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| 1 | Why do American women seem to be dissatisfied with the quality of American men?I agree with you here. There is so much pressure on guys here starting early. Tiktok showing them bodies and "perfect relationships." Women on social media reiterating their hatred for standards that men have set but making it easy that any young adult dude is going to think it's a blanket attack. I think, at least in America, men are struggling to figure out what is masculinity in a world where you're told parts are good or bad but get conflicting messages. It's difficult to talk to women about… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/23 03:48 PM |
| 3 | Why do American women seem to be dissatisfied with the quality of American men?It seems like you're purposefully being obtuse because it really isn't confusing. People who are filled with insecurities or who are unsure of how to actually speak their mind tend to be more destructive and less constructive when attempting to "hash things out." Your example is just immature. There is a difference between being able to be emotionally vulnerable and discussing your issues, and having an insecure or avoidant attachment style and hoping the other person will constantly pick up on … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/23 03:45 PM |
| 0 | Why do American women seem to be dissatisfied with the quality of American men?I'm not joined to this sub, it was a recommended post. And no you don't lol, you see how I act in one interaction with someone I find rude and combative...which you are. I can see why you're in this sub. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/23 01:34 AM |
| 3 | Why do American women seem to be dissatisfied with the quality of American men?I didn't ask and don't care. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/23 01:15 AM |
| 5 | Why do American women seem to be dissatisfied with the quality of American men?Unsolicited advice is rarely out of the kindness of people's heart. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/23 01:13 AM |
| 6 | Why do American women seem to be dissatisfied with the quality of American men?I get that your instinct may be to try and point out flaws in me as some defensive action or barb, but the truth is there are a lot of broken and lost people, I moved a lot, and things just don't work out. I've only magnified negative qualities and have given no context due to the nature of the post and question. I'm kind of forced to make blanketed statements. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/23 12:42 AM |
| 32 | Why do American women seem to be dissatisfied with the quality of American men?So, I'm not originally from America and have lived in a few different countries. I've never been called ugly in my life, have a degree in biochemical engineering, and I came back here to work on pursuing my PhD. 161cm, 110lb, hispanic woman. Just giving some background to help you see my dating pool For the sake of fairness, I date both men and women but I'll focus on American men. Also, my dating sample size is small, so take it with a chunk of salt. Most American men I've met that attempted to… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/23 11:13 PM |
| 7 | My NVM STBX’s response to me enforcing my boundaries with him. We’d separated; he called wanting to reconcile. His condition: I stop drinking. My condition: he stops watching porn. He broke his word and so I started a respectful conversation trying to clarify boundaries. This is how he reacted.I'm dealing with the same thing, I started using retinol, mighty patches, and indian clay it has helped with healing. My skin feels softer but the hormones still come. I'm a biochemist and if it really kills you and you're broke af, I HIGHLY recommend you I vest in spearmint tea and drink 2-3 cups a day. That's 230ish mL per cup. It's an anti-androgen and can help with hormonal acne and dark hairs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 04:23 PM |
| 59 | PSA: For the love of God, STOP faking your orgasms ladies!Real shit, they just don't have the patience nor do they care. They know what it takes lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 04:41 PM |
| 13 | These NVM ain’t even trying to cover up what they really think anymore… it’s truly sad that their are women that will actually choose to match with these sick men."Voluntary hardship" So you're stupid? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 01:36 AM |
| 59 | Men Know What They're Doing. Stop Letting Them Get Away With It.The risk is apparently that women will no longer be attracted to them and will leave them. Which doesn't quite measure up...You're scared to be open in case someone leaves you for being open..? Why stay with that person then | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/21 05:31 PM |
| 3 | Saw the vetting through first date questions post and wanted to share a tiktok on reasoning why he might not like cats!I feel so bad for cats who are stuck with irresponsible owners, it really breaks my heart. I have met people who trained their cats not to go on the counter, but I think they just conditioned them from kittens. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 08:20 PM |
| 10 | Saw the vetting through first date questions post and wanted to share a tiktok on reasoning why he might not like cats!One of the only sane comments. I've definitely encountered many dogs who wanted nothing to do with me off the bat and were hesitant to be around people. I've met many cats who had zero boundaries and wanted affection and attention annoyingly and nonstop. The real red flag is people who confidently claim to hate animals | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 04:22 PM |
| 9 | Saw the vetting through first date questions post and wanted to share a tiktok on reasoning why he might not like cats!This is so fucking stupid, I don't have to earn cats trust. I've been to plenty of friends houses and the cats gave zero fucks and just wanted to be pet and play. Their houses always smell, to some degree, of cat and cat piss, but this isn't always the case for dog owners. Cat people are really convinced they're all some sort of complex stand alone creatures. Most cat owners are also disgusting and don't regularly clean the litter box, let the cat on the counter, let them tear up all the furnitu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 04:18 PM |
| 120 | The Baby Trap ScamI personally think doctors and sex ed need to start being more honest with what pregnancy does and the risks it brings. Death is a possibility, life long incontinence, horrid scarring, PPD, hemorrhaging, failure to bond. I work in a hospital and doctors in OBGYN have started to take the time to speak to the mother privately about how this is the time men tend to cheat, do they feel safe in the relationship, are they sure about this etc. As I child, I was aware it would obviously hurt but I thoug… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/21 08:54 PM |
| 45 | ladies whats some red flags that tell you a man is low key sexist?If he even begins to do the "comedian" argument. As in, he complains about comedians being censored rather than simply finding out their material is no longer seen as funny. I always ask about if they like stand up, because they often reveal their exact thoughts through who they support. I like to go to amateur stand up routines, so it's a very innocuous question which can provide loaded answers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/21 05:40 PM |
| 20 | Block and deleteI find it super satisfying to block and delete. They don't get the attention they crave, I don't get a headache, and everything moves on smoothly. I had a guy make 5 different accounts to try and talk to me, he got a mutual friend (who was aware of my blocking and no desire for contact) to deliver a message to me and I blocked that "friend" too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 09:40 PM |
| 21 | Scrote father goes to dinner with his daughter, enjoys insinuation that he’s dating her 🤮I can't help but be reminded that RedPill disappointments are convinced only fathers and men can show unconditional love and their example is surely shit like this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 06:32 PM |
| 16 | When are women ready to admit LTR don't mean shit? It's not soft marriage.The men on there are completely delusional. They argue things like only men and fathers are capable of unconditional love, that women enslave their sons to their emotions, never apologize unless you do something so obvious and egregious you have to. People compare those subhumans to FDS? Pretty pathetic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 05:08 AM |
| 57 | How high expectations are saving South Korean women from unhappinessHoly shit, I would easily join the 4B movement too | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 12:55 AM |
| 48 | How high expectations are saving South Korean women from unhappinessMy current partners parents hate me because I feel no obligation to become their cooking broodmare. They, for awhile, kept trying to find other women to tempt him away from me because they see me as a threat to their retirement care plan. I made him put his foot down. It's ridiculous in this culture that women either marry into slavery of someone else's family or remained enslaved to their own. But where are these standards for men? Nonexistent, they just have to sucker someone into it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 12:53 AM |
| 22 | Difference between men who watch porn and don't watch porn and how they center discussions is amazingHey, this is a great comment and I genuinly appreciate you coming here with it. These are definitely things I've looked into or will keep in mind in the future. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 08:41 PM |
| 75 | Difference between men who watch porn and don't watch porn and how they center discussions is amazingVetting doesn't stop until they're dead and I'm retired lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 05:39 PM |
| 26 | Need recommendations for understanding psychology/behavioursWhen meeting new people it's harder, because narcissists who are on their game will be aware you're looking for flags and change themselves. Things to look out for would be them making decisions for you without consulting you, for example, if you go out to eat and they order appetizers for your table without consulting what you like. It's a small test to see if you will just go with their decisions that will lead to them repeating this on larger scales later. If on first dates you constantly fin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 06:35 PM |
| 29 | Needing advice and supportHe starts spiraling because he knows it will work on you. Consider that you guys repeatedly break up and get back together, he has no reason to change because he knows there are no end game consequences. Nothing can be salvaged because you have taught him he won't be held responsible and therefore doesn't need to change. The best thing to do is block him, delete every picture, throw out everything that reminds you of him. This is something supported by research, put of sight out of mind is very … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 06:08 PM |
| 50 | I told her she sounds like a forever girlfriend and asked how after 7 years, they've discussed what he will end their relationship over but not what their future and commitment will look like. Other scrotes trashing her for "making him" give up his dream school.Seriously, 7 years. She's been out of school for 3 and put her professional career on hold for him and now he has been given a convenient out to end the relationship and see it as "both of their choices." In the very least, he wouldn't even consider committing until after he graduates which could be another 2-3 years and then what? He gets a job and she's given the same ultimatum all over again lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 04:33 PM |
| 217 | I told her she sounds like a forever girlfriend and asked how after 7 years, they've discussed what he will end their relationship over but not what their future and commitment will look like. Other scrotes trashing her for "making him" give up his dream school.I'm also convinced he didn't get into his dream school but convinced her he did and told her he turned it down exclusively so they could be together. I'm in academic settings and I have seen this lie used a couple times to convince gfs of their dedication and "make them feel" more important. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 03:55 PM |
| 168 | Two things are going on here. 1. He can’t grow up 2. He probably has, or will at some point, have an affair with someone from back home. Making this a normal routine sets up a guaranteed 3 days a week that he can do whatever while not being checked in on. C’mon sis!In her responses she said that they don't share a room since they're both light sleepers. She also claimed he "sometimes FaceTimes" her so she knows he isn't cheating. Girl. So they don't sleep together, he can't relax around her, he actively tries to be away from her 3 out of 7 days of the week. Seriously, why is she putting herself through this??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 02:51 PM |
| 201 | The level of mental gymnastics hereThe funny part for me is that she is clutching his dirty shorts, as if they're some holy relic, and all he is thinking about is how annoying/embarrassing she is for making this video. He would never do the same for her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 03:17 AM |
| 185 | Let’s create a megathread: What is one of the best pieces of advice you’ve learned from this sub that has blown your mind or had the greatest impact on your life?Marriage benefits men more than women. Just like most other people, I was really sold that poor men were always eating it in terms of marriage equality/family court. This sub taught me that married women are the most unhappy demographic and that unmarried women are happier and live longer. Married women are good for suppressing their personalities, are expected to pass up promotions, make more sacrifices for the family, risk death to produce kids, and more and more and more. And what is it men l… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 07:04 PM |
| 8 | Ladies NEVER ignore your instincts or dealbreakers. Here’s yet another scrote having broken a woman’s heart after stringing her along for a year.Let this be a warning, she truly did this to herself. I feel for her, but it seems like her desperation will drive her to an awful man. Adoption, IVF, sperm donors etc. There are many ways to have a family without attaching yourself to the first totally unavailable wretch that breathes in your direction. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/21 07:53 PM |
| 22 | She realized she’s basically single but with more choresHappy cake day! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 07:07 PM |
| 29 | Reminder that older men who go out of their way to date vastly younger women need to be AVOIDED AT ALL COSTS and this is whyThis guy is a literal walking red flag for so many reasons and she is out here convincing herself everything is okay. Probably because she has convinced herself she is mature and well adjusted and doing really well despite being taken advantage of. He is trash and she is in complete denial, why even post on the sub asking for advice if she will just ignore all the best and obvious options? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/20 07:36 PM |
| 8 | What things have come out when talking to guys that are red flags that we havent really discussed before?I work in research for a Chemical Engineering department, so I get a lot of guys who think of themselves as being the pinnacle of logic and reason. If they talk excessive shit about psychology or art I also avoid them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/20 03:38 PM |
| 8 | 11 Points of LVM Scrote Insecurity11 resonates strongly with me. Could say something as simple as "why are you being rude?" And suddenly get accused of being rude which turns into them trying to exploit an insecurity. All I can do is laugh at their spectacle, how could you take someone who constantly acts like that seriously? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/20 03:12 PM |
| 20 | At what age is a guy still being single/never been in a relationship a red flag? And how it is different from a woman?Agree, recently tried dating a guy who was 25 with a respectable job but had never been with someone. I realized very quickly why and terminated things as quickly as possible. His views on relationships sound like they were supplied to him from podcasts or disney princess movies. "Your partner should tell you everything or they don't truly love you." Type shit, he would actually get upset if I started a sentence and didn't finish it and accused me of hiding things from him. I got annoyed real qu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/20 03:10 PM |
| 26 | What things have come out when talking to guys that are red flags that we havent really discussed before?I avoid guys who talk about "logic and reason" way too much. It's one thing to say you try to use logic or reasoning, it's another think to talk about it so much they've convinced themselves their emotions are logical and reasonable just because they constantly preach about logic and reason. Similarly, if a guy can't "pick his battles" I'm done. If they really need to argue over dumb shit preemptively. I knew a guy that if you said you told him about a party or event, and he didn't remember, he … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/20 03:05 PM |
| 43 | Why do they always think our world revolves around pleasing them? Dang it Bobby, back at it again with complaints about not getting some 🤣Not surprised someone like this surely lives under a rock and thinks black people don't exist on reddit. Them noticing a handful of black women suddenly means its a black majority sub? Way to snitch on yourself I guess. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/20 05:36 PM |
| 6 | My father (43) starting dating someone (26-28). Would I be the asshole if I told her about his "recent" past?He doesn't want kids or marriage and I doubt he has told her yet, but my exact fear is telling her and then her just letting him deny it in favor of believing what he wants her to believe. On one hand she is an adult but on the other hand she is probably getting played, and I wish she would see it. I don't understand why men are like this, which is why I partially want to confront him and make him see how fucking creepy and wrong of him this could be, without involving her. I know he won't shut … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/20 03:42 AM |
| 5 | My father (43) starting dating someone (26-28). Would I be the asshole if I told her about his "recent" past?I live in a different state and I'm the person who typically holds him accountable for his actions. A long time ago I basically said if he wants a relationship with me he needs to own his shit and show me how he is becoming better. I have no other family in this world beyond him, and in his favor he has become a lot better but still I worry for this woman if she doesn't know what she is up against and how she needs to handle him IF she wants to be with him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/20 12:38 AM |
| 25 | My father (43) starting dating someone (26-28). Would I be the asshole if I told her about his "recent" past?I have talked to her very briefly, when I call to ask how he was going. I found out she existed because she talked in the background and his hand was sort of revealed. I do suspect he is a narcissist, he is very vain and obsessed with working out, fashion, weight, looks, diet everything. His skincare routine makes mine look like a walk in the park. He wouldn't hurt me, we have a very strict understand of what I will and will not put up with from him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/20 12:35 AM |
| 6 | Friend convinced herself it's okay for her to never be satisfied or entertained. He claims he just isn't sexual so he can't satisfy her or change his "nature." This used to be me, and I told her there are other men who are like him that will actually satisfy her. Wish I could get through to her.I get pretty indignant with it, but I get told I'm too harsh to her and she's just saying these things because she is defensive and upset. Everyone knows her relationship is a poor one but no one speaks out and I'm starting to understand why more. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/20 08:35 AM |
| 17 | Friend convinced herself it's okay for her to never be satisfied or entertained. He claims he just isn't sexual so he can't satisfy her or change his "nature." This used to be me, and I told her there are other men who are like him that will actually satisfy her. Wish I could get through to her.Its kind of insulting that she ties her self-worth to him so much that she disregards all of our advice. She almost insinuates that we were bad partners for not sticking with men who didn't satisfy us ever. Like, we'll joke about sex and she will make fun of him, but if things get serious she gets defensive and says we clearly didn't love our partners enough if we left them over sexual incompatibility. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/20 08:16 AM |
| 38 | Friend convinced herself it's okay for her to never be satisfied or entertained. He claims he just isn't sexual so he can't satisfy her or change his "nature." This used to be me, and I told her there are other men who are like him that will actually satisfy her. Wish I could get through to her.This is exactly what I told her. She denied that she could ever be frustrated at him because of this "one" incompatibility." He basically has her trained to think that he can get off and he needs to be accepted and she just needs to get herself off (after he is done and once he is asleep) if she wants it. No HVM could live knowing his partner isn't even excited during sex, that would be an instant turnoff. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/20 05:51 AM |
| 42 | Professionally ambitious women really only have two options when it comes to their personal partners — a super-supportive partner or no partner at all.I work in genetic engineering for the department of defense. When I first got the job, my then partner was supportive but obviously jealous I had "surpassed him" and I got tired of it. I was homeless and an orphan. He had a family, a home, and his job was basically handed to him through knowing people. I just kept asking until someone finally hired me. We broke up for a multitude of reasons. A year later I started working on a project that would completely tank my coworkers thesis and work. When… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/20 05:21 AM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 4/4/2020Would I be rude if I dumped and ghosted this guy with his own line? Or should I just ghost? Context: Guy I'm talking to randomly started getting mad at me during what I viewed as a discussion and I guess he viewed it as an argument. When I realized that and tried to calmly figure out why and remedy the situation he hit me with. "Why are you speaking to me? It's not productive for you or me?" I realized he is right. Since he said that, he hasn't talked to me. He always throws a temper tantrum for… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/20 08:55 PM |
| 504 | Be difficult for abusers to loveMy ex told me I was a difficult person to love. The context? I was cooking for him and he asked if he could add cilantro to the food, I said sure. He has a bad habit of micromanaging and just took the pot and absentmindedly put in a weeks worth of cilantro into one days worth of food because he typically meal preps for a week. I smiled, laughed, then tasted it and said "now it tastes like salt and cilantro, but it'll be fine." He reacted by asking why I didn't stop him, he told me I need to lear… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/20 10:44 PM |
| 69 | This is why FDS exists. Carefully vetting our partners is imperative!I'm in the same boat, sort of, I have a chronic illness that makes it very difficult for me to walk without the help of pain killers. I always wonder, "who would have me? Someone too weak to even go up 8 stairs." A lot of men act like they're okay with it until I ask for help one too many times I guess. I never thought about it being a filter, certainly it has been something to let me see who my true friends are every now and then. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/20 11:21 PM |
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