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Your numbers are off bro, it's like 57:43, so indeed slightly larger. What am I being dishonest about? It would benefit millions of young men who face a very dire economic situation, and it would offer a great number of men the opportunity to climb on the social ladder. The men who suffer most from discrimination against men are precisely the ones who would benefit from such programs.
/r/MensRights26/06/19 04:56 PM
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The fact that you choose to view this as an attack on men because it would benefit a slightly larger number of women than men really says it all. The number of men it would benefit is way larger than the number of men it would hurt.
/r/MensRights26/06/19 11:56 AM
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It would benefit mostly poor people at the cost of mostly rich people. And it's not like colleges are dominated by women to the extent that countless men wouldn't also benefit.
/r/MensRights25/06/19 06:11 PM
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Blame who? Men's rights activists shouldn't be opposed to those, but instead try to supplement them with appropriate alternatives for men.
/r/MensRights25/06/19 06:02 PM
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Well a lot of men's rights activists are indeed opposed to feminism so they're not entirely wrong. OP would do well to structure his talk in such a way that enables him to demonstrate how men's rights and women's rights aren't mutually exclusive, and how these movements ought to cooperate.
/r/MensRights25/06/19 03:22 PM
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You're being disingenuous and I think you're aware of it. Bernie's proposal seeks to delete all student debt, including men's.
/r/MensRights25/06/19 03:19 PM
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I know this may not be a very common occurence, but if it were to happen to me, I'd be pretty lucky. I wear my great grandmother's wedding ring at all times, so I could quite easily explain the reason why I wear that ring, avoiding a potentially awkward position.
/r/seduction29/02/16 12:16 AM
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Regardless of whether or not it's based on fact (which I think it isn't), it encourages an unhealthy mindset about women as well as bad behaviour. That alone is reason enough to stay away from that stuff.
/r/seduction28/09/15 01:27 AM
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You got an instadate, a phone number and an experience that will ultimately guide you in the future. That's not too bad. May I ask where this was? She sounds exactly like my former roommate, who is Italian.
/r/seduction31/08/15 01:44 AM
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I guess it might sound like that because of the way I described it, but trust me, we had a very open and good conversation, I think she was a bit into me, but I also believed her when she said she was seeing someone (she told me a lot about him and showed me his texts).
/r/seduction07/12/14 03:07 AM
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I had something like this happen to me. I once met a girl at a concert, and then we went to a bar to have some drinks. Turns out she's seeing someone, but she thought I was a nice guy so she suggested that she be my wingwoman. I went up to the bar, she "hit" on me, and then I rejected her. Getting other girls after that was a piece of cake.
/r/seduction06/12/14 08:42 PM
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If you feel emotionally burnt you should probably take a little break until you feel better. If don't enjoy spending time with girls anymore, then it's only counterproductive to make an effort to meet more of them. If you like reading or meditating, perhaps you should try to join a group? That way, your primary goal would be to find better books, meditate better, whatever, but in the process you could end up finding a girl whose interests are more aligned with yours, which is probably a better s…
/r/seduction26/11/14 10:29 PM
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I don't see it in terms of approaching or not approaching, I prefer to think of it as prioritizing differently. To say that OP should take up other hobbies and relax a bit on the approaching isn't the same as to say that he should quit approaching girls all together.
/r/seduction26/11/14 10:23 PM
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I had a similar experience, and it was quite fun. Sure, communication gets harder but if you're both into each other the mutual effort to understand each other makes for a more bonding experience. That's at least how I felt.
/r/seduction25/10/14 02:48 PM
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Not as much advice as words of comfort, but remember that unless you end up in the friendzone, you will eventually get over her, even if you don't deal with it very well. We all have our crushes from time to time, and even if might not be able to get that girl completely out of our head, we'll still be able to date other girls without problems. Good luck bro!
/r/seduction27/09/14 12:50 PM
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I usually don't get beer goggles either, mainly because my standards are so low, but this weekend it did happen. That's what prompted me to make this post.
/r/seduction22/09/14 11:11 PM
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Sure, but the two aren't mutually exclusive. I'd also say that having to rely on alcohol is worse, but that's another discussion.
/r/seduction22/09/14 11:09 PM
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I'd like to point out that getting to this realization may go faster if you actually fuck up sometimes. A couple of months ago, there were two girls who ditched me over a period of two or three months, and I remember being hurt each time. Although I understand that they ditched me, it still sucked. But accepting that suffering without trying to justify anything has made me feel stronger and more prepared for rejection, so now my fear of rejection is even lower, and I therefore behave less needy.
/r/seduction16/09/14 11:43 AM
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But this isn't a therapy subreddit, you kind of have to sort out your issues with your confidence by yourself. We may help you to show how you can do that, but we can't actually do it for you.
/r/seduction28/08/14 10:16 PM
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I don't get all the fuzz about shit testing. If her intention is to shit test you in order for you to "qualify" for her, that should be reason enough not to want her. If you don't know if she tries to or not, just answer honestly and assume that she was interested. If she says something demeaning or rude call her on it, easy as that.
/r/seduction14/07/14 12:44 AM
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You cannot change your vocal chords on your own, but you can make it a little deeper if you breathe with your diaphragm, so that your stomach moves when you breathe instead of your chest. This is actually a technique that's used by musicians, and it makes your voice more powerful, and a little deeper.
/r/seduction23/06/14 11:04 PM
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This right here. I honestly think it's pointless to speculate about the origins of mental health problems in terms of society and culture. Our society has changed immensely during the last 70 years, and to blame it all on feminism (or whatever) is like blaming WWI solely on the shots in Sarajevo. The only thing that matters in this case is whether the end result is good or not, and I think No More Mr. Nice Guy provides the opportunity for a good end result.
/r/seduction09/06/14 09:07 PM
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I disagree, it depends a lot on where you go and which girls you meet. If they start acting bitchy, it's better to just leave right away, otherwise you end up trying to out-wit a bitch to sleep with you, and even if you succeed, you're still fucking a bitch. Sure, there are cultural differences, but Norway isn't by far the worst country when it comes to insecurity in my opinion.
/r/seduction20/05/14 03:53 PM
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I agree with this. Things might be different in the U.S., but in Europe you rarely have to move very far to live in a city that's significantly bigger which will increase one's possibilities by a lot.
/r/seduction14/02/14 12:41 PM
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Thanks for the support bro <3
/r/seduction13/02/14 11:25 PM
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I think you're completely missing the point. His whole philosophy is based on the assumption that emotional health is a prerequisite and will determine all relationships. This is the opposite of defining your success based on whether you have a girlfriend or not.
/r/seduction13/02/14 10:12 PM
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I believe the info is written on this page: http://markmanson.net/consultations I can't seem to access it now, but it'll probably be available soon.
/r/seduction13/02/14 07:06 PM
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Maybe you should consult the guru himself? I found a lot of his advice to be really helpful, and speaking to him directly made it all a lot clearer for me.
/r/seduction13/02/14 06:38 PM
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Thank you. I don't know. Perhaps therapy may help? If your fear of loneliness is so detrimental to your love life then therapy is nothing to be ashamed of. You deserve to live a fulfilling love life as well. And did you try to be honest and open about it, or is your fear so strong that it renders you incapable of expressing even the slightest vulnerability?
/r/seduction13/02/14 06:30 PM
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Not entirely. Neediness is either undervaluing yourself, or overvaluing others. If it's the former, you're just not happy enough with yourself, and you've developed beliefs about why people would or wouldn't like you that are wrong. If it's the latter, it's probably because of some sort of complex surrounding women, and maybe a troubled relationship with your mother. The goal is to be more concerned about your own perception of yourself than others. Again, this is covered in a lot more detail in…
/r/seduction13/02/14 03:43 PM
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Express your neediness without any shame or being apologetic. It's gonna be awkward at hell some times, and it will probably suck, but by sharing your weaknesses and going through the awkwardness and rejections will force you to invest in yourself. When you love your weaknesses as much as your strengths, then you'll be truly confident. Mark Manson writes a lot about this, and he explains it way better than me. Here are some articles which I found really helpful: http://markmanson.net/understandi…
/r/seduction13/02/14 02:21 AM
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Not very effective. There's nothing wrong with asking the questions, but when that's everything you ask you don't learn a whole lot. It's not gonna help you approach anxiety too much either, if you have any. I don't know if you're referring to Vitaly's video, but I read that some, if not all of it was staged.
/r/seduction12/02/14 02:34 PM
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Mark Manson is THE best self-help person there is, without a doubt. Everything he produces is pure gold. If it hadn't been for Mark, my life would be extremely different than what it is now, and I'd probably still be with someone that doesn't fit me at all.
/r/seduction22/01/14 03:47 PM
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I have a great wingman relationship with a friend of mine. We usually start the conversation with a given woman together, and whenever one of us becomes more invested, the other will leave and occupy the friends of the woman. By now he usually recognizes when I am interested in a woman, and vice versa. If we don't recognize it we'll just state it in a foreign language. We also genuinely enjoy each others company, so we will almost unconsciously speak positively about each other to other people. …
/r/seduction20/01/14 11:34 PM
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I got mistaken for being gay this weekend, and it's the first time that's ever happened to me. She assumed I was gay because of how I talked about clothes (it was a party full of fashion students so I was naturally inclined to talk about that). I suppose trying to avoid fashion as a conversation topic may help. That doesn't mean you should neglect your interests, but you should be able to have conversations about a broad range of topics. Also, showing interest more overtly from the start, as wel…
/r/seduction20/01/14 10:22 PM
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Listen to this, OP. Disappointing people and getting disappointed is part of the game, and it always will be. The only thing you can do is trying to improve how to deal with it.
/r/seduction20/01/14 10:09 PM
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You don't need to tell her explicitly, there's a difference between not telling something and lying. But if she asks you or if the situation demands it (for instance if you can't get it up), for the love of god, tell her the truth. If you try to portray yourself as the best lover/player the world has ever seen like some pick-up artists do, she'll just end up disappointed, and she'd hooking up/sleeping with you based on what you portrayed yourself as, not what you actually are. That risk of scari…
/r/seduction10/01/14 12:12 PM
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I think you should hit on her. Seriously. I have/had a crush on a girl I hooked up with abroad, and let me tell you, there is nothing worse than the thought and insecurity about what could have been. I've thought much more about that foreign girl than I ever have about my ex's after breaking up with them. Unless you try to do something with it, she'll stay in your mind for a much longer time. If she rejects you, that's a sign of incompatibility, which in turn will make it easier to move on.
/r/seduction09/01/14 12:55 PM
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Good job fellow seducer! Kissing is one of those things that can only be learned, not taught. Sure, trying to learn something from movies and other people can be helpful, but you just gotta practice. Fortunately, improving your kissing is a really pleasant experience, and unless you're doing it horribly wrong, which I doubt, it's unlikely that someone is gonna tell you that you're a bad kisser. I have noticed my kissing improving, but nobody ever had to tell me what could be improved, I just not…
/r/seduction09/01/14 11:49 AM
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I've gotten rejected many times, and it's good. Don't try to avoid rejections, cause if you do that, you're not going to be polarizing enough. So, if you don't set yourself up for rejection, you won't get many wonderful connections with women either. I've been slapped, women have said that openly that I'm too ugly and so on. I've also made sweet love and gotten hookups, all while behaving the same way.
/r/seduction01/01/14 04:51 PM
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It's only going to be a problem if you let it. A friend of mine has a stutter and he's gotten laid many times. Don't be apologetic, don't be shameful and you'll do just fine. It's a part of you, which you have to love like any other part. That's real confidence, being as happy with your flaws as much as with your other parts.
/r/seduction30/12/13 09:32 PM
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Mark Manson wrote about this in his book. He also applies the "3 strikes you're out" rule. I think you should be more open to the possibility that they actually aren't available to meet you when you text them though. If a girl texted me asking me to meet up while I'm busy, and then said that she didn't want anything to do with me, I'd probably assume that she's got some temper problems or something along those lines. There's nothing wrong with the "3 strikes you're out" rule, but you don't have …
/r/seduction06/12/13 05:08 AM
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Coming of a dry-spell can be quite hard, but when you first get laid things have a tendency to work themselves out. As far as getting a fuckbuddy is concerned, you need to be clear that you're not looking for a romantic relationship. If she's not fine with that, then there's little you can do. Personally I wouldn't think too much about how to proceed after a one-night-stand. If you like her, tell her that you want to see her again. The process of getting laid the first time tends to be more comp…
/r/seduction30/11/13 11:49 PM
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I disagree with External12. If you suffer from approach anxiety you should gradually build up your confidence (and by gradually I mean over the course of days or even months, not just some minutes in a coffee shop). If you don't, you should just say hi, that you thought she was cute and that you'd like to have her phone number.
/r/seduction17/11/13 02:53 AM
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I thought you did great. Perhaps wishing her good luck with her life was a little over-dramatic but meeting with her when she suggested is not something you should feel ashamed for. Of course, if she flakes on you again or otherwise turns out to be incompatible with you, you should move along. That's not relevant right now though. Good luck with the girl!
/r/seduction17/11/13 02:40 AM
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By no means. In a global perspective, I'm quite privileged and have a generally interesting life, but I never brag or exaggerate about it. I'm also honest about my rough edges and unattractive/uninteresting aspects of my and my life. Look at it this way: If you're truly confident and have truly high self-esteem, you wouldn't need to lie or exaggerate about yourself in order to gain approval or appreciation from another person. You care more about your own perception of yourself, than hers of you…
/r/seduction12/11/13 02:23 AM
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See, that's one of the differences in terms of approaching. Since it is not as commonly accepted that girls approach guys as contrariwise, they make themselves available for being approached. I noticed this when I was in Poland. My experience was that if a girl already had been giving you looks, you could approach her and things would go well. If she hadn't, well then I ended up being slapped or peppersprayed.
/r/seduction17/10/13 09:10 PM
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I think that the fact that she seemed more invested in you than in her should be a warning sign, after all confident women is the goal, right? Also, I would personally back off if she said she dated someone. It is a personal value I have, but if she's capable of leaving him for another guy, then she's capable of doing it to you as well. But of course, models is a great book and it seems like you've got a good thing going, kudos for that!
/r/seduction16/10/13 04:53 PM
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I'll try to explain it to you. Outcome dependance means that if you get rejected or your intentions aren't fullfilled, it hurts you. This really boils down to your sense of self worth and confidence, because if your happiness and well being relies on the results you achieve or don't achieve with a woman, well then you're not really confident in yourself. That causes needy behaviour, which is about the same thing as outcome dependance. This doesn't contradict making your intentions clear. Making …
/r/seduction18/07/13 04:49 AM
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Yeah that is true for many situations, I believe he wrote somewhere that you should always assume that you are the problem if you're not getting what you want, in pretty much any aspect of life. But, of course, since this is /r/seduction, I pointed it out from a dating perspective.
/r/seduction06/06/13 08:27 PM
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I think that this quote represent a very important aspect of his philosophy in terms of dating. I also think it's closely tied with something he said in a podcast, which is that you attract what you put out there. If you generalize women, you're only gonna get those women who fits your stereotypes. That line struck me real hard, it made everything so clear. Having a generally positive outlook on women while still having strong boundaries is key.
/r/seduction06/06/13 07:35 PM
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This was truly enlightening for me. I think that I have alot of the right mindsets, I'm confident and all that, and I have flirted to a certain extent but obviously not good enough. I feel like I'm gonna have so much more success after reading this, being alot more direct and show my intentions more clearly. Thanks OP and Nick for bringing this to me, this and Mark Manson's posts are the most important and greatest articles I've read since I started thinking about girls.
/r/seduction21/05/13 11:58 PM
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Yeah I understand that, and I think it's really good. I thoroughly agree with what he says about vulnerability. However, I think some of the techniques that pick up artists promote can be effective, and still get you women while still being vulnerable. I haven't read the book, so I can't really tell whether he mentions this or not, but I have found that for example physical touching helps alot. The same goes for teasing and flirting. While I agree that being vulnerable is very important, I also …
/r/seduction23/04/13 09:54 PM
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I'm interested in reading about flirting in this book. I have read some of his posts on postmasculine, and although I agree with his principle about vulnerability I find it hard to believe that vulnerability in itself is going to get you laid with the women you want. I'm probably gonna buy the book, though, Mark Manson is a really intelligent guy and I'm sure a lot of thought has gone into writing it.
/r/seduction23/04/13 04:22 PM
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Something really small, asking her if she can hold something (of small value of course) while I take out my money to buy a beer, ask them to hand me a napkin if she's closer etc. This mostly works in bars though, but I guess it can be applied in other areas as well. I don't remember who it was, but there was a guy who said he used to connect with people by getting them to do favors for him. It might sound counterproductive, but it really helps. It's because people feel that they do favors for pe…
/r/seduction04/04/13 07:23 PM
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You're very right. Although this might be hard in campus, I like to ask girls a favor, say thanks and go away, and then come back later to talk to them. It works wonderful, they lower their guard, and it's pretty much the same principle as you mention here. If you came across as a friendly guy in the first place, they are likely to be more open and inclined to talk to you a second time.
/r/seduction04/04/13 05:00 PM
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I get an impression that when most girls are having some sort of connection with a guy, and he's not initiating every conversation, they think he's not interested. I don't know this particular case well enough, but on a general basis I think that many girls need to realize that if a guy doesn't text you all the time, it's not necessarily because he's not interested. He might be afraid of coming across as needy or desperate, and tries to get you to chase him a bit as well. Of course, there are a …
/r/seduction04/04/13 04:39 PM
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That's a really good application of the stuff that's out there, given that you're a women. Do you find that your standards are getting higher now that you know about many of the techniques that are used to seduce women?
/r/seduction04/04/13 10:43 AM
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