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Op I am so sorry this has happened to you. It's disgusting. I've had similar events happen, but it was always twisted into my fault. A guy walked in on my while I was in the loo, and I had been washing my hands - he said "oh darn I would have like to see that (meaning me going pee)". I told management right away. They had me take him aside and sit down beside him ALONE and instructed to tell him it's fine, that I want to "be friends". I was 19 and it was my part-time job while in uni. The job wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 10:52 PM
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One star google review indicating your experience - I second this, crazykitten, and let his Union people know that he's used your confidential information for person use/gain to add you to FB and used your proof of payment receipt as a means to demand you text him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 09:32 PM
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My (30s) friend (20s) dad (fucking 50s) told me that my age difference with my friend/his daughter is big enough that it's "fine if we date" (have sex). He ruined my relationship with her by being a perv and when I said no thank you, your daughters (my friend and her sister) will absolutely mind if I dated their dad but I'm also not going to date someone over 20 years my senior. He got super pissy. He's a fire capitan.... Who is currently in the midst of divorcing my friends mom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 06:40 PM
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I have a girlfriend with Chrons and celiac- she was always a healthy person, and still is. It truly doesn't discriminate. Her diet is a bit strict and whatnot but she's doing everything she can to manage it. I can't recall the Chrons medication on the market, but due to the long term side effects, she wants to avoid taking it as long as possible. She works a stressful job as an engineer, which doesn't help, but she takes measures to prevent flare ups/attacks. I'm I worked with a wonderful lady w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 12:13 AM
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You should get your partner to clean it up, I mean that's what love is right??? 😂 ..../s juuuuuust in case
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 05:25 PM
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This. It's disgusting. And you're right, this isn't normal. Men are allowed to be a literal depiction of that Mucinex monster, not wipe their bums, generally be straight to negligent with their appearance and people are like "just communicate!" "Take the poor baby to the doctor". Uuggghhh. If he wanted to, he would.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 02:55 PM
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I worked with someone who always talked about their IBS. They though it was funny. They'd make comments like "oh time for my after lunch potty break!" "No one go into the bathroom for awhile hahaha!" "Uh oh, I better hurry!". This poor person was morbidly obese and their diet was awful. A special office chair had to be ordered due to their size, they couldn't do stairs. It was sad. This person ended up getting spoken to because of these and other very gross comments they'd make about their lack …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 02:50 PM
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I totally agree that a) a relationship should be a team but I o see weaponized incompetence as a form of abuse, of course putting the dishes in incorrectly out of laziness and hitting your spouse are not the same. But, wearing someone down - for example "oh I can't leave him alone with the kids haha he doesn't know what to do lol." I have a girlfriend who works in dental, in has a side hustle she runs from her basement doing an aesthetic service, does all the cleaning and cooking and arranging o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 12:01 AM
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Whenever a respectful guy was genuinely into me, he always seemed a bit "afraid" to touch me. Men with empathy and actual respect (aka unicorns) will not want to blow it with us and therefore will not lay a hand on us without enthusiastic consent. Unless of course it's helping us to get into an car or perhaps navigating a crowd (chivalry). I've had guys try to kiss me on the first date, without any permission or sign that I want that. The few times this has happened were honestly frightening. Bo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 12:21 PM
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Oh this is a great source. Thank you very much for sharing! And oh my god! That is horrific!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 11:19 PM
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friends joked I’m a stalker I live in Canada and this stuff is on lockdown unless an article is written about it. This guy I met on OLD sent me a MMS of his brothers stag and doe ticket - pulled the last name from it, put his name in front and here's what came up (TW child sex assault/lack of remorse for actions and joking about assaulting minors): "On the stand, Piva admitted having a threesome was a feather in his cap that he could brag about to friends. "Two is better than one," Piva said..."…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 07:58 PM
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Was just going to make a female vs male gaze comment!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 07:25 PM
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Casadillas guy also thinks a clitoris is some kind of dinosaur Ah yes, the elusive and mysterious clitorsaurus. Legend says most dudes are out there looking for evidence of this fabled creature... 🔍🕵🏼‍♀️ You made me laugh so hard with your comment - thank you!!😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 07:07 PM
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I am so here for this comment. Thank you for indicating that it's so important we are thrilled for each other for other life moments that don't have to do with parenthood or marriage/new relationship/engagement. Baby and wedding showers shouldn't be the only showers we do! 🥂💛 Proud of her. She's creative, talented, strong, and personally I so find her the type of beautiful that blows her exes new partner out of the water. We got you, Anna!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 08:09 PM
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How was she not afraid of taking such a huge risk When I saw this post earlier, I recognize that she was a teen and then very early 20s mom. She also has a post where she's taken a selfie. She's posted a selfie on Reddit. 😬 I chalk it up to being naive. Sure she's 28 and some of us may feel she should know better but I know some pretty naive women - they're not "street smart" or discerning because either they haven't had to be or they just lack those skills/ self-love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 07:51 PM
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Yup! This is the same reason Shanann Watts murderer was so "mad at her" and generally treated her like sht/was very cold towards her. Devaluing = a sign of very bad things to come whether adandonment or worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 07:41 PM
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This is so sad. I lived with my ex for years and he did something similar - gave me a very limited time frame to move, but luckily I didn't /do not have children. He's definitely met someone else. If he actually had an iota of compassion or was humane, he'd say "I don't want to live together anymore, but start saving your money and you can leave in 30-60 days (whatever they agree on and pretty sure legally he has to give her 30 days). A decent human breaking up with a woman who has kids, makes a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 04:59 PM
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Thank you so much pb pigeon 💛. I sincerely appreciate it. Yes! Exactly. I am so sick of the excuses of "well maybe they don't know what to say/feel awkward". Oh, grow up. The one "guy friend" posts about his mom constantly on Facebook and sympathy/pity farms via likes and comments. I am so sorry your male friends let you down. I hate hate hate seeing people's true colours due to a hardship I'm going through - it makes you feel so damn alone and not cared for by those people you know well. Deeply…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 05:03 PM
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YES - if they wanted to, they would applies to all of the people in our lives! With friends like him, who needs enemies? The opposite of love isn't hate, it's indifference. He lacks empathy and maturity and he's probably a terrible doctor since doctors who walk around as though they know absolutely everything/are a god, are a liability. I’m so sorry for your loss, it seems like your sister meant a lot to you. I’m sure she was happy to have you as a sister. I know I would. <3 Your comment meant s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 04:31 PM
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I am so sorry. That is awful and abusive... his contempt is blantant. Are you able to get some help from a friend or family member? I feel awful for you. 💔 I've been there. One of my vetting strategies is seeing how they react when I have a migraine (which debilitate me for a good 24-48h). A guy I'm seeing who doesn't offer to drop off some gravol and a green tea or help me with my dog... It's a very big turn off to me. I am so sorry he's not showing up for you at all and causing you further dis…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 01:25 PM
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We never dated or were romantic, so a conversation regarding me converting - especially since I'm an atheist - wouldn't happen. What do you mean by be careful? He will eat other people's food, yes. As long as it's not non-kosher meat, pork, cheese and meats together etc. At parties people have to make sure they always have a cheese pizza for him or kosher hotdogs, etc. Sounds like you are aware of the rules so I don't need to explain. 🙂 He has maintained that his parents 'don't care' who he marr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 01:02 PM
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Thank you very much. "Where there is great love, there is great grief". It's been hard. I totally agree, I've barely noticed. Prior to moving to another state he was demanding to see me for my bday - I said no, he wasn't even sure which day he was coming and asked me to leave two days open... Uhhh, no..I respect people enough to schedule things. I value people's time. Him badgering me to come see me was extremely annoying, I told him so and said "I've noticed that you've been messaging me a lot …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 11:22 AM
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I am so sorry. I hope your dad is going better and I hope you're okay as well. I feel you so so much on the "we aren't supposed to have problems". But we are always the ones doing all the doings regarding said problems. I'm a former hospice volunteer. I had to resign due to a man's actions and once I have to time to make a post about it, I am going to. It's depraved. I brought this up because I can absolutely show receipts with regards to "men leave sick women" FACT. Once "The Help" is incapacit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 04:34 AM
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I heard it on the pod!🙌🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 09:48 PM
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It is pivotal to remember that the majority of men lack empathy. Especially towards women. Some guys have a bit of it, but it's nothing compared to the empathy we have. Same goes for integrity. (I work with only men...yup... And the things they think I don't know about are hilarious. I get lied to my face several times a day. It's amazing, honestly. I keep my visibility and access to certain reports a secret. 🤷🏼‍♀️) You could be like "yeah my mom is dying of pancreatic cancer" and they're like "…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 07:22 PM
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Totally! This has totally happened to me (in the past when I would actually entertain stupid questions like wHaT dO yOu lOOK fOR and it's ugly cousin, the nausea-inducing "wHat do YoU bRInG tO tHe tAbLe??) "Who do you think you are lol. Okaaay then your highness,it's not 1950 anymore" is the last response I got - I had mentioned manners and chivalry are important - and very attractive - to me. He asked me to define this and I said something along the lines of "when a car door is opened and a sea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 07:04 PM
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Yes! Love it. Thanks sis - I appreciate this awesome feedback! I love how much we help one another here. 💛
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 03:10 PM
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This. "What do you look for in a guy?" And questions like this from men shouldn't be answered. "I want to know what you look for in partner that I can pretend to be that until you let me have sex with you". "Oh, I'll know it when I see it 🙂." Or I say a joke "dark hair, brown eyes, loyal and great recall. Oh, sorry that's a doberman." Only you need to know what you're looking for. They don't actually care, they're just figuring out how to best play the part (some men may genuinely care, but they…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 01:50 PM
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🤣 this made me lol - thank you. I really think you're right. This is a hilariously accurate observation. 🎃🤪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 08:24 PM
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This is disgusting. If a man in his 60s (to match the age gap) hit on me, I'd have a very hard time not bursting out laughing. I have to be careful because I'll end up on the MFM podcast with my sass and facial expressions. I was putting air in my tire, and I was dressed for work (skirt, heels, blazer) and I was crouched down (facing my car, just in case anyone wanted to try to see up my skirt and view my super sexy Spanx). This guy comes up to me, asks me if I need a hand, I say no. Asks me if …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 01:58 PM
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I think the difference lies in the fact that we see men as people. Not always great ones, but people nonetheless. The appeal of a 20 year old woman to a 40 year old man has nothing to do with her personhood, personality etc. Guys who are 40 and happy to date a 20 year old GIRL are just looking for a mentally malleable walking/talking fleshlight doll with normal sinus rhythm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 01:20 PM
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Yup, as they age the dna in their sperm starts to break down and it absolutely has ties to autism and other neuro divergencies as well as cognitive developmental delays. Similarly to what happens when a man's (female) spouse is diagnosed with an illness, they also leave from the pressures of having a disabled child. We're left to handle it ourselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 01:14 PM
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I love this question. "Dress for the job you want, not the Job you have". I dress pretty nice for everything! I love it. It's an act of self love. (For me) I show up looking great and he waddles in with a sweatshirt and fun/basketball shorts. I went to the gym today too, pal, but I also have respect for myself and others. I also decided to change and showed because... Ew? It's not like I'm wearing a ball gown ; nice pants or skirt, sometimes dark jeans and a blazer. Heels etc. Super disappointin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 03:07 AM
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Thank you so much. His tossing me (and my beautiful best friend🐕) out was the best thing that ever happened. Was I extremely poor and had to burn the candles at both ends? Absolutely. I hope to do that too one of these days. Currently, it's prohibitively expensive and time consuming (I work full time). I recently was given a promotion (with an extremely small raise...) - I hope that the experience garnered affords me to step into a better paying role so I can finish my degree. The eduction I got…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 03:54 PM
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That's financial abuse and I went through this too. My ex made good money but : - didn't provide me with a debit or credit card to use - refused to let me use the car unless I was with him; loved in an area where public transit is quite awful - refuses to get a second vehicle despite being to afford it. - did not allow me to work "my gf doesn't work lol" - I had grown up working, and I needed the money and routine. He did not provide for me and when I needed a new pair of shoes, or clothes or wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 03:08 PM
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Unsolicited sexual photos, especially those that are of genetalia, is a form of sexual harrassment. Sexual harrassment is a crime. I'd reply back with this and that you've submitted a police report. Even if you don't, if we all did this, maybe they'd be afraid to sexually harass women. Men like these lack boundaries and respect for them, respect for women and often feel as though they don't require your consent to be sexual. You know what other types of men lack boundaries and respect for women,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 02:30 PM
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That is awful - I am so sorry. If he came into $400 (in an honest manner), he should have used it for the household. Not to buy himself a fucking toy. Not only is this person a thief and a liar, but he's also the epitome of selfish. That money, if it has rightfully been his, should have been used for bills, groceries and other items. This isn't a partner - this is a child and I am so glad you're no longer in this terrible relationship. It begs the question what else did he do, that he just didn'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 01:55 PM
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I feel like people like that are elitist and are asking “how much should I respect you” or “how smart should I assume you are. You're correct. Asking about your work right away : "how much respect are you 'worth'?" - your instrinct is spot on .And even, "let me discern how much money you make - if it's a good amount and I think I'll be able to improve my lifestyle, I'll be way nicer to you". I know female lawyers such as yourself, doctors, travel nurse (my sister was one, broke scrubs would alwa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 04:28 PM
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Not to mention, he interfered/ messed with her special eye drops so she started going blind again. Imagine being SO insecure, that you want your partner to remain blind. Sure it's a movie but we hear about stuff like this - it's out there and these men absolutely exist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 12:30 PM
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The hardest of no's. I don't stay friends with people I've slept with. I find it disrespectful for the next person, and so should they. Cordial and kind to the mother of his kids, yes. "Best friends?" - eek. Leary. "Well I don't want to be on bad terms." Not friends ≠ bad terms. Be an adult and move on. I think it's important to note that this isn't like a boy you dated in 11th grade for 8 months and still talk to now Ang again. A guy I had dated briefly told me he goes to a female friend's hous…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 05:53 PM
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Then they cry that all these little boys are being raised by their mothers Then maybe they should stop doing stuff like leaving their children's mom's for freshly -turned-18 year olds or behaving like 2nd, 3rd, 4th kids to their partner who ends up exhausted and with exasperation says "I'll just do it myself then." I've seen a lot of tiktoks attempting to be like "well women ask for the divorces!!!" Yes... Because we try and try and ask and ask and y'all still do less than the bare minimum. It's…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 05:44 PM
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This!! I reported a guy I knew from highschool for this - super old photos, from nearly a decade ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 05:32 PM
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Exactly. Legacy is the impact you had on people and places, the accomplishments made, the marks left on the world - did you make a discovery? What did you contribute? Did you leave this world better than you found it? Were you literally RBG or Rosa Parks? How narcissistic to believe your mediocre existence is somehow special.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 04:28 PM
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Apparently cavities have some communicable properties as well. no thanks! Along with "do you have proof of a negative std panel?" We should also ask "when was the last time you had a scaling done? When was the last time your 67 year old mom made your dentist appointment, Kevin?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 02:03 PM
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Totally, and thank you. It's so true. Even if they still live with us in the house the majority still manage to be Disneyland dad's and the occasional babysitter. "So nice of your husband to help, Carol, you're sooooo lucky!" 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 02:01 PM
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Totally. A guy friend I kind of liked once said to me, that he wanted them because "it looks like a lot of fun, I'm basically a forever kid so they'll be my little buddies!" All I heard was "I'm going to be a Kodak dad who regresses into an additional child for my partner, so she has even more work to do LOLZ! Yay! I'm a toys r us kid!" It forever changed the way I saw him. This is also the same guy who isn't over his ex, but is in a new relationship, and told me he can't afford therapy. But you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 01:59 PM
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As a childfree woman, when I was dating, men would get BIG mad that I didn't/don't want kids. I didn't know these dudes aside from being matched. So, I'd ask the following, since they were so passionate about my choice : "Why do you want to be a dad" Top answers I've gotten over the years: "It looks fun/ so my legacy lives on/to create someone who's like me/ I want to settle down and have a family (the classic non-answer). Back when I had a few more fcks to give and felt like wasting my time exp…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 11:27 AM
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I've answered "no, I don't know how. I photosynthesize like a plant 🍀" or "lol what? Yes I have basic life skills and am a functional adult!". This should be a very embarrassing thing to ask someone..are you going to ask if they clean and can dress themselves as well? But now I'm not on old, party due to deeply stupid questions like these and the creatures that pose them like they're really doing something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 10:43 AM
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This one is bad... Their breath is awful for starters. I had an ex who had to be sedated to go to the dentist. So he just never went. I was honest and said I hate kissing him because of his awful halitosis and he still did nothing about it. I'm also pretty sure he had an eating disorder (very very restrictive diet, worked out a lot, 26 inch waist at one point.. skin and bone) so I think this made his breath smell bad as well as his absence of dental care. Also, he was constantly giving me BV - m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 05:11 PM
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Thank you so much for the kind words, and I'm so sorry for your loss. I am glad you told him so, that's a terrible thing to ask. Gross!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 02:05 AM
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Firstly, I have always found the "so what do you do" as an initial opener as such an icky qualifier question. They're trying to figure out how much respect they think you deserve. I've flat out lied about my occupation to see how a doctor would treat someone who is a server. Hint : not great. I've also had the opposite, where they think you're a meal ticket. I once dated a surgeon whos friend asked how I met him (he assumed we met in med school). I named my industry and he kind of recoiled and w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 06:25 PM
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You can email in reports to police but as we all know - they don't give a sht about women and girls. I literally had a stalker... They didn't care. I was literally assaulted, blamed me and threatened me with charges. I have zero faith in the police. (I'm Canadian)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 05:30 PM
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It's always women who are sticking up for women and girls. Men are too busy patting each other on the back or looking to other way when their friends are doing truly horrible things. I've had things like this happen to me when I was a kid - it's bloody terrifying when some boomer tries to push or pull your tiny childlike body to get close to them somehow. Hell, even two years ago I was working at a luxury dealership and the shit men would say or try to do - scare me by driving recklessly, playin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 06:56 PM
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How they feel about cats is how they feel about consent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 05:20 PM
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Right?? NEVER.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 05:11 PM
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But I should be the only one to run businesses and government because women are too emotional!!1!1!1 we are so much smarter than women!1 that's why we need to be in charge of EVERYTHING!! WE ARE THE ONLY LOGICAL SEX. But also Garbage bag sits by the door, flies beginning to take interest "WHAT?? YOU JUST PUT IT THERE AND EXPECTED ME TO TAKE IT OUT? I DONT READ MINDS!11!! WHY DON'T YOU JUST SAY SOMETHING??!?11" *Leaves baby with him because you need some you-time after caring for it all day, ten …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 05:00 PM
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Oh thank you! Hahah.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 01:14 PM
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I get the feeling that he's angry because what he really wants, is to have sex with someone who is within very close range of being a minor. He's a perv. He likes 20 year old her because she probably didnt look fully like a woman yet? (Late bloomer here, no curves for awhile). I say flip the script - "let's see a picture of you from your 20s!! c'mon. Oh was she was probably a cheerleader, they get all the hot guys haha. Yeah you LOOKED really good BACK THEN. Haha so jealous she got to be your fl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 01:08 AM
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I very mistakenly told my male GM that I may need to take the occasional break at the luxury dealership I worked at because I had been r-d that weekend and am not feeling well from having stayed at the hospital to be examined. I said the stress and anxiety was a challenge. His eyes just kind of glazed over and said uhhh ok. And that ladies is how I was fired 30 days from the moment I told him. He hired me because of my looks and personality and now that I was broken (and trying to heal), I was n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 06:28 PM
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And then he tipped his smelly fedora and sucked the cool ranch Dorota dust of his fingers. No one wants to keep you, or your lack of social prowess, Sir Musty Neckbeard. Get outta here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 04:24 PM
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Do I bother seeing this guy again? Absolutely not. I don't feel a connection to him but it's so hard to meet guys who know proper dating etiquette. Paying for and planning dates are bare minimum around these parts. He doesn't have proper dating etiquette. At all. He refuses to answer your questions("that's a 6th date type question" - wtf??), He lacks empathy and walks ahead of you and is unable to comfort others - he lacks BASIC etiquette and social skills, not just 'dating etiquette'. This dude…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 05:29 PM
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At least where I live, both have a god complex. Teachers make great money where I live and are coddled quite a bit, they have the best benefits and retirement funds. But are somehow the cheapest and worst to date, in my experience/opinion. A professor was not happy I didn't want to go on a walk with him and drive with a thermos of wine, so he told me we didn't have chemistry and that he's so excited for the fall because there's "a lot of activity on campus" ( a lot of teenage girls who will be e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 01:09 PM
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acuses op of using shaming buzzwords * Opens with what is essentially a slur against feminists and uses a hashtag in front of the word triggered * Oh, ok bud. Enjoy your denial of your misogyny and iñcel vibes, while calling those who seek equitable treatment "wokies". This guy needs therapy so work through his hemotions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 06:34 PM
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This. Please do this OP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 03:55 PM
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This! I've (foolishly) tried as well and I got hit with "you sound like you're single/ you're probably single and miserable/ are you single or otherwise with someone who doesn't make you happy???". I looked at this guy's profile and it was full of super nasty comments about women, how we're useless etc. It's scary out there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 04:47 PM
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I read the same article moons ago. He demanded she start with IVF following losing a baby. He only ever wanted sons, and that's all he has. It's on purpose. He likely doesn't see them as his kids and likely is so narcissistic that he thinks he's doing the world a favour my leaving behind his genetics.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 11:05 PM
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I have a shirt that says "DON'T" just like the one David Rose from Schitts creek wore. It's from Etsy and probably my favourite shirt. No one except women have commented on it and only in a complimentary way, telling me they love it. No guy has ever commented on it. I'd be horrified if someone said "you sure 😉" or "is that a challenge?" - I'd call him what he is to his face - a predator. Loudly. I think her shirt is awesome but it goes to show how entitled men are. It's so disturbing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 04:36 PM
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This is far, far more than a dark joke. My bestie is a funeral director, we sometimes make dark jokes. We don't use a *recently found young woman - on Sunday, autopsy completed YESTERDAY - whose body was badly !decomposed! due to her boyfriend killing her as a got damn joke. It's not just "brah, not funny" it's very very concerning. *Her and I cried about it together yesterday. She knows a lot more about how beautiful Gabby looked than me and she declined to give ME details.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 12:44 AM
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This made my lip quiver in sadness for Gabby. This is fcking sick. Now, I'm just pissed off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 12:33 AM
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This.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 12:33 AM
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What on earth did I just read??? PLEASE let this be creepy misogynistic inc*l satire weirdness.... but something tells me it's not. Dude is about to committ a hate crime against women with these awful vibes/ that horrifying edit. THATS WHY WE'RE AVOIDING YOU. WE CAN FEEL YOUR HATE, JOE. We cross the street because your hatred of women is pouring out of your angry, sebacious debris riddled unwashed pores.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 10:41 PM
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Yes exactly! Instead it's like they said in the pod, men will think "she has been treated like shit, so I can get away with treating her like shit aswell since she won't know any better It's like a sick game - "how low can we go, guys?!". I'm just realizing more and more, men as a whole lack empathy in a really big way. Using our traumas against us, or worse - thinking we are broken/'used up' if say we've been r*ped or beaten. I was totally in the camp of "she's been through a lot, she deserves …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 11:11 AM
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Omg I'm sorry this happened! The "has anyone ever treated you like you were their priority" is deeply concerning. I can't think of anyone other than a therapist from whom that is even a little bit appropriate. How manipulative. And there's the thing - if you were to say "yeah, of course....?" He'd realise his shit test didn't work. Why are they like this?? It's honestly super creepy and obvious. Oh I don't want anything with you, I just wanted to give you unconditional love" Again, how manipulat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 10:57 AM
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Thank you, and you're so welcome. It's human to be curious but, there is a time and place - and with this query specifically, often that time is never and that place is nowhere. "If you don't mind me asking, what happened?" And I have answered "I absolutely mind." - very few people have the right to know such intimate details about someone we love. And they don't CARE. curiosity ≠ compassion. Many people are just gross and nosy, so I offer the following : "Our stories are not meant for everyone.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 01:02 AM
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The only time I will accept "take a chance on me" is ABBA's lyrics or an abused dog who deserves one. Otherwise...no 💛.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 11:40 PM
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Exactly. NEVER disclose your trauma. My sister recently died and I accidentally let it slip. No "I'm so sorry" no "how are you doing?" but right to "what happened??". I wanted to throw up and then immediately kicked myself for even saying anything. I victim blamed myself. IF THE COD IS NOT OPENLY SHARED ITS NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS (that goes for us too, ladies. Please lease please don't't ask unless this info is volunteered by the bereaved. Support the person in front of you who feels safe enough …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 11:33 PM
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...what's on offer.... Sir, highly doubt you're not being offered a n y t h i n g. Glad to know he just sees women as things that are offered up. His poor wife.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 09:55 PM
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Technically, I heard it on the pod! BUT. It works. I have been treated well - by like one guy, my gfs and most of all - myself. The dates I take myself on are often far more enjoyable than any I've been on with a guy. They aren't competing with other men, they're competing with my peace and solitude 💛. Heck, I treat me amazing, she's hard to compete with 🤣.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 09:16 PM
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"act like you've been treated well before" (even if you haven't). It'll ward off the lv/nv's. And of course, if they want to, they will.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 06:15 PM
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Criminal records are only accessible by the RCMP. I highly doubt someone would tell a person they're on a date with if they're involved in current proceedings/a trial that week which are sometimes posted, depending on the regional court. The courts have to be contacted directly, you can't simply search someone's name on the court website. You'd have to either attend in person or email and you'd need to know the criminals full name, date of birth and possibly more. You may even need the file numb…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 10:44 PM
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Canada doesn't have anything like this, which sucks. If you figure out their name and there's an article about them, then that's kind of all you can do. The RCMP owns the rights to Criminal records and only workplaces can pull people's criminal records.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 07:22 PM
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I hope they're charged as well. This is disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 01:34 PM
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This comment brought tears to my eyes. I think I should do the same thing. Thank you for sharing this 💛
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 05:47 PM
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I saw this one too. I like this ladies' account - this post was horrifying but I'm not surprised. As usual : "disappointed, but not surprised"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 03:07 PM
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T h i s Also isn't a 'thing' in that "community" where the guy is poly but she's not allowed to be 🥴🥴🥴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 06:43 PM
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As a fellow cf woman, it's like being a dad is a little badge they pin on their boy scout outfit. It's a massive committment but because the labour divide they can still run around being like "I want to be a dad, it looks so fun!" While every mother ever stands there and fucking fumes at that lazy, stupid comment. They don't want to father, they just want a title.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 05:46 PM
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To the top with this comment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 02:02 AM
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They'd think it's a good proposition until ... they get hired by: ✨ a woman or man they don't find attractive ✨. I bet then, it might feel oppressive. I remember watching that show about male SWs (I think it was called gigolos). They all had issues. Most of them, substance rooting from mom or dad wounds - unresolved trauma. They were not happy. I recently found this dj on tiktok. I liked his songs, made the mistake of going to google. Turns out that he is sober (an addict) and does OF to make al…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 01:59 AM
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It's deeply disappointing. Especially when I look up her salary and it's 127k a year. Must be nice getting paid that, via my tax dollars, to be a massive anti-woman sterotypical cop. Her mom is my mom's best friend. I've drafted so many emails to her boss but I don't think anyone would care. When my sister died, I called the detective (my sister was not ill, and didn't take her life). Never got a call back from her. Spoke to her boss, but not to her. I think when you are assigned to a dead woman…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 11:20 PM
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Right? The red flags were everywhere during that convo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 10:10 PM
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I'm sorry did you say you were threatened with criminal mischief for trying to report a rape? Yup the female detective told me "if I find out you're lying, I can charge you with criminal Mischief. You know that, right?" It's a tactic to get survivors to drop the investigation. She also meddled in my personal life - they demanded a sample from my recent ex ( a good man) because I had slept with him within the last 60 days. She said that if I didn't get him to provide a cheek swab, they were going…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 10:09 PM
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The most cruel, depraved men I've ever known are white. White woman here, spot on. Co-sign. The guys who have done a number on me, all white. They are even more entitled and are better at having their abuse go unnoticed. I've always said that had my r*pist not be a white accounting student, maybe the case would have been taken seriously. A case where I was actually injured . But pretty white boy? I clearly made it all up and was threatened with criminal Mischief. File closed to due lack of evide…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 08:26 PM
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I recently spoke to a man who made fun of my name by calling it "stripper name". I said, 'that's disrespectful', as it was clearly intended to be an insult to the name my late father chose which is an old name from his background. Cue 180° sTriPPerS aRe pEoPle tOO. Ur wAy tO seRioUs fOr mE. Yes I know they are people. The vast majority aren't there to keep their nose clean and pay for med school. They are often pimped, struggling with addiction, struggling with mental health issues etc. I don't …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 08:15 PM
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There was a post on one of the subs to the tune of "men what did you not know about women before that you do now and it has helped" and one guy was like "a lot of women don't like being called girls because girls are children and they don't appreciate it. I don't use the word girl for a woman anymore". And I replied saying that I appreciate that stance, as a woman, I don't like being called a girl. I (stupidly) took it a step further and said I also don't like being called cute as it's infantili…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 11:31 AM
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Saying you don't know what to say is at least still empathy when followed up with support. Absolutely, but there is a massive part missing- the last word in your sentence. Support. It's absent in this example and therefore I stand by my "unhelpful and dismissive" statement. Saying you're there for someone, and walking that talk really makes a difference. When it's empty promises, it does a lot of damage. I'm hoping you had support, compassion and gentleness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 03:47 PM
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I'm sorry about your sister Thank you very much. It's been really hard. I couldn't handle the "condolences" which turned into people wanting me to comforting them. I tried to set boundaries around it and ended up so angery that others got mad at me for doing so. I was expected to support other family members through their grief but no one was supporting me through mine. Are you me? Her friends haven't checked up on me, haven't asked me if they can help, nothing. Her friend gave me shit for not w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 03:42 PM
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I managed to text him and he basically was like “that sucks” and then proceeded to ignore me. I'm a migraine sufferer, and this is such a massive turn off. You can grab me a tea and some gravol to drop off? Let alone soup for when I'm able to keep something down? I honestly just think they hate us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 01:42 PM
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Okay, I am really bad at comforting people when someone died (as soon as they cry, I start crying too) This isn't always a bad thing, but if you didn't know the person who died, it may seem that you're making it about yourself. As someone greiving her sister, her friends were quote selfish about all of it in front of me. Yes they lost a friend, but she was my sister and I think some decorum is needed during these sensitive times. Because they made it about themselves, it made/ makes me feel like…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 01:40 PM
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In a comment in a different post, I pondered with another user about if it would be helpful to write about how something like a death can really show a man's true colours. He doesn't give a shit about you, and that's disgusting. I don't care that some people think death is awkward to deal with or whatever, it's so low value to be like "I don't know what to say...". That's unhelpful and dismissive. He should have dropped by some flowers and asked if he could come see you for a bit to hold the spa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 01:31 PM
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Entitlement and audacity rolls eyes so hard she requires consult from an opthalmologist
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 05:55 PM
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"well, whatever" - my male boss who egregiously over values himself in intelligence, leadership, interpersonal skills, industry knowledge, his contributions to his marriage/fatherhood. I started discussing how I read an article that discussed how the the Greatest Generation (1920s, 1930s) coddled boomers and he starts spitting "my dad isn't coddled!!11!!1". Jesus Christmas dude. Triggered much?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 03:08 PM
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Very happy to hear that. 🤍🤍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 02:44 AM
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I agree. . How men of different values react to grief/death/illness is an important thing to vet for. "Hey let's get you out of the house, I'm going to pick you up in a bit and let's go to (do thing I like/go to place I like) . Vs "why don't you come over so I can "make you feel better" and 'comfort you" (use you for sex when you're at your most vulnerable) vs "ew stop talking about (lost loved one), it's literally ALL you talk about ugh". The part in wedding Crashers when they talked about cras…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 12:19 AM
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This!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 10:35 PM
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I'm so happy for you that this was your experience. Phew. The outliers give us hope. Thank you so much for sharing. I hope you're feeling and doing well. 💕 Sending love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 10:33 PM
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Outside of work, I volunteer for hospice. Cancer stats: 3% of those abandoned by their spouses are men. 21% of those abandoned by spouses are women. https://www.nbcnews.com/health/health-news/men-more-likely-leave-spouse-who-has-cancer-flna1c9450218 https://catholicherald.co.uk/ch/why-men-leave-their-dying-wives/ In marriages that end due to illness, 90% of abandoned spouses are women. It's usually friends who come to the aid of the sick, dying and afterward, the grieving. Friends. I know they'r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 10:31 PM
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Right? Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 02:55 PM
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I have a VPN I pay for which is super cheap (acronym is PIA), but there are free ones. One is tunnel 🐻 for example. ONWARD my Canadian sisters! 🇨🇦🇨🇦🇨🇦🇨🇦
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 11:06 PM
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This is brilliant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 11:05 PM
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"What is the best book you've read this year?" The answers were extremely insightful. If a man was like "lol i don't read books," it was an automatic unmatch. I ASKED THE SAME THING and reacted the same as well. Some guy was like "I like movies tho". I can generally tell by their spelling and grammar if they read or not. Some dude was going on about Kenneth Follette pillars of the earth and I'm like "oh wow, how do you feel about the violent r*pe scenes?" And he's like "uhh...uh...". "Lol I don'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 09:50 PM
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I had a guy use spit as lube, despite my very healthy, responsive and lovely body producing plenty of its own. I asked him not to and he said "I like it" and I said "I don't. I don't want you to use your spit on me, and we don't need it". It's smelly, doesn't really work for long and most importantly: a great way to get BV or a UTI, or who knows, maybe worse. This same guy also spent all of five seconds going down on me. Reward selfish lovers and those who don't understand any variation of NO wi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 09:59 AM
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We need an overhaul. I don't know how or who can't help but it's honestly just another place run by a bunch of rich white dudes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 10:44 PM
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Why don't men date themselves? Hit the nail on the head. When I was on OLD I'd see things like "looking for a *girl who likes NFL and NHL and drinks craft beer with me" I've messaged before "it sounds like you're looking for a bf, not a gf 🙂". They don't like us, they don't value us and they only see the world through a lens of "only what I or my bros like and want matter hahahah. Bonus points if she makes me look good( my friends think she's hot/want to bang her)". Imagine being THAT self absor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 08:03 PM
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Even LinkedIn.... ,🥴🥴 Not me checking your profile and finding your boss. Do not mess with me. The audacity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 07:46 PM
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I love this for you! Splurged on charcuterie for a night at home, paired with prosecco and a movie Are.... Are you me??? Especially the Prosecco. 🥰 Sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 12:51 AM
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I practice this at least biweekly and it has shattered the ceiling for expectations of men. If you don't book an appropriate place, time and offer to pick me up (I always decline for the first few dates) two to three days in advance for a Fri or Sat, I'll not be impressed/excited. Declination is highly likely. *My time is a non-renewable resource abs should be honoured as such. Yes, I am a brat these are the standards with which I date MYSELF. Rising as I leave to and from the table to go to the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 12:48 AM
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doctors advised her against it because the potential for infection/losing her leg wasn't worth it. Absolutely. I have two friends who are orthopedic surgeons and I recall asking the one this question out of she's curiosity, if it's possible. He said the same - not recommended for why you've said. These scrotes would rather her be seriously ill, lose a limb, or die than he unatractive to them. "Oh she died of sepsis from nec fasc? Well atleast she wasn't hairy hurrr durrr"🥴🤪 (/s)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 09:47 PM
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Laura Bates is the author of Men Who Hate Women - we all need to read or listen to this book. I have, and it's very well done...sobering, scary but very necessary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 07:07 PM
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In Canada it's super illegal, and so is pepper spray or even using hairspray as a weapon. We have a 1% conviction rate for rape - obviously, of those that are reported. The police will dig into your past, humiliate you, ask you unnecessary information - the whole process feels like an entire violation of your privacy, agency, and humanity. But yes, the men whine about fAlsE cOnVicTioNs. Paul Bernardo went to his hometown for yet another parole hearing. Sure it was denied but he shouldn't even ha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 07:03 PM
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does anyone know why men like to embarrass and humiliate women? Especially women they don’t know? When you lack just enough confidence, self worth/ self love, maturity, gratitude and general happiness - oppression feels powerful. That's why. It's a sad, pathetic malicious power move. Confident, well adjusted people mind their own damn business and don't go out of their way to try to harm anyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 06:53 PM
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Yup! Disclosed so many hilariously awful red flags. Blocked on my walk back to my car. Went to another place for a glass of wine - I had my hair done and was wearing a great outfit. Should have just made it a self-date to begin with. 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 05:39 PM
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Yep. As someone who takes herself on lovely dates, if he doesn't want to share those experiences with me and *isn't in a position to afford those experiences, I'll continue to go alone. *I was recently stiffed with a bill - I shared a few peices of my meal (butternut squash ravioli, browned butter and sage sauce, nothing overly fancy) since I find it very rude to eat alone, yes I know this was too generous of me. He advised he had already eaten - who meets a woman and eats beforehand? A guy who …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 04:51 PM
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Exactly! It's so gross. They could tidy themselves up a bit and don't bother but expect us to look like pre pubescent girls. There's a young lady on tiktok who broke her leg quite badly. From knee to ankle, she is wearing a super common setting device - rods attached to the screws which are helping her heal. Poor thing. But you bet there are digusting comments from men telling her to shave her leg, calling it a gorilla leg etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 04:20 PM
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I told him I wasn't aware he worked for me 😭✋ That is hilarious! Hahhaa. Permission to use? 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 07:51 PM
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, he just wants her to return to maximum fuckability AS This! He's in for a rude awakening. Some a-hole reposted it on some BS medical advice sub saying she wants to eat 3000 calories a day - noooo where in the post does it say this. The majority of men want kids (and shun me for not wanting that lifestyle) yet are so unprepared for the struggles - firstly being, supporting a partner going through massive boldily changes. Why do I get the feeling he's like 5'6, overweight, receding hairline and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 08:43 PM
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Step 1 : Be an unoffical member of CSIS (my countries" version of the FBI) 😂 - basically this is just being nosy. Having has dated a three serial cheating narcissists, my experience was borne out of hard lessons. And that's really it. A super upvoted comment says "found ops main account", and because it has so many upvotes, while sorta imbedded, it just comes up. I clicked on the dude (who is very conveniently agreeing with the throwaway account, and calling him a good husband...tf??) the whistl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 05:06 PM
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So accurate. That book Margaret Atwood wrote is becoming less and less like fiction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 03:36 PM
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Hair loss, loss of bone density, gum disease, cavities, thyroid issues, my friend has heart failure which was ignored until she nearly died despite being 3 times the size full of fluid immediately after delivery, and a billion other things. I know two women who have rhumatoid arthitis after bearing children, due to the deficiencies. He's only worry if she's going to "look the same" (she won't, and only if she wants to, she can try - hopefully this guy has the money for a mommy makeover). He's on…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 03:32 PM
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His actual account is commenting on his throwaway, and he just called himself "the smartest person here" 😂 because he's agreeing with himself and trying to make it seem like he's soooo very worried for her and the baby's health. We all know he's just worried she's not going to snap back to a size 2, 10 mins after birth. He is so unprepared , worse, unwilling to be a decent partner and parent. He doesn't deserve her or the child she's creating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 03:10 PM
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I am horrified for you. Are you still married to that awful person? How did you forgive him for saying such an awful thing during such an vulnerable time? You can still report to the college in your province/the prince this happened in. I had to have a procedure 6 weeks later because she had nearly sown my vagina up! I am so sorry for the trauma you've been through. It's not okay. Our bodies STILL seem to exist solely as masturbatory orifices for men and I'm so sick of not being seen as a HUMAN …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 02:57 PM
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Yup Canada gives no fucks about its women. Most forms of self defense are illegal Exactly! Pepper spray, those sharp knuckle thingies, and a lot of Americans for example have no idea that you're not allowed to carry around a loaded gun unless you're a cop, in the army etc - all illegal. But, if you beat the sh*t out of a woman, you're likely to be released in 24 hours. It took a former friends brother beating his ex gf to a pulp FOUR times before he was sent to jail (not prison) for longer than …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 12:52 PM
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How very dare I! A last minute walk date where I have to bring my own wine in a tumbler?! Swoon Lol wtf. I've never drank wine out of anything other than a glass. I don't even own a thermos tumbler thing. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 12:31 PM
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she ran to her family who gave her tea and sympathy and then sent her back to him cause “he’s your husband” 😑😑😑 I asked my ex's mom to come over, and I was shaking while I told her what he was up to. A switch flipped - and she got a nasty tone with me and said "well he's very stressed out and you don't work, so, that's a lot of pressure" - he was my ex boyfriend not ex husband - he was getting divorced and wouldn't allow me to get a job and his ex wife very much ran our show - I never knew how h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 11:54 AM
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Canada: 1962: women could open a bank account without her husband's signature. 1983: marital r*pe became seen as under the definition of sexual assault. Prior to this, it was still our "duty" and forming consent was not necessary. I don't like some of his tweets but : http://imgur.com/a/vpiur3r Women weren't happy. They were trapped. I had a colleague say to me "I wish we were back in the old days, like every grandparent I know stayed married. People don't stay together anymore". Well yeah you'd…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 11:46 AM
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Yesterday. YESTERDAY! I called a used car dealership to help my client out with something. The guy heard my name and says "we what's your last name?" And I'm like uh. (Gives surname). He then says "are you married? Are you from (the place I live, not work)? Where do you live?" And I'm like "I don't like to answer questions like that while working, I've just called to help (Mutual client), I'm looking for -" (he interrupts me) and proceeds to have a fucking meltdown. ",OH MY GOD WHATEVER. I WAS J…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 07:44 PM
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I had a phone call with a man who was a professor and seemed lovely. We discussed dinner one day the following week - he was having family visit and between my board meetings and his work plus this family visit we didn't have a ton of time that week. The day after he asks me at like 3:30pm if I wanted to "go for a walk and bring a tumbler of wine". I said "oh I thought we had discussed dinner next week. What day works for you? I don't see walks as a date since I walk B (my beloved dog) twice dai…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 07:29 PM
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This would be a great post and I'd be happy to collab if you want. I've been childfree for as long as I can remember and it's horrible out there for cf women. We are either told we're not worth dating (I have, anyways)since we don't want a family (be a domestic slave who also works full time and also does all the child rearing - just so he can have heirs to his lEgAcY) and if we do meet cf men there's a reason why he doesn't want kids - it's not because he wants to have less stress and bit more …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 07:02 PM
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She's awesome. I love her tiktoks. Also "jRK it to Joe Rogan" - bahahahah. The accuracy. If only the Joey R and Jordan P grovellers understood just...why...oh why* do we not like them 🤣 - you're still down the street from the path to enlightenment but it's a small step.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 10:33 PM
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I'm sorry OP! I agree - he isn't ready it would seem. Did they date for a long time? I generally ask when the last relationship was and how long it was fairly early on in. I've had guys be like "yeah we were together for 3 years and we broke up 2 months ago but yeah!" - you're a smart woman and I think you know why that would be a massive red flag. Same goes with a death. Grieving any loss - breakup, death, etc is a process. I hate that it seems you were rebound. I hate when people do that. didn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 01:34 PM
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I was recently stranded and out of my own irresponsibility, my renewed credit card was sent to the wrong address. My fault. The company would not take my visa debit and I would have had to drive to an atm. I called a gf and she got me a car service, that I recommended, that took me and my car home when I went a little off the rails 40 mins outside my town (longer story).. My sister has recently died and well, if anyone here knows greiving - it can be ugly. I had too much to drink and refused to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 03:26 AM
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Misogyny literally kills women. Misandry irritates men. Big difference there. We don't hate all men here - just walking skid marks who don't do their fair share, are mean, and have nothing but the audacity to offer. Unfortunately these types are the majority and they are blissfully unaware - they arbitrarily, hilariously and rather aggressively inflate their market value. The few that are high value are appreciated. See? Not all men .. 😏. (See what I did there).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 05:43 PM
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I haven't seen misery! Is it good? Have you seen fried green tomatoes?! (If not I recommend! 💛)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 05:22 PM
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Oh, okay. My bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 10:29 PM
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Tell me why when I checked his "dogs" instagram account, his poor dog was following over 2k instagram models/pornstars. Why did he bring his dog into this? His dog doesn't deserve to be dragged into his pornsick ways. As a dog mom who made an account for her dog a few years ago, this makes me sick. It's so gross. Of course these women are going to accept an invite from a pup... It's very deceptive. I don't know what upsets me more - that he's using his poor dog like this or that he put the thoug…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 08:15 PM
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Kathy Bates in that movie Fries green tomatoes in case anyone is wondering! I love that she snapped. I hated her man-baby. So much. Idgie was a badass!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 08:01 PM
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My colleague is like this, except he's "5'9" (he's 5'5 at very best. I'm 5'2 and this my favourite work heels on I'm 5'5. Yes I wear 3 inch pumps to work 😂).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 10:20 PM
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grimaces in horror
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 09:23 PM
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It's very sad. They were just little kids. If the parents refused to have their children taken to school they be fined and/or taken to jail. no adult could give me a satisfactory answer as to why women couldn't be priests. I struggled with this one too - why?? It probably has something to do with women being capable of birthing more followers. She can't be a virgin if she's pregnant - that whole immaculate conception story is ridiculous. My boss is French canadian and said that the priest would …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 08:29 PM
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Yep. Recently in my country, many many many graves of children were found at residential schools - where native children would go, be abused mentally, physically, sexually, emotionally and spiritually. They would not allow the children to honour any of their customs, wouldn't allow them to speak their indigenous languages... And so much more. Deaths were due to starvation, drowning, TB, the flu and other preventable and treatable illnesses. The Canadian government, the Rcmp and the Catholic/Angl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 08:01 PM
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He had no real substance. No real sense of humour. No real personality or style. No real hobbies outside sport. He was just ‘nice’. I eventually got bored of dating him and seeing him as some unicorn just for not being an asshole. We now bring everything we need to the table, and then some, so men are actually going to have to start working on themselves and do more than the bare minimum (not hitting, yelling, being violent etc). Nasty "jokes" aren't a sense of humour, it's an indication of emot…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 05:48 PM
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road rage....etc...etc. I had a man get out of his car, twice, at a stop light - I guess he felt I was too close to his back bumper or something in the stopped position. He approached my car, screaming ate, and kicked my car several times. I did not engage, stared straight ahead and then called the police and gave them his license plate. The cops probably didn't do anything but imagine being THAT unstable ... Yikes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 04:45 PM
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Also, I've been told by men to 'Google it'. When I googled this term, its a condescending way to put someone down while acting like you're smart. I say it because I don't care to do emotional labour for someone I haven't even met yet. Why is the planning of the date on me? It's just not attractive to me. Perhaps it's fine for others here but at least try to do some of the work in choosing places, dates and times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 03:35 AM
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you can bet your money that he will take someone else there I've introduced a few guys to some awesome spots and I am resentful, haha. Google it.' Same here, where's the masculinity in taking the lead? It's a turnoff when they want to want to piggy back off my ideas. Not being able to choose a place is so pathetic and I've lost interest by then. "I don't know what you like" isn't a good excuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 10:36 PM
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She was raped - blame shift. Every time. See also: Underage woman sexually assaulted (a child was raped). They always to tidy it up to make sure the poor man isn't blamed to harshly, we can't have that can we, with under 1% of rapes actually being convicted/s So sick of this world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 05:41 PM
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I dated an overeater....not sexy. I popped in a frozen lasagna and I cut us good portions for our sizes. I felt his was big. He said he wanted more, a brought the rest of the tray with the knife to cut him another portion...ladies, he took his fucking fork to the rest of it. I was of the school of thought "a dad-bod/ chubby, medium ugly guy will be nicer to me". 😂 Stupid me. The lack of control was so unattractive. I'm sure he blamed his overeating on his ADHD, which was being treated. This guy …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 05:27 PM
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I am now a counselor by trade. Love this for you 💛💛💛💛
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 04:27 PM
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Mods you are ON IT today! Thank you. Saw the nasty comment from the inçel saying for me to "go f myself" but because you caught it so fast, I didn't have to go through the trauma of reading the whole thing. Thanks ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 10:45 AM
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All of us.... but not all men, right? (/S) 😡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 11:47 PM
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I've only had other women protect me from men. I had posted a comment not too long about about how I stood up to a guy at a bar who was name calling and being very belligerent towards a young lady ...who was there with her boyfriend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 10:12 PM
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Funny how full blown murderers go to prison for 9 years and rape convictions are less than 1% - but yes, please use my fucking tax dollars to pay the judges presiding over this bullshit. Fuck these guys. Actually, don't. I hope no one ever does again. Pigs. Canada justice system is a mess and it BLATANTLY hates women. Source? I'm a DV survivor, one of the 97% (it's probably more like 99%) and have been fired for indicating inappropriate words and gestures from clients towards me. Edit: I should …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 02:32 PM
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Ohhh oh what a jerk I'm about to make it worse. Women who want reconstruction done for their mastectomies wait awhile to see him. He decided on a Wednesday evening he was leaving for Montreal the next day at around noon- cancelled every single on of his surgeries, and acted like it was nothing. he was surprised or even insulted I dared to ask. Ew, that level of arrogance is disgusting. Why do certain professionals just automatically think they're so much better than everyone else? That our conce…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 05:39 PM
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Your two comments have shown me more compassion than I've received so far from people - friends and family alike. I truly appreciate your kind words.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 04:29 PM
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Thank you - I didn't mean to derail the comment section - I hope no one thinks that. This past almost two weeks have been the absolute worst.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 01:48 PM
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It's awful. This is the same guy who brags about not knowing how to cook anything ("not even eggs") and bragged about cheating on her... Etc. I feel so bad for her. I live in Canada and they left a country that seems horrible for women ...only for her to be trapped here, too. Makes my blood boil.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 11:51 PM
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💛 I appreciate your words very much. Being the sibling is very isolating and lonely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 11:39 PM
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As the youngest daughter to three older sisters, I am so sorry. One of those sisters has recently died and guess who was responsible for everything. (Me. Also, she was only 38).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 11:26 PM
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We have to not parentify children. It's not a childs responsibility to be a role model.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 11:22 PM
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I have had a male coworker tell me that he wants a third kid - despite his wife succumbing to rhumatoid arthitis brought on on by her first two pregnancies with their sons. He wants it to be a girl : "so she can help with the boys". I've never wanted to committ assault so badly. His wife's body is forever changed and she lives with constant pain - he doesn't think adoption is a valid choice, still, despite this. She already isn't able to work outside the home and has no hobbies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 10:56 PM
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My coworker was talking about his "loss" and I panicked - my sister was found and I was notified by the police a few hours later last Tuesday (25th). I was terrified that he had now lost someone too. He was talking about the leafs and Canadiens. We are a small office so saying he had a loss while I'm sitting there after three days off due to single handedly planning my sisters arrangements.. just... Wow. It's very important to read the room when you knowingly have a greiving person in your vicin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 08:12 PM
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Watch Barrett Poll on tiktok - he has a series called "straight guys aren't straight". He's absolutely onto something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 08:07 PM
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My boss has a client who was charged with taking videos and photos of a 16 year old he was "dating" at 19. He didj they charged with sleeping with her since the courts were fine with it apparently. He called and had his baby daughter close to him since I could hear her cooing and so forth. It enraged me. I am childfree and never want kids, buy imagine if I was one of many women who wanted a child and was having a hard time - knowing that a dangerous criminal is sitting there with an innocent bab…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 12:07 PM
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I agree with this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 12:04 PM
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He's an awful person. Straight up said I treated him better than anyone has. He dumped me over us having a phonecall about basic decency - he told me I was "not independent" because I said its disappointing and hurtful to leave me on read for ten hours while showing active on both FB messenger and instagram. He said it's for work. He's a pharmacist and I dunno about you, but where I live, they need liability policies to ensure they've protected should they get sued by a patient. He tried to tell…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 08:41 PM
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You are so welcome. Yay sis!!! Cheering for you. This made me smile. Thank you! I've stopped dating guys who I don't find attractive. It's also not lost on me that the hottest guy I've ever dated will occasionally send me cute dog tiktoks via Instagram, and went downtown the first night we slept together. If he wasn't such a cynical emotional robot with a very jealous ex wife, I'd genuinely consider him. Facts: we broke up because he was going through far too much and couldn't deliver on my bare…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 07:15 PM
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because when they find someone way out of their league, instead of being happy and grateful, they behave like shit because they think they can do better, except that they don't. Hi my name is, - and I'm a victim of this crime 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 06:43 PM
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Haha. I DM'd you actually because I woke up and chose chaos.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 06:14 PM
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I hope you've healed from that and are in a better place. 🤗🌞 We don't ever fully heal from our trauma, but we can allow it to continue to teach us and we can continue to work through it. It's a journey, not a destination. 💛
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 05:50 PM
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https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.urbandictionary.com/define.php%3fterm=spinner&amp=true Here ya go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 05:46 PM
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they knew exactly what he was up to! This pisses me off. "Not all men" but how did they stick up for us?? They didn't. IF YOURE NOT PART OF THE SOLUTION YOU'RE PART OF THE PROBLEM. If the men are so powerful and strong and awesome why are they not standing up to one another and calling out shot behaviour?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 05:42 PM
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Chronic and acute overestimation of market value.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 05:19 PM
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piano-legged, beer bellied, picket-fence toothed, soft-shouldered and a minute man. You're 🦆ing hilarious!! Bahaha. Projected a deep and thoughtful personality. Fake as shit. After the wedding, I never saw that guy again in the 10 years we were married. An utter waste of time. But in all seriousness, I am so sorry. Are you alright now?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 05:03 PM
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Excuse you, give me my 🤡 back! Did the same thing. He looks like Jack blacks uglier evil twin and is also overweight. Like his-boobs-are-bigger-than-mine overweight not this "dad bod" business. He used to whip it out as his way to tell me he wanted sex. He refused to go down on women. Told me he only dated "pretty girls" 🥴. Dumped me when I stopped tolerating his demands for me to do all the driving and planning and his constant need to be on social media but couldnt answer a "how's your day goi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 04:44 PM
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Haha yep. My comment was more tongue in cheek. Sass is my middle name 😂.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 03:49 PM
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We sure do! 💪🏻 (Not me personally, because I'm childfree. Why am I childfree? 📣 Because I'm hetero! What do I not want?!📣 to be a single mom despite being in a relationship! m3n are why I'm cf!)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 02:23 PM
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This is a great comment. Also it was fine to r*pe your wife until 1994 in Canada. (Rape rarely results in a charge here anyway see so it's not like this law even matters. White DV and SA survivor her- , our justice system is only for middle and upper middle class white men, only.) My boss told me his grandma used to sew her nightgown at the crotch. Why? The priest would come over and demand they make more French Canadians. I don't know how to shut my mouth, and said "uh, coercive sex and pregnan…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 01:59 PM
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Can we assign them childbirth, periods and menopause, then? Seeing as were too delicate and those events just just too strenuous. 🙂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 01:48 PM
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I'm too delicate for men. They're too strenuous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 12:10 PM
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Are we the same person? Haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 12:03 PM
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Exactly! The actual protectors (and providers) are extremely rare. That guy I referenced at that bar I was at - the only person who asked me if I was okay as another woman and she was my server. One of many standards for a man (since I'm cursed with heterosexuality) is that I feel safe around him. As mentioned, I'm 32. I've dated. Only ONE man has ever made me feel safe in his presence. One! That's it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 11:58 AM
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Can we talk about her leaning away? She wants zero transactions with his...buisness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 11:44 PM
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Come on, sis. We have to report these events. Why would you comment this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 11:42 PM
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Oh my dog. I am so sorry. I want to let you know you're NOT alone. I too have had been treated like shit by a guy while with a bf. Not sticking up for me makes me feel like I'm babysitting a kid. I'd expect a child to sit there and act stunned. Not a man. Men have such a hard time standing up to their fellow men. It's digusting. FOR THE SHITTY LURKERS : DO BETTER. Men leave everything up to us, including our own defense. You're not an alpha Kyle, if a dude got in my face we all know you'd look t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 07:02 PM
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UNDERRATED COMMENT ALERT. Yup you are spot on, sis. We have laws to prevent things that would happen. We have laws against all sorts of stuff because it had happened at least once and that was the precident. I honestly completely unironically believe that if the legal age was set to, idk, 12 or something, men would 100% be out there dating ("dating") these children and justifying it as their right to do so. Yup. And then there are MAPs. They think they're part of the LGBTQ2SIA community. What do…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 05:46 PM
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Wow that's super kind. I am careful about when and how I speak up - public, busy-ish areas, during the daytime. I had one drunk guy scream in my face at a bar, and it's kinda messed up, not one person stood up to pull him away from me. I was like "yup, today might be the day that I get my orbital bone re-fractured. Brace for it. Breathe." Why did he get mad? He was calling another guys gf a b*tch because she wasn't engaging with his stupid drunken blabbering. I want to be any abundantly clear he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 05:22 PM
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Thank you for the kind words! I looked like I wasn't allowed to work there - in Canada you have to be 18 to serve alcohol. These men were in their 40s🤢. Men have no she about preying on girls and young women who are the same age as their own daughters. They're sick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 03:44 PM
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they sound like they're at a construction site. Laying pipe is the newest one I think along with jackhammer for popularity Good examples. This being said, I've only ever heard women say jackhammer and it's derogatory towards a mans performance - and for good reason - they often try to go as hard and as fast as possible, because we're just supposed to lay there and feel honoured that they wanted to "eff" us in the first place, meanwhile, it likely hurts and ends too quickly to get us anywhere nea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 03:39 PM
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I'll never stop. EVER. I've almost been hit a few times for it, but I'll take one for the team. I think it's so telling when a guy stands up to me and tries to get in my face. I'm 5'2 and ~120lbs. I guess threatening someone who is the same size as your average 8th grader somehow makes dudes feel extra manly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 02:30 PM
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We are not people in their eyes, we are sex toys 🤮 Precisely. Santient fleshlights. I've been saying this forever : very few mem see sex as something they do WITH US ; they see it as something they do TO us. That's why our pleasure - foreplay, orgasm, etc - and knowledge of our anatomy and enthusiastic consent - is so unimportant to so many men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 02:05 PM
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Probably not. It's when a guy thinks he can like, spin a petite woman on his 3inch pornsick gummy worm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 01:56 PM
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Omg let's make this a thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 01:32 PM
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Very, very very hard. I'm dead serious. I was only ever cat called between 12-17. Keep in mind I'm a late bloomer and didn't get hips till I was 19 and was an a32 a double zero. I was TINY. When I was 18 I worked at a bar, and I recall a bunch of guys referring to me as a spinner. I hadn't a clue what that term was until much later on, and imagine my horror. If men don't believe you're under 18, they just ignore the fact that you're a minor and keep asking you to hang out anyways. Being called m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 11:06 AM
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Right? Meanwhile 50 year old men can watch 13 year old girls shake their bottoms and impressionable you women can watch those "I'm a sexy Dom submit to me" tiktoks BUT THIS gets taken down. I love tiktok for people like Barrett Poll, Herspective and Polly Pistol but there are some very dark things going on with that app.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 10:10 PM
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I don't think for a second that the whiners really want a family. I don't think so either. They want a submissive and mute domestic slave who also works 40 hours a week and contributes to all the bills, takes on 90% of the childcare, emotional and mental load.. we all know this list goes on and is exhaustive. I've been saying this forever, most men today just want a dad label (dad= good guy, hard worker for some reason) and Kodak moments for social media likes. I only know one father who is invo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 02:22 PM
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I have about two hours left on my Audible version. It is very good, and very eye opening. The strong connection between in¢el_s and white suprem_cy is.... Woah. She makes a lot of great parallels in her book. I had posted a few months ago here about the Montreal Polytechnic college shooting. It's considered in Canada as an act of terror_sm; more specifically misogynis_tic terroris_m. The shooter wrote a manifesto/suicid_e note and it was basically that he hated feminists and named 19 women that …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 02:09 PM
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That she was in a similar situation, being repulsed by an ex. And that this man is hiding something/definitely not being upfront. I too have been repulsed by a man because he wasn't masculine, was not a provider (told me not to work, despite never giving me money or access to any), was mean (I was afraid of him), I wasn't allowed to have friends and only had one hobby which had atrxt time constraints - we only had one car even though he could easily afford another. He made me a survivor of all s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 03:46 PM
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Seriously. Or, they virtue signal about " I'd never hit a woman". Mike that is literally the barest minimum...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 03:33 PM
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Yay, nvm in training. Because we definitely need to add to the overwhelming amount of them already crawling the earth. My sisters kids are like this too but she also isn't raising them to be productive members of society. She snaps at them for being lazy, but no consequences are handed out. I feel bad for this woman. That sink is ridiculously full. I'm sure they have zero issues about completing quests in video games or keeping track of sports stats. I'm happy to have her borrow my terrifying po…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 03:26 PM
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Chances are, as a woman, you’ll be a single mother (even if you’re married or have a male partner) Exactly. This is why I'm cf. I know far too many married single moms. It's not worth it for me to have a kid(s) plus a man child who sulks when you don't give out participation awards for "helping" (doing his fucking part). It seems like a ton of work to be a mom and wife.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 03:16 PM
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What in the mouth breathing neckbearded porn induced erectile dysfunction is this... How come.she can't call her legit dad daddy, but he can call her "baby"? "Hey Kyle you call me baby, that's fucking weird. Do you have a thinf for infants??" Would be my comeback. That ago gap though. She probably looks like a teenager still. Lucky for her he'll dump her as soon as her first fine line comes in. He likes em young. 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 11:33 AM
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too much effort "She didn't want to go for a walk and then come over to my house for a first 'date'. She's so high maintenance!!!11!😡😡😡"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 02:02 PM
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It's so horribly toxic that I'm like good, thanks for showing your true colours. Also your user name is great haha. Suspended animation is described as the following and can help save a life if a traumatic injury is sustained: EPR involves rapidly cooling a person to around 10 to 15°C by replacing all of their blood with ice-cold saline. The patient’s brain activity almost completely stops. They are then disconnected from the cooling system and their body – which would otherwise be classified as…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 02:00 PM
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you know what, forget it, have a nice life" Ah! Triggered haha. This is so accurate. Like it's been said verbatim to me. 🤮🤮🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 11:08 AM
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"it's not my job to provide her with a vacation but it's her job to provide a roof over my head" Oh, ok bud. Good to know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 02:44 PM
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Well sure sounds like she fits the profile of a trump supporter, since she is one: racist, homophobic, AND clearly has anger management issues. Massive yikes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 01:37 PM
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One thing I like about this sub, is that we never bandwagon blindly, and your comment is a great example of this. A lot of other subs and other online spaces have hive mind, especially when the population of that 'community' is filled with a certain sex with certain beliefs. We think critically and do our own research and are able to respectfully come from a place of education to comment either support of an alternate opinion/view or to say hey here's a link/some info or Google this - this perso…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 01:18 PM
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“scrote” into Scott WHAT DID YOU DO, SCOTT??? This is funny and made me laugh, thank you for that siberansummer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 09:10 PM
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Oh my god I've picked up a cat when I thought it was indicated and he sliced me across the cheek. I felt so bad and then panicked, and made sure it was very clean. Sis, if you get a cat scratch, please treat it very seriously and clean it, flush it and monitor, closely. Any swelling and redness, go to a professional who can give you antibiotics. Pay attention to how you feel physically as well - tired? Sore? Etc. Think about how and where most indoor cats poop. Now think of your face. Also now I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 01:27 AM
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Hey! 5'2 lady here. It's not just lately but it's been a thing for some time, in my experience anyhow. A lot of guys have said they "like my height". That's because my diminutive stature makes them feel: tall, strong, more powerful, and as an added bonus some enjoyed joking about me being a spinner or them being able to 'toss me over their shoulder'. I'm also around 120ish lbs, but I've been as low as 100 (I looked unwell and probably was). I know this because I've asked, what is it that you lik…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 08:48 PM
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I have a girlfriend who has a boyfriend who treats her this way. She works so hard (three jobs) and does all the cleaning. He has one job and sits around. He doesn't even parent her. When my friend has something to do,she drops her daughter off with her mom. His parents don't help at all either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 02:22 PM
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Omg....🤦🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 11:54 AM
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Herspective
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 08:09 PM
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Reading the book Not Nice was helpful for me. I'm a very kind person. But... I'm not very nice. Very few people deserve our kindness aka our emotional labour (empathy, consideration etc that make up kindness). Nice is Kind's flakier, surface-level only, saccharine cousin. And the other comments saying that if someone describes themselves as nice, that's a big fat crimson flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 08:08 PM
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I work with a guy who will ONLY do first dates at HIS HOME. I'm like what?! I'd never go to a guys house. The typical excuses "yeah but I'm not a creep" (she doesn't know that...) "Well then she'll figure it out" (or not, you psychopath - I didn't say this one outloud) "my first date with (ex gf) was at my place" (I muttered well I guess she got picked) and I'm like "man, if I guy in his 30s presented that as a first date to me, I'd block him and save myself the trouble of being stuffed into a f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 10:17 PM
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Visual, so much so that the vast majority thinks skincare and nice style/unwrinkled clothing/put together outfits is only for the fab5 on Queer Eye. As it's been said in the comments, they're only visual when it comes to us and how we look.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 09:58 PM
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All of this - I'm childfree and guys are like omg U dOnt wAnT kiDs???? No my dude but I get why you do... Men still don't do shit and we are in 2021. I've asked why and the answers I get are either a) about their legacy b) it looks fun. It's not all fun, it's hard work. Very hard work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 09:24 PM
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Adventurous to these guys means he requires a lack of self preservation in his little pixie. It's not because she likes hiking or roasting marshmallows, it's that her danger radar isn't just off, it never worked and she's fine to have a vAN dAtE because her standards are so low that peeing outside on the ground is like, totally fine 'cuz I'm not a pRuDe'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 05:06 PM
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Pixie wanderlust fairies? Like, to go with your very obvious and milignant Peter pan syndrome and NoMadIc LiFestYle? He sounds delusional which I guess makes sense when you live in a van and are looking for a story book character to bang.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 04:57 PM
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Hurt feelings aren't justification to put someone's life in danger🤔 And it's scary how they think this is okay, even acceptable in some places (most?). "Men are afraid they'll (women) laugh at them. Women are afraid they'll be murdered." Yeah, a little different.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 12:38 PM
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Oh! I have another one. Went on a date with a chiropractor and I felt down a massive flight of stairs because we want for a hike during a hot day and he didn't want to eat and I ran out of water and wouldn't help me find any. (If anyone here has been dehydrated and hot to the point of heatstroke, you'll know that confusion is absolutely a symptom). I fell. Down stairs. And dr douchcanoe says "uhh...did you fall?" No, genius, I just love hurling myself down flights of stairs and landing at the bo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 02:39 PM
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vasovagal syncope I get this when it's too hot, if I'm too anxious, or during a Vax or blood work, and sometimes during chiropractic adjustments. I'll just pass tf out. It's kinda scary. I'm so sorry you had to go through this to realise the lack of empathy this person had for you. I suffer from migraines and I've never had a guy I was dating offer to bring me anything. Upon getting a migraine at a lvms house, he was super annoyed because I had overstayed my welcome by not being well and he pret…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 02:16 PM
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I have no idea, but I cannot begin to explain the pain of having a fellow woman, who is paid by the region, to protect you, say this to you. It broke me open. About 3% of rape allegations turn into convictions. I don't want to rehash, but there was tons of evidence but if you're caucasian and a professional (my rapist is studying to be an accountant) you're already a leg up here in Canada. A lot of people get away with terrible stuff here. A man drove drunk, killed a family with his car and got …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 01:27 AM
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Oh god sis, ra.pe is barely a crime here. It's fucked. I was literally v i c t i m b l a m e d by a DETECTIVE. MY DETECTIVE. and then she threatened me , the victim, with Criminal Mischief charges if "I'm lying". God I have such a seething hate for her. Meanwhile she makes $181,000 a year ... From my tax dollars 🥰.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 10:21 PM
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Edited to add some clarity. 🙂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 10:18 PM
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Had a guy remove the condom part way through and then he ejaculated inside of me (I live in Canada where this isn't a crime), and I had no idea as he didn't say anything or make any other indication that he either ejaculated or removed the condom (weird and creepy af). I hopped up and freaked out after I asked him if he had come, (he replied yes) and then asked him why he didn't say anything/make a sound "I dunno, it felt good but I dunno I don't usually say anything" . I want to point out, also…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 07:44 PM
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Totally. I was so grossed out. He was like 'well a girl i dated for four months came over for our first chill'. Well, she got picked. He "dated" her (received sex affection and care) because he wasnt and still isn't over his ex. And knowing this he got involved with another woman because he's an emotionally immature a-hole. He also remembered exactly how much the only dinner he took her out for cost ($230). And he said he was SO MAD and that she offered half but he was such a gentleman to have d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 11:02 PM
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All yours. The creator gives you full permission 💛. (It's my handwriting 😘)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 12:32 AM
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It's hilarious. He recently told me a "girl" (grown woman) "sassed" him about a "come over and Chil at my place" "date". I told him that it's kind of inappropriate to ask that of a woman and furthmore to frame it as a date. He wanted to make sure she was worth it first before "going out and spending money". 🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 12:31 AM
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Missed the part where you showed interest in him approaching you Right? Ohhh no...checks notes the horror......./S
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 11:18 PM
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A little bit of backstory: I've been wearing matching rings on ring and middle fingers of each hand for a few years now. I like how they look and didn't think much of it. I work in an office of three men. My boss certainly has his moments but he's the most respectful one here. A new guy started recently, and the two other men (new one 30m and not new one 24m) stopped me while I was in one of their offices for a question they had. "Why do you wear a ring on that hand?" (The other parrots : "yeah …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 07:13 PM
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In my idiot pickme days I paid the bill for a first date with a guy (I also planned it). He wanted to come over after and I said sure (am I insane????). Nothing happened - no touching, nothing, I had just met him. He told me I was "standoffish" and "didn't seem to like him". I told him he was welcome for dinner (since he hadn't even said thank you...) and to never speak to me again - I don't eff on the first date and sorry you just told on yourself. He wanted me to buy his meals AND be a satient…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 08:08 PM
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Another post to nail in the fact that if he wanted to, he would. The cat wanted to, so they did. If a dude is too busy to get you flowers (the grocery store was busy! Arrangements cost too much! I dinti think ahead because youre my mommy and that your job!😭) tell him to break a neighbour's flower off the nearest bush - with his teeth - and run to you with it, in massive haste. Sometimes it's dead small animals or its flowers. Crows will bring you shiny stuff, sometimes coinage. My dog provides u…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 11:28 PM
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I'm the only woman in my small office. The three guys I work with don't reach 5.11. one says he's 5'10 but whatever. Our boss is about 5'9 and the 5'8 guy recently discovered he's 5'7 and had a but of a conniption about it. But there's the thing - they're all misogynists, none of them use ANY skincare so they look terrible especially the one who works out constantly (the bags under his eyes are dark and shriveled, and he's only 30) the 24 year old one has bad hair and a receding line and is a bi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 06:15 PM
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Peddit Hah. Spot on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 11:26 PM
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Ugh me too sis. Me too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 11:10 PM
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I’ve got the tonal range and pitch of a fucking twelve year old and I’m 35 32 here and I'm the same. If I wasn't Canadian I'd be a textboook southern belle flirting her way through client interactions. I've started catching myself with "I'm just.." as backspacing on the "just". I've just started doing this. I feel sort of stupid. The crap I let slide I do in order to retain employment but I'm not proud of it. I got off the phone too quickly with a client (who is commiting fraud) and my boss call…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 11:09 PM
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This. I asked my boss during my two weeks of wfh "hey, did my hours change?" Because I'm salaried 830-430. He would constantly have me stay till 515-530. I asked a question. He was like "um, noooo" then we dropped it. He called me at the end of the next day and told me I was "rude" and "aggressive" and when I asked him how that particular question was rude he backpedaled and said "well it's justout of character" and I said "that's a lot different than rude or aggressive, (boss' name). I didn't a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 11:04 PM
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And now that most of us are, they're like "no, I only do 50/50 (but you still have to work full time, come home and do all the cleaning/cooking/emotional labour there too, and if we have kids, yeah that's your thing...uh, I'll be at the bar with the guys watching sports)".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 11:14 AM
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Yep. I work in an office of all males. They go for drinks together and golf and whatnot on the weekends and I'm never invited.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 04:31 PM
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Hah! Accurate!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 02:22 PM
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I've never met one who didn't feel extremely entitled, while also have awful piss poor social skills. What are you entitled about? The money you make? Your car? The plastic surgeon told me that he never went on vacation with a girlfriend (only his ex fiancee, she is a doctor, too). I asked why and he was like "well if they can't afford it they can't come". Ok Roberto, maybe don't go to Bali or Dubai and expect a flight attendant or nurse or me (in neither) to be able to afford that. Look, I once…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 01:18 AM
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Both, with over cooked fries and stale garnish.🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 10:06 PM
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Very. It's pretty hot. But the bar is not in hell, it's at our earth's alleged volcanic core.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 10:02 PM
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Oooo you came for me and didn't know it babe. I'm about 115 lbs. The overweight men I've dated have ALSO been short and they fkn treated me like shit. Pure contempt. And the incels get mad. Um, we've likely given you a chance and you've treated us like shit. You'll see other comments from me about how he tugged at /pinched my tummy. ... Which is just skin. You don't have to worship me because I'm hot. You need to respect me regardless of your stature, status or weight. I think they hate us. I ha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 10:00 PM
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That's why I did this. To show himself is disrespect and our bartender was like yikes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 09:53 PM
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Same. Also if love to know who's downvoting my comment 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 07:06 PM
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Right. But theyre all like NOT ALL MEN. Gfy, Kyle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 07:05 PM
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Same!!! I refuse to see a male gyno now. My GP is a man and he's is very lovely - I'm cf (childfree) and he made sure I got to see who I wanted to. I feel lucky to have such a great doctor who genuinely cares about me - he's one of three men I trust in my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 06:57 PM
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I'm a small woman who is also small framed/bodied. I have a fire breathing mouth and a silver tongue. Small men hate me despite me being "height appropriate" for them because I have zero time for their shit. I also have a very small dog who isn't allowed to do typical small dog stuff. (She is a 7lb min pin). Just because she is small doesn't mean she wasn't trained exactly the same as her brother who was doberman. I don't date taller men because I'm a heighist shrew. I date taller men because th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 06:54 PM
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Ego, being a doctor isn't a priveldge to them, it's a right. To them, they're a priveldge to their patients. He bragged how funny it was that he has the closest parking spot to the hospital. Parking for patents is much further away. He's a digusting human. Part of his practice is reconstructing breasts that have had mastectomies. He has no right to touch our bodies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 06:50 PM
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It's proper etiquette to allow a lady to walk a bit ahead of you, at her shoulder, as yours supposed to literally have her back, on the non traffic side. Ideally you walk shoulder to shoulder. In doorways you open the door, she steps in, and then the man leads in case of danger. I don't approve of waking behind a man on sideways etc. Crowds, yes - I'm 5'2. I also love having car doors opened and chairs pulled out. Obviously I can do these things myself, but chivalry is sexy to me. I once had a g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 06:40 PM
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I dated a guy who paid the bill and left. Expecting me to follow. I hadn't finished my wine. He comes back all in a huff asking why I wasn't "following". "I don't follow anyone, I'm not a sheep. I also wasn't done my wine". He's a plastic surgeon in Toronto who just expects certain things. He's 5'5 and it showed. Poor manners, mean, dismissive. Also, constantly spoke about his ex. It's terrifying that someone so self unaware has the lives of others in his hands.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 06:33 PM
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He owns the agency. I'd rather not. It pays the bills but he continues to place more on my plate - he feels he pays me * a lot". During. Each one on one, which are weekly he usually brings up the salary I make. I honestly don't make a lot. Under 50k (I live in Canada, are income taxes are high and so is rent etc). He has put me into a position where I have some authority but only when be says I do. It's confusing and feels abusive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 06:25 PM
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I literally asked my boss if my hours have changed when I was wfh for two weeks. That's all. "hey, have my hours changed?" Bedside he was expecting me to stay till 5-530 when my hours are 830-430, and I am salaried therefore no extra money for staying late. He told me I was "aggressive" and "rude". Excuse me???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 04:33 PM
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Nest Moira roae dressed as a crow popped into my head and now I can't stop laughing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 06:55 PM
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Right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/21 03:51 AM
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My colleague was discussing how some of our South Asian clients only want to speak to our South Asian colleague (valid, they speak the same language). I said "I totally get how that feels. Welcome to being a woman haha. Both sexes often ask for (our male boss) despite me having more industry experience, because I'm just not trusted on the basis of my sex and gender" instead of "that sucks" or anything supportive/remotely empathetic they (both men) jump in and say "yeah we all have things to deal…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 09:30 PM
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Much more minor than this, a (male) server at a restaurant I used to love to go to and was a regular at, found me on FB and messaged me, asking me out. I called and spoke to the (male) owner, who thought it was funny. Lovely. The server was very rude to me upon my next visit, so I stopped going. Another place I used to enjoy - the owner did the same thing. Found me on FB, asked me to hang out. I'm so sick of guys like that ruining things for us. I enjoy my own company - me taking myself for a me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 03:00 PM
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I've posted this article on this sub in the past. Op you missed the part where he didn't allow her to mourn the death of their first born and wanted her to pop out her five kids immediately using IVF. He's insane.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 12:54 PM
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Please someone help me find my eyes, I rolled them so hard that they fell out of my head 😂😂😂. I have a joke with my friend who is an ER doctor. I say "page optho" (optho - Opthalmology) and it's code for "I rolled my eyes so hard that I now require a medical professional who specializes in eyes to help me". You made me laugh!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 12:52 PM
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That's great for you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 05:03 PM
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He's truly one in a zillion, and I'm fortunate to be able to call a wonderful man like him my friend. 🙂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 01:39 PM
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It really doesn't take much. I've dated very fit men, ⭐ a Chris Evans doppleganger, ⭐⭐ an overweight man who isn't conventionally handsome, a fairly thin man, a man who was 5'7, etc. ⭐⭐ I just want to point out that this particular one treated me the worst. He would neg me and tell me how he only dates pretty women and he doesn't "do" oral sex (oh, he'll receive it though). ⭐ And he treated me the very best. He is a hvm and has left big shoes to fill as so to speak. Not that I'm looking for anyo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 01:35 PM
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I had been on a cf for cf (cf= childfree) sub Reddit for us cf people to meet each other. Every single guy is either: - I'm super nerdy hurr hurr - talks about video games at length - is almost always obese - poorly groomed - "I'm a huge geek" - "ethically polyamorous" - "nomadic lifestyle" Like both nerdy and geeky can mean "unfashionable and socially inept". The latter being more important than the former, everyone has their own style but seeing some effort to look presentable is appreciated. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 01:06 PM
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A few years ago, I approached a guy and he told me I was awkward and creepy. So that felt nice. I'm not ugly, I have great social skills, size 2/0 (not that that should matter) and I'm well liked. It was so rude of him! Never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 11:38 AM
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Pretty scary that vanilla today basically means you don't want to be impaled or accidentally murdered. I was called puritan on Facebook for saying the porn industry is not sex positive as it uses and abuses women (and at times, men) and supports the trafficking "industry". Sure, I'll be a puritan if it means I want to protect others by spreading truth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 04:15 PM
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No, we're not. They're just mad they're going to have to step it up. Sailing into awesome positions is going to be harder for them if we actually have the skills, experience and credentials and not just a son of the directors best friend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 03:33 PM
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Yup. Look up The Second Shift! Work full time and then come home and do more work. Craig vacuumed like twice this year, lay off him and stop pressuring him! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 03:32 PM
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It almost seems like divorce is the only way to get men to pitch in. And often, they'll have their parents come over or drop them off somewhere else. It seems like the only solution to have some freedom as a mother. I'm cf and I made this choice a long time ago. I have GFs who have had great partners and then they had a kid with him and there was this very weird shift - suddenly everything was just suddenly her job. It's like oh she had a kid for us but she's home so, I don't need to pitch in. W…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 03:26 PM
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misrepresenting Hmm. The industry I work in sometimes has misrepresentation occur and it's a form of fraud. Fraud is a federal offence where I live. Who/what is protecting her from legal action? Has she not heard of slander or libel?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 12:35 PM
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My male colleague was visibly and audibly bothered by yesterday and his mini tantrum didn't go unnoticed. Sincerely, someone who doesn't walk her dog at night. 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 10:45 PM
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It's not even being mean (unkind, cruel etc). It's literally just not putting on a customer service voice/smile for them at all times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 04:14 PM
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In my own personal experience, I now have a min pin. I used to have doberman. Both are /were trained to touch nothing that is not their own. I, too, could lay a steak on the floor, ask them to Leave It and walk away. I could leave for hours. Nothing will happen. Their dad, however, was constantly begging for sex and if I didn't give it he'd force me or wait till I was asleep. Here in Canada, that's called rape. But also in Canada, they hate women and take none of our concerns or abuse seriously.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 11:47 PM
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They aren't self aware enough. Plus South Asia is a hardcore patriarchy. They don't need to be self aware; they're told from day one that they're perfect for having been born with XY chromosomes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 04:55 PM
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Men will always put their self interest first. Time for women to start putting ours first too. Amen. Well said, sis. There's a post on Imgur I saw a long time ago. A lady with a gorgeous pitbull dog put a steak she made for herself on a coffee table and walked away. The point of this post was that her dog knows not to touch her things or her food. She then used her dogs ability to refrain from crossing a boundary to ask why men aren't able to do the same, and basically said her dog is better beh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 04:52 PM
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WHY IS HE STANDING FOUR MILLIMETERS FROM HER!😡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 04:23 PM
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I want to scream. It sucks to be raped in Canada because they will do everything to let the guy off, especially if he's white. "insufficient evidence" despite a large amount of it, so my case was tossed. I never share this with men. He wasn't concerned about her being uncomfortable with sex. He saw her as damaged goods. Used up and broken. There was so compassion here, just selfish behaviour. I can't imagine going through a stressful court case with a guy who makes my horrid experience about his…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 10:50 PM
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I had a TA in uni who had been diagnosed with MS when she was in highschool. She's super smart, has a PhD now, speaks several languages. She's cultured, fun, interesting, funny among other things. She's attractive, too. She's cf like I am so she will only have cf guys. The last guy was such a gross little mommies boy that he dumped her after wasting 5 years of her life because his mom told him to - apparenrly his mom asked if that's what he wants in a wife - someone you might have to push in a w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 10:42 PM
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As a cf woman, I've been tricked so many times. I guess being a dad is cool since you don't have to do much but still get to run around calling yourself a parent. Being a parent isn't a personality trait and they don't seem to get that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 12:15 PM
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Our tax dollars support our provincial health plans. For me, it's OHIP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 12:06 PM
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willing to learn women's anatomy, Who wants to count with me how many times your urethral opening was mistaken for either a) a vagina b) a clitoris I'll start: At least 3.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 09:56 PM
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Same here. I haven't met her yet but I would love to. I really enjoy that you said "gently kidnap". 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 09:45 PM
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I deadpan said "that's fucked up." And he's like "no no no. It's not. It's what we do." "We" meaning South Asian I guess? He's from Pakistan and I'm white. Stupid little white chick doesn't know any better about his holy lineage! He has yellow fingers from smoking and his nails are long. They bags under his eyes would not pass the weight test at a commerical airport. He's not wealthy. Hum.and his wife sleep in seperate rooms. His wife has an autoimmune disorder from being pregnant with his child…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 06:13 PM
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So accurate. And you're right. The baby and kids stuff is for the woman only, it's just that he really wants the Dad Pin to put onto his boy scouts sash. Populating an already overpopulated world is an honour for us women and we better accept it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 01:25 PM
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Here is some emotive gold rather than giving reddit money. Let's make a pact to give $3-5 to PP or your countries eqiv for every boss comment on here if at all and when at all possible. 💛 Who's in??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 12:54 PM
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But my male colleague who does nothing to raise his sons and help his wife with rhumatoid arthritis wants a LEGACY ok?? They even travel seperately so if one kid dies the other legacy carrier will live. Oh and he's grateful that theyre both boys, too. I wish I was joking. This is a convo I had with him yesterday. He told me I could always adopt. I had to explain, for the fifth time, what childfree means.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 12:51 PM
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Oddly (not) it seems more women than men are truly cf (like moi). Of course guys are happy to be dads. One diaper change and you're a hero. Your legacy will be so appreciative and we shall speak of this honour for many moons to come. /S Guys are big mad that I don't want kids. Just received a diatribe last night from a man I had been speaking to about how he'a now "not sure" and he'd have kids with the "right slave" sorry, I meant to type partner. But that he's not put together enough right now …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 12:47 PM
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He also references elders. It's likely one of those culty religions where men are allowed to do what they want but the women must be perfect, virgins, and never divorced, don't talk back etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 02:51 PM
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https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMej3fxXA/ I posted this yesterday and a helpful sis messaged me to tell me that it links to my account. (thank you!!!) She didn't want me getting harassed, so I removed my post and today is Monday so I can't repost it. 💛
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 04:25 PM
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My 44 year old male boss referred to me as "girlfriend" (how's it goin' up here girlfren) and "girl girl" ("hey girl girl!" Very loudly while I was on the phone)last week.. I'm 32... He thinks we're all casual and cool. It makes me sick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 03:58 PM
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Ah, rats. Thank you so much for the heads up. I'll see what I can do, I might just have to remove it all together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 01:12 PM
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She's amazing. If she allowed the downloading of her video I would have done that but she hasn't allowed that on her profile which I respect. Have you seen her other videos? She is so articulate and to the point. Very little bias. Just facts, on the table.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 12:34 AM
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Additional valid points : https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMejgpchR/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 11:57 PM
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What...the.... Frick....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 06:44 PM
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I feel ya. But I feel Elon will try to purchase mars, and I don't want to live anywhere that's owned by a misogynistic, abusive pos. Boop. https://www.marieclaire.com/sex-love/a5380/millionaire-starter-wife/ Edit: I live in Canada which is run by rich kids who either literally or figuratively s each other's d, so like, am I doing much better??? 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 06:10 PM
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What effed up world do we live in where being an active member and contributor to a relationship is simping??? I no longer wish to live on this planet. Is there another solar system I can move to?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 01:43 PM
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And like how unsanitary - he could have given her an infection or something. Obviously I'm being a bit too generous with his moral fibre here. It's just a very violent way to tell someone you give 0 f about then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 02:05 AM
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This - she just have been in so much pain. This makes me sick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 01:59 AM
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That's quite sad. I grew up with a neglectful mom and she never allowed me to meet my father. Actually, I wasn't even allowed to ask about him. Theis being said: he didn't fight for me at all. Then he wrote me out of his will after I met him and spent time driving him around, paying for and making food, et cetera. Meeting him and building a relationship with him was all my idea and labour. Kids shouldn't have to go through what I did. Its better not to have them at all if this is how dad's (or m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 05:42 PM
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I had a guy friend who told me that he wants kids because it "looks like fun". I explained that it's a ton of work and I recommended taking his neice and nephew for a weekend, solo, just to see what it's like. He said "omg no way my sister wouldn't let me have them for a full weekend, she's protective". They assume we're going to do all the work. Its 2021 and I still hear men say it's "watching their kids" for their wives/partners.😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 04:21 PM
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I hate it when a man's first question of me is "what I do". I've started saying "I convert oxygen into carbon dioxide" and one guy was like "damn that sounds complicated". Sir, it's just breathing. They want to make sure you don't have a certain type of job ("I don't date servers" said one guy to me since my SECOND job was serving at one point) and that you make enough money to help him with a down payment for a house but also don't make more than him or have a job that garners more respect /mig…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 10:04 PM
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" I speak fluent sarcasm" -im likely emotionally and psychologically abusive and I'll gaslight you into thinking my mean-spirited comments are funny and that you're am immature snot for not agreeing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 06:16 PM
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"she might use me for dinner" "He might assault me, sexually or otherwise and I'll have to deal with the ptsd for the rest of my life." Yeah. Not the same. You're so right though. They're so scared that we don't look like our pictures while we're worried that he might be dangerous. There's too many "home dates" because of covid. Not only is this the lowest effort ever, but how out of touch are you to not see how that would be problematic and unsafe for a woman?? I think they do know, I just thin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 04:13 PM
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Oh sorry Verona! My bad. To your clarified point- I was the poorer one and later, the more stable one (two different men) and your research certainly checks out! That's good. I only intended to share my experience I felt matched that part of your comment (that it seems I misunderstood). Thank you 🙂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 07:40 PM
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There's a much greater emphasis on women being financially stable first Absofuckinglutely! I've made comments on posts before about this, and my tangible experience with it. A guy told me I don't deserve to me taken on dates as I rent as opposed to own. He owned a home and one of his first questions to me was "do you own your home?" And I said "that's really not a question one should ask so early. If I asked you that, you'd likely call me a goldigger or something. It's a bit offside and very pre…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 05:04 PM
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They are called Parents. YUP. Haha. Hit the nail on the head. Also what about STI? How stupid he is really? It's scary how little they care about their OWN bodies, they're not going to care if they give us HPV, PID, chlamydia (which can go unnoticed and can scar your cervix) or Herpes (to which there is no cure.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 07:22 PM
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Yes! I once broke up with a guy and said "if it's not a 'hell yes', it's a no" (I knew what was coming and he was "well it's not a hell yes... To which I replied, I guess I have my answer. All the best. )
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 06:55 PM
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Oh my god I am so sorry this happened to you. It's sexual harrassment. And how dare they invite him to the office where YOU (the victim) work. Are your bosses men? Ugh, not like it matters. I had a female manager who told me to sit on a bench and talk to me colleague about the fact that he WALKED Into the bathroom I had just finished using and said "oh I would have liked to seen that" (the poor grammar is making me cringe) with a smarmy half smile. I was legitimately traumatised and only 18 at t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 06:32 PM
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If you have expectations for your treatment, they want you to have a career they deem "good enough". What I do isn't always "good enough" for men. And then sometimes, others are intimidated by how I carry myself, speak, and my level of accumen/education. Can't fricken win. If you're willing to sit there and watch him game instead of taking you out, yeah they don't care about what you do, because they just don't really care about YOU and you're a warm body who watches them play video games and ta…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 09:07 PM
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holds up score card that reads the letter "D"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 03:56 PM
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fricken terriying. If theres one thing I'm a bit jealous of with regards to my friends to the south , it's that you're able to check someones background. Can't do that in Canada if you're an individual - the RCMP owns all those files and unless you're a third party company doing a background check for a potential candidate, you're kinda SOL. (Or, as far as I know, if anyone has a resource for me please let me know! )
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 03:38 PM
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I wish we could do this in Canada - the RCMP (our federal police) doesn't allow individuals to check criminal records. You have to fill out a form if your job wants to do a background check and they use a third party company. You'll only know if someone broke the law if you google then and there happens to be an article about it. I googled a guy who had asked me out ok a date. He r*ped a 16 year old when he was 38. Thirty eight. He was at a party with literal kids. Wtf. He was not charged at the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 10:46 PM
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I agree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 05:51 PM
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To each their own, right? If I did something cute, maybe, but referring to my appearance as cute.... It always rubbed me the wrong way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 05:50 PM
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I agree with you. Men seriously have no idea how to communicate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 05:39 PM
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Can I just... I hate being called cute. Puppies, kittens, fox kits... Those are cute. They're also babies. Anyone else here irked by cute or girl?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 05:38 PM
2

I understand what you mean, I don't think I'd consider someone famous. I really like my privacy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 01:11 AM
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Omg he's so beautiful. But he's been married like three times. Sus. SUS I say.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 04:56 AM
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Accurate!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 05:46 PM
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They are usually taken, or think they're too good for us despite often not reaching other categories such as intelligence, empathy, sense of humour. I have the same problem. I feel you on them turning mean. Happens/happened to me to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 05:46 PM
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Guys who don't actually like us persue us, because all they care is catching us at the end of the chase. It gives them a moment of a feeling of accomplishment, some endorphins and an ego boost. They don't see us as actual people. We're just a quest in their video game of life. You're hard to get, and he's enjoying the game. He wants to know why a beautiful woman isn't pining over him. He's thinking "This usually works. Why isn't it working with her?". Also, now I want truffle tries and bubble te…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 03:25 PM
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So he's an amazing partner because he stopped "non consenting consenting" sex? You can't consent prior to. This kink is just rape. Effed up that she thinks he's a prince for simply not raping and violating her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 01:56 PM
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This is underrated. The "I'm waiting" honk is actually extremely rude. Get out of your car, you slob. Who raised you? Manners don't cost money and the sooner they start doing the bare minimum, the better. And to think these mend expect us to share out bodies with them and they can even come get you properly. Jesus h.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 03:28 AM
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The steroids actually do make them manic. So, you're right there. They have chemical imbalances - someone of the most unstable men I've met are/were steroid users. They're mad, happy in a blink of an eye, really mean randomly but then get super anxious and oops, accidently cheat because "you're to good for me". Nut jobs. Avoid avoid avoid. I know guy who use them to lose weight. Instead of working at it, they fuck their endocrine system... Sometimes permanently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 04:53 AM
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Very sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 12:22 PM
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You bet it was! He was so shocked when I was like "well that was awfully rude" when he said I couldn't stay over due to having had two drinks because his mommy wanted him up bright and early to go have brunch or sme bullcrap. He's like yeah... So... And I'm like ok well either you can walk me to my car or I'll Uber to it. I had a little nap in my car, which sucked because it was winter. When I woke up I blocked and deleted his number and then got on my way back from Toronto to the region I lived…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 03:54 AM
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But all that pours out is water, mysogny and low self esteem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 03:42 AM
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This! Feeding your guest is investing to these idiots because they don't see basic human needs such as food as important to someone he's just using as a fleshlight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 03:40 AM
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Right? I travelled an hour to hang out with a guy friend who was happy to have me sit in his apartment all night. I was like " I'm hungry, and it's getting kind of late. I don't eat after 8pm. Where should we go,?". He said he had had a late lunch and I'm like " I didn't. And I'm in Toronto to see you. I'll just grab something on my way home" and I got up. He panicked and took me to a trendy overpriced taco place. How tacky to invite someone to come see you and not even making sure your guest is…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 03:38 AM
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Serious question : do guys who do roids know they look ridiculous or do they ALL have body dysmorphia and think they look like they work hard for that? If I was taking ephedrine meant for race horses, I too could be chiseled with permanent cardic tissue damage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 03:20 AM
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I went to google and braced for the worst basically. I had an idea of what they meant but I didn't want to spread misinformation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 04:39 PM
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Just the other day, I was reading responses to a comment I made about how they always go 50/50 and that they don't like expecting men to pay/ aren't comfortable having someone pay their way. STOP IT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 01:18 AM
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I don't think I want to be got, I want to be ✨continuously earned✨. And it's absolutely a way of life. I've had guys say things like the good ol' "ur playin hard to get lol". No, I am hard to get. (* Don't bother saying this. Please. They're negging you. Block. You're too difficult to get sex out of and they're trying to knock you down a peg. )
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 01:12 AM
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I told my boss massages make me anxious because I don't like strangers touching me. He then told me to get over it. Like, omg. That's all I have to do?! Years of trauma and abuse can be forgotten IF I JUST GET OVER IT? OMG HES A GENUIS YOU GUYS. 😐 The last RMT I had was a female and she hit on me and kept talking about sexual things like how her sex life is with her boyfriend and how she "dabbles" in bisexuality and how I should look into maybe being a "pillow princess" after she asked me if I'v…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 12:55 AM
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I see that as so pushy and creepy... This woman isn't letting a stranger come over. Why do they think it's reasonable we allow them into our homes!?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 06:18 AM
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5'2 here as well, have weighed this little before too...I looked very sick. her boyfriend is a monster - mine told me Iwas a " fatty" at 120.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 06:02 AM
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Just a friendly reminder than two terms used in this post mean rape. Noncon = non- consensual Freeuse = you can use your sex partner ( slave?) whenever, wherever for whatever. They think they're smart by thinking their GFS or whatever can blanket consent to any and all acts of sex ( rape?)moving forward. Their kink is that she can't say no, apparently. Disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 05:53 AM
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Oh, splendid! 😟
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 05:36 AM
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I've tried to talk to her about it but she's very, very defensive. She won't talk to me for days when I express concern about not drinking water, let alone not eating. She has an older son, who lacks respect for her and an impressionable younger son, and I don't know how she can parents when she's always sleeping due to having nothing but reserves for energy. It makes me sad. I thought about moving out near-ish her but I fear that it'll strain our relationship since she will likely dump my nephe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 08:34 PM
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She seems pretty full of herself, yeah. It's a bit much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 08:30 PM
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I feel you. I also have "spiritual" sisters but they only use it when it suits them. Being kind and acting lovingly only applies when they are the recipients. But if you have a problem? Oh, you're killing their vibe and you'll get dismissed. Also, I've noticed they HATE boundaries, but only when other people are enforcing theirs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 07:15 PM
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That's awful. What a prick. Also, pharmacy students know better than to brag about having access to narcotics and the like. That kind of comment could get him kicked out or at least, put on review. Very rude of him to talk at you, and then assume you're paying for him - typical PUA artist. I once paid for a guy who have me shit for not being affectionate. Um, I'm turned off that you expected me to pay and even more turned off that you expect me to kiss you or whatever when this is the first time…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 05:46 PM
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I kinda get that from her posts. She really does give a holider than thou vibe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 04:55 PM
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Omg really? My sister once met with her and she was extremely harsh on my sister. And Kristyn is like "she breaks you so she can open you up! It's beautiful!" And I'm like hmmm that sounds a lot like abuse ....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 04:38 PM
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Omg. That's a bit much and I feel you... I worry about my sisters drug use. She told me that I'm depressed because of my lack of spirituality, and if I get in touch with Source/God I won't need my antidepressants. I told her the extreme risks of cutting off the medication cold turkey. She is against Western medicine increasingly. However I know that psilocybin is being used to treat severe depression, ptsd, and I think that's great... In a control group with professionals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 04:37 PM
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Canadian. I turn down free drinks, absolutely. That's just being safe and smart. But if I'm on a date where I've driven myself, he can get a drink. That's a bit different in my eyes. To each their own! Happy new year sis! (Again, Canadian 😉 it's still the 31st here).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 04:34 PM
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Amen, that's exactly what I should have done. And yeah I am the type to expect they pay the first date. 50/50 isn't a date; that's what I do with my friends. Heck, even some of my friends pay for me more often since our incomes sometimes are very different. (For example one of my friends is a surgeon. A $100 isn't to him what it is to me so we don't exactly do every other, sometimes he will treat me twice in a row type thing. Always appreciated 🙂)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 04:10 PM
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You're right. My sister once told me that during an ayahuasca "ceremony" (trip) that her "guide" (a spirit, not a physical human) showed her how "powerful" she (my sister is). My sister then told her friend that her friend doesn't "know who the f*** I (my sister) am and how much power I have". Sometimes I worry that the shroom microdosing and these "ceremonies" are causing harm to my sister. She'll also dry fast for a week at a time (dry means she won't even have water...). She says it makes her…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 03:14 PM
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I regret not doing this. It was just a glass of wine, but I wish I had only paid for mine (he said he forgot his wallet in his car, and I don't usually bring mine on first dates, so I went to get mine.) A bit of backstory: I was dressed in a pretty black Hi-Lo maxi skirt and a white tank, nude strappy heels, my favorite necklace (silver) and my hair and makeup on point. He showed up in jogging shorts, a soccer team jersey shirt thing . He also didn't look much like his photos and had lazy eyes t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 02:56 PM
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Seriously. I live in one of Canada's wine regions and there is a German winery owner/grower. He is divorced from his extremely classy ex wife who is honestly beautiful. He married a Korean who doesn't speak a word of English. I asked the son of this man how that works/ how they communicate? "Oh he just likes how she waits on him. White guys love how Asian women are so doting haha" 😐 The son and I went to highschool together and he tried to cheat on his beautiful (way out of his league) German gf…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 02:49 PM
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This is so accurate. My sister is very spiritual and she's often extremely toxic. For example - if I'm having an issue and someone is downright unkind to me, she tells me it's just my perception and dismisses my feelings. It's awesome. I love it....(s) But yeah there are tons of dudes like these. One of the most manipulative and awful people I've met is a spiritual vegan who was obsessed with doing shrooms, DMT and was never not stoned off pot. (He's also orthorexic and addicted to working out, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 02:27 PM
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They do. This is actually a well known tactic. They intimidate victims into throwing up their hands, so that detectives who make ~120k per year from my tax dollars can put their feet up. When I told my detective I was fired, she snapped "well that's not MY fault". She also happens to be the daughter of one of my mom's main friends. Conflict of interest much??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 11:06 PM
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It's probably not super relevant. My ex didn't do this to me, the rpist did. I hadn't seen my ex for over a month and they pressured me into dragging him into this. Maybe they were trying to slt shame me? Scare me enough that I drop the investigation? Upset me enough so I drop the investigation? The whole system is manipulative and doesn't serve the victim.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 05:21 PM
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Yup. They want to know who you've been with a month prior leading up to the assault. I didn't want to drag my ex into this. I didn't want him to know. Obviously I was forced to provide some detail so he'd understand why I was making such a random request. They essentially coerced me into making a private circumstance, a public one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 05:15 PM
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Nope. Lots of the same stuff. And because our hospitals are publicity funded, they use that as an excuse the entire time (understaffed, overburdened etc). The nurse was dismissive and kept talking about her kids getting her sick, the doctor stood 10 feet away from me. Hard to eximne a patient from that far away. I had to go to another hospital an hour away for an SA nurse who took three hours to get there. When she did, she kind of behaved the way imagine Mariah Carey does when she arrives somew…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 02:40 PM
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I didn't but I have a feeling he knows. He would let me touch his chest - and I didn't really want to anyways since I hadn't ever been intimate with someone with breasts before.... 😐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 02:38 PM
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Thank you sis, agreed. He thinks he's pretty great despite being boring, over weight and less attractive than Jack black - while having similar features.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 02:37 PM
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I dated someone (who I just commented about, he dumped me for not being independent because I called him out on his shitty behaviour), who would literally whip it out and look at me expectantly. I was like uhhh... That's not how this works. Same pos said giving oral "wasn't his thing". So it stopped being my thing too.n
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 09:24 AM
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One of the scariest dates I've ever been on as where the guy was acting all frustrated and weird and then said "we better have sex soon". I hadn't even known him for a month. Later found out that when he was 38 he was accused of raping a 16 Year old GIRL and her friend. It was tossed out because the friend wouldn't talk on the stand and because Canada hatess female victims of SA. I've been through the system and the detective will 1) threaten you with criminal Mischief charges "if you're lying" …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 09:21 AM
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I commented above about a guy harrassing me about not hearing the last 4 digits. I type it on my phone, like I'm going to call myself (the numbers are bigger). Also because I have a unique first name, I use a fake one. There are 3 other people in my area with my first name and it's not hard to anrrow down which one I am. I don't like that everyone can see those stupid sign in sheets.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 09:14 AM
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This happened to me once. The guy was like "haha what that again? Hahah" and I just sneered. And of course I get the "he's just joking?" From his friend. Two very filthy construction workers, one of which approached me without social distancing to try to talk to me. Wasn't interested. Asked me pet my dog, I said no. Walked away mumbliing to his friend about how I'm stuck up. You're trying to eavesdrop on my personal information, you cross boundaries by standing way too close to me, and then you …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 09:10 AM
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-. Gift certificate so he could get photos of him and his young sons done since he didn't have any without his ex, apparently. He never used it and my money has gone to waste. - antique yearbook from his uni and custom leather coasters and come Bourbon for xmas. Another guy - saxx pants, yeti tumblers, custom socks, custom card, wine. He dumped me right before his birthday citing I'm not independent because I called him out on taking 8 hours to text me back but always being on Social media. I as…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 09:00 AM
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It says [removed] (just double checked). Did they message to let you know they did so?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 12:15 AM
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It was removed 🥺
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 09:41 PM
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Thank you very much, sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 02:17 PM
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Thank you. It's not the easiest thing to talk about since I harbour a lot of anger towards myself for being so dumb. But, I have to give myself space. I didn't have a loving mother who said "oh hell no you're not dating someone that old with kids. I'm telling him to stay the f away from you". I recall so specifically being extremely creeped out by his advances and messages. One that sticks out is he would try me nonstop, and would ask me what I was up to ,600 times in a day. I recall getting my …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 02:22 PM
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I had a guy tell me that he had menieres disease coupled with tinnitus (often a co-morbidity, a term I had to explain to him since he had never heard it). He doesn't take any medication, shows zero symptoms and is a wanna be dj. He used to advertise this on his insta profile and I told him that he spelled menieres wrong. I asked him who is ENT is and he said "lol wut" I said your ENT - ear nose and throat doctor. We don't live in a big area and I know of two in our city. Another has ADHD and sta…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 02:14 PM
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As a retired equestrian, horses are kinda dirty and do dick things like roll in mud after you've bathed them.( Especially if they're grey/cremello/buckskin/et cetera 🤣). However. They raise their tails high enough when they defecate so they don't get shit all over themselves. They put forth an effort to not have shit all over their anus (want sister here is calling a booty jfc) and tail. I love how she cares so much about being nice about the fact that her boyfriend can't wipe himself. She's wit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 02:00 PM
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I think it's released on Netflix here in Canada this morning. Merry Christmas, babes. Edit : canadian Netflix doesn't have it right now. Yes I have a VPN and no I can't reprogram or hack my Amazon firestick. If anyone had links, on me 🙂.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 01:49 PM
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I was 20 and has never had a real boyfriend before. He lied about his age and the kids for awhile. He finally told me and I was far too young to understand the gravity. Babes: this is why we don't date older men. I was 20, and when we first met his was 32. He had told me he was in his 20s. Today I'm his age when he met me. 32. He was and is, a predator. Preyed on my naivety, the fact I hadn't had a "real" boyfriend, coming from a single mom household with a very strained relationship. He had als…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 01:47 PM
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The only times guys have gone through MY stuff, was because they were cheating. Classic projection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 11:39 AM
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I was a stepmom in my early 20s. I don't recommend. The ONLY time I asked to not have the kids was a day after I was blindsided by my father's death. I had only met him for the very first time a few months prior. I was... Frozen. I offered to be sent to a hotel in lieu of them not coming. Neither request was honoured. I never asked for anything from my ex and therefore this request was absolutely valid and fair. Their mom would ruin my birthday and Christmas every year. Upon drop off, if I was i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 11:36 AM
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This!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 11:22 AM
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I once had a guy send me some of his "art". Naked women with pornstar bodies. He then followed with " I'd love to draw you sometime" I replied " wtf?" And blocked/deleted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 01:53 AM
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Omg ex had this too. Really bad halitosis and was too afraid of the dentist to ever get cleanings. As someone who faints and has even had a siezure because of her fear of needles during bloodwork .. ummm... I still get blood work done annually because it's the smart thing to do. But no, he wouldn't get his teeth cleaned. Maybe he also had tonsil stones. I found out years later that he was doing coke while we were together. He was rail thin and I believe he had an eating disorder due to the infre…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 01:45 AM
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You're right. Me with my long blonde hair and breasts was totally confused for this round eye glasses (wanna be intellectual at 24... Imagine how annoying he is..) and his short curly hair and...lack of aforementioned breasts. Also he's five feet ten and I'm five foot two and have hips. I can't TOTALLY see how we were confused. Maybe we should communicate about it? 🙃 F*,ck them all and their thoughtless gifts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 04:48 AM
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Because they hate putting effort into anything that isn't for themselves. I'm currently livid and I don't care if it makes me sound spoiled: My coworkers all know I love Prosecco. I'm the only female in the workplace. It's around 15dollars a bottle here. They should ALL know I hate red wine and that it makes me sick - migraine trigger and gives me HIVES. SOMETIMES ON MY FACE. There are five of us in the office. Five. I got red wine and some cheap, shitty Chardonnay. They don't even try. However …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 11:25 PM
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This happens to me and I'm in my 30s. Thirties. When I was on old I'd just laugh and then block. They just want to attempt to coerce you into taking nudes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 03:46 AM
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"you're hard to shut up" Me: "I beg your pardon? I'm hard to shut up? Wtf?' "Omg you always do that. You be twisting my words" Me: "I literally repeated what you said verbatim. Verbatim means word for word. You're fcked and extremely disrespectful. Stop telling people I'm your ex, creep." Typing Me: * blocks dusty scrote I knew for maybe two weeks total * You can literally repeat horrible things they JUST SAID TO YOU and they can't deal. It's so screwed up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 12:58 PM
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Amen sister aaaaaamennnn!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 10:42 PM
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He is definitely thoroughly unpleasant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 10:41 PM
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I've seen this saying too!! Hahaha. I love it. Very true! Fantastic analogy! For non horse people, when she says "really needs gelding" = "really needs castrating".🙃 Hahah
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 10:40 PM
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I'm proud to say that I didn't go to a fancy barn and paid for it myself since I was a kid. My coach didn't have the best boundaries and would let other girls come.and watch me during my private lessons and they'd laugh at my non-charles Owen helmet and consignment boots. Kids are already mean, you give them a but of money and this makes it worse. Vet the hell out of the barn if you want your girls getting into it. Also, make sure the coach isn't one who screams at them constantly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 11:13 AM
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Hahaha nice one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 11:09 AM
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This. Most male humour is "wow that's an aggressive outfit" Me: that's rude Him: it's a joke lllolololollol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 04:38 AM
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My male coworker was saying how when he was on dates before meeting his wife (yeah right... ) And he said he'd like fun at his date if her fake eyelash was coming off. He's like I'd point at it and tell her she needed to go to the bathroom to fix it and laugh at her. For the record, he's absolutely hideous. Ashy skin, smoker (bad teeth and yellowed fingers), huge, extremely puffy purple bags under his eyes (he is Pakistani), a body that look like a crack heads and an open bite. (Link to give you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 04:32 AM
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Bahah. I literally just commented similar. Also, we are likely stronger than them. Mucking stalls, tossing bales, posting the trot without stirrups, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 04:22 AM
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This. Source: retired equestrian. It's because the sport is so expensive and elitist. We also aren't afraid to tell someone who weighs 1500 lbs to get out of our way, and do so calmly and respectfully. We are intimidating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 04:20 AM
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Haha when I opened this account up realised the error in using my real first name; I've been on Reddit for a little while now. I'm sure most people just think that it's because I like a team or perhaps am from there - haha. Thank you sister, your compliment has warmed my heart.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 11:51 PM
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No. No. No. Nooooooo. What in the ever loving?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 06:05 PM
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This is underrated. She can't talk, react, nothing. Not santient. It is twisted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 04:34 PM
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You're killing me hahah she said yes to the dress!😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 04:34 PM
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Ladies, I love you and am cry-laughing at some of these comments. You're hilarious. Said yes to the dress...,😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 04:33 PM
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Omg I'm dying because you're so right 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 04:31 PM
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He's in love with an inanimate object so I'm going to with a hard yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 04:31 PM
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Watch the business of being born!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 04:23 PM
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This! When I was on OLD it was all "bills mafia" "I'll like you if you watch the bills with me" (are you looking for a gf or a bro, you're into the wrong place little buddy) "if ur a patriots fan gtfo". I know women who kinda like a team. But this always comes out after I've known them for awhile or I see a superbowl post with her in a team shirt. Cool. But she's not this obsessive. So I started doing the same thing. I used to ride horses. If you know any equestrians, you know what we're like. I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 04:15 PM
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The more patients they have the more they can bill the insurance - cha ching! We truly are not respected by healthcare. Dont want kids? You'll have to fight to get your tubes tied or removed and you'll be told you're too young or that you need to have atleast two kids and a permission slip from your husband. Do want kids? Ok we're going to make this as traumatic as possible. Want contraception? You might not have access to it. Need an abortion? Oh you godless sinning murderer! How dare! Pelvic e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 02:23 AM
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I'm cf but I watched this years ago... It's such an important docu for women. We're supposed to be on all fours or in a seating position. The laying on the back isn't helpful at all. And, the way this docu goes into how women are treated as patients... Hurry up, have your baby, if you don't.do it fast enough you're being induced or getting major surgery...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 06:44 PM
3

This is an excellent point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 08:42 PM
3

My bad! Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 04:59 AM
8

Should I Google closing ranks? I'd like to learn more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 03:56 AM
26

Seriously. Omg sis - thank you for saying this in a clear way for all of us to read. May we challenge our male *friends and contemporaries. *Are they our friends? This a sobering way to check.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 03:56 AM
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THIS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 03:54 AM
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They (the guys) know. They don't care. They turn a blind eye. "wol like he's my friend so..." (Cool so you're friends with misogynistic people and/or r*pists?) 'haha he's not a bad guy..."(because he's the same as you, and you're a pos too?" "He has a sister" (see below; NO) As AOC said, having a sister doesn't make you a decent man. Being a decent man makes you a decent man. When a man doesn't denounce the very clear sexism and icel behaviour around him, he's just as bad IMHO. If you're part of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 03:54 AM
2

Right? It was our first and last date. He sort of stopped speaking to me two days after it, I let him, I don't chase. I'm a wonderful conversationalist and thank you so much for the kind words about my outfit, I felt really good in it. He did look a bit silly, but whatever, he didn't seem to care. Thanks sis 💛
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 11:26 PM
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He was kind to her, but he was a cold guy. He had great hvm qualities but the inability to smile at anything or to be affectionate began to weigh on me very quickly. Last year's xmas gift was the white wooden crate she's laying in front of, and a bottle of Prosecco for me. We were no longer together and he still dropped off my presents. (we had both ore purchased things for one another, we truly cared about one another. I have, however, learned my lesson about my own generosity. This sub helps m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 01:12 AM
5

"if it's not a 'hell yes!' it's a no" and the hvm was honest enough after a month and half to express I was not his 'hell yes', he felt horrible, but I did not waste any more of my precious time. He was giving me vibes that suggested I was not bringing him joy. We went to this very cute Christmas market as a date last year, (our fourth or so) and he didn't smile....once. We even brought my precious baby who he loves (she's an 11 year old min pin and my entire heart), and she didn't make him smil…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 12:33 AM
19

Met up with a lawyer. Me: dark wash jeans, thigh high black boots, black mock neck body suit. Camel coloured wool cape as outerwear. Him: looked like he was coming in from a jog. Althetic pants, under Armour zip up. He told me I looked nice and I didn't return the compliment. I said " my mother always told me it's far better to be over, than under dressed". Looking dapper is a sign of respect. Similar to how you wouldn't wear his outfit to a funeral, because it's fkn disrespectful. Love this pos…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 12:21 AM
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"I'm a santient being. Unlike you 🙂"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 12:15 AM
3

You're not dumb at all! There's a comment here I posted about what it's about but it's not at the top/attached to the post. 🤍 Probably not super easy to find.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 12:34 PM
3

Back story: 30 years ago today, 14 lives of young women were lost in the tragic mass shooting at l'École Polytechnique de Montréal. On December 6, we remember Geneviève Bergeron, Hélène Colgan, Nathalie Croteau, Barbara Daigneault, Anne-Marie Edward, Maud Haviernick, Maryse Laganière, Maryse Leclair, Anne-Marie Lemay, Sonia Pelletier, Michèle Richard, Annie St-Arneault, Annie Turcotte, and Barbara Klucznik-Widajewicz. The man who did this, did so because "feminists ruined his life". He took his …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 12:35 AM
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Yup. I have a comment here regarding that giving a lot more detail. He hated women. HATED us. Like most of reddit. 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 12:33 AM
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Thank you for posting their names, sister. Xoxox
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 11:40 PM
9

This is what this post is about xo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 11:39 PM
4

Haha. I'm serious. The texture feels icky to him apparently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 06:58 PM
19

Ugh I feel you. I have an ex who went to Berkley and I bought him a Berkley yearbook from 1886 which is exactly 100 years before his year of birth. Was not cheap. Had custom coasters made for him. He complained that I wrapped it in tissue paper as he hates tissue paper. Got his kids that I had not met yet a puzzle and a stuffed animal each. Then, I dated someone else who dumped me RIGHT AFTER u bought yeti glasses he wanted, saxx lounge pants, custom socks with his favourite animal (sloth; fitti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 03:46 PM
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You know what, I agree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 11:22 PM
3

I'm sure it does, but we can report these doctors to the college for disregarding bodily automomy and being sexist. Easy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 09:23 PM
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Pretty much. Here in Canada that would not fly but in the r/ childfree sub there are plenty of stories about doctors saying no, get permission, you're too young, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 01:38 PM
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I am so sorry that happened to you. I've also been cheated on for not wanting kids. They don't treat us as humans, but rather potential mothers and it's not ok.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 01:37 PM
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Right? Your legacy of being painfully mediocre?? Ooooh you're right we really need to carry on that lineage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 01:35 PM
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I have a close male friend who is a peds ER doc. It's not usually necessary for him to be looking into vaginas but when he does he says he feels like he's a pervert and assaulting someone and hates having to to do it. Of course he will always do his job and do it well, and he is SANE trained and maintains that all ER doctors need to be SANE trained. (We don't have this in Canada... As far as I know. Only certain nurses are SA trained, and they're few and far between, unfortunately I know this du…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 09:33 PM
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The process of matching into a residency is complicated and difficult. It's likely that OB/GYN was not their first choice. Or,maybe it was and they hate women so much they want to cause you pain and embarrassment while they finger you "meDiCaLly". Yes, that speculum is cold it's because it's metal, the plastic ones are not inserted as comfortably. "See how tiny she is, she's never had kids and this is obvious" My male gyn to a female student who was standing in the corner and didn't want to talk…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 09:30 PM
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And flip that with stories I see on the childfree sub about how doctors won't sterilize women without their husbands PERMISSION. Permission? To have bodily automomy? Sickening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 09:25 PM
2

To each their own 🤗 I'm sure there's something else you like!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 11:23 PM
11

This. She'll go dutch, never need emotional support and is sEXuALLY cONFiDenT (she will f on the first date because she's sooo independent and confident, guys)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 08:26 AM
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Blame shifting and victim blaming. Both are " logic" as per this.... Creature.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 08:15 AM
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I feel ya. Dated a guy with bigger breasts than me. He had a big tummy. I was leaned over once and he grabbed my tummy skin and I yelped and said never do that again. "I just think you're hot" ummm no one ever in the history of anything grabs someone's skin roll. Are you mad because I have a flat tummy and you want to physically neg me? Ew.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 08:10 AM
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Steak vs chocolate 2 min jackhammering vs BJ Something is wrong with the math here. Also, a decent bouquet is now like $70. Guys who celebrate March 14 are always lvm who will never fork out cash for a proper bouquet. Ugh. Also, I hate red roses. White hydrangeas are my jam. I'll purposely tell guys and if they get me flowers and they aren't white hydrangeas, I'll assume you don't like me very much since you can't listen and retain one simple fact about me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 08:04 AM
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Very concerning that he didn't do anything to wake her up other than talk to her. How does she know he was laying beside her looking guilty? Did he tell on himself? if someone passed out on my dime, I'd be calling 911. Embarrassing? Yes. Avoiding murder one charge? Maybe..His lack of panicking is very very concerning. And let's be real, highly doubt he stopped once she was out. At a minimum, he's a r*pist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 07:57 AM
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I'm so sorry. Social media can be helpful. I hate hate hate suggesting that but these days something's that's how you get attention for stuff. Ex. "X time ago I went to see x about x, and she x and I have been dismissed three times etc"...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 09:44 PM
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Just a general comment, no conclusion! 🙂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 09:43 PM
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I'm sorry you went through that. I didn't feel that we need to "compete" as to who had it "worse". All abuse is valid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 09:30 PM
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That's incredibly unfair and I would write a letter to your local politican if you have one. It was a coed gym that had a women's section.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 09:29 PM
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I specifically chose a gym that had a women's section for this exact reason. I'm not on display, I'm doing this to feel good. Since y'all can't do so for me. 🙃 Haha *Edit: much needed clarification.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 08:48 PM
13

This made me laugh out loud. Haha. Thanks Op.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 08:28 PM
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Yup. "I've never raped a woman so therefore I'm a good person and you women aren't including me waaaaa" You want to be included? Be an ally. But, allies don't beech and moan about it. Unlike you. Very odd, his guilty conscience....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 08:26 PM
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Because it's not for you, little buddy, there's no such thing as a male femnist. But men can be very important allies. Sounds like his fee fee's got in the way of having the ovaries to drop this self pity party and step up hand in hand with women. But since he doesn't truly respect us, he will never get there. Imagine feeling "not included" by something like feminist when your kind are the reasons we need the movement in the first place. Go fly a kite. Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 08:22 PM
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Thiiiiiis! I do not walk my dog at night (which happens at 5pm) because I'm too afraid, and she's only 7lbs. I used to have a doberman and I felt a bit safer with him but that's because he was big, intimidating looking and was trained in schutzhund. Also, no one messed with his mumma - dobes are very protective of their person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 08:20 PM
5

This is how she usually talks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 10:47 AM
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🤣 omg your description is fabulous hahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 10:25 AM
2

Absolutely! I have completely distanced myself from her. The age difference was a bit much as well. I drove her everywhere and paid for everything that we did. Her younger sister was quite snotty towards me as well, and openly told me she wasn't sure if she liked me. I had to try not to laugh - you're a teenager, girl. As a woman in my 30s I really just don't care if someone with a lot less life experience and maturity doesn't like me. This male isn't really a friend and I'm well aware of that a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 06:38 PM
2

What do you think, based on both our experiences? Why would a man choose to prey on just family and not strangers or visa versa?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 06:35 PM
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Thank you sister 💛 I appreciate your kindness. I wish I could tell my friend what happened but I know it'll just turn into a shitshow and her dad will deny any wrongdoing. Got to love blame shifting. I recently told a guy that no I am not going over to his house to drink wine and "catch up". Do I have stupid painted on my forehead. I said "it honestly just sounds like you want to hook up with. I only go on public dates". Oh, well he doesn't want to date he wants to have sex with me after a few g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 03:35 PM
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Addendum : I let him down very easy by saying I was feeling sick and needed to go to the hospital. He was all pissy about that and stomped to his car and picked up his daughter and her and I waited at the hospital - the nausea from the concussion got very very bad and I began vomiting incessantly. I ended up needing an x-ray and mri. I found out my orbital bone was fractured. I made the hard choice to seperate myself from this friend, because she got angry with me for calling her dad and being a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 03:20 PM
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Because they're sickos darling. The majority of men will behave as a predator if they are giving ANY opportunity. I'll tell you a story. I'm 32, and I look to be in my mid 20s. Older than you yes, but I'm not looking to collect social security yet, haha. I was friends with a young woman I worked with, and her and I became close. I'm about 9 years older than her. Her father, who is a firefighter and therefore first responder, is 55. I was punched and concussed by my sister (yes you read that corr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 03:15 PM
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Loudly say you're a minor and that you're uncomfortable with the stares/distance/comments. Make them feel creepy. Be loud and take up space to draw attention to the pedophile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 10:28 AM
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This is disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 10:06 AM
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Absolutely, I settled. For about a month and a half and then I kicked him to the curb.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 08:22 PM
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Same. He also had all of the audacity - "I don't go down on girls, it's not my thing". You're ugly AND fat and have no style and you expect me to stick around for..... What exactly?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 05:50 PM
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I wear a right hand ring for this very reason. Love it sister! I'm so sorry that guy was such a POS. I've approached someone before who I was dating who was with someone else on a date (with one of his kids.... Disgusting). I walked up to him and introduced myself. I then told him he's a terrible parent for introducing his kids to everyone he's sticking his dick in. Said kid didn't hug me because he felt he wasn't allowed because his dad was hanging out with another lady. Like how sad is that? T…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 05:41 PM
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I'm the only woman at my small office. I always have to put seats down and I'm the only one who changes the toilet paper. I'm getting sick of it. I figured out how to change the toilet paper holder, why can't they? It's a weird tricky but but surely if I as a woman can do it, can't they??? 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 02:36 AM
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Same here! "It's just a effing joke you need to chill/to get a sense of humour/to lighten up..." Like Woah dude! Block/delete before you come through the phone and strangle me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 02:29 AM
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Thank you for kindness and compassion. I really appreciate it sister. I'm hurt to hear that you sent through anything remotely similar. Sending hugs. Good for you for taking care of yourself through therapy. 💛
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 10:39 PM
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Yup. The detective also enjoyed adding : "if you're lying, I will charge you with criminal mischief" a day after getting out of the hospital. Oh, and because Canada, I went to one hospital and then drove an hour to another one as SA nurses only work at our hospital (that services a large area called the Niagara region) from Monday to Friday, as though women are only getting raped during business hours. Cool, cool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 03:14 PM
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He's a sicko. She is probably very hungry and weak. You can have ice cubes but once you start labour you can't eat anything but that. CAN'T EAT. He is repulsive. Also it appears she's in a diaper kind of (is this common practice*?) and looks like she is having a nasty contraction. Her struggle looks very real(ly excruciating)... So why is he enjoying pizza and taking pictures of it and her instead of being remotely supportive? Oh but let's eat food she can't have because I've given her the unfor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 12:32 AM
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Yeah I've personally experienced this. One even did it under the guise of an interview. I wrote an email to corporate. Never heard back so they probably don't care...shocker 😐.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 12:03 AM
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Denying her access to self care products (abuse), actively stealing things and giving them to his sister (theft) using her/her condition to garner funds (fraud), feeling entitled to things because of HER illness (just straight up insanity)... And SHE is asking if she's the a-hole?! What. Is. Going. On. I would have blasted him publicly, called the police and kick him out in the same day. And fck this dudes little sister as well, I'm sure she's old enough to understand accepting gifts meant for A…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 11:52 PM
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It depends where you are I think. Pizza and wings casual type place, for sure. I don't like being messy so this is a super personal preference. My comment above is about a guy who ordered ribs at a fine dining resto I took him to. I was really unimpressed with how he handled himself. I never want to go out with someone who I find embarrassing ever again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 11:05 PM
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This. Stays on your lap, and goes on your chair if you get up to use the loo. When done, fold it nicely on the table. I've gone to dinner with a lvm and he tucked it into his shirt. He was brought a finger bowl and didn't know what it was for so he dirtied like five linen napkins (he ordered ribs at a nicer place, like an idiot, and made a huge mess). I was horrified and mortified. You don't have to grow up priveldged to know table manners. Oh, he also ate like none of his dinner and didn't eat …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 11:01 PM
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It's so gross and disrespectful. Imagine being so over -condident in your mediocrity that you think you can change someone's sexual preference. *In saying mediocrity, I'm being generous
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 02:08 PM
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"let me change your mind" "Oh, my sexual preference isn't a choice. You should know that. Ask any of your ex girlfriends."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 07:41 AM
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Absolutely. I'm pretty vague/cagey and I don't care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 12:55 AM
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This is the most necessary thing I've seen all day. And I see a lot of necessary things in this group. Thank you OP! Also remember , if a guy gets mad at you for expressing a boundary, it's never a joke. This is the sign of a sinister person. Block/delete. This person is happy to make you feel unsafe or uncomfortable and they enjoy it. I'm on a dating app and I recently was accused for "watching too many serial documentaries' as a pissy response for declining to say exactly where I work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 12:02 AM
4

This too!!!! 💛
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 01:05 AM
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Because we're f*cking tired from working full time and coming home to your low earning, sweat pant wearing, ufc watching self.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 06:59 PM
3

Amen!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 06:58 PM
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I'm cf because I refuse to be a married single mom who is expected to work full time inside and outside the home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 10:34 AM
1

I used to handle an account for them that was frequently in arrears, and this is why I said "can't properly support her". I was a bit appalled at her jumping down my throat and being nasty with the passive aggressive "sorry this upset you". Sit down little girl. Sorry you have two kids and one on the way. Also sorry you're not his wife because he can't afford to make you a fiancée. How about he makes his own appointments. I hate when lvw post things like this and then jump to defend the shit the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 01:16 PM
4

Wow. Just wow. Good for you op!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 07:58 PM
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THANK YOU FOR THIS I WAS A GIRL AT 8 YEARS OLD YOU SICK F*CK "bUt thE woRD wOmAn iS sO AGgresSive" I can smell your misogyny from here. Be gone. Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 12:32 AM
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I was groomed at 20. I was a prisoner who endured every single type of abuse you can imagine. I am 32 and still trying to fix mt credit because of that monster.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 12:29 AM
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I hate the use of the word girl. Its starting to drive me mad. Maybe stop trying to date women so young that they are actually still girls, and try dating a woman. Oh wait, women don't want you. We can see what the "girls" don't yet - purely from their lack of life experience and naivety. Plus, us old hags are too much work for you, with out standards and opinions and what not! eyes roll so hard they nearly get stuck
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 12:28 AM
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I'd rather do cheap takeout and a picnic bench as a lunch break, not a date. Maybe after several months of dating ...but I find a cheap date insulting if within the first little while. Me and my time are worth more than an eight dollar bowl of pho.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 06:00 AM
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Oh my goodness. What a lame excuse. Here in canada, we have opened restaurants indoors as well, but the capacity has been dramatically decreased due to the 6 ft rule. And yeah.. patios. Its still beautiful out. No excuse. Sounds cheap and not even low effort... no effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 04:46 PM
5

Ew. I'm a walk and talk kind of person? Imagine someone being so insecure and maladjusted they can't sit still, make eye contact and converse without needing to walk around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 03:24 PM
2

With the wine, or the advice that the group leader (a man) gives?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 03:21 PM
10

I dated a guy who was/is overweight. It wasn't a grotesque amount but he otherwise presenting himself as a hvm. I was sitting cross legged, reading an email on my phone, sort slouched over and he grabbed my roll of skin. It wasn't a fatty roll, because I work for a flat tummy (IF, keto, fasted cardio, etc). I said OW! It hurt! I said that was rude and he's like "I just think you're beautiful". Dude I am in way better shape than you and yes I am attractive and thin and out of your league, don't g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 01:56 PM
10

When younger I went on a hike as a first date and dinner was supposed to happen after. I nearly got heatstroke and died, thus guy (a doctor) didn't even have the awareness to stop, look back and offer me some water. I am SO sick of being offered walk or coffee dated. "Fabulous femmes and the fairy God father" promote only coffee or walk dates because they're quick and easy. The rules say you're not allowed to drink (why? Because my smaller sized simple female brain stops functioning after a glas…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 01:46 PM
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Cf crew 💛 i love that there are so many of us here!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 01:33 PM
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You would be correct. They like to be mean, but since being mean isn't the best tactic they rename it "sarcasm". They're not funny or creative, just bullies. Him calling her genius sarcastically is the same as saying "stupid" or whatever. What a nasty thing to say to someone. Screw the date, he can enjoy his nieces birthday that so urgently came up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 08:38 PM
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Young equals malleable in his mind, most likely. When you dig a bit deeper, its easy to see why this is do troublesome. Control.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 10:11 AM
2

Mods ^ ewww he's harassing other members too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 07:38 AM
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Ugh, sorry to hear. Hes clearly triggered. I messaged mods awhile ago to advise of the user name. We don't need incels targeting us in our inboxes calling us names for being part of a support group. He told me that all of us aren't 50 50 but 100/0. I guess none of us are single and pay our own way through life 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 07:37 AM
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I just want everyone to know that user sammysander just send me some concerning messages calling us all financial abusers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 07:37 PM
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I just blocked someone who I told this evening "we don't align". I'm hoping he doesn't do anything crazy because he's not super stable but I knew I had to end it asap. No more exposure. Would we purposely expose ourselves to high doses or radiation or poisons? No. I like this OP, thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 11:03 PM
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This poor woman. This honestly sounds like financial abuse. Awful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 10:46 PM
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I was disgusted when my ex allowed his young boys to pee in their grandparents back yard. A beautifully landscaped area with a pool. The house was right there to go in and use the loo.... but no, everyone found it funny. It is such a trashy, vile thing to do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 04:44 PM
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It was so sad. Apparently it was the daughter who submitted to Queer Eye as well to get 'help' for her dad. She'd make him breakfast and then wake him up to eat and take her to school. She is a figure skater and jvn took her to meet and skate with Michelle Kwan which was so so touching. I hope that little girl is going to be OK. Setting her up to be a manchilds momma in the future. I speak from experience unfortunately, my mom was a single parent by choice (estranged me) and I was raised in a ty…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 02:15 PM
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My personal fave is when men say they're babysitting. No... that's YOUR kid. I had a boss once who took a day off "so his wife could go to TIFF" (Toronto International Film Festival). He referred to it as "watching the kids" and I definitely had to bite my tongue. Or, he'd say she leaves as soon as he gets home to go for a run so he's "on duty". Give me a break. The labour divide is F*CKED. This is one of the most significant reasons I don't want kids. I like my freedom and I don't want to be a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 02:05 PM
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This episode infuriated me, too. He was such a bum. I'm glad Karamo and Antoni kinda called out the dad. She cooked for him every morning - SHE was the parent, not him, and Karamo said that is very unhealthy for her. LOL @ getting to know her... how pathetic, hey? You're so right - Bare minimum NVM BS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 02:01 PM
3

I feel this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 09:37 PM
2

I had a guy blame his (medicated) ADHD for calling me three times while I was in the shower. I told him "I'm going in the shower". Calls, five mins later. 😐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 09:32 PM
4

I've corrected a few people and have been called "bitchy" "intense" and when I've asked to be referred to as a woman, I once had someone say "that word is so aggressive". Wtf?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 09:44 PM
8

Or dear.. bro, are you my late grandma???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 06:54 PM
26

I, too, love gaming for 8 hours a day, Cheeto stains and redbull! /S
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 02:43 PM
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This is annoying. Also being referred to as a girl is annoying. When I was 8 I was a girl. I was a child. Now, I'm an adult and am a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 02:41 PM
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And we should all move to Chernobyl because the radiation isn't THAT bad anymore. I just saw a picture of a deer with five legs, it's not even that huge of a deal, guys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 07:52 PM
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He thought he was pretty special. Honestly, he wasn't even that nice to me. And absolutely, he is probably pumping and dumping most of Toronto. Being like 5'5 is fine when you're a surgeon I suppose haha. In retrospect, I feel sort of bad for him. He's broken.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 05:31 PM
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Today I delete a guy because although I was answering rather promptly, he said "u seem busy aw" (I think aw stands for "anyway"). I had advised that I was reading prior. So I said " I seem busy? I'm still reading but I'm still answering you in a good time frame. We just started speaking today 🙂" he tells me I took it out of context. Uh, no I didn't. He went to go pick out tile 8 hours ago so methinks he likely ghosted for not being at his beckoning call. For reference, I was texting back every 3…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 04:29 AM
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This sub is very supportive of us. I'm part of a FB group, that absolutely shits on each other ans it's horrid. I felt a walk isn't a date (because it's not...) And I was called materialistic when I expressed this. This sub, however, says hell no this that absolutely absence of any value what so ever. Welcome 🙂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 04:16 AM
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That's awesome. Lvm story : dated a plastic surgeon who told me he doesn't pay for stuff for women, if I can't afford a trip, then I'm not coming. He paid for dinners, but I did all the driving (1hr15-20 min), I did sweet things like made him cookies and bought little gifts for his dog. On my bday, he had no plans made. Toronto is quite busy on a Saturday evening and I was hurt he didn't give a shit enough to make reservations (important in this particular city). He told me he paid the same for …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 04:12 AM
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Deciding where, isn't a huge deal. The "when" should already be planned days in advance. Ideally yes I would like to know where, too. In my city reservations are rarely needed but when someone takes the time to make one, I find that to be very chivalrous AND organized. I'm done planning dates for men. The first three can be his efforts. I don't need to teach someone's son how to google.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 03:54 AM
4

This is a good option for Canadians. We can't use google voice yet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 03:48 AM
2

Haha, right? Thank you!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 01:25 AM
7

I trust me, I'm embarrassed telling it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 08:04 PM
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It was a bit peculiar. This combined with everything else I sort of think that perhaps something was wrong developmentally. There's simple, but then there's this. It's unfortunate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 08:03 PM
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He'd been going there for a bit he said and it was his thinking spot apparently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 07:15 PM
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Zero light. In fact, I think the tunnel just led to a dead end. Haha. I'm working on it too, gf. It's not always easy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 06:47 PM
9

SMH. I'm glad for you that this is over. Good god....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 06:21 PM
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We spoke as friends for a bit and decided to give it a shot. I was hoping he's suggest a date or something. To him, that was a date. I feel bad for him in a way. He wants a HVW while being a NVM. So, I said nvm to him, haha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 05:59 PM
21

I just unmatched with a guy who didn't believe in "chasing" women. He also said dating/courting is "old fashioned". I wanted to find a desk to bang my head off of.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 05:55 PM
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Yes. "I showed you my special bench! That's effort" were his words. This is a 33 year old "man", who has the social acumen of a kindergarten student. I made a post about it... I'm horrified with myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 05:51 PM
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I recently ended a very new relationship due to effort. He felt effort was texting me and answering my calls. I said not really, that's the bare minimum. Showing up to my apartment without bringing anything, me always bringing my own wine to his place. No dates had ever been planned. He took me to this park he likes and felt that was a very grand gesture as we sat on his special bench. I knew it was over when he referred to me as lucky after I said I like to take myself to a certain place for lu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 05:31 PM
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Uh, no. What's your height good for if you have a troll's face, complexion, belly and personality? THIS You're not getting dates because you're probably the mental and emotional equivalent to an untrained chihuahua who snaps at everything that moves. You let yourself go in your late 20s, haven seen a dentist since your mom made your last appt at 18 and that dad bod you brag about? Yeah it's not the fact that you're 5'7, bud, trust me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 10:21 AM
1

And if you value yourself more than you value themselves, they get bitter and comment rudely on posts. The admins nearly encourage discord because it goes ignored.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 08:19 PM
6

Hahahahahh!!! You're hilarous omg, I'm laughing so hard. Thank you! Hahah
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 06:11 PM
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It's a very very sexualized, icky word - to me. He is likely not mature enough to use words that are anatomically correct such as breasts, penis, vagina - oh and he probably things the whole thing is a vagina, the outside parts too, like most men. Want to see someone look puzzled at the word vulva? Just say it in front of a full grown man. (Ideally one who didn't go to med school, just saying)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 06:10 PM
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What a gentleman!!! ..... seriously though - wtf???? Have your mother sleep on the couch???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 06:07 PM
4

Very good point and I share the same thought! This crosses my mind about a month ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 05:49 PM
4

Amen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 05:41 PM
2

Thank you for the support! (Even thought I'm a materialistic gold digging wh*re /s... haha)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 05:41 PM
6

I feel the same. The rules are written by a guy named Aaron who lives in the UK. I think he's brainwashing some of these women. Sometimes decent advice or helpful memes like the ones we post here are present but mostly it's women who are asking what to do about the guy she's been with for six months who is perfect because he "listens and takes me on dates sometimes and doesn't abuse me" but he also has a crazy baby momma, 4 kids with special needs, just lost his job, etc etc etc. The bar is quit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 05:40 PM
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I agree with you wholeheartedly. It's too bad I had other women jumping down my throat at that. We're supposed to raise one another up, not try to bully one another to submitting to the bare minimum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 05:36 PM
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This, sister THIS! I'm almost the same age and take pretty good care of myself. I look to be round 25-26. Not too bad, I think. But you're right - guys our age have really let themselves go. And they expect a porn star super model Martha Stewart superhero. Yea, okay, bud. Do you think a healthy, beautiful woman who takes care of herself wants to have sex with someone he proudly talks about his "dad bod" despite never fathering children? I dated a chubbier guy who I thought would treat me a bit b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 05:35 PM
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waves me too! I'm part of r/childfree and a few great cf spaces on FB... My childfree foodie group is my fave. Check it out if you haven't already!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 05:25 PM
5

I agree. The premise of this groups coffee date rule is because it's quick and easy. I fear it sets up a precident to only have free/extremely cheap dates that lack effort, thought, investment of any kind. Thank you! It wasn't pleasant being called materialistic...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 05:22 PM
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Here I fixed it : "we'll get along if you appreciate emotional abuse thinly veiled as a joke because I'm a pos"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 05:20 PM
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It's not just you at all. "I speak fluent sarcasm" - no you're just dick who can't handle emotions so everything needs to be sarcastic in order for you to cope with literally everything. Oh, and again, you're a dick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 05:17 PM
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I'm on a Facebook group that says first dates should only be an hour and only be a coffee. I feel that's a bit lv, but that's me. And we're not supposed to drink on the first few dates. I know for certain drinking on the first one is a no-no. I just feel that a coffee date is kind of lame. Am I wrong to think that sets the bar for low value dates? "Hey let's go for a walk". I was called materialistic by the group for asserting that a walk is not a date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 05:15 PM
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I was called materialistic on a Facebook group for saying a walk isn't a date (maybe a walk and picnic is!) and that showing up to a ladies home *empty handed, for the first time, is rude. *Forgot this extremely vital part haha I just blocked a guy on hinge for asserting that all I want are money and things because I said a walk isn't a date (i said, but some patio drinks or a visit to a winery etc is I love doing things like that!). He jumped down my throat REAL fast and lectured me about who I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 11:55 PM
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Thank you for the kindness. I really like how you say leveling up is a process. Thanks for listening and engaging!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 09:49 PM
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It was wrong of me to entertain this person. He clearly has some issues - but so do I for making excuses for this guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 01:31 PM
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Thank you. They are usually quite strong and something clearly happened. I think it was a mix of pity and settling? In any event I'm going to take a look at everything and ask myself why this was even entertained by me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 01:14 PM
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The trash has taken itself out! So that was good. I let him sort of hang himself with his own rope. I didn't want to dump him while he was having a full blown meltdown (even if he was faking it, I had no way of knowing since he didn't want to talk on the phone and only wanted to text). I feel dumb for holding his hand through his meltdown, but I also don't want anyone to be in danger.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 01:12 PM
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Thanks! I've been alone for a bit, and have a few hobbies. The shopping part is a bit hard right now since I'm not working. I'm able to treat myself with small things, but I understand what you mean. I was far too forgiving and generally by bar is quite high but I felt badly for not giving him another chance (that was low value and really dumb of me). I appreciate your input!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 01:09 PM
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This is aggressively gross. I've seen my share - gross toilets that need a good bleach, no seperate towel to try your hands (having to use the one he used from his shower earlier), no hand soap. NO HAND SOAP. WHAT THE FUCK? Dusty with lots of cat or husky fur (had the guy brush it into a corner and place the broom here. Was it too much to use five more seconds to get it into the garbage? Ewwww!) Dirty kitchens - the fridge hasn't ever seen a wipe and there always seems to be dirty dishes. I've d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 10:08 PM
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He broke up with me, actually. He's just so busy and so important. 😂 It's nice when the narcisstic trash takes itself out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 10:53 PM
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Oh they do, but it seems older men are extremely clueless about how they look, and about their age. They're the first ones to say "age doesn't matter" but don't like women their own age....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 09:23 PM
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AGREE. Why is a kidless guy bragging about dadbod and have gross beards that looks like pubes stuck to his face - when we need to look like a walking talking barbie? They really don't take care of themselves. I've been on the app's and have said "being active at the gym and having a healthy is important to me, and am looking for something similar"- obese neckbeards liking my pictures, despite not looking like they give a flying frick about themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 09:21 PM
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I dated someone who asserted that I wasn't independent because I expect a text back within 9 hours. If I'm kind enough to ask you how your day is and you're "active 5m ago" on Instagram but tell me you're "too busy" and "don't use your phone at work"...um, no. I said I'm very independent - I have my own place, pay my own bills, have gainful employment, own a car, have a license. You bought a house with daddies money, you're inheriting daddies business and you're known as the "unfriendly" brother…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 09:14 PM
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Edit : sorry for my hetero only examples but I don't have enough of same LGBTQ+ exeperiences to compare properly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 09:05 PM
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This is honestly one of my biggest why's for why I don't want children. I refuse to work full time and then go home and work full-time there too while my "partner" doesn't behave like one and has his feet up watching sports or whatever. Fuck that. The labour divide is still so uneven despite women in the us often go back to work after a few months (I live in Canada and mat leave is about a year). If men had a mandatory paternal leave (we have that here too) they would finally realise the amount …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 09:04 PM
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Guys that "help" around the house are the same no value men that "babysit" or "watch" their own kids. I'm so glad I'm never having kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 09:57 AM
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I dated someone just like this. Not very handsome, overweight, and kinda mean. Also refused to perform oral because it's "not his favourite" and "doesn't know what (he's) doing". I should have started to return this lack of "favour". Awful in bed, selfish, would walk 10 feet in front of me. I'm never dating down ever again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 09:52 AM
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