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I'd imagine that one displays a failure to be desired, while the other displays an incredible amount of desirablity. The more desirable, the higher value.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 01:11 PM
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I'm not bi, but not being able to hit those markers of traditional masculinity in long term relationships is a bullet in the head. Even with all the talk of more progressive women, generally they're overwhelmingly only interested in long term relationships with men who meet those traditional masculine expectations.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 11:15 AM
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No, I'm pretty much the opposite. I want them feeling as good as possible, as much as possible. I've isolated myself from everyone for so long now that I should clarify that these are longer past partners. But my partners have often expressed a desire to be in discomfort or pain, in order to feel as good as possible. So I'll engage in it then. Ultimately, I just wanted them to get as much of what they want, as they could handle. Or as much as I could give. For me, it's as simple as, I love you, …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 06:43 PM
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I'd give the same advice to men as I would women on that. Don't listen to what a person says, watch what they do. You'll never find out what a person truly feels by listening to them alone. If they say they value X, but choose Y, then they've lied to you and truly value Y. People lie to frequently that most of the time, they don't even realise that they're doing so.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 11:22 PM
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No, he was chosen for the factors he was chosen for, which indicates that those factors, are the factors of value. The market decides which factors are of value. Not morality. You're telling the market what the market must value. But the market has no reason to listen. Given a choice between X, and Y, they're picking X, but you're telling them they should more greatly value Y. But they don't. They value X. If they're not picked, they're not of value. If they were picked, they would be of value. …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 10:50 PM
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The best is largely decided by factors that make them attractive, both in physicality and personality, which may or may not include factors of morality. The market decides what is of value. If the market decides that a rich, tall, confident man who is of low moral character is of value, then he is a man of value. If the market decides that an unattractive, shy man of high moral character is of little value, then he isn't a man of value. If women were to pick a tall, attractive, rich, confident, …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 10:21 PM
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I don't know my enneagram type, but I've done the test to see which Disney Princess I am. It's Meg, from Hercules.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 03:17 AM
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"I have a longing for a romantic connection with a partner whom I love, and the lack of said connection is causing me distress." "You'd experience less distress if you did not long for a romantic connection with a partner who you love." While not incorrect, it does feel redundant. Given that people can't wilfully change their sexual orientation, I'm not sure what people are supposed to do with the information in the first place. A man who struggles romantically with women, might have better luck…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 03:05 AM
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Weirdly, I've dated from all over. Mostly partners I've met through animal work. I'm not American, but I've dated American women, euro (where I am) women and from the Netherlands. Also, not all of my own race. I'm white, also. I'm also deeply working/lower class. I imagine that attitudes down on the lower socioeconomic rungs of the ladder tend to differ the from the higher up rungs. Honestly, if you can make someone feel safe and cared for around you, they eventually feel comfortable enough to o…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 11:52 PM
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I'm not bi, but I guess I do give off somewhat of a feminine... vibe, sometimes. I'm not immediately feminine, im quite a large boy that doesn't smile often. At 6'3 and like, 100kg. But once you get to know me, I'm very gentle. I do lots of volunteer stuff with disabled kids and rescue animals. I've had a few girls get close to me, become romantically attached and double check to make sure that I'm not bisexual. These were very left leaning girls with gay/lesbian friends and family. I've been ou…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 11:24 PM
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Every time this is brought up, the comments are always filled with how much better women are doing, due to their superior social abilities and so on. You can't have it both ways. It can't be mens fault for being worse socially, as women are better socially and it's protected them from this epidemic, and also claim that this epidemic is also effecting women to a similar, or even comparable degree. It's either largely effecting one group more, or it isn't. Women can't be superior and in the exact …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 05:01 PM
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You would be right. But, they don't. Offline, most women like men, and vice versa. The whole man bear thing was just TikTok nonsense that spilled over into the rest of the internet. I go ask any of the normie, non-chronically online people I know, boy or girl, about near anything to do with this gender divide stuff, they won't have a clue what I'm talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 10:10 PM
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He behaves like that, and he'll be tossed away, like yesterdays jam.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 05:19 PM
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I'm looking for a specific answer, how many times do I need to say that it's bad before you'd be somewhat satisfied? What do you want, very specifically? In my life, on two separate occasions, I've fought in the street in order to protect women that were being attacked. I have literally bled. I've had lumps on my head so sore I couldn't wash my hair, and hurt ribs so tender I couldn't wipe my own ass without taking breaks. I'm assuming that's more of a sacrifice that most people on the planet ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 12:11 AM
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Would you feel better if I wrote paragraph after paragraph about how bad it is? Because that's still all I can do. Of course there is. It brings comparison to a situation that you are also powerless against, and also can't do much more than say that it's bad. Again, I hope to make you understand more though comparison. I don't think it's fair to demand that a mirror not be held up to you for your own actions, or lack there of, when you attack others for a very comparable situation. Frankly, refu…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 12:00 AM
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I imagine they'd bring up the other 14,999 cities that don't have rape festivals, and they'd talk about other cultures being more so responsible than their particular chromosomal makeup. In the same sense, virtually all female genital mutilation in the world is practiced by women on young girls. I've never once thought to demand an answer from women in general as to why they are in favor of FGM. If we're going to make the argument that men in general need to answer for this rape festival, as it'…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 11:48 PM
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Obviously, it's going to be different for different people and so on... But for me, no. They're not over rated. Honestly, I think people underrate the importance they should be showing to even their current relationships. My romantic, monogamous relationships have been some of the most impactful, valuable relationships I've ever had. I've never had that level of intimacy with my friends, or honestly, most of my family. We just didn't grow up that way. I'm working class and grew up in the third m…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 01:05 PM
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Honestly, experience seems mostly like scaremongering on the internet. I remember when I was younger, people used to talk about a woman orgasaming like it was something akin to solving a rubix cube, in the dark, while trying to find your way through a hall of mirrors. Keep in mind, I'm only having sex with women I've formed a bond with, and have entered into a relationship with, so there's a great deal of per-established comfort, safety and trust with one another that was built over time. Sex me…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 05:47 PM
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Depending on how we're defining okay, It's okay to want a virginal partner, even if you aren't a virgin yourself. You can want whatever you want. But I think it's also okay for people to look at you sideways as a result. People might think you're a hypocrite. Personally. I just want a partner like me. I don't have sex with anyone outside of a romantic commitment. Even having been offered casual sexual relationships, I have no interest. No casual, no FWB, or anything of that nature. Someone who s…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 02:47 PM
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It's far from limited to just "nice", but I think words having such wildly differing definitions between people have given us an absolute ton of these issues in dating and between the genders these days. I've seen people in this very sub, say essentially the same thing, then almost immediately devolve into bitter argument without realising they mostly agree with one another. I'm not sure how you fix that issue, as definitions evolve so rapidly a short amount of time. Even more so outside of peop…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 12:57 PM
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Assuming that he's also giving her all the love, connection, emotional care, intimacy, support and so on that she needs in a relationship, why is him not also giving her money/money adjacent things considered the bare minimum? There's a million other ways a partner can show effort toward their love and care other than financially. I feel like that girl would appreciate all those things infinitely more than money. I'm sorry, but the idea that a great partner is one who's love and sense of being a…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 06:58 AM
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But again, comparison and development of insecurities is something that happens involuntarily in the brain. In an imperceptibly small space of time. These women didn't decide that it would be a good idea to develop body image issues. You can't choose not to have them. You can choose to try and find a way to deal with them, but you get no say in their formation. To say that you can choose not to experience insecurities is to say that you simply will your synapses to not allow transmission of data…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 02:43 PM
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Maybe, but I think a lot of people, maybe most people, are quite sensitive about things like this. I've known a few girls and boys who didn't react well to any romantic comparison. People compare themselves to other people. It's just what people do. They can't help it. Roughly three fourths of women deal with body image issues. And about forty percent of that three fourths develop some sort of depressive issues. They get those issues from comparison to other women. It's not their fault. Humans j…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 02:28 PM
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I mean, yeah, it is. But that's not an exclusively male thing. It's just a way in which it's more likely to happen for a boy. I used to know a girl from an animal rescue thing. We'd sit in the car and talk waiting for traps to go off. We used to be there for hours, so you just yammer on about anything at a certain point. And one day, she started talking about how her boyfriend had told her that he loves how much of her their is to grab compared to his ex. She was hurt by it. She was very upset. …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 02:18 PM
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Honestly, it's just something that you should never say, as most people will assume the worst. People, both men and women, are sensitive, and it's best not to leave room for them to doubt themselves. You might not mean it this way, but it could easily be interpreted as "You're not viscerally sexually attractive enough to warrant my attention normally, but you make up for it in more mundane ways, such as convenience or usefulness, to the extent that I'm willing to look past you lacking in that de…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 02:01 PM
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I've always found that birds of a feather, flock together. If I'm spending all this time around people I don't like, I'm likely just meeting people I also don't like. Y'know, if I want to find a chocolate bar at the store, I don't go to the pasta isle and hope one got placed there by accident. I just go to where the chocolate is. Then, even if they don't have the chocolate I want, at least I'll likely enjoy something else there. The odds of a groups of man hating, cruel, mean women containing a …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 01:56 AM
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I'm no saint, I've been in all sorts of trouble, but I've never cheated. I'm pretty well behaved in my relationships. I think, anyway. I abhor cheating. I've cut off family members for cheating. No women available to cheat with There have been women who've expressed getting closer with me while I was in a relationship, but not explicitly sexually. I don't know if that counts. I actively didn't pursue a relationship with them. It felt... Inappropriate to allow room for that. There was once a girl…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 03:29 AM
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I guess, just be even with things? Initiate about half the time, be there for me for all the times I'm there for you. Take care of me the way I take care of you. Make as much of an effort to let me know that you love me, want me and are as committed to me as I am to you. Not to sound like a massive pussy, but like, hold me. Tell me you love me. Touch me. Grab me when you're going past and let me know that you think I'm attractive. Let me lay on you in bed or when we're watching a show and run yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 10:54 PM
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Some peoples only drive is to both have their cake, and to eat it at the same time. They want loyalty and commitment from a "good" partner while not embodying those traits themselves. I've known a few boys who've gone through girls like they were in competition, while still wanting to eventually settle down with someone who would be repulsed by the life they've lived themselves. I'd like a "good" partner, who embodies my values around love, intimacy, sex and relationships. I've only ever slept w…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 04:18 PM
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Some peoples only drive is to both have their cake, and to eat it at the same time. They want loyalty and commitment from a "good" partner while not embodying those traits themselves. I've known a few boys who've gone through girls like they were in competition, while still wanting to eventually settle down with someone who would be repulsed by the life they've lived themselves. I'd like a "good" partner, who embodies my values around love, intimacy, sex and relationships. I've only ever slept w…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 04:18 PM
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This made me think, in all my relationships, not that there are an awful lot, my partners wanted to sleep together roughly as much as I did. I feel like our initiation rate was about 50/50, give or take. We'd have sex say, 5-6 days a week. Sometimes more than once a day. Maybe 4-5 if something was off. Like, we were exhausted from the day, or whatever. But how do I know if I'm not low libido for a man, and just matching a woman's libido? Is there like a, mens libido chart by age, or something? I…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 03:51 PM
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Option 3. You can make a tight budget work, and if you're smart, you can make a hard life work. Someone who I'm in love with and attracted to is an easy choice. I don't need all the fancy things if at the end of everything I'm with someone who loves me, who I'm in love with. Honestly, it's like, not even a close call. Without wanting to sound weird, having been in positions of quite extreme financial hardship, I can truthfully say that naked cuddling with skin to skin contact and sleeping with s…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 05:44 PM
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Life hasn't really afforded me much room for things I can't unitize. I started paying bills at 11 in my home. Got sick at 13 or so, never got better, still had to be there to pay for my family at times. Did a lot of volunteer work for animals, some work for disabled kids, now I have to take care of two dementia ridden grandparents. I've been constantly in a struggle position since I was 11, and I'm either 31 or 32 now. I can't remember. If we weren't close**,** I needed to be able to pick up and…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 02:22 PM
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Obviously the video is staged. But it seems as though a lot of women in the comment section believe it to be true. But men and women really aren't that different at all. You're going to have a bunch of vitriolic, hateful, broken people on either side taking delight in the suffering of others from the other side of the fence. A lot of those women likely have centered a lot of their lives around hating men, just the same as a lot of men on social media have centered their lives around hating women…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 07:20 AM
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Because, by the nature of being a man who can, they're also predisposed to being assholes. Saying that a man can, in this sense, is often saying that he is the type predisposed to doing so. The predisposition is a big part of what predicts the outcome. I guess the value would be a sexually attractive and sexually exciting man in their lives. I'm not sure exactly why that would be more attractive. Maybe it's something to do with more assertive, aggressive, self interested people doing better in l…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/26 11:44 AM
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I think "Attractive" is often used not only to describe a man's physical appearance, but also his attitude and demeanor. To a certain extent, being a bit of an asshole does tend to help men romantically. Where as nicer, kinder, more passive men aren't seen as immediately attractive. By comparison. Then, as those men who're more aggressive and asshole-ish are more attractive to women, those women tend to be hurt more by asshole-ish men. As that attitude plays a large part in attraction, it create…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/26 11:34 AM
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The cold, uncaring reality, is that men are cheap and women are expensive. Men generally desire women more than than women desire men. Speaking on the whole. There will always be another man for a woman, so she can afford to treat them more flippantly. Men will always be chasing, wanting and perusing women. A woman can break up with a man, and be near 100% positive that there will be another man. Almost instantly, if she wants it that way. Even the whole the wall thing is nonsense. Women are pur…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 10:22 AM
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I've always interpreted "Just be yourself" to mean that, you either do that, or play a character for your whole life. Less that just be yourself would inherently help you get a partner, but more so, just be yourself, because what else can you do? I mean, are you going to do a pretend character in order to impress someone by presenting a faux person in order to to win them over, for the rest of your life? You either be you, or you pretend to be someone else. It's not as though a person can totall…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 09:14 AM
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I feel as though this would only be controversial to very vocal, extreme minority groups online. I've had quite a few conversations around this stuff, with relatively young, late 20s early 30s people, both men and women, who were normally quite left leaning, who've basically said the same thing. I've only met two people in my whole life who were very "There's no difference between trans women and women!" types, and they were both terminally online, hard for anyone to get along with, wildly unsta…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 09:01 PM
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Unkindness and a lack of softness. In my relationships, I put effort into being as soft, loving, sweet and caring as I can be. To my mind, that's what a loving relationship should be. A safe, gentle place that's a reprieve from the horribleness of the world and how cruel it can be. If there's not that loving softness, then they'd go from a person whom I recharge myself with, into a person who depletes me, and I need time away from to recharge. I don't mean to be an asshole, but I couldn't do alo…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 01:49 AM
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To be fair, I don't think I've ever heard anyone say that dating is easy for men. Man or woman. In fact, I've seen quite a few women here talk about how they know dating is hard for men. I feel as though a common sentiment from even the women, even here is more along the lines of "Yeah, dating is harder for men, but it is what it is."
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 02:33 PM
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I've heard it quite a bit in reference to men. Online, anyway. I'm in my thirties, so I don't really hang around a lot of younger people speaking that way in person. But I have heard men referred to as sluts or man-whores. Bikes was also a term for a short while, but that might be more to do with my part of the world. And it was only for a brief period. I don't think people often use the term ran though as reference to a penis going through a vagina. I've always taken to mean they'd been used a …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 10:13 PM
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Isn't it more of a unisex term for someone who's slept around? I've seen numerous times where someone has described a man as ran though as he'd slept with lots of women. And I've always just assumed it was another term for calling someone a slut. Not to be used in the sense that one partner has ran though the other, as they've slept together, but in cases where one person has had a large number of partners. I know it's not citing the oxford dictionary, but for a term like this I feel it's applic…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 09:45 PM
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Why are men responsible for a future where women have decided they won't be apart of, as they're no longer wanted around? If I were building a theme-park, and I were to tell you that once it's finished, you won't be allowed here, none of your offspring will be allowed here, we're actively making to so that you won't be able to get in here and we're doing so deliberately, would you want to help me build the theme-park? Is that your responsibility? Of course not. If you want people to be a part of…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/26 09:00 AM
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Let's say this is all true, why would it be uncomfortable for men? The men who aren't wanted would stay unwanted, and the men who are wanted would remain wanted. Well, up until we supposedly disappeared, anyway. Nothing would really change for any man alive at this time. Meaningfully, anyway. It's not going to happen, anyway. But why would we care if it did? I have enough going on at this time to worry about, let along some fantastical future I won't be alive for. Honestly, if you want to solely…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/26 08:39 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 09:29 PM
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Without speaking too much toward MAGA electees, as I don't know that much about them, I would be wildly surprised if there wasn't a; Blue Pill - Democrat Red Pill - Republican/Maga leaning trend.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 05:33 PM
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I can see where you're coming from. And I can see why that would be a worry. But I think it would only really be a worry for people who's care for one other is dissimilar. In the times I've been in love with women, and they've been in love with me, all either of us really wanted was to spend time together. Even if it's just talking. We'd spend days and days just talking to one another. And beamingly happy because of it. As sappy as it sounds, everything else just seemed very... Unimportant. In t…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 09:12 PM
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I depends on what court means. Is courting just dating? Like, being loving, kind, gentile and spending lots of quality time with one another? Because I'm only doing that with a woman who really likes me. But a lot of the time, it feels as though courting is used as a more sanitized way of saying that I should be buying her grand gifts, operating as her personal wallet, subjecting myself to poor treatment and so on. It's all contingent on the definition of courting. Which, more often than not, se…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 09:00 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 04:19 PM
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>And even in a conceptual level having people pay you for your socks and pics of your ass or feet is not in anyway something that women see as degrading Do they not? Because I would. If some person was to offer me money for my socks, so they could huff them and jerk off, I'd find that to be pretty unappealing of an idea. Without knowing a better way to put it, I'd feel dirty. As though something, in some important part of me, has been cheapened. I feel as though certain aspects of myself should …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 12:09 PM
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I mean, I guess it is a privilege in a technical sense. If two people are in a bad situation, and one has no way out, but the other can be a whore, it is a privilege to have another option... But it's not a privilege that I find myself envious of. Honestly, if I had the option to sell my ass, or maintain my current bad position, I'm pretty sure I'd just maintain my current bad position. I think if you asked most normal women, they'd find the idea of selling these very intimate, personal and sens…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 11:58 AM
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I wouldn't say I'm afraid of it more so than any other person. But it is a scary thought. The idea that you could fall in love with someone, become emotionally connected, have them be an important part of your life (maybe even the most), plan a life together and find out that they were using you for some non-love based thing. Whether it be for financial reasons, attention, entertainment, sex, housing, or anything else. That you could find out you've been some unwilling stooge, in what might be o…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 06:55 PM
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Do they need to be illegal? Personally, I only have sex in long term, committed, monogamous relationships and have never used them. Not really, anyway. To my mind, sex isn't even on the table until we're committed to one another. If you're having it with someone else, I'm not considering a relationship. I have been told it feels better without them. And my partners have been fully happy to not bother using them given that we were committed one another and were only with one another. I also make …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 08:51 PM
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It's also worth noting that feelings of loneliness have been rising in women just as much as men. Though, there's likely some conversations that could be had around the severity of said loneliness. I struggle to lay the blame for peoples isolation purely at their own feet when they were raised, made to fit, shaped by and forced to live in a society that has put deep social connections on the back burner. As is, just under 30% of people report isolation. That, along with my own experience in soci…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 01:24 PM
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Well, There are certain things the brain needs to be fiction correctly, due to the way our social structures are set up, a lot of people just aren't getting that level of connection they'd need outside of romantic relationships. For a lot of people, they will only ever have a deep, vulnerable, sensitive, self-exposing connection with their romantic partner. Honestly, even that's lucky. And as people get older, finding that in others platonically seems to fall off pretty hard. Even at my age... I…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 12:56 PM
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I guess it depends on what sex means to the individual. I don't do any form of casual sex, even when I've been offered. Sex, for me, is something that I only ever do with a person whom I find myself deeply, intimately connected to, who knows me inside and out, who I trust and love. Sex is synonymous in my life with deep connection. If sex is purely thought of as getting your dick/vagina into/around, something, then, yeah. I could do with out that. But if sex is only really something that happens…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 12:51 PM
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I don't know if I'd necessarily agree with the what women want aspect, but in terms of it making more sense for women to peruse men part, you're right in theory, but that's irrelevant in practice. I understand that most women don't find most men attractive, where as most men would find a larger percentage of women attractive, so women perusing men means a lower failure rate over all. And we would assume that a lower rate of failure would mean a greater rate of success comparatively. But there's …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 09:27 AM
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Maybe. I'd imagine it's difficult to keep up a lie for 20+ years, or likely the rest of your life, that involves X amount of other people, inevitable feelings and suspicions, no matter how intelligent you might or might not be. It reads as though you're only considering outcomes where you simply don't tell your partner. I can tell your first hand having known a lot of couples where this kind of thing went on, they basically never confess like they do in the movies. Someone else simply informs th…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 08:34 AM
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I mean, technically, maybe. But a relationship where I feel compelled to cheat feels like no desirable relationship at all. And a relationship that's open also feels like no desirable relationship at all. In the same sense, I suppose rating rotten food might be better than eating literal shit, but I'd simply rather not do either. If you're reduced to either, why be there? Also, having come from a childhood where one parent was an habitual cheater. stable is not the word I'd use to describe it. Y…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 08:21 AM
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I am operating somewhat off of the assumption that I do enjoy my partner in conversation and activities and so on. Because, like you brought up, why would I be in a relationship with them if I didn't? I'm more so thinking in terms of them being extra entertainment in some way. The standard, bare minimum, no entry unless requirement for a relationship is to enjoy my partner. So I can't imagine having a partner who I don't. I get the feeling that the woman in the video is requesting extra, because…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/25 11:20 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/25 10:47 PM
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My partner isn't there to play dancing clown or to force me to do things that interest me. She's my partner not my handler. If I'm bored, I need to find something to do. My entertainment, or handling my own boredom is my responsibility. It's just never occurred to me that I should put my need for entertainment on someone else. It seems outright unfair and childish, honestly. You're my loved one, not my personal jester. Frankly, if anything, I look to my partners for aid in relaxation, de-stressi…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/25 08:50 PM
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This all operates from the false premis that all men are inherently disloyal. Which is objectively false. I can say first hand that I've been presented with options to step outside of my past relationships, and met each of them with repugnancy and letting my partner know about X, Y or Z going on, with the intention of being fully open with them. Bad people are only as loyal as their options. I would be hesitant to flip it on its head, as bad people are often very good at hiding that fact. Both M…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 02:21 PM
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If that's what you want, I have no issue with that. So long as you're letting this person know what you're about before hand, I see no issue. You've stuck to your principles, and they get to decide for themselves if they want to be involved with someone like that. Everybody wins.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 09:45 AM
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You're asking quite a lot of me for something that isn't going to bare any fruit. In the same sense, I wouldn't spend 45 minutes typing something up to argue with a boy who thinks all girls are sluts and whores that can't be trusted because of his dark masculine energy. I know you can't see it, because you're inside of it. But this is just the girl version of boys who regurgitate nonsense they've heard from places like Fresh&Fit or so on. It's toxic alpha male drivel, rebranded for women. I'm go…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 12:47 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 12:15 PM
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Not at all. A romantic relationship with a woman who doesn't love me fills me with a deep sense of patheticness. If being unloved is cyanide, then being stuck in a relationship with a woman who does not love me is arsenic. They are different ways to live, but they're both possessions, will make me feel terribly, and neither is a cure for the other. - submits to/performs sex at an acceptable frequency for you The idea of duty sex makes my skin crawl. I would not be able to enjoy sex with someone …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 11:30 AM
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I have a bunch of issues with approaching. Both logistically and personal. For personal, I wasn't raised very lovingly. To keep it brief, I don't look at myself positively. Even thought I've had women coming up to me to talk, I still don't feel as though they'd want someone like me to come up to them and start talking to them. Logistically, finding someone who you can build a special connection with is RARE. The odds of finding that person by running up or randos in the street is like playing th…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 11:43 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 10:53 PM
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Honestly, I wouldn't fret too much about this. You don't sound that wild, and in my experience, when two people fall in love with one another, they're normally quite open to doing more... adventurous things, with the person they're in love with. Also, you're a virgin. You wouldn't have had chance to discover it yet, but some of the stuff you think you'd enjoy, you actually only enjoy the fantasy of, and not the actual reality of. Some things you have to just discover with the person you've falle…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/25 04:37 AM
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Vasalgel has been six months away since I was like, 17, and I'm 30 something now. This stuff has always been just about to come out. Legitimately, twice a year for half my life I hear about how it's just around the corner. Anyway. I'm not sexually active at the moment, and I don't really want sex outside of relationships, which I'm kind of just... Not looking for anymore, I don't think. So I wouldn't be running out to get it. But if I were to fall in love with another girl and become active agai…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 01:51 PM
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If they only split assets that were earned while the couple was married, and Akaash Singh's career only really started to blow up in 2022, and he joined Flagrant in 2017, I'm pretty sure the bulk of his money has been generated in the last five years or so. With just a cursory glance, he seems to have been from a relatively normal background with some significant financial struggles, whatever that means. And his net-worth seems to be at around $1,000,000 - $5,000,000. So if she does get to have …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 02:47 AM
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Sorry, I could've been more clear on how I felt regarding the latter half of your reply. I didn't meant to ascribe some inherent positive morality with the sellers market comment. Or any morality, really. More to just comment on observing that generally, more men are perusing women, than women are perusing men, and how that related to the topic. Not to infer that one gender was more, or less moral than the other for the way things seem to be in terms of that particular dynamic. It was more of a …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 04:04 PM
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I say this as a man who naturally embodies a lot of what was traditionally seen as the feminine role in partnerships. From doing all the cooking and keeping a book of what my more picky partners like to eat, how they like it and the ways they like it cooked, doing all the cleaning and laundry, deliberately making time to hear how my partners have felt about their day, their feelings in generally and always made effort to take interest in their interests, I've managed their families birthdays and…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 03:08 PM
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I mean, it'll depend on the man or woman in quesiton and what they value in a partner, I suppose. In terms of wanting a wanting a deep connection... I struggle to find the words for it, or how to adequately describe it. But there's a type, or level of connection that comes with a romantic partner, where you love one another, that I've never personally had replicated in any other relationship. Not friends, family or any other. I think maybe it has to be experienced. Or maybe other people don't ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 08:30 AM
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While being quite upsettingly isolated myself, I don't think I could ever use these things in that way. There's something at the back of my mind, no matter how real they seemed, I would always know that they weren't and it wouldn't ever fit for me. Like having a conversation with a search engine. Don't get me wrong, if I felt as though they were conscious beings in the same way that humans were, I can fully say that I could fall in love with one. In the same sense, I could fall in love with an a…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 08:11 AM
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"Better off" is doing a lot of work here. I mean, if your goal is financial betterment, then yes... Depending on the situation. But if your goal is to be with the person you've fallen in love with, then no. That would be a death blow to any worthwhile relationship. If I have to pay a person to be with me romantically, there's no way in hell I'd be able to consider that person a serious partner. Even then, if your goal is purely financial through romantic/intimate relationships, straight prostitu…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 06:13 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 03:00 AM
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Yeah, pretty much. I'm quite afraid. I'm outright scared, actually. Extended loneliness, isolation and lack of socialization is a major predictor of developing Dementia, which is it's own kind of living hell. Given that I've been alone for most of my life, I'm pretty sure it's going it hit. And I'm either 31 or 32 now, I've spent most of my life alone. The vast majority. And I can't imagine that'll change as I come closer to dying. I've actually had to put real thought and learning into killing …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/25 12:29 AM
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I think ownership means different things to different people. It's a very nebulous term in a lot of ways. I've really liked belonging to the women I've been in love with. I like that I'm theirs. And in the same sense, they were mine. I don't really want to be some free agent that can come and go at a moments notice, as though the connection and bond is some inconsequential thing. I do feel a sense of ownership, and my partners have expressed that they've been really happy with that. And in the s…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 09:15 PM
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I mean, most everyone wants to be loved and lusted over. Just lusted over by the right person. And the right person, just isn't ever the unattractive one. Things are simpler when you understand that when people are talking about wanting someone, they're always talking about attractive, and are never talking about unattractive. Come at things from the assumption that people are by default disregarding people they find unattractive, and understand that there is a general idea of what people find a…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 04:55 PM
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Obviously this is anecdotal. But I've noticed that online, men are more likely to be critical of women, where as women are more likely to be supportive of women. But in my irl experience, men tend just not to criticize women, and more just mind there own business. Where as women tend to be comparatively far more critical of other women. I feel as though 9/10 times, I hear someone refer to a woman as a slut, irl, its comes from another woman I know talking about her. And honestly, even that's low…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 04:06 PM
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I could be wrong, but don't both genders find more youthful partners more attractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 11:51 AM
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It's not viewing women negatively, it's viewing the societal expectations and gendered expectations placed on men. And these expectations are enforced by both women and men. It wasn't just women looking down on me as a partner for coming from a more impoverished background. The men in their families also did the same. Men in my own life have also expressed this toward me. It's just a lot less frequently, as my interactions with men are more often not pertained to romance in the way they are with…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 09:56 AM
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I understand that not every man is going to feel this way, but I've never, ever met a bloke who would be hurt or worried about that in the sense that their pride is damaged, but instead they're worried that the way they'll be viewed will change because of it. I was became unwell as a child, and though it's not anything you could identify by looking at me, I have to spend the majority of my life inside. I can't really get far from my home, which obviously limits the amount of money I can make. I …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 12:47 PM
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I'll try to be as in depth as I can. If she were to have not back burner-ed me, but still sleeps sleeps with tons of people, I wouldn't be interested in a relationship. But not because she's a bad person. Just because our values around sex, love, intimacy and relationships just differ a lot and I feel as though those things are pretty important to be on the same wave length of in a relationship. I don't enjoy that, I reserve that for romantic relationships. But she's not a bad person, I just fee…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 05:30 AM
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Is this not massively biased to ward the third option?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 05:18 AM
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I would consider withholding pertinent information, which you know would have an effect on the persons option of whether they would want to be in/continue to be in a relationship would equal to lying. keep those extracurricular activities quiet Say Person 1 wouldn't want to be in a relationship with Person 2 if they know X fact about them, and that Person 2 is also aware of this, but chooses to hide fact X from Person 1. Person 2 would be deceiving Person 1 into doing something they are aware th…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 03:38 AM
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Personally, I wouldn't be interested in a partner who's kept me on the back burner while they slept around. Something about that feels disrespectful and... I don't know, just, bad. If I were to find out that my partner did that to me, I'd likely just end the relationship. Something about being kept in place until someone is ready having sex with other people is very off putting. I also wouldn't really be interested in a partner who has a proclivity toward that kind of behavior. As for the advice…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 02:14 AM
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If my partner wasn't kind, loving, sweet, affectionate and caring toward me, then she wouldn't be my partner. No matter how much time she wants to spend having sex. Honestly, I wouldn't even be interested in sleeping with a partner that didn't give me kindness, love and affection. Of course, feeling sexually desired in a relationship is an aspect of making someone feel positively about said relationship. But it's only a small part of it. Cuddling, long conversations, taking care of one another, …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 06:42 AM
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Kindness, competency, and lovingness. (Both giving and receiving.)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 12:19 AM
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While I haven't taken part in any orgies and sex clubs myself, really not my thing, I did used to know a boy who did security in a few of these places, and knew a boy who attempted to get into one. And they aren't these big love rooms where anyone is welcome so long as they bring a party bag of candy and a can do attitude. They have to submit pictures of themselves, show up in person for an interview to talk about themselves, see how they do socially, and see if they're a fit, and then put it up…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 12:03 PM
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I'm not a casual sex guy, and I've never used any dating app, but I imagine the thought process is in part, "Why order food off the app when you can just drive to the restaurant?" Convenience. And if you're a casual sex person kind of person, I have to imagine apps are kind of like picking from a catalogue of potential partners. Where as a bar is limited to the people there, and who of them are interested and available. On the app, they're all interested, and all available. You're also way easin…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 12:22 PM
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It's not really a number thing as such. More so having similar values and feelings around love, sex, intimacy and relationships. It just so happens that someone having a large number of partners typically is going to indicate that they have very different values around these things than I do. Which, then in turn, will likely make a romantic relationship difficult if our values around these incredibly important things are unaligned. I don't fuck with girls I'm not I'm not in a relationship with. …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 02:44 PM
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Mine is a little bigger than most. Not MASSIVE, but fairly above average. 7x5.5 It does hurt my partners if I'm not careful. I understand that kind of pain isn't pleasant. I don't enjoy hurting them, I restrict myself a bit in order to make sure that I'm not hurting them. But it's hard to really accept that women would rather a 5.5 inch over a 7 inch when every single one of my past partners has bragged to their friends about it, giggled and hung off me the next day talking about how they're sor…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 05:00 PM
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Honestly, anyone I've known who've supported this presidency has simply done so in order to 'epically own the libs'. This goes for both men, and women. They seemed to have little to no information of republican economic policies, what moves the presidency was going to make, and those that did had little to no idea of what the knock on effects of those policies would bring. It never seemed to be much of principled stand, forged by beliefs. But simply blindly screaming 'fuck the demoncrats!' Like,…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 05:23 AM
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>They didn’t technically do anything wrong or break any boundaries. If they're deliberately acting flirtatiously towards the partner of their friend, I'm pretty sure that is doing something wrong and breaking boundary.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/25 11:04 PM
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I'll be honest. All the boys I knew growing up who had the I'm not going to fuck with women until I'm the best me I can be attitude seem to have ended up in their mid thirties, not able to find anyone, farming the apps all the time, and never be able to seem to get into the relationship phase, even when they meet someone. On paper, they're great. Fit, a bit of money, some are paying off their own home, and good jobs. But it doesn't seem to have done much to help them. Going by stats alone, they …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/25 04:06 AM
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It can be the case that drinking poison is more healthy than it would be not to. But I would imagine that it's far more often the case that is isn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/25 08:28 PM
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I don't know if it's true for most people, but I feel like this might be a chicken or the egg situation. While it is true, in my personal experience, that a lot of the boys I grew up with who ran through girl after girl after girl, ended up in relationships, even now as adults, where they cheat near constantly. When I think of all my major pussy hound friends, they've all cheated on their partner at least once. And that's what I know. So there's likely more going on without my knowledge. But cou…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 02:07 PM
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This is just going to happen, regardless of who cares about what. We're moving more and more into lower and lower rates of socialization, less socialization means less opportunity and less chance to develop social skills, which will create a feedback loop of lower and lower socialization, and so on, and so forth. We can also see this in women post covid era. Post-COVID, the percentage of single women reporting weekly sex declined from 49.2% to 40.5%, and those with at least one partner in the pa…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 12:44 AM
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how is a 50/50 boyfriend any different from a roommate you sleep with? Because they're in a committed, monogamous relationship with a person whom they love. You're in love with them, and want to share the mutual intimacy that sex, and the rest of what of the monogamous romantic relationship brings. I could also ask, how is a 100/0 boyfriend any different than a roommate who pays to have sex with you? If we're going down that route. I'm coming at this specifically from the no kids viewpoint. If a…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 07:58 PM
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Honestly, the women I've fallen in love with, I've been able just find the funny in them. It's likely some weird bias in my brain where my love is rose tinting everything, but it's also been the case for multiple years into a relationship. I've always had to go 50/50, or be the one just making a lot less than my partners. I've never really had much money to spare. It's hard to answer the last one. I did find them funny. More funny as time went on, but I also fell more and more in love with them …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 04:09 PM
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The cartoon depiction of beer goggles aren't a thing. That's just an an attempt to convey the lowering of inhibitions that being drunk brings. Nothing actually looks different, like some kind of hallucination. I wouldn't take the idea of beer goggles seriously at all. Though I haven't slept with someone I wouldn't have otherwise, I've done plenty of insane things when I've been drunk that I wouldn't have sober. Beer googles in irl terms is more just a way of saying that they've done something th…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 04:01 PM
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Even if a woman rejects a man by insulting him at least they only got to interact for what - 3 minutes? And it’s over. Obviously, that's baseless nonsense. There's no reason to believe that rejection and cruelty have some negated effect due to gender. I'm sure there are plenty of both men and women who're very hurt, and often for a long time, over someone being insulting and cruel towards them. This trivializing of cruelty isn't necessary. I've also had women go to lengths to inject themselves i…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/25 08:29 AM
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Intimidate might just be a terrible word to use for situations like this. I don't approach people romantically, but literally the only times I've ever been intimidated out of interacting with someone is when they've been dangerous in some way that could cause me harm. I'm 6'3, and 100kg. I've met one woman in my whole life who intimidated me, and she was a pretty substantial coke dealer... As an adult, anyway. It's more likely that a person isn't intimidated, but simply don't like some aspect of…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 06:59 AM
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I stuck pretty thoroughly to the topic, you just didn't respond to that. And I'd call questioning a grown man bragging about attracting multiple 16 year olds a pretty valid line of questioning. There aren't many fathers who'd ask an adult if they'd like to bang their teenage daughter. And to happen multiple times, with multiple fathers, in the space of one summer? You're also the one making threads about not understanding social interactions, aren't you? What is even the debate here? This seems …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 09:03 AM
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I don't know what we'd classify as boyish, but, an attractiveness study conducted in the UK and Japan found that most people showed an overall preference for more feminine facial features, both in men’s and women’s faces. Though, I expect people just tend to like faces that meet the societal standard of attractive in general. In the same sense, can't imagine a women who has a more boyish preference would say that Henry Cavill isn't very attractive. Attractive Boyish and Attractive Manly are like…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 08:48 AM
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Something about people getting together in a Reddit comment section and giving incredibly one sided accounts of how good they all are in bed is rubbing me the wrong way.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/25 08:52 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 08:38 PM
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I remember watching an interview a while ago with one of the girls who were on these kinds of dating shows online. Apparently, they get told what is going to happen before filming, it's all set up and guests with come up with character archetypes to play for more attention. Like the bitch, or the sweet one or so on. Then in exchange for coming on, these people get their socials posted, or shouted out. This is just more rage bait content created to manufacture more and more engagement through thi…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 07:13 PM
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I'm not agreeing with you, or disagreeing, as much as I am just clarifying what people mean when they say that something is unconditional/non-transactional. Everything in all of existence is conditional. It's a constant. From human emotions to galaxy destroying chemical reactions. Nothing happens that isn't a dependent on something else. Something being without conditions is purely imaginary. It can't be. Not while obeying the laws of reality, anyway. Even a parent loving their child is dependen…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 07:50 AM
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A Global study found that willingness to consider someone as a long-term partner dropped sharply as past partner numbers increased. The effect was strongest between 4 and 12. There was no evidence of a sexual double standard. People were more accepting if new sexual encounters decreased over time. It seems as though both men and women tend to look poorly on partners with extensive sexual histories. It seems as though people who engage in promiscuous behavior are viewed negatively by the vast maj…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/25 07:59 AM
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Personally, I don't look for potential partners, actively. I've always thought the odds of meeting someone I can connect with that way were so low that it didn't make much sense. It's already so rare and so hard to meet someone that makes your heart skip when your phone goes off at the possibility that it might be them. As pitiable as it sounds, I would give terrible things of myself for those deeply loving, meaningful connections with someone that only come around scarcely, if ever. But looking…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 02:52 PM
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Baggage is accrued through life in general, not specifically relationships. At 30 something years old, I am a hell of a lot more jaded than I was in my 20s. I don't know if that's the case for most men, but I know it's my case, and I know it's the case for a lot of men I've grown up with. I'm jaded, I have baggage, I'm far less trusting and so on. Life just isn't kind, it's hard. And it's painful more often than it's not, and eventually you have to learn to adapt to that. I couldn't say as to wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 01:50 PM
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97.7% identify as heterosexual, 0.8% as lesbian and 1.4% as bisexual. Even if we use the 2.5 multiplication, that's still only accounts for 2% and 3.5% respectively. Asking Redditors is going to give you extremely biased data. Also, homosexuality isn't just a lifestyle change you can choose to make. You either are, or you aren't. Unless they really are putting something in the water that's turning the frogs gay, this isn't the case. This idea that people can become gay is dangerous, as it heavil…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 12:32 AM
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I don't think it's unreasonable to feel badly for him. I certainly do. When you look at the way he was raised, the expectations on him, who his father is and how he raised him, it's easy to see how he ended up this way. Combine all that with him not being the brightest crayon in the shed, he didn't stand much of a chance, really. He really is just product of his environment. An environment that requires excessive machismo and gave constant ridicule. His father constantly mocked him by calling hi…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 08:21 PM
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Oh, yeah. I spend quite a bit of time here for the same reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 06:29 PM
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I understand people online may argue that, but a Global study found that willingness to consider someone as a long-term partner dropped sharply as past partner numbers increased. The effect was strongest between 4 and 12. There was no evidence of a sexual double standard. People were more accepting if new sexual encounters decreased over time. It seems as though both men and women tend to look poorly on partners with extensive sexual histories. It seems as though people who engage in promiscuous…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 06:17 PM
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Thirty-five is not the highest earning period of a mans life, it's at age fifty. The median savings of a man aged thirty-five is around five thousand dollars... Which really isn't a lot of money, at all. And being a thirty something year old myself, I can absolutely say that virtually all the men around me aren't drowning in money. Most have debts to pay off, some still live with their parents, and those I know who own their own homes, likely won't be able to finish paying off that debt until la…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 04:11 AM
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I'm either 31 or 32, I can't remember... And while I don't make any effort to meet women myself, at my age, my friends only really meet people online, or through friends of friends. There really isn't a place where everyone just hangs out, that I know of, anyway. I guess if you don't have friends to connect with others through, your best bet would be an app. Everyone I know, both men and women, are either always with their partner, working, or being alone these days. There's bars and pubs, but i…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 11:09 PM
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Child support, while serving a purpose, is little to do with fairness. It's not. It's about reliving the state of a financial burden. Fairness can, and often is a byproduct of child support, but it is in no way the purpose. There has been numinous cases of adult women raping underage boys, and those underage boys being forced to be financially responsible for the child of said rape. Or at the least, the families of the raped boys. Hermesmann v. Seyer (State of Kansas ex rel. Hermesmann v. Seyer,…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 05:11 AM
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No, it's ridiculous nonsense from someone who views the genders as warring sides as opposed to people. You can talk about more than one thing at once. Why should we talk about women's issues when men have by far the largest suicide rate? Why should we talk about abortion when Israel and Palestine is going on? Why should we talk about cancer rates increasing while Ukraine and Russia are still fighting? Humanity has always solved multiple problems at the same time. We don't forsake all other issue…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 10:07 AM
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You're just hearing a very loud minority of people. The vast, vast majority of people are not having sex with multiple new people a year. Just to preface all this, personally, I don't care what people get up to, morally speaking. I don't think a person sleeping around makes them a bad person. Or a personal being virginal makes them a good person. Not to say that it wouldn't impact my decision to be in an intimate, romantic relationship with said person, as I'd only want to be with someone who sh…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 12:25 PM
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Supposing this is really what is going on, then he's doing what all bad people do. Lying and manipulating to get to get what he wants. There's not much more to it. But being a manipulative liar is not a uniquely male trait, by any means. He could just looking for a relationship by finding people who he agrees with, and being wildly incompetent to the point of abrasive creepiness. I've seen peoples who's idea of flirting was just saying sexual things and hoping for a positive response. Though, I …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 09:40 AM
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Isn't the opposite true? That the more attractive someone is, the better others view their personality as a result? And that the less attractive someone is, the more poorly others view their personality? The halo effect and the horn effect, or something? Also, in my personal life, I've noticed that better looking people are viewed much more favorably than their unattractive counterparts in the exact same conditions. I can't think of a time I've heard a male friend tell me that attractive women i…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 05:02 AM
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Gooner or just Evil? What does PPD think?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 03:44 AM
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Aren't you the girl who makes a men should be okay with women cheating thread every other day? I'd agree that it isn't fair for a man to tar all women with the same brush, but you seem to be the woman who tarred the brush. Edit: All your posts are about men you've either cheated on, or mistreated. I'm a basically positive this is just bait.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 03:35 AM
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I feel as though loneliness and lack of sexual of sexual connection go hand in hand. I understand that a person just longing for sexual contact and nothing more, is just a person who's horny. But, in my experience, sexual intimacy was a way of sharing an incredibly bonding, intimate and togethering time between me and my partner. It's also human to want sexual inactivity with a person whom you love. When I've felt deep love toward someone, sex has been a very intense form of that love. Even if w…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 02:56 AM
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There's no debate to be had, and I gave no relationship advice. You said you didn't want kids and listed reasons based on your feelings. Do you want me to convince you into having kids? All you've given me is a bunch of I feel statements. The part about men only caring about a women's looks is objectively false. Men form human, loving connection with women. It's insane to say otherwise. Point 2 has some merit, but the research shows that millennial dads are spending significantly more time with …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 07:32 AM
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I wasn't comparing relationships to having children, but the way you describe men sounds as though you find them to be repugnant. And if that's the way you feel, simply don't interact with men in that way. These are clearly two things you view very negatively. If you view X as a negative, avoid X. X can be a stand in for anything. No one is forcing you to interact with X. This is a problem that is very easily avoided.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 06:59 AM
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Having children is of no benefit to anyone who doesn't want children. I'd say the same thing about being in a relationship. If a person finds that they're not things that they find too enticing, simply don't have them. No one will make you. If you'd like to not have children, and not enter relationships, no one is going to force you to do so... Well, unless you're unfortunate to be from certain places. I don't quite understand the constant "XYZ is a negative!" here. If you don't want them, don't…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 06:50 AM
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I know you didn't want everything to come down to definitions, but I feel as though it's very important in this topic. Particularly the social definition of conditional/unconditional. Everything in all of existence is conditional. It's a constant. From human emotions to galaxy destroying chemical reactions. Nothing happens that isn't a dependent on something else. Something being without conditions is purely imaginary. It can't be. Not while obeying the laws of reality, anyway. Even a parent lov…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 07:41 PM
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If a person were to attempt and fail, they now know that they cannot do said thing. Resulting in the next time they try, or attempt to try, they will do so some degree more less confidence in their ability. Compounding the issue. It still results in factors entirely on external factors. Trying is the right thing. But failing results in a lowering of confidence, which results in a higher rate of failure. Compounding until the only reasonable conclusion is that failure is certain. As to whether fa…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 12:08 AM
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Confidence is something given to you. It's the result of external factors. A person who fails repeatedly at something is only confident in that area if they are either to stupid, or delusional to for decent pattern recognition. People who are capable of being truly confident, are already confident. Telling someone to just be confident, is more effective if you tell them just pretend to be confident. But it's still worth remembering, confidence only has a multiplicative effect. If a person were u…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 11:55 PM
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Both men and women prefer younger partners, study finds. Even though women tend to say they prefer older men they scored younger men as more desirable, research shows. It's more of a person phenomenon, than an exclusively male one. The most beautifully aged 60 year old is still a 60 year old. I'm not saying that I'm a stallion now in my 30s, but I'm going to look a lot worse when I'm in my 60s. It's not even just the physical aspect, but the mental aspect of time. I'm jaded, I have baggage, I'm …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 12:13 AM
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Just to preface all this, personally, I don't care what people get up to, morally speaking. I don't think a person sleeping around makes them a bad person. Or a personal being virginal makes them a good person. Not to say that it wouldn't impact my decision to be in an intimate, romantic relationship with said person, as I'd only want to be with someone who shares my values around love, sex and relationships. But I don't feel as though they're inherently bad/good people for their sexual history.…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 07:28 PM
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There are certain things the brain needs to be happy, due to the way our social structures are set up, a lot of people just aren't getting that level of connection they'd need outside of romantic relationships. For a lot of people, they will only ever have a deep, vulnerable, sensitive, self-exposing connection with their romantic partner. Honestly, even that's lucky. And as people get older, finding that in others platonically seems to fall off pretty hard. Even at my age... I can't recall if I…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 03:18 PM
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Just to preface all this, personally, I don't care what people get up to, morally speaking. I don't think a person sleeping around makes them a bad person. Or a personal being virginal makes them a good person. Not to say that it wouldn't impact my decision to be in an intimate, romantic relationship with said person, as I'd only want to be with someone who shares my values around love, sex and relationships. But I don't feel as though they're inherently bad/good people for their sexual history.…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 01:36 PM
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Is there something wrong with wanting your romantic partner, the person whom you love, to find you sexually exciting? Honestly, if I didn't feel as though my partner desired me, I'd imagine that the relationship isn't going to last very long. Frankly, I'd advice against anyone getting into a relationship with someone who didn't find them sexually exciting. You don't have to be extremely, extremely attractive according to the social standard to be treated that way. I've had partners who've had so…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 12:11 PM
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Isn't pair bonding just ones ability to form a lasting, intimate connection with a romantic partner? I don't believe I've ever seen someone use the term pair bond in the zoological behavioral sense when referencing humans.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 11:55 AM
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I can't shake this idea that all of our issues affect the other gender, whether it be in a round about way, or more directly. As an example, the Tate has fed directly into these hordes of disenfranchised men being scooped up by the republican party, to the extent the democratic party are now allocating funds in order to find a way to allow them to win these men back, have definitely hurt women. We're now in a position where American women are dealing with the loss of health care, which some are …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 12:26 AM
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I never said it was a good thing. I just explained why it happens. I personally know a lot of women who don't get the promotions they deserve, and give more than they get without being rewarded for doing so. But again, if they're not going to be aggressive in asking, and they're not going to throw away so much of their lives making money for someone else, they're not going to get those premonitions. I'd also extend a had and say again that it isn't fair that women aren't socialized to form the p…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 11:29 PM
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I'd call it reasoning reasoning, but whatever floats your boat. I never said it was a good thing. I just explained why it happens. I personally know a lot of women who don't get the promotions they deserve, and give more than they get without being rewarded for doing so. But again, if they're not going to be aggressive in asking, and they're not going to throw away so much of their lives making money for someone else, they're not going to get those premonitions. I'd also extend a had and say aga…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 11:21 PM
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I imagine that might have something to do with how all men general get more promotions than women. Proportions tend to go to more assertive figures who ask for them. Women tend to be more passive, whether that be through socialization or biology, I'm not sure. Promotions aren't awarded, they're requested. Women just tend to request less. Put on top of that just how much more time employed men generally spend more hours in paid work than women... It becomes more clear why men get more promotions …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 11:17 PM
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Oh, yeah. 100%. We should talk like this about both mens and womens issues. And issues as whole, really. But, it just isn't going to happen. That's not the way humans operate, sadly. We'd rather just devolve into a shit flinging argument. I mean, this is a place dedicated to discussing these issues, and look how quickly so many threads devolve into defensive, passive aggressive name calling and insinuations about the people other are speaking to. I actually, genuinely makes me sad. But it is wha…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 11:10 PM
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I'd argue that if women want to see major progress from here, they'd be wise to care about some mens issues. As an example, if they could steer society toward being softer and more accepting of say, men who fit more feminine, less masculine archetypes, they could make larger movent towards tackling toxicly masculine issues which would then in turn make it easier to tackle some of women issues. If ones masculinity didn't have to be defended to feverishly amongst men, femininity wouldn't be so dis…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 10:51 PM
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I mean, I can take women's issues seriously without them also citing studies and biology text books at me. But if we're going to go down that road... Did you consider women go into higher level education on a more frequent basis because they don’t have nearly as many opportunities as men do to earn a good living without school? Higher education is the single largest predictor of a high wage for both women and men. The vast, vast majority of both men and women who don't go into higher education, …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 10:37 PM
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I suspect that men work the same way women do. We all unconsciously treat better looking people, better than worse looking people. Generally speaking. A whole load of studies have been conducted around the idea that more attractive individuals tend to receive preferential treatment, and they've all demonstrated that it is the case. I think that's what the Halo Effect is. I also suspect that the vast majority of people don't treat others poorly, but instead simply ignore others they don't subcons…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 08:38 PM
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I'm trying to put myself in the mindset where I'd be in this situation and be as charitable as possible. If I were in love with a person, and something were to happen, like an accident, to where they couldn't have sex anymore, I wouldn't leave them. I've been in love, and I know I value love a lot more than just sex alone. There's also other things a couple can do. That closeness a couple can feel from sex doesn't just have to be from traditional PnV sex. I'm not going to list everything, but I'…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 01:43 PM
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At a cursory glance, it seems as though the women's suffrage movement didn't have a hard line stance on sex work. Some within the movement held views that opposed prostitution, and some suffragists actively campaigned for the rights of sex workers. Some were pro-sex work, others were anti-sex work. But, regardless. The suffragettes formed over 120 years ago. I highly doubt that when laws are formed in 2025, we're doing so based on the opinions of people from over 100 years ago. It's like I said,…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/25 05:23 PM
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I don't think it was ever meant to protect sex workers. Not to compare the two, but keeping drugs illegal puts drug dealers in danger. But they're criminals, so they're not the concern. While I've never, and have zero interest in utilizing the services, I don't think sex work should be illegal, just because it seems to do very little in the way of curbing it, and I have an issue with the government saying two consenting people aren't allowed to have sex with one another, provided that no one is …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/25 05:09 PM
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Prolonged depression is the death of hope. When hope leaves, so does the willingness to be anything better than nothing. I suspect that the men who go from referring to themselves as AFC to Incel or Black Pill are just men who were struggling for too long. I imagine it's just similar to going from it's hard to it's over. It's just a factor of time. You can only feel worthless and not as good as everyone else for so long before your spirit breaks. It's likely that by the time people are referring…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 04:58 PM
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Things haven't really changed much in this regard. I'm 31 now, and we were having this exact conversation two decades ago. I remember all the same topics about how social women on the TV and on the internet were ruining the body image of young girls, how everyone was shallow, vapid an unable to commit, how you needed to have X amount of plastic surgery in order to be acceptable, how sex was pushed on us and expected of us from younger and younger ages, how girls were supposed to dress sluttier n…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 03:56 PM
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I don't think you're right on this. I feel like sex is pretty important and meaningful to me. When I've been propositioned by women in the past, whether it's in bars or friends asking me to stay the night at theirs, I've never taken any up on it because I just can't imagine enjoying sex with someone who I don't have a deeper emotional connection with. Sex with someone I don't feel that way about is just very unappealing. It's a very intimate thing that I don't want to just have with just anybody…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 03:10 PM
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Sexual Ownership? What you're talking about is a committed romantic relationship. Why on earth would you chose to phrase it in such an abrasive way? I've been in relationships where I've described my partner as belonging to me. But my partner has said that about me in return. That I belong to them. We belonged to one another, as we loved one another. Not because I fucked her or some other nonsense. While we could call it ownership, almost everyone would consider us to just be in a loving, commit…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 01:32 PM
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Men don't want to own women. Men, generally speaking, want someone who loves them, whom them love in return. They want a partner who accepts them. Someone who makes them feel better when something shitty happens or someone to share the good things that happen to them with. I grantee you, hands down, if you were to offer men a whole, the choice between having a life long, loving, happy relationship with a partner who truly, deeply loves and cares about them to share their whole life with, or lega…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 01:11 PM
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Is this a men can't be true friends with women post just worded as abrasively as possible? Why would you chose to use the term owned in a post that has no need for it, and can easily be seen as derogatory when in a relationship with would fit so much better? I just can't fathom why a person who might actually want a real discussion around an option they have would phrase it so caustically. This isn't even an attempt at a conversation. It's just needling people in order to garner an emotional res…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 12:53 PM
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Kind of, but I'd say that the average woman is seen as far more sexual than the average man. I don't think it's a far stretch to say that a normal woman might find it very easy to look for a man who would sexualise her. Where as a normal man might have to put a lot more effort into finding someone who views him sexually. I imagine that there are far, far less women who aren't sexualised at all, in comparison to the amount of men who're viewed unsexually. Not to say that it isn't painful for them…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 01:22 AM
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We do sexualise men, just not average men. And when we do sexualise average men, it's done in a very give the slow kid a chocolate medal so he doesn't feel left out kind of way, and ends up feeling very patronizing. We as a society are pretty clean on what is and isn't attractive, and people tend to know when they're not attractive. So telling them that they are comes off as patronizing. I don't know what the solution is, but I do know that it's not getting another obese, balding, 5'7 man to dan…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 12:21 AM
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Average? I've had this conversation with a few with a boys I've known. I'd assume they're pretty normal looking, some are pretty fit, and they're all at or over 6 feet tall. I guess that puts them at a little above average, now I think about it. We're in our thirties now. None of them have ever had it happen romantically, a few have had it happen in bars, where they come over to talk to them, but only with drunk women who're borderline belligerent about it. But other than that, it doesn't really…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 02:13 PM
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People have to learn how to interpenetrate things that others say. When someone says "I love when a person xyz!" What they're really saying is "I love when an attractive person xyz!" In terms of romantic relationships, this is always the case. Attraction is prerequisite, everything else is additional. Without the prerequisite, the additional is void.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 04:33 PM
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If it's online, you just have to disregard it and assume that they're idiots. If it's irl, just disregard them and assume that they're idiots. There's a lot of people who'll say a lot of stupid shit, seemingly more than ever these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 09:39 PM
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Regardless of her level of attractiveness, I would not be interested in any form of sexual relationship with someone who seems to be under some form of pressure to do so for their own safety. Personally, I'd be worried about my own safety and as to whether I could even trust a person I'd met on Tinder to come live with me, the same day, due to the myriad of ways this not only could, but would, go catastrophically wrong for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 09:29 PM
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Attractiveness is the most important trait to have, beyond everything else, with no exception. Though, an attractive person can lose their worth by being too immoral, too unkind, or too... some other negative trait. That being said, an unattractive person can never earn someones romantic affections by being moral, kind, or virtuous in some way. Attraction is a prerequisite. Not a factor. Honestly, real world, I've never seen anyone really pretend that attractiveness isn't more important than the…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 09:20 PM
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It's illuminating that 60% of your qualifiers for being a good man revolve around either his job or finances. Financing four elderly peoples lives, his own life, to a certain degree your own life and potentially any children is a staggering ask, even in the days where single income housing was more common. You're looking at millions of dollars. Not only have you tied a persons worthiness of love to their bank account, you've also set it to a near unattainable level. Just take a second and think …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 03:48 PM
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I'd imagine that it likely works as a multiplicative effect to a persons attractiveness. If a person were unattractive, confidence wouldn't be a game changer for that person, but a person who is already attractive, is more attractive as a result of also being confident. So say, if a person is a 2 in physical attractiveness, multiply that by 1.3 for confidence, and you get a 2.6. And say a person is a 7, and we multiply that by 1.3, that person becomes a 9.1. Obviously, I'm pulling numbers out of…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/25 04:23 PM
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It's something of a catch 22. If you want a relationship worth having, you have to both fully invest yourselves. But you can't do that while ensuring that you're not developing more love than your partner. I'm sure you can get a relationship with this dynamic, but it'll only ever be a second rate facsimile of a real, fully loving relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 01:43 PM
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It's a tenet a lot of "dating ideologies" for both genders. The idea being, if they want you more than you want them, you're always in a power position and are very unlikely to be the one who gets hurt if something goes wrong. It's a little cowardly and manipulative, in my opinion. But it's not a unique to women. A risk of pain is a gamble you take in everything worth having.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 01:30 PM
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I don't approach anyone, so take this for what it's worth, but I've always been under the impression that approaching someone in a place where they are there with a purpose and not to simply relax or have a good time, isn't good. If someone is there to do something, then get out. It's likely not good idea to interrupt them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/25 11:13 PM
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I've never asked a woman out, I've only developed friendships that fall pretty quickly into feelings and then relationships. But I have been approached for causal sex in bars a few times, and those are nearly always bad experiences. I don't do casual sex, so I'm never taking them up on that. One time a woman and her friend very loudly accused me of being a pedophile, on the basis that I must want to fuck someone, and that the problem must be that they're too old for me... They were my age, they …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/25 07:53 PM
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Truthfully, I think using flowers is a terrible example for this situation. Flowers have never been my department. I honestly don't even think to look at flowers in my house. They get absolutely zero attention from me. I wouldn't even notice if they were desiccated. I wouldn't have expected my partner to sharpen the blades of my kitchen knives, even if she were using them and noticed that they were blunted. Just because I'm the ones who cooks and cares about the knives. It's not because any of t…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/25 05:44 PM
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Lots of the biggest western countries are facing a real issue with numbers being down for military recruitment. I've asked around my personal circle of friends as to whether they would ever consider the military, and nearly all of them gave me the same answer. Why would they? None of them really felt as though they had much to fight for, had any real stake in things and didn't want to throw what little they had away, fighting for a world that didn't care about them. Personally, I agree. I feel l…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 06:56 PM
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This reads like dating advice as given by Borat.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 01:32 PM
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Is it bad if it goes on for too long? I have pretty bad anxiety that I've never been able to get a hold of, and I struggle to get out of my head sometimes. Quite often, actually. My past partners and I will sometimes go for up to two hours (quite rarely). Normally around an hour or so. I'm aware that in porn world this is a good thing, but in the real world, I worry that I might have caused some unpleasantness going for that long. I've tried speaking to them about it, and never heard anything ne…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 03:20 PM
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I'd be interested to see how this dynamic plays out in future regarding to earnings and breadwinner situations. As things become more and more expensive, more and more jobs aren't keeping up with inflation and the single largest predictor of a high earning job is a college education, coupled with the decrease in men seeking higher education, as supposedly the higher education participation level for women has now reached 56.6%, compared to only 44.1% for men, and on top of all this, we don't see…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 04:52 AM
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I know that everyone start with their best foot forward and likes to give a positive, if somewhat embellished image of themselves. It's normal. I do it, you do it, everyone does it. I don't expect that to carry on forever, no. I actually wouldn't want it to. It's very cute, sweet and... I don't know, good feeling when my past partners have gotten to the comfort level where they'll walk around in pajamas, or my boxers, or with their hair up in a bun and lounge on me while we do things. I neither …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 02:45 PM
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God help anyone who decides to sit back and read this entire thing. I just struggle too much to hit certain masculine traits. Mainly financially. I've had some bad experiences. Some romantic situations can be very unkind toward people like me. I'm a disabled guy. Nothing outward, but my insides don't work the way that they should. You wouldn't believe the experiences I've had. I'm 31, 6'3 and around 100KG. I'm a big guy. Deep voice. Hairy chest. Used to be really strong. I'd bench press my partn…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 10:59 PM
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Maybe I'm not old enough at 31, but not much has changed really, as far as I can recall. Tinder popular when I was still a teenager, Social Media was HUGE, literally every single person I knew was on there, there were still the raging feminism arguments and gender based vitriol being thrown around everywhere, Redpill content was still pretty huge if you were online, generally there was nowhere to meet people organically unless you were in bars, people who were romantically unsuccessful back then…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 10:28 PM
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I basically don't. Maybe when I was a kid and going through puberty, but as an adult? No. When I'm out and about, it's mainly because I have something to do, or I'm day dreaming while I take care of something. The most attention I might pay to a woman in a sexual context might be something like mentally acknowledging that she's dressed very sexually, if that were the case, then go right back to what I'm doing. If I have no connection to this woman, no feelings towards her, no reason to care beyo…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 09:10 PM
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CQeezCdF4mk
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 09:43 AM
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This is operating off of the assumption that people won't mislead others and then falling into the same traps as choose better. People will then respond with nonsense like choose better, as though they're somehow above being deceived. A lot people here are either blissfully unaware of how easily a person you love deeply can hurt you without you ever seeing it coming, never mind people you're getting to know, or are so lacking in empathy and compassion that you shouldn't be having conversations b…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 09:40 AM
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From what I understand of the Orgasm Gap situation, it's predominantly an issue in casual sex. And in my, admittedly limited experience, a big part of what has enabled the women I've loved to really enjoy sex, and to get there, so to speak, is a feeling of safety and comfort as a starting point. Both of which only tend to be developed with time spent together. This new obsession with the Orgasm Gap feels like another missing the forest for the trees type of deals.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 09:28 AM
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Whether this is true or not, the idea of being worthy of love due to the amount of money my lover has access to via loving me, makes me feel disgusting. I imagine women have a somewhat similar feeling around the idea of only being loved as a result of their waistline. It sucks being alone. It's painful a lot of the time. But I'd rather be alone than used.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 04:26 AM
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Everything in all of existence is conditional. It's a constant. From human emotions to galaxy destroying chemical reactions. Nothing happens that isn't a dependent on something else. Something being without conditions is purely imaginary. It can't be. Not while obeying the laws of reality, anyway. Even a parent loving their child is dependent on the condition that they're their child, in some form or another. Even that likely has it's limits. I imagine you might stop loving your child if it did …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 02:46 PM
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It's all good. We're just the types of people who would be a terrible fit for one another.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 02:32 PM
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Honestly, it's totally an emotional response. But I would be quite hurt. I would feel as though this person doesn't really feel entirely into me emotionally and physically. Whether that really tracks logically or not, it would be my emotional response. I'm quite a soppy, affectionate person. Both physically and otherwise. I love cuddling, hugging, holding hands, kissing, laying on one another, falling asleep together and so on. I just love touching my partner. Not just in a sexual context, but a…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 06:10 AM
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I suspect they mean that these people didn't really care about you beyond just using you for sex. As in, you could have been anyone, felt anything, had any opinions or even enjoyed yourself or not. You were a vagina they could have sex with, and you were there. Which were the only things they cared about. Which isn't explicitly a bad thing, it sounds as though you might have used those men in the same sense. But you were both getting what you wanted out of the arrangement, so it's no as though t…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 05:37 AM
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I'm fairly sure that the vast majority of men understand that very well. I know I do. Not just in relationships, but in quite a lot of aspects of life. It's something that I'm beaten over the head with fairly repeatedly. The older you get, the more you become aware of your replaceability in a lot of things. I'm not special, stand out or exemplary in ways that truly matter. The overwhelming majority aren't. I'm number one in some regard, until I'm not, then my number becomes irrelevant, because o…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 05:24 PM
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It depends. If she's just shy, self conscious and/or struggles socially, I'm totally fine with it. Being shy and awkward can be very charming in and of itself. I've had partners who've needed a little time to open up and show me who they were once they've calmed down and I'm not a stranger anymore. But if this coach is some woman equivalent of a Red Pill guru, teaching her how to manipulate and get what she wants out of me, I'm out.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 04:38 PM
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Brushing past the absolute insanity of the question... One in four women having gang-bang sex is just way too high, given that the median sexual partners by age 50 is something like, 4-5. Assuming you didn't make this scenario up, as you suspect that one in four women have been involved in a gang bang, but wanted to lend some faux credence to your assumptions by saying that a woman had told you so herself... Then, assuming this woman is real, it sounds as though it's something she would have don…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 06:03 PM
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This is like what you'd expect Patrick Bateman to post on /r9k/.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 02:52 PM
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There's lots of things in life that are down right torturous and aren't the fault of anyone. Living a life devoid of love and the deep, deep connections that brings sounds horrible. That's arguably one of the most important parts of life. More than money, more than... Well, anything really. Love has always been a more powerful feeling than anything else. Having to live life knowing you'll never get to experience one of, if not it's best aspect is... Not good. I mean, yeah. There's other stuff. B…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 12:58 PM
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I say this as someone who doesn't sleep around due to my values around sex, relationships and love. And only gets with partners who have the same values around these things as myself. Cheating is 100% worse. No question. Cheating is utterly devastating and can destroy a persons ability to trust for the rest of their lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 01:26 AM
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Mine is a little bigger than most. Not MASSIVE, but fairly above average. It does hurt my partners if I'm not careful. I understand that kind of pain isn't pleasant. I don't enjoy hurting them, I restrict myself a lot in order to make sure that I'm not hurting them. But it's hard to really accept that women would rather a 5.5 inch over a 7 inch when every single one of my past partners has bragged to their friends about it, giggled and hung off me the next day talking about how they're sore down…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 10:24 AM
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The impression I've gotten from people talking about women supporting women seems to be more about women blindly supporting women, no matter what on a social level. It does feel as though women are far less inclined to acknowledge that a minority of other women can be scummy pieces of shit and are more inclined to defend certain actions or unfair beliefs and values of other women. Not business and political. It's actually something I'm somewhat envious of when it comes to how women treat one ano…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 03:47 PM
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Regardless of whether men or women settle more, it has to suck absolute shit to be in a relationship with someone who has the mentality that they've settled by being with you. I feel as though it would make you valueless as a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 01:51 PM
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I don't necessarily agree that make up is changing things that much. But I really, really dislike how these threads always immediately devolve into saying that "men can just put on make up, too!" as though we don't know that a man wearing make up would be socially unacceptable, and a man wearing make up would be quite off putting to the vast majority of women. I can say, as a working class adult man in the UK, if I were to start wearing makeup, I'd be ridiculed for doing so. The same way I would…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 09:26 AM
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I can peak out a little over 7 inches. Even at my size, I make an effort not to hurt, or make my partner uncomfortable. I'm not going to get into more detail beyond that, but it's just a think you need to be aware of. I'm guaranteeing you, beyond any shadow of a doubt, the vast, vast majority of women are NOT looking for a 9 inch partner. That is a rare minority of women. Being 9.5 inches, while only having a average girth of 4.5 inches, would put you in 98% largest penises in the world. You do …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 09:16 AM
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Hey, guys. I heard I was owed a million dollars?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 11:25 AM
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I feel as this this whole post could be reversed, no? As in, "A lot of women participate in casual misandry, and then turn around and get upset at casual misogyny." And so on, and so forth, just swapping the genders and gendered terms. It's still wrong, either way. But it's likely a wrong we all participate in, to some degree. I don't feel anyone is totally without sin in this regard. I very earnestly believe that women are just as capable as myself, in the the important regards. But even I will…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 02:17 AM
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As someone who doesn't do approaching, I haven't gone up to random women on the street or in pubs or whatever, but I've had it done to me by women. I have a bunch of issues with approaching. Both logistically and personal. For personal, I wasn't raised very lovingly. To keep it brief, I don't look at myself positively. Even if I've had women coming up to me to talk, I still don't feel as though they'd want someone like me to come up to them and start talking to them. Logistically, finding someon…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 11:07 PM
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Wouldn't it be more of a fair comparison to say that "If women are allowed to hide their plastic surgery from men in the early stages of the relationship, then men should also be allowed to hide their plastic surgery from women in the early stages of a relationship?" I don't really think we need a different point of comparison when attractiveness is wildly important to both genders. Either way, I think that hiding your dating intentions is likely far more damaging to your partner. Generally, I d…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 09:20 PM
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Most people likely aren't operating on the assumption that they must be financing a potential partners lifestyle. They're more thinking that they might like a person, and might like a person the more they got to know them on a personal level. A lot of people don't like the idea that their personhood, and value as a human comes from how much money they might have to exchange with someone in order to interact with them. If a person truly likes and enjoys you, they'll like you in the park, drinking…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 01:47 AM
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My concern would be whether this person likes me for me. I'm finding myself struggling to put it into words. If a person who were genuinely in love with me, also happened to be immensely aroused by something some aspect of myself they've fetishized... I don't think I'd have a problem with that. I think I might even enjoy it. Knowing that I light my partner, someone I love and care about that much more and excite them. I would enjoy it, I think. I also wouldn't hold this fetish against my partner…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 02:51 AM
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As far as talking to my personal experience goes, I understand what you're saying. But in my case, these are multiple, multiyear relationships where they've ended with me being let known specifically that these relationships were amazing, but as a result of be being sick, they can no longer work. It's been a bit, but as best as I can recall, one multiple year relationship ended with "I love you, I'll always love you, you're amazing, but I can't be with someone that has the unwell like you. I'm s…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 02:40 AM
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I would disagree that it's entirely self-imposed. To a degree, certainly. For this to change, we would need a complete upheaval of what society expects men, and raises them to be. I'm unsure as to whether men naturally develop this way, the way we raise men from infants and boys results in them being this way, or likely some combination of both. This would need both men and and women treat men and change their expectations of what men should be in order to raise them differently. I don't feel it…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 02:05 AM
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Mine have ended largely due to me having certain medical issues that rendered me undesirable long term. I wouldn't say that a relationship can only be wonderful if it can't be brought to an end for some reason. Off the top of my head, I can't think of anything I would consider to be bad/not good just solely on the basis that it's technically possible to end. There are no relationships that are truly unable to be brought to an end, just relationships that unbroken. You're right, it's something I …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 01:00 AM
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I wouldn't disagree, but without the emotional depth that a lot of men tend to only be able to get their romantic relationships, a lot of men these mens lives are going to be unspeakably lonely, isolated and bleak. No relationship I've ever fostered has given me half the depth and interpersonal connection that my romantic relationships have. Even when attempting to foster those kinds of relationships in a platonic sense. Due to medical reasons leaving me unable to meet the standards of man, I've…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 12:10 AM
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I wouldn't crowd source, because the issues with that are fairly obvious. Something like Tea isn't made to help women. It's made to be a controversial with glaring issues that attracts attention in order to make more money. And it's doing so from behind a veneer of helpfulness. I mean, I struggle to imagine a reality where this app isn't swarmed with bad actors, trolls, the mentally ill and people looking to hurt other people. When it comes to the internet, unless proven otherwise, you should al…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 03:15 PM
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In my experience, it's fairly normal in a relationship to relax a little, after a bit. With my past partners, anyway. You know, they put on a little weight over time, they stop dressing to impress, start being more at ease not wearing make up and hanging out in PJs. It's nothing bad. I've quite liked it. Honestly, it was cute. They got comfortable. That said, I've never experienced major changes in weight or grooming in regards to a partner. Just like, they might stop jogging so much, have a lit…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 12:21 AM
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As far as I know, they do seem to. They don't inform me about every little interaction they're having with women, but I do know that all of them have had quite a bit of sexual success on dating apps. They might be switching up tactics on dating apps though, I'm not totally sure. They're likely just being whatever they need to be in order to get what they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 01:24 AM
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I knew these boys since I was a small child. And I was seeing these events from whenever we started puberty, up until I had to separate from the group at 25. I'm 30 now, so it was until 5 years ago. But it's not that it stopped there, it's more that I just stopped being around for it. From what I know, apps play a big part in whatever it is they're doing with girls now. Though a lot of them have slowed down and settled with children. But, as I said, there's still some cheating that goes on. With…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 12:39 AM
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I'm sorry, I've always had a bit of trouble recognizing if boys faces were attractive or not, but I think they were? They never had trouble getting a girl, anyway. Good jaws, full heads of hair and angular faces. Psychically, I'm 6'3, and most of the whole group was either and inch above me, or an inch below, and a lot of them were in the gym all quite often. Very low BF%. So they were attractive in that sense. As far as charm, I think they were. But they were my friends, so I might be biased. T…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 12:20 AM
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I don't hookup, I don't like the idea of it. I've had opportunities but that just isn't my thing. I'm very much a one and only type of sap. In regards to people knowing others IRL. But, a lot of my friends did, and were very popular with women. I saw a lot of how that kind of thing went. Generally, there was a lot of smooth talking, leading them on and the girl getting infatuated with him. Understandably, I mean, she's likely falling for him, and him pulling away and/or sleeping with some other …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 12:00 AM
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I suppose this would change area by area. There's a bunch of medical reasons I don't want kids, but even if I could magically get rid of those issues, I'd still be left with my main concern. The reason I, and quite a few couples I know, have removed children from the table of life options is simply because we could afford them. I'm 30 years old, and so are the majority of my peers. We could not give a child at least as good of a life as we had, so why would we want to do that? If I can't provide…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 01:44 PM
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People hate inauthenticity. If you're acting a particular way, people can often tell and are repulsed by it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 01:21 PM
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I'm such a fucking dweeb that I had to click the thread to find out what National Security Agency sex was.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 01:20 PM
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It's not withholding affection, it's just being upset at someone and taking time to process things. Withholding would imply I'm having feelings of affection, and deliberately not engaging in those feelings in order to spite my partner. That isn't the case. My concern is whatever pain my partner has deliberately, or carelessly caused me. If I'm really mad at you for something you've decided to do, forcing myself to be falsely affectionate when I'm not feeling my regular affectionate self towards …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 11:42 PM
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I'd start off by saying that both genders sacrifice a lot for their loved ones, all the time. I've known men in their 40s who can't stand up without yelping in pain with how much of their bodies they've sacrificed on construction sites and the like, so their children and partners can have nice things. More often than not, both genders are giving up something. Generally speaking, most people just do some form of labor in order to help with the partnership. It's silly to paint this picture where o…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 03:47 PM
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Hey, Man. That's what I've been telling myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 06:10 AM
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No one was doing it because they were under the impression that it was healthy and harmless. It's done because it's the easy way out for the ghoster, while only the ghosted would incur any damage as a result. You could argue that there would be a gradual lack of skills in dealing with unpleasant conversations over time, but that doesn't really matter to a person not looking forward to an unpleasant conversation in the moment. Of course, it's shitty and cowardly, but it's only really damaging for…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 03:45 AM
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Through the mockery and shaming they'd face if they were to use these AI-GF services. The "What? Couldn't handle a bio girlfriend? Lmao" bit. If a person were to have that love need in them filled with by the AI service, they wouldn't be likely to get rid of it in order to satisfy social norms. They'd just be subject to mockery. Leading to them being ostracized for deviating too harshly from said norms. Or the teasing would be so minute that it actually wouldn't matter. I suppose that's a way it…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 03:59 AM
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While being quite upsettingly isolated myself, I don't think I could ever use these things. There's something at the back of my mind, no matter how real they seemed, I would always know that they weren't and it wouldn't ever fit for me. Like having a conversation with a search engine. But I'd need to see some studies around it before I'd do away with them for good. I imagine that some people might find that numb the pain a little. Even if they're just a minority of people. I bet some people can …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 03:39 AM
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If being a man is to be mentally strong, is it safe to say that being a woman is to be mentally weak? Because if it isn't, then it's something we expect of both genders equally. Then it's not a masculine trait, it's just a positive one. 'Be a man' is just such a nebulous term, I don't know what that really means. It seems to mean entirely different things in different parts of the world. I mean, you'd need to be really clear on what being a man is even supposed to be. And it always seems that 'b…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 09:38 PM
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This both isn't the place, and isn't the way to ask a question like this. This is a valid question, if you were to ask it in a place more directly related to sex specifically, and in a way that wasn't so juvenile.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 12:35 PM
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>Buying flowers weekly. Jesus, do you know how many flowers that is? You can get like, two weeks out of a bouquet. Pretty soon your house is going to be filled with perpetually fresh and rotting flowers, and keep filling and filling up until there's no more room. Not to mention how much the cost. A really cheap bouquet is like £25 these days. That's £1300 ($1700) a year on flowers alone. That's a more than a good condition, second hand car can cost. That's before even the monthly gifts come into…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 08:09 AM
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I'm thinking about these in terms of an established relationship, because I can't imagine ever entertaining getting into a relationship with someone like this. 1 - If I text my someone to talk and they don't text back, we don't speak anymore because I don't feel as though you want to speak to me. And a break down in communication is the death of a relationship. 2 - The compliments thing, I don't know. Some-kind of acknowledgement toward the person you presumably love when they're saying somethin…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 07:41 AM
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I'm not agreeing with you, or disagreeing, as much as I am just clarifying what people mean when they say that something is unconditional/non-transactional. Everything in all of existence is conditional. It's a constant. From human emotions to galaxy destroying chemical reactions. Nothing happens that isn't a dependent on something else. Something being without conditions is purely imaginary. It can't be. Not while obeying the laws of reality, anyway. Even a parent loving their child is dependen…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 12:58 PM
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Maybe. In some circumstances. Relationships aren't like matching two cards of the same number from deck. Sometimes two of the same kinds of people (both jaded and both non-jaded) compliment one another really well, sometimes two of the same kinds of people hate one another and can't work. Sometimes one person being jaded and the other being non-jaded can compliment one another fantastically. You know, opposites attract, yin needs yang and all that shit. But sometimes yin just needs another yin. …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 02:13 PM
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I don't avoid partners my own age, I actually won't really go significantly below my own age. I've predominantly dated a year or two older than myself. But at 30 years old, I am a hell of a lot more jaded than I was at even my mid 20s. I don't know if that's the case for most men, but I know it's my case, and I know it's the case for a lot of men I've grown up with. I'm jaded, I have baggage, I'm far less trusting and so on. Life just isn't kind, it's hard. And it's painful more often than it's …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 01:37 PM
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Like, in a relationship? I guess it would be different to everyone. I come from a rougher background than most. I grew up with lots of crime, violence and drugs. I think I was like, 11 when my father brought me into the living room and handed me some crack in a wrap so I could know what it was and what to do if anyone gave me any because a few of the kids in my area had been smoking it. I've had few knives pulled on me, some guns, a rifle up against my head once. I've got scars on my face from b…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 03:10 PM
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Standards only really need to be lowered if you're not getting what you want, and you're not willing to go entirely without. If these women are getting the men they want, or are okay with not getting men, then they don't need to alter their standards. I'm not saying their standards might not be unfair. But it's not to assume that these standards aren't working for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 09:01 AM
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I'm 30, and I've slept with two women because I don't want to have sex with people who I don't have emotional attachments to, and meaningful attachments like that take a while to form. I totally agree that insecurity is natural, and I had some feelings about that myself. But in my admittedly limited experience, it's not really that difficult for your partner to orgasm, unless they have some other difficulties. The way that women's orgasms are spoken about, I was under the impression that it was …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 05:27 AM
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I don't use any dating apps, but from seeing both men and women that I know, no one really cares about the bios. They look at the pictures, decide if they're attracted to them, then if they read the profile, it's just to have something to talk about if they don't already have something. I was under the impression that 98% of what mattered were just in the images and that dating apps were overwhelmingly a more immediately superficial affair. I've literally watched over friends shoulders and sat n…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 02:24 PM
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When people make reference to the Alpha/Beta dynamic, they're not directly referencing the Alpha Wolf biology theory from 1977. They simply tend to mean that one person is more confident, assertive and socially capable, while the other is more meek, socially inept and timid. Which, typically tends to be seen with one being seen as more sexually attractive and desirable than the other. It's predominantly used in reference toward men to draw attention to how women tend to find more dominant men mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 02:34 AM
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I imagine it's a low social risk way of achieving what they want. Same as everyone wants really. To get what you want, without having to stick your neck out to do so. Why would you take the high risk route when the low risk route can give you the same reward? Having to go out and make the effort to talk to someone you have romantic interest in is pretty hard. You run the risk of rejection, embarrassment, awkwardness and so on. On the app, all the risk is minimized while still achieving the ultim…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 03:06 AM
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My dad fucked a lot of women. He had kids all over. I would know people for years and find out one day that we were actually related sometimes. Cheated on my mother god knows how many times, likely hundreds. He had them paying for his shit, asking them to live with him, cooking and cleaning for him, fighting over him, everything. He would say things like "Ahh, she's a woman, she won't understand" "It's not cheating when men do it" "Women don't have minds for this kind of thing" and so on. His fa…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 10:45 PM
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How would this make you feel? How would this change how you view her? Would you have wanted this information upfront like this? I'd feel glad that she'd let me know. If I saw her as a potential partner before, I wouldn't anymore. I would have wanted this up front. I don't hate her for it, but it's better not to waste either of our time. Would you believe her if she says she's vetting for men who respects her and values her time? Would you believe her if she told you she is vetting for men who ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 09:53 PM
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I'm totally fine with women being very money driven in relationships, like the woman in the video. I'm actually very encouraging of people to be very up front and forward with what they want in relationships, and she has every right to be that way. I'd only really look at someone scornfully if they were to hide this until a person was emotionally hooked into them. But I would never, ever be in a relationship with a person like that. Which is fine. She'll find somebody out there who's willing to …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 06:58 AM
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Not to be rude, but the kinds of men who resort to passport bro-ing, aren't the types of men that tend to be heavily desired in more affluent, western countries, anyway. I would imagine these kinds of men not being around anymore isn't really felt by the women of their native countries, as they weren't sought after while being there. In the same sense, you don't care if a super market stops selling a product that you never bought in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 12:25 AM
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To be fair, we often censor things that we believe will cause harm if not combated and removed. Not to compare the two, but it's just a solid example. Promoting Nazisim is censored and removed for fear of people falling into the ideology without knowing any better, then that spreading out into a bigger and bigger problem. The thought is likely that Red Pill is a harmful ideology that causes more and more negative effects the more and more people who come to fall into the ideology. I'd make refer…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 04:17 AM
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This'll be anecdotal, obviously. I don't talk about my sex life much, it's pretty embarrassing. Even typing this out I feel embarrassed. But I had a fleshlight once. I bought it when I was like, 21, used it a few times and never bothered again. It just wasn't worth all the hassle. It's really messy and awkward to clean if you live with someone who isn't a romantic partner. I had two multiple year long relationships in that time, both of whom were very interested in it when they found out about i…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 08:36 PM
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In the past, my partners seem to have been more viscerally attracted toward me when I was doing particular things. Like cooking. I had to stop cooking in front of my ex partner, because we'd always end up having sex and the food would burn. Something about cooking always seemed to set her off. They'd start talking very aggressively and be all grabbing and so on. I also do animal rescue, so I'd be babying some sick or hurt animal and that would would also seem to set them off. I stopped on the wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 07:07 AM
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Nothing would make me think that someone was about to rape me more than showing me the I'm not going to rape you app on their phone.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 05:24 AM
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I've always been kind of shy and awkward, but I'm also 6'3. 6'4 if I'm outside with my boots on. I don't know how far that goes toward making up for it, but I've always been told by partners and girls who've liked me that it was really cute. It could also be the types of girls I'm interested in spending time around. I've always found that women tended to be quite kind and understanding toward it. Happy to bear the brunt of the conversation until I relaxed a bit. To hold my hand through it, so to…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 02:18 AM
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Generally, people aren't looking to bang dozens of different people. They're looking to have sex with someone they love, who loves them in return. The median partner count by age 50 is something between like 4 and 6. And I imagine most are settling down/stopping by 50. The majority of people aren't stopping themselves, they just want love sex as opposed to casual sex. I've been offered casual sex before, quite a few times. I don't want it because it's of no interest to me. I imagine a large, sil…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 08:29 PM
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I mean, why? Was it some kind of medical accident? Or are they all of a sudden just repulsed by my touch? Are we talking sex AND intimacy? Like, they won't let me cuddle them or kiss them? No holding hands? Are we counting emotional romantic intimacy? I could be in a relationship with a woman who couldn't have sex anymore, say if something had happened to her genitals or whatever. If I loved them, I'd just love them and jerk off. The real value for me in relationships comes from the love and emo…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 08:29 PM
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The National Library of Medicine defines infidelity as a betrayal. It is evident that the impact of infidelity can have dangerous outcomes for those afflicted by this type of betrayal. - https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10002055/ (It's of low character to inflict hurt on those who love, trust and have a romantic contract with you.) You may disagree with that. If you need more social of a social overview of the definition of betrayal, you could ask individuals as to whether they feel as t…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 09:01 PM
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I've known there to be plenty of overweight women dating fit men though my life. They likely don't need to put much thought behind it more than it works and it's not super uncommon.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 08:29 PM
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It's not 1:1 all the time...but it should be 1:1 on average, over time, in my opinion. It can't be 1:1 as different people will hold different things of different value. The points system is referred to as score keeping and is known to be a terminal for social relationships in general, not just romantic... Depending on how much you were to value the opinions of therapists, psychologists and councilors. Who determines what is a failure of character for anyone? Let's use an example...comparing com…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 08:19 PM
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I'll give you ghosted and dumped. Though it's worth saying, this would also apply to men, as well. And those things can happen, even when you've done nothing wrong and don't deserve it. But cheating is a failure of character for the cheater. Having engaged in infidelity at all is a mark of low character. Other than that, I can't be arsed to go into high detail, but viewing someones value in a relationship as this static number system that operates on a 1:1 is doomed for failure in any relationsh…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 07:41 PM
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Nothing in all of existence is special until we register it as special in our perception. What is special to me, might not be special to you. What you deem to be special, I may disregard as pedestrian. Those conversations you found to be special, I may find to be worthless. Sex is special for those who find sex to be special. It is a sacred act for them. Also, there is no such thing as a objective morality. All morality is subjective. There's an argument for objective morality existing in religi…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 03:22 PM
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I lost my virginity at 23, though I intentionally waited. I had partners, but I made it clear to them that we weren't going to be fucking until I knew I loved them. I don't like the idea of having sex with just anyone. I don't know if I'd say it's as much to do with age, as it is to do with having sex with someone you love, who loves you in return. Whether that's at 16 or 36. Though, maturity is a substantial boon in nearly all aspects of life, nothing is ever perfect, but I think being loved by…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 03:02 PM
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I wouldn't call it xenophobic, but I'd think that disregarding a person you may have developed romantic feelings towards because of cultural differences is a bit silly. Sure, there are extremes, but generally cultural differences are not that big of a deal. I've dated two women from two difference countries than my own. There were differences, but nothing troubling.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 02:03 PM
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Oh, I wouldn't disagree. I know quite a few people who've had children in an economically inadvisable state. But it doesn't seem as though a lot of people, particularly the traditional ones, really tend to let that stop them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 12:21 PM
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Red Pill likely appeals to those with more traditional desires, and having children is a pretty traditional desire. There's also wanting kids being a pretty normal biological drive in most people. I don't want kids myself, specifically for economic and genetic reasons. But I wouldn't consider someone who does it be lesser than in some way. Generally, I doubt people are thinking much about the economic situation, or the genetic situation or so on. And generally, I doubt the vast majority of peopl…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 12:06 PM
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No one enters a relationships expecting to get cheated on and abused, and no one falls in love expecting to hit the ground. The same way it isn't a women's fault if her partner cheats on her before or after having children, it also isn't a mans that he might be deceived by a partner either. It would in all likelihood be safe to assume that the abuser had kept what he truly was hidden away from her until it was too late. We wouldn't assume that she was so stupid as to willingly walk into the jaws…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 05:05 PM
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I this mean purely in terms of romance and relationships. I wouldn't know the word to describe exactly what I'm talking about, but there's something that some people have that others just don't and seem to never be able to manufacture inside themselves. It seems to have nothing to do with being a good person or a bad person, but just that special spark that makes someone a social factor, or a social non-factor. A person who's able to generate genuine attraction, desire and love in others will be…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 08:46 AM
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I do rescue stuff. So I've taken care of cats, dogs, birds, frogs, lizards, hedgehogs... Giant African snails one time. All sorts. Normally it's just taking them in, healing them up, then they get adopted or released back into the wild. Sometimes I keep some of them, but only really the cats or the dogs and I'll just take care of them for the rest of their lives. I'd like more space so I could take care of/fix up larger animals, like goats, or donkeys. And a larger area for a natural pond I coul…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 07:39 AM
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B, as I feel they'd be more inclined to build the kind of life I've always wanted to build. To just have a nice home, not somewhere in the wilderness, just out in the country, far enough from other people to be left alone, but close enough to still be within civilization. Where we can have space to build up a perfect place for ourselves with room to do whatever we wanted (reasonably) and take care of animals, where it could be just us by ourselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 07:23 AM
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Love affirmations, affection, warmth and caring for my well being. I've lived a pretty hard life, the vast majority of it has had to have been alone. I've found ways to provide myself with everything I need, other than those things. Those are the only things I can't seem to give myself in a meaningful sense. In relationships, when I'm getting those things, I genuinely don't feel as though anything can stop me. Honestly, a lot of times, just being able to give those things to a partner also fulfi…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 07:11 AM
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Honestly, I don't see much changing. I'm 30, but I know some people older than me. All the ones who wanted kids, had them in their mid to late 30s, if they didn't have them sooner. The ones that didn't want them, just didn't have them. I imagine the transition from 30 to 40 is much like the transition from 20 to 30. Where, if you're the type of person who does well romantically, you'll continue to do so, and if you aren't, you'll continue to do poorly. Most of the people who get what they want, …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 04:59 AM
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My dad fucked a lot of women. He had kids all over. I would know people for years and find out one day that we were actually related sometimes. Cheated on my mother god knows how many times, likely hundreds. He had them paying for his shit, asking them to live with him, cooking and cleaning for him, fighting over him, everything. I hated it. As an adult, I don't want to fuck any girl I'm not in love with and I wouldn't ever cheat. I don't do casual sex, period. It's relationship bonded or nothin…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 04:41 PM
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I don't say it to be condescending at all, but I do think that there are a world of consequences for men who fall into that go down the vulnerable path. A little while back, I accidentally overdosed. I got one text asking me where I'd been. I told them I'd overdosed, they read it, then left it for two weeks and came back with "Oh, that shitty. Y'alright?" because they thought I'd tried to kill myself, it was awkward and just didn't want to deal with it. This was someone I'd known for around 20 y…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 03:39 PM
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Well, I think a better way to put that would be "Weaponized incompetence is abusive." As it isn't inherently gendered, but I don't believe that's what I was describing in the first place. If you want to troll super hard, you'd accuse me of mansplaining now*.*
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 03:05 PM
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I think emotional labor might be a bit of a nebulous term here. It's likely not incredibly healthy for us, but I don't know a single man that cares about events like this. And, off the top of my head, every woman I know does. Things like this feel as though it's more for the women to enjoy than it does the men. I imagine most men would rather not do it, but go along with it because it keeps their partner happy. I used to get super involved in these kinds of things, I'd keep lists of things my pa…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 02:39 PM
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>Liberals do the same thing. Yeah, you're probably right on that. >Socialize enough with them, they can be friends and lovers that want to visit each other. Think about online dating. I'm a very weird person, but hey, I agree with that. I've found that I've made better friends with people I've met online from all over the world than I have some in real life. Through doing some animal work with a girl I met online from the US, we ended up getting closer and closer until we'd started to fall for o…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 12:55 PM
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I'm not from the US, so my perspective might be askew, but it seems as though the American conservative party just use whatever is hurting people, or people perceive to be hurting them, in order to rile people up against the other side in order to secure votes. Whether it be women, immigrants, non/other religious people, feminism, woke people. I don't really know much about what they do in detail, but from what I've seen, they talk about it in the sense that they jab the wound in order to exploi…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 12:28 PM
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It's sad, but most people either don't care about something until it effects them personally, or only care if it effects a certain type of person. Take the whole loneliness epidemic thing for example. People do care about loneliness, when they're the type of person to subject to it. But the types of people who aren't subject to it won't ever care about it. You're also having to take into account social stigmas, of which there are an awful lot around being lonely, but more importantly, being the …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 12:07 PM
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I guess I've only really ever wanted to have sex with women I've developed strong romantic feelings for. So my experience is limited. I don't really want to fuck outside of loving, monogamous relationships, so maybe that changes something. I need that closeness emotionally with a person and established trust. I'm not going to list what I've done, but I've never found anything I've done to truly degrade them in my eyes. As in, I don't found that their worth or value has been lowered after having …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 03:39 PM
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I don't need to be fat in order to be a complete fucking loser.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 03:12 PM
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I was about 28 at the time, but I used to date a girl who was 30. She would use words like tea to talk about gossiping with her friends. It never bothered me. It's just cute when you love someone. I do agree that it does seem to be more of a thing that girls do, rather than boys, but if I don't know what it means, I just ask and they're normally totally happy to explain things to you. A lot of those aren't new age words, also.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 02:30 PM
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I'm sorry, I've tried for post for the last ten minutes and it won't let me link to the comment, or post the whole thing because it's too long for reddit to handle the copy pasting. It's the last comment behind this one on my account if you really want to read through it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 09:35 AM
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I'm not Red Pill and don't subscribe to the ideology. So maybe this is all worthless. But here we go. Two Sexual Goals for men. As red pill is an evo-pysch theory about gendered differences in sexual strategy, let's start with this. Male sperm is cheap, plentiful, and easily replenished. In contrast, female ovum are a valuable limited resource. From this we have the general male and female nature that are the core of the red pill: men want to reproduce with as many women as he can, while women w…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 05:32 AM
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This seems as though it would only be remotely good advice for women, if we're to assume that the RedPill is true. Which I would disagree with. If the RedPill isn't the default for men and women, it would be terrible advice. I guess if you subscribe to RP ideology, there's not much of anything that could be done to dissuade someone from this conclusion. I can't quite bring myself to go through and detail exactly why at every point when we're starting from when I feel is a false premise anyway. E…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 04:46 AM
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My guts are in a bad state, mate. I shit blood most days and can't earn. There's not much left to work on that'll actually fix me.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 08:56 AM
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I've honestly just lost interest in myself, more so than women. I'm sick and I won't get better for the rest of my life. I've had too many relationships fail because of it. On my end, it's not that I have an issue with women, I'm just not someone who it can work for. I've stepped away from women because I'm not fit to function in the world. My life is stunted, I can't make enough money to get out of my parents house and I don't have the money to give my partners full experiences with me. I hold …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 08:46 AM
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I've never really had cause to speak to anyone about it, so maybe others are different. But the way in which I've built my romantic bonds in the past, I can only really describe as a line from 1 to 10. First of all, I need one of us to be at number 1. Then, once we're both there, either me or her goes to number 2, then sees if the other meets us there. And so on, until we're both at a 10. I can't be at an 8 with person who's still at 3. I become unable to progress to past 4 until they've met me …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 10:48 PM
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I feel like people may be interpreting crush differently here. Just looking through quickly, it seems as though you view crushes as sex/things that lead to sex, like romantic gestures. Where as others who disagree with you are likely thinking of it more as a level of closeness that develops true, romantic feelings towards another that go to a deeper level than just sexual. I'm lucky in that no one I've ever crushed on hasn't reciprocated my feelings. But when I refer to crushes, it's in terms of…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 09:22 PM
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Outside of my family and loved ones, there's a girl in the post office who always calls me love, babe and sweetheart when I go in there. That's always nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 12:40 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 07:54 PM
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Either I'm misunderstanding, or I can't imagine anyone would disagree with that. If I didn't see my partner as a special person, they wouldn't be my partner. Why would I be in a romantic relationship with someone I find to be unremarkable? Why would any of my partners have been in relationships with me if there wasn't something that made me stand out in some way above the other men in their lives? We don't pick our partners through eenie meenie miny moe. I couldn't ever fall in love with someone…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 03:49 PM
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An incredibly important lesson that people need to learn, understand and consistently implement these days is that what you see online, is not representative of the real world, or real people. I highly doubt that the general, not internet brained women gives a shit. The kinds of men what are resorting to sex robots are likely the kinds of men that women likely aren't interested in anyway. Women weren't ever going to desire that man regardless of the existence/non existence of sex robots. The wom…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 06:51 AM
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These threads never go anywhere, so I won't bother thinking too much about the main point, you can all argue back and forth about it, but I've always hated the inevitable choose better argument people regurgitate here. No one enters a relationships expecting to get cheated on and no one falls in love expecting to hit the ground. The same way it isn't a women's fault if her partner cheats on her before or after having children, it also isn't a mans that he might be deceived by a partner either. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 12:53 PM
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I wouldn't. I like touching and kissing and so on. That closeness is super enjoyable in and of itself. I don't normally share this sort of thing, but it feels quite relevant. I remember with an ex partner whom I loved a lot, we'd been having sex for like, two hours. Not including fooling around before hand. But what I really remember and what really sticks in my mind is afterwards, running the tips of my fingers up and down her back while we kissed pressed against each other and talked kept touc…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 08:26 AM
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(Just to preface, autism being a spectrum isn't a straight line. It can present if multiple different ways. It's not simply a line where either end denote Social Skills Sad Face to Social Skills Happy Face. And there is an ocean of difference between someone being shy, or awkward until you get to know them and actually being on the spectrum.) I'm a boy, but was in a relationship with a woman who was a bit on the spectrum. At least to my life, romantic relationships are one of the most complex an…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 06:31 AM
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I'm just saying that it would be a standard that makes it harder to meet the criteria. I thought it would be a good example given that I'm assuming we're all around the same age and it would be something we'd all understand to be quite difficult to pull off at the moment. Looking at it, I can see why it would throw people off. I might take that home ownership bit out.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 02:14 PM
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I don't think people mean that women are the only ones who choose, but that relationships require both partners to choose one another. But, more women are desired by more men than men desired by women. Just to say that women tend to have a higher number of willing suitors than men. I would assume by quite a bit, but I don't know for sure. I don't think it's a lack of filtering, as much as it is just wanting different things. One side may want some very simple things that the vast majority of peo…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 01:58 PM
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I wouldn't say I'm concerned about it as much as I just view it as a non-option. If I were to find out a potential partner would rather be picking someone else, but is picking me instead, I'm out. That's a hard cutting off this person situation. In the same sense, if I were to find out that a potential partner was even entertaining someone else romantically/sexually at all, I'm also cutting that person out.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 01:12 PM
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It feels as though the purpose of this subreddit is just to demonize and villainies the other side as much as possible sometimes. In regards to both men and women, often, if you do break down the statistics into something more palatable, like percentages per capita, it tend show that either gender really isn't even close to as bad as what's inferred by people online. A lot of the issues here are just a hyper fixation on the actions of an incredibly small amount of the population to the point whe…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 03:11 PM
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I feel like we could also say that men trying to fuck as quickly as possible would be behavior resulting in a high spread of STDs, no? I guess we could argue that both parties should take their time, go slowly, get to know one another and be involved with getting to know/being sexual with only one partner at a time. But I don't think we could put this on just one sex here. This really doesn't matter anyway, as the whole getting fucked by dozens of other people thing isn't even real for the vast,…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 06:12 AM
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It's likely the same as people who are too anything. Too anti-woke, cringe and weird. Too woke, cringe and weird. When someone makes anything too much of their personality, which those types of people tend to, it becomes very off putting. You can have opposing opinions on things, but basing your personality around being pro/counter culture is comes off as insipid and tiresome. Also, that person you described is a parody.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 05:05 AM
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It's hard to give a straight answer, because the whole hoe-phase thing here is obfuscated by a bunch of other issues. I don't quite know how to answer it. Even people not phased by the whole hoe phase thing should see some substantial issues here. I take sex and my romantic relationships pretty seriously. I don't sleep with a woman unless we're in a relationship and have developed real feelings towards one another. I've had plenty of offers, but I've only been with two women and kissed three, al…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 09:31 AM
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"Well, to be honest, Jimmy... I don't think that's any of your business."
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 06:22 AM
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I'm 30 now, but I imagine it's the same at the difference between 20s and 30s. So long as a woman isn't overweight and isn't unattractive, she'll had an abundance of men interested in her. The same men who always got lots of women will either continue to do so, or settle down with one women. The men who didn't get women will continue not to get any. This 'women hit 30/40 and become invisible to men' thing nonsense. There are women in their 50s that can easily attract men. Sure, the number of men…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 06:13 AM
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If you doubt men will overwhelmingly choose the second woman, the internet has warped your perception of men into an unrealistic, demonization. Even here, in PDP, where a significant percentage of users are socially maladapted in some way, people are going to majority pick Partner 2. I would pick the second woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 08:08 PM
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I mean, all my naughty things I've done have been in long term relationships that I've been in for years. Honestly, if my hypothetical daughter is doing those things with someone where they're honestly, truly in love with one another and intend to be together for the long haul, I can't see a reason to be upset.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 04:01 AM
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There's not a single chance. You can clearly see's upset the Brethren Court of Pirates. She's crossed her shipmates and been given the black spot on her left hand. Betraying her shipmates, no doubt. Taking it all for herself, and leaving them with nothing. The Black Spot <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 03:55 PM
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There are certain things the brain needs to be happy, due to the way male social structures are set up, they're not getting the level of connection they'd need outside of romantic relationships. Men just don't give that to one another. It won't change. For the majority of men, they will only ever have a deep, vulnerable, sensitive, self-exposing connection with their romantic partner. Honestly, even that's lucky. If you don't have a deep level of connection, you start to see a myriad of negative…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 08:04 PM
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If someone stresses me out, consistently and seemingly deliberately, whether they're a man or a woman, I cut them out. We're not even friends, I avoid them if I see them out places. My long term, multiple year relationships have been with women I've adored who've adored me in return. They were very sweet, kind, attentive, loving and tried to make my life better. And that's exactly what I tried to do for them in return. Also, being detached is a 100% sure way to make me emotionally disconnect fro…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 07:58 PM
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I should start by clarifying, while I've experienced loneliness and isolation, I have been in multiple, multiyear romantic relationships. This is more me noticing how life must be for these people, and listening to what they've told me about their lives. I've done volunteer work pretty consistently with animals/animal agencies/rescue and adoption groups since I was... I don't really remember, my father got me into it when I was around 10 or so. And I'm 30 now. So it's quite a lot of volunteer wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/24 01:09 AM
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That is true, but more so than breaking down society by men/women, you can also break it down by people who matter/people who don't matter. You're absolutely right. It undoubtedly devastates peoples mental health, I suspect if it goes on for long enough, often permanently. But the kinds of people who have to deal with that, aren't the kinds of people society tends to care about. I don't mean in a mean way, but the world doesn't really care much for people who're too far into the autistic spectru…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 06:40 PM
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Everything in all of existence is conditional. It's a constant. From human emotions to galaxy destroying chemical reactions. Nothing happens that isn't a dependent on something else. Something being without conditions is purely imaginary. It can't be. Not while obeying the laws of reality, anyway. Even a parent loving their child is dependent on the condition that they're their child, in some form or another. Even that likely has it's limits. I imagine you might stop loving your child if it did …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 12:14 PM
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It totally depends on whether this thing is a living, conscious being or not. Am I falling in love with a mind that thinks, feels, processes emotions and acts of it own (as close as we can get) free will? Or am I falling in love with a complicated fleshlight that has an in built Siri/Alexa/Cortana/Bixbi voice module? So long as I could have an attraction to it, have it be it's own person/conscious entity and converse with it, I could fall in love with pretty much anything. Human, AI, Alien, what…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 06:05 AM
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I'm 6'3, but I wear boots a lot when I'm working on stuff. So with my work boots on I come out to somewhere around 6'4-ish. I was told that I was normal height when being described while doing some volunteer construction a while back. So I had my 6'4 work boots on. I'm pretty sure there's only like, 1% of people taller than me, lol. I'm sure the vast majority of people wouldn't agree with her, but I thought it was funny.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 04:16 PM
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I don't know if I'd say that they generally do. They likely prefer someone their own age, I'd suspect. But I'm 30 now, and I've noticed that it's not super uncommon for women in their really early 20s to let you know that they like you that way. Even if it's only like, one in twenty younger women like older men, that can still feel like quite a few. On top of that, it might just be that I look younger. 30 doesn't really look that much different from like, 23. I'm 30 and I've been confused for so…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 08:13 AM
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I suppose it depends what you do, where you're from, your prospects, what you're exposed to and for how long. Without going far too deeply into it, I'm from a quite impoverished background, born into a family of criminals always in and out of prison. Then I developed heath issues as I got older, around 12 or so. I've also spent my whole life doing animal rescue, and doing some volunteer stuff for disabled kids institutions. And those kinds of places aren't as uplifting as they might sound. There…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 11:57 AM
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I'm thirty, I've slept with two women, both of whom I've loved. I've been offered casual sex plenty, but I have no interest and to be honest, I don't have interest in being with a partner that does want have an interest in casual sex either. I bring this us to draw attention toward any bias I might have. But that being said, I'm pretty jaded. I think that's just something age does to you in general. I've definitely gone from looking at people in general in a positive light to looking at them mor…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 10:09 AM
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I would suspect that there's likely a tendency for left leaning women to wear more revealing clothes. That just seems to track logically. But in the world, it just sort of seems to depend on the woman. I've known liberal women who dress up like prostitutes every day, and I've known a lot of liberal women who basically live and die in baggy jeans, cardigans and sensible shoes. Same goes for more right wing women. In terms of like, being slutty, I've known girls who dressed like prostitutes who we…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 06:39 AM
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I've never understood the needs to protect me thing. Lots of people just have zero idea about violence and the realities of it. I come from one of the roughest areas in my country. Lots of drugs, violence, theft, murders, that kind of thing. I've had guns pointed at me, knives pulled on me, been jumped by groups of people and sucker punched, I've been stuck in the back of police cars for fighting, I've seen people with their faces slashed open and one time I saw a girl biting chunks out of anoth…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 06:25 AM
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This is just some OnlyFans add by an idiot that caught traction. Don't worry about it that much. I forget the study, but in reality, the median partner count by age 50, is somewhere between like, 4 - 6 or something. Most people want to be having sex with one person that they love, not a hundred weirdos back to back. This has also been done before, it's not even a new attempt at getting attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 03:25 PM
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I mean, it's the internet. I'm pretty terminally online, and have been since I was little. I'm 30 now, that's a long time seeing a LOT of shit. I've seen every wacky, strange, dysfunctional, socially maladept, seething, likely mentally unwell behavior there is, stemming from someones anger, depression, happiness, sadistic glee and so on. Online at least, I've probably seen what you're talking about a bunch of times and just forgotten about it. I totally believe you that this kind of thing goes o…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 01:09 PM
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I say this as someone who's from a bad area and has jumped into protect people I didn't know, both men and women, some I did and some I didn't know. Protection is a far greater expectation than you're making it out to be. I've had my teeth kicked through my lips, my eye split open, my teeth knocked loose, legs stomped, knives pulled on me and a likely a bunch of things I'm forgetting. My shoulders still hurt every day I wake up, years and years after getting it stomped on while trying to help a …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 12:59 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 06:10 PM
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>Why does sex work continue to thrive, despite this perceived animosity? Just as far as this goes, people shouldn't keep confusing lust for respect. One does not indicate the existence, or lack of existence, of the other. A sex workers services are based around lust and have nothing to do with respect. Someone can want to fuck someone, and simultaneously be despise them. It's sad and feels gross to understand, but that's reality. It's not a reality that most of us will have to battle with, but i…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 05:54 AM
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I mean, look. This operates off of the assumption that the man is somehow in the wrong here. He isn't. This woman has something wrong with her, where being treated well is off putting to her, but being treated poorly is preferable. When you encounter someone like this, you simply have to take a step back, realize that the flaws this person has makes them a terrible partner, then disconnect from them before you develop any feelings towards them and spend your energy on someone who, and I'm not tr…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 07:31 AM
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Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 01:40 AM
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She rated one data, where someone bought her a *spa day*, as a 9.5/10, while acknowledging that she isn't even sure if she liked him. A lot of this just sounds like she's rating the things/experiences men have bought her. And talking around at night with your partner is top tier. It's cute, you can talk and hold hands. She doesn't know what she's talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 11:02 PM
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I've never understood the needs to protect me thing. Lots of people just have zero idea about violence and the realities of it. I come from one of the roughest areas in my country. Lots of drugs, violence, theft, murders, that kind of thing. I've had guns pointed at me, knives pulled on me, been jumped by groups of people and sucker punched, I've been stuck in the back of police cars for fighting, I've seen people with their faces slashed open and one time I saw a girl biting chunks out of anoth…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 04:09 PM
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I'm really tired, and can't be bothered to write out another 15 paragraphs on this subject, so I hope you don't mind, I'm copy pasting a previous comment I've made on this subject and my time as a house-partner. I've never, ever met a bloke who would be hurt or worried about that. I'm almost positive that it's an extreme minority of men that have any negative feeling about it, and they're just very vocal on the internet. If I call up any boy I know, right now and ask "How would you feel is X was…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 12:27 PM
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Male flesh.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 11:50 AM
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It won't succeed or fail, because it's an extremely niche internet fad that the vast majority of the population doesn't even know about, let alone have any desire in practicing. Women will continue to date, marry, hook-up and so on. A very, very small sample of people who spend too much time online will get their brains poisoned and cut themselves off from romance. Remember when MGTOW swore the west was going to fall apart because men would dropping out of love and relationships in droves? It's …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 03:30 PM
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It's worth remembering that perception is reality, for the most part. If a person spends all their time consuming content where women are being misandrist towards men, over time, that's how they'll see women. That will become their reality. Then they'll tailor their actions towards their perception of reality. Women do the same thing, but obviously, in reverse. I couldn't sleep last night and ended up going down a rabbit hole of 4B tiktoks, where women were talking awfully about me. Real insane …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 07:47 AM
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I'm 1994, so not Gen Z. But I'm only out by like, 2.5 years. Misandrist in what sense? In my happiest past relationships, I've made "Ugh, women..." jokes and they've made "Ugh, men..." jokes. I think that's fine. It can be really fun. I also think it's okay for both men and women to get a bit displeased with some of the things men and women tend to do. So long as it doesn't go too far. I do things that most men do, that most women are going to roll their eyes at. Women do things that most women …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 07:28 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 09:16 AM
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I'm not American, but something seems up here... If the population of the US is 50.5% women, accoding to Census.Gov. And women tend vote in higher percentages than men. Around 68.5% of women voted in 2020, while 65% of men voted in 2020. And this trend stays consistent all the way back to 1984. Accoding to Rutgers.edu. Then surely it's a little unfair to put the blame/thanks of the Republican victory this go around squarely on the shoulders of men, no? I'm assuming there must have been huge swat…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 06:44 AM
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Casual sex is incredibly unappealing to me. I've turned down any offer/oppertunity of it more times than I can recall off of the top of my head. I've asked boys I know who do engage in it privatly how they feel about it, and the near unanimous answer was It really isn't worth it unless you've got feelings for them. I never asked, but I've always suspected that those boys I know were only doing it because they thought they were supposed to and it gave them some kind of social worth.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 06:34 AM
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Is this even a real thing and not just like, some weird internet meme that less than .0000001% of actual people are doing? I guess I can see it in the most poisonous, toxic, awful relationships, where sex is used as some transactional trading chip where the man just wants it regardless of how his partner feels, and the woman just puts up with it as some form of duty as opposed to something intimate and loving that two people enjoy doing together. But there's no chance that two people in love are…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 08:27 AM
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I get what you mean, but I feel like my numorus drawbacks nullify that a little bit. I'm terrible socially, other people end up having to lift the social weight for me. My hands have trembled when I speak to people. I have next to nothing in my bank account at 30 years old. I've had to go back to living with my parents. Other than being tall, I'm not all that much to look at. And I've got a disability that puts a celing on how high I can go in life. I know tall is seen as very disirable, but I d…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 02:31 AM
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I litterally stammer and choke on my words when I talk to new people, I've got all the charm of the main character from Mr. Robot.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 02:14 AM
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That hasn't been my experience. Keep in mind, I don't do casual sex, I don't enjoy it and only want sex in the context of a relationship. I'm 30 and I've only had sex with two women I was in a relationship with. But, from 25+ onward, I've had women hit me up to come stay the night, had women ask if I'd be intrested in threesomes, been asked if I'd like to casually hook up on a longer term basis and so on. Women coming up and trying to start conversations with me happens way more now than it used…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 02:01 AM
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Mormons are always doing some weird nonsense, between the adult sodapop parties and *lite* parter swap orgies where they only do oral and don't consider it cheating. I wouldn't judge all women by what they get up to. I have known girls who ALWAYS seem to get up to sexual stuff, be it hooking up or whatever when they're in their girl friendgroup, but I've also known boys who just go out and try to fuck whatever random girl they come across and it seems to be the only interest they have and the on…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 01:26 AM
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I guess, niether? Both don't sound like options I'd enjoy. I'm very one person orientated. I love loving my partners and other people aren't really in my mind at all. I couldn't be with a girl and drooling over others. On top of that, I take sexual and my romantic relationships pretty seriously. I don't sleep with a woman unless we're in a relationship and have developed real feelings towards one another. I'd require both of those things in my relationships. I guess it doesn't matter who I'd pic…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 12:25 AM
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Honestly, maybe be a bit insecure. I'm 6'3 and about 205lbs now. I'm strong, but I'm not super jacked. No tattoos, though. I did used to get fucked up at parties on codine and booze though. I even had a big gold chain at one point. So we're not that different. I don't think I say anything about it. Inside, my raction would be to get a little insecure, but I don't think to the extent to let it alter the relationship. It's just one ex, that isn't THAT MUCH different from me. Maybe I over compensat…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 12:05 AM
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Not once in my life have I ever heard about a modest woman being a bad partner sexually. I've also only ever dated modest women, and without being overly forthcoming, I don't have any complaints about our sex lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 11:59 PM
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Honestly, it just reminds me of the old nagging bitch wife and angry, stupid husband trope. A bad marriage where one party is never content and the other is just giving up everything in the hopes the other will leave them alone if they just give them enough. A relationship needs both people trying to make the other feel loved. Not one trying to appease the other. Men need to be loved, given verbal affirmations of their partners love, touched, kissed and taken an intrest in just as much as women …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 06:43 AM
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Fuck, I have to think back... This might be a little disjointed. I apologise in advance. >Did you ever have an explicit commitment like a define the relationship talk where you became official bf/gf or decide to move in (or engagement)? If so, who initiated that convo? So, once we'd started talking, we talked and talked and talked. Constantly. For like, two weeks. All day, every day. Texts that would be paragraphs and paragraphs, to where we'd eventually just be in a phone call with one another …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 08:43 PM
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Commit as in not see other people? Yeah. I don't entertain more than one person at a time. I don't even enjoy casual sex. I need to be exclusive, or not together at all. I've never been in a relationship where I didn't fully intend for it to be a life long one. I'm not sure what take the lead looks like through out an entire relationship. I think it was very 50/50 once I'd come out of my shell. I could be more enjoyably *aggressive* with them. But you know, you do that more more comfortable with…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 07:41 PM
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Honestly, both my longest, multiple year relationships came about from girls approaching me first and taking the lead. These were women that wanted to talk to me and actually converse. I'm pretty shy, and they really took me by the hand, so to speek. I loved them both. If a girl came up to me like the one in the video, I'd ask her to go away or just ignore her. Everything about that screams that she's someone I wouldn't want to be around. Coming up to me and holding your phone out without saying…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 04:38 PM
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>Why not seek someone with more education and intelligence as your partner? In a sense, I do. I need someone who can have conversations with me. A girl being really smart is also super attractive. But I don't need that to translate into formal education, or some big money career. I guess I need a lot of emotional inteligence, aswell. >Why not seek partners who earns more than you? I've only ever dated girls who've made more than me, but not out of any deliberate effort on my part. These are just…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 02:51 PM
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Humans are predominantly emotional and irrational creatures. It's all of our primary mode of operating. A human not running on *some kind* of emotion... I can't even think of what that would look like. Our desire to live is an emotional one. Even our desire to be logical and rational comes from our emotional reactions to something in our lives. Say there were some kind of disaster, and Person 1 has the response that they should fall to their knees, sobbing and wailing. But Person 2 has the respo…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 12:56 AM
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People keep using Red Flag the wrong way. Red Flag doesn't mean something is inherently bad or negative, it means that it's an indicator that something MAY be an issue and you should check it out more closely. It's a warning. Something to stay alert of in case there's an actual issue. A lot of these are just preferences. Someone being under six feet isn't a red flag, because it doesn't indicate or tell you anything other than a person is under six feet. You can dislike that, but it's not a red f…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 10:38 AM
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I've never, ever met a bloke who would be hurt or worried about that. I'm almost positive that it's an extreme minority of men that have any negative feeling about it, and they're just very vocal on the internet. If I call up any boy I know, right now and ask "How would you feel is X was earning 5x what you are?" I can guarantee they'd all be estatic. I used to date someone who outearned me by a LOT. I even used to play into it. I'd Joke about how I'm basically a stay at home wife for her, but I…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 07:47 AM
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I actually first learned about nematodes through Sponge Bob. There's actually something like 60,000,000,000 nematodes for every 1 person on the planet. So that's like, four hundred eighty quadrillion nematodes. Crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 04:06 PM
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I don't think so? If an sound is a vibration that propagates as an acoustic wave through a transmission medium. And an echo is just that acoustic wave being bounced off of a surface, I imagine that surface would need to be quite hard. Or it would just absorb the wave. I think a vagina might have more in common with acoustic foam than a cave wall. Maybe you'd just have to yell, really, really loud. Or maybe that sound would carry so much energy that it would just destroy what flesh at that point.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 02:38 PM
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Size queen, big vagina, call it whatever you want... There'll be an echo.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 02:18 PM
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I mean, we could go down the eugenics route, (eugenics the arranging of reproduction within a human population to increase the occurrence of heritable characteristics regarded as desirable), but if we're not allowing the bottom 80%-85% of men to reproduce, we would also have to restrics the bottom 80%-85% of women, also. Her genetics are just as much in play as his are. By the same logic, those bottom 80%-85% of women would only be muddying those 20%-15% mens genetics. If we want to push the boa…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 06:38 PM
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I remember commenting on a thread about why men don't talk about sexual assult, talking about things that had happened to me when I was young, and exactally why I wouldn't ever speak about them to people in my life. Mainly because I'd be looked down on. I got a three day ban, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 06:19 PM
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I'd rather be with a woman my own age, which is 31. Say, 25 and up, or something. I recently had to turn away a younger woman I'd known for a bit, who I got on with really well. She was 20, let me know she was really, really intrested. And if I'm honest, I liked her a lot, too. But I just had this horrible feeling in the back of my mind that I wasn't good for her, or that I would be taking advantage of her, or something. I don't know how to put it. I don't know if it's because it's true, or I ju…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 05:13 AM
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Yeah, it catches you off guard. But it's pretty normal. In my experienceat least. Even when people try to be polite about it, there's a brief pause, like they've found out I was some kind of sex offender and had to still be polite about the whole thing. I don't think it's so much that men feel their value as people is tied to their worth, as much as they understand that the world, women and society as a whole values them less because of it. And it really is a value that's applied to you, regardl…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 11:46 AM
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Well, I think it because multiple familes have asked me, very accusatorial, as to why I'm not earning more. And I've had partners tell me that they've had family tell them that they can do better by finding someone who earns more. There's also a very big change in how you're treated by them once they find out. There's a much more difficult coversation to be had about how mens values as humans, partners and men is hugely determined by how much money they earn. A mans worth in a lot of ways is tie…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 11:24 AM
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I've never, ever met a bloke who would be hurt or worried about that. I'm almost positive that it's an extreme minority of men that have any negative feeling about it, and they're just very vocal on the internet. If I call up any boy I know, right now and ask "How would you feel is X was earning 5x what you are?" I can guarantee they'd all be estatic. I used to date someone who outearned me by a LOT. I even used to play into it. I'd Joke about how I'm basically a stay at home wife for her, but I…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 11:18 AM
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I guess it depends on the partners. But I would never do that to my partner, or be with someone who would do it to me. I've gotten into arguments with girls for touching me too intimately because I thought of it as disrespectful to my partner. Even jokingly, I'm not going to go around making jokes about leaving her to fuck someone else. It just sits wrong in my stomach.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 09:23 AM
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I've had a past relationship offer me a threesome with another girl and her, it devolved into an argument pretty quickly. Apparently, a girl she knew wanted to sleep with me and asked her about it. I might be a massive pussy, but it hurt. I didn't like that she was okay with me fucking other girls, because if she was okay with me sleeping with someone else, then she didn't feel the same way about me that I felt about her. And didn't want the same kind of relationship I did. I would not be okay w…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 03:54 PM
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I wouldn't say I'm dating younger women by any means. But I'm 31, and recently this 21-year-old has been wanting to talk to me. And she's sweet, so I like talking to her too. I don't think I want to go any further than friends, but still. She's lovely. But Goddamn, the generation difference makes it hard. When getting to know women from my generation, we type LONG, LONG paragraphs to one another. Talking about everything important to us. And silly things. And playing around. And flirting and so …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 02:55 PM
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People often accuse inexperienced people of bitterness, but honestly, I see FAR more people bittered by experience than I do a lack of it. Most often I see people with very little expeience being idealistic towards love and relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 06:17 AM
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I don't really want *submission*. Give me a head strong, dominant tomboy gf and I'm happy. This is how my past relationships have been. I'm deffinetly more of the accommodating one. I think a lot of leeway was afforded to me in that regard, because I'm 6'3 and would bench press them up in the air by her hips while they was laying on me sometimes. Just to remind her I actually still am a big man, even if they would call me *good boy*. I don't need *submission*, I just need someone who loves me to…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 03:43 PM
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I wouldn't be surprised. It's totally anecdotal, but as a young teenager, around 14 or so, I had a few adult 30+ women do things to me they shouldn't have. From getting me black out drunk and making out with me, to forcing me to dance with them under threat of having the shit beaten out of me and digging their nails into my arse cheek so hard that had to throw away my underware because of the blood stains from the broken skin, to pinching my cock to be cheeky, to the... I don't even know how man…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 09:22 AM
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I say this as someone who has gotten involved in and defended girls from people. Three times. I'm 6'3, too soft for my own good, and 100kg. I live in a pretty bad area. Afterwards, I've always had this little knot in my stomach where I felt foolish. Deep down, I know that none of the girls I've helped out would ever help me, or would even feel as though they should help me. Like I'm second class and that they're primary class. Even though there's no one that really cares about me, no one would R…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 01:26 AM
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Women are attracted to confidence and someone who has a high degree of social ability. Combine that with some degree of physical attractivness and you can sleep with basically any woman in your area. These things attract women. Know how to playfully talk shit, tease and keep giggly pressure up. In terms of women wanting you, everything else is basically inconsequential. You don't even have to be a good person, within reason. Having long conversations about Friedrich Nietzsche, the future of AI, …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 10:38 AM
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I don't enjoy talking shit about single mothers, I don't think they're bad people at all, but I'd rather be low value.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 01:39 PM
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Men are caught in a weird spot. A mans value, not just in relationships, but as a human being, is still very much rooted in markers of traditional masculinity. That leaves us with quite narrow window of what you have to be. For example, where as a woman has a spectum of things she can be, while still being desirable and taken seriously by most people, the same isn't true of men. A woman can be a housewife and still be a person of value, the same way she can be a go getter buissness woman and she…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 09:07 AM
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And that’s what I’m arguing. If we want to preserve our laissez-faire, individual choice system that has made the west flourish, it will require a complete change in male social structure. It really won't. As is, the people who are in pain, don't really matter in terms of society marching forward. I don't mean in a mean way, but the world doesn't really care much for men who're too far into the autistic spectrum, disabled, very unattractive men or just men who're just a bit too weird, different …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 07:36 AM
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There are certain things the brain needs to be happy, due to the way male social structures are set up, they're not getting the level of connection they'd need outside of romantic relationships. Men just don't give that to one another. It won't change. For the majority of men, they will only ever have a deep, vulnerable, sensitive, self-exposing connection with their romantic partner. Honestly, even that's lucky. If you don't have a deep level of connection, you start to see a myriad of negative…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 06:44 AM
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There's a study like this once every few weeks. If you're XYZ, that tends to mean you're more intelligent than everyone else! I may have seen a hundred of these by now, the majority of which are almost immediately contradicted by another study. It's to the point where I see studies around intelligence and don't even bother reading them anymore. And the only thing that seems more pointless, contradictory and inaccurate than intelligence studies are happiness studies.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 06:27 AM
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I don't like standard relationship gender dynamics as it is, but we can do relationships like this if you want. In the same sense, your husband isn't your daddy. Get a job, pay your own bills. Take care of yourself. We can be partners, or we can be separate. What we can't be, is me helping you, and you not helping me. Look, I don't view relationships this callously, but if this is the route this person wants to go down, I'd expect her to do everything I was doing also. You want to take the love …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 06:07 AM
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It feels as though his partner is saying, "I don't find you especially sexually exciting, but you make up for lacking in that regard sufficiently enough in other ways for me to look past it." Which is obviously hurtful. No one wants to feel as though their partner, the person they presumably love, doesn't find them sexually stimulating. If a Hook Up is a role that is overwhelmingly predominantly sexual appeal based, and a Relationship is a role, which is sexual appeal is a factor, plus other fac…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 06:19 AM
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Obviously, this is totally anecdotal. But, in my experience, women haven't ever really been more emotionally capable than men have. I'd say, they're about the same. And the bar is very, very low for both genders. What I have seen, is women get away with a lot more emotionally than men have on the basis that they're women, so they get to be emotionally irrational, or have outbursts, or engage in bad behaviour. Then, as a result of being called out less, we get this idea that women are better at i…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 06:09 AM
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Honestly, I don't think things change really for boys. If girls don't like in you your teens and twenties, they likely don't in your thirties and forties. There is no big switch up. Not that I've seen, as a thirty year old. The people who were cool, attractive, popular and desirable from my teens and twenties are the same ones who are cool, attractive, popular and desirable now. The one's who were alone, isolated, unwanted and sad are the ones who were always alone, isolated, unwanted and sad. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/24 11:52 PM
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Men as a whole repeatedly say they don't care about women's hobbies, careers, education, etc. Honestly, this is going to be like, the worst 10% of men at most. I only ever see fringe weirdos blokes saying shit like this online, and when you look at their post history, it's exactally what you expect it to be. I'm biased, because I don't even want to have sex with someone I don't have an emotional connection with, but anyone even remotely intrested in love, companionship and relationships will tel…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/24 07:38 PM
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I'm very lovey-dovey in relationships. Like, so much so that it makes me cringe a little thinking about it. But all my past partners have told me that they've adored how "girly" I was with all that kind of thing. It's definetly seen as a feminine thing I think. But feminine isn't bad. It's more a positive aspect of femininity, which is appriciated when expressed by both genders.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/24 10:10 PM
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It's likely more a spiders web of issues and being alone and unloved by a partner is a particularly painful issue that's connected to everything else. As a quick example, having no money or future finacial prospects means no having your own place, which means no sizable personal space, which means no relationship, which for a lot of men means no one who really loves you. The things you listed impact the world, the world impacts you, one of the ways it impacts you is your love life. I know a few …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/24 02:13 PM
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That's just going to be down to personal feelings towards sex and relationships. I don't even do casual sex, I keep sex as something that I only want to do with a partner whom I love. If I'm sleeping with a partner, it's because we're together. Nothing short of in a relationship. It's just how I value love, sex, closeness and relationships. So to see someone be so flippant and lackadaisical towards something that I feels is inherently of value and importance gives me a immediate feeling of repul…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 11:49 PM
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I don't think he's a victim. I just find the whole thing distasteful and creepy, on both sides. They're both just using eachother. It's not as though either side is unaware of the dynamic here. And people are allowed to find others who engage in this dynamic gross. They're trading their comanionship (very likely) sex for sex for money, and he's purchasing it. The whole thing makes me turn up my nose like a victorian matron in a furry convention. But that's not misandry or misogyny. Just to add, …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 11:07 PM
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I'm 30, and I just don't enjoy life. Without getting into everything, it's a constant fight. Tooth and fucking nail constantly. Between health and financial issues, I'm likely never going to own a home, and that leaves me so stunted that I can't really see the point in even taking the time to imagine having a life where I'd be happy enough myself to believe I could provide a happy life for a child. Every penny I had went to saving my parents with bills they couldn't handle, every minute spare I …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 12:47 AM
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I'm not redpill, but weirdly, almost all my girl relatives were growing up. When I was little, they'd tell me not to be to nice to girls or they wouldn't like me. They'd say things like "Treat them mean, keep them keen." They were all about that kind of thing. They wouldn't call it that, but they were basically saying redpill stuff to me all the time. I ended up just not giving a fuck about girls and ignoring them, because I thought that if I have to be mean to them for them to like me, they wer…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 08:48 PM
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Truthfully, not much. The types of men who get jaded likely weren't the types of men anyone cared about anyway. I don't mean in a mean way, but the world doesn't really care much for men who're too far into the autistic spectrum, disabled, very unattractive men or just men who're just a bit too weird, different and don't hit enough points of attractive masculinity to ever find someone who loves them. It's not their fault, but generally, no one cares about them. They'll contuine down depressive p…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 02:11 PM
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I feel like sex is pretty important and meaningful to me. When I've been propostioned by women in the past, whether it's in bars or friends asking me to stay the night at theirs, I've never taken any up on it because I just can't imagine enjoying sex with someone who I don't have a deeper emotional connection with. Sex with someone I don't feel that way about is just very unappealing. It's a very intimate thing that I don't want to just have with just anybody. I'm 30 now, and I've only slept wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 06:07 PM
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I've had a few relationships. I've stepped away from having a partner for a few reasons. Nearly all of them medical. I have bad insides, which has left me more or less disabled. I'm fucking housebound now. More or less. I'm not saying the sex wasn't wonderful, but it's the love that I miss. Sex was just a part of that. Honestly, if my partner had some kind of accident and we couldn't have sex, I don't think I'd even be that phased. As long as we still loved one another. When I think about what I…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 09:25 AM
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Honestly, just check 90% of posts on this subreddit and you have your answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 11:39 AM
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If they're a good person, then love, companionship and loyalty to someone who loves you and is loyal towards you will go a lot further than younger pussy can. Outside of that, try to stay in shape and make the effort. If they're not a good person, then there's nothing you can do to maintain loyalty at any age.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 11:55 PM
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I like Aba and Preach too.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 07:57 AM
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How would you know? I might be really weird, but in all of my relationships, how we feel about love, sex, our partners and relationships comes up pretty early on in the We really like one another and are sharing everything stage of a relationship. And then those feelings are played out into the rest of the time we've spent together. In pretty much everything, from the way she interacts with you, with others, to how her friends treat her, to how her family and so on. If she's lying you'll figure …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 01:24 PM
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There are certain things the brain needs to be happy, due to the way male social structures are set up, they're not getting the level of connection they'd need outside of romantic relationships. Men just don't give that to one another. It won't change. For the majority of men, they will only ever have a deep, vulnerable, sensitive, self-exposing connection with their romantic partner. Honestly, even that's lucky. If you don't have a deep level of connection, you start to see a myriad of negative…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 11:29 AM
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Supermans Kryptonian mother Laura? She destroys Martha Wayne. She's basically Superman. But if it's Supermans Earth mother, Martha Kent, Martha Wayne wins because she was able to match the jokers level in the Flashpoint Universe.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 09:11 AM
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I don't know much about this, but isn't hypergamy a lot to do with social value too? And these two, at least as far as I've seen, seem to be regarded as absolute cringe chuds. To the extent where girls who associate with them are cringe chuds by association. I imagine that their money doesn't outweigh the social consequences for dealing with these people. Espeically when these two boys aren't really interacting with girls who aren't already well off financially anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 08:20 AM
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So, I grew up hard. A bad area where there was LOTS of violence, drugs, thefts, muggings and so on. Just all around shit. Chav after chav. I also grew up and spent early life doing bad things. Breaking into places. Drinking and drugs. Getting chased by the police. That sort of thing. Realistically, he should have done what he had to to leave the situation. He's a guy in his late 40s I think. At emasculating as it is, you just have to leave it alone. There's no reality in which these boys walk of…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 05:50 PM
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So many women are beautiful, stunning, and very aesthetically appealing, while nearly all men are unappealing and it's extremely rare to find an attractive one. Overall, the female form is simply much more attractive than the male form. I've only ever seen this from terminally online girls that just hate for the sake of hating. And I've seen this type of conversation in real life. The unanimous opinion from the girls were I'm not a lesbian. I doubt even most of the terminally online girls even m…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 06:39 AM
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I mean, each gender can be the prize for another person, depening on what that person wants. If what a person wants is kindness, love and support, then a kind, loving, supportive person would be their prize. Personally, I would never want a partner who's intrest in me is centered around my money/money adjacent things. That wouldn't be a prize for me, it would be a punishment. If my money is what makes me her prize, she's repellent and romantically irrelevant by default. I would see no value in t…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 03:53 PM
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Everyone is always looking for the sole reason behind something. Something we can point to and call the problem for all the worlds ills, but in real life, that's mostly never the case. Odds are, this is, as is virtually everything else, a great, great confluence of many issues all coming together, one of them likely being single motherhood. There is no one reason for anything, but many drops of rain make the river flood.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 02:00 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 05:58 PM
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I'd be quick before they snatch it again. I used to spend a lot of time hanging out with friends who were all 6'1+, gym jacked, rugby players. There were like 12 of us that would hang out a lot. Each of them had like, 3 girls on the go, at least. Who they'd do things like fuck, text all lovey, sleep at their place and so on with. This isn't including the girls they'd try and pull in bars and pubs when we were out. I also had another group of friends I'd hang around with a lot and get into troubl…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 05:42 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 05:35 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 05:34 PM
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I used to spend a lot of time hanging out with friends who were all 6'1+, gym jacked, rugby players. There were like 12 of us that would hang out a lot. Each of them had like, 3 girls on the go, at least. Who they'd do things like fuck, text all lovey, sleep at their place and so on with. This isn't including the girls they'd try and pull in bars and pubs when we were out. I also had another group of friends I'd hang around with a lot and get into trouble with. Mostly the same thing, but instead…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 10:56 AM
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Back before you could order food through an app, I used to have a mental script for how I wanted food orders to go. They say one thing off script and you fall apart. Those were dark days.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 06:54 PM
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Everything in all of existence is transactional. It's a constant. From human emotions to galaxy destroying chemical reactions. Nothing happens that isn't a dependant on something else. Even a parent loving their child is dependent on the condition that they're their child, in some form or another. What people mean when they refer to "true" love, is love that comes from a transaction that they deem more wholesome than otherwise. For instance, a person falling in love with another person due to th…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 12:54 PM
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It's worth mentioning, virtually everything you see on TikTok along the lines of this video is just rage bait designed to draw in as many clicks as possible. Odds are, the isn't really so stupid as to believe even half of the things coming out of her mouth, she just knows that it'll piss people off. The internet these days is made up of bots, rage baiters, and corporations. It's not the same early 2000s/2010s internet we remember.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 02:44 PM
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I lived in a home where my father cheated on my mother a lot, but my mother refused to leave. She just became more bitter, more spiteful and less loving towards everyone as time went on. And time went on for years and years and years. That was awful. They also split when I was young, she became more spiteful, more bitter and more cold towards everyone. And my father wasn't around anymore. So all the things he used to take care of, became my job to take care of. That was also awful. Seperating fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 07:37 AM
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Mine. I struggle to get out of my own head all the time, and sex is something where you need to just stop thinking so much and let go. Couple that with wanting to make it last as long as possible so my so my partner gets to enjoy herself as much as possible as well, it gives me a lot of time to accidentally start thinking. It's still great though, sleeping with someone who you're in love with. It's not like I was every looking to put the fault on someone anyway. I don't like to get too graphic a…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 05:56 PM
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Is this limited to physical? Because I love my partners dorky. I spent my whole youth and early adulthood going from party, to house party, to hang out, to doing wild shit, getting in trouble with the police and so on. I was sort of bad, and got into trouble a lot. But at the same time, I was liked by lots of people. I'm sure you can imagine the types of girls around you when you're doing that kind of thing. They're pretty much exactally what you picture. But not one of them has ever interested …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 04:28 PM
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Allison - It really depends on how she engages in being upset. If she's willing to talk about it, come to an understanding and manage these feelings with me, then it's okay. If she's just going to be a raging cunt because I'm talking to my friend, then it can't work. Jeanne - Same again. I'm totally okay gently helping my parter with issues that they might have. But the sex work thing, even if it's something as small as feet pics is a really big turn off. We could be friends, but not more than t…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 03:58 PM
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The most based take anyone can have on music is liking a little bit of everything and having the bollocks to admit that you actually do like some pop music. Having a wide spectrum of taste and realising that there are absolute diamonds even in genres you don't typically gravitate towards is great. It's a bit unrelated, but I don't listen to any gospel music, I am not the target audience, but I've stumbled across some bangers. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pYzMct9yxH0 One of the more touching m…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 05:08 PM
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If we can magically protect the child from damages somehow, which we can't, so it'll never happen... But if we could, then maybe something along the lines of a set prison time for financial paternity fraud related to amount attempted/successfully defrauded and a mandatory 1.5x - 2.5x fine to be issued to the victim. Maybe there could be some sort of argument for emotional damages in a civil court as well. I've seen first hand how destroyed a person could be from finding out a child isn't theirs.…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 07:57 PM
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Everything in all of existence is transactional. It's a constant. From human emotions to galaxy destroying chemical reactions. Nothing happens that isn't a dependant on something else. Even a parent loving their child is dependent on the condition that they're their child, in some form or another. What people mean when they refer to "genuine" love, is love that comes from a transaction that they deem more wholesome than otherwise. For instance, a person falling in love with another person due to…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 12:28 PM
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Entertaining a partner with a history of involvement in infidelity is painfully stupid. Wether they're the cheater themselves or knowingly the other person.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 04:11 AM
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The vast majority of people here, including myself, have something wrong with them. It's not always autistm. Sometimes it's people broken by horrible lives filled with self loathing. Sometimes they're missing something it's some funimental and it's left them existing in a world being able to fit anywhere. Sometimes people they're aware of it, sometimes they aren't. A lot of people here just seem sad. It could be autism, it could be ADHD, it could be depression or any number of things. Normies do…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 03:32 AM
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Most people are doing fine because they're normal. If feels as though most people aren't, because most people here aren't normal. So they're not doing well. I'm not shitting on anyone, but a lot of you aren't, most people who spend a lot of time online aren't. I'm including myself. I'm not okay either. But it is what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 06:59 PM
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I do animal rescue. I've been helping animals ever since I was little and my dad showed me how. I'm 30 now and I've been doing it since... Well, I was able to start forming memories. I've got two rescue cats and a rescue dog right now, which I had to punch a man to get, because he was hurting him very badly as a puppy. On top of that, also another dog and another cat. So I'm very much an animal rescue person. I've put TONS of strays into new homes and healed a few animals that can't be kept as p…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 01:43 PM
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It's sad how many people never get over this highschooler need to be seen as cool by the popular kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 07:29 AM
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I don't cheat. I never have and I hate cheaters. I've also been totally fine letting my partners use my phone, too. Worst thing they'll find is funny, embarrassing searches for different studies. But I resent the idea that if I were to be a cheater, that I would be stupid enough to use my main phone to do so.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 03:48 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 07:45 PM
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It depends on the man. Men aren't unfeeling creatures, they're human too. Rejection after rejection after rejection is going to be crushing, potentially destrying what self confidence they may have. There's only so many times someone can essentially be told "No, you're unattractive." before someone breaks. Imagine being told every day, time after time, that you're unattractive. Over and over again. Even then, sex is all you're going to get, in all likelihood, it's even less likely that you'll fi…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 04:31 PM
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My own worst moments have only been made possible by the absense of hope. Once hope goes, there's very little a person can do to bring it back. Something just has to happen to you then. It's an odd feeling that's very difficult to describe. I can even recall the time it happend. It was 8PM, on December 26th. 2021. I'd been struggling and fighting for a long time and something just popped inside me. I came to the conclusion that it wasn't going to get better, no matter what I did and everything j…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 01:35 PM
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I'm not entirely sold on the idea that more traditionally masculine women wouldn't just also want a traditionally masculine partner. In the same sense that women who're successful in less traditionally feminine roles, like high earning business vocations, also see traditonal markers of male success as important in the same way that more traditionally feminine women do. At a glance, the only studies around Hormonal State Influences in Aspects of Female Mate choice I can find that don't involve th…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 12:23 PM
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I understand what you're sayiung, but most of the time, human emotions don't follow logic, or the negative ones in general. Particularly when people are lashing out at others. If you really sit down and examine a lot of what people do, most of it is insane, disjointed and illogical. Look at this place for example. People will live and die by emotional reactions to things that are demonstratiably false in reality. Even when proven logically incorrect, or given straight up statistics and studies, …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 06:55 AM
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Yeah, people tend to come down in one of two ways. It's either. "I'm hurting, so I don't want anyone else to hurt the way I do." or "I'm hurting, so other people should be hurt, too." I don't know what causes the split, I doubt it's a choice to feel one way or another, but there seems to be a lot of truth to the Hurt people, hurt people saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 06:48 AM
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As someone with a shitty, painful, hard life. In more deeply painful moments, you can be overcome with a "I'm hurting so I want you to hurt too." mentality. As much as no one wants to admit it. It takes work to stop it consuming you and withstand it. Some people get consumed. So the idea would be "I'm lonely, in pain, sad and hurting, one day you will feel what I feel." Spend long enough Alone in the Dark (2008) for the Xbox 360, and you too will become terrible. Like Alone in the Dark (2008) fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 05:09 PM
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Could we also not say that it's selfish and cowardly of women who don't get into relationships with men? I feel like a lot of those reasons could also be applied to women with a little working of the wording. There's also probably a bunch of studies about the benefits of relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 05:07 PM
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I was illustrating why Reddit is a bad place to form opinions on the way people conduct themselves in real life. I was talking generally. Not about her. Giving examples of different situations where people sleep around, others know and inform the current partner. She was mostly irrelevant to what I was saying. Again, my comment was telling OP that Reddit is a bad place to form opinions, especially around sex, relationships and regular people. The sitiuations do have some comparison what OP broug…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 07:03 PM
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It's worth keeping in mind, Reddit and the internet in general is where all the brain rotted weird fucks hang out. In real life, the answers would be totally different. Reddit is going to lean a lot more one sided and extreme. If a guy if falling for the village bike and she's making him wait to sleep with her while she's been treating everyone else like new fast food places, he's going to be the laughing stock to the point where friends and even acquaintances are warning him about what's going …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 06:22 PM
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This has been a thing for a while now. People are using AI, while asking it to be as flirty as possible to get dates on Tinder, then just asking it to respond to what the other person has said. And using AI to touch up, select the best pictures and set up the best profiles it can. It only makes sense that they'd also use it on other platforms too. This is all going to be another big blow for human interactions.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 03:18 PM
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I've had people confess feelings for me. I don't even stay friends, never mind invite them to my wedding. I've had a girl I've known for years tell me she's fallen in love with me, while I was already in a multi-year relationship. I cut her off for everyones benefit. Outside of the fact that still hanging around with her would have been wildly disrespectful to my girlfriend, I knew it would be horrible for her to hang out with someone she's fallen for while not getting being to be with them. If …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 12:22 PM
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Most people just don't have strong beliefs and principles. They simply do what they believe is best for them at a given time. The vast majority of both men and women will be super progressive or super traditional depending on which outcome would benefit them the most. Humans want as much as they can get, while costing them as little as possible. They don't care about fairness, equality, right and wrong or any other moral dichotomy. People are, generally, selfish, amoral and egocentric. You're lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 05:14 AM
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It'll lower your numbers, but all you can really do is get to know them, and if they look as though they're going to be expecting you to pay for them/give them money or money adjacent things, then stop hanging out with them. But honestly, do you even really want a woman you've got to pay? It's not like you're losing anything. You can only really get to know a person by getting to know them. No red flag can't be hidden. No green flag can't be mistaken for red. You just have to spend time with the…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 06:20 PM
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Lots of people here are saying "nothing" without being clear as to whether that means "Nothing would have me make the first move, I would never do it." or whether they mean "It would take nothing to make me, I would do it if I wanted to."
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 12:39 PM
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Imagine you fall in love with a girl and she leaves you for Kid Rock. That's 91-94 octane suicide fuel.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 05:39 AM
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I wish so much that people got better at this. I've practically had to beg in past relationships that they would just stop doing that and come to me as soon as there was a problem instead of blowing up once every two months over something that sometimes wasn't even reality and was based on a misconception that could have been squashed instantly, but was instead allowed to snowball into something huge. The amount of tearfull apologies for it I've received from people make me want to put my head t…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 08:33 AM
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While it is a good thing that you're able to get all of your needs met while not hitting all the typical points, it does make you an outside case in some sense. Either you're abnormally close and intimate with your friends in comparison to the typical man, or you require far less depth in your relationships to feel fulfilled, for whatever reason. (I should say, neither of which is a bad thing.) Not according to Maslow's Hierarchy, the revised modernised Maslow's Hierarchy, or the more widely acc…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 06:48 AM
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It's not about the vagina. It's the deep emotional connection that's important. Straight men will most often only get that from a romantic partner, who would be a woman, given that the man is straight. Sex is just the result of the deep emotional connection in between two romantic partners. It's a by-product . But gay men have a romantic connection with other gay men, allowing for said connection. There could also be something said for gay men being allowed more social permission to enact tradit…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 06:47 PM
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There are certain things the brain needs to be happy, due to the way male social structures are set up, they're not getting the level of connection they'd need outside of romantic relationships. Men just don't give that to one another. It won't change. For the majority of men, they will only ever have a deep, vulnerable, sensitive, self-exposing connection with their romantic partner. Honestly, even that's lucky. If you don't have a deep level of connection, you start to see a myriad of negative…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 06:13 PM
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Look, I don't have a lot of sexual partners, I just don't enjoy sex with someone who I don't have a really strong emotional/romantic bond with and I like the same attitude towards sex, love and relationships in my partner too, and that limits it a lot, but people talk about vaginal tightness a lot and I'm not sure what they mean. Without being too graphic, when I've been having sex and my partner is really enjoying it, they tend to, I guess loosen up would be the term, then only really tighten u…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 06:32 AM
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Thank you, but it's okay, honestly, it's fine. It's been like this way since, I don't know, puberty? Or near enough there. I know how to handle it. It's my deafult now. It has been this way, it is this way, it will keep being this way. At some point you just understand it. It's kind of a creeping death. First it'll be getting less texts, less conversation, then it'll be something like getting asked to hang out less and less, then those decrease in frequency until they stop and you're no long inv…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 05:30 PM
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A large part of the issue is closeness and emotional wellbeing. I understnad that it's not the same everywhere, but a romantic relationship is about the only relationship a lot of men will have that hits the same level of closeness that women take for granted. Just speaking as a working class 30 year old British man. They aren't getting that from a friend group. That just doesn't exist here. Not that kind of connection. Men don't do that. We don't allow other men to do that and no one allows us …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 04:48 PM
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Mine is a little bigger than most. Not MASSIVE, but fairly above avarage. It does hurt my partners if I'm not careful. I understand that kind of pain isn't pleasant, life isn't pornography and the vast majority of women aren't enjoying careless cervix bruising poundings. I don't enjoy hurting them either, I've loved these women, I restrict myself a lot in order to make sure that I'm not hurting them. But it's hard to really accept that women would rather a 5.5 inch over a 7 inch when every singl…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 10:05 AM
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This place is full of busted people who'll take any opportunity to shit on the opposite gender no matter the realities of the world. I would take shit here less seriously than I would even the most ridiculous social pantomime.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 06:14 AM
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In fairness, I think the women overrating other women thing is mostly nonsense. It's like social pantomime. In my experience, a lot of gitls bolster one another up publicly, but privately shit all over them. I've lost count of the amount of times I've seen girls I know, and ones I barely know do the whole "Oh my god! You're so pretty! I'm so happy for you! See you later! Love you!" and immediately turn around and say some shit like "Ugh, she's such a slut. Did you see those plastic fucking rings…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 06:10 AM
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Honestly, I have the opposite experience. I spent about a decade in clubs and bars around those types of girls. The slutty bar girls who were always fucking drama, stupid, wild, covered in generic tattoos and getting ran through my eye bloke in town and making it everyone elses problem. I genuinly used to think that I just didn't like girls. Having them around was always stressful and annoying. They were shrill and awful. But then, I got more into animal charities and started hanging out with mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 10:07 AM
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And you still don't have the right look, And you don't have the right friends, Nothing changes but the faces, the names and the trends, High school never ends! Oh-oh, oh-oh-oh-oh, oh-oh-oh-oh, oh-oh-oh-oh! Oh-oh, oh-oh-oh-oh, oh-oh-oh-oh, oh-oh-oh-oh!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 04:52 AM
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We'll handle it the same way we've handled most social shit since the internet hit the mainstream. Soon enough you'll be able to upload a/some picture(s) of someone to some service, or run it though some kind downloaded tool, and you'll be able to have a 90 minute long gang bang porn movie where they're the main star. There'll be harassment, accusations, bullying, people succumbing to addictions that keep them isolated, alone and miserable. No one will know what to trust and it'll ruin a lot of …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 02:49 PM
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This goes deeper than women. All of reality ONLY cares about results. All the talk of effort mattering regardless of result is total feel good nonsense. It doesn't matter how hard you try, it only matters that you succseed. People only like it when people are high effort because it translates into a higher chance of results. But without those results, the effort is meaningless. Even more than that, you can be the sweetest, more lovely, caring person. But if you're not someone who gets results, n…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 05:16 AM
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I have never, ever seen a bloke say that they prefer single mothers. At best, and the most common take I've seen is something along the lines of "Hey, best of luck, but it's not for me."
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 05:00 AM
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Personally, I don't even like sex unless we're into one another. Sex without love is just... I don't even know what to call it, I just don't want it. I've turned down more girls than I've slept with just because it's so hard to find someone I'd fall in love with. I equate sex with love, and if we're not in love, don't try to sleep with me. It's the emotional connection that sex really amazing. For me, anyway. But also, sex is like, the least interesting story. It's not a complex social experienc…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 06:05 PM
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I'm not upset about it, I think it's fantastic. That's what a mother SHOULD do. But just because that's what a mother should do, doesn't mean it's great for new relationships. Personally, I don't even want kids. So it's an instant no go for me anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 05:42 PM
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I wouldn't disagree. There's definitely men out there into that, most likely for less than great reasons. But I don't know how prevalent it is in real world men who've even been in relationships. Maybe it's just a belief that you'd gain security in the partners insecurity. As in, an easier to control, and keep partner. I'm trying to think of how I've felt about insecure women. Typically insecurity in women has drawn be closer to them, but, the only meaningful insecurity women have exposed to me …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 06:52 AM
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I don't think men generally find insecurity unattractive in the way that women do. A man being insecure in his body is most likely more off putting to women than a woman being insecure in her body is to men. If we're going traditionally anyway. Men are to be confident. While women can be confident, it's not looked at as such a negative if they aren't. Again, this is just if we're going by tradtional expectations of each gender in terms of dating. Which most people do, whether they want to admit …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 06:33 AM
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There's nothing inherently mature about getting married. Stupid people and people with the minds and lives of children do it all the time. Honestly, the biggest warning sign I've seen in some people is an over eagerness to get married. It gives off the same feeling to boys as girls get when they feel as though their boyfriends are only with them because they were the only girl to come along. As though you don't want to marry ME, you just want to marry SOMEONE. Your view on marriage should be "Eh…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 05:12 AM
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I think there was a Fallout vault like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 05:19 PM
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Great, now we just need to work out how many women were encountering bears world wide, in comparison to how many women were encountering men, and having that end in an attack. Then figure out the percentages ending in attacks of each. If I had to guess, women were encountering a LOT, LOT more men than they were bear. More than likely, by an astronomical margiane. It's not insane to say a person would encounter thousands of men in a day, I know I did while I was walking around London. Dogs have k…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 02:17 PM
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Bear: any of a family (Ursidae of the order Carnivora) of large heavy mammals of America and Eurasia that have long shaggy hair, rudimentary tails, and plantigrade feet and feed largely on fruit, plant matter, and insects as well as on flesh. Great, it's good to have that narrowed down. The point would still stand. I feel as though removing all the other types of bear would simply increase the percentage of bears dangerous to humans. upset at women Again, this is a terminally online question. Th…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 02:00 PM
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Are we also factoring in koala bears? What about teddy bears? Or water bears? If it's not a bear that's a threat, what would be the point? A black bear is virtually never going to be an issue... So long as you're not insanely unlucky, or an idiot. Or is the intention to say that there's a higher percentage of dangerous men towards women than there are dangerous types of bear? I feel as though there's probably just some kind of math you could use to work this out if that's the case. Where you'd j…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 01:23 PM
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It's the only real bear, other than a polar bear that would be threat to humans by itself. If it's not a gizzly bear, or a polar bear, the question should be "Would you rather run into a random man or be left totally alone by a bear. The only way a black bear is going to attack you is if you're deliberately fucking with it, or there's a sloth of cubs around that you're getting too close to. If it's not a bear that actually poses a threat, it may as well be a koala bear, or a waterbear.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 01:06 PM
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It's just a question for brain broken people who've spent too much time on the internet without being able to mentally handle all the exposure to negativity. The girls who aren't spending 72 hours a week scrolling though, TikTok or Reddit or so on are going to say "What? A grizzly bear or a random boy? The boy, obviously." Any girls saying things like "Atleast we will be believed when a bear attacks us." is just suffering from the same brainrot boys who villainize girls at every turn. Infact, if…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 12:37 PM
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I'm fucking 30 and I've decided to just stop entertaining romance until I have my own home. There's just so much extra fucking stress on relationships without my own place. ... So, by the time I'm 67, I should be ready to fall in love again.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 11:46 AM
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Same way you have to deal with it for the rest of life. Fix what you can, hide what you can't. Generally, most of "mental health" isn't fixable. At best, you're able to keep it at bay some of the time for the duration of your life. What is wrong with you, will be what is wrong with you. So the vast majority of what's wrong with you is going to need to be hidden. There are acceptable limits. Y'know. No one is going to cut you out of their life for having a little anxiety about public speaking, bu…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 05:29 AM
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Honestly, the "creepy" is just dependant on how I feel about you. What's our relationship? I've had exes do some very "creepy" things, but I was in love with them. So, basically nothing bothered me, and I even thought it was cute. Are you a stranger? If you are, even standing too fucking close to me is enough for me to find you unsettling and worry about what you're up to. Also, as unpleasant and unfair as it is, in terms of strangers/non-romantic partners, what a person looks like is also going…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 01:50 PM
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I hear that conservative boys are more mascule a lot, but I don't really see that. What I do see is fat boys who have issues with their temper, regulating their anger and confuse being angry, obstinate, edgy and ego driven for masculinity. I'd guess they typically ARE more masculine if we're defining masculinity with those traits. I'm not saying that left leaning boys are any MORE masculine, but the masculine traits I see modern-day conservatives fostering aren't the ones that anyone wants to de…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 06:26 AM
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I don't like to critisize about the makeup thing often because of how complicated it is. It's all very interconnected and messy. For instance, feeling sexy and put together is a result of other peoples opinions of you. Namely the opposite sex actually finding you sexy. And where does confidence stem about your appearance if not being confident in others seeing you as attractive and good looking? The personal feelings towards it are based on the external feelings towards it. But, I mean, that mak…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 05:43 AM
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I don't know about "deceptive." Because they kind of HAVE to wear it. There's standards set by either society, other women, me, or all of the above. Be that fair or otherwise. But I've definitely realised that women look WAY different without it on. Virtually all the girls I've seen without it on have been on about the avarage boys level. Just in that they look more human. There's flaws there. From blemises, creases, wrinkles, bumps, pores and little scars. You just get used to the idea that gir…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 05:50 AM
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I mean, some blokes, yeah. I know a lot of boys that've straight up told me that fucking without feelings isn't worth it and just isn't really even good. Which is the side I come down on. I only really enjoy sex when I've got strong, exclusive feelings for my partner. Then there's other boys who spend their whole life chasing girls. Especially at 30, most boys I know, even the ones that used to spend all their time obsessing over pussy don't give a fuck about chasing girls anymore. I've always b…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 04:42 PM
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This reads like fucking slam poetry.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 10:53 AM
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Looking around, it looks as though I'm fine with up to 35% body fat, which is well into the overweight range. Not sure what that translates into with BMI. This is also going to depend a little bit on how people carry the weight. And obviously the further we can get away from that into a "normal body fat" range, the better. But it looks as though up to being over weight isn't too much for me. Freaks me out a little bit. We're so used to people being overweight now that overweight doesn't even loo…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 03:48 PM
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Sorry, I have no idea about celebrities, and the ones I do know either occupy the rail thin end of the spectrum, or the morbidly obese end of the spectrum. Looking around through, it looks as though I'm fine with up to 35% body fat, which is well into the overweight range, apparently. Not sure what that translates into with BMI. This is also going to depend a little bit on how people carry the weight. And obviously the further we can get away from that into a "normal body fat" range, the better.…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 03:47 PM
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My one superficial standard is not being fat. That's it. Other than that, be kind and gentle with me, love animals as much as I do and we have to click. Having the same sexual standards as me is also there. I don't do casual sex, I've been offered a few times, but the idea of fucking a girl I don't have very strong feelings and connections with is really off putting, and only want one partner. Sex is for relationships. Height doesn't bother me, I'm 6'3, virtually all girls are shorter than me. T…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 10:53 AM
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I've always found that I can GET intrested in my partners intrests because I've enjoyed spending that time with them and it's cute seeing them do shit they care about. Even stuff that's WAY out of my wheelhouse. I can have fun with them through my appreciation of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 09:49 AM
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I wouldn't call it whipped, but I would normally run things past my partners to see how they felt about it because I cared about them and wanted to make sure they were okay with everything. In the same sense, they would run things past me, and there were things that I wasn't okay with also, so they wouldn't do it then. At a certain point in relationships, you have to accept that your actions don't JUST affect you anymore, but also the person who you're building a life with. I could just go off a…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 05:56 PM
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I never understood how people so often prioritize practicality in romance. I know this girl, we're from the same village. She met someone in long distance, they would live togther for 6 months out of each year before immigration meant they had to seperate again, then wait another 6 months and repeat. They were nearly at the end of having to be apart. Then she fucked up in school (she was also nearly in her 30s) and would have had to do the same thing for another two years until they could be ful…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 06:33 PM
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I have no idea. I'm 30 and haven't the slightest idea of what I really am. Sometimes I'm argumentative and assertive, a lot of the time I'm not. Sometimes I want to be the one being held, cradled and told that it's all okay and that they love me, other times I want to be the one holding, cradling and loving. Sometimes I feel like King Big Cock who runs everything and has it all sorted out, a lot of the time I feel pathetic and like I shouldn't exist. Sometimes I'm the one being more dominating, …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 06:14 PM
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Option B, please. I'm 6'3, big, strong, deep voiced and good with my hands. But I'm also a massive shy soft boy pussy that just wants to be loved on by someone I love. My past realtionships have been with option B women and they've been the happiest ones. It feels good when they want to tease you and be all in charge, but it's also really cute when you're really comfortable with them and get more forceful in your teasing and they get all stunlocked and don't know what to do. It's also nice to be…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 03:27 PM
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Just copy pasting from another thread I posted in. As people seemed to like it. I take sex and my romantic relationships pretty seriously. I don't sleep with a woman unless we're in a relationship and have developed real feelings towards one another. I've had plenty of offers, but I've only been with two women and kissed three, all three of those were in relationships. And I'm near 30 years old now. Honestly, without the emotion and romantic aspect, I just don't have the WANT for sex without lov…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 05:31 PM
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I take sex and my romantic relationships pretty seriously. I don't sleep with a woman unless we're in a relationship and have developed real feelings towards one another. I've had plenty of offers, but I've only been with two women and kissed three, all three of those were in relationships. And I'm near 30 years old now. Honestly, without the emotion and romantic aspect, I just don't have the WANT for sex without love in me. That being said, in a relationship, it's every day. Sometimes, multiple…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 12:09 PM
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I don't even think about fucking girls that I don't have an established emotional connection with. Honestly, I've turned down sex with a lot more girls than I've had sex with, just because I don't want to without that connection. Any heart ache and lonliness I have at the moment, is just through not meeting anyone that feels special ever. Everyone just... Isn't for me. Sex is cheap and fucking everywhere if you're willing to go looking for it, but it's also hollow and undesirable without that co…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 03:30 PM
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The honest answer just depends on how tall you are. If you're not at least 8 feet tall while standing on your back legs, women aren't going to feel safe around you. Edit: Downvote all you want, if you're sub eight feet, women man-folk will see you as nothing more than a cub. No woman man-folk wants to be in the forest with a bear that looks like he couldn't bite a salmon out of river. Be a Polar Bear in a world of Winnie-the-Pooh Bears. 💪🏾🐻🐟
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 08:04 AM
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Honestly, I'd take the fucking bear at this point just so I could have any memory of this stupid hypothetical would be chewed out of my brain for a few brief moments before I die. I miss the good ole' days. Back when we'd verbally beat eachother bloody over paternity tests and no one giving or losing any ground.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 08:18 PM
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Both are horrible and ridiculous, while also being great and good advice. It's entirely dependant on the person using them, their intent, the context and effects they have. I've peronally seen them all used in horrible ways, and positive ways. I've heard man up used to describe what a girls boyfriend should have been doing because he was crying in the bathroom after his loved one died while she came over to try and flirt with me... While still with him. Because his loved one died. I've also hear…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 06:13 PM
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Shouldn't the idea then be to dump any girl who shows intrest in going on an "all girls vacation" then? If assuming that it's going to end with her cheating, then the act of asking is essentially confirmation that she would cheat on you, why wouldn't you just end things there? And if they'll all cheat, you're an idiot for ever dating one in the first place. And a prize idiot for ever falling in love with one. I'm not saying I'd be comfortable with it either, but there seems like a lot of middle …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 05:42 PM
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Look, in my experience, if you go to a place where a LOT of people are, you're going to run into a cunt. It's been the vast majority of my experiences with big masses of people. The nice ones will keep to themselves/their group, the cunts will make it other peoples problems. I stopped going to bars and pubs because of all the bad experiences I had, and half of them were with women. I don't like going to plances where they'll be large amounts of people I don't know, and who don't know the people …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 01:13 PM
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It always seems as though the goal is to find a poor woman who'll """love""" them in exchange for the money they can provide her with. But, I mean, fuck it. If they're happy with it, then go for it. The boy is getting what he wants, and the girl is getting what she wants. I never hate those guys, I just sort of feel bad for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 06:09 PM
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I've never dated a girl with high self-esteem. Not intentionally, I just hardly ever meet them. And I tend to get on better with girls who're more like me. In my experience, self-esteem is something brutally difficult to fix, and most people will never manage to. It's more something you soothe when it hurts. I imagine it's what you DO with someone's low self-esteem that matters more. Do you build them, soothe them and support them? Or do you use that to keep them in line, subservient and hurt? I…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 01:15 PM
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Just speaking as a working class 29 year old British man. They aren't getting that from a friend group. That just doesn't exist here. Not that kind of group. Men don't do that. We don't allow other men to do that and no one allows us to do that either. I've seen men totally abandoned from friend groups for being too much of a "cry arse" which just means pussy. I've seen men avoided while they're going through bad things. I've seen boys flat out told to "shut the fuck up crying about shit." Most …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 10:28 AM
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I've never seen anyone call it oppression. I've mostly just seen people ruminating about how it's unfair. Which to be fair, it is. The avarage women DOES have a far easier time getting a date than avarage man. Maybe there's some SUPER fringe, mentally ill/heavily neurodivergent people that would wrongly consider it to be some form of opression. But I can't recall seeing anyone actually comparing difficulties in dating with bloody Jim Crow. I would say though, that you're probably more likely to …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 10:01 AM
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Cuck is one of the most popular insults right now. I don't know what's true either way, but I have noticed that people often self censor in real life, and let loose on the internet. Even if someone DOES look down on a person for being cheated on, they would likely never say that out loud. It could be that people really do look down on victims of infidelity, and just let that feeling out online. I've never heard someone called a cuckold in the sense that they're being empathised with. Only to moc…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 04:04 PM
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Generally the "bad boy" to the more leaning "aggressive" traits are seen as desirable in men. And "nice" men aren't those things. So men who're "badder" and more agressive do better in terms of dating. Even if said man is attractive, being "nice" will hamper him, as he isn't "bad" or aggressive. Where as womens more desirable traits are typically what IS associated with nice. Sweeter, kinder, more demure and submissive. So if a woman is attractive AND has "nice" traits, she's generally going to …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 03:39 PM
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Trick question. A man is man. A bear is a big man. A pig is a misogynistic man. Every answer ends in immediate death.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 08:07 AM
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That's your issue? That technically it's not 100%, 100% of the time? Then yeah, whatever, it's not an absolute certainty, but it's still beyond a stupid question just based on the statistics alone. The question hinges on the assumption that you MUST be close to the bear or man. If not, the question is pointless because you could just choose to remain a safe distance from the man or bear. If you simply don't have to interact with the man or the bear, then there's no point in even asking it. Then …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 12:49 PM
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It doesn't refute shit. They're grizzy bears. Stop thinking there is any comparison to men and grizzly bears. It's insane. If you genuinly believe that Timothy Treadwell somehow validates this ridiculous question, then I have no idea what to tell you. I only brought it up to draw attention to that god awful recording. Near enough one hundred percent of people who've gone off to live with bears have died horribly, being eaten by bears. Off the top of my head, I don't know what the percentage of w…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 11:54 AM
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No one believes that it is better to be trapped with a grizzly bear over a man. The question is meant to draw light to the idea that most women don't feel safe around men they don't know. But it just does so in the MOST STUPID way possible. The question is just so awful at what it's trying to say. A hundred percent of grizzly bears will kill you in a horrific way. Only two point two percent of men are convicted of ANY crime relating to violence. That's including violence between against other me…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 10:13 AM
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Everyone is insecure. Never met a girl or boy that wasn't, never dated a girl that wasn't either. It's how we handle insecurity that can be the issue. Is she/he insecure about how they look, so because of that, they go out and try to cheat with every person they can? That's bad. Get rid of that person. Is she/he insecure about how they look, so because of that, every now and again, they need a cuddle and to be reasured that you love them and think they're beautiful? That's not bad. You can keep …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 09:22 AM
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Well, there's this study around sexual behaviour that would suggest that the true median number of lifetime partners is around 6, given that most people are settled down or no longer sexually active at nearly 50. Couple that with people reportedly having less sex these days than they used to, and that study from the CDC took place in 2005... I guess that they would HAVE to? https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/ad/ad362.pdf
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 06:25 PM
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These apps are shitty because they're primarily built around hooking up. They were originally made for strangers who wanted to fuck other strangers. And they're VERY clearly designed that way. When they started getting bigger, they rebranded as an app for dating and finding love. Now you've got a bunch of people using an app designed for hooking up to try and find love. Ruining it for the people who want to hook up and fucking themselves over trying to find love by doing it wrong. Like using a s…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 07:16 AM
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I take sex and my romantic relationships pretty seriously. I don't sleep with a woman unless we're in a relationship and have developed real feelings towards one another. I've had plenty of offers, but I've only been with two women and kissed three, all three of those were in relationships. And I'm near 30 years old now. Honestly, without the emotion and romantic aspect, I just don't have the WANT for sex without love in me. That being said, in a relationship, it's every day. Sometimes, multiple…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 10:01 PM
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Outside of this not being real, if anyone came up to me in public and started talking to me like that, they can fuck off. Neither of these characters came over and engaged in an actual conversation or tried to really interact with the other person. They essentially came over on their high horse and said "Hey, I'm obviously hot shit and surely you feel lucky that I'm talking to you." It's as though someone with a social disorder learned about human interaction from 3 years of watching YouTube Sho…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 09:24 PM
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I haven't gone up to random women on the street or in pubs or whatever, but I've had it done to me by women. I have a bunch of issues with approaching. Both logistically and personal. For personal, I wasn't raised very lovingly. To keep it brief, I don't look at myself positively. Even if I've had women coming up to me to talk, I still don't feel as though they'd want someone like me to come up to them and start talking to them. Logistically, finding someone who you can build a special connectio…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 12:36 PM
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Well, this is a thread specifically created to talk about opinions on sexual relationships, in a subreddit specifically created to talk about dynamics in relationships. It would be pointless posting here if we refused to talk about our justifications and reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 10:55 AM
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I take sex and my romantic relationships pretty seriously. I don't sleep with a woman unless we're in a relationship and have developed real feelings towards one another. I've had plenty of offers, but I've only been with two women and kissed three, all three of those were in relationships. And I'm near 30 years old now. Honestly, without the emotion and romantic aspect, I just don't have the WANT for sex without love in me. That being said, in a relationship, it's every day. Sometimes, multiple…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 10:17 PM
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I imagine no women really won't understand a man having fallen in love with a women who didn't feel the same way in the past. Assuming he's not still in contact with her. For simping, I guess it would depend on that means. Is he consistently "weird" with women, as though he's almost manipulatively white knighting? Or simping over OnlyFans girls? For that kind of thing, I'd imagine that person would be a LOT more unappealing. I imainge any kind of paying girls online would be repulsive, actually.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 08:26 PM
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I mean, I've done it. Shoved off coke heads that're grabbing at a girl. And gotten into fights with boys doing pretty much the same thing. But I'm special case. Doing something like that is VERY dangerous. When you do something like that, you're not just putting yourself at risk, you're putting everyone who counts on you at risk. Your loved one to be there and love them, your child to love them and raise them, your pets to just be fucking fed. At the time, and to be honest, still now, I was depr…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 06:45 PM
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Fact: men think women who are 32 are expired, unattractive, and undesirable and hopeless for having a husband or kids.Fact: men think women who are 32 are expired, unattractive, and undesirable and hopeless for having a husband or kids. That's not a fact at all. That's weirdos on the internet either having panics about that being the case or fantasies. The reality is, if a boy would be with a girl at 28, he'd be with her at 32. Source: this woman is 32 and single and men go on big rants attackin…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 08:51 AM
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I miss the old internet. Back when troll posting was a big, long, well thought out, intricate post that would be well written, and just absurd enough to be believable and funny. These days it's all just soyjack posters writing with the grammatical skills of a 9 year old.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 09:07 AM
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Mine is a little bigger than most. Not MASSIVE, but fairly above avarage. It does hurt my partners if I'm not careful. I understand that kind of pain isn't pleasant. I don't enjoy hurting them, I restrict myself a lot in order to make sure that I'm not hurting them. But it's hard to really accept that women would rather a 5.5 inch over a 7 inch when every single one of my past partners has bragged to their friends about it, giggled and hung off me the next day talking about how they're sore down…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 06:43 PM
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Oppression refers to discrimination when the injustice does not target and may not directly afflict everyone in society, but instead targets or disproportionately impacts specific groups of people. Discrimination and oppression would effectively become interchangeable synonyms in the terms of a gender debate. There could be a discussion on the severity of either sides oppressive/discriminatory situation, but anything else would just be semantics really. To be discriminatory, one must oppress. To…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 09:05 AM
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Personally, I don't like casual sex. Or FWB sex. I don't enjoy it. I'd rather be having no sex at all. I mean, yeah, I can orgasm if I try, but sex is FAR more than just orgasming. Sex with someone who you truly love is almost an entirely different thing. I understand I'm the werido for this, but I think it's the only sex worth having. Everything else feels like mastuerbation with a stranger in the room. These days, meaningless sex isn't hard to get if you REALLY want it. From sluts to sex worke…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 07:14 PM
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Depends on if you have to be around the bear/man or not. If you have the option to stay away and be safe from the bear, then I'm assuming that you must also have the same option for the man too. The previous option used a Grizzly Bear, I'm assuming that this is the same one used here. If so, it doesn't matter. You can just be away and safe from either of them. If you MUST be in close proximity to the bear and the man, the only option is the man. Being close enough to a grizzly bear that it's an …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 03:40 PM
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Attraction does grow. In all my romantic relationships have, I've found them more and more attractive over time. BUT, in order to grow, it HAS to be there in the first place. You can't grow something that doesn't exist in the first place. No one is falling in love with the fat, short guy with acne, a recessed jaw and no muscle mass just because he's kind and sweet. No one is digging through the dirt if they don't see the penny first.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 03:07 PM
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I'm always learning new words here, that I can never use in real life...
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 10:26 AM
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You don't seem to know anything about bears... Please, go into more detail. Edit: "Comment deleted by user." Yeah, I thought so.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 07:00 PM
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This question HAS to operate off of the assumption that you'd need to be in proximity to the bear/man for 48 hours. If you don't need to spend any length of time around either/have adequate defence and shelter to keep away said bear/man, then it's asking "Would you rather see a man, or a bear?". In that case, what is the point of the question? Also, of course the vast majority of men would back off if you made it clear you didn't want to be around them. You're operating off of the assumption tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 06:33 PM
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Anybody saying that they would rather be alone with a bear is deliberately obtuse, or truly knows so little of the world and the things in it that they need a professional carer. Assuming you're up close to this bear and you have to be in close proximity for 48 hours, you're fucked. Even a black bear is going to stop being afraid and start testing you if you have to be near one another for 48 hours. If you don't have to be anywhere near one another and have shelter from one another, what's even …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 05:27 PM
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Without the kid, 3 would be fantastic. But I don't really want kids. 2 and 1 are people I could just never be with. They're about the same for me. So I guess... 3, then 2 - 1 if I HAD to pick.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 01:25 PM
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The whole child support issue is about doing what's deemed best for the child over what is best for the parents. Once the child is involved, what's best for the parents become secondary to irrelevant. And what's deemed as best for the child is to stay with the willing parent. Whether you view it as right or wrong, that's why it happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 01:21 PM
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Sounds like it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 09:10 AM
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There can be actual discussions about gender dynamics in relationships going on, and the mods will delete it for using a word of phrase they arbitrarily deem bad. But then leave posts like this up. To answer the post... It sounds as though you've become obscessed with a man out of your league. He's sleeping with a TON of other women while you pine after him in the hopes that he'll see the error of his ways and be exclusively with you. There's a RedPill term for it, but I can't remeber what it. E…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 08:56 AM
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I have a passing understanding of this because I'll stick Aba and Preach videos on while I'm cooking sometimes. It seems pretty clear that she is/was infact an opportunistic prostitute who say an opportunity to baby trap some 46IQ Miami new money idiotm, AND that the fat one from that podcast is also a scumbag that lies to women about loving them in order to have sex with them. It looks as though they're both awful, bad people that looked to take advantage of one another. There's no victim in th…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 06:10 AM
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Every single fucking post on this sub just boils down to... "Side Y is to blame for everything bad, and Side X is the victim of Side Y."
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 02:59 PM
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Reading through the comments, it seems as though you're autistic and like to be alone. There is a WORLD of differnece between being alone and on some level, wanting to be, and being alone while desperately wanting not to be. I'd also be more intrested in how neurotypical men and women handle full social isolation than I would people who already prone to disliking socialisation in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 03:06 PM
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I don't do casual sex. So, whatever happens, I'm not fucking anyone. And is the ghetto 21 year old a bad person or just from a poor background? Either way, the 21 year old. There's a way higher chance of it being an intresting time than with a 63 year old. I'm 29. What are me and a woman in her 60s going to talk about? 21 and 29 is a fair gap, but at least we're pretty close to the same page. I see me having a more intresting time with someone also in their 20s than I do with someone in their 60…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 11:12 AM
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I imagine that it just feels good to make the person you love feel good. There were pleanty of times with past girls I'd fallen in love with where I'd do something to get them off without getting anything myself, just because it feels very fulfilling to do that for someone who you love. There's a lot more to enjoy in sex with someone that you love than just orgasming.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 05:13 AM
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Odds are, if you've noticed it, she's noticed it too. From her clothes not fitting to sleeping worse, sweating more, and a bunch of other things. I'd tell her that I'm not happy with how I'm looking right now and that I'm going to clean up my eating for a bit and join the gym. If she sees you saying that about herself, she'll probably see an opportunity to jump on it with you, too. If that doesn't work, ask her if she'd come and hold you accountable at the gym and with your diet. If she doesn't …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 01:44 AM
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even if you had a gf who was dragging her feet to commit to you? Dragging her feet to commit to me? We're presumably in a committed, monogamous relationship. Obviously, if this was a person I wasn't in a committed, monogamous relationship with, it would be very different. you weren't sure she was going to want to marry you but you'd spend 5k on her? I've already said in a reply, but I've been in this situation where I had the money, and they didn't. We downsized and altered plans so we could do …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 08:30 PM
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It would be a major hit to the relationship, just because I'd never do that myself. There's no way I'd tell my loved "lol, bye!" And leave them while I go off and do whatever. Either we both go, or we both stay. I'd feel awful just abandoning her. It would be different if she/I were going with friends and had been planning this. Or I was never intending on going in the first place. Honestly, I'd question whether she even liked me. It would be a very awakening moment in the relationship where I'd…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 02:04 PM
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Women generally aren't accepting of social ineptitude, and autistic men tend to struggle socially. Men who're autistic past a certain point on the spectrum are virtually hopeless. They end up appearing as entirely sexless beings. I don't know what percentage of autistic men are THAT autistic, but the ones that are won't ever be able to get past that. It's not fair, but it is what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 11:48 AM
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I hate how threads like these always dismiss how horrible it must feel to essentially be told that your partners ex fucked them better than you. People pretend that they wouldn't be all fucked up to find out the person they love has been going around telling people that their exes fucked better. Man, woman, anything inbetween, whatever you are, that has to be really, really upsetting and hurtful to hear. But people always just say to brush it off, like it doesn't matter. On top of all that, what…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 12:21 PM
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Does it itch? Do you feel it on your face?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 09:36 AM
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I've always felt bad for girls having to wear makeup so much. They're stuck in a situation where if they all stop, it'll be easier for all of them, and the beauty standard would change. But if all of them don't stop, then the ones that do are shooting themselves in the foot. I feel bad for them because, in my mind, it itches and feels weird. Like face paint when you're a little kid on Halloween. It would bug the shit out of me if I could feel it, even a little bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 09:27 AM
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I'm 6'3 and I don't talk to anybody, never mind talk to girls. I just come here to read things like this and make myself feel better. Keep it up, Gang.💚
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 04:23 AM
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Kitty_Princessxo Japanese School Girl outfit pfp Wanting older men This is some fucking DDLG SugarBaby shit, isn't it? Edit: Another home run for Mr.ComfortableJeans. ⚾
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 03:49 AM
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Your argument comes down to... "Rich people are more moral and inherently have better character." I would need you to prove that before I'd feel willing to expend effort in doing my own research into this. At a very cursory glance, there seems, through some research, as though men are equally likely to engage in infidelity across all incomes. But we see a higher rate of infidelity in women when they're on the lower end of incomes. So we could have a FAR easier time saying that wealthier women ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 02:53 PM
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I feel as though the bad taste that hypergamy leaves in people's mouths is that the deciding factors are never along the lines of... "He's kinder to me. He's sweeter. He treats me with more love. He's more loving. He's more emotionally intelligent. He's more gentle with me and my feelings. He makes me feel more loved. He's a good man. He's more caring." And always seems to be more... "He's bigger. He has more money, liquid and/or asset, and social standing." It's not that it doesn't make sense. …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 02:28 PM
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I think that Ick is used to describe a more permanent form of turn-off. A turn-off is something that can be forgotten about when the person stops doing it. An Ick permanently puts a person in the zone where they BECOME a turn-off. Oftentimes, I hear Turn Off in reference to domething controllable. Like cruelty or thoughtlessness. But I hear Ick in refusing to something far more childish and immature. Like, a partner sneezes weirdly. Or they've cried. Or they've been heard singing to girly songs.…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 02:20 PM
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It would be nice for Zero Self-Esteem Gang. I've had girls literally tell me, "I've fallen in love with you," and still been not been 100% sure that they were into me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 02:16 PM
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Sorry, I edited it just before I saw the notification. I'm from the third worst ranked area in my country of Wales in the UK, in terms of income and poverty, anyway. The people I DO see having kids now are absolute shit head. They're the exact type of idiots that raise the shit head kids that you don't want around. They're abscentee, drunk in the early afternoon, drug dealing/addict loud mouths with sub 80IQs. There are lots of people having kids here. But they're NOT the kinds of people who you…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 01:30 PM
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I doubt it's feminism driving down the birthrates. Even feminists want families. Coming from a more poor, working class background, the vast majority of people my age (29) have put off having children for so long because it's so hard and expensive just to live now. No one feels secure or well off. No one has any savings, and nearly all don't own a home. A lot still have to live with their parents, and the ones who aren't are throwing away a fortune of rent. So you have a bunch of people who're b…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 01:20 PM
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I mean, off the bat, privilege and oppression are far more nuanced and complicated than simply *Good and Bad*. Idiots spamming the term in places like Twitter ruined it, turning it into some divisive, gender/race war, and nonsense instead of just an examination of the vairing levels of difficulties particular groups face in particular circumstances. Both men and women would experience both privilege AND oppression simultaneously through multiple different means. People often take it as one side …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 12:47 PM
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It's not that complicated. Women tend to have lots of non-sexual, close, loving, emotionally fulfilling relationships. Men tend not to, as things are. The only way most men get those deep, fulfilling, emotional relationships is with a partner. It's worth saying, both men and women are responsible for the world being this way. Both sides created, participated and perpetuated this system of doing things. Both have also benefited and suffered, to varying degrees as a result. Neither of us are innoc…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/24 06:13 PM
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I guess A. I'm SUPER attracted to competence and capability in women. She could relax on the being super presented all the time. If she wanted, it's not some I need. But so long as she's happy doing it, whatever. Honestly, that just feels like an interest and something that's important to her. I don't have a problem with it either way. I imagine over time she'd be more and more comfortable being vulnerable and more emotionally open with me as she trusts me more and more. That's how my past exper…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/24 10:49 AM
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I know a lot of boys are down to fuck anything, regardless of mutual pleasure, but I'm sort of a girly bloke. I'll take a stab at this. I feel like, if I were dating a asexual girl, we just COULDN'T have sex. It wouldn't be enjoyable for me if I knew my partner was "sex-repulsed". The idea of someone being repulsed by having sex with me, or even just not enjoying it, would make me feel so unattractive, self conscious and humiliated that I wouldn't even be able to remain aroused. I know a lot of …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 07:53 AM
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I mean, of course. Having your heart broken by someone who you love is incredibly painful. Your ego is just one of a bunch of things that's going to take a really hit. Deriving satisfaction from hurting someone who loves you is gross, though. Doesn't really matter what gender you are. It gives the impression that you've so fully succumb to your own desires for revenge and anger (for whatever reason you may have them) that you're even willing to hurt the people who love you to get it. And by that…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 03:06 PM
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Honestly, all the boys I knew from back in school that got bullied went on to have REALLY tragic lives. Some killed themselves, some have really poor lives, from homelessness to total isolation, where they just spend all day, every day working shitty jobs, going home to shitty rented appartments or living with thier parents. Breezing through social media, most as single, alone, overweight and I can't imagine that they're happy. A lot of the boys I knew who were bullies are doing great though. Mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 01:27 PM
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I could that in a geneal sense, but not romantically. I've never gone for a girl I wanted and didn't get her. It's just that there are very few girls I've ever wanted. In general life, I've been rejected ton of times if we're going outside of a romantic sense. I've failed and been turned away, embarrassed, all sorts of things have gone wrong. Just not really with girls. I've declined more girls than I've been with just becuase sex without that connection sounds like it would suck shit. Now, if I…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 05:49 AM
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To a certain degree. Online, in spaces like this, I could totally see that being the case. But these spaces are going to be more heavily geared towards people who struggle in this regard a lot more intensely than the general population But for non-online, normie population, it's not that uncommon. Getting hit on sexually by a woman at least once in your life is exceptionally common. Especially if you're pushing into your 30s. Of all my irl normie friends, I couldn't think of one that hadn't at s…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 05:31 AM
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Oh yeah, I wasn't telling others that this is something they can choose to be, more expressing that I'm more of an outside observer in this. I don't think anyone could decide to be this way. I imagine for most, it would just be suppressing themselves. I don't really have any advice for those people. More just an acknowledgement of how difficult it must he for people who find themselves in the situations where they're getting rejected over and over again.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 05:17 AM
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You should avoid using words that you don't know the meanings of online.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 05:12 AM
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Puffing myself? Do you mean acknowledging that women have made sexual advances toward me? I'm sorry, but as an adult man nearing 30, it's not much of a boast that a few women have expressed sexual interest toward me. Ad hominem would be if I never addressed your claim, but instead made accusations of your character. But I addressed your claim and THEN made accusations of your character. I would also point out that your first response didn't address any of my claims but instead, souly made accusa…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 05:10 AM
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Ad hominem? I directly responded to your claims toward my fear of rejection. Fear of rejection would not come into it if I were already receiving advances from women and still rejecting those advances with no risk of rejection. And THEN made claims against you? You could accuse me of ad hominem if I'd never responded to your claims, but not if I had.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 05:02 AM
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^ translation: I'm projecting super hard. I've turned down more girls trying to hook up than I've slept with because without an emotional connection, I wouldn't even enjoy sex. Just because random pussy means everything to you, don't put that on me.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 04:53 AM
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I've never actually been rejected. I'm super lucky in a sense. I don't want anyone without a solid emotional connection forming, and for that to happen, you sort of have to fall together. It's like a gradual process that requires both people to participate for quite a length of time. That being said, I've spent a bit of time paying attention to boys who aren't like that, and Jesus Christ. I can't imagine that it isn't soul crushing after a certain amount of time. Constantly expressing desire and…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 03:58 AM
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Honestly, I know I'm super of the weirdo fucking fringes with this. But random pussy is just dirt to me. I have absolutly zero intrest in casual sex. Sex with someone you have a deep connection with is the only time it's ever been worth it to me. Sex with someone you love is incredible. And when you're in love with someone, as fucking goofy as it sounds, the number scale stops even making sense. That girl that you're in love with becomes hot as fuck. I've had plenty of offers for casual hookups,…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 02:16 PM
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A massive part of this issue is that we use nebulous terms like "asshole" and "nice guy." I've seen "asshole" used to describe everything from someone who playfully teases, to someone who breaks your jaw for answering back. And I've seen "nice guy" to describe everything from someone who is too timid to kiss someone they're in a relationship with, to someone who's genuinely loving and emotionally attentive. Everyone conjures a different meaning when they hear these words. We could be hearing the…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 01:40 PM
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As horrible as it may be, sex and lust aren't mutually inclusive with love, respect, and value. People can even lust after someone they find to be repugnant, immoral, and even evil. If Hitler was a beautiful woman, plenty of Jewish men would have wanted to bang her. I'm not sure the percentage makeup of men and women who feel this way about sex go, but it's not uncommon. I can't quite put myself in those shoes, because I'm a massive pussy, and in order to even want to have sex with a girl, I nee…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/24 02:50 PM
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Honestly, I don't blame them. If everything kept functioning, I wouldn't look back if 99% of people in general went away.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/24 11:23 AM
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It's just more Internet nonsense that'll end up with 85% of the population oblivious to it, 14.9% of the population ridiculing it online and .1% of the mentally ill population practising it. And I prefer my own homemade mental illnesses, as opposed to imported Asian mental illness.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 06:27 PM
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I guess it's more about the traditional ways we view fucking up actually not being as important as we think they are in terms of being successful romantically. A lot of men hit every traditional line of sucsess and still come out with nothing. But there are other men that fail on every level we tell them in important, but still they hit sucsess after sucsess. I also have absolutely no fucking idea how much a masters makes you. Just took a random stab in the dark for what I thought might sounds l…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/24 01:01 PM
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I don't know how to put it other than this. You've either got it, or you don't. Some guys will be 36, living at home, have no money, a criminal record, and no education, but go from relationship to relationship with ease. Other guys will be pulling in 60k a year, living in their own house, have a masters degree, and still be a virgin. Self improve all you want, if your one of those guys that just has no traces of it in you, you'll never get there. I don't know what It is, but I know it's importa…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/24 10:30 AM
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I'm not one of them there goofy broads, but manners and kindness go an awful long way with either gender. But in my past relationships I'd say something like "Sweetheart, can you grab me some water on your way please, baby?" And make sure to throw in something like a "Thank you, Honey." when she got back. Throwing an "I love you." in there too is also nice. Always made me feel really good. I'd expect pretty much the same from my partners too. Appriciation, sweetness and softness goes a long, lon…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 10:31 PM
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I mean, first one sounds like a friend. So that's cool. I wouldn't mind a friend. The second one would be a non-starter for me. If I don't have a strong emotional connection with you, we're not having sex. If we don't even like one another, find me as attractive as you want, just do it from a distance.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 07:10 PM
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They don't feel guilty. They feel put off by certain symptoms of their condition, and feeling guilty is a sweeter lie than a bitter truth. Autistic boys that are socially stunted past a certain line are almost completely fucked. Past a certain position on the spectrum they're almost viewed as sexless beings.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 11:38 PM
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The lonliness is often a result of past abuse, negative experiences, and very poor self-esteem. They might seem trivial, but these are VERY, VERY difficult issues to overcome. To even begin overcoming. There's a reason that a lot of people simply choose to kill themselves. A lot of the time, these things seem insurmountable to the sufferer. Often, we paint these men as just bad people. Lazy willing "incel" victims that've brought it on themselves. We demonise them to the point where a man saying…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 07:49 AM
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If they get to mid 30s before hitting the wall, they're doing alright then. Honestly, I peaked at 9 when Time Splitters Future Perfect came out. It's been all downhill from there. And they didn't even make a Time Splitters 4...
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 08:54 PM
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Give up on all that shit. Think about what it is in life that you REALLY care about. Maybe it's someone you loved with a disability. Or you've always loved the enviroment. Or animals. Or whatever. Then find a charity near you that specialises in that and go volunteer for a bit. Do that for a year and you'll have met a bunch of really sweet, caring girls that care about the same thing you do. I don't know what kind of Patrick Bateman nightmare you're trying to pull together, but there's no girl w…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 06:07 PM
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I'm 6'3 and my 5'7 ex used to wear oversized shirts of bands she liked. I used to wear her massive shirts because they fit me, and it felt cute. What was massive to her was quite fitting to me. I like it. In a relationship, I'll take a bracelet of theirs or a hair tie and wear it on my wrist every day. Makes me feel good. I love that "I'm hers" shit. It makes me happy. I like belonging to someone I love. It's girly and pussy and I'm not sure how girls feel about boys doing that, but whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 09:07 PM
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I would have capitalised it as WhoreCession instead. But I might just be an absolute marketing genius.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 07:43 PM
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I can't imagine that if she doesn't find you attractive now, she'll find you attractive after you've done the dishes. What I imagine will happen is that she may feel some kind of obligation to sleep with you after that, but that sounds absolutely awful. Obligation sex would make me feel pathetic, unattractive, and generally pretty shitty. That being said, me and my ex had to set a rule where she couldn't oogle me while I was cooking because we'd always end up having sex and coming back way later…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 02:01 AM
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I can't quite remember where it's from, or if I'm getting the quote exactly right, but I've heard "Just because God doesn't exist, doesn't mean that God isn't real" before. Essentially, regardless of whether God is real or not, humans needed religion. It forced us to be brought together and make communities where we'd always be forced to be involved with one another. It was annoying to some, but it was good for us. We got rid of religion without really understanding why we had it in the first pl…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/24 02:18 AM
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Oh no, I did all that, and I was still a bum for not being the breadwinner. To most people anyway. I could have held the stars in the sky and still been called a bum, a parasite and a loser by most people for not at least earning near her income. It's just something you have to accept. You WILL be looked down on by a lot of people if you're a stay at home bloke. You can't get away from that, no matter what you do.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/24 01:25 AM
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I'm Welsh. My exe was American. She would love to listen to me speak Welsh at her. I don't really speak it fluently, so I'd say random things with an I love you on the end. So I'd be saying something like, "My eyes are blue, and my head hurts. But my belly hurts, too. I don't speak English, and I like coffee, but I really, really love you." But she loved it... my eyes aren't even blue.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/24 01:15 AM
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Yeah. I was a stay at home partner for years while she bankrolled everything. Why the fuck should she work AND come home and do extra work too? I did all the cooking, cleaning, washing up, the laundry, and I know how to do basic DIY, plumbing, and some electrical work. If I'm the house guy, the house is my domain. The only thing I asked was that she didn't make it harder. Put your dishes in the kitchen, leave the laundry in the basket, that kind of thing. But, yeah, she shouldn't have to do all …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/24 01:11 AM
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If there were some sort of mandatory adult social gathering that every able bodied person had to go to, I'd bet the vast majority of lonely, sad people would pretty quickly find someone they'd fall in love with. I feel as though most of the issues these days come about from the total isolation a lot of people are experiencing. A lot of people will just wallow and die by themselves unless there's a force pushing them. Any lonely person *could* just go join some lonely person group, but a lot of t…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/24 10:02 PM
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I wish there was a place like this but with normal people who could have real conversations about these topics instead of people who write like fucking serial killers.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/24 09:55 PM
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No, I think I covered that pretty clearly in the latter part of the post. I'm not grossed out and cutting all contact with good people.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 10:11 AM
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2XC is in large part, just TRP/MGTOW for women. Even the advice in the OP is just spinning plates, but for women. Don't get attached, and be ready to drop a person instantly. Everyone is disposable and even encouraged to be disposed of. I've seen a lot of men, even irl, talk about having multiple women on the go. To me, it always looked soulless. As though your relationship was a job interview and you were looking for an employee when they dated thay way. And a way to make sure you never got hur…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 01:25 AM
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I won't say I'm in love...
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/24 12:00 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/24 11:59 AM
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This is cute. I like the idea of PPD all doing personality tests together. I get Meg from Hercules as my Disney Princess.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/24 07:21 AM
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A lot of men's standards are so abysmally low that they drag on the floor behind them. With or without makeup, they'd still fuck and duck them.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/24 07:12 AM
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It's a very working class area. If people are lucky, they get to rent a home somewhere cheap outside of their patents house here. I don't actually know if people used to move far away, but I know these days that no one I went to school or grew up with was able to. Most, if they manage to get out of the home, seem to have gone less than 10 miles away. A few have gone gone, but it's less than 10 or so. I feel like half of the people are still living at home around here. The other half are renting …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 01:43 PM
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I have a friend in this exact situation. I'm from a smaller area in the UK. This has been a recurring issue. We're nearing 30 now, and he's been in a relationship with her for a few years. But he's found out that she's slept with 3 of our friends in her teenage years and early 20s. He was thinking about marrying her, but not he couldn't bring himself to, but he still loves her and doesn't *want* to split. This has been an issue with a few people, where if a girl sleeps around, odds are, she's sl…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 11:26 AM
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I want to love someone. And be loved. I want to have someone to think about and to go out of my way for. To make laugh and feel better when they feel bad. I want to have sex with the person I love and lay there all breathy and giggly and touching one another. I want to baby them and take care of them when they're sick and tired. I want someone I love to feel conformable enough to totally relax, share with me embarrassing things, and know that I'll never hurt or shun them for it and that they can…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 09:03 AM
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I take sex and my romantic relationships pretty seriously. I don't sleep with a woman unless we're in a relationship and have developed real feelings towards one another. I've had plenty of offers, but I've only been with two women and kissed three, all three of those were in relationships. And I'm near 30 years old now. Honestly, without the emotion and romantic aspect, I just don't have the WANT for sex without love in me. That being said, in a relationship, it's every day. Sometimes, multiple…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/24 05:49 PM
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Stop trying to weaselly finagle making cheating accpetable into everything, you fucking degenerates. Asking for permission to sleep around on your partner if you give them enough things is the most desperate, skin crawly shit. Even if you were to find a girl like that, she doesn't love you. She's using you for whatever you're giving her and doesn't give a fuck about you, what you do or who you're doing it with, so long as it's not fucking her game up. If you want to hoe around, just hoe around. …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/24 03:23 PM
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Maybe my brain is warped by how oversexualised everything is these days, but as far as like, "hoe shit", that seems like basically nothing. I'd never date a person like that because that isn't my type of scene, or my type of people or the types of personalities that I enjoy being around. It's fine, it's whatever. I look at t the same way I look at people going to a Juggalo concert, or going to My Little Pony conventions, or people REALLY into motorbikes. It's a total neutral to me. Do what you w…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/24 04:43 AM
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Honestly, in my experience looking into the dynamics of my grandparents, it's total bollocks. The way it worked, at least in my grandparents' and great-grandparents' relationship, was that the man went to work and the woman was in control of all the money. He didn't spend shit. She did. All of the men in my family worked themselves to death, while the Wives were at home, taking care of the house. My grand/great grandfathers were coal miners, except for one. And he was an ash man. He'd sift throu…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 03:43 PM
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Fuck you, I won't do what you tell me! Fuck you, I won't do what you tell me! Fuck you, I won't do what you tell me! Fuck you, I won't do what you tell me! Fuck you, I won't do what you tell me!! Fuck you, I won't do what you tell me!! Fuck you, I won't do what you tell me!! Fuck you, I won't do what you tell me!! Fuck you, I won't do what you tell me!!! Fuck you, I won't do what you tell me!!! Fuck you, I won't do what you tell me!!! Fuck you, I won't do what you tell me!!! Fuck you, I won't do…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 05:49 AM
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It's not entirely related, but I see a lot of the same people saying that men should choose better partners that they can trust more in the paternity test threads, now saying a whole lot of something else. Lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 12:38 AM
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It's not entirely related, I guess. But I used to know this girl who would proudly tell people that she was pro hetrosexual cheating. She would tell straight girls that they should be cheating. Only person I've ever met who was like that, but she was just a wretched cunt, lol. I don't think it reflects a particular group of people, I think she was uniquely awful. But this just reminded me of her. As for the question, it's probably just misery loves company.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 12:25 AM
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Oh, I'd believe it. I'm actually half a fucking cripple. I've got no money and nothing I can provide a person with, outside of what I am. But what I am is a boy who's very emotinoally inteligent and given virtually all their life over to taking care and homing stray animals, nursing them back to health and doing volenteer construction playground equipment for mentally disabled kids. I've been in a few, long relationships with women who wanted to provide everything for me, even going as far as ju…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/24 08:45 PM
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I wouldn't say I'm *in* that group because I'm a bit of a weido. But I'm not a virgin and have been in multiple, muliyear relationships. I've had women want to meet up for sex and get into relationships. So I can see from that perspective a little bit better. I don't mean it in a rude sense, more a colder one, so I hope I don't upset too much. But no one really cares that that're struggling in romantic life. Those types of men tend to live alone, quietly, and then they die without anyone really …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/24 08:35 PM
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Doesn't really matter. If it's even just the top twenty percent of men, that comes out to 70% of the population already. Ultimately, whatever the percentage is, nothing will change for the men it doesn't work out for. Unless they can find a way to change themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/24 08:29 PM
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It works for women and an an amount of men that society cares about. So it will never change intentionally. The only way it would change is if it was an unintentional consequence of some other big shift in the world. Women would never give it up because they've got the preferable hand. And the men with preferable hands see no reason to give it up either.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/24 07:56 PM
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I don't really care. I find it a really attractive quality when a partner doesn't have social media. My exe hated it just as much as I did, and I loved that. I love my privacy. I don't WANT other people knowing what I'm up to, or who I'm with or what I think about things. Yeah, people like that are rare. And it's it's even harder to find them because they're deliberately hiding, in that sense. But I don't think anyone else is even worth it for me, anway.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/24 07:00 PM
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There probably is a certain amount of "just be yourself, bro" advice that comes from people who're just naturally the things that make you successful that they're totally unaware of.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/24 06:51 PM
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Same thing, but they exist in much fewer numbers because the bar is a lot lower for desirability on that side of the fence. Generally, if women aren't having sex, it's because they're choosing not to. The same can't be said with most men not having sex. Choosing not to have sex is also viewed VERY differently from wanting it and not getting it, also.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/24 04:12 AM
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I can't see sex dolls making men happier. It just seems like losing more of oneself to sexual release in place of genuine connection. Like using an RGB LED Vibrating Fleshlight with cool racing decals on the side, and clip on 35lbs of realistic BBL ass and moaning voice box. It's no replacement for what they're truly looking for, which would be a genuine, loving connection with a partner. Have you ever used a sex toy and wanted to hang out with it, touching it, running your fingers over it, and …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/24 02:11 AM
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They're invisible to most people. People don't care enough to come up with a term for people like that. They don't matter enough to name. If you're like that and you DO get angry enough about it to cause issue/draw attention, they call them Incels. Or something along those lines. If people DO notice, they'll be wary of them, as most will see it as a red flag. The men you're describing aren't even background noise in peoples lives. They're totally unheard.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/24 01:49 AM
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I imagine there's not much cross over between the Porn Bad and OnlyFans Good crowds. That venn diagram is most likely just two separate circles.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 08:15 PM
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I used to have this issue in a past relationships, to the point where I sat my partner down one day and just outright told her "Honey, you HAVE to start telling me how you feel and if something is bothering you so we can fix it." Because time after time, they would get one little thing in their head, then let it sit there and fester until it ended up with a big outburst. Then it would be a two hour "fight" where I'm managing them while they lose their shit. Then, after that, it would be the same…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/24 01:24 AM
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Neither option is really desirable here. ​ I don't know. I guess they both have views on sex and romantic relationships that differ so much to my own that it would be equally unpleasant in different ways. For one, sex is something with little importance, that's just thrown around to any dog with a bone. And the other, sex is a tool to make money, they most likely don't even enjoy it. I guess... Fuck. This is hard to answer. The sex worker, I at least imagine she'd have some interesting stories. …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 02:34 AM
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Broke doesn't bother me at all. It's more that attitude around it. > Lives in her mom's basement? Is that because she's lazy, or is it because her mother needs her. Or maybe a disability that she needs help with. Or maybe she just thinks it's smarter to live at home while he saves up instead of burning it on rent. ​ > Plays video games all day? She could be lazy, or it could be a disability thing. Maybe she's sick all the time. Or killing time between housework. Or taking care of her dad and pla…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 04:12 PM
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Honestly, I left a partner because she asked if I wanted to be in an FFM threesome. If this were to happen with me, I'd feel very hurt by her not caring if I'm fucking other women and I'd just start to mentally dip out of the relationship. But I'm a weirdo. Most boys would feel this way. My feelings aside, I feel as though you're just putting a timer on your relationship like this. You're giving him carte blanche to find another girl while he's with you. It's just a matter of time before feeling…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 03:16 PM
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I don't want to be cunty, but it's working for the people who matter. I don't know if it's just our society, or are species, or whatever it is, but we don't really care about the people who don't fit in, so long as enough people fit in to not cause substantial problems. Some people are doomed to be sad, lonely outcasts with poor quality of life, as that's the way things are. It's the price paid to keep the majority happy. Fit in or don't get a place in the puzzle. What shape you need to fit in t…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 10:24 AM
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Anyone that would say something like that is most likely a massive cunt. It would be enough for me to dismiss them from my life entirely. The older I've gotten, the far more willing I find myself to stop reasoning with, trying to see the good in and giving a chance to cunt people. When I see a person give off bad person red flags like that, these days I can just flick on my mental block button, and they're never relevant in my life again. I'd advise everyone to do the same. Jesus Christ, imagine…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 09:57 PM
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> Responds to your texts too fast. I mentally developed past 14, so I hate those stupid fucking waiting games. If you want to talk to me, talk to me. Because if I start to think you don't want to, I'm not going to talk to you anymore. Even if you answer, because I don't know what's desire and what's politeness. I've texted with girls litterally all day and ended up in multiple year long relationships with them. I WANT to talk to you. > Compliments you too much. I guess this depends on the person…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/24 07:06 PM
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Personally, one is amazing, the other is a chore I'd rather not do with a stranger.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/24 04:39 PM
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I don't engage in casual sex, so I'll just apply "getting into a relationship" logic to this because I believe it fits the same. There's one of two answers here. Either she's not into you, so you're wasting your time. Or she IS into you, but she is playing stupid games, so she's not worth your time. Best case scenario, do you REALLY want to be with someone who pretends they don't want to be with you? Don't waste your time on girls like that. Spend that time on a girl who's thrilled to be with yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/24 09:49 AM
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I could be wrong, so, don't quote me. But aren't women out performing men in schooling and now more women than men are getting higher end degrees? And with higher education being the one of the biggest predictors of financial sucess, (maybe the biggest outside of wealthy family) women might HAVE to start being looked at as the primary earners... If that's right, anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 06:02 PM
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Hypergamy doesn't just apply to finances or just to one gender. You want to live by that sword. Get ready to die by it, too. If you want it to be acceptable for a girl to be with a boy for money, get ready for that boy to be with another girl who's younger, more pretty, thinner and whatever other factor he might want to dip out for. My advice, you want money? Go get it yourself. Everything else is a losing game. You're not building a life with a human that you love. You're running the clock out …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 05:51 PM
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God damn, going through this thread, literally everything and it's opposite is a sign that someone will abuse you.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 08:41 AM
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I'd really only ever be intrested in a woman that wants to split. Wanting me to cover everything would be a huge red flag to indicate that I wouldn't be intrested in her personality. I feel as though that would be a major warning sign as to how she viewed love and relationships. I hate the "pursue" style of relationships. I don't want to chase someone running away from me. I want to run toward someone who is running toward me. I've been asked out by girls and had them insist on paying for me. Ev…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/24 06:26 PM
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I think Purple. The real world has a lot of "It IS that way, but don't say it out loud" rules. Where you're supposed to say one thing, but do another. On top of that, places like this are made, at least hopefully, so that people will dissect every little aspect of a subject. Dating in this case. Whereas in the real world, people just do and don't think about it too hard. You're not supposed to talk about it, or question why, or think about the nonsensicality or hypocrisy of a particular subject,…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 06:32 PM
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Everything in existence is conditional. It's just the conditions that people take issue with. I feel as though when people say things along the lines of "Only women and children are loved unconditionally." What they're really saying, is that the conditions in which men have to exist in order to be loved are far more constrained and difficult to maintain than conditions in which others, namely women, have to. Off the top of my head, I can't think of anything that happens unconditionally.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 04:31 PM
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She told me herself. But she was also telling me that she could feel herself falling in love with me, as I think I was too, asking me if I'd like to spend nights at her place, buying me little gifts (we both were) and we were doing things like holding hands and walking around the parks to feed the ducks together. So I may be misreading the signals, but I think I may have detected some romantic interest there. I've also not found this to be entirely true either. Back when I was in college, a girl…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 11:17 AM
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I used to do volenteer work with a girl a while ago, and I started to really like her. We talked all the time, and I could feel myself starting to fall, and obviously, she felt the same way. We met while I was doing volenteer construction for disabled kids at a school her neice was going to. Just like, installing ramps, hand rails, building play equipment and that kind of thing. She would start coming in more and more, just stopping by to talk and fuck around for a while. We were both falling fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 10:14 AM
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Honestly, I expected nothing good, and I'm still fucking disappointed.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 09:59 AM
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I seek to be entirely, or as independent as possible, because I've been let down by everyone I've ever trusted and counted on. I don't WANT to be like this. I'd love someone that I can count on for the long term, but that has just never been the case. Everyone has lied, cheated, stolen from, or backstabbed me. People I've spent all my life being there for have dropped me the second I needed them. Eventually, I came to the conclusion that only I would ever take care of me. You can only be stabbed…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 08:22 AM
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I'm a touch larger than avarage. But my experience is limited as I don't have sex outside of relationships, as I don't enjoy it. But here's my limited input. I think it's mostly psychological. My partners have enjoyed speaking about it to me, and my ex even felt the need to tell her friends, which was a little embarrassing. They've enjoyed hanging off my arm if we're walking around somewhere and giggling about how they're sore or how they drive more carefully because they're sore. But the act of…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 10:34 PM
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... More of a Femboy kinda guy?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 06:59 PM
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Tom boy is best girl, fuckin' fight me.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 05:18 PM
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I've never felt attractive by myself, not ever. I don't know if it's a normal thing for boys. I don't think I can. I normally think of myself as quite unattractive, even though I've been hit on by a few women, and my relationships have come around from women making the first moves. It's unwanted, but I've had women come up and run their fingers through my long hair or touch my chest. I know these things that happened must indicate that I'm attractive, but I have literally always felt ugly. I thi…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 03:31 PM
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It really depends. In past relationships, myself and my partner and I try to take up a genuine interest in the others' interests. Though I wasn't originally into the subject, I could see that they were, and I wanted to take an interest in the things they took an interest in, and vice versa. With my ex, for example. I didn't have any interest in Americas Next Top Model, but she did, and I could have fun watching with her if I tried and engaged with it. So we would sit and watch it together. Same …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 01:50 PM
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I feel like just being honest about your past partners and views on love and sex is probably the best for both of you. I don't have sex outside of relationships. If I don't feel a strong emotional connection with the person, which takes a while to build, I don't want to have sex. So my count is very low. Two at 29 years old. I've had offers for casual sex, but I turn it down because sex with someone I don't love just sounds off-putting. Some girls have found this out about me and loved it. Other…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 07:16 AM
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I doubt it's a thing women think about until it's brought up. In much the same way, I don't wonder about how much porn someone watches when I meet them. But I've talked with past partners, and they were all very off put by the idea of a guy watching porn. Then again, that could be more to do with the type of person I am and the type of partners I'm interested in. I deviate from the norm quite a bit. I've had platonic girl friends who've talked about how disgusted they were with a friend who had …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/24 11:02 PM
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I know I am. I don't even want to sleep with a woman I don't have a loving connection with. My partners seem to get more attractive to me as I'm with them. But I'm a weirdo. And it's impossible to truly know what is in anyone's heads.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 05:55 AM
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"Geography is destiny."
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 05:53 AM
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I don't want kids, and marriage means nothing to me. But marriage isn't a negative to me either. If the woman I love wanted to, then I'd do it because it was important to her. In my mind, marriage changes nothing about our relationship. It would only be something I'd do if she wanted, or there were some tangible benefits. Like I needed to immigrate or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 05:51 AM
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I don't have much to weigh in with, but I did grow up in a poor area with lots of prostitutes. Sex doesn't cost hundreds of dollars. There were girls negotiating condomless blowjobs for £5 back then. Sex was like, 10 quid. I've seen desperate girls go for as low as £7. I've seen girls selling pussy for less than a fucking sainsbury's meal deal. The shits horrifying. I've got a bunch of stomach churning stories. Fuckers are out here selling the most intimate, personal parts of themselves, for a c…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 05:06 PM
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I don't hate them, but I definitely see a pattern in them. I've never seen a romantic situation like that that ever deviated from this. An obese, very unattractive woman who would rank at 2-3/10, surrounded by her three 3-4/10 male partners, that quite clearly have some kind of social disorder, such as autism or aspergers It always feels as though the unattractive woman is thrilled to have X number of boyfriends, as though it must elevate her standing, because if she has a number of partners, th…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/24 12:23 AM
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I have no study for this. It's just a gut feeling. But I doubt you can therapize yourself into becoming attracted to a partner you would otherwise not be attracted to. I think people just want what they want, and some want unattainable shit. Which will fuck them for the rest of their lives. Some will settle for something they don't really want, but it's all they can get. Otherwise, they will just never settle and be alone until they die. I really dislike the numbers system, as I feel people are …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 06:11 PM
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I think women mature faster than men at a young age. But I don't really care because people don't really mature that much, in my experience. Most of the people, both boys and girls, I know from high school are essentially exactly the same as they were back then. The jocks are still jocks, the mean girls, and still mean girls. The nerds with no friends are still nerds with no friends. The ones that were happy then are happy now, and the ones that weren't, aren't. The mature ones now were always m…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 02:07 PM
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It drastically increases the likelihood of developing certain medical issues, which eventually become terminal. It's not really something that we can debate anymore than we can debate whether smoking causes people to die earlier. It's so well studied at this point that you can essentially pick any institution and read their findings on the matter. The Lethality of Loneliness is a good place to start. This is entirely accepted as a scientific fact at this point. There isn't an organisation on the…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 11:00 PM
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Emotional connections are akin to food, water, and air for humans. Without those, you starve, dehydrate, and suffocate. In the same sense, without emotional connections, you develop mental conditions, such as alzheimer's disease at a higher rate and earlier. They are more likely to die of heart disease and strokes, also. Then there's the obvious massively increased likelihood of suicide. It's less apparent, as it's not immediately physical. But our mental can kill us just as well as our physical…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 09:31 PM
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I hate how much of the standard men must live up to comes down to "has money." Every bloke I know, coming from a working class background, is currently working themselves to death only to struggle to keep their heads above water. I know boys working 13 days every two weeks, up at 4AM, in work by 6AM, then getting home at 6PM. These fuckers are working HARD jobs. Giving it their all and STILL coming up short. They don't have time or money for a social circle, or vacations, or the gym. The only pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 10:51 AM
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Looking to celebrities for wisdom is feminine.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 09:13 AM
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Bloke. I guess I'd put 1, 2, 4, and 8 on the same level at the top. Because they all feel so tightly connected that they're hard to separate. It's hard to have one without the other. I also don't want to fuck any girl without a serious emotional connection, either. 3 and 5 would be under that, but only because 1, 2, and 4 means that 3 and 5 are happening a lot anyway. I don't care about social benefits, I hang out with my partners friends because my partner is there. I don't want kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 04:44 AM
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You won't, really. Not often anyway. Often, people will say that "You should have vetted better." But anyone could be doing anything while you can't see them, and anyone could be lying about anything. They could be really good at hiding what they really are. If someone wants to hide their real selves and their real activites from you, they can, very easily. With a long, long time of knowing someone, you might be able to piece lies together or see through some things, but even then, it's not as t…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 06:27 AM
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Nah, I'm pretty much tapped out now. I spent 10+ years or so being tossed around from perplexed specalist to befuddled expert and at the end of it all, my GP called me in to talk. Essnetially, he told me they're going to stop trying to figure it out because there didn't seem to be much hope. But, he offered to put me on a permanent perscription for Valium and set me up with a therapist. I turned him down. I grew up in a rough place, and I was very familiar with what long term benzo use did to pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 09:35 PM
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It's okay. I've been unwell since I was a child. Around about 11 or so. I started having stomach pains and shitting blood all the time. They tested me for all all sorts of cancers, diseases, allergies, parasites, and conditions. But they didn't find anything. After a few years of tests, they just told me to try my best to go about life, but if anything it got worse, the more time went on. It got to the point where if I wanted to leave the house, I had to make sure I didn't eat for 6 days beforeh…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 05:35 AM
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It wasn't a super common thing, but I was in bars with my boys at least once a week for a few years, so just in odds, it's going to happen. Being 6'3 in a bar also helps a little I imagine. I also spent my whole life in volenteer animal rescue and a very short time in charites for disabled kids. Building playground equipment, building shelters so they can be outside with friends. That kind of thing. Both of those charities (and I suspect most charities) are built on easily 95% girls. So you're j…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 04:10 AM
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I don't sleep with girls unless we're in a relationship. I don't like casual sex at all, not my thing, not my views on how I want interact with and think about sex. I only want to have sex with someone I can at least feel myself falling in love with. I've turned down a few offers. I'm not drowning in girls that've thrown themselves at me, but it happens from time to time. Or happened, I guess. I very much isolate myself these days. What I'd normally do is just make up a polite reason I can't so …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 01:13 AM
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Jesus Christ...
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 05:30 PM
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This thread makes me wonder if cheating is more common in lower income areas. Looking through the thread, people are saying that cheating isn't that common, but I've had the exact opposite experience. I'd quite comfurtably say that around half of the couples I've known have cheated at least once, or a serially. I'm from a lower class area in the UK and cheating is incredibly common. In my family, in people I've know, in people I've worked with and in acquaintances. Maybe it's because we're all p…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 02:10 PM
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Approaching, in general, is a losing bet. Even if you're attractive, you're getting rejected the vast majority of the time. Most people, the boys and the girls, don't want strangers coming up to them in the street and forcing conversation. It's awkward. I don't fucking want that. Leave me alone. If you have a purpose for talking to me, sure, but not because you want to fuck me. I'll should have prefaced this by saying that without a strong emotional bond, I don't want to fuck a girl anyway. If t…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/24 07:36 PM
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Life is more often unrelentingly, horrifically brutal than it isn't. Not to be a dick, but If I were to give any advice, it would be to accept that it isn't going to happen and find a way to live without it. Or don't. Life has a way of relentlessly marching on anyway, whether we struggle to keep up with it or get trampled by it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/24 05:50 PM
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I'm going to have kids with my totally platonic best friend. Just two bros, rasing the sickest kid.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/24 05:32 PM
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From an early age, we're told love is the most important thing in the world. In reality, love loses out to money, sex, boredom and even something as simple as convenience. As with most things in the world, it's only appriciated by the people who don't have it. Love is only important to lonely, loveless people. If you're the type of person who has lots of love, it's not important to you because you're the type of person who will always have it. The world is a cold, selfish, lonely, cruel, painful…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/24 05:12 PM
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It's been more my experience that the unattractive ones are more promiscuous than the attractive ones. The overweight, with below avarage features ones were always sleeping around. I always assumed it was some kind of validation seeking. Where as I often find the nonpromiscuous girls tend to be more conventionally attractive. Fitter and with more attractive features. All of the extremely promiscuous I've known have been conventionally unattractive. I don't look for it, or assume, but when I have…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 03:34 PM
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I don't know about over, but at 29 I've noticed that things have really changed. Through, say puberty to 27, the way dating worked was, you'd meet someone in some kind of social setting, be it an intrest, or friends. Then you'd happen to like interacting with one another, so you'd do it more and more, until you were consantly with one another, then it would happen naturally. You'd just happen to fall with one another. These days, it seems as though the job interview style is more the given way t…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 06:28 AM
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I would not even entertain the idea of dating a person who I thought would do this. Even when I've been pursued by other women, I only romantically entertain one person. No flirting. No "coffee dates." No comparing against other women. Nothing. And I expect the sams in return. If I found out that someone was romantically entertaining me and another person at the same time, no matter the stage of the relationship, my feelings for this person would disapate and I'd remove them from my life. Others…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 08:25 AM
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I'm a pretty soft, gentle, sensitive, not RP bloke from the UK. I dated an American girl I met online through talking about animal rescue. Sometimes, after sex she would cry, talking about how she'd never been treated so well and how lucky she was while cuddling. I never paid for anything, I couldn't. I was broke. She bought all the flights and everything, when I had nothing. All I could do was treat her with the emotional sensitivity I think a person should treat their partner with. If you've f…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 08:53 AM
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Sometimes you're better off dead. There's a gun in your hand it's pointing at your head. You think you're mad, too unstable, Kicking in chairs and knocking down tables. In a restaurant, in a Blue Pill town. Call the police, there's a mad man around, Running down underground. To a dive bar in a Blue Pill town. In a Blue Pill town, a Red Pill world, The Red Pill boys and Blue Pill girls. In a Blue Pill town, a Red Pill world, The Red Pill boys and Blue Pill girls. I'm sorry, I know it's entirly un…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 07:08 AM
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I'm fucking sorry? Chocolate smoothie with spinach? That's grounds for fucking divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 01:33 PM
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There's more of a middle ground, too. What I do is understand that I have a certain (but even then not total) amount of control over myself, and then try to do my best with that. Like a trying to steer a car with 3 flat tires through an eight billion car pile up on the freeway while chunks of earth fall out from underneath my car and fireballs crash down from the sky with no pattern. I know I can't have total control, I know I can't fix these cars around me, or stop them smashing into me entirel…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 07:22 AM
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Lots of people just can't handle the idea that they're not in control of the vast majority of their lives. We can and should try our best, but one twist of fate can either bring the whole thing down or rocket us up into the sky. Some of us start at -10 on the scale, others start at +10. All of it's out of our control. Once you accept that you're trying to control something inherently chaotic, things get a bit easier to handle.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 07:02 AM
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Sorry, the last bit was a little misleading. To clarify, I'm not saying that I believe reality is supposed to suck, but, if gun to my head, I HAD to pick a side other than neutral, just looking at the edvidence, I'd say that was the most likely answer. I don't believe that it is supposed to be anything. Pleanty of people choose to self terminate if their reality is negative enough, lots of others don't, as their reality is more positive. Or they're more resiliant to the negative. We each seem to…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 06:59 AM
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There's nothing coded into the universe stopping you from doing that, either. Though you become enough of an issue and someone, most likely some authority, would then work to put an end to whatever you're doing. But only because it's in their interest. Not because it's a law of reality. Not because there's a way that things are supposed/should be. If anything, with the frequency in which reality is cruel, painful and isolating, I feel as though there's more of an argument for the idea that reali…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 06:44 AM
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You're not supposed to be happy. You're not supposed to be anything. Plenty of people are born, have horrible, miserable lives, filled with pain, isolation and hurt, then they die. And that's it. There's no plan coded into existance to stop that happening, or even to make it unlikely. You might just be born, have a bad time, then die. Maybe it's harder to measure up these days and more people will have a bad time.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 06:25 AM
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It's going to be in how they act, the things they do, the way they talk to you. The way they talk about others and certain topics. Watch how they react when you do things for them. Do they seem as though they're truly grateful, or do they seem as though they feel that you SHOULD be serving them. Realisitcally, you're not going to know the very first second you meet someone. It might be a month into knowing someone. Maybe more. But over time, you'll start to see how they really feel about things.…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 03:00 PM
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I don't have an issue with things like this, just because it lets me know immediately who to cut out of my life entirely. The second I pick up on this kind of princess attitude, I deliberately never interact with them again. They're just bad people. I've had women buy me flowers and gifts. Those women are out there. Not that it's what I need as a partner. We actually spoke about how I couldn't afford to buy them things and that I'd still love them just as much if they didn't. They strill did, th…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 02:48 PM
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I think that's too much credit still. I doubt they even think of it on a scale like that. I feel as though it's more along the lines of "Tell me I'm right, or fuck off!" Just people looking to have their insanity and delusions validated by likeminded strangers on the internet. Take 2XC, for example. People there will say the most insane, schizo shit and have hundreds of other insane schizos patting them on the back, telling them how right they are and how the world is against them, then start a …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 10:57 AM
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I doubt they even really care, beyond the superficial. I doubt any of them actually do anything other than bitch online about stuff. In the same sense, the red pill subreddit, isn't really for debating alternitive points of view, it's for repeating the same thing over and over agian. Validating their own beliefs. You are right. If they wanted to gain support, change peoples minds, and become a larger, more powerful group in order to change the world, then they should do that. But it's just not w…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 10:48 AM
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People, for the most part, don't go onto reddit to have their ideas challenged. They go there to have their beliefs validated in an echo chamber.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 10:29 AM
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I've always thought of the Red Pill as simping, but angrily. The ideological acknowledgement that women are selfish, only care about you as far is it benefits them and will leave you the second they find someone worth more than you, and STILL devoting so much of your life to impressing and earning her desire is insane. If the redpill view of women rings true, the only sensible reaction is to say, "Those people aren't good enough for me, or worth my time." And disregard them entirely. ​ >inb4 The…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 07:23 AM
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My main worry with child sex robots would be the normalisation of sexualising minors. Before I could give the okay on that, I'd somehow need some pretty concrete evidence that it would infact LOWER the child abuse rates. If we could prove that the existence of such robots did that, I'd be hard pressed to think of a reason not to create them. But as I mentioned, I worry, and feel as though it would lead to more children being victimised in the long term.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 12:36 PM
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I don't really have many expectations for what the opposite sex should be doing. I know there's tendencies, but I don't meet all of the male tendencies either. So I guess I'd just be me, but a girl. Do I keep my build? Do I have to be a six foot god damn three girl? That could be rough. Actually, I wish more women were happy with being the breadwinner if anything, so I guess I'm not really who this question is for.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 07:06 AM
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I grew up in a really rough environment. Lots of violence, drugs, and crime. I was close with a lot of dangerous and violent boys. They ALWAYS had a few girls on the go at the same time. Even the boys who were quite unattractive looking. From the dealers to the debt collections. Always crawling with girls. I don't know what percentage of women would even want to be with boys like this. It could just be 10% or lower, but I do know that they weren't ever short of girls. Before I was arrested, I al…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 06:43 PM
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Optically, it'd be an absolute nightmare. Even if you were to hypothetically find a way to prove, beyond a shadow or a doubt, that legalising prostitution was a benefit for society, would you want to be the bloke out in the street holding up Legalise Prostitution sign? Who's going to be the first politician to stand up and start publicly working towards that? I know I wouldn't. The best you can realistically hope for is that they go easier on enforcing prostitution laws. It just looks too bad fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 02:52 PM
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I'm just kidding, it's okay. 🤜🤛
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 06:27 PM
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Well, I was never religious AND I don't even have a degree! Looks like I'm even less susceptible than you are! Checkmate!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 06:18 PM
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It's like how everyone views themselves as immune to propaganda. Understanding that everyone, including yourself, is influanced and changed by what they surround themselves with is, is actually a vital part of improving yourself. Which is why I hang around with all of you fine internet schizos. ❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 05:47 PM
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I might skew to the older side here, being 29, but I've noticed that people don't really change in any meaningful sense. Not under the surface. The women who want the bad boy archetype will always ultimately want that, even when they realise that it's not the smart decision. Be it due to age, or some other factor. They may decide that it's no longer sensible to go for those men and instead go for men who they find less interesting and desirable because they do something, like provide, which doen…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 10:50 AM
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Hot guys are desired because they're desirable. Rich guys are desired because their money is desirable.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 03:51 PM
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I met a girl a while ago, and I started to really like her. We talked all the time, and I could feel myself starting to fall, and obviously, she felt the same way. We met while I was doing volenteer construction for disabled kids at a school her neice was going to. Just like, installing ramps, hand rails, building play equipment and that kind of thing. She would start coming in more and more, just stopping by to talk and fuck around for a while. We were both falling for one another. Hanging out …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 07:50 AM
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I'm not into them because their values around love, sex and relationship differ from mine. But if you don't share those values with me, I imagine the casual/quick/easy sex is a positive.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 08:13 PM
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Ehh, I don't know. I love that shit where you fall for one another more and more and start sending paragraphs and paragraphs to one another until you're having to break messages up into multiple messages because you're breaking the character limit. Lets just stream of consciousness at one another. Girls seem to like that shit, too. In my experience anyway. Sounds like both these boys are just shit at texting. If she's people are into one another, they'll love the interaction. I used to straight …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 07:18 PM
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Not just in dating, but for life in general, it helped me to realise that most people just aren't worth my time. Meeting someone you should actually care about the opinion of and fall for is an incredibly rare thing. There's very few people out there who fit a boy like me, and I'm okay with it now. I'm not going to be everybodys thing. I'm not going to be 99% of peoples thing. But that 99% isn't fit to be my thing either. Weirdly enough, I feel as though more people like me now that I don't try …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 05:30 PM
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I have an interest in no one until I meet someone I really have a connection with. Which is really, really rare. I might meet someone I really fall for every 5 years or more. The odds of meeting someone that I have a connection like that with in a quickfire social setting designed to put pressure on people to form a connection is so unlikely that I don't even entertain the idea. It's why I also don't do dating apps or random approaches in public. It seems like a high cost, very, very low chance …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 03:36 AM
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I'm pretty sure that Millenials and Gen Z are having less sex than previous generations, though, right? Even in couples. So being that it was 20 years ago, that SHOULD mean that it's just even lower these days, I think. https://kffhealthnews.org/news/article/young-people-less-sex-than-parents-did-at-their-age-generational-shift-asexual/ https://www.acsh.org/news/2017/03/07/couples-having-less-sex-those-decade-earlier-study-finds-10958 Men seem way more likely to report no sexual partners, but wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 10:36 PM
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This study around sexual behaviour would suggest that the true median was around 6 sexual partners. https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/ad/ad362.pdf Well, between 4-8, anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 08:29 AM
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If trusting is "to have confidence in somebody; to believe that somebody is good, sincere, honest, etc." Then I feel as though I do. I do believe them. The vast majority of the time I'm vetting someone, I do already believe they're telling the truth. I just checked anyway. To be sure. I wouldn't even entertain having them in my life if I didn't feel they were these things. Could be that I really just don't trust myself. Ultimately, all my feelings about others come stem from me. If I don't belie…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 08:23 AM
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I just don't find trust to be all that trustworthy. I've trusted people as much as a person can trust someone in the past, and been hurt for it. I learnt that my feelings and emotions about a person, my trust, wasn't infallible. That my feelings told me very little about the reality of the situation. I really, truly believed with all my heart, and it meant nothing. I now know that my trust doesn't protect me from anything, I should protect myself by double-checking things as I think they are. I …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 07:35 AM
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Just to clear up, I'm not super close with these men. They're more acquaintances, really. I may as well fill people in on the story of the boy with the dead son. He was my dads best friend. Around a lot when I was a kid. He raised him for 18 years, the son he thought was his, the son over dosed, died, then the mother of the son tells him the truth, I guess to alleviate guilt? I don't know. He lived on my street, and I could hear him screaming and wailing when he found out. I was pretty young, yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 06:11 AM
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It's not so much that I'd think she's cheated, as much as beliving that it is technically possible that she might have, and before further potentially hurting myself, wanting to double check that I'm not making a fool of myself. Or ending up like that poor boy. I've been in similar situations with an ex partner. So, you could be right about it. I don't think my past partners would have been furious at me. She'd been cheated on in the past and was left really hurt over the whole thing. One day, s…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 05:06 AM
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Personally, I'd just get it done quietly and have the results sent to my parents house to avoid hurting anyone. But I see your point about hurting your partner. It maybe just bad experiences, but I've known three men that truly believed that their child was theirs, only to find out that it wasn't later on. All of those boys REALLY thought that child was thiers, a doubt most likely never entered their minds. And then their whole worlds fell apart. One of them only found out a week or so after the…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 04:36 AM
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Oh, sorry, I should have specified. This was more in terms of the paternity testing aspect.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 04:22 AM
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In terms of paternity testing aspect. Trust in the best intentions of others, but verify before putting yourself at risk. Do not doubt your partner, but independently affirm the reality. I can be sure there's no cars on the road before crossing, but I look both ways anyway. People here often say that others should just vet partners better to lower risks of being cheated on. Well this is part of vetting. No one getting cheated on knew they were getting cheated on, and a lot of those believed with…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 04:16 AM
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I fell in love with an American girl. Which is typical. It's so hard and rare to meet someone that you actually love speaking to and have that insane connection with, and they're 4000 miles away. The plan was for me to move over there, and the major issue people from the UK had with it was the idea that I would want to the US and instread that we should live to the UK together. The only problem they had was that they believed that she would have a better life outside of the US and in the UK. Oth…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 04:33 PM
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I'm seeing the same women from the "How Common is Cheating?" Thread, who were throwing out numbers as high as 70%, now saying that paternity tests are stupid and unnecessary. Funny.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 03:11 PM
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Depends on the circumference of the circle, I think. I next to NEVER hear boy friends talk about themselves/other boys with anything related to sex. Nothing from who/what/where/how many. Nothing at all. Now, my previous relationships have all had conversations with me about body count. Not in an autistic "how many have you slept with" sense. But just though talking about how we feel about sex, love, and relationships, the number has come up. Generally, I'm only really attracted to girls with sim…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/24 10:05 PM
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https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/ad/ad362.pdf This study around sexual behaviour would suggest that the true median was around 6 sexual partners. Well, between 4-8, anyway. So, if this is accurate, 10 WOULD BE sleeping around and hooking up a lot. It would be nearly twice the average.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/24 08:17 PM
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Honestly, the real answer is "just don't worry about it." I'd go as far as to say, 100% of people using terms like "the divine feminine," in a genuine, earnest sense, are absolutly batshit and should be avoided at all costs. Just be glad some crazies walk around with a big "I'm a crazy person!" hat on, so that you can identify and disregard them more quickly. You're looking for logic, reason and good moral code where there just isn't any. Boys should know that any girl beliving in that shit is a…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 05:52 PM
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I think it speaks for itself that I can just say "Never Again." and every single guy knows exactally the feeling in the pit of their stomach as their heart sank from just those two words. Most likely they can recall the exact situation where those words trampled through their fucking skull like they were Mufasa in the canyon. From having it used against you, to having to apologise because you upset them by talking about it, to that palpable feeling of just 'icking' youself in their eyes. Every g…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 09:00 PM
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Are relationships only valid if they end up married? The intent is irrelivant? Is a marriage even valid unless a couple dies while married? Surely it's just a schrodinger's cat of a marriage until you know whether two people will live out their entire lives in the marriage, no? By your measure, it could only then be called a commitment. >I didn’t call anyone a slut here >Where did I accuse you of treating her like a “slut” or any of the other blibber blabber you made up? >That isn’t the same as …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 09:43 PM
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Oh, fuck no. Half the people here are insane, the men and the women. I was just talking to a woman who believes that my ex was a slut and my mistress for having been in a multiyear commited relationship with a man (me) she intended to marry, while I intend to marry her and while she was living with after having one previous boyfriend/sexual relationship. ... And that no one would have ever been in love with me if I wasn't 6'3. If I let this place influance me, I'd start a gender war tomrrow.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 07:35 PM
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Without commitment? We were living with one another and exclusively romantic with one another through the entirety of our relationship with no intention of ever not being in a relationship with them. Commitment is not marraige dependant. Pleanty of people get married with far less commitment than I gave. And I gave my entirety, which is what I believe a relationship should require. Also, we did intend to get married, as it was something that was important to her. I had full intentions of marryin…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 06:49 PM
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I never really put much stock in marriage. Growing up, I never saw that marriage ever really meant anything. I'd see people in marriages cheating all the time, arguing all the time, being distant and uncaring toward one another. Marriage always just seemed like a think people did in order to have a giant party and buy a bunch of expensive stuff. Marriage seemed almost entirely unrelated to things that I found important. I never saw a difference between the married couples and the couples who wer…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 03:57 PM
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How so? Edit: It might be worth noting that I posted a long response to the OP, that might be of intrest for this.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 03:44 PM
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I wouldn't call them "inexperienced women," I think it's more just women with simmilar vaules to myself concerning love and relationships. I take sex and my romantic relationships very seriously. I don't sleep with a woman unless we're in a relationship and have developed real feelings towards one another. I've had plenty of offers, but I've only been with two women and kissed three. All three of those were in relationships. And I'm near 30 years old now. In the same sense, I do a lot of volunte…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 02:45 PM
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I mean, the more you meet *people*, the more you realise that they're basically all the same. Most boys I know are like most boys I know, the same way most girls I know are like most girls I know. At the very least, these people are just fitting into like, 4 or 5 general archetypes. It just makes it all the more special when you meet that one person that really clicks with you, it's just a shame that they come along so very infrequently. At 29, I've only found 3 girls that were special enough to…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 11:49 AM
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Depends on what you value. Personally, I was raised to be entirely independent from everyone. I manage myself and clean up after myself. I don't like letting others do my housework for me, mostly because they do it wrong half the time. I've dated broke girls that didn't do much and I've dated rich girls with tons of money that insisted on doing everything, up and including paying for my things. For me to fall in love, you just have to have a meshing personality, match my humor, make me feel love…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 04:11 PM
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If your partner got into an accident as was left with no way to please you sexually, would you fuck other women, even if it distressed her greatly to do so? Would you also let other men have sex with your wife if you were left entirely unable to do so? Would you still value your relationship if she were to do so and it distressed you greatly?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/24 11:48 AM
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Nah, it's okay, mate. I can't speak for everyone, but personally, life has been really hard and bad. Lots of poverty, violence, betrayal, sickness, pain, worsening mental health as everything gradually gets worse. I understand I've had it particularly bad, but in my experience for every 100 things that happen in life, 95 of them are bad, and 3 of the good things are just bad things you didn't realise were bad at the time. I can't do that to someone else. I don't want to risk bringing someone int…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 07:41 AM
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It's not really something I consider for myself, the way life has gone, I've decided I just don't want kids anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 09:31 PM
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Personally, marriage just seems stupid. Legally speaking. I don't want some government authorities sticking their fingers in my relationship. I want to be with someone because I love them, not because I'm contractually obligated. I'm not going to love you MORE because we signed a document. If you want to do a cute little ceremony thing, that's cool, but leave the government out of it. That being said, I do think markers of another are cute, though, so in relationships, I'll wear something of the…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 08:00 PM
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I imagine it's something to do with how it's easier for women to succeed socially. They're brought up more socially and hold a strong ruling over sex and relationships. I very rarely see a woman with truely zero in her life. But it's not uncommon to see a man with no relationship, no friends, no social life what so ever, who has nothing.Both in real life and online. If a person fails out of university, then ehh, you know. It happens. It's hard. If a person fails out of 5th grade, then there's so…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 01:39 PM
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God, I fucking hope so. And I hope we get QT AI GFs too. I'm so fed up of constantly being let down, disappointed or hurt by every fucking one. Not just girls, but boys too. I've had the shit kicked out of my soul by 99% of people I've cared about. The day I can rewrite my whole social life in Python, is the day I'll stop being a 3/10. It's about time I went on a cute date with EDI from Mass Effect.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 06:30 PM
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I don't know about jealousy, but as a 6'3 guy, when someone taller than me comes into the room, they're getting the side eye. I have no idea who these mother fuckers get the gall.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 05:56 PM
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She's bragging to you, her partner, about how many people are approaching her to sleep with her? That would be enough for me to start mentally disconnecting itself. I would not want to be with someone like that. I know my partners would have been repulsed if I'd come back and started telling them about all the girls who wanted to sleep with me that day. I mean, girls, would any of you tollerate your boys comming home and saying shit like, "Soooo many girls wanted to fuck me today!" Let alone tel…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 12:37 PM
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Approaching, in general, is a losing bet. Even if you're attractive, you're getting rejected the vast majority of the time. Most people, the boys and the girls, don't want strangers coming up to them in the street and forcing conversation. It's awkward. I don't fucking want that. Leave me alone. If you have a purpose for talking to me, sure, but not because you want to fuck me. I'll should have prefaced this by saying that without a strong emotional bond, I don't want to fuck a girl anyway. If t…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 07:07 AM
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Just to jump in, "enjoying one's own company" is not the solution. Humans have certain needs. If those needs are not met, they deteriorate. For example, a person who is socially isolated will have a far greater risk of dementia, heart disease, and strokes. In the same way, going without food or water causes physical deterioration until death, isolation causes mental deterioration until death. Now, we could say that men should he fine with platonic friends, but that wouldn't take into account how…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 06:57 PM
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I've always done both roles. The from the DIY and heavy lifting to the cooking and the cleaning. For one, because I had to. No one did those things for me. And two, I want to be reliant on no one. If life has taught me anything, it's that everyone will let you down, stab you in the back, and drop you once they've gotten what they want. It's probably not healthy, but it's my reality. The only person I know I can count on, is myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 09:02 PM
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For a lot of women, dating a man in her level is viewed as settling.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 03:53 PM
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That's fair. FI've met a few. Some really horrible ones. There's probably some kind of male equivalent, like a guy who thinks a woman is crazy because she may have negative emotions or something along those lines.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 11:35 PM
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Yeah, I'd agree that not all emotions are acceptable to put on a partner. I helped my ex with some really heavy emotional shit to where I'd take care of her for days at a time until she got better. But if she'd come at me with, "I want to hurt you because you're a different race to me." Or, "I want to cheat on you." Or something else extreme, I'm going to have a far less accepting and loving reaction. But I've heard women describe their relationship as a situation where men shouldn't put ANY neg…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 11:28 PM
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I think that's reasonable. But I've heard a lot of women use the "I'm not a therapist." When they don't want their partner to talk about his emotions to them. Or they don't want to be supportive emotionally. Which I would say is pretty vital in any relationship, for both men and women. I think a major issue comes around why we don't know what anyone means by what they say. For instance, "I'm not a therapist." Is often used in both the way I described it and the way you've described it and the wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 10:57 PM
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Did you honestly think I was referencing those women? Do you think there's a big crossover between a woman who believes there should be male only jobs, like the women I described and the women working the jobs you've described? Do you think it would be a bit silly if you were to make a post about the small minority of men who hit their partners, and I were drop in and declare, "I actually don't hit women! And I know of plenty of men that don't!" Because those particular men weren't the men being…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 10:42 PM
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Did you honestly think I was referencing those women? Do you think there's a big crossover between a woman who believes there should be male only jobs, like the women I described and the women working the jobs you've described? Do you think it would be a bit silly if you were to make a post about the small minority of men who hit their partners, and I were drop in and declare, "I actually don't hit women! And I know of plenty of men that don't!" Because those particular men weren't the men being…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 10:31 PM
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Christ. Relax. I know plenty of women who aren't like the minority of women I described. But I've also known plenty that do fit into the archetype I described. I think it's fairly obvious that the women you're describing aren't the same ones that I am. Also, just to be nitpicky, I used to do plumbing work where men would have to go down into the sewers and wade through the blockages of human shit while they blasted the blockages with such high pressures of water that it would splatter everywhere…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 02:59 PM
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I have always found it funny that I often hear, "I don't want to be your mom!" From the same women who essentially just want a dad to do everything they don't want to. Like how some women refuse to do anything labour intensive, or dirty, or so on. Everything unpleasant is man work. It's mostly just laziness and self infantilization under the guise of femininity. Honestly, to some degree, I think it's weaponized incompetence. It never bothered me because those types of women are nauseating anyway…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 02:16 PM
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I'm fucking 29 and living at home still. UK. I lost my 20s to taking care of my mother until she got better. Now I'm going to lose my 30s taking care of my grandparents because they smoked from the age of 13, refused to stop, are getting dementia from it, and no one else can do it. I could rent, but I feel like I'd be burning money then. Money that I'm short on anyway. I can't buy a house because I've only got ten grand in savings after struggling for ten years. If one of these bastards doesn't …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 05:01 AM
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I lucked out a little. And drew the short straw at the same time. I don't want to sleep with anyone until I develop romantic feelings toward them. I need those strong bonds that come with time. I've never seen a girl and immediately wanted her, relationship wise or sex wise. And the way, in my experience, I tend to fall in love like this. They start hanging out. They realise the other is fun to talk to. They start talking more and more. Then, it becomes constantly. Then it's doing things like fa…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 11:50 PM
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If that's how you think about relationships, do everyone a favour and stay out of them. You're making it worse for everyone else. If I have to explain love and how it feels to be loved, it's incredible importance and the staggering value it adds to a persons life, just don't bother, it isn't for you. We'll both be better off. People with this attitude SUCK in relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 11:13 PM
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Oh, that's great. I was worried that the gym and all that shit would be the hardest part. The being more social on communities IS the next step for him. Shit like Tinder and going up to random women and trying to get numbers or whatever is going to be BRUTAL for him. I wouldn't even tell most neurotypical men to do that kind of thing. Given enough time and enough improving himself, he'll meet a girl in one of these spaces and hopefully, they'll click. Meet people through friends and new communit…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 07:53 PM
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A woman? Ruining my life? Good luck, you goofy broad, I've already ruined it. 😎
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 05:30 PM
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I'm currently living with my mother again so I can be close to my grandmother's who both need care now they've gotten old old. They were both SUPER babied by their husbands. Never worked. Never paid for anything. Never expended effort. Everything was done for them. From the housework, handling money, earning money, social stuff, medial stuff, business stuff, everything. It is excruciating taking care of them now. Literally crying because I had to go take care of dentist stuff before I could go t…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 05:17 PM
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I only sleep with women in long term relationship anyway. I don't like sex without a loving emotional bond. Before we've slept together, we talked about how we feel about having kids and all this stuff. I don't care, I could go either way. I see the pros and cons of both, even if I lean a little more toward not having children. We talk about it, mainly to make sure she's feeling okay and not alone. Then she takes one of those pills and goes home so I can support her emotionally. I've done this o…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 03:25 PM
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I'm really sorry, it's heartbreaking to hear. I used to worry a lot about my brother, and he's not even autistic, I just know how brutal the world can be, and I'm a big worrier, but he turned out great. It's not about being prey. It's about women being put off by autistic men. There's not much he can do to combat that neuro divergent way he is and women's general aversion to it. A lot of what it means to be noticeably autistic almost seems to be the antithesis of what women are attracted to. The…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 03:05 PM
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I think it's more the willingness to learn things you don't know because of the desire to not rely on anyone. The chores thing weirdly tracks for me, too. From cleaning up and taking care of housework to playing with our animals, my partners have LOVED that. I'm really good at cooking, and I enjoy it, so I do all of it. We eventually had to discipline ourselves not to run off and sleep with one another mid way into cooking because we got fed up with eating burnt food.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 02:39 PM
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I don't know if I'd call it Bad Ass, but compitance in women is a MAJOR turn on. My ex was a fire fighter for forestry brances, did shit like repelling out of a helicopter into a burning forest, a tree surgeon going up REALLY high trees with a chainsaw, worked with animals in volunteer animal rescue, which was actually how we'd started to fall for one another as I'd also do a lot with animals. But she carried that into her life as well. Got everything done. She was going to school for a huge mat…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 04:24 AM
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Ahh, fuck that. Fuck the games. Fuck the rules. Fuck what people think and fuck what you're supposed to do. Granted, I'm getting off a little easier, as I don't want to fuck anyone until a strong romantic bond is formed and that happens gradually, but here's how I do it. I meet someone, we become friends, we text, and text, and text, and we talk, and talk, and talk, we get closer and closer, we fall for one another and fall in love together. Fuck all that, wait a day to answer a text so you don'…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 08:14 PM
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That dad sounds like a cunt prick. Jesus Christ. What the fuck? Even if it's just a joke to cope, you're going to do that and risk the dying woman you love most hearing something like that? Assuming you mean she's GOING to die and isn't already, but still. I'm a bloke. But I've had an ex who was really scared of being cheated on. I just look at it like this. Everyone has worries, insecurities, and things they struggle with mentally, shit that makes them spiral, and sometimes they're mid spiral. …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 07:33 PM
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God, I hope so. Because it's just that and being tall.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 06:48 PM
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Nah, I've always had an easy enough time making both dudes and girls laugh... given that they're my type of social group. And I'm tall, but no one's looking at me and thinking, "Wow! I bet he's tough!" That gym dude could have beaten me up easy. So could most guys shorter than me, I imagine. I'm very obviously not a threatening guy. I'm also broke and live at home still, at 29. Other than being tall, I don't have much going for me. People really appreciate someone who can make them feel good.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 05:51 PM
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Pure anecdote, but I'm 6'3. 6'4 with my boots on. Not jacked or anything. But there was this 5'9 or so guy that was gym huge, thick thighs, six pack, and all that. And he would try and try to get my exes' attention when we first met. He was pretty handsome, too. I don't even know how much my height played into it, but I could make her laugh and laugh, so she'd always hang out with me, and eventually, we got into a relationship. She would talk about how he made her uncomfortable for a bit before …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 05:25 PM
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Pure anecdote, but I'm 6'3. 6'4 with my boots on. Not jacked or anything. But there was this 5'9 or so guy that was gym huge, thick thighs, six pack, and all that. And he would try and try to get my exes' attention when we first met. He was pretty handsome, too. I don't even know how much my height played into it, but I could make her laugh and laugh, so she'd always hang out with me, and eventually, we got into a relationship. She would talk about how he made her uncomfortable for a bit before …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 05:19 PM
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People don't REALLY ghost because they're afraid of a psychopaths coming to kill them. They do it because it avoids an awkward situation, and the level of social distance there I between us all now with the Internet, it allows us to act selfishly without any concern for the other person. You COULD explain yourself in an awkward conversation that you don't want to have, or you could just dip out and leave them holding the bag. Sucks for them, but saves you. It was never about safety. That's just …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 11:52 AM
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I'm more talking in reference to my multiple year long romantic relationships, my multiple year platonic relationships, and my familiar relationships. I've had the opposite complaint, been told by people that I don't share enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 10:05 AM
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I take sex and my romantic relationships very seriously. I don't sleep with a woman unless we're in a relationship and have developed real feelings towards one another. I've had plenty of offers, but I've only been with two women and kissed three. All three of those were in relationships. And I'm near 30 years old now. I met a girl a little while ago, and I started to really like her. We talked all the time, and I could feel myself starting to fall, and obviously, she felt the same way. Then I f…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 01:56 AM
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I don't have a solid reason to believe this, but I'd imagine that an AI would be less likely to focus on a person's physicality and more on their personality. Then that would be better for people who're physically unattractive but mentally attractive? I can't quite put my finger on why and be sure of it, but my gut points me in that direction. I guess people who're ugly inside and out would be fucked anyway. Useless Well, getting dumped by an AI GF would definitely give me the humiliating get-up…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 02:24 PM
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I think how reality is, how the entirety of my life has been this way, and how my brain has developed around the knowledge that dogs are so far below humans in regard to thought and consciousness that a true relationship is impossible, even if a magical white woman wizard snapped her fingers an made dogs able to think, communicate and experience life on the same level as a human, I still wouldn't be able to. There's also a level of repulsion I feel in regards to sleeping with any animal that mak…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 01:59 PM
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I was sure that was going to be a HK-47 reference.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 01:01 PM
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I'd argue that it's more about one's ability to communicate and understand concepts at that point. So I'd need to know that it can do that to at least our level. Where it's forming its own complex thoughts and opinions, as a human would. For instance, a big part of what made me fall head over heels in love with my ex was how we could talk about things for hours, deep topics that required us to stop and think, to change one anothers minds, make one another genuinely laugh and both of us really fe…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 12:56 PM
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It's not entitled related, but if we were able to prove true, human level consciousness in AI, I could fall in love with one and wouldn't think less of anyone who did, whether they were a boy or girl. I'd think of it as falling in love with an alien, but from this planet. Provided we could find a way to do that, we don't even have a way to measure consciousness in humans yet, though... but maybe that just means that falling in love with an AI isn't all that different to a person already. Be the …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 12:46 PM
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Thank you for proving my point.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 11:39 AM
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I don't think you can have good sex without an emotional attachment. Personally, the emotional attachment is what makes sex worthwhile in the first place. And through asking other men, they've told me the same thing almost verbatim, other than a small amount of them. I don't think, in general, that men are hitting 40 amd leaving their Wives to chase some 25 year old. Does it happen? Undoubtedly. But is it anywhere close to being enough men to tar men with that particular brush? I'd struggle to b…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 11:38 AM
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I don't know if I'd go as far as to say "lie" to them, but I've definitely realised that I need to hide certain things to some degree. Not just with women and romance, but also men and people in general. No one wants to hear about things like child abuse, depression, struggles I haven't overcome, and so on. If I want people to want me around, they have to see me positively. And letting them know my flaws makes me a liability. No one, not even men, wants to deal with that kind of man. I'm a worse…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 11:26 AM
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I don't know if that's true, I suspect it's the vocal minority. Or maybe those types of men are more likely to be in this place. But I CANNOT fuck a girl if I don't at least come close to have fallen in love with her. The thought of even kissing someone someone I'm not heavily drawn to is off putting. Like kissing an aunt on the mouth. I've only been with two girls, both long term, multiyear relationships and I'm 29. I've had plenty of offers, things like girls wanting to you to come over, invit…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 10:35 AM
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I think a lot of girls misunderstand a lot of boys situations here. Men generally aren't forming deep, meaningful connections with people due to a lifetime of conditioning for social and societal reasons. The only people men are connecting with on that level are their romantic partners. Without these deep connetions with others, life becomes meaningless. We need social connetions like we need food and water. And unless we're boosting AI to a level where we can universally agree that it's now a t…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 09:58 AM
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I mean, they can, but generally I don't feel as though they do, in comparison to the avarage woman. If we take physicality as an example, as we're going off of "pretty." The avarage woman rates the avarage men in such a way as that she finds the man below average in levels of physical attractiveness. With a 4.1 out of 10 being the median rating. Where as the avarage man rates the avarage woman as truly avarage, with a 5.0 out of 10 being the median rating. https://dkras.substack.com/p/sex-differ…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 11:44 PM
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Nah, not really. People in general don't really care about society in the face of their own personal gain. As long as they didn't feel said collapse was affecting them, no one cares... Generally. Down the line is some other fuckers problem. In case the case of us going down the same route as Japan and having the 2 parent household dying? Oh, I bet things would change societally, in a pretty big way. But not in a way that would be positive. We'd just go down the route Japan has. With suicides goi…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 11:36 PM
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By the standards of men, women have incredibly high standards. Most men would be happy with a not fat girl who was sweet, kind and made them feel loved though words and physicality. Compare that to, even your own descrition of low standards. Money, sucsess, has created a good life by themselves already, height. And probably a little more if we're being honest. Most guys are just looking for a girl who's pretty, a personality click and is good and loving to them. That's it. Even in regards to the…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 11:22 PM
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Women don't NEED to do anything. They're holding all the cards. I wouldn't expect them to even the playing field for nothing. As is, a woman can most likely get a guy who makes more money than her, or just have a happy life without a partner and making her own money because they're raised to have deep social connections with others. Due to a myriad of social and societal factors, men don't have connections that go that deeply outside of romantic ones. In a sense, men their entire lives, other th…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 11:13 PM
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I'm a guy and I don't date like this. But, if I did. I wouldn't want to have sex with a girl on the first date. I'd want to get to know eachother for a while before starting a sexual relationship. I just wouldn't want to have sex with someone that I didn't have a strong romantic connection with, which won't happen without time. Honestly, if a girl wanted to have sex within a day of meeting me, I probably wouldn't see a relationship with her as a thing I'd even want.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 07:13 PM
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Something about this is making me REAL mad and I don't know what it is. You best cut this out, Pal.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 07:00 PM
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You're right and wrong. Worth is subjective. Others will decide what you're worth to them, and you will have your own worth to yourself, though you may have little control over that. Also, different people will value you differently. A dirty, old rope isn't worth anything to most people. But to a drowning man, it's the most important thing in the world. I wouldn't be so childish as to suggest that the only persons value that matters is your own, as the way others value you will have a HUGE impac…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 05:38 PM
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Whether she expects you to pay for her or not is also a great way to filter out bad women, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 12:55 PM
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I do that. I don't think it's uncommon for both sexes... the name feels a little unnecessary, though. I've had offers for one of sex and friends with benefits situations but never taken them up because the thought of having sex with someone I don't have strong romantic connections and bond to is off-putting. I'd go as far as to say, I'd rather be alone than sleeping with someone I don't have feelings for.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 12:13 AM
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I have noticed that LGBT people tend to be sleeping with a LOT of people. Though, not to be rude, they are NOT the types of people I would want to have sex with, even if I were part of those groups. It feels more as though the incredibly promiscuous LGBT members are bottom of the barrel that fuck anything from morbidly obese people with personality disorders to drug addicts that haven't bathed in weeks. It feels as though standards just drop to absolute zero, and you only need to be willing to s…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 07:51 PM
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Humans have made our comfort zones so strong and self sustainable that we can't get out of them. Like fortresses that used to keep us safe, but now we can't find our way out of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/23 04:06 PM
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I don't really care about either side of this debate, but come the fuck on, bro, lol. Look at you, you've got a better body than EASILY 99% of men you see walking the street. You talk like you're some kind of dumpy 3/10. Sure, you can be 5'5 and fuck 5/10 and below women if you have the body you have lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/23 01:46 PM
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I don't know if it's like rape or whatever. But I've ALWAYS felt absolutely gutted for those poor girl who end up having their husbands of fucking, 16 years or something, come out as gay. Then you watch this boy get called brave and showered with praise and admiration. I've always felt as though they should be ashamed of themselves. Like, dude, you spent 16 years of this poor girls life convincing her that you love her and find her beautiful. How fucked up does this leave the poor girl? The deva…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/23 08:26 PM
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All my life, I felt as though I was an inconvenience and that no one really cared beyond their career obligation. Life wasn't about what people could do for me but about what other people could get from me. No one was there for me. It was just me. If I wanted, I had to do it. If I needed help, I better figure it out myself. I never met anyone who wanted to teach me things. I'm not to be saved, I'm to be used by others to save themselves. I don't know if it's the same for girls, it might be, but …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/23 06:49 PM
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Most women want SOMEONE with money. Having money and having a man with money are different things. Everyone wants money, but they're referring to a partner with money with that saying. Personally, I wouldn't date someone who had an interest in my money beyond being able to take care of myself. But most women are going to look for someone with excess money. Whether most women get that or not is another story, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/23 09:06 AM
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Autism is a spectrum. The further down that spectrum you are, the harder it's going to be. There's also other factors to consider. Perhaps the degrees of autism make it harder for them to do the things that make one attractive. Such as going to the gym. I imagine one thing autism makes more difficult is starting/maintaining a social life. Even more so, a social life that involves women.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 09:59 PM
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As much as I'd love to bask in the praise, I feel I should say, I'm not really 'jacked', I just try to be strong. And I'm not really ambitious, I hated career stuff. It just bored me. Instead, I poured all my time and energy into animal rescue, which pays literally zero. But I cared about it a lot. It's not super relevant, but I feel like a fraud, having people think I'm a jacked rich chad.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 07:58 PM
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I just want to jump in on the "receiving minor to zero praise for this" part. I think the stay at home partner should get thanks and praise. So should the working partner. I disagree with this notion that just because we're SUPPOSED to do something that we don't need thanks for it. Back when my past partners had been in school, working, or taking care of chores, I've always made an effort to praise them for what they do. Let them know you applicate them. Life is hard, and I love them. Demonstrat…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 07:49 PM
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It's probably worth noting that I've also been a stay at home partner. I'm just really good at it, I love cooking, I NEED my spaces to be clutter free and clean, I also grew up pretty poor, so I learned how to fix and build things a lot. So I could always manage things around the house, I have a good grasp on basic plumbing, electricals, and construction. Also, being 6'3 and working out a lot, I could always do the heavy lifting. Nothing was too much for me... Within reason, anyway. But I think …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 04:19 PM
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I think most women wouldn't want to be with a house husband. I think women understand that being the soul breadwinner is a LOT of stress and hard work, and they don't have to do it. Both in their social expectations and relationship options. I think most women understand that they could simply get a better partner very easily, in comparison to the house husband. Whether that's fair or not is another question entirely, but I think that is the reality of the situation. I also imagine that a LOT of…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 03:50 PM
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Who would want to right now? I spend all my time working, then the cost of everything bleeds me dry, I hardly ever see anyone, and it's been two years since I've even thought about dating because I have no time. And it's so far down the list of things I need solidified in my life before I can even THINK about if I'd want kids. I have no time, no money, no home, one friend and no plans on dating any time soon, I'm about to hit 30 and now my grandparents because those idiots smoked 2 packs a day s…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 03:42 PM
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Bloke here. This shit is totally normal for both sexes. Granted, I don't fall to pieces because a woman is attractive, but I also don't want to have sex with anyone unless there is a strong emotional bond forming/formed anyway. And that happens gradually, so you're both expressing a little more interest as the other does the same, so you snowball with one another. But when you both start falling for one another, at least in my experience, you don't have to hide it or recover. You're both giggly,…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 11:53 AM
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I clicked this thread, all ready to argue with tooth and nail that Android is the superior mobile OS.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 05:57 AM
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It's the closest approximation I could think of. I guess, hypothetically, if we could reverse the roles somehow, to where the mother doesn't know if the baby is 100% hers or not, I would say the same thing. Even if there wasn't a doubt in her mind, press the button and be 100%. It would be no skin off my nose and provide her with more comfort and security. Even if it were just .00001% more.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 07:28 PM
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If your partner was presented with a magic button, and upon pressing that button, they would know, with 100% certainty, that you had been faithful to them and your relationship and you would never know about this button, they would press it. And they would be stupid not to. Even if you're as sure as you could possibly be, being 100% certain is better. You would be an idiot to turn down the harmless opportunity to be certain. If such a button existed, I would encourage my partner to press it for …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 06:29 PM
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It would be a major red flag that might even make it impossible for me to want to be with her anymore. I hate the 'job interview' style of dating we have now. Where I have to verbally dump a resume of my pros and cons. What you get and the cost. Just get to know me for a few weeks. See if our personalities mesh, if you fall for me and how we make one another feel. Know me as a person, not as a list of stats and numbers. It's just a huge sign that we don't have similar views on romance, love, and…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 07:15 AM
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It doesn't need to be every piece of media that changes us. But we will all be influenced by something at some point. She may not have been influenced by GOG3, but maybe she was by some other movie or book. Maybe Titanic influenced her views on love. Or Animal Farm inflianced her views on egalitarian societies or so on. it's not really always about "telling" as such. It could be more about motivating. Or presenting a differing worldview. If it's the more geared toward younger audiances that you …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 02:25 PM
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I would agree that stories don't affect adults in the same way they do children, but it's not as though adults are beyond stories affecting them and their behaviour. For instance, after the release of Guardians of the Galaxy 3, where they show pretty graphic animal abuse, there were a number of people talking about how they'd planned on going vegetarian and were making efforts to avoid products tested on animals. This was a pretty clear example of adults being affected by the media that they wer…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 01:41 PM
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It's pretty normal for people to look up to fictional characters and take lessons from make-believe stories. Take The Odyssey, for example. A hero's journey meant to impart life lessons, concepts, and ideas. Really, the Odyssey back in whatever-B.C., when it was written, was just the media of the day. Where as anime or whatever is the media of today. Should you get on a boat and go sailing to fight cyclops and kill gods? No. But learning to be strong, independent, wise, and driven are good lesso…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 12:52 PM
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If the father leaves, it's not him hurting the child. It's the cheating partner who's hurting the both of them. 100% of the fault lands squarely on the shoulders of the offending cheater.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 07:12 AM
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Women don't like a man who isn't a Winner. A man who's on top. Getting cheated on is not being a Winner. No woman wants to save, fix or improve you. They want a finished product. Telling them that you're broken will only drive them away. Women get to be loved and cared for when they're victims. Men get disregarded once they're able to be victimised.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 03:07 PM
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I don't really give a fuck how any girl feels about me if I don't have feelings for her also.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 10:29 PM
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I feel as though I could never build romantic connections with an AI because I'd always have, at the very least, a little nagging feeling at the back of my mind telling me that it's not real. I know there's no way to truly measure a consciousness, but if there were and we were able to prove an AI has a consciousness at least on the level of a human, so I would consider them to be as alive as I am, I don't see any reason why I couldn't potentially fall in love with one and see them as at least on…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 11:05 AM
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I've had quite a rough life, with some really, really brutal times. Violence, drugs, crime, everything over the decades. I've been in the back of police cars quite a few times. I've been really depressed and sank into my aggressive, bully, fuck the world and everything in it thoughts. Took whatever I wanted and used being a big, 6'3 arse hole to do it. I've also gone through periods where I've put that behind me. I've done a decade of volunteering work for sick and stray animals. I've done volun…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 07:01 AM
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Probably not. Most likely, the men all these women wish would talk to them are the same minority of men. And we would just end up in a position where most women are still pursuing the same man, and nothing would really change anyway. It's not as though women would change their preferences because they're the one making the first move.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 01:35 AM
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Sex for sex isn't a fair exchange between men and women. I can't imagine viewing sex like this. I could never have sex with a woman who didn't simply want to have sex with me. How do you even WANT to have sex with a partner who's thinking of it as an exchange? The thought of sex with a woman who doesn't want to do it with me based on how into one another we are is nauseating.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 10:11 PM
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People don't really care. People have never really cared. In the same way, no one cares about body shaming when it comes to men. Or sexual assault when it comes to men. Ridiculing men due to their finances. Mocking men for not having sexual partners. Dismissing men with mental health issues or how people don't care about men being isolated and lonely. As a man, that's a quite narrow window of what you have to be. If you fail to meet that window, you're not worth acknowledging. Nobody cares what …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 05:53 PM
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I think it's just media nonsense. I've never been with a partner who didn't orgasm regularly. Not as some sort of childish brag, but it seems like a normal part of lovemaking. There were occasions with a partner where we had to be apart for long periods of time, and the first time we were together again, I'd finish before I'd have liked, but then we'd do other things until she finished. Then, after that one time we'd be back to normal again. I will say, though, I only sleep with partners that I'…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 11:05 PM
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I've noticed this, too. I think it's some sort of woe is me martyrdom in some people's minds. Where everything needs to be done in the most needlessly high effort, inefficient, overly complicated, unnecessarily difficult, and unpleasant way possible in order to make themselves the biggest victim possible. All logic, sense, and reason go out the window in order to exploit the opportunity to complain later. Ignoring the fact that they themselves did something stupidly against advice. A lot of the …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 10:10 PM
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Times are pretty shitty for a lot of people at the moment. But comparatively, women aren't really the ones that need to be worried about at the moment. They're doing a lot better than the others. Every other post here is women talking about how great they're doing without men, how fantastic their lives are, and how the male loneliness issue isn't something that bothers them because they're happy. You can't also be boohoo'ing about you have it just as bad if not worse. You can't have it both ways…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 09:28 PM
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Connections are what make life worth living. In more ways than just pleasure. For instance, those without connections to others have a massively increased likelihood of developing dementia and committing suicide. I'd argue that they don't feel entitled to it, but they still want it. You're asking why men feel entitled to a life worth living.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 07:04 PM
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I'm 29. I could fall in love with a woman in her 40s, but the odds of that happening due to us being from such different times would make it more difficult for that to happen. I wouldn't NOT give a chance to an older woman, but older women would just stand less of a chance due to us being such different people BECAUSE of our age. I've dated a woman in her 30s before when I was a bit younger.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 05:44 PM
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Hey, I never said they should. Everyone is out for themselves. Women and men.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 02:56 PM
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One thing to remember about life is that essentially no one cares about a thing unless it effects them. People claim to care about all sorts of stuff, but very few truly do. And those few that do end up getting chewed up and spat out by the rest. Women know about the male loneliness situation. But it doesn't affect them, so they don't care. I imagine men do the same thing with women. Telling you to improve, while it might seem heartless, is actually the best advice you can get in reality. No one…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 02:08 PM
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I think I'm a pretty weird guy. Once you speak to me, I'm pretty nontraditional. I'm 6'3, and lift weights, but that's about all the traditionally manly I have in me. I'm shy awkward, and the most socialisation I get is with stray animals I feed. I think it's just that I attract girls that like that kind of thing. I blush easy. All my ex partners have been the type to enjoy teasing me by making me blush. I think there's something unsuspected about a tall, gym going guy being like that that they …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 08:16 PM
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One of the more touching moments with my ex was her sharing her favourite AMVs with me. With both of us at 30, I thought it was really cute. I don't know the names of these bands, but I tend to like girls with that edgy avenged sevenfold taste, despite being far more normie myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 07:26 PM
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Do you feel as though having sex with a close friend would put that relationship on the same level as the relationship you had/have with the partner you were in love with?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 11:20 AM
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Have you ever been in love?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 11:01 AM
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A bunch of people think the earth is flat, another bunch of people are terrified of vaccines, some people believe school shootings don't actually happen and are just actors on the news, and even others who genuinely believe that literal demons from hell have infiltrated the government. We can ruin ourselves. We don't need help from some shadow organisation.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 12:50 PM
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It depends heavily on the groups you associate with. I don't want to fuck random strangers, that's gross. I only sleep with partners in relationships. I know a ton of boys who've openly said to me that sex without love and emotional attachment sucks and they'd rather not do it again. ​ I have posted content (I do specify that I’m not looking for hookups) in some NSFW groups. The amount of messages I get from men wanting to fuck that night or become a fwb is astronomical. You post in porn subredd…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 06:05 PM
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I've never found old people to be particularly wise at all. They're just the same as everyone else. Some are smart, most aren't. Some are repugnant, rude people, and most are fine. I've also witnessed a lot of superficial behaviour from older women, along the lines of the "just marry a rich man" sort of thing. Age brings wisdom if you look for it. Most people don't. A lot of them also give advice for life that would have been great, 40 years ago. But today isn't good advice at all, and it is oft…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 09:58 PM
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Better physique? Older Guy 1:1 Hard disagree. I'm 29 now, have you taken a look back through your hold highschool friends lately? Or looked around? Both the men and women are all fat as fuck. There's a handful that are good, but the VAST majority of girls I knew back then are REALLY overweight and most of the boys are too. ​ ​ Better social skills? Older Guy 1:2 Also, not really. The ones that were socially useless back then are the same ones that are socially useless now. Not much changed at al…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 12:39 PM
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> If you suffer from hair loss or can't be bothered to style it, buzzing it will make you look more confident and dominant, which women find attractive. I can't stress this enough, being bald does NOTHING to make you look dominant. It has nothing to do with being bald. It will not make you look dominant, it will make you look bald, lol. There are dominant bald people, but it has nothing to do with them being bald.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 12:30 PM
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A miserable little pile of secrets. But enough talk, have at you!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 07:58 AM
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I spent years in clubs, going on tour with rugby pkaying friends, seeing all the legitimately horrific women men would take home to hotel rooms. Or back to their places. Or get blowjobs from in some ratty little club bathroom stalls and the horror stories that go with it. I'm willing to accept that maybe I've been exposed to the worst of the worst, and it's coloured my view, but I don't believe that most men are much better than that. Especially seeing just how many matches legitimate 3/10 women…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 09:38 PM
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I'd suppose you're correct in a sense. They DO have standards for who they'll sleep with, but those standards are so low that 90% of women pass without issue. They're so low that I wouldn't personally consider them standards, but technically, they are there.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 09:14 PM
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They have standards, they're simply the wrong standards. Where as they chose to have sex with bad men as they have bad traits and see those bad traits as desirable (discounting women who were lied to), men's standards, in large part don't exists.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 09:01 PM
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I've always had the opposite experience. I'm not great socially, often I have no idea what to say unless I really know the person. I'm a shy guy who keeps to myself. I used to do a lot of work with animals. Strays, sick animals, that kind of thing, but even doing that I was by myself 95% of the time. That was my most social activity. I'm just not built for that But women have always been mostly willing to metaphorically take me by the hand and guide me through social stuff. More than happy to ta…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 05:17 PM
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Men shouldn't tap out entirely. They should just be more selective and prioritise relationships over banging ever girl they can. Men tend to go for quantity sex than quality relationship sex. If men didn't have shit nothing standards and would sling it up any pig with a bad personality, the dating situation wouldn't be in the position it is now. It's mens lack of standards that fucked everything up.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 10:28 AM
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I did the stay at home thing for a while, and I agree with you. I don't have kids either, though, so take that for what it's worth. I'd also say that if you're going to be a stay at home partner, outside of the cooking and cleaning, you also need to be able to do basic house repair, repair for plumbing, repair for very basic electricals, taking carwe of animals, yard work and other stuff that is slipping my mind. When my job was home, the whole home was my job. I also don't accept gendered excus…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 06:19 PM
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That's what I'm saying. That the average person is walking around, believing that the 10% myth is true. Not that the 10% is true itself, but it is true that it is commonly believed. I don't believe it, but even amongst normal people offline, I've heard the 10% estimate thrown around. I like the study simply to lend a little credence to the idea that the 10% number is often thrown around, not that the 10% number is true. But, even if the true number were only .1%, I would still be in favour of ge…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 04:36 PM
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I think we may have a misunderstanding. I'm not saying that the percentage of 10 is in anyway accurate. And to lend credence to that, I'd point to where I said, "It could be 50%. It could be less than .1%, we can't know." But I meant that the number where people generally fall, when questioned, is 10%. Right or wrong, that seems to be where people come out and feel is an acceptable, realistic percentage. And that's low ball, some say they feel it's around 30%. "Yet my interviewers invariably fou…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 03:48 PM
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I think you're confusing paranoia for the understanding of possibility. Paranoia would be hurting my quality of life, and the lives of people that I care about. I'm merely acknowledging possibilities. Mainly the possibility that I could be wrong in my trust and love of another. I'm not paranoid, I'm just understanding that there is a possibility. And I'd like to remove as much possibility for there to be something wrong as I can. To the extent where it doesn't add detriment to my life or the liv…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 02:01 PM
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Comparing being with someone to looking both ways before crossing a road sounds like a bad relationship. It's more of a way to convay that precautions protect and that you don't know when disaster will strike, no matter the likelyhood, because you can't always know everything. ​ If you can’t even trust someone, you have a long-term relationship with her not to commit paternity fraud. You might as well just reject everyone preemptively. I guess you could think that way about it, I wouldn't advise…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 01:29 PM
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You don't only look both ways only when a car is coming, you look both ways every time to make sure there isn't a car coming, then proceed. The reason is that humans are capable of being bad, in the same way that a road is capable of having a car driving through it. It feels as though you think you must either have blind trust in everyone or reject everyone preemptively. But that's not the case, a reasonable awareness of the possibilites in a situation is necessary and everyone should be doing s…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 01:06 PM
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But if someone does it more than normal, then you get called a hypochondriac for a reason. If someone is doing it on a monthly basis, then that’s paranoia. Well, yeah, but who's getting more than one paternity test for a kid? Or do you mean that it's not normal to have a test at all? I've seen numbers as high as 30%, and the accepted number is around 10%. But it's one of those things where you can't really know what the true number is. It could be 50%. It could be less than .1%, we can't know. E…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 12:59 PM
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No, but no one in their right mind would. Cheating is such a painful thing BECAUSE you don't expect it. It's also not about expecting the worst from somebody, it's about knowing how awful and treacherous humans can be. It's like getting a health screening. You don't get it because you think something is wrong, you get it to make sure that something isn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 11:57 AM
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You could always just get a test done without your partner knowing. Have the results sent to your parents' house for safe measure. If you have any concerns about it, letting it fester in your mind will only poison you and your relationship with your partner and child. If you ask her about it, you stand to hurt your partner and damage your relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 06:54 AM
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If you're a guy, your pictures mainly need to be of you out doing things, going places, and having friends. It's important that you're attractive, but if you're an attractive loner with no friends and stay in all the time, women won't be interested. Appearing successful socially is VERY important. If you don't have friends, no woman will be interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 09:35 PM
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Yeah, I think that is probably it. I try to pee after sex, but it's more like I can wait a while and then I go for my own health, but she would hop out of bed within a minute, pee, then jump back into bed. She was probably just more conscious of it than I was. Maybe getting an infection happens easier for women I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 07:58 AM
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I don't want to be overly crass, but when a partner is really enjoying sex, they tend to "relax" a little, then really tense up when orgasming, then relax again, rinse and repeat. Tensing up and "tightening" isn't even the best thing because it becomes hard to... I don't know if "fit" is the right term, but you do have to slow down a little so you're not hurting them. I think this is true anyway. It's not as though you could ask something like that after making love without hurting some feelings…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 07:34 AM
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Women who approach to interact with me have been more assertive and 'take the reigns' types. Which I love. All three times these women have come for me, we've ended in multiple year relationships. I think there's something about being a tall, gym going guy with a shy personality that more aggressive, assertive types of women tend to like. I don't know if more shy girls would even be the types to approach.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 09:11 PM
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Nothing in life worth having "finds you." That "love finds you" shit is all nonsense. Prince charming isn't real. No one is going to swoop in, take you on a whirlwind romance, awaken your every sexual desire, and propose. Not having friends is a bullet in the head for romantic relationships. MAYBE you can swung that if you're a girl. But being social is how people meet one another. If you're not doing that, it isn't going to happen. You MIGHT be able to salvage it if you're the one doing the app…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 08:17 PM
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Geography Is Destiny. It applies for everything in life, not just romantic relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 04:16 PM
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It's not really a discussion point, but I remember when I was younger and in bars all the time with my friends, there was this guy grabbing this girl by the arm, he's like fucking 6'2 and big. He's shaking her and yelling while she's trying not to look at him. Then this guy runs over and grabs the aggressive guy, and the agressive guy starts beating the shit out of him. Just wacking him with a hammer fist in the side of the head over and over. as the guy in hunched to one side. All the while, th…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 01:38 PM
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rdi7G1hY4-w
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 11:48 AM
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It makes sense. Being a single mother is a negative, generally speaking. So if we view humans as all on a scale of one to ten, having children will be a negative, and thus will subtract from that overall number. Now, assuming that people pair up with people of a similar value number, the single mother would be lower in value than she would be if she weren't a single mother, meaning she would have a less valuable partner than she would otherwise. Or maybe it's that a womans values change based on…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 10:39 AM
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I've got no numbers to back this up, but I've heard that the majority of the online Incel community is actually Indian guys. And to be honest, in my part of the world, mostly white, the Middle Eastern - South Asian community has a reputation for being more so "Show bobs and vajeen" types. I think you might be competing against decades of that Internet stereotype.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 06:55 AM
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It depends on how we're defining "nice." I was with a girl for two years, she had some issues I won't go into, but she, as most people with issues do, needed someone to be softer and more gentle with her while she was experiencing these issues. So, instead of getting mad, yelling, chewing her out or so on, I would make an effort to be calm, patient, and talk about how she was feeling. Sometimes for hours at a time. It would normally end with her crying, telling me she was sorry and how grateful …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 06:39 AM
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I'm in the gym at the moment, I can't recall the exact research, but I've seen numbers as high as 52% in the rate of affairs being had in relationships. Though it is worth noting that "affair" doesn't actually mean false paternity to be fair. But then again, rates of molested children probably aren't reported all the time. THEN AGAIN, neither are affairs. Fuck it, I don't know, everything is awful. But I wouldn't be bothered about any tests or anything better to be as scientifically sure in our …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 05:25 PM
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It seems like a weird thing to do, but assuming we find a way to ensure that there's no traumatic procedure for the child, and that they'll be just as okay as they were before, go for it. If we still love each other as greatly as we did, have a great relationship, and this is just something to give her peace of mind, why wouldn't I? Why wouldn't I want her to be positive in her happiness? What makes affairs so painful is that it comes from someone that you trust, I imagine this kind of thing als…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 05:09 PM
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It's most likely just an indication that there's something really wrong with you that makes you unappealing to the opposite sex based on the risk of ignoring that red flag. A handsome, social, charismatic guy with a nice smile who knows how to make people feel good, probably isn't a 25 year old virgin who's never been in a relationship. A 25 year old relationshipless virgin isn't the issue. It's the symptom of the issue. It's not game over, the game never started.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 01:02 PM
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This is like your 8th post raging about paternity testing, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 12:48 PM
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I guess men seek help when they're one step away from blowing their brains out. But I don't think that goes against the overall theme of what I said, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 10:06 AM
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So they got help, then killed themselves anyway?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 10:03 AM
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Men generally don't want help. Or maybe it's more accurate to say, men know better than to ask for help. Men who want help are seen as weak. Men who're seen as weak are seen very negatively by women, men, and society as a whole. People who are seen negatively are treated poorly. Men don't want to be seen as weak because they'll be treated poorly. If you're a weak man, the best you can hope for is to be ignored and unseen, instead of mocked and criticised. I was with an ex who'd hit me in the pas…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 09:59 AM
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I've said it a million times now, most men with sleep with anything, to the extent where a woman can't know how attractive she is just because a very attractive man will sleep with her. I don't know if some men truly are just slaves to their biology, but I have a feeling that a lot of men get their self-worth from the flat number of women they can sleep with. That shit doesn't change just because she's got a few wrinkles. If men will fuck a legitimate 2/10, who's a bad person, has a bad attitude…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 09:30 AM
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Money is just one requirement for modern dating. Often people are lacking other requirements, or lack requirements that allow access to other requirements. For example, the kindest, sweetest, most emotionally caring man is never going to be able to demonstrate those abilities if he lacks social skill enough to get close to a person in order to show demonstrate those skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 07:02 AM
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I don't know. If I was raised in a softer, more nurturing way like the girls were, maybe I wouldn't be so fucked up now.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 08:47 PM
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I don't know if we can use super models tier guys posting softcore stuff as standards for men in general, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 05:03 PM
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Who would care? In a relationship, I do send them to my partner, but that's because she cares. And she says nice things that made me feel good. Other than her, who would care to look at me? I don't mean that to sound so depressing. It's just that I can't think of a single person who would give a shit? It wouldn't be for anyone. I'm not ugly or anything, but it's just me. No one would care. I may as well just keep them and not post them anywhere. But what do I want pictures of myself for?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 04:53 PM
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It is okay that women are shamed for using men for free stuff. But I agree that is isn't okay for men to use women. I don't think that's cool. I don't associate with anyone who thinks that's cool. I don't even sleep with a partner until I'm sure I've developed serious feelings for them. I've cut off friends for cheating on their partners in the past. I've even got a family memeber I don't see anymore because they cheated on their spouse. SOME men are never going to stop wanting to use women for …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 09:33 AM
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Two wrongs don't make a right. The solution isn't for one gender to become worse, it's for both genders to become better. "An XYZ hurt me, so why shouldn't I hurt all XYZs?" quickly becomes "An XYZ hurt me, so why shouldn't I devistate all XYZs?" Which becomes "An XYZ devistated me, so why shouldn't I destory all XYZs?" A race to the bottom will kill us both. And if you want to die, kindly do it by yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 09:22 AM
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I'm hoping to hit Magos one day, but baby steps.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 08:03 AM
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I used to do a ton of volunteer work, lots of stuff for animals and construction for disabled kids, things like that. But in those places, you basically just talk all day while you're doing stuff. Cleaning up, carrying heavy shit, cleaning animals, driving places to catch animals or drop them off, that kind of thing. Very labour intensive, but not too much to occupy you brain. One of the girls I worked with were friends with her and asked about us spending so much time together. From there we ta…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 08:01 AM
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Damn, I'll have to try harder next time. 😤
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 07:31 PM
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I don't disagree. I've said it a million times, most men will fuck anything with a pulse. Some even just do it for some deluded idea of self-worth. As though each woman they sleep with means they're a better man than they were. I find it gross. I reserve sex for relationships, but that's just me. But is it really women's fault that so many men have such basement level standards? If men were more selective and held themselves to higher standards, we wouldn't be in the shit show that dating is in …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 06:57 PM
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I would imagine that a college degree is strongly correlated with the level of income an individual is earning. So they wouldn't mind no college degree, so long as this man has found a way to make money on her college degree having level, or greater than. If we were asking whether women would date below her income level, that might also give insight into the whole thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 06:49 PM
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Ehh, it's really hard to say. It's going to really depend on how we define "need." People in general are off put by desperation. That's a NEED for someone that repels people. People also don't seem to want to pick a person who isn't a finished product. In my experience, being distant and unneeding draws more people in, to a certain extent, as sad as that is. Not just for romantic relationships but all relationships in general. It could be misogynistic, but I imagine women generally don't want to…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 06:12 PM
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I care, but I take sex and my romantic relationships very seriously. I don't sleep with a woman unless we're in a relationship and have developed real feelings towards one another. I've had plenty of offers, but I've only been with two women and kissed three, all three of those were in relationships. And I'm near 30 years old now. Honestly, without the emotion and romantic aspect, I just don't have the WANT for sex without love in me. That being said, in a relationship, it's every day. Sometimes…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 05:17 PM
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So I'd start off by prefacing this by saying that not all men and women think the same way, and you're right, the people who claim "Women should pick better!" When they're hurt by their partners, but don't hold that same attitude towards men who get hurt by their partners, are in large part just hypocrites. But, the vast majority of men don't react callously toward women who've been hurt. The majority, at least in my experience, are incredibly empathetic. Even in extremes, where a man is obvious…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 01:55 PM
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Personally, I would be entirely checking out of the relationship mentally. Not even intentionally, I just wouldn't want to be with her anymore. I take my relationships and sex quite seriously. I once I broke up with a partner for suggesting a threesome with her and her female friend because it hurt my feelings that she would be totally fine with me having sex with another woman. It was a real eye-opening experience, I realised that she didn't see us the same way I saw us. It was clear that my id…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 09:27 AM
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It's more of a human issue than a gendered one. You are right. Women generally don't give a shit. But men who aren't lonely also don't care about male loneliness. Even men who are lonely only really care about their loneliness. Men also don't really care about women's issues either. I imagine the vast majority of women only care about women's issues as far as it affects them, also. Humans are selfish, self-absorbed, and only out for themselves, generally. You're saying, "I'm in pain, and women d…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 08:47 AM
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Ehh, a month isn't that long really. I just woke up and I'm making coffee now, so I'm sorry for not going SUPER into depth, but for example, a month isn't long enough for a woman to understand the true isolation and lonliness that can come with being a man, that takes years at a time to really break you down. In the same sense, a man isn't going to truly understand things like fear of strangers, or how it feels to be taken less seriously by virtue of being a woman, or the stress of picking out t…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 07:22 AM
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Most men with sleep with anything, to the extent where a woman can't know how attractive she is just because a very attractive man will sleep with her. I don't know if some men truly are just slaves to their biology, but I have a feeling that a lot of men get their self-worth from the flat number of women they can sleep with. If men could collectively develop a sense of self-worth and develop some sexual/romantic standards, a lot of issues in dating would fix themselves. But that's neither here …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/23 09:04 PM
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Oh fuck, I messed that up. I meant to say, "The thought of as sexual partner that I'm NOT very emotionally attached to is very off-putting." I'll change that in the post. Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/23 02:48 PM
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If you truly believe that women are like this, then the only reasonable answer is to never interact with a woman, ever. Unless it is 100% necessary and cannot be avoided. If this is what you think of women, then just stay away. It's not hard. (This lower section of the comment is a reply to a user who said, "Not really. Men have interacted with women for millennia. They just did so in a more logical and transactional manner. None of this, "you're my soulmate" BS. No deranged romance. Just pure g…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/23 09:57 AM
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I take sex and my romantic relationships very seriously. I don't sleep with a woman unless we're in a relationship and have developed real feelings towards one another. I've had plenty of offers, but I've only been with two women and kissed three. All three of those were in relationships. And I'm near 30 years old now. Honestly, without the emotion and romantic aspect, I just don't have the WANT for sex without love in me. That being said, in a relationship, it's every day. But the thought of a …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/23 08:53 AM
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I think the argument would be that they want to be appriciated for who they are. As in "who they are" IS "what they provide." I'd also like to draw a distinction between sex and love, as I'm refering more to relationships. It's easier for me to wrap my head around things this way. I don't know much about hook up culture and things like that. All these terms are quite nebulous, as we often can hear them differently than the person saying them means them to be heard. It makes these conversations d…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/23 03:05 PM
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While I would say B, just because, while so many people, both women and men, would likely be great with a walking wallet, body guard, manual labour caretaker, I would also point out that a TON of women would love guy A. As a guy who (used to) paint his nails and did a LOT of volenter work taking care of animals for charity, plenty of women love that stuff. Aside from the question itself, I'd also point out, like with everything in life, the true perfect is in the middle. A partner who exibits th…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/23 02:01 PM
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Everything in life is luck, even your accomplishments. You luck out by being in a position in life to achieve what you achieve. For example, say you dream of being a pilot for a major airline, and two versions of you are born. One in California, to wealthy parents, with a good, strong, able body. The other, born in a brazilian favela, to a single poverty-stricken mother with a disability, you can't see colour. These are all things that you have absolutely no influence over. It's all luck on your…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/23 12:25 PM
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I prefer "partner", and I'm 29. I'll preface this by saying that I understand the words are interchangeable synonyms for one another, and these are just my feelings around particular words with no factual basis behind them. A partner is someone who has my back as I have theirs. We work together and help each other in everything we can. My partner is my other half, the person who helps me achieve more than I could have by myself. They're a perfect fit for me. They complete me. I take care of them…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 10:24 AM
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There are VERY few places in the world where traditional gender roles aren't expected of men. Where aren't men expected to be the breadwinners? Where aren't men expected to be handy and good with tools? Where aren't men expected to be strong? Where aren't men expected to be more repressive toward their emotions? Where aren't men expected to be the families' protectors? A major issue in modern society is that women had what they could be and what was expected of them opened up to encompasses so m…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 06:59 AM
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I'd change it from "pursue women" to "meet people" in general. Most adults struggle to expand their social group. A lot don't even have one at all. Everybody knows by now, third place yadda yadda, isolation blah blah, but it's still a MAJOR issue in a lot of people's lives and would solve a lot of pain. For a lot of people, the only time they meet anyone new is at work. And that's not exactly a ton of new people. inb4 I CAN MAKE FRIENDS EASY! THEY SHOULD JUST MAKE FRIENDS LIKE DO! IT'S EASY FOR …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 06:17 PM
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Yeah, I think you'd be correct, given a few things. It could potentially be very hard to turly know what the reason for success is. For example, say a person were to believe that having a huge muscles was the true way to get any woman, so he goes out and develops huge muscles in the gym, but in the progress, without realising it, he became incredibly confidant in himself, and the confidance began attracting women, but he believed it was the muscles. That could lead to him succeeding, but being i…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 12:39 PM
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It's probably something to do with it not coming naturally, so they're forced to examine and foucus on the finer details a lot more. For example, say there's a 6'3, handsome, jacked man with natural charisma who easily goes from woman to woman without ever having to try. As it comes naturally to him, he never has to consider why things are going this way, or has to focus in on the finer details of what it is that he's doing to sleep with all these women. But an avarage looking 5'8 man with anxie…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 12:23 PM
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The only possible way to interpret this, is that you're either trolling, or so utterly consumed by your own bitterness that you're beyond any and all reasoning. I have no idea which one is true, but I genuinely hope things work out better for you going forward.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 11:09 AM
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People are mostly just insecure and scared. Both men and women. A lot of people feel that they're not good enough, not attractive enough to be loved by someone. And they worry that they're going to alone, and in pain, unheard and untouched because no one will love them. Then a lot of that comes out as anger at the other side, or other people. A lot of us just sit in our own fear, and anger, and pain. Both men and women. The majority of posts in this sub can be phrased as "I am side Y, and I HATE…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 10:55 AM
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Nice people most of the time are people who are nice didn't had a hard life. I could just as easily say that a person who grew up with a hard life would be more likely to be callous and cold as a result of their life. I grew up in a VERY rough area of the UK. Very high poverty, lots of violence, drugs, theft, murders, rapes, you name it. We have it in spades. Everyone here has a hard life and there's LOTS of evil bastards here. There's also a lot of kind, sweet people. I've also known very rich …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 07:21 AM
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Depends on the life you've had. Most of us are more jaded and callous the older we get, which does reflect in all aspects of life, including love. At 29, I'm definitely less trusting, open, and willing to rely on others than I was at 19. At this point, I want to be truly self-reliant and depend on no one for anything because in my numerous experiences, it's always a bad idea. There are too many knives in the back, too many disappointments, and too many bad experiences to be the same as I was. Bu…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 12:59 AM
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That is true, there is a fair bit about lifitng and getting money, that's all really good advice. But in regards to the ideology on women, if what they say is true, then women are to be avoided at all costs. But I'm refering to specifically their desciption of women, their mentality and their behaviour, there is no reason to ever be with a woman ever. They are a negative and untrustworthy by nature. I'd liken it to scam artists. The more money you have, the more likely you are to be targeted by …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 09:33 PM
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There is a FINE, FINE line between exaggeration and lying.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 09:28 PM
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It tells you to do these things BECAUSE they believe women are awful. Never have just one woman you're loyal to, spin plates, because women are awful. Never live with a woman, because women will ruin your home life, because women are awful. Never marry, because you can't trust women, they will leave you for Chad and take all of your money, because they are awful. If you truely believe in what the Red Pill says about women, then the only sensible option is to cut them out and pay for pussy when y…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 09:27 PM
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The Red Pill in and of itself is a Black Pill on women. If women truly are when the Red Pill says they are, then only a fool would pursue women. Only a fool would knowingly love a woman who would leave for a man of higher status and wealth. If women are universally, by definition of being a woman, hypergamous, monkey branching gold diggers, then the only sensible option is to cut them off entirely from your life. The Red Pill is a Black Pill, depending on how you view relationships. Personally, …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 08:24 PM
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It's not about dating, but life in general here. For both my sons and daughters. Think of yourselves first, always. Be selfish. Do what's best for you, even at the cost of other people. With the way society has gone here, with the life I had, the people I've know, if I could do it all over again, I'd be a FAR worse person. By the time they grow up, it'll probably be even worse. Always look out for number one. Even at the expense of other people. Because that's what they're doing.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 11:43 PM
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I think it says a tremendous amount about you and all the people that this is true of, that your entire reason for wanting a relationship was financial in the first place. Your love for another hinged on the money. You were essentially a relationship prostitute. As far as I'm concerned, the fewer people like that getting into relationships, the better the world will be. Of everything, you never considered love, sex with a person you're in love with, sharing your day with that person, cuddling, h…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 04:03 PM
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Rap music is to blame!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 04:47 AM
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Is it possible? Yeah, it is. Will you do it? No, you're fucked. Look, it's the same way people don't have to be obese. They could simply go to the gym and eat less/better. But the vast majority don't. They continue to do the thing they hate themselves for, they know they shouldn't, they know what they should do, but they, for whatever reason, just can't seem to. It's human. All of our problems are easily solved in theory, but we have this habit of destroying outselves. Whether it's fear, or copi…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 12:39 AM
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It is purely anecdotal, but girls reaching out and making the first move is a super green flag for me, but I love aggressive, go getting chad women. When girls have reached out to me first, we've ended up in multiyear long relationships. I'm a shy, quiet dude, despite being a 6'3 lifter, so people don't often assume that. So these girls that are the types to approach are probably WAY more my preference anyway. Think what you want to of me, I don't fuck a fuck, my last two exs called me "Good boy…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 06:42 PM
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A person is no more committed in marriage than they are in a regular partnership.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 06:12 PM
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For that, I'd have to just say that the world is filled with hypocrites. Some women feel it is okay to hit men, but unacceptable for men to hit women. Some men feel it is okay for them to sleep around, but unacceptable for women for women to do so. And the list goes on and on and on. I would never knowingly be involved with someone who flirts with people other than their partner, but hypothetically, if I were, and they had issues with me doing the same, I'd sit them down and talk to the about ho…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 06:21 PM
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I suppose it's up to the couple in question. But personally, I would find it entirely unacceptable for my partner to flirt with someone other than me and would immediately end the relationship if I found out. Likewise, I find it incredibly distasteful and disrespectful for me to flirt with someone other than my partner and believe that they deserve better than to be with someone like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 05:50 PM
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Honestly, as much as I hate it, cheating isn't seen as that big of a deal these days. And it's replulsive. All all the couples I know, including family members, over half have cheated. If we're including people not in relationships as well, but have cheated in the past, it's WELL over half. 57% of men admitted to cheating in relationships, and around 52% of women also admitted to cheating as well. In 1990, the avarage rate of a married partner cheating was 10.5%, where as in 2010, it's 14.7%. I …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 12:32 AM
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You're right, but my issue with it tends to be that most often, the people using these terms have no idea what they even mean. The same way people use narcissist to describe someone they don't like, or trauma dump to describe two people sharing negative things with someone that they love, or love bomb to describe someone who's just loving and affectionate. All these terms DO have negative meanings that are real issues in relationships and life. But they're misused and end up attributing a negati…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 03:53 PM
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I guess it depends on the guy. Personally, I don't. I split. When we were in a relationship, we tended to take turns. I've never dated a girl who had an issue with that, even slightly. Shit, I've even had girls outright tell me that they want to pay for the whole thing, and end up wanting to pay for everything going forward, and both times that had happened, I was in a relationship with them for 2 years after that. I'm sure I'll get shit on for it here, but I think a lot of men don't have much g…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 01:23 AM
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I'm quite a shy, awkward boy. But the girls I've been with called it cute and enjoyed it. Especially me opening up and getting more comfortable with them as time has gone on. Some girls probably don't like it, but who cares? In all likelihood, I wouldn't like them anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 01:01 AM
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Nobody even knows what red flags are anymore. People hear Red Flag and assume that it must mean something bad, where as what a red flag is, is something that COULD be something bad and that you should pay attention to. For example, a man could have no job and essentially be at home constantly. This could be a red flag for someone who is lazy. But upon getting to know him further, you could find that he actually takes care of his sick mother and grandmother full time. You don't run at the sight o…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 10:47 PM
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I've always been a big proponent of not sleeping with anyone you're not in a relationship with. I think it would fix a LOT of issues in society if we reserved ourselves sexually for people we have strong romantic emotional connections to. Too many people, both men and women, seem to get involved with OBVIOUSLY bad, troublesome people and then seem to play the mislead victim when things turn around to bite them, as though it wasn't painfully obvious that they were making bad decisions from the st…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 05:30 PM
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For women to get success on Tinder, they simply need to be present. The quality of the profile is irrelivant. But that's not womens fault. Women could have a single picture of her and 3 friends so they couldn't distinguish who's profile it actually was, with the single line "I am a smoker" in the bio and men will still flock to her.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 04:58 PM
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Hey, I've been saying that for years. Tinder is a shit hole for men, probably for women too in other ways. But you know, if people insist on using it, what can we do? It is what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 03:58 PM
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Yeah, I mean, Tinder isn't fair. Women just need to be there and that's it. Where as men need to put in all this effort to even be seen, let alone picked and so on. Tinder is a shit hole for men, but if they insist on using it, it is what it is. I just think it's worth while to point out that being terrible as creating a profile and selling yourself isn't something unique to men and that women are just as bad at it. It's more of a human thing than a man thing. It's just that men tend to be the o…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 03:56 PM
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I agree with you that in the real world, relationships tend to go far more the way you describe them. But on Tinder and other online dating platforms, things don't go that way. The 80/20 rule is a real thing when it comes to online dating through these platforms.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 03:17 PM
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The vast majority of womens profiles are JUST as fucking terrible in different ways. It's just that men will tend to fuck anything that moves, regardless of profile. So women never know.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 03:15 PM
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BLOOD FOR THE BLOOD GOD!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/23 10:18 PM
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Anybody saying anything like this is a major warning sign for their whole personality. Betrayl of a loved one doesn't hurt less because of your gender. It can be equally devistating. For this, I'm disregarding the technicalities of pregnancy. Cheating, having a child and manipulating a man into thinking he is the father is obviuously worse. But I'm just making a one to one comparison here. No pregnancy. I suppose their COULD be an argument for men being far less likely to have an emotional suppo…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/23 10:25 PM
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At a certain point, being autistic as a guy just means you're totally fucked. No level of advice is good enough for you. Blue Pill, Red Pill, anything. It's all shit. There's just so many fine little details of social interaction that they don't seem to grasp that nothing will help. And women aren't going to look past that kind of autistic stuff in the same way some men will for women. The real advice is 'don't be autistic.' if you're a guy in dating. And if you can't be that, it's 'be less auti…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/23 09:44 PM
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We need RFID protected mesh lined underwear to prevent the women from knowing the status of our dick energy. If we can't detent their vaginal aura, they shouldn't be permitted to our dick energy!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 10:30 PM
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Nope, which made the jewellery making class feel a little weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 06:47 PM
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I should do my relationships that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 06:47 PM
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One time, I seeing a girl. She had to live farther away from me than we liked. I went to a mountain that meant a lot to me when I was a kid and as an adult. I spent a lot of time up there. It used to be an old quartz mine. I roamed around for a few days, looking for the perfect piece. Eventually, I found it. Quarts occurring naturally is pretty rough. Course and hazy, but it's also hard as all hell. Smoothing the stuff out by hand is an absolute nightmare, but I wanted it to mean something. So I…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 03:56 PM
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I'm glad that you're happy with yourself and you don't care how you look, but it doesn't change the fact that people treat overweight people more poorly than due to having a more negative view of them. The countless stories about how people who've lost a significant amount of weight feel they're looked at more favourably by society as a whole. Not only that, but this is already a well documented occurrence. I'm glad you're happy in a relationship. That's generally not the case for overweight peo…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 06:00 PM
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I'll preface this by saying that it's not personal desire, I don't sleep with a person until I have a strong romantic connection, I don't want to sleep with anyone that I don't feel I've fallen for and an dating. But that's not most men. I've seen men sleep with women that they have no attraction to. They just want to fuck someone. To the extent where they feel humiliation if someone finds out about it. In the same sense, prostitutes will sleep with men with zero attraction between them. Where t…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 10:12 AM
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I think the argument against this would be something like, "At least it's a prize instead of nothing at all." I think a lot of men who truly get zero attention, sexual or romantic, from women, some of whom are still virgins into their 20s and beyond, would be glad of that level of attention. Scraps of leftover food are infinitely preferable to starvation, which is how I think they would feel about it. There's also most likely this underlying feeling of options. As in, an unattractive woman has t…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 09:57 AM
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I grew up in an incredibly violent, criminal environment. They are 100% out there. I saw one woman get grabbed by the head, and then another woman bit a chunk out of her face and threw her into the street. I saw another get cut in the face and left bloodied outside of a pub. Another got punched so hard that her nose and upper front teeth got utterly caved inward. Another woman got got leg broken, getting jumped, so other women ran up on her, snapping twigs in her face and cackling at her. There'…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 09:51 AM
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This hasn't been my experience. I've never dated a woman who wanted to be paid for, I've only dated women who insisted on paying, to the extent where I've had to insist on splitting. These women I were in a relationship with for multiple years at a time as a result. Truthfully, meeting a woman who insisted on being paid for would give me a major, what I think women call "ick" vibes. I just never see these women in the real world.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 08:48 AM
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To be fair, nobody wants fat men either, really. Being fat is a major hindrance to the lives of everyone. No one wants to date you, you feel shitty all the time, you look bad, and EVERYONE thinks less of you when you look bad. It's fucked, but you're quite literally seen as less human when you're over weight. Less worthy. On the bright side, though, it's one of life's most easily solved big problems. Not to say that it's easy, but the solution is pretty straightforward on comparison to other maj…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 08:41 AM
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This is purely anecdotal, and I'm very selective with who I date anyway. But I've had girls pay FOR me more than I haven't, like, VERY heavily insisting that they pay, to the point of ordering me not to. Then, I've been with those girls for multiple year-long relationships. There's something about a girl paying for a boy that makes me feel like she really is here for me and nothing else. It inspires a really big ride or die mentality in me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 08:33 AM
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I've got a slightly bigger than normal penis. Past partners have enjoyed talking about it, giggling about being "sore," and one even told her friends. It was definitely viewed as a positive, I think it's more psychological than anything else, because often times I'd have to slow right down and not "lean in" all the way, because I didn't want to hurt her cervix. I don't know if I was "respected" more for it as such, but it was definitely a trait that was desired. But other than my very short list…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 09:32 PM
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Generally, I respect everyone I come across unless given a reason not to. Generally, that respect is as simple as not interacting with, looking at, or acknowledging their existence unless necessary. I think that's how people generally act respectfully. It could be that zero attention feels disrespectful to some people. I once had a woman complain that I was disrespectful because I looked over her to see down the street instead of at her. I'm 6'3 and she was like 5'1. What was I supposed to do? A…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 02:05 PM
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Socialising is an important PART of success in life. There are few things that are more important than any other. Humans always look to find the one big thing that's responsible for every problem or every success in life, the one thing to live by or the one thing to fix, when in reality, they almost always consist of a confluence of a great many things.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 06:20 PM
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My dad is a scumbag but has incredible success with women. He's got children everywhere. He's cheated on every single person he's been with. We're talking hundreds of women who have slept with him. Now he's coming up to 60, he's married a woman who I suspect he still cheats on. It was a woman he cheated on my mother with. So I imagine nothing short of a meteor wiping out 100% of humans would be enough to stop me existing. Just to reiterate, this man slept with woman after woman, cheated and chea…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 01:56 PM
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This is just going to go around in circles. I don't believe you're capable of understanding what I'm saying to you as you seem to have missed several points repeatedly. Even upon repeating them to you, you seem not to interact with the meat of the issue at all. Best of luck to you in your student loans.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 09:22 PM
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It's called sympathy. Even if it were empathy, it wouldn't invalidate anything I said. I'd still be correct.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 09:20 PM
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It's crazy. I feel as though my comment was pretty milquetoast and easily agreeable really. Then in the comments it's like trying to talk to people who're furiously throwing punches at ghosts.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 09:14 PM
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As I said. I have friends, and I've been in multiple multiyear long relationships. I'm fine socially. And of course. I'm talking about people with little to no social lives. I'm being pretty explicit with that. I actually can't imagine there's any other way to interpret what I'm saying here.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 09:02 PM
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So, you can confirm for me, you don't have a single issue in your life that is theoretically easily solvable? Because if you do, you're just as bad as the people you're seething at online, if not worse with you hypocrisy. Cool bootstraps argument. "I succeeded, so that means that everyone else should also succeeded too." By that logic, you should never fail at anything anyone has ever succeeded in and you should never need help with anything that anyone has ever succeeded in without needing help…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 08:54 PM
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Oh yeah, you're right. I was just going specifically for dating in this case. Socially in general a lot of people are struggling right now. I'm a little too tired to look it up, but I'm pretty sure where at a time where people have less friends than ever. No no, I don't think you're mocking anyone. You're right. People are struggling with their social skills too. But that's as a result of the lack of socialisation. Social skills are like any other skill. You stop using them, they dull and you st…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 08:40 PM
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Oh, mate. Shut up and calm down. Christ sake. For one, I have friends, and I've been in multiple multiyear long relationships. I hope you keep this same metality when it comes to your own life and have no problems with easy solutions. I hope you're not overweight. Simply stop eating. I hope you're built well. Simply go to the gym. I hope you're well off financially. Simply save more and spend less. I hope you don't smoke. Simply stop. Life is FULL of theoretically easily solvable little issues i…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 08:18 PM
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Honestly, if it helps lower this cripplingly awful loneliness situation, a lot of people are in and make them feel better, I'm all for it. It is always be good to have less pain in the world. But I doubt seeing the dating pool changing that much. I imagine the men who need these services weren't getting much attention from the opposite sex anyway. I imagine women will still want the same type of man, not the ones going for hot goth AI-GFs, and women who don't get the guy they're going for will b…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 06:51 PM
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A lot of people only resort to online dating because they have literally no other way of meeting people. A disturbing amount of people's lives have been going Home, Work, Home, Work, Home, Work for years and years. They don't have anything outside of these spaces. If there's no one in their workplace they're interested in, or it's prohibited, then they're kind of fucked and have to use online dating. Something something third place and so on. It's easy to say, "Go out and meet new people!" But a…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 06:46 PM
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He is correct, taking drugs will put you in a position where you're getting access to more sex. But it is sex with other drug users, which tend not to be the top tier of partners. Yes, if you're a coke head, at some point you're probably going to be high around some coke whore and you'll end up having sex. But do you WANT to have shitty sex with a coke whore? I don't understand how people think this is some kind of boast. Do you have any idea how many dirty, disgusting people will take anything …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 05:24 PM
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I would be a little suspect of this friend going forward. What they said is either SO incorrect that they've gone zero idea what they're talking about, or it's SO incorrect that they must be trying to mislead you for some reason, maybe they want you two together for some reason or something. But yeah, this person is incorrect no matter the reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 04:08 PM
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I'm convinced a lot of you have never been in a relationship. If you genuinely believe that there is no difference between having repeated sex with a partner whom you love and cherish, and banging 100 bar sluts, then you're terrible inexperienced in relationships and the real world. I wouldn't even consider the two on the same page as one another. Edit: People can downvote all you want, if you think otherwise, you're a terrible romantic partner and I pity anyone who has ever been in a relationsh…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 04:00 PM
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If a woman has two missing legs for diabetes, it is morbidly obese and 45, she will still have a group of men that would bang her. There are a lot of issues men have with women. When actually they have issues with simp men that have zero standards for sex. If we taught men to be more discerning with their choices in partners, sexual and romantic, we would see a LOT of these issues disappear. But again, we treat men slinging one up anything with a pulse as something to be proud of, so here we are…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 03:57 PM
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I feel as though murder is a bit of an escalation in comparison to infidelity. I feel as though a more fair comparison would be her worrying if her partner has cheated?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 07:02 AM
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I couldn't do that. It sounds exhausting. Constantly being around someone, hoping on the off chance I'll actually like them, never mind feel myself falling for them. I date pretty seriously, I think. I get to know people, then once every few years I'll meet someone, get to know them, progressively get closer and closer with them until we end up dating. Once you fall for one another, it goes pretty fast. But just "dating around" seems excruciating given how rare it is to find someone you can actu…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 09:13 PM
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I was more curious about the technicalities of getting one done than the effect of the relationship to be honest. I can see why it would hurt someones feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 04:50 PM
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The Internet has given so many people terminal brain rot. Unironically, the Internet has ruined a lot of people's lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 10:06 AM
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Flirting is indicating sexual/romantic interest in a person. Imagine I were in front of you, my stomach was loudly growling, I'm telling you how I hadn't eaten all day and that there's a burger place just opened around the corner. You ask me if I want to go grab something to eat, and I respond with, "No, why would you think that?" I've given all the signs and signals that I'm hungry and want to get food. You might technically be wrong, but I'm the one who's given you a false idea of what I want.…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 08:24 PM
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The Internet brings out the worst in everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 08:14 PM
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This will sound a little weird, but why ask at all? Surely you can just gather the DNA yourself and send it off? Have the results sent to the office or your parent's house?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 06:12 PM
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Most cheaters I've known were ugly. They held the amount of sex they could have as though it was their sense of self-worth. This goes for men and women. I've always assumed it was something to do with lacking that validation growing up in their teenage years. So they spend their lives chasing it as though it gives them value. But yeah, it's purely anecdotal, but I've known a lot of horrible people who were cheaters. every single one of them was unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 06:09 PM
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When I was a child, I was told by all my girl family members, "Treat them mean, keep them keen." And to be honest, I've found that to be true. I've found that if I'm more selfish, more rude, and more dismissive, girls try a lot harder to please me. But why would I want that? Why would I want to spend my life with someone that I have to be bad to? I want someone who appreciates how sweet, caring, patient, and understanding I can be. I enjoy being considerate and caring toward the person I love. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 01:14 PM
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If you're ugly, being overweight will make you uglier. If you're attractive, being overweight will make you less attractive. Fitness goes a long way to attractiveness. You can have a very low body fat percentage and still have a hideous body. I've noticed that men getting into weight lifting tend to get more masculine faces somehow. Which women find more attractive... I think. Basically... Low BF% & fit > Low BF% & Unfit > High BF% No matter how bad you are, being slim and muscular will be an im…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 11:41 AM
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I don't know if it's used as an insult as much as it is saying, "You're putting a lot of value in something that actually has no value." As in, if you think a man sleeping with you means he sees value in you souly due to that fact, you're mistaken. Quite frankly, I've always thought of it as an insult toward men for having little to no sexual standards. Rightly so, in my opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 04:40 PM
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I can't imagine it'll change much. The men who're in the market for AI-GFs were most likely never men that dating women were interested in anyway. Same as the whole MGTOW movement. The men that left were men that the women didn't care about. Hopefully, AI-GFs will go someway to soothing male loneliness and isolation anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 08:30 PM
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I've known guys for years and never asked what they're doing. I just don't give a shit what a person's job is. Eventually, they say something, but I've never asked. I went like 5 years without knowing what my best friend did before it came up. I think people place way too much value on profession. There's so much more interesting about a person before that. So no. I've never asked that. They eventually tell me, but I don't ask.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 02:00 PM
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I care, yeah, but I take sex and my romantic relationships very seriously. I don't sleep with a woman unless we're in a relationship and have developed real feelings towards one another. I've had plenty of offers, but I've only been with two women and kissed three, all three of those were in relationships. And I'm near 30 years old now. Honestly, without the emotion and romantic aspect, I just don't have the WANT for sex without love in me. That being said, in a relationship, it's every day. Som…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 06:47 AM
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Most men here (I'm not sure about the women, but I wouldn't be surprised if this is the case for them also) I don't have any love or companionship in their lives. A lot don't even have friends. What they crave in a relationship is the love and companionship, something a person can not get by themselves. It must come from outside sources. I suspect a lot of people here have no one who cares about them. A lot of people here are just very alone. They want to be loved.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 07:57 PM
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I could never imagine loving someone whose love for me hinges in me paying them/paying for them/buying things for them. The number of men who're completely fine with this dynamic boggles my mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 12:49 PM
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I'm 6'3, and broke as shit. Truly, I am breaking stereotypes.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 06:49 AM
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The men who can get laid whenever they want are men who can get a relationship whenever they want, but simply choose not to.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 06:47 AM
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Ahh, okay, thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 06:47 PM
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If I was becoming romantically close to someone and found out they were entertaining dating someone other than me at the same time, I'm dropping all contact. That just seems so gross.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 06:46 PM
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What does N count mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 06:39 PM
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Taking care of bills and being a provider? That's not a partner. That's a daddy. Daddy taking care of his child. There are plenty of men who would date a woman souley because they pay the bills. They are bad partners, too. Oh please, 95% of women are feminine. Feminine isn't a personality trait. It tells you nothing about a person. A person can be a wonderful, sweet, caring angel and be feminine, they could also be a terrible, cruel, superficial pig and be feminine. Yeah, you're right. There are…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 06:10 PM
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So just sidestep every question I asked? Good job, I 100% assumed you wouldn't engage at all. Basic necessities? Am I to believe that grown women need men to provide the basic necessities? You're sugar coating and downplaying materialistic, superficial behaviour. She isn't some lost little girl looking for a daddy. She is a grown woman. If she still needs help with the basic necessities then she needs to work on herself and fix her life before entering the dating world. Men and women aren't THAT…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 05:34 PM
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OP doesn't see anything past the money.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 05:25 PM
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It made perfect sense. I'm saying that men don't really find that attractive in women, not in the real world. Weirdos online say they do, but that's it. These things aren't comparable. One person is saying "She doesn't need to be the hottest woman in the world for me to fall in love with her, so long as her peronality is sweet and caring." the other is saying "My love for this man hinges entirely on his willingness to pay for me." Looking past a persons looks and falling in love with their perso…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 04:37 PM
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I think that's a car cry from "My love for this man hinges entirely on his willingness to pay for me."
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 03:43 PM
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I don't really know anyone like that in real life. All of my friends partners are very outgoing and opinionated. All my past partners have been that way too. In the real world, women who are agreeable and submissive all the time tend to be very boring, uninteresting people whom it's hard to develop strong feelings for. Those women are the nice guys of the opposite sex. Just being there and not being bad isn't a positive. A person should be able to fit multiple roles, submissive when they need to…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 03:34 PM
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It blows my mind that people can write things like this and be totally oblivious as to how they come off.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 10:01 AM
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Ehh, as with a lot of things in life, it's more a spiders web of issues rather than a string of them. So, for example. If we were to organise men together (It's also very important to note that it would also need to be women as well, but lets just focus on men for now), and decide to be more helpful to one anothers feelings going forward and elevate one another. We would have a lot of issues to deal with, such as... The men who would (in my opinion) wrongly disagree, and believe we should teach …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 04:23 AM
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It's hard to explain properly, and I'm not great at explanations, so bare with me. It's not contact as much as the type of contact. The way friends and family tend to treat men is very surface level. For example, if a man vents to his friend about serious problems they he's having, the deepest they will get is something like "Ahh, Bro. That sucks..." and that will be just about it. Not because these male friends are bad, but because that's all society has socialised them to do. It's as though th…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 12:28 AM
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It's not up to the men. It's up to the friends and family to provide that support. Which they don't. Men don't provide that support to other men. Families don't either. A partner will be the only source of that type of love and support a man has access to. Society treats men as very different to women, whereas, in my opinion, we're not that different at all when it comes down to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 12:12 AM
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A lot of what you're provided from friends and family, men aren't provided by their friends and family. Men tend to only be able to get those things from partners. When a person doesn't get those things, they become bitter and fucked up. The connections you take for granted, they don't have, essentially.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 11:58 PM
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