boost. Anyway, it DOES work if delivered properly. But it’s a lower percentage play than more calibrated game. One that I like opening with is “Damn look at you here looking all seductive and shit, who the fuck are you?” The biggest thing is that he’s in a gym, a place where women already feel insecure and unfairly o…
/r/seduction25/04/26 02:54 AM
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Don’t overthink it too much. The biggest thing you can do is to be a leader, which is easier than you think. Make decisions and don’t waffle. Don’t ask for her permission. March to the beat of your own drum. Move the set. Take her or the group to a different location. Even moving 5-10 feet away displays leadership. “Let’s go over here.” Give commands. Even small ones. “Grab that water for me.” “Help me clean my car.” Stop asking questions. Start everything with “Tell me…”. It’s super powerful an…
/r/seduction24/04/26 07:12 PM
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When you enter a conversation as the GIVER of good energy, you will not needy. You are giving her value. An opportunity to be with you, a unique one of one with a lot to share. You have a fun vibe, you live a cool life, you have a witty sense of humor, cool friends, and she would be lucky to enter your world. You don’t need to compliment when your presence alone is a gift. Your mindset should that you have a million dollar check in your pocket that you are about to hand her. You won’t feel needy…
/r/seduction24/04/26 04:48 PM
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You create tension. Stare into her eyes a bit more, hold contact. Start small physical touch and work your way up.
/r/seduction23/04/26 06:57 PM
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When I was your age I just snuck girls into my family’s house at a late hour. Probably not the greatest idea in retrospect but it worked well for me. Whatever you do you need to own it. If you are uncomfortable with the hotel, she will be uncomfortable too. If you are uncomfortable with the car, she will be uncomfortable too. Personally, I wouldn’t bring this up until you are bouncing to the location where you will fuck. If you bring it up out of context or in a weak way at an inappropriate time…
/r/seduction23/04/26 06:47 PM
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Not picky about who they approach, but can be picky about who they take home. Night game is about time and energy management. Talk to everyone.
/r/seduction23/04/26 03:05 PM
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It’s not based on looks. The guys who get laid that often, myself included, are straight up dawgs about it and have great game. They will just keep approaching until they metaphorically burn down the venue or get laid.
/r/seduction23/04/26 02:01 PM
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It depends on your body language. Ideally there would at least be a cocky smirk in there. An expressionless nonreaction just shows lack of personality in my view. Guess you will figure out soon enough.
/r/seduction23/04/26 01:59 PM
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Not reacting at all is not passing. You pass by having a wittier or more aloof response than her.
/r/seduction23/04/26 10:48 AM
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I said that was close to the maximum.
/r/seduction23/04/26 10:44 AM
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About 50% of the girls will quick reject you because they have committed boyfriends. 25% are not in a mood to talk, going somewhere, or for whatever reason isn’t that info you, I think if you can do 10 daygame cold approaches and get 2-3 dates out of it, you are about capped and I’d be skeptical of anyone that says they do much better than that. That said, I’ve gone on some hot streaks where I will get 50%+ conversion but usually it is short lived. Night game is pretty much impossible to count t…
/r/seduction23/04/26 03:41 AM
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Start small. Start with compliments in passing. Excuse me, I like your hat. Talk to everyone. Talk to cashiers every day. Ask them how their day is going. Tell them about your day… never answer with “good”. After a couple weeks of doing this at least 3x per day, you might ask for directions and pivot to showing more interest.
/r/seduction22/04/26 09:16 PM
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Oh please. Spare me the lecture from your arm-chair. Go do 20,000 cold approaches and get back to me on your “vulnerability” comment. Nothing more vulnerable than a cold approach, if you can stomach it. Go read 6 pillars of self esteem by Nathaniel Branden 10 times, do the sentence completion exercises, and get back to me on your precious self-esteem. I’ve put in the work. My self esteem is earned. Go put in the work. Put yourself in an uncomfortable situation every day for years and get rejecte…
/r/seduction22/04/26 07:30 PM
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Vulnerability is not attractive in a male. Yes, I screen girls on my casual outings. If they come along, great. If it goes well, even better. If not, nothing lost. I’m fine scheduling time with a girl for a coffee or tea AFTER she’s jumped through a few screenings. I don’t do coffee or tea dates as they have a platonic vibe usually. However they make great insta-dates during daygame.
/r/seduction22/04/26 06:59 PM
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Disagree and straw manning. “Many use it to avoid being vulnerable.” Vulnerability is not a virtue. Go cry in front of her and see how it goes. “If you want to be efficient there are better ways to screen” Enlighten me why I should carve out EXTRA time for a coffee date. “I can be fully present with them on coffee or tea” I can be fully present while shopping. Nothing special about being present. Coffee or tea is more premeditated. You go out of your way to schedule it, that’s not efficient.
/r/seduction22/04/26 06:49 PM
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It’s inviting her into my world. If I’m actually going shopping to buy new clothes I will invite a girl to tag along. It’s not a technique, it’s time efficient and higher ROI.
/r/seduction22/04/26 06:25 PM
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Don’t ask. Just tell her. I’ve used variations of this before. You walk away and she can come back chasing you. You might be a little premature to do this. You should also send a time bridge text the day of the date if you can. “Hey, I am a busy guy, I only like girls who respect my time, this isn’t gonna work out.”
/r/seduction22/04/26 06:14 PM
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You’re overthinking this and trying to force logistics too early. A couple things are likely going on. One, it’s possible the hookup just didn’t land that hard for her. It happens, no big deal. Two, and more importantly, your follow-up came off too available. Asking about her schedule for next week right after you hooked up puts pressure on it and makes it feel like you’re trying to lock something in. If you want another casual meetup, the approach needs to be lighter. Give her some space. Don’t…
/r/seduction22/04/26 04:31 PM
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Do you have anything useful to say?
/r/seduction22/04/26 04:19 PM
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He could show up more like a horn dog if he does that. That said, I’m with you. It’s fuck me or fuck off time.
/r/seduction22/04/26 02:19 PM
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The first one is pretty solid. Says you are going to do something with OR without her.
/r/seduction22/04/26 02:15 PM
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Less is more. Fewer words. Use fewer than her. Stupider is better. Bad grammar wins. Substitute U for You, etc. Use emojis selectively and ambiguously. Less logic, more fun. Don’t be afraid to just heart her message and not respond.
/r/seduction22/04/26 02:14 PM
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I’m not talking about push pulls or tactics like that, but if you are socially charismatic in a group you can absolutely increase attraction. Girls attraction levels fluctuates so much it really just depends on their mood. I’ve gotten blown out by a girl one month then had her come home with me the next month. That said, if it’s a low level of attraction initially it’s not worth the time or effort to try to change that. My advice for this guy, who had enough attraction to take her to bed, but no…
/r/seduction22/04/26 01:48 PM
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I’m not sure you are going to get a fourth date. You left a lot of opportunity to seal the deal and her attraction seems to be cooling. She turned you down for more kisses. Because you have fallen into her frame around “getting to know you better” she controls the dynamic. She decides when and if you two have sex. I think she was down to fuck on the first date. Now it’s cooled because she’s not decided anymore. You are talking yourself into the friend zone. Now there is an awkward dynamic where …
/r/seduction22/04/26 01:32 PM
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Whatever feels natural is fine. Don’t force it. Don’t evade it either.
/r/seduction22/04/26 01:43 AM
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Can’t tell if this is real or not. Anyway I’d suggest you start to get your life in order. A good book to check out is the 6 pillars of self esteem. It’s the best book on the subject and will help you get in the right direction. Eat and sleep right Gym Social Gym Do all of those and you will find your life situation improving.
/r/seduction21/04/26 11:18 PM
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Women don’t chase betas. They do chase alphas all the time. Women love o chase, Id argue they were born to chase. Just watch women when they are near Justin Bieber lol.
/r/seduction21/04/26 09:42 PM
1

Most resistance comes from not generating enough attraction or comfort in advance.
/r/seduction21/04/26 09:39 PM
1

Yeah you are right. I did pretty darn well in college, but I regret not maximizing it out. Truth is you’ll never again be exposed to so many beautiful women on a daily basis.
/r/seduction21/04/26 06:54 AM
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Don’t lie. It hurts your self-esteem. That said, I wouldn’t put too much stock in what a woman says on her dating app. Many of the girls protect their image by saying they are looking for long term.
/r/seduction20/04/26 02:20 PM
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Honestly, if you want to get from ok to elite you need a mentor. That could be someone local who takes you under their wing or it could be a coach. You are probably making lots of mistakes that you can’t see yourself make. A good coach should be able to take you to the next level. I hired multiple coaches over the years when I felt like I was stuck or plateauing and found the right person to take me to the next level each time. I’m not taking any on any new clients now, but I can point you in th…
/r/seduction19/04/26 06:54 PM
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Truth. A lot has to do with everything leading up to the sex. If sex happens within 1-3 hours after meeting not enough connection is built to keep her around. Mystery called it fools gold. It’s worth experimenting with turning down women on the first night. Their attraction will increase. There’s definitely merit in pushing back the clock a bit to 7-10 hours of interactions before sex if you are seeking retention.
/r/seduction18/04/26 05:26 PM
2

Yes. You rejected yourself.
/r/seduction18/04/26 03:26 PM
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5s can generally sense that you think she is a 5. She can tell you aren’t into her and rejects you as a defense mechanism. My game tends to elevate when I’m more attracted to the girl. I’m wittier and more sexual which allows me to do better with the 8s,9s, and 10s than I would with a 5.
/r/seduction18/04/26 02:01 PM
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You telling her that you like her decreased her attraction to you. Eye contact means pretty little by itself, unless it is clearly an eye fucking, like a deep long stare into your eyes that can only mean one thing. You will KNOW if that’s what is happening, and I’m telling you it’s not. An hour delay on text is nothing, lol. Some girls will make you sweat for 24 hours plus, or never respond at all. Even girls that really like you will occasionally do this. She has a BF. That means it’s an uphill…
/r/seduction17/04/26 07:30 PM
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Thanks for putting in the work and sharing it. That said, I’ve tried a few of versions of these and they don’t adequately prepare you to talk with real women. Why? Because most of the communication with the women is non-verbal. You’re being judged on your body language, your voice, and your eye contact, you’re not really being judged on the words you say. Your nervous system is going to act very differently when you are chatting with a real woman. She is going to see if you have the nervous syst…
/r/seduction17/04/26 02:24 PM
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I don’t think the baby face hurts you as much as you think, some girls really like that look. In fact one of the most chased men of all time is Justin Bieber who was notorious for looking much younger than his age. He also had a high pitched voice too (FWIW I’d argue that your voice is FAR more important than your look). So Bieber sort of goes against the traditional narrative of what’s masculine, but he’s considered extremely attractive. I’m 34 and I am often mistaken for 25 years old, and part…
/r/seduction17/04/26 02:07 AM
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I will give you two hints: Practice in front of a camera daily. Watch the video replay. Judge yourself based on your expressiveness, voice tonality, eye contact, etc. Experiment and try a variety of emotions. Observe and improve. Practice being physically loose and relaxed. You can’t be charismatic if you are tense. If you watch Trump on stage, regardless of what you think of him, his hands are almost dangling by his side, very loose and relaxed. That’s practiced.
/r/seduction16/04/26 02:11 PM
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I don’t think we are that far off, I agree that a lot of those things are readable and instinctual. I’d argue the only way for a beginner(OP) to get to that point is to brute force it, meaning he should not be in his head about that level of calibration until he gets the reps in.
/r/seduction16/04/26 12:57 AM
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I would baby step. Start small with compliments in passing, “Hey I like your hat”, and work your way up to full blown approaches.
/r/seduction16/04/26 12:40 AM
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you would only pick up on that many clues if you are watching her for a while before approaching. much better to jump in than hyperanalyze. it’s easier to adjust once you start talking to her.
/r/seduction15/04/26 09:13 PM
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genius. pure genius. i’ve never thought of calibration before. literally NEVER occurred to me. Your comment is also dumb. How would you know the girl is shy until you actually start talking to her? Why would you assume a personality trait on someone you don’t know, especially an unfavorable assumption. OP is looking for help on mindset, “Be calibrated” doesn’t help at all. Just going to keep him in his head. He needs to get out of his own head.
/r/seduction15/04/26 08:43 PM
1

The best mindset is to: have fun be horny work on one or two things The first rule of game is to have fun. If it becomes a chore you’re gonna be bored or too serious in sets and you are not gonna get results. You want to have fun, so put yourself into a state that will get you having fun. All my openers are generally self amusing. I think they are funny so it puts me into the right state going into a set. Sometimes it’s outlandish. Sometimes I’m saying something that SHOULD get me rejected but d…
/r/seduction15/04/26 04:53 PM
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She has no need to meet you in person if you will give her hours of your time on the phone. It signals you have nothing better to do than talk to her.
/r/seduction15/04/26 12:42 AM
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8 is nothing in the grand scheme of things. It could be bad luck to a certain extent. Get it to 50 or 100 and report back. Also, I recommend you call girls over the phone. Keep it short, flirty, vibey, less than 15 minutes. No one calls anymore so you already look more confident by comparison.
/r/seduction14/04/26 11:16 PM
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you are looking for a dude
/r/seduction12/04/26 11:49 PM
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that works for men. men are straight forward and logical. that doesn’t necessarily apply to women. they are indirect and emotion driven, which is a great thing. best way to handle her challenges is to be slightly amused, playful, and non-serious.
/r/seduction12/04/26 11:04 PM
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Depends who acts like the king of the room and who thinks he needs to compensate for lack of self esteem. Hypothetically, if everything else is equal then the edge goes to looks. But if the scrawny guy is more charismatic, more comfortable in his own skin, more cocky, funny, and kind of an aloof asshole you can bet that guy will beat the better looking guy every time.
/r/seduction12/04/26 10:19 PM
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Most of those fitness bros and looksmaxxers are operating at a very low level. If only they’d biceps were 5 percent bigger… then they will get laid! Do not emulate these clowns.
/r/seduction12/04/26 09:56 PM
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You need to extend your interaction with her when you first meet her. Don’t settle for a quick 1 or 2 minute interaction that she will forget. You need to be thinking of turning it into a 15 minute plus insta date. Tell her let’s go for coffee right then and there. You will see a huge improvement in conversion.
/r/seduction12/04/26 09:31 PM
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In my experience a lot of 6s and 7s will make it easy for you because you probably outclass them. Don’t get me wrong, a lot of these girls are still very attractive, but they aren’t constantly validated. When you start moving up to your 8s, 9s, and 10s, the girls are more selective because they have seen more. Your game needs to be tighter from beginning to end, as they pick up every fuck up and it’s amplified. These girls are very calibrated and are aware of beta males acting like alphas. You s…
/r/seduction12/04/26 08:05 PM
1

If the date ended in sex i’ll usually text something the next day so she doesn’t think i only used her for sex. If the date didn’t end in sex, I’m in no rush to text her again, if ever. If she’s not really into me it’s usually not worth the trouble when I have other women showing me more interest. Your next text should be more about vibing than asking her out again. I’m a big fan of quick phone calls too.
/r/seduction11/04/26 08:36 PM
2

Flakes can be minimized with good text game. That said, they are still a real pain. Knowing how to manage flakes is a skill in and of itself. Contrary to what many think, you can reliably recover from flakes with good frame control.
/r/seduction11/04/26 02:09 AM
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You probably over-escalated. Yes, you should move things forward, but ideally you want her escalating on you. I’m guessing you made out and then pushed forward with multiple attempts and she rejected them and brushed you off. She now feels that she has you all figured out, that she knows you are highly attracted to her and that you don’t have a ton of options. A cool guy doesn’t push for sex… he lets it come to him. Learn to pull back, change locations if needed, create more attraction and try a…
/r/seduction10/04/26 10:31 PM
2

She is on her job and is paid to be nice. You need to be very calibrated in these situations. Usually I slow role these types of encounters over several visits, work up the tension a bit, build a connection and then go for a date, It’s very odd for her to put off giving her your number for an hour, as it takes two seconds. Something is not adding up. I’m guessing her attraction level for you is not very high. Going for the number without a date idea already locked and loaded is low value.
/r/seduction10/04/26 03:04 PM
1

There’s a lot you can control with your looks that you are not maximizing. You need to experiment a bit. Haircut. Get a cool haircut that looks good on you. Try a fade of some kind. Try growing it out. See what works for you. Facial Hair. Again, experiment. Try everything from clean shaved, five o clock shadow, or beard. Maybe even just a moustache. Skincare. Moisturize your skin. Wash your face. Consider anti-aging skincare too. Teeth. Whiten them. No excuse not to have pearly whites. It will e…
/r/seduction09/04/26 04:47 PM
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The answer is not to convert it to a number. It’s to convert it to sex right then and there. Number conversion to follow up date is really a low odds game. You have too many competing distractions and she forgets you because the night was a blur. She ends the conversation with you and then goes on to the next fun entertainment of the night. If you don’t leave with her, there’s a pretty good chance that someone else will. The key to night game is to stay in set as long as possible once it’s going…
/r/seduction09/04/26 03:38 AM
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You judge yourself by taking action not by rejection.
/r/seduction07/04/26 10:12 PM
1

“If she doesn’t wanna talk about it, she’s not mature enough to have sex” Bro you’re an incel. I know you too well. “If you’re not asking…” No. I’m not asking because I’m not clueless. I KNOW and ADAPT. I can read her signals in real time and adjust as needed. I’m living in the present, not turning it into a game of 21 questions. Don’t misinterpret it to mean you can never talk about it, but it should come up naturally not because you are without a clue like OP.
/r/seduction07/04/26 08:38 PM
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Not an argument bro. Your lack of experience showing up.
/r/seduction07/04/26 04:59 PM
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No. If you as the man can’t figure it out, it shows a lack of experience, lack of competence, lack of resourcefulness, lack of playfulness. It makes YOU look immature if you need to ask about it. She wants a guy who “gets it”, not some chump trying to figure it out. Talking about sex like that is unattractive and anti-seductive.
/r/seduction07/04/26 04:01 PM
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The biggest keys: Stay in set. Don’t leave the set even for two seconds. Nightclubs have enough distractions. She can and will have fun doing something or someone else. You need to win over all her friends. They should tacitly approve her sleeping with you. They need to on some level also be attracted to you. You should be fun to be around. You need to understand how to overcome objections and navigate logistics. She may say she can’t leave with you for x,y,z reasons. You need to think on your t…
/r/seduction07/04/26 04:13 AM
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Not as important as you would think. Girls fuck losers all the time. It’s all about how comfortable you are with it. If you are insecure about it she will see it.
/r/seduction06/04/26 10:22 PM
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She doesn’t wanna talk about it logically. It’s for you to figure out and deliver. She might not even know what she really likes until she discovers it with you. You can ask for her feedback after the deed. “what was your favorite part?” Notice - I did not ask about what she didn’t like or what could be better. Act as if you did the everything perfectly and as intended.
/r/seduction06/04/26 03:25 PM
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Bartenders absolutely slay. Even bartenders with mediocre or weak game can do well. They have situational status in the bar. They determine who gets (free) drinks and who doesn’t. They can kick people out. Girls just assume these guys are “cool”automatically. I’ve seen girls throw themselves at bartenders time and time again.
/r/seduction05/04/26 10:10 PM
4

You don’t like socializing because you are not good at it. You are not good at it because you don’t practice. You don’t practice because you are afraid of rejection, awkwardness, anxiety, etc. You are lying to yourself. If you were good at socializing you’d enjoy it. The introverted extroverted crap is a lie meant to keep you suppressed. It’s nothing more than a convenient excuse. Learn social skills in a low stakes environment and slowly work your way up to full on approaches.
/r/seduction05/04/26 08:37 PM
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There are definitely drills you can do to improve your improvisation skills that will make you sharper on your feet. There is value in doing the drills. That said, there is no substitute for in person conversation. Why? Because your nervous system will function totally differently in front of other people. Ticks and fidgeting will show up that wouldn’t otherwise be there in private.
/r/seduction03/04/26 05:37 PM
1

Usually coaches require you to sign an agreement. Was it non-refundable? Usually there are reasonable accommodations for changes in plans if you give sufficient advanced notice. In any case, dispute the charge as you have and see what they do. That’s unethical for him to keep your money at this stage.
/r/seduction03/04/26 01:47 PM
2

3 approaches per day is maintenance level, perhaps slow improvement. If you do 10+ per day you will start to get better quickly. Realistically you can get competent in as fast as two weeks to a month.
/r/seduction03/04/26 12:20 AM
1

Her emotions change over the course of the night. And it can change instantly and dramatically. I will give a story I’m at the nightclub and I see what I consider the hottest looking girl there. Make a quick comment to her. Pull her to the corner, make out. I pull her to a different venue (mistake), where she apparently had friends waiting. I realize I made things more complicated by not pulling her home when I had the chance. But I recover nicely. I win over every single friend, look like a roc…
/r/seduction02/04/26 05:09 PM
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You will lose way more often than you will win if you don’t flirt. The good news is that flirting is mostly a mindset to not be bored in a conversation. You want to have a playful vibe. Think of it how you may tease your little sister. A lot of flirting is nonverbal too, she can pick up the vibe you are giving off. Two vibes that work. One is to have the mindset that it is funny/hilarious to approach her. The other is I’d suggest getting slightly turned on when you talk to her. Just imagine your…
/r/seduction02/04/26 04:47 PM
1

why not
/r/seduction01/04/26 09:48 PM
1

Depends.
/r/seduction01/04/26 07:04 PM
1

I agree with a lot of this. Wings are most helpful in two sets. They can occupy the friend. However a wing can hurt you in one-sets or three sets because the math doesn’t work. In a one set, he can be a distraction. In a three set, he can only occupy one of the friends, leaving a third wheel girl that will feel left out and end the set. If you are really good, most of the people that want to wing with you will try to leach off your sets, seldom open anything themselves, and then kill sets with a…
/r/seduction01/04/26 03:46 PM
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She doesn’t care. You are better off telling her you work at Taco Bell. I’ve never heard of a girl get bored of laughing or flirting. They do get bored of the same weak ass approaches though.
/r/seduction31/03/26 12:54 PM
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You may not realize it but you’ve already dug yourself a small hole. You pedestalized her. “Are you an actress?” You self-qualified. “I am a filmmaker”. Like you are trying to impress her. Nothing you can’t fix, but not a great start either. Have a real conversation with her for more than 5 minutes. Be curious about her and something that disqualifies her “you are cute but lowkey you seem like trouble” “You and me would never workout”. Push her away from you in a subtle way. Before exchanging co…
/r/seduction31/03/26 12:15 AM
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Low key that’s a pretty good way to meet women. Especially something like Swing Dancing.
/r/seduction30/03/26 07:35 PM
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There is some random variance with game where you will run a cold streak. Not every girl is going to like you or be available,sure. I’ve certainly had cold streaks of 20+ bad sets especially when I started off. Usually it was because I was doing something uncalibrated or my vibe was off. The thing he needs to look out for is whether he is hooking the set and holding their attention in a high distraction environment. Btw, an average looking guy with great game should relish an opportunity to be a…
/r/seduction29/03/26 01:52 PM
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If you do 20 sets with poor results, it’s not what you are saying but how you are delivering the opener. Are you squared up? Smiling? Talking loud enough? Etc. You should say openers that are amusing to you. A couple that I like: “Cheers(raise glass)… to(be creative)…” “I love you.”
/r/seduction29/03/26 01:34 PM
2

This isn’t rocket science. They put themselves in your proximity. They text you out of the blue. Laugh at your jokes even if they aren’t funny. Smile around you a lot. Twirl their hair or fidget when near you. Compliment you. Touch you “accidentally” or on purpose. You might get a couple of these. If you get several and don’t take a hint she is going to move on. I’d recommend just assuming every girl is attracted to you.
/r/seduction29/03/26 01:26 PM
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read my original response on this thread
/r/seduction29/03/26 08:35 AM
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Move. At a minimum start visiting Orlando on weekends and get a downtown hotel room. It’s a decent city for game.
/r/seduction29/03/26 03:42 AM
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lol. that’s nice in theory. but if you leave a massive vacuum of silence 48 hours before a date without any kind of subtle or playful confirmation she’s gonna get cold feet. women don’t think about this like your golf buddies. flaking can be prevented.
/r/seduction29/03/26 03:38 AM
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Yeah agree, OP has no experience and rage quit lol. Truth is this is a very salvageable situation if you don’t get butthurt. There’s lots of reasons for the girl running behind that are not nefarious.
/r/seduction29/03/26 03:34 AM
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yep, in fact i’ve found it works to my advantage if she flakes sometimes, because I know how to handle it correctly and firmly and her attraction increases. I guarantee I have a better close rate than OP who butthurt blocks her. I probably convert over 60% of flakes into dates.
/r/seduction29/03/26 03:32 AM
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yep. this was a salvageable situation.
/r/seduction29/03/26 03:27 AM
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OP could have texted earlier too. He’s the man and has the leadership role. Instead he wasted an hour snd got butthurt. Flakes and Lates are gonna happen. Need to learn how to handle them. Why pat a guy on the back for a failed interaction?
/r/seduction29/03/26 03:26 AM
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The mindset that works? lol
/r/seduction29/03/26 03:22 AM
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what on earth has this subreddit become?
/r/seduction29/03/26 03:02 AM
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You arrived an hour early? Huge mistake. Arrive 5-10 minutes late, at the earliest. That’s a life changing tip for dealing with women. Why do you think she was running late? Most of the time it’s because she’s dressing up FOR YOU. She likes you and wants to look good for you. You just have to accept that women are mostly horrible with time, especially when their emotions are involved. You should also be sending subtle confirmations before the date. You can even text her 30 min before that you ar…
/r/seduction29/03/26 01:18 AM
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Yeah, the approach is often won or lost in the first 5 seconds or less. Set killers: Bad approach angle. Weak body language. Upward voice tonality. Awkward or serious facial expression. Failing to stop her if she’s walking. Bad eye contact. If you suck at one of these, more likely than not it will kill your set. It’s something a coach needs to see in you and correct. I beat myself up for years until I hired a coach who gave me a few tweaks which really improved my numbers. You need to be at a mi…
/r/seduction28/03/26 11:26 PM
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I don’t understand what you are after on here. She probably likes you. You don’t want to go on a date with her. She’s probably not going to explicitly say she likes you until AFTER you escalate physically with her. Go on a date. Kiss. Fuck. You need to realize that attraction has an expiration date. She might like you now, but the longer you wait to act on it, the more likely her eyes are to wander.
/r/seduction27/03/26 01:03 AM
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You are getting way ahead of yourself even thinking about marriage. You are also too in your head about “making a move”. There is a subtext between you two. If she compliments you, assume you are in. As far as asking for her number, I would first say you are going to grab coffee, a drink, lunch, etc. at a certain place you are going to check out and she should join you. Find out what she likes, but start by talking about what you like (e.g. went to a sushi place recently). Invite her to somethin…
/r/seduction27/03/26 12:30 AM
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You need to stop being so boring. Give mixed messages. I don’t ever recommend asking for nudes. However I can still make your cringe message 100x better. “I wanna see yours… but lowkey you seem like trouble” you need to be able to live in this grey area where you are telling her you like her but not without any qualifications. Let her prove herself.
/r/seduction22/03/26 02:39 PM
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It’s not a binary. Looks matter. Just not the primary factor. At the very minimum, you should look healthy. You’re not gonna be attractive if you’re on deaths door or morbidly obese (although I have seen obese guys pull). Then you should take care of yourself, use good hygiene, moisturize your facial skin, keep your teeth white etc. Also dressing with style makes a huge difference. At a certain point, you start hitting diminishing returns though. Confidence and charisma almost always overcome go…
/r/seduction19/03/26 10:41 PM
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You can establish a connection and still be sexual. Design your dates to escalate towards sex. Go to multiple locations near each other. Keep leading the interaction. The conversation can go two steps forward one step back. Bring in light touching.
/r/seduction06/09/25 03:28 AM
1

Yes. Confidence affects your body language. How you walk. How you move. Your posture. Your eye movements. Additionally confidence affects your voice. If your body language and voice are strong then you will have a lot more dating success.
/r/seduction05/09/25 11:32 PM
1

Naturals stand out from the pack for a reason. They are rare by definition. If everyone was a natural, no one would be. Many guys don’t need game. They end up in a relationship that’s good enough for them and then don’t work on their skills anymore. Maybe 1% of guys have actual game that is consistently good with technique and everything. 10% have enough game to get lucky occasionally by being drunk.
/r/seduction05/09/25 03:05 AM
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Sounds like you want to have your cake and eat it too. Maybe you can find a “pure” girl who will go along with it. She saves herself to end up with a guy who is a sex addict… seems unlikely. If you want to attract quality, you need to be quality yourself. You can take a balanced approach to this. Have fun, work on your game, but be more selective in who you sleep with.
/r/seduction05/09/25 02:36 AM
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If you are a really good looking guy, online is easier. Get good pictures and a halfway decent profile and matches should be coming in. Good looking guy doesn’t have to worry about bad game. He can rely on his looks to get dates. If you are average looking, in person is easier. Learn the skillset of pickup and demonstrate it to the girls. Once you get good enough looks won’t matter.
/r/seduction05/09/25 01:37 AM
1

Try walking 30% slower than you normally walk. You should get more eye contact.
/r/seduction05/09/25 01:21 AM
2

Your attitude should be that you are out of her league. You are the 10. You prioritize yourself. She is a 5 at best.
/r/seduction03/09/25 08:58 PM
2

take baby steps toward approaching. first learn to give quick compliments in passing. Then work your way up to full conversations with girls.
/r/seduction03/09/25 01:18 AM
2

Verbal trash talk is one thing, but can you physically escalate? If you can physically escalate you can usually start to move things forward.
/r/seduction15/07/25 11:09 PM
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They act like you are trying to steal from them because you literally are stealing off their good energy. If you are giving good vibes to the girl, they generally will reciprocate and give you good energy back. You can loosen up by loosening up your body language and doing some verbal warm up drills to get you talking. Tell stories in the mirror or on camera.
/r/seduction15/07/25 09:55 PM
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If it’s early on in the relationship and she’s already testing your boundaries you may be in for a rough ride. However you proceed, you need to be cool and calm. If you show insecurity or neediness she will do something similar again. The truth is that she was probably just having fun and didn’t think much of it and/or she did it to get under your skin. You won’t really know why she took the pics like that even if you challenge her on it. I suggest you sleep on this a few days and then see if it…
/r/seduction15/07/25 05:12 PM
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Any change in behavior could be a sign of a coming breakup. She’s not investing in him like she once did. She might not be cooking for him anymore. May no longer be helping him with projects. Maybe she picked up a new walking habit so she can attract different guys. Look for changes.
/r/seduction15/07/25 05:00 PM
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I like to ask about her childhood, future plans, and travel. Bounce between lighthearted topics and deeper more personal topics. You need to be aware of the vibe of the conversation and the vibe should be improving throughout the evening.
/r/seduction15/07/25 12:42 AM
1

Start small with positive self talk. Compliment people then work your way up to full opens. Do full opens and compliments daily and you will have more confidence.
/r/seduction13/07/25 08:37 PM
2

Keep her as a friend and have her help to get other girls. Having a female friend can be a real asset if it is genuine. Women are attracted to men who have other women in their life. Bring her to events with other women and you will get more interest.
/r/seduction13/07/25 08:10 PM
1

Cold approach is still the best way to improve your confidence. You ask what the alternative is. The alternative is to run social circle game by throwing parties with a highly favorable male to female ratio.
/r/seduction11/07/25 01:06 AM
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Because not everything needs to be about sex. Besides, it’s good game to keep girls as friends because it provides social proof. Girls see you with other girls and get attracted. Further she may have friends that could be interested in you. You are better off casting a wide net and seeing who is a potential partner. Cheers, Coach Sly
/r/seduction10/07/25 06:01 PM
3

“I’m married” is not a particularly good line unless it is delivered perfectly in proper context and in a calibrated way. Even then it could be misinterpreted by the girl and taken as literal rather than a joke. Disqualifiers are good game. For example, “we’d never work out”, “I’d be the worst boyfriend of all time” because it shows you are willing to walk away . “I’m married” rules out the possibility of a relationship entirely and also introduces ethical issues to a girl.
/r/seduction06/07/25 03:38 AM
3

If you think she is an attention seeker she probably is. You don’t need some special test for that. Even if she is an attention seeker what difference does it make unless you are thinking about marrying her. Most girls will have 1 or 2 traits that are less than ideal. You either come to terms with the flaws or you move on.
/r/seduction06/07/25 03:29 AM
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Lots of people are telling you not to approach at all, but this is a seduction thread so I’m going to tell you how to move forward. Move slowly. Talk to everyone in the office and befriend them all. She will pick up on your social dominance and get interested. Ideally she should start talking to you and express interest in you. Then when you talk with her one on one give her some low key flirts. Playfully disagree with her or give some push pulls. Gauge her reaction. If you do ask her out, be su…
/r/seduction06/07/25 12:06 AM
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Direct has one advantage in that it makes the interaction man to women right away. Some girls really like that. But it does lead to some harsh and quick rejections. It’s important to practice direct openers as part of your learning process. You probably need to tone it back and try more situational openers. Ask about the coffee or books at the book store. Inject some flirty push pulls that keep them guessing. Then lead the interaction to an instant date or number close.
/r/seduction05/07/25 05:12 PM
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You should use whatever openers are the most amusing to you. It’s okay to have a canned opener in your backpocket, but it should be funny to you. One of my favorites is “I love you”. It’s playful. You can take that in a few different directions. No need to ask the boring interview style questions that everyone asks. That will turn you into a wall flower. If you ask too many questions you will kill the conversation because it signals that you don’t have anything to add yourself. Ask 2-3 questions…
/r/seduction05/07/25 04:01 PM
1

Trying to get their attention is a fools errand. You can occasionally get lucky doing this but the vast majority of the time it will fail. If you are coming across creepy i’m guessing you are not smiling enough on your approaches. It should be a genuine “I’m excited to see you” kind of smile.
/r/seduction05/07/25 03:51 PM
1

You are free to talk about your own day first. You don’t really know what may spark her interest.
/r/seduction04/07/25 02:45 AM
3

You need to win over the friends too and gain their trust. You are likely too focused on the girl and not enough on the friends. Once you have won the friends you can start to float the pull. “i’m kinda tempted to hang out with you after this.” You can pull to an intermediate location such as a cocktail bar or a restaurant. The key is leadership and problem solving.
/r/seduction04/07/25 01:27 AM
1

Not a shit test. Your interaction with her wasn’t as great as you thought. Your texting then was too probing and didn’t engage her emotions. Her message was her way of backing out of the situation without offending you. A shit test is more like she flakes on the first date or shows up 30 minutes late.
/r/seduction04/07/25 01:18 AM
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Usually try for a bit of conversation before just going for her contact information. You should have a good reason to grab her number before asking. Like you floated the idea of coffee or sushi first. Then a couple minutes later you ask if she wants to join and you grab her number. Also going for an instagram is not a great play unless your instagram is really solid with some cool pics and a solid following. Much better to just go for a number.
/r/seduction04/07/25 01:13 AM
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Your date structure doesn’t make sense. You are better off ending at your place than starting at your place.
/r/seduction01/07/25 01:45 AM
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The bystanders are NPCs.
/r/seduction01/07/25 01:24 AM
1

Ideally you beat her to the punch. You flip the frame and tell her you’re not looking for sex. You tell her to slow down. You frame it as that you aren’t going to have sex with her.
/r/seduction30/06/25 08:11 PM
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Flakes can happen to pretty much anyone. Sometimes things come up and girls have to change plans. Sometimes they test your character. If you handle it calmly and just let her know that you “only like girls who respect your time” you can get another chance at a date. Any more criticism than that will come off as butthurt and needy.
/r/seduction29/06/25 02:54 AM
1

Game is a skillset. Meaning that there are a number of skills to learn to master game. Here are a few. Approaching & Opening. Vocal Projection and Tonality. Body Language. Flirting. Leading. Self Amusement. Date structuring. Escalation. Texting. You may need to work on all of these to get good at game.
/r/seduction28/06/25 07:53 PM
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Run the date with more locations. Bounce from a bar to a restaurant, etc. Try to walk from place to place. This gives the illusion of having known each other longer. That will make her more comfortable for any escalation. Your dates are probably too logical and a bit boring. You probably ask too many generic questions and the vibe dies. Getting a kiss is nice but puts more pressure on the second date to do something more. So unless you did create a strong emotional connection, it’s likely to fiz…
/r/seduction28/06/25 12:56 AM
5

Your mindset is limiting you. You think you are an 8/9 and the girls are the same. Your mindset needs to be that you are a 10 and they are all 5s. No one is more important or better than you. You need to learn game. Right now you’re just relying on your looks. The 8 or 9 will screen you for any neediness or insecurities. Be the 10.
/r/seduction26/06/25 09:54 PM
1

Playfully disagree with what they say.
/r/seduction24/06/25 03:35 AM
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You have some work to do to get laid for the first time. Find places where women frequent near you. Malls. Parks. Bookstores. Coffee shops. Bars. Etc. Then start small conversations. “what books do you recommend?” “which coffee do you typically get?” flirt and slowly work your way up to the point where you can get a girls number. Learn how to run a date properly. Once you do that then you can get laid. You can also set up online dating apps at the same time. Tinder, Bumble. Hinge are all good op…
/r/seduction24/06/25 03:34 AM
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I make peace with the fact that she’s dead to me the second she exits my movie lol. Not in the spiteful sense, but more in the NPC sense. She becomes a wallflower if she’s not in my life in some capacity. I’d never allow my brain to value some dude higher than me, no matter how physically attractive he is. I hold myself in the highest regard and back it up with my actions and that’s genuine self esteem. She makes out with another dude then she has poor taste. The frame holds for me and this work…
/r/seduction19/03/25 10:43 PM
1

I appreciate the feedback. These aren’t the ego talking. This is an intentionally calibrated reframe of the situation to use to my advantage. I’m always going to tell myself the most positive narrative of the events, especially while I’m in the field. There’s no sense is telling myself a self defeating “realistic” narrative. Of course I don’t see people as lesser because they have poor taste in music, art, or tv shows. Same with poor taste in men. We don’t value the same things and that’s okay.
/r/seduction19/03/25 10:25 PM
3

You are too needy if you are disappointed in what one specific girl does. You need to reframe it as a lack of chemistry and that she has poor taste in men. Don’t ever take it personally. Your job is to find the girl in the venue that thinks you walk on water. Stop prioritizing any one girl over the process of getting better with your social skills. You are pedestalizing this girl without really knowing her. You need to keep talking with girls until you find the one that’s into you. I also don’t …
/r/seduction19/03/25 12:35 PM
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You might have a chance, but realize it is an uphill battle. She might have been trying to get a reaction out of her bf. Girls do stuff like that to test their bf all the time. She might be on the way out with him because they don’t try that stuff as often with guys they really respect. Ultimately it depends on the vibe you and her had. A hug generally means nothing, but given the context it is difficult to say. Honestly I’d say the likely answer depends how strong your game is. If you have stro…
/r/seduction18/03/25 03:34 AM
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The first rule is to have fun. If you aren’t having fun you will never pull. Have as much fun as possible. Even worse than not having fun is getting jealous because another guy is pulling. Girls can sense that you are in scarcity and needy and will be repelled by it. Approach as much as possible. You should be in set almost the entire night. You won’t have time to think about what some other dude is doing if you are chatting up chicks.
/r/seduction17/03/25 09:34 PM
1

Yes, just create a sexual vibe.
/r/seduction16/03/25 09:15 PM
1

You need to set the vibe which is easier in the evening. Have the lunch at a dimly lit place near you. Can be like a dive bar type place.
/r/seduction16/03/25 09:09 PM
1

First rule of game is to have fun. The only person that can do that is you. You need to be able to push your own buttons to have fun. You should be constantly talking to people while you are out and start opening within 30 seconds of entering the venue. You should say things that you find funny and amusing.
/r/seduction16/03/25 08:50 PM
2

Probably. Girls don’t want to see guys they aren’t interested in.
/r/seduction16/03/25 08:31 PM
2

Lower the bar. Start doing quick compliments. Talk to cashiers, bartenders, etc. Ask for directions. Build some momentum. Then move to direct.
/r/seduction16/03/25 01:55 AM
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or just learn self-esteem lol
/r/seduction15/03/25 09:48 PM
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you have it totally backwards. women will never line up for a guy who THINKS he is inferior. There are lots of guys who have delusional self confidence that kill it with women. The delusional self confidence is attractive. Mr. Realistic isn’t attractive.
/r/seduction15/03/25 09:46 PM
1

why do you pedestalize other people and downplay yourself? there’s no rhyme or reason for it other than your negative self-talk.
/r/seduction15/03/25 09:33 PM
1

you draw the self esteem from yourself that’s the whole point lol. no one said to lie to yourself, in fact that’s one of the things the book talks about - personal integrity. ultimately you need to see yourself as a 10 and everyone else is just a 5.
/r/seduction15/03/25 09:22 PM
5

You are allowing others to dictate how you should feel about yourself. That’s a strong indication that you lack self-esteem. I highly suggest reading the Six Pillars of Self Esteem by Nathaniel Branden. The book has a lot of practical exercises that will help. Meditation is also really valuable. If you can feel good starting at a wall you can feel good anywhere. Cheers, Coach Sly
/r/seduction15/03/25 08:58 PM
5

It’s less needy and weird to ask for confirmation on Thursday or Friday than to just let it drop entirely. If one of your bro friends said “i’ll let you know” you’d follow up. She reached out about something else which is a good sign. You can reopen her in the next few days to a week.
/r/seduction15/03/25 05:09 PM
2

Confessing your feelings will kill the attraction. It turns it into a transaction. You should just try to hang out with her one on one and escalate.
/r/seduction15/03/25 01:58 PM
1

if she reaches out first feel free to respond
/r/seduction15/03/25 01:38 PM
9

Did you push for the relationship or did she push for the relationship? If you pushed for the relationship more than her, she is not as invested as you and this is how she is showing it. Confronting her runs the risk of coming across as needy, and in my experience if you tell her that it bothers you, she will test you on it even harder. She will pull back and see if she can get away with it again. If you set your expectations you better be prepared to walk away if those are not satisfied.
/r/seduction15/03/25 01:27 PM
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You need to be a bit more polarizing on the dates. Disagree with the girls in a playful way. Be willing to offend them a bit. Escalate a bit more. Doing that should give them the impression that you are willing to walk away. You also don’t have to tell the girls your whole life-story so soon. Once they have you figured out they get bored and are willing to move along. Remain a mystery. You should also be seeing more than one girl at a time. You don’t put all your eggs in one basket so early on. …
/r/seduction15/03/25 01:17 PM
5

You don’t need a reason, but here are some good ones: “Let me see (your hand)” “Let me see that ring” “Your hand is tiny i wanna beat you in a game of thumb war” I like teasing them on the size differential of their hands vs mine. It emphasizes the masculine vs feminine polarity in size. You can have her hand in yours for as long as comfortable to both of you. Don’t force it any longer. Ideally you put her hand down before she pulls it away.
/r/seduction15/03/25 01:59 AM
2

I think you are over pursuing when she is not showing reciprocal interest, and that will likely push her further away. Don’t ask if she “wants” to hangout. Assume she wants to hang out and only ask when she is free to hang out. It’s subtle but makes a big difference. You also don’t need to confess your feelings to her. She can already sense you are into her. She is going to find it more interesting to be guessing where she stands with respect to you. Keep her guessing.
/r/seduction15/03/25 12:50 AM
3

The dynamic flipped entirely because you started getting more emotionally invested than the girl. When that happens, you will inevitably push the girl away. Girls pick up on the needy energy that you give off on a subconscious level. The most unattractive characteristic in a guy is neediness. Giving her a gift after her poor behavior was an even worse move. Do not give gifts to girls until they start giving you gifts. Ideally she should give you three gifts for every one that you give, even then…
/r/seduction14/03/25 11:38 PM
0

You probably did not optimize your pictures on your profiles and your bio probably sucks too. You probably are making a lot of fatal errors on the cold approach front to get that many rejections in a row. If you had decent technique at either of these you would be getting some results.
/r/seduction14/03/25 12:06 PM
1

I don’t send any messages to girls after 7pm - I am with other girls during the evening hours ;) Otherwise there’s no magic time to slide into her DMs.
/r/seduction14/03/25 04:01 AM
3

The passive route is not the answer. You need to do cold approach and online apps to give yourself the best chance. You can push for dates in a non-needy way.
/r/seduction14/03/25 03:48 AM
4

She suggested that you two be “friends that fuck” and you turned that offer down? You can take ‘yes’ for an answer sometimes. She probably sensed that you are pushing for something exclusive and she isn’t ready for that. It’s generally perceived as needy for a guy to push for a relationship first - masculine energy is about freedom. You play the ‘friends that fuck’ game for a few months and eventually the girl will push for the exclusive relationship when she is ready. It’s not disrespectful, as…
/r/seduction14/03/25 03:40 AM
15

A girl won’t reject you because of your phone lol. She will reject you 1000% of the time for being insecure about your phone.
/r/seduction14/03/25 02:33 AM
82

Easiest way to not be boring to girls is to not be bored yourself. Live a life that you find exciting. You don’t want to be too predictable. Once a girl has you totally figured out you are boring and she will leave. Stay a mystery.
/r/seduction14/03/25 02:27 AM
4

the most important thing is to be calibrated to the environment. ideally your opener is something observational in the environment or something about her. if she’s in a group it’s better to go indirect and then make it clear who your target is within the first one to two minutes. you could embarrass her or alienate her friends very quickly by going direct right in front of them. first win them all over and then pivot to target. if it’s later in the night like 2-3am, that’s prime pulling time so …
/r/seduction13/03/25 09:32 PM
6

yes
/r/seduction13/03/25 11:36 AM
7

asking what she thinks of you is very unattractive. imagine leonardo dicaprio asking that lol. it comes off as very uncertain and self-conscious. then the rest of this you made it very logical and transactional. if you lead her to the bedroom she would have probably followed you… just say “let’s go” and assume she will follow. usually she will. you basically didn’t lead this interaction at all and moved it forward very timidly.
/r/seduction13/03/25 12:19 AM
7

just heart her message and don’t reply at this time. it’s an acknowledgment that you received her message but aren’t super invested in her you can re-open her later if she doesn’t text first. vibe a little over text and then try again.
/r/seduction11/03/25 10:58 PM
6

It’s only weird because you make it weird. Girls can tell if you are in your head about it and the anxiety and second guessing will be felt by them. If you make it normal, then it’s easy. Realize that girls like being touched just as much as guys do, if not more. However, they just like being touched in a calibrated way. One tip I recommend is to make touch without looking at what I am touching - i.e. if I take her hand, I am still looking into her eyes. Looking at it draws more attention to it …
/r/seduction11/03/25 03:37 PM
1

My DMs are always open.
/r/seduction11/03/25 04:03 AM
2

Rule number one is have fun. You won’t get laid if you’re not having fun. Start small and work your way up. Quick comments, compliments, cheers, etc. to gain momentum. Try to be a little illogical with the comments. My all time favorite is “I love you”. It isn’t too serious and clearly in jest - play with it. Stay in the sets as long as possible - do not leave them as they don’t respect that. Keep talking and work up the heat. Stay until the END of the night - the best time for quick pulling is …
/r/seduction11/03/25 03:43 AM
1

use video texts of you in your place to get her comfortable with the idea… see that you are normal and your place isn’t a dungeon.
/r/seduction11/03/25 12:55 AM
2

stop caring what other people think of you. if you have the narrative that it’s creepy you’ve already failed. it can either be creepy or it can be fun, it’s your choice… no one else’s. if it’s really that bad then you can move.
/r/seduction10/03/25 08:25 PM
1

start seeing rejection as a reflection of them and not you. it doesn’t matter. it’s a lack of chemistry and nothing more. i will DM you.
/r/seduction10/03/25 06:26 PM
2

The freezing up has a lot to do with self-judgment. You are too judgmental of everything you say. You think you need to say the perfect thing, when in reality you just need to start talking about anything. You need to lower the bar for success - talk to anyone - bartenders, cashiers, etc. Then work your way up to giving strangers compliments, etc.
/r/seduction10/03/25 05:36 PM
5

If you are getting basically zero results, you probably need to re-evaluate a lot of aspects of your life, including your appearance, diet,habits, career, etc. It could just be a few tweaks is all it takes to get momentum going. I usually recommend a two tracked approach - you need to do both online dating and cold approach together, simultaneously. Work the apps, optimize your profile, and get some dates. At the same time, start dipping your toes into cold approach, which is the real bread and …
/r/seduction10/03/25 05:22 PM
4

start really small, like just quick compliments to strangers, talk to cashiers, bartenders, etc. then gradually work your way up to directly approaching the hottest girls. it’s like going to the gym, you need to build up the muscle before bench pressing 350 pounds.
/r/seduction10/03/25 12:41 PM
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You slowly work up the muscle of approaching people in general. Talk to cashiers, bartenders, waiters, start opening strangers, and slowly work your way up to approaching the hot girls. Your body language likely is less than ideal. You want to be loose, relaxed, have a content smile on your face and people in general will be more receptive. Make good eye contact and hold a steady gaze. Don’t dart your eyes quickly. Move slowly - like 30% slower than you would normally move. If you are really str…
/r/seduction10/03/25 03:37 AM
1

I will DM you.
/r/seduction09/03/25 10:39 PM
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This is a great question. I think the answer is yes and no. You have to keep in mind that girls attraction operates on a spectrum. Sometimes they are attracted to you as a 9 out of 10, and other times it falls to a 7 out of 10. Yes, I think some girls have played this game in an attempt to get a guy. Maybe they perceived that guy as higher status than them, so they thought they would raise their status by making it difficult for him. This is rare in my experience. Girls love chasing guys. I thin…
/r/seduction09/03/25 09:35 PM
3

I would need more context on what lead to these ghostings. Did you have sex and then they ghosted? Or are these girls you were just messaging? A woman’s attraction for a man is constantly in flux. For guys it’s pretty binary - yes or no. For girls attraction goes up and down depending on your actions. If you do something attractive her attraction toward you is a 9 out of 10. Do something needy and that attraction might fall to a 6. You probably did some needy stuff that pushed them away. You sho…
/r/seduction09/03/25 08:06 PM
2

You are too judgmental of their initial reactions. The girls will justifiably look at you with skepticism when you talk to them because they are approached by weirdos all the time. don’t take it personally. you need to smile more. and you need to keep talking. if they are listening assume they are attracted.
/r/seduction09/03/25 07:22 PM
1

You are thinking about this too much. You need to talk louder if the music is louder. Even louder than you think. You can also extend your hand (i.e. hand of god) and not say anything to open.
/r/seduction09/03/25 07:03 PM
2

dimly lit music on take her on a quick tour of your place ideally you create enough attraction so she starts making the move but start slow and remember to pull back occasionally
/r/seduction09/03/25 06:56 PM
2

dont take it seriously. feel free to ignore the question and say something yourself. “so i guess we’re dating now” is one i like
/r/seduction09/03/25 06:40 PM
2

Flirting with all 4 girls reflects poorly on you. Think about it from the girls perspective. She sees you flirt with her friend, then her second friend, then her. She is going to think that you are just going to screw anything with a pulse and that they are just a piece of meat. You expressed no preference for one girl over another, therefore you are just a horny dude trying to get laid with anyone. You need to pick a target. You definitely should vibe with all the friends and involve them in th…
/r/seduction09/03/25 01:55 PM
4

It’s not a question of fast or slow, but what is the highest success rate for F-closes, especially with girls that you REALLY like. There is nothing more devastating than running great game on a girl you truly like and then blowing it on the escalation. Bottom line is that you can have a successful escalation either fast or slow. A lot of the escalation is done in advance by running good game over text or in person, generating a high-level of attraction. Realize that if you escalate too quickly …
/r/seduction09/03/25 07:25 AM
10

Use stories of you with girls and having fun partying to create more attraction.
/r/seduction09/03/25 02:57 AM
1

that’s what i used to think, however too many clients get blown out when they approach the 10 on day 1 and get discouraged. they need more momentum first. i wouldn’t send some dude to the gym and tell them to bench press 350 pounds on day 1.
/r/seduction08/03/25 03:59 PM
3

Something is likely off with your vibe when meeting these girls and that is translating to poor conversion rate. You likely need to extend the interaction with the girl to get a more solid number and lead her on instadate. Your text game likely has some level of neediness that is pushing girls away. It’s okay to vibe a little over text and not ask her out right away. How you frame your texts makes a big difference. Escalation failures also imply poor calibration. You want to be escalating less o…
/r/seduction08/03/25 06:18 AM
3

Approaching 3 times per week is not enough volume to get significant results. Frankly you should be doing 3-5 approaches per day minimum. Start small, baby step, and progressively push the interactions further and further. You likely have several sticking points that would be easy to fix if pointed out to you.
/r/seduction08/03/25 06:00 AM
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yes absolutely. plus there are dance meet up groups in major cities that attract a ton of beautiful women… you can learn and game at the same time for super cheap.
/r/seduction07/03/25 03:26 PM
5

Baby steps. You need to be working the dating apps in addition to cold approach. The two work together synergistically because they feed an abundance mindset.
/r/seduction07/03/25 02:35 PM
1

😈
/r/seduction07/03/25 04:47 AM
1

You have the right idea with many of these. I sent you a DM.
/r/seduction07/03/25 01:59 AM
0

you get a different result because you are likely too nice to the hot girls and pedestalize them. These girls get a lot of validation from men online so you need to be the one who never fully validates them.
/r/seduction06/03/25 09:25 PM
9

I will give you some quick tips: you should plan multiple locations within walking proximity. ideally very close to your place or her place. if the vibe is dying in one location lead her to another. make it spontaneous. this gives the illusion of having known each other longer. the vibe should be increasing throughout the night. i tell the girl she looks cute the moment i see her and give her a hug. physical touch barrier is broken immediately and i can escalate a little more. i like to focus on…
/r/seduction06/03/25 09:19 PM
1

Leonardo DiCaprio isn’t going to think twice about her having a BF, because he’s the prize, and neither should you. In night game I’m even more aggressive with this. I will DM you.
/r/seduction06/03/25 07:54 PM
0

no you just change the subject to anything else and then start peppering in flirty push pull type comments again
/r/seduction06/03/25 07:41 PM
3

People’s perceptions about which cities are best is largely dependent on their personal experiences and ethnic/ cultural preferences. That said, these stand out to me: LA, Miami, New York, Chicago, Las Vegas, Austin, San Diego are all great cities in the US. New Orleans during Mardi Gras is legendary as well. Traveling to college towns in the US is an underrated way to meet beautiful women too. Barcelona, Madrid, London, Amsterdam, etc are all great.
/r/seduction06/03/25 05:10 AM
2

When going out solo, you need to be your own cheerleader during the night. Self talk is critical and needs to stay positive. You need to open everyone. Guys, girls, gays, trans, lol doesn’t matter. You gotta talk and keep talking. One exercise I recommend to clients is “Sly’s 5 by 5”. Open 5 sets, with no more than 5 seconds between sets. Once you exit the set you have 5 seconds to enter the next set. It doesn’t matter who, just open. By the 5th set my clients are almost always in a lot better s…
/r/seduction06/03/25 04:12 AM
0

I will DM you
/r/seduction06/03/25 03:57 AM
0

3-5 per day minimum. 20 minimum on weekend nights unless i pull one of my early sets. consistency is key to learning and maintaining.
/r/seduction06/03/25 03:56 AM
8

you didn’t set the vibe right before and during the date. what you call it had nothing to do with that result.
/r/seduction06/03/25 03:44 AM
4

no, it’s all about how you act when you are on the date
/r/seduction06/03/25 03:08 AM
21

more spontaneous. it puts less pressure on the date and leads to less flaking
/r/seduction05/03/25 09:11 PM
1

don’t ask so many questions… if you have to learn new information about her try to do a cold read. “you seem like the type of girl that….” questions comes across as very interview like early on in an interaction. frankly i’d be weirded out by even a hot girl asking me these questions right away. it come across as uncalibrated to the situation like you have an agenda. also, i never bring up other guys, boyfriends, husbands, etc. they are irrelevant. if she brings them up i change the subject as q…
/r/seduction05/03/25 06:55 PM
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Don’t ask if she wants to grab coffee. Assume she wants to. You need to ask if she’s free to grab coffee. Don’t call it a date. just confirm time and location. “let’s meet here at x time, sound good?” also don’t invite until 1-2 days prior to date
/r/seduction05/03/25 04:32 PM
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some common mistakes: texting too quickly after she replies. let her texts breath a bit. build suspense. texting too formally, interview mode like. it’s boring. throw in bad grammar and emojis. you dont need punctuation not moving it forward. seed an activity you could do together or something. then figure out logistics. texting for meetup. being too available- you are a scarce resource and girls should have to work for you. use time constraints. being too needy. if you only text her to hang out…
/r/seduction05/03/25 02:40 PM
1

You need to baby step. First get comfortable talking to strangers in general. Then work your way up in uncomfortableness until you are directly approaching the hottest girls. I will DM you.
/r/seduction04/03/25 07:44 PM
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That’s a fine preference. This guy asked how to overcome the boyfriend objection. It can be done. Yes the cure comes with side effects lol
/r/seduction04/03/25 07:02 PM
1

Read the 6 pillars of self esteem by Nathaniel Branden. Then don’t listen to anyone else on the subject matter.
/r/seduction04/03/25 02:36 PM
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your morals cock blocked you. a boyfriend means nothing. you’d be surprised how many women cheat on their bfs and husbands. stop pedastalizing other dudes like they deserve her more than you. ignore it and proceed as you normally would. change the subject. “so anyway…”
/r/seduction04/03/25 02:26 PM
11

Read the 6 pillars of self esteem by Nathaniel Branden. Two of the pillars are: self acceptance. you cannot change your height so you need to accept yourself as you are and appreciate it anyway. personal integrity. you do not lie to yourself or lie to others. this undermines your self esteem at its core. you know what the answer is. be short and OWN the hell out of it rather than shy away from it. Cheers, Coach Sly
/r/seduction04/03/25 03:52 AM
8

Baby steps, you don’t approach the 10 right away. You learn to get really comfortable talking to the least intimidating people in the environment and slowly work your way up. Pushing your comfort zone a little further each time.
/r/seduction04/03/25 03:02 AM
9

Assume she is attracted and act accordingly.
/r/seduction04/03/25 02:55 AM
8

Two steps forward and one step back. Tease a bit. go a bit further each time then pull back a bit. Sex is a very psychological experience for girls.
/r/seduction04/03/25 12:52 AM
12

Yoga, dance classes, improv class, the bar, the mall, parks, bookstores, clubs/groups, karaoke, trivia, sports leagues.
/r/seduction03/03/25 09:12 PM
18

Be indirect about it. You can mention it but only in passing. Never mention anything too detailed or romantic. Never speak negatively about an ex.
/r/seduction03/03/25 08:52 PM
1

Yes, give it time but do re-open. 1-2 weeks id say. attraction has an expiration date.
/r/seduction03/03/25 02:30 PM
9

the dates should ideally be more spontaneous. don’t schedule too far in advance as that will put more pressure on it and she will be more likely to flake. ideally the date should be within 2-3 days of the invitation. don’t ask her out again on the first text re-opener. send her something more vibey that’s likely to get a reaction (like a video of you doing something fun). you don’t want her to think you run your life around her.
/r/seduction03/03/25 01:40 PM
1

this is overly negative but agree it’s not looking good
/r/seduction03/03/25 01:35 PM
6

No. You need to get past this idea that it’s rude to talk to people. You need to have the mindset that you are handing them a million dollar check if they choose to take it. You are the prize, not her shitty meal.
/r/seduction03/03/25 03:09 AM
1

I will DM you.
/r/seduction03/03/25 03:00 AM
5

You’re not as good as you think. You think a nice job, income, and education will get you girls. WRONG. It’s charisma, boldness, and unshakable self-esteem that is attractive. These are all skills that need to be earned. You don’t learn this by reading a book. You learn it by meeting lots of people of all stripes, including those that are “inferior” to you. You think you are great, meanwhile some junkie who took a couple acting or improv courses is banging lots of those “innocent” high-society g…
/r/seduction02/03/25 11:12 PM
7

not if you make it clear that it’s only for a quick second. act like you are genuinely in a rush because you forgot something. she will pick up on it. sometimes they wait near the entrance and other times they come in and wanna look around. if you’ve run everything properly up to this point it shouldn’t be an issue.
/r/seduction02/03/25 10:32 PM
57

You need to get the logistics of your dates better. Bounce to multiple locations and walk around a bit. It gives the illusion of having known you longer (i.e.in more environments). The dates should be a fun lighthearted vibe, and hold sexual tension. You need to be slowly escalating during the date too. Ideally your home location is within walking distance of the date. At the beginning of the date, I do is invite them to my place for two minutes while i grab something i “forgot”. That gets them …
/r/seduction02/03/25 08:49 PM
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Seems like you got plenty of matches but i’d be really curious what the 125 girls you rejected looked like. You are basically saying that 90% of the girls on these apps are unattractive… . Yes there is a definite bias for unattractive girls to be on these apps, but you might be too picky.
/r/seduction02/03/25 05:00 PM
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It’s not the good looks. Yes that helps, but it’s the charisma. Players know how tickle the girls emotions. Players push girls buttons. One second the girl thinks the guy loves her. The next minute, the girl feels snubbed.
/r/seduction01/03/25 09:33 PM
6

It should be fun. Not a chore.
/r/seduction01/03/25 08:59 PM
3

In your post you talk a lot about your looks, body, your education, job, hobbies,etc. Those might get you in the door for 30 seconds but none of that stuff really matters. You are looking at it all wrong. You can have any type of body, education, job, etc. as long as you OWN it. I know short fat guys that pull hot girls… because they truly don’t care what others think about them and it shows. Based on your post, it’s clear that you probably aren’t secure in your life… that your life is more empt…
/r/seduction28/02/25 11:13 PM
5

Girls attraction level for a guy is constantly in flux. Let’s put it on a 1-10 point scale. You do something attractive at a social setting and her attraction is at a 9.5 in that moment. You do something unattractive and you drop to a 7. Send a low value text and it drops to a 5. Guys attraction levels for girls changes too. It’s just a lot slower and based mostly of physical traits. Undoubtedly your attraction for certain girls has dropped for various reasons. One day the girl is a 10 and sever…
/r/seduction28/02/25 09:20 PM
0

Yes, in fact many of the best pickup artists in the world have done this. Mystery, RSD Tyler, Jeffy, Style….Sly. It has its advantages to get you out of your head, especially as a beginner. You need identity level change and you can project these changes onto a character you are playing. However you don’t need this and it’s probably more harmful in the long run. Shit gets weird after a while playing a character and it gets fatiguing. If you talk to some of the guys i mentioned who have done this…
/r/seduction28/02/25 06:50 AM
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i don’t need or want luck
/r/seduction28/02/25 06:02 AM
2

There is no such thing as a rejection only a lack of chemistry. She had poor taste. The people that “reject” me cease to exist after that moment. They can either be a part of my life or they can continue being NPC wallflowers in my movie. Their opinion means zero. Read the 6 pillars of self esteem by nathaniel branden. Cheers, Coach Sly
/r/seduction28/02/25 05:53 AM
0

useless troll response from an NPC
/r/seduction28/02/25 05:41 AM
-1

Vibe and baby step it towards the meet up. Don’t text too formally. Keep it low investment. Don’t respond too quickly.
/r/seduction28/02/25 03:34 AM
10

It’s better to go out solo or with one wing when you are learning. But the end game is to have friends and women in your life. So you should reach a spot where you are going out to have fun and your friends add to that fun. Ideally your friend group includes several girls so that you can get social proof. Ironically when you go out with the intention to have fun, your game will improve.
/r/seduction27/02/25 07:18 PM
1

Not a lost cause. I will DM you.
/r/seduction27/02/25 05:05 PM
2

Texting is a bridge to meet, for sure. But your texts can’t just be logistics. You need to spike some emotions in there. She’s probably never going to let you know when she’s free. Ironically putting it in her court puts more pressure back on her. She doesn’t want to decide anything. She wants you to take control and LEAD.
/r/seduction27/02/25 04:51 PM
4

She likes you, but you are falling into the trap of asking her out too much without more vibing in between. It gives the impression that you have no other options so you only talk to her to ask her out. Your text, “Let me know when you’re free” implies that you have unlimited time. You always need to do a time constraint. Say you’re busy for several days and can only do thursday. She’s never going to let you know when she’s free. “Let me know when you’re free Your Highness”…implies she’s leading…
/r/seduction27/02/25 04:26 PM
1

Slim down but keep the wide shoulders. Girls like slim guys more than really buff guys on average. Read. Meditate. Get lot of sleep. Talk in front of a camera everyday. Then watch the video and observe yourself.
/r/seduction27/02/25 05:06 AM
1

You have to do more than 20 approaches to get results. Really it will take thousands to get consistently good.
/r/seduction27/02/25 04:59 AM
8

You deserve someone who you have true chemistry with and isn’t trying to use her pussy as leverage to get you into a relationship. She has changed the dynamic where she is the buyer and you are the seller. You probably escalated too quickly without pushing her away enough.
/r/seduction27/02/25 04:06 AM
5

Texting can fizzle out for several reasons. Boring. A lot of guys don’t inject any flirting or playfulness into their text. Formal. Guys text too formally. Perfect grammar and spelling. Use emojis sparingly and let them stand on their own. Investing too much and responding too quickly. Long messages that aren’t going anywhere are unattractive. It signals that you might not have any options. Respond too quickly is the same thing. Give her a chance to double and triple text you. Asking her out too…
/r/seduction26/02/25 05:25 PM
1

Nerd magicians without swag don’t get laid. Cool magicians like Mystery, Criss Angel, David Copperfield get laid way more than you can imagine. Frankly the magic on average should be more attractive as long as you can hold people’s attention. It’s not the magic itself, it’s the persona and charisma. You have to be a full on gangster, not a top hat and suit robot. You need to be edgy.
/r/seduction26/02/25 03:13 AM
3

feeling loose and relaxed. to psych myself up i say to myself “i am the most confident MFer in the universe”
/r/seduction25/02/25 10:42 PM
1

You will meet 100x as many women downtown and have ideal logistics for hanging out.
/r/seduction25/02/25 09:56 PM
3

Manipulation is generally a win-lose situation. You win and others lose. You are coming from a taker mindset with this mentality rather than a giver mindset. “How can i trick someone into sleeping with me?” People will pick up on that vibe and run away. The manipulator reflects a general lack of self esteem. You think that you need tricks to get people to like you rather than just being liked for the value you add, because deep down you are probably insecure about the value you add. Manipulation…
/r/seduction25/02/25 05:04 AM
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You are correct that girls like mysterious guys. So not answering the question adds to the mystery. Also, they like guys who don’t take things too seriously. I’m guessing this dude always joked off her questions in a playful way. “Oh well wouldn’t you like to know young lady?” It’s all about the vibe he was giving off. He maintained his frame, challenged her, and probably made it fun.
/r/seduction25/02/25 04:29 AM
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It’s difficult to say what you are doing wrong without seeing it. Are you talking loud enough? Are you self amused? Are you squared up? are you giving relaxed body language? Are you talking too fast? I suggest getting more organized and take it in baby steps. Also in the grand scheme of things, 30 times is not that much.
/r/seduction25/02/25 03:17 AM
3

cheating on boyfriends and husbands is way more rampant than you’d believe. usually it “just happens.” But you are planning into it, so it’s standard operating procedure as far as game goes. Pretend the husband isnt there and just run your normal stuff. As far as the morals of the situation, that’s up to you. On the one hand she will probably cheat anyway, so why not you. On the other hand she made a sacred vow or something. As far as consequences go… you could get killed. I’ve been threatened s…
/r/seduction24/02/25 08:15 PM
2

Baby steps. You start really small in low stakes interactions and work your way up. It’s like lifting weights at the gym… you don’t start off trying to bench 350 pounds.
/r/seduction24/02/25 12:55 PM
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They gravitate toward the people who are having the most fun. The life of the party. With night game especially you need to be THAT guy. Not some guy. You need to stand out. I like to use crass and dark humor in an obnoxious but calibrated way.
/r/seduction24/02/25 04:48 AM
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Your vibe is probably off.
/r/seduction23/02/25 07:08 AM
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You are probably structuring your dates poorly. You need to structure the date so that there is a chance at sex. Multiple venues should be lined up. You are also not likely moving things forward enough. You also might not be flirting or escalating properly. These are all skills.
/r/seduction23/02/25 02:06 AM
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Your primary girl should always feel like you could find a better candidate. No harm if she sees you chatting up another girl. She will likely get more attracted.
/r/seduction23/02/25 02:02 AM
1

I will DM you.
/r/seduction22/02/25 06:33 PM
13

You won’t get good unless you are willing to go out alone. That’s what separates the men from the boys here. Sink or Swim. Yes it’s uncomfortable at first but in the long run you will be far better off. Going out with friends is often just a crutch to stay in your friend group rather than approaching new people. It’s not necessary to have friends at the venue and might hold you back from meeting new people. You might need a coach to hold you accountable and walk you through the process with baby…
/r/seduction22/02/25 06:22 PM
3

If you are consistently getting make outs then you can get girls to come home with you. You are about 80% of the way there. But the next step is where most struggle because it involves a lot of variables, and luck. Even for elite pickup artists, most targets are lost at this stage because of the luck. You need to have chemistry with the girl. She must like you. If you get to a makeout let’s assume you have this. You need to understand and solve the logistics. Is she with friends? If yes, then yo…
/r/seduction22/02/25 05:00 PM
4

New York for summer months. Miami for winter months. Overall I would choose New York for volume alone. There are also a ton of tourists visiting New York so the opportunities are endless. You will never run out of girls in NY.
/r/seduction22/02/25 12:12 AM
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yes. I’ve gotten rejected on a kiss and totally turned it around so she chased me. to do that you need to start acting more attractive. be seen with other girls. make her jealous. be the one to slow things down.
/r/seduction21/02/25 08:15 PM
4

You were not confident or calibrated enough in your actions.
/r/seduction21/02/25 07:46 PM
1

They don’t do this to guys they really like. Attraction is a spectrum. One minute she could be super attracted to you at a 10/10 level. Five minute later you could say something so unattractive that her attraction for you drops to 0/10. More often than not if the girl is flaking her attraction for you js something like a 6/10. She’s considering it but your game isn’t tight enough to differentiate you from the other guys.
/r/seduction21/02/25 06:55 AM
2

All of dating is a numbers game. Cold approach is the best way to take control of your dating life. You choose how many approaches you do. You choose how to portray yourself, etc. Social circle can keep you trapped unless you already know a lot of people. It’s not a reliable way to attract new prospects unless you are organizing events or the leader of a group. Online Dating is a great supplement to your cold approach game. The two work in tandem because you will feel more abundant. But it is a …
/r/seduction21/02/25 06:32 AM
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I’ve coached guys who went from not doing it once to pulling 4 out of 5 nights, on average. If you have game and run sufficient volume… it’s really just a matter of navigating logistics.
/r/seduction21/02/25 03:41 AM
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It’s certainly possible to go from friends to lovers. But it depends on the context. How long have you been friends? Have you made advances and been rejected by her? In general guys end up in the friend zone because they are too nice. They do everything to not offend the girl and are too nice to escalate sexually. The friendzone lacks sexual tension. You need to lean into the sexual tension more. Stop laughing so much to break the tension. Look into her eyes more and hold a steady calm and relax…
/r/seduction21/02/25 02:56 AM
1

Malls. Stores.
/r/seduction18/02/25 11:53 PM
1

Complaining about her responding late is going to sound butthurt and needy most of the time. There could be a million reasons why she didn’t respond quickly and a lot of those are totally innocent. You have to keep in mind that many of the attractive girls are getting 100+ matches per day. There is a time and place to call a girl out, if she flakes on a date… but it has to be done in a cool, calm, and collected way. Perhaps with a bit of humor. It can never come across as butthurt or needy. Chee…
/r/seduction17/02/25 02:41 PM
1

Everyone has a shit set occasionally. Advanced guys just know how to recover. We don’t beat themselves up over it. We just go onto the next one. You are too judgmental of yourself and that is stifling your natural charisma.
/r/seduction17/02/25 02:37 PM
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Your results will increase 100x. Congratulations on figuring out the secret.
/r/seduction17/02/25 05:14 AM
2

Anything. Can be observational based on something you see in the environment or in here. These are usually the best because they are natural. I’ve gotten laid from “Hi I’m____. What’s up?” more times than I can remember. Another one I like is “you appear rather fashionable this evening….” The vibe is far more important than what you actually say.
/r/seduction17/02/25 04:54 AM
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Night clubs. Lounges. College bars. You want to stay in the set with the girls as long as possible. Keep talking and escalating. Assume it’s on. Do not leave the set. Cheers, Coach Sly
/r/seduction17/02/25 12:48 AM
2

Get in better shape. Hit the gym hard. Eat clean unprocessed food. Your confidence will improve once you stop consuming garbage. Stop pornography if you are using it. That kills your incentive to meet real women. Start small. You don’t have to approach the 10. You don’t even have to start talking with girls. Just make small talk with cashiers, servers, etc. Develop your social confidence in general. Gradually expand your comfort zone until you are able to directly approach the 10. Consider hirin…
/r/seduction16/02/25 11:27 PM
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