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| 11 | Practice makes perfect!This can work or men will turn it around, get defensive and say “it was just a joke, you’re overreacting. Never mind!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/22 02:09 PM |
| 255 | Practice makes perfect!I would also add one more to this: 9) Say nothing: Sometimes it’s better to remain quiet, observe and let the other person dig their own grave. Often times when someone thinks you’re a good listener they’re more likely to keep talking and reveal their true intentions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/22 02:08 AM |
| 9 | Be careful posting elsewhereI’ve been banned from two! One of which I’ve never even posted/commented in. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 10:06 PM |
| 112 | I could not find ONE comment saying she’s in the right. He expects her to come over on the first date but gets offended when she mentions him paying for tea. A $2 item. 🥴Paying for tea/a date is more than showing you are a gentleman. It shows that you are generous and thoughtful of a woman’s time. My now husband insisted he take me somewhere nice for our first date. You know how many dinner dates I’ve paid for in the last four years of us being together? Zero. This is a man who still makes an effort to plan dates even though we’re married and have a baby. I still receive flowers and thoughtful gifts and he’s been a wonderful father. So for any lurking pickmes in… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 11:07 PM |
| 111 | This is why casual sex is a big no-no. Thoughts?I think that even if that existed some women would sadly ignore it and make excuses. “Oh he was different back then” or “He made a mistake” or “He would never do that to me” I mean think about all the women who write to legit prisoners in jail… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 02:37 PM |
| 158 | Ladies please don’t do this. You deserve your dream ring!They’ve been together six years by the way. Your wedding ring/engagement ring is something you will wear forever. Don’t lower your standards! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 09:01 PM |
| 46 | Another reason why we don’t do coffee datesBack in my dating days I would never meet a guy without knowing the name of the place we were going to! I keep reading on other subreddits how awkward dinner dates are but to me coffee dates are super awkward. They feel like an interview, there’s often limited seating, there’s no natural progression (unlike in a restaurant where you order a drink, a meal, the check comes) and last but not least it’s just not a romantic atmosphere. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 10:02 PM |
| 50 | So.. if she’s so important to him why aren’t they married after 7years? No one in the comments brought that up. People in the comments are betting the brothers relationship won’t last as long but at least he knew he wanted to marry his bride within 2 years.The OP of that post says “An engagement isn’t necessary to prove his love” 🙄 I really wish we had his girlfriends perspective. Seven years is a long time to just be a girlfriend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/22 03:58 PM |
| 19 | Happy New year lasses, and REMEMBERAnd do not date a recently divorced man. Do not become his rebound. At some point he will tell you that he just got divorced and wants to explore what’s out there. Do not become his substitute wife-recently divorced men, especially those with children, are more likely to date quickly in order to find some to do the wife/mother tasks they now miss so dearly. Vet, vet, and vet even more. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 08:13 PM |
| 4 | Being sexually desired ≠ Being respectedAnd the dude with the chicken sandwich… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/21 12:03 AM |
| 83 | This holiday season I urge you to take trip down the girls toy aisle.I purposely bought my son a play kitchen. I want to foster a love for cooking or the very least have him know that men can be in the kitchen and cook/clean. I know it’ll help later on when he sees his dad in the kitchen. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 07:06 PM |
| 11 | Thanksgiving blues..Your mom’s way of thinking is sadly why so many women settle and end up as mothers who break down. I can’t tell you how many posts I’ve read where these women acknowledge the red flags that appeared early in the relationship but stayed anyways because they were getting older and wanted a family. Being alone and happy is way better than being shackled to a LVM who contributes nothing of value. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 02:49 AM |
| 34 | Love life season 2. - How to be the perfect scroteI’ve watched both seasons of this show. I enjoyed season one a lot more. I actually thought the show did a good job trying to portray why you should not put marriage on a pedestal and have it as your end goal in life. You could see that Darby needed the title of marriage and being a wife in order to feel complete when in reality she was stuck with a total LVM. She made a lot of other pick me mistakes of course. But when it comes to marriage I was glad that they showed the reality of it and how s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 12:32 PM |
| 45 | Be careful around maintenance men if you live alone. If possible, have a male relative with you when you need something installed/repaired. I’ve heard some ladies say to have used men’s shoes just in case they try something u could say ur husband will be back soon. Imagine if she was alone with him😳I hate that I feel like I need to rely on my husband being home for maintenance men but it makes me feel so much safer. I also let him deal with car maintenance as well so we don’t get ripped off at the auto repair shops. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 04:31 PM |
| 202 | Her Persistence Paid Off: How many red flags can you count in this wedding announcement?“He proposed with a topaz ring” 🚩 Maybe if he had spent less money on booze he could’ve afforded a diamond ring. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 04:09 AM |
| 4 | Didn’t realize this sub would cause me to be bannedIt’s almost like the coffee dates and walk dates they preach don’t work out…and they wonder why they’re still single 🤔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 07:35 PM |
| 28 | Didn’t realize this sub would cause me to be bannedMy favorite is when they write eight paragraphs detailing how terrible their husband is only to end the post with “I’m not leaving him I just need advice on how to handle this” or “I know I made him sound really bad but he really is a great husband/dad”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 01:36 PM |
| 77 | Didn’t realize this sub would cause me to be bannedYup I was banned from two subs that I didn’t even post or make a comment on-dating over a certain age and one where moms break down 🤷🏼♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 11:39 PM |
| 20 | After this, she is still unsure if she should leave.She posted an update and said she is leaving him and going to her aunt’s house. So on the off chance this is real at least it had a “happy” ending-if you can call it that… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 03:04 PM |
| 104 | "She's a cool girl" is not a compliment!The Cool Girl Monologue from Gone Girl should be required reading for every woman because yes, men do think like this. https://www.goodreads.com/work/quotes/13306276-gone-girl | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/21 02:07 PM |
| 2 | Bachelor Party And Strip ClubsOP clarified in another comment that the previous post is not the same man as the one in this post. She got engaged to this current guy at the nine month mark. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/21 09:48 AM |
| 2 | Keep this in mind as you level up!Sorry-this older millennial has no cropping skills lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/21 09:09 PM |
| 3 | Everyone in the comments was congratulating him. I'm so confusedBy the way the OP of that post has found his way over here leaving comments left and right. Of course none of the comments are showing up since OP is a guy. But funny nonetheless to see him yelling into the void. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 04:03 PM |
| 148 | I told her she sounds like a forever girlfriend and asked how after 7 years, they've discussed what he will end their relationship over but not what their future and commitment will look like. Other scrotes trashing her for "making him" give up his dream school.This reminds me of when I used to teach high school. I always tried to tell the young women I taught: “Never make any big life decisions based on your boyfriend. Whether that’s where you decide to go to college, your career path, or even where you live. Look out for yourself and put yourself first. Boys will always be there but you need to focus on yourself and do what you need to do better yourself.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 05:49 PM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Check-inI’ve never dealt with a lease situation but is it possible for you to either break the lease or find someone else to take over your part of it? I’ve read that sometimes landlords are sympathetic if it’s a relationship type issue and they’re more willing to let you break a lease. I’d hate for you to live an entire year with a LVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/21 09:52 PM |
| 20 | Remember ladies, any man who makes being liberal or a feminist part of his dating persona is a wolf in sheep’s clothingI believe this is called “wokefishing” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 10:20 PM |
| 76 | It was too good to be true.Sad to see the reversal but in all reality even if OnlyFans had truly banned the explicit content their users would’ve just used a different site, if they haven’t started using a new one already… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 02:23 PM |
| 48 | Pickmes are brain dead 😑Not a joke, sadly. I scrolled further on the thread where she claims “it’s like he was made in lab for me. I love him so much” Eww | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 09:36 PM |
| 20 | More reasons not to entertain pickmes - these girls know what they're doing to other women.Completely agree that you cannot help pickmes. In another subreddit I responded to someone asking what was wrong with coffee dates/walk dates. All I wrote was that they are no/low effort and some women want men to plan something with effort. I did not mention FDS at all. Honestly my advice just seems like common sense. Cue me being downvoted and FDS being called “toxic” and a “dumpster fire” despite me never mentioning FDS by name. Yes, we have high standards and want men to treat us right and s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 08:38 PM |
| 3 | Reminder:Amen! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 11:21 PM |
| 143 | LVM Moocher!! Thank GOODNESS she got some solid advice in the comments to DROP! THAT! SCROOOOTE!Where have we gone so wrong in society that women have to question themselves like this? That they can’t trust their gut or turn a blind eye to blaring red flags right in front of their face? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 03:34 AM |
| 43 | Dumped my negative value long term boyfriendYeah and all of OP’s past comment history is on the subreddit dank memes. I feel like only men comment there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 01:49 AM |
| 69 | My colleague (27M) fasts almost all day so he doesn't have to cookToo much effort | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 10:49 AM |
| 6 | Weekly FDS Check-inI’m sick of it being labeled “empowering”… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 04:03 PM |
| 4 | Weekly FDS Check-inNot only is it valid you should be seriously considering whether you want to be with someone who degrades you. That isn’t love or respect. No one who loves you would degrade you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 04:03 PM |
| 64 | Queen mindset 👸Not a fairytale! An attainable reality!! 💜 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/21 02:04 PM |
| 141 | Ladies NEVER ignore your instincts or dealbreakers. Here’s yet another scrote having broken a woman’s heart after stringing her along for a year.I think part of the problem is the media narrative that “relationships are hard work and you must fight for your love”. Is any relationship perfect? Absolutely not! But the idea that you must fight and grovel and beg for love and affection within a relationship is terrible but common. A lot of women give their absolute everything to a relationship and despite the red flag won’t throw in the towel because we’ve been conditioned since birth that having a boyfriend/husband should be your number one… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/21 02:59 PM |
| 77 | Ladies NEVER ignore your instincts or dealbreakers. Here’s yet another scrote having broken a woman’s heart after stringing her along for a year.She did try very hard but if she had followed FDS she could’ve saved herself a lot of time, energy and heartache. This is why FDS is so vital for women!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/21 02:56 PM |
| 81 | Ladies NEVER ignore your instincts or dealbreakers. Here’s yet another scrote having broken a woman’s heart after stringing her along for a year.These posts are all from the same woman. This is her dealing with this boyfriend progressively over time until he dumped her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/21 02:14 PM |
| 237 | Ladies NEVER ignore your instincts or dealbreakers. Here’s yet another scrote having broken a woman’s heart after stringing her along for a year.They’re all from the same woman. I read the posts yesterday. I read the “got dumped” one first and felt sympathy but then after I went back in her post history and read post after post of her lamenting about her boyfriend, his red flags and trying to fix him it was no longer a surprise to see he dumped her. Not blaming her but you could tell from the beginning it was never ever going to work out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/21 02:13 PM |
| 91 | Another giant step forward for womankind!If you listen closely you can hear the strangled, entitled yell of an enraged scrote who’s glaring at his phone… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/21 12:14 PM |
| 91 | Scrote is jealous of his girlfriend’s dogs…I found the comment that she treats the dogs better than his own family treated him telling as well… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/21 07:25 PM |
| 15 | I have doubts…“No that’s impossible! I put forth the most effort ever! We go for walks in the field and I take her to Applebee’s! What more could she want?” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 06:56 PM |
| 109 | I have doubts…Someone in this now deleted thread asked for examples of these convos and OP replied “no :)” That tells me everything I need to know (not that I didn’t already know it) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 06:51 PM |
| 30 | I have doubts…Of course! You know if she doesn’t pay for her half of a date/dinner then she’s a gold digger 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 06:15 PM |
| 48 | I have doubts…Also the irony of this post with that subreddit’s rule “No broad generalizations” with not ONE single woman, they’re all boring… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 05:59 PM |
| 60 | I have doubts…Like obviously you suck dude if not one single woman has ever put forth any effort with you. Maybe just maybe you’re doing something wrong? Nah it’s easier to just blame the women | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 05:55 PM |
| 163 | I have doubts…I would love to hear from these women he dated. Something tells me his “effort” is Netflix and chill with an occasional walk in the park. And his first date idea is probably always coffee. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 05:46 PM |
| 9 | Keep this in mind as you level up Queen 👸Thank you for sharing. I’m so glad that you were able to become successful in life despite a terrible upbringing. It’s amazing what we can learn by simply doing the opposite of what was modeled to us in our young years. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 06:44 PM |
| 14 | I love this trend! More men who hit the wall; once considered one of the hottest men out there, now... 🤢Paul Rudd=The Best Avenger 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 06:11 PM |
| 15 | Just a reminder:Yes to all of that! You articulated it so much better than I could have! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 10:44 PM |
| 57 | Just a reminder:Exactly. And it’s such a stupid question. Like “does your husband know you’re involved in a community that promotes high standards and better lives for women?” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 09:42 PM |
| 95 | Just a reminder:I’m so honored: just received my first Scrote DM asking if my husband knows that I’m involved with FDS. Yes, of course, and because he’s a HVM he agrees with our principles. HVM aren’t threatened by FDS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 09:22 PM |
| 98 | Just a reminder:The biggest life lesson a woman could ever learn: men don’t change. Ever. That’s why I always tell young women “don’t date potential”. Date what is right in front of you right now because that is who they truly are. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 08:49 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Check-InOff topic but how do I get it stop showing “new” comments as the default on any thread I go on in any subreddit? I already tried logging into old Reddit and messing around with my preferences but it wouldn’t save anything. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 09:05 PM |
| 18 | Women to men since the dawn of timeThis just makes me miss vine lol-I don’t like TikTok | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 04:45 PM |
| 12 | Love yourself 💕Oh I agree about the scene. It was a shame that sentiment didn’t last with her character. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 07:31 PM |
| 13 | Love yourself 💕Good quote bad source. Jackie was a total pick me and always had to be in a relationship. She dated all the guys on show with the exception of Eric. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 06:35 PM |
| 44 | Educating my daughter on what men will say when she is confident and strong in her opinions, what are we missing?Tell her to watch out for the fake apology: “I’m sorry you feel that way” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 11:04 PM |
| 51 | Having children with an HVM is STILL hard - protect yourself against LVM at all costs!I know that sub is bleak but if you truly do want to get married and have kids it’s not always that bad. I’m very happily married to a very supportive and engaged HVM. We recently had a baby and he’s been a fantastic father. A lot of those women on the motherhood sub saw the red flags while they were dating their LVM and got married/had kids anyways. So it shouldn’t be a shock to them that the lazy guy they dated is now a lazy husband/father. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 11:02 PM |
| 261 | PSA: as soon as man says that, run the opposite direction sis 🏃♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️ This is RED FLAG. Manipulation.Or when they do a task terribly (most likely on purpose) and you call them out on it: “I’ll never do it again then. You do it better anyways” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 04:24 PM |
| 335 | The bar is in hell. I don’t know who’s worse: OP or the commenters!Excuse you, it’s not a vagina it’s a coochie 🤪 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 04:28 PM |
| 27 | The bar is in hell. I don’t know who’s worse: OP or the commenters!And then everyone clapped 👏🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 04:28 PM |
| 402 | The bar is in hell. I don’t know who’s worse: OP or the commenters!I thought the “now she keeps it waxed” comment was very telling… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 03:16 PM |
| 188 | The bar is in hell. I don’t know who’s worse: OP or the commenters!But she’s empowered now! 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 02:58 PM |
| 2 | All this for a 2.5 month relationship? Nah, sis-let this man go!Oh sorry-I missed that | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 07:11 PM |
| 18 | All this for a 2.5 month relationship? Nah, sis-let this man go!Let that “man go” I used the mango emoji lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 03:35 PM |
| 34 | All this for a 2.5 month relationship? Nah, sis-let this man go!Oh but she’s okay with his low libido! That’s perfectly fine! 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 03:09 PM |
| 36 | All this for a 2.5 month relationship? Nah, sis-let this man go!Society has brainwashed women into thinking being single is the worst possible fate ever. So in situations like this you’re willing to put up with crap like this just so you’re not alone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 02:57 PM |
| 30 | All this for a 2.5 month relationship? Nah, sis-let this man go!Let that 🥭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 02:57 PM |
| 73 | All this for a 2.5 month relationship? Nah, sis-let this man go!Doesn’t want to see her and isn’t excited about her. Gee this is the stuff of fairy tales! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 02:27 PM |
| 144 | All this for a 2.5 month relationship? Nah, sis-let this man go!Important to note: Despite most comments saying this man is emotionally unavailable OP is determined to make it work even saying “I hope he wants me to stay” Girl, no! This isn’t love. This man doesn’t even like you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 02:11 PM |
| 345 | Every “girls should make the first move!!” Post in a nutshell 🌰 🥜Reminds of the scene in the show “Friends” when Phoebe tells Rachel that she should ask out the guy she’s crushing on. Joey agrees she should ask the guy out and says it’s a turn on. Rachel then says “won’t that seems desperate?” To which Joey replies “that’s the turn on” I’ve literally talked to men who admit if a girl asks them out they’ll go out with her despite not even liking her in the first place. But they figure they can get a cheap and easy hookup out of it since they already know she’s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 10:37 AM |
| 61 | On today’s episode of MEN (TM) fetishists ruin EVERYTHING. 🤢🤢What’s worse was the pickme women who ran the breastfeeding groups who knew men were in the group but let them stay because the men paid money to be a part of the group. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/21 02:56 PM |
| 3 | “First time dads needs their mommy’s support in the delivery room and that mom is not the most important person in the room.” Comments pickme.Thank you 💜 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/21 02:16 PM |
| 12 | “First time dads needs their mommy’s support in the delivery room and that mom is not the most important person in the room.” Comments pickme.I agree with this. I gave birth back in November and I found my husband to be a calming presence and he really helped to keep me centered during labor. He never once complained and got me anything I wanted. He was up in his feet by my side the entire time I was in labor. It was a wonderful bonding experience as we welcomed our son into the world. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/21 10:09 AM |
| 26 | If you can't find a good man, raise one.There will always be outliers. But LV men typically breed/raise LV sons. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 07:05 PM |
| 54 | If you can't find a good man, raise one.I agree to an extent. But if you have a son with a LVM father he is bound to pick up his fathers bad habits, traits, mannerisms, etc...That’s why it’s vital you vet the man you want to start a family with. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 06:24 PM |
| 73 | PSA: Men are learning about FDS but like most things they don't get it all. Stay on Scrote Watch!They can tweak their bios all the want but in the end the mask ALWAYS slips. Dishonest men cannot keep up the charade for long. Their selfishness and laziness always pops up, sooner rather than later. It exhausts them to actually put forth sincere effort. Hopefully the girl they match with can recognize the signs quickly and dump him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 06:21 PM |
| 127 | Don’t let society or Reddit tell you that spending money on an engagement ring/wedding is foolish!I legit saw a pickme in a ring subreddit actually say “I would say yes if my man proposed with an onion ring” 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 08:21 PM |
| 37 | Don’t let society or Reddit tell you that spending money on an engagement ring/wedding is foolish!I agree! If you don’t want an expensive/lavish wedding that’s perfectly okay! I just hate seeing men crap all over other men who spend a good amount of money on a ring/wedding. But yes effort and actions are always key! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 08:21 PM |
| 52 | Don’t send nudes.While this is funny it is also too much effort. Block and delete. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 01:29 AM |
| 93 | Might be my favorite meme yet. We see you too lurkers. Even if you don't post we're rooting for you. Here's to 200k and beyond! #LevelUpYou know this sub is powerful when other subs block you from mentioning it to women who would benefit from it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 04:27 PM |
| 35 | FDS has officially reached 150k members!As far as I know we are not allowed to specifically name the subreddit, I’m sorry. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 11:32 PM |
| 114 | FDS has officially reached 150k members!Ugh that subreddit is a joke. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 11:23 PM |
| 25 | Yes, you’re cheap. Good for this queen for turning down this low effort “date”!And if I remember correctly, men outnumber women in Seattle so if anything they should be putting their best foot forward and come up with great dates! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 08:23 PM |
| 60 | Yes, you’re cheap. Good for this queen for turning down this low effort “date”!It’s not expensive. But it is for scrotes who try to go on as many dates as possible so they have to find a way to cut costs somehow. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 06:39 PM |
| 154 | Yes, you’re cheap. Good for this queen for turning down this low effort “date”!Exactly! His immediate train of through was “she wants dinner? She must be a gold digger! Better find someone else with lower standards!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 05:37 PM |
| 113 | Yes, you’re cheap. Good for this queen for turning down this low effort “date”!And he found many in that thread! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 05:36 PM |
| 39 | Yes, you’re cheap. Good for this queen for turning down this low effort “date”!That’s because they haven’t learned from the dating mistakes they made when they were younger... Love your username by the way! Is it a reference from a show? It sounds familiar! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 05:34 PM |
| 39 | Yes, you’re cheap. Good for this queen for turning down this low effort “date”!You assume correctly | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 05:22 PM |
| 29 | Yes, you’re cheap. Good for this queen for turning down this low effort “date”!True but short, casual dates aren’t what FDS preaches | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 04:42 PM |
| 70 | Yes, you’re cheap. Good for this queen for turning down this low effort “date”!Tons of pick me comments but that’s par for course on that particular subreddit | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 04:39 PM |
| 7 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check InSo even if by some miracle a LVM ex turned into a HVM (and I highly doubt that it would ever happen) the main thing to remember is that it doesn’t matter. They were still a LVM when they were with you. And they treated you poorly. And you deserve better. Just because it may appear that they have changed it is probably a facade used to rope in an unsuspecting woman. But the mask will slip. All you need to focus on is finding your own HVM who will treat you right and respect you from the beginning… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 09:51 PM |
| 15 | Hi Ladies - r/FemaleDatingStrategy is currently PRIVATE in protest of recent actions from Reddit Admins.Is there something we need to do to make sure we can still access this subreddit once it goes private? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/21 08:44 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat / Check-inOh well long distance is it’s own set of issues. I personally couldn’t have done that long of a distance. But I still feel like this falls under the category of “if he wanted to he would”, sending that text that late is not cool. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 09:26 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat / Check-inOh man I called it! And obviously it’s up to you but I wouldn’t go. It takes five seconds to send a text-he couldn’t text at all earlier today? Nope-if it’s starting this way (disrespectful) it’s not worth it. Oh and he can’t meet until next week, essentially putting you on a back burner? Nope, nope, nope! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 09:09 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat / Check-inYou’re welcome! And I can pretty much guarantee you’ll have way more fun with your friends tonight :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 05:23 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat / Check-inOh yeah for sure-I hated online dating so much. Don’t be surprised if he hits you up later this afternoon, asking if you’re still on. You haven’t heard from him since Monday? Nope, back toss that one back in the dating pool! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 04:57 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat / Check-inIf I didn’t hear from a guy by the morning on the day of the date I didn’t go-did you ever hear from this guy? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 04:52 PM |
| 4 | Weekly FDS Chat / Check-inIn my opinion, it is a red flag. To be honest even if he was 27 I would see it as a red flag. Going out and enjoying yourself with a group of friends, maybe dinner or drinks is totally acceptable. But to actually state that he “parties occasionally” is worrying to me and reeks of someone who hasn’t grown up yet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 04:49 PM |
| 79 | The majority of men WILL NOT do 50% of parentingThat sub is horrific. So many examples of terrible husbands and fathers. But of course they crap all over FDS because we’re “mean” and they block any member of FDS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 05:42 PM |
| 18 | According to Vice: Women's Sexual Appeal to Men "Cornerstone of Civilization" 🤢Ugh but if you dare say that anywhere else on Reddit you will be vilified! So many disgusting scrotes and pickmes defend sex workers and proclaim it was their choice and why not make $$ off selling their photos/bodies? I fear for the future generations of women. It’s like for every two steps forward it’s five steps back! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 11:15 PM |
| 83 | Happy International Women’s Day 💋Also known as the day where Google searches spike tremendously for “when is international men’s day?”🙄 because god forbid there’s a singular day to celebrate women that doesn’t involve men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/21 05:59 PM |
| 13 | Why are men?*men | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/21 02:58 AM |
| 94 | Why are men?Not included-the tweet with the new look for Lola followed by a scrote commenting: “How am I supposed to beat to this?” 😡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 05:34 PM |
| 3 | Too true 😁So...that makes it okay to get pregnant by a known cheater? Nah sis that ain’t it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 09:12 PM |
| 4 | Too true 😁Very messed up. It’s like my brain short circuits trying to comprehend my moms “logic” that is a good thing for Khloe. Maybe it’s a generational thing? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 05:23 PM |
| 46 | Too true 😁I just had a conversation with my mother about Khloe specifically getting back with her cheating ex and possibly having a second baby with him. I said it was dumb and my mother actually said: “Maybe--maybe not. She wants another baby with him even if the relationship doesn't work out in the end she'll have two full siblings” that he’s changed because he knows what he has to lose and that we can’t judge her relationship we can only judge our own. I literally cannot see the logic in any of the abo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 05:17 PM |
| 4 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-InThat’s awesome! Growing up I didn’t realize how much of a pickme my own mom was. But now as an adult we have conversations about men and I’m so shocked at how she justifies men’s actions (including my own LVM father) and condones cheating. I have a baby son and will be doing my very best to make sure he’s a HVM despite what society will try and push on him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 02:19 PM |
| 47 | Don’t ever accept being treated as less than a Queen!To manipulate them, gaslight them, and gain power over them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 01:01 AM |
| 11 | Valentine's Day Postmortem Discussion Thread: Did your man disappoint you on Valentine's Day? Comment your story below!Nope! My husband bought me two dozen roses, my favorite chocolates, a beautiful card with a thoughtful message inside and a gorgeous diamond bracelet. We got a couples massage and had dinner at a steakhouse. It was the perfect day. It took a long time to find my HVM but he was worth the wait 💜 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/21 04:52 PM |
| 23 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-InI’m sorry that your boyfriend broke up with you. But on the bright side this leaves you opportunity to find someone that’s going to treat you right and be a high value male. How long were you with this low value male for? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/21 03:57 PM |
| 13 | I’m happy to see women on social media (mainly TikTok) speaking out about the dangerous glorification of sex work. She’s speaking facts!It’s one of the main reasons I’m forever grateful I did not grow up in the era of Snapchat and Only Fans. Both are always lauded as harmless things to do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/21 01:37 AM |
| 25 | I’m happy to see women on social media (mainly TikTok) speaking out about the dangerous glorification of sex work. She’s speaking facts!Yes because flipping burgers comes with the threat of rape, violence, blackmail, degradation, mental issues, etc...They’re totally the same 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/21 01:36 AM |
| 20 | I’m happy to see women on social media (mainly TikTok) speaking out about the dangerous glorification of sex work. She’s speaking facts!Oh if you dare to say one negative thing about sex work or only fans you will get lambasted and accused of not supporting/empowering women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/21 01:35 AM |
| 25 | Found this on whisper... lots of pickmes in the replies 🤢These are the same women who say they would be happy with an engagement ring from Walmart-they just want their man to propose already! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/21 01:05 AM |
| 231 | I’m happy to see women on social media (mainly TikTok) speaking out about the dangerous glorification of sex work. She’s speaking facts!This is the one sub on Reddit that actually has the guts to call out sex work. I frequent other subs that validate it and call it a legitimate career. It drives me crazy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 09:18 PM |
| 88 | And this is why you never buy a house without getting married first!It’s sad. The advice columnist mentions the “sunk cost fallacy” which why I believe she hasn’t left yet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/21 10:33 PM |
| 46 | Way to completely (and purposely) miss the point...True! The best tippers are like HVM. Humble, kind and generous. If you have to brag about money or are flirty with the waitress you’re a LVM | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/21 09:59 PM |
| 73 | Way to completely (and purposely) miss the point...I used to serve in the past too-if I heard “Don’t worry, I’m gonna take care of you” I already knew a crappy tip was headed my way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/21 09:27 PM |
| 2 | BF pretends to be happily married family man at work, then yells at his GF when she accidentally lets it slip to co-worker that they're not marriedFor sure a blessing. That guy is psycho-doesn’t want to get married to OP aka commit and gets out of committing to the side chick by saying he’s married to OP. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 03:25 PM |
| 2 | BF pretends to be happily married family man at work, then yells at his GF when she accidentally lets it slip to co-worker that they're not marriedOh I missed that-did she write that as a comment? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 03:19 PM |
| 10 | BF pretends to be happily married family man at work, then yells at his GF when she accidentally lets it slip to co-worker that they're not marriedOP edited her post to add an update: they talked and she found out he’s cheating on her with one of his female coworkers!! Apparently it sounded better to say “I can’t leave my wife” rather than “I can’t leave my girlfriend” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 02:51 PM |
| 100 | This is nice.Maybe it’s not so much that he does these things-which is the bare minimum-but how he does them. I’ll read many times where a husband “cleans” a kitchen but leaves behind crumbs and dirt. Or remembers the special occasion but doesn’t do anything for it. Or does dad things like change one diaper a day. Whereas a HVM will go above and beyond. Plan date nights and give thoughtful gifts. Play, interact and do at least an equal amount of parenting. Everyday my husband (after working 12 hours) comes h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/21 04:21 PM |
| 3 | Absolute QUEEN Energy!Oh I’m so sorry :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 02:22 PM |
| 3 | Absolute QUEEN Energy!Did you get your cat back? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 10:55 AM |
| 13 | Woman takes care of her child basically by herself while gamer/unemployed husband games all day. Asks for advice and gets told his video game habits are normal! This is not normal!It’s how they justify staying with these awful men and they figure if they preemptively put that he’s a good man people won’t give the usual advice of “leave him”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 07:23 PM |
| 20 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 3 2020So in person interaction will be your best bet in order to find out if they are a HVM. But there are a few things leading up to the in person meet up that I would consider green flags. Examples of green flags: Respectful during initial online chatting. Doesn’t call you beautiful, sweetie, honey or any other superficial pet names Doesn’t bring up sex/hook ups/Snapchat/Instagram Makes a visible effort to get to know you/keep the conversation going. Asks you questions that require more than one wor… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 08:26 PM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 9 2020I don’t think it’s unreasonable to want a video chat in these times-but if he hasn’t mentioned it or suggested it maybe it’s because he doesn’t know it’s an expectation? I’m not sure-I know OLD is different during these current times. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 04:35 AM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 9 2020Are you in a situation where you can’t meet up in person because of the current world situation? Have you mentioned video chatting via texting or on your profile? I only ask because I never had a guy ask to do video chatting but I would get frustrated if we texted for a few days and he made no effort to mention meeting in person/planning a date... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 04:14 AM |
| 25 | Just a few reminders for all the High Value Queens on here...I understand! Back in my dating days when I didn’t know any better, I also struggled with the first two-mostly because guys being flakey and noncommittal was all I ever experienced. When I met my now husband it was like night and day and I realized how important communication is and how much actions and being true to their word really are! But I understand the struggle of wanting to text (or double text) when you get no response or making excuses for a LVM when they disappoint you/don’t follow t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 09:48 PM |
| 7 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 9 2020Sounds awesome! Do you think there will be a second date? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 05:04 AM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 1 2020I’ve had an influx of being added to filthy group chats lately and had no idea why! I didn’t know it was because I participated in this sub. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/20 06:04 AM |
| 26 | How a real HVM prioritizes the woman in his lifeHonestly I think that depends on your communication preferences. For me personally I always liked everyday communication when I was dating. And there’s hasn’t been a day since I started talking to my now husband that we haven’t texted/called each other at least once a day. But I also know some women hate that! And that’s okay-you just have to gauge what you feel comfortable with and what your boundaries are! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 09:15 PM |
| 33 | Types of NV/LVM you meet while dating and red flags to watch out for.The Emotionally Unavailable Guy -Comes on strong in the beginning (love bombing) -Mirrors your interest -Avoids conflicts -Withdraws from the relationship when things start to take on a serious tone -Acts confused about what he wants out of a relationship -Leaves you constantly confused about his intentions | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/20 02:46 PM |
| 8 | JUST TYPICAL LVM TALKThank you! It took a long time to find him lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/20 09:21 PM |
| 27 | JUST TYPICAL LVM TALKUgh why do men act like they aren’t a contributing member of a household? They are adults! One of the best things about my husband is I never have to ask him to do a household chore. Sees that the dishwasher needs to be emptied? He just does it! Cleans the dishes and tells me to go relax on the sofa! Takes care of things around the house! He was always like this but now that I’m literally 9 months pregnant I appreciate it even more. Especially because I know my son is going to grow up and see hi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/20 05:25 PM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: October 16 2020This is super off-topic but I have no idea where to ask-does anyone know if there’s a way to turn off the new feature on the Reddit mobile app that can stop the upvote/downvote buttons from wiggling? I find it super distracting while I’m trying to read and didn’t see anything in the settings... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/20 11:08 PM |
| 4 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: October 7 2020Can I respectfully ask why you just haven’t blocked and deleted this guy yet? Seems like a whole lot of effort and energy for someone you’ve already deemed a scrote... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 09:08 PM |
| 21 | Yesterday I had brunch with 2 men I know..one decided to invite a girl he matched with that morning. She showed up with a couple hours notice to a first date group brunch, paid for her portion then wanted to continue to hang out!If you’re official your boyfriend should be paying for you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 04:25 PM |
| 15 | FDS today got me likeI know-today has been like male depravity on steroids. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 04:42 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: September 29 2020I would say this needs a little more context. How old are they? What is she looking for out of a relationship? Does she know what he wants? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 08:01 PM |
| 53 | Canceling the date for this. He can’t bring me a chair? I just threw mine out as it was rusting but I’m not buying one this morning. We have five mutual friends so I have to let him down nicely. How?Fear of Covid or fear of the possibility of having to pay for you to have a drink/meal? Esp considering he’s unemployed at the moment...🤔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 03:11 PM |
| 2 | Need some HVW songs for my playlistConfident-Demi Lovato | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 11:29 AM |
| 33 | I genuinely feel angry for the sake of young women.Uh do her parents know? I know she’s going to be 18 soon and technically an adult but as of now she’s not and I would flip my lid if some disgusting predator was anywhere near my teenage daughter. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 11:05 AM |
| 10 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: September 29 2020In my honest opinion-no. Unless he’s an on call doctor or something, I’ve always been of the mindset that someone should be able to take a minute or two out of their day to call. Especially if calling is something he does often. I’d keep an eye on this and see if it turns into a pattern or is a one off situation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 12:37 PM |
| 61 | COVID is not an excuse to accept low-effort dates. If sitting and having a meal with someone is too risky, stay home.I have a feeling he’s single because he’s the one offering walk “dates”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 05:35 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: September 18 2020I agree but you accidentally replied to the wrong person :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 11:39 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: September 18 2020I vote for block. Nothing good ever comes from an ex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 09:56 PM |
| 2 | I’m really disappointed and y’all are the only ones who will understand.It’s definitely long enough to know. My now husband and I began dating at age 28, almost 29. We met in June 2018, he bought my engagement ring in November 2018 and proposed in January 2019. We were married in December 2019. He knows I read this subreddit and he wholeheartedly agrees with the saying “when a man knows, he knows and he knows quickly”. There’s a reason after all that the saying “actions speak louder than words” is so essential when weeding out LVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 01:47 AM |
| 1 | Was I too harsh to block him so quickly? He didn’t even ask me how I was and couldn’t fathom why I couldn’t instantly see him... also telling me how “fit” I am 3 times in our 2 minute conversation just comes across as desperate and creepy...Oh okay! Thanks :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 02:07 AM |
| 2 | Was I too harsh to block him so quickly? He didn’t even ask me how I was and couldn’t fathom why I couldn’t instantly see him... also telling me how “fit” I am 3 times in our 2 minute conversation just comes across as desperate and creepy...No, I got that he was being sarcastic-I’ve just never heard of using the term “class” to convey sarcasm | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 06:30 PM |
| 4 | Was I too harsh to block him so quickly? He didn’t even ask me how I was and couldn’t fathom why I couldn’t instantly see him... also telling me how “fit” I am 3 times in our 2 minute conversation just comes across as desperate and creepy...I actually didn’t understand what he meant by “class”...could you explain please? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 05:26 PM |
| 7 | Aww he’s mad I didn’t respond to his coffee date invite 😢Oh man the extra context makes it even worse-were the previous two times formal dates? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 07:01 PM |
| 25 | Aww he’s mad I didn’t respond to his coffee date invite 😢And it’s barely an invite-no consideration for you such as “would you like to get coffee at nearby place?” Or “would meeting up for coffee in the morning work for your schedule?” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 05:37 PM |
| 52 | Saw this in a different sub. This is the state of scrotes in 2020. They never learn because pickmeishas act like they're into being talked like this. Stay safeI blame 50 Shades of Grey for romanticizing Doms/the BDSM world. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/20 08:14 PM |
| 3 | "I will kill us both"I think you did the right thing. You looked out for a fellow woman. You can’t help it if she’s got her blinders on. And when, not if, but when the same thing happens to her with your LVM ex she’ll remember your warnings. Maybe it’ll help her then. But either way your conscience is clear. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 03:55 PM |
| 13 | "I will kill us both"Was his new gf receptive to your warnings? Hopefully she didn’t just brush you off! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 10:14 PM |
| 11 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered September 1 2020Hopefully he doesn’t come back with a coffee date or a walk in the park date idea! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 08:49 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered September 1 2020What was horrible about the date if you don’t mind me asking? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/20 10:47 PM |
| 7 | Process Changes to the Sub, Flair, and other AnnouncementsThanks for the update and everything you do! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/20 08:58 AM |
| 8 | Thoughts on psych study finding porn doesn't hurt relationships?Scrotes will die defending porn. If a woman even dares to voice a slight opposition to porn she is immediately labeled a prude. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 09:51 PM |
| 36 | Thoughts on psych study finding porn doesn't hurt relationships?I call bs on this “study”. Head on over to the relationship advice subreddit and at least once a day some poor woman posts on there about her boyfriend/fiancé/husband choosing porn over sex. What about all the studies where doctors are reporting young men in their 20s are requesting Viagra because they can’t get it up due to their overexposure to porn? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 08:23 PM |
| 74 | When an LVM pops out of the wood work with a “miss you” text, this is the only way to respond.But think of what a blow to his ego it’ll be if you block him and the next time he goes to text you he’ll see that his message wasn’t delivered... :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 07:25 PM |
| 7 | I was deleting pictures off my phone and I found this gem. So glad I deleted my OLD profiles. It was just too much effort.Ugh why are men? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 08:31 PM |
| 2 | I really want to believe that this is fake but it wouldn’t surprise me if it wasn’t...The pickmeisha is asking an advice columnist to publish her post anonymously and the person in blue is agreeing to do so. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/20 06:15 PM |
| 11 | LMAAAOO another queen out there driving away her scrote. We support you sis. If a man is uncomfortable with this sub, he's NOT A HVM.Definitely screams fake to me too but I see it as publicity! If it helps some women find this sub and level up then it’s worth it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/20 10:35 AM |
| 53 | A chilling story of a woman who almost married a cheating narcissist- her blog post revealing his true nature blew up his life in a spectacular fashion. Important reading!The worst part of his response was when he recounted the women sympathizers in his interviews who apologized for what he was going through and “didn’t see what the big deal was”. He cheated and ruined a woman’s future and he’s the one getting sympathy?!? Sometimes I don’t know what’s worse-LVM or Pickmeishas enabling LVM | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/20 07:55 PM |
| 14 | Step right up for LVM Bingo!Don’t forget: “I’m sorry you feel that way” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 09:21 PM |
| 76 | Ladies: never forget the “Fox and the Grapes” parable.My favorite is when they suggest sex and when you turn them down you get called a “slut”. Yes, by not sleeping with you I’m promiscuous-solid logic there buddy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 04:29 PM |
| 37 | Can we send an FDS rescue squad for this woman?I swear the motto of every LVM is: “I couldn’t help it/myself” and then place the blame on the woman. They are incapable of taking responsibility for anything... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 04:24 PM |
| 18 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered July 30 2020That’s all TwoXChromosomes is anymore-it’s overrun by men just waiting to butt in and proclaim “not all men!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 09:56 AM |
| 12 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered July 23 2020Oh the details make it worse-he couldn’t shell out the $20 for you to come after he invited you? Oh no-he’s a loser.... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 11:00 AM |
| 10 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered July 23 2020Bullet dodged! But I’m curious-how much was the ticket? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 10:08 AM |
| 3 | Queen levels up after leaving toxic relationshipThat’s what I thought too but in the original post the OP says it was September 2019.... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 10:42 PM |
| 10 | A post titled “How to love a man”....thoughts? I have a strong feeling that if the word “man” was swapped with “woman” scrotes would be yelling about how women have too high of standards.....Ironically I did find this on Facebook but it was posted by a man... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 09:08 PM |
| 10 | A post titled “How to love a man”....thoughts? I have a strong feeling that if the word “man” was swapped with “woman” scrotes would be yelling about how women have too high of standards.....I’m not too familiar with all these ridiculous terms men come up with-is there a difference between “red pill woman” and “tradwife”? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 08:16 PM |
| 10 | FINALLY stood my ground!And THIS is why this sub was created! Not to hate on men or use them for their money-but to empower women to find the strength to leave the LVM in their life and level up! So proud of you-only better things for you here on out!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 04:13 PM |
| 9 | I deleted the CMB app. 🤣Ugh that sucks. Did he try to ask you out on a second date? I’m guessing he said something at the end: “it’ll be two checks”? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/20 04:23 PM |
| 7 | Was my (25F) bf (27M) inconsiderate or am I overreacting?The key phrase in your comment is “if he wanted to”. Men are simple and show their value quite easily. Men that are invested in a relationship and truly care about their partner will move heaven and earth to support her, cherish her, and spoil her. Unfortunately your guy sounds like a dud-he might not be a bad guy per se-but don’t you want to be with someone who shows you with his actions that he cares about you and is invested in you? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/20 05:32 PM |
| 7 | I matched with this guy on Tinder back when Corona happened. Now that things are open I figured he would ask me out for dinner or something, nope, dude wants to chat on the phone all the time. I never have to go back and forth like this. Called me immature when the immature one was him 😂Yeah before corona-back in 2018 when I was using online dating.... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/20 09:44 PM |
| 30 | [Mildly Trending] /r/FemaleDatingStrategy - Female dating strategy (+238 subscribers today; 140% trend score)This gives me hope for future generations of women! I so wish this sub had been around when I was in my LVM relationship. I really needed someone to slap some sense into me! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/20 08:38 PM |
| 44 | I matched with this guy on Tinder back when Corona happened. Now that things are open I figured he would ask me out for dinner or something, nope, dude wants to chat on the phone all the time. I never have to go back and forth like this. Called me immature when the immature one was him 😂Ugh what is with LVM and going on walks as a date? Even before corona I was always shooting down that suggestion. Like no, I’m not getting all dressed up to go outside in the hot sun so you can awkwardly try to segue the conversation into going back to your place to “cuddle”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/20 08:36 PM |
| 21 | Pornsick LogickI’m sorry-but what exactly is the picture on the left? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/20 05:19 PM |
| 32 | My boyfriend sent me this...he knows I am not trying to live together until marriage. Ladies am I trippin or is this a potential proposal?👀How long have you guys been dating? Have you had any serious conversations regarding marriage/timelines? I have to agree with the fellow ladies on here. I would not feel comfortable with my man buying a house before we are married. I would want that to be a joint decision. Because if he buys it now it will always be his house and god forbid anything goes wrong he will dangle that fact over your head. I hope you do get a proposal but if it’s not just be very careful! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/20 07:09 PM |
| 48 | I hope we all throw away our toxic exes/present partners and look forward to a brighter future where we are successful and have a hvm on the sideThis couldn’t be more true. Before I met my husband I had two previous boyfriends. The biggest thing that both of them had in common is that they put their needs/wants first and were stubborn when it came to their needs/wants. Looking back I see how I was always willing to go along with it because I wanted to appear “easy going” and not make a fuss. Fast forward to now-my husband always considers my needs/wants first. Asks for my opinion on things and absolutely adores me. He lives by the motto:… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/20 07:03 PM |
| 32 | Blocked LVM after trying to lure me to come over because of “corona”As crappy as this exchange is, just be grateful that he showed himself to be a LVM right away and you didn’t waste anymore time with him! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/20 07:34 PM |
| 6 | Husband stays out all night after work, wife gets upset but she’s the AH according to the comments and she ends up apologizing!Why respect your wife when you can hang out with the boys and drink and smoke knowing there won’t be any repercussions when you go home? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/20 04:07 PM |
| 8 | While it may seem like this the majority of the time, remember to never settle!True-although I do I feel like “blatantly offensive” is more of a male trait overall. You know, LVM with their audacity and all | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/20 11:02 PM |
| 4 | More from backpedal city - scrote almost cries for his mommy 🤡Oh yes-I was fooled by many of those bios back in my online dating days. But LVM always show their true colors through the follow up conversation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/20 08:44 PM |
| 8 | More from backpedal city - scrote almost cries for his mommy 🤡Serious question-no snark-but why did you not expect him to be shallow? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/20 08:33 PM |
| 5 | I’m gonna nah sis myself for a second.Glad you’re feeling better! And as crappy as you might feel for texting your ex at least it reaffirmed he really is a NVM when he didn’t respond! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/20 11:59 AM |
| 13 | Someone please tell me to block this LV piece of trash... apologises for not making enough effort 2 weeks ago, already back to pushing me away when I'm trying to make plansAbsolutely block. Then you’ll be free to find a HVM who not only plans dates but is excited to see you multiple times in a week. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/20 11:57 AM |
| 2 | Ladies, I need some strength. I am in a relationship where I am not being treated right. Despite this, I still have so many feelings for him. How do you break up with someone you are still in love with?Thank you :) and I really hope you find the HVM you deserve! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/20 10:43 PM |
| 2 | Ladies, I need some strength. I am in a relationship where I am not being treated right. Despite this, I still have so many feelings for him. How do you break up with someone you are still in love with?Well to start he was your typical avoidant dismissive personality. Anytime the subject of serious commitment came up he would freak out. When we had been together 6 months (and I had already met his parents) I said “I love you”. Only for him to get up wordlessly and start walking out of the room. I stared at him in disbelief and as he was walking out said “I heard you” then left the room all together. He then proceeded to ignore me for the next two days. He was a terrible communicator. He was al… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/20 09:58 PM |
| 27 | Ladies, I need some strength. I am in a relationship where I am not being treated right. Despite this, I still have so many feelings for him. How do you break up with someone you are still in love with?I would try to think of it in terms of this: the more time you waste with this man who is not treating you right the more time you waste not finding the man who will treat you right. The perfect guy for you could be out there right now but you’re not meeting him because you’re with this dud of a man. I’m not saying it’ll be easy. But I went from a low libido LVM to my now husband who treats me like a queen. And in all the time my husband and I have been together I’ve never once had doubt, fear o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/20 11:33 PM |
| 24 | Big Yikes 😳Did hinge do anything? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/20 03:47 PM |
| 47 | I just dropped himYou absolutely did the right thing! Proud of you for dropping him right away and not giving him a chance to “explain” aka lie. When the right man comes along you’ll feel at peace and happy! Onto to better things, you’ve got this!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 02:20 PM |
| 10 | Basic redditor starterpackDon’t forget the obligatory “not my proudest fap” comment 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/20 07:17 PM |
| 7 | Nominee for Pickmeisha MVPFrom the article: “an intense attraction upon meeting” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 02:02 AM |
| 189 | Nominee for Pickmeisha MVPWent back and read through the article: “She proposed to her former boss on a night out at a strip club.” The red flags keep multiplying! What a cool girlfriend 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/20 08:41 PM |
| 37 | Nominee for Pickmeisha MVPRight? Even if it was the other way around-the 72 year old man proposing to the 27 year old woman-it would still be gross!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/20 08:28 PM |
| 144 | Nominee for Pickmeisha MVPEven the dog in the pic looks disappointed in her! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/20 08:01 PM |
| 10 | Reminder: shut up engagement rings are a thing. An engagement does not mean you are immune to LVM behavior. A LVM can be hidden for YEARS under a HVM mask and engagement is the PERFECT time for a man to use "building a life together" to justify LV behavior or pressuring you to lower your standards.Huh I didn’t know that about real diamonds, I learned something new today! But at least you were smart and had it verified! I remember a story on Reddit not too long ago about a man buying a cheap amazon ring and putting it in a Tiffany box! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/20 12:18 AM |
| 4 | Reminder: shut up engagement rings are a thing. An engagement does not mean you are immune to LVM behavior. A LVM can be hidden for YEARS under a HVM mask and engagement is the PERFECT time for a man to use "building a life together" to justify LV behavior or pressuring you to lower your standards.Wow! I’m sorry you had to deal with that LVM! I would’ve been so mad! And embarrassed! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/20 12:08 AM |
| 8 | Reminder: shut up engagement rings are a thing. An engagement does not mean you are immune to LVM behavior. A LVM can be hidden for YEARS under a HVM mask and engagement is the PERFECT time for a man to use "building a life together" to justify LV behavior or pressuring you to lower your standards.Did he tell you it was real and you later found out it was a fake? What a loser! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/20 11:36 PM |
| 17 | Let's see when she gets cheated if it's just a "lil thing"Did this just happen? I haven’t heard anything about this? But regardless how disgusting. Vows mean absolutely nothing to NVM/LVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/20 03:44 PM |
| 11 | Let's see when she gets cheated if it's just a "lil thing"What is this meme in reference to? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/20 03:37 PM |
| 45 | Men lie, get what you want before he gets hisAgreed. When I used to use OLD I had guys hit me with that bs all the time. Instant unmatch. Or my personal favorite was when I would say I was looking to date and get into a relationship: “oh wow you just jump into dating right away? I could never do that. I always hang out with a girl first”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/20 10:56 PM |
| 94 | Men lie, get what you want before he gets hisOr you run into guys who insist they have to test out “sexual compatibility” before they can get into an exclusive relationship 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/20 10:17 PM |
| 16 | A recent hook-up asked me my body count.No HVM will ever ask you that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/20 08:00 PM |
| 32 | He hasn’t asked me one question about myself yet, or even made me laugh. Why are we even talking about meeting yet? Clearly just interested in one thing overall. No thanks ✌️Back in my OLD days it took me awhile to figure out that these kind of guys are a waste of time. You keep hoping they’re going to ask a question/be engaging and they never amount to anything. The right guy will lead the conversation and ask conversation-related questions. For example, if you mention you like pasta, and he suggests dinner at an Italian place then at least you can tell he’s paying attention. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/20 07:59 PM |
| 32 | This audio is pure gold on tik tok for pickme memes.Ugh gross. Glad I never watched that show. I can’t believe it’s still on the air. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/20 05:05 PM |
| 4 | This audio is pure gold on tik tok for pickme memes.Gotcha! Thanks for the background info! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/20 04:57 PM |
| 31 | This audio is pure gold on tik tok for pickme memes.Ah I see. What a terrible example to show young women. Did the man leave his wife for the character? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/20 04:57 PM |
| 37 | This audio is pure gold on tik tok for pickme memes.I’ve never watched Grey’s....was that Pickme audio an actual line on the show after a character cheated? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/20 04:28 PM |
| 6 | Thinking of ghosting a LVMDo it! He doesn’t deserve one last word, thought or minute of your time! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/20 07:54 PM |
| 10 | I have no words.Definitely more than half lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/20 01:26 AM |
| 16 | Advice for raising a HVM?This is an amazing comment! I was an avid reader growing up and I’ve always hoped my future child would be as well. I definitely plan to implement a lot of reading! And that’s an interesting note about fiction and empathy! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/20 07:56 PM |
| 40 | Advice for raising a HVM?Oh he will for sure be doing chores. I refuse to raise a boy who thinks cooking, laundry and cleaning are things only women do. The feelings aspect is a good thing to note too. Studies say men in general tend to be less empathetic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/20 07:22 PM |
| 94 | 8 types of LVM from How to Spot a Dangerous Man Before You Get InvolvedWhat about the emotionally unavailable LVM? The one who is at first charming (later seen as arrogant/narcissistic) but when conflict arises becomes avoidant-dismissive and tries to downplay everything? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/20 10:23 AM |
| 103 | Lets talk about famous PickmeishasDon’t forget about Beyoncé! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/20 10:40 PM |
| 13 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered (March 23rd 2020)I don’t know about this specific LVM in your story but I understand how it happens. It happened to me-my ex in the beginning was very charming, put together, confident, and seemed to have his life put together. However, it didn’t take long for his true personality to shine through-selfish, mean, and sometimes just down right cold. And I stayed longer than I should have because I would remember how he was at the beginning and I would trick myself into thinking he’d go back to the way he was. Spoi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/20 10:11 AM |
| 36 | My block list is so long.The irony of the “upgrade now” button. Uh yes please! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/20 12:20 AM |
| 45 | That’s so grossExcept there’s still that segment of the male population that will go: “it’s just a joke” or “you’re so sensitive” all the while rolling their eyes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/20 10:52 PM |
| 9 | This line always stuck with me.Not a movie-TV show: “Sex and The City” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 01:10 PM |
| 19 | The more and I more I adopt key FDS strategies the more I am able to see how the systemic acceptance of male depravity continues to permeate our relationships when we let them. Another one-sided AITA post for your viewing pleasureAnd the worst part? One of comments/suggestions said to show the husband what a good effect extra sleep has and to show him at night ;) and OP states that’s the answer she likes best! That’s rewarding bad behavior and this is why LVM never change! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/20 11:17 PM |
| 16 | Gets ghosted for 4 weeks - this is all he had to say after I deleted his number.This emoji 🙈 has always been a dead giveaway that your dealing with a LVM. I swear they’re the only ones that use it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/20 04:12 PM |
| 40 | Ugh why is this becoming a thing? Let the man propose!Exactly! Plus I feel like if a woman proposes at the first opportunity the guys is gonna be “Well you’re the one who wanted to get married!!!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/20 04:01 PM |
| 33 | Ugh why is this becoming a thing? Let the man propose!From the article: “Pinterest found the number of people searching for “women proposing to men ideas” skyrocketed 336% from the year before.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/20 02:57 PM |
| 20 | Help- should I text or notAbsolutely not. This guy reeks of LVM. Do not let some arbitrary timeline suck you into a crappy relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/20 10:55 PM |
| 38 | Surprise ladies!!But let’s be honest here....they didn’t actually change the sheets. LVMs will sleep in 6 months old sweat-stained sheets for as long as possible! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/20 07:58 PM |
| 124 | The cockacity!!!!“I’m sorry you feel that way” The emphasis is always on the “you”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/20 03:30 PM |
| 11 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered (Jan 29th 2020)I have mixed feelings about tinder. 99% of the time the men were garbage. Low effort, overly sexual and crude. But I met my husband on there! And I never would’ve met him in real life despite living five minutes away from each other. That’s why I started using online dating in the first place-to connect with people outside my social circle. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/20 09:07 PM |
| 6 | People really unravel over timeOr they want your number to send dick picks 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 10:20 PM |
| 29 | People really unravel over timeWhen I used to be in the dating pool, I’d always unmatch/ghost any guy who would keep pushing issues-whether it was picking me up on a first date at my house, giving out my phone number, or something sexual. Once I say no, the subject should be dropped. What I love is when men try to turn it around on you “I was just trying to be nice!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 07:13 PM |
| 162 | Enough said“Ryan told me to always tell women you work in finance”. Like another commenter said-I bet he’s a bank teller trying to sound fancy! OLD is full of these guys-nothing to offer but you better be perfect! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 07:10 PM |
| 22 | guys are learning astrology to try to get laidThe audacity! Lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/20 04:51 PM |
| 35 | [Rant] LVM get SALTY when you assert yourself... even if they don't want to sleep with you smhDon’t forget about the LVMs at auto repair shops who think because you have a vagina you know nothing about cars! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/20 07:35 PM |
| 16 | So where did you meet your boyfriend/ husband?Met my husband on tinder! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/20 05:55 PM |
| 6 | Has anyone here ever had a successful relationship with a HVM they met on OLD?I’d say so lol. I’m more introverted in nature and after college I bought a house and my routine was pretty much sleep, work, errands, relax at home, and then go to bed and start all over. OLD was a great resource for me in that it matched me with people I wouldn’t come across IRL. Like my husband who I actually lived only five minutes away from, was at the same college as him at the same time and went to the same grocery store! I often wonder how many times our paths crossed before we matched o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/20 04:14 PM |
| 3 | Has anyone here ever had a successful relationship with a HVM they met on OLD?We were both 28 when we met. We are both 30 now :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/20 02:46 AM |
| 3 | Has anyone here ever had a successful relationship with a HVM they met on OLD?Yes! I met my now husband using tinder. Before I met him I had two unsuccessful relationships (also from OLD) and went on so many bad first dates. But I stuck it out and finally met him. He’s the epitome of a high value man starting from our first date where he took me out to dinner! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/20 10:36 PM |
| 4 | Fuckboys be like..Thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/19 06:20 PM |
| 15 | Fuckboys be like..Well I’d say overall what worked for me was: taking it slowly, keeping physical stuff off the table for awhile and actual build a real connection through dinner dates and activity dates. I was upfront right away that I wanted to take things slow physically and I emphasized from the start that communication was the most important thing to me. As far as tips concerning meeting a guy through online dating: unmatch if they start off sexual, if they want to “hang out”, only offer coffee/drink dates, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/19 05:57 PM |
| 9 | Fuckboys be like..I did! We met on tinder of all places lol! But I had to swipe through a lot of garbage over the years before I met him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/19 05:50 PM |
| 40 | Fuckboys be like..When I used to use OLD so many guys would ask what I was looking for. My go to response was typically “looking to date and see if it leads to a relationship”. About half the time I’d get back “wow you just rush into dating like that? I don’t do that but we can hang out first” 🙄 Edit: I see I’ve been given a flair-just want to clarify-I’m not dating anyone-actually getting married this Sunday lol. Already got my HVM :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/19 01:02 PM |
| 12 | It’s holiday time ladies.Gotcha! Yeah that dude sounds like a loser. Looks like it’s time to block! Hope you’re having better luck lately with dating! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/19 08:14 PM |
| 12 | It’s holiday time ladies.Background/context? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/19 07:42 PM |
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