I told her she sounds like a forever girlfriend and asked how after 7 years, they've discussed what he will end their relationship over but not what their future and commitment will look like. Other scrotes trashing her for "making him" give up his dream school.

Winnie6 · 2021-09-25T16:24:00+00:00

Go to Europe. Like next week

BlueJeanMistress · 2021-09-25T17:49:06+00:00

This reminds me of when I used to teach high school. I always tried to tell the young women I taught: “Never make any big life decisions based on your boyfriend. Whether that’s where you decide to go to college, your career path, or even where you live. Look out for yourself and put yourself first. Boys will always be there but you need to focus on yourself and do what you need to do better yourself.”

Competitive_Bar8657 · 2021-09-25T16:46:45+00:00

Even if they give up on their dreams to be together they will break up later, seen it happen too many times. Their goals are incompatible at this point but they think the sunk cost fallacy.

yikz123 · 2021-09-25T15:52:57+00:00

I wish ladies would stop asking for advice on the subreddits where the depraved scrotes frequent. Nothing good comes of it

CoffeeCakeGod · 2021-09-25T15:55:36+00:00

I'm also convinced he didn't get into his dream school but convinced her he did and told her he turned it down exclusively so they could be together. I'm in academic settings and I have seen this lie used a couple times to convince gfs of their dedication and "make them feel" more important.

xfelugirlx · 2021-09-25T17:30:02+00:00

Follow your dreams, men go and come, don’t waste more time for someone like him

Montanegro · 2021-09-25T16:10:08+00:00

She’s going to have so much regret especially when he doesn’t marry her. She needs to put herself first.

sexualfoodpantry · 2021-09-25T15:51:58+00:00

She got trashed about it because man's career dreams are still considered significantly more valuable than those of a woman's.

Never seen a guy get trashed because his girlfriend gave up everything for him, though, which sadly many women do every single day. It's just expected.

PS. Note, he's still further ahead with his phD than she is with hers.

Aksentia_Ivanovitcha · 2021-09-25T19:54:51+00:00

Ah, the classic "i gave up something for you, now you give up something for me and we can live the rest of our lives feeling unfulfilled but satisfies in knowing we can live alongside the one who held us back, so we can spend our days avenging our grudges in many little ways".

sruslywhytho · 2021-09-25T17:00:47+00:00

Men who support whatever decision you make and just want you to be happy in conversations about you moving are hoping you'll break up with them so they don't have to break up with you... from experience.

darkhorse8419 · 2021-09-25T18:51:11+00:00

I don’t even understand these advice questions. We don’t know how you feel about him.? I mean he already basically told you “ Parting is such sweet sorrow” . 🤷🏾‍♀️

hopeful_flounder93 · 2021-09-25T23:09:01+00:00

I was her and went to Europe.

Didn't regret it for a fucking second.

Sewud · 2021-09-26T00:55:33+00:00

The thing that young women don't realize is that it's hard for men to find a woman, it's not hard for women to find a man. She should do whatever she wants and not care about him. If he cares about her, he'll find a way to make it work, because for him it's hard to find another woman like this. But for her, everywhere she goes there will be more men and better men interested in her.

dollymyfolly · 2021-09-25T16:30:21+00:00

I feel like these women need to ask themselves, “if he wasn’t interested, but couldn’t say that he wasn’t interested, what would he say to me?,” because this is kind of thing he’d say.

daisy_0720 · 2021-09-26T06:58:34+00:00

"He basically said that he would not want to try long distance."

"He said that he supports whatever decision I make."

Soooo... which is it? Both these statements can't be true.

idiosyncraticg1 · 2021-09-26T21:00:14+00:00

This is why you need to stay single in your early 20s.

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