Difference between men who watch porn and don't watch porn and how they center discussions is amazing

jjlew922 · 2021-09-29T19:51:04+00:00

There is definitely truth to this as healthy conversations around sexuality and pleasure is vital, and it’s certainly nice to be with someone more caring and communicative! Just be sure to watch as things unfold. I’m not sure how long you’ve been together but it’s so critical to understand his history - ask him about times he’s watched it, how he felt, why he doesn’t, what made him stop. Truth be told, all boys have been exposed to it to some degree and it’s about us vetting how far down the rabbit hole they have gone and what healing and subsequent maturity has come out of it.

I have noticed with men who don’t watch it, respectful, there can still be quiet a bit of baggage. ED issues, inability to be truly vulnerable, a weird continued sense of guilt (esp if grew up in religious household) in the act itself.

Uncovering the layers of how deep the rabbit hole goes in his previous porn use will help to protect you and give you the insight to make the right decisions for you. Figure out how he deals with the temptation and his emotional maturity level. Pivotal to this is honestly the relationship with his mother. Many men have a Modanna/Whore complex in which early porn exposure will exasperate this alongside their ability to compartmentalize. Sometimes they can see you as wife yet outsource the devious fantasies in other ways, as others have commented. Ive been with seemingly “good guys” but recognized it’s not my job to make them feel safe nor grow in emotional maturity, it’s too exhausting and my energy is worth more to match with the same maturity and frequency. Their struggles with intimacy are not your problem at the end of the day. Just be weary of that as time goes on. I hope that’s not the case for you but felt led to comment 💝.

NotMyRealName814 · 2021-09-29T21:58:26+00:00

I think men who watch porn are more likely to cheat than those who don't. For that reason alone I won't date a porn user.

arnezuara · 2021-09-29T17:16:06+00:00

My ex probably watched porn, given how fucked up he was. I was lucky to have never been handled roughly by him during sex, he was always gentle — because he outsourced his depravity to other women.

Keep vetting your partner, OP. Green flags or not, most men are not to be trusted. Stay silent and look for any sign of depravity.

Platipus6 · 2021-09-29T21:30:55+00:00

don't really want to watch porn with you, they want to watch porn and you're there if you get what I mean.

Groomers do this too. They're sex-obsessed and want you to be too. Sex is on their mind every waking minute and they want to fill your mind with that filth too because it'll be the only thing you have in common. They don't give a shit about who you are as a person. You're a blank, willing canvas they can vomit their depravity on and roll around in.

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Title	Difference between men who watch porn and don't watch porn and how they center discussions is amazing
Author	CoffeeCakeGod
Upvotes	461
Comments	10
Date	September 29, 2021 4:23 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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