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| 60 | Be weary of calculated kindness in men and vet carefully even if he seems to have great social skills, particularly in Group settingsIf there is any mind-jarring discrepancy between their public behavior and private one, end it. You might never find out the reasons for this, but rest assured, none of them are good for you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 12:55 PM |
| 39 | I wouldn't know how to treat an HVMMost people say "lets take care of each other" and it usually ends up being one-sided. High value people, on the other hand, say: I will take care of ME for YOU, while you take care of YOU for ME. When high value people lose their jobs, they will have generally prepared for that eventuality with enough savings and investements, and will hit the ground running, so they won't have to ask for your financial support at all. Emotional support is nice, but you won't have to ask him to find a job or at… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 01:11 PM |
| 25 | Y’all were not kidding about men who are upset about the conversations we have on FDS. If the comments were so stupid why weren’t you able to comment and share your opinion? Immediate block !!!I can't imagine a single woman picking out a random man from some sub and sending him those kind of messages. It's only men who do this to others and specifically to women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 01:26 PM |
| 11 | Thoughts? How would you debate that? Seems like it's from a male perspective?!The only thing that helped me love myself, out of the insecure and jealous little mess that was my 20s, was hard work and overcoming tough challenges. Contrary to popular opinion, another person's love cannot heal low self-esteem. However it can help you move mountains. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 01:24 PM |
| 22 | BuT DiD YoU CoMmUniCaTE??If you have to "communicate" to someone that he's "out of line", don't bother. DTMFA. It's the ONLY way those people have a chance of learning how to behave like decent human beings. They almost always know when they're out of line, but they're counting on you to "communicate" instead of dumping their asses to the curb. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 01:39 PM |
| 1 | 22 year old woman killed in Denmark because of misogyni - the most equal country in the world? Femicide and hatred of women - the state of the union 2022.I used to have scandinavian/western european men on this really high pedestal, becase they superficially seemed to be so much better compared to men from some other countries, but not anymore. For one, they are more likely to be infected by the idea, that a couple should split costs 50/50, while the woman does nearly everything. They are more likely to say shit like "both sexes should get the draft, since women want equality", which is covert misogynism to the extreme. (If your first thought is … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/22 08:22 AM |
| 201 | You deserve to be loved tenderly.That's why it's imperative to stay away from serious relationships as a young woman, until you've internalized that settling = death. Because if you've ever wondered, how does a carefree, beautiful young woman with exciting prospects end up in a shitty, painful, loveless, abusive marriage that lasts for decades, this is how it happens: She meets some mediocre, clueless fool, when she's in her late teens/early 20s and, because she lacks experience, thinks this man is as good as she's ever going t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 05:49 PM |
| 219 | Stay away from self-proclaimed “brutally honest” menExamples of positive "brutal honesty": You deserve better than this. I saw your boyfriend on Tinder. You have spinach caught between your teeth. Everything else is abusive BS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/22 09:16 PM |
| 109 | Red and False Green Flags :: My Epiphanies from The Tinder SwindlerThat's why taking our time is our weapon and moving fast is theirs. You can fool some people some of the time, but you can't fool all people all of the time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/22 09:12 PM |
| 7 | on beauty standards and wanting to opt out, way way outI don't know about suspect, but when looks don't match expectations it can make people uncomfortable because of the cognitive dissonance. Everyone has certain fixed ideas about how people with a particular look are supposed to be and act, and when you don't look the part it jars them. Like when a 70 year old woman decides to grows out her gray and her husband can't deal with the fact that she won't pretend to be younger anymore, so that he can feel more comfortable. (This actually happens.) Thro… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 09:52 PM |
| 8 | Precautions for POC women while seeing/dating white menHe may be using your unfamiliarity to get away with negging, contempt, misogynistic jokes and disrespect right under your nose. This is a thing. And it can happen in all kinds of cultural/ethnic constellations. Eventually you wake up to who they REALLY are and all you want to do is puke, for ever having liked that disgusting person. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 01:00 PM |
| 474 | I'm now less obsessed with finding "the one"Women are purposefully raised in most places, to view marriage and a family as their top priority, and the earlier it happens, the better. They often make very bad decisions because of this conditioning and ruin their lives. Many redditors think this sub could have the same negative impact as misogynistic subs, because they love to project their hateful, violent mindset on other people. But nothing could be further than the truth. At worst, it might make a woman pause and think for a while befor… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 12:51 PM |
| 1 | Next time he says women are “gold diggers” for wanting a stable guyMost sensible landlords will want to know if you can afford to pay rent. Sensible banks will want to know how you plan to pay off the house. Heck even female birds will ignore a male who won't offer exactly what she's looking for. But a woman wanting to know if you can even afford a family is a "gold digger". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 06:19 PM |
| 112 | Are most high value women “doomed”?I don't feel doomed at all, but that's because I play the tape till the end now. When I meet someone with red flags, I just imagine what would happen, if I'd date and have a relationship with them. I've been down that road before, so I can do this all day long in excruciating detail. By the end my reaction is "no thanks, I'm good". The Golden Girls series was very similar. The ladies often joked about being desperate, but when things got serious with a man, they always got cold feet and took a c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 05:34 PM |
| 12 | Ladies, I'm in desperate need for some advice. Please help!!!True, him not being into her is completely irrelevant. Even if he were, he'd still be a first class asshole. And that's all what matters. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/22 09:50 AM |
| 258 | Ladies, I'm in desperate need for some advice. Please help!!!He is normal...for someone who is not into you and not ready to settle down. As for your feelings, also completely normal for 23. OMG I LOVE HIM SO MUCH. I CANT LIVE WITHOUT HIM. Nothing about what you wrote suggests this man is a catch, in any way, shape or form. But to you he's a prince, right? That's mama nature wrapping you into a nice little estrogen trap. A couple decades later you won't want to touch the fool with a 10 foot pole. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 06:41 PM |
| 15 | “You’re Not Happy”- A Gaslight PhraseThe moment you notice manipulative behavior, immediately start grey rocking and exit plans. This is not a game we can win and many of those people get off by seeing you upset. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 01:34 PM |
| 276 | NEVER EVER FINANCIALLY RELY ON A MAN! Naive young women on TikTok are idealising the stay at home wife/mum lifestyle and literally cursing our hard-earnt right to work.This has always been a tempting argument for young women. Why work, put up with shitty bosses and go through all that stress of "becoming someone and something", when you can instantly get an identity and seemingly comfy and safe a place in the world by being a stay at home wife and mother, right? But that reasoning is extremely short-sighted and super naive. 1950s housewiving only "worked" because it was still a lot harder to get a divorce than it is now. Many were depressed AF because that's w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 01:07 PM |
| 409 | 10 year age gapYes. Long answer: Yes, because you apparently already feel uncomfortable about this. Bad sign. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 04:31 PM |
| 72 | the true spaghetti's done when it sticks to the wall or don't be pasta or a pretzel. we don't have to deal with men's emotional immaturity. you knew that but let this be a reminder.The chilling effect of reading a post and instantly recognizing a manipulator from the past. You know it's manipulation because the person uses the methods of acceptable adult communication, but for some reason that never leads to a compromise which leaves both people somewhat happy. The only result is, he gets to have his cake and eat it, too, while you are sitting there wondering why you feel sad and depressed all the time. It works great on the young and inexperienced. Then one day that perso… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 10:03 AM |
| 27 | Adele needs to de-center men from her music 👏🏾👏🏾The majority of women in that age bracket are super focused on relationships and procreation. If Adele and Taylor Swift wouldn't sing about that, I suspect they'd just find someone else who did. What such singers could do though is at least make it sound somewhat empowering, like Anastacia often did. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 09:15 AM |
| 262 | People in the comments are debating whether or not this is a good thing 🤡Hardly new though. Up until the mid-1800s some still weren't even sure if we had a soul. (A guy invented the whole idea and the rest ran with it, like fools.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 08:52 AM |
| 74 | the politics of porn throwback news clip w Andrea Dworkin and Catharine MacKinnon 1984Petition against pornography - Censorship. Banning classics in schools - Not censorship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 08:37 PM |
| 8 | Beware of « stable » families who will judge you for your past trauma.With a SO. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 08:05 PM |
| 31 | Beware of « stable » families who will judge you for your past trauma.Just because I had a shitty parent doesn’t mean I will be one. True. But that is often not the problem. The problem is that a shitty childhood can predispose you to shitty relationships because you have a higher tolerance for toxic behaviors than other people. In short: If you have untreated trauma, you're probably going to be a good enough parent, but the relationship with the father will very likely be a shit show. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 07:44 PM |
| 22 | Beware of « stable » families who will judge you for your past trauma.But also beware of thinking that marrying into similar trauma will work, since everyone is on the same page. That only has a realistic chance of success if both spouses have worked on their trauma. Otherwise, it feels really good for a while, then the unhealed past catches up with one or the other person or both, and suddenly it's divorce time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 07:38 PM |
| 233 | women's reaction to male sexual depravity and our aversion towards it is proof men are not "wired" that wayMother Nature has already thought of that. When people experience cognitive dissonance - that uncomfortable feeling you get from information that clashes with how you feel about something - they will simply lie to themselves enough until everything feels aligned again. Smoking is a popular example. A lot of smokers will justify the habit by saying things such as "yes, it's bad, but it relaxes me" or "well, you gotta die from something". That's how many women end up staying with the wrong man for… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 07:31 PM |
| 65 | If you wanna see a man's true character break up with him“You never really know a man until you have divorced him.” -- Zsa Zsa Gabor (married 8 times) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 06:42 PM |
| 132 | Lily Tomlin WALKS OUT After Chad Everett's Sexist Remark! | The Dick Cavett Show (it happens between 6: 35 - 6:55When I watch some of the shows, series and movies from the 70s (but mostly from the 80s and partly the 90s) I notice a lot more courage in women and a lot less fear in being perceived as karen-like or unlikable than I do now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 12:46 PM |
| 8 | Patience + leveling upIt really is a lifelong process. When you feel stagnant, that's a sign you've reached a plateau and need a new challenge. Not because of the goal, but because of the new things the process of reaching that certain goal teaches you about yourself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 12:41 PM |
| 26 | An observationPersonally I've always liked the phrase "irreconcilable differences". And I think it says a lot about someone if they keep prodding after that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 02:01 PM |
| 101 | My friends keep telling me, “not all men.”The anger phase is real. It gets a lot better in time, unless you have some man in your life that keeps dragging it on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 11:30 AM |
| 85 | An observationUnfortunately that's common. In the professional world, as many men understand it, nobody is supposed to have a personal life or even hint at a personal life. The closest you're allowed to get is by offhand mentioning your partner once or twice a year, but never in a negative context. You may mention your kids as a man, but not as a woman. Do not bother mentioning you're divorced or single as a woman. Men attach too many sexual connotations to those labels. Many fall in the trap of thinking, if … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 11:02 AM |
| 58 | Who else make money from all OF except the women involvedYep. If it sounds too good to be true, you probably didn't do the math. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 08:45 PM |
| 234 | Nearly all men can stand adversity, but if you want to test a man’s character, give him powerAh yes, the good old "iT wAs yOuR oWn pOoR ChOicEs", but what they really mean is, "I'm angry. Young hot women won't fuck me because I'm not rich and 6 foot 4." Nope, they won't fuck you because unlike many vulnerable and inexperienced women, they've already heard all the lines and can instantly tell you're a POS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 04:26 PM |
| 166 | They always tell on themselves, sometimes sooner than othersHow to tell me you're a fuckboy without telling me you're a fuckboy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 04:57 PM |
| 226 | Man wants to bring his young daughter on a first date He's basically saying: I'm not in a position to date, but instead of accepting the fact and staying single like a good sport, I do cringey shit and am a bad example to my kid. Not to mention that any woman who actually falls for this shit, will almost certainly have issues of her own, which which will end up traumatizing the child even further. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 02:18 PM |
| 9 | UPDATE: on 46 y/o coworker claiming to be 34.Not only that won't be his last lie, anyone who is too ashamed to own up to their real age has a ton of other issues. It will be a mess. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 02:14 PM |
| 739 | Stupid rant about Kim & KanyeMy guess: She had low self-esteem when they got together, but then went back to school and figured out she was worth more and could do much more than just look hot for men. Any time a woman goes back to school, while married to a LVM, she will invariably graduate as a divorcee. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/22 07:14 PM |
| 273 | Men wonder why they aren't able to be included in our discussionsWhy men aren't included: Check out the female-centered subs where men can comment. Then compare those with the male-centered subs that let women comment. Note in particular, how polite and reticent the women are, when voicing an opinion or sharing an experience in a male space. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/22 06:10 PM |
| 156 | Fangirl moment for FDS!It's pretty telling, that subs which encourage women not to take ANY shit from men are very few and far between, while the subs which aim to teach men how to hate, abuse and manipulate women are seemingly beyond number. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/22 12:43 PM |
| 68 | Sometimes a woman is single BECAUSE she settled not because she was too picky.Staying single young because a woman is too picky is rare. First of all we are not raised to be picky and discerning. Our self-esteem is purposefully kneecapped by society at every corner and we are constantly told of our purpose in this world, to get married and have kids, literally from birth. It's also a class issue. A woman who is picky in her youth is often at least middle class, if not rich. Think Paris Hilton. Yes, she dated everyone, but married nobody until she was good and ready. What … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/22 06:20 AM |
| 115 | Anyone else feel the same way sometimes?It's totally normal to have pangs. The trouble usually begins when we start wondering if we should lower our standards: Is it ok to date Mr. Right Now, if I know he's only Mr. Right Now? I'm just looking for companionship, I don't want to marry him or anything. This is a particularly common question, especially by women who've been there done that. I got my answer to this indirectly. This one older woman I know finally got together with a high value man. After several years of happiness she beca… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/22 07:01 PM |
| 77 | just realized I don't introject, can't be coerced, and am super strong... but at what a priceAnyone else realize the psychological price(s) they've had to pay to find their own strength? Instantly felt what you meant by this question, even though we've both arrived to it differently. (Lower working class background. You can get a lot of random and unprovoked hate for being an academically minded woman.) That kind of hard-earned strength certainly feels great, but here's the thing, at least for me: I thought that finally giving zero fucks about what people think of my body or mind would … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/22 06:29 PM |
| 130 | Pretty Privilege is Real, But False and Fleeting.Pretty privilege is something people came up with to prevent women from realizing that skill privilege holds all the power. If you are skilled, they might hate you, despise you and call you ugly behind your back, but they will work with you. And if their behavior doesn't ruffle you, in the end they will also respect you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/22 09:50 PM |
| 84 | Having a baby via sperm donorUnfortunately, it happens with men you know, too. He can have other children and already be married, have undisclosed debt, addictions and hereditary illnesses you or even he doesn't know about, until you have one or even several children from him. Vet ruthlessly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/22 06:16 PM |
| 53 | The "Happily Ever After" marriage fairytale sold to women is a lie. The truth is most marriages are miserable FOR WOMEN because most men are NV/LV. Society gaslights and (in some parts of the world) even forces women into settling.If you are married with kids, it's going to take a really strong marriage and a heck of a lot of luck, after a certain age, to make YOUR life seem better than theirs, while comparing notes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/22 05:39 PM |
| 34 | The "Happily Ever After" marriage fairytale sold to women is a lie. The truth is most marriages are miserable FOR WOMEN because most men are NV/LV. Society gaslights and (in some parts of the world) even forces women into settling.You need a legion of mommy-bangmaids But you can't possibly come up with so many naturally, so you brainwash them. Parents will literally make toddlers push prams with dolls, while they are barely able to walk themselves, and act like it's the child's idea. Once you see it, you just can't unsee it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/22 05:27 PM |
| 50 | The "Happily Ever After" marriage fairytale sold to women is a lie. The truth is most marriages are miserable FOR WOMEN because most men are NV/LV. Society gaslights and (in some parts of the world) even forces women into settling.Not to mention you have MORE money at your disposal than you did when you were married, even if you took a financial hit or happen to be earning less than before. Low value men are expensive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/22 05:24 PM |
| 78 | The "Happily Ever After" marriage fairytale sold to women is a lie. The truth is most marriages are miserable FOR WOMEN because most men are NV/LV. Society gaslights and (in some parts of the world) even forces women into settling.There is a reason why most fairy tales stop at "happily ever after". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/22 04:51 PM |
| 24 | Working on myself just makes me feel more isolatedWhat you'd like and what you need can be two very different things. Finally admitting that to yourself can be a really long process. It took me more than half a decade until I admitted to myself that I'm actually happier single, even though I knew all about the dark side of marriage and kids and had every reason not to want to date again, ever. I can imagine the FOMO is much harder for some people if they are still young and idealistic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/22 04:37 PM |
| 329 | Levelling up man freeFew people level up as fast and as hard as a woman who previously spent years or even decades under some losers' thumb. When you admire, respect, trust, and appreciate yourself that much - then other people will automatically know they must show that level of appreciation for you as a person or else don't bother to involve. When you become in terms of ethics, morals, principles, values, standards, and achievements and goals the type of "man you want to meet"...you become in terms of accomplishme… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 09:40 AM |
| 267 | The Dangers Pick Mes Pose to FDS WomenThat's why many women stop (over)sharing with their girlfriends as they grow older. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 08:14 AM |
| 9 | Another post about Gold-digging/Sugar-babyingInvesting in your skills will pay more dividends than any stock you'll ever own. It's also more likely to attract Keanu Reeves and George Clooney (not the best example, bear with me) instead of Mick Jagger / Leonardo DiCaprio. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 08:08 AM |
| 123 | [deleted by user]"It's just as easy to marry a rich man as a poor man." So, all things being equal, why would you do the latter and risk unhappiness and divorce down the line? (Finances are the number one reason for divorce.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 05:12 PM |
| 14 | Turkish woman marries boyfriend who threw acid in her face. Nope, just nope.Either massive pressure from her family, trauma bonding or (most likely) both. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 01:32 PM |
| 117 | lowkey don’t even care at this point if a guy wants to screw around with my feelings like that i simply just do not have the time and resources to deal with it - block and deleteThat's another reason why they love to hound obviously inexperienced women. Only they are impressed by those kind of behaviors and will try to respond by being the "cool girl". Any woman who's been around will next them so fast, it will make their head spin. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 10:00 AM |
| 11 | Strategy: How to know if a man is only after YOUR money and successThat's insidious, but spot on. He'll always ask what this or that costs and no price you quote will ever be a bargain. ("You could have gotten that cheaper.../ I bought that cheaper...") The difference to an actual penny pincher is, that he doesn't have his own finances under control and is prone to random spending sprees. He's always expecting a package from Ebay or Amazon. Will have at least one other addiction. So any time he finds out you've spend money he gets upset because that's money you… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 09:52 AM |
| 143 | Men will marry women who they don‘t love, find attractive or even hate. How does one even vet for this?That's where the FDS-mindset comes into play. Many women are hesitant to set such high dating standards, but they weed out those who are in for an easy ride. Men generally marry women they don't love because those women make it easy for them to do so. It's far harder to marry a woman you don't love AND who makes you jump through all sorts of hoops. (Though many will do that, too, if she's rich enough.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 04:01 PM |
| 28 | I just learned that one of the biggest catalysts for men leaving their wives is having a child with special needs (the divorce rate climbs to 80 percent).The feelings we have for our family members with special needs are deep and genuine. But that kind of love does not come cheap. There's often A LOT of pain and sacrifice involved behind the scenes. (And ironically that pain is often caused by "normal" people who can't cope with the situation.) So I absolutely dread the thought of forcing that situation to anyone who isn't willing or able to do it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 04:48 PM |
| 145 | Man baby and forever gfNote how they are perfectly willing, eager even to spend money on women, if they think they are "hot enough". So if he's not spending money on you... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 12:59 PM |
| 171 | I just learned that one of the biggest catalysts for men leaving their wives is having a child with special needs (the divorce rate climbs to 80 percent).It's true, though there are mothers who run off, too. Even if both stay, it's rarely a happily ever after. Having a special needs child can destroy a marriage and personal lives in ways that outsiders cannot even begin to comprehend. Nobody will ever say it because they're ashamed. You only see the FB posts of "my blessing", "light of my life", "welcome to holland" etc. That's why in my opinion nobody, not even special needs activists, has the right to tell a woman if she should be allowed to ab… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 12:49 PM |
| 119 | I will stop “generalizing” men when THEY stop using, abusing, and killing women. When THEY stop treating us like disposable source of labor. I will stop when MEN start ruthlessly policing & holding OTHER men accountable for all the shit they do to women.Yes, the famous "sources". Even when they are arguing, they still expect you to do the work. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 05:29 AM |
| 22 | Timing question when it comes to exclusivity?You're 21, good looking, free and having the time of your life. Of course they want to lock you down. Your question at all times to yourself should be, is what he's offering me better than my freedom and the enjoyment of my youth? Relationships are not just cuddles and sunset walks with the dog. Even when you don't move in together, life has a way of sneaking in wife work for you. That's still more commitment and trouble than anyone at 21 should be expected to have. And there's nothing magical a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 05:23 AM |
| 87 | Needing advice and supportSweatheart. This is way above your paygrade. This is way above ours. You'll have to contact your local domestic violence shelter, tell them everything and then do exactly as they say. You might have to go underground. You might have to move. You might even have to change your name. This is not a joke. Men who fit that profile kill women all over the planet every single day. They are sick, not unlike rabid dogs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 06:35 PM |
| 257 | When in doubt, do withoutLow value men? Shitty friends? Toxic family? Absolutely. Was mostly thinking of a job I had once. After applying to several other places I realized it was the best I could do at the time. While with lame relationships you can always do better on your own. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 03:34 PM |
| 132 | Anyone else having trouble making new friends after FDS?Leveling up reduces the number of people you will consider as dates or friends. Because now you know where that path takes you and you can't lie to yourself anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 01:07 PM |
| 26 | For those who don’t want to marry/live together, (esp over 35), how do you apply FDS?It's a tricky situation because you still have girls at home, which could become an issue if you marry, and if you don't, it could very easily lead you to a long-term situationship with a low value man, who is emotionally unavailable, just wants to waste some time and does not intend to marry ever. Part of a female dating strategy is knowing when not to date. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 12:59 PM |
| 12 | I don’t even desire sex with a man anymoreYou're in good company. Female sexuality is often like this. Use it or lose it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 12:11 PM |
| 63 | Let me guess, she initiates every single date, too. Oh wait, she confirmed in the comments that, she in fact, does.Not mentioning it is fine. If we have to give them pointers, we've already lost. Not ending things with him is the problem. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 12:08 PM |
| 82 | Man claims his gf WANTS him to hold a gun to her head. I call bs.Usually, yes. Though unfortunately there are some very traumatized women with extensive history of physical abuse, who might actually say or go along something like this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 04:14 PM |
| 139 | PickMe here, left another idiot. Was I right?Was I right to leave him/break up with him/dump him? In my experience you can always answer that question with YES. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 02:42 PM |
| 205 | Scrote wants woman to pay for dates, even though they’re not exclusive after several dates. Pretty impressed to see the comments from other guys saying that they happily pay for dates.I strongly doubt she said all that. He's projecting and fantasizing, something misogynistic redditors love to do more than anything. Not to mention, if you actually have to have that kind of a conversation, the courtship isn't just over, it never even began. A man who has those kind of issues is not in a position to date or enter a proper relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 08:01 AM |
| 73 | The “Wonderscrote”: How men function like corrupt corporations and literally say whatever they can to maximize how accessible women are and make themselves look as good as possible.Many people are fascinated by the Matrix film. But how about the real life Matrix? It's a shocker for a grown woman to go through her memories and suddenly realize that her self-esteem issues, self-hatred, doubt, imposter syndrome, etc. etc. all this was purposefully planted into her by a patriarchal society, through her closest and dearest, from day number one. They come down on you the hardest, if you are different in some way, like beautiful/ugly, lesbian, neurodiverse, mentally or physically… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 07:49 AM |
| 87 | The importance of being clear with/having boundariesYou'd think "unresponsive to texts/phonecall and refusing to meet 1-on-1" would be a clue... Nope. Unfortunately it's best to be unresponsive to anything beyond work. And even then you can't be sure he'll get the hint. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 07:08 AM |
| 49 | The importance of being clear with/having boundariesYou had my curiosity… but now you have my full attention. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 07:04 AM |
| 91 | “My love language is PhYSiCal TouCh”My love language is PhYSiCal TouCh What it really means: If he doesn't have sex every 2-3 days he gets in a crappy mood. He's only touchy feely when he wants sex and will barely touch you at any other time. Massages? What are that? Does not understand that sex is the cumulation of many little physical, mental and emotional acts through the day, so he expects it at sudden and random moments. Especially if you are super busy (soo sexy, barf). See number 1 if he doesn't get it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 07:00 AM |
| 29 | I did this in high school 🤡 and guess what? It did not turn out well. Never doing it again. If he wanted to, he would.Congratulations! Like very young marriages, asking a man out can work. But the stats are not high enough to claim it works better than a placebo. Unfortunately the occasional success story lead many women to thinking, I'll be an exception to the rule, just like her! And then it really hurts when you aren't. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 06:55 AM |
| 481 | I did this in high school 🤡 and guess what? It did not turn out well. Never doing it again. If he wanted to, he would.This does not work. I knew FDS was the right place for women because it was the only place where I finally heard someone say that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 08:10 PM |
| 179 | I told her she sounds like a forever girlfriend and asked how after 7 years, they've discussed what he will end their relationship over but not what their future and commitment will look like. Other scrotes trashing her for "making him" give up his dream school.She got trashed about it because man's career dreams are still considered significantly more valuable than those of a woman's. Never seen a guy get trashed because his girlfriend gave up everything for him, though, which sadly many women do every single day. It's just expected. PS. Note, he's still further ahead with his phD than she is with hers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 03:51 PM |
| 23 | Pleas share your tips for getting over someone and taking care of yourself after an amicable breakup!Staying busy. Not just the appearance of, but you are actually busy. Especially if it has a deadline and/or it's a mental challenge. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 02:54 PM |
| 135 | Men don't and can't rescue us.Getting rescued is a popular theme in movies and literature because many of us have that secret wish. You see it some times here, too. "I'm not a high value woman yet / I'm in a bad situation could I still meet a high value man?" Of course you could. People get struck by lightning, too. But is that a reliable and safe way of getting out of a bad situation? Not really. Generally, there are no free lunches in this world. Very often the rescuer has certain expectations which he fails to communicate… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 10:09 AM |
| 29 | Online dating as a childfree woman can be an abusive and traumatic experienceNice of them to expose their incompatiblity so quickly, but it really is ok not to do this to yourself. Give yourself permission to stay single, start building a great social network for yourself and if it happens, it happens. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 06:21 AM |
| 45 | What are our thoughts on this culture of rushing into marriageDoes it work for a few rare couples? Yes. But it's called a "starter marriage" for a reason. All she's going to do is waste her 20s to someone, with whom she has never even orgasmed. (Pretty sure about this.) Unfortunately at this age, they all think they'll be young forever. But not even Adele and Megan Fox were able to get their 20s back after finally ending their starter marriage - and not for lack of trying. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 06:17 AM |
| 495 | I think we can all guess how this went down-- Elon must've used his work travel as an excuse to have an "oPeN rElAtiOnShiP", a total slap in the face to Grimes after having his baby!!! Friendly reminder that most wealthy men are LVM who treat women as sex objects and incubators.WTF is "semi-separated"?! Can't stand him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 08:32 PM |
| 14 | Guys know that the problem is not purely their looksSo relatable. I've met the exact type. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 06:08 PM |
| 271 | Guys know that the problem is not purely their looksTheir "I'm too ugly" argument is BS and easily debunked. Just look around you. (The super market is ideal for this.) If you can find one ugly guy walking around with his wife and kids, then clearly it's "not all about looks". What they really mean is a) they are too ugly for the women they want to have b) they don't want to work on the things they can control c) hate women (especially the young and pretty ones) for not accepting them "warts and all". When that's not how the world works. Underpri… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 02:44 PM |
| 541 | “Why Sex-Positive Feminism is Falling out of Fashion”It's falling out of fashion because as one young woman aptly said: “It feels like we were tricked into exploiting ourselves.” Basically, "sex-positive" feminism promised that if we lowered our standards and fucked like men, we would finally have better relationships, more orgasms and we would stop hating our bodies. It lied. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 01:40 PM |
| 59 | I hate how scammy a lot of matchmakers areUnfortunately it's best to assume businesses that have to do with things like dating, etc. are a scam, unless they are well-referenced, and even then I wouldn't be too sure. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 01:25 PM |
| 22 | How do you deal with gaining less interest in dating and men overall?Pay attention to discrepancies between what you want and your actions. If you want to get married, but aren't really doing anything about it, you either don't want to get married or there is a mental blockade about it. Either way it might be a good idea to discuss this with an expert. It may well be that you are struggling to give yourself permission to be single because of reasons. There's a lot of peace in knowing why you do or don't do certain things. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 05:09 AM |
| 85 | 100 years old and still living her best life.That quote is mindblowing. Also love the contrast between the two pictures. One sweet as pie, the other "just TRY me." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 12:57 PM |
| 202 | Sex work is always coercion, there is never true consent.Just the fact that someone is able to overlook that they are "buying" consent, tells you a lot about that person, their level of callousness and lack of scruples. Just the fact that male prostitution never really took off among women speaks volumes, too. A prostitute's consent is not like the forced friendliness at work. This is way more intimate and has a lot more reprecussions. The big difference is, people are taught to respect the forced friendliness at work. There's constant reminders poste… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 07:26 AM |
| 170 | What’s the standard trade for the entire human being I pushed out of my vagina?That's what sealed it for me. Ruining my body - not just cosmetically - and future. While his life not only continued like before, it actually improved because a man has much better social standing due to wife and kids. Not to mention higher pay. While as a woman, even if you're still working, you just get a ton of hate from your childless co-workers, who feel you're not pulling your weight now that you're a mother. But if you're not careful and you start believing all those shitty (social) medi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 05:49 AM |
| 48 | Do not date recovering porn addicts, this post is another example of the misery and pain dealing with a pornsick man. So many scrotes defending him in the comments🤢How they tell on themselves. A woman who's happy with the quality and frequency of her sex life will not care if he whacks it on the side. Never! If your woman has began to be worried about your masturbation practices, I hope it's only a matter of time until she meets someone else and figures out that shit's on you, not her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 05:40 AM |
| 589 | 122k likes on reddit 🤮What does she think women have been doing the past 20 years? If that shit worked, FDS would only have like 10 members. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 05:28 AM |
| 277 | Beware the hobosexual and other bumsMany misogynists are quick to say this is because of more women entering the workforce, but I don't buy it. Most of us have jobs these men would not want anyway. The few diversity programs, which are so hated among low achieving males, are just a drop in the ocean. (And the ones which rake in the most money are already gamed by men in one way or the other.) They just don't want to and it's far more socially acceptable now than it was back in the 1940s. With women "eager to do their part", like w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 02:48 PM |
| 52 | Don’t fall for the illusion of control. You will never truly know your partner, and you can never make yourself 100% safe - you can only react to what you know.Probably the most important reminder any of us will read today. Even if you cross all your t's and dot all your i's, people have a way of changing dramatically through the years. Sometimes it's as simple as an undiagnosed physical illness. A person with Alzheimers for example, can undergo dramatic personality changes years or even decades before their diagnosis. A huge number of people get lost along the way and join sects or start believing in crazy conspiracy theories. The list is endless. Fac… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 01:29 PM |
| 50 | Pick me cultureMarilyn Monroe is an unforgetable example of how structuring your life and work around performative femininity can prematurely delete you from the face of the earth. Madonna, on the other hand, is a terrifying example of the long term consequences of basing your entire identity on being "sexy" for men. It's very possible she has to take drugs constantly to cope with the fact that she does not look anything remotely like her Insta pictures, and I feel kind of silly that I didn't consider this bef… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 01:18 PM |
| 70 | I don’t believe it when men say they can’t understand women.Translation for I don't understand women: Oh shit, you can fool all people some of the time, but you can't fool all people all of the time. also known as The manipulation tactic worked before, why doesn't it work now? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 12:21 PM |
| 25 | Newly-separated Scrote creeps on female FB friends, throws mantrum when they don't respondSo typical for a man to loudly complain online that women must want assholes since they keep rejecting such fine and decent dudes like himself. Fails to mention that his entire wooing process consists of sending really creepy messages, usually to women way outside his league and/or much too young. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 11:25 AM |
| 64 | Pick me cultureHer career ended prematurely, when she criticized a powerful Hollywood director with a rather thoughtless choice of words several years ago. She's trying to restart her career the only way she knows how, by using her looks. But while Megan Fox is an attractive woman, she's over the hill now agewise in Hollywood. She needs to find a different approach and do it fast. It's not impossible to have a career after 35 in Hollywood, even if you've been black-listed before (think Brendan Fraser), but you… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 11:20 AM |
| 130 | Why you shouldn't stay in a relationship with a Porn Addict (PA)All that. And also because he's basically using you for the emotional labor he can't get from porn and cam girls, while giving nothing, but some breadcrumbs at best, in return. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 02:39 PM |
| 24 | What's with the older men who are still raising adult babies?Their behavior is definitely some kind of substitute for a real relationship. I could see some of them snapping out of it by finding a relationship (not all). But they are blocking that path with their pathological behavior. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 01:11 PM |
| 18 | Methods they use to stealth unsuspecting womenWhen someone absolutely does not want to have unexpected kids you'll know. They are always super conscientious. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 01:01 PM |
| 13 | Thoughts?Not a good idea. A guy passes on so much more than the color of his eyes or whatever else matters to that woman. Things many women actually wouldn't and don't consider when picking a father for their children, because they don't have the experience or capacity to think that far ahead. Quality sperm banks exist for a reason. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 12:54 PM |
| 166 | What's with the older men who are still raising adult babies?A lot of parents get so caught up between raising kids and work, they neglect their own social lives. They find it immensely hard to let go of the childrearing later on, because they have literally nothing else to live for. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 11:37 AM |
| 32 | “She Divorced Me Because I Left Dishes By The Sink”She divorced him because he's a fucking slob and had no other merits to make up for it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 06:13 AM |
| 20 | Porn actress on TikTok admitted that stopping a scene had consequencesI did for a time and was actually treated a lot more respectfully and was possibly better paid than this woman. Presents, tips and snacks for every holiday included. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 05:15 AM |
| 104 | Porn actress on TikTok admitted that stopping a scene had consequencesYes, I remember reading that most only make about 40k a year, if that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 02:31 PM |
| 398 | Porn actress on TikTok admitted that stopping a scene had consequencesYet everyone only focuses on the money aspect. As if that can make up for the physical and emotional destruction all the way down to the cellular level. Thanks, but keep your money. At least when we are forced to do an unpleasant task at work, we only get fucked figuratively. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 01:11 PM |
| 20 | A very close friend of mine is considering staying with her forever boyfriend who has been cheating on her for 5+ years.The wife lite should watch this video. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l6116YzgL9k Unfortunately, what few women in her situation do, is at least use the time to level up financially or get some therapy to prepare themselves for what's coming. Because this is going to end at some point, whether she likes it or not. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 12:34 PM |
| 35 | Spiritual men and their predatory ways . "I told Deepak Chopra how men had exploited me. Then, he did the same."The massively hyped up Mark Manson comes to mind. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 12:07 PM |
| 183 | Spiritual men and their predatory ways . "I told Deepak Chopra how men had exploited me. Then, he did the same."That's so typical for gurus. We yearn to trust them and want to believe they are good people, because what they say makes sense and is very well put together. But often those men (frequently men, but not always) are just horny smooth talkers looking to fill up their pockets. I've determined self-help can be very helpful, as long as you stay away from the person who wrote it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 08:07 AM |
| 22 | I don’t want to do performative femininity anymoreYour problem is not performative femininity, but the fact that you are in a foreign country with no friends. Fix that quickly or get back home. Or you will always feel forced to 'perform' for some man in order to have someone in your life. It's a very shitty way to live. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 07:17 AM |
| 13 | How much will having a low value father affect your chances with a high value man?Having a low value father is a problem. Depending on how bad he was, every man who is not like him will seem like a god in comparison. So your chances of mistaking another low value man for a high value one, just because he doesn't do <insert daddy behavior here>, are rather high. Additionally, a smart hvm will avoid a woman with a dysfunctional family (and rightfully so), unless she proves to have done the emotional and mental work and has excellent boundaries with her family. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 07:08 AM |
| 49 | Women need to stop pathologizing themselves and start listening to their intuition with menIf your anxiety and depression lets up when a certain person is not around, you're not anxious or depressed, that person is an asshole. What's even sadder, Gabbie Petito is only one of 1600 women murdered in the US every single year by a man they know. You could run 4 Gabbie Petito stories in the news every single day. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 05:02 AM |
| 50 | Never stay friends nor let your exes stay in your lifeSame with FWB. That stuff only started becoming a thing after ca. 2003. I clearly remember being told by media and society that equality means now you could fuck like a man, but guess what: Two things can have equal value and absolutely NOT be the same. Not to mention all that propaganda was simply for the benefit of thirsty men, who have not become any kinder, more generous or tolerant through all this "easy sex". And they still suck in bed as their fathers and grandfathers. It's been 50 years … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 06:55 PM |
| 57 | “A woman’s friends are her most precious pearls” - my momThey all implore me to never marry and to take refuge and make a home with my girl friends. It's not that they don't want you to be happily married. They just want you to be happy. Period. They figure, marriage is a crapshoot. A 50-50 chance at best. Often due to people rushing to get married and have kids before they even know who they are and what they really want out of life. But single life will always work if you work it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 09:10 PM |
| 37 | Are these kind of posts actually empowering?My theory is, it's not unlike the gory stories you hear in AA. For a woman who's been here longer, they might not be as necessary as they were in the past. For the newcomer who might be trying to break away from a bad or even abusive relationship, they can be necessary in order to find the strength and will to move on to a better stage in life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 05:46 PM |
| 64 | You Don't Always Have to Hold Yourself to the Same Standards as MenRedditors are quick to say that women demand attributes they don't have themselves, when everyone knows many men are pickier and worse. All the way to the altar and beyond they wonder, maybe I could have done better. What's good for the gander is good for the goose, too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 06:41 AM |
| 23 | I can’t stand patriarchal menThis type of father is common as dirt in many parts of the world. As a result, his sons are often never-do-wells because they've never had discipline or structure. The daughters are hard working and often do great in school, but will give it all up in an instant for a man just like him because that's all they know. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 04:48 AM |
| 181 | Why? Just why?It's a deal breaker for this reason alone: if you ever get in bed, he'll tell the next woman about you in great detail, too. But don't count on him telling just one person. Those kind men tend to tell everyone including their relatives. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 04:42 AM |
| 137 | Apparently having an emergency savings fund as a woman and not explicitly saying so to your male partner is “financial infidelity.” 🤨🙄Many men are great at what's called "dissipation of marital assets" while building up their own. Don't tell them "everything" even if you are happily married. Always keep a little bit for yourself. ALWAYS. They certainly do, I can guarantee you this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 04:38 AM |
| 461 | WSJ article cites how males are completing college education at almost half the rate of women, with porn, drugs, and video games as major "distractions."Don't fall in love with potential. Parents should text that to their daughters once a week throughout their 20s (and sometimes 30s as well). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 04:34 AM |
| 31 | In every interaction with a man, you should be asking yourself "what do I get out of this?"Good reminder. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 06:24 PM |
| 276 | In every interaction with a man, you should be asking yourself "what do I get out of this?"Definitely ask yourself "what am I getting out of this?" and do so regularly, because I can promise you this: the other person is asking themselves that ALL THE TIME. It's so easy to slide into a relationship that offers nothing, drags you down and keeps you down for years and years because of all the conditioning we've had. Also never give to get or give beyond what feels comfortable. Beware of the first year trap. So many women move, get married, get pregnant, etc. during that first year, only… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 06:06 PM |
| 600 | Ladies…please have/control your own finances, have a social circle and skills…even with a HVM by your side.Someone better keep an eye on your aunt. Well-off widows are great targets and have been since time immemorial. She needs to be aware of things like romance scammers and sleezy men who will promise her an "excellent return on investment". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 06:04 PM |
| 26 | Why does rejection still hurt?It's true, most men don't fall in love with a woman's brain, but there's plenty of smart women in high value relationships. Ruth Bader Ginsburg was one, Marie Curie certainly was. Even the current counselor of Germany, often publicly ridiculed for not being conventionally attractive, is still married to the man she met, while doing her phD. It pays to have some standards. Even if you never meet the man who lives up to them, you'll at least be spared the ultimate indignity that can occur, when we… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 05:18 PM |
| 54 | UPDATE: My Experience Implementing the 3 Month Rule of FDS. TDLR: For your own protection, wait EVEN LONGER than 3 months, preferably 6+. Men are sheep in wolf's clothing when they are trying to get a 50/50 roommate and after this, I will NEVER cohabitate with a man again until marriageCompletely agree. My best results were when waiting 5+ months. In the meanwhile those men did not pressure me, but we also did not place ourselves in situations where sex was a possibility. I'd say if you constantly have to make excuses about why you can't have sex right now, he's not the one, even if he appears to wait. You never have to say "I don't know you well enough for that" to the right man. One of those men was not sexually compatible, but waiting that long to find that out was not a wa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 05:04 PM |
| 89 | Scrote fantasizes about hitting women that expect him to pay for dinner 🤮As if a hvw would be so crass. She'll just pay then block and delete him. Allowing a man to pay is actually a sign that a woman likes him and wants to continue seeing him in many dating cultures. Men know this and particularly the low or no value ones will get visibly upset if she declines his offer to pay. The high value ones will automatically pay for her friend, too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 08:17 AM |
| 31 | Funny how 50/50 almost always works in the scrote's favorA big part of the problem is in the first 2 paragraphs. Only in developing countries is it acceptable or even encouraged to have a wife and 4 children when you're only 22 years old. Learn how to pee straight first, young scoundrel. We don't live in the middle ages and don't have a life expectancy of 45 anymore. We're not ok with cats procreating too young, but this is fine? No, this is obscene. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 06:03 AM |
| 75 | Don’t be fooled by pickmes who seem to attract a bunch of menI can get guys to be obsessed with me because I’m toxic teeheehee Hardly. They are obsessed because she's a passably looking, young, easy source of sex and those men are either too dumb or too messed up to see beyond that. Those women tend to go through a huge identity crisis in their 40s when they suddenly realize that schtick does not work anymore and they actually have to grow a real personality now, but can't because this is the only game they know. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 05:55 AM |
| 36 | 'Money can't buy happiness' is a lie women are sold which compels them to seek fulfillment in romantic relationships instead of investing in their education and careersIt's a big reason for the dead bedroom stories we've all heard. Most men can or won't understand the fact that normal people don't get the warm fuzzies for someone who reminds them of a parent. Smart men know this and will give her access / transfer money before she asks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 05:03 AM |
| 166 | 'Money can't buy happiness' is a lie women are sold which compels them to seek fulfillment in romantic relationships instead of investing in their education and careersThe only women who are impressed by those kind of movies have usually not yet experienced the thorough humiliation that's often part of being financially dependent on a man. Or they have, but have learned to accept it as part of life. But not all of us care for that kind of lifestyle. Here's a story told once by Jim Rohn: I met a beautiful, powerful, accomplished executive lady in New York. This lady was a Vice President. Extraordinary lady. I asked, "How did you get here?" Big income! And she n… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 06:41 PM |
| 41 | Keep Your Silence"No matter what they write about me, Marilyn, I never deny it. I never confirm it. I just keep smiling and I just walk. I just keep walking forward. You do the same." - Elizabeth Taylor “Never complain, never explain.” - British saying. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 07:37 PM |
| 309 | Sorry ladies but I gotta use this space to mock poly people 🤣In my experience, "poly couples" are often a man who wants to have his cake and eat it, too, and a woman who's afraid of losing him. Generally if a woman is perfectly fine with it good chances are, she does not love him as much as she says he does. It also makes little sense from an evolutionary standpoint that's why it never gained much traction. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 06:36 PM |
| 32 | Oh woe is men!In a way, I could understand if an american man said, "I didn't bother with college because I didn't want to be saddled with huge debt for a degree that doesn't even pay that much, so I went into trades instead." But often, they're not doing that. And it's not only like this in the US, but even in countries where tertiary education is free and students receive money to study. They also like to whine about the higher number of male virgins in their 20s compared to the number of female virgins in … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 05:58 PM |
| 157 | Reminder: Men will lie about anything, including their sexuality!How many men are actually hiding their sexuality from us? Having perused a gay sex app, I'd say the number of men stating they were in heterosexual relationship on their profile was...quite larger than expected. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 07:56 PM |
| 38 | my complicated relationship with beauty attracted LV people. but working through it put me on the path to HV people.Redefining beauty is an often painful process that many avoid until they are forced to do it, usually due to age. But on the other end there is a peace, happiness and contentment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 07:49 PM |
| 12 | He can make more money than you and still be a hobosexualThey also tend to suck in bed, so they are not even good gigolos. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 06:59 PM |
| 592 | Do I just have to be a bitch, then?It's their projection speaking. Those kind of men are only nice to and look at women they want to fuck, so they think if you're looking at them, you must be interested. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/21 08:44 PM |
| 120 | Why did Disney and society at large lie to us about the true nature of most men?Little Mermaid was the story that disturbed me the most as a kid, especially in its original version. I didn't like this idea of women having to suffer so much for a man's love. Then grew up and realized that Little Mermaid is a metaphor for how the vast majority of women live their lives. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/21 08:00 PM |
| 44 | Redefining sexinessI was raised with this definition of sexy too, until I was forced to redefine it. That's when I realized that in the long run, our personality, what we do and how we live our life is far more appealing (and has more lasting impact) than how we look. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/21 07:56 PM |
| 86 | Study founds that cohabitation between a pre-martial couple brings short-term benefits but is more associate with divorce in the long-term.People hate to hear this and will rush to post anecdotal evidence to the contrary. Unfortunately those stories keep everyone hooked on hopium. We all believe we will be that exception to the rule. But very often cohabitation masks the fact that at least one person is not keen on marrying the other and wants to keep their options open, just in case they find someone better. When they do marry each other, it's because of sunk-cost fallacy and not because of any stars in their eyes or butterflies i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/21 06:59 PM |
| 11 | Why do men always bring up women's height preference when factually speaking we know men have a race, weight, look, and physical feature preference?Not allowed, but they are the top threads right now as we speak, so you should find them easily. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 07:48 PM |
| 50 | Why do men always bring up women's height preference when factually speaking we know men have a race, weight, look, and physical feature preference?Men having a sexual preference = normal, no matter how far out it is or how ugly he might be. Women having a sexual preference = how dare they?!!!!! There's actually two threads right now, one over askm*n and one at dat*ng_adv*ce which perfectly exemplify what I'm talking about. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 07:39 PM |
| 20 | Other Women distancing Themselves from Single WomenIt's a society thing, too. I've noticed people are more likely to greet on the street, when I'm with a male companion instead of alone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 09:31 PM |
| 86 | A guy who is sending you mixed signals is just using youSo true. It isn't just sex. It can be boredom, loneliness, your money or any number of things. If it feels like he's using you, he almost certainly does. The hardest thing to learn is: Don't bother waiting for proof, just trust your instinct and block him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 04:32 PM |
| 54 | I’m really curious to know..Definitely prioritizing studies and making/investing money over men. I would not consider giving relationships any kind of priority, unless I was able to support myself financially. Even in 2021, the number of 23 year olds stuck in an unhealthy live-in situation with a man, because they can't afford to move, is still too damn high. And when considering if you should prioritize a man, his love for you should only be one part of the equation. A man can love you very much, but still be a bad fit du… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 03:55 PM |
| 13 | Weak uterusThat's how large portions of this world actually think. Proper education (not just memorizing stuff) and free contraception for all (including abortion) is the key out of this nightmare. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 08:51 PM |
| 136 | If he doesn’t give it up by the third date; dump him!Never in the history of humankind was this ever a thing and for a very good reason. Stuff like the three-date sex rule, FWB, expectations of threesomes, etc. only came to being in the last 25 years and exclusively with the male benefit in mind. For quite a few men, three dates is way too long, if all you want is sex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 08:03 PM |
| 280 | Pakistan Horror: Crazy entitlement and depravity and victim-blaming and gross animalistic behavior - All wrapped in oneShower Thought: unfettered access to education and all types of contraception for both sexes is key for women's freedom and that's why extremely patriarchal societies are against it. They thrive on ignorance and women who are too tired to lift their head up because they are reduced to being breeding machines. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 01:29 PM |
| 152 | I subscribe to FDS values because I refuse to accept any form of abuse from any man.It says that misogyny / female oppression is so normalized, that anyone who speaks against it is perceived by many to be a freak of nature. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 08:26 PM |
| 16 | Applying FDS Values in Nordic Dating CultureGreat social safety net is a good reason. Not to mention men are generally more willing to support you while you're still young and cute, or at least raising his kids. But even when they are around support you in our old age, men often die earlier than women. Nearly every second woman over the age of 65 lives alone. If he didn't make any provisions for the SAHM of his youth, she's kind of screwed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 09:16 AM |
| 61 | Applying FDS Values in Nordic Dating CultureIt doesn't matter if all the cool kids are doing it. Google: old age poverty Scandinavia. All those unmarried women raising families with men don't accrue enough pension because they work part time "for the kids", but are not entitled to any of his. So not only they don't give a shit about you once you've outgrown your usefulness, now you are poor on top of it. You're being scammed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 05:09 AM |
| 370 | We love and admire an independent queen who stays true to her eccentricitiesShe's what people used to call "eccentric". But women like Enya don't "just become that way", they become that way due to shitty men certain experiences. So I checked her Wikipedia: Since the 1980s, Enya has attracted the attention of several stalkers. In 1996, an Italian man who was seen in Dublin wearing a photograph of Enya around his neck stabbed himself outside her parents' pub after being ejected from the premises. In May 2005, Enya applied to spend roughly £250,000 on security improvement… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 08:13 PM |
| 46 | Why FDS Exists99,5% of so-called "male attention" is not only undesirable, it's often disturbing and even traumatizing. Once I figured out that age is a repellent to creeps, perverts and most predators, I made a point of looking as old as possible. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 06:58 PM |
| 38 | narcissists and body dysmorphia: why you need to walk away before you're literally gaslit into forgetting WHAT YOU LOOK LIKEThose are the men who overplay their hand with women and then they wonder why nothing can touch these women anymore, especially them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/21 02:31 PM |
| 44 | Why are relationship-seeking attractive men on OLD single? What’s the catch?Every time I asked myself, "Omg, how on earth is this man still single?!", I soon discovered there was a reaaaaaaallllllly good reason for it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/21 02:29 PM |
| 1 | If things were flipped, and sex ended when women came, most men would throw temper tantrums.Yes, it's very rare to find a man who cares for your pleasure afterwards (and who can actually make you cum). The day it happened to me, was the day everything changed for me. I realized for how little I had settled and I knew, the next man would have exactly one chance to do the right thing in bed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 05:49 AM |
| 106 | NEVER hire a male personal trainerNot even Madonna was immune. A Swedish princess married hers and it seems to have worked out, but well, she's a princess. Same applies to tour guides. No you're not special. He does this every 2 weeks (typical vacation cycle). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 08:03 PM |
| 2 | Rethinking Self Improvement: "FDS hAs HaRdLy aNyThiNg aBoUt SeLf iMpRoVeMeNt, iTs aLL jUsT mAn HaTiNg"femalelevelupstrategy | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 01:10 PM |
| 2 | Is there actually any good reason to get married if you don't want kids?Don't get me wrong. I'm only in favor of marrying if both people are enthusiastic about it. You are clearly not. Far be it for me to try and convince someone to get married! I'm trying to make a case for unintended consequences. For many women, an unsuccessful ltr proves to be about as damaging as an unsuccessful marriage, but without any of the benefits incurred during. Because I've done both in my life. And while dissolving a marriage can be a massive and traumatizing pita compared to a ltr, b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 10:33 PM |
| 34 | Rethinking Self Improvement: "FDS hAs HaRdLy aNyThiNg aBoUt SeLf iMpRoVeMeNt, iTs aLL jUsT mAn HaTiNg"Yet quite a few of them certainly seem to care very much about theirs. I wonder why that is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 10:23 PM |
| 147 | Rethinking Self Improvement: "FDS hAs HaRdLy aNyThiNg aBoUt SeLf iMpRoVeMeNt, iTs aLL jUsT mAn HaTiNg"Also, leveling up through education, career and having your own money, etc. is considered absolutely essential around here. Leveling up even has its own subreddit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 09:36 PM |
| 3 | Is there actually any good reason to get married if you don't want kids?Completely understand why you'd say this. (Ironically, it's usually rich people who say this, even though poor, uneducated people are more likely to get a divorce. For some reason marriage works out much better for rich/educated couples, at least statistically.) Yet, not getting married rarely works out as imagined. I've seen rich women still put a wife's effort in a non-committal relationship and poor women endure incredibly bad behavior, because they didn't have the money or confidence to walk… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 08:49 PM |
| 3 | Is there actually any good reason to get married if you don't want kids?Marriage is where the rubber meets the road for many people. Oh yeah, I love him/her, but why risk everything I have, when I'm already getting what I want. The problem is, it's extremely easy to pretend that someone is a Mr. or Mrs. Right, as long as you don't have to put any skin in the game. Eventually you end up having all of the obligations of an officially committed relationship (but none of the good stuff), while bearing all the disadvantages of the unofficially committed relationship. Not… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 07:40 PM |
| 32 | Welp! Now the incels on a famous greentext posting website have found us. RIP mods’ inboxes 😭Many men don't like women criticizing bad male behavior because it reminds them of their personal failings and failures. Of course it's ok when they do it... But maybe you'd be happy to know there are fathers who support this place because they don't want their daughter to go through the same experiences... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 06:06 PM |
| 88 | PSAJust staying at home for the weekend, just taking it easy these days, just giving him some space... Yes, i can see it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 05:56 PM |
| 28 | Welp! Now the incels on a famous greentext posting website have found us. RIP mods’ inboxes 😭I warmly recommend to check out the wikipedia page instead of going there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 05:46 PM |
| 79 | Welp! Now the incels on a famous greentext posting website have found us. RIP mods’ inboxes 😭Worst place on the internet? That's rich coming from a "channel" that's known for hosting the most illegal and disgusting stuff on the net. (Actual gore, every kind of pornography, blatantly racist messages) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 05:13 PM |
| 129 | Another round of free publicity for the sub. Stories about FDS men come up with amuse me every time. Really? I think you attribute "threatening someone with violence when they reject you" to the wrong sех.I don't know why I'm shocked by the outright lie in that screenshot, but I am. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 11:06 AM |
| 11 | finally got there, but strugglingIt is. Unfortunately, it can be hard to see what's wrong with it at that age. Also there's a lot of uncertainty in your early 20s. It's tempting to give into the illusion that adulting (sic) is easier if you date someone older. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 10:48 AM |
| 61 | finally got there, but strugglingYour mother doesn't want you to be with him for a reason. She's been 22 and knows how emotional and idealistic that age can be for many young women who don't know their own worth. She knows how it's like to fall hook, line and sinker for some loser and start thinking he's the best thing since sliced bread and omg, how he's the best you can ever hope to do and what if I don't find another one, while she's sitting there going, I wouldn't date the lowlife even if my vibrator was on fire. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 05:50 AM |
| 4 | So men never thought women can feel lazy or tired too? Meanwhile themselves they certainly wash their hair everyday ✋🏻Sure, happens to women too, especially if young and/or depressed. But what it often means is, she won't clean up after me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 05:43 AM |
| 3 | Rant on “toxic misandry” in response to that VICE articleHow many people has this supposed "toxic misandry" hurt, abused, maimed or killed? None, but if women have standards my loser dick will stay unsucked. The whining, dear Lord, the whining. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 07:30 PM |
| 51 | Scrotes' advice on how to get away with avoiding household choresThen they write blogs called she left me because I didn't wash the dishes, where they still manage to make a woman sound pretty for not wanting to live with what is essentially a bad roommate that nobody, not even men want. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 01:24 PM |
| 17 | Misogyny isn’t going anywhere.Another thing: This was almost certainly a video by a US-woman and the commenters were from the US. It might not be immediately obvious, but USA has a very special brand of misogynism that's not much better than that of other countries, and often worse, because it's so insidious. The country was never able to shake off its ultra misogynistic background on which it was built. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 05:53 AM |
| 50 | What kind of twisted thinking is this? „If Sex Work wouldn‘t exist, men would be even more violent to women“ I‘m so tired of this BS that libfems spread to justify exploitation of women to „prevent“ more violenceCan't link to it right now but check out "comfort women" in wikipedia. A Japanese historian said it only made the problem worst. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 01:00 PM |
| 65 | They're working overtime to take our rights. Please keep yourself aware and fight this shit! My heart goes out to the women in Arkansas.Pieces of shit. I recently heard the argument that the rights of a living entity are more important than women's rights to choose what to do with their own body. A fetus is NOT a seperate living entity that can breathe and eat on its own. The phrase "pull the plug" for seperate living entities exists for a reason: Even the biggest shit on the planet is capable of understanding that once a living entity has become entirely and permanently dependent on machines, it's OVER. Pretty sure those people… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 09:12 AM |
| 63 | What happens socially to a woman upon entering a relationship?Imho it's not because of the culture of monogamy, but the culture of patriarchy. A woman in a heterosexual relationship is a woman with an "owner". There's not a lot of difference between "I hope you find some good white folks" (back when black people in the US depended on that kind of goodwill) and "I hope you find a good man". They both might sound innocuous, but one you figure out the meaning behind them, those phrases are not as harmless anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 06:52 AM |
| 76 | Thank you FDS, I am finally emotionally freed from my ex!FDS is really perfect for helping a woman realize that "no, this man/this life is NOT the best you can do". There are subreddits for getting over a breakup and getting motivated to change your life, but I did not find them half as effective. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 06:45 AM |
| 21 | I would give my child my maiden name as their last name after this.I spotted the problem in the first 2 lines because "induced" and "fiance" became the least romantic combination for me in existance once I realized what it means. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 06:40 AM |
| 12 | Bodies that have been lived inThat's solid poetry. ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 06:13 AM |
| 38 | Killing Us Softly: Advertising's Image of WomenSurprised they spoke about this as far as back then, considering that women were still very natural and the full bush ruled. In the meanwhile there is nothing natural about women in the media. Everything is airbrushed and filtered to death. It's not a woman anymore, it actually looks like a bot. A sign of things to come? And the men who "complain" about the discrepancy with reality, and shame people on instagram for using filters, are the ones who brought it upon themselves. A market does not ge… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/21 07:45 AM |
| 60 | How To Avoid The “Nice Guy”Omg, you've really been there! 😑😑😑 This is a very precious list. I could have avoided most problems in my life just with the "avoid strange men with sob stories" paragraph. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/21 03:19 AM |
| 12 | We've all heard of gaslighting, but what about when we delude ourselves? A man like this is not "amazing"!Agree. thinking this is as good as it gets has kept many a woman trapped in a jail of her own making. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/21 02:51 AM |
| 313 | “Me and her dated for a very long time. I was planning to marry her but over the course of 8 years she aged a lot, so I changed my mind.”This is actually a thing. Maybe not for everyone, but common enough that my grandmother warned me not to give a man more than 2 years to commit, and that was 30 years ago. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 08:27 AM |
| 225 | "No man wants a woman who"...I actually take notes, do exactly that, and I'm ridiculously pleased with myself when it works. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 08:19 AM |
| 61 | Needless to remind every soul here to avoid everyone who uses the term NatuRal SelectioN like this 🤣This reminds me of the story with the forbidden apple in the Bible. A lot of people equate that apple with sex. In my opinion it was something equal to the dirt that's floating on the net today. In the story it says, Adam and Eve couldn't look at you straight in the eye after they ate the apple and were suddenly ashamed of their nakedness. This behavior sounds similar to that of people who consume a lot of negative/perverted material online. The have certain reactions, knowing smirks and looks, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 12:45 PM |
| 313 | Scrotes in the comment section on a video about Denmark having low birth rates. Men complaining about having "responsibility without authority". Translation: "I refuse to be a productive member of society unless I get to be in charge and rape women with impunity!"Misogynists: Feminism has ruined societies. Same misogynists: How can I move to Denmark, Norway and Sweden? How do I get a hot Scandinavian wife? PS. I've met Scandinavian men with that kind of mindset, too. They are just bitter because their own women don't want their low value ass. Sour grapes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 07:32 PM |
| 37 | Men who lie about their careersThis happened to a friend. He lied to her about having certain certificates. I always thought it was a super strange thing to lie about to someone close to you. He was an affable, very likable and fairly decent guy otherwise, so this was probably due to low self-esteem and shame. Their divorce was not caused by the lie, but I'm convinced the untreated low self-esteem which drove him to lie in ithe first place was ultimately a big reason. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 02:59 PM |
| 375 | The backlash that FDS gets, both on and off Reddit, proves that society is committed to keeping women in unsatisfactory relationships to the benefit of menSolid facts. How I wish I had once known that men who say things like "women only like me for my wallet" are to be avoided at all costs. That's because I grew up listening to men say misogynistic things all the time and thought it was normal. Perhaps I thought I'd be the exception to how they viewed women because they loved me. Er...no. The more aware ones don't say anything, but they will invariably betray themselves through hateful and bitter expressions when they think you aren't looking. Onc… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 01:07 PM |
| 17 | Is dick worth it?For me it's because I was born that way. I already knew I was hetero when I was very young. But like many women I eventually reached the point where I said, ok, I can't pick my sexuality, but I can choose to be single. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 03:45 PM |
| 36 | Dolly Parton is such a bossI admire her, because Dolly (and women like her) have tons of emotional IQ. They know exactly how to drop truth bombs and still remain popular in a deeply misogynistic society. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 08:36 AM |
| 7 | Reddit: Feminism will destroy societies - Reality: Countries with a strong sense of gender equality have the highest standards of living, and even men are trying to escape patriarchal hellholes to live in those very countriesFeminism has actually done a lot more for men's rights than men have. If it didn't, no man would want to live in those "gender equal" countries. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 08:26 AM |
| 96 | This is why it’s so important to have financial independence and a career as a woman, so if your partner runs out on you one day, you won’t be blindsided like this poor mother of 3 young kids“women are way much happier in marriage” Even the Rolling Stones, who certainly cannot be accused of being feminists, knew this wasn't true 50 years ago. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 08:24 AM |
| 45 | Reddit: Feminism will destroy societies - Reality: Countries with a strong sense of gender equality have the highest standards of living, and even men are trying to escape patriarchal hellholes to live in those very countries"How can they not want to hurt us after all we did to them? If I were a woman, that's exactly what I'd want." In the meanwhile, woman just tries to live her life, hoping and praying no man will bother her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 11:39 PM |
| 88 | Reddit: Feminism will destroy societies - Reality: Countries with a strong sense of gender equality have the highest standards of living, and even men are trying to escape patriarchal hellholes to live in those very countriesThe same society where 7-year-olds with brain cancer have to sell lemonade to fund their treatment? Doesn't sound like it would be destroying much. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 10:38 PM |
| 74 | Reddit: Feminism will destroy societies - Reality: Countries with a strong sense of gender equality have the highest standards of living, and even men are trying to escape patriarchal hellholes to live in those very countriesApparently, if you are "being biased to women's rights" you end up "disrespecting men, violating their rights,hurting their feelings and abusing them just to prove your 'strength'", which is "going to destroy societies". Also loved that "being biased to women's rights" can't be feminism, because feminism is for gender equality. Erm, "being biased to women's rights" is exactly how women managed to get whatever equality we have! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 10:31 PM |
| 105 | Reddit: Feminism will destroy societies - Reality: Countries with a strong sense of gender equality have the highest standards of living, and even men are trying to escape patriarchal hellholes to live in those very countriesAnd always the qualifier "I'm saying this as a woman", which never makes those statements any more valid and is really sad if true. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 10:22 PM |
| 24 | How do women in developing nations adhere to FDS given that women’s rights are basically non-existent and laws jail women for walking outside without a headscarf or for dancing in public?Well, there is a reason why a higher percentage of women in developing nations are in STEM. Quit a few abstain from marriage entirely. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 08:22 PM |
| 63 | Conspiracy theorist and frothing nutcase Alex Jones taunts his ex-wife by buzzing around her home in a helicopter after judge ordered him to stay away 🤡Misogynists like to portray those situations as "see, women are into a$$holes". No we're not. We're purposefully raised to have a low bar with men. The focus is never the man's character, but "be grateful you got picked". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 12:40 PM |
| 67 | Learning to Allow Yourself Be Treated WellThe word "courtship" exists for a reason. The females of many species need to be "enticed" because by having kids they have more to lose than he does. I love to observe birds and it's not uncommon for a female to fall for false promises, only for the male bird to disappear half-way through raising the chicks. Unless there is a human nearby or she finds another partner to pick up the slack, many invariably die, since it's impossible for only one bird to feed all of them. Courtship is a phase that… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 08:19 AM |
| 39 | How is it that, in an age of supposed "dating equality," women still get the short straw?In my life I've encountered all of these things, especially the "taking on the bulk of the parenting duties AND working a full-time job, AND keeping up with the housework" because he worked his 40 hours and "that's plenty". When you put up with that, you teach other people (especially your kids) that his work/life/time is FAR more important than yours. He will be seen as the man who busted his a$$ for his family, you work and efforts will go unnoticed. They are very good at directing the narrati… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 08:04 AM |
| 22 | The rabbis have had ample time to use their sharp minds to nullify a Jewish husband's ability to exploit his power to chain his wife to an unwanted marriage. They just haven’t done anything since it doesn’t benefit men.a fierce battle, where the existential angst of the wife is immeasurable, as her life is controlled by one who once loved her and her children, but has turned into the enemy. Marriage to a LVM in a nutshell, all over the world. That's why I like the FDS philosophy which advocates being overly cautious during the dating phase and always have the means to get out, if he tricks you. Even if he does not legally release you, according to the terms of patriarchy, at least you won't have to stay with h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 05:16 PM |
| 42 | Why were/are these “headache” jokes so popular? She’s literally faking being ILL just so you would stop forcing yourself on her because her saying NO isn’t enough for you. The comments are something else too. The only one making sense got downvoted hard.Lack of empathy. Sex is amazing. How can you possible not like sex, says the person (usually a man) who's never had anything but positive associations with it. If you don't want it, something must be wrong with you. But I got married and sex comes with that package. (Note, sex is only supposed to "come with the package" if the man wants it more than the woman.) Empathy doesn't mean to stay in a sexless relationship, especially if the other person refuses to work with you. I don't believe in that… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 05:03 PM |
| 6 | Please tell me I made a right decision to leave my ex.Please tell me I made a right decision to leave my ex. No worries, the answer is ALWAYS yes. Yes, always. I don't know a single woman who ever seriously regretted leaving a guy. This includes those who left a man that actually went on to become rich and famous and marry a woman three times prettier than them. Not every woman with a good reason walks away, but if she walks away, there's always a good reason. She just isn't mature/experienced enough to know it yet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 12:03 PM |
| 42 | Stills from a scene in the 1998 music video for Pearl Jam’s “Do the Evolution”. Disturbingly prophetic.In theory they'd leave us alone. In reality, I'm afraid the ever increasing, swimming boundaries between real and fake would entice those men to actually act out their fantasies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/21 10:40 AM |
| 37 | Woke up from a fog last night. I promised myself I would NEVER allow a man to abuse me again... I failedIt feels like stuck between a rock and a hard place, for sure. However, this implies that staying and leaving are equally damaging. Truth is, only staying will be far more damaging to you and your children in the long run. More than you can possibly imagine right now. It sounds like you're in the US. This means, good advice is within reach. That won't be the problem. The actual issue is understanding that by staying, you will incur debts to yourself and children that will never be paid because t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 08:51 PM |
| 15 | Keeping my ship on course, Equality vs Social Equity: misogynists hijacked Feminism by an inside job and they'll keep hurting the hostages.Change has to start at the micro level before it can be felt at the macro level. By the time you hear in the news that Japan and China are desperate for their women to have more kids, that's at least 20 years of millions of anonymous women quietly deciding for themselves, that the buck of misogyny now stops with them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 09:37 PM |
| 8 | The People You Have In Your Circle Are More Important Than You ThinkIt boils back down to the "You are the average of the 5 people closest to you" trope, which imho is a misnomer. You can still be an outlier, even if those people aren't. I'd change it to "your happiness is determined by the 5 people closest to you". If they suck, you're in trouble. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 08:59 PM |
| 31 | What we learn from Gamestop and Wallstreet brosReject low value men, embrace money. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/21 12:25 AM |
| 2 | FDS saved me.Glad you found us. It was weird and made me very uncomfortable. Yes, it's the number one red flag. The other is feeling too comfortable, if you're coming from an abusive background. If you had a shitty childhood and that person / their family feels "just like home", then run, too! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 08:29 PM |
| 199 | On Ethical Self-Preservation: is it okay to fundamentally distrust men?It's okay to fundamentally distrust men everyone, until they've earned your trust. Most animals exercise cautiousness as a matter of course. It does not have to be tied to a negative feeling, though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 09:02 PM |
| 103 | When men say "men are better than women..."They know it, and they hope we don't. Because once the woman figures it out, it's game over for losers. And you can always, always tell the woman who's figured it out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/21 09:50 PM |
| 7 | What's with the spreading of complete lies about fds?Hugs honey. I know exactly what you mean. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 08:58 PM |
| 55 | Surely linger dating/"courting" period before marriage is fine if you're young and/or still a student?IMHO if you are too young to get married you are too young for a LTR, which is basically the same minus the legal perks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 02:04 PM |
| 3 | HVM: FACT OR FICTION? I want to believe, but (considering my experience with romantic relationships, family and platonic relationships, and society at large), I don't know if I ever willWe aren't troubled by external situations. We are troubled by how we think about those situations. I went through an extensive anger phase about "how things are", until gave myself permission to stay single for as long as I need to be, to keep away from toxic people and to focus on living well and my healing. In that process I realized, this is exactly the way to fight injustice and ignorance in the world. That any human who's ever had a positive impact on this world, did it by being an inspirat… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 09:03 PM |
| 12 | Put yourself in his shoesPrefix: marriage is not the holy grail and some people are better without. But with time I realized that LTRs are an incredibly convenient way to waste your life with someone who is not right for you / doesn't treat you right. Most people know not to marry the red flags, but live with them for 10 years? Ok, sure. Age is another factor. I regret the LTR I had in my 20s, more than the multi-year situationship I had later on, by far. Why? Because I left a lot of opportunities on the table in the na… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 09:17 PM |
| 12 | They're truly monstersI don't know why men do it, but many women are celibate because whatever little sex they got, was really....excruciatingly bad. So bad, you're literally better off DIY. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 07:12 PM |
| 5 | Meanwhile LVM and pickmeshas are talking about dIvOrCe r4P3 and unfair family courtOh I fully agree with you. Bouncing back from a divorce is a ton easier if you're employed and pension with your hubby is a lot sweeter (and could happen earlier) if you stay married. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 03:19 PM |
| 87 | Meanwhile LVM and pickmeshas are talking about dIvOrCe r4P3 and unfair family courtThank you for posting this. I hope our yet unmarried ladies will take a very good look at those slides because that is REALITY. Working throughout your marriage is not much help either, if you'll buy into the 50/50 con and invest everything in the family, while he squirrels away every penny / spends it on crap. PS. Also google "pension gap". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 09:46 PM |
| 2 | Female SpacesThank you. That's a much better reference. I'll have to check out this book. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 09:00 PM |
| 145 | Female SpacesThere's a very good reason why there are women-only universities, schools and even gyms. It has long been determined that women tend to excel more (and particularly in "hard subjects") when they are among themselves, while men and their companies benefit from a co-ed environment. If you're still unsure about how that works, just check out your typical mixed subreddit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 07:59 PM |
| 154 | John Gray in his ted talk explains that studies showed than women’s stress level is higher than those of men in a relationship (4x more at home to be exact). This is insane. If your relationship brings you stress, stay single ! No one In Nature is able to survive to long term stress .- Why are you single? - I like not being stressed. Can you offer me something better than not being stressed? [Crickets] | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/20 09:52 PM |
| 19 | Woman finds out husband of 6 years is a porn addict and cheats on her with webcam girlsHugs. It's amazing (or sad, depending how you view it) that even though we are complete strangers and almost certainly live in very different countries, we've had the same experiences anyway. For a long time I couldn't understand what Simone de Beauvoir meant with that quote: "One is not born, but rather becomes, a woman." Now I do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/20 08:33 PM |
| 12 | Woman finds out husband of 6 years is a porn addict and cheats on her with webcam girlsTell me all about it. :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/20 08:17 PM |
| 173 | Woman finds out husband of 6 years is a porn addict and cheats on her with webcam girlsTo find out your husband is a porn-addicted, adulterous pervert is certainly not nice, but that can happen. The problem is what happens afterwards. Here are some phrases from her post: > My son cried the entire day asking where his daddy was > I don't want my kids to grow up without a father > The stigma that will come from a divorce If you think only muslim women are succeptible to that kind of thinking, you are sadly mistaken. Women all over the world struggle with those thoughts. And when you… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/20 07:30 PM |
| 38 | Taylor Swift’s “I Did Something Bad” is about not feeling guilty for putting yourself first!You know a girl/woman is ok when men almost universally side against her: Taylor Swift, Greta Thunberg, etc. Bonus points if they call her ugly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 06:30 AM |
| 12 | Don’t be the “live-in girlfriend” for someone that will leave you in a heartbeatYep, he clearly knows which side his bread is buttered on. But that story hasn't played out yet. We'll hear from the perfect couple again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 05:47 AM |
| 7 | Uh, sure guy. Men are victims more than women 🙄🙄Yes. Due to patriarchy, child-custody always defaulted to the man. Children staying with their mother, which should actually be the default as it is in nature (unless the mother is unfit), is a fairly new thing. Guys on reddit love to elicit sympathy about how the awful mother just won't let them see their child, to the point of this being a cliché. They portray the woman as this evil person and devil incarnate. But they are either not interested (especially if they meet a new woman) or they wan… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 02:09 PM |
| 82 | The ONLY acceptable 50/50The smart man realizes that he benefits more from her a lot more than she does from him, not to mention he eats more than she does, and that the least he can do is pay the groceries. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 06:21 AM |
| 92 | Uh, sure guy. Men are victims more than women 🙄🙄Today on reddit popular there was a thread by someone who received a card from the paramedics who attended their sister and her son after they both got shot from the sister's ex. Someone mentioned they had already guessed it was an ex, since most women are murdered by a man they know. I didn't click to read the answers to that comment because I already knew it would be some guy whining about men experiencing more violence than women. Nobody ever talks about the fact that the crushing majority of… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/20 07:09 PM |
| 3 | As a PhD track woman, I'm realizing more and more men are stupidIf you're referring to their emotional intelligence, yes, they can be pretty dumb. And it doesn't matter how smart someone is otherwise. If they're not emotionally intelligent, it always leaves an aftertaste. The worst are those who are emotionally very intelligent, and use and abuse other people with it, because they have no character, empathy and morals. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 06:24 AM |
| 6 | Today I sold my engagement ringYes, those guys have issues already, if they can be prodded (or prod themselves) into a marriage they don't really want. I just don't want to be a part of it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 03:23 PM |
| 29 | Does anyone notice this happens to them a lot?I've experienced this, too. Perhaps the thought behind it is, since I'm not handsome, might as well be pushy. Perhaps they've made the experience or heard that if you persist long enough, some woman is going to give in. Imagine being so desperate that you don't care if you wear the other person down. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 07:59 AM |
| 30 | Why I don't OLD (5 reasons)On Reddit you constantly see boys/men waxing poetically about their "crushes" and how they finally asked her out. Even when she says no, they feel like heroes. So, if he wants to badly enough, he will. Even in 2020. OLD on the other hand encourages them to be lazy. Random right swiping everything and anything, low effort openers and weak conversations because they're messaging 20 women at once, deeply ingrained bad habits from running into pickmes who put up with everything. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 07:35 AM |
| 18 | Today I sold my engagement ringYou're so lucky you broke it off. I was reading a thread about the regrets of dying people the other day, and many dying men would mention their wife "ruining their life" and wishing they had divorced when they could. This happens when a man is cornered into marriage, which still occurs more often than it should. Yes, they're cowards and weaklings for not saying no and walking away at the appropriage time, but never do I want to be the reason of some dying man's anger. Never, ever prod them into… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 07:10 AM |
| 13 | I just wanna say THANK YOU FOR FREEING MEI'm so glad for you hon. Next step is breaking it off for good, and as strange as it may sound, it's another process all of its own. Check out the book, The Betrayal Bond by Carnes. It explains trauma bonding and why people can remain emotionally chained to their abusers, even after having that kind of a realization. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 06:57 PM |
| 11 | Saw this on my fb feed this morning. Had a good laugh and thought I’d share.You are wearing the no make-up look? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 03:14 PM |
| 3 | Have there been any HVW or Pickmeisha’s who have positively impacted the standards you have for dating?Yes, she knew. I have clear memories of her dumping all of us kids in the car and driving around in the middle of the night looking for him. When she found phonenumbers, she'd call them up and tell them that he's married. Sorry if I don't blame or hate those women, I can't. He was the problem. More often than not they were duped and they always did the right thing by walking away. They have a very cold marriage now where she just takes care of his old ass out of duty and spends all her free time… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 01:58 PM |
| 9 | Have there been any HVW or Pickmeisha’s who have positively impacted the standards you have for dating?Unfortunately a) even smart women are prone to really stupid decisions when it comes to men. b) this is assuming he told them the truth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 11:15 AM |
| 5 | Have there been any HVW or Pickmeisha’s who have positively impacted the standards you have for dating?He had zero boundaries, yes. Unfortunately that was the least of his issues. just seems like a juxtaposition to me He always had a thing for high value women, but he was raised with this idea of marrying a submissive young virgin from his own culture, which he did. (To any men reading this - don't try this at home. It never works out like you think it will.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 10:26 AM |
| 18 | Have there been any HVW or Pickmeisha’s who have positively impacted the standards you have for dating?My father picked a barely literate, underage woman as the mother of his children and proceeded to have affairs with smart, financially independent and highly educated women, of which he either told me about in great detail or I met personally. Unwittingly those women became the only role-models I had. They did not impact me immediately. But now they would be proud if they knew. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 09:45 AM |
| 1 | If your man won’t let you look through his phone, he has something to hideYou can tell there's a lot of new ladies here, bless your moral hearts. I'm absolutely 💯 percent, unapologetically pro snooping and you will see the wisdom of this too, eventually. Not for fun or all the time, but if I feel the need and I can, I will. Yes, at some point you figure out that having the urge to snoop means he's hiding something. But many perverts and cheaters don't go announcing the fact either. Often a woman stumbles on proof by accident. I'd like to know this before marriage, tha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 02:28 PM |
| 12 | I joined this subreddit not because I'm looking for a HVM, but because this is a safe space for women calling men out on their bullshit unapologetically.Same, but I guess it's normal to feel inspired by high value individuals, regardless of gender. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 06:41 AM |
| 17 | I joined this subreddit not because I'm looking for a HVM, but because this is a safe space for women calling men out on their bullshit unapologetically.AskWomenOver30 would be a great sub without the men. I don't even know what they are doing there, with all that trash-talk on Reddit about women over 30 being "too old". /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 06:28 AM |
| 104 | What will it be, ladies? Equality or oppression?Easiest choice of my life. Then again, I paid my dues to patriarchy, extensively, so I no longer have FOMO. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 08:13 PM |
| 55 | It's funny because it's true.I like to think it was an accident. XD | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 08:11 PM |
| 1 | Feeling dread about living with a partner againIt's a process, yes. You will go through the entire 5 stages of grief, which are Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and Acceptance. Then, you might be ready to date again. Or you might not. It's up to you and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. And pat yourself on the back for me, for figuring this out so quickly instead of sinking your entire youth in this idiot. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 07:29 PM |
| 28 | ‘What should I do?’ Really???Men who make those kind of comments are - at the very least - deathly porn-addicted and completely unfit to be around women and children. And if she's asking "what should I do", I guarantee you she won't do anything. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/20 05:10 AM |
| 37 | The notion that attractive women only go for 'chads' in their 20's and settle for ambitious 'beta's' when they hit the wall is a lie. It puts the blame of bad male behavior on women and also doubles as a narrative where single women are punished for not choosing LVM (the narrators) in the 1st place.It's definitely a narrative designed to make them feel better. Because of course it was not your off-putting self who never developed social skills in your teens because you wasted them on video games and porn. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 01:31 PM |
| 8 | Why do LVM shame promiscuous women, but at the same time expect every woman to sleep with them???🤔You'd think this is how it works with guys...and sometimes it does. Usually they seem to go along with it until suddenly one day... Reddit, my gf said she had a threesome with her ex, but won't do it with me. I can't stop thinking about it and I don't see her the same anymore.. -_- | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 01:28 PM |
| 41 | Why do LVM shame promiscuous women, but at the same time expect every woman to sleep with them???🤔Their medieval mentality is extremely prevalent, even in progressive countries and often even among what one might refer to as HVM. That's why nobody here advises sharing your sexual history, (which they like to call "lying", as if those POS never lied and misrepresented their way into a woman's pants), because you never know if one of them might decide to use it against you one day, even if it's 20 years down the road. The only thing a man you want to sleep with needs to know is if you are STD-… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 09:53 PM |
| 29 | Queens, I finally did it- I now have no sexual attraction to men who don’t put in effort“Our life is what our thoughts make it.” ― Marcus Aurelius | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 09:17 PM |
| 4 | How to get over a SituationshipDecentering your life from men takes its time. It's an at least a two year process, where you spend that time doing cool things with yourself and others. Unfortunately there is no feel better fast cure but latching on to another man, and you already know this won't work. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 06:07 AM |
| 5 | Thanks, from a widowIt's a process that can take years before you reach your peaceful place. And once you do, you can go back to dating if you want, but it will be from a position of strength not weakness. Because you've lost the fear of being alone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 05:49 AM |
| 8 | Today I had a breakthroughHe will say yes to marriage and you will go on to destroy your life, thinking you have improved it. Not that I'm speaking from personal experience or anything but yes actually. You know you need to end this and get back on your own feet. Feel the fear and do it anyway. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 05:43 AM |
| 3 | Why do men call call their girlfriends bro?For the same reason I call men "bro" or "dude". It's a hint that they are nothing romantic to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 05:40 AM |
| 40 | YikesThere are some tremendously thristy pick-mes in that subreddit. I cringed for them long before I found FDS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 05:34 AM |
| 4 | Straight from the horse's mouth, what garbage low value mgtow 'men' thinkBecause as much as they hate women, they still need to get laid. So they go through all this mental contortion where you can supposedly "go your own way" and still "spin plates" or even have a girlfriend and be married. You will never see a WGTOW doing this. They are invariably celibate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 08:43 PM |
| 23 | Simon Sinek, my fave. Too bad he’s already married.I fucking love consistency. 💗 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 07:34 PM |
| 181 | Caption was “just bc p*rn is normal for boys of our age doesn’t mean its good for you”. I’ve never seen men speak up against this, Im having hope for improvement for the next generation (sorry if the flair is wrong)I've actually had a very old man tell me this. Hoed around a lot in his lifetime, used a ton of porn. He said it's crucial to pass on to young people, that just because something feels good doesn't necessarily mean it's good for you or the right thing to do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 07:25 PM |
| 12 | When LVM Have Good PersonalitiesSadly this is a thing that needs to be talked about a lot more. A man can have some really viable good qualities and love you very much, but be the alcoholic who won't get sober or the traumatized dude who refuses to go to therapy. The combinations are endless. Women end up wasting the most time on such men because they are not as easy to figure out as the fuckboy who has absolutely no redeeming qualities. Twenty years of hoping and praying that he'll finally see the light is nothing when you mi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 05:55 AM |
| 2 | How do I cut all emotions as I work on my career?Playing the tape till the end is a POWERFULL move. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 05:40 AM |
| 2 | How do I cut all emotions as I work on my career?Female sexuality is often reactive, which means that if you stop having sex, you will stop longing for it eventually after a certain amount time (different for everyone). That's why the biggest danger is meeting a man who turns you on at the place where you are chasing your goal. The more you see him = the more he turns you on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 05:29 AM |
| 6 | How do you deal having multiple interests/hobbies/activities/things you want to do without half-assing all of them?Check out the book "Eat That Frog" by Brian Tracy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 08:26 PM |
| 3 | 💭I'm afraid we are communicating in VERY different frequencies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 08:11 PM |
| 50 | I wrote this last fall while I was dating an emotionally abusive asshole, but didn’t have FDS in my life. The first of many notes I wrote about our shitty relationship.Nothing says "that relationship sucks and I need to break up ASAP" like jotting down notes about how much it sucks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 08:01 PM |
| 39 | That frustration when you realize how most men interpret your interestThe truth hurts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 07:59 PM |
| 6 | 💭That's because a lot of people rush into relationships while horny. They don't take the time to find out if they are compatible or even like the other person. So I'm a big fan of waiting to have sex for as long as it takes to find out if you really mesh with someone. But if you take away the sexual component from a relationship between two people with a normal libido, you basically have a friendship. An asexual couple might see this differently, I'm sure. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 07:48 PM |
| 9 | 💭Yes, definitely wait. People can have a great physical spark and still wait. It's better than rushing into something only to realize you don't even really like this person. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 07:15 PM |
| 32 | 💭Physical chemistry is very important, but it's nothing without holistic compatibility and vice versa. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 07:05 PM |
| 4 | Ladies I messed up. I discovered FDS too late and now I have regrets. How can I overcome these?You get over it by focusing forward. Energy flows where attention goes. There's tons of leveling up material on this subreddit. Here's a nice post to get you started. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 06:35 PM |
| 15 | Something I've encountered on the apps lately as a 30-something...Guys who can pull this off are used to working hard physically, are skilled with various tools and spend a huge chunk of their time outdoors. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 06:32 PM |
| 42 | Something I've encountered on the apps lately as a 30-something...The sustainable farm is a HUGE male fantasy, but ironically I only know women who pulled this off. Anyway, guys like those are basically just looking for a Mrs. Right Now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 06:24 PM |
| 2 | Looking for tips of how to be seen as a high valued womanCheck out this thread and this thread, too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 06:20 PM |
| 4 | Escaping NVM HellBehind every story like yours, there's exactly this reason why the woman was putting up with him: I literally have no friends and no support, and I can't take feeling so lonely in this anymore. Join the FDS Discord for casual conversation. Start reaching out to loved ones you may have neglected and do it regularly. Rediscover your past hobbies. Learn new things. Watch Dollface for inspiration, it's about a young woman rebuilding her relationships with other women after the end of a LTR. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 06:09 PM |
| 82 | Comedian Nikki Glaser describes not being able to orgasm without watching extremely violent porn and how she doesn’t feel worthy of sexual pleasure. She’s making a lot of jokes about it, but I feel sad for her.Nobody is safe from addiction and dependency. Women can absolutely get hooked on porn just like men do. That said, anyone can clean up their act too, if they want to bad enough. It requires an individual level of peak suffering which some people never reach. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 09:49 PM |
| 71 | BlissSeriously it's the best sleep. Perhaps the only good thing about those kind of experiences is they teach us to appreciate that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 08:13 PM |
| 90 | Apparently “the white man” is who taught black women to value monogamy.If a woman can be "taught" to expect monogamy, then he can be "taught" to keep it in his pants. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 08:09 PM |
| 3 | Just found this reddit thank you so muchNope, it's bullshit. He 100% has a girlfriend. And if he doesn't, you bet there is something really shady, maybe even criminal, going on in his life. Refuse to be a part of that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 07:56 PM |
| 16 | He almost broke up with me after 1 month, now we’re taking a break.It shouldn't be a really long process. 10 years of therapy is a luxury few can afford. You need the help now. There are therapy forms like cognitive behavioral therapy which aim to achieve quick improvement on specific issues. Also, CoDa was created for exactly this purpose and they offer online meetings. But before you even do this, you need to step back from dating and block this guy. Once the dust settles, I wouldn't be surprised if you discovered it was not ALL your fault. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 09:35 PM |
| 196 | All The People Who Judge This Sub are FULL OF SHITNot surprised they don't like this sub. A world where women block and delete bad behavior instead of catering to it? Omg, where would we be then? /s We'd be in a much better world, actually. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 07:34 PM |
| 137 | Donna Meagle from Parks and Rec should be FDS mascot, in my opinion.Don't worry, I rolled down the window. 👑 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 07:19 PM |
| 38 | Leave those LVM and NVM in the dust and work on yourself Queen 👑A lot of times, actually. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 07:17 PM |
| 5 | Women Over 65 Don't Want To Live With Their Partners...This is too true. Once you get on the family treadmill as a woman, it never ends. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 07:13 PM |
| 10 | Women Over 65 Don't Want To Live With Their Partners...Queen answer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 07:12 PM |
| 2 | Just found this reddit thank you so muchOmg, he sounds awful. So glad you found us. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 06:58 PM |
| 11 | Does anyone else get sick of men telling them to smile more?Are you under 30? For some reason most men only say that "smile" shit to younger women. I'm guessing they think it's endearing. It's not. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 06:52 PM |
| 19 | The director (m/29) I'm working with has admitted he has feelings for me (f/21) and I don't know how to approach thisStay away from male directors. They are almost always fucking nuts. He's just hitting on you because he doesn't stand a chance with women who know better. (I knew a musician like him who later became quite successful. He thought I'd be sad that I "missed my chance with him". LOL. Nope.) Anyway, ignore him. Tell him you'll talk about this after the film and just never do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 06:49 PM |
| 3 | RealisationIf you don't want to block him just fade him. Become really boring and take too long to respond to his messages. Definitely don't visit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 06:45 PM |
| 15 | When a woman doesn’t value herself enough to embrace being valued by a manThat's why it's so important to love yourself before you get into a relationship with another person. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 06:41 PM |
| 29 | What the fuck makes old men think they're a catch and they stand a chance ?They used to be this way 25 years ago, too. Low value men are peak disgusting when you are 20-22 then they appear to improve. That's because they know better than to pull off that shit with older women. They even try to make you feel bad about being too old to have their unsavory attention anymore, when actually being too old for them is a blessing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 06:32 PM |
| 47 | Viewing low value men as cats can help you see when you are being exploitedTruthbombs right off the bat: Cats are little bums who go door to door seeing which sucker will feed them and let them move in with zero effort other than showing up. I know one that got SO fat from doing this, it looks like a box with a tail. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 06:00 AM |
| 25 | Becoming weak againOrder a simple vibrator from Amazon if you haven't already. It may sound crude, but you want to make sure you're not confusing being horny with being in love. Whenever you get an urge to message him, message someone else. Send your mother a wholesome meme. Text your cousin. If you're feeling hungry for some casual conversation, check the chat here and discord. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 05:50 AM |
| 12 | What does talking mean in a friendship mean?Yep, he met someone he likes a lot more than you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 05:38 AM |
| 28 | I’m not a fan of time wasters and I wrote a poem that trolls them. Saying “hey” doesn’t do it for me. Get to the point or gtfo.Glorious. I didn't just read it, I rapped it in my head. 😅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 05:36 AM |
| 13 | Boyfriend suggests a prenup to “protect” his house, OP drafts her own prenup that also protects her assets and investments. BF doesn’t like a prenup that doesn’t solely favor him and they break up.If you marry a rich man for his money you will end up earning every penny. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 08:53 PM |
| 155 | Add This Question to Your Vetting ListDoes being with him increase the likelihood of achieving my non-relationship goals? I can just see the male lurkers clutching their pearls at this sentence. Truth is, men have always asked this question about a potential bride. If he didn't ask "well what does she bring to the table", you can be sure his family asked that question for him. But for some reason, omg women are SO superficial and hypergamous when they do this. *eyeroll* Fuck that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 07:11 PM |
| 11 | In the absence of your own desire to improve yourself, lie to the allegedly superficial women who want an educated, driven partner. His post, my answer. The comments were a cesspool of twisted validation for him and denigration of her. I had to say something.WELL SAID. I agree with every single word! Men have NO problem having the same or even higher standards when it comes to women. Poor? Uneducated? Only if she's really young and hot! But when it comes to them, OMG how dare we be so superficial! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 06:46 PM |
| 9 | Happy to see men realising porn is negatively affecting their relationshipsThat's what stuck out for me, too. What an unexpected epiphany. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 06:07 PM |
| 6 | A partner that treats you better than your previous partner(s) is not a partner that treats you well.Preach it sister. When you've dated absolutely horrific men, mediocre can suddenly seem pretty damn good. If you are young, this belief can persist for a really long amount of time, simply because you have no comparison. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 06:56 AM |
| 10 | How I am beginning to heal my body imageOnce you realize that NOBODY has the right to mock your body, especially not a fucking romantic partner, no matter how "right" they might think they are, it becomes an instant deal-breaker, as it should have been all along. 👑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 06:19 AM |
| 12 | "Why do you want to get married? It's just a piece of paper"It's only a piece of paper when they are comfortable in the relationship, but not into you. When they are actually into you, they manage to figure out this shit pretty quickly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 05:58 AM |
| 16 | Reason #6373838 why women don’t need men: Most men my can’t do any of this.He's usually a "one trick pony" and you're supposed to be really glad and fawn over that. /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 05:55 AM |
| 16 | Can’t believe ItIf there's anything I've learned on my time in this earth is that women are by far not as "mean" as they should be. And by "mean" I mean avoiding / dumping men as soon as they realize that they suck. Instead we keep giving them chance after chance until we become mean. Often at a great mental and emotional cost. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/20 08:01 PM |
| 8 | Not a gamer myself, but I thought this was interesting...Unfortunately, it's an issue at work too. You can always tell the LVM who is totally insecure about his status/job by the way he constantly tries to undermine your work. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/20 07:48 PM |
| 35 | Reminder: Jealousy is a low-value traitStruggling with envy and jealousy is often a sign that you haven't leveled up to your internal satisfaction. That's why "just be happy for them, don't be jealous" won't work. Those people are not where they'd like to be. Perhaps have not even defined personal success yet. It's only after sinking a lot of effort into a personal goal that you finally begin to let go of these toxic traits. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/20 07:35 PM |
| 6 | How often do you Queens get approached?The problem is OLD is like playing the lottery. You could play 3 times and get lucky and you could also play 3000 times and get PTSD for life. You're better off building a life that requires you to be in mixed company a lot. *When there's not a pandemic going on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/20 06:20 AM |
| 10 | Gonna take a wild guess that his OLD profile includes being "chill", "no games", and some type of low effort attempt to "hang out" for a pre-screening date before the actual date because he has to verify you are "hot enough for his standards" before he deems you "worthy enough" to pay for a $10 mealI'd actually buy those magazines unlike many actual magazines. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/20 06:13 PM |
| 11 | If men find body hair and no make up on women disgusting, repulsive and unattray so it means that they're no attracted to women they just attract to feminity? LOLIf this was the actual case...hon, we'd all be dead and gone by now. Considering however that we are 8 fucking billion people on this planet and counting, I strongly doubt that looking a certain way is required for the continuation of our species. You can condition people to want certain things, though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/20 06:11 PM |
| 7 | If a man asks if you’ve ever been in a relationship, or ever had a boyfriend?If they ask you any kind of dubious sounding question, ignore it. Do not reply. If they keep pressing you "what, do you have something to hide?", say "I was giving you a chance to rethink your stupid question". Exit gracefully. Block and delete. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/20 05:54 AM |
| 8 | The way to pay it forward when you have fully committed to leveling up and becoming a HVW & FDS Queen is to modeling this behavior in support of other women, believing women, speaking out when you see something wrong, and making sure women are safe if something seems off. Manifestation is powerful!If she's a stranger pretend you are her long lost friend! He'll know it's not true, but there's nothing he can do about that! I did this with a 16 year old girl who was being harassed and she played along like a champion. We got away from there fast. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/20 05:38 AM |
| 25 | Looking to raise my son to be a HVMRaising a high value son while living with his low value father is one of those fond delusions wishes we have as women. Unfortunately, the best you can hope for is that he will grow up to be on the higher end of the low value spectrum. You do this by being the shiniest example you can be to him. Don't ask for anything you're not willing/able to do yourself. Help him grow self-esteem. That's THE most important thing along with learning how to pick up after himself. A man without high self-esteem … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 07:13 PM |
| 12 | How do you ladies respond to questions about your body count/last time you had sex?NEVER. Men who've been raised in typically misogynistic cultures can only deal with your sexual history in an abstract manner. Once you introduce specifics they invariably get weird about it. You see it all the time on Reddit: "my gf told me she had a threesome/anal/ whatever and now I can't stop thinking why she won't do this with me." Wah fucking wah. Never thinking they might be the exception. They usually aren't. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 06:50 PM |
| 96 | Actual r/wholesomememesIt makes sense for every person to present a book though, so everyone can decide which one to read. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 12:48 PM |
| 105 | Actual r/wholesomememesYeah, it was meant to be an insult and to pit women against each other. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 11:31 AM |
| 9 | This is the kind of guy that would say "wOmEn aRe ToO pIcKy" despite listing TWENTY-NINE extremely specific things he wants in a woman...That was definitely an ex or a crush of his. I instantly get the heebee jeebies when a man rolls out a list like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 05:50 AM |
| 20 | Something's gotta giveTo be fair, this says more about how Nancy Meyers views it, who wrote and directed the rather cringy script, than what other older women might think and experience in this matter. It's not that they don't get dates, they don't want them because they've been there, done that and can play the tape till the end. As the comment behind the link says (really check it out) Now that women don't necessarily need a man to keep from starving, the appeal of being an employee in your own home is simply not… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 05:43 AM |
| 74 | Some good adviceOnly abusers are pathologically interested in what you do with your money. How you spend it, how you save it, etc. A HVM will NEVER hold a secret savings account against you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/20 07:14 PM |
| 3 | After reading the Handbook, I've also become alarmed by how low I set the bar for friendships in the past. Am I one notch away from being bitter?If you look closely, people who have a lot of "friends"/"boyfriends" are either quite fine with other people walking all over them or the relationships are very superficial because they don't engage emotionally. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/20 06:57 PM |
| 7 | Is it wrong to tell a guy your not happy anymore?You will have to be kind, but very firm about this. I'm sorry, this isn't working for me anymore, it's over. Can't we work on this? No, it would only prolong the inevitable. If it helps, by not ending it when you know you should, you are also wasting his life and his opportunities to meet someone more compatible, along with yours. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 09:58 PM |
| 7 | Is It Possible to have an FDS Approved Character Analysis Discussion?It's a great idea because when you have to sit down and think what makes this character and that character "high value" for you (cause everyone has different ideas on that), then "high value" quickly goes from abstract to achievable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 09:35 PM |
| 93 | This 55 year old man has aged like fine wine. Notice him choosing an age appropriate partner. One with grey hair and not even botox?It's not surprising that she was confused with Mirren. Hair plays a big role in recognizing someone and and they do have fairly similar hair. What people don't realize though is, when a woman like Alexandra Grant lets her grey hair flag fly, especially in her situation, it's not because she hasn't heard of hair color. That woman is making a HUGE statement. And everyone's missed it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 09:07 PM |
| 48 | "The top echelon of society will always be male" because they're circlejerking LVM that feel too threatened by women.The man who wrote this is not successful and most definitely NOT a billionaire. Most rich people are men because they've had a good head start. Women have only started having a realistic chance of becoming their own billionaire in recent decades. Contrary to popular misogynistic opinion, most young women are busy getting as much education as they possibly can, which is the BEST prerequisite for future innovation. Young men are not being left behind, they're leaving themselves behind, by choosing… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 08:43 PM |
| 35 | Men meet tons of high value relationship worthy women every day and they just aren’t interested. High value women are a dime a dozen. Meanwhile we are thirsty for every single drop of attention a mediocre male gives us.High value women are a dime a dozen. Meanwhile we are thirsty for every single drop of attention a mediocre male gives us. I'm afraid this is the most depressingly true statement I've heard...ever. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 08:24 PM |
| 28 | LVM PUA tactic: 'Dreadgame'. Make your wife/gf feel so insecure, unvalued and jealous 'so she will start giving bj's and sex, not to lose you'. What a bunch of 🤡 clownery🤪🤣That kind of behavior might win you the battle, but I guarantee it will lose you the war. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 06:22 PM |
| 27 | Of course LVM don’t want to seek help — they’ve been brought up thinking that they’re great!men’s contributions to a relationship are often “fiscal” Because it completely absolves them from having to do any emotional/physical labor in a relationship. But of course they'll still complain, whine and ask you to contribute even MORE, until you are suddenly doing it all and paying some of the bills and are now asking yourself how did things end up this way. You'd think it's rare but I actually know a lot of women in that situation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 06:04 AM |
| 5 | How do I shake the constant "empty" feeling?You hear this often from younger successful women. It's very hard to ignore the hope and yearning for companionship, when you've haven't had the experiences that teach you why being alone is not the worst thing that can happen you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 05:57 AM |
| 7 | I want to thank this sub for giving me the strength to end my longest relationshipGood for you. Start counteracting the "empty feeling" right away. Fill your days with activity. Don't sit and marinate in it because the hardest part is not breaking up with such men, it's staying away from them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 05:51 AM |
| 262 | Reading this makes me both sad and mad at the same time!!!It's deep-seated entitlement. In birds the male is supposed to impress the female with its plumage. In patriarchy it's the other way around. They've come to expect you looking a certain way. That's why the biggest sign of a free woman is the one who lets herself age gracefully. Anyway, 40s and 50s is the man's last "hurrah" before he starts settling into his old age. Then, unless he's very rich, older women suddenly become VERY important, as they are the only ones likely to take care of his mold… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 05:36 AM |
| 196 | Some Scrote set up an OnlyFans account for me using my email that I posted on a Tutoring Service flyerUnfortunately that sounds exactly like something some 50 year old LVM would do. The older they get, the dirtier and nastier they become. I hope they can help. Normally they can't create this account without your confirmation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 08:54 PM |
| 15 | "She cheated on him, omg what a b*tch!" vs "He cheated on her, yeah well ALL/MOST men cheat"I don't recommend it either. It's best to find a different way to leave. Unfortunately, when you are in that situation you often can't see the forest for the trees. You're not in touch with your feelings, so you are driven by subconscious desperation. It's actually very common. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 08:54 PM |
| 55 | I’m choking-Neither sex smells bad if they are healthy and take care of themselves. I should know, since unlike him, I managed to get a good whiff of both sets of genitals in my life. My sense of smell is a lot keener, too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 08:41 PM |
| 56 | AngerThat's because you know the vast majority has more to gain from having you in their lives, than you will from having them in yours. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 08:29 PM |
| 49 | FDS changed my lifeCongratulations! What an absolutely amazing journey. You shall know them by their fruits. If this sub were as bad as everyone says, it wouldn't have been able to inspire you in that way. That's not how the fruit concept works. You can't be a fig tree and make oranges. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 08:28 PM |
| 43 | How do I leave a nice guy?Because you don't leave to find better. You leave because what you have does not meet your standards and expectations. You leave because you know that being alone is not the worst thing that can happen to you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 08:01 PM |
| 10 | Male anger towards FDSSame. The more money I make, the less interest I have in men. And I now plenty of men who are the exact same way. Relationships are not charities. They require a constant give and take to stay alive. If you've reached a point in life where the person you meet is more likely to get his needs met from you, than you will from him, then of course you'll lose interest in relationships! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 07:56 PM |
| 28 | "She cheated on him, omg what a b*tch!" vs "He cheated on her, yeah well ALL/MOST men cheat"Not all stealing is judged the same in a court of law, so I don't presume that all cheating is done for the same reasons. There are many kind of affairs. Of course we can't expect a third party to know and understand our particular reasons. People see those things through the lens of their own reality. It's more important that WE know, what lead US to cheating, if we want to make better decisions down the road. For example, there is a kind of affair that is not discussed often enough, and that's… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 07:48 PM |
| 7 | Male anger towards FDSwhere women are able to get an education, pursue a career and otherwise look after herself, they do not choose men based on status. Instead, they choose men who demonstrate genuine kindness, commitment, responsibility and a willingness to nurture. This. Hypergamy is a sign of poor, misogynistic and oppressive societies. If US-men, who are the majority of Reddit users, constantly complain about hypergamous women, what does that really say about life in the USA? Nothing nice for sure. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 07:36 PM |
| 6 | I have a problem with Indian men.I've met high value Indian men and it might have been a coincidence, but they were also highly educated. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 07:24 PM |
| 5 | Help to dissolve the Disney fantasy.Thanks for telling me. I've unlinked this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/20 08:43 PM |
| 70 | Help to dissolve the Disney fantasy./r/breakingmom, /r/deadbedrooms, /r/divorce, /r/relationship_advice Last one never fails to disappoint. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/20 08:15 PM |
| 28 | Spot the guyIt seriously makes you wonder if we are even speaking the same language. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/20 08:06 PM |
| 3 | What does being a provider mean in these situations?If you're living apart: Thoughtful presents. Meaning things he knows I'd like or would be useful to me. He helps me with the things I can't do, like fix my car. If he hangs out at my place he contributes without being asked. And if he invites me to something I didn't plan or budget for, I expect him to pay. Because those are things I'd do for him, too (in a relationship, not in dating). If you're living together: DINKs: Contribution is at least a third less than what I'd spend living alone. Kids… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/20 06:32 PM |
| 46 | Feel like a hypocrite sometimes ...It happens here, too. And the response is unanimously "YES LEAVE, YOU SILLY WOMAN. WHY IS THIS A QUESTION?!?!" because duh, we've practically all been there and just hate to see another woman waste her time the same way we did. But those women aren't there yet, just like we weren't. So of course they are shocked, they feel attacked, delete their story and go back to lurking. And it's so sad every time I see one of those deleted posts because I know this woman might need another XX years of suffe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/20 06:42 PM |
| 3 | You don't make HER look bad when you ask that question, pea brain. You make YOURSELF look bad.Glad you have such a cool family. So uplifting, thank you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/20 01:49 PM |
| 45 | How do I stop falling for ambiguous “hang outs” that LVM see as dates?!?!Network at work or at work events. Don't have any contact outside of work with male co-workers. There's no need "to have coffee" with scrotes from work in order to be successful in life, unless your boss is paying for you do to it. Never, ever. Women ok, if you like them and they are high-value, but even then you have to vet them well first. It's where you eat. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/20 05:56 AM |
| 15 | You don't make HER look bad when you ask that question, pea brain. You make YOURSELF look bad.I'm sure he is. She's only 27! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/20 05:02 AM |
| 21 | Pickme's gonna pickme. "Your feminism isnt inter sectional enough". Do these pickmeisha's even know what feminism truly means? Feminism incorporates the position that societies prioritize the male point of view, and that women are treated unjustly within those societies.Is this another way of saying "ALL lives matter"? Because it sounds like it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 08:51 PM |
| 52 | You don't make HER look bad when you ask that question, pea brain. You make YOURSELF look bad.I'm so upset on your behalf. It's the 21st century, you'd think we'd slowly stop defining women's worth through marriage. -_- | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 08:43 PM |
| 88 | STUDY: Most men do not consider living together with you being committed or the same thing as wanting a futureWhile you ideally foot half the bills. And absolutely no obligations. It's a good gig for a man if you can get it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 07:24 PM |
| 22 | Can a HVM be a single dad?It's a little too late to ask that question about Chris Pratt, Katherine Schwarzenegger. Thoughts and prayers. /s I'm sure they can be. But they are far more rare than decent single mothers. Unlike single mothers, who are generally fully capable of taking on new obligations without dropping the old ones, there seems to be two main categories: The single dad who's just looking for a forever girlfriend and the one who's looking for a woman to take care of the responsibilities he created with the l… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 06:32 PM |
| 109 | To redditor orangesandbears about your chat question: "Do you think men have to always be the providers in a relationship"What does it matter to him? Just look for a woman who is ok with going dutch every step of the way, dude! They exist. But no, those guys prefer to hang around here and do what they think is GODS WORK by "trying to change your mind". You could never, ever change a man's mind about anything, but they always seem to think they can do the same to you. Because there is zero respect for your opinion. They like to call this "having a discussion", but it all goes back to zero respect for you as a person… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 03:28 AM |
| 38 | Very pleased with every man in the comment section claiming this is 100% her choiceYou can never expect men who directly or indirectly benefit from you being used and abused to ever understand or even care about how you feel. It's like a slave expecting to be understood from their owner. Possible, but unlikely. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 03:24 AM |
| 11 | Is it ok to think that a grown man (30+) dating a teen girl is always worng or am I really just being a judgmental PrUdE? I don't know what to think anymoreWhat exactly makes you think you are a "judgmental prude" for thinking this? Please explain, in detail, if you can. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 09:08 PM |
| 7 | Ladies, I just wanted to share my recent victory.Silence might be best, but sometimes it's actually beneficial for your healing to say something. If you feel good about having said it, then it was the right decision for you in that situation! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 07:00 PM |
| 12 | Madonna/Wh**e Complex And Male Hypocrisy/Desperation Explained Via PPD-Religious Women Pay Special Attention Please. Knowledge Is Power XOMany women instinctively realize there is some huge power play at work here, so what they end up thinking is: You dont want me to fuck with men? Great. I wont. But I wont fuck you either. And while you can force me to have sex with you, you cant make me love you. Die mad, fool. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 06:43 AM |
| 11 | Have any of you had an emotional outburst because of something that seemed "ridiculous", But was really a result of you bottling in your emotions for WAY too long?the accumulation of all those little things you dont mention that add up and cause you to breakdown. Yes, this is why it doesn't pay to put up with low value men. Their shitty cuddles and mediocre sex is not worth the humiliation you have to endure, when you lose your shit over what seems like trifles and then being told you are the psycho here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 05:55 AM |
| 136 | Does this seem controlling? I’m no longer dating this guy, but he would tell me I couldn’t wear certain things or make any new guy friends and if I objected, he said that I didn’t give a fuck about him. If I thought he was being controlling he frequently called me crazy and irrationalYour headline is basically the entire blueprint of every single abuser out there: - You can't do certain things because if you do, you don't care about me - If you think I'm being controlling/shady/whatever then you're "crazy" and "irrational." Nothing dries me up more than someone who exhibits this kind of behavior. But it works great on inexperienced women, so I don't see it dying out any time soon. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 09:45 PM |
| 2 | She asks them to hold each other responsible. They retaliate with garbage comments as expected, thread gets locked.This is terrifying. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 08:10 PM |
| 20 | Raise your standards in everything. You are worth it.Agree. As Tony Robbins once said: If you sincerely want to change your life: raise your standards. What changes people is when their shoulds becomes musts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 08:42 PM |
| 25 | For reals sometimes liking man feels like a curseBasically why straight women and gay men tend to bond so well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 06:01 PM |
| 19 | I just realized how terrible reddit is for my mental healthIt is very bad for your mental health. I only visit very specific subs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 05:59 AM |
| 5 | How can I date HVM when I have no career or education?High value people will be respectful and kind to you no matter what your financial situation or educational background. But I would not expect to find a high value man to be ok with it for a relationship. It could happen, certainly. But I would not expect it. Personally, I no longer want to date potential, so I focused on upgrading my life until I stopped being "a potential" myself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 05:52 AM |
| 16 | She asks them to hold each other responsible. They retaliate with garbage comments as expected, thread gets locked.Too true. Once, I went to a meet-up where I was the only woman and never went back again, exactly because I didn't want to find out why. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 05:11 AM |
| 14 | Women these days have it so easy!Probably the most realistic description of what the vast majority of women in this world has to face before they can even hope to get ahead. Check out the story of Tererai Trent. There's a billion of women like her, except there is no happy end to their story. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 06:24 PM |
| 190 | Pick Me Of The Decade Got Me Banned From Dating Over 30 For Putting Her In Her Place After She Came At Me & Lied About Having A Boyfriend When I advised A Recently Pumped & Dumped OP Woman To Withhold Sex Until Commitment If That Is What She Wanted-5th Similar Type Of Post On The Sub This WeekIf easy sex felt that great, we'd all be gun ho about it. Many women tried it and aren't happy with the results. How about that discussion? Prostitutes are indeed upfront about their rates, men are rarely upfront about their intentions. We've all heard about (or experienced) the pump and dump. Women absolutely have the right to withhold sex until they are sure about the man's personality and level of interest in her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 04:42 AM |
| 4 | Please share some personal, real examples of HVM treatment and behaviours ❤️Check out /r/marriage. They have some really nice high value examples. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 07:59 PM |
| 90 | Ladies- have the exclusive talk and hold that boundary hard.Personally I don't like asking a man for exclusivity. Too desperate. Throw the ball in his court. He: tries to get into your pants. You: I only sleep with a boyfriend with whom I am exclusive. Continue to live your life. If he doesn't grasp the chance to ask you to be his girlfriend within a very reasonable amount of time, fade him/ghost him. PS. If he asks too soon: "I don't know you well enough yet for you to be my boyfriend." And I forgot to add the STD panel. That will make almost all of the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 07:32 PM |
| 6 | What do I make boundaries for myself and how do I know what my boundaries are? Should I have boundaries for different people?Any time you get that FEELING at the bottom of your stomach, it's time for boundaries. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 07:56 PM |
| 21 | What "lightly depraved" actions and/or "dating test" fuckeries will you NEVER tolerate again from a man since finding FDS (ex: items that do not warren red flags but yellow to green range symptoms/warning signs you missed before outside of standard FDS guidelines)?Talking about your ex a lot during dates. It's "lightly depraved" because you are clearly not over her, but instead of taking the time to disengage emotionally, you're already dating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 04:44 AM |
| 58 | my (F19) boyfriend (M19) likes to smoke with his friends and it makes me uncomfortable but I don’t know why. please help!I just would love some advice on how to fix my feelings toward this situation so I can better myself and in turn my relationship. Sweetie, that sentence right there just broke my heart. There's absolutely nothing wrong with you, but somewhere along the way you were taught that having standards means something must be wrong with you. Only you have no idea what you can expect from men, you're only 19! On top of that you just moved in with this guy, which means you are twice as invested now in maki… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 04:38 AM |
| 10 | Most of the pickmeisha I've been friends with make me feel the same way I do around LVMAbsolutely, there is very little difference between LV friends and LV romantic partners. The effects are similar. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 04:01 AM |
| 132 | Do not baby-step him through conflict resolution while you're out here with the emotional intelligence of a licensed therapist. I will not teach a grown man how to communicate!When your woman goes from (over-)communicating to not talking about things at all, even though NOTHING has changed in the relationship, you're on your best way to get dumped HARD. It's always a surprise for idiots though because they think her silence means she's happy now and the issues have magically gone away. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 05:18 AM |
| 16 | How To Be A HVW When You're BROKE?You won't like my answer. I basically focused on my self and my advancement. Jim Rohn once said, you're not paid by the hour, but for the value you bring to the hour. So I made my life all about becoming more valuable to the marketplace. That's how I found out that looking "conventionally sexy" for men is absolutely irrelevant to financial success and I never looked back. When you disentangle your sense of worth from your appearance it's a total game changer. Our looks don't matter as long as ou… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 05:07 AM |
| 74 | Guy from OLD gets angry because I didn’t have sex with him after 2 weeks and 4 dates of knowing him.FIFY: What they are looking for is free action. And "prude" is just another word for difficult. She was supposed to hand him the goods cheaper than a prostitute and with only minimally more delay. The man who is really interested will not only wait, he'll want to wait. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 04:58 AM |
| 28 | The “what are we” textAny time I felt the need to ask "what are we" the answer I received made me wish I had never asked. If you have to ask that's because you know there's nothing serious between the two of you and never will be. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 06:35 PM |
| 24 | How do you let go of a past love and start dating seriously again?Give it time. 2 years is average, 5 years is not unusual for a very long term relationship. And there are some cases where the desire to commit never comes back. All normal under the sun. Give it time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 06:31 PM |
| 205 | He looked at a girl's butt on a dateA woman once told me, the first red flag you notice in a man will be the biggest cause of trouble later in the relationship. Make of that what you will. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 06:18 PM |
| 98 | Reminder: He’s looking to conquer you. Be selective with who you invest your time, body, and emotions withThen he should go ahead and chat up young women for cheap sex. Ah, but he already tried that and they weren't interested. He hoped older women would be more desperate. They weren't interested either! And I'm guessing prostitutes are expensive and pickmeishas aren't interesting enough. Now he's angry and is exposing his soul's ugliness for all to see. Really attractive. I'm sure that's going to be the breakthrough...not. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 07:28 PM |
| 84 | This is what is wrong with my generation. Wife privileges without any commitment... promoted like girls should want this!Gen X men are steadily turning into their boomer dads. Very sad, they were so promising once! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 02:08 PM |
| 31 | This video talks about how long the bar is for men, and how we need to set standards. She said something like" I have a car, a job, and my own place, does that make me a good man?"Men: Women are interested in my job because they are golddiggers. Women: Just want to make sure you are not a loser looking for a sugar momma. Same men: Will avoid poor women unless they are young and hot. Bonus points if she's young, hot and from a super poor country. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 07:09 AM |
| 83 | What made you realize you needed FDS?My realization was retrospective. While the sub is quite new, the ideas aren't. So when I found the sub I was like, "oh shit, my grandmother was right all along". -_- | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 11:47 AM |
| 67 | I ain’t even mad this was in all caps and on Facebook.. TALK THAT TALK BABY🗣🗣🤣A lot of men complain that "it's so hard to keep a woman happy". Here are 3 big reasons why: - You lack empathy and don't listen - You take her for granted - You become distracted by other women/porn instead of improving your sex life | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 08:59 AM |
| 4 | I don’t know how FDS, a 10 month old subreddit, is allegedly responsible for so many men’s inceldom and MRA activism when the manosphere has been waging a full on war on women for a decade now. 🤔What they are basically saying is: How dare you not want to be a sexual food pantry to some broke guy who doesn't care to make anything of himself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 03:41 PM |
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