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137

“Sex work is work,” yeah so is child labor, what’s their point? It doesn’t mean it’s good for anyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 10:18 PM
19

No way, I don’t even talk to men (besides my husband) without a third party present. My choice, not his. Not sure why this is being downvoted. I learned my lesson when my male “friend” of 15 years tried to rape me. Every male I’ve ever been close to has tried to proposition me. I’ve had a man just working in a grocery store see me and find me on social media and DM me. I make my life easier by not even giving them the option to be close to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 03:27 PM
6

It’s crazy to me how the “submissive Asian woman” stereotype is a thing. Have they ever met an Asian woman?? lmao They are the most cutthroat women in the game 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 11:46 PM
19

My husband is the hardest working man I know and he always puts me first. These aren’t mutually exclusive things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 08:55 PM
26

Moissanite is a nice stone in and of itself, it has a lot of neat qualities that makes it a desirable stone (shiny hard rainbow glitter space rock lol). I just don’t like when people neg my diamond and tell me why diamonds are out and why alternatives are better. They’re both amazing stones.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 09:36 PM
27

Ugh the “dainty” neg. I love my 1 carat mined diamond. I don’t understand shading someone’s real diamond in favor of moissanite. Since when is a carat “dainty?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 08:43 PM
74

Wow he’s so jealous of you and insecure. I think you know what to do. I’m so sorry this is happening to you. He said that fully expecting you to pick him by the way. We are all glad you choose yourself instead. Congratulations on your business by the way. I hope you don’t give it up while it’s growing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 07:45 PM
35

I didn’t even have to read this, yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 04:57 AM
9

Beware of softbois
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 10:26 PM
287

How to know he’s preying on you: he’s male. All men? No. But as far as you’re concerned, all men. Always have your guard up until proven otherwise. There are literally NO BENEFITS for you for giving any man the benefit of doubt. Women tend to see the potential of good in men. We need to start seeing men for the bad potential they have: potential rapists, murderers, sociopaths. Stay safe ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 06:50 PM
77

Exactly. I’ve seen so much tearing down of other women on here lately and it’s disappointing to me. Tearing other women down never makes anyone better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 04:57 AM
24

The years made me wise sadly. Since getting married, I don’t even talk to stray men without a third party present. They have no business even speaking to me. “Making conversation” isn’t worth the personal risk to me as a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 08:22 PM
5

Ladies 🗣🗣🗣 warm his bottle in the microwave for him. Change his diaper! Give him floor time!!! Simple. 👋 He is too proud and also can’t form sentences yet. Don’t make him ask! 🗣🗣🗣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 05:35 PM
315

Ladies this is easily mitigated — just don’t date broke men. They can’t leave you if you refuse to be with them in the first place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 02:09 AM
94

I think because Megan was groomed she’s sort of regressed and re-living her teens with a teen-like relationship that clearly isn’t going to last. When he inevitably cheats on her (he will), she will probably regroup and decide she wants a more mature relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 12:35 AM
193

He looks like that kid in school who always smelled like pee, was in remedial reading, and bragged about smoking weed when he was 13
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 08:37 PM
202

This strikes me as “I’m 14 and this is deep” energy lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 12:02 AM
3

I think the average in America at least is about $5,000-$7,000 for a ring. This is enough to get something very nice and sturdy that will last a long time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 08:06 PM
3

If you’re not sure, just end it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 05:45 PM
59

Yuck I stopped reading after the implication of a girl with a black guy as a bad thing. Racist pos.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 03:52 AM
61

I feel like these women need to ask themselves, “if he wasn’t interested, but couldn’t say that he wasn’t interested, what would he say to me?,” because this is kind of thing he’d say.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 04:30 PM
46

I think she’s not necessarily implying men are better — she’s just expressing her frustration with trying to befriend some women. I have lots of great female friends, but I’ve been through this kind of thing with women an equal amount of times. I feel like the women who are rude and competitive with other women are bad news. OP video might just be pointing that out. I don’t think she’s writing off all women. I feel this sometimes. It hurts to be treated this way by women. I definitely don’t hate…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 07:06 PM
21

Thanks for posting this. As a WOC I feel sometimes that a lot is lost when we get clumped in with white women. It’s also exhausting to validate all the non-WOC women that they’re “not like the rest.” I wish we also had a WOC only sub that could be a safe space for us to discuss these things candidly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 06:39 PM
34

I think he’s telling on himself lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 01:41 PM
7

“No pet’s[sic]” lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 01:15 PM
540

I honestly wonder what type of answer these dudes are looking for, since the real answers seem to piss them off so much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 04:35 PM
67

Gomez from the Addams family lol
/r/askFDS04/09/21 02:18 PM
8

Yes exactly! They pretend it’s about morality but there’s lab diamonds easily available.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 01:21 PM
122

Some women only care about African kids when it’s about diamonds they’re not getting, they don’t seem to bat an eye about them when it comes to their iPhones. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 09:41 PM
3

Gomez from the Addams family 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 12:31 AM
78

This woman is a Scorpio 🤣 But all that aside, he’s a lost cause. She should just forget him and disappear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 06:27 PM
42

Oh true I didn’t even consider that for some reason lol. Although in her shoes I’d probably just ghost because men lie to cover their tracks anyway. Sometimes it’s just a lost cause and you gotta protect number one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 03:26 PM
62

Why even do this? What did she think would happen? “oh the other girl left me so I’m just going to settle for you again 😁.” Lol what a prize.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 03:15 PM
15

I don’t care anymore that they think this; as long as it keeps more of them away from me 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 03:38 PM
15

Hard 👏🏻 agree 👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 12:49 AM
31

I swear he cheated because he knew Camilla was too good for him and he was looking for a quick ego booster. These men are so textbook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 01:11 PM
16

This is like Korea too! Can I ask out of curiosity what culture you’re from?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 02:03 AM
63

Tbh it’s true for me too; I married a man who makes six figures. He’s an amazing man, but would I have considered an amazing man who didn’t make money too? No lmao. If you can have both, always choose both.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 01:53 AM
194

The interesting thing about these eastern cultures is that these women tend to be more aware that men want a transaction from them, so they tend to demand a lot in return. I’m Korean and while many eastern women are seen as desirable or “submissive” (for some reason???) these women are open about wanting a rich man and expect their men to take care of everything. Don’t make six figures? No job prospects? — you’re barking up the wrong tree. Western men get shocked when anything is ever asked in r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 09:43 PM
6

I should be ashamed that someone in England has an easier time keeping succulents alive than me 🤣😭 but that’s awesome!! Congrats to you again!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 05:16 PM
9

Congratulations!! Love the ring and the succulent!! Do you guys also live in the desert? We had succulents at our wedding too!🌵
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 04:35 PM
49

I like both sets of nails and tbh it has to do with the occasion more than personality. I resent that men try to shame us for the damn length of our nails.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 12:50 PM
42

Nope lol — they won. They don’t even know he exists and he’s obsessed with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 01:45 PM
34

They’re the ones the most desperate for the validation of multiple women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 11:49 PM
60

It’s really funny when these tactics backfire and the girl rejects them though. The way they scramble when all this bullshit fails is hilarious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 03:08 PM
15

I feel very lucky that my husband is like this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 12:40 PM
295

Lmao watch me 🤣 673 out of 672 men are worth rejecting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 05:37 PM
2

It’s funny how the people we thought were funny and entertaining when we were teenagers are actually just creepy when we are adults 😫
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 03:36 PM
18

Would you say you have nothing of value to offer? 😤🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 03:04 PM
98

“How dare women realize men aren’t entitled to them?!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 02:47 PM
15

Don’t you hate when men??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 02:50 PM
123

He doesn’t love her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 01:00 PM
10

I hate to put this spin but maybe because it’s so much more dangerous for homeless women. Perhaps the mortality rate is higher for them than for men. 😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 12:56 PM
26

Did someone tell him we’re aware that only 25% of men can meet our standards? (25% is a generous estimate btw lmao)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 12:41 AM
30

From my experience men who are bad at kissing lack empathy. It’s a weird connection I’ve noticed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 04:54 PM
295

It’s really funny to me whenever people say my husband is going to leave me because of my cutthroat ideas about men, when his favorite thing about me is that I don’t suffer 99% of the male population. he feels a sense of pride that he “made the cut.” Men LOVE hard-to-get. He loves that I refuse to even speak to men without a group present and that I don’t even answer the door if I’m home alone because I don’t suffer stray men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 05:02 PM
501

Men definitely don’t stay with girls they don’t respect, no matter how nice they are
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 03:36 PM
8

No, you gifted them. Take the lesson to never give to LVM as your gift from life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 04:18 PM
238

“I’ll know it when I see it.” 😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 07:40 PM
16

They will get the hint if they offer something substandard and you decline.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 03:29 PM
4

Definitely! You can still definitely get something beautiful and valuable that you love! (As for me I definitely got a diamond 🤣) it doesn’t matter as long are your standards are met! Whatever is in the Op photo though is a definite cope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 03:25 PM
55

Wtf is this? Jesus Christ, all the women who always insist they “don’t need a diamond to be happy” just say that because they never had the option of getting one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 01:15 PM
959

So many men want to talk about fairness and 50/50, from my experience HVM do this kind of thing not because they’re keeping score, but they love seeing their partner happy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 02:25 AM
14

Why doesn’t she just let him self-destruct? Jesus
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 01:40 PM
33

It’s funny how they default to this insult, then they check through my profile and realize I’m married. Then they insist my husband will definitely leave me lmao 🤷🏻‍♀️🙄🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 12:49 AM
271

Yuck, this woman needs to leave him. My husband regularly tells me his money is worth less than my happiness. If a man doesn’t mind watching you struggle when he can easily help, he doesn’t love you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 11:58 PM
2

Are we supposed to pity him and help him for the hole he dug himself?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 05:15 PM
557

Why is this idiot even asking? “Hey ma’am, can you please inflate my ego for me?” I LOVE how she refuses to play along 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 10:53 PM
74

Exactly this! My mom grew up in post-Japanese occupation, war torn Korea. Korean women know firsthand that pretty words don’t put food on the table. Men need to show their worth or they’re nexted. Broke men simply aren’t worth the trouble.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 07:23 PM
159

Asian women are the most cutthroat women in the game. I have no idea where the submissive Asian woman trope even comes from.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 05:40 PM
219

I’m a Korean girl, hypergamy is the norm in Korea. What’s the point of being with a man who can’t/won’t provide? A man without means shouldn’t expect to get married in Korean culture.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 05:17 PM
89

I definitely do this around men I don’t want in my space. He can’t seem to take a hint, huh?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 07:07 PM
7

Yuck, can you call the store and tell them one of the employees made you uncomfortable?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 01:43 PM
18

Wow the entitlement of this man is insane
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 08:37 PM
6

Lol manifesting a friend like you into my life rn 🗣✨💛
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 09:00 PM
14

It can be!! Lol but it’s a VERY clear signal for men and you will have your answer afterwards. Don’t be shy — you’re a woman and your energy is very inviting. I promise it works!
/r/askFDS04/07/21 05:11 PM
15

Smile at him directly for 5 full seconds. If he doesn’t approach after, he’s not interested!
/r/askFDS04/07/21 05:05 PM
17

Ugh I was so disappointed in Jaspreet 🗣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 08:45 PM
30

Ouch 😣 he’s never going to give her a ring, he got her with the kids!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 06:53 PM
22

I relate to this as a petite Asian woman but I honestly just realized all men are creepy until proven otherwise 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 03:48 PM
20

I kind of think your friend let you down here. If someone treated my friend this way, I’d let him have it. I wish a man would. I feel like this is more of a story about why we shouldn’t be friends with Pickmes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 03:41 PM
12

God yes. Men default to bragging about their career because being a father isn’t even a fraction of what being a mother is. I think it’s great that women can do it all but I hate seeing motherhood being undervalued.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 02:36 PM
15

He could be lying about his age too 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 12:56 PM
10

He’s shaming her for what she won’t let him do to her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 12:09 AM
17

A little girl crying over sports, what’s your excuse Jack? 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 03:57 PM
152

Look, he’s fine as hell too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 06:50 PM
80

Lol this idiot, men always think being “friends” with a woman is a stepping stone to sex. He’s in for a shock.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 12:42 PM
367

Men draw a lot of false equivalencies here. It’s men who would rather be with their second choice than alone. Women would rather be alone than with their second choice. It isn’t HV attractive guy > less attractive guy > alone for us. HV attractive guy and alone are the better choices.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 04:57 PM
84

Don’t approach men. They will approach you if they’re interested. If they don’t, they’re not. I know a common response to this is, “what if they are and they’re too shy?” Women shouldn’t be closing the gap for men who fail to claim what they want. When we do that, we mommy them and create an entitlement in them. A standard we need to have for all men who we are interested in is that they need to be man enough for approach you and show interest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 02:44 PM
9

Ahhh I’m tearing up 😖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 01:18 PM
62

Seriously, there are so many redundant men for the same reason prey animals are born in huge litters: most of them will be killed and eaten leaving only a few to continue the species.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 08:40 PM
239

Men really hate being faced with their biggest fear confirmed: that they are useless, most of them are redundant, we aren’t interested in a majority of them or their opinions. Men are meant to go out hunting and protecting the tribe. By default that means most of them will die and only the strongest ones are esteemed and get to procreate. They have this deep existential fear that they are one of the ones who are meant to die off during a hunt. They literally base their entire shitty lives trying…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 07:15 PM
8

Yes, they always have someone lined up or move on quickly. For men, life is winter and women are winter coats.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 03:55 PM
151

I wish I knew this truth about men when I was a young impressionable woman. Looking back, making excuses for men in my life always resulted in my deteriorating mental health and self-esteem. If I could go back to my 20s, I wouldn’t have wasted my time on men at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 05:40 PM
4

Just 👁👄👁 wut
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 02:30 PM
43

Lmao why would he set himself up to be so disappointing? 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 01:44 PM
21

Oh no honey go read the handbook
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 12:09 AM
51

Fucking ew, I know you feel hurt, but for your sake I am relieved he’s gone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 09:23 PM
17

It’s creepy and it feels like being commodified. God I’d leave in the middle of the date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 03:09 PM
31

God someone help how do I delete other people’s art??? 😭😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 01:49 PM
50

Men 👏🏻aren’t 👏🏻 your 👏🏻 friends
/r/askFDS16/06/21 06:38 PM
41

It’s insane the way so many men casually ruin lives
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 05:29 PM
18

This also happened to me. I felt sick and betrayed as well. I felt like that’s when I truly learned that men aren’t your friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 05:13 PM
36

If he had 24 hours and you couldn’t say no, he’d obviously rape you. The answer isn’t a mystery. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 02:27 PM
16

When I was a teen I was watching the news and saw my youth pastor on TV for murdering his wife, soliciting prostitutes, and grooming a young girl in my group. It was traumatizing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 01:24 PM
32

This is honestly so pathetic that men allow this to happen to themselves. I don’t know any women with these problems.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 03:56 PM
43

Just keep tunnel vision and don’t bother with other people and their lives. I didn’t get engaged until I was 30 and before then I traveled around, worked my dream job, did everything else I wanted to do. When I had fully developed all my interests, the right one came. I wasn’t even looking! At 23, you have a lot of life ahead of you that has nothing to do with men.
/r/askFDS06/06/21 11:11 PM
2

Yes?
/r/askFDS21/05/21 03:26 PM
6

Flowers are a wonderful gesture when you give them with no motives. I’m assuming you just want to give them to show appreciation or to make a sweet gesture. Go for it! I’d be thrilled personally.
/r/askFDS20/05/21 09:44 PM
6

It’s always for sex
/r/askFDS14/05/21 03:06 PM
66

Then be done with him!
/r/askFDS13/05/21 07:50 PM
13

Why would you feel guilty? He’s literally gaslighting you? Please tell me you blocked him
/r/askFDS05/05/21 04:18 PM
6

Explain literally nothing and surround yourself with more likeminded people.
/r/askFDS01/05/21 12:47 AM
73

I know a girl who chased down her now husband for AGES before he really gave her any consideration. I mean just hinting and desperately trying to make it happen with him. I mean he sort of shrugged one day was like “yeah maybe I’ll meet her idk.” Sure, they’re married, but he didn’t marry for her another SEVEN YEARS. She was also constantly competitive with any benign women in his circle. Deep down, she knew he didn’t do anything to win her and as a result she is very insecure. To this day, she’…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 03:32 PM
17

Oh man this guy is not interested. Don’t wait around. He’s consistent but not moving anything forward? You’re probably his bench warmer.
/r/askFDS27/04/21 09:26 PM
25

Some woman isn’t too keen on him and he’s looking for a self-esteem boost in the form of attention (from you!)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 01:39 PM
10

It’s shameful that women are gaslighting themselves and being gaslit to settle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 02:11 AM
8

God, even if this is fake, hearing men talk about women like they’re soulless objects is so triggering to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 02:13 PM
13

Honestly isn’t this fear and angst what motivated men for so long to take away our freedom? They’re threatened and afraid of our sexuality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 02:06 PM
12

He probably doesn’t even like you tbh, he just wants sex.
/r/askFDS22/04/21 07:42 PM
52

Lmao this reminds me of a guy I used to hang out with asking “what are we” when nothing romantic was EVER implied. It sounds like this girl was never in any kind of relationship with him and he is probably obsessed with her because of her disinterest in him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 02:12 PM
10

sleeping with him after only one month? 😭
/r/askFDS21/04/21 08:28 PM
13

Wow — gentrified homelessness, so he’s both pretentious and homeless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 04:51 PM
36

I love how these stories always end in the women not getting picked by the man she paid for lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 01:22 PM
4

Often yes, but not necessarily. Meals I’ve had made by men were often carbs and fat, no protein, or protein and fat, no carbs, or carbs and protein, no fat. They just don’t know what a satisfying meal is supposed to look like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 09:14 PM
7

I feel like men just aren’t any good at the intuitive part of cooking. If there are instructions, they are only good at following those. But if something goes wrong they’re totally lost. I don’t like when men cook for me also because they always make a mess, are much slower than me, and always forget one major food group.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 01:47 PM
26

She’s a good girl! Please, someone find this woman her forever home!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 11:24 PM
22

It’s like these men are paying for the delusion that these women want them more than they’re paying for sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 07:00 PM
7

Seriously. The sad part is that she refers to him as “husband.” Girl that’s not your husband 🗣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 06:00 PM
10

My Korean-ass doesn’t understand how parents let their daughter’s boyfriends live in their house?? My parents would have NEVER
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 05:15 PM
10

Like if marriage is so important to them both why not just literally get legally married?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 04:26 PM
10

That was my favorite part 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 03:01 AM
15

I’m afraid to read this because I have a feeling it’s going to be triggering 😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 02:47 AM
33

“...so that’s doors wide open.” Lmao the delusion. He doesn’t know that women feel “the ick” for exes they once loved after they moved on. It’s the universal feeling of “oh my god what was I thinking,” whenever we remember exes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 12:47 PM
69

Picktok 🤣💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 09:57 PM
37

You continue blessing him with your presence.
/r/askFDS09/04/21 02:48 PM
3

Gotta agree with you! Girls can be just as cruel as men. (Often more cruel, because they should know better.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 08:23 AM
7

Yes definitely women are guilty of this, personally in an opposite way for me though — they’re more hostile to me if I’m smaller and treat me like I’m less of a threat if I gain weight. I hear about girl power all the time but truthfully I’ve seen it so rarely in real life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 08:04 AM
142

Wow 🤩 I hope that top commenter gets picked!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 05:14 PM
98

I’ve never met a man with a big dick who bragged about it. The ones bragging are the small ones.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 03:28 PM
143

Sometimes when I see myself in the mirror everyday it’s hard to notice subtle changes. But wanna know how I know I’ve gained weight? Men treat me like I’m invisible or they’re openly hostile to me. Yeah working out is something I enjoy on one hand, but on the other hand I just don’t want to cope with the disrespect I get for the alternative. I get resentful of the amount of praise men get for stopping drinking soda and dropping five pounds, but if I’m not maintaining my size 2, I’m met with host…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 03:13 PM
69

Normalized isn’t normal, and it doesn’t have to be for you. You can choose not to accept it from anyone.
/r/askFDS08/04/21 02:45 PM
17

He cheers for any woman who isn’t threatening to him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 12:52 PM
14

I’ve seen you post here before, I think you should consider not dating until you can start to grasp that a man rejecting you does not mean that you’re worthless and unworthy of love.
/r/askFDS08/04/21 03:10 AM
17

The slavery begins mentally so slaves don’t even know they’re on a leash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 10:47 PM
44

Yup! Men are terrible aren’t they? Block him!
/r/askFDS07/04/21 08:54 PM
97

Girl yikes stop it! Yes — most men don’t have the balls to end things definitively because they want to be able to snake in when their other options don’t pan out. They put it on you to end it. It’s effectively over. Don’t make yourself pathetic by apologizing. Just block him. Also — you’re asking twice and he won’t answer. There’s your answer: He doesn’t care.
/r/askFDS07/04/21 08:51 PM
114

Yes — don’t wait up just trade up.
/r/askFDS07/04/21 08:47 PM
5

It’s funny how these men who are so vocal about her looks are conveniently hidden behind the anonymity of the internet
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 10:31 PM
39

That is actually dystopian 🤯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 10:26 PM
44

You can share your love of cooking as much as you want as long as you don’t forget your boundaries around it. Just because you love cooking for your family doesn’t mean any man you date gets those perks. It’s a standard you can have for yourself without any explaining to him, because you don’t owe him an explanation.
/r/askFDS06/04/21 08:46 PM
155

Tbh I’d be thrilled if other female only subs opened that weren’t FDS. I just want female only spaces to be more normalized
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 06:59 PM
3

He knows he’s hurting her, he just doesn’t care. Her vulva is bleeding because she gives him the benefit of doubt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 04:07 PM
307

I remember having a “debate” with a group of men who said women should do 50/50, and my stance was that I don’t accept 50/50. They all got real silent when I asked them if they’d go 50/50 with their dream girl (a Beyoncé, Jessica Alba, etc). They know what they’re doing. Btw — there was a group of girls with me there who all fought for doing 50/50 on dates. Guess who the men were most interested in?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 03:41 PM
45

It seems like you’re hyper fixated on him for some reason. Try dating other men and instead of wondering when this one will act right, just chose the best one out of the bunch.
/r/askFDS06/04/21 03:50 AM
28

I’ve been dated by “shy” guys, like other men, they go for what they want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 09:20 PM
19

He made one “apology” that was quite flippant but then he lost many of his brand deals so he decided to sit on the floor and shed some tears for his second “apology.” He can apologize all he wants (as he should!) but it doesn’t mean the consequences should be removed. It’s a fair outcome that he apologizes AND loses brand deals. An apology video isn’t a get out a jail free card for consequences.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 05:31 PM
102

Lmao it’s funny how they call us incels when we’re based on actively pushing away 90% of men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 04:18 PM
219

It’s hot to them because they enjoy the free validation, not because they actually want the women who ask them out 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 04:02 PM
17

🤡 she’s in for it when he accepts all her advances and then goes to ask out the girl he really likes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 04:01 PM
12

I had about 10 pounds that just WOULDNT COME OFF and literally two days after I removed my wretched IUD I lost 7 pounds. I hated that thing and I regret ever using it.
/r/askFDS03/04/21 06:57 PM
16

Just out of curiosity what language is it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 07:04 PM
7

Exactly. Even though we get insulted we aren’t allowed to react to it. It’s like talking to a toddler throwing a tantrum. Thanks for the support. 💛
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 05:17 PM
17

thanks for seeing my effort. The amount of calm explaining you have to do as a minority can be emotionally exhausting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 04:15 PM
30

You’re missing the point. No one said it was a problem or could even be helped. It’s just a matter of examining the convention, but for some reason you’re just getting defensive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 03:52 PM
25

Yikes! I suggest you read “White Fragility.” It’s a good book on race dynamics, privilege, and how color blindness is harmful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 03:49 PM
25

It does though, whether you want to examine it or not. Because “tall and white” is a beauty convention (something pushed in mainstream media as attractive), my race is seen as a group of submissive women who are a niche, exotic interest. I guarantee you guys know what race I am just from saying that. You can repeat that you can’t help it, but don’t bury your head in the sand because your own preferences align with convention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 03:42 PM
7

Yes thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 03:04 PM
101

It’s their right, this is just poking fun at conventions of attraction. “Tall and white” tends to be seen as more desirable. It’s fine that people are attracted to this — I think it’s also trying to encourage us to examine why though. It’s just pointing out how arbitrary the standard is. (Sincerely, a minority girl.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 02:12 PM
105

Ah the classic “She’s in a relationship but he’s single” scrote trope
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 01:09 AM
21

NO. 🗣🗣🗣🗣
/r/askFDS01/04/21 06:49 PM
107

No lol you’re allowed to have preferences. Trust — men have their own preferences they will NEVER apologize for. Dump him. Let him go find another girl who wants to be a martyr for his idealism. It doesn’t have to be you.
/r/askFDS01/04/21 03:07 PM
49

You are being dehumanized and the longer you stay, the more you’re communicating to him that you accept it. Do not talk to him about it. He knows but doesn’t care.
/r/askFDS30/03/21 11:47 PM
15

I was transfixed the entire 20 minutes. I am quaking. This was amazing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 08:20 PM
223

She made an excellent point about how men are so threatened when women feel good about themselves, and how we don’t tear down others who feel good about themselves. It’s such an insecure male thing to do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 04:09 PM
57

Seems like he’s keeping you around for a second option. There’s probably someone he’s pursuing more. Do not hint! He is currently pursuing you at the level he wants — hardly at all but just enough to confuse you. Just find someone who doesn’t treat you like a fallback girl.
/r/askFDS29/03/21 02:04 PM
7

A sad reality that I’ve faced is that you hear about girl power all the time all over the internet, but I see it so rarely in real life. I wish women were truly more supportive of each other. I honestly vet women friends as much as I vet men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 03:25 PM
17

Men aren’t your friends
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 03:11 PM
51

Lmao at the man receiving this, just disassociating RIP idiot 👁👄👁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 04:29 PM
19

Ahhh god I couldn’t watch the real confessional. It was just too cringey. I heard he was talking in the third person a lot. A lot of guilty people do that to remove themselves psychologically from their actions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 04:22 PM
75

Ice Queen lol, when they desperately want access to your sexuality and you won’t grant it to them. I loved being called Ice Queen tbh 🤣🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 08:49 PM
60

I don’t think we can assume she’s a pick-me. Plenty of well-meaning women get blindsided by their husbands who mislead them. He’s the one to blame here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 02:01 PM
3

She seems a bit smug for someone who happens to be very very wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 02:35 PM
1

It’s not that we don’t like nice guys. It’s just that these “nice guys” are often passive and have low-confidence, things that are repulsive to women. Trust us, if a man is both kind and confident, he would be our first choice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 01:55 AM
155

Why did she get in a man’s car on the first date?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 11:59 PM
14

My liver could never 😖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 10:50 PM
25

Don’t tell him anything because he’s showing you you don’t mean very much to him and you should dump him accordingly. Your number is probably saved in his phone as “free sex.” If he was serious about you he wouldn’t ask to split the check. P.S. — his peers with better judgment probably think he’s a loser for dating a 19 year-old. Spoiler: he doesn’t like you because you’re mature for your age.
/r/askFDS16/03/21 06:36 PM
6

Sorry, women tried loving men unconditionally. Turns out they take what we give for granted and now we gatekeep who we give unconditional love to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 03:12 PM
99

Underrated comment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 04:15 PM
39

Oh my god yuck
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 11:17 PM
97

I feel like whenever I see a woman “spoiling” her bf it’s a red flag, because women tend to do for others what they’d like to have done to them. If she’s doing it excessively, it’s almost like she’s trying extra hard to get him off his ass to return the favor.
/r/askFDS13/03/21 06:24 PM
20

He has dead mackerel eyes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 02:03 PM
4

I feel like since these guys know no one wants to see them naked, they inflict themselves on us. It’s sexual assault. They’re just trying to not be ignored.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 04:54 AM
104

I’m glad she withdrew from him. I feel like more and more women are seeing through this kind of thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 03:04 PM
15

Bruh stop worrying about the stuff you can’t change. Most women are just asking you to shower and wipe your ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 04:23 PM
6

This is the answer lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 04:21 PM
92

Is she filtering out the comments on YouTube? They’re all positive for some reason. I have a hard time believing 100% of people commenting find this cute.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 04:20 AM
20

Do boys know that they can’t cherry pick traits? All those good things she offers only comes with the “bad.” If he doesn’t want those, he can’t have the stuff he enjoys either. It doesn’t fucking work like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 08:45 PM
10

It’s a perfect scenario for him to get another girlfriend/wife/family! The risk is just too high for you. Just make a hard line that a man in your life doesn’t disappear for months at a time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 08:16 PM
6

Same. I don’t need to know anything else.
/r/askFDS04/03/21 01:31 AM
15

Even if he’s not necessarily looking for a hookup, every man is gonna try. It’s up to you to show him you’re not that kind of girl. If he walks after you show your standards, let him walk. Also yes, it’s ALWAYS for sex.
/r/askFDS03/03/21 03:59 PM
10

I see those types of women as traitors 🤡 They cannot be trusted!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 01:27 AM
117

I’ve found that most men will ignore your hobbies and are hoping to tack their women on to their life and their pre-existing hobbies. It doesn’t occur to them that women have their own interests.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 06:13 PM
19

If they wanna be loved unconditionally so bad why don’t they run back to their mommas?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 05:52 PM
4

If you want a guy who will postpone sex talk, find a guy who will postpone sex talk. You can’t change anyone. He is showing you he’s not your guy.
/r/askFDS26/02/21 04:33 PM
3

No! Nothing special about a man who is only nice to women he wants to fuck.
/r/askFDS25/02/21 11:03 PM
61

Crazy how it never seems to occur to him that she’s not dancing to attract him?? He comes in with the confidence of someone who is welcome!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 12:30 AM
77

If being in a situationship is working for him he’s probably not motivated to promote you to a girlfriend. You ought to be seeing other men and start making him a little less important.
/r/askFDS23/02/21 05:00 AM
7

Yoga!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 03:36 AM
17

I love this movie! It’s such a sweet, feel-good watch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 01:18 AM
9

You’re right that he does care about you! But he just doesn’t want to marry you. That’s why you’re confused and trying to make it make sense. Just recognize that nonnegotiable thing for you is something that he doesn’t want with you. You have it all in front of you plainly. He’s benefited a lot from you making excuses for him. Just ask yourself what’s left when you stop filling in the gaps for him?
/r/askFDS23/02/21 12:53 AM
50

This is the kind of stuff a guy that doesn’t want to marry you would say. Women are way too valuable for a man to simply dump without having a decent replacement, so they almost never dump them cold. They just sort of stop putting serious effort in. A big motto for FDS is “if he wanted to, he would.” If he’s not doing it it’s because he doesn’t want to.
/r/askFDS22/02/21 08:32 PM
9

I almost feel like the behaviors we are discouraged from doing with men would work well with women? (Splitting, treating them as the same, assuming the best intentions, etc) but I suppose you’ve still got to vet them especially since there are so many nightmare stories of men secretly being behind the scenes. Good luck!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 08:10 PM
6

Yes.
/r/askFDS22/02/21 07:18 PM
136

He doesn’t want to marry you
/r/askFDS22/02/21 05:41 PM
9

Don’t live with him anymore. You’re splitting rent with him like a roommate. Just go get an actual roommate and don’t tie up your finances with a man before you’re married!
/r/askFDS22/02/21 03:20 PM
16

Do you know why they are orbiting? They’re waiting for your guard to go down enough so they can take what they want from you. I made the mistake of having a male friend who secretly had feelings for me (spoiler: they always do) and he tried to rape me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 03:00 AM
15

🌼✨He pays for everything ✨🌼
/r/askFDS22/02/21 02:27 AM
8

Why explain to him? He’ll see it as negotiation. He’s already shown you he’s not looking to settle down. Just respond in kind by moving on to someone who is.
/r/askFDS21/02/21 07:59 PM
25

“I’m open to romantic stuff” = I want a fuckbuddy but it’s not polite to say candidly
/r/askFDS21/02/21 02:26 PM
22

Honestly, women’s greatest power is in responding. Initiating any kind of communication always blows up in our face. She should just respond to his decision to not brush his teeth by dumping him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 12:29 AM
8

Don’t ask men out! 😣
/r/askFDS19/02/21 08:18 PM
33

“It’s hard to explain” because it doesn’t make sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 06:22 PM
56

They got to hammer the idea that the women want to be there, because they don’t want to deal with the reality of the answer to the question: “what if they don’t want to be there?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 05:43 PM
59

Not to mention the potential trauma a woman experiences if she miscarries 😢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 03:56 PM
16

Why are libfems and men so desperate to push the narrative that men and women are the same? We are different in very obvious ways and those differences should be acknowledged and respected! Different doesn’t have to translate to unequal!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 03:19 PM
26

Ciara is a living goddess lmao the fucking cope
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 05:54 PM
7

Sort of related — why do so many men on OLD post photos with their arm around another girl or two? It’s like they’re posting photos that would impress other men but basically repulse women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 03:36 PM
31

Lol hopefully she’ll continue lurking here and leave him (and take the ps5 with)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 02:05 AM
11

Literally always
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 10:01 PM
12

I wish all girls would stop laughing at this shit. Enough girls have laughed at that stupid line to make him not ashamed to say it to a rando.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 04:50 PM
3

Women 👏🏻 love 👏🏻 effort 👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 04:48 PM
12

Yeah seriously imagine hoping that your husband would pick you. Cardi B has no self-respect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 12:45 PM
13

He likes you at his own convenience.
/r/askFDS11/02/21 02:53 PM
99

Nothing gives me more joy than the idea of a man sitting alone in his room and realizing he’s been a fuck up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 02:37 PM
92

I think the interesting thing I’ve noticed as I’ve gotten older is that this kind of stuff isn’t fresh or cute anymore. I’ve seen it all before and I don’t crave any of this stupid young love bullshit. At my age you just want reliability and stability and someone who can meet your standards consistently. It doesn’t sound cute or romantic but at a certain point you stop wanting to have your head in the clouds about love and want someone with their feet firmly on the ground.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 03:21 AM
1205

It amuses me how men seem to think eastern women are submissive. They’re some of the most cutthroat women in the game! 🤣👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 09:28 PM
35

It’s funny because actually in Russia they don’t do Christmas gifts but New Years gifts 🤣 She ain’t wrong though anyway, don’t get him shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 03:24 PM
3

So he’s saying that he’s ugly and this is somehow women’s fault?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 02:06 PM
10

YES.
/r/askFDS04/02/21 01:14 AM
1

No sex at 2 months is fine, but no intention or clear purpose? It’s made her worried enough to post about. I don’t think this is strictly about him taking it slow. She should definitely keep watching this guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 03:14 AM
4

I agree with this. There’s a reason. Does he have a girlfriend already? Is he married? I’d keep my eyes open. It’s weird behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 02:03 AM
6

Good! This is the best possible outcome!
/r/askFDS03/02/21 01:41 AM
9

I think he might be maintaining you as a burner? It’s weird for a man not to define something he really wants. Maybe keeping you in a nebulous relationship is working for him because he could be seeing someone else. Edit: I think it’s only a problem if he keeps going like this without defining anything. Men are the ones who move things forward. It’s a problem if he’s not deliberate with how he moves with you. Has he shown you he’s serious? I say just watch him, be cautious, and don’t invest only…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 01:38 AM
37

He doesn’t want anything but an easy fuck and a nice ego boost. Unfortunately it ain’t deep.
/r/askFDS03/02/21 01:33 AM
73

Yes, he is lovebombing. If it feels wrong, it is.
/r/askFDS02/02/21 06:30 PM
17

Men get away with stuff all the time because women keep making excuses for them. I wish she’d do us all a favor and stop making excuses for him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 04:43 AM
168

“I would have proposed to you with that ring (that I didn’t buy.”) it sounds like future faking to me. He gets kudos from you for the sentiment but he didn’t have to even do anything! Also if he wanted to be engaged to you, those comments would tickle him, not make him angry. He is being disrespectful and honestly he just showed you how he feels about you. I think you should dump him.
/r/askFDS02/02/21 03:44 AM
16

He’s the wrong one. That is a horrible way to treat someone. It’s unacceptable. Demand respect from the ones who want to date you.
/r/askFDS02/02/21 01:39 AM
156

He looks like a goth thumb
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 12:00 AM
2

Sounds like you’re not welcome in that social circle. Men tend to aggressively ignore women they see no value in. I’d definitely find a new social circle.
/r/askFDS01/02/21 11:13 PM
37

She’s an absolute queen. The kind of woman you shouldn’t even bother if you’re not some kind of foreign blue blooded aristocrat. 👏🏻 Manson is lucky she even breathed the same air as him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 10:44 PM
69

That one always baffled me because she is WAY WAY WAY too good for him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 09:30 PM
77

I remember he was also engaged to Dita Von Tease and I think she broke it off with him because he was cheating? Maybe she was “too old” to manipulate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 08:16 PM
369

You can tell how little he respects her by the fact that he’s not even embarrassed that she found out (more embarrassed by his coworkers finding out.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 06:33 PM
88

Shit guys, my man-handler wasn’t watching me and I accidentally bought a cute but impractical cottage. What now?? 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 05:16 AM
35

...you sent this to a man? Please read the handbook. (Spoiler: letters to men where you pour your heart out won’t change the dynamic.)
/r/askFDS01/02/21 03:06 AM
28

Woah woah woah, the answer is obviously no, but the bigger question here is why do you want to “make it work” with someone who flat out told you you don’t make him happy? He’s setting you up to jump through hoops for him, which you’re considering for some reason? Let go of the scarcity mindset and move on. There’s another guy out there for you and he won’t even disrespect you. The biggest question here is why don’t you want to make yourself available for the right one?
/r/askFDS29/01/21 03:46 PM
25

There is no such thing as an epic comeback. They all reek of giving too many fucks. It’s exactly what these dudes want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 04:21 AM
12

Jealousy is a disease I stay far far away from jealous women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 06:00 PM
57

Please abort and I’m so so sorry this happened to you. Please cut him off! He’s shown you his colors! Don’t fall into the trap of thinking anything can change him. Please find someone you can trust and ask them if they can emotionally support you. I’m so sorry. Please don’t let this ruin you.
/r/askFDS25/01/21 04:33 PM
24

Yes! “Sex work” is just prostitution gentrified.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 02:36 AM
24

I had this thought yesterday how I feel deeply disappointed whenever I find anyone, male or female, and I follow them on social media because I like their line of work, only to find they’re on onlyfans too. Is nothing sacred? I hate the idea that this person I followed for an unrelated reason sells their lewd photos for a few bucks a month. I feel almost violated. It’s unexplainable. I don’t want convenient access to the sexuality of just anyone. I hate that it’s being supplied to me without me …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 12:48 AM
14

Continue a situationship — not even once.
/r/askFDS24/01/21 07:22 PM
32

You should dump him! He played two girls and deserves neither.
/r/askFDS24/01/21 06:01 PM
8

This is the correct reason ⬆️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 04:31 PM
11

Handled like a true queen 👑 I need to know his reaction 🤣👏🏻 I bet he was shook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 11:21 PM
37

Women are equal to their partner whether they choose to contribute in providing or not. They deserve the same respect. That being said, it’s not a bad idea for women to have their own source of income or savings that the man can’t access.
/r/askFDS23/01/21 02:41 PM
14

I guess this guy has neither girth nor length 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 02:24 PM
6

🥲
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 02:08 AM
25

Yep he’s describing perfectly the way that libfems regularly give up their power. They don’t respect their sexual “empowerment.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 08:20 PM
8

Lol the poster children of AITA
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 06:58 PM
17

This video has always alarmed me. I honestly wish she showed his face.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 05:22 PM
33

Third date? Come on if he’s serious he will never let you touch your wallet. The third date you still have no idea who the hell the man is. Women require heavy upfront investment. My man just did something huge for me and told me he was happy and proud for the opportunity to provide it for me. You can occasionally give in a relationship but while dating you honestly just need to sit back and enjoy yourself without wondering when you need to give. You’re a woman. Your presence is the gift.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 04:50 PM
6

For everything three things he gives you, make him or give him something. I like baked goods as gifts for men.
/r/askFDS21/01/21 04:16 PM
44

Why explain any of this? Just pay for the date and then block him afterwards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 01:50 PM
51

But men aren’t attractive 🤣🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 01:27 AM
3

It’s so iconic 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 01:03 AM
63

There seems to be a pattern here: the kind of men who have the audacity to either expect/ask for a ps5 from their girlfriend is the kind of man who has the audacity to cheat. If he’s asking you to buy him a ps5, he knows it’s outrageous to request but he cares about you so little he tried it anyway. I’m sorry for her. She seems young. I know that I was also confused when I was that young.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 08:21 PM
2

Yes! Mirror the positive stuff and just block him when he acts up!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 08:15 PM
13

Was that Tammy? I honestly respected her progress. That was one of the ones who consistently lost weight. Her husband was trash. Her self esteem was so low she put up with him. I hope she’s doing okay!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 04:58 PM
66

This comment deserves a gilding 🏅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 04:45 PM
39

So basically you like him more than he likes you and because of that you aren’t clearheaded enough to properly vet him. He’s showing you you’re not important to him. In fact, you let him show you more than once. Any other sub would tell you to cOmMuNiCaTe but do the loving thing for yourself and snap out of it.
/r/askFDS18/01/21 11:46 PM
82

He flaked twice? Forget him and stop making excuses for him, Jesus.
/r/askFDS18/01/21 08:39 PM
24

I’m glad you walked away. He won’t change. The response at the breakup is always telling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 05:14 PM
20

Good for you! It always hurts but there’s always pain in the process of transformation. Don’t settle for less. What was his reaction?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 05:11 PM
19

You can catch future faking if they promise something and just say “Great! When?” Make them give you a date. If they don’t/can’t just stay alert.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 03:10 PM
37

My fiancé prides himself on remembering the exact nail shape and finish I like to have because he takes me to get them done quite often. There are men who like treating their women well and many more who will just pretend to be those men. This man in the tweet is a clown.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 02:43 PM
23

“With a trusted person” wtf does this phrase even mean anymore when women aren’t even vetting anymore? The bar is so fucking low
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 02:39 PM
66

Whenever I’m upset I don’t explain why in the moment. When you explain feelings, men think they’re up for negotiation. They also know what they did wrong, despite what they say. I give it a day and revisit the upset calmly and not in the moment.
/r/askFDS18/01/21 01:21 PM
12

Yeah I lived in China for a while...I had the same thing happen with a Chinese taxi driver. It was traumatizing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 01:38 AM
12

Korean? Where? They’re speaking Chinese...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 09:47 PM
46

Oh he’s from China. This is pretty typical of an attitude in east Asia sadly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 04:58 PM
2

It’s sad that she posted. It’s almost as if she’s seeking permission to tell him she hates it. She’s allowed to hate the ring.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 09:50 PM
117

Honestly many of the dangerous situations I’ve gotten into was the result of trusting a pickme too soon. Left out alone in a strange part of town and assaulted by a group of men? It’s because my pick-me friend left me alone for some bar dick. My sister’s husband screamed at me until I cried and she ran to comfort him. Pickmes are remarkably disloyal and make awful company. They’re like little lap dogs and will dance around for men’s approval and you’ll never be as important to them as a random m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 05:03 PM
12

Someone tried to shame me for my 1 ct diamond just because it’s not a huge boulder like the ones on social media. I generally don’t like making girls feel bad about their rings, but there’s a time and place for ring shaming, and this is one of them. Tbh the reason why this ring is so wrong is because he didn’t even try. You ladies already found affordable better alternatives to this in one google search. The amount of money spent is undeniably one factor, but effort is another one! If a man can’…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 04:42 PM
17

Seems like a cheap way to lure her into bed? (Especially assuming they weren’t sleeping together at the time). If they were already sleeping together, then buying a satin pillowcase would be a mundane chore he should do out of courtesy. I’m not impressed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 11:26 PM
29

Like wtf who tf doesn’t appreciate curvy girls? The negs don’t even make sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 11:24 PM
7

I know my fiancé from my college friend circle, so we met in real life and he was friends with many of my friends (made him easy to vet). He always tells me he always dreaded the idea of meeting a girl from tinder. Tbh I feel like a majority of men on OLD are LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 10:07 PM
88

Yeah tbh I wouldn’t be touched, just pissed at the audacity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 10:01 PM
24

I’m so sorry 😣 but fortunately you don’t have any back pain!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 09:49 PM
113

I had a roommate who left dishes out all the time and never cleaned, so I just took them directly out of the sink and threw them on her floor, as they were. I don’t miss having roommates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 08:10 PM
46

Ugh wtf? A neg and projection? No offense to g cup ladies, but what woman wants to pay for g cups? It sounds like back pain city.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 07:53 PM
83

“You’re the hottest girl I know, which is saying a lot for me because I usually find petite girls ugly.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 07:20 PM
27

My fiancé lays it on thick and frequently: spa days, massage packages, mani pedis, “just-because” bouquets, and a Nintendo switch! HVM enjoy spoiling their women imo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 01:51 AM
11

He can’t afford a few extra euros? That’s pathetic. I hope she blocked him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 06:18 PM
83

“A man paying for dates,” formerly known as “dates.” Agreed, paying for dates is the bare minimum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 06:13 PM
39

I think you have to recognize that she’s allowing this guy to be important in her life. A guy who pushes you away. It’s not all him. She’s responsible too. Create consequences. Stop talking to them both, you’re clearly not wanted. If and when they break up and she comes crawling back to you, you can decide whether or not she’s worth it to you as a friend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 04:59 PM
5

Ikr? The Dutch man I dated was an absolute sociopath. NL is crawling with LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 08:45 PM
3

Me too!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 05:37 PM
145

The way men reject women is also way more harsh. If they don’t want to fuck a woman they literally pretend she doesn’t exist. They pretend not to hear her when she talks and just aggressively pretends she’s not there (at best!)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 05:31 PM
45

Why would you tell him? Just block him. He will understand you’re blocking him when he’s blocked.
/r/askFDS10/01/21 03:11 AM
75

I really appreciate the perspective you’re giving us here. I often have an odd envy for the Muslim women who cover their hair because I want to deny men access looking at me (but I’m not Muslim.) thanks for writing this. Take my gold! ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 12:39 AM
40

I’m stunned. He mutilated her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 07:21 PM
45

“You deserve better” = “I cheat”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 05:48 PM
12

This happens so often I start to read it as a sign. A woman buying crazy gifts = he’s a bum or he cheats. If a girl feels so desperate to please a man she’s buying him gifts like this, it’s probably because he doesn’t value her and she’s subconsciously trying to buy validation from him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 03:05 PM
1

What woman sits around drinking bud light and playing video games, neglecting the dishes?? This sounds more like every man I know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 02:57 PM
113

Let’s go to your apartment because of the cold!! Oh no? A walk then!! How about a restaurant you idiot? If you want to go inside because of the cold, how does a walk make any sense?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 02:30 PM
106

There’s nothing to work on here but your self-esteem. You need to leave him.
/r/askFDS08/01/21 01:49 PM
19

Block
/r/askFDS07/01/21 06:55 PM
15

Sadly this has happened to me a few times as well. Why is this so common?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 04:54 PM
8

He’s got another girl he’s gotta love bomb 🤣 He wants to know if you’ll wait for him just in case it doesn’t work out?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 02:27 PM
11

That’s it. And he’s gritting his teeth playing along
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 09:14 PM
9

Probably not satisfying ones if yes. But usually no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 05:51 PM
147

“Girly,” 🤮 the microaggression he’s using as he’s seething with anger every second you’re not handing over free sex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 03:54 AM
62

Ugh sadly most of them want validation for their stupid choices, not advice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 02:33 AM
209

The only problem I see is that he can’t afford the woman he chose 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 08:07 PM
4

“Ugly women swipe left” as if all women aren’t swiping left on him 😂 it’s so cute when men pretend to be picky.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 07:13 PM
8

No! Leave, don’t explain. Let him sort out the regret. Go out there and do better for yourself. Men don’t deserve more than one chance.
/r/askFDS05/01/21 04:58 PM
9

You’re doing him a favor. Also boundaries! You’re only responsible for yourself. Don’t caretake him. He’s in charge of his life.
/r/askFDS05/01/21 04:51 PM
325

“Naturals” 🤮. remember, to most men, you’re just a porn category.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 04:46 PM
12

Thank god you don’t live with him! Besides it being something highly not recommended, it’ll make it easy for you to walk away from him and find a man who values you! Five years and no traveling or ring? Don’t waste another second. Break 👏🏻up 👏🏻with 👏🏻him! 👏🏻
/r/askFDS05/01/21 04:44 PM
29

A rule of thumb I used while looking for partners was the inhale versus exhale comparison. Sounds odd but bear with me. If a man feels like an inhale — excitement, exhilaration, anticipation, it’s time to slow down and look at the relationship. It might just be chemistry and old wounds that need to be healed trigger that response really often. If a man feels like an exhale — comfort, relaxation, ease, relief, it’s a fair chance he’s got potential to be a healthier partner.
/r/askFDS05/01/21 04:05 PM
29

Big red flags: Your obvious interest in him, not requiring him to make effort. You haven’t even vetted him and you’re obsessing over “what could have been.” You’re in love with some version of a man, but you’re not even checking if this man is it. He wants you to go to him. Again, he’s making no effort because you’re the one invested, not him. You suggested what to do. That’s his job. Only he’s not doing that, and it’s probably because he doesn’t care to. He didn’t follow up because he didn’t wa…
/r/askFDS05/01/21 03:07 AM
11

Remember that you’re only responsible for yourself and remember men will absolutely use their own shitty mental health to control you. Not your zoo, not your monkeys!
/r/askFDS05/01/21 02:36 AM
20

Embrace the waves. Allow yourself to be sad when they come. Eventually you’ll be a better surfer, and feel a sense of empowerment knowing you’re choosing to be sad as they come and go. The waves will keep swelling and crashing until they subside and you’ll be a better woman for it all. I’m sorry you’re having a hard time. It’s hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel in the middle. Just trust in your journey and yourself and after time you’ll be where you need to be.
/r/askFDS04/01/21 10:16 PM
4

I love it when gamerbod guys with extreme kyphosis think they can tell me anything about form or posture 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 10:04 PM
27

Gurl I spot that Cartier bracelet 👀 🙌🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 07:14 PM
15

I’m a personal trainer and a guy offered to check my squat form 🤦🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 05:33 PM
24

God, I’m 30 and my advice is also “stay tf away from men.” 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 05:16 PM
187

They will literally say anything for short term payoff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 04:48 PM
18

Remember he did all that because he’s shitty, not you. Sometimes the next girl briefly gets treated better because LVM like the idea of feeling like they aren’t shitty men. It eventually wears off and they get treated the same or worse.
/r/askFDS04/01/21 02:38 AM
22

To avoid responsibility? He doesn’t care girl, neither should you.
/r/askFDS04/01/21 02:36 AM
18

Did they also photoshop him taller??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 10:07 PM
74

Interesting photo choice: the woman eyeing the man in admiration and the man stoic and not looking at her at all 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 07:53 PM
40

A guy with a gf often used this emoji when he tried to flirt with me like “whoopsie I’m a scumbag teehee 🙈”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 07:54 PM
23

Hummus, your treat btw, probably 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 07:39 PM
12

Nah, unless he says “you’re my girlfriend” he’s just going to take what he can get. And this will further solidify the narrative in his head that friendship with a woman is just a stepping stone to sex. You’re doing us all a huge disservice. If someone wants to have you in that way, make them make romance moves. His friendship points don’t transfer over to romance points. Let them be their own category. Everyone, including friends, start from zero points in they want to romance you. In the meant…
/r/askFDS02/01/21 07:04 PM
21

Yes, the no-sex rule applies to guy friends.
/r/askFDS02/01/21 03:42 AM
8

34 years old! Poor woman should know better than this 🤦🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 11:42 PM
14

I think that now that he’s got you on the hook he’s looking out for others and keeping his options open. You should do the same. One and a half months of talking and the sudden inconsistency is a big red flag.
/r/askFDS01/01/21 08:51 PM
10

Yeah he knew what the emotional talk would do — trap you without him actually taking any action to cuff you. He’s just manipulating you. Just cut him off, and don’t explain why (it’ll give him another chance to manipulate you.)
/r/askFDS31/12/20 07:02 PM
56

He doesn’t sound that interested tbh. Just date some new people he’s probably not your guy.
/r/askFDS31/12/20 03:45 PM
11

It’s my sister who does this to me 😫😖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 01:52 AM
25

He skirted around your boundaries to sleep with you? Instant dump. He is not “sweet” or “amazing.” He’s a liar.
/r/askFDS29/12/20 05:04 PM
48

This is an underrated comment 🤣😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 02:40 PM
22

This man is protecting his daughter. We have tons of evidence that little boy ain’t shit. Who the hell goes to a trailhead and texts? That repulses me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 02:32 PM
26

Men don’t want the women who just want sex 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 04:02 AM
5

It’s so sad this woman has to triangulate her father-in-law to protect her. He’s MVP, too bad his son is a lowlife.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 03:56 PM
117

I thought I had a best guy friend once, but he tried to rape me when I was drunk. Never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 07:50 PM
53

Beautiful work op! Frida kahlo is one of those ladies in history who get me worked up because she deserved way better than that scrote Diego Rivera. 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 04:25 PM
13

Why do they always whine about their exes moving on?? Hello? You didn’t commit of course she moved on?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 03:41 PM
1

You can uninvite them and you should! And you don’t even need to explain why!
/r/askFDS27/12/20 03:38 PM
3

I found that men just try and use you, they take everything you have and move on remorselessly if you let them. It was a long road recovering from what men in my twenties put me through. Please just focus on yourself and your success and literally ignore men completely until you want to get married.
/r/askFDS27/12/20 01:03 AM
24

He doesn’t deserve to have sex 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 12:45 AM
201

Poor thing, she’s crying. Is that fun for him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 10:25 PM
5

Promise rings are stupid when you’re ready to marry, but since you’re not, demanding investment upfront is smart. It might not mean anything, but his willingness to get one for you should tell you about him. Just don’t let it be a carrot on a stick. Edit: btw it should be a fairly valuable ring, don’t accept anything that’s less than a few hundred dollars.
/r/askFDS26/12/20 09:44 PM
34

The more of these stories I hear, the harder it is for me to distinguish these “men” from little boys rebelling against their mommy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 08:43 PM
8

God, if I could change anything about my life, I wouldn’t have spoken to a single man in my 20s, ever. I thought it was a great way to give myself trauma. I’d just focus on my goals and the right one will have to fight to get your attention, as he should.
/r/askFDS26/12/20 07:25 PM
13

It’s odd dating when you’re not at a point when you wanna get married. Honestly if I could go back, I wouldn’t do it at all, but since you are, just tell him you expect it to end in an engagement. Don’t live with him beforehand. If he’s not going to give you an engagement ring now, tell him you’d like a promise ring he will upgrade to a wedding ring when it’s time. I know it’s a bit cheesy, but you’ve got to lay out some conditions and show him you mean business. Vet him too! If you get whiff of…
/r/askFDS26/12/20 07:14 PM
29

He seems mad none of those women want him 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 02:14 PM
7

Merry Christmas!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 02:59 AM
3

Thank you so much!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 02:23 AM
10

Thanks for your comment! I’ve known him for ten years, only dated him for nine months. I’m very happy! Anyway, here’s the attention you wanted. 💋
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 02:01 AM
17

Am I being negged by a girl? 🤣🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 12:48 AM
42

He went to my sister’s university and was in her friends circle. I met him amongst her friends. He’s always been a great guy, we were just friends for a long time. I moved abroad for half a decade and when I came back, he wasted no time trying to pursue me seriously. Edit: a big lesson btw: if you want to go travel, do it!!! I lived in so many countries and saw so many things only to learn that the right one was at home just waiting for the opportunity to date me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 11:03 PM
31

I’ve always been in his circle I guess and I’ve lived abroad for half a decade. When I came back, he wasted no time pursuing me. He said he’s always admired me and dreamed for the opportunity to make me his wife. He’s always behaved very seriously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 11:02 PM
6

Ghost and block!
/r/askFDS25/12/20 10:26 PM
22

Thanks for the protection! 😉 🧿
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 10:22 PM
5

Thank you!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 10:21 PM
5

Thank you so much!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 10:21 PM
24

We’re getting married next year! (We hope covid dies down so we can do a proper wedding.) we are avoiding doing it in summer too because we’re in the desert 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 10:20 PM
11

Thank you!! It’s actually asscher!! I was pleased he chose this one!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 07:55 PM
92

I’m so proud of him for that! He knows how much I love having my nails done generally and he takes me to get a new set every month!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 07:21 PM
5

Thank you!! ❤️💅🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 07:11 PM
51

Thanks girl 💅🏻💋
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 04:47 PM
240

If I’m honest I had a feeling he’d propose, so I went with something glittery 🤣 thank you!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 04:33 PM
53

Thank you so much!! ❤️🎄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 04:05 PM
23

Why do all French guys type like this? 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 10:45 PM
4

I laughed so hard. What was he expecting? 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 07:59 PM
3

My friend’s boyfriend (who lives with her 🤦🏻‍♀️) says he’s willing to do a “life partner commitment ceremony” with her in two years. honestly I think he sees the relationship expiration date before then and he’s putting some joke version of commitment as a carrot on the string. It makes me so angry how men are always trying to get everything for nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 04:13 PM
33

Ugh, don’t you love it when men hurt your feelings and make themselves the victim so that you’re the one comforting them?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 11:02 PM
42

Pickmes sure love their leash
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 05:38 PM
29

Broke men hate gold diggers 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 01:38 AM
278

Yeah, it’s a no from me. If you so much as smile at a random man he will go home and find a porn where the leading actress looks just like you. I’ll give my compliments to people who deserve them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 03:58 PM
6

My heart breaks for this girl. I really hope her mother moves her to a new city/school. Kids can be cruel and facing that kind of thing is traumatic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 10:35 PM
18

Lol what? FDS is about cutting out the hordes of loser men to maximize effective mate selection. It’s attractive women who are most concerned with this 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 08:59 PM
4

If its a woman’s boundary to appear a certain way in front of people, it shouldn’t be crossed. He’s acting entitled to see her in a way that she’s not comfortable showing herself. It’s bratty and entitled behavior and shouldn’t be tolerated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 04:47 PM
3

I just block them as they roll in. It only bothers you If you let it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 11:56 PM
80

Underrated comment 🤣👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 11:38 PM
45

She probably loves violent pornography because, as a pickme, she sees other women as her competition and wants to see them get hurt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 07:56 PM
72

I’m better than the other women because I have no self worth!!!! Please!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 05:46 PM
99

Sia with the receipts 🧾👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 05:17 PM
12

I had a guy constantly inflict info on me about his hobby that I wasn’t in the slightest interested in. He got offended when I told him to stop, explaining that he wanted me to feel included in his hobby and that he wants me to understand it. Then I asked if he was interested in how Indo-European evolved into old German and how those languages branched off into the modern German languages today, since we’re “including each other in our interests.” Big surprise, the expectation apparently doesn’t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 04:37 PM
12

As an aside: why are men always fucking shutting down if you give them suggestions about what they’re doing wrong?? They can’t just take it on the nose and move forward, they just shut down and refuse to do anything if they’re not seen as the most competent man in the world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 02:19 PM
10

And nothing of value was lost 👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 07:54 PM
21

This. Helping a man doesn’t help you, it helps him help himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 04:19 PM
52

Who the fuck would respond to this? Just reading this dries me up like a desert
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 12:36 AM
5

Never!
/r/askFDS10/12/20 11:03 PM
17

Pick-me friends are the worst, a lot of them secretly see you as competition and make terrible friends. I’ve been thrown under the bus enough times by pick-me women to just ghost any of them as soon as I so much as sniff evidence of pick-me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 09:33 PM
34

For this same reason, I don’t tell men how they upset me in general anymore. From my experience, they’ll just argue with me about why I shouldn’t be upset. I’d rather just be upset by myself, not upset AND ARGUING WITH A MAN why I have the right to be upset. Men truly only respond to silence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 05:28 PM
47

Thank 👏🏻you👏🏻. Feeling the need to do more and prove yourself isn’t it. We are enough and deserve to receive. We need to stop doing the most and feeling less than because what we contribute isn’t valued. We don’t need to behave like men to be worthy. We just need to value women more as they are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 04:38 PM
26

Can you believe how many men hate women just for saying “no?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 09:00 PM
24

“It’s winter” = it’s cold so I’m entitled to someone, anyone, to make it more pleasant for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 07:01 PM
50

It particularly weirds me out when I find out guys dated girls who look similar to me, speak the same languages as me, or have the same cultural mix as me. I’m half Korean and it weirds me out when I see they dated girls who have a eerily similar multicultural look as me. It makes me feel like a Pokémon or some kind of commodity they want to collect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 03:37 PM
61

I had a guy want to downgrade me (he was playing hot and cold) and instead of fighting, I just agreed it was a good idea. I said it would free me up to meet a guy who was a bit more masculine and less of a boy. He was so shocked by my response he wouldn’t leave me alone for weeks until I just blocked him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 03:32 PM
282

If you make him dinner, it just frees up his time so he can go play video games. He’s not going to spend it with you. 🤷🏻‍♀️ He’s not even going to be grateful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 02:44 AM
24

Actually, responding to a man instead of confronting is perfect. If he acts badly, respond by showing him you don’t approve by leaving/ghosting/blocking. No reason to initiate any conversations. Men are narcissistic, they only understand their own actions and the consequences of them. No explaining. Just create consequences.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 02:30 AM
12

“Not disclosing”: girl he lied to you. Lying is grounds for blocking and deleting. Forget that loser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 04:29 AM
1

“I got him, didn’t I ladies???” No.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 09:40 PM
50

Yes, this is it! Thank you! I’ve been downvoting all screencap convos with an LVM where the woman responds. Don’t answer! It’s not funny or interesting, you’re wasting your time and ours!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 05:35 PM
20

I’m sorry OP, but take my downvote. We shouldn’t respond to men like this. I say this with love; queen energy is silence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 05:12 AM
83

Yeah, funny how he phrases the lie like she’s the one who got away. Men try to manipulate women by making them feel special. Stay woke ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 04:12 AM
187

Nah, he just wants a final hookup. I think he’s gonna propose to her, he just wants to see if he can get some action. He’s lying to both of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 02:32 AM
4

Skinny fat is generous. Most of them are just fat. 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 01:13 AM
5

“I’ll know it when I see it.” He doesn’t have to know, only you do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 12:59 AM
20

Ugh. Access to my body can’t be bought.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 04:24 PM
21

Girls like this honestly do this kind of shit because deep down, they know he isn’t invested in her. He’s probably cheating on her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 11:13 PM
21

No!
/r/askFDS04/12/20 06:40 PM
70

I’ve never actually gone through someone’s phone, but weirdly, the dirt has always come to me. It’s like the universe/life/god WANTS to out these men. I’ve had women find me to tell me what’s been going on, seen clues, or they’re just bad at hiding their lies. It always catches up with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 03:59 PM
38

Less catcalling in Korea, but definitely more “follow-you-all-the-way-to-your-apartment-on-foot” behavior. I remember walking home getting groceries and a man got out of his car and literally followed me all the way to my apartment door to ask for my number. This kind of thing happened a lot in Asia. They’re more covert there but it definitely happens.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 03:11 PM
2

It’s interesting. Men always seem to like you best when you’re a little mean. I’m pretty sincere with people I’m close to but not that open or friendly. Men seem to take it as a challenge.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 03:56 PM
36

Did he pick her?? 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 03:25 PM
54

“I’ll know it when I see it.” They don’t need to know what you’re looking for, only you do.
/r/askFDS02/12/20 10:59 PM
5

Oh my god vinny van go go’s in Savannah, it’s my hometown. I’m glad I can claim her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 10:57 PM
16

I need to know his reaction 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 05:01 PM
21

Ugh do men have any idea how gross they are?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 03:29 PM
55

Ugh the trouble is when they grope you on the sly. I’ve been groped anonymously in crowded places a few times. I couldn’t beat up the culprit if I wanted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 03:25 PM
27

Lol I thought I was hallucinating at first 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 03:02 PM
64

Is her lipstick magic? 😮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 02:39 PM
17

Men don’t have to pay for dates if they don’t want. I just won’t pick them if they decide not to. Up to them, really.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 12:47 AM
13

“Princess syndrome,” correct.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 12:46 AM
10

You have to understand what you’re saying in the larger context of how words are used against certain people. It’s not necessary to point out a person is well spoken, because in the larger context of racism people expect that black people are “inarticulate.” Yes, being conscious of what you’re saying is the way to go. You may not have meant it in a bad way, but just remember, if someone steps on your foot and didn’t mean it, your foot still got stepped on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 04:08 PM
4

I don’t know why you’re being downvoted, being called “articulate” isn’t a compliment, especially when it’s said about black women. It’s a micro-aggression.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 03:54 PM
57

“My idiot friends want to rape my wife but wtf I’m so upset she would call me names!!” God he doesn’t deserve a wife. Men are so narcissistic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 03:34 PM
83

I actually like the mentality of men who say they aren’t looking for a girlfriend because their money isn’t right at the moment. I think that’s a responsible way to think. Honestly a girlfriend isn’t a right, it’s an extracurricular after all the other things are straight (finances, education, etc).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 03:31 PM
11

I wouldn’t explain. Just tell them “I’ll know it when I see it.” The more you explain, the more info they can use to manipulate you. And just watch them and vet. They don’t need to know what you’re looking for, only you do.
/r/askFDS01/12/20 03:26 AM
24

Why is he so mad? Can’t he just pick one of the girls who ask guys out first? Oh that’s right, no one wants them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 03:17 AM
17

Did he get the memo that we make it hard for men to approach because we like being single? 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 03:14 AM
87

Men are less drama? This sub is only women and it’s the most supportive and open place I’ve posted in on reddit. It’s like this because men aren’t allowed. 🤣🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 07:27 PM
18

Does anyone else feel like dick pics are just another twisted extension of “how dare you ignore me?” They just want to break your boundaries where they don’t exist to you by violating you with something they think you can’t ignore. It’s just strictly a power play.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 03:41 PM
3

She should have sent this to her close girlfriends or mom, but not post it publicly on the internet. That’s where we go wrong as women. We want to be vulnerable with everyone and shit like this happens to us. I truly feel for her but women truly need to protect their hearts, even in the aftermath of LVM bullshit!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 03:05 AM
28

Not having ambition but also not too much ambition?? Sounds like he just wants to be able to devalue her any time he feels like it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 10:57 PM
16

Yeah I think you’re right. My man let me know he’s ring shopping but he feels hopeless about choosing the style, so I just straight up gave him pictures of rings I liked. I don’t think it’s wrong to let him know what style you like if you know he’s looking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 05:13 PM
3

“Trust me I’m hot in person” LMAO 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 04:53 PM
11

Is the OP of this screenshot maybe a 15 year old girl? It seems like a girl who is very inexperienced.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 04:50 PM
26

Hit him with the “sweetie” 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 02:23 PM
5

If I could turn back time, I’d avoid them too. No one needs to experience trauma, which is what most men in their 20s will put you through. Just keep having high standards. The right man won’t make you feel like you’ve got to “practice” being his girlfriend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 02:18 PM
27

Now that I’m 30 and happy with myself and happily in a great relationship, I find myself wishing I just never had any boyfriends in my 20s. I envy any woman who manages to avoid men for as long as possible! Any man but the right one will only deplete you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 01:10 AM
16

He asked you if you really want a relationship with him because he knows he’s trash and inevitably when he fucks you over, he wants to be able to remind you that you consented to it. Just block him, please.
/r/askFDS28/11/20 01:17 AM
173

“Oh you mean a walk...at your estate? Your villa gardens?” 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 02:04 AM
1

Just dump him. Most men don’t dump women. They act like assholes until you dump them. They don’t actually dump women until they’ve secured someone else. Rip the bandaid.
/r/askFDS26/11/20 07:27 PM
15

“I thought he liked me for more than sex-,” he doesn’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 07:06 PM
11

I think women only think “yes” or “no.” I think all men think “yes,” but use the numbers to show where they are on the scale.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 05:02 AM
80

Next him without telling him you know he’s making excuses, because you shouldn’t care. Demonstrate it’s not acceptable by moving on.
/r/askFDS26/11/20 03:24 AM
76

Men at best don’t acknowledge women they don’t want to fuck and at worst they’re hostile to them and it’s disgusting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 11:27 PM
44

You don’t have to be nice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 03:02 PM
35

This is all honestly very triggering. This is why women have to have high standards. If we as a collective just didn’t put up with it, maybe some of this would go away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 02:41 PM
51

She better leave him now, otherwise she’s communicating to him that she’s okay with him speaking to her like that. It’s only downhill from here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 11:21 PM
73

What the hell is a girly meal?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 06:01 PM
1

Yikes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 03:33 PM
3

OP, this is a lot of words. I was hoping you’d acknowledge that what you said sounded offensive and you didn’t mean it that way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 03:25 PM
115

It doesn’t say choose the man who chases you, it says choose the man who loves you. It’s up to us to vet and find out who loves and who chases.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 04:02 AM
53

“Not being able to get a girl of their own race so they go for Asian girls,” that’s a big yikes from me OP. Maybe reword that? It comes off as offensive. I’m Asian and I flinched a little when I read that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 03:49 AM
263

I genuinely believe this to be true, and from my experience it is. Relationships always feel safer when men are more invested. I’ve grown to deeply love men I wasn’t sure about who showed me their commitment like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 01:36 AM
13

Ew please cut this person out cold turkey, ice cold. “Friends” like this actively hurt you.
/r/askFDS23/11/20 09:58 PM
41

He wants her back or at least available to him. Almost without exception. He’s not worth the trouble.
/r/askFDS23/11/20 06:45 PM
19

The quartering? God the creepiest thing about him was his Brie Larsen shed. 😣 he seemed to be super angry at any woman he’d never have a chance with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 01:59 PM
38

Pickme sister has thrown me under the bus for men hundreds of times. Her husband has screamed at me and she comforted him. Not impressed with her and not going to pour energy into our relationship anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 09:37 PM
16

“Obviously we’re only taking this alley because it’s a shortcut to your private garden menagerie...? Surely..?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 06:18 PM
7

Next time just block and delete, these back and forths aren’t interesting to us and they shouldn’t be to you either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 04:38 PM
124

Lmao imagine the fun you could have playing dumb when a man asks you on a walking date: “Oh a stroll? You mean at your estate? 😍” “Uh no, I meant —“ “Oh sorry, you must have meant your ranch you inherited 🤩” Make him feel stupid for even suggesting 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 03:47 PM
266

“I want a woman who understands sarcasm” = I’m gonna gaslight you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 03:43 PM
46

Agreed. Some women are honestly just as bad as LVM. 😫
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 03:07 PM
80

The thing is, he really might find someone just as good or better. It isn’t relevant though, because he will always be trash. He won’t necessarily treat her better than you. It was never about you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 02:53 PM
8

I’m honestly wondering what did he expect to happen after he did this???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 06:05 PM
9

If the shoe fits 🤷🏻‍♀️🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 05:29 PM
23

I think he was trying to strike a bargain with her, like “I see you take care of yourself and I definitely want in, but don’t expect me to treat you as well as you treat yourself.” Yikes! I’m convinced all men love high maintenance women, they’re just afraid they can’t afford them!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 05:27 PM
49

Plenty of these men aren’t honest though. They usually want to finesse a woman who wants a serious relationship. They aren’t interested in the women who also only want sex 🤔🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 03:12 AM
9

The problem isn’t him having standards, it’s that he can’t meet anyone else’s standards
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 11:15 PM
17

I love lush gift sets 🙌🏻 but these are awful 😣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 11:13 PM
13

Ugh, both gross. Why are trash men so predictable?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 08:14 PM
61

Pick-me women are TERRIBLE friends. If I get a whiff of pick-me from a girl I stay clear. I’ve had a few of these friends in the past and they ALWAYS ditch if some guy pays her any attention. They’re also very competitive and they tend to be passive aggressive if they feel like you’re outshining them in any way. They are just as harmful as LVM in my opinion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 07:54 PM
48

He probably asked her early knowing she wasn’t ready and knowing she’d say no so he didn’t have to marry her and didn’t have to be the bad guy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 07:35 PM
46

From my experience, yes they know you’re out of their league, but they treat you like trash not because you deserve it, but because it makes it easier to control you when you’re destabilized.
/r/askFDS19/11/20 07:03 PM
7

You don’t have to tell him your reasons. Actually telling him your specific reasons might subject you to being gaslit. Just know that you want to end it, and that’s good enough. You can even just say “hey I’m leaving, got my reasons. Best of luck.” Pack and just leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 01:14 PM
11

That’s the thing about Jordan Peterson. His content is seductive because he is legitimately a smart man. It’s just the further you go into it, the more of his alarming beliefs come to the surface. I’ve been down that road, enjoying his lectures on some random topic and suddenly baited and switched.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 03:34 PM
59

He should probably gripe about this to other men, because it’s their fault that women feel unsafe. The pressure should be on men, not women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 09:23 PM
42

He told you to leave because he thinks you won’t. Prove him wrong by leaving him. You deserve better.
/r/askFDS17/11/20 01:25 AM
137

It’s because they are irrationally afraid of being found lacking (because they are lacking). I’ve definitely noticed that it’s often broke men who are like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 10:46 PM
10

Men aren’t your friends. I learned this the hard way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 04:22 PM
432

Wear this out with your girls, men don’t deserve to be blessed like this 🤣💓
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 09:38 PM
5

Let us know how it goes, op. Good luck to you. You deserve better.
/r/askFDS15/11/20 09:35 PM
10

You did the right thing. You are the protector of your own feelings. You saw he wasn’t making you feel emotionally safe and freed yourself to find someone who can do that. It’s a huge act of self love. Don’t fold just because you’re a little lonely. You deserve someone who can make you feel emotionally safe by communicating consistently.
/r/askFDS15/11/20 06:48 PM
53

LOOOOOOOOL YIKES
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 05:18 PM
311

A lot of words to say he has a small penis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 05:15 PM
27

I’m pretty sure I saw some men complain about it on Reddit but I checked it out and I was like “omg, women who agree with what I’ve always been saying. I feel so at home here 💓
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 04:56 PM
45

He’s acting like this and you’ve been with him two years? If you want to get married and he hasn’t made any plans at this point, it’s time to dump him anyway. Two years is enough to know whether or not you continue with a man. From the sound of it, he isn’t increasing in value with his behavior. I think you should just dump him.
/r/askFDS15/11/20 04:44 PM
3

I’m half Korean and a guy who was very obviously full korean told me he was also half Korean. I met his parents and they were both korean. I don’t even get why he’d try to lie about that to me?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 04:06 PM
6

This would be cute if she was talking about her new puppy but this is a biologically grown ass man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 09:39 PM
18

He hates her. I can feel the resentment he has through the video. It’s PALPABLE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 03:08 PM
26

Omg I love seeing all the Korea love here 💓 I agree too I love the return of Superman!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 08:46 PM
194

Why would I want a man who was too shy to approach me anyway? Maybe he needs to work on his confidence before expecting a relationship 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 01:23 AM
54

Say thank you, once. Sounds harsh but really it will translate that you’re used to being treated well and expect it. He should want and chase that “thank you,” because HVM are happy when you enjoy yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 08:47 PM
1

I was referring to OP in the screen cap
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 05:52 PM
27

Yuck 🤢🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 05:36 PM
3

Who cares what men think? Guys can get turned on by a hole in a melon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 05:29 PM
44

Ladies, I think we have a fan 🤣💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 02:53 PM
30

“I’ve had a lot of time to think” = my options dried up, If I pretend to be contrite, you’ll bite, right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 01:24 AM
16

Oh yeah definitely. Just because he approaches you doesn’t mean he’s trustworthy either. It just weeds out the guys who don’t approach. They should just flat out not be considered.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 12:42 AM
37

Also If you need 13 attempts to catch his attention, he doesn’t like you. 🤷🏻‍♀️ why bother?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 11:55 PM
43

Not even once. I liked my boyfriend but I would not budge until he made a move. Mentally, I gave him a week to do it. And what do you know? He did. I was ready to move on, even while liking him, if he was not man enough to claim me. Honestly, only men man enough to make the first move should only ever be considered. From my experience, passive guys have a reason that they’re acting that way (insecure, or already in a relationship) and who wants anything to do with them?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 11:25 PM
30

I went to a female doctor who saw I had the flu and gave me some meds. She told me to come back for a follow up in a few days. I followed up with a different female doctor and she confirmed flu and treated me again. I had to follow up yet again but my female doctors weren’t in, got a male. He ignored my flu symptoms and forced me to get a pregnancy test. I told them there was NO WAY (something I’d know best) and he said “well, we don’t know that do we? And you’re a woman so who knows?” This arro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 09:56 PM
12

My boyfriend took off work so that he could stay at home and celebrate chuseok with me (a holiday that’s very big in korea.) we cooked all the dishes we’d normally eat on chuseok and did a lot of the traditions. It means a lot that he sees how important it is to me. He was also overloaded with work on a weekend and he wanted me to be entertained, so he booked me a spa day and had sushi delivered to me for dinner that night. One of many things but he’s very thoughtful. 🥲
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 04:36 PM
37

5’6, 290 lbs lmfao 💀💀💀💀💀 boy bye
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 09:38 PM
33

I don’t understand why he’d withhold a compliment from you when he knows it’d make you feel good. From my experience, men who loved me had a hard time NOT showing it. He seems like abusive trash and I’m glad you’re leaving him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 05:37 PM
24

Also if he’s so depressed he isn’t showering, therapy should be a bigger priority than a relationship for him. He needs to get it together before dragging a woman down with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 11:03 PM
21

???? “CoMmUnIcAtE” to him that this is fucking unacceptable by leaving him, god. Unbelievable
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 09:31 PM
130

I always said men who say they want to give 50% mean they actually want to give nothing. Men always exaggerate. Half is just simply the lowest they can say without getting shamed for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 09:26 PM
80

It might be a yellow flag. I’m not family oriented, but my family abused me. Just keep watching for signs of him being dismissive avoidant. If he’s not close to his family there should be a reason.
/r/askFDS09/11/20 06:13 PM
26

Thanks for posting this. I’m really frustrated at all the flack I catch from women when I say I like being in my feminine energy. I feel like we’ve been conditioned to be reactive to any explanation of masculine versus feminine dynamics because it’s usually used against us. Being feminine was never wrong. It was just devalued by society. We don’t need to act like men to have worth. We just need to esteem ourselves and value our strengths and differences as we are. We are worthy of respect just t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 04:31 PM
42

Ima simple woman. I see dr. Ramani, I upvote 🙆🏻‍♀️🙆🏻‍♀️🙆🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 02:04 AM
25

This is an hour and a half long, do you have a tl;dr?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 05:10 PM
9

I was hoping it’d be circus clown music 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 12:34 AM
18

Lmao had me in the first half not gonna lie 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 11:25 PM
3

Congratulations!!! I’m so glad you’re feeling good about it! 💓
/r/askFDS07/11/20 07:11 PM
11

As I understood he’s in jail. But I don’t know anything else. I left basically after that happened.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 06:57 PM
12

Yeah it was shocking. I never saw church leaders the same way after.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 06:12 PM
46

I stopped attending churches like this when my youth pastor strangled his wife to death and buried her in the forest. He was also apparently grooming some of the girls in my group. It was a traumatizing experience for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 04:50 PM
68

Should have blocked him after that “joke”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 02:48 AM
9

Please no...I hate when men cook for me 😖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 09:46 PM
72

Nice and romantic for an established, official, sexually monogamous relationship
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 01:18 AM
60

Just tell him after some consideration you don’t think you’re the right fit but you wish him good luck. Then block him. Blocking isn’t mean, it’s for your peace of mind and it’ll help you not be badgered by him.
/r/askFDS04/11/20 10:28 PM
6

Just out of curiosity, what country is this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 05:43 PM
53

Yeah I knew we weren’t getting the whole story here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 05:25 PM
30

Yes exactly!! This too : only meat or carbs no veg and instead of eating at 6 you’re eating at 9 😫😤😖 it annoys me that they want praise for something I do better than them every single day
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 04:56 PM
48

I largely hate when men cook for me because they only like the glory of the production. They want no part of the mundane parts of it. And whenever they’re going to cook they brag about it endlessly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 04:51 PM
68

Men don't like sexually confident women because it highlights their inadequacy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 11:25 PM
1

Yes. People get your emotional intimacy AFTER YOU VET THEM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 10:08 PM
2

It doesn’t mean you’re defective. Experience is simply telling you to have stronger boundaries. It hurts but you will learn. Vet harder, be ruthless, don’t make excuses for anyone. You gotta advocate for yourself WITHOUT putting yourself at risk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 10:06 PM
1

The more you learn the signs, decide not to tolerate it, the more you will respect yourself and the less vulnerable your self esteem will be. Do it for you. He doesn’t matter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 09:44 PM
5

So 👏🏻 leave 👏🏻him 👏🏻behind
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 08:27 PM
5

He’s scared of commitment with you, because he doesn’t like you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 08:20 PM
6

Yeah he would meet up with you when his first choices aren’t available, and you make sex easy for him. Are you really okay with that treatment?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 08:19 PM
7

Does it matter? Who cares if he’s scared of commitment. It’s not for you to fix. It just means he’s not for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 08:18 PM
6

Long distance? Why would he even pursue long distance? He does it because of the built-in excuse. He just wants your validation without ever having to act on it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 08:17 PM
12

You boost his ego and he can throw you the occasional bone without him having to actually do anything. Let him go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 08:14 PM
9

He enjoys your interest in him but doesn’t like you enough to expend any real energy on you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 08:12 PM
11

He doesn’t like you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 08:12 PM
23

Oh my god is this why men ask me what ethnicity I am all the time? 🤮🤮🤮🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 07:53 PM
116

This is pathetic I’m sorry
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 07:49 PM
63

I’ve gotten a lot better at this too. Turns out my bf loves when I accept graciously. He offered me an entire spa day during a time when he’s going to be very busy with work so that I wouldn’t have to feel bored. I’m very excited and he’s proud to give that to me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 05:06 PM
246

I remember reading a comment on AOC from a man that said “I hate that btch, I wanna fck her so bad.” It really showed me that sex is used by men as a hateful act.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 04:09 PM
3

Lol I’m so cute and easy going!!! I love food and I’m so quirky!!! Like Jennifer Lawrence!!! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 07:44 PM
12

Being available to gross men isn’t empowering. This is totally where many lib-feminists have gone astray. Being selective is the most empowering thing a woman can do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 05:24 PM
6

This would have been way cooler if she just didn’t answer and blocked him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 03:04 PM
42

Connect with someone you can trust: parents, good friend and explain the situation you’re in. Someone you can rely on will help you with the logistics of leaving. But you do need to leave, deep down you Know that. You’re going to be okay. Don’t even explain yourself, it’s simple. Pack up, move out, move on, block and delete, etc. it will get easier the more you do it. You need to look out for yourself and DONT MAKE EXCUSES FOR HIM.
/r/askFDS02/11/20 03:10 AM
226

He matched with “the lowest of the low” but seems to think that he isn’t?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 10:00 PM
434

He’s just mad those women don’t want anything to do with him 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 09:58 PM
15

ACCURATE 😂💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 07:06 PM
9

THREE YEARS? no ring?
/r/askFDS01/11/20 06:21 PM
17

I’d like to point out that the age difference makes me raise my eyebrows slightly. It’s just enough for me to wonder, especially with everything else you’re telling us about him.
/r/askFDS01/11/20 06:20 PM
29

I understand you’re young and you want to do what you can to secure the relationship but I PROMISE this is how to do it. At the moment, you’re in the red with him. Why should he budge? He’s getting everything for free. Move out and he will either straighten up or move on, and you should too. I promise you it’s NOT WORTH letting go of your standards for a man. He will not do the same unless you raise the stakes. I’ve been in your shoes. Giving more to a man always makes him respect you less. Leav…
/r/askFDS01/11/20 06:18 PM
15

My eyes are bleeding from reading that 😵
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 05:57 PM
25

Just move out and don’t explain yourself to him. Tell him you understand his views about marriage and similarly, you believe you shouldn’t be living with him before marriage either.
/r/askFDS01/11/20 05:43 PM
44

Don’t move in with a man unless he’s your husband. He’s just getting you any time he wants with reduced bills. Does this really work for you? Are you honestly benefiting from this arrangement? Just find a roommate and pay for yourself. Edit: He’s not even willing to pay for what would be a fair percentage? He isn’t even interested in benefiting you. Also he’s not willing to do this until you’re married but he’s willing to move in together before marriage? I feel like he’s using marriage as a car…
/r/askFDS01/11/20 04:53 PM
11

He said he’s fit, op can you confirm from the pic or is he lying about that too? 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 09:55 PM
2

I think having an aversion to anything that seems “small” is completely fair. I personally can’t stand guys who eat too fast or look for their next bite before finishing the one in their mouth. I also can’t stand when they push food onto their forks with their fingers. I’ve not called back after seeing guys eat like this. You’re allowed to keep any standard you want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 08:18 PM
1

Yup exactly! If you can’t control yourself why didn’t you kill her? Why didn’t you break any of your own stuff? It’s a lie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 07:06 PM
10

I’m so glad it worked out for you and I’m really sorry that happened to you. 💓
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 07:04 PM
14

I love how this guy thinks we, like him, want to increase our chances. 🤣 women are batting off guys like him FOR A REASON.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 04:54 PM
17

Guaranteed this man doesn’t expect to provide though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 04:44 PM
106

Men who “can’t control themselves”while abusing women seem to control themselves fine when the police come 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 03:03 PM
31

“A lot of us have been shot down by women—“ homie that’s on you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 02:05 PM
21

Toxic people will attach to ANYONE that will let them. That’s why boundaries and time are so important to weed them out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 06:28 PM
81

What about the guys holding up a fish they caught? 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 03:37 PM
1

Yeah he definitely talks about that in his book. It’s good! Give it a read
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 02:44 AM
4

They are married.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 02:09 AM
27

Derrick Jackson (jaxn) is my favorite example!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 01:23 AM
39

And he’s still definitely trying to get his ex back 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 08:12 PM
74

Korean girl here! I love the way korean men style themselves and take care of their appearance. They take pride in it. As a bonus, they tend to take care of their lady and treat them without having to be asked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 04:24 PM
3

Both men and women have inherent value and one gender isn’t better than the other (inherently) despite having superficial differences.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 02:36 AM
39

I feel like men who say “marriage is just a piece of paper” are often akin to the type of men who don’t go down on a woman but expect blowjobs. Just throw the whole man away when he doesn’t see the point of doing something for their partner’s comfort or pleasure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 08:23 PM
66

Men and women are equal but different. Women are most empowered when they’re selective. Being wanted by many people means nothing to women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 08:09 PM
8

I dump them, even if I don’t enjoy receiving. It always points to being selfish and entitled and they always make terrible lovers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 02:43 PM
124

It’s being used in a patronizing and condescending way to imply she’s stupid, not because she is actually dear to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 10:57 PM
12

I disagree respectfully. MANY men are dumb enough to do this. Since they’re saturated with free porn, they want access to the exclusive non-consensual porn now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 09:10 PM
21

Bless you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 06:46 PM
49

Can this guy be reported??!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 05:31 PM
3

Telling everyone about and wanting validation for your “big dick” is most decidedly not big dick energy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 04:44 PM
468

“My dear”, gag. I hate how it’s being used as a micro aggression.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 03:19 PM
150

Giving too much makes people lose respect for you. Edit: this one seems to have struck a nerve with some angry males as I got some flaming DMs 🤣🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 03:22 AM
54

Three hours late? That’s not your bf, he’s everybody’s boyfriend 🤣💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 03:17 PM
55

I like this, hand me your number so I can say thanks, get away from you and you’ll never hear from me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 04:20 AM
4

This is exactly what I was trying to convey.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 09:31 PM
6

Sure, I don’t like how “womanly” means “menial” or “invisible,” that’s why I’m saying that these things shouldn’t be seen as shameful to enjoy doing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 09:28 PM
3

At the risk of being downvoted, I like doing those things too. I think the problem is that they aren’t valued. Women traditionally are good at these things, the problem is that people have been conditioned to be embarrassed by having that to contribute. I think that we shouldn’t necessarily compartmentalize ourselves to these things, but I also think the shame from enjoying those things should be removed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 09:22 PM
3

My bad!! Lol but I had to put that out there!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 08:45 PM
706

Wait so we’re seeing abused frustrated women getting used? WHO is abusing them? WHO is using them? Why are men always trying to take themselves out of the equation of abuse?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 08:12 PM
3

Judging a dialect different than your own as “uneducated” is largely a racist or classist concept. Language is fluid and always evolving, so it breaks into many families of language that involve their own grammar and patterns. There are many different ways you hear english, for example Midwestern American or British English or Hiberno English. Black Americans have their own dialect that is grammatically correct. (For example: habitual “be”: “I BE going to work” means this person goes to work hab…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 06:33 PM
14

Black American English is a dialect of English that follows its own grammar and evolves on its own. It’s ignorant and prescriptivist to say that this woman “isn’t leveled up.” Just because she doesn’t use your dialect doesn’t mean she’s not bright.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 03:18 PM
46

Because of the power imbalance and how men are wired, they’re motivated by us not being convinced of them and it makes them try harder. Being super easy to lose works for women because men know what they want and are wired to go for it. Women always benefit from being skeptical.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 01:03 AM
3

Omg she looks AMAZING for 41. That “women hit a wall at 30” is a LIE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 08:46 PM
2

I think you should call the police. Many women who are abused are afraid to call the police themselves because the police tend not to believe the women, and when they leave the man blames her and abuses her for it. If a third party calls, it might be taken seriously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 07:40 PM
2

Ask him what he’s planning for you when he gets there
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 04:12 PM
35

“I’m brutally honest” = “I’m emotionally abusive”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 05:22 AM
31

"I want to pet a whale. But it has to be a huge one. You can't get too close, though, or the boat will float into their mouths." -- Beyonce
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 10:31 PM
73

Whenever I see something like it, it really brings home the idea that most men don’t deserve us 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 06:53 PM
2

Imagine having a diet that’s so horrendous ketchup would improve it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 03:31 PM
3

I don’t like when men cook for me. They don’t do as good of a job as I can, make a big mess, ask for TONS of praise, and usually only make a dish, not a meal (Ex. Only pasta, or only meat, or forgot the protein)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 02:22 PM
15

I feel like it’s the other way around for me 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 01:23 AM
9

Oh god, I stopped reading when I saw “boyfriend of NINE years”, please just leave
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 05:14 PM
12

I love derrick, I think I’ve watched all his videos. He just has no tolerance for LVM bullshit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 10:24 PM
6

Honestly, I feel like most men WANT to be able to provide/pay, it's just the ones who CAN'T try to make it seem wrong. They're probably trying to deflect from the shame they feel that they can't provide.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 02:49 PM
1

It’s easy to understand you. We’ve all tripped up and got trapped in the shame cycle. We just have to look at how we can do better, dust ourselves off, and try again in the way that works for us. You did the right thing by blocking and moving on. You now have everything you need to move on and do it differently next time. Shame hurts but it’s there to remind us of important lessons and mistakes to avoid next time. Your shame is a realization that you can do better for yourself. Onward queen 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 01:40 AM
3

Exactly, there's critical feedback, and kicking someone while they're down. The title of the post is "I feel so ashamed of myself." Sounds to me like someone who knows where they went wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 10:14 PM
2

Did you read the op post where she explains that she realized where she went wrong and feels ashamed of herself? Let’s not gatekeep so much, she’s asking for support.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 08:54 PM
4

Are you lost? This is a sub where women support each other. OP clearly is aware of what went wrong and turning to us for support. The reason most of us are so adamant against falling into that pattern is that WE REMEMBER what it was like, we made those mistakes before too. We hold each other accountable, but not from a place of moral superiority.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 08:28 PM
21

$100 says he only opens the horny one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 02:06 AM
53

Woah, what the fuck? This one is truly baffling. His mom ought to have known that women in a man's life generally improves him a thousandfold.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 11:15 PM
56

I appreciate him making this video 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 seriously, men always exaggerate how much they want to give. If he says 50/50, he means he wants to give nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 07:59 PM
23

Lmao when I read this I immediately knew they were just being polite. I’m going to laugh my ass off if he shoots his shot only to realize they aren’t into him AT ALL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 10:36 PM
18

Ugh I’m so thankful for you ladies, you’re making me just REALLY REALLY realize how fucked up of a response that was. I’ve always kept it to myself but god.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 02:38 AM
66

Ugh. I remember I once told a guy how I was sexually assaulted by a woman and his reaction was “wow that’s hot.” Pornsick idiots.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 10:48 PM
71

Totally agree here, I have NO problem letting a man lead if he's qualified to do so. It's the entitled men who want the job without putting in any of the work who are often whining about wanting to lead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 07:51 PM
32

I don't understand, why do boys who eventually turn into men keep getting enabled at the expense of young girls? There just needs to be a zero tolerance policy on perversion like this. Nip it in the bud.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 04:21 PM
49

God men really are way too dumb for the shit they try to pull 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 02:14 AM
73

Cardi B is proof that being a millionaire, young, beautiful, and at the top of your game doesn’t negate being a pick-me. She will evolve when her self-esteem does. None of this shocks me. The way she kept bragging about Offset publicly in her songs constantly reeked of overcompensation. It’s like she was trying to mark him to all the ladies so they’d stay away, which is pathetic. If he was worth his salt she would have never had to do any of that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 06:32 PM
1

Sadly it probably wasn’t a literal 14 year old. It was probably a 28 year old Peter Pan who never emotionally grew up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 06:26 PM
41

I’m half korean and I’ve dated both Caucasian and korean men. The korean men I dated were downright abusive, I swear just a few days from hitting me. They negged me constantly and were jealous and insecure. So basically, not very different than many the Caucasian dudes I dated lmao 🤷🏻‍♀️ Scrotes gonna scrote
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 01:41 AM
14

I feel like he’s benching you, and you’re letting him because you’re nurturing your feelings for him. Those feelings you have come from you, and they are transferable to someone who won’t bench you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 02:27 PM
12

Wow bo-bo the clown over here 🥱
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 01:31 AM
36

I had an ex strongly emphasize that he thought I was attractive. I think I mentioned that I wasn't JUST attractive, but he told me "Yeah yeah, but most importantly of all you're attractive." Dumped.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 02:50 PM
19

The highs and lows have you addicted to him. It really isn’t any deeper than that. A stable loving man won’t give you that rush. Don’t seek it out, you need to detox from his energy. LVM are like junk food. They aren’t good for you and they’re depleting you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 07:41 PM
43

I feel like when women say “looks don’t matter,” we mean what you’re born with and can’t change doesn’t matter that much. What you CAN CHANGE (hygiene, fitness, education, earning ability, charisma, manners, charm, style) matters A LOT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 03:42 PM
10

Men are always exaggerating. The men who say they want 50/50 actually want to do nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 08:50 PM
49

Don't forget the hell you catch for preferring a guy with money
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 05:56 PM
4

Yuck
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 11:56 PM
3

Who is this girl? She seems amazing, I want friends like her in my life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 09:06 PM
72

My bf pointed out that the only men who get upset about buying dinner are broke 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 05:14 PM
10

I spy a man who has been rejected by an Indian girl. Why do men act like this when they get rejected? 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 01:59 AM
5

I wish that the player could marry marnie and do right by her! I also wish we could marry Willy 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 02:51 PM
8

The mayor is the biggest LVM. Thank god you can’t marry him 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 02:42 PM
49

"We're" just happy he's happy? Leave me out of this, Vulture
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 05:24 PM
18

What is this? Aren't men usually the ones to die first? Is she in HIS will?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 04:50 PM
1

Exactly! (I love imagining that Arya Stark is saying this btw )
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 04:11 PM
1

MGK isn’t amazing but I do really love how crazy he is about his daughter. I find that endearing and a super positive quality
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 05:40 PM
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