What counts as toxic femininity in 2022

shoesfromparis135 · 2022-02-22T14:56:42+00:00

Toxic femininity? Is that the one where women act like subservient cool girls who only exists to please their boyfriends and supposed “love” getting choked out in bed? If so, miss me with that shit. Been there, done that. You know where it got me? FDS.

FI-REfox · 2022-02-22T20:55:48+00:00

It's really bizarre when you think about it -- virtually everyone found FDS after being the cool girl, the pickme, the NLOG and eating a tonne of shit from a low-effort, low-value or plain abusive scrote. It's not like being in a relationship is some foreign country we've never been to but have formed strong opinions on. We've been there, lived there and we're fucking done with it and moved onwards and upwards.

I'm not surprised in the least that shitty men fear us and fearmonger about us. It's in their best interest to keep women submissive and ignorant of their options, but other women parroting this "toxic" nonsense is just embarrassing and self-defeating.

katiekat0214 · 2022-02-22T14:50:13+00:00

Oh I gather it's way more than that! We center women; we de-center men. We put our own interests first without any apology. We say dump losers at the first sign and don't give second chances. We emphasize knowing what we do and don't want, having boundaries and limits, and sticking to them, instead of having porous, ever-changing boundaries depending on the man we're with. We see women as full human beings with intellect, soul, character, talents, quirks, and preferences, and we honor that. Yeahhhhh, because all of that is just so "toxic" and "feminine" and WRONG! /sarcasm

Zurflu · 2022-02-22T14:36:03+00:00

Wtf would toxic femininity be when girls are raised to be selfless, caring, mothering, helpful, polite humans? We aren't raised to fight, dominate, k*ll, and take like boys.

Side note, I just saw a comment in a sub for making fun of neckbeards saying one of the main rules of FDS is the 666 rule with lots of upvotes. Some poor lady was on the replies saying it's not true and downvoted to hell. These scrotes honestly wouldn't know what femininity was if it hit them in the face and they don't care to learn, either.

Their idea of femininity is a nude female body willing to be penetrated, and toxic femininity is when a female body isn't nude and willing to be penetrated.

I_was_there_for_you · 2022-02-22T16:42:43+00:00

The male Reddit scrotes who complain about FDS don’t even come here to see what we are about. What happens is there will be a screenshot taken of the 1-2% of extremely controversial/triggering opinions to the scrotes on reddit and they are posted on different subreddits (a recent example being the dick size preference post)

The broader Reddit community wants to keep FDS’s reputation as toxic (and therefore should be dismissed/ignored) because if you actually spend time here and understand the broader goals of FDS, it means men have to actually step up and be men. It means no more easy or cheap pussy for men. It means scrotes have to actually work and move out of their mothers basements to get laid. It means they can’t sit on their ass and play video games all day and use weaponized incompetence to get out of everything.

We’re literally just trying to get the bar off of the floor. That’s a threat to the average man on Reddit so of course they’re going to push back on us as much as possible.

GeorgiaPeach_94 · 2022-02-22T19:09:14+00:00

Today I read a scrotes comment about how fds supposedly encourages women to cheat and trap men into supporting someone else's child.

Like... How? Where? Why do they speak when they're just making shit up!

CroneRaisedMaiden · 2022-02-22T21:01:18+00:00

Lol set standards and watch the results

The_Cat_Empress · 2022-02-22T16:19:59+00:00

[FDS women, supporting each other and being a shoulder to cry on and working on healing past relationship traumas]

"OmG iT'S sO tOxIc"

When Reddits like "degrading holes" is still a thing...

I hate it here sometimes...

Commercial_Place9807 · 2022-02-22T16:10:44+00:00

There is no such thing as “toxic femininity” that’s not a thing, any toxicity seen in feminine circles is a result of the patriarchy.

“Toxic femininity” It is just toxic patriarchy and internalized misogyny manifesting itself in some form amongst women.

I wouldn’t expect your average idiot Redditor to understand or accept this fact though. Marginalized minorities do not have real power, the may exhibit toxic behaviors to other members of their group structure or lash out at their oppressors, but they never themselves have societal power.

broogaloo · 2022-02-22T18:40:39+00:00

Men have literally owned women for millennia. Of COURSE they’ll screech when we finally become capable of fending for ourselves and living independently (something that is truly a modern ability - our mothers couldnt even open their own bank accounts). Patriarchy is baked into every aspect of women AND men’s lives, and it takes so much more for men to realize and swallow that pill because they benefit from it, they have no need to examine the problems with the system they live in. It took me years (and I will readily admit I am still on the level up journey) to see how my own beliefs and behaviors were shaped by patriarchal society.

I don’t know that I blame other women for being ignorant of their own brainwashing, but I think many of us here have found FDS to be an affirmation of lessons we’ve learned the hard way. Maybe the pickmeishas of the world will find their limit and find us as a result.

spinsterchachkies · 2022-02-22T17:18:39+00:00

I think pickmes are toxic femininity. These guys have no idea how bad a pickme could be. They think us complaining on the internet is toxic jfc. Wait until one tries to baby trap you or boils your kids pet rabbit. Yeah we’ll talk then

Gologic34 · 2022-02-22T17:32:43+00:00

I would just like to say that my mom never once judged me or commented on my looks. My dad would look me up and down and give me pointers like "could do some butt exercises." Yup

ItsFreezen · 2022-02-22T18:07:15+00:00

Scrotes think being rejected is considered " toxic femininity. And that's why they hate this sub.

fogplum · 2022-02-22T15:23:33+00:00

While this scrote's idea of toxic femininity is bullshit...I've definitely seen actual toxic femininity here on FDS (from users, not supported by mods).

I've seen several women on FDS putting other women down for not participating in feminine beauty expectations such as... not having their nails done. It's insane.

MeanWhatISay · 2022-02-22T17:59:54+00:00

The more I live, the more I start realising there really is no such thing as “toxic femininity”. There’s only justified, healthy reactions of women to bad behaviour from men. And yes, sometimes that means mirroring them. And yes again, sometimes to counteract an asshole you have to be a bit of an asshole 🤷‍♀️But even the most hardcore comments I’ve seen so far on FDS do not match what you see in other parts of the internet from men about women (example the guy who compared a woman’s body to a piece of meat with orefices…) Edit:spelling

BxGyrl416 · 2022-02-22T23:13:51+00:00

The thing is, virtually all so-called “toxic femininity” are behaviors that are a result of adaptions to misogyny and patriarchy, not natural, organic behaviors.

Colour_riot · 2022-02-23T15:17:30+00:00

A scrote who has barely any interaction with women that he's not related to, trying to mansplain femininity.

Great credentials there, brofessor /s

wonkyeyes8877 · 2022-02-24T01:27:54+00:00

I don't give a fuck that other subreddit users claim to not like us.

The controversy brings women here. I love it.

Title	What counts as toxic femininity in 2022
Author	sexualfoodpantry
Upvotes	658
Comments	67
Date	February 22, 2022 2:06 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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