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LifestyleCodi_Banks/r/seduction17/05/22 12:57 AM
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FundamentalsCodi_Banks/r/seduction09/06/22 11:33 PM
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Inner Game Codi_Banks/r/seduction25/04/22 05:32 PM
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Outer Game Codi_Banks/r/seduction25/05/22 04:41 PM
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Instead of going straight for a meet up, try going from text to phone call. Then phone call to video call. After that, a date will be much less of a jump, especially for shy girls.
/r/seduction03/04/25 09:56 PM
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Doesn't sound like you want a serious relationship and neither does your boyfriend if he actually brought up to you that his bro was down to spitroast you lol. You are all young. Be open about everything, even if its awkward or uncomfortable. As bad as it might sound, I promise it will be much worse if you arent open about your feelings. Its sounds like you all might actually want the same thing. Don't get to attached and dont let either of them get too attached either.
/r/seduction10/06/22 04:13 AM
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How does one with no balls obtain balls?
/r/seduction10/06/22 03:58 AM
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What stops a person from taking chances? What causes men to behave like pussies?
/r/seduction10/06/22 03:19 AM
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Sorry ma'am. For most women, connection comes first then sex. You try "connecting" with a lot of guys and finding the right one to escalate. For most guys tho, sex comes first before a true connection. Relationships change a lot after sex, and for a guy even HE won't really know how much he likes a girl until he sees her laying in bed next him while feeling that post-nut clarity. Its like a werewolf returning to human form. Guys will try having sex with many women, and picking the one they conne…
/r/seduction10/06/22 02:50 AM
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Sex is different for men. Biologically, psychologically, and culturally. Blame nature or society but don't blame OP.
/r/seduction10/06/22 02:38 AM
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Getting into relationships with women that you arent attracted to is a recipe for pain, at least for the girls you "practice" on. I would suggest you keep pursuing girls you are attracted to, OP. If you do end up going for girls you arent attracted to just to build your relationship skills, at least be honest about not wanting anything long term. Some girls might actually be fine with it.
/r/seduction10/06/22 02:34 AM
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I like all your responses except #8 lol but maybe I'm too jealous. I would understand if its with a girl im just dating but for a wife i feel like bachelorette parties should be a dealbreaker. The main argument she'll make is "oh, you don't trust me?" but its not about trusting her, its the situation. I imagine her tipsy off some drinks getting peer pressured by her horny single friends to do something crazy with these male strippers that probably consider free casual sex to the biggest perk of …
/r/seduction10/06/22 01:23 AM
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Have you ever been in a relationship with a woman that never does anything like this? Because i haven't lol. I understand not wanting to "play her games" but you still need to have some kind of response other than shutting down and becoming distant, right?
/r/seduction10/06/22 01:15 AM
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I feel like you could get away with just looking her in the eyes while flashing a big grin then changing the subject.
/r/seduction09/06/22 11:46 PM
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Its a great opener. The "i know this is random" shows social awareness. The "just thought you were cute" shows confidence and directness. No beating around the bush like when guys try to slither into a conversation by asking directions or for her opinion. Bold, authentic, and socially aware. That is attractive to women, believe it or not.
/r/seduction09/06/22 11:39 PM
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So you've been stringing her along?
/r/seduction02/06/22 06:00 AM
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Sit on his face so he can't see your boobs
/r/seduction02/06/22 04:54 AM
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Text & date more than one girl at a time. That will help you be less needy and you wont worry so much about making the "wrong" move.
/r/seduction02/06/22 01:48 AM
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You sound emotional lol. I know you are hurt but you shouldn't show it to the girl if you want to get with her still. Maybe something like this: >Hey Laura, hope you feel better. How about you just go ahead and take some time to rest up and focus on work? Let me know when you do end up having some free time. Take care, enjoy your day. Don't work too hard ;) Then ghost her.
/r/seduction01/06/22 11:11 PM
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They'll compliment hot male celebrities in your presence to see if you get insecure or upset. They'll wait a long time to reply over text. They'll criticize you're outfit or something you did. They'll intentionally misinterpret something you said and act like you offended them. They'll tell you that your are a player and just want sex. Just imagine a really toxic insecure guy pretending to be nice and confident. Shit tests are ways to expose the insecure guys and reveal the ones that are truly c…
/r/seduction01/06/22 08:05 PM
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Tell her "i dont want a relationship either, I'm just trying to hang out and make fun memories. We can still do that"
/r/seduction01/06/22 07:55 PM
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I feel embarrassed because she works at a shop I always go to, dont know if I should go back NEVER feel embarrassed or ashamed of showing interest in a girl! Go to the shop, make eye contact, have a friendly smile and wave or say "hi" like its no big deal. Just act like nothing happened lol. Its only going to be weird if you make it weird. Most likely she'll mirror your emotions. If you feel awkward she'll feel awkward. Even if she starts off looking nervous just keep your relaxed friendly body …
/r/seduction01/06/22 07:27 PM
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If a girl complained that im not responding quickly enough that would be a huge red flag lol. Sounds like something a stalker would say. Stop being so clingy OP. This must be the only girl you're texting if you are this invested in her. Instead of relying solely on her, try talking to other girls. I would bet you arent the ONLY guy she is texting so don't feel guilty about it. It would be a bit much to bring it up but at this point but i'm losing the interest because texting that way is just not…
/r/seduction01/06/22 06:51 PM
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Youth is one thing you never get back once you lose it. Unfortunately in the dating world, women are judged ruthlessly by their looks and age. Just like there is a large group of incels lamenting that women are gold-diggers that only want a rich and tall "Chad", the femcel equivalent is women complaining that men are predatory manipulators that only want young naive girls. The little nugget of truth in those statements will be more exaggerated the more jaded a person is.
/r/seduction01/06/22 06:02 PM
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If you're really really ugly you need to either be the toughest guy in the room or the funniest guy in the room. Take boxing lessons then go to an open-mic night at a comedy club. You're confidence will skyrocket guaranteed.
/r/seduction01/06/22 05:41 PM
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I don't really agree lol. Social anxiety is a growing problem and I know this might shock a lot of guys here but women are more likely to suffer from anxiety than men are. I know plenty of women that are very uncomfortable around people and self conscious about their appearance. Confidence is something that is important for everybody to develop, especially us guys. Don't hate on girls that are confident too lol. Also people are most attracted to the most attractive people. Duh. Just because a pe…
/r/seduction01/06/22 04:36 PM
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By spraying it with cologne you showed neediness. You should have farted on it to assert your dominance.
/r/seduction01/06/22 07:18 AM
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>There is a chapter about how to talk about anything using improv in this ebook with couples of examples. ​ There he goes again, pushing this e-book
/r/seduction01/06/22 12:53 AM
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Part of being successful in any endeavor is knowing how to play with the hand you were dealt. Being tall, rich, good looking and having a big dick is nice but none of that is really necessary. Its just easier.
/r/seduction31/05/22 08:55 PM
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Not fake arrogance that feels like it has something to prove, but deep and real confidence that comes from knowing who you are and what you’re worth! And THAT is the real challenge lol. Yes overall confidence is key but its not something most guys can just fake. Developing confidence means sitting down with a pencil and paper and just figuring out who you are, who you want to be, and making a plan on how to get there. Things like gratitude, humility, and just not judging yourself so harshly are …
/r/seduction31/05/22 07:40 PM
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Instead of worrying about people making fun of you, i think you should start making fun of other people lol. Think of random people you know in life and write down 1-2 sentences roasting them. Practice some being mean-spirited and some being light-hearted. It would be good for you OP. Making fun of people is not a big deal. If you practice having a sense of humor about it, and learning you have the ability to make fun of others, it wont bother you so much.
/r/seduction30/05/22 11:28 PM
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OP, be completely honest: about how many girls have you approached since the beginning of the year? How many girls have you tried having a conversation with, getting to know her and letting her get to know you? Most importantly, how many girls have you actually invited to hang out?
/r/seduction30/05/22 11:21 PM
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Girls love the chase OP. Sex is their ultimate trump card to "get" a guy. Once they know they can have you without playing their trump card, they have no reason to ever use it. Once she realized she can have you, the tension was gone, the game was over. She won. But you are smart enough to realize what you did wrong so i dont think you really need advice. Its alright OP, even Tom Brady didn't win every Super Bowl.
/r/seduction30/05/22 09:08 PM
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Let her reply to your text first before you send out any more. If she ghosts you for the rest of the day, set up a little challenge for yourself. Don't reach out to her until you've gotten at least one other girl's phone number. You will have much more confidence and be willing to move on, which itself will cause you to be more attractive and make decisions that will spark attraction.
/r/seduction30/05/22 07:32 PM
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Cheating isn't just sex. Cheating is betrayal. Cheating reveals a deep flaw in a person's character. Its a person choosing short-term pleasure over the human emotions of someone they promised loyalty to. Cheaters hate being cheated on themselves. They know how terrible what they are doing is, which is why they are hiding it in the first place. Many guys are unaware that these ruthlessly manipulative selfish people can have cute faces and play innocent. This is not just in sexual relationships bu…
/r/seduction30/05/22 05:52 PM
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this morning I asked her if we can set a date and she hasn't replied since How much time have you given her to reply? Couldn't she still be thinking about it? She could be trying to clear her schedule right now before answering you.
/r/seduction30/05/22 05:17 PM
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In my opinion toxic women like that are much more common than guys think. Becoming a toxic boy and assuming women are all like that is not a bad strategy for short term success.
/r/seduction30/05/22 05:16 PM
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Here is a nice quote by Alan Watts: "Some people try to say there is good and bad with a small “g” and small “b,” and they together constitute Good with a capital “G”. Or one might say that humanity and the good of humanity is a curious combination of beneficence and rascality, of reason and passion. And if human beings didn’t have those two sides they would be less than human. Man is, in a certain sense, redeemed by his passions, redeemed by being something of a rascal. Because if he weren’t he…
/r/seduction30/05/22 04:51 PM
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Fellas, pay attention. This is the girl you have a crush on at school/work.This is the girl you spend 2 hours thinking of what to text her and wait the rest of the day for her to reply. She's the one that you get excited when she smiles at you, and nervous if she ever starts a conversation with you. What does she REALLY want? Not some little pal to do her chores. Not a shoulder to lean on when she's sad. She wants some good dick. Treat every girl you've ever had a crush on like she is OP and you…
/r/seduction30/05/22 04:31 PM
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You are just horribly annoying but I respect your wrong opinion, I only wish you shared more of them. What advice are you talking about lol? The closest thing to advice you mentioned was "Be yourself!" and you can't say I haven't done that pretty well. I think anybody following our little exchange here can see I provided a pretty good account of where I'm coming from. You on the other hand have managed to make 10+ posts and still say nothing. You say I make assumptions about what you want but in…
/r/seduction30/05/22 05:50 AM
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You are overthinking things OP lol. Watch this video https://youtu.be/1t0Lj-CYRqU
/r/seduction30/05/22 04:47 AM
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Thank you so much for your thoughtful reply! I very much appreciate your response. I will take your advice to heart. Thanks again.
/r/seduction30/05/22 04:31 AM
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That is a good example! Thank you. Thats actually a problem i have myself, especially at work. I sometimes even end up neglecting my own duties helping coworkers with their duties
/r/seduction30/05/22 04:29 AM
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I saw one comment where the guy suggested actively cutting the girl off when she’s complaining about something so she “gets the message that you’re not her support toy”. That’s fucked. You’re not asserting dominance or being sexy, just being an asshole. Well not many people want to get trapped in a position where they are someone's therapist. Women certainly hate having to act like a guys mother constantly cheering them up and listening to them complain, i think its pretty fair for a guy to want…
/r/seduction30/05/22 04:21 AM
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I get what you mean. OP could certainly have been more tactful about it how would you feel if a woman you are interested in and talking to blew you off I though his post referred to women that arent interested. And is he really advocating blowing her off? Or them needing to instantly answering "every" message? I feel like you embellished a few things to make a point there. The more generous interpretation of his point would be something like Think of it this way. If you have a career and are bus…
/r/seduction30/05/22 03:12 AM
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What is one example of a common boundary that "nice guys" don't establish?
/r/seduction30/05/22 02:53 AM
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In a relationship, women view anything that takes a man's attention as competition and will hate it. Instead of letting women change what you choose as your hobby, practice not caring what others think and doing what you want.
/r/seduction30/05/22 02:42 AM
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Since you seen to also be against double texting, what exactly do you disagree about with OP? Should a guy keep texting? Instead of moving on and/or waiting for the women to reach out first?
/r/seduction30/05/22 02:30 AM
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This sounds like something Hoodville would post lmao.
/r/seduction30/05/22 02:23 AM
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r/incest
/r/seduction30/05/22 02:22 AM
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Don't confuse vulnerability with weakness. Vulnerability is a form of strength. However, generally people dont want to be around negative people. Its alright to be negative sometimes but even in those moments try to deliver it with a smile and sense of humor. Remember this poem: Laugh, and the world laughs with you; Weep, and you weep alone; For the sad old earth must borrow its mirth, But has trouble enough of its own." Ella Wheeler Wilcox
/r/seduction30/05/22 02:10 AM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/v0lm4t/comment/iah8eoj/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3 I'm in this comment thread with a female poster and I feel like I'm being an obnoxious asshole but I don't know what exactly I'm doing wrong. I have this effect on many women. At first when they don't know me very well we are friendly and nice but the longer we interact the more fed up she gets with me and eventually she starts treating me like her annoying little brother lol. Teasing,…
/r/seduction30/05/22 01:33 AM
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Well help me out then buddy! From my perspective you aren't actually saying much. I'm not really making assumptions, I'm just thinking out loud & sharing my opinions here. This is me genuinely trying to "be myself" instead of just politely nodding my head and not contributing anything. Let me go ahead and try to say what I think you want me to say lol: How are you feeling? What do you actually want?
/r/seduction30/05/22 01:27 AM
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Omg i dont take a long time to text everyone back everytime. Its not like thats my female texting protocol or anything. Anyone ever tell you that you make a lot of assumptions about what you think girls like. I wasn't talking about you specifically lol! I meant in general. It's not all about you, you know? And yes I admit I rolled over your cliche advice but only because there isn't much to say about it. You admit yourself its a generic response. I'd like to ask again if there was anything you d…
/r/seduction30/05/22 12:35 AM
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Well it wasn't easy but I was able to get a non-sarcastic somewhat straight answer from you, even if it was the generic "Be yourself!" kind of advice. Many guys aren't really fit to be in a relationship with women yet. Their "true" selves are bitter, insecure, and clingy. Personally I think most woman would be repulsed by that kind of guy if he just expressed his true nature lol. If these guys were honest they'd tell girls from the jump that they're really just looking to fuck them and aren't re…
/r/seduction30/05/22 12:13 AM
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Well, usually the more sarcastic a woman is with me, the more she hates me. Before you start cursing me out did you disagree with anything I've said so far? Also what you just posted is going towards what i was asking earlier; in the process of getting to know somebody, what qualities do you find attractive and which are unattractive? Especially in texting. Personally I think being dull and boring is the number 1 turn off but an older lady's perspective would be more valuable imo. Just curious w…
/r/seduction29/05/22 11:45 PM
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Haha i guess women don't really know what they're attracted to. Neither do men really. Its all a mystery isn't it? Out of our control for the most part.
/r/seduction29/05/22 11:34 PM
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Fair enough lol. Two questions: How do you know if you ARE attracted to him? What would convince you that he's NOT attractive? A guys time & attention is what we use to get girls. Its dumb to be in a position when you are pouring all of that on one single girl and she's not interested. I think OP is just advocating that we avoid that mistake and move on instead of pestering women. Some guys are out here sending 10 messages in a row over the span of a month trying to get a response from the same …
/r/seduction29/05/22 11:25 PM
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What does "have some work done" mean?
/r/seduction29/05/22 11:18 PM
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Nobody really enjoys texting with somebody they arent attracted to or interested in, man or woman. If you're not a super good looking guy then you need to demonstrate some level value to get her invested and give her a reason to be attracted to you. Some guys do nothing to build attraction and try to get at girls with dry boring texts that make her feel like she's filling out an survey. "What are you doing? Where are you from? Do you have any pets? What do you do for fun? What is your favorite f…
/r/seduction29/05/22 11:17 PM
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Was it a guy you were attracted to or just some simp?
/r/seduction29/05/22 11:09 PM
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There are different levels of trust. I can trust someone to return a pencil i lent them but not trust them with my personal secrets. I try to give everyone a very low basic level of trust that i give to every stranger BUT I dont ever allow people to get into positions where I will have to depend on them if I can avoid it. I won't even consider mentioning any fears, vulnerabilities, weaknesses, etc. unless they do first and even then i'll only consider it. They only time ill let somebody be in a …
/r/seduction29/05/22 10:43 PM
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What are some examples of being friendly, but not too friendly? Also what are some common mistakes we should avoid? This seems like the area where most guys mess up. It feels like it takes a lot of nuance.
/r/seduction29/05/22 09:04 PM
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wrong
/r/seduction29/05/22 08:02 PM
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Lmao you guys are blowing things way out of proportion. This guy was asking for fashion tips geared towards fat dudes. The only fights he got into were with people that ignored his request and just said "stop being so fat, fatty". theres nothing wrong with getting a boost from confidence by making yourself attractive! most normal well adjusted humans do. why act like hes defining his entire sense of self worth from it? he just asked for some advice to help in the short-term. that doesn't mean he…
/r/seduction29/05/22 08:00 PM
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This video will help you OP https://youtu.be/IeTtQ_J6Go0 Grow a beard to hide your double chin. Grow your hair long on the top and short on the sides so your head doesn't look so round. Stay well groomed. Wear dark colors because they are slimming. Pay the extra money to get your clothes fitted at a tailor. This is extra important for fat guys. DONT wear graphic tees in public lol. Save that for pajamas or exercising. Wear a watch and chain. Wear a nice cologne. Also working on having a commandi…
/r/seduction29/05/22 07:37 PM
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High value men don't date single moms.
/r/seduction29/05/22 06:03 PM
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If you can sleep with a lot of attractive girls, you will have a MUCH better chance of getting a high quality woman to date long term.
/r/seduction29/05/22 06:01 PM
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I've gotten back into watching Patrice O'Neal dating advice and OP's philosophy sounds similar to his: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AmaDC8jR4m0 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GWgVtYllJtg Not sure how effective it is. If you tell a girl right off the bat you just want to bone her but arent ready to do anything for her she's probably going to feel insulted lol. You have to project some kind of value for her to even consider participating in that kind of relationship with you before you lay dow…
/r/seduction29/05/22 06:00 PM
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What are some tips for being nice but not being a simp?
/r/seduction29/05/22 05:16 PM
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Im guessing she'd stop smiling and start walking away
/r/seduction29/05/22 06:44 AM
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I know im probably pestering you now lol but can you post an example of a "little" dig? I feel like the name and height weren't exactly little but i don't know what would be a more harmless version of teasing. Maybe teasing her outfit/hair? Or mocking her pronunciation of words since she stutters some times? Those aren't really permanent things so maybe they arent as bad
/r/seduction29/05/22 06:23 AM
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How would i even know she's comfortable enough for me to tease her? I dont even know what i would be watching for. If you have some ideas for more light hearted jokes or teasing i would love to hear it. I just dont want to be a boring guy making forgettable small talk
/r/seduction29/05/22 06:11 AM
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Interesting. I have a female acquaintance I know and her name is Abigail. She's very young but i wanted to tease her by saying that is an old-lady name. Is that too mean or rude? Or just a dumb comment in general? Shes also very short and i wanted to tease her about her height but again is that going too far? Her name and height are things she can't really change so i don't want to come off as a dick. I see her almost every day but ive never really had am actual conversation with her. I wanted t…
/r/seduction29/05/22 05:43 AM
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Can someone post a a good example of negging and a bad example of negging? I feel like i need an actual example to understand what this even means lol
/r/seduction29/05/22 05:16 AM
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How do i learn to read a situation? Any tips?
/r/seduction29/05/22 04:37 AM
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Make him feel like a man! Make him feel strong, bold, manly, etc. Ask him if he's been going to the gym. Ask him to flex his arm. When he does, ask to squeeze his bicep. Pretend you are impressed by his muscles. Or pretend you are scared of a mouse or spider and ask him to kill it for you. Wrap your arms around his arm like youre scared. Squeeze him from behind and hide behind him. If touching him catches him off guard tell him "sorry i got caught up in the moment" The easiest thing would just b…
/r/seduction29/05/22 04:26 AM
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What if a girl says strawberry pop tarts are the best pop tart flavor and the cinnamon flavor is overrated? Would it be petty to tell her she is wrong? Or should i just tell her i respect her (wrong) opinion?
/r/seduction29/05/22 04:08 AM
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I would love some examples OP
/r/seduction29/05/22 03:47 AM
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Send her a dick pic and pretend it was an accident. This will spike her emotions and build arousal.
/r/seduction29/05/22 02:36 AM
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I love posts like this more than any other on this board. Keep it up OP! You are on the righteous path!
/r/seduction29/05/22 01:25 AM
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you know what would REALLY help you? talking to other girls if she is the only girl youre talking to, you are going to focus on her too much and be desperate that things work out perfectly with her. if you have other girls youre talking to, you wont care as much. just talk to other girls, even ones you arent attracted to. just have a bunch of different girls numbers and chat them all up. you will look like youre busy and have lots of options, and thats attractive to a girl. being desperate and c…
/r/seduction29/05/22 01:02 AM
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Watch this video OP https://youtu.be/fCXrjl1M3kY
/r/seduction29/05/22 12:12 AM
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Don't reach out to her again. Since she follows you on social media try to just post yourself going kit and enjoying your life. Especially if you can post yourself in the company of some girls. If shes interested she'll reach out again.
/r/seduction28/05/22 11:37 PM
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Tell him what you're doing on the weekend then ask him what he's doing. Whatever he says, pretend you are super interested, say something like "wow that sounds way more fun that what i had planned lol" "yeah id love to do (his activity) some day" and just keep strong eye contact and a big smile while while waiting for his reply
/r/seduction28/05/22 11:29 PM
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I know its frustrating constantly getting the "sorry i have a boyfriend" response but asking "are you single" makes it look like you want to jump right into a relationship. That seems a little needy, especially if its to a girl that you just met. Make the girl EARN a relationship lol. That's the man's equivalent of sex. Don't give it up unless you have to, and only after you get what YOU want first. Thats the game. It should start off superficially: "hey i thought you looked cute. Lets chat and …
/r/seduction28/05/22 10:09 PM
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Yes! Many problems that prevent men from approaching & succeeding with women have to do with confidence. Learning to fight helps with so much. Discipline, routine, fitness, having strong male role models, integrating your aggressive/"bad" side in a healthy way, making friends, taking risks & dealing with whatever the consequences may be, and finally just a general sense of belonging. There are so many deeper lessons to learn from fighting that you'll figure out on your own but one i really want …
/r/seduction28/05/22 09:50 PM
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You remind me of Patrice O'Neal lol. Specifically these 2 videos https://youtu.be/E94VlFmqJko https://youtu.be/GWgVtYllJtg Seems like a very blunt way to tell a woman what you want but maybe its all in how you say it.
/r/seduction28/05/22 08:25 PM
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Do women respond to ultimatums like this?
/r/seduction28/05/22 07:27 PM
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I feel like both the girls are going to feel like you're friendzoning them. On the other hand, once they see that other girls are interested in you, it will make you appear much more attractive and might cause them to chase you harder. The most important thing you need to keep in mind is if you act like you're doing something bad or wrong they ARE going to take it that way and get upset. If you act like you're doing something normal and it's all good, they'll take it that way instead. Don't act …
/r/seduction28/05/22 06:11 PM
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Just curious but how many women have you approached since the start of the year? How many do you WANT to approach before the end of the year? Pick a number, Im serious. Having a girlfriend will be a big responsibility and if you arent ready you are going to end up hurt. First try to make some male friends. Then work up to platonic female friends. Then try approaching/attracting women. Then you can try dating. After you get the hang of making conversation, building rapport, developing attraction …
/r/seduction28/05/22 06:03 PM
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Try to get proof of them cheating and ruin his marriage 😂 Fuck them lmao. They deserve it
/r/seduction28/05/22 05:44 PM
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She's beautiful AND intelligent
/r/seduction28/05/22 06:57 AM
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I fucking KNEW I wasnt the only one noticing this! I actually downloaded that e-book and read the whole thing. The advice is incredibly basic. These phony advertisements keep saying how "the section on improv was very useful!" Lmao c'mon.
/r/seduction28/05/22 06:49 AM
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Try the "Waking Up" app by Sam Harris. Its worth every penny
/r/seduction28/05/22 06:35 AM
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Write out everything you think could have gone wrong. Im serious too, try to visualize the worst case scenario if you asked that girl out. Get as creative as you want. This will help you understand how your mind works and let you vent those fears & frustrations.
/r/seduction28/05/22 06:28 AM
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I smiled back but didn't go and talk to her as I got very nervous. Let's do a little visualisation exercise OP! First, what is the absolute worst thing you think could have happened if you approached her? Second what would be the absolute best case scenario if you approached her?
/r/seduction28/05/22 06:15 AM
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Some of your closest friends in life will be people for whom the only value they add to your life is genuinely caring about you, being pleasant to be around, opening up about their life, listening when you open up about yours, maybe cracking some dumb jokes and laughing at your jokes (even the not-so-funny ones lol). You don't have to be a genius. You dont have to have money. You don't have to be a supermodel. You don't need to have valuable "connections". Or know how to play guitar, do stand-up…
/r/seduction28/05/22 04:55 AM
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This is great advice. Introducing humor will put her at ease and as soon as she laughs it will help you relax too. You dont even really have to make her laugh, just getting a girl to smile will massively boost your mood when you are first doing approaches. Even rejections sting way less when you manage to make a girl smile first. A lot of times just approaching a girl and telling her you think she's cute is enough to give her a huge smile. Daygame approaches don't happen as often as some of us m…
/r/seduction28/05/22 02:46 AM
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KEEP GOING! Even if you are bitching out, keep going! You can try this exercise as a warm up https://youtu.be/0xUUEWW1baY I posted this in another thread. Maybe it will help you: Ask yourself how many girls you've approached this year so far? Ask yourself how can a man get a girl of he's not approaching them? I don't know what image pops into your head when you think of the word "girlfriend" but you need to realize there are girls out there that would consider all their dreams answered if they h…
/r/seduction28/05/22 02:31 AM
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Some girls are bad matches. Some are good. And some are great. Considering all the possibilities, hypothetically shouldn't there be one that is the "best" match? Maybe not perfect, but better than all the others?
/r/seduction28/05/22 02:25 AM
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Despite being hurt by all this she still planned out a super romantic date for us the weekend I got back, but I was flakey about it (tired after trip) at some point she got pushed too far and blocked me on everything. Damn dude no wonder lol. Sounds like she grew a spine. You should have tried to apologize in person or at least over the phone. Text is way too impersonal, and it seems like her problem with you was related to feeling neglected and taken for granted. Apologizing through text just r…
/r/seduction28/05/22 02:11 AM
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Wear chokers
/r/seduction28/05/22 01:45 AM
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Saying that you're meeting a girl could make you seem tryhard like you're trying to brag, which might make you appear needy. Saying that you're meeting somebody but not telling her the gender would be better. It will get her thinking without seeming like you're trying to shove it in her face. If she tries to ask about the gender of your friend, dodge her questions. She'll get the hint
/r/seduction28/05/22 01:24 AM
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Look up what a "shit test" is OP. Sometimes girls will say things to test how confident you are. Sometimes they are very obviously playful, those are easy to handle. Sometimes they are not so playful, and an insecure guy will blow up over it. Just stay relaxed, playful, and treat everything like a joke. Instead of getting defensive, agree & exaggerate to show you don't care. When flirting, being playful, confident, and building sexual tension is what will serve you best. Being defensive, insecur…
/r/seduction28/05/22 12:41 AM
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How do you know she's cheating?
/r/seduction28/05/22 12:20 AM
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Cheating isn't just sex. Cheating is betrayal. Cheating is choosing the short-term pursuit of pleasure as more important than the human emotions of the lover you promised loyalty to. A person with integrity would end the relationship before engaging in another one. Even cheaters hate being cheated on. They know how much they are hurting another person. That is a huge character flaw and not one to ever take lightly. Can they realize they were wrong and have a change of heart? Sure. So can a thief…
/r/seduction27/05/22 10:46 PM
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Ask yourself how many girls you've approached this year so far? Ask yourself how can a man get a girl of he's not approaching them? I don't know what image pops into your head when you think of the word "girlfriend" but you need to realize there are girls out there that would consider all their dreams answered if they had you in their life. Women out there that NEED someone like you to brighten up their day. As shy as you might be, there are women out there even more shy than you. As worried of …
/r/seduction27/05/22 08:12 PM
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Why they talk shit like that? Be fair, and says that you dont like someone Men are big and strong. Women are little and not very strong. If i guy tells a girl he didn't like her and she gets angry, oh well too bad. But if a girl tells a guy she doesn't like him and he gets angry, thats scary and maybe even dangerous. Women have to worry about making guys angry, so when they don't like a guy they try to tell him in a way to not hurt his feelings. Or sometimes they just dont do it at all. Its not …
/r/seduction27/05/22 05:35 PM
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Thank you! In also want to say that in person its not so much what you say, its how you say it. You don't have to worry so much about the exact words or topics, just make strong eye contact to show desire, and be in a good friendly mood. Whatever you say, even if you're being "negative" and complaining, will sound better if you do it with a sense of humor and a smile. Just focus on making her day a little better. If she always feels good when she sees you, she's going to want to see you more oft…
/r/seduction27/05/22 04:48 PM
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Because talking to you was about as exciting as filling out a survey lol. Try to make her laugh! Women are much more in tune with their emotions so more than anything she's going to remember how you make her feel. Looks like you made her feel bored, zero emotions. In person its much easier to compensate by having an exciting tone of voice, an interested facial expression, and overall friendly body language. You can't project all that in text so its much more likely to come off as dry. You either…
/r/seduction27/05/22 04:40 PM
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Can my goal just be to get swole? Or does it need to be something more concrete like "start my own business" or "run a marathon" and stuff like that?
/r/seduction27/05/22 04:29 PM
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Is he a military guy? They usually have that vibe. Professional athletes too. Sometimes guys that have done prison time also have it. Its usually someone who has developed a goal greater than themselves, endured much suffering, and become clear in exactly who they are both good and bad. What are his stats btw? Height, weight, how muscular is he, is his voice deep, does he speak slowly, what's his body language like, does he smile, does he make a lot of eye contact?
/r/seduction27/05/22 04:13 PM
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What if you never get any "Fuck Yeahs" outside of fat 35+ single moms?
/r/seduction27/05/22 04:05 PM
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So you write her back and chat and if appropriate you ask why she didn’t text earlier Unless you are a parent saying that to your kid its never appropriate to ask someone WHY they didn't text earlier. It makes you look incredibly desperate.
/r/seduction27/05/22 04:04 PM
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Text her that lmao "who broke up with you this time?"
/r/seduction27/05/22 04:00 PM
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Text her back "who is this?" Or text something like "damn girl we had a great time last night. How'd you sleep? 😉" Just fuck with her. Chances are she's using you for attention. Use her for entertainment. Have fun with it lol
/r/seduction27/05/22 03:53 PM
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If a girl shows interest in a really blatant way and you don't reciprocate she will either feel like you rejected her or like you are intimidated by her. Both those are pretty big turn-offs for women. You should go for it anyway but if she ends up rejecting you after showing interest earlier it will probably be for one of those reasons.
/r/seduction26/05/22 11:15 PM
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Are you open and friendly? Do you make eye contact, smile, and say hi often? Or might you be intimidating? Maybe you have closed off body language and make eye contact with a blank stare, or even avoid eye contact altogether. If you really are attractive and confident that might make you even more intimidating to insecure women, and most women are actually pretty insecure. Try smiling and saying hello more often.
/r/seduction26/05/22 11:10 PM
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I can understand a guy wanting to bang a girl while not having feelings for her. However a guy wanting a girl to have feelings for him while he's not having feelings for her? Like, why? Are you just wanting emotional support and you feel like she is your best chance? I imagine this is how women think when they friendzone a guy. Instead of breaking this girls heart, go buy a puppy. Also, have enough confidence in yourself to pursue women you are actually attracted to, not just easy targets that y…
/r/seduction26/05/22 10:51 PM
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Im just saying if a girl is moderately attractive, it wont make much of a difference if she's a surgeon or if she works at Costco.
/r/seduction26/05/22 07:11 PM
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Listen to these songs and absorb as much as you can https://youtu.be/a-eS9sEqdeQ https://youtu.be/LOTf6EXI-Uw https://youtu.be/O9q_Z4xXTkU https://youtu.be/bQ0u2jjXs_o https://youtu.be/NabmJWtYK5c https://youtu.be/ufeysrzU1Xk I guarantee if you fully synchronize with the vibe, you can pull 80% of girls that say they're "only into black guys"
/r/seduction26/05/22 07:02 PM
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Guys will use a woman's desire for attention/love to get sex from her just like how girls will use a man's desire for sex to get attention/love from them. A girl getting boned then kicked to the curb is pretty much the female equivalent of being strung along only to be friendzoned. If you don't want to get used, make a guy work for it. Make him prove his feelings are real and he actually respects before you give it up.
/r/seduction26/05/22 04:45 PM
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I never used the word 'date' Why not?
/r/seduction26/05/22 04:05 PM
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In public, have you never seen an unattractive man with an average (or even attractive) girlfriend? I see it all the time. Sure there might be a minimum threshold of "attractiveness" to get your foot in the door but the bar as much lower than most guys seem to think. Good hygiene, grooming, and fashion is enough most of the time.
/r/seduction26/05/22 04:01 PM
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A girl could be broke, shy, unintelligent, have poor social skills, live with her parents, not have a drivers license, have no friends, have no skills, have no hobbies and just be a really passive person that doesn't ever take initiative BUT if she's moderately attractive she can still get a guy just by showing interest. If you're a guy, fitness and attractiveness can absolutely boost your results but if you're lacking you can compensate for it with things like confidence, wealth, intelligence, …
/r/seduction26/05/22 03:46 PM
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You are leaving her alone by not contacting her or by not staying in the conversation unless she gives signs she wants it Maybe i misread the OP but isn't she already ignoring him? Either way, you are giving her all the control right here. She decides when they can talk. She decides when they can't talk. She decides how close they will be and for how long. Etc. It's disrespectful and immature to not say hi when you meet someone you talked to before. Not if they specifically said to leave them al…
/r/seduction26/05/22 02:33 PM
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In a normal situation, yeah. But one where she specifically asked him to leave her alone? Its totally warranted.
/r/seduction26/05/22 01:54 PM
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That's great, I'm happy for you OP! Just curious but can you give us some examples specific things you said to poke fun and flirt? I think i could really benefit from this lol
/r/seduction26/05/22 04:52 AM
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You know, I would really love to get a woman's opinion on this. Are there any females lurking that are willing to chime in?
/r/seduction26/05/22 04:47 AM
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Here's a dumb question: what if you're married to her lol? Or even just boyfriend/girlfriend? Does consent not matter anymore or do you still need to ask for permission first?
/r/seduction26/05/22 04:30 AM
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Game is more than just verbal. In fact, most of communication itself is non-verbal. By leaning in for a kiss, you ARE asking for consent. She can either lean in too (yes) or pull away (no). You disagree with that?
/r/seduction26/05/22 04:25 AM
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What about hugging? Holding hands? "May i hold your hand?" Lmao. Unless she already really likes you, you're gonna look like a weenie.
/r/seduction26/05/22 04:19 AM
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Sounds needy and approval-seeking. If you don't want to follow the escalation ladder, you should just lean in very slowly and give her plenty of time/space to pull away before your lips touch. That's usually how women reject a kiss. Some of these girls have head movement like Floyd Mayweather lol. They'll be fine as long as you don't try to do it faster than they can react. Are you going to ask permission every step of the way? "I would like to formally request permission to fondle your booty, m…
/r/seduction26/05/22 04:14 AM
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some girls told me if a guy flirted or talked right away, that shows girls he is desperate. And might get rejected right away. On the other hand, if you play hard to get, as a guy, it shows you have had girls her type or so and she isn't all that Having all of this running through your head when you are just trying to approach is one of the big reasons so few guys actually do it. "Its not what you say, its how you say it". Don't stress so much about the specific action you take, focus more on wh…
/r/seduction26/05/22 12:08 AM
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FAT roommate You sound a little bitter about this yourself lmao
/r/seduction25/05/22 11:50 PM
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Try smiling too lol. Just curious but are YOU uncomfortable with random girls coming up to you? People will usually match your energy so if you are self-conscious in those situations you could be making them feel self-conscious too. Try being more positive and relaxed then see if they relax a bit too. Treat them like you are already friends with them and most of the time people will play along.
/r/seduction25/05/22 11:40 PM
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If you think she's out of your league, she is. If you think she's not out of your league, she's not. What you're doing is rejecting yourself before she has a chance to. At least give it a shot buddy! The worst she could do is say "no" and it looks like you've already made peace with that possibility.
/r/seduction25/05/22 11:24 PM
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Maybe you look friendly from far away but up close you intimidate them. What is your body language like when they get in your personal space? Do you smile? Try to make eye contact? Stand up straight? If you talk, what do you say? Do you have a deep voice or a higher pitched voice? Do you look distracted or do you give them your full attention?
/r/seduction25/05/22 11:14 PM
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Maybe they think you're a drug dealer and want to pick up.
/r/seduction25/05/22 10:55 PM
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It sounds like shes shy and has a crush on you. Have you ever noticed anything that would make you think otherwise?
/r/seduction25/05/22 10:41 PM
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We can't answer that because that's up to her. No matter what you do, if you try to contact her before she tries to contact you then you'll come off as clingy. Move on, make other friends and talk to other girls. If she sees you happy and having fun with other people, especially girls, she'll probably want to be friends again. If she sees you all miserable and lonely she'll likely want to stay away. You'll never win over a girl by trying to get pity/sympathy. You do it by being a positive happy …
/r/seduction25/05/22 10:06 PM
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Leave her alone, obviously lol. There are 2 ways to do this though. Option 1: You can tell her how bad you feel losing her, you can cry, apologize, beg for another chance, tell her you need her in your life, and just be devastated. This will drive her further away and confirm to her that she made the right decision. You would be proving to her that you really are clingy. Option 2: You can behave like its not a big deal. Don't be sad, bitter, or mean. Just leave her alone and don't care (obviousl…
/r/seduction25/05/22 10:03 PM
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Well no wonder she lost attraction lol. You basically rejected her. She probably ran into some other guys that WERE interested in her and she just lost interest in you. Doesn't that make more sense than your housing situation causing her to lose interest?
/r/seduction25/05/22 08:39 PM
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People in general can kinda feel how confident or insecure you are, women just notice it more. They are more sensitive to social situations, body language, and "vibes" than men are. You are constantly subconsciously projecting your feelings and intentions to women when you interact with them. That's why you should focus on changing your mindset. When you change your mind, the body will follow.
/r/seduction25/05/22 08:34 PM
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Its about momentum. When you are a beginner starting from zero that is when is most difficult but once you get a girl it becomes much easier. Get another girl and its even easier. The more girls you get the easier it is. It boosts your confidence and it also earns you a reputation as a guy that "gets" girls. As long as you don't treat any of those girls bad, that reputation will attracts more girls. You have to start somewhere though. Start by being a more social person in general, with both men…
/r/seduction25/05/22 08:16 PM
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The only winning move is not to play! Don't approach it from the position of molding yourself into what she wants you to be. Instead of trying to obey her rules, you should want to make her break her own rules for you. What is your fantasy girl? For guys that are down bad the fantasy is usually just "she's a girl and shes not ugly" lol. If that's you, raise your standards! I know it might seem counterintuitive. You might think "If I'm not getting results even with these barebones standards, I ca…
/r/seduction25/05/22 07:42 PM
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Here is another possibility. Maybe she was being honest. In fact, maybe it wasn't anything you did that caused things to not work out. It could be before she met you she had built up this fantasy idea of what you would be like but when she met you she realized you are a human just like her. People don't directly control what they're attracted to. If you don't click, you don't click.
/r/seduction25/05/22 06:56 PM
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Um, I asked those things after she gave me the no connection answer. At that point, I'm never going to see her again so I have nothing to lose. I'm asking in interest of self improvement, not validation to get another chance. The problem with asking those kinds of questions is they come off like your asking "Am i likeable? Why dont you like me?" Women answering those questions will prioritize protecting your feelings over being honest anyway. If she thinks her opinion might make you sad or angry…
/r/seduction25/05/22 06:45 PM
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Probably too hot for me Don't say that I did ask for some feedback and asked about my photos. Needy approval-seeking behavior I was a little nervous on the date so wasnt as funny Suppressing your self-expression out of fear of her reaction? She said when I took my invisalign out at the table she was a little grossed out Poor social awareness but I'm guessing you also reacted like you were embarrassed about it So my only guess is, she is operating from a position of power in dating by being a smo…
/r/seduction25/05/22 06:28 PM
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When you say she was "attracted" what do you mean? Were you dating? Or just flirting? Or maybe even just friends?
/r/seduction25/05/22 05:47 PM
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This video by A.G. Hayden is relevant to this thread https://youtu.be/k64TG0bW-aM It's about having the "buyer" mentality instead of the "seller" mentality. Don't try to convince a girl to like you, assume she already does. Try to see if you like her instead.
/r/seduction25/05/22 05:13 PM
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Insecure guys underestimate themselves and confident guys overestimate themselves. The thing is, insecurity is a turnoff and confidence is a turn on so in a way they are both correct. If you are on a date with a lanky cross-eyed girl with a stutter chances are you will be much more confident than if you were with some instagram model. Of course looks matter to both men and women but they matter more to men. The confidence is what makes you most attractive to women.
/r/seduction25/05/22 03:25 PM
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Whenever you do something for the specific purpose of getting women to like you, you send off vibes of being gamey or weird. I think the advice of begin polarizing, aloof, flirty, bold, direct, etc. is best when you fit it into your own personality. Many guys hide those things about themselves because they worry they'll backfire. If you are either suppressing those feelings or forcing them just to earn approval of a girl, then you are operating from the position of "i hope she likes me!" which i…
/r/seduction25/05/22 02:02 PM
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They are insecure
/r/seduction25/05/22 06:33 AM
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Try to video chat with her or at least send voice chats back and forth instead of dry texts. Sexual tension comes mainly from touch. If you aren't physically next to her at least try to incorporate voice tone and facial expressions. If its purely text it ain't going to cut it unless you already boned her.
/r/seduction25/05/22 01:33 AM
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Pease post some examples OP I told a girl i like that i believe in supernatural stuff like aliens & ghosts and she ghosted me lol.
/r/seduction25/05/22 12:24 AM
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I feel like most guys are insecure about things like being too short, being bald, being too skinny/fat, penis size, not being white, not having a license, not having a job, living with their parents, not ever having a girlfriend before, being a virgin, being shy, etc. I know that's a big list but in your opinion are any of those enough to reject a affectionate/interested guy? Maybe the insecurity about those things is itself the big problem? I feel like being independent, confident, and fit will…
/r/seduction25/05/22 12:06 AM
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just have to show us real affection and interest What are some situations where a guy can show affection and interest but you still wouldn't be attracted to him?
/r/seduction24/05/22 11:36 PM
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Here's a dumb idea that might work. Find a way to secretly leave him a note and sign it "your secret admirer". If you're the first girl he looks at then he likes you. If you see him staring at another girl he probably has a crush on them instead and you can pretend you didn't write the note.
/r/seduction24/05/22 11:15 PM
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If she's the only girl you're hanging out and being friendly with i think it its only natural that you develop feelings for her. You'll need to start talking to other girls buddy. The best way to get a girl out of your head is to get other girls in your head.
/r/seduction24/05/22 10:52 PM
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How far away from them are you when you notice them? If 2 people are walking in opposite directions, 2-3 seconds covers a lot of distance. Start by just trying to make eye contact, smiling at girls, and maybe quickly raising your eyebrows one time to acknowledge them. Eventually some girls will smile back. Try starting off by approaching girls that smile back. When you are more confident you can approach girls that acknowledge you but arent smiling. Then approach girls that dont acknowledge you …
/r/seduction24/05/22 09:31 PM
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This is the 3rd time ive posted this video today but its just such a great exercise for beginners. https://youtu.be/0xUUEWW1baY You need to start small friend. (Day 1) Go out there and make eye contact and smile at strangers. (Day 2) Work your way up to say hello as you pass by. (Day 3) Eventually try asking them a question or making an observation. Most of your responses will be positive and you'll see the world is a friendlier place than you might have thought. (Day 4) From there work on your …
/r/seduction24/05/22 04:37 PM
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I think if it's accompanied with a smile and only lasts a few seconds it comes off as friendly. If there is no smile and the eye contact is longer than 3 seconds its probably intimidating and uncomfortable. Try smiling when making eye contact, maybe even adding a friendly hand wave. I think you'd be surprised how many girls will smile and wave back. If they do smile/wave back you can throw in a "hey how's it going?" This video shows a great exercise you can try out today in public https://youtu.…
/r/seduction24/05/22 03:40 PM
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Try being more feminine. Be all cutesy and girly.
/r/seduction24/05/22 06:43 AM
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Whenever I text something dumb to a girl and I get left on read I start getting fucking angry. There are times where I would get so mad that I'll curse them out and block them. Just so you know I've heard some girls say they intentionally leave guys on "read" sometimes just to see how they react. Unfortunately some of the reactions are exactly like yours here. Some girl's dad or brother is going to beat your ass one day dude. Women don't owe you a relationship. Cindy Lauper said it best: girls j…
/r/seduction24/05/22 04:39 AM
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Does anybody else get the feeling that the "boss" is the one that wrote this post lol?
/r/seduction24/05/22 02:34 AM
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Unless you have a micropenis, its not really a problem. I genuinely believe penis size insecurity is a form of body dysmorphia
/r/seduction23/05/22 03:32 PM
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Play a playful prank on him. Pop a balloon behind him, or jump out from a corner and yell "boo" or do that thing where you tap the opposite shoulder to trick him into turning the wrong direction. Something silly and fun. Try high fiving him or fist bumping him too.
/r/seduction23/05/22 04:30 AM
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A direct opener would be like "hey i know this is random but i just thought you looked cute and had to come talk to you" Indirect would be like something you'd say to a male stranger/acquaintance to start small talk. I think you try to establish comfort before making it man- to-woman, getting her to "qualify" herself, then showing desire. As opposed to showing desire right off the bat.
/r/seduction23/05/22 12:56 AM
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men don't support female footballers or women taking up male hobbies. Men watch women's sports more then women do. I would also bet money men love lesbians more than straight women or gay men do.
/r/seduction22/05/22 06:56 AM
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I've heard direct openers are better in daygame and indirect openers are better for night game. Are you being too direct?
/r/seduction22/05/22 03:17 AM
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I dont think there is enough competition tbh. One of the pioneers in rap culture, Sugafree, said it best - "Players do what they want to, suckers do what they can" Only few guys are actually putting themselves on the line and competing to get girls. The majority are just floating around waiting for girls to show interest first and settling for that. If you put in minimal effort you'll get minimal results. Even top tier guys get rejections more than they get laid. Even Drake took more losses in d…
/r/seduction22/05/22 03:03 AM
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OP haven't you ever seen women less attractive you with boyfriends? You don't have to but i bet if you posted a pic many people would be shocked to find out you're even insecure. Im not going to lie and say nobody cares about looks at all BUT we usually overestimate how important they are to other people. Looks are the first thing we notice about new people and if we never actually get to know each other then looks seem more important than they really. I think you need to get out of your shell a…
/r/seduction22/05/22 02:27 AM
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Maybe she was hoping you would get up and offer her your seat lol
/r/seduction22/05/22 02:10 AM
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Try going out and just saying hi to strangers. Check out this video https://youtu.be/0xUUEWW1baY Just start right there. Eventually, actually talking to random strangers won't seem so odd anymore. Remember, socializing is a human need. Most people are perfectly fine having a conversation with a friendly stranger if they aren't busy. The sooner you realize this the sooner you'll start to reach out and meet people.
/r/seduction22/05/22 01:55 AM
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As invisible as you felt, how many people there were invisible to you? Did anybody stand out at all? Im guessing most people just blended into the crowd and kept to themselves. However you'll only feel "invisible" if you're concerned with being noticed yet not taking action. Either go out just to enjoy yourself or if you want some human interaction, be the one to initiate it! "What if they think I'm weird?" well at least you won't be invisible. You want to stand out or do you want to blend in? G…
/r/seduction22/05/22 12:30 AM
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If you're in quicksand you're "natural reaction" to panic will get you killed. In dating you need to understand that certain needy behaviors that feel "natural" are actually counterintuitive to achieving your goals. Of course experience will build confidence and that can ease your feelings of hopelessness/desperation but for most guys you need to put on a good poker face to actually get that experience. You can actually be desperate, just don't show it. Most inexperienced guys don't even realize…
/r/seduction21/05/22 11:44 PM
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Think of it this way: there are guys who coast on their looks and resign to being chosen by women and there are guys who take initiative to choose the women. You are being forced into being the kind of guy to take initiative but that's a blessing in disguise. This path will help you grow more as a person and you'll be better off in the long run. You know there are guys with more flaws/setbacks than you that still have great girlfriends. They do it by taking action. How many girls have you approa…
/r/seduction21/05/22 11:09 PM
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Im against the idea of participating in a betrayal of an apparently innocent person. Especially an entire family. But even if i were willing to let the short term pursuit of pleasure erode my integrity, I WOULDN'T DO IT TO A GUY LIVING NEXT DOOR TO ME LMAO. People have died for less. Don't let your desperation for sex put your safety at risk! You probably couldn't get her to agree to it anyway. We're you going to blackmail her? Life is not an NTR hentai. What was your plan? Im genuinely curious …
/r/seduction21/05/22 11:00 PM
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Its actually a good long term strategy but not short term. You don't have to stop being anxious and nervous to be in a relationship, plenty of anxious people are dating or married. However you do need to stop beating yourself up for being anxious, stop thinking its a horrible flaw that you need to apologize for, stop thinking it makes you lame or weak. We all have different personalities. Some people are just naturally more neurotic. You need to accept yourself even though you are more jumpy and…
/r/seduction21/05/22 10:36 PM
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Post some text exchanges so we can get an idea of how you communicate with these girls. Are you double/triple texting huge messages? What are you inviting them to go do? Do they know its a "date" date or could they think its just friends hanging out?
/r/seduction21/05/22 09:46 PM
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I meant no disrespect! I truly wish you the best. One thing i will say is that i do have a few issues of my own. My childhood was not great and my self-esteem has been rock bottom for most of my life. The first time i ever asked a girl out on a date was a a few months ago at age 30+. I had no friends at school growing up. No friends at my jobs all my life. The last time in celebrated a birthday with somebody that wasn't a family member was in elementary school. Never held hands, kissed a girl or…
/r/seduction21/05/22 06:38 PM
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Just curious but what did you do that you consider cringy lol? Great job btw! Let her know you're doing something fun soon and invite her to join you. If she turns it down, go anyway! Consider it a solo practice run a date, like a tutorial mode in a video game lol. That way you look like you know what you're doing when you actually do that activity with a girl. Whenever you hang out focus more on having fun and enjoying yourself instead of keeping a girl entertained. Fun happy people are great t…
/r/seduction21/05/22 05:49 PM
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Don't make it sound like such a dreaded insurmountable task lol. One of my big problems is I'm too serious and i sense you might be the same way. We would both benefit from learning to lighten up and developing a sense of humor to help us on our journey. I recommend reading "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck" by Mark Manson and "On My Own Side" by Aziz Gazipura. These books can give you a lot of helpful wisdom that you'll remember for the rest of your life.
/r/seduction21/05/22 05:00 PM
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There is a difference between being nice because you want to, and being nice because you feel you have to. Some people are nice because they just avoid conflict at all costs, even minor insignificant conflicts. They are nice because they've convinced themselves they HAVE to be nice to be physically and emotionally safe in the world. Guys complain about women liking "bad boys" but its hard succeeding in life when you are bad. You have to be able to back it up. You have to be able to stand up for …
/r/seduction21/05/22 03:52 PM
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A few questions: How many women have you approached this month so far? How do you usually initiate contract? What do you say? How do they react to your opener? Are they rude? Uncomfortable? Flattered? Smiling? What are your stats; height, weight, age, city, etc.?
/r/seduction21/05/22 02:46 PM
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I know right lol? I tell myself im inexperienced enough that me and this girl are probably on the same level of maturity when it comes to relationships so its not like im trying to take advantage of her. I still have this guilt though, like im some predatory deviant and she's an innocent virgin. Or maybe that's just how i worry other people might see itm
/r/seduction21/05/22 06:06 AM
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Not trying to hijack the thread but do you guys think there is an age cutoff or is anything above 18 fair game? Im 32 and have been hanging out with a 18yo co-worker but just as friends. We have a lot of interests in common and our personalities just kind of click. However I'm trying to keep it a very platonic and big-bro/lil-sis type of relationship so people at work dont gossip. I feel kind of weird about it but she doesn't mind so why should I, right? Not exactly the same situation as OP but …
/r/seduction21/05/22 05:44 AM
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If you fear her reaction, you'll lose her attraction. Express your desires without hesitation or shame. If she responds negatively then too bad for her, move on to the next one.
/r/seduction21/05/22 04:21 AM
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I recall finding videos on YouTube where guys walk around in public with a boner and record peoples reactions. From what it looks like, women love staring at crotches https://youtu.be/8dLMlBF8Rsw
/r/seduction21/05/22 03:14 AM
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Buy a vibrating cock ring
/r/seduction21/05/22 03:04 AM
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If she kept liking your instagram posts wouldn't that mean she's still interested? Maybe something came up on the day of the date and she had to cancel but was too embarrassed to text you about it. I've had to cancel things last minute that I really wanted to do and its excruciating. Not just thinking of what to say but just summoning the courage to click "send". The longer you wait the more you try to convince yourself "damn its too late to tell them now! They're going to hate me! Its already t…
/r/seduction20/05/22 04:28 AM
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Maybe she was using you to cheat on someone else but decided to go back to them
/r/seduction20/05/22 04:21 AM
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Im going to give you some advice that is completely different from what everybody here will tell you and its mostly based on what i gather from some cool rap songs ive been hearing lately but take it as you will. It you think its rubbish downvote me but if any of it resonates with you just consider it. In times of stress women get sad, men get mad. Stop being a little bitch and get ANGRY. Stop fighting your dark side that is calling out to you. Embrace it. Let yourself become jaded. Develop a ha…
/r/seduction20/05/22 03:58 AM
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Masturbate before important decisions
/r/seduction20/05/22 02:11 AM
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Work and school are both great ways to invest in your future but what are you doing to enjoy your life currently? Do you ever go out with friends? Or do you have any hobbies where you interact with other people? You probably realize this by now but if you work all day, then after work just stay home all day, never talking to any girls, then you will never find a girlfriend. You can start making friends with girls at your job to expand your social circle (don't try "game" at your work because it …
/r/seduction19/05/22 11:21 PM
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How about the last month? How about since the start of the year, how many girls have you invited to hang out with you?
/r/seduction19/05/22 08:01 PM
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Just curious but how many girls have you tried to talk to in the past week?
/r/seduction19/05/22 07:35 PM
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Think about what you've seen in real life. There are fat ugly guys with girlfriends. There are bald guys & short guys with girlfriends. There are obnoxious assholes with girls but there's also dorky shy guys with girlfriends. What do they all have in common? They put themselves out there and tried to talk to girls. Maybe it wasn't "daygame/nightgame" or Tinder. Maybe it was just a co-worker, or fellow student, or someone they see often while doing errands. It could be a girl they met while engag…
/r/seduction19/05/22 01:19 PM
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Here are some date ideas copied from another thread: Bowling Mini golf Batting cages Shooting range Beach (for a bonfire during night time since some girls are shy about wearing bikinis) Horse riding Gym Escape rooms Jiu jitsu or boxing gym (they usually have a 3-day fee trial) Art class Pottery class Cooking class Axe throwing Rage-room (you rent a room, suit up, and smash things) Museum Wine tasting Go-carts Casino Photo shoot Cruise on a boat Rollerskating Gaming Lounge/Arcade Visit an Observ…
/r/seduction19/05/22 04:00 AM
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So it’s better to talk for 5-10 minutes in the kitchen first, to try to connect and spark her interest This seems like it would be the most important part but also the most difficult. Any tips on how to connect and spark interest? Or at least what NOT to do?
/r/seduction18/05/22 08:01 PM
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You can banter with someone and be playful without actively trying to make them feel frustrated Not trying to be snarky but in would love to see you post an example of what this would look like. I mean would it be the same kind of banter i could have with my grandma or little sister? Would it only work on girls that ALREADY like me? Let me just say you're REALLY not going to get along with me lol but im just trying to show you my perspective here. No offense but I think your post right here is k…
/r/seduction18/05/22 07:26 PM
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I like the word "banter" better. Think of how brothers mess around with each other. When you have only formal/shallow relations with people you don't develop the level of comfort with them that you would with people you know you can mess around with. If people tease others but dont tease you, they probably are worried you'll get angry about it or that they might hurt your feelings. If you tease another person that pretty much gives them permission to tease you. There are levels to it of course. …
/r/seduction18/05/22 03:42 PM
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You left out the smile and laugh part which is pretty important lol. Its not what you say but how you say it. But yeah maybe "defend" is the wrong word? Think of witty banter. There are playful jabs in there but nothing meant to hurt genuine insecurities. Putting a girl in a position to "defend" herself means more like serving her in volleyball. You are putting the ball in her court and now she's going to WANT to react and attentively await your reaction. Its a way to get her invested in a conve…
/r/seduction18/05/22 03:19 PM
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How is that negging? Was it the word "dumb"?
/r/seduction18/05/22 02:50 PM
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Obviously most of the people who come here are people that don't naturally know how to flirt and pick up girls. Using proven formulas as a foundation for an engaging conversation is can definitely be effective. Lines like that are about showing playfulness but more importantly intent/desire in a way that isn't needy. Authenticity is important of course but you can work on that later after you learn how not to be boring lol. When you are just starting out, being "authentic" will likely make you s…
/r/seduction18/05/22 02:46 PM
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Some people need training wheels before they can ride on their own. What makes that question good is that it creates tension and puts the girl in a position to defend herself, but in a playful way instead of a serious way. If he flat out answers the question it will probably kill the tension which is bad. He could follow up by abruptly changing the subject. Or by telling the girl " c'mon dont play dumb". The longer he goes on the more tension it will make and probably the more frustrated she wil…
/r/seduction18/05/22 02:17 PM
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Thank you buddy! Its time to stock up on chicken breast and ground turkey
/r/seduction17/05/22 07:37 PM
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Eat your weight in protein So 275 grams of protein? That kind of sounds like a lot. Eating 100g of protein a day is tough for me lol. I avoid protein powder because it gives me bloating and foul gas.
/r/seduction17/05/22 05:33 PM
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That's good to hear. Thank you for the input, it will definitely motivate me lol. Just curious but how big were you and how low did you cut to?
/r/seduction17/05/22 04:30 AM
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Do you have something better to do than hang out and have drinks with a cute girl? Just because it doesnt lead to a relationship doesn't mean there isnt any value in it. I say be friends with her. Friends are always good, especially girls. Also if you become close friends with her, and you are always friendly and chatting at the gym, OTHER girls in the gym will notice you two having a close relationship and it will make you more attractive/approachable.
/r/seduction17/05/22 03:44 AM
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I heard keto messes up your body's ability to digest certain foods and can even give you new food sensitivities once you stop it. Is there some disadvantage to the typical "move more & eat less" diet plan? Other than it being pretty slow lol
/r/seduction17/05/22 02:10 AM
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There's obnoxious arrogance but there's also charming arrogance, like the protagonist in a action movie. She probably means a relaxed playful yet ballsy attitude and not exactly "arrogant" according to Webster's Dictionary. More like Lupin the 3rd and less like Johnny Bravo.
/r/seduction15/05/22 05:35 AM
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Just curious but what are your "stats" and what were the stats of the girls you got in relationships? Im asking height, weight, age, attractiveness, level-of-self-confidence, etc. I know this will come off as extremely judgemental but i feel like the kind of guys this would work for (and the kind of girls it would work on) are a very important detail that is missing from this post.
/r/seduction14/05/22 11:27 PM
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Taking the lead matters in many things beyond dating but you are right about abundance mentality. Does OP really have anything to lose any reaching out tho?
/r/seduction14/05/22 10:44 PM
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Don't give her commitment without making her work for it. As a man that is your most valuable "card" to play in relationships. If you give it up without her asking she might take it but she will know she has the power in the relationship and she WILL abuse the power when under stress.
/r/seduction14/05/22 09:19 PM
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But would he also be passive if he didn't reach out? Guys should lead, take initiative and confidently show desire without fearing the outcome.
/r/seduction14/05/22 09:08 PM
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f she had been talking with a female and exchanged instagrams, would you be this insecure about that interaction? Would you have thought that disrespectful? This does sound like something a woman would say lol. Imagine a guy you were interested in asked you out, you left for a minute, and when you got back he was chatting with some girl wrapped around his arm and she was showing him her phone.
/r/seduction14/05/22 06:46 PM
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Awesome bro! Glad to hear it, you did great. Just curious but i have a few questions. Where did you do the approaches? What was your opener? What reactions did you get? How did you feel on your first approaches compared to your last ones?
/r/seduction14/05/22 04:26 PM
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Anything that involves playful touching. Tickle his earlobe from behind. Squeeze his forearm or bicep. Playfully punch his shoulder. Tell him he has giant hands and ask him to compare your hand sizes, that gives you an excuse to touch palms. Or do that thing where you tap a person's shoulder on the opposite side to trick them into turning the wrong direction. A girl did that to me at work an i still think about it sometimes lol.
/r/seduction14/05/22 04:14 PM
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Please give me the cheat codes for what makes women weak in the knees, from a women's perspective
/r/seduction14/05/22 04:02 PM
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Women over 30? Eww gross
/r/seduction14/05/22 03:48 PM
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Terrible advice. Tell me: how does somebody go from having insecurities to eventually NOT having those insecurities anymore? By taking action regardless. He can read all the books and watch all the videos he wants but if he never allows himself to actually feel all those insecurities & self-doubt long enough to get it all out of his system they will always be there to stop him. He needs to go out with this girl even if its terrible just so he can get experience. Practice builds confidence better…
/r/seduction13/05/22 05:01 AM
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Bowling Mini golf Batting cages Shooting range Escape rooms Jiu jitsu or boxing gym (they usually have a 3-day fee trial) Axe throwing Rage-room (you rent a room, suit up, and smash things) Museum Go-carts Casino Have a picnic on a boat Visit a kennel Rollerskating Gaming Lounge/Arcade Visit an Observatory Music concerts Sporting events Farmers markets You could also go to the beach but some girls are really shy and dont like being in a bikini. Maybe invite her to go at night and have a bonfire.…
/r/seduction13/05/22 04:04 AM
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Awesome post! These are the kinds of things i love reading on here. Just curious but do you have any advice on making girls laugh? I usually only do it unintentionally lol
/r/seduction12/05/22 05:32 AM
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turn her on and leave? Yes!! She would be thinking about you all day until the next time she contacted you. Pulling away at the high point builds major attraction. It gets her chasing you
/r/seduction12/05/22 05:24 AM
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What about when you focus on yourself and ignore girls but then they still ignore you lol? What if you never get any "indicators of interest" from women? Showing interest and even desire seems pretty mandatory in attracting women. "Focus on myself" is also pretty vague. Could you or somebody else elaborate on that for a bit? I understand if you are talking about building confidence but one of the best ways to build confidence is with experience. If you want to be confident about being able to at…
/r/seduction12/05/22 02:33 AM
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Shouldn't sex be spontaneous though? Wouldn't being playful and mysterious build tension? You can decide if you want a relationship after sleeping with her, where you will have more leverage Or am i being a toxic boy right now?
/r/seduction11/05/22 04:51 PM
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120 minutes to approach 100 girls? Hmm im skeptical buddy. Are your approaches just 1 minute start-to-finish with 12 seconds in between each girl? Or are you counting girls that quickly reject you or ignore your opener?
/r/seduction07/05/22 07:45 PM
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Women tease you to be playful but also to see how you react. If you are insecure/needy you might get defensive, aggressive, desperate, etc. They don't want that of course, teasing can be a good way to expose insecurities. The same can be said for suddenly ignoring you. Will you get desperate and clingy reaching out to her asking "what happened"? Will you get angry at her for ignoring you? Will you get sad and lose confidence? Of course its just as likely that she is fickle and just genuinely los…
/r/seduction07/05/22 03:02 AM
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Everybody says that the way to attract girls is to have a relaxed ballsy attitude like you don't care what happens and are just openly pursue your interests without shame. However one thing most people dont emphasize enough is the usually the first step in not giving a fuck is actually giving a fuck but doing it anyway. If you dont want to be nervous about it, accept that you ARE going to look nervous but DO IT ANYWAY. Its like how when you are making pancakes and the first one always comes out …
/r/seduction06/05/22 04:26 AM
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This. Also instead of looking at it as taking an L consider it to be you serving HER the L. She is the one missing out, king. Send her to the back of the line
/r/seduction06/05/22 03:15 AM
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Any ones in particular? You could send me a private message if you don't want to post it here. i need this info lol.
/r/seduction05/05/22 01:11 PM
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I know everybody is just going to tell you its an inner game problem but let me give you an example of your perspective and what you should change it to. Imagine a man that likes to take a metal detector to the beach. Most of the time he just finds bottlecaps or other debris but every once in a while he finds a nice trinket. This is just a fun little hobby to get out of the house. Now imagine that person lost his wedding ring and went to the beach with a metal detector to find it. Its a totally …
/r/seduction05/05/22 04:58 AM
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Im sure it might be surprising to some guys here but typically women have higher rates of anxiety (ESPECIALLY social anxiety) than men do. Maybe she just wasn't interested but its also possible she WAS interested, was overthinking how to respond, just clammed up, tried her best to stay cool and tried to at least be a good listener while her mind went completely blank.
/r/seduction05/05/22 03:04 AM
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You sound very boring. Just kidding. I think his tips are for girls you meet in a club, not in a library. I promise you if you try to talk with most people about quantum physics or architecture they will politely reply then switch topics or leave as quickly as they can lol.
/r/seduction05/05/22 02:54 AM
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Don't wait for the "right" moment. Take action before thinking. Build a habit of approaching within 3 seconds of noticing a girl you are attracted to, even if you have no idea what to say
/r/seduction04/05/22 09:59 PM
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Oh nooo lol! How did the girl react? That's actually my nightmare. I think its alright as long as you talk to guys as frequently as you talk to girls. You would just come as a sociable person. When you just talk to girls then everybody knows you're gaming. EDIT: Like every other situation tho, the best way to respond is to own it and act like you dont care, maybe throw some humor in there to lighten the situation. Think of it like any other frame battle. His frame is that he is a good samaritan …
/r/seduction04/05/22 09:54 PM
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Just curious but how were you able to practice sex with women without game? Also where did you learn how to better satisfy women? Books? Online tutorials? Im sure it would be much appreciated if you elaborated
/r/seduction04/05/22 03:26 PM
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I think "be yourself" is a phrase that some people misunderstand. I interpret it as getting out of your own way. We all have desires, and we all have internal judgement that determines whether or not to take action on those desires. Unfortunately many of us filter ourselves too strictly. We create self-defeating scenarios in our heads to talk us out of doing things that we actually would like to do. More often than not, the cause of this is that we focus more on controlling the feelings and perc…
/r/seduction30/04/22 11:55 PM
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Try talking to guys first if you're not already. Build the skill of expressing yourself, gauging a person's response, and finding a way to spark a convo.
/r/seduction29/04/22 02:38 AM
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I cant tell from your post but if you are a guy make sure he's gay first lol. He might just be a bro looking for more bros.
/r/seduction28/04/22 10:43 PM
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I get what you're saying but its not really an apology, is it? If im walking behind somebody and say "excuse me" its not like im being a submissive apologetic beta male. Its just being socially intelligent enough to read the situation and show courtesy. How you say it really matters too. If you deliver that line with strong eye contact, confident posture, firm vocal tone and a slight smirk it will be taken differently than if your eyes are darting to the ground, you're hunched over, soft-spoken,…
/r/seduction28/04/22 06:23 AM
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Have you ever seen those travel shows on tv? Usually its some person going to different parts of the country/world, eating nice food and then doing some interesting activity like paintball, a self-defense class, going to a niche expo, shopping at a farmers market, going to a gun range, a beginners art class, riding atvs or go-carts, playing mini golf, hiking, taking a dance class, etc. All of those would be fun dates. The most common are probably drinks, dinner, and movies but its more important…
/r/seduction28/04/22 06:10 AM
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I know your probably joking but don't call yourself a bitch bro lol. A lot of people on this subreddit recommend books directly related to dating but i think general self-help books are just as important. "On My Own Side" by Aziz Gazipura is a great book for learning to build confidence in general which will translate into dating success. As for your date, don't overthink it. Drinks and conversation are fine. Not sure how much time you'll have together but try going to more than one place. Go bo…
/r/seduction28/04/22 05:50 AM
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I may be wrong but from what i understand most guys don't approach nowadays. Women are used to being stared at sure but few guys actually come up to them and flirt without knowing them. With that in mind, i think it would be a good idea to acknowledge the situation. Saying something like "Hey i know this is random but..." or if they look busy "Hey I know you're probably busy but..." It'll show that you are aware that this is an interaction that is probably catching her off guard, which will make…
/r/seduction28/04/22 12:38 AM
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This There is so much wisdom, beauty, and overall resilience to discover from learning to turn your body into a deadly weapon. You will absolutely be humbled in any boxing or jiu jitsu gym you sign up for but it will build massive confidence when you step outside in the real world. Knowing you can beat someone's ass will help protect your ego from those little things people do that might otherwise bother you. It will be easier to be assertive. You will have greater self-respect. You will be phys…
/r/seduction27/04/22 11:56 PM
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In hate to be the one to say this but I don't think any guy, even the greatest "pick up" artists of all time, have ever gotten the first 10/10 girl they ever asked out. Imagine you had to ask out and get rejected by 20 hot girls to get one to finally say yes. Would you do it? I think when you make that decision and commit to it then you are ready to go for it. Make a move, make peace with whatever the outcome may be, and most importantly move on to the next. One day you'll look back at this "10/…
/r/seduction27/04/22 11:25 PM
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I think biologically women have evolved to be more picky because men are usually bigger & stronger than them. A guy is much less likely to be physically killed by a poorly picked mate so we can afford to cast a much wider net. Also guys that have a ton of options behave the same. If your inbox was flooded with 100 likes, would you respond to every girl? If every single girl you swiped right on became a match, would you swipe right on all of them? If you look at older, overweight, single mom's on…
/r/seduction27/04/22 11:16 PM
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This probably isn't the advice you want to hear but maybe you should consider owning it. Embrace wearing your heart on your sleeve. I think subconsciously people like it when they look at somebody and know exactly what they're feeling, what their motivations are and what their intentions are. It can really put people at ease and make them feel like they know you already, which makes connecting much smoother. Some people have the opposite problem. I can have a pretty flat voice and a blank expres…
/r/seduction27/04/22 05:05 PM
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I honestly don't know how i would react to this lol. I think trying to convince them you do have friends would come off as insecure even if its true, and insincere if it is not true. I'd probably just chuckle and say "Am I getting bullied right now?". You could say "I don't have friends or enemies, only interests" but its really going to be your delivery that decides if it comes off as funny or corny. Your actual reply is probably only 10% of what matters. 90% is your attitude and body language.…
/r/seduction27/04/22 04:25 PM
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Don't you think there is a correlation between a persons confidence and how they perceive their appearance? I feel like "ugly" men probably have low self-confidence and "hot" guys have higher self-confidence because they think its all about looks. Personally I believe the male brain primarily determines attraction based on physical appearance while the female brain is more nuanced and focuses on a man's behavior, looking for the kind of man that is most likely to find success in the world, be a …
/r/seduction27/04/22 02:46 AM
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You've never seen an ugly guy with a girlfriend before?
/r/seduction27/04/22 01:06 AM
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Maybe try masturbating before leaving the house?
/r/seduction26/04/22 05:21 AM
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Imagine being a door to door salesman and not liking the product you're selling. The customers are going to notice and they wont be buying it. You need to work on loving yourself buddy. Build a sense of competence and a sense of self worth. Once you believe you are both capable and worthy, then focus on seduction. That's why people always say to find hobbies. Learning a skill like playing an instrument teaches you more than that specific skill. It teaches you how to learn in general and perhaps …
/r/seduction26/04/22 05:18 AM
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Isn't meeting people itself fun though? Unless you worry its making you come off as desperate, I dont see what makes it a problem. Could you explain?
/r/seduction26/04/22 04:44 AM
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Great observation. This is a very insightful response that articulates the distinction pretty well. Thank you for contributing bro
/r/seduction26/04/22 12:17 AM
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I talk myself out of doing things. It's already nerve wracking to open myself up to a rejection or otherwise negative reaction but sometimes my creative imagination thinks up more excuses on top of that. For example, there was a cute girl at my work that i enjoyed talking to. I wanted to ask her out to eat somewhere but i worried "what if it makes things awkward and ends our friendship?" "what if it ends up causing me problems at work and i lose my job?" Yes i know these come from insecurity but…
/r/seduction25/04/22 06:57 PM
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You might not realize this but there is comfort in telling yourself things are futile. If you can convince yourself things are truly hopeless it means you don't have to try, and you don't have to bear the burden of responsibility. But what if things aren't hopeless? What if the only thing standing between you and your greatest dreams is your lack of action? Common sense might see that as an inspiring scenario but for a lot of people its actually a very intimidating one. And why wouldn't it be? Y…
/r/seduction25/04/22 04:34 PM
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One of the things that causes a lack of confidence is just not knowing what the hell to do. "Just be yourself!" well some of us are nervous, desperate, and shy. We've been "ourselves" our whole lives and it hasn't worked. Plenty of the advice here is great and stuff that socially awkward guys like me wouldn't have figured out on out own. Like making strong eye contact, speaking more slowly, not reacting positively to every little thing a girl does, playfully teasing, etc. There are things that a…
/r/seduction25/04/22 11:19 AM
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Its not an act
/r/seduction25/04/22 11:08 AM
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You arent even wrong but I dont think that pep talk is going to sink in very deep with people dealing with social anxiety or low self-esteem. Building a strong sense of competence and self-compassion takes a monumental effort for some people. The first steps are the most important but also the most daunting. It could be very useful to be more impulsive and take action before thinking, but its much easier said than done. You can know exactly what the right thing to do is, how to do it, and why to…
/r/seduction25/04/22 05:05 AM
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Maybe you could try masturbating before going out and meeting girls.
/r/seduction24/04/22 04:24 AM
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"More is lost by indecision than wrong decision" - Cicero Make a move buddy. Paralysis by analysis is a real thing. Stop talking yourself out of expressing your core essence; your opinions, desires, history, humor, frustrations, etc. Those things that you worry will be judged poorly are actually what make you the most interesting. Taking initiative and risking the vulnerability of judgement is what will get others to open up to you. Don't make up self-defeating scenarios in your head that stop y…
/r/seduction24/04/22 03:47 AM
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