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| 52 | Pickme’s thrive off of The Bachelor (referring to the bottom tweet)Ugh, I can't watch any of those shows. I feel like if not already in the minority, pickme culture is definitely on the run and they know it. I am not saying a new system has replaced it (most men are still so fragile and LV that it might take another generation for that), but I do feel that women at least are wising up and many of us are basically going our own way unless a HV man presents himself wrapped in a bow at this point. But that takes being self-sufficient, self-supporting and self-lovi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/22 08:33 PM |
| 6 | When men in professional settings treat you like sh*t when you don't wear makeup. I'm sorry, was this supposed to be a date?!A highlight of pandemic for me has been no makeup. I doubt I will ever go back. Men who don't like it can GTH. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/22 05:44 AM |
| 19 | Am I the only one who's starting to believe I'll never be loved?Very short-sighted of them. Breakups and divorce are real. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 03:00 PM |
| 214 | Am I the only one who's starting to believe I'll never be loved?I recommend a repeating group activity you can be passionate about, local government, a cause, political organization, helping those less fortunate, community garden, food pantry, something that involves regular commitment. Get deeply involved in the running of it. You will meet like-minded men and women at least and you will be too busy to be lonely and might meet someone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 02:55 PM |
| 7 | "But hon, in this city no one will want to wait 2+ months to have sex with you" -- female acquaintanceI feel like 4-5 months at this point would be my minimum. After knowing someone for 5 months, I can glean a normal person's true character . . . maybe. But with narcissists, they can keep up the act for a good 18 months. So even if you do sleep with them, sleep with one eye open lol! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 08:32 PM |
| 49 | Friends with Men?I do have a couple of those–oops didn't mean to not count them! But I meant straight men here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 02:00 AM |
| -27 | Friends with Men?Hahaha, I have zero sexual interest or romantic interest in this guy, so there is no chance it ever turns into anything, but I was curious to know if anyone had any productive friendships. I do know women who do, actually. Two of my friends from college (one American, one not) have male friends from high school. The guys are not American-born, so I wonder if that has anything to do with it . . . | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 12:17 AM |
| 106 | Swipe. Man goes on 63 dates, does not use FDS tactics, still single. Huh...He might not be using FDS tactics, but the women who went on those first dates with him and then bailed have FDS instincts. Now they just need to join FDS so they would not have even bothered with the one date or better yet OLD at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/22 03:26 PM |
| 2 | Here’s to deleting our OLD profiles 🥂Done a while ago. Hopefully it goes viral and amounts to a casual sex strike, causing LVM men to change and put in effort. Fingers (and legs) crossed lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/22 12:21 AM |
| 9 | LVM are out there thinking men don't treat women like shit. Drew's response is on point as always 👑She would be a good guest on the podcast, right? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 08:35 PM |
| 16 | What counts as toxic femininity in 2022Thanks. Yah, he was very critical of all women's looks. It was damaging. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 01:33 AM |
| 78 | What counts as toxic femininity in 2022I would just like to say that my mom never once judged me or commented on my looks. My dad would look me up and down and give me pointers like "could do some butt exercises." Yup | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 05:32 PM |
| 10 | Somehow this is worse than those room rentals on CraigslistThis is slavery and not legal. You have to pay interns these days. This should be reported to the labor department. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 01:22 PM |
| 4 | HeartbreakingLeave. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 12:46 PM |
| 64 | Pickme woman giggles as her boyfriend shops for expensive jewelry himself and gets her nothing. A year later, he evicts her and their baby, then beats up her brother with his crew.He completely ignores her, so cringe. He is fug too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/22 11:11 PM |
| 149 | Signs You've Been F*ckzonedI prefer to put the onus on them, like they are a F*ckboy or a player, or a user or narcissist, rather than give them the power, even rhetorically, to put me in a zone. Nobody can put me in a zone. They can see me through their own distorted lense I guess, but I am never really in that zone in reality, if you know what I mean. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/22 11:02 PM |
| 102 | I am just so... disappointedDid you find him OLD? I find OLD was a job lot of PIED, PIDE, micropeens, and other lovely surprises you always find out a little too late . . . | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/22 10:56 PM |
| 6 | This is why casual sex is a big no-no. Thoughts?Yup, pregancy, disease, you need to be able to work with and problem-solve with the person you are screwing! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 05:50 PM |
| 29 | I don’t know who’s worse: her trifling mama or her POS husband. I found this on Facebook and was shook. Honestly I probably would have went to jail.Welp, now the husband and mother are free to be together and have that amazing sex . . . Oh, wait, the reason it was great for them was because it was the ultimate evil betrayal and now that the secret is out they don't really feel like it? I thought so. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 05:40 PM |
| 2 | Yaaas Truly a Day of Love: Interview for My Dream JobYaas. No more mind messes this year! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 04:04 PM |
| 7 | Yaaas Truly a Day of Love: Interview for My Dream JobRight?! I have a lot going on, a job and a job search. Just cannot afford to be disturbed on the reg rn . . . and for what? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 11:41 PM |
| 8 | Yaaas Truly a Day of Love: Interview for My Dream JobExactly, thank you. I am excited for this year! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 11:22 PM |
| 3 | Dating Apps Are Not Only Mentally Dangerous . . .And physically! One got beaten up. I think predators are very plentiful on there. It’s a perfect hunting ground | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 01:41 PM |
| 11 | Dating Apps Are Not Only Mentally Dangerous . . .Tinder Swindler case in point. That was also mentally harmful for those women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/22 11:08 PM |
| 7 | Dating Apps Are Not Only Mentally Dangerous . . .Ugh, scary as hell. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/22 09:09 PM |
| 33 | Dating Apps Are Not Only Mentally Dangerous . . .There’s a lot of posts already on how unpleasant (unwanted dick pics and sexting) and energetically draining they are to use (poor quality of men), all the way up to emotionally damaging if you get tricked, played, misled, used etc. by a psychopath or narcissist and or married dude. I found I got depressed using them, so dangerous to my mental health for sure. The commodification of human beings is now normal but never felt that way to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/22 09:00 PM |
| 37 | Dating Apps Are Not Only Mentally Dangerous . . .Yes. And of course, there are other crimes under murder that you have to worry about too . . . | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/22 06:52 PM |
| 5 | I'm now less obsessed with finding "the one"Yah, no disrespect to those with these conditions. But it is worth it to find out if this need is really about wanting to find a man or the one or feeling a lack of "something" and going to what will give you a feeling of (fleeting usually) satisfaction. Sure, I would love to find someone, but I am an adult and so I do not NEED another human being to survive or be happy and as for sex, that is obviously something I could get if I wanted just that. Some women seem to crave male validation like a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/22 05:32 PM |
| 19 | I'm now less obsessed with finding "the one"I think part of the problem is that we are looking back not forward. We would not want the partners of the past. We are comparing ourselves to women who got together with MUCH lower expectations of having to please their man, cook, clean, not enjoy sex, serve men while they watch sports all day, put up with men's depression, repressed emotion and insecurity (combined with societal pressure not so seek help), etc. Now we can afford to live alone and it's got a lot of perks compared to all that sh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 07:53 PM |
| 5 | If he doesn’t lovingly and passionately kiss you during sex, he does NOT love you.Haha, this was my ex . . . husband. 😵💫 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 12:12 AM |
| 8 | Groom smashes bride’s face into cake & she rightfully is leaving himThis made me lightheaded just reading it. The Dizzy Meter never lies–marriage abort! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 12:11 AM |
| 7 | If This Is a War, the First Campaign Should Be . . .Ugh, why does that guy not even seem like an outlier? I swear he is a common type on there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 04:37 PM |
| 3 | If This Is a War, the First Campaign Should Be . . .I mean, there’s medication if you have an actual deficiency! I find exercise great. Meditation is wonderful: insight timer app. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 04:34 PM |
| 14 | If This Is a War, the First Campaign Should Be . . .Dissociation is an epidemic! They have us where they want us. We need to stop having sex and kids with these fools. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 04:26 PM |
| 3 | The bar is in hell.On a girl they’re trying to game you mean. 😂 No, but excellent point! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 01:01 PM |
| 6 | The bar is in hell.Framable 👏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 12:59 PM |
| 7 | I walked away when my needs weren't metIME: Serving up everything tied with a bow and showing very little of themselves, not mentioning past mistakes, never disagreeing respectfully about anything and revealing their differences to you in the beginning is a red flag. They are not being themselves. If it feels like a perfect production, it is exactly that, a show. They should be showing you flaws and warts, just ones that are not so major you can't deal with them. If it's all about you in the beginning, that is fake. It soon becomes a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 04:19 AM |
| 29 | If This Is a War, the First Campaign Should Be . . .Sure, I meant that. But that is going to be a big incentive, no matter what. And they ain't getting it with no effort anymore! (I hope.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 11:27 PM |
| 79 | If This Is a War, the First Campaign Should Be . . .Oh yeah, this is just the opening salvo . . . | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 08:02 PM |
| 67 | The Fantasy vs The Reality ✨I dated a divorced guy who didn't out and out say he wanted to but everyone in his circle wanted to date a lot younger. When he brought up his friend wanting to get a job at the mall to date teens and he seemed to think it was a great idea, I knew is was time to go. A dude's friends say a lot about his values. Check that out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 01:20 AM |
| 2 | How to approach multi-dating?That was not the source, but I have learned that giving your motives/desires away before the other person does is a big no no and invites manipuation. I. am a big revealer by nature, but it is a big mistake. My rule of thumb is tit for tat (similar to game theory). If they tell me something about their past, I tell them one thing. If they reveal relationship goals, I do. Like that. If a guy has not brought this up in a couple months, they are never going to. They are not serious. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 06:14 PM |
| 98 | Trust your feelings and the strategyI started doing this after 10 or so dates. I just will not bother if I don’t see it advancing past the “this is fun” stage. If he is not feeling me seriously and asking me about my relationship goals (life partner), I let him go. I do not have time or energy for almosts. Next! I am not dating now but this will be my policy in the future. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 05:04 PM |
| 1 | West Elm Caleb: Women Warn Each Other about LVM on TikTok, Patriarchy Immediately Freaks OutYou make a great point. The trend pendulum has swung once again! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 04:45 PM |
| 12 | How to approach multi-dating?Ask: “Why, are we exclusive?” Then when they say no just laugh. If they ask if you want to be, ask them that back. Always answer with a question. If they insist on being exclusive too early that’s a red flag. Say you need more time and look for more red flags. Take your time! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 04:29 PM |
| 6 | How to approach multi-dating?An unhappy man, to say the least. I remember them well. Although not raking it in (as he claims), I am sure he can scrape up enough cash to get therapy and I am equally sure he has never done so. I don’t get how people are on apps still! I no longer find it worth it (thanks therapy). I would rather be alone forever than have a single exchange like that again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 04:21 PM |
| 123 | 🤮🤮🤮🤮don’t do this!!! Have some self respect. No thank you.I let a guy cry on my shoulder about his broken heart and how much he loved this girl while I continued to sleep with him. Yup. The problem is that we are fed a pack of lies, told that no matter how demeaning the circumstances, if we can't do FWB we are weak and anti-feminist and retro. Just no. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 05:02 AM |
| 3 | Someone in the comments said stories like this are why FDS exists 😂The tragedy is that he gets to ask this and she didn’t dump him then and there (along with the second bedside table). And now that they live together, due to the sunken cost fallacy, it will be more likely she’ll just marry him because he’s there. Sad. He is truly Lowest Value Man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 03:40 PM |
| 39 | Hmmm, Am I Crazy or Are Women Wising Up?Yeah, saw that. Wow. Hope this sticks! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 11:40 PM |
| 53 | Hmmm, Am I Crazy or Are Women Wising Up?You go woman! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 11:40 PM |
| 192 | Hmmm, Am I Crazy or Are Women Wising Up?Yaas! It's true, I remember looking up narcissism years ago and there was one or two sources. Now there is a ton of stuff about that and more and women don't have to feel alone in feeling feelings about bad male behavior. I still do see a lot of casual sex positive crap, but more and more podcast hosts, for example, are acknowleding that ONS and FWB are not the satisfying fantasies they were made out to be. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 11:37 PM |
| 168 | Hmmm, Am I Crazy or Are Women Wising Up?Yeah, scrotes really have reached peak lows (lol)--I hope. That's probably just driven all sane women over the edge back to having standards. Hopefully it will become more the new normal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 11:29 PM |
| 51 | Hmmm, Am I Crazy or Are Women Wising Up?OMG you're right! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 11:27 PM |
| 59 | Hmmm, Am I Crazy or Are Women Wising Up?OMG the comments on here are amazing! Great points! Thanks everyone! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 11:25 PM |
| 111 | Hmmm, Am I Crazy or Are Women Wising Up?Yup, reflection time leading to societal inflection point. I hope we do away with normalizing bullshit situationships and (non) friends with benefits soon! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 11:23 PM |
| 10 | Men Who Block For No Reason?Get off the apps unless you have the stomach for being ghosted, blocked and lied to on the reg. If you get to know a person slowly over time in real life before considering dating them, less likely to be dealing with a person lacking basic empathy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 12:27 PM |
| 154 | Casual Sex ConfusionIf you want to slow things down, of course, do not drink on dates! All my ill advised encounters were triggered with the help of wine. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 07:03 AM |
| 7 | Strangest icks and dealbreaker?I would say not being willing to try new kinds of food is annoying, as I am adventurous and it strikes me as immature. And calling his parents "mom and dad." Um, they are not my mom and dad yet (or ever now lol!). And of course: video game addiction. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 02:53 AM |
| 79 | Men Can Now Respond Directly to The Female Dating Strategy Podcast!Hahaha, they ain't gonna be denying their scroticity! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 07:27 PM |
| 11 | DAE have a visceral negative reaction to Hinge’s social media ads? Who are these meant to market to? It can’t be women.They compromise their peace and happiness too. Do not stay in a relationship if it does not allow you to be happy most of the time. #peacebeforepeen ✌🏼 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 02:13 PM |
| 10 | DAE have a visceral negative reaction to Hinge’s social media ads? Who are these meant to market to? It can’t be women.Are we sure they aren’t sub-sponsored by a drug company because after reading this I think I’m clinically depressed. (The supposed thankfulness for bare minimum shit omg.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 01:59 PM |
| 13 | FDS exercise: How many red flags can you spot before he went bashit crazy?Haha, so true. OLD is quite dehumanizing all around. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 01:40 PM |
| 132 | FDS exercise: How many red flags can you spot before he went bashit crazy?This is basically the subtext of 90% of comments made by males on dating apps. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 05:53 AM |
| 7 | Female Dating Strategy Podcast BONUS: Lundy Bancroft, Part 2 - Dating Red Flags & How "Sexual Liberation" is Being Used to Control WomenHaha, brava! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 11:48 PM |
| 19 | Female Dating Strategy Podcast BONUS: Lundy Bancroft, Part 2 - Dating Red Flags & How "Sexual Liberation" is Being Used to Control WomenCouple things: From what I hear, if the woman gets into it and acts freely on the “poly” part, the guy gets jealous and that’s generally what leads to the end of this type of arrangement lol! Also: Sometimes these relationships are suggested by butt hurt man-boys who were cheated on once and thereafter decide it’s time to abandon monogamy. It’s called therapy, dude.😜 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 04:00 PM |
| 69 | I’m still confused as to why some guys still expect us to put out on the first date or do casual hookups. This is why we don’t. Shit like this isn’t fun for usBTW have you all read the classic, "Looking for Mr. Goodbar?" I think it's totally relevent today. It's based on a true story of how hookups can go terribly wrong. You can watch the movie starring Diane Keaton (who is amazing in it) on YouTube. Worth a watch. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 03:39 AM |
| 28 | I am a 40 years old and haven’t dated for 2 years and for the first time in my life, felt at peace with it.Yes, peace before peen. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/22 10:41 PM |
| 12 | REMINDER: Those "small signs" that you let slide at the beginning of the relationship? Those aren't "nothing" - they are 3-seconds teaser to what's coming.Agree. And I speak from (too much) experience. Better to follow your gut feelings (what's wrong with being lead by feelings, you're going to stuff them your whole life with him?!) and go early. Life is too short to waste like this. If it's not pleasant, why stay? Do you have a farm to plow? (Apologies to those who really do have a farm to plow.) No, your instincts evolved for a reason. Also: Have an abundance mentality. There are plenty more shitty men like him out there to date, if that's your … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 01:23 AM |
| 23 | "I am afraid I will be conned by a psycho man that only reveal his true face after years of marriage"Yes, this happened to me while dating and then married. Major problems showed up around 18 months into the relationship (when he started ignoring me sometimes, then often), but I was young and dumb, and honestly, it was the sunken cost fallacy. I had already been with him this long (and we had moved in together) and I just hung in there. Then things got way worse after marriage. This would NEVER happen to me again because the second someone started to devalue me and make me question my worth and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 07:48 PM |
| 1 | Stay Strong and NEVER Lower Your Standards!!No, it was a platonic friendship. Maybe he was 65? Not sure. He was also married! He was the one I called "too old" in my first post. I used to be very attracted to classically "hot" guys BTW and I am not against them! But I now find myself more attracted to positive, happy, caring, kind men (and bonus if they are cute) and I am happy about that. I am not looking at the moment. (Of course, I just had a flirty interaction with a very nice guy since I took myself out of the search lol! Not going t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 07:33 PM |
| 2 | Stay Strong and NEVER Lower Your Standards!!Some wise dude will appreciate it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 10:01 PM |
| 9 | Stay Strong and NEVER Lower Your Standards!!I relate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 10:00 PM |
| 1 | Stay Strong and NEVER Lower Your Standards!!Maybe this should be your new type. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 10:00 PM |
| 7 | 2022 Is My Year to Focus on Me (Not Dating)I will! My friend just asked me if I am still availbale for romantic advice, and I said I was taking a break for even than till Feb. 14th lol! I too am going to be continuing with fitness. Hope to hike too. I am also taking an online class and taking up a music hobby. Will definitely check in from time to time! Good luck! <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 07:19 PM |
| 34 | Saw this on Twitter and it felt discussable/appropriate to share hereSomeone noticed that Jake Gyllenhaal has been calling Tom Holland a "kid" during interviews. And yet...his girlfriend is the same age as tom Holland I saw him once, seriously DARK energy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 10:47 PM |
| 1 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 39 - Casual Sex, Part 1: Don‘t Do It, But if You Do, Sit On His Face) + Real Estate StalkerI guess since I am not looking to have more dcs or marry I should be hooking up, but just feel used and interchangable doing that. I want someone who can appreciate the whole package and who has more to offer, like hanging out, activities, etc. And I don't have the energy or time to constantly be looking for new people. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/21 10:38 PM |
| 8 | No more one sided relationships in 2022.I have a couple of relationships with mentally unwell friends whom I do most of the reaching out to and make more effort with. They have not always been this bad and I will ride out the storms with them (for now). But these are specific cases where I have elected to expend more energy for what I deem worthy causes. In general, yes, if you are always giving and the other person doesn't care, those people have to go. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/21 02:18 AM |
| 1 | Friends that make questionable relationship decisions like this are LV. I don’t understand how the entire friend group KNOWS it’s disgusting and yet…no one steps up to call him out. Gross.Absurd. Must be fake. Friendship dealbreaker, she is a child. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 08:52 AM |
| 1 | Why do men “not want a relationship” because of a breakup ages ago, but women are still willing to seek real connections and love despite the amount of horror we’ve gone through?Men are the weaker sex. Shhhhhh! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 07:03 AM |
| 1 | Just a friendly reminder that men will date and marry women they don’t like.Haha, my ex told our friends he married me for "cover," so other women would leave him alone. Yuuup. Dude full out hated me, I'm convinced. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 01:12 AM |
| 1 | Type of man to avoid: the brosocial or homosocial manI agree. This is boy behavior. OTOH, you do not want a guy with no friends. "Plays well with others" from Kindergarten is a real sign of mental health and a man having no friends is a big red flag. It shows an ability and desire to mainain human connections. And they need social lives outside of you just as you do or codependency is in the offing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 10:40 PM |
| 16 | FDS is NOT categorically against OLD.I don't either, but I would say 1. being very confident when you start (that goes for any dating, never try to date if you don't think you are a 100% a catch to date) 2. systematically unmatching at any sign they are only looking to hook up: a. not mentioning your profile details b. not asking questions about your profile/life c. telling you that you are hot/pretty/sexy. This is just a numbers game and time saver. Will you miss a few good ones? Possibly. But you have a lot to get through and if … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 04:58 AM |
| 2 | FDS is NOT categorically against OLD.I don't think it is ever the "only" way to "realistically" meet the 51% of men under the age of 30 and 27% of men 30-49 who are single in the US, but it is a way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 04:45 AM |
| 1 | How long to wait for men to reply? (Busy career-oriented men)51% of men under 30 are single. Smile and half will be able to respond if they want to! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 06:57 AM |
| 30 | Religion is by men, for menNot to mention, it's the original source of the Madonna-whore complex lol! I was the victim of this when an ultra-religious guy steeped in purity culture blamed me for seducing him. Uh no, you lied to me, bruh, and said you were fine with it, then told me the whole thing was wrong and sinful. Yup. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 04:12 AM |
| 31 | Where the lie 🤣🤣🤣Facts. When I was online dating, the number of men who owned their own home, let alone lived without roommates, was minute. Good thing I do lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 03:13 AM |
| 1 | UPDATE; Today is a turning point in my way to being and fully living as a HVW - I DUMPED HIM"Happy families are all alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way." Well, same goes for HVM and LVM. The more twisted, neurotic, mysterious, complicated, unhappy in their own way a guy is, the more LV he is. Call it boring if you want (good luck with that in life!), but HVM are all the same: kind, simple, happy, readable, you get what you see, just a good egg. Might still be a few out there in this effed up world. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 08:18 PM |
| 1 | Scrote says he’s not into casual sex while his OK Cupid answers communicate otherwise, he says “I made the profile a long time ago when my father was sick and didn’t have time for a relationship” and proceeds to show his clown nose.Men are a lot if things, but they are not any dumber about this stuff than we are. They know. They get it. What you see is what you get. If you are confused, it is not because they are confused. It is intentional. They could be clear if they wanted. If you start seeing everything they do (contradictions, mixed messages) or don’t do (answering quickly, asking you out on a date) as 100% what they mean to do, you can next them quickly. Call it virtual speed dating. Do not waste thoughts on dead end… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 04:16 PM |
| 1 | Scrote says he’s not into casual sex while his OK Cupid answers communicate otherwise, he says “I made the profile a long time ago when my father was sick and didn’t have time for a relationship” and proceeds to show his clown nose.BTW: About 50.2 percent or 124.6 million American adults are single—in 1950, that number was 22 percent. So if you smile at a guy, odds are even he’s available. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 03:58 PM |
| 1 | Scrote says he’s not into casual sex while his OK Cupid answers communicate otherwise, he says “I made the profile a long time ago when my father was sick and didn’t have time for a relationship” and proceeds to show his clown nose.I’m amazed so many of you online date at all. Soooo many are single nowadays well into their 30s that I don’t see why trying to date in real life is a bad idea. It’s not like years ago when most were married and you needed dating apps to serve up who is in the market to date. Now they are only looking for sex on the apps anyway! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 03:53 PM |
| 1 | Scrote says he’s not into casual sex while his OK Cupid answers communicate otherwise, he says “I made the profile a long time ago when my father was sick and didn’t have time for a relationship” and proceeds to show his clown nose.Lol sick dad ploy. 1. Beware the sick/needy dad/mom lies, ladies. 50 & 60-something parents are not all that unhealthy or helpless lol. 2. Red flag If they talk about your looks (smile, eyes, body). If they are not commenting on your bio, they didn’t read it and don’t care. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 03:48 PM |
| 1 | Her Persistence Paid Off: How many red flags can you count in this wedding announcement?I can't. The unemployment. The drinking. The anger. The daughter drama. The TOPAZ ring. The giving and giving getting . . . what? What exactly is she getting again? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 08:54 PM |
| 2 | Examples of green flags in my boyfriend’s fatherWell, my parents have been married for forever and while it was not always perfect, they are both happy in their relationship. Still, my dad always told me that "men are no damned good" and that included him. There is a lot every man can never reveal to you. The smart ones who stay married keep it that way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 12:08 AM |
| 1 | ENTHUSIASM matters. If he does not show authentic excitement to court you, DROP him.If he is not crazy about you, like nervous and unable to play it cool, why bother? Make not being able to not chase you for fear you’ll get away a turnoff and quickly say next. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 02:30 PM |
| 1 | Taylor Swifts - All Too Well (short film)Not to be too, too petty, but he really has also lost his looks too! Aren't men supposed to hold on to their looks longer than women, so says society? Old Jakey seems to have hit the handsomeness wall hard and early at 40. That has to sting for a narc who also makes his living largely with his good-looking mug. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 05:24 AM |
| 1 | Don't waste your time giving emotional support to a man who hasn't proved he wants something serious with you.Thanks for this. This is very valuable. If a man is not explicitly looking for a companion, you can't change his mind. It's like if a company that is not hiring, with no available role or budget, suddenly invented a position just for you after they meet you. Can it happen? Maybe, but it's so rare you would hardly base your job search on it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 04:58 PM |
| 1 | After this, she is still unsure if she should leave.I agree and the acts and signs of abuse and control can be subtle. Outsiders only see the exaggerated relief that the person is not being abused at the moment, so think the relationship is OK. A really good portrait of the ups and downs of abuse can be found in the show Maid. Highly recommend (though trigger warning). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 02:12 PM |
| 20 | Hookup culture is a scamCasual sex is a lack and a rejection because it is not actually a stand-alone item. It is like the dirty, dusty stuff on the discount shelf of a store, mostly sets that are all missing pieces. Sex is naturally part of a mate-paired relationship set which includes care, feeding, commitment, counsel, protection, investment, nesting, family. When you pluck out one element from this, sex, it feels like a worthless piece of junk missing pieces, because it is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 01:11 AM |
| 1 | Not to be a downerThere is only one cure for men to change = most women have to stop putting out until they do. We need to grow this sub... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 06:46 AM |
| 1 | How to make it clear you will NOT go on a drinks date?I am not doing drinks, but I am also not going out without a video date. For me, that is the first meeting instead of coffee or drinks. If that goes OK, it’s on to a fun restaurant and/or another activity he thinks of and books after asking my preferences. This is in theory since I am not dating ATM lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/21 01:17 AM |
| 1 | FDS observations in the wildI see the flags everywhere too--and hear them. My problem is that I eat at a lot of cafes and have excellent ears: Not a week goes by that don't overhear some lame scrote saying whatever he needs to to get in his Bumble first date's pants. Really makes me lose my appetite. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 09:22 AM |
| 8 | If he needs space from the relationship, it's a no.Queen logic. Fuck him, royally. 👸🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/21 02:22 AM |
| 20 | If you're still using dating apps, you're a pickmeOK, they get married, but does it last? Does one/both cheat? I have my suspicions . . . | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 05:40 PM |
| 12 | If you're still using dating apps, you're a pickmeYup x 1000 There is no dignified way to OLD and what are we without our dignity? Hard. Pass. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 05:38 PM |
| 23 | Here’s The FactsThe problem is that women think they are exercising free choice, but it’s free choice within an invisible patriarchy that imprisons the whole culture. Only when we are all truly free will we be able to make honest choices. The first step is all good people encouraging women to reject the rules, structures and standards now holding us back so we may create new ones. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 02:44 AM |
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